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Why were you suicidal?

It's because going through
very big states in life,

but I can go so deep
that I don't see a way out.

- Yes.
- And I am looking for a way to...

to get out of my body
or to hate myself or to--

I can explain the deep
and I don't find a way out.

What makes you hate yourself?

Is it the red shoes?

- What?
- Is it the red shoes?

- No.
- Okay.

Are you sure?
'Cause they're fucking red.

Don't you be smiling like that.
You'll fuck everything up.

If you smile like that too much,
you'll wanna stick around.

You've been so hard on yourself.

I love that you have such high standards.

But those aren't high standards.
That's called "perfection."

And most people overestimate
what they can do in a year,

and they underestimate
what they can do in two or three decades.

And you haven't been around long enough
to have those extra two or three decades,

so don't fuck it up.

There's time.

And if you give yourself
just a little bit of time...

and if you'll be a little more
loving to yourself...

I think you're gonna find
you got a lot to give.

I can fucking feel it.

And I know fucking people.
And you know I do.

- That's right.
- Thank you.

And I know you right now.

- Can you feel me?
- Yes, I do.

So, you and I are gonna make a deal.

I'm gonna show you
what to do to reshape yourself.

That would be nice.

And we're gonna make it
so you could enjoy yourself.

Oh, are you sure?

Not just when you're jerking off,
other times, too.

Yeah.

How's that?

And what you're gonna do

is you're gonna remember
as long as you live...

that I don't fucking bullshit.

And you've seen it, haven't you?

Yes.

Do I tell the fucking truth?

Even when it's painful?
Even when it's not sweet?

Yes.

I'm telling you the truth.

You've just fucking begun
and you're not gonna fuck it up.

You're gonna take the time
to fully develop

and you're gonna find a way
to enjoy a little bit along the way.

There you go.

- Did you feel that?
- Yes.

What was that, that just happened?

What just happened there
when these came down like that?

And you started breathing here, too.

Um, start believing you and be open.

Oh... That's it.

I'm a kid from Azusa, California,

who did not have any fucking certainty,

but I was certain of one thing.

I was not about to grow up
and have a family

that was gonna go through
what I went through.

And so, I constructed
this fucking Tony Robbins guy.

I constructed him.
I created him.

He was me but I built this motherfucker.

Our next guest is a number one
bestselling author

whose books and seminars have
helped inspire

more than 50 million people
to transform their lives.

He's perhaps best known
for his three decades of work

in the field of self-improvement.

More than four million people
around the world

have attended one of his live events.

I was looking at the list
of people that you have helped.

Bill Clinton, Princess Diana,

Mikhail Gorbachev,
Mother Teresa, Nelson Mandela.

These are, like, the icons of my lifetime.

I would do these incantations
where I would say over and over again,

"I'm fucking unstoppable. I'm fucking--"
And I would just...

I would say that for an hour
while I would go on a run.

Till pretty soon, after days of that shit,
what do you think was in my head?

Everyone needs a compelling future.

Everyone needs something to move towards.

If you don't have something
to move towards,

you settle for where things are.

I would get up and I had no money.

Then I'd say,
"God's wealth is circulating in my life.

His wealth flows to me
in avalanches of abundance.

All my needs, desires, and goals

are met instantaneously
by infinite intelligence,

for I am one with God,
and God is everything."

Then I'd see God's wealth
in the love, in the friendships,

in the insights, in the ideas,
in the emotion,

in the fucking energy
in my body and my soul,

in my hunger and my desire
to breakthrough and make things happen.

I didn't just say the fucking words.

Every day, work harder on yourself
than anything else.

'Cause if you become more intelligent,
more valuable, more skilled,

you can add more value to other people.

I realized if I'm gonna get to
my ultimate destiny, I gotta be smarter.

Who am I ultimately wanting to become
or what is the destiny I'm here for?

So, I created this thing
called "Date With Destiny."

If I could uncover
what beliefs and values control me,

I could literally redesign me.

I created this motherfucker standing here.

Three, two, one, go.

What's the best way
for us to interact with you?

I think we're gonna wanna

- bring our own camera in there, so.
- Sure.

I'll have one camera on Tony
and one camera on the intervention,

but I don't wanna screw up
what you're doing.

The challenge is, a lot of--

We never know where he's gonna go
with the interventions.

Tony can be in a great spot
down in the front

where we can nail it with four cameras,

or it can be back here, you know,
with a crowd of people around

and we're completely blocked by everyone.

How're you feeling about things?

I feel great. I've been with
so many people over so many decades

in so many different environments.

What I love is the uncertainty
of what's gonna happen,

but I also have absolute faith
I know it'll unfold in a beautiful way.

Do you get nervous?

- Is there, like, stage fright?
- No.

Is there, like...
Or anything like that?

No, no, there's no stage fright.

This is gonna be a beautiful
adventure and a journey, and it always is.

Every single one is different.

Every single one
has these extraordinary stories.

Every single one has some crazy moments.

And I'm glad you're just coming
on the journey to check it out.

Test. One, two, check.

One, two.

I'm letting the CIS in
in about four minutes.

Four minutes, 11:28.

And he's on the fly in about 15.

We're about ten minutes from doors.

Tony's team is with him at the house,

and then we're on this side so we're
in constant texting communication.

He wants to know the energy in the room.

How's the registration process?

What are our numbers?
Are flights delayed? Everything.

Go ahead.

Okay, so the exercise,

"What's great? What's missing?
Why are you here?"

I use the intervention

- to teach principles in the middle of it.
- 100 %.

I love that.
That's my favorite way to do it.

That allows me to then circle back
and I'll have them

create their compelling view
of what extraordinary life looks like.

- Yep.
- And that'll open up some shares.

And that'll open up
some more interventions,

and we'll be rockin' and rollin'.

We're super excited to have you!

There are quite a few of you,
as you might see.

If I could get everyone who's here
to please stand up,

so we can unblock our exits, get excited.

We're gonna leave at 11:30,
so right now it is...

- It's 11:00 now.
- It's 11:00 even?

Yep.

So, I can do... Yeah, I can do
ten minutes and stop on time.

Fifty-seven degrees, baby. Whoa!

There are so many people there,

and they've been in the room since 11:30.

Timing it so that he walks out
and it's just an utter buildup of energy

is just so important for him.

He gets there, walks up on stage,
and just everyone's at a peak.

- Okay. Good morning.
- Good morning.

So here's your old one.
And here's the new one.

Mary told me you wanted to
switch these two, so I switched 'em.

- Okay, cool.
- Yeah.

Jay, what do you think
on timing this morning?

- Twenty-five minutes.
- Perfect.

What is "Date With Destiny"
from your perspective?

From my perspective,

it's a place that you go
to uncover who you really are

and what you're really about
at this stage of your life.

Who is this program right for?
Anybody who's hungry.

Anybody who's looking for more.

If you're not hungry,
it's the absolute wrong program for you.

Don't even think about coming.
You get eaten alive in this environment.

But for somebody that's hungry...

I got an experience
for you, baby.

I'm bringing a mirror.
I'm bringing crazy tools.

I mean, I'll be off the charts.

I'll be weird. I'll be bizarre.
I'll seem gross.

I'll use the science of taboo language

because words have the power
to pierce the conscious mind.

Look, I'll do whatever the eff it takes
to break the pattern,

so you can reclaim who you really are.

Welcome to the stage,
Mr. Anthony Robbins!

♪ Life will never be the same ♪

Whoa!

Come on, guys!
Come on!

Come on!

Whoa!

How're you doing out there,
ladies and gentlemen?

Welcome to "Date With Destiny 2014,"
and for some of you, welcome home.

Good to see you.

Start your morning-- It's afternoon now,
with 12 good morning high-fives, hugs.

Go for it. Introduce yourselves.
Connect.

All right, grab a seat.

Thank you for the warm welcome.
What have you gotten yourself into?

I wanna welcome you here.
First of all, this is my favorite program.

This is my 74th "Date With Destiny"
in 25 years.

It's been amazing.

And over those decades, doing this,
literally, all around the world

in virtually every major country.

I've had people from more than
100 countries attend this program.

Uh, what I can tell you right now is

this program is different
than any other program.

And what's different about this program

is not only the depth
of what we're gonna go to.

We're gonna get to take a look
at the force that controls

every thought, every feeling
and every emotion of your life.

The beliefs, values, and rules

that literally control the way
you think, feel, and behave.

We are gonna get emotionally fit
because life is gonna come at you.

This is not some bullshit
"positive-thinking" seminar

where I'm gonna tell you
to start chanting,

"There's no weeds, there's no weeds,"
and hope shit isn't there.

This is a place where you and I
prepare for anything.

We look for the weed and we rip it out.

Over the next six days and nights,

we're gonna get to the source
of what controls it all,

then you're gonna change it.

And you're not going to do it
the way I tell you to.

Who the hell am I?
I'm not your guru.

I didn't come here to fix you
'cause you're not broken, and I know that.

Even if you think you're broken, I'm here
to tell you and show you you're not.

What I want you to know
is if you're gonna have a breakthrough,

when someone says,
"It took ten years to make a change,"

what you really find out is
that change happened in a moment.

It took you ten years to get to the moment
where you finally said,

"Never again! I quit! Let's begin!
I love you! I do! It's over!"

Our entire life changes in a moment.
Who gets that? Say "aye."

Aye!

And I want you to get that what we're
gonna do is have lots of those moments.

And you can have as many as you want.
There's no limit here.

You can break through multiple times.

Guys can even have multiple breakthroughs.
It's an amazing thing.

It's truly amazing.

By the way, how many of you came here
because there's something significant

you really wanna change
in your life right now?

How many came--
'Cause that's a major outcome. Say "aye."

Aye!

We're gonna make sure you get that change,
but that's temporary.

What we really want to do
is not just solve your problem...

but deal with the thing
that creates it in the first place.

That's what's gonna be
mind-boggling in its change.

But for it to work,
we gotta be energy-rich.

And I know you won't always feel that way.
I won't either.

But that's part of the discipline
of someone

who's the best in the world
at what they do.

I'm inviting you right now
to make a decision.

That for the next six days--

You could do anything
for six days and nights, couldn't you?

For the next six days, you play a level
of intensity you've never played before.

You push yourself.

You use your voice, your body to keep
finding a way to increase that energy.

Because at that energy level,

you'll get totally different insights than
at the one most people live in day-to-day.

And they go,
"I get it. I understand. I do."

But if you and I wake up,
we could take back control forever.

You're gonna watch people
stand up in the next few days

and they're gonna reclaim their life.

They're gonna wake up.

And that's where the game gets exciting.

Who knows what I'm talking about here?
Say "aye."

- Aye!
- Good.

So now...

what's an area that you came here with
that it's time to break through?

What's an area of your life
that is not the way you want it?

Who's got something of that nature?

Yes, ma'am. Give her a hand.

Give her a hand!

What's your name?
Where're you from?

Sienna.
I'm from Newport Beach, California.

Sienna. Give her a hand.
It's Sienna, ladies and gentlemen.

So, Sienna,
what is it you're frustrated with?

What is it that's not
where you want it to be?

Uh, my diet.

Your diet.
And what about your diet?

Um, not that it has to be perfect,

but that I know that my body
and my health deserve better.

Okay. And better than what?

Like, what are you not doing
that you should be doing?

I'm not eating at the times
of the day I should be...

- that would be most beneficial for me.
- Okay. Okay.

And it's making myself lose respect.

- Lose respect for yourself?
- Yes.

Okay, and when you lose respect
for yourself, what do you do?

I then eat.

It's in a whole fun circle.

- Yes.
- Yeah.

And now, question.

What are you doing all this for?

What's life about?

It's about finding love and happiness.

Okay, so life is about finding
love and happiness, okay?

And what has to happen for you to
hit the target of love and happiness?

Um...

do something kind for others.

So you gotta do something kind for others.

Do something for myself
that, um, scares me, that's new.

"Do something for myself that scares me."

So here's this young lady,
"Life's about love and happiness,

I gotta do kind for other people.
I gotta do something that scares me."

What else do I need to do?

I need to give love
to those who don't have it.

Okay. "I need to give love
to those who don't have it." Fantastic.

What else do I need to do?

I need to receive love.

And what do you have to do
to receive love?

- Do you have to be worthy of it?
- Yes.

And what has to happen for you
to be worthy of receiving love?

I have to be responsible
for their happiness.

"I have to be responsible
for their happiness."

Now, fortunately, she's only how old?

- Nineteen.
- Nineteen.

So she hasn't felt the wear and tear
of a couple decades of that yet.

To wear her into the fucking ground.

Who knows what I'm talking about here?

- Say "aye."
- Aye!

We're seeing her right before
all the fucking shit happens right now.

Isn't this cool? All right.

Now let's take a look
at something for a moment.

This is where your model of the world
has come from,

the thing that's controlling
all your decisions.

Whose love did you crave
the most growing up?

Your mother or your father?

Not "who did you love more?"
I'm sure you loved them both.

Whose love did you crave more?

Truthfully.

Since I didn't quite get it,
it was my dad's.

Yes, clearly.

Who did you have to be for your father?

First reaction.

My gosh.

Phew.

Now, I'm really on her right now.
She's doing some real honest searching.

- Can you feel that?
- Yeah.

She didn't like this, you see that?
She liked that whole thing when,

"I know what to say, know what to do,
and I can achieve it all perfectly."

This kind of uncertain role,
like, "What the fuck?"

This is the stuff most of us avoid,
and she's not avoiding it.

Give her a hand for that.
That's really awesome.

Who did you have to be for your father?
First gut reaction.

Not what's said, not your intellect,
not your positivity.

The fucking truth of what you feel.

Ignorant to his behavior.

Which behavior
did you have to be ignorant to?

- Drug abuse.
- Drug abuse.

And yet you love him, clearly.

Regardless of his behavior,
you love your father? Is that true?

Yes.

I don't know. Is it true?
Maybe you don't.

I struggle,
but at the end of the day, I do.

Yes. She loves him.
She just hates that she loves him so much.

- Is that true?
- Yes.

So, you craved your father's...

'cause, guess why,
rejection breeds obsession.

Her daddy didn't reject her,

but she didn't get
the level that she want,

so she wants it even more.

- Is that your mother beside you?
- Yes.

- Yes.
- She's the bomb. Love her.

Give her the microphone.

What happens when she interacts
with her father?

What happens to her state?
What happens to the way she is?

Um, she is not afraid
to tell him to go fuck himself.

Yes. Did you teach...
Did you teach her how to do that?

- I might have. Not knowingly.
- Yes.

But, um, I know she craved his love.

But she wasn't crawling after it.

- Oh, I didn't think she was.
- No.

Here's the truth.
There's this really sweet girl

whose got a fucking tiger in there.

- Can you feel it?
- Yeah. Big time.

She's like the outside...
Oh... Rawr!

Yeah.

Right? She has that inside,
but showing that's not really appropriate.

By the way,
you did show her how to do that.

- I did. I'm sure, yeah.
- Didn't you?

That's 'cause you had your own fuck-yous
with him, didn't you?

Yes, I did. Many.

And she loves you,
and she saw that and she modeled it.

What if I told you that it's possible
that there's a little bit of an imbalance

that she needs to heal
or she will never heal completely?

- I believe that totally.
- Yeah.

And then for her to do that,
she'd have to claim not just the fuck-you.

She'd have to reclaim the vulnerability
that she has around him, too.

But if she doesn't do it,

it's gonna show up with pain for her
with men in the future.

- Yeah.
- Your piling it on...

might make you feel like
you're owning yourself.

But your piling it on
is just burying the very person

whose love you crave
and who desperately needs your acceptance.

As much as you've hated him,
he's hated himself more.

- Even if he's never shown it to you.
- Mmm-hmm.

That's why drugs.

Shit.

- What did you say?
- Shit.

- That was a good "shit."
- Yeah.

What if you called him and told him
all the things you blamed him for

and said, "I need to
have a conversation with you.

I want to tell you,
I blamed you for so much of your life,

but I realized the other day,
I need to make a new list.

I blamed you for being addicted
and this and that and all those things,

and things you should've done,

but I haven't blamed you
for being the one man that I could love.

I haven't blamed you for being
the greatest source of love that I know."

You have to think about all the things
you used to blame him for...

and you need to blame him
much more powerfully.

You need to blame him
consciously, effectively.

'Cause if you're gonna blame people
for all the shit,

you better blame them
for all the good, too.

If you're gonna give them credit
for everything that's fucked up,

then you have to give them credit
for everything that's great.

I'm not asking you to stop blaming.

I'm saying blame elegantly,
blame intelligently, blame effectively.

Blame at the level of your soul,
not the level of your fucking head.

'Cause life is not so simple
and black and white.

My mother beat the shit out of me.
She loved me.

She was freaked out I was gonna leave.
I was her source of everything.

I blame her for all the beauty in my life.

I blame her that I have the woman
I have in my life

because I cherish my wife
'cause I know what the opposite is.

I blame her for the capacity
to feel and care.

I blame her for my insatiable hunger
to end suffering for any human I can.

'Cause I suffered a ton.

If she had been the mother I had wanted,
I would not be the man I am proud to be.

That's the truth.

It's the truth.

You wanna know what
our biggest problem is in this room?

I'll tell every one of you,
if you're willing to hear me,

what your biggest problem is.

You think you shouldn't have them.

'Cause problems are what make us grow.

Problems are what sculpt our soul.

Problems are what make us become more.

If we can realize that life is always
happening for us, not to us...

game over,
all the pain and suffering disappears.

Your father, your problem, is your gift.

He played the role he was meant to play.

If he'd been the perfect father
she wanted,

she wouldn't have half the drive she has.
Not a third.

- That would be tragic.
- That would be tragic.

You need to call this motherfucker

and blame him for what
a beautiful daughter he's created.

And for you, my dear,
what are you going to do?

I'm going to, hopefully--

No, I will have, um, one
of the first peaceful...

completely peaceful and loving
conversations I have ever had with him.

Even if it's not peaceful,
it'll bring you peace.

Yes, that's right.

And, also, you can do it more than once.

He'll need it more than once.

Otherwise, it'll look like
a fucking technique.

"You went to the fucking seminar
and he told you to make your fucking list,

you came to fucking see me. Fuck you."

Give these two a giant hand.

How do you select people?

I mean, like, when you're walking
through the crowd, do you vibe it out?

It's instinctive. I don't
really know. I mean, sometimes I know.

Sometimes, I'm looking for
something specifically,

but today, it's just instinctive things
we're going for.

And then, you know, I feel,
"Where can I take this? Where can it go?"

And the whole thing is... It's a dance.

You know, to go from thinking
her problem is dietary,

which is where people are.

They present this low-level stuff
because we engage ourself

with little problems
that we make into big things

so we don't deal
with the bigger ones that scare us,

and so it was a beautiful example of that.

And you got to see that...

you know, the pattern she's on right now
is manageable 'cause she's so young,

but the stacking of that,
the friction of that in your life,

long-term, could be totally destructive.

And that started to open up
the world of....

learning to appreciate
all the aspects of other human beings

so you could actually appreciate yourself
which, in the end, makes you human.

There's enough variety,
there's enough entertainment,

there's enough, uh, rawness,
uh, and there's enough energy

that people are engaged 11 hours into it.

Whoa!

Shake your body out.

Sit down and write down...

What has prevented you from crushing it?

What has prevented you
from living what you dream?

What belief, what behavior,
what emotional habit,

what's prevented you?

What's been getting in the way?

What story?
What's been the conflict inside you?

What's prevented you
from having the life you deserve?

What low standard have you tolerated
for this to still be in your life?

Right.
Let's talk about tomorrow.

I think day two's got
plenty of emotion in it.

The 9/11 story
is a good story for that area.

I like that.

And then, boom.
Then we shift gears into...

you know, what blocks us, pain
and pleasure, and those set of questions.

Problem with the emotion that we want.
Yeah, I like the flow a lot now.

- And--
- You can also do--

You did this in Fiji,
but that acceptance exercise,

like, find four things that you can
accept right now. Super quick.

Oh, good idea. Good memory. Great idea.

That's another great one to do.

So I really think
the only thing that's left is red flags.

Here are a couple.

This woman, she was severely abused,
emotionally and physically, by her father.

Um, she couldn't sit in class
when she was growing up

because often she had
open wounds on her back.

Um, and she feared that her father
would kill her 'cause he owned a gun.

Um, so, in her early 20s,
what she did with that,

because of those experiences,
she volunteered for an organization

that helped severely abused children
who were kept in cages.

This is so...
This is horrific what's happened to her,

but she'll be an example,
probably, of a role model.

Role model. Mmm-hmm.

Of, "Wow, I can be put through this

and I can still find a way
to get outside of myself

by helping others
in a situation that's equally bad

or, you know, being kept in a cage,
she might feel is worse."

When I'm really looking for the people
on the red flags, are the ones--

In any group of couple thousand people,
you can't know for sure,

but there's usually a dozen or so people

that are suicidal
or have tried suicide and so forth,

and there's no guarantee
you can protect everybody,

but one of the guarantees
is reading all the forms,

anticipating as much as possible,
and then I assign somebody

to pay attention to those individuals
one-on-one also

to make sure we're supporting them
throughout the process.

The one that you had emailed me
about a couple of days ago about--

Oh, yes. Good.
See, that's a red flag.

- In the pod, yeah.
- Yeah, well, who is this now?

He just tried to commit suicide
a couple days before this email.

Yeah, I need his picture,

and, um, I need to make sure
that we put, uh, Jeremy--

Is Gerry McKinney in that group?

Yes.
Yep.

So we'll put Jerry on it.
Jerry will know what to do.

We've worked on this many times together.

I want him feeling supported
in this environment. He could transform.

That... that's a red flag, right?

- Yeah.
- That's a red flag.

Okay, this one?

Team 6.
Come on over.

Come on back in, everybody.
Come on.

Come a little closer.
Come a little closer.

Who would like to start to share?

This is day two of "Date With Destiny"

and today is the first day that
all of our participants get into teams.

In that meeting,
they get a preview of the day,

they get a chance to talk about their
breakthroughs and what they learned.

Team 3.

Come on in.

All right, now, would you all agree that
Jane and Sienna gave us an amazing gift?

- Yes.
- Yes.

Jane, why don't you come up here?
Come on up, sweetie.

Well, it was completely unexpected.

I didn't realize that Sienna
felt responsible

to not ever be really,
really sad around me,

and that broke my heart.

So, I think she's liberated from that.

And yesterday, she called her father.

And...

they had the most beautiful,
healing conversation ever.

Did I show you the text that I...

- No. Show me.
- Oh, okay.

So he sent me this.
Oh, he sent me another one.

"Sienna, you will never know
in a thousand lifetimes

what that call meant to me.
You are the light of my life

and my love for you has kept me going
through the deepest darkness.

I could not be more blessed
to have you in my life

and will never forget this moment.

I needed that loving call
in such a big way.

Thank you for being my angel, darling.
Dada loves you so much."

And this morning, he said,
"Dada loves you."

Aw.

Where does "Date With Destiny"
fit into your world

in terms of who you are as a teacher?

You know, what it represents
philosophically for you.

"Date With Destiny"
is my very favorite event.

Just because it covers
the controlling force

that really controls everything.

All your thoughts,
all your feelings, all your emotions,

your beliefs and values,
and how quickly that can all shift.

I love that we can do an event
where you really say,

"Hey, I'm gonna stop and decide
what my life's about."

Instead of life just taking you,
you take life back.

And I love to see people
when they own themselves again

as opposed to when they're running
a pattern they've run for years.

So, what did you learn
from the first relationship?

In the room, every interaction I'm doing,
I'm not just working with that individual,

I'm a million percent of that individual,

but there's another part
of my consciousness that's saying,

"Now how do I relate this in a way so that
everybody gets value at some level?"

And I gotta be able to do that while
I'm talking to a stranger they don't know.

Connection, breakthroughs, truth.

Anything you want to remember
that's valuable,

pull it out of your head right now,
onto the paper.

I love the challenge of being able to

sustain it for six days and nights
with people from 71 countries,

and you got people on headsets,

having this being translated
through somebody else

and keeping them completely engaged.

Did anybody see the movie...

called Mr. Holland's Opus?

What is more significant than love?

Nothing.

To be able to see

all those people
with all those personalities,

and all those backgrounds,
and all those differences,

and see them come together as a community

that I've been able to create
in a few days,

where they're willing to support
a total stranger with so much love...

How are you all doing this afternoon?

That's incredibly gratifying.

When you're on stage for ten,
12 hours, how do you maintain your energy?

There's no net.
I think that's part of the secret.

Because that's where
there's a drive inside you

that says, "You have to find the answer."

When I walk out there, and it's me
and some music I can point out,

and all these souls saying,
"What are we gonna do?"

That was the push.
I'm no longer pushed, I'm pulled.

Push will wear you out.

When you're pushing to do something,
you only got so much willpower.

But when you're pulled, when there's
something larger than yourself

that you're here to serve
and that you believe you're made for,

that brings energy.

And every time another thing transforms,
another soul's touched,

I get more energy, more strength,
and I make more distinctions.

And my job is to dominate the problem out

and bring out, within that person,
what's really strong.

Tell me about your father.

My father?

My father is the most amazing man
on the planet.

He's loving, self-sacrificing,
playful, sweet.

Just wonderful.

He taught you you're his little princess,
didn't he?

Motherfucker.

Excuse me?

Tony, sometimes you use
rather extreme language with people.

It's kind of shocking.

I use language
in a very direct way.

In every culture, there are taboo words.

And when you use them, you're able
to interrupt the noise in people's heads.

I want to provoke people
back into the reality of this moment.

That's how they change.

He meant well.

Look how he fucked up.

He set the bar so high, I don't even know
if it's possible to reach it.

That's right.

He taught you, you didn't have to
do anything to be loved.

You should have all your needs be met.

He's a beautiful man with a big heart
that fucked you up.

And made you think you were entitled,

and when you're not, you're confused
why it didn't come your way.

Made it so that you could take love away
if you didn't get it

'cause you had no fear of losing it
'cause he always gave it to you.

So, your husband never stood a chance.

Now, what did you do to your ex-husband
that led to that relationship ending?

I probably withdrew love from him.

But he hurts me.

- And you hurt him?
- Yeah, I guess I do.

He doesn't seem like he cares though.
It doesn't even seem like it affects him.

Of course he doesn't.

Same strategy you use.
He's just better at it, 'cause he's a man.

He has no one to talk to about it,
so he won't.

He doesn't talk about anything.

He's a man.

You're, like, all shocked.
Like, "He doesn't talk."

Well, now I have
a relationship with my boyfriend.

- He talks about everything.
- Yeah, 'cause you got a feminine guy.

It's driving me crazy.
He doesn't stop talking.

Poor guy, I'm so glad he's not here.

I wish he was here.
We could set him free.

In fact, maybe that's what
we should do as a first step.

Get out your phone.

No. No.

Then it's time to start doing
the right thing,

right when you know it's fucking right.

Not when it's convenient and comfortable

and feels good to you
and you get your brain around it.

Pick up your fucking phone.

Stand up.

Now, let me ask you a question.
Let me ask you a question.

Is he the right man for you?

No.

Does anybody know the answer
looking at her face right now?

- I don't wanna hurt him.
- You already are.

He thinks he has a chance and you know
there's no way in fucking hell.

Correct me if I'm wrong.
Tell me if I'm wrong.

- Tell me if I'm wrong.
- I can't. You're right.

Is this true,
what I'm asking you to take on?

Yes.

- Is it honest?
- Yes.

- Is it painful?
- Yes.

That's why it needs to be done.

So, you have a chance right now.
I'm not forcing you to do this.

You got to consciously say,
"I want to do this,"

before you ring that phone,
or don't do it.

And when I say I want it
doesn't mean I like it.

I want it because I know it's right.

Not, "Tony made me."

'Cause if later on,
you do, "Tony made me,"

- and that's gonna--
- He knows.

If that's gonna be the story,
then don't call.

He knows that Tony can't make me.

- Good. I know that.
- I know that Tony can't make me.

And I know that, too.
So, all three of us know it now.

- And 2,500 other people.
- Correct.

So now the truth is clear.
Make the fucking call.

How you doing?

Hey, baby.

You know what? Um...

I've kind of just come
to a serious realization,

and I just felt like I need to tell you.

I think, realistically, I love you so much
that I make excuses

for the fact that we're probably really
not right for each other romantically,

and...

I'm sorry, that's not what--
I didn't wanna do that to you.

I can't live like this,
and I don't think you can, either.

The role that you're playing
is not who you are.

The role that I'm playing
is not who I wanna be.

And I don't wanna be
some masculine, ball-busting broad.

That's not who I was created to be.

If I just keep in the relationship
because I don't wanna lose the good stuff,

it's selfish, and that's the one thing
I don't want to be.

Baby, I love you.

I'm not gonna pretend it never happened.

I'm just trying to be honest
while I have the courage.

Babe, please don't do that.
Please don't do that.

I just wanted--

Are you ever concerned about
giving the wrong piece of advice?

I mean, you're doing it on the spot.

But I'm not doing what I want.
I'm not doing what I think is right.

If you watch what I do,
I watch what their body tells me is right.

You know what's true,

because when it's true,
their whole nervous system responds.

And so, I'm looking for what's real,

and when I find it, I take that bait
and take it all the way to the soul.

I'm not a surface guy.
I can't stand living on the surface.

I think that's why
people are so unfulfilled today.

People text instead of communicate,

people think their Facebook friends
are their friends.

I mean, some of them may be your friends,
but depth is what people are missing.

So, I like taking people deep.

And when you take people deep,
everybody's riveted 'cause it's so rare.

Stand back up, please,
if you would.

Why are they standing looking at you?
What did you see in their eyes?

Love.

You felt it, right?

From what kind of person
did you feel love?

- Every kind.
- Yes.

How do we get love
from every kind of person

and people we don't even know?

We do the right thing?

I can't believe I did that.

This level of authenticity
will lead to a rich life.

This woman will face challenges and
she will figure them out and solve them,

and she'll make mistakes
and she'll clean them up.

This woman right here

can have life the way she wants it,
the way she deserves it.

All right. Come on down here
and let's use "moom." M-O-O-M.

And we're gonna keep
that low larynx sound.

Moom, moom, moom, moom,
moom, moom, moom, moom, moom.

Moom, moom, moom, moom, moom,
moom, moom, moom, moom, moom.

Way to go.

Moom, moom, moom, moom, moom,
moom, moom, moom, moom, moom.

I think most of us are unaware of the
patterns that are really controlling us.

Neh, neh, neh, neh, neh,
neh, neh, neh, neh, neh.

You gotta know, precisely,

what do you really want
at this stage of your life?

What do you need?

You know, what are the triggers for you
that make you crazy,

and are they worth letting go of?

No, no... no, no, no.

It's deciding, just like building muscle,

that you're gonna sculpt yourself
into what you are capable of being

as opposed to whatever
life and circumstance

has provided you the opportunity
to show up as.

We all get what we tolerate.

And this is a program about saying,
"I'm gonna decide what I want.

I'm not gonna tolerate
anything inside myself

that's less than I can be
or do or share or give."

So, just to kind of set
a frame here, this is a red flag review.

And this is an opportunity for us
to get an understanding of some people

that may need special assistance
during the course of the program.

What we want is just the team number,

what the key issues are,

and, you know, what your plan is
for dealing with them.

So, who'd like to go first?

- We'll go first.
- Yes.

The issue is childhood beatings
at ages three and four.

Father finally abandoned him.

The plan is to possibly change
personal history,

collapse some anchors potentially,

and definitely check in
and make sure he's aware of the triad.

Who, uh, who's next? Yes.

Team 29. We have several.

The first participant,

he was in a motorcycle accident
and sustained some brain injuries.

He's permanently disabled.

So, the first thing we're gonna do
is make sure

that he's processing and understanding
everything that he's getting in the room.

She is dealing with autoimmune disease.
Constant pain.

Our group has three of us

who have made major changes in our life
to help us with health issues.

So, that will give her, uh, knowledge
that she's in the right place.

Mother was murdered by stepfather.

One of the children was forced by an adult
to abuse his sister.

They were held hostage
for three days in a terrorist attack.

Um, at age six, she had
sexual abuse from a close family member.

Age 11, physical abuse from her father.

And at age 17, her closest brother
was killed in a motorcycle accident.

One thing that can sometimes happen

when we go through the special care review

is people can focus on
these... these negative events

that have happened in people's lives.

What I would suggest we might focus on

is the impact that we're
going to be able to make.

The events are really irrelevant.

I mean, they're important.
They're what's happened to people.

But if we focus
on what we're gonna be able to do,

how we're gonna be able to help them,

it's gonna put us in a state that's gonna
allow us to show up at our absolute best.

If we focus on, you know, the trauma
that people have gone through,

that's probably not gonna happen.

- Yes? Awesome.
- Yes.

I've been harassing them
for a second wheel.

We're ready for you.

Oh, I got a sense of urgency
coming out of your voice.

We're ready. I've got Tad right here.
I think we should walk and talk.

What you got?

Uh, this is the one
that we'd given you originally.

- No.
- Don't worry about it.

- Okay.
- Total attention-getter.

Um, and I think this is--

I wanna know what she looks like
'cause I'm not gonna waste time with her.

- Okay. Okay.
- Everything she does is to get attention.

And this was one,
it's on, uh, Team 1.

- Suicidal, drugs, uh...
- Alcoholic.

- Yeah.
- Yep.

Well, pot as well, I think. Um...

- I read it.
- Okay.

- And I'll--
- I know.

- How many songs?
- Song four.

Okay, I gotta go.
One minute-30.

They're ready for you.
They're ready.

What I'm gonna do is,
rather than pick somebody,

I'm just gonna go all through them
and see what's there.

- Yeah.
- All right, we'll go from there.

Where does this mission
of yours come from?

Initially, it was pain that
I wanted to end for myself and others.

I think that's what started it.

Tell me about the pain.

What were those sources of pain,
and how did you harness them?

Just the core of it
is a great mother who loved me,

but was unstable in her own life.

In the beginning, I think I linked
to it all, uh... that was just my mom.

I didn't realize that she was an alcoholic
and addicted to pain medications,

because that's all I'd ever known.

I had to be the person who did everything

'cause my mother
wouldn't go out of the house.

I had to go to the pharmacist and
convince him to give me more Valium

'cause she lost her bottle of Valium,

never even thinking that she was just
taking more and more of the stuff.

And she developed a dependency upon me.

When I was going off to college,

she did everything she could
to kind of stop that.

Not 'cause she didn't want me
to go to college,

but she didn't wanna lose me.

So, she got more violent,
and, uh, she's only 5'1",

but she would come down, grab my hair,
and smash me against the wall,

or she'd tell me
I was lying about something,

pour liquid soap down my throat
till I threw up, just some crazy shit.

But I don't wanna malign her because
I wouldn't be who I am without my mom.

It made me become
a practical psychologist.

I mean, I had to figure out
how to keep her stable,

how to make sure my brother and sister
weren't affected by it, how to please her.

It made me a pleaser
in the early part of my life, for sure.

And I think--

I don't know, it... it...

It produced in me... drive

because I had to find a way

to have a life that wasn't gonna
be like that for my family.

Now, here's what we're gonna do.

Raise your hand
if you're really fucked up.

Okay, one really fucked up,
two really fucked up...

So many fucked up choices.

No, now I know who I'm not gonna call on.

All the people that want attention.
No, you're all fucking dead.

Now I know who you are, none of you.

I'd really like to, sincerely,
bring somebody up who is suicidal.

And I know you're out there simply because
in a room of 2,500 people, on average,

there's 12 people that are suicidal.

So now would be the chance
for you to handle this shit,

so you don't have
to live with that anymore.

So, if you're suicidal, stand up.

Okay, give these people a hand,
they're suicidal, for God sakes.

Hi.

What's your name?

Um, Dawn.

You're just checking your name tag
to know whether it was Dawn or not?

'Cause in Brazil, they call me Sol.

Oh, really? What does it mean, Sol?

- Sun.
- Sun.

What's a sun that wants to kill itself?

Well, actually I'm a sun
for everyone else.

- I see.
- But...

no one really knows,
really, what's inside me.

And when I came here, I said,
"I'm not gonna fake it anymore."

Good. You know
I wouldn't accept that anyway.

So, tell me, what's going on in there?

Well...

I'm just...

I'm tired of having so much pain
and carrying it for so many years.

- How old are you?
- Twenty-six.

Oh, give me a break.

You could take another 30 years
of this shit.

You're not that fucking weak.
Don't tell me that shit.

I don't want you to,
but you sure as hell could.

Don't lie to fucking me.
You and I are gonna have some truth.

If you're gonna tell me what's really
going on, we're gonna have truth.

- Is that fair?
- Yeah, you wanna hear it?

- Yes, I wanna hear it. Tell me.
- Okay.

I was born in a community called
the Children of God.

I don't know
if you ever heard of it.

But as we're born, we never had a chance
to choose who we wanted to be.

We were kids growing up

and we had to be children...
soldiers of God.

And they believed that love,
God's love, was sex.

So everyone had to give
their love through sex,

so everyone,
since we were six years old,

to give God's love,
you had to have sex with people,

and see your mother and your brothers...
everyone being abused.

And you grow up...

already knowing
that you don't have a life.

You have to be a vessel of "God's love,"

and you can't...
you can't have any own choices.

So, as the time passed, when I was 12,
I said, "I cannot handle this."

I believe that there's love,
and this is not it.

I haven't found one model that
I can look at and say, "That is real."

So, I had my own vision of God,

even though I was grown up
with visions of a totally disgusting God,

a Jesus that wanted to fuck you, that
wanted to do horrible things with you.

But I said, "I believe in something else
even if I never saw it."

But then, I've been trying
to construct myself,

but when I see all of my family,

like, they're all depressed,
they all wanna kill themselves.

My brother's a huge mess.
My mom is a huge mess.

And, like, they would never believe
if I stand up--

"She's suicidal? No."

I'm the one that takes care of everybody.

And I'm always there, positive,

and I'm always there trying to do
everything to help them and to coach them,

and say,
"No, everything's gonna be okay,"

and I'm like the solution-maker
in my family.

But I just came to a point that
I don't know what to do with so much pain,

and I don't know...

I'm 26 and I've never had a relationship.
I don't know what love is.

One of my friends said,

"I know a guy called Tony.
He's a great guy."

Oh, my... Oh, my...

A miracle.

You're truly a miracle.

To have made it through that

and be here in this moment,
you're a miracle to everyone in this room.

And that's one thing I know.

Out of insane... insanity,
out of pain,

out of injustice...

You've not been through pain.
You've been through spiritual pain.

It's beyond what most people
could ever imagine in their lives.

You haven't deserved any of it.

But out of that...

comes unbelievable fucking strength.

And you're tired of being strong...

but you still are.

You've been trying
to make sense of all this.

And there is no sense.

And that's made you the most crazy.

But how there's gonna be sense
in this is...

you are gonna make sure
that this stops with you.

With you, it stops.

And love begins, real love begins.

And that love
is all you really are made of.

That's why you made it through it.

You are the purest.

You wanna know what love is,
it's called you.

You made it through all that shit
with pure love, that's what it is.

Pure love.

Your love is... You're incredible.

You're incredible.

I love you.

I love you. I don't want you.
I love you.

I'm able to do what I do
because of all I've been through.

And I don't talk about
and go into details of it

'cause why go through the story?

But there's no way I would care this much

unless I've felt feelings
that are similar to your own.

And what I can tell you is...

because I've been through that,
I have fucking muscle and strength.

I have a spiritual strength in me
just like you do,

and because of that, I can reach anyone.

I've gone to the darkest, scariest places,

and because of that,
I can lift people to the highest places.

And you have that gift.

And that gift is being born today,
right fucking now,

with some new choices
of what's gonna happen.

That's what's happening right now.

You were put in a situation
where you weren't able to choose.

Now you're in the position
where you choose.

You take all the power back today.

You consciously decide.

And here's the cool thing.

You've already fucking decided.
You just looked for the moment.

And I know you wanted a place
that was safe.

And I know you want a place
where there'd be love,

and you picked the right place.

Do me a favor.
Step up on your chair so you can see.

And I want-- I want you...

Really look.
Take it in.

Look at the...
Look at the number of people.

Really look.

Stop and grab as many gazes as you can.

There's men out there
that are just sending you love,

and that's all they want,
is to send you love.

Just find a few of them that,
when you look in their eyes,

you know that they're not only safe,

but they really are sending you love
and there's no agenda.

I have a hard time believing in that.

I know, but I want you
to look in their eyes

and find the three that you know is true.

- Him.
- Him?

Okay, there's one.

Him?

Stand up. There he is.
Here's another one right here.

He was--

He was sweet with me

even though I had a horrible face
and was sitting down here,

and everyone was thinking,
"That girl is in a really bad mood,

she's not interacting,"

and he was there
talking to me and being sweet.

- Yes. He's sincere isn't he?
- Yeah.

I need one more.

Him.

Come on up here.

So I'm gonna ask if you, you and you

will become her new uncles,

the ones that she can trust
for the next ten years of her life.

And the form of that is really simple.

For the next six months,

you connect to her at least once a month
for a few minutes.

Just see how she's doing,
be there for her, support her,

and give her anything that you're capable
of doing that she asks.

And better yet, if you're a great uncle,

you anticipate what she might need
and you deliver it before she asks.

The value for you in this transaction--

And I need to tell you 'cause
you were pulled here, you were chosen.

You chose yourself.

And something inside of you was pulled
to let her know how loved she is.

And this is what you were made for.

You were made to love unconditionally.

And the more we do...

the more we experience
the "human" in humanity.

We experience our true nature...

and we feel deeply alive.

So here's what we're gonna do.

If you want...

I have a partner,

and she's considered one of the greatest

family therapists,
strategists in the world,

and her name is Cloé Madanes.

And what I'm gonna do with you,
if you want,

is I'm gonna put you
through that training

so that you have every talent I have
to be able to help anyone.

Okay? Now, are you up for that?

Yes.

- Okay?
- Yes.

You'll learn the principles
behind what I do.

You won't be a copy of me.
You'll be you, which'll be more powerful.

And you have a life experience
on top of the skill, you have a caring.

My power is my caring.
My power is my love.

My power is I can pierce anything
'cause I am the real fucking thing,

and so are you.

And that real thing
can get through to anybody

if you care enough
and you're persistent enough.

But I also develop strategies
and I'll teach them all to you.

- Thank you so much.
- All right?

- Okay.
- So much.

You don't know how important
that is to me. Thank you.

Tony, what happens
in that moment with you?

I just felt her,
and felt for her...

and knew something had to be done now.

And in my mind, I said,

"What the fuck do you do with all this?"

This is... inhuman what was done to her.

And I just said, "There is a way."
And it...

It just comes through me.

Nothing genius there.

I've never dealt with this issue,
obviously, or anything like this, but...

I just decide and I know it's done.

And then it comes out.

It's beautiful to experience and witness.

I just really believe
people's, uh, love and caring.

If they led with that,
they'd find the way.

I think they lead with their fear
they're gonna fail, and I will not fail.

Not a person in that situation.

It's not an option.

Under any circumstances.

I know if she's there,
she's come to this moment.

She's come to this moment
for a reason, and I will not fail her.

It's suffering in my own life

that makes me not let anybody else suffer
that I can possibly do something about.

And I love to see people light up,

but I will not let them stay in suffering
if I can humanly do anything.

But that doesn't tell me why.

'Cause I know what it feels like,
and I don't want anyone to feel that way.

I had a difficult childhood.
I've suffered.

You know, I don't have that capacity.

It's my obsession.

It's an obsession.

It's obsession to break through.
It's an obsession to help.

I'm addicted to it.
It makes me feel like, um...

my life has deep meaning,
not just surface meaning.

And everybody's got their thing,
and this is my thing.

Coming to
"Date With Destiny," what was it

that you were seeking or looking
to explore about yourself or about life

that brought you here?

One of my limiting beliefs was

that I'm just not very good with people
and I don't make good first impressions

and I have a really hard time
connecting with people,

and that was the story
that's been playing out for decades.

And what I realized is that
I love connecting with people.

So that's interesting

because, here,
it brings you to "Date With Destiny"

where someone is asked to pick people
out of a crowd of 2,500 people.

- Yeah.
- And, uh, you know, a first impression...

um...

Yeah, you know, I never really--
That's a pretty amazing thing.

Thank you.

You guys did great.
Thank you.

- I love you.
- I love you, too.

There you are, my third uncle.

Thank you.

- Enjoy. You're gonna enjoy. Take care.
- Thank you

I'll see you downstairs.

In that moment, it was
just such loving energy in that room,

and I just saw their loving faces.

It's super hard nowadays

to really look at someone and believe
that it's real, what they feel.

And at that moment, I didn't ask twice.
I just knew it was real.

So that was very liberating for me, too.

Thank you very much.

- Thank you.
- I really appreciate it.

Hi.
Hi.

- How are you?
- Two awesome ladies.

- I'm good. And you?
- Wonderful.

- How do you feel today?
- Amazing.

- Yeah.
- Amazing.

Well, I know all of us feel amazing, too.
Thank you so much for sharing your story.

It gave so much, um,
light in all of our lives.

The thing that got me was that...

I was sobbing uncontrollably,
not because--

I mean, I was because of the pain
that you'd gone through,

- but because of the strength that you had.
- Mmm.

And it touched something inside of me

because of certain things that happened
in my life, in my past,

not to your extent,

but, um, that I've had to go through
and let go of as well.

And I came here last year
and that... that set me free.

- Yeah.
- And I'm so able to love now.

And I'm able to receive love.

And it's the greatest gift
on the planet, so...

You are so loved.

To me, what was just so inspiring
is that you had the courage

to get up and speak about something
that is so unfathomable to all of us.

Oh, my God, I can't.

And so, the thing that struck me the most
is that you were able to forgive.

Most of us walk around in this world

with such anger, and such pain,
and such hurt

and we wanna hurt others
because they've hurt us.

And you were the complete opposite.
I just was so moved by that.

I don't know, it's... it's, um...

- You are gonna be so free this year.
- ...crazy

I can't even tell you.

I have no doubt about that.

Everybody
to the front of the room, please.

Please quickly make your way
to the front of the room.

Good morning, everyone.
We'll see you in the front of the room.

Come on over!
Come on over! We have to make this quick.

So a huge thank you
to everybody for yesterday.

Was there some unbelievable magic
created in the rooms yesterday?

- Tony was definitely on his game.
- Yeah.

Um, I think it was...
Dawn was the, uh, the Children of... No.

- Soldiers of God.
- Soldiers of God.

- Children of God.
- Yeah, Children of God.

- Children of God, whatever.
- We gotta change that.

We had a participant
who was also from Brazil,

uh, who said they went through
something very similar,

and he brought over a check for
the equivalent of $50,000 to give to her,

to allow her to help the other people
that had gone through similar things.

We have key share updates.
Okay.

Dawn is feeling amazing.

She says it was the best day of her life.
She's never been better.

She read all the letters that people
have sent, you know, really trusting her.

She woke up and felt so happy

that by being open
and letting people into her life,

um, that it released her.

She's also received,
I think, about $100,000.

That's amazing.

Do you know that she sold
everything she had to come to this event?

- She sold her furniture...
- That's crazy.

- ...to come to this event.
- It's crazy.

That's, to me,
the wildest thing in the world.

- Holy, she was, like, at her end.
- Gosh.

I watched how compassionate
and kind and sweet Tony was with Dawn,

- and rightfully so.
- Yeah.

And then I reflected back on the man
that was looking at and talking to me,

who was, quite frankly,
hard-ass, big time.

- But that's what you needed.
- I needed it, and I'm not denying that,

but the little girl in me was
a little sad about that when I woke up.

And I thought, "Man, you know,

he's nice to all these other people,
and to me, I get the dickhead."

But what it made me realize
was that's the kind of--

Well, that's what you get when you bring
your masculine energy to a masculine man.

So at first, I was a little bit hurt,
and then I went,

"If you'd have been
nice and mamsy-pamsy,

I wouldn't have done shit."

So I get it.

So this is your new start.
Today's Relationship Day.

- Anybody excited about Relationship--
- Yeah!

Think of it, what are
the two deepest fears everyone has?

- They're not what?
- Enough!

- If they're not enough, they won't be...
- Loved!

Where do you have the ability,

have that fear show up the most,
except in an intimate relationship,

where you want them to need, to want,
to value and to love you most.

This is the area, when we get to

the section of the seminar,
the energy can change.

Sometimes, people start to go from the
highest high to the most freaked-out low.

We'll look whatever you're afraid of
in the eye,

we're gonna push through it.
Who's with me on this? Say "aye."

Aye!

'Cause on the other side,
when you get to that place

and you jump through
that empty hole that's in front of you,

that unknown, that future,

you're gonna find it's much greater
than you've even imagined.

What it takes to make a relationship work
is really simple.

It takes unbelievable courage,

because this takes you
to the rawest place in yourself.

This is the place, also,
the rewards are greater.

If you wanna talk about spirituality,
that's wonderful.

Going and sitting and praying
is a beautiful thing.

Going in a cave and meditating,
that's not an accomplishment.

Try being with a human you love 24/7,
whose love you desire,

and keep growing spiritually there.

That's where you're gonna be challenged,
not by yourself, all right?

How many people you know say,

"What's your vision
for your relationship?"

And they'll tell you,
"Are you fucking crazy? Vision?

I got a vision from my business.
My vision for-- Here's my vision.

We're gonna go home, fuck,
have something to eat. It'll be good."

Maybe we know why you're alone. Right?

So we want a vision for it.

That's what's gonna
lift the game completely.

We're gonna lift it to a different level.

- How many follow? Say "aye."
- Aye!

So who wants to share?

Raise your hand if you wanna
share your visions. We'll hear a sampling.

This lady right here. Yes, ma'am.

Give her a hand!

Tell us your vision.

I'm really excited to share this.

This is a whole 98 %
of why I came to this program,

and I'm really excited about this.
Um...

"It's a relationship where I can be
strong and powerful in my life,

yet when I look at him, I melt.

It's a relationship where I am free,
like I am dancing in the stars

because I feel the strength
and presence of my man,

and know that nothing
could ever shake that.

It's a relationship that makes me feel
like a giddy girl,

where his heart and chest

are the place where I can feel
the masculine heart of the universe.

His body, when it touches me,

it is safety, warmth, strength,
power, calm, adventure,

and allows me to access
the entire universe.

When my body touches him,

it is like a supernova of my essence
with the rest of the universe."

I like being...
feeling the universe.

"It would bring a strength
and power to our lives

that I, at least,
have been dying to access

so that we can carry out
our souls' mission and vision."

Wow. Very nice.
Give her a hand.

- Is there a man in your life right now?
- Yes, he's here!

Stand up, sir.
Give him a hand!

What is your vision, sir?

So my vision is...

that we continue to stand in our essence
that we have discovered now,

our true essence, um...

and that we have the ability
to snap ourselves back

when we get in times of stress.

- Um, and to ever expand that--
- Louder!

To ever expand that essence...

- Stop.
- Yeah.

It's painful.

- Oh...
- Jesus Christ.

Get out here.

Holy fuck.

That was painful.

I cannot believe that's the chest
she's talking about putting her head on.

That was embarrassing, Lance.

Now you've had some pain
with this woman, clearly.

She's a wild fucking creature, isn't she?

- Yeah.
- Yeah.

And you look a little beat down.

How long have you been together?

A little over nine years, yeah.

How often do you guys make love?

- About once every two weeks.
- Once every two weeks. Is that--

Twice a month.

Twice a month.
Okay, good.

Sounds like, you know,
an enema you might take

or something like that, you know.
"Twice a month."

Lance, was your father a powerful man?

Or a feminine man?

- Feminine man.
- Got it.

- Pleased your mom all the time?
- Yeah.

And you craved your dad's love,

and so who did you have to be
for your father?

Whatever would stay out of his way.

- Stay out of his way.
- Yeah.

So you learned
to let him dominate the situation.

So his wife dominated him,
and he dominated you.

Yeah.

This is not a weak man.

This is a man
who's been rewarded for being weak

'cause he originally got pain
if he were strong, to be fair to him.

And that is a brutal
and unfair fucking task.

And I have been through the same period,
only with a mother, not a father,

but there is a day
in which it all can change.

See, there was a day a long time ago...

It was a time...

when a little baby was born.

And the little baby was there
with the baby's mother,

and there was an attack.

And the attack was brutal,
and the mother was killed.

And the father, trying to save the child,
threw him in the bushes,

so the baby lion lived.

And then the father was massacred as well.

And after the massacre was done,
the little baby woke up all alone.

With nothing to even see
what his mother would look like.

All he knows is he's alone,
barely functioning at an early age.

And then these sheep came by.
"Baa."

And the little lion cub came out

and one of the sheep came up
and rubbed up against him.

"Baa, baa."

And before you know it, within
a few months, he's one of the troop.

You see this little lion
going around, going, "Baa, baa, baa,"

Making the same sounds.

And then one day,
a group of lions came in,

and they sliced up
all the sheep around them.

And now, the little lion is a big
fucking lion, going, "Baa, baa."

And he's horrified by it all.

He's in shock.

And this one giant lion comes over
and smacks him on the head

and says,
"What the fuck is going on with you?"

And he grabs him by the hair
and he takes him, he takes him.

And he takes him till he can see
a puddle of water there.

And he looks, and he sees
he's not a fucking sheep.

But still he's not convinced.

So the lion feeds him some of the sheep,

and he tries to spit it out
because it's a vegan and stuff.

Are you a vegan?

Okay, that's close enough.

He's horrified. "I can't eat my brethren!"

But then the big lion
shoves it into his mouth

and something magical happens inside,
something truly magical.

He fucking remembers who he is.

And there's something inside of you
that nothing can ever take away.

Nothing.

Something so fucking strong...

that it can be kind, but powerful.

And as the food goes down,
a crazy fucking thing happens.

He stops saying, "Baa, baa,"

and he fucking roars.

Give me a roar.

That's the fucking roar!

That's the fucking roar!
Fuck yes, brother!

That's the fucking roar.

Give me a roar!

Give me a roar.

Give me a fucking roar!

That's it.

That's the fuckin' roar.

Why do you dedicate an entire day

of the seminar to relationships?

Because if you don't,

then people will go and they've
wired themself for joy and happiness

and then part of their joy
and happiness is...

Not all the rules are just tied to them,

they're in a relationship.

And that person,
they don't know how to interact.

They don't understand, you know.
They look--

Women think that men should be
like women on some level, and vice-versa.

Um, and so it just creates so much havoc

'cause our culture
has what's politically correct

and then there's how people
really, truly respond.

And you can see what's real

because you can watch in the room
and see it happen,

no matter what country,
or what nationality.

It has nothing to do
with cultural upbringing.

It has to do with the way we're wired.

And, to me, this is the most important
area of life,

so I couldn't leave this out of this.

And relationship
magnifies everything else.

She is not quite sure
how to handle this. Did you notice that?

She's like, "I kind of like it,
but I don't fucking know.

This is fucking crazy shit."

What do you feel right now?

- I want it to last.
- Yes, of course.

By the way, he just gave his all to her.

He just slayed the fucking room.

He just did everything a man can do,

and at his peak moment,
when he's the most vulnerable, open,

and should be her fucking hero,

she took a baseball bat
and shoved it in his ass.

Big F, fucking failure
for you on that one.

So let me tell you
what will end your relationship.

Selfishness. It's a bad fucking habit.

A man does not just fucking appear.

Heal the boy, and the man will appear.

2:20, how long was that?

- It started at--
- Two hours and nineteen.

- 12:05?
- 12:05.

- That was two hours and 20 minutes?
- Yeah.

Everybody sat through the whole thing
and didn't move? Holy shit!

- I know. People got amazing value.
- They were riveted.

Okay, well, we're not doing
"Cycle of Meaning" right now.

- They're gonna have to blow that out.
- Yep.

Um, I'll figure a way
to do it within a therapy.

- That'll get the essence of that out.
- Okay.

- Give me a syntax that shows me that.
- Yep. Now?

- Are they done now writing, I assume?
- Yeah, they're probably sharing.

Share 'em with a partner.
Stand up and share with a partner.

What is it you wanna remember?
What'd you take out of this?

What is it that you're gonna utilize
for the rest of your life?

- Okay.
- Yeah.

But we're two and a half hours behind
or two hours behind?

Two.
Two hours.

We have an hour and 40 minutes
built in for shares and

- the summary... the breakup of it.
- Okay, okay.

So I'll knock an hour...
40 minutes to an hour off the shares.

- So, I'll only do, like, probably...
- All right.

- ...one or two interventions, max.
- Okay.

So we catch an hour back.
Yeah.

Then maybe what we do
is we blow off dinner.

And we do a meal in their seat.

Perfect.
That's fine.

Let's just make it
a substantial one then.

We're gonna need a substantial one,
that's a long day.

Even by my standards, it's a long day.

So it's gonna be a long day for them.

- It'll be a fun day. It'll be an easy day.
- Yeah.

But it's still a long day.

One question
I always get asked is,

"Who is he and what's he like
behind the scenes?"

Or, "What's he like in life?
What's he like in marriage?"

- Hey, Tones, Scotty's here.
- Yeah.

What you experience him
to be on stage is who he is in life.

It's my brother.

In front of the curtain,
behind the curtain,

there is that trueness.

Go ahead, gentlemen.

He really is that hungry.
He really is that passionate.

He really does have
that desire to connect.

Hey, let's do one together, too.

Come here, you.
How are you?

Tony, guess what?

I have a boyfriend.

- Oh, that's awesome.
- For now.

Oh, no, that's awesome.

It's a relationship.

That's a breakthrough, girl.

- That's a relationship.
- That's a breakthrough.

That level of kindness,
that level of heart,

is that man 24 hours a day.

You're going to have
what you want in your life

'cause you're made of that.

It's gonna be off course most of the time,

but you're gonna land where you wanna be.

- Come on.
- All right?

- Love you, man. I love you.
- I love you.

Because that is who he is.

That actually invigorates him.
That does not drain him.

Not... It might drain me.

My wife, Bonnie-Pearl, and I
both are not chit-chat people.

I like to go deep.
She does, too.

She's got as much mission as I do
and she's as driven as I am.

How... How can--

- How can you what?
- How can I feel safe inside?

How can you feel safe?

By trusting,
by knowing that you're guided.

By knowing that in the right timing,
he'll show up for you.

Did you feel that?
Go in like this.

That's what needs to happen. Yes.

Okay?

- Oh, I love you.
- Yeah, no problem. Thank you.

Time disappears when
you're doing what you love, right?

And so, when you can
be with people and support people,

and you can light them up

or find a little piece that you can tweak
for them to help them, you know,

or just give them some sanity

in the middle of some crazy thing
they're going through,

that's very fulfilling for me.

So, whether I'm doing it there
or from the stage

really doesn't make any difference.

In some ways, it's nice one-on-one

'cause I can only focus on
that human being, nobody else.

Let's do a big picture. Merry Christmas.
Love you guys. Here we go.

Make some noise!

Our love is just a key,
for you and me.

Our love is just a key, for you and me.

Last night, we were making love,

and this was the first time ever in my...
in my life

that I had sides of myself come out
that I never even knew were there.

And when I tried to make them
come out before, we never--

It was awkward and weird,
'cause I was trying,

and it was just strange,
and I was like, "I don't like this shit.

You know, I'm not being this fucking bad,
naughty girl or whatever."

My wife and I had
a really beautiful experience last night.

And for the first time...

I felt, like, in the core,

that I wanted children.

And for a long time,
I, you know, was, like--

We'd talk about it,
but I didn't feel it, you know?

I've always wanted to be a mom,

but, like, actually be okay
with that happening in my life

without even thinking about it.

Like, without looking at the date
and figuring out finances

and figuring out all this shit
that I do in my head.

And it was the first night
when I was with him that I was like,

"Holy shit. I can do this,
because I can do anything with him."

So, this just in,

Tammi and Lance apparently
had the best sex of their life last night,

and now, for the first time ever,
he wants to have children with her.

What?

- We have a funny life.
- Yes.

The show--

- I guess the lion came out, huh?
- I guess so.

How do you know this?
They shared this in their group?

They shared this
with their trainer,

who shared it with Vicki, who told us.

- Oh, my goodness.
- So they should be in great states today.

And that's awesome.

Tony, it's getting to be
near the end. What's happening today?

This is when they all
are going to redesign their destiny.

Hello again.

They now know
what their values and rules are,

and they've learned how to change 'em,

and they're now gonna do
the process of changing them.

I'm gonna go get 'em--

Just a quick review to get 'em in state
before they go make these big decisions.

Basically the decisions on what's gonna
drive the next decade of their life,

what they're gonna focus on,
what's gonna be most important to them.

And it'll be a lot of fun
so it's gonna be a fun day.

Whoa!

One high-five to your whole team.

- How many feelin' damn good? Say "yes."
- Yes!

- Say "yes."
- Yes!

- Say "yes."
- Yes!

Grab a seat for a moment.

And I want to make a point of something
that I know some of you may be feeling.

For those of you who are concerned

that others are having breakthroughs
and you're not.

And they know the clock is ticking.

Right?

There are some of you right now going,
"This is nice shit for those people.

But I've been here.
Day and night! Night and day!

I've written down
these freakin' questions.

I've listened to this guy.

I've gone all day
without peeing or eating.

Clapped my ass off with a bunch
of strange people called 'my team.'"

Deep inside, there's this concern that...

you're here and it's next to the last day

and you're without a breakthrough.

So, raise your hand if you find yourself
currently breakthrough-less.

You have not had a single breakthrough,

day and night, night and day.

Stand up if you are breakthrough-less.

How could someone go through this entire
time and not have a breakthrough?

The answer is "stay in your head--"

Write it down.

"Stay in your head, you're dead."

However, for those of you that
managed to achieve no breakthroughs,

the good news is it's not over.

Tonight, you're gonna uncover something
that has controlled your entire life,

and you're gonna enhance it
or you're gonna transform it.

The way we're gonna do this

is you're gonna write down
your primary question.

Everyone has a question you ask
more often than anything else on Earth,

and here's why that's so important.

Questions control what you focus on.

What you focus on is what you feel.
What you feel is your experience of life.

And then you'll write down
your mission statement.

It's something really simple.

It's gonna be one core sentence

that's designed to be a trigger
for all that you are.

But you could write 20 pages
and it wouldn't be all you are.

We want one phrase that's gonna be really

what you're here to experience
and what you're here to give,

what you're here to be
and what you're here to do.

And then when you're done with that,

you're gonna make a poster
that has these distinctions.

You're gonna write your mission statement
across the top.

Below, you're gonna write
your new primary question.

You're gonna do your top four,
one-year goals.

And if you have
a relationship vision you like,

you can add that in the bottom corner.

Why are we doing this?

These are some
of the most important decisions

we've made over
the last five days together.

Decisions you're gonna make tonight.

They're why you came here.

And the decisions
you're gonna make tonight

are gonna touch you
and everyone you love.

We get to decide tonight,

"What are you made for
at this next stage of your life?

What are you gonna give?
What are you gonna become?

What are you gonna do?
What are you gonna feel?"

Now is the time for us all to step up.

This next stage is a day
you'll remember as long as you live.

It'll be a new birthday for some of you.

A birth you created.

A birth of new values,
a new life, and a new direction.

So let's step up and make it happen now.

It may be my own bias,
but I really don't believe

people really feel fulfilled
staying where they are.

And the reason is life is growth.

I don't care who it is.

Maybe for a period of time,
it's nice to have a respite and go,

"I kind of like being here.

I don't wanna go after something new.
Let me breathe and take it in."

But if you sit at the table of success
too long, you're gonna get bored.

Progress equals happiness.

If you're growing in anything,

financially, spiritually, emotionally,
in your relationship, in your body,

you're gonna feel better in your life.
That's what we're made for.

And I think we're meant to grow
so we have something to give.

You know, you can't give something
you really don't have.

On the very first day,
I just asked people,

"What is an extraordinary life for you?"

I want them to identify
what's life on their terms.

Is that building a garden
or writing poetry?

Then do that and feel it, right?
Really, don't settle.

Don't get caught up
in the other pieces there.

Or is there a dream
that you just give up on

that you're gonna pour yourself back into
just so you feel more alive?

I'm a big believer that's it's growth,
but there are so many paths,

and I don't have the delusion

that mine is the best or the only
or the right path or anything like that.

I'm just a path for somebody
who wants to try something new

and say, "I'm gonna look at humanity
through different eyes.

I'm gonna see myself
through different eyes,

and maybe feel a level of energy
I've not felt in decades, years, or ever.

And then I'm gonna take that
and go rip my life open to a new level."

That's who I'm for.

Come on, everybody.

Doors are open.
We gotta get going.

Day six, "Date With Destiny."
The party's getting ready to start.

The best stuff is getting ready to happen.
You don't wanna miss it. Come on.

Today, we're gonna take
every single thing,

every major decision we've made this week,

and we're gonna take it through a process

that's gonna take it from being
as thoughts or ideas or concepts

- into your body.
- Doors are open!

Come on back.
Come on back, everybody.

Come on.

How do we make sure
this continues and doesn't end here?

I'll tell you the secret.

I didn't go to an event one time
in my life and then I was fit for life.

So you have to have a daily practice.

The training never stops.

You need a system.

- How many agree? Say "aye."
- Aye!

Make that system work,
it'll make it happen.

So now, we are gonna take
that poster of yours

that has your mission statement,
your values,

and we're gonna take it and get it,
the core of it, in our nervous system.

And we're gonna do it this way.

You're gonna get with four people,
and this group's goal

is to help you to integrate completely
everything you've committed to here,

to own it in your nervous system,
one million percent.

You're gonna get up there and say,

"I, your name, see, hear, feel and know
that I am decisive!"

Whatever the fuck it is, right?

You're either gonna get it, you go, "Yes!"

If there's any ounce of it
that's not there, you say nothing.

You're gonna have to use
all your sensory acuity, your awareness,

be with this person.

And you're gonna have to feel,
do they completely own,

in every ounce of their soul,
what they just said?

I wanna warn you about something.

In this room,
it's gonna be incredibly loud.

I want you to have to fight to hear.

I want you to have to have
everything else trying to distract you

and you having to zero in
on this one person,

feeling them
with every possible distraction.

That's a muscle we all want, right?

Get your groups of four right now. Go.

I, Ryan, see, hear, feel and know
that I am bold.

I, Dawn,

see, hear, feel and know that I am love.

- What do I need, guys? Help me.
- You were good.

When you say "love," you're not love.

Your love goes deep,
very deep inside of you,

real deep, very deep,
very, very, very fucking deep!

It's not deep.
It's very fucking deep, right?

- Okay.
- Okay.

This is the point
that we've been working for

where you actually redesign
what you do with your life.

...and share them.

When you guys change your
values, one of the most wild things is

some of you are gonna see things
you've never seen before.

Notice things you've never noticed,
feel things you've not felt before.

Because the priorities
of your nervous system,

- literally, will change.
- All right.

I, Derek, see, hear, feel and know
that I am passion!

Whoo!

- I get that shit.
- I didn't feel it. That was a lie.

I think destiny is two things.

It's who you're gonna become,
and what're you gonna give in this life.

If you don't step up and be that person,
she's never gonna find him.

- Fuck that!
- You're the one

- that's gonna break the pattern.
- Fuck that!

- You're gonna break the pattern.
- Now!

See, most people are so busy
surviving, making a living,

they never design a life.

And if you don't
take the time to design it,

which is what we're doing here,
you're gonna miss out.

I'm enough!
I have always been enough!

- I will always be enough!
- Yeah.

I know that you're enough!
As you are, you are enough!

How will this change your life forever?

You'll snap your fingers,
and ten years will happen.

You'll look back and go,
"Where did it go?"

Ten years from now, we will surely arrive.
The question is, "Where?"

I, Brax, see, hear, feel and know...

...that I am love, I am strength,
I am wise, and I am passion!

Anchor that into your body
right now, ladies and gentlemen.

Yeah!

Yes! Yes! Yes!

What was the breakthrough
moment for you

where you really understood

that this was going to be
your mission in life?

I don't know if there's-- You know,
everybody wants to think of a moment.

I think life is many stacking
moments like that.

I don't think it's one moment where
suddenly you have this breakthrough.

I mean, it can happen that way.
I'm sure there are--

At times, it seems like that.

But I've had a pretty full life
so I don't know if there's one.

I do know that when I was a sophomore
in high school,

I had a forensics speech class,

and in that class, I was in love with
the senior high school song leader,

like every boy was.

And I was somewhat humorous,
and so I would crack her up.

I could make her laugh.
I got a lot of attention.

And I would do this
where I'd take over the whole class.

It's like these two jury trials.

Listen, since you're both in the room
at the same time,

let me just thank everybody.

I gotta say, uh--
I don't know, some of you--

Who's been with me more than ten years
of these events?

Look at this! Wow!

One day, the forensics speech teacher,
Mr. Cobb, he said,

"Mr. Robbins, you'll remain after class."

Pulls me aside after class.

And I'll never forget, I'm thinking,
"Oh, my God, I am so busted."

And he said, "You know why you're here?"
I said, "Yes, I know why I'm here, sir."

And he said, "No, you don't.
I can tell you don't."

He said, "I know who you are."

I said, "Excuse me?"

He said,

"I know you want the girl's attention.
That's not why you're here."

It's pretty rare to be able
to serve people in a state like this

where they come and they are willing
to put everything on the line

and they're willing to open up.

And I can't thank all of you staff

'cause it doesn't matter
what position you play,

you know, moving a chair
makes a difference,

bringing the water makes a difference.

'Cause when anything's missing,
the whole thing falls apart.

He said, "I have never seen anybody

who could just stand up
and speak with no notes,

look around at kids who won't listen

and mesmerize them
with just raw communication."

He said, "You're not a speaker."
He said, "You're a communicator."

And I was looking at him
like he was crazy.

And he said,
"I know more about your life, Mr. Robbins,

than you probably think I do
or you think anybody does.

I know about your home life."
I'm looking at him like, "What?"

And he goes,
"I wanted you to read this."

And he hands me this speech
and it was called The Will to Win.

And he said, "Just read it.

If it's not your life, give it back to me
and forget about it.

But if I've pegged you right,
then that speech is you.

And I want you to go compete at this
regional final in persuasive oratory."

To my leadership, it feels so incredible
that I can go full force into that room

and I know
that there are gonna be some people

that are gonna need
that individual attention,

and that you guys will grab 'em
and be on top of it,

and I think that's the gift
of this community we've built here

is we've raised the standard for caring.

And I read the speech
and I cried my eyes out.

And it was all about, um...

just never ever, ever, ever giving up.

Just pure will is what keeps you going.

At that stage of my life,
that's all it was, was pure will.

And, um, so I read that thing.
I said, "This is me,"

and I got up and I went
to this regional competition,

and I trounced everybody.
I won first place.

And I went to another one, and I won
first place, another one, first place.

- Let's grab a picture right here.
- It was a

breakthrough because I began to realize
I had a way I can reach people.

So, I'm deeply touched
and I'm very grateful.

Thank you for being my partners
and creating another magnificent event

that those human beings
will never be the same again.

- Thank you so much. See you all back.
- Thank you. Thank you.

Why is it still
an emotional experience

for you to even tell that story?

Because I see that as a moment of grace.

That man, you know, in my life,

handing me that letter,
seeing who I was in that moment,

that was grace.

There's a lot I've done,
but that was grace.

Um, I didn't create that.

And so, while I've done my part
to sculpt who I am,

and I've done a hell of a lot
about that to say the least,

and it never ends for me.

I also recognize grace.

So it's a connection to the divine,

a connection to know that
it's more than you,

and I think that's a healthy thing.

Sometimes in life...

we're wanting to make steps forward

but there seems to be something
pulling us back.

The human consciousness
is an interesting device

in that the brain
is learning all the time.

And the brain's primary job
is to make sure you survive,

so it's always looking
what to protect you from.

And very often in life,
we have an experience,

and we react to that experience.

It's like a muscle contracting.

But then we keep it contracted.
We never, once it's safe, let go again.

And it limits what we can experience
in our life.

Freud figured out that if we could
go back to before the moment,

it could heal the moment
that was holding you

'cause you'd forgotten something
that would make you let go.

So, I'm gonna take you through
an experience of doing that

and this process,
you don't have to understand it.

This is a journey you're gonna go on.

You'll remember certain things.

And as you remember them,

you can make some new decisions
about what they mean

and how it might mean a new life to you.

I'm wondering what
your earliest memory is.

Where were you?

What were you experiencing?

What did it mean?

What did you decide back then?

It's a decision that affected
the way you think about life.

Okay, now lights down,
and we'll do our breath.

We're gonna rise up with our hands,

but as you do it,
you're taking the breath in.

Stop. Stop.

Hands relaxed.
Palms face up, relaxed.

Feel your body.

Feel how your breath has calmed your mind.

With your eyes remaining closed,

put both your hands on your heart
and breathe deep into your heart.

Breathe in your heart
and feel the strength of your heart.

Feel grateful for the gift of your heart.

For as long as it beats, you live.

I want you to think
of three moments in your life

that you could feel deeply grateful for
if you wanted to.

Just go on a journey of
one moment after the other of gratitude.

You may feel a hand touch your head.

If it does, just keep in
the state you're in and intensify.

If it doesn't,
you'll still feel the energy.

It'll be in you.

Really go for it.

Step in the moment, like you're there,
looking through your own eyes,

seeing what you saw then,
feeling what you felt then,

appreciating...

Feeling the blessing
of that moment.

What a blessing it was in your life,
how grateful you are.

Take in the gratitude of that moment.

Feel it.

Feel what it led to
that you feel so grateful for.

That it was a blessing.

In a few moments, you'll open your eyes,
feeling integrated, feeling strong...

feeling like a healing,
feeling filled with gratitude,

wanting to stretch,
to strengthen and to feel fully alive,

more than ever,

feeling at one with yourself
and one with life.

Where an energy will come through you

and you can celebrate that
with your voice in that moment.

Get ready.

Open your eyes whenever you're ready.

And when you want, you can stand...

and you can begin to stretch,

and you can feel the energy
build inside you.

Let it build.

And then make a sound
of total joy, total excitement.

One, two, three, go!

Feel the guidance that never leaves us.

Take everything in here
so you can take it home forever.

Breathe it, feel it, own it,
tonight and every night.

You take the greatest gifts of all home,
who you've become,

the choices you've made,

the strength, the love,
the commitment in your heart.

And the sound will always
bring you back to this moment.

One, two, three!
Make the sound of who you are!

We've been on a little journey.

It wasn't a trip.

A trip is predictable.
A trip is boring.

A journey has all kinds
of discoveries, doesn't it?

Did you discover some new friends?

Did you discover some new feelings?

Did you discover a new you?

So, just for a moment,

think about if you go to a great concert,
what are you looking to feel?

Fully alive, isn't it?

Here, you were the concert.

The concert was a family
of people from 71 countries

who came together to create music,
magic, a transformation.

We brought our desire,
our hunger, our love, our caring,

and we left our fear,
our limitations, our frustration

and our fucking past behind.

That's what we did here,
ladies and gentlemen.

It's been a privilege to serve you.

We've laughed, we've cried,
we've broken through.

It was a blind date with destiny.
How did she turn out, that date, for you?

Until we meet again, hopefully soon,

make your life a masterpiece,
my dear friends. God bless you.

This whole week here
and "Date With Destiny"

was just a confirmation
that by expressing myself

and just not being afraid to be judged
or, you know, to let that out,

it touched so many people.

So, that's what I wanna do for the rest
of my life, and I don't wanna have fear.

I wanna let that shine.
And so I'm excited about that.

It meant a lot to me,
the support of other people.

There was a point when I felt, uh,

"Yeah, I can trust.
I'm in the right place."

Everybody wants to know
what happened after the call.

I feel like I came in here
and I had the weight of the world with me,

and I feel like I set it down
and I don't wanna pick it back up.

Pretty much after I contacted my dad,
I was able to stay in contact with him.

We've been texting and talking
to each other every day.

I think everything in my life
will just be a lot better.

I'll see my dad a lot more.

I definitely want him to be
a big part of my life again.

Knowing that
she's got my back now,

we can push forward
and conquer our dreams,

and it's just amazing.

I mean, it makes me so happy

because now I get to choose
the stuff that makes me light up.

The idea that I can start
a chain reaction of transformation

where people--
each one teach one.

You know, I can teach them
and they go teach someone else.

When I think about the families
who were touched by this week,

when I think about
the businesses and employees,

that makes the whole thing worthwhile.

What do you hope
that this film will capture?

My hope is that maybe somebody
will watch this film and say, "Oh, wow.

It was really beautiful
to watch these people transform."

Just watch it for that,

and maybe that'll make them think about
what's possible for themselves.

What about giving people
a better understanding

of who Tony Robbins is?

I don't know that many people
give a shit.

Honestly, if that's what
your film's success is based on,

I think you're in trouble.

I think it's gotta be based on
something bigger than that.

I think it's gotta be based on
what makes human beings fulfilled,

what makes them alive,
what makes them hungry,

what makes them change.

You know, we all know that
change can happen in a moment,

but we're afraid it won't last.

How is it that people
can make lasting changes in minutes?

What makes that possible,
and is it really real?

And can I taste it and feel it,
and could I experience it myself?

I think that's a hell of a lot more
interesting than, you know, Tony Robbins.