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Hi there, I am sex and
relationship coach Caitlin V

and today I'm gonna
tell you what to do

if you cum too early during sex.

Even men who have no trouble
lasting for a long time in bed

sometimes cum too soon,

or experience premature
ejaculation,

and there's a whole variety
of ways that you can respond

to ejaculating too soon

when you are in
bed with a woman.

Today I'm gonna
tell you what to do

and what not to do

if that happens to you.

Number one, do not
throw a pity party.

Do not get down on yourself.

Do not start making assumptions

about what she thinks about you.

Do not cry and definitely,

do not turn away from her.

Listen, women have sex
for physical intimacy

as well as emotional intimacy,

and if you start to feel shame,

and stigmatized and
turn away from her,

you're cutting off that
emotional intimacy.

Yeah, the physical intimacy
is not there anymore,

at least not for
that moment, right.

But you can recover that

if you don't lose the
emotional intimacy

by turning away from her

and just getting in your own

head or getting in
your own shame.

Here's what you should do

if you ejaculate too early.

Number one, ask her

what would work for her.

You can use the exact phrase.

"What would give you the most
pleasure in this situation?"

Maybe it's a back rub.

Maybe she wants to take a break

and get a glass of water.

Offer to make it up to her
by going down on her,

or using your mouth and your
fingers to stimulate her.

See if you can get her
to have an orgasm.

Especially if you are not gonna
be able to go for round 2,

and if you will be able
to go for round 2,

suggest that at the time.

Say hey, I'm sorry
that this happened,

but I'll be ready to go
again in 20-30 minutes,

how about a back rub
in the meantime.

That's a great response.

Definitely, do not act
as if it didn't happen.

The best thing that you
can do is acknowledge it,

discuss it with her,

take responsibility
and ownership for it,

and then come up
with a great plan

for what to do next.

That's how you'll be
an amazing lover.

It doesn't take six hours
of straight pounding

to be an amazing lover.

It takes care, consideration,
and communication

and if you demonstrate those
after you ejaculate too soon,

you can still be one of the
best lover she's ever had.

In fact, you might be better
because you were there,

you created the
emotional intimacy,

you listened to her,

you asked creative questions,

and you were able to
listen to the answers.

And I don't know about for
all women but for me,

that's what I'm looking
for in a lover.

Finally, understand that
her reaction to your PE,

depends a lot on you.

If you freak out, flip
out, and go into shame,

chances are that she
is gonna do the same.

If you accept it,

acknowledge it in our game
to do something about it,

then she's gonna respond in
kind and most importantly,

do not make assumptions about
what she thinks or how she feels.

In your mind she might think,
ooh my gosh he's inadequate,

he's not a great
lover, I'm gonna have

to go have sex with someone
else yada yada yada.

Those thoughts are
not helping you

and they are not
necessarily true.

You cannot assume to know

what's actually
happening in her mind.

So, you have to ask
those questions.

Recognize that
making assumptions

is only hurting you.

It's only getting into
your internal dialogue,

and getting in your way

and preventing you
from being a calm

and confident man
in the bedroom.

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