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These are the user uploaded subtitles that are being translated: 1 00:00:32,241 --> 00:00:35,208 [birds calling] 2 00:00:38,507 --> 00:00:41,773 [seagulls crying] 3 00:00:45,275 --> 00:00:46,907 ADULT SASHA (VOICEOVER): I struggle now to remember 4 00:00:46,973 --> 00:00:49,541 much of my childhood. 5 00:00:49,607 --> 00:00:52,241 It only comes back to me in small fragments, 6 00:00:52,307 --> 00:00:56,740 and even those memories are hard to trust. 7 00:00:56,806 --> 00:00:58,407 I do remember his maps. 8 00:01:01,274 --> 00:01:05,141 It's true I spent most of my life being angry at him. 9 00:01:05,208 --> 00:01:07,973 The older I get, the more I feel 10 00:01:08,040 --> 00:01:10,507 like I never even knew him at all. 11 00:01:10,574 --> 00:01:14,274 My image of him now, I know, falls flat 12 00:01:14,340 --> 00:01:16,706 compared to reality. 13 00:01:16,773 --> 00:01:19,474 Thank you for your memories. 14 00:01:19,541 --> 00:01:20,907 They're all I have now. 15 00:01:20,973 --> 00:01:24,706 [children giggle, talking indistinctly] 16 00:01:24,773 --> 00:01:26,340 [giggling] 17 00:01:26,407 --> 00:01:28,007 CHILD: I have four pillows in my car. 18 00:01:28,074 --> 00:01:30,673 [indistinct chatter] 19 00:01:30,740 --> 00:01:33,641 [gentle classical music] 20 00:01:33,740 --> 00:01:40,840 ♪ ♪ 21 00:02:26,607 --> 00:02:30,507 [motor slows to a stop] 22 00:02:30,574 --> 00:02:32,174 [vehicle door closes] 23 00:02:38,673 --> 00:02:41,740 [vehicle doors closing] 24 00:02:49,773 --> 00:02:51,207 MOTHER: Okay. 25 00:02:51,274 --> 00:02:55,074 Boys, grab each one thing, and come with me in the house. 26 00:02:55,141 --> 00:02:56,574 Now. 27 00:02:56,641 --> 00:03:00,873 [both speaking Hungarian] 28 00:03:00,940 --> 00:03:03,374 FATHER: Jeremy, help me with the mattress, please. 29 00:03:06,507 --> 00:03:08,240 Ah! 30 00:03:25,974 --> 00:03:30,041 [insects chirping] 31 00:03:35,907 --> 00:03:37,840 [device clicking] 32 00:03:37,907 --> 00:03:40,773 [music box playing light tune] 33 00:03:40,840 --> 00:03:47,840 ♪ ♪ 34 00:03:47,907 --> 00:03:50,773 SASHA: I am Miss Mousey. 35 00:03:50,840 --> 00:03:54,773 [device clicking] 36 00:03:54,840 --> 00:03:56,307 [camera shutter clicks] 37 00:03:56,374 --> 00:03:59,706 Closing her eyes. 38 00:03:59,773 --> 00:04:02,340 She's eating your leg. 39 00:04:05,407 --> 00:04:08,008 [camera shutter clicks] 40 00:04:08,074 --> 00:04:10,140 [Mother speaking Hungarian] 41 00:04:24,641 --> 00:04:25,740 Mm-hmm. 42 00:04:25,806 --> 00:04:28,806 [children humming] 43 00:04:56,140 --> 00:04:58,641 [children continue humming] 44 00:04:58,706 --> 00:05:00,440 [laughing] 45 00:05:00,507 --> 00:05:02,941 - [speaking Hungarian] 46 00:05:08,806 --> 00:05:10,673 [door opens] SASHA: Mom, your car keys. 47 00:05:10,740 --> 00:05:12,607 MOTHER: Oh, thank you. FELIX: Come on! 48 00:05:12,673 --> 00:05:14,240 Get out of my way, come on! 49 00:05:16,773 --> 00:05:18,440 MOTHER: Come. 50 00:05:18,507 --> 00:05:20,340 [door closes] 51 00:05:20,407 --> 00:05:23,740 [car doors open, close, engine turning over] 52 00:05:40,941 --> 00:05:43,073 [child shouts] 53 00:05:45,007 --> 00:05:47,807 [children giggling] 54 00:06:02,773 --> 00:06:05,107 SASHA: "And eventually become an evergreen forest. 55 00:06:05,174 --> 00:06:07,908 "The first plants to occupy a disturbed site 56 00:06:07,973 --> 00:06:10,874 "are called pioneer species, the process of processing 57 00:06:10,941 --> 00:06:12,941 into forest called succession." 58 00:06:13,007 --> 00:06:16,941 [camera shutter clicking, film whirring] 59 00:06:24,507 --> 00:06:27,274 [seagulls crying] 60 00:06:27,340 --> 00:06:29,274 NARRATOR (ON TV): The heron has two methods of fishing, 61 00:06:29,340 --> 00:06:31,740 either he waits for the prey to come to him, 62 00:06:31,807 --> 00:06:34,474 or else he stalks it very carefully. 63 00:06:34,541 --> 00:06:38,440 [seagulls continue crying] 64 00:06:38,507 --> 00:06:41,407 [birds calling] 65 00:07:08,307 --> 00:07:10,774 NARRATOR (ON TV): While one protects the nest, 66 00:07:10,841 --> 00:07:12,174 the other fishes 67 00:07:12,240 --> 00:07:13,973 to meet the daily increasing need for food. 68 00:07:14,040 --> 00:07:15,673 [children speaking indistinctly] 69 00:07:15,741 --> 00:07:19,174 As time passes, the ritual exchanges between adults 70 00:07:19,240 --> 00:07:21,207 become less and less frequent, 71 00:07:21,274 --> 00:07:24,240 and the strong bond between them begins to weaken. 72 00:07:24,307 --> 00:07:26,174 By the time they finally leave the colony, 73 00:07:26,240 --> 00:07:29,407 these bonds will have completely disappeared. 74 00:07:31,440 --> 00:07:35,973 His flight path is sometimes obstructed by other birds. 75 00:07:36,040 --> 00:07:37,807 The direction and force of the wind 76 00:07:37,873 --> 00:07:40,207 can also prevent him from landing, 77 00:07:40,274 --> 00:07:43,274 so he takes off again and tries a new approach. 78 00:07:43,340 --> 00:07:44,574 [seagulls crying] 79 00:07:44,641 --> 00:07:48,307 MOTHER: No, please, no touching! 80 00:07:48,374 --> 00:07:50,374 NARRATOR (ON TV): The young herons have now reached 81 00:07:50,440 --> 00:07:53,007 their full growth and are left on their own. 82 00:07:53,073 --> 00:07:57,374 [heron squawking] 83 00:07:57,440 --> 00:08:00,274 They find food either guided by their instinct 84 00:08:00,340 --> 00:08:03,274 or by following the adults to the feeding grounds. 85 00:08:03,340 --> 00:08:07,574 [seagulls crying] 86 00:08:07,641 --> 00:08:10,774 [car doors open] 87 00:08:12,307 --> 00:08:15,741 [car doors close] 88 00:08:15,807 --> 00:08:18,474 [engine turning over] 89 00:08:18,541 --> 00:08:21,474 [cheerful music] 90 00:08:21,541 --> 00:08:28,674 ♪ ♪ 91 00:08:33,307 --> 00:08:36,340 [children chattering indistinctly] 92 00:08:43,541 --> 00:08:46,207 - Thank you. - Yeah. 93 00:08:46,274 --> 00:08:48,407 - Come on, let's go. - Yeah. 94 00:08:51,040 --> 00:08:52,741 EMMA: Let's go to my place first. 95 00:08:52,806 --> 00:08:54,574 BECKY: I can't wait. 96 00:08:54,642 --> 00:08:57,741 ASHLEY: Maybe you can ask your mom if we can go in the pool. 97 00:08:57,806 --> 00:09:00,407 I would love to go in the pool. 98 00:09:00,474 --> 00:09:03,340 We could borrow some of your swimsuits. 99 00:09:03,407 --> 00:09:04,707 EMMA: Let's go. 100 00:09:04,774 --> 00:09:06,374 Right over here. 101 00:09:10,407 --> 00:09:13,307 [child giggles] 102 00:09:13,374 --> 00:09:14,741 Did you do your dance? 103 00:09:14,806 --> 00:09:16,707 SASHA: Yes, I did do my dance. 104 00:09:16,773 --> 00:09:18,707 BECKY: I didn't see you! 105 00:09:18,773 --> 00:09:20,140 I know. 106 00:09:20,207 --> 00:09:22,107 EMMA: You have to do a dance before we do it. 107 00:09:22,174 --> 00:09:23,773 ASHLEY: Make sure you do a dance. 108 00:09:23,840 --> 00:09:26,174 EMMA: It's our tradition. [all shouting happily] 109 00:09:26,240 --> 00:09:30,174 CHILD: Wait... [continues indistinctly] 110 00:09:30,240 --> 00:09:32,407 BECKY: Wait. She's right there. 111 00:09:44,407 --> 00:09:47,873 [distant telephone ringing] 112 00:10:06,307 --> 00:10:07,642 [object crunches] 113 00:10:07,707 --> 00:10:11,174 [children whispering indistinctly] 114 00:10:11,240 --> 00:10:12,973 [loud crash] 115 00:10:14,707 --> 00:10:17,040 SASHA: You guys! [door swinging open] 116 00:10:17,107 --> 00:10:19,374 Help. NEIGHBOR: Stay calm. 117 00:10:19,440 --> 00:10:20,873 SASHA: Help. 118 00:10:20,940 --> 00:10:24,040 NEIGHBOR: Here, grab a hold of this. Stay calm. 119 00:10:24,107 --> 00:10:27,542 Here we go, here we go. Yeah, just hold on. 120 00:10:27,608 --> 00:10:29,773 Why did you do that, sweetheart? 121 00:10:33,174 --> 00:10:37,575 - [humming] 122 00:10:37,642 --> 00:10:40,973 [vehicle engine roaring] 123 00:10:41,040 --> 00:10:44,140 [continues humming] 124 00:11:09,407 --> 00:11:12,608 FATHER: He wants to upset me. He wants to upset you. 125 00:11:12,673 --> 00:11:15,773 [Mother speaking Hungarian] 126 00:11:15,840 --> 00:11:18,907 [Father speaking Hungarian] 127 00:11:23,073 --> 00:11:25,374 MOTHER: He's--he's troubled, but he's not crazy. 128 00:11:25,440 --> 00:11:26,706 FATHER: And-- 129 00:11:26,773 --> 00:11:29,174 MOTHER: Crazy means something else. 130 00:11:29,240 --> 00:11:32,007 I just don't want you to say something 131 00:11:32,073 --> 00:11:33,440 like this about my son. 132 00:11:37,641 --> 00:11:42,073 MOTHER: I mean, it's crazy to leave him like this. 133 00:11:42,140 --> 00:11:43,873 FATHER: That's what they told us-- 134 00:11:43,940 --> 00:11:46,440 don't react, just let him get bored of his own jokes. 135 00:11:46,508 --> 00:11:48,407 [door closes] 136 00:11:50,740 --> 00:11:53,407 Please check on him, please. 137 00:12:08,840 --> 00:12:10,973 [door opens] 138 00:12:22,307 --> 00:12:25,240 Is he still out there? 139 00:12:25,307 --> 00:12:26,907 SASHA: Mm-hmm. 140 00:12:34,508 --> 00:12:38,940 - What do you think about Jeremy--how he's behaving? 141 00:12:39,007 --> 00:12:41,073 SASHA: I don't know. 142 00:12:45,073 --> 00:12:47,574 MOTHER: Why do you think he's like this? 143 00:12:47,641 --> 00:12:50,607 - I don't know, Mom. 144 00:12:50,673 --> 00:12:52,174 FATHER: How did it go? 145 00:12:52,240 --> 00:12:55,607 MOTHER: Why is your hair wet? 146 00:12:55,673 --> 00:12:59,207 - We played in the sprinkler. 147 00:12:59,274 --> 00:13:02,806 [phone ringing] 148 00:13:09,973 --> 00:13:14,073 Um, yeah, we've seen him. 149 00:13:14,140 --> 00:13:16,174 Yeah, he's just acting out. 150 00:13:26,773 --> 00:13:29,240 No. No, I appreciate it. 151 00:13:29,307 --> 00:13:31,240 [chuckles] 152 00:13:34,940 --> 00:13:37,574 Um, yeah, yeah. 153 00:13:37,641 --> 00:13:39,907 No, I'm--I'm with you. Yes, yeah. 154 00:13:43,541 --> 00:13:44,973 MOTHER: Who was that? 155 00:13:45,040 --> 00:13:47,107 FATHER: Jason, from across the street. 156 00:13:47,174 --> 00:13:48,840 [sighs] He wanted to let us know 157 00:13:48,907 --> 00:13:51,408 that our son is dead on the front step. 158 00:13:53,907 --> 00:13:56,441 - I told him we are aware and not to worry. 159 00:13:56,507 --> 00:13:58,073 He will come back to life soon. 160 00:13:58,140 --> 00:14:00,706 [chuckles] 161 00:14:00,773 --> 00:14:02,673 - Hmm. 162 00:14:16,308 --> 00:14:19,007 [birds chirping] 163 00:14:19,073 --> 00:14:22,940 [cereal rattles in bowl, liquid pouring] 164 00:14:23,007 --> 00:14:26,806 HENRY: I woke up at 6:47. 165 00:14:26,873 --> 00:14:31,073 FELIX: Same, around maybe 7:00. 166 00:14:31,140 --> 00:14:34,341 Did you know that in the ocean-- 167 00:14:34,408 --> 00:14:36,607 you know a fun fact about dolphins? 168 00:14:36,673 --> 00:14:38,174 Want to know a fun fact? 169 00:14:38,240 --> 00:14:42,073 Sometimes dolphins will find a puffer fish and gang up on it 170 00:14:42,140 --> 00:14:46,507 and bite onto it and then toss it around 171 00:14:46,574 --> 00:14:48,408 like a football just to get high. 172 00:14:48,474 --> 00:14:50,073 It's true. 173 00:14:51,973 --> 00:14:54,308 [dishes clattering] 174 00:15:01,806 --> 00:15:03,240 HENRY: Stop it. 175 00:15:03,308 --> 00:15:05,740 - I don't want to watch you eat. 176 00:15:14,673 --> 00:15:19,073 Boys, do you know where's your swimsuit? 177 00:15:19,140 --> 00:15:21,241 HENRY: I don't have one. 178 00:15:21,308 --> 00:15:25,007 MOTHER: Okay, then you should wear these underwears, 179 00:15:25,073 --> 00:15:27,275 so no one will notice anyways. 180 00:15:27,341 --> 00:15:28,940 FELIX: Yeah. 181 00:15:33,973 --> 00:15:37,073 - [speaking Hungarian] 182 00:15:38,907 --> 00:15:41,040 [door closes] 183 00:15:49,140 --> 00:15:51,073 [thumping] 184 00:16:03,641 --> 00:16:07,174 [thumping continues] 185 00:16:13,007 --> 00:16:15,474 MOTHER: Sasha, come. 186 00:16:15,541 --> 00:16:18,341 Let's go. 187 00:16:18,407 --> 00:16:19,374 Bye. 188 00:16:21,440 --> 00:16:23,407 [door closes] 189 00:16:23,474 --> 00:16:27,241 [thumping continues] 190 00:16:30,073 --> 00:16:33,107 [ball bouncing, thumping continues] 191 00:16:39,641 --> 00:16:42,040 Jeremy. 192 00:16:42,107 --> 00:16:43,241 Come. 193 00:16:45,107 --> 00:16:46,407 Jeremy. 194 00:16:50,474 --> 00:16:52,073 Jeremy! 195 00:16:55,440 --> 00:16:57,407 Jeremy, come! 196 00:16:59,440 --> 00:17:01,740 Come with me now. 197 00:17:20,773 --> 00:17:22,706 [car door closes] 198 00:17:22,773 --> 00:17:24,740 Seat belts on. 199 00:17:35,340 --> 00:17:37,740 [engine turning over] 200 00:17:37,806 --> 00:17:40,940 [ball bouncing] 201 00:18:34,340 --> 00:18:36,706 - You can't do it. It's too heavy, dude. 202 00:18:36,773 --> 00:18:38,440 It's, like, 50 pounds. 203 00:18:38,507 --> 00:18:41,007 [child straining] 204 00:18:41,074 --> 00:18:43,041 HENRY: There's not a lot. FELIX: Let me see. 205 00:18:43,108 --> 00:18:44,407 HENRY: Like, four. 206 00:18:44,474 --> 00:18:46,440 FELIX: Oh, there's a decently big one right here. 207 00:18:46,507 --> 00:18:48,141 Oh, he lost an arm. 208 00:18:48,207 --> 00:18:49,840 SASHA: Aw, put him back! Put him back! 209 00:18:49,907 --> 00:18:53,307 [waves crashing] 210 00:18:53,374 --> 00:18:56,474 [seagulls crying] 211 00:18:56,541 --> 00:18:59,407 [children chattering happily] 212 00:19:14,973 --> 00:19:17,108 [children cheering] 213 00:19:21,374 --> 00:19:23,074 SASHA: Don't. 214 00:19:53,307 --> 00:19:56,074 [rock splashing] 215 00:20:01,607 --> 00:20:03,740 [rock splashing] 216 00:20:05,974 --> 00:20:09,074 [indistinct chatter] 217 00:20:32,673 --> 00:20:36,140 [seagulls crying] 218 00:20:39,307 --> 00:20:42,240 [insects chirping] 219 00:20:50,140 --> 00:20:52,908 - Did he take the money I gave you? 220 00:20:55,107 --> 00:20:57,574 Hmm? 221 00:20:57,641 --> 00:20:59,806 HENRY: No. 222 00:20:59,873 --> 00:21:02,407 MOTHER: Come on, let's go to the car. 223 00:21:08,706 --> 00:21:12,440 [thunder rumbling softly] 224 00:21:15,507 --> 00:21:18,140 [Sasha sighs] 225 00:21:18,207 --> 00:21:21,240 [children chattering indistinctly] 226 00:21:27,474 --> 00:21:29,240 SASHA: Where's Jeremy? 227 00:21:29,307 --> 00:21:32,073 FELIX: Where's Mom? Where's Jeremy? 228 00:21:32,140 --> 00:21:33,740 There's Mom. 229 00:21:41,641 --> 00:21:44,740 [thunder rumbling] 230 00:21:48,340 --> 00:21:51,240 [car door opens, beeping] 231 00:21:54,507 --> 00:21:58,806 [engine turning over] 232 00:21:58,874 --> 00:22:02,073 CHILDREN: 704, 705, 706, 233 00:22:02,140 --> 00:22:06,706 707, 708, 709... 234 00:22:06,773 --> 00:22:10,607 710, 711, 712, 235 00:22:10,673 --> 00:22:14,908 713, 714, 715. 236 00:22:14,974 --> 00:22:17,740 [vehicles passing by] 237 00:22:17,806 --> 00:22:20,706 [dramatic music] 238 00:22:20,773 --> 00:22:27,908 ♪ ♪ 239 00:22:29,140 --> 00:22:31,874 MOTHER: Come. Come now. 240 00:22:31,941 --> 00:22:39,073 ♪ ♪ 241 00:22:54,841 --> 00:22:57,574 [car seat rattling] Stop it. 242 00:22:57,641 --> 00:23:00,240 Do you want me to crash? 243 00:23:00,307 --> 00:23:05,541 ♪ ♪ 244 00:23:05,607 --> 00:23:08,073 [sighs] 245 00:23:08,140 --> 00:23:09,874 - [slurps] 246 00:23:09,940 --> 00:23:17,073 ♪ ♪ 247 00:23:23,807 --> 00:23:26,374 - ♪ My friend ♪ 248 00:23:26,440 --> 00:23:32,040 ♪ Don't just sit there and ruminate ♪ 249 00:23:32,107 --> 00:23:37,007 ♪ With your navel to contemplate ♪ 250 00:23:37,073 --> 00:23:42,507 ♪ It's a beautiful day outside ♪ 251 00:23:42,574 --> 00:23:45,440 ♪ Time's passing you by ♪ 252 00:23:45,507 --> 00:23:52,407 ♪ ♪ 253 00:23:57,507 --> 00:23:59,407 FELIX: Ah! 254 00:23:59,474 --> 00:24:02,040 HENRY: Here, Let me try. 255 00:24:05,407 --> 00:24:06,807 Ah, damn. 256 00:24:06,874 --> 00:24:08,774 FELIX: It didn't even land over there. 257 00:24:08,841 --> 00:24:12,073 [gentle music] 258 00:24:12,140 --> 00:24:15,274 HENRY: Oh, that was so close. 259 00:24:15,340 --> 00:24:19,607 [indistinct chatter] 260 00:24:19,673 --> 00:24:21,207 FELIX: Yeah, sure. 261 00:24:21,274 --> 00:24:23,873 Just don't sell me the sausages. 262 00:24:23,940 --> 00:24:26,873 [keys clacking] 263 00:24:26,940 --> 00:24:31,841 ♪ ♪ 264 00:24:31,907 --> 00:24:35,507 - Dad, where's Mom? 265 00:24:35,574 --> 00:24:37,507 FATHER: She's at her appointment. 266 00:24:37,574 --> 00:24:40,307 - What kind of appointment? 267 00:24:40,374 --> 00:24:47,307 ♪ ♪ 268 00:24:49,107 --> 00:24:52,674 Dad, what kind of appointment? 269 00:24:54,840 --> 00:24:57,407 - Come, draw something for me. 270 00:25:02,274 --> 00:25:05,407 Ta-da. 271 00:25:05,474 --> 00:25:07,541 Sit. 272 00:25:07,607 --> 00:25:10,541 - Yay. 273 00:25:10,607 --> 00:25:12,741 Ooh. 274 00:25:12,807 --> 00:25:15,240 What's this do? 275 00:25:17,873 --> 00:25:19,774 - Try. [mouse clicking] 276 00:25:19,840 --> 00:25:21,307 - [gasps] Wow. 277 00:25:21,374 --> 00:25:23,073 - That's nice. 278 00:25:25,840 --> 00:25:28,774 - Now, I need to-- 279 00:25:28,840 --> 00:25:30,707 FATHER: That one. 280 00:25:30,774 --> 00:25:32,574 It's going to be Miss Mousey. 281 00:25:32,642 --> 00:25:34,474 SASHA: Yeah. 282 00:25:34,541 --> 00:25:36,840 FATHER: I know. 283 00:25:36,907 --> 00:25:39,240 SASHA: Ooh, that's big. FATHER: That's one ear. 284 00:25:41,940 --> 00:25:43,840 Can move it back. 285 00:25:43,907 --> 00:25:48,073 SASHA: Oh. Wait, wait, I'll do the bucket. 286 00:25:48,140 --> 00:25:50,240 FATHER: Pull some way just a little. 287 00:25:50,307 --> 00:25:51,707 SASHA: Oh, no! 288 00:25:57,541 --> 00:26:00,240 HENRY: Yeah, and then this, you have to do it, like, slowly. 289 00:26:00,307 --> 00:26:02,207 And can you take this? 290 00:26:08,274 --> 00:26:09,674 A boat. 291 00:26:09,741 --> 00:26:10,873 FELIX: Yeah. 292 00:26:14,608 --> 00:26:15,940 There we go. 293 00:26:19,608 --> 00:26:23,040 Yeah, dude. 294 00:26:23,107 --> 00:26:26,007 HENRY: Hey, mine has water. 295 00:26:26,073 --> 00:26:29,007 FELIX: Hey, blue boat is still alive. 296 00:26:29,073 --> 00:26:30,940 HENRY: And so are mine. 297 00:26:31,007 --> 00:26:32,940 FELIX: Looking kind of rough, though. 298 00:26:33,007 --> 00:26:34,407 HENRY: Yeah. 299 00:26:36,642 --> 00:26:37,642 Look at this. 300 00:26:37,707 --> 00:26:39,174 FELIX: You want one? 301 00:26:39,240 --> 00:26:41,207 - No. 302 00:26:41,274 --> 00:26:43,274 HENRY: You wish. 303 00:26:43,340 --> 00:26:46,240 [classical music] 304 00:26:46,307 --> 00:26:53,274 ♪ ♪ 305 00:26:53,340 --> 00:26:56,542 [indistinct chatter] 306 00:26:56,608 --> 00:26:59,740 [laughter] 307 00:27:03,207 --> 00:27:06,240 [camera shutter clicks, film whirs] 308 00:27:08,873 --> 00:27:15,973 ♪ ♪ 309 00:27:38,840 --> 00:27:42,207 FATHER: Just try to find nice shapes. 310 00:27:42,274 --> 00:27:46,207 And focus on the arrangements, okay? 311 00:27:46,274 --> 00:27:47,907 Mm-hmm. 312 00:27:51,575 --> 00:27:54,140 Nice so far, nice. 313 00:27:54,207 --> 00:27:57,542 Lesson number one, never do that. 314 00:27:57,608 --> 00:27:59,240 Henry. 315 00:28:02,140 --> 00:28:04,641 Time, now. 316 00:28:04,706 --> 00:28:11,840 ♪ ♪ 317 00:28:14,407 --> 00:28:16,773 SASHA: Who is that? 318 00:28:16,840 --> 00:28:18,641 HENRY: Wow. FELIX: Me. 319 00:28:18,706 --> 00:28:20,440 FATHER: Time is going backwards. 320 00:28:20,508 --> 00:28:22,907 It's a time warp. 321 00:28:22,973 --> 00:28:24,340 FELIX: Yeah. 322 00:28:24,407 --> 00:28:25,773 HENRY: It's awesome. 323 00:28:25,840 --> 00:28:28,407 SASHA: That's really cool. Wow. 324 00:28:41,240 --> 00:28:43,475 FATHER: You spot instantly 325 00:28:43,542 --> 00:28:45,040 during this-- [knocking] 326 00:28:45,107 --> 00:28:49,641 Jeremy, can you put it in the fixer, please? 327 00:28:49,706 --> 00:28:51,673 [footsteps approaching] 328 00:28:51,740 --> 00:28:54,040 How did it go? - Hmm? 329 00:28:54,107 --> 00:28:56,207 FATHER: How did it go? 330 00:28:56,274 --> 00:28:57,773 - What do you mean? 331 00:28:57,840 --> 00:29:00,641 It was terrible, but what is this? 332 00:29:00,706 --> 00:29:03,274 What are you doing? 333 00:29:03,340 --> 00:29:05,607 You're not working. 334 00:29:05,673 --> 00:29:08,408 Where is--where are the children? 335 00:29:08,475 --> 00:29:11,073 - I was showing them something in the darkroom. 336 00:29:23,340 --> 00:29:25,806 It seems like you don't really see 337 00:29:25,873 --> 00:29:29,240 that we are in a crisis somehow. 338 00:29:29,307 --> 00:29:31,641 FATHER: So... 339 00:29:31,706 --> 00:29:35,508 Badly, I guess. [Mother sighs] 340 00:29:35,574 --> 00:29:38,873 Did they have any advice this time? 341 00:29:38,940 --> 00:29:41,073 [Mother scoffs] 342 00:29:45,873 --> 00:29:50,073 - You can listen to this whole thing. 343 00:29:52,673 --> 00:29:54,240 - He let you record it? 344 00:29:54,307 --> 00:29:55,706 [button clicks] 345 00:29:55,773 --> 00:29:57,274 PSYCHIATRIST (ON TAPE): It's difficult. 346 00:29:57,340 --> 00:29:58,541 You're correct, yes. 347 00:29:58,607 --> 00:30:00,174 It's not clear entirely 348 00:30:00,240 --> 00:30:02,541 what's causing this disruptive behavior, 349 00:30:02,607 --> 00:30:04,773 even after meeting with him several times. 350 00:30:04,840 --> 00:30:08,274 MOTHER (ON TAPE): Can you say what he was telling you or no? 351 00:30:08,340 --> 00:30:10,375 PSYCHIATRIST (ON TAPE): No, I can't tell you that. 352 00:30:10,441 --> 00:30:13,007 But I can tell you my professional opinion. 353 00:30:13,073 --> 00:30:14,840 MOTHER (ON TAPE): You mean a diagnosis? 354 00:30:14,907 --> 00:30:16,274 PSYCHIATRIST (ON TAPE): I know that's 355 00:30:16,341 --> 00:30:17,740 what you're after, 356 00:30:17,806 --> 00:30:19,973 but a diagnosis is not always as helpful as you might think. 357 00:30:20,040 --> 00:30:21,641 MOTHER (ON TAPE): You don't have one? 358 00:30:21,706 --> 00:30:22,907 PSYCHIATRIST (ON TAPE): [scoffs] 359 00:30:22,973 --> 00:30:24,773 While areas of weakness have been identified 360 00:30:24,840 --> 00:30:26,174 in his learning abilities, 361 00:30:26,240 --> 00:30:27,973 they do not alone seem sufficient enough 362 00:30:28,040 --> 00:30:30,607 to account for the level of social difficulty, 363 00:30:30,673 --> 00:30:32,240 the relationship issues, 364 00:30:32,307 --> 00:30:35,940 the adaptive-living issues you reported to me. 365 00:30:36,007 --> 00:30:37,873 As far as a diagnosis is concerned, 366 00:30:37,940 --> 00:30:39,840 I would really only feel confident 367 00:30:39,907 --> 00:30:42,040 in suggesting that Jeremy has signs 368 00:30:42,107 --> 00:30:45,007 of what we would call oppositional defiant disorder. 369 00:30:45,073 --> 00:30:47,040 MOTHER (ON TAPE): What is this? 370 00:30:47,107 --> 00:30:49,073 PSYCHIATRIST (ON TAPE): It's what it sounds like-- 371 00:30:57,773 --> 00:30:59,840 PSYCHIATRIST (ON TAPE): That somewhere along the line, 372 00:30:59,907 --> 00:31:02,308 he decided that he's the boss. 373 00:31:02,375 --> 00:31:05,474 And you just have to show him, and I mean really show him, 374 00:31:05,541 --> 00:31:06,973 that that's not the case. 375 00:31:07,040 --> 00:31:09,507 You are the boss. [Father snorts] 376 00:31:09,574 --> 00:31:11,073 [button clicks] 377 00:31:21,073 --> 00:31:24,440 FATHER: Sasha. You're too old for this now. 378 00:31:24,507 --> 00:31:26,375 And too big. 379 00:31:26,440 --> 00:31:28,806 - Aw, but I can't sleep. 380 00:31:28,873 --> 00:31:31,574 MOTHER: Oh, you. 381 00:31:31,641 --> 00:31:33,275 [TV switching on] 382 00:31:33,341 --> 00:31:35,240 MAN (ON TV): I'll slide this off. 383 00:31:35,308 --> 00:31:36,940 It's so flavorful. 384 00:31:37,007 --> 00:31:39,007 WOMAN (ON TV): Look at that, folks. That is-- 385 00:31:39,073 --> 00:31:43,641 - We are having now, um, a girls' night. 386 00:31:43,706 --> 00:31:46,007 - Well, am I kicked out? - Uh-huh. 387 00:31:46,073 --> 00:31:49,907 Sasha, Miss Mousey, and me, we're sleeping here. 388 00:31:49,973 --> 00:31:51,873 You can sleep in her bed. 389 00:31:51,940 --> 00:31:53,174 FATHER: Ay, ay, ay. 390 00:31:53,241 --> 00:31:56,840 SASHA: Bye. - Good night. 391 00:31:56,907 --> 00:31:58,174 FATHER: Night, night. 392 00:31:58,241 --> 00:32:00,341 HOST (ON TV): I'm going to take the spit rod. 393 00:32:00,407 --> 00:32:02,007 And you forget about it. 394 00:32:02,073 --> 00:32:03,574 WOMAN (ON TV): You just set it and then forget it. 395 00:32:03,641 --> 00:32:05,375 WOMAN 2 (ON TV): You just set it and forget it. 396 00:32:05,440 --> 00:32:07,375 WOMAN 3 (ON TV): Set it and forget about it. 397 00:32:07,440 --> 00:32:09,174 MAN (ON TV): You set it and forget it. 398 00:32:09,241 --> 00:32:11,740 AUDIENCE (ON TV): Set it and forget it. 399 00:32:28,773 --> 00:32:31,773 [Father shushing] 400 00:32:31,840 --> 00:32:34,907 [indistinct chatter on TV] 401 00:32:56,073 --> 00:32:59,140 EMMA: Oh, no. Can I run through it? 402 00:32:59,208 --> 00:33:01,907 [squealing] 403 00:33:05,241 --> 00:33:07,840 SASHA: Let's keep it going. It's going so fast. 404 00:33:07,907 --> 00:33:10,873 Guys, look how fast it's going! 405 00:33:10,940 --> 00:33:14,007 [children shouting happily] 406 00:33:16,073 --> 00:33:20,541 Wait, she's gonna pick it up and pop it this time. 407 00:33:20,607 --> 00:33:22,073 Emma! 408 00:33:23,940 --> 00:33:25,740 Drop it! Okay, okay, okay. 409 00:33:25,806 --> 00:33:27,440 [children scream happily] 410 00:33:27,507 --> 00:33:31,374 Pick it up. EMMA: Pick it up. 411 00:33:31,440 --> 00:33:32,907 CHILDREN: Three, two-- 412 00:33:32,973 --> 00:33:36,073 [all screaming happily] 413 00:33:57,541 --> 00:33:59,773 EMMA: Everyone try to get me. SASHA: Okay. 414 00:33:59,840 --> 00:34:02,040 EMMA: Not yet, not yet! 415 00:34:02,107 --> 00:34:03,940 Now, now. 416 00:34:04,007 --> 00:34:07,073 [children screaming happily] 417 00:34:09,507 --> 00:34:12,407 [vehicle approaching] 418 00:34:16,007 --> 00:34:18,806 [vehicle door opens, closes] 419 00:34:18,873 --> 00:34:20,773 FATHER: Can you hold this for me? 420 00:34:20,840 --> 00:34:24,806 [vehicle door opens, closes] 421 00:34:37,307 --> 00:34:39,241 [knock on door] 422 00:34:41,740 --> 00:34:44,740 [footsteps approaching, door opens] 423 00:34:47,274 --> 00:34:49,407 POLICE OFFICER: Ma'am, is this your son? 424 00:34:49,474 --> 00:34:51,806 He gave us this address. 425 00:34:51,873 --> 00:34:54,007 MOTHER: Yes. 426 00:34:54,074 --> 00:34:56,007 POLICE OFFICER: Your son was caught shoplifting. 427 00:34:56,074 --> 00:34:59,374 We apprehended him in the parking lot. 428 00:34:59,440 --> 00:35:04,108 MOTHER: Okay. Can--you-- can you take off these--these-- 429 00:35:04,175 --> 00:35:06,240 POLICE OFFICER: He'll need to appear in court. 430 00:35:36,706 --> 00:35:40,574 - Man, talk to me! 431 00:35:40,641 --> 00:35:42,440 What's happening? 432 00:35:42,507 --> 00:35:44,973 [objects clatter] 433 00:35:45,041 --> 00:35:47,507 Are you out of your mind? 434 00:35:47,574 --> 00:35:48,940 Calm down. Stop it. 435 00:35:49,008 --> 00:35:51,474 Talk to me. Hey. Talk to me. 436 00:35:51,541 --> 00:35:53,407 JEREMY: Get away from me! 437 00:35:55,207 --> 00:35:59,407 Get away from me! FATHER: Stop it. Calm down. 438 00:35:59,474 --> 00:36:02,074 Calm down. 439 00:36:02,141 --> 00:36:03,907 Calm. 440 00:36:15,141 --> 00:36:18,274 [mouse clicking] 441 00:36:18,340 --> 00:36:21,340 [King Crimson's "I Talk to the Wind" plays] 442 00:36:21,407 --> 00:36:28,340 ♪ ♪ 443 00:36:31,873 --> 00:36:34,940 - ♪ Said the straight man ♪ 444 00:36:35,008 --> 00:36:38,940 ♪ To the late man ♪ 445 00:36:39,008 --> 00:36:44,374 ♪ Where have you been? ♪ 446 00:36:44,440 --> 00:36:49,641 ♪ I've been here, and I've been there ♪ 447 00:36:49,706 --> 00:36:56,740 ♪ And I've been in between ♪ 448 00:36:57,907 --> 00:37:01,907 ♪ I talk to the wind ♪ 449 00:37:03,941 --> 00:37:07,773 ♪ My words are all carried away ♪ 450 00:37:07,840 --> 00:37:10,474 - Can I try? - Yeah. 451 00:37:10,541 --> 00:37:13,907 - ♪ I talk to the wind ♪ 452 00:37:15,873 --> 00:37:21,607 ♪ The wind does not hear ♪ 453 00:37:21,673 --> 00:37:26,407 ♪ The wind cannot hear ♪ 454 00:37:26,474 --> 00:37:31,806 ♪ I'm on the outside looking inside ♪ 455 00:37:39,008 --> 00:37:41,908 SASHA: Whoa. MOTHER: Mm-hmm. 456 00:37:45,107 --> 00:37:46,407 Yeah. 457 00:37:50,274 --> 00:37:53,474 And... 458 00:37:53,541 --> 00:37:56,240 we are putting it here. 459 00:37:57,874 --> 00:38:01,673 SASHA: Like this? MOTHER: Yeah. Like... 460 00:38:01,740 --> 00:38:03,740 Yes. 461 00:38:06,740 --> 00:38:09,908 SASHA: Can Emma come over for dinner? 462 00:38:09,974 --> 00:38:12,908 MOTHER: Um... 463 00:38:12,974 --> 00:38:15,974 I don't know. I-I... 464 00:38:16,040 --> 00:38:19,407 I think it's not a good idea. 465 00:38:19,474 --> 00:38:23,706 So I'm really very, very happy that you are making friends, 466 00:38:23,773 --> 00:38:26,274 and you can go 467 00:38:26,340 --> 00:38:31,107 to their houses anytime. 468 00:38:31,174 --> 00:38:32,908 But, um... 469 00:38:34,740 --> 00:38:39,340 I-I don't want you to feel embarrassed... 470 00:38:39,407 --> 00:38:42,773 because what is happening here, you know? 471 00:38:42,841 --> 00:38:46,407 SASHA: I'm not embarrassed. 472 00:38:46,474 --> 00:38:49,740 MOTHER: But you don't know what people are saying. 473 00:38:51,407 --> 00:38:55,874 So it--you know, it feels natural for you, 474 00:38:55,941 --> 00:38:58,073 but it shouldn't. 475 00:38:58,140 --> 00:38:59,841 SASHA: What do you mean? 476 00:38:59,908 --> 00:39:02,040 MOTHER: If Jeremy is coming home by the police, 477 00:39:02,107 --> 00:39:04,541 then people are talking about it. 478 00:39:04,607 --> 00:39:06,073 You know? 479 00:39:16,107 --> 00:39:20,541 You--Yes, I think it's-- it's--it's better like this-- 480 00:39:20,607 --> 00:39:22,807 believe me-- 481 00:39:22,874 --> 00:39:25,740 to keep it separate, you know? 482 00:39:29,107 --> 00:39:32,040 [sizzling] 483 00:39:57,040 --> 00:40:00,073 [footsteps thudding overhead] 484 00:40:15,807 --> 00:40:18,174 [door opens, slams] 485 00:40:22,474 --> 00:40:23,940 - Jeremy! 486 00:40:28,140 --> 00:40:30,073 - [sniffs] 487 00:40:35,307 --> 00:40:37,641 [roof creaks] 488 00:40:37,706 --> 00:40:40,240 MOTHER: Hey. Hey, hey, hey, hey. 489 00:40:42,274 --> 00:40:44,574 FATHER: Devil got into you? 490 00:40:44,641 --> 00:40:46,407 Out of your mind? 491 00:40:53,807 --> 00:40:56,240 Hey, stop this now, okay? 492 00:40:56,307 --> 00:40:57,407 Come down. 493 00:41:01,607 --> 00:41:03,907 MOTHER: Jeremy, can you hear me? 494 00:41:03,973 --> 00:41:07,474 Please, get down, please. 495 00:41:07,541 --> 00:41:09,007 FATHER: Jeremy. 496 00:41:10,907 --> 00:41:13,240 MOTHER: Jeremy... 497 00:41:13,307 --> 00:41:15,873 look at me. 498 00:41:15,940 --> 00:41:18,407 Look at me, please. 499 00:41:26,374 --> 00:41:27,907 Jeremy. 500 00:41:29,774 --> 00:41:31,407 Get down, please. 501 00:41:50,741 --> 00:41:53,907 [distant siren wailing] 502 00:42:17,642 --> 00:42:20,741 [water running] 503 00:42:34,940 --> 00:42:37,073 [water stops] 504 00:42:45,773 --> 00:42:48,907 [water splashing] 505 00:43:12,674 --> 00:43:15,773 [insects chirping] 506 00:43:18,307 --> 00:43:19,707 [glass shatters] 507 00:43:19,773 --> 00:43:21,575 [gasps] 508 00:43:21,642 --> 00:43:26,073 [distant dogs barking] 509 00:43:26,140 --> 00:43:28,973 [door opens] 510 00:43:36,773 --> 00:43:40,340 Jeremy... 511 00:43:40,407 --> 00:43:42,407 what have you done? 512 00:43:43,973 --> 00:43:47,073 [Jeremy breathing shakily] 513 00:44:01,507 --> 00:44:04,407 [Mother shushing] 514 00:44:24,508 --> 00:44:26,340 MEAN GIRL 1 (ON TV): Oh, there she is. 515 00:44:26,407 --> 00:44:27,873 She's such a loser. 516 00:44:27,940 --> 00:44:30,740 MEAN GIRL 2 (ON TV): I know. 517 00:44:30,806 --> 00:44:33,440 What a geek. 518 00:44:33,508 --> 00:44:36,407 [laughter] 519 00:44:40,940 --> 00:44:44,542 Get lost! 520 00:44:44,608 --> 00:44:47,440 WOMAN (ON TV): Words hurt. Don't be a part of it. 521 00:44:47,508 --> 00:44:49,475 NARRATOR (ON TV): The North American house hippo 522 00:44:49,542 --> 00:44:53,475 is found throughout Canada and Eastern United States. 523 00:44:53,542 --> 00:44:56,274 House hippos are very timid creatures, 524 00:44:56,340 --> 00:44:58,040 and they're rarely seen. 525 00:44:58,107 --> 00:45:01,040 But they would defend their territory if provoked. 526 00:45:01,107 --> 00:45:04,475 They come out at night to search for food, water, 527 00:45:04,542 --> 00:45:06,007 materials for their nests. 528 00:45:06,073 --> 00:45:08,475 The favorite foods of the house hippo 529 00:45:08,542 --> 00:45:10,040 are chips, raisins, 530 00:45:10,107 --> 00:45:12,575 and the crumbs from peanut butter on toast. 531 00:45:12,641 --> 00:45:15,140 They build their nests in bedroom closets, 532 00:45:15,207 --> 00:45:17,740 using lost mittens, dryer lint, 533 00:45:17,806 --> 00:45:19,374 and bits of string. 534 00:45:19,441 --> 00:45:22,007 The nests have to be very soft and warm. 535 00:45:22,073 --> 00:45:25,973 House hippos sleep about 16 hours a day. 536 00:45:26,040 --> 00:45:28,174 WOMAN (ON TV): That looked really real. 537 00:45:28,240 --> 00:45:30,641 But you knew it couldn't be true, didn't you? 538 00:45:30,706 --> 00:45:32,407 That's why it's good to think 539 00:45:32,475 --> 00:45:34,207 about what you're watching on TV 540 00:45:34,274 --> 00:45:36,508 and ask questions, kind of like you just did. 541 00:45:36,575 --> 00:45:39,407 A message from Concerned Children's Advertisers. 542 00:45:41,840 --> 00:45:44,174 [door opens] - Hi. 543 00:45:44,240 --> 00:45:46,107 FATHER: Hello. - I'm from Social Services. 544 00:45:46,174 --> 00:45:48,040 We had scheduled a house visit. 545 00:45:48,107 --> 00:45:50,773 - Yes. - Thank you. 546 00:45:50,840 --> 00:45:53,806 FATHER: This way, please. 547 00:45:53,873 --> 00:45:55,806 FAMILY SUPPORT WORKER: I wanted to come by 548 00:45:55,873 --> 00:45:58,973 and see how things are with Jeremy. 549 00:45:59,040 --> 00:46:01,574 MOTHER: Oh, we have moved so many times. 550 00:46:01,641 --> 00:46:03,873 And I always worry 551 00:46:03,940 --> 00:46:06,107 what the neighbors are thinking of us, 552 00:46:06,174 --> 00:46:08,508 that maybe we are bad parents. 553 00:46:08,574 --> 00:46:14,740 The thing is that now in the last couple of days, 554 00:46:14,806 --> 00:46:17,475 there were some, uh... 555 00:46:17,542 --> 00:46:21,740 some moments were not that easy 556 00:46:21,806 --> 00:46:24,873 with him again. 557 00:46:24,940 --> 00:46:28,140 [trampoline creaking] 558 00:46:43,007 --> 00:46:46,073 [indistinct chatter, laughter] 559 00:46:47,973 --> 00:46:50,806 [creaking continues] 560 00:47:00,507 --> 00:47:03,441 [somber music] 561 00:47:03,507 --> 00:47:09,940 ♪ ♪ 562 00:47:10,007 --> 00:47:13,240 - She suggested... 563 00:47:19,607 --> 00:47:21,408 Um... 564 00:47:21,475 --> 00:47:26,140 to, um... 565 00:47:28,806 --> 00:47:32,240 She takes him away. 566 00:47:35,274 --> 00:47:38,673 And... 567 00:47:38,740 --> 00:47:41,706 and I... 568 00:47:41,773 --> 00:47:43,907 I said yes. 569 00:47:43,973 --> 00:47:49,806 ♪ ♪ 570 00:47:49,873 --> 00:47:52,706 I just--I said yes. 571 00:47:52,773 --> 00:47:59,907 ♪ ♪ 572 00:48:20,275 --> 00:48:23,007 MOTHER (ON PHONE): It is like some big ping-pong. 573 00:48:23,073 --> 00:48:26,040 The doctor says to talk to the psychologist. 574 00:48:26,107 --> 00:48:29,541 The psychologist says, you need to call the police 575 00:48:29,607 --> 00:48:33,641 when he's acting like this, but the police do nothing. 576 00:48:33,706 --> 00:48:37,541 ADULT SASHA: Mm-hmm. I know. 577 00:48:37,607 --> 00:48:42,507 MOTHER (ON PHONE): I-I just can't get over this. 578 00:48:42,574 --> 00:48:45,806 ADULT SASHA: Uh, I don't think anyone expects you to. 579 00:48:45,873 --> 00:48:48,806 It's a very complicated situation. 580 00:48:48,873 --> 00:48:53,007 And I think, you know, you know that. 581 00:48:53,073 --> 00:48:54,806 MOTHER (ON PHONE): [sighs] I just worry 582 00:48:54,873 --> 00:48:58,806 that if someone else had him... 583 00:48:58,873 --> 00:49:01,641 Maybe--you know, maybe it was me. 584 00:49:01,706 --> 00:49:05,208 It's my fault. 585 00:49:05,275 --> 00:49:10,208 That maybe with someone else, he could be a superstar. 586 00:50:19,607 --> 00:50:22,740 [clacking] 587 00:50:24,440 --> 00:50:27,740 - How are you all? How are your days? 588 00:50:31,641 --> 00:50:33,241 Nice to meet you. 589 00:50:34,940 --> 00:50:37,073 Nice to meet you. 590 00:50:55,806 --> 00:50:58,241 Thank you for meeting me. 591 00:51:05,474 --> 00:51:07,307 Hi. Nice to meet you. 592 00:51:07,374 --> 00:51:10,541 Nice to meet you. Hi. Come right in. 593 00:51:10,607 --> 00:51:13,073 Hi. Nice to meet you. 594 00:51:13,141 --> 00:51:14,440 Hi. 595 00:51:14,507 --> 00:51:16,706 Hi. Hi. 596 00:51:16,773 --> 00:51:18,740 Nice to meet you. 597 00:51:35,541 --> 00:51:38,007 [clears throat] Hi. 598 00:51:38,074 --> 00:51:39,574 SOCIAL WORKER: Hi. SOCIAL WORKER 2: Hello. 599 00:51:39,641 --> 00:51:41,074 ADULT SASHA: How's everybody doing? 600 00:51:41,141 --> 00:51:42,907 SOCIAL WORKER: Good. 601 00:51:42,973 --> 00:51:45,240 - As you can tell, you're on camera. 602 00:51:45,307 --> 00:51:47,307 And I'm a filmmaker, 603 00:51:47,374 --> 00:51:50,007 here to present you with a case file. 604 00:51:50,074 --> 00:51:53,840 There is an eldest child who's presenting issues 605 00:51:53,907 --> 00:51:56,973 within the family, some risk-taking behaviors, 606 00:51:57,041 --> 00:51:59,773 and was assessed, treated, evaluated 607 00:51:59,840 --> 00:52:01,873 over the course of many years. 608 00:52:01,940 --> 00:52:04,641 The family sort of rightfully felt some frustrations 609 00:52:04,706 --> 00:52:07,307 in--in their availability to care. 610 00:52:07,374 --> 00:52:09,641 And so I would love to get a sense 611 00:52:09,706 --> 00:52:12,873 of how you see this case and assess it 612 00:52:12,940 --> 00:52:16,007 and see how those options are different now, 613 00:52:16,074 --> 00:52:18,740 how the case might be handled differently now. 614 00:52:22,175 --> 00:52:24,008 SOCIAL WORKER: How old was the-- 615 00:52:24,074 --> 00:52:26,641 how old was the child when he first started 616 00:52:26,706 --> 00:52:28,574 experiencing some of these things? 617 00:52:28,641 --> 00:52:31,673 ADULT SASHA: Um, I would say there was an observation 618 00:52:31,740 --> 00:52:35,574 of, um, sort of behavioral concerns 619 00:52:35,641 --> 00:52:37,008 at, like, three or four. 620 00:52:37,074 --> 00:52:39,973 But 14, 15 years was really around the time 621 00:52:40,041 --> 00:52:41,541 things started escalating. - Right. 622 00:52:41,607 --> 00:52:44,973 ADULT SASHA: I have some information here about-- 623 00:52:45,041 --> 00:52:47,773 that give some insight into his goals. 624 00:52:47,840 --> 00:52:49,940 - Sure. ADULT SASHA: Uh... 625 00:52:50,008 --> 00:52:52,008 I'll just read it to you here. 626 00:52:52,074 --> 00:52:54,740 He describes the best time of his life as, 627 00:52:54,806 --> 00:52:56,474 "can't think of one." 628 00:52:56,541 --> 00:52:58,773 He says the best thing that could happen to him 629 00:52:58,840 --> 00:53:01,340 would be to be rich and famous. 630 00:53:01,407 --> 00:53:03,840 He feels the worst time of his life was, 631 00:53:03,907 --> 00:53:06,340 "when I got caught stealing twice in a row." 632 00:53:06,407 --> 00:53:08,240 He feels the worst thing that could happen to him 633 00:53:08,307 --> 00:53:12,840 would be to, "be like a junkie, to have a life I don't like." 634 00:53:12,907 --> 00:53:14,541 He describes his three wishes as, 635 00:53:14,607 --> 00:53:18,374 "to have something to travel through time in the universe, 636 00:53:18,440 --> 00:53:22,074 to have lots of money, and be old enough to drive." 637 00:53:24,074 --> 00:53:26,140 There are suggestions of personality disorder. 638 00:53:26,207 --> 00:53:29,407 And then there's sort of a back-tracking of that. 639 00:53:29,474 --> 00:53:31,673 So--so... 640 00:53:31,740 --> 00:53:35,340 there's a lot of confusion, I find, in the document itself 641 00:53:35,407 --> 00:53:38,740 about how to assess his well-being, 642 00:53:38,806 --> 00:53:40,307 his sense of himself, 643 00:53:40,374 --> 00:53:42,074 his sense of himself when talking 644 00:53:42,140 --> 00:53:43,840 to different professionals. 645 00:53:43,907 --> 00:53:48,374 Um, but this is what we have of how he felt. 646 00:53:48,440 --> 00:53:53,074 Uh, I'm curious how that changes anybody's perspective. 647 00:53:53,140 --> 00:53:56,873 - The report talks a lot about requiring considerable support. 648 00:53:56,941 --> 00:53:59,840 Um, and I know that this is, you know, 20 years ago. 649 00:53:59,907 --> 00:54:02,340 I wonder what sort of support was available 650 00:54:02,407 --> 00:54:03,974 for this young person. 651 00:54:04,041 --> 00:54:06,008 Now, I think us as social workers, we see that-- 652 00:54:06,074 --> 00:54:08,174 fast-forward 20 years, there's still not a lot of support 653 00:54:08,240 --> 00:54:12,140 out there to help transition these folks from crises 654 00:54:12,207 --> 00:54:14,174 to stabilization 655 00:54:14,240 --> 00:54:18,673 and--and going down a path that's going to be, uh, 656 00:54:18,740 --> 00:54:21,008 helpful and--and goal-oriented. 657 00:54:21,073 --> 00:54:24,240 And so I can't imagine what it looked like 20 years ago. 658 00:54:24,307 --> 00:54:26,240 SOCIAL WORKER: I mean, the piece that I read 659 00:54:26,307 --> 00:54:28,607 about around having a little bit of respite, 660 00:54:28,673 --> 00:54:30,073 I think, sounds important, 661 00:54:30,140 --> 00:54:32,840 provided that it's qualified with it not being punitive. 662 00:54:32,908 --> 00:54:35,008 I think that's really important. 663 00:54:35,073 --> 00:54:37,307 If this young man--he's the eldest, you're saying, 664 00:54:37,374 --> 00:54:39,140 just so I'm clear in terms of the family history? 665 00:54:39,207 --> 00:54:40,673 ADULT SASHA: Yes. - He's the eldest. 666 00:54:40,740 --> 00:54:42,174 And he is the result 667 00:54:42,240 --> 00:54:44,207 of the mother's relationship with another man. 668 00:54:44,274 --> 00:54:46,507 And the younger three children are the mother's relationship 669 00:54:46,574 --> 00:54:48,607 with a different biological father? 670 00:54:48,673 --> 00:54:50,240 ADULT SASHA: Yes, that's correct. 671 00:54:50,307 --> 00:54:52,073 - So as the eldest-- 672 00:54:52,140 --> 00:54:53,874 And given what I'm hearing here, 673 00:54:53,941 --> 00:54:57,140 this whole family is in crisis. 674 00:54:57,207 --> 00:54:59,806 They're feeling, I'm sure, at their wits' end, 675 00:54:59,874 --> 00:55:02,474 um, and probably holding two things-- 676 00:55:02,541 --> 00:55:05,806 wanting to get their son help 677 00:55:05,874 --> 00:55:08,107 and protect their other children. 678 00:55:08,174 --> 00:55:11,374 - Right, so the suggestion would be to sort of, uh, 679 00:55:11,440 --> 00:55:15,474 ask the family to implement more of a structure 680 00:55:15,541 --> 00:55:17,673 to involve and provide. 681 00:55:17,740 --> 00:55:18,908 SOCIAL WORKER 2: With support, you know? 682 00:55:18,974 --> 00:55:20,340 ADULT SASHA: Yeah. 683 00:55:20,407 --> 00:55:22,407 - Because they're not necessarily feeling good 684 00:55:22,474 --> 00:55:23,673 about him. 685 00:55:23,740 --> 00:55:25,841 So how does-- how do we change that 686 00:55:25,908 --> 00:55:29,073 and using things he's interested in? 687 00:55:29,140 --> 00:55:30,740 ADULT SASHA: Yeah. 688 00:55:30,806 --> 00:55:33,073 - And so sometimes, voluntary placements 689 00:55:33,140 --> 00:55:34,841 can be a good intervention 690 00:55:34,908 --> 00:55:36,874 and then looking towards reunifying the family, 691 00:55:36,941 --> 00:55:40,274 and doing that work to help reunify the family. 692 00:55:40,340 --> 00:55:42,974 And sometimes it could, yeah, create these voids 693 00:55:43,040 --> 00:55:45,773 and vacuums and more problems, right? 694 00:55:45,841 --> 00:55:49,474 And often, um, it's hard to see 695 00:55:49,541 --> 00:55:51,140 what the outcome's gonna be. 696 00:55:51,207 --> 00:55:53,340 And the initial decision is just made on-- 697 00:55:53,407 --> 00:55:56,908 is more made on, okay, the here and now, 698 00:55:56,973 --> 00:55:59,274 what's happening intersectionally, 699 00:55:59,340 --> 00:56:02,908 in terms of, like, risk and--and danger 700 00:56:02,973 --> 00:56:06,706 and best interest of the child, whatever that means. 701 00:56:06,773 --> 00:56:10,073 And so, um-- so it's hard to predict. 702 00:56:10,140 --> 00:56:12,007 And I've seen it, in the instances 703 00:56:12,073 --> 00:56:14,807 that I have been involved with, 704 00:56:14,874 --> 00:56:17,841 go quite well and not go so well. 705 00:56:17,908 --> 00:56:21,040 It's just hard to say. 706 00:56:21,107 --> 00:56:22,440 - Hmm. 707 00:56:22,507 --> 00:56:25,440 [solemn music] 708 00:56:25,507 --> 00:56:32,407 ♪ ♪ 709 00:57:02,874 --> 00:57:04,940 SOCIAL WORKER (ON LAPTOP): Simple, straight-up assurance 710 00:57:05,007 --> 00:57:06,307 is such a strong currency, 711 00:57:06,374 --> 00:57:08,207 just providing that reassurance 712 00:57:08,274 --> 00:57:10,907 to--to the parents that, okay, you're feeling 713 00:57:10,973 --> 00:57:13,574 a vortex of things right now, and it's okay. 714 00:57:13,641 --> 00:57:15,507 Similar to what we're training the parents 715 00:57:15,574 --> 00:57:16,874 to teach the child-- 716 00:57:16,940 --> 00:57:18,774 it's okay that you're feeling those things 717 00:57:18,841 --> 00:57:20,140 without feeling these things. 718 00:57:20,207 --> 00:57:22,040 And this is why you're feeling them. 719 00:57:22,107 --> 00:57:24,040 And you have every right to feel these things. 720 00:57:24,107 --> 00:57:27,541 And I think even just that currency of reassurance 721 00:57:27,607 --> 00:57:32,440 can just maybe--just maybe help them take that breather 722 00:57:32,507 --> 00:57:37,741 and try again, try again tomorrow. 723 00:57:37,807 --> 00:57:40,707 [audio warbling] 724 00:57:40,774 --> 00:57:47,907 ♪ ♪ 725 00:58:03,840 --> 00:58:06,907 MOTHER: She suggested... 726 00:58:10,641 --> 00:58:14,073 Um, to... 727 00:58:15,774 --> 00:58:18,240 Um... 728 00:58:18,307 --> 00:58:21,240 [wind gusting] 729 00:58:21,307 --> 00:58:28,240 ♪ ♪ 730 00:58:50,973 --> 00:58:52,674 WOMAN (ON TV): I'm getting married, Walter, 731 00:58:52,741 --> 00:58:54,374 and I'm also getting as far away 732 00:58:54,440 --> 00:58:56,940 from the newspaper business as I can get. 733 00:58:57,007 --> 00:58:58,073 MAN (ON TV): What? 734 00:58:58,140 --> 00:58:59,541 WOMAN (ON TV): I am through. 735 00:58:59,607 --> 00:59:01,174 MAN (ON TV): You can get mad all you want to, Hildy, 736 00:59:01,240 --> 00:59:02,674 but you can't quit the newspaper business. 737 00:59:02,741 --> 00:59:04,374 WOMAN (ON TV): Oh, why not? MAN (ON TV): I know you. 738 00:59:04,440 --> 00:59:06,007 I know what quitting would mean to you. 739 00:59:06,073 --> 00:59:07,674 WOMAN (ON TV): And what would it mean? 740 00:59:07,741 --> 00:59:09,073 MAN (ON TV): It would kill you. 741 00:59:09,140 --> 00:59:10,474 WOMAN (ON TV): You can't sell me that, Walter Burns. 742 00:59:10,541 --> 00:59:12,007 MAN (ON TV): Who says I can't? You're a newspaperman. 743 00:59:12,073 --> 00:59:13,307 WOMAN (ON TV): That's why I'm quitting. 744 00:59:13,374 --> 00:59:14,840 I want to go someplace where I can be a woman. 745 00:59:14,907 --> 00:59:16,140 MAN (ON TV): You mean be a traitor. 746 00:59:16,207 --> 00:59:17,741 WOMAN (ON TV): A traitor to what? 747 00:59:17,806 --> 00:59:19,274 MAN (ON TV): A traitor to journalism. 748 00:59:19,340 --> 00:59:20,773 You're a journalist, Hildy. WOMAN (ON TV): A journalist? 749 00:59:20,840 --> 00:59:22,307 Now, what does that mean? 750 00:59:22,374 --> 00:59:23,873 Peeking through keyholes? Chasing after fire engines? 751 00:59:23,940 --> 00:59:25,407 Waking people up in the middle of the night 752 00:59:25,474 --> 00:59:27,407 to ask them if Hitler's going to start another war? 753 01:00:02,140 --> 01:00:03,907 ADULT SASHA: Hecky? 754 01:00:07,107 --> 01:00:08,407 Ready? 755 01:00:11,608 --> 01:00:13,073 Yeah. 756 01:00:24,073 --> 01:00:27,174 I've been working on, um, a project 757 01:00:27,240 --> 01:00:30,840 that looks back at my time with my family 758 01:00:30,907 --> 01:00:32,575 and that period of time in my life. 759 01:00:32,642 --> 01:00:35,007 And, um... 760 01:00:35,073 --> 01:00:38,507 I thought of you because you, in many ways, 761 01:00:38,575 --> 01:00:41,040 are the key to those memories. 762 01:00:41,107 --> 01:00:44,207 And I'm just so grateful to talk to you about it. 763 01:00:44,274 --> 01:00:48,340 It's funny because I remember these... 764 01:00:48,407 --> 01:00:51,007 more feelings, these moments of chaos. 765 01:00:51,073 --> 01:00:53,474 And then I remember moments that, you know, 766 01:00:53,542 --> 01:00:56,907 were not so disruptive, um... 767 01:00:56,973 --> 01:01:00,474 not so--not so dramatic. 768 01:01:00,542 --> 01:01:03,140 And I remember Jeremy being 769 01:01:03,207 --> 01:01:05,873 you know, as sweet as he was unpredictable. 770 01:01:05,940 --> 01:01:08,207 So it's very hard to-- 771 01:01:08,274 --> 01:01:12,806 to square some of my memories sometimes of that time. 772 01:01:12,873 --> 01:01:14,840 BONNIE (ON LAPTOP): You know, he... 773 01:01:14,907 --> 01:01:16,840 he certainly was struggling. 774 01:01:16,907 --> 01:01:19,340 And, you know, that was, I think, 775 01:01:19,407 --> 01:01:22,873 why your parents reached out for as much help as they did, 776 01:01:22,940 --> 01:01:25,174 because he just--he really-- yeah, I don't-- 777 01:01:25,240 --> 01:01:27,575 I just--you know, your mom, in particular, 778 01:01:27,641 --> 01:01:31,107 just didn't know what to do or where to get the help for him. 779 01:01:31,174 --> 01:01:32,873 ADULT SASHA: Yeah. BONNIE (ON LAPTOP): Such a-- 780 01:01:32,940 --> 01:01:35,907 I really had a lot of respect for your parents 781 01:01:35,973 --> 01:01:37,873 and everything that they were trying to do 782 01:01:37,940 --> 01:01:39,107 to raise you and your brothers. 783 01:01:39,174 --> 01:01:40,374 ADULT SASHA: Mm. 784 01:01:40,440 --> 01:01:41,940 BONNIE (ON LAPTOP): In many families, 785 01:01:42,007 --> 01:01:43,542 they hit a breaking point, and it becomes unsafe 786 01:01:43,608 --> 01:01:45,407 not just for that person 787 01:01:45,475 --> 01:01:48,174 that is going to move into a home--a foster home, 788 01:01:48,240 --> 01:01:50,973 but it becomes unsafe for the other people in the home, 789 01:01:51,040 --> 01:01:52,641 and it's a very difficult decision. 790 01:01:52,706 --> 01:01:54,240 So... ADULT SASHA: Yeah. 791 01:01:54,307 --> 01:01:56,374 BONNIE (ON LAPTOP): He had some pretty unique behaviors, 792 01:01:56,441 --> 01:01:58,706 and they were really upsetting for your mom. 793 01:01:58,773 --> 01:02:01,140 She was always very worried about... 794 01:02:01,207 --> 01:02:03,007 you know, where that would lead, 795 01:02:03,073 --> 01:02:05,508 and disappointed in the services and support 796 01:02:05,575 --> 01:02:07,007 and answers that she got. 797 01:02:07,073 --> 01:02:08,973 She didn't get answers that really made sense 798 01:02:09,040 --> 01:02:11,240 or that were supportive. ADULT SASHA: Yeah. 799 01:02:11,307 --> 01:02:13,174 BONNIE (ON LAPTOP): He didn't have a lot of friends. 800 01:02:13,240 --> 01:02:15,040 And when he would come out of his room, 801 01:02:15,107 --> 01:02:17,542 he just had the ability 802 01:02:17,607 --> 01:02:20,107 to just take whatever was happening in the room 803 01:02:20,174 --> 01:02:23,207 and just upset it and spin it. 804 01:02:23,274 --> 01:02:25,007 And, you know, 805 01:02:25,073 --> 01:02:26,940 he demanded a lot of attention in that moment. 806 01:02:27,007 --> 01:02:28,274 And so I do remember 807 01:02:28,340 --> 01:02:30,475 that he would have gasoline in his room. 808 01:02:30,542 --> 01:02:32,274 He just would have it-- not very much, 809 01:02:32,340 --> 01:02:34,007 but he would have some in his room. 810 01:02:34,073 --> 01:02:35,873 And I remember your mom being so scared, 811 01:02:35,940 --> 01:02:37,873 because he had made this threat that he was going 812 01:02:37,940 --> 01:02:40,307 to burn the house down with everybody in it. 813 01:02:40,374 --> 01:02:43,673 I can't even imagine, as your parents, being in the house, 814 01:02:43,740 --> 01:02:47,107 you know, knowing that that threat has been made 815 01:02:47,174 --> 01:02:50,207 and there are things in place 816 01:02:50,274 --> 01:02:53,073 that could make it happen in a split second. 817 01:02:54,706 --> 01:02:57,040 You know, that's something I always wondered, 818 01:02:57,107 --> 01:02:59,641 you know, is maybe why he didn't get a diagnosis. 819 01:02:59,706 --> 01:03:01,340 But we'll never know. 820 01:03:01,408 --> 01:03:03,574 We'll never know, you know, the truth, I don't think. 821 01:03:03,641 --> 01:03:06,408 It's really hard to sort of sort that through. 822 01:03:06,475 --> 01:03:08,340 Um... 823 01:03:08,408 --> 01:03:09,907 but he... 824 01:03:11,607 --> 01:03:14,873 The character that I saw, the person that I saw 825 01:03:14,940 --> 01:03:17,475 certainly demonstrated or looked like someone 826 01:03:17,541 --> 01:03:19,174 who was really suffering, 827 01:03:19,240 --> 01:03:22,574 who was really struggling, who was really... 828 01:03:22,641 --> 01:03:25,907 alone and isolated and... 829 01:03:25,973 --> 01:03:29,508 invested in... 830 01:03:29,574 --> 01:03:31,940 yeah, invested in the chaos, 831 01:03:32,007 --> 01:03:35,973 really invested in the chaos. 832 01:03:36,040 --> 01:03:38,341 I hope someday to be able to, you know, be 833 01:03:38,408 --> 01:03:40,673 in the presence of your parents again. 834 01:03:40,740 --> 01:03:42,706 They're both very strong people. 835 01:03:42,773 --> 01:03:44,408 They're very resilient, you know? 836 01:03:44,475 --> 01:03:47,040 And I have a lot of respect for them, for sure. 837 01:03:47,107 --> 01:03:50,873 So I hope someday that I cross paths with them, too. 838 01:03:55,607 --> 01:03:58,740 - [crying] 839 01:04:00,541 --> 01:04:04,073 [breathes deeply] 840 01:04:15,773 --> 01:04:17,541 [exhales deeply] 841 01:04:17,607 --> 01:04:19,740 [door opens] 842 01:04:35,507 --> 01:04:38,375 [engine turning over] 843 01:04:38,441 --> 01:04:41,440 [soft classical music playing on car stereo] 844 01:04:41,507 --> 01:04:48,408 ♪ ♪ 845 01:04:57,873 --> 01:05:00,706 [music growing louder] 846 01:05:00,773 --> 01:05:07,907 ♪ ♪ 847 01:05:23,174 --> 01:05:25,907 [child speaking indistinctly] 848 01:05:34,474 --> 01:05:37,873 [boat engine rumbling] 849 01:05:37,940 --> 01:05:45,073 ♪ ♪ 850 01:06:56,641 --> 01:06:58,740 [music stops] 851 01:07:04,940 --> 01:07:06,407 [phone beeps] 852 01:07:23,873 --> 01:07:26,907 [children chattering indistinctly] 853 01:07:41,108 --> 01:07:44,175 [woman speaking indistinctly] 854 01:07:52,840 --> 01:07:54,973 - Hello. - Hi. 855 01:07:57,773 --> 01:07:59,607 Uh... 856 01:07:59,673 --> 01:08:01,240 - You're from social services, yes? 857 01:08:01,307 --> 01:08:04,740 - Yes, sorry, that's right. It's nice to meet you. 858 01:08:08,673 --> 01:08:10,407 FATHER: This way, please. 859 01:08:13,507 --> 01:08:15,773 ADULT SASHA: Do you mind if I look around first? 860 01:08:15,840 --> 01:08:17,208 FATHER: Yeah, that's fine. 861 01:08:36,773 --> 01:08:38,274 Miss Mousey. 862 01:08:38,340 --> 01:08:39,407 ADULT SASHA: Mm. 863 01:08:46,041 --> 01:08:47,541 ELMER FUDD (ON TV): [chuckles] 864 01:08:47,607 --> 01:08:51,474 First we will hear a waltz written by Johann Strauss. 865 01:08:51,541 --> 01:08:53,007 [boing] 866 01:08:53,074 --> 01:08:55,907 [chuckles] And as we hear the "whythmic stwains" 867 01:08:55,973 --> 01:08:57,740 of the haunting "wefwain," 868 01:08:57,806 --> 01:09:00,840 "wisten" to the whistling "whythm" of the woodwinds 869 01:09:00,907 --> 01:09:04,274 as it "wolls awound and awound" 870 01:09:04,340 --> 01:09:06,207 and comes out here. 871 01:09:06,274 --> 01:09:08,141 [boing] 872 01:09:08,207 --> 01:09:11,074 [fabric ripping, Elmer Fudd chuckles] 873 01:09:11,141 --> 01:09:14,240 [waltz playing on tv] 874 01:09:14,307 --> 01:09:21,240 ♪ ♪ 875 01:09:29,973 --> 01:09:33,074 [Adult Sasha sniffling] 876 01:09:38,440 --> 01:09:40,407 [child giggles] 877 01:10:01,307 --> 01:10:08,240 ♪ ♪ 878 01:10:09,974 --> 01:10:14,407 [door opens, closes] 879 01:10:30,307 --> 01:10:33,074 [Gandharvas' "The First Day of Spring"] 880 01:10:33,140 --> 01:10:39,773 ♪ ♪ 881 01:10:39,840 --> 01:10:42,507 - ♪ Come on out ♪ 882 01:10:42,574 --> 01:10:47,240 ♪ Don't just sit there catatonic ♪ 883 01:10:48,873 --> 01:10:52,740 ♪ I'm feeling supersonic ♪ 884 01:10:54,207 --> 01:10:58,641 ♪ The warm wind is sweeping by ♪ 885 01:10:58,706 --> 01:11:01,507 ♪ The sun's full in the sky ♪ 886 01:11:01,574 --> 01:11:06,374 ♪ And there's no way of knowing ♪ 887 01:11:06,440 --> 01:11:09,207 ♪ No way to know ♪ 888 01:11:25,207 --> 01:11:27,806 ADULT SASHA: Can I turn this light on? 889 01:11:27,874 --> 01:11:29,874 FATHER: Yes, it's okay now. 890 01:11:29,941 --> 01:11:32,040 [switch clicks] 891 01:11:46,507 --> 01:11:48,407 [switch clicks] 892 01:11:59,007 --> 01:12:01,706 ADULT SASHA: Hi. MOTHER: Hi. 893 01:12:01,773 --> 01:12:03,274 ADULT SASHA: It's nice to meet you. 894 01:12:03,340 --> 01:12:05,941 MOTHER: Nice to meet you, too. FATHER: Please, have a seat. 895 01:12:06,007 --> 01:12:07,740 ADULT SASHA: Thank you. 896 01:12:15,107 --> 01:12:16,607 Hi. 897 01:12:16,673 --> 01:12:18,773 MOTHER: Hi, hello. 898 01:12:18,841 --> 01:12:20,740 ADULT SASHA: Um... 899 01:12:20,806 --> 01:12:23,340 how are you both doing? 900 01:12:23,407 --> 01:12:24,740 MOTHER: Yeah... 901 01:12:24,807 --> 01:12:26,407 we are fine, thanks. 902 01:12:26,474 --> 01:12:28,807 ADULT SASHA: How are things with Jeremy? 903 01:12:31,407 --> 01:12:33,874 MOTHER: You can talk, too, you know? 904 01:12:33,941 --> 01:12:35,474 - Yes, I will. 905 01:12:35,541 --> 01:12:38,407 But, please, you start. 906 01:12:38,474 --> 01:12:39,908 - Um... 907 01:12:41,607 --> 01:12:44,240 [sighs] 908 01:12:44,307 --> 01:12:47,740 It feels like... 909 01:12:47,807 --> 01:12:50,073 somehow, I'm cursed. 910 01:12:52,773 --> 01:12:54,541 He's... 911 01:12:54,607 --> 01:12:56,274 so troubled. 912 01:12:56,340 --> 01:12:59,706 We tried everything... [inhales deeply] 913 01:12:59,774 --> 01:13:02,107 Mm, therapy... 914 01:13:02,174 --> 01:13:05,740 special school, homeschooling. 915 01:13:05,807 --> 01:13:08,740 It didn't work. 916 01:13:10,374 --> 01:13:12,908 He doesn't want to listen to anybody. 917 01:13:12,973 --> 01:13:15,908 Not us, not any adult 918 01:13:15,973 --> 01:13:18,407 could ever control him. 919 01:13:23,107 --> 01:13:25,274 Mm... 920 01:13:25,340 --> 01:13:28,174 he was six years old 921 01:13:28,240 --> 01:13:32,440 when one day something happened with his eyes. 922 01:13:32,507 --> 01:13:35,673 You can tell this, no? 923 01:13:35,741 --> 01:13:38,774 - We were playing catch with a ball, 924 01:13:38,841 --> 01:13:41,841 just back and forth and... 925 01:13:41,907 --> 01:13:45,107 When, suddenly, he could not catch it anymore. 926 01:13:45,174 --> 01:13:48,007 I would throw it for him, and... 927 01:13:48,073 --> 01:13:52,673 his hands would cross the air in front of him. 928 01:13:52,741 --> 01:13:56,807 But he just could not see the ball anymore. 929 01:13:56,874 --> 01:14:00,140 It was something very strange, 930 01:14:00,207 --> 01:14:04,240 but his eyes just suddenly went crossed. 931 01:14:06,107 --> 01:14:08,807 It was very bizarre, and... 932 01:14:08,873 --> 01:14:10,973 and I think it scared him. 933 01:14:11,040 --> 01:14:14,007 It scared us, too, of course. - Yeah. 934 01:14:16,673 --> 01:14:20,407 So I don't know. [inhales deeply] 935 01:14:20,474 --> 01:14:24,841 This is one of the unlucky things that comes to my mind. 936 01:14:24,907 --> 01:14:27,774 Mm, he had to get these big glasses 937 01:14:27,841 --> 01:14:30,774 with such a very young age. 938 01:14:30,841 --> 01:14:32,673 And I think because of this 939 01:14:32,741 --> 01:14:37,374 and from his accent at the beginning... 940 01:14:37,440 --> 01:14:41,840 mm, the kids at the school were not nice to him. 941 01:14:41,907 --> 01:14:43,607 ADULT SASHA: You mean he was picked on? 942 01:14:43,674 --> 01:14:46,174 - Yes. 943 01:14:46,240 --> 01:14:51,073 ADULT SASHA: Did he talk to either of you about this? 944 01:14:51,140 --> 01:14:53,741 - Mm, he... 945 01:14:55,807 --> 01:14:57,807 He doesn't care 946 01:14:57,873 --> 01:15:02,641 about what others saying about him. 947 01:15:02,707 --> 01:15:05,440 He never cared about... 948 01:15:05,507 --> 01:15:08,073 making friends. 949 01:15:08,140 --> 01:15:09,774 He just-- 950 01:15:09,840 --> 01:15:13,541 he likes to be the clown... 951 01:15:13,607 --> 01:15:15,907 to everyone. 952 01:15:15,973 --> 01:15:19,007 He was always like this. 953 01:15:19,073 --> 01:15:21,407 ADULT SASHA: And how is he with his siblings? 954 01:15:24,240 --> 01:15:28,973 - Mm, sometimes he's really nasty with them, 955 01:15:29,040 --> 01:15:32,407 but sometimes he's--he's very sweet. 956 01:15:35,107 --> 01:15:36,741 Mm. 957 01:15:41,073 --> 01:15:43,407 ADULT SASHA: Why do you think he's like this? 958 01:15:47,307 --> 01:15:49,240 [Father sighs] 959 01:15:58,207 --> 01:16:01,806 - He's uncontrollable, completely. 960 01:16:01,873 --> 01:16:05,940 He's doing really big and risky things. 961 01:16:06,007 --> 01:16:09,541 And he can hurt himself or... 962 01:16:09,608 --> 01:16:11,307 others. 963 01:16:11,374 --> 01:16:15,474 And he doesn't care if he's getting caught. 964 01:16:15,541 --> 01:16:18,107 So one day, 965 01:16:18,174 --> 01:16:21,940 he stole a bicycle from a yard. 966 01:16:22,007 --> 01:16:24,740 And he came home totally beaten up, 967 01:16:24,806 --> 01:16:27,642 and his face was blue. 968 01:16:27,707 --> 01:16:29,340 I don't know what he was thinking. 969 01:16:29,407 --> 01:16:34,274 And he told me it was just for fun. 970 01:16:34,340 --> 01:16:36,873 I don't know what-- 971 01:16:36,940 --> 01:16:39,073 What is he thinking? 972 01:16:40,773 --> 01:16:42,773 And... 973 01:16:42,840 --> 01:16:45,240 and he's stealing from us. 974 01:16:45,307 --> 01:16:49,073 - We can't keep any money where he can find it. 975 01:16:49,140 --> 01:16:51,474 He takes whatever he sees. 976 01:16:51,542 --> 01:16:54,073 Sometimes he's taking things from the house 977 01:16:54,140 --> 01:16:57,340 and brings them to the pawn shop just to get a few dollars. 978 01:16:57,407 --> 01:16:59,773 He would even steal from his siblings. 979 01:16:59,840 --> 01:17:02,608 - Yeah, he thinks that he's... 980 01:17:02,674 --> 01:17:05,407 some kind of gangster guy. 981 01:17:05,474 --> 01:17:09,706 He tried to sell fake drugs to some boys on the street 982 01:17:09,773 --> 01:17:12,240 at 14 years old. 983 01:17:14,274 --> 01:17:16,440 I... 984 01:17:16,507 --> 01:17:18,773 So we can't... 985 01:17:18,840 --> 01:17:22,907 we can't tell him anything. 986 01:17:22,973 --> 01:17:25,474 He doesn't listen to us. 987 01:17:25,542 --> 01:17:28,740 Grounding, rules--nothing. 988 01:17:32,240 --> 01:17:34,474 ADULT SASHA: Is it true that he once threatened 989 01:17:34,542 --> 01:17:36,240 to burn the house down? 990 01:17:40,706 --> 01:17:43,440 - Yeah, I know he hates me. 991 01:17:43,508 --> 01:17:44,973 - What should we do now? 992 01:17:45,040 --> 01:17:46,940 That's what we need to know, yeah? 993 01:17:47,007 --> 01:17:49,140 What are we supposed to do? 994 01:17:49,207 --> 01:17:51,575 ADULT SASHA: From what I understand, 995 01:17:51,642 --> 01:17:54,007 the best option would be something 996 01:17:54,073 --> 01:17:56,240 called voluntary placement. 997 01:18:08,107 --> 01:18:12,407 MOTHER: Voluntary placement, what does it mean, exactly? 998 01:18:14,073 --> 01:18:15,806 ADULT SASHA: It means he would be placed 999 01:18:15,873 --> 01:18:18,107 with a foster family, essentially. 1000 01:18:22,508 --> 01:18:24,007 FATHER: Uh, I'm sorry. 1001 01:18:24,073 --> 01:18:28,873 T-this is a very hard thing for us to hear. 1002 01:18:28,940 --> 01:18:32,140 I-I'm sure you understand, we are trying so hard 1003 01:18:32,207 --> 01:18:34,940 for--for so many years with Jeremy. 1004 01:18:35,007 --> 01:18:38,073 [Mother speaking Hungarian] 1005 01:18:56,575 --> 01:18:58,407 MOTHER: I need some water. 1006 01:19:00,174 --> 01:19:02,607 ADULT SASHA: I'm sorry. 1007 01:19:02,673 --> 01:19:04,907 I didn't mean to upset her. 1008 01:19:08,840 --> 01:19:11,340 - It's okay. Uh... 1009 01:19:11,408 --> 01:19:15,408 We're just both so exhausted from all of this. 1010 01:19:17,107 --> 01:19:20,073 And we feel like there is no good options left. 1011 01:19:26,508 --> 01:19:28,574 [cup thuds on table] 1012 01:19:28,641 --> 01:19:31,441 - Have you ever heard... 1013 01:19:31,508 --> 01:19:33,907 about a family like this? 1014 01:19:36,574 --> 01:19:37,973 How come... [Father sighs] 1015 01:19:38,040 --> 01:19:41,973 Nobody has to give their children away? 1016 01:19:42,040 --> 01:19:44,973 Just alcohol addicts 1017 01:19:45,040 --> 01:19:48,907 or people are beating their children. 1018 01:19:48,973 --> 01:19:53,174 I don't understand why. 1019 01:19:53,240 --> 01:19:55,740 ADULT SASHA: I wish I had a better answer. 1020 01:20:04,307 --> 01:20:08,140 FATHER: What if we try this, just for a little while? 1021 01:20:08,207 --> 01:20:12,740 Maybe if he goes away, he can do better. 1022 01:20:12,806 --> 01:20:14,773 And then he comes home. 1023 01:20:18,706 --> 01:20:21,240 MOTHER: Could we see him still? 1024 01:20:23,140 --> 01:20:25,073 - [sniffles] 1025 01:20:37,607 --> 01:20:39,607 [sniffles] 1026 01:20:39,673 --> 01:20:41,740 You will see him again. 1027 01:20:43,574 --> 01:20:48,408 You will try many, many times to keep him at home. 1028 01:20:50,973 --> 01:20:54,673 You will do everything in your power to help him. 1029 01:20:54,740 --> 01:20:57,207 [sniffles] It will consume you entirely. 1030 01:21:00,806 --> 01:21:02,873 You won't give up. 1031 01:21:02,940 --> 01:21:07,240 But you will get tired as the years go on and on. 1032 01:21:07,308 --> 01:21:09,740 [sniffles] 1033 01:21:09,806 --> 01:21:12,140 He will go to foster care, 1034 01:21:12,207 --> 01:21:15,240 but it will be a temporary solution. 1035 01:21:18,073 --> 01:21:22,408 You will doubt yourself as a parent... 1036 01:21:22,474 --> 01:21:24,240 and, at times, your life. 1037 01:21:26,408 --> 01:21:29,740 You will begin to close yourself from the world. 1038 01:21:31,773 --> 01:21:34,275 [sniffles] 1039 01:21:34,341 --> 01:21:36,240 No one will understand. 1040 01:21:37,973 --> 01:21:40,073 And it will only worsen. 1041 01:21:43,140 --> 01:21:45,673 He, himself, will have no explanation... 1042 01:21:45,740 --> 01:21:49,073 [sniffles] Other than he cannot manage. 1043 01:21:52,773 --> 01:21:56,174 You will beg for change and solutions. 1044 01:21:59,207 --> 01:22:01,973 He will grow into an adult... [sniffles] 1045 01:22:02,040 --> 01:22:04,907 And the help he needs, he will not get. 1046 01:22:08,806 --> 01:22:11,607 It won't get better. 1047 01:22:11,706 --> 01:22:13,140 Countless professionals 1048 01:22:13,207 --> 01:22:15,706 will come in and out of your life. 1049 01:22:18,706 --> 01:22:21,740 But it won't change. [sniffles] 1050 01:22:23,407 --> 01:22:27,241 Despite what you know of him and yourself... 1051 01:22:27,308 --> 01:22:29,073 you will lose him. 1052 01:22:36,607 --> 01:22:38,740 [sniffles] 1053 01:22:42,275 --> 01:22:44,806 [door opens] [waltz playing on tv] 1054 01:22:44,873 --> 01:22:46,740 SOCIAL WORKER: This does not have to be 1055 01:22:46,806 --> 01:22:48,241 a permanent solution. 1056 01:22:48,308 --> 01:22:51,107 It could also be a temporary one as well. 1057 01:22:51,174 --> 01:22:54,308 MOTHER: To--to send him... 1058 01:22:54,374 --> 01:22:58,073 to a-a totally stranger family... 1059 01:22:59,973 --> 01:23:02,073 Do you think that-- 1060 01:23:34,507 --> 01:23:37,440 [ambient music] 1061 01:23:37,507 --> 01:23:44,407 ♪ ♪ 1062 01:24:32,541 --> 01:24:35,607 ADULT SASHA: Did you have a friend named Elijah? 1063 01:24:35,673 --> 01:24:37,407 JEREMY: Mm-hmm. 1064 01:24:39,241 --> 01:24:41,673 ADULT SASHA: How come I don't remember that? 1065 01:24:41,740 --> 01:24:44,240 JEREMY: I think there's a lot you don't remember. 1066 01:24:52,873 --> 01:24:55,806 - "Dear Sasha... 1067 01:24:55,873 --> 01:24:58,240 I grew up with your brother Jeremy." 1068 01:25:00,840 --> 01:25:02,507 "We were never really close, 1069 01:25:02,574 --> 01:25:05,240 "but he was one of the most memorable of my friends 1070 01:25:05,307 --> 01:25:06,407 from school." 1071 01:25:08,208 --> 01:25:10,607 "In grade ten, we were suspended together 1072 01:25:10,673 --> 01:25:13,541 "for stealing from lockers. 1073 01:25:13,607 --> 01:25:15,773 "That's a long story, but... 1074 01:25:15,840 --> 01:25:17,907 Jeremy wasn't really involved." 1075 01:25:20,374 --> 01:25:23,207 "Even though I took the blame, Jeremy still got in trouble. 1076 01:25:23,274 --> 01:25:25,407 And I felt pretty bad about that." 1077 01:25:27,207 --> 01:25:29,407 "He invited me over to hang out one time, 1078 01:25:29,474 --> 01:25:34,141 "and he showed me his maps of towns and cities. 1079 01:25:34,207 --> 01:25:37,240 They remain some of the most unique art I've seen." 1080 01:25:39,740 --> 01:25:41,175 "I would sometimes see him out 1081 01:25:41,240 --> 01:25:43,740 with people who were not very good influences." 1082 01:25:45,374 --> 01:25:47,907 "I was really unsure how to help." 1083 01:25:51,041 --> 01:25:53,673 "I began seeing less and less of him." 1084 01:25:55,541 --> 01:25:58,074 "After high school, I didn't see much of him, 1085 01:25:58,141 --> 01:26:00,407 but I would think of him often." 1086 01:26:02,274 --> 01:26:04,607 "Recently, I tried to look him up on Facebook 1087 01:26:04,673 --> 01:26:06,907 but couldn't find anything." 1088 01:26:08,740 --> 01:26:11,541 "But I came across you... 1089 01:26:11,607 --> 01:26:13,907 and your films." 1090 01:26:16,907 --> 01:26:19,407 "That's where I learned about his passing." 1091 01:26:24,041 --> 01:26:26,907 "I am so very sorry for your loss." 1092 01:26:29,274 --> 01:26:31,507 "I saw in your film what you said 1093 01:26:31,574 --> 01:26:33,940 "about being angry at Jeremy... 1094 01:26:34,008 --> 01:26:36,240 and your regrets about that now." 1095 01:26:39,374 --> 01:26:41,907 "I also have a brother who I've been angry with 1096 01:26:41,974 --> 01:26:43,907 for most of my life." 1097 01:26:45,641 --> 01:26:49,240 "I just wanted to share my memories of your brother 1098 01:26:49,307 --> 01:26:53,274 "and that I always knew him as a special soul 1099 01:26:53,340 --> 01:26:55,240 who had a kind heart." 1100 01:27:04,773 --> 01:27:07,907 [seagulls crying] 1101 01:27:18,673 --> 01:27:22,440 [distant boat horn blowing] 1102 01:28:01,440 --> 01:28:04,440 [Daniel Johnston's "Some Things Last a Long Time"] 1103 01:28:04,507 --> 01:28:08,941 ♪ ♪ 1104 01:28:09,008 --> 01:28:11,240 - ♪ Your picture ♪ 1105 01:28:13,507 --> 01:28:15,908 ♪ Is still ♪ 1106 01:28:17,874 --> 01:28:20,240 ♪ On my wall ♪ 1107 01:28:21,974 --> 01:28:24,407 ♪ On my wall ♪ 1108 01:28:26,874 --> 01:28:29,240 ♪ The colors ♪ 1109 01:28:31,340 --> 01:28:33,440 ♪ Are bright ♪ 1110 01:28:33,507 --> 01:28:36,307 ♪ ♪ 1111 01:28:36,374 --> 01:28:38,073 ♪ Bright ♪ 1112 01:28:39,974 --> 01:28:42,073 ♪ As ever ♪ 1113 01:28:44,541 --> 01:28:48,541 ♪ The red is strong ♪ 1114 01:28:48,607 --> 01:28:53,107 ♪ The blue is pure ♪ 1115 01:28:53,174 --> 01:28:56,908 ♪ Some things last ♪ 1116 01:28:56,974 --> 01:28:59,440 ♪ A long time ♪ 1117 01:28:59,507 --> 01:29:02,541 ♪ ♪ 1118 01:29:02,607 --> 01:29:06,274 ♪ Some things last ♪ 1119 01:29:06,340 --> 01:29:08,574 ♪ A long time ♪ 1120 01:29:08,641 --> 01:29:15,740 ♪ ♪ 1121 01:29:19,773 --> 01:29:22,073 ♪ Your picture ♪ 1122 01:29:23,973 --> 01:29:26,673 ♪ Is still ♪ 1123 01:29:28,673 --> 01:29:31,673 ♪ On my wall ♪ 1124 01:29:33,340 --> 01:29:35,407 ♪ On my wall ♪ 1125 01:29:37,807 --> 01:29:41,474 ♪ I think ♪ 1126 01:29:41,541 --> 01:29:44,440 ♪ About you ♪ 1127 01:29:44,507 --> 01:29:47,274 ♪ ♪ 1128 01:29:47,340 --> 01:29:49,240 ♪ Often ♪ 1129 01:29:51,507 --> 01:29:53,740 ♪ Often ♪ 1130 01:29:56,007 --> 01:30:00,541 ♪ I won't forget ♪ 1131 01:30:00,607 --> 01:30:04,774 ♪ All the things we did ♪ 1132 01:30:04,841 --> 01:30:08,274 ♪ Some things last ♪ 1133 01:30:08,340 --> 01:30:10,706 ♪ A long time ♪ 1134 01:30:10,774 --> 01:30:13,607 ♪ ♪ 1135 01:30:13,673 --> 01:30:17,440 ♪ Some things last ♪ 1136 01:30:17,507 --> 01:30:20,440 ♪ A long time ♪ 1137 01:30:20,507 --> 01:30:27,440 ♪ ♪ 82759

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