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- I'm going to work in Woolworths.
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- When I grow up, I
want to be an astronaut.
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- When I get married, I'd
like to have two children.
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- My heart's desire is to see my daddy.
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- I don't want to answer that.
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- This is no
ordinary outing to the zoo.
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It's a very special occasion.
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We've brought these children together
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for the very first time.
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They're like any other
children except that they come
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from startlingly different backgrounds.
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- Stop it at once!
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- We've brought these children together
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because we wanted a glimpse
of England in the year 2000.
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The shop steward and the
executive of the year 2000
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are now seven years old.
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- In 1964, "World
in Action" made "Seven Up!"
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and we've been back to film these children
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every seven years.
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They are now 49.
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Last week we watched six of our children
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grow up from seven to 49.
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Tonight, we'll see what
happened to the others.
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- If I can change the world
I'd change it into a diamond.
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I don't really think
that I've done anything
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you can call a great success.
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- When I was born, an illegitimate child,
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that's something that's
only whispered about.
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- If I could, I would have
two girls and two boys.
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At times, you think
Christ, what have I done?
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- I read the "Financial Times".
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- It's very irresponsible
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because we all want more money,
as much money as we can get.
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- Nick, Simon,
Lynn, Andrew, John and Neil.
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- When I grow up, I
want to be an astronaut
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but if I can't be an astronaut,
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I think I'll be a coach driver.
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I tend to think most likely
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the answer is I'll be wandering homeless
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around the streets of London.
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- We'll see if Neil
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is still wandering around
homeless and alone.
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- When I grow up, I'd like to find out
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all about the moon and all that.
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- Nick, a farmer's son,
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grew up in the Yorkshire Dales.
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- And I said I was interested
in physics and chemistry.
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Well, I'm not gonna do that here.
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At 14, he was away at boarding school
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and at 21, reading physics at Oxford.
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- So what career
are you gonna pursue?
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- It depends
whether I'll be good enough
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to do what I wanna really do.
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I would like, if I can, to do research.
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- By 28, he had moved to America
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and was doing research into nuclear fusion
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at the University of Wisconsin.
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- The fusion reaction gives off energy
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and produces the power
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that would be turned
into electrical energy
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and sent out to the consumer.
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- How hot is it in there?
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- In there, it's
about 10 million degrees.
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- At 35, he was
an associate professor,
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And at 42, a full professor.
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- And I've spent the last year and a half
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writing a couple of books.
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My ambition as a scientist
is to be more famous
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for doing science than
for being in this film,
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but unfortunately, Michael,
it's not gonna happen.
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- Over the years,
Nick's research hit trouble,
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and by 49, he's had to abandon it,
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because the containers
needed to store the hot gases
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couldn't be developed.
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- Was there a moment
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when you realised that
all you'd been doing
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wasn't gonna work out?
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- I think it was more gradual.
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I didn't wanna admit it for quite a while.
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I mean, I really believed in it.
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It was a huge let-down.
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So the area that I'm looking
at is this times this.
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I don't know why I've a
compulsion to teach, really.
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It was always there in me.
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I just wanted to do it.
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I thought I'd be good at it.
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When I go into a classroom
full of undergraduates,
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I try and explain to them
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why they might wanna try and do it.
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That's my little attempt to
open a little door for them.
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So I'm hoping that you
remember me being very stupid
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and going, ow, there's
arrows coming out of here.
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Can we do that?
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Any chance of that, okay?
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They can get information from a book.
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I have to keep them awake
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and make the information a bit
more interesting than a book.
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I'm doomed to do this
over and over and over.
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Okay, well, I didn't even
know it was happening,
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so it was interesting
'cause that, you know.
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And nobody's ever said that
I was a typical engineer.
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The undergraduates tell
jokes about engineers,
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and the only one I can repeat to you
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is how you can tell if an
engineer is an extrovert?
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And the answer is he looks at your shoes
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when he's talking to you.
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Even though he's clearly
a megastar, it's like.
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Somebody came up with a theory recently
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that a lot of scientists
and mathematicians
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are just borderline autistic.
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I could easily be borderline
autistic, you know.
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I don't quite get how other people
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feel about things sometimes, you know.
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- Do you have a girlfriend?
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- I don't wan to answer that.
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I don't answer those kind of questions.
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I thought that one would
come up because when I was,
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when I was doing the other one,
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and somebody said, "What
do you think about girls?"
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And I said, "I don't answer
questions like that."
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Is that the reason you're asking it?
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I thought so.
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The best answer would be to say
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that I don't answer questions like that
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but, I mean, it was what
I said when I was seven,
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and it's still the most sensible.
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What about them?
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- Nick was only 17 when I first met him.
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I mean, if he'd been somebody
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who had had fixed ideas of
a woman's role in marriage
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that meant dinner on the
table at six every evening.
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- Ah, didn't I tell you about that?
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- His wife Jackie
also taught at the university
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and they had a son Adam.
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Six years ago, they divorced.
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- Well, it was incredibly hard.
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What I concluded, and I
have talked to other people
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about this who've gone through it,
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I'm not sure if they feel
it as strongly as I did,
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but it was like a death.
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- Anything could happen.
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We could easily drift apart.
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There are so many pressures on people.
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- If your spouse died, you
could look back and think,
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well, it was wonderful while it lasted.
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But in a divorce, you
can't look back and say,
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these are all happy memories.
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It wasn't my decision.
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She went to England.
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Her father was ill.
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By the time she'd landed, he had died,
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and when she came back,
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it was like a different person came back.
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Was I responsible?
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I could have been braver about some things
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but if I'd been braver, it
might have ended sooner.
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You can talk to me by myself outside,
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but I'll just meet you
by the garage, okay?
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All right, bye.
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It's enormously hard to deal with.
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The worst part of it was seeing
how it would affect my son.
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- How old was he?
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- 10.
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When he was first told, he
was terribly, terribly upset,
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and then he just pulled himself together
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and didn't wanna talk about it anymore.
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He's made the most of it.
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I mean, the best of it.
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Made the best that he can of it, I guess.
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Take it easy, Adam.
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Main thing is not to crash.
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- Really?
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You don't want me to crash right now?
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- How does he deal with it now?
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- He doesn't talk to me
about it very much at all.
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He's a private person.
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It's very, very hard for me
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to be spending a large part of
my time with him not around.
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Hi, Graham.
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- What you doing?
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- What you doing?
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I had to go to a graduation.
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One of my students was getting his PhD
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and he insisted I go there with him,
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and I looked around, and the
person behind me was Chris.
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- Hey, Graham.
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- Who is my new wife.
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Are you okay?
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- Did you fall in love quickly?
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- Immediately.
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- Except that you decided
that if I couldn't find you,
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I'd failed the test.
- I decided it was his work
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to find me.
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We did shake hands at
the end of graduation,
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stood up and said who we were,
but he immediately forgot.
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He couldn't remember who I was.
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- Okay, I know who she is,
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so I don't have to worry
about this anymore.
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So I forgot.
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I do, that's very me.
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She came down to the
student union to meet me
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and I barely knew what she looked like.
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I looked at her, I guess that's her
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and I sort of looked and did
this, and she did the same.
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She did a mirror image of that gesture,
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and I thought, I can't
explain what that was
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but I just felt
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very strongly drawn to her
by that little gesture.
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- And there was no way I would say no
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to being married to this man.
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I wanted to be with him.
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Has he changed my life?
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Dramatically.
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Have I changed as a person?
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I hope so.
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- You'll give them a push?
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- I don't mean to be superficial,
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but I think she's the most
beautiful woman I've ever seen.
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- Is he sexy?
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- Oh, man.
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Absolutely.
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Didn't you have fun with that one?
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- Graham was very good about the ducks.
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The ducks were--
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- I only have one child, Courtney,
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and he only has one child.
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There's a symmetry with that.
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- Would you ever have
wanted a child of your own,
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the two of you?
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- Well, absolutely,
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but it's not exactly
practical, so we're just--
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- No.
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Of course, Graham has added
an element that's just joy.
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And I know Nick likes little guys.
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He just likes little kids.
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- They'd like to come out
for a holiday in the country
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when we like, when I like to
have a holiday in the town.
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It is very difficult being in a place
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where you're a long way away
from all your background,
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and you don't have any
sort of support network.
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- I could try that.
- It's frightening.
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It's frightening.
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- My parents are alive.
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They both had very
significant health issues.
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My father keeps pointing out
that old age isn't for sissies.
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- You need a secretary.
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- Nick has two younger
brothers back in England,
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Andrew and Christopher.
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- Christopher, the
deaf one, got divorced,
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and he reported to my mother
that if Nicky can do it,
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then so can I, so that changed.
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- Are you missing England?
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- I always miss England.
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I was really not the sort of person
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who should ever have moved very far.
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- When he was 42,
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we took Nick back to where
he had grown up in the Dales.
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What did you learn here, do you think,
259
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that you carried with you?
260
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- I sort of feel as if you could look deep
261
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somewhere inside me,
262
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I feel like there's some
of this in there somewhere.
263
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I think of it as being magnificent
but rather grim, really.
264
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It's very uncompromising, and
sometimes it's rather tragic,
265
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but it makes other places you go
266
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seem rather trivial as well.
267
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- We call it one of our Dales rooms.
268
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We have things that reflect
the Dales in the room,
269
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we have cards that we framed,
270
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and some of the china from Nick's family
271
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is displayed up here.
272
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- Well, we're driving from
Madison to Minneapolis
273
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'cause Chris lives in Minneapolis
and I live in Madison,
274
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so we go up and down alternate weekends.
275
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- Does it put a
stress on the relationship,
276
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these separations and reuniting?
277
00:12:58,241 --> 00:13:03,201
- I would say absence makes
the heart grow fonder, really.
278
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- Chris lives in Minneapolis,
279
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a five-hour drive from Madison,
280
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where she is an associate professor
281
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in the department of education.
282
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- Hey, you wanna see something?
283
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- Work is a big part
of both your lives, isn't it?
284
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- It is.
285
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- Yeah, so we're both kind of workaholics.
286
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There's a bit of a comma over there--
287
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- Is there anything
that you would like to change?
288
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- It's all right.
- Oh, that would be
289
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really risky business, wouldn't it?
290
00:13:30,961 --> 00:13:33,801
- Well, I thought you had
changed a few of them, no?
291
00:13:36,921 --> 00:13:40,601
- You know, you don't
mess with Mother Nature
292
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in terms of little things,
293
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like how somebody does their toothpaste,
294
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those silly nonsense things.
295
00:13:47,361 --> 00:13:52,281
He would not just say yes, he
immediately attended to it.
296
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I had never been with anybody who did,
297
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so you have to be really careful
298
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with what you ask him to do.
299
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Oh, go easy on the
butter, please, all right?
300
00:14:00,081 --> 00:14:00,961
- Okay.
301
00:14:00,961 --> 00:14:04,081
- I mean, I could see it
being a slippery slope.
302
00:14:04,081 --> 00:14:07,241
I didn't wanna go that way in terms of my
303
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ordering his life.
- She didn't want to make
304
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to many demands.
305
00:14:10,481 --> 00:14:12,721
- I didn't want him to
be a different person.
306
00:14:13,681 --> 00:14:15,441
- If I can change the world,
307
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I'd change it into a diamond.
308
00:14:17,681 --> 00:14:20,641
I think this film is extremely important.
309
00:14:20,641 --> 00:14:23,121
It's important to me but
it seems to be important
310
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to other people as well.
311
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That doesn't make it an easy thing.
312
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It's an incredibly hard thing to be in,
313
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and I can't even begin to describe
314
00:14:32,641 --> 00:14:36,601
how emotionally draining
and wrenching it is
315
00:14:36,601 --> 00:14:39,841
just to make the film
and to do the interviews,
316
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and that's even when I am pretending
317
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that nobody else is watching it.
318
00:14:46,561 --> 00:14:51,561
- I think it's a heavy reminder
that he's missing his roots.
319
00:14:52,321 --> 00:14:55,201
I mean, there are an awful
lot of emotions attached
320
00:14:55,201 --> 00:14:58,321
to having a scrapbook
that's as vivid as this.
321
00:15:11,241 --> 00:15:13,241
- I'm going to work in Woolworth's.
322
00:15:14,601 --> 00:15:17,441
- Lynn is the
third of our East End girls.
323
00:15:17,441 --> 00:15:20,081
She went to primary school
with Jackie and Sue,
324
00:15:20,081 --> 00:15:22,441
but chose to go on to a grammar school.
325
00:15:22,441 --> 00:15:25,121
At 21, she set out on a career
326
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as a children's librarian
327
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in a mobile library in East London.
328
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- Have I stamped yours?
329
00:15:30,721 --> 00:15:31,761
- Yes.
- Yes.
330
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I've not stamped yours.
331
00:15:33,281 --> 00:15:34,241
"Sleeping Beauty".
332
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Teaching children the beauty of books
333
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and watching their faces
334
00:15:41,521 --> 00:15:45,241
as books unfold to them is just fantastic.
335
00:15:45,241 --> 00:15:47,641
To work with children of that
age, you've got to love them,
336
00:15:47,641 --> 00:15:48,681
and I love children.
337
00:15:51,121 --> 00:15:53,281
- Because of cuts
in the education budget,
338
00:15:53,281 --> 00:15:55,241
the mobile library was shut down.
339
00:15:56,121 --> 00:15:59,361
At 42, Lynn was working
at Bethnal Green Library.
340
00:16:00,481 --> 00:16:03,241
- You can draw better than I can.
341
00:16:04,681 --> 00:16:05,521
Good morning.
342
00:16:05,521 --> 00:16:07,601
- At 49, she's still there.
343
00:16:07,601 --> 00:16:08,841
- Good morning.
344
00:16:08,841 --> 00:16:09,881
- What about you?
345
00:16:09,881 --> 00:16:11,241
- Good morning.
346
00:16:11,241 --> 00:16:12,641
- Are you gonna say hello?
347
00:16:12,641 --> 00:16:14,361
- Good morning.
348
00:16:14,361 --> 00:16:15,201
How are you?
349
00:16:15,201 --> 00:16:17,361
- How much of your
work is with people like this?
350
00:16:17,361 --> 00:16:19,041
- Probably 5%.
351
00:16:19,041 --> 00:16:21,481
It's a very, very small part of it
352
00:16:22,401 --> 00:16:26,121
but probably, currently, the
most challenging part of it.
353
00:16:26,121 --> 00:16:27,081
- Elephant.
354
00:16:27,081 --> 00:16:28,241
- He's an elephant.
355
00:16:28,241 --> 00:16:29,881
Where's the elephant?
356
00:16:31,761 --> 00:16:34,921
We still get six other schools
357
00:16:34,921 --> 00:16:37,321
regularly send classes in here.
358
00:16:37,321 --> 00:16:39,401
It's busy most days.
359
00:16:39,401 --> 00:16:43,481
- Well, I know he loves
her, and he loves her.
360
00:16:43,481 --> 00:16:46,081
- I don't, I love him.
361
00:16:46,081 --> 00:16:49,481
- I've been married a year
in a couple of months.
362
00:16:50,841 --> 00:16:53,081
You do think, Christ, what have I done?
363
00:16:55,841 --> 00:16:58,281
- When she was
19, she married Russ.
364
00:16:59,361 --> 00:17:01,241
- We married young,
365
00:17:01,241 --> 00:17:05,241
but because we wanted to go
out and have fun together.
366
00:17:07,641 --> 00:17:09,641
30 years, and we're still together.
367
00:17:09,641 --> 00:17:11,481
He's my soul mate, he's my partner.
368
00:17:12,881 --> 00:17:14,281
We respect each other,
369
00:17:15,441 --> 00:17:19,321
hence he's not here, and you
will not see him on this film,
370
00:17:19,321 --> 00:17:22,201
because he has always, always felt
371
00:17:22,201 --> 00:17:26,081
that the intrusion into our private life
372
00:17:26,081 --> 00:17:29,241
that this causes is too much.
373
00:17:29,241 --> 00:17:33,321
I wanted white wedding, all trimmings,
374
00:17:33,321 --> 00:17:38,121
and Russ would've been
satisfied with very little.
375
00:17:39,281 --> 00:17:40,641
- Are you in love?
376
00:17:42,281 --> 00:17:44,081
- Very, very much.
377
00:17:46,761 --> 00:17:48,241
He knows how much I love him,
378
00:17:48,241 --> 00:17:51,841
and in my heart of hearts,
I know how much he loves me.
379
00:17:51,841 --> 00:17:53,921
I put him on the spot sometimes.
380
00:17:55,041 --> 00:17:58,801
If I could, I would have
two girls and two boys.
381
00:17:58,801 --> 00:18:00,201
- Yeah, so would I.
382
00:18:02,841 --> 00:18:05,201
- Lynn and
Russ have two daughters,
383
00:18:05,201 --> 00:18:06,641
Sarah and Emma.
384
00:18:11,521 --> 00:18:16,001
- Emma's installation
coordinator for a window company.
385
00:18:16,001 --> 00:18:17,521
Sarah is an accessories buyer.
386
00:18:19,001 --> 00:18:20,481
It's a family-run business.
387
00:18:23,721 --> 00:18:25,241
- At 42, the girls
388
00:18:25,241 --> 00:18:27,601
were both doing very well at school.
389
00:18:27,601 --> 00:18:28,401
- All right, honey?
390
00:18:28,401 --> 00:18:29,241
- Yeah.
391
00:18:29,241 --> 00:18:30,601
- Neither of the
girls went to university?
392
00:18:30,601 --> 00:18:31,401
- No, no.
393
00:18:32,361 --> 00:18:34,121
- Was that disappointing to you?
394
00:18:34,121 --> 00:18:37,121
- No, their choice, we discussed it.
395
00:18:37,121 --> 00:18:38,801
It's what they wanted to do.
396
00:18:38,801 --> 00:18:42,161
They felt that the academic
side wasn't for them.
397
00:18:44,081 --> 00:18:47,721
You have to accept that it's their lives,
398
00:18:47,721 --> 00:18:51,681
and you can only guide
and be there for them.
399
00:18:51,681 --> 00:18:53,321
- Aw, you boy.
400
00:18:53,321 --> 00:18:54,641
- Where's your drink?
401
00:18:54,641 --> 00:18:56,761
- So you got a grandson?
402
00:18:56,761 --> 00:18:58,881
- He's a lovely lad, he really is.
403
00:19:00,361 --> 00:19:02,281
I'm watching him in the same way.
404
00:19:02,281 --> 00:19:06,481
I mean, from 21 years
ago, when I held Sarah up
405
00:19:06,481 --> 00:19:10,201
When she was just born, and
now, I am watching Emma now,
406
00:19:10,201 --> 00:19:11,881
and what goes round, comes round
407
00:19:12,761 --> 00:19:15,601
because Emma now says that
she says things to Connor
408
00:19:15,601 --> 00:19:18,801
that she can hear me saying to her.
409
00:19:18,801 --> 00:19:19,641
- Rabbits.
410
00:19:19,641 --> 00:19:21,561
- Yeah, you have to look
out for their holes.
411
00:19:21,561 --> 00:19:23,201
That still catches me out sometimes
412
00:19:23,201 --> 00:19:24,441
when suddenly I say something
413
00:19:24,441 --> 00:19:26,521
that was purely and utterly me mum.
414
00:19:27,601 --> 00:19:28,441
Sorry.
415
00:19:28,441 --> 00:19:31,561
- So was the arrival
of Connor a shock to you?
416
00:19:32,481 --> 00:19:34,721
- No, well, yeah, but, no.
417
00:19:35,881 --> 00:19:39,361
I mean, as soon as Emma
was expecting Connor,
418
00:19:40,481 --> 00:19:42,681
got the phone call,
"Mum, need to meet you."
419
00:19:43,921 --> 00:19:48,281
So she actually told me face
to face that she was expecting.
420
00:19:48,281 --> 00:19:49,121
Fine.
421
00:19:50,641 --> 00:19:51,481
She was 19.
422
00:19:53,041 --> 00:19:53,961
She's old enough.
423
00:19:55,441 --> 00:19:56,761
Probably watching you.
424
00:19:56,761 --> 00:19:57,881
- You'll go to bed as well.
425
00:19:57,881 --> 00:19:59,401
- When she was 34,
426
00:19:59,401 --> 00:20:01,481
Lynn was having health problems.
427
00:20:01,481 --> 00:20:04,281
- Stuck all these tubes up inside me
428
00:20:04,281 --> 00:20:06,361
and discovered that I've got these veins
429
00:20:07,361 --> 00:20:09,401
up here that shouldn't be there.
430
00:20:09,401 --> 00:20:10,521
- In your brain?
431
00:20:10,521 --> 00:20:11,361
- Mm-hmm.
432
00:20:12,721 --> 00:20:14,481
- And what can they do about it?
433
00:20:14,481 --> 00:20:16,481
- Not a lot at the moment.
434
00:20:16,481 --> 00:20:17,321
No change.
435
00:20:18,401 --> 00:20:22,761
It's not going away, but
it's no more problems.
436
00:20:22,761 --> 00:20:23,601
Nothing.
437
00:20:24,521 --> 00:20:28,481
I mean, you have the aches
and pains of getting older.
438
00:20:31,441 --> 00:20:34,921
I've got bilateral carpal tunnel
syndrome in both my wrists.
439
00:20:34,921 --> 00:20:36,561
Guess who had it, my mother.
440
00:20:38,361 --> 00:20:43,361
And that comes and goes,
hence, magnetic bracelets,
441
00:20:43,481 --> 00:20:48,481
which help, but you have to overcome it.
442
00:20:49,201 --> 00:20:50,161
What's white?
443
00:20:50,161 --> 00:20:51,001
- Red.
444
00:20:51,001 --> 00:20:52,041
- Yeah, we know that's red.
- Yeah, that's red.
445
00:20:52,041 --> 00:20:56,121
- For the last 30 years, bang
my head against a brick wall
446
00:20:56,121 --> 00:20:58,361
to maintain children's services,
447
00:20:58,361 --> 00:21:01,441
but this time round, no one's listening.
448
00:21:01,441 --> 00:21:02,801
We've just done purple.
449
00:21:04,001 --> 00:21:08,801
They say that the work that
I do that anybody can do it.
450
00:21:08,801 --> 00:21:09,601
- Blue.
451
00:21:11,201 --> 00:21:13,641
- There would be no specialist running it.
452
00:21:14,681 --> 00:21:15,521
One.
453
00:21:16,361 --> 00:21:17,801
I may not have a job.
454
00:21:19,721 --> 00:21:20,641
- Hern loves Tintin.
455
00:21:20,641 --> 00:21:23,521
- Hern absolutely adores Tintin.
456
00:21:23,521 --> 00:21:24,761
Yeah.
457
00:21:24,761 --> 00:21:25,641
It's cost cutting.
458
00:21:27,841 --> 00:21:28,721
- So that's what it's about?
459
00:21:28,721 --> 00:21:29,561
- Yeah.
460
00:21:31,321 --> 00:21:33,561
They would deny that.
461
00:21:33,561 --> 00:21:35,081
Can you speak to me today?
462
00:21:36,361 --> 00:21:37,201
- No.
- No?
463
00:21:38,281 --> 00:21:39,121
I see.
464
00:21:40,561 --> 00:21:42,121
- Is it
emotionally very demanding
465
00:21:42,121 --> 00:21:44,161
working like this with people like this?
466
00:21:44,161 --> 00:21:48,001
- Yeah, but it's so fulfilling
467
00:21:49,601 --> 00:21:52,961
that, beyond belief.
468
00:21:52,961 --> 00:21:55,361
Azir, can you say it for me?
469
00:21:55,361 --> 00:21:57,041
I know you can.
470
00:21:57,041 --> 00:22:00,321
But are you get, no!
471
00:22:00,321 --> 00:22:02,321
No, you're not gonna do it today.
472
00:22:03,681 --> 00:22:06,641
Azir spoke to me on the
phone a couple of years ago.
473
00:22:06,641 --> 00:22:10,721
First time he'd ever spoken
to me, and really got me.
474
00:22:10,721 --> 00:22:13,521
It's extremely difficult for him to speak,
475
00:22:13,521 --> 00:22:16,441
and when he does, you know
he's making so much effort,
476
00:22:16,441 --> 00:22:17,281
and it gets me.
477
00:22:19,161 --> 00:22:20,001
- Hello.
478
00:22:20,001 --> 00:22:20,841
- Hello.
479
00:22:20,841 --> 00:22:22,161
- Excellent.
480
00:22:23,801 --> 00:22:26,041
Thank you, Azir, thank you.
481
00:22:28,721 --> 00:22:29,521
- You've come a long way
482
00:22:29,521 --> 00:22:30,721
since the back of the van.
483
00:22:30,721 --> 00:22:35,521
- No, no, I was on the
back of a bus yesterday.
484
00:22:35,521 --> 00:22:38,761
We took a mobile vehicle out to a school
485
00:22:38,761 --> 00:22:41,041
who was having a book week
just round the corner,
486
00:22:41,041 --> 00:22:45,201
and I had forgotten how much it sways.
487
00:22:46,761 --> 00:22:48,001
Where's your stamp?
488
00:22:48,001 --> 00:22:49,761
- Been a hell of a
commitment for you, hasn't it?
489
00:22:49,761 --> 00:22:50,601
- Yeah, but.
490
00:22:55,961 --> 00:22:57,281
But it will end.
491
00:22:58,601 --> 00:23:01,001
- But has it been worth it all?
492
00:23:01,001 --> 00:23:02,081
- Yeah, very much.
493
00:23:06,241 --> 00:23:07,241
Come on, speed it up.
494
00:23:07,241 --> 00:23:10,401
All these things that I
have said over the years
495
00:23:10,401 --> 00:23:13,001
are flying through my mind at the moment
496
00:23:13,001 --> 00:23:15,121
but, yes, it has been worth it.
497
00:23:19,041 --> 00:23:22,721
And you better cut it 'cause
otherwise, I'm gonna cry.
498
00:23:40,721 --> 00:23:43,401
- What do you
think about rich people?
499
00:23:43,401 --> 00:23:44,801
- Well, not much.
500
00:23:47,521 --> 00:23:48,681
- Tell me about them.
501
00:23:48,681 --> 00:23:50,281
- Well, they think they can do everything
502
00:23:50,281 --> 00:23:52,361
without you doing it as well.
503
00:23:54,641 --> 00:23:57,201
- Simon was brought
up in a children's home,
504
00:23:57,201 --> 00:23:59,081
the only child of a single parent.
505
00:24:00,001 --> 00:24:02,801
- Rich people, they have
all different things.
506
00:24:02,801 --> 00:24:03,961
Have everything they want.
507
00:24:03,961 --> 00:24:05,921
Whereas poor people,
they don't have nothing,
508
00:24:05,921 --> 00:24:09,801
and they know they haven't got nothing,
509
00:24:09,801 --> 00:24:11,881
and so they know they're
missing something.
510
00:24:13,801 --> 00:24:17,041
- What are you missing?
511
00:24:17,041 --> 00:24:22,321
- I'm missing a bike
and a fishing rod and.
512
00:24:22,521 --> 00:24:23,681
20 years ago,
513
00:24:25,841 --> 00:24:29,001
when I was born, an illegitimate child,
514
00:24:29,001 --> 00:24:33,121
that's something that's
only whispered about.
515
00:24:33,121 --> 00:24:36,841
People feel strongly
about it in those days,
516
00:24:36,841 --> 00:24:38,841
but nowadays, it's
517
00:24:41,201 --> 00:24:42,721
it's not a serious matter.
518
00:24:42,721 --> 00:24:45,041
The serious point is whether
you stay with somebody
519
00:24:45,041 --> 00:24:46,761
or you leave them.
520
00:24:46,761 --> 00:24:47,681
Since 21,
521
00:24:49,881 --> 00:24:52,681
I've got married, had a couple of kids.
522
00:24:55,841 --> 00:24:58,201
- By 28, he had married Yvonne,
523
00:24:58,201 --> 00:24:59,881
and they had five children.
524
00:24:59,881 --> 00:25:01,241
- Well, I don't
think there's anybody else
525
00:25:01,241 --> 00:25:03,841
I could have ever married except Yvonne.
526
00:25:03,841 --> 00:25:06,561
She's been my life, really,
because we're together,
527
00:25:06,561 --> 00:25:08,561
we have our children and everything.
528
00:25:10,041 --> 00:25:12,321
- By 35, they were divorced.
529
00:25:16,801 --> 00:25:19,761
At 42, he had married Vienetta.
530
00:25:22,121 --> 00:25:23,921
- We used to go
out when we were younger.
531
00:25:23,921 --> 00:25:25,121
- We met in the launderette.
532
00:25:26,361 --> 00:25:27,321
Once a week.
533
00:25:27,321 --> 00:25:29,921
- Once a week at the launderette.
534
00:25:29,921 --> 00:25:30,761
Baked beans.
535
00:25:30,761 --> 00:25:32,001
- Pickles.
536
00:25:32,001 --> 00:25:33,361
- Go and get the water and--
537
00:25:33,361 --> 00:25:35,401
- One stage, we went to marriage guidance
538
00:25:35,401 --> 00:25:38,081
'cause the pressures of being together
539
00:25:39,281 --> 00:25:41,121
were getting to us because we are
540
00:25:41,121 --> 00:25:42,921
two completely different people.
541
00:25:43,841 --> 00:25:47,561
I'm very laid back,
542
00:25:48,921 --> 00:25:51,241
and she always says if
I go any further back,
543
00:25:51,241 --> 00:25:52,201
I'll fall over.
544
00:25:53,841 --> 00:25:55,441
- Oh, look, broccoli.
545
00:25:55,441 --> 00:25:57,121
When two people are together
546
00:25:57,121 --> 00:25:58,961
and you both have separate lives,
547
00:25:58,961 --> 00:26:01,441
it is hard, and there are silly things,
548
00:26:01,441 --> 00:26:04,601
like leaving the toilet
seat up or something
549
00:26:04,601 --> 00:26:07,041
or when I put something here,
I expect to see it there.
550
00:26:07,041 --> 00:26:08,761
Simon can be really untidy.
551
00:26:08,761 --> 00:26:11,321
He'll take everything off and
fling it around the house.
552
00:26:11,321 --> 00:26:12,161
- Sorry, dear.
553
00:26:12,161 --> 00:26:14,001
- Don't get it all mixed up.
554
00:26:15,681 --> 00:26:17,681
- Is he romantic?
555
00:26:17,681 --> 00:26:19,801
- If we've had an argument,
and he doesn't know
556
00:26:19,801 --> 00:26:23,401
'cause I will shout, and
he'll think, what have I done?
557
00:26:23,401 --> 00:26:25,521
And I'll be here, like
now, and I'll be here,
558
00:26:25,521 --> 00:26:27,761
and I'd see him with flowers
559
00:26:27,761 --> 00:26:30,001
and a bottle of wine or something,
560
00:26:30,001 --> 00:26:32,201
and he'll say, "I'm sorry,
I don't know what I done,
561
00:26:32,201 --> 00:26:33,321
"but I'm sorry."
562
00:26:35,361 --> 00:26:38,081
- Vienetta already
had a daughter, Miriam,
563
00:26:38,081 --> 00:26:41,361
and she and Simon have a son, Daniel.
564
00:26:45,041 --> 00:26:47,281
Is there anything of you in him?
565
00:26:47,281 --> 00:26:49,161
- His dashing good looks, yeah.
566
00:26:50,001 --> 00:26:52,761
That's me and his love of sport as well.
567
00:26:54,281 --> 00:26:56,201
He goes to school in Slough,
568
00:26:56,201 --> 00:26:58,721
because that's where
they do grammar schools.
569
00:26:58,721 --> 00:27:00,881
He's doing very well there.
570
00:27:00,881 --> 00:27:03,761
They say, "Where's your father then?
571
00:27:03,761 --> 00:27:07,281
"When your mum's out at
work, is there your father?"
572
00:27:07,281 --> 00:27:10,401
And I just tell them I ain't got one.
573
00:27:10,401 --> 00:27:12,761
They've got everything.
574
00:27:12,761 --> 00:27:15,921
They've even got what I never had.
575
00:27:15,921 --> 00:27:16,761
- Which is what?
576
00:27:16,761 --> 00:27:17,801
- A father, innit?
577
00:27:17,801 --> 00:27:20,521
So, I mean, they've had everything.
578
00:27:20,521 --> 00:27:23,761
At one stage, they will
stop seeing me at all,
579
00:27:23,761 --> 00:27:26,641
but now, bit older, bit wiser,
580
00:27:28,241 --> 00:27:32,921
and I'm a bit older and wiser,
and now three of them see me.
581
00:27:35,001 --> 00:27:36,761
Jessica has been very busy herself.
582
00:27:36,761 --> 00:27:39,241
She's got her work, she's got college.
583
00:27:39,241 --> 00:27:40,361
So who do you support?
584
00:27:41,201 --> 00:27:42,761
Your lot comes second.
585
00:27:43,681 --> 00:27:46,601
Jonathan's been in transitional period
586
00:27:46,601 --> 00:27:50,401
with changing jobs and
building up his new life.
587
00:27:51,881 --> 00:27:56,641
The two that don't, I can't
really see their point of view.
588
00:27:58,321 --> 00:28:00,561
- So what's it
like being a grandfather?
589
00:28:00,561 --> 00:28:01,841
- Oh, it's bloody easy, actually.
590
00:28:01,841 --> 00:28:05,281
You can see them all day long
and then let them go back.
591
00:28:05,281 --> 00:28:07,001
- And you've got one?
592
00:28:07,001 --> 00:28:07,881
- Two, actually.
593
00:28:09,441 --> 00:28:12,441
One that I see and one
that I would only see
594
00:28:12,441 --> 00:28:15,561
if I kept going round to see him.
595
00:28:15,561 --> 00:28:16,721
Otherwise, I wouldn't see him,
596
00:28:16,721 --> 00:28:20,521
so I am waiting for the return visit now.
597
00:28:22,561 --> 00:28:26,601
Before I'm old enough to get a job,
598
00:28:26,601 --> 00:28:30,921
I'd just walk around
and see what I can find.
599
00:28:30,921 --> 00:28:32,521
Was gonna be a film star,
600
00:28:32,521 --> 00:28:37,521
but now, I'm gonna be
an electrical engineer
601
00:28:37,921 --> 00:28:40,521
which is more to reality, really.
602
00:28:40,521 --> 00:28:43,401
- By 21, Simon was
working in the freezer room
603
00:28:43,401 --> 00:28:45,041
of Wall's sausages in London.
604
00:28:46,001 --> 00:28:47,721
- I know I can't stay at Wall's forever.
605
00:28:47,721 --> 00:28:49,361
I mean, it's just not me.
606
00:28:49,361 --> 00:28:51,401
I couldn't stay there for that long.
607
00:28:51,401 --> 00:28:52,601
My mind would go dead.
608
00:28:54,161 --> 00:28:56,441
I'm quite happy to stay there.
609
00:28:56,441 --> 00:28:58,081
Doesn't look like it's gonna close down,
610
00:28:58,081 --> 00:29:02,641
so, I mean, better the
devil you know, innit?
611
00:29:02,641 --> 00:29:05,081
- Wall's did
close the factory down.
612
00:29:05,081 --> 00:29:07,601
Since then, he has worked
near Heathrow Airport
613
00:29:07,601 --> 00:29:08,681
handling freight.
614
00:29:10,561 --> 00:29:13,601
- The only reason I really
went there was to work
615
00:29:13,601 --> 00:29:15,401
near to where my son was going to school
616
00:29:15,401 --> 00:29:16,601
so I could drop him off.
617
00:29:19,281 --> 00:29:21,401
- Do you feel
you could have done more
618
00:29:21,401 --> 00:29:24,001
with a career with your work?
619
00:29:24,001 --> 00:29:26,641
- If I had
pushed myself at school,
620
00:29:26,641 --> 00:29:28,641
probably I could have done a lot better.
621
00:29:29,721 --> 00:29:32,161
- Does that give
you pause for thought?
622
00:29:33,161 --> 00:29:35,841
- No, that means I was a
lazy sod when I was younger.
623
00:29:37,361 --> 00:29:40,201
Somebody once said that
you don't live to work,
624
00:29:40,201 --> 00:29:42,721
you work to live, and
that's how it should be.
625
00:29:43,881 --> 00:29:45,441
- Obviously, when
children come into foster care,
626
00:29:45,441 --> 00:29:46,921
family and friends are involved as well.
627
00:29:46,921 --> 00:29:49,281
- A couple of
years ago, Simon and Vienetta
628
00:29:49,281 --> 00:29:52,281
decided to train as foster parents.
629
00:29:52,281 --> 00:29:54,321
- Went to boarding
school when I was young,
630
00:29:54,321 --> 00:29:58,481
and I always felt that was regimental.
631
00:29:58,481 --> 00:30:00,441
It didn't allow for personal care,
632
00:30:00,441 --> 00:30:03,201
for loving from the adult carers,
633
00:30:03,201 --> 00:30:06,641
so I wanted to do something
like that for myself
634
00:30:06,641 --> 00:30:07,481
in my own home.
635
00:30:09,641 --> 00:30:10,921
- And we always say to foster carers,
636
00:30:10,921 --> 00:30:13,001
please do not cut the children's hair
637
00:30:13,001 --> 00:30:14,881
without the permission of the parents.
638
00:30:14,881 --> 00:30:16,081
- So what's the toughest thing
639
00:30:16,081 --> 00:30:17,721
about being a foster parent?
640
00:30:18,681 --> 00:30:22,041
- You're taking a chance when you do it
641
00:30:22,041 --> 00:30:25,041
'cause you really don't
know what you're getting.
642
00:30:25,961 --> 00:30:28,241
One child had two knives in her hands
643
00:30:28,241 --> 00:30:30,641
because she didn't wanna
stay in this country.
644
00:30:32,041 --> 00:30:33,201
Two knives in her hands.
645
00:30:33,201 --> 00:30:34,041
- She threatened you?
646
00:30:34,041 --> 00:30:36,681
- No, she was just a threat to herself.
647
00:30:36,681 --> 00:30:37,601
Some of them come back.
648
00:30:37,601 --> 00:30:38,441
They ring you up and say,
649
00:30:38,441 --> 00:30:40,601
"Hello, auntie, hello,
uncle, how are you?"
650
00:30:40,601 --> 00:30:42,761
They come and have Sunday
dinner, come and visit us,
651
00:30:42,761 --> 00:30:43,881
which is good.
652
00:30:43,881 --> 00:30:45,441
At least you know you've
made a little difference
653
00:30:45,441 --> 00:30:48,441
to that child or that person's life.
654
00:30:48,441 --> 00:30:50,521
- Okay, obviously, we have
Heathrow in our borough,
655
00:30:50,521 --> 00:30:52,281
and that gives us extra things
656
00:30:52,281 --> 00:30:54,761
that foster carers might need to do.
657
00:30:54,761 --> 00:30:56,361
- So where are
these children coming from
658
00:30:56,361 --> 00:30:58,441
that come to your house?
659
00:30:58,441 --> 00:31:00,201
- Oh, all over the world.
660
00:31:00,201 --> 00:31:01,681
So anywhere.
661
00:31:01,681 --> 00:31:03,281
- Anywhere.
662
00:31:03,281 --> 00:31:04,321
- When they come off the plane,
663
00:31:04,321 --> 00:31:06,921
they expected to be meeting somebody
664
00:31:08,001 --> 00:31:09,721
but that person doesn't turn up.
665
00:31:15,281 --> 00:31:16,081
- Simon.
666
00:31:16,081 --> 00:31:16,921
- How you doing?
667
00:31:16,921 --> 00:31:19,681
- Simon had been at
the children's home with Paul,
668
00:31:19,681 --> 00:31:22,921
so we brought Paul back from
Australia to reunite them.
669
00:31:23,841 --> 00:31:24,681
- Was it good, though?
670
00:31:24,681 --> 00:31:25,521
- Yeah, yeah.
671
00:31:27,081 --> 00:31:28,921
- You can see Windsor
Castle from their house.
672
00:31:28,921 --> 00:31:30,641
- Look at that.
673
00:31:30,641 --> 00:31:32,841
- We don't actually see each
other, touch each other,
674
00:31:32,841 --> 00:31:35,321
but we're living each other's lives.
675
00:31:35,321 --> 00:31:37,001
Every seven years, it all comes back
676
00:31:37,001 --> 00:31:40,281
and we get up to this
far, and we've done this,
677
00:31:40,281 --> 00:31:42,041
and you've done that.
678
00:31:42,041 --> 00:31:42,881
I remember--
679
00:31:42,881 --> 00:31:44,001
- When they were 21,
680
00:31:44,001 --> 00:31:45,521
we took them back to where they had spent
681
00:31:45,521 --> 00:31:47,361
some of their formative years together.
682
00:31:47,361 --> 00:31:50,801
- Went over four, doesn't it?
683
00:31:50,801 --> 00:31:51,641
Remember him?
684
00:31:51,641 --> 00:31:52,441
- Yeah.
685
00:31:52,441 --> 00:31:54,921
- He was a real bastard.
686
00:31:54,921 --> 00:31:59,601
I do try to be disciplined but
I actually hate discipline.
687
00:32:00,601 --> 00:32:03,681
I believe the school has taught me that.
688
00:32:03,681 --> 00:32:06,641
- There's always been a
bit of turmoil inside.
689
00:32:07,521 --> 00:32:10,481
I believe that divorce
affects children a lot.
690
00:32:10,481 --> 00:32:13,001
- See, I can get on well
with my mother sometimes.
691
00:32:15,681 --> 00:32:17,721
We talk very well with each other,
692
00:32:17,721 --> 00:32:21,561
but it's sometimes not
quite as mother and son.
693
00:32:23,921 --> 00:32:27,161
- When he was 34,
Simon's mother died of cancer.
694
00:32:29,041 --> 00:32:32,401
- There was so many things I
never actually said to my mum,
695
00:32:33,681 --> 00:32:36,281
just things you think about afterwards.
696
00:32:36,281 --> 00:32:38,721
It's too late, because
they're not there anymore.
697
00:32:39,841 --> 00:32:41,201
- What sort of things?
698
00:32:42,601 --> 00:32:45,161
- Just I love you every day, you know.
699
00:32:45,161 --> 00:32:46,121
Later on in life, I did realise
700
00:32:46,121 --> 00:32:48,441
that she got depressed as well,
701
00:32:48,441 --> 00:32:50,681
so that was probably a bigger reason
702
00:32:50,681 --> 00:32:53,281
than not being able to look after me.
703
00:32:53,281 --> 00:32:55,281
- My mother wrote to me when I was 21,
704
00:32:55,281 --> 00:32:57,561
and I hadn't really had
any contact with her.
705
00:32:57,561 --> 00:33:00,001
When I was 21, she come out and visited,
706
00:33:00,001 --> 00:33:01,081
but I did grow up without her,
707
00:33:01,081 --> 00:33:04,001
so it was like looking
at a total stranger.
708
00:33:04,001 --> 00:33:06,161
I didn't recognise her at all,
709
00:33:06,161 --> 00:33:11,161
so there was no real
in-depth feeling there.
710
00:33:12,121 --> 00:33:14,841
- Paul, get in there next to him as well.
711
00:33:14,841 --> 00:33:16,641
Come on, let me get you organised.
712
00:33:16,641 --> 00:33:19,601
- Are these two guys very alike?
713
00:33:19,601 --> 00:33:20,441
- Well, I think they're alike
714
00:33:20,441 --> 00:33:22,441
because they don't seem
to jump into things.
715
00:33:22,441 --> 00:33:24,601
They'll stand back and
have a little look at it.
716
00:33:24,601 --> 00:33:26,241
You make them enjoy themselves,
717
00:33:26,241 --> 00:33:28,161
like when we went for a walk
around London yesterday,
718
00:33:28,161 --> 00:33:29,001
I said, "You are coming,
719
00:33:29,001 --> 00:33:30,361
"and you are having a
good time doing this,"
720
00:33:30,361 --> 00:33:32,801
And he did have a good time doing it, so,
721
00:33:32,801 --> 00:33:36,041
they're both very family-orientated,
722
00:33:36,041 --> 00:33:37,761
and they both married noisy women.
723
00:33:37,761 --> 00:33:38,881
- That's true.
724
00:33:40,801 --> 00:33:41,801
- That works for me.
725
00:33:41,801 --> 00:33:46,801
I had one dream when all
the world was on top of me,
726
00:33:47,041 --> 00:33:51,801
and everything was on,
and I just about got out,
727
00:33:51,801 --> 00:33:54,881
and everything flew up in the air.
728
00:33:54,881 --> 00:33:59,241
I still look up in the sky,
because I don't know any better.
729
00:33:59,241 --> 00:34:03,001
Everything I have, I
always think, is that okay?
730
00:34:03,001 --> 00:34:06,001
Is that right that I should have that?
731
00:34:06,001 --> 00:34:07,681
People are undecided about you.
732
00:34:08,921 --> 00:34:12,121
They could be your friend
one day and not the next.
733
00:34:13,641 --> 00:34:18,161
I wanted to be a boxer, actor,
734
00:34:18,161 --> 00:34:21,041
but I never actually really wanted them.
735
00:34:22,201 --> 00:34:24,361
I just wanted to be liked.
736
00:34:24,361 --> 00:34:25,881
- Paul actually gets,
737
00:34:25,881 --> 00:34:27,001
that's all he ever wants out of people
738
00:34:27,001 --> 00:34:30,121
is just people to like him
for who he is and what he is
739
00:34:30,121 --> 00:34:32,361
without having to put
on any false pretences.
740
00:34:32,361 --> 00:34:34,441
I think that's why he doesn't
open himself up to people.
741
00:34:34,441 --> 00:34:35,281
- Hello, darling.
742
00:34:35,281 --> 00:34:36,361
- How are you doing?
743
00:34:36,361 --> 00:34:37,441
- Hello.
744
00:34:37,441 --> 00:34:39,961
- Do you have any
regrets, the two of you?
745
00:34:39,961 --> 00:34:41,241
- Yes, I do.
746
00:34:42,481 --> 00:34:44,841
That we didn't get together earlier.
747
00:34:44,841 --> 00:34:46,761
- I think marriage is good for me.
748
00:34:46,761 --> 00:34:48,961
- What does she give you?
749
00:34:48,961 --> 00:34:50,601
- Hot dinners and a warm bed.
750
00:34:57,441 --> 00:34:59,481
She gives me a balance in my life because
751
00:35:01,201 --> 00:35:04,841
on my own, I would probably
be your typical slob.
752
00:35:07,041 --> 00:35:08,361
Men behaving badly.
753
00:35:09,841 --> 00:35:13,841
We do get things done,
and we do things together.
754
00:35:13,841 --> 00:35:16,441
'Cause you've multiplied
before, so now you divide it.
755
00:35:16,441 --> 00:35:19,201
- Is it tough for the two of you
756
00:35:19,201 --> 00:35:20,521
being in these films?
757
00:35:21,681 --> 00:35:25,561
- I will say that I do love
watching everybody else.
758
00:35:25,561 --> 00:35:27,441
I always hated them, to be honest.
759
00:35:27,441 --> 00:35:29,361
By the end of it, I normally hate you.
760
00:35:30,321 --> 00:35:33,041
Direct all of my anger in one place.
761
00:35:44,681 --> 00:35:47,441
- I read "The Financial Times".
762
00:35:47,441 --> 00:35:50,401
- I read "The Observer" and "The Times".
763
00:35:50,401 --> 00:35:52,521
- What do you like about it?
764
00:35:52,521 --> 00:35:54,161
- Well, I like,
765
00:35:54,161 --> 00:35:57,761
I usually look at the headlines
and then read about it.
766
00:36:01,841 --> 00:36:04,921
- At seven years
old, John, Andrew and Charles
767
00:36:04,921 --> 00:36:07,921
were in a private
preparatory school in London.
768
00:36:10,721 --> 00:36:12,441
- What's the point of the programme?
769
00:36:13,761 --> 00:36:14,801
- It's that the point of the programme
770
00:36:14,801 --> 00:36:16,761
is to reach a comparison.
771
00:36:16,761 --> 00:36:17,761
I don't think it is,
772
00:36:19,081 --> 00:36:21,321
because we're not
necessarily typical examples.
773
00:36:21,321 --> 00:36:23,401
- And I think that's what
people seeing the programme
774
00:36:23,401 --> 00:36:24,241
might think.
775
00:36:24,241 --> 00:36:25,041
- Yes.
776
00:36:25,041 --> 00:36:25,881
- Falsely.
777
00:36:25,881 --> 00:36:27,201
- That's one of the troubles
with this sort of programme.
778
00:36:27,201 --> 00:36:29,241
I don't really think that people like us
779
00:36:29,241 --> 00:36:31,921
unless we are being seven
and being rather funny,
780
00:36:31,921 --> 00:36:34,441
have very much to say
that's very interesting,
781
00:36:34,441 --> 00:36:37,361
'cause we don't know very much.
782
00:36:38,441 --> 00:36:39,961
- We didn't know very
much when we were seven,
783
00:36:39,961 --> 00:36:41,881
but we were still quite funny.
- At least funny.
784
00:36:41,881 --> 00:36:44,121
- What do you think
about girlfriends at your age?
785
00:36:44,121 --> 00:36:44,961
Tell me what you think--
786
00:36:44,961 --> 00:36:47,681
- I've got one, but I
don't think much of her.
787
00:36:47,681 --> 00:36:49,441
They're no longer just bores
788
00:36:51,241 --> 00:36:53,361
who won't play this or something.
789
00:36:53,361 --> 00:36:54,761
- They're the other half of the community
790
00:36:54,761 --> 00:36:57,001
and they're there.
791
00:36:57,001 --> 00:36:59,281
- You can begin to talk to them.
792
00:36:59,281 --> 00:37:02,281
- I don't think I financially
come from the same background,
793
00:37:03,121 --> 00:37:06,121
and Andrew didn't go for a haughty deb,
794
00:37:06,121 --> 00:37:08,401
he went for a good Yorkshire lass.
795
00:37:08,401 --> 00:37:10,721
But, I mean, obviously
he knew what he wanted.
796
00:37:10,721 --> 00:37:12,761
- Does money concern you a lot?
797
00:37:13,961 --> 00:37:17,041
- No, I think as long as one
has enough to be comfortable,
798
00:37:17,041 --> 00:37:20,601
that's really what one should aim for.
799
00:37:20,601 --> 00:37:21,801
- What's the
most difficult thing
800
00:37:21,801 --> 00:37:24,681
about keeping the marriage together?
801
00:37:24,681 --> 00:37:26,601
- I don't think it is
particularly difficult, actually.
802
00:37:26,601 --> 00:37:30,921
We seem to manage all
right, would you say?
803
00:37:30,921 --> 00:37:31,761
- I think so.
804
00:37:31,761 --> 00:37:32,561
We talk, don't we?
805
00:37:33,521 --> 00:37:36,081
- So how is married life?
806
00:37:36,081 --> 00:37:38,761
- Well, I still love him, if
that's what you're asking.
807
00:37:40,681 --> 00:37:41,481
- And likewise.
808
00:37:43,681 --> 00:37:45,521
I am going to Charterhouse,
809
00:37:46,721 --> 00:37:51,561
and after that, Trinity Hall, Cambridge.
810
00:37:53,001 --> 00:37:55,361
- Andrew went to
Charterhouse and Cambridge
811
00:37:55,361 --> 00:37:56,401
where he read law.
812
00:37:57,401 --> 00:38:01,401
- I'd like to be a solicitor
and also fairly successful.
813
00:38:02,761 --> 00:38:04,881
- At 28, Andrew was a solicitor.
814
00:38:05,961 --> 00:38:08,681
What qualities do you think
it needs to be successful?
815
00:38:10,121 --> 00:38:12,161
- Well, you have to have a legal ability
816
00:38:12,161 --> 00:38:13,561
in my business, obviously.
817
00:38:14,561 --> 00:38:16,841
- By 35, he
had become a partner.
818
00:38:17,801 --> 00:38:18,721
- In a couple of weeks,
819
00:38:18,721 --> 00:38:21,481
we are going be having our
legal conference in Dublin.
820
00:38:21,481 --> 00:38:24,121
- At 49, Andrew
has left the law firm.
821
00:38:25,121 --> 00:38:27,361
- I've moved to a
large industrial gases company
822
00:38:27,361 --> 00:38:31,441
which makes oxygen and nitrogen,
hydrogen, things like that.
823
00:38:31,441 --> 00:38:33,761
- Were you taking a chance?
824
00:38:33,761 --> 00:38:37,681
- Yes, I've been at the
same firm for over 20 years,
825
00:38:38,681 --> 00:38:43,201
but it's not very challenging,
and changing like this,
826
00:38:43,201 --> 00:38:45,641
particularly quite late in your career,
827
00:38:45,641 --> 00:38:47,441
sort of stretches you.
828
00:38:47,441 --> 00:38:50,161
- I think it's not a bad
idea to pay for school
829
00:38:50,161 --> 00:38:55,161
because if we didn't, schools
would be so nasty and crowded.
830
00:38:55,441 --> 00:38:56,281
- Yes.
831
00:38:56,281 --> 00:38:59,121
- So do I think so, and the people
832
00:38:59,121 --> 00:39:01,201
in the schools wouldn't, and the--
833
00:39:01,201 --> 00:39:02,841
- And the poor people
would come rushing in.
834
00:39:02,841 --> 00:39:05,761
- The man in charge of the school would--
835
00:39:05,761 --> 00:39:07,041
- Get very angry.
836
00:39:07,041 --> 00:39:08,721
- Would very angry because he would--
837
00:39:08,721 --> 00:39:10,001
- And he'd get bankrupt.
838
00:39:10,001 --> 00:39:13,961
- He wouldn't be able
to pay all the masters
839
00:39:13,961 --> 00:39:16,121
if he didn't get any money.
840
00:39:16,121 --> 00:39:17,521
Education is very important.
841
00:39:19,001 --> 00:39:20,081
I mean, you can never be sure
842
00:39:20,081 --> 00:39:23,921
of leaving your children
any worldly goods,
843
00:39:23,921 --> 00:39:25,361
but at least you can be sure
844
00:39:25,361 --> 00:39:27,881
that once you've given
them a good education,
845
00:39:27,881 --> 00:39:30,041
that's something that
no one can take away.
846
00:39:31,641 --> 00:39:33,641
- Andrew and Jane have two sons,
847
00:39:33,641 --> 00:39:35,761
Alexander and Timothy.
848
00:39:37,921 --> 00:39:39,681
- Alexander's at university.
849
00:39:39,681 --> 00:39:41,481
He's in his first year at Newcastle,
850
00:39:42,921 --> 00:39:44,561
and Timothy's at boarding school.
851
00:39:45,961 --> 00:39:47,241
- I think he'd like to go to university
852
00:39:47,241 --> 00:39:49,921
but I think that's as
far as he's got, really.
853
00:39:49,921 --> 00:39:51,441
Maybe even over the summer holidays,
854
00:39:51,441 --> 00:39:53,081
we might start to talk to him about,
855
00:39:53,081 --> 00:39:55,961
are there any universities he
would like to go and look at.
856
00:39:57,201 --> 00:39:59,161
- Andrew and
Jane live in London,
857
00:39:59,161 --> 00:40:01,561
but they have a second
home in the country.
858
00:40:02,681 --> 00:40:04,601
- Well, we bought it about just
859
00:40:04,601 --> 00:40:06,401
when we got married.
860
00:40:06,401 --> 00:40:10,201
It was a 200-year-old barn
that we bought in an auction,
861
00:40:10,201 --> 00:40:13,881
completely derelict, nothing
in it all except for manure,
862
00:40:15,121 --> 00:40:16,441
and then, slowly over the years,
863
00:40:16,441 --> 00:40:18,441
we've just been converting it.
864
00:40:19,881 --> 00:40:21,281
But it's really taken us up
865
00:40:21,281 --> 00:40:23,001
until fairly recently to do that.
866
00:40:24,201 --> 00:40:25,801
Ollie, come on.
867
00:40:25,801 --> 00:40:27,321
There's a railway line that runs along
868
00:40:27,321 --> 00:40:28,401
the bottom of our land.
869
00:40:28,401 --> 00:40:30,361
There's a foxes' den down there.
870
00:40:30,361 --> 00:40:32,881
We've been seeing a few cubs recently.
871
00:40:34,081 --> 00:40:37,281
- What sort of
hobbies does Alexander enjoy?
872
00:40:39,281 --> 00:40:40,241
- Well, on the odd occasion,
873
00:40:40,241 --> 00:40:43,761
he's quite keen on doing what
we call dangerous sports.
874
00:40:45,721 --> 00:40:49,441
And we're going to treat
him to a balloon ride
875
00:40:49,441 --> 00:40:52,881
sort of in advance of his
birthday, which is coming up soon.
876
00:40:52,881 --> 00:40:54,161
- Whoo, here we go.
877
00:40:54,161 --> 00:40:54,961
- See you all.
878
00:40:54,961 --> 00:40:56,801
- See you later.
879
00:40:59,201 --> 00:41:01,361
- I have actually been
in a balloon once myself.
880
00:41:01,361 --> 00:41:02,801
It was for my father's birthday,
881
00:41:02,801 --> 00:41:05,721
and it was all going
very well until the end,
882
00:41:05,721 --> 00:41:07,761
when we managed to hit some trees and--
883
00:41:07,761 --> 00:41:08,801
- Oh, don't tell me that now.
884
00:41:08,801 --> 00:41:12,921
We landed on the basket,
we landed on its side.
885
00:41:12,921 --> 00:41:15,121
- It's very high.
886
00:41:15,121 --> 00:41:15,961
Very high.
887
00:41:16,921 --> 00:41:19,361
- When we landed, there was a request that
888
00:41:20,881 --> 00:41:23,521
all the ladies go downwind
889
00:41:23,521 --> 00:41:25,401
so that we could land on top of them.
890
00:41:27,681 --> 00:41:29,681
Once I had a talk to Greville,
891
00:41:29,681 --> 00:41:34,681
he was in my house, and I asked
892
00:41:35,201 --> 00:41:37,201
if he could put him out of my house
893
00:41:37,201 --> 00:41:39,481
because he was always getting minuses.
894
00:41:40,881 --> 00:41:42,321
- Do you think
life is tougher out there
895
00:41:42,321 --> 00:41:45,841
for your children than it was for you?
896
00:41:45,841 --> 00:41:47,441
- Yes, certainly, I think it's much more
897
00:41:47,441 --> 00:41:48,681
competitive for children.
898
00:41:49,881 --> 00:41:51,321
When I leave this school,
899
00:41:51,321 --> 00:41:54,881
I go to Broadstairs, St. Peter's Court.
900
00:41:54,881 --> 00:41:57,041
If you look back at us
sitting on the settee
901
00:41:57,041 --> 00:41:59,561
at the age of seven, and I was
saying what was I gonna do,
902
00:41:59,561 --> 00:42:02,481
as if my life was mapped out for me.
903
00:42:02,481 --> 00:42:05,161
Trinity Hall, Cambridge.
904
00:42:06,001 --> 00:42:07,601
You know, you could never
get a child doing that now
905
00:42:07,601 --> 00:42:09,281
saying, "I'm going to go to Cambridge."
906
00:42:09,281 --> 00:42:12,161
Things have become less
certain as a result.
907
00:42:12,161 --> 00:42:13,841
- And you three on that settee
908
00:42:13,841 --> 00:42:15,921
had huge opportunity.
909
00:42:15,921 --> 00:42:17,241
- We did, absolutely, yeah.
910
00:42:18,561 --> 00:42:22,121
- Well, I think boarding
makes you feel self-sufficient
911
00:42:24,121 --> 00:42:25,521
and also teaches you to be away
912
00:42:25,521 --> 00:42:27,201
from your parents and to live with people.
913
00:42:27,201 --> 00:42:29,441
- And who was the
big influence in your life
914
00:42:29,441 --> 00:42:32,841
in giving you a sense
of proportion and value?
915
00:42:32,841 --> 00:42:34,641
- Well, obviously it's your parents.
916
00:42:35,761 --> 00:42:39,121
They bring you up for the
first 18 years of your life.
917
00:42:39,121 --> 00:42:43,361
Well, I have my bath at six
o'clock and then go to bed at--
918
00:42:43,361 --> 00:42:46,201
- Do you ever
look back and think
919
00:42:46,201 --> 00:42:48,201
is there anything you
would like to have been
920
00:42:48,201 --> 00:42:49,561
different from what it was?
921
00:42:50,721 --> 00:42:52,321
- I think, from my point of view, perhaps,
922
00:42:52,321 --> 00:42:53,561
as the children were growing up,
923
00:42:53,561 --> 00:42:55,361
I would liked to have
spent a bit more time
924
00:42:55,361 --> 00:42:58,201
at home with them rather
than in the office
925
00:42:58,201 --> 00:43:01,521
but that's something that
it's too late to do now.
926
00:43:01,521 --> 00:43:04,281
So everything we say, they'll think,
927
00:43:04,281 --> 00:43:07,321
oh, that's a typical result
of the public school system.
928
00:43:07,321 --> 00:43:09,041
- Yeah.
929
00:43:09,041 --> 00:43:11,481
- When we were
seven and 14 and 21,
930
00:43:11,481 --> 00:43:14,321
we were fairly prepared
to say what we thought,
931
00:43:14,321 --> 00:43:18,001
but we have become more
guarded over the years.
932
00:43:19,081 --> 00:43:21,121
- What are you guarded about?
933
00:43:22,161 --> 00:43:23,841
- I'm guarded about being guarded.
934
00:43:26,281 --> 00:43:29,281
- Here we go, ooh!
935
00:43:29,281 --> 00:43:31,321
- So did you
ever fall on the ladies?
936
00:43:31,321 --> 00:43:32,761
- No, the lady fell on me.
937
00:43:34,441 --> 00:43:36,441
But it was my wife, so that was good.
938
00:43:37,681 --> 00:43:42,361
- When I leave school, I am
going to the Dragon School,
939
00:43:42,361 --> 00:43:46,841
I might and mum is, and I might go to,
940
00:43:46,841 --> 00:43:49,681
after, I might go to
Charterhouse, Marlborough.
941
00:43:50,601 --> 00:43:52,001
I don't particularly want to be rich
942
00:43:52,001 --> 00:43:53,801
but I'd like to have enough money.
943
00:43:55,201 --> 00:43:56,841
- Charles went to Marlborough
944
00:43:56,841 --> 00:43:59,281
and then onto Durham University.
945
00:43:59,281 --> 00:44:02,881
Since 21, he's taken no
further part in these films.
946
00:44:04,081 --> 00:44:09,081
- When I leave this school,
I'm going to Colet Court,
947
00:44:11,841 --> 00:44:14,641
and then I will be going to
Westminster boarding school
948
00:44:14,641 --> 00:44:15,601
if I pass the exam,
949
00:44:17,561 --> 00:44:21,561
and then we think I'm going
to Cambridge and Trinity Hall.
950
00:44:25,481 --> 00:44:27,201
- John went to Westminster,
951
00:44:27,201 --> 00:44:29,721
then onto read law at
Christ Church, Oxford.
952
00:44:32,401 --> 00:44:36,561
- I'm thinking of following a legal career
953
00:44:36,561 --> 00:44:38,361
with a view to ending in parliament.
954
00:44:39,281 --> 00:44:40,281
Might be at the bar.
955
00:44:42,441 --> 00:44:43,601
- Doing what?
956
00:44:44,801 --> 00:44:46,481
- Perhaps chancery practise.
957
00:44:46,481 --> 00:44:47,361
I now have a career.
958
00:44:47,361 --> 00:44:48,721
I'm a barrister.
959
00:44:50,441 --> 00:44:53,761
Other than that, life chugs
along in varying degrees.
960
00:44:53,761 --> 00:44:55,401
Well, in a sense, not
very much has changed
961
00:44:55,401 --> 00:44:57,521
in my career over the last 14 years.
962
00:44:57,521 --> 00:45:00,321
I'm still a barrister, I
still wear a curly white wig.
963
00:45:01,561 --> 00:45:03,641
The only visible difference, I suppose,
964
00:45:03,641 --> 00:45:06,241
is I wear a silk gown,
because I am now a QC.
965
00:45:07,241 --> 00:45:08,921
- Are you ambitious?
966
00:45:08,921 --> 00:45:09,961
- Yes.
967
00:45:09,961 --> 00:45:11,361
- What for?
968
00:45:11,361 --> 00:45:14,241
- Fame and power.
969
00:45:16,521 --> 00:45:18,281
- What sort of power?
970
00:45:18,281 --> 00:45:19,801
- Political power.
971
00:45:19,801 --> 00:45:21,441
I would quite like to go into politics,
972
00:45:21,441 --> 00:45:24,441
but, I mean, that's easier said than done.
973
00:45:26,761 --> 00:45:27,561
- Meet Morris.
974
00:45:27,561 --> 00:45:29,601
- I have actually thought
about whether I shouldn't try
975
00:45:29,601 --> 00:45:32,681
and get myself onto the candidates' list
976
00:45:34,121 --> 00:45:35,081
but who knows?
977
00:45:35,081 --> 00:45:40,081
I haven't written myself off
as a potential politician,
978
00:45:40,281 --> 00:45:41,681
even though I am already 49.
979
00:45:44,521 --> 00:45:47,241
I worry about the
quality of our democracy.
980
00:45:47,241 --> 00:45:49,921
I worry in particular
about this government,
981
00:45:51,521 --> 00:45:53,201
not because they're socialists
982
00:45:53,201 --> 00:45:54,201
and they're to round us all up
983
00:45:54,201 --> 00:45:58,121
and take us off to
Trafalgar Square in tumbrels
984
00:45:58,121 --> 00:45:59,481
to face the guillotine.
985
00:45:59,481 --> 00:46:00,321
Far from it.
986
00:46:00,321 --> 00:46:04,041
In fact, Tony Blair is a
very good conservative,
987
00:46:04,041 --> 00:46:07,961
as I see it, but rather
because of the insidious damage
988
00:46:07,961 --> 00:46:10,081
they're doing to our constitution.
989
00:46:10,081 --> 00:46:13,761
- Rich children always make
fun of poor children, I think.
990
00:46:13,761 --> 00:46:14,641
- Yes.
- Yes.
991
00:46:14,641 --> 00:46:17,761
- It's very irresponsible
because we all want more money,
992
00:46:17,761 --> 00:46:19,161
as much money as we can get.
993
00:46:20,241 --> 00:46:22,601
The acquisition of
sacks and sacks of money
994
00:46:22,601 --> 00:46:26,481
is not something that I
set much importance by.
995
00:46:27,481 --> 00:46:30,121
I'm not money-minded, I
would say, in that sense.
996
00:46:30,121 --> 00:46:33,361
I mean, obviously it's nice to
have a fair amount of money,
997
00:46:33,361 --> 00:46:38,121
and money does enable you
to go on nice holidays,
998
00:46:38,121 --> 00:46:40,041
buy nice things, so on and so forth,
999
00:46:40,041 --> 00:46:42,561
but as a goal in itself, no.
1000
00:46:42,561 --> 00:46:46,161
I mean, who wants to be the
richest corpse in the graveyard?
1001
00:46:47,041 --> 00:46:48,921
- By the time he was 34,
1002
00:46:48,921 --> 00:46:52,281
John had a house in London
and another in the country.
1003
00:46:52,281 --> 00:46:53,801
- I seem to spend an awful lot of my time
1004
00:46:53,801 --> 00:46:56,481
gardening furiously, trying
to tame the wilderness
1005
00:46:56,481 --> 00:46:58,361
that we inherited there.
1006
00:46:58,361 --> 00:46:59,881
I'd have laughed if 10 years ago,
1007
00:46:59,881 --> 00:47:03,881
you'd have told me that I
would spend most of my time
1008
00:47:03,881 --> 00:47:06,241
digging herbaceous borders and things,
1009
00:47:06,241 --> 00:47:09,161
but that's what I seem
to do, and I enjoy it.
1010
00:47:10,001 --> 00:47:12,081
One good thing about
having quite a large house
1011
00:47:12,081 --> 00:47:12,921
in the country now
1012
00:47:12,921 --> 00:47:15,561
is that I have taken up playing the piano.
1013
00:47:15,561 --> 00:47:18,201
- It's a very nonchalant little theme,
1014
00:47:18,201 --> 00:47:19,441
butter wouldn't melt in its mouth,
1015
00:47:19,441 --> 00:47:22,121
so take it very quietly
and let it present itself.
1016
00:47:23,721 --> 00:47:24,561
Off.
1017
00:47:24,561 --> 00:47:25,561
- A couple of years ago,
1018
00:47:25,561 --> 00:47:27,681
I did start again and even practising,
1019
00:47:27,681 --> 00:47:30,841
but I am afraid I've lost
an awful lot of dexterity.
1020
00:47:42,081 --> 00:47:43,441
Whether it's old age and arthritis,
1021
00:47:43,441 --> 00:47:45,281
or whether it's falling
off horses too many times,
1022
00:47:45,281 --> 00:47:47,241
I don't know but, I mean,
I don't feel I've got quite
1023
00:47:47,241 --> 00:47:49,521
the dexterity in my fingers.
1024
00:47:52,481 --> 00:47:54,081
- Certainly, I can never
tell the difference
1025
00:47:54,081 --> 00:47:55,961
between you playing and the CD playing
1026
00:47:55,961 --> 00:47:57,481
when I'm out of the room.
1027
00:47:57,481 --> 00:47:59,161
Yeah, very good, very good.
1028
00:47:59,161 --> 00:48:00,361
- Well, she's very diplomatic.
1029
00:48:00,361 --> 00:48:01,761
- No, no.
1030
00:48:01,761 --> 00:48:03,401
- When boys go round with girls,
1031
00:48:03,401 --> 00:48:06,161
they don't pay attention
to what they're doing.
1032
00:48:06,161 --> 00:48:08,681
Since my grandmother had an accident
1033
00:48:08,681 --> 00:48:11,241
because a boyfriend was
kissing his girlfriend
1034
00:48:11,241 --> 00:48:13,441
in the street.
1035
00:48:14,761 --> 00:48:17,681
- By 35, John
had married Claire,
1036
00:48:17,681 --> 00:48:20,241
the daughter of a former
ambassador to Bulgaria.
1037
00:48:21,321 --> 00:48:24,361
- It is coincidental that we met
1038
00:48:24,361 --> 00:48:27,761
but it's obvious that
the Balkan connection
1039
00:48:27,761 --> 00:48:30,521
was a strong mutual interest.
1040
00:48:36,161 --> 00:48:40,241
- We have a charity, Friends of Bulgaria,
1041
00:48:40,241 --> 00:48:43,121
which started in 1991,
1042
00:48:43,121 --> 00:48:44,801
which actually made quite a lot of money
1043
00:48:44,801 --> 00:48:48,281
which we invested in medicine
and took out to Bulgaria.
1044
00:48:48,281 --> 00:48:51,281
We support some children's
homes in Stara Zagora,
1045
00:48:51,281 --> 00:48:53,801
an institution for disabled children,
1046
00:48:53,801 --> 00:48:56,561
and we make donations to other charities.
1047
00:48:56,561 --> 00:48:59,281
People who go on about the government
1048
00:48:59,281 --> 00:49:00,881
butchering the national health service
1049
00:49:00,881 --> 00:49:02,441
I think should come over to Bulgaria
1050
00:49:02,441 --> 00:49:06,681
to see what being kept
short of necessary supplies
1051
00:49:06,681 --> 00:49:08,961
and funds really does mean.
1052
00:49:08,961 --> 00:49:10,921
We've been told that in some places,
1053
00:49:10,921 --> 00:49:13,841
it's impossible to do even operations,
1054
00:49:13,841 --> 00:49:15,001
albeit they have the operating theatres
1055
00:49:15,001 --> 00:49:16,841
and they have excellent doctors
1056
00:49:16,841 --> 00:49:18,601
for want of simple anaesthetics.
1057
00:49:19,841 --> 00:49:21,561
Up till then, there'd been no provision
1058
00:49:21,561 --> 00:49:25,001
for education of disabled children,
1059
00:49:25,001 --> 00:49:29,041
so we started what was
called a Parallelca,
1060
00:49:29,041 --> 00:49:32,121
which is parallel
education for the disabled,
1061
00:49:32,121 --> 00:49:33,641
and we've now got two classes here.
1062
00:49:33,641 --> 00:49:34,721
What is your name?
1063
00:49:35,561 --> 00:49:38,401
- My name Desis Desteanna.
1064
00:49:38,401 --> 00:49:40,121
- Cristo Christoff.
1065
00:49:41,601 --> 00:49:44,041
Claire and I have been giving prizes
1066
00:49:44,041 --> 00:49:47,761
to the most talented
children in this town.
1067
00:49:49,041 --> 00:49:51,121
The school that we're in was
actually built by my family
1068
00:49:51,121 --> 00:49:54,521
at the end of the 19th century
1069
00:49:54,521 --> 00:49:57,681
and they also used to present prizes
1070
00:49:57,681 --> 00:50:00,401
to the best children
from the school each year
1071
00:50:00,401 --> 00:50:03,961
right until the advent
of communism in 1944.
1072
00:50:05,241 --> 00:50:08,681
I come from a very old family
1073
00:50:08,681 --> 00:50:11,681
with big traditions of
service to this country,
1074
00:50:11,681 --> 00:50:14,441
and, really, when I come here,
1075
00:50:14,441 --> 00:50:17,441
I feel very proud of them
because I feel, in so many ways,
1076
00:50:17,441 --> 00:50:19,241
they've helped build Bulgaria.
1077
00:50:21,801 --> 00:50:23,761
This church is quite interesting.
1078
00:50:23,761 --> 00:50:28,121
It was built by my great-great-great
grandfather in 1834.
1079
00:50:29,961 --> 00:50:32,881
They say he made off with
eight tonnes of gold,
1080
00:50:32,881 --> 00:50:35,561
and even today, the mountains here
1081
00:50:35,561 --> 00:50:37,041
are full of treasure hunters
1082
00:50:37,041 --> 00:50:39,161
who keep digging up all
the caves and everything
1083
00:50:39,161 --> 00:50:41,121
in the hope of finding the treasure.
1084
00:50:41,961 --> 00:50:42,961
I wish I could find it.
1085
00:50:42,961 --> 00:50:47,361
I mean, once I'd refunded my
equitable life pension fund,
1086
00:50:47,361 --> 00:50:51,801
I reckon if I shoot the
horses, shoot the wife
1087
00:50:51,801 --> 00:50:54,881
and only drink Bulgarian wine,
1088
00:50:54,881 --> 00:50:58,841
I may be able to retire
age 94 or something.
1089
00:50:59,681 --> 00:51:02,441
Straw Macanessy got
three minuses in a day.
1090
00:51:03,961 --> 00:51:05,081
He's a pest.
1091
00:51:05,081 --> 00:51:07,841
It has to be said that I bitterly regret
1092
00:51:07,841 --> 00:51:09,761
that the headmaster of the school
1093
00:51:09,761 --> 00:51:10,921
where I was when I was seven
1094
00:51:10,921 --> 00:51:15,281
pushed me forward for this
series, 'cause every seven years,
1095
00:51:15,281 --> 00:51:19,081
a little pill of poison is injected into--
1096
00:51:19,081 --> 00:51:20,241
- Oh, no.
1097
00:51:20,241 --> 00:51:22,921
- Well, it's the truth.
1098
00:51:22,921 --> 00:51:25,881
There are times when I
have felt appearing on this
1099
00:51:25,881 --> 00:51:29,321
may get causes near to my
heart a bit of publicity
1100
00:51:29,321 --> 00:51:31,841
and certainly, when you came to Bulgaria
1101
00:51:31,841 --> 00:51:34,321
for the "35 Up" programme,
1102
00:51:34,321 --> 00:51:38,001
that did lead to us getting
quite significant assistance
1103
00:51:38,001 --> 00:51:40,281
which possibly we wouldn't have got.
1104
00:51:40,281 --> 00:51:43,521
Well, I think it's a very good system.
1105
00:51:43,521 --> 00:51:45,641
I suspect that why this programme
1106
00:51:45,641 --> 00:51:48,001
is compelling and interesting for viewers,
1107
00:51:48,001 --> 00:51:50,121
and I quite see why it
is, is because, really,
1108
00:51:50,121 --> 00:51:53,281
it's like "Big Brother"
or I'm a celebrity,
1109
00:51:53,281 --> 00:51:54,401
get me out of here!
1110
00:51:54,401 --> 00:51:57,041
It is actually real-life TV
1111
00:51:57,041 --> 00:52:00,641
and with the added bonus that
you can see people grow old,
1112
00:52:00,641 --> 00:52:02,161
lose their hair, get fat.
1113
00:52:04,001 --> 00:52:06,441
Fascinating, I'm sure, but
does it have any value?
1114
00:52:06,441 --> 00:52:08,001
That's a different question.
1115
00:52:19,041 --> 00:52:21,241
- Well, we pretend we've got swords,
1116
00:52:21,241 --> 00:52:24,041
and we make the noise
of the swords fighting,
1117
00:52:24,041 --> 00:52:26,841
and once somebody stabs us, we go, ahh!
1118
00:52:28,201 --> 00:52:30,681
- Neil grew up
in a Liverpool suburb.
1119
00:52:30,681 --> 00:52:33,801
He had dreams of going to
Oxford, but didn't get in.
1120
00:52:34,681 --> 00:52:37,201
Instead, he went to Aberdeen University,
1121
00:52:37,201 --> 00:52:39,201
but dropped out after the first term.
1122
00:52:41,081 --> 00:52:44,361
At 21, he was working on a building site
1123
00:52:44,361 --> 00:52:46,081
and living in a squat.
1124
00:52:47,281 --> 00:52:50,121
- I would like to be somebody
in a position of importance,
1125
00:52:50,121 --> 00:52:51,521
I have always thought
1126
00:52:52,601 --> 00:52:54,441
but I don't think I'm
the right sort of person
1127
00:52:54,441 --> 00:52:56,241
to carry the responsibility
for whatever it is.
1128
00:52:56,241 --> 00:52:58,121
I always thought well I'd love to be,
1129
00:53:00,041 --> 00:53:04,281
possibly love to be in politics
or something like this.
1130
00:53:06,001 --> 00:53:08,361
- By 28, he was homeless,
1131
00:53:08,361 --> 00:53:10,561
wandering around the
west coast of Scotland.
1132
00:53:12,441 --> 00:53:15,241
- If the money runs out,
well, then, for a few days,
1133
00:53:15,241 --> 00:53:17,881
there's nowhere to go to,
and that's all you can do.
1134
00:53:17,881 --> 00:53:20,761
I simply have to find the
warmest shed I can find.
1135
00:53:22,121 --> 00:53:24,161
- How do people regard you here?
1136
00:53:25,361 --> 00:53:28,081
- Well, I'm still known as an eccentric.
1137
00:53:31,441 --> 00:53:33,521
I'm not claiming that I feel as though
1138
00:53:33,521 --> 00:53:36,881
I am in some sort of nirvana,
1139
00:53:36,881 --> 00:53:39,361
but I am claiming that if I was living
1140
00:53:39,361 --> 00:53:40,921
in a bedsit in suburbia,
1141
00:53:40,921 --> 00:53:43,561
I'd be so miserable, I'd
feel like cutting my throat.
1142
00:53:45,081 --> 00:53:47,921
- At 35, we found
him living in a council estate
1143
00:53:47,921 --> 00:53:50,161
on the most northerly part of Britain,
1144
00:53:50,161 --> 00:53:51,401
the Shetland Islands.
1145
00:53:52,281 --> 00:53:54,601
- It's an environment which sustains me,
1146
00:53:54,601 --> 00:53:56,201
it's one in which I can survive.
1147
00:53:57,281 --> 00:53:58,281
The reason I don't feel safe
1148
00:53:58,281 --> 00:54:00,281
is because I think I am
getting more and more used
1149
00:54:00,281 --> 00:54:03,881
to this lifestyle, which eventually,
1150
00:54:03,881 --> 00:54:05,121
I shall have to give up.
1151
00:54:06,961 --> 00:54:08,721
- And what would
you like to be doing,
1152
00:54:08,721 --> 00:54:10,761
say, in seven years?
1153
00:54:10,761 --> 00:54:12,761
- I can think of all kinds of
things I'd like to be doing.
1154
00:54:12,761 --> 00:54:17,441
The real question is, what
am I likely to be doing?
1155
00:54:23,201 --> 00:54:25,361
- What are
you likely to be doing?
1156
00:54:25,361 --> 00:54:26,841
- That's a horrible question.
1157
00:54:28,401 --> 00:54:30,801
I tend to think the most likely answer
1158
00:54:30,801 --> 00:54:32,321
is that I'll be wandering homeless
1159
00:54:32,321 --> 00:54:34,361
round the streets of London,
1160
00:54:34,361 --> 00:54:36,561
but with a bit of luck, that won't happen.
1161
00:54:41,641 --> 00:54:45,721
Can I just point out some of
the considerable disadvantages?
1162
00:54:45,721 --> 00:54:48,121
First of all, they are geographically--
1163
00:54:48,121 --> 00:54:50,881
- By 42, Neil
had moved to London
1164
00:54:50,881 --> 00:54:53,881
and was a Liberal Democrat
on Hackney Council.
1165
00:54:53,881 --> 00:54:54,721
- Public transport.
1166
00:54:54,721 --> 00:54:56,361
While I was in Shetland,
I felt very strongly
1167
00:54:56,361 --> 00:54:59,081
that I should become involved in politics,
1168
00:54:59,081 --> 00:55:01,281
simply because I felt I
was not achieving anything
1169
00:55:01,281 --> 00:55:03,361
in the ways I really wanted to.
1170
00:55:09,041 --> 00:55:11,801
- So, didn't expect
to see you driving, Neil.
1171
00:55:12,801 --> 00:55:14,121
- Well, neither,
1172
00:55:14,121 --> 00:55:16,401
if you'd asked me that
question a few years ago,
1173
00:55:16,401 --> 00:55:18,601
I would have been surprised
1174
00:55:18,601 --> 00:55:22,441
but it was my brother's
wife's car, and fortunately,
1175
00:55:22,441 --> 00:55:25,201
she was about to change
vehicles at the time,
1176
00:55:25,201 --> 00:55:27,321
and they let me have it without charge,
1177
00:55:27,321 --> 00:55:30,201
which was really a very
magnanimous gesture.
1178
00:55:32,721 --> 00:55:35,361
- At 49, Neil has left London,
1179
00:55:35,361 --> 00:55:37,521
moved to Cumbria in the
north west of England
1180
00:55:37,521 --> 00:55:40,441
and become a member of the
local district council.
1181
00:55:41,921 --> 00:55:42,761
- Fairly simple.
1182
00:55:42,761 --> 00:55:45,121
It was a committee
decision, majority decision.
1183
00:55:45,121 --> 00:55:47,521
His own group on the
establishment committee
1184
00:55:47,521 --> 00:55:48,761
agreed with the decision.
1185
00:55:49,801 --> 00:55:51,601
Councillor Hughes.
1186
00:55:51,601 --> 00:55:53,041
- Well, for Councillor
Niland's information,
1187
00:55:53,041 --> 00:55:55,921
Councillor Cook has
reconsidered his opinion
1188
00:55:55,921 --> 00:55:57,321
he ventured at that meeting.
1189
00:55:58,561 --> 00:56:00,001
I'm a Liberal Democrat,
1190
00:56:00,001 --> 00:56:02,921
I'm standing for the county
council for this seat
1191
00:56:02,921 --> 00:56:06,641
which is 400 square miles in size,
1192
00:56:06,641 --> 00:56:09,321
so it's a huge, a huge constituency,
1193
00:56:09,321 --> 00:56:11,801
and this is only one of the 84 seats.
1194
00:56:11,801 --> 00:56:13,161
- Who has
the seat at the moment?
1195
00:56:13,161 --> 00:56:15,801
- It's a conservative
councillor at the moment.
1196
00:56:15,801 --> 00:56:16,761
- Big majority?
1197
00:56:16,761 --> 00:56:18,201
- Significant.
1198
00:56:18,201 --> 00:56:19,801
There's a lot of work for me to do,
1199
00:56:19,801 --> 00:56:21,481
if not this time, maybe next time.
1200
00:56:21,481 --> 00:56:23,801
- What are
the chances this time?
1201
00:56:23,801 --> 00:56:24,921
- I'm doing my best.
1202
00:56:27,001 --> 00:56:30,201
Funnily enough, when I first came up here,
1203
00:56:30,201 --> 00:56:33,121
I was considering giving it up altogether,
1204
00:56:33,121 --> 00:56:36,961
but after only about two days,
I just got involved again,
1205
00:56:36,961 --> 00:56:39,281
so maybe it's impossible
to give up politics.
1206
00:56:41,081 --> 00:56:43,201
- I have a great deal of respect
for the Liberal Democrats,
1207
00:56:43,201 --> 00:56:45,201
but I think that I won't
vote for them this time
1208
00:56:45,201 --> 00:56:46,841
because I'll vote for Mr. McClain.
1209
00:56:46,841 --> 00:56:50,281
And in particular, he's keen
on to preserve our way of life
1210
00:56:50,281 --> 00:56:52,281
in the country with
hunting, in particular.
1211
00:56:52,281 --> 00:56:53,801
- Well, it's gonna very disadvantage us
1212
00:56:53,801 --> 00:56:55,801
because we have changed our farming policy
1213
00:56:55,801 --> 00:56:57,921
since foot and mouth or
any type of dairy cows.
1214
00:56:57,921 --> 00:56:59,521
- Certainly more people vote,
1215
00:56:59,521 --> 00:57:02,081
perhaps they see the impact
on their lives more starkly
1216
00:57:02,081 --> 00:57:03,681
than people do in the city.
1217
00:57:03,681 --> 00:57:05,521
I found in London, many parts of London,
1218
00:57:05,521 --> 00:57:08,681
there was a huge apathy because it seemed,
1219
00:57:08,681 --> 00:57:09,801
like they used to say,
1220
00:57:09,801 --> 00:57:10,961
"It doesn't matter who you vote for,
1221
00:57:10,961 --> 00:57:12,561
"the government always gets in."
1222
00:57:13,761 --> 00:57:15,361
- When I saw
you seven years ago,
1223
00:57:15,361 --> 00:57:19,241
you seemed content, happy in
London, so why the change?
1224
00:57:19,241 --> 00:57:21,681
- I neither felt that I was satisfying
1225
00:57:21,681 --> 00:57:23,121
the community around me,
1226
00:57:23,121 --> 00:57:25,881
nor did I feel I was satisfying myself,
1227
00:57:25,881 --> 00:57:28,921
and that was obviously
not an ideal situation.
1228
00:57:28,921 --> 00:57:31,521
- At 42, when
Neil first arrived in London
1229
00:57:31,521 --> 00:57:34,841
from the Shetland Islands,
he lodged with Bruce.
1230
00:57:34,841 --> 00:57:36,201
- He was a model host,
1231
00:57:36,201 --> 00:57:38,801
although he did always insist on measuring
1232
00:57:38,801 --> 00:57:40,881
the amount of bathwater
that was in the bath,
1233
00:57:40,881 --> 00:57:43,321
and I am not quite sure why that was.
1234
00:57:43,321 --> 00:57:46,041
- He'd find the fridge a bit
noisy, so he would turn it off,
1235
00:57:46,041 --> 00:57:48,841
or if I had to Hoover, he'd
walk round the block or--
1236
00:57:48,841 --> 00:57:53,081
- No, I accept that I wasn't
the model lodger in every way
1237
00:57:53,081 --> 00:57:55,441
and, however, that only emphasises
1238
00:57:55,441 --> 00:57:56,281
how patient you actually were.
1239
00:57:56,281 --> 00:57:57,761
- No.
1240
00:57:57,761 --> 00:57:59,881
- I've had little contact with Bruce.
1241
00:57:59,881 --> 00:58:02,081
We've exchanged one or two letters,
1242
00:58:02,081 --> 00:58:05,801
but maybe ours was a
friendship which flourished
1243
00:58:05,801 --> 00:58:07,361
and it was a genuine friendship
1244
00:58:07,361 --> 00:58:11,081
in the circumstances in which
we found ourselves in London.
1245
00:58:11,081 --> 00:58:12,561
- I think that's what happens in life,
1246
00:58:12,561 --> 00:58:14,121
that people you're close to,
1247
00:58:14,121 --> 00:58:16,641
and then circumstances drift you apart,
1248
00:58:16,641 --> 00:58:18,441
and you find other people,
1249
00:58:18,441 --> 00:58:22,201
and you wonder now and again
what's happening to them
1250
00:58:22,201 --> 00:58:25,521
and hope they're all right, but
that's what happens in life.
1251
00:58:28,361 --> 00:58:30,521
- In the winter, if you
lived in the country,
1252
00:58:30,521 --> 00:58:31,961
well, it was just all wet,
1253
00:58:31,961 --> 00:58:34,481
and there wouldn't be
anything for miles around.
1254
00:58:37,201 --> 00:58:41,841
I feel, especially sometimes
when I'm on my own,
1255
00:58:41,841 --> 00:58:44,641
that I'm losing touch with
the way other people live.
1256
00:58:46,921 --> 00:58:48,881
- Do you
worry about your sanity?
1257
00:58:53,241 --> 00:58:55,721
- Other people sometimes worry about it.
1258
00:58:56,601 --> 00:58:57,561
- Like who?
1259
00:59:02,361 --> 00:59:05,841
- As I said, I sometimes can be found
1260
00:59:05,841 --> 00:59:08,841
behaving in an erratic fashion.
1261
00:59:09,681 --> 00:59:12,641
Sometimes, I get very
frustrated, very angry
1262
00:59:12,641 --> 00:59:13,761
for no apparent reason,
1263
00:59:13,761 --> 00:59:15,441
for a reason which won't be apparent
1264
00:59:15,441 --> 00:59:17,521
to other people around me.
1265
00:59:17,521 --> 00:59:19,521
- Do you ever
think you're going mad?
1266
00:59:19,521 --> 00:59:21,041
- I don't think it, I know it.
1267
00:59:27,281 --> 00:59:29,481
We're not allowed to
use the word mad but...
1268
00:59:31,961 --> 00:59:34,841
I think most people are mad here, really.
1269
00:59:34,841 --> 00:59:36,641
- How's your health?
1270
00:59:36,641 --> 00:59:38,001
- It's probably very good at the moment,
1271
00:59:38,001 --> 00:59:40,481
and living in this rural setting
1272
00:59:40,481 --> 00:59:43,241
is obviously healthier than
living in the middle of a city.
1273
00:59:43,241 --> 00:59:44,481
There is less stress.
1274
00:59:48,641 --> 00:59:52,201
I ended up with a former council flat,
1275
00:59:52,201 --> 00:59:55,201
which is nothing luxurious,
but I was lucky to get it,
1276
00:59:55,201 --> 00:59:59,601
and as soon as I could see
the view out of my window,
1277
00:59:59,601 --> 01:00:02,761
across the stream and trees and
the hills in the background,
1278
01:00:02,761 --> 01:00:05,001
I knew I was in the right place.
1279
01:00:07,001 --> 01:00:08,881
I know that many people
1280
01:00:08,881 --> 01:00:12,921
say they feel closer to
God in the countryside.
1281
01:00:12,921 --> 01:00:14,921
I wouldn't wanna be simplistic about it,
1282
01:00:14,921 --> 01:00:19,121
but because one is much
closer to natural life,
1283
01:00:20,321 --> 01:00:23,841
one's therefore much closer
to the springs of life.
1284
01:00:23,841 --> 01:00:25,681
Yes, I'd say I believed in God.
1285
01:00:25,681 --> 01:00:27,001
- Are you religious?
1286
01:00:28,281 --> 01:00:30,761
- Well, I go to church
with me parents on Sundays.
1287
01:00:31,601 --> 01:00:34,361
I don't know even now whether
I do believe in God or not.
1288
01:00:34,361 --> 01:00:35,881
I've thought an awful
lot about it, actually,
1289
01:00:35,881 --> 01:00:38,201
and I still don't know.
1290
01:00:38,201 --> 01:00:40,041
- How has he been treating you?
1291
01:00:41,201 --> 01:00:43,481
- Well, I said to somebody last week
1292
01:00:43,481 --> 01:00:46,561
that I preferred the Old
Testament to the New Testament,
1293
01:00:46,561 --> 01:00:48,921
because in the Old Testament,
1294
01:00:48,921 --> 01:00:50,321
God is very unpredictable,
1295
01:00:51,961 --> 01:00:56,281
and that's, I think, how
I see him in my life.
1296
01:00:57,321 --> 01:01:00,081
♪ My Jesus ♪
1297
01:01:00,081 --> 01:01:02,161
♪ My saviour ♪
1298
01:01:02,161 --> 01:01:05,881
♪ Lord, there is none like you ♪
1299
01:01:05,881 --> 01:01:09,081
♪ Tower of refuge and strength ♪
1300
01:01:09,081 --> 01:01:12,041
- I bring Jim and Ann
1301
01:01:12,041 --> 01:01:16,001
and Bruce and Julia and--
1302
01:01:16,001 --> 01:01:16,801
- Doreen.
1303
01:01:16,801 --> 01:01:18,361
- And Doreen as well and also.
1304
01:01:18,361 --> 01:01:21,041
I was first a lay reader in London.
1305
01:01:22,121 --> 01:01:24,361
After completing a little more training,
1306
01:01:24,361 --> 01:01:26,801
I was re-licensed by
the bishop of Carlisle.
1307
01:01:27,761 --> 01:01:30,481
Nature's lovely, nature's
made by God, but it's lovely.
1308
01:01:30,481 --> 01:01:33,001
Gives me the peace of mind to accept
1309
01:01:33,001 --> 01:01:36,281
when things don't go the way they want to.
1310
01:01:36,281 --> 01:01:38,841
Politics can be a very bruising game.
1311
01:01:38,841 --> 01:01:41,561
I will maintain my faith, I
will continue to trust in God.
1312
01:01:41,561 --> 01:01:43,041
- Yes.
1313
01:01:43,041 --> 01:01:46,281
- I'm absolutely sure that my faith
1314
01:01:46,281 --> 01:01:48,481
has helped me through
these difficult times.
1315
01:01:49,881 --> 01:01:51,441
- Would you
ever see having a career
1316
01:01:51,441 --> 01:01:52,521
in the church?
1317
01:01:52,521 --> 01:01:54,481
- While I have a dedication to the church,
1318
01:01:54,481 --> 01:01:55,441
I haven't experienced
1319
01:01:55,441 --> 01:01:58,241
what I'd call a calling
into the priesthood
1320
01:01:58,241 --> 01:02:00,441
or anything of that kind,
1321
01:02:00,441 --> 01:02:02,561
so the answer is no at the moment.
1322
01:02:03,401 --> 01:02:05,841
When I grow up, I wanna be an astronaut,
1323
01:02:05,841 --> 01:02:07,921
but if I can't be an astronaut,
1324
01:02:07,921 --> 01:02:09,841
I think I'll be a coach driver.
1325
01:02:11,121 --> 01:02:13,401
If the state didn't give us any money,
1326
01:02:13,401 --> 01:02:15,281
it would probably just mean crime,
1327
01:02:15,281 --> 01:02:18,161
and I am glad I didn't have
to steal to keep myself alive.
1328
01:02:22,841 --> 01:02:24,441
- Neil spends one day a week
1329
01:02:24,441 --> 01:02:26,361
doing voluntary work for Oxfam.
1330
01:02:26,361 --> 01:02:29,361
- Bernard, can you tell me
why people keep putting non.
1331
01:02:29,361 --> 01:02:31,201
I enjoy doing this, it's relaxing.
1332
01:02:31,201 --> 01:02:34,241
I love books, and I enjoy
the company here as well.
1333
01:02:36,601 --> 01:02:39,321
I'd much rather have a full-time
job where I was being paid,
1334
01:02:39,321 --> 01:02:41,921
but because of the council work I do,
1335
01:02:41,921 --> 01:02:44,641
I really want a job in the rest of my time
1336
01:02:44,641 --> 01:02:46,121
that isn't too stressful.
1337
01:02:46,121 --> 01:02:47,881
Well, these are all 6.99 new,
1338
01:02:47,881 --> 01:02:49,881
so I am putting them in at 1.99.
1339
01:02:49,881 --> 01:02:52,841
I get just over 200
pound a month allowance
1340
01:02:52,841 --> 01:02:54,441
for being a councillor.
1341
01:02:54,441 --> 01:02:56,561
On top of that, I get nine pound a week
1342
01:02:56,561 --> 01:02:58,241
Jobseeker's Allowance,
1343
01:02:58,241 --> 01:03:00,641
and because I am entitled to
the Jobseeker's Allowance,
1344
01:03:00,641 --> 01:03:04,681
I get my housing benefits
as well, which pays my rent.
1345
01:03:04,681 --> 01:03:06,321
I did some teaching of French
1346
01:03:07,161 --> 01:03:08,721
to young children last year for a while,
1347
01:03:08,721 --> 01:03:11,201
and that was very useful
income while I did it.
1348
01:03:11,201 --> 01:03:16,201
When I go home, I come in, and
mummy gives me a cup of tea.
1349
01:03:17,041 --> 01:03:19,321
I don't think I was really taught
1350
01:03:19,321 --> 01:03:22,361
any sort of policy of
living at all by my parents.
1351
01:03:22,361 --> 01:03:24,521
This is probably the biggest mistake.
1352
01:03:24,521 --> 01:03:26,681
I was just left to fend
for myself in a world
1353
01:03:26,681 --> 01:03:29,441
which they seem completely oblivious of.
1354
01:03:29,441 --> 01:03:31,201
What I'd like most of all would be,
1355
01:03:33,601 --> 01:03:37,121
would be to be able to do
something for my parents
1356
01:03:37,121 --> 01:03:42,121
when they're older, to be there
when the time's necessary.
1357
01:03:45,121 --> 01:03:47,681
Well, my father died five years ago,
1358
01:03:49,121 --> 01:03:50,561
I do feel, however,
1359
01:03:50,561 --> 01:03:53,441
that I'm a little nearer
to my mother since then,
1360
01:03:54,361 --> 01:03:57,441
but both geographically
and possibly emotionally,
1361
01:03:57,441 --> 01:03:59,201
it's never been an easy relationship,
1362
01:03:59,201 --> 01:04:02,601
and I am not claiming that
everything is healed now
1363
01:04:02,601 --> 01:04:06,841
but I feel I can speak to my mother.
1364
01:04:06,841 --> 01:04:08,441
- Do you miss your dad?
1365
01:04:10,281 --> 01:04:13,281
- I had a great
relationship with my father
1366
01:04:13,281 --> 01:04:15,081
when I was much younger.
1367
01:04:16,961 --> 01:04:20,921
My relationship with him did
deteriorate as I got older.
1368
01:04:22,681 --> 01:04:25,641
I sometimes felt that he
made the wrong decision
1369
01:04:25,641 --> 01:04:28,321
in advice he'd given
me or things he'd done
1370
01:04:28,321 --> 01:04:31,761
but then, obviously, he
had his own life to lead
1371
01:04:31,761 --> 01:04:34,161
and just a few months before he died,
1372
01:04:34,161 --> 01:04:36,081
we went together to a cricket match.
1373
01:04:36,081 --> 01:04:38,961
Well, we had what I knew would probably
1374
01:04:38,961 --> 01:04:40,641
be the last long talk we would have
1375
01:04:40,641 --> 01:04:43,081
because he was dying at the time then,
1376
01:04:43,081 --> 01:04:45,281
and I felt that we were both relaxed
1377
01:04:45,281 --> 01:04:47,361
because we were doing
something we enjoyed doing,
1378
01:04:47,361 --> 01:04:51,761
which was relaxing in the
sunshine and watching sport
1379
01:04:51,761 --> 01:04:55,401
so I felt that some way of
some bridging of the gap
1380
01:04:55,401 --> 01:04:56,601
did take place that day.
1381
01:04:57,601 --> 01:05:01,521
When I get married, I don't
want to have any children,
1382
01:05:01,521 --> 01:05:05,521
because they are always
doing naughty things
1383
01:05:05,521 --> 01:05:08,921
and making the whole house untidy.
1384
01:05:08,921 --> 01:05:12,481
I always told myself that I
would never have children.
1385
01:05:15,241 --> 01:05:16,681
- Why?
1386
01:05:16,681 --> 01:05:19,801
Because, because well,
1387
01:05:19,801 --> 01:05:23,921
because children inherit
something from their parents,
1388
01:05:23,921 --> 01:05:27,761
and even if my wife were
the most high-spirited
1389
01:05:27,761 --> 01:05:30,801
and ordinary and normal of people,
1390
01:05:30,801 --> 01:05:33,281
the child would still
stand a very fair chance
1391
01:05:33,281 --> 01:05:37,961
of being not totally full of happiness
1392
01:05:37,961 --> 01:05:42,361
because of what he or she
will have inherited from me.
1393
01:05:42,361 --> 01:05:43,641
No, I've never married
1394
01:05:43,641 --> 01:05:48,561
and I don't have a girlfriend
at the moment, and I've,
1395
01:05:48,561 --> 01:05:50,241
it's one of the regrets
of my life, actually,
1396
01:05:50,241 --> 01:05:54,281
that I've not met
somebody of the other sex
1397
01:05:54,281 --> 01:05:58,041
I thought I could have a more
permanent relationship with,
1398
01:05:59,401 --> 01:06:04,321
but I'm probably not the easiest
of people to get on with.
1399
01:06:06,121 --> 01:06:09,121
I did have one girlfriend
for close on two years,
1400
01:06:09,121 --> 01:06:12,041
so maybe I'm not as completely
hopeless a character
1401
01:06:12,041 --> 01:06:15,601
as might appear to be the case.
1402
01:06:15,601 --> 01:06:18,161
- Do you miss a physical side,
1403
01:06:18,161 --> 01:06:19,921
a sexual side in your life?
1404
01:06:19,921 --> 01:06:22,721
- Well, I am a physical person,
1405
01:06:22,721 --> 01:06:24,921
so I imagine I could be happy
1406
01:06:24,921 --> 01:06:28,961
in a lasting relationship with somebody
1407
01:06:28,961 --> 01:06:32,001
but you have to make do with the reality,
1408
01:06:32,001 --> 01:06:34,281
and there are many things
that might have happened
1409
01:06:34,281 --> 01:06:36,281
in my life that haven't happened,
1410
01:06:36,281 --> 01:06:40,561
and there is little
point in being regretful
1411
01:06:40,561 --> 01:06:43,121
and angry about that.
1412
01:06:44,841 --> 01:06:46,521
- You seem to
have such much stronger
1413
01:06:46,521 --> 01:06:50,401
sense of purpose to your
life than you've had before.
1414
01:06:50,401 --> 01:06:54,761
- I see that life comes
once, and it's quite short,
1415
01:06:54,761 --> 01:06:57,361
and you have to appreciate
what's good in it,
1416
01:06:57,361 --> 01:07:00,281
and if I could just tell a short story.
1417
01:07:00,281 --> 01:07:03,401
I was just sunbathing and a butterfly
1418
01:07:03,401 --> 01:07:04,841
landed quite close to me,
1419
01:07:04,841 --> 01:07:07,161
beautiful wings, deep red colours
1420
01:07:07,161 --> 01:07:09,281
and white sort of circles on them
1421
01:07:09,281 --> 01:07:13,521
and these creatures don't last very long
1422
01:07:13,521 --> 01:07:15,601
but it landed very close to me.
1423
01:07:15,601 --> 01:07:17,441
It didn't seem frightened.
1424
01:07:17,441 --> 01:07:19,081
And it just seemed to delight
1425
01:07:19,081 --> 01:07:21,201
in opening and closing its wings
1426
01:07:21,201 --> 01:07:24,361
and just actually being beautiful
for that period of time,
1427
01:07:24,361 --> 01:07:27,041
enjoying the sunshine, and perhaps,
1428
01:07:27,041 --> 01:07:29,321
there isn't actually any
more to life than that
1429
01:07:29,321 --> 01:07:31,081
than just being what you are,
1430
01:07:31,081 --> 01:07:34,281
realising that life goes on all around,
1431
01:07:34,281 --> 01:07:36,641
and there are millions
of other living creatures
1432
01:07:36,641 --> 01:07:39,001
who all have to find their paths as well.
1433
01:07:45,081 --> 01:07:46,161
- Whee!
1434
01:07:48,881 --> 01:07:52,601
- At the end of their
very special day in London,
1435
01:07:52,601 --> 01:07:55,681
after their trip to the zoo and the party,
1436
01:07:55,681 --> 01:07:58,681
we took our children to
an adventure playground
1437
01:07:58,681 --> 01:08:01,481
where they could do just what they liked.
1438
01:08:02,881 --> 01:08:06,361
Those from the children's home
set about building a house.
1439
01:08:18,001 --> 01:08:18,881
There's Nicholas.
1440
01:08:25,641 --> 01:08:28,001
And Tony.
1441
01:08:32,761 --> 01:08:33,561
Andrew.
1442
01:08:37,681 --> 01:08:38,521
John.
1443
01:08:44,081 --> 01:08:44,921
And Bruce.
1444
01:08:52,041 --> 01:08:52,881
Suzie.
1445
01:08:58,841 --> 01:09:00,201
Jackie and her friends.
1446
01:09:06,801 --> 01:09:09,361
Give me a child until he is seven
1447
01:09:09,361 --> 01:09:11,001
and I will give you the man.
1448
01:09:20,281 --> 01:09:23,161
This has been a glimpse
of Britain's future.
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