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NARRATOR: Previously...
Hi, husband. Hello. Hello.

While absence made John's
heart grow fonder...

Being away from her has made me
have even more love for her.

I'm in love!Yes!
THEY CHUCKLE

..partner swap week...

I spoke to April.

She said, "I don't miss him
when he's not around."

..stirred up trouble
for other marriages.

That is absolute bullshit.

PHOTOGRAPHER: Say cheese.
CAMERA CLICKS

What are those?

Who are you married to
and whose apartment is this?

I respect that, but...

You don't, because you put it
up on my fridge.

NARRATOR: And time apart
from wife Grace...

I don't need to feel like
the problem.

..led to a devastating
realisation for Ashley.

I can't do this.

I'm at my limit.

Is it over, then, Ash?

I'm never going to be enough.

I don't think it's supposed
to be this hard.

I feel like just leaving
the experiment.

Tonight...

I told my wife that I love her!
CHEERING AND APPLAUSE

And she said it back!
CHEERING INTENSIFIES

..while some couples toast
to wedded bliss...

To love!

..others have much less to
celebrate.

I came into this.
I was open and vulnerable.

But I am hurt.

Where do I go from here?

If there's no potential
in this relationship,

I worry you're going
to get yourself hurt.

And...

Everything's gone really sour.

..as Grace and Ashley's
downward spiral continues...

I don't know if I'm ever going
to be able to see you

in the same light again.
And you don't seem to care.

..could it be the end of the road
for their marriage?

This isn't going to go anywhere.

I didn't want this to end this way.

I can't give any more to this.

WEDDING BELLS RING

Morning. Morning. Fruit.

Thank you, baby.
You're welcome.

Mwah!

Good to be home?

Lovely to be home.
Yeah, I definitely missed you.

Yeah, I missed you, too.

Oh, babe, this looks
amazing. Morning.

This IS a treat.

I'm gonna try
and attempt to flip this.

Ooh, yay! Yes!

I missed you.

I feel good having you back,
girl. I did miss you.

Was it all right being
with Leo, then, yeah?

Yeah, it was... It was good.

I think I struggled with
what he was telling me,

because it just felt sad
that he wasn't

getting back from April
what he wanted,

in terms of a relationship,

but yet he was doing
absolutely everything he could

to be with her.

Leo and April are putting
in different amounts of effort

for their relationship.

Leo feels mugged off
and I can understand why,

especially because April told me
at the last dinner party

she doesn't miss him
when he's not there.

I think she's taking him
for a bit of a ride.

And if anything happens tonight
at the dinner party,

I know who I'm backing.

Are you looking forward
to their dinner party tonight?

Um...

..not really.
APRIL CHUCKLES

Probably the first one I've not
really been looking forward to,

to be fair, because I feel like
stuff has been taken out of context

or twisted from what I've said,

so I'll be clearing that up,
that's for sure.

I've just heard things
that have been said to Leo

that I think have been
taken out of context,

so I want to speak to Rebecca about

why it was relayed to Leo
in the way that it was.

Rebecca mentioned something to me

that I just wanted to
clear up with you.

The question was, do you miss me
when I'm not around?

Right. And I think your answer was,
"Nah, not really."

I didn't answer.
You didn't answer?

No.

Obviously, I've heard both sides,

but I don't really know
100% what was said,

so I guess when we sat down

and you explained it
the way you did,

it did sound a lot better
than what I was told.

Yeah, exactly. That's what I mean,

it was just twisted
and it's annoying.

Obviously, I've heard
both sides of the story

and to be honest,

they are conflicting.

I don't really know what to
believe,

but hearing April say
that it was twisted

has left me confused

and really, I do have
more questions than answers.

This morning it's awkward
between Nelly and I.

I slept on the sofa last night
to give Nelly a bit more space.

She walked off after
our conversation last night

saying she needed that.

Good morning. Oh, hello.

Did you have a good night's sleep
on the sofa?

Always a great night's
sleep on the sofa.

Steve and I are in a very,
very bad place.

Why would I want to be with someone
who I don't think values me?

Because what is disrespectful

is to have a photo of you
and another woman on that fridge.

I just feel mugged off, really.

Ready for the ol' dinner party
this evening, then?

NELLY IN PERSON: Yeah. How are you
feeling about that?

Yeah, I'm feeling all right
going into it, to be honest.

I think it's really important
that we're completely honest

with everyone with where we're at.

People are gonna ask
obviously certain questions.

I don't think we can avoid it.

NELLY VOICEOVER: I've said what
I needed to say to Steven.

It's only so much
that someone can take

before it just genuinely
becomes really exhausting.

So it is very much make or break.

I'm in the doghouse. I'm doing
all the chores today, aren't I?

Doing all your washing? Yep.

Me and Leah had to have
a few difficult conversations.

I have been concerned about
flirting between Leah and Leisha,

and there is doubt in my mind

that Leah hasn't respected my
boundaries in the partner swap week.

Leah, you'll be coupled with Leisha
and you'll move in with her.
LEAH LAUGHS

During partner swap week...

No flirting. Really?

..Leigh voiced her concerns
to wife Leah.

Just be respectful.

It's definitely a test
for me and Leah...

LEAH: Hello, wifey.
CHUCKLING: Aw, cute!

..and a way for me to see if Leah
will really respect our marriage...

Oh, just wanted
to be fed strawberries, did you?

THEY CHUCKLE

I know you want to.

..and not push those boundaries
and not humiliate me.

Are we in love?

I have kissed a girl before you.

Shall we order another drink,
on that note?

THEY CHUCKLE
You little minx!

Do you feel like you adhered
to the boundaries?

Yes. You didn't flirt?

No. Not once?

No.

Yesterday I felt like I'd come back

and I walked into the lion's den.

"Did you flirt? Did you do this?
Did you do that? Did..."

Going in on all the things,

trying to find out
if I've done anything wrong and...

Just tell me you've missed me
and give me a hug.
LEAH CHUCKLES

LEIGH: My trust for Leah now

has definitely diminished.

At the moment I don't really want
to be around her.

GRACE VOICEOVER: I haven't seen
Ash since last night.

I am disappointed in Ash.

Ash used partner swap week

to validate his feelings
that I'm the problem.

I don't think
he really self-assessed.

I am frustrated. I don't think
the marriage was his priority.

I've had the week with Abi
and now a bit of space

Partner swap week made me realise

how far off the mark
Grace and I were.

90% of the time
when we have an argument,

it's when I'm trying to do
something good for her

or make her feel better,
or compliment her.

The right woman will appreciate me

and the things that I do,
rather than dissect them.

It's still hurtful that Ash thinks

the entire breakdown of our
marriage

revolves around the fact
that I can't see who he is.

I don't want to
change him fundamentally.

I just wanted him to love me the way
I was asking and the way I need.

This is going to be
a tough dinner party for me.

Do I want to be there?

I really don't want
to leave here with regrets.

SIGHING: But I feel broken.

Worse than ever.

I feel devastated about
how this has gone.

WEDDING BELLS RING

WEDDING BELLS RING

Well, we've arrived
at dinner party number six,

the penultimate dinner party.

And we're right off the back of
partner swap week,

where couples gain a new
perspective on where they stand

and most importantly,

will they be able to
go the distance?

Well, let's hope there's some new
insights in their relationships.

Yeah. We're going to see them
flourish tonight.

Oh! We're first!Oh, we're first in.
JOHN CHUCKLES

Abigail and John.

Our young lovers.

Oh, I'm excited!

Me too. Honestly,
I think I'm most excited

about this dinner party.

Really? Yeah, I think it's a big one
for us, though, isn't it?

It IS a big one.

We declared our love
for each other. Yes.

Ooh. Ooh! They have!

PAUL: Nice.
OK. They have.

Cheers. To our love.

ABI CHUCKLES
Yes, to our love.

Aw. We've been waiting
for this moment to come along,

and it's here.

Yay!
BOTH: Hi, guys!

Oh, and here's our boys -
Davide and Keye.

They even walk in unison as well.
They do, right?
THEY CHUCKLE

You look amazing. Yeah.

I'm so pleased it's you.
DAVIDE: Aw. Yes!

These two have begun
in a strong place,

and we see them going nowhere,

but staying in a strong place.
Yeah. Yes.

How are you both?
KEYE: Good. How are you?

JOHN: We're great.
Yeah, we are great.

I wanted you to know
how much impact you had on me.

I couldn't have dreamed how good
the last few days have been.

Honestly, I agree.

I left there being able
to say "I love you" to my wife.

Yeah, you did it!
And you said it back? Yay!

ABI: I did.
KEYE: Yay!

To love.To love. Yeah!Yeah!
ALL CHUCKLE

This is one of the reasons
why we do partner swap -

that opportunity for real feedback

and insight and
potential to move forward.

LEISHA: Hello.
Hey, guys. Hey.

So lovely to see Reiss and Leisha
happy and excited.

They look really comfortable
with one another.

REISS: Your hair looks sick
today, bro.

Does it? Yeah, slicked back, man.
I like that.

Thanks. I thought I'd change
it up. I like that look.

Are you happy to get Leisha back?

Yeah, I'm over the moon
to get Leisha back, yeah.

It's good. I didn't think
I'd be saying it,

but I actually missed her talking.

I mean, that's a
compliment from Reiss.

He's like my yin to my yang. Aw.

So he kind of tames you slightly,
doesn't he? He tames me, yeah.

And I need it because obviously
I'm a bit crazy at times,

and I feel like
he definitely brings peace

and safety to my life. Aw.

Clearly, the two of them
are very different.

And it's nice that
I think they're starting

to recognise their complementary
strengths and work as a team,

as opposed to against each other.

I felt like I calmed Grace down

cos she was panicking about
her and Ashley's situation...

Yeah? ..cos they'd had a bit of
a row that morning

and I feel like
I got through. Mm-hmm.

She seemed really calm
when I left her, so...

I don't know how the conversation
has gone since.

PAUL: Well, this doesn't sound
too good.

It sounds like there was some issue
between Grace and Ashley,

so it'll be interesting to see
what happened.

How was your week?
Were you with Leah, right?

Yeah. We had so much fun. Did you?

Yeah. Good.

I think Leigh had the best person

because I think you would've
given her really good advice.

Yes. Girl, we went
lingerie shopping.

I just wanted her to feel like,
you know, sexy and empowered

and being sure of
what she wants and go for it. Hmm.

D'you know what I mean?
I had energy.

It was very, very high,
and she was very positive.

Leah left positive as well. Good.

CHARLENE: As we know
with Leigh and Leah,

intimacy has been an ongoing issue.

So it sounds like Davide
has worked really hard

with Leigh to create some changes.

So I'm really hopeful
to see what's going on for them.

OVERLAPPING GREETINGS

How are you? Loving the hair.

Thank you, Davide.
Absolutely loving this hair.

Should I drink? Should I not?
Are you drinking?

Are you? Are YOU?

I don't know. Maybe I will.
We're double trouble, mate.

I know. I don't think
it's a good thing.

I don't know if I want
to drink around you ever again.

Um... Yeah, I don't know
if I want to drink around you.

Excuse me, I am not...

She's the trouble.
Not me. She's trouble.
CHUCKLING

Things look a bit tense between
Leigh and Leah there.

Maybe Leisha and Leah had a little
bit too much fun on partner swap.

And certainly, Leigh
does not look impressed.

So how have you guys been? I heard
about your Ann Summers trip.

I couldn't have had
a better partner swap,

but I think, if anything,

those moments gave me
a bit of clarity of

what a relationship should be

and that I weren't giving Leah
what she needed

and I weren't necessarily
getting what I needed,

and that it wasn't right.

I feel like,
although there are feelings there,

that's evident because, I mean,
there's even silly little elements

to your bloody partner swap
where she's done

the chocolate covered strawberries

and I can feel myself
bubbling over it.

So there are feelings there

because I'm bothered by these small
things. LEISHA: Yeah. ABI: Yeah.

It means you care. Yeah.

So I think coming off the back
of partner swap,

I already kind of had the feeling
that something weren't right.

CHARLENE: This issue has
come up before,

where Leigh has been quite
concerned

about Leah's flirting
or banter with other people.

I think what's really
uncomfortable here for Leigh

is that when Leisha
entered the experiment,

Leah made the comment
that she was just her type,

and Leigh has made it very clear
that this is a boundary for her.

It sounds like maybe Leah may have
lost sight of that boundary here.

We had a really nice time
with Leisha.

It was high energy,
it was really fun.

I come back in for the first time
seeing her and she's like,

"Did you flirt?
Did she flirt? Was this..."

And it was like
the Spanish Inquisition

and I was like,
"I actually just missed you."

But it made me really realise
at that point I was like,

"I can't deal with this
on a..." Yeah. Daily basis?

No, because I do want someone to...
Appreciate you and trust you.

Yeah - and trust me
from day one. Yeah.

She doesn't trust me
because of her past stuff,

which is fine, but that's
why I'm being patient with it.

I've still got this little glimmer
in the back of my mind of...

You want to give it a try,
at least? Yeah.

PAUL: What Leah perceives
as just harmless fun,

Leigh believes is
crossing the line.

They'll never have
a successful relationship

unless they're able to
get on the same page. Yeah.

Hello. KEYE: Oh...

Ah. Ah, Grace is alone. Hmm.

KEYE: Grace. PARTICIPANTS: Aw.

You look amazing.

Well, this is the first time
we've seen Grace enter alone.

This is really not good to see.

GRACE: Oh, my God.
My surrogate husband. How are you?

Good to see you.
Lovely to see you, too.

Thank you. So do you. Oh, my gosh.
LEIGH: Are you OK, my honey?

Um...
GRACE LIP TRILLS

Catch me up.
What's been going on?

We had a dispute, we had
an argument before partner swap.

We left for partner swap
on bad terms.

Yeah. I just think...

GRACE SCOFFS

It can't be that
because I didn't like

one of the compliments you gave me,

that this is the outcome.

What was the compliment?

Ash is pursuing intercourse.

I'm going to have to be TMI, but...
Say what you're comfortable with.

..I had thrush.
I'm getting ready for the gym.

He's like a dog with a bone.
I said, "Ash, what's got into you?"

And he was like,

"There's a half naked woman
in front of me with a good body.

"What do you expect?"

CHUCKLING: Yeah, that's not
a compliment.

I was like, "Listen, that didn't
land the way you think it did."

I was like,
"That felt a bit impersonal."

This man has wanted to
unpack that compliment

over and over and over again.

He wanted me to ask Leah
and Rebecca in the gym,

he said, "They'll tell you
it's a compliment."

I don't care who else
thinks it's a compliment.

It was for me. Mm-hmm.
It was my compliment.

And I'm telling you,
it didn't land. Yeah.

OK, so it's very clear here,
from Grace's perspective,

that Ash has given her
what he perceived as a compliment,

but it's felt very impersonal
and actually quite hurtful.

It makes it sound like it could have
been any half naked woman,

and that would have done.
Thank you. That's all he needed.

That's how it comes across.
But he's washing his hands of it.

This is the issue with
the situation, though,

is because I've heard that story
and he tells it different.

He tells... Of course he does.

So from the way Ash
has explained it,

it was a lot softer.

The way you've explained it
is a lot harsher.

I could just imagine. He'll go,

"Oh, I said, 'Oh, my wife
looks so good in front of me,

"'so what do you expect?'"

That's not what he said
and that's not how it sounded.

I asked him,
"Could you self-reflect, please?

"Instead of saying that
I can't take a compliment,

"that I'm attacking his character,
that I'm doing this,

"could you actually do the work,

"sit with your feelings
and look inwards -

"'What could I be handling better?
What could I be doing?'" Yeah.

Ash spent the partner swap
thinking of Ash.

Ash came back to me with nothing.

No self-reflection.

Ash used it as a moment of,
I don't know, ego stroking,

of self-inflation. "It must mean
Grace is the issue

"because I'm perfect."
And this bothers me, Leigh,

because when we had that argument,

I said to Reiss,
"I'm so worried about Ash.

"I'm worried he's upset.

"I'm worried he's
this and that." Hmm.

"I hope he sleeps OK."

I'm so worried about
Ash all the time when we...

Ash thinks about Ash.

CHEERING

Yay.
MEL: Bailey and Rebecca.

Hey! Hello, how are you?

Mwah! How are you?

Looking really strong and connected.

And, of course, when we saw them
last time on the couch,

they were talking a lot
about the future,

and Bailey even starting to think

about introducing Rebecca
to his daughter, Bluebell.

I mean, it's really significant
in terms of the level of commitment

and seriousness that's going on
in the relationship.

Yeah. Bailey,
how you feeling with Bec

after partner swap week?

Yeah, we're all good.
Really happy, mate.

It made me realise, obviously,
how much I miss her

because we haven't really
spent any time apart.

Yeah, it was nice to miss.

How are you and Bailey?

We're really good.
We're really good.

Being apart, I feel like I've
missed him over the past few days,

but I had a great time with Leo.

He is the nicest guy.

He's got such a gentle nature.

He basically said April is his,
like, dream woman.

But I think he's trying
and trying and trying

and, like, minimising himself,
trying to please her.

I want to have a conversation
with her tonight and him,

just to see where they're at...
Hmm.

..cos he was so nervous
before I left.

PAUL: So it sounds like
what Rebecca is saying

is that she's picked up on
some sort of imbalance

between Leo and April,

and what I found interesting
is that Leo said

that April is his dream woman.

Think about that.
That's very interesting.

Yeah.

Oh, geez. Ah. Hey.

And here's Ashley. Wow.

Wow. How are you doing, big fella?

Yeah, good. Good?

You're looking very dapper. Mwah!
How are you?

Grace looks really on edge,
doesn't she?

You look so smart. Thank you.
Are you OK?

Yeah. Good. You smell good.

Hello, you. Hi, honey. Mwah.

You OK? You all right?
You look gorgeous. Hello.

Thank you. You too.

CHARLENE: I think this is always
the moment as well, isn't it?

You don't know whether your partner
is going to walk over to you

and say hello.

And it's great to see that Ashley
has done the mature thing.

Oh, wow, and he's gone
to sit somewhere else. Hm.

Grace is looking really crushed.

See, when I went to partner swap -

your wife's amazing,
by the way -

she just kind of
straightaway seen...

I didn't even know I was
in that bad of a place

and then she seen it
and picked me out.

And then it made me realise,
"Oh, this is...

"I'm so far away from where I should
be." BAILEY: How it should be, yeah.

And I think she's, like,
a bit upset with me

because I didn't take
that time to think about

the relationship and everything,
but I just felt like I was

completely burnt out

and I kind of used the time
to just become me again.

And I did feel like I
was back to myself.

Selfishly, I feel like
the compromise

needs to come from her side.

I feel like I can't go on
feeling like this

and constantly having knock back
after knock back

and pick after pick.

Even a compliment.
Can I ask you...

Because I've heard it different
from both of you.

Yeah. And I just said
the same thing to Grace,

I was like, "Look,
you're saying this one way,

"Ash is saying it another way."

The compliment
that you gave Grace... Yeah?

..what did you say?

I walked into the bedroom and she

was, like, sports bra,
nothing else and I went...

ASHLEY GRUNTS GUTTURALLY
..grabbed her, put her on the bed,

and we kind of
rolled over on the bed

and she asked me
why I was horny and I said,

"Well, I had
a glass of wine last night."

I said, "I've just walked in.
You're my wife.

"You're half naked, you're bent over
and you've got a great body on you.

"Why wouldn't I be?"

And her reply was,

"So if I was any woman bent over
you, would you feel the same?"

And I was like, "What?"
BAILEY SIGHS

It's because the way Grace
relayed it is that you said,

"There's a woman in front of me."

But those small details...
"There's A woman in front of me"?

..matter. Yeah.
But there's not ANOTHER woman.

There's you. Why would I be talking
about another woman?

In Ash's retelling there,

he's saying, "It was
very specific about you.

"You are my wife and
I'm attracted to you." Right. Hmm.

It sounds like what she heard is,

"There was A woman standing
in front of me naked." Hmm.

"And that's what I was attracted
to."

And regardless of what was said,

the compliment didn't land
for Grace. Hmm.

And that is something
that Ashley needs to acknowledge.

This is what I say.
If you know me as a person,

you'd know it would never be
a backhanded compliment.

It would never be anything to make
you feel insecure or anything.

It's always from a kind place.

I can't physically think
about every single word

that comes out of my mouth.

So one word in that sentence
made it not a compliment?

I can't do that.

Essentially, what
he's saying here is,

"I'm not responsible
for what comes out of my mouth."

Well, guess what?
You're an adult. You are.

Yeah. That's not going to wash.

These two have not been able

to create a space of safety
for each other. Hmm.

The two of them are on very,
very different pages.

They're not even in the same book.

No.

Can I ask you... Because I
know he will have told you.

I'm interested to hear how he
represented that compliment to you.

This is important to me.

Yeah, he did mention it.

And he said, like,
that you have a good body,

why wouldn't he want to,
you know, think...
ABI GRUNTS GUTTURALLY

..about his wife?

And I think he said that
you took that as offence.

You would say that to,
like, anybody.

The context was that I didn't want
to have sex because I had thrush.

He didn't mention that at all.

And I was getting ready for the gym
and trying to get out the door.

He didn't mention
anything like that.

And I said, "You're like a dog with
a bone. What's going on with you?"

And he said, "There's a half naked
woman in front of me

"with a good body.
What do you expect?"

Yeah, he didn't... And I said,
"Look, that didn't land

"the way you think it did.
That's impersonal." Hmm.

But he's like, "No. Anyone else
would have taken it as a compliment.

"You don't know me.
It's an attack on me.

"It's an attack on my integrity.
You don't recognise me."

He wanted to unpack it
so many times.

I said, "Ash, we don't
need to unpack it.

"We don't need to go into it.
We don't need to.

"I didn't like it.
That's the final...

"That's the only part that
matters."

This conversation would be
very hard for Grace.

You know, we know
she doesn't like really opening up

and talking about
her personal details.

You know, that's
really difficult for her.

It's almost like he let
two days with you

undo weeks of work that we've done
and things that we've built. And...

GRACE CLICKS TONGUE
..I just felt so disappointed

because the whole time
I was hoping and praying

that Ash was self-reflecting
and doing the work... Hmm.

..and then he wasn't.

He came back and was like,
"No, I haven't.

"I've been getting back to me.
I've been thinking about me."

I felt bad, honestly.
It makes me feel upset.

I genuinely feel upset
because I wanted it to work.

No, no. But yeah, I'm sorry.

When he left, I knew, I was like,
"Abi's so lovely."

It wasn't you. It was never you.

But to me, it just feels like he
just didn't want to be confronted.

He didn't want...
He just didn't want to.

Would you have another
conversation with him tonight?

Cos I feel like... I feel like this
man has said to me so many times,

"I'm done, I'm done,
I'm leaving, I'm done..."

Go. Just go.
Stop threatening me. Stop...

Stop. If you're going, then go.

I'm not pursuing any more.
I'm not putting any more work in.

I'm not self...

I've done enough. I've done enough.
I'm not doing any more.

And that's it.

I still really care for Ash,
and that's the hardest part.

I'm angry and I'm frustrated
and I'm sad.

I just don't know if I'm wasting
my breath any more with Ash.

He's never going to hear me
or see my point of view.

I don't even think he wants to.

She's constantly looking for the
bad in everything I do.

I've been working really
hard on my terminology.

I can't do that
in every single sentence

for the rest of my life.

Realistically, I'd love it to work.

It's just the way it is,
it's not going to.

And neither of us are
kind of willing to change.

And I don't see us moving past
that.

WEDDING BELLS RING

WEDDING BELLS RING

Hey, guys.
SINGSONGY: Hello.

April and Leo.

PARTICIPANTS: Hi.
LEO: Hey.

Hello. Are you all right?
Are you all right?

Good to see you.
You look lovely.

Last time we saw April and Leo,

April was still looking
for that emotional connection

between her and Leo.

Hi. How you doing? How are you?

APRIL SIGHS
CHARLENE:Not quite sure what's
happening here, though.

LEISHA: Yeah. How are you?

Partner swap was good.

I really enjoyed myself.

But when we first came back,

I spoke to Leo, and Rebecca had
said a few things to him

that I'd said and it almost felt
like it was a bit twisted.

So then his feelings were hurt
and I felt then guilty. Hmm.

It's highlighted...

..Leo hasn't been aware
about how I'm feeling.

Like, how bad is it?

OK, the attraction is fading.

There's a lot missing for me.

Yeah, I'm just not feeling it,
girls. Do you know what I mean?

Aw, that face says it all,
doesn't it?

Well, it seems like the whole
partner swap experience

has really just
highlighted for April

that this relationship is not
giving her what she needs. Mm-hmm.

LEO: I had a great time with Bec.

It was nice to put my feet up,
for a change. Yeah. Yeah.

It gave me a new lease of life...

Did it?
..and a different perspective

on our relationship as well.
That's good, mate. Yeah.

I mean, I can't
keep on doing everything.

When you say doing everything,
like what?

There was lots of dishes
in the sink and I was like,

"Hey, would you mind sticking them
in the dishwasher?"

And she was like, "Nah,
cos you'll do it later." Mate.

And the cooking?

I do a little bit of cooking, but,
I mean, I like to go out and eat.

OK, yeah. So I take April out
sort of most nights.

What... Does she take you out?

She's taken me out
once or twice, yeah.

It must be hard

because you haven't been
in a relationship for so long.

You meet a girl that's gorgeous,
in your eyes,

and you must just want
to do everything. Hm.

But you still have to think about
what you want.

You can end up shooting yourself in
the foot by doing... You can.

By doing a bit too much.

Yeah, one thing that did annoy me
a little bit, though, is

when they did the partner
swap with Steven,

she cooked him a meal and
I was gobsmacked. Yeah, no.

I was like, "What? You don't cook."

She should want to do these things.

Doesn't have to be spending money,
it could be anything -

like making you a meal,
like she did for Steven.

That is a bit muggy. That is.
That's muggy. Yeah, yeah.

MEL: Oh, that's got
to hurt for Leo.

Yeah.

PAUL: Leo is all the way into April.

Hmm. Everyone has different ways
of showing affection.

In relationships, there's this
notion of acts of service. Hm.

And you could say
that these grand gestures

that Leo is making is
his way of showing

how much he actually cares for her.

APRIL: I haven't spoken
to you, obviously,

since the swap with Leo. Hm.

Yeah, I just want to know
your opinions, your insight.

OK, I'll be fully transparent
with you, open. Mm-hmm.

The general feeling I got
from him was

that he feels like he was
putting loads into the relationship,

but sort of felt like he was
doing everything wrong,

and then described you
as like his dream woman...

..and that he was just trying
to do everything he could

to impress you... Right.

..and all of his efforts weren't
cutting the mustard, basically.

That's so frustrating,
Bec, honestly.

What?! Is he all right?

Leo telling Rebecca
that he's doing loads

for the relationship
and I'm not doing anything,

it's bullshit.

And now this has all come out,

it makes me want
to pull away even more.

So I was obviously
going into this thinking,

"Hang on a minute.
You adore this woman."

And I was like,
"I can't sit with this man"

after having the conversation
that I had with you

at the last dinner party,
at the retreat. Mm-hmm.

And then for me to just be like,
"Oh, yeah, yeah, that's fine..."

So I did say to him,
"I had a conversation with April at

"the last dinner party," and
I said to you, "Do you miss him?"

And you were like, "Hm," not being
able to say to me, "Yeah, I do."

Could you understand from
my point of view why I was like,

jaw on the floor?
Yeah, no, I do, honestly.

I was like...
Cos he idolises you.

He's doing everything he can
to impress you.

And I was thinking,
"But you're not impressing her

"because she's not desperate
to get back to you

"when she's not with you."

You don't feel the same
way about each other.

You can't do.

Sounds like what Rebecca has gleaned
from her partner swap experience

with Leo is that she sees
that Leo likes April

more than April likes Leo.

Hi! Oh, Nelly and Steven.

Aw.
APRIL CHUCKLES

Very separate entrance.

Hello. You look lovely.
Aw, thank you.

Oh, thank you.

Hello, temporary husband.
CHUCKLING: Hi. How are you?

I'm good. You all right?

Yeah, I'm good. Are you OK?
Yeah, not bad, not bad.

Well, the last time we saw
Nelly and Steven,

of course, Steven wrote,
"Stay - for now..." CHARLENE: Hmm.

..sending a very
clear message to Nelly

that he's essentially got one foot
in the door and one foot out.

How are you, ladies?

No, how are YOU?
We want to know about YOU.

We wanna know about YOU.

Yeah, so I had Bailey
for partner swap week,

and he just literally said,
"Nelly, I'm not going to treat you

"any different than I treat Bec."

Ooh. And then I just got,
then, he was like,

"Well, I'm gonna cook dinner."
I thought, "Is that normal?

"That's nice." It just reaffirmed
that this is what I DO need

and this is what I want
and I think, to be honest,

every single person here deserves.
What you deserve.

We came back and I said, you know,

"Bailey showed me
how he treats Beck,

"and that is how I deserve
to have a relationship." Yeah.

And I just felt like the whole time

it was a bit of a comparison
between how him

and April were and...

She's really fun
and she's really this.

Like, I got in and there was
a photo of the four of them,

like, belly dancing and then
a photo of just him and April.

But that really annoyed me
in that moment

because I thought, like,
"Why have you done that?" Hm, yeah.

Like, "I've just walked in.

"Clearly, you and I aren't
in a good place."

Yeah. Yeah. And we weren't
in a good place.

But I was like, "Why are you walking
in and putting a photo of you

"and someone else on my fridge?"

Of course, what we know
about Nelly right now is

that she's really seeking that
validation and support

and affection from Steven... Yeah.

..and he's essentially taking a step
in the opposite direction.

Hm. Maybe it's self-sabotage.

Maybe what he's trying to do
is actually push her away.

Yeah, maybe.

I'm not sat there putting photos
of me and every other husband here.

I don't think that's OK.
I actually find it disrespectful.

Hm. And I said, "I'm just going
to go to the bedroom

"and have some space."

And then he made the lounge
his new bedroom.

Every time we have
these little arguments,

we regress so much

and then we don't
have this conversation,

we don't address certain things.

But why haven't you had
these conversations?

I definitely can't put my finger
on why we haven't done it.

Do you think you can see yourself
falling for Nelly, though?

Is she who you would want as a
wife?

In this moment, I couldn't
even give you a definitive answer.

But how come?

Because I need to know someone first
before I can truly answer that.

Has she not shown you, though?

It's literally been, like,
how many weeks down the line?

CHARLENE: Well, that is a shock.

Steven needs a bit of a
wake-up call at this point

because we are so far
into the experiment. Yeah.

This is the penultimate dinner party

and making the excuse that,
"I don't know her well enough yet"

is just a cop-out.

Here I am. Here I am.

I imagine we're there.
That's pretty.

Aw. Oh, lovely.

INDISTINCT CHATTER

Drink? Um, sure.

You really blend in
so perfect to this dinner table,

the pair of you. Right?
Don't we just?! Look at you.

You OK?

INDISTINCT CHATTER
Are you?Yeah.

GIGGLING

Hey, darling.

Oh, it's a bit frosty between
Grace and Ashley, isn't it?

Hm, it is. This is the first
time we've seen them

actually sitting together all night.

CLACKING ON GLASS

Hi, guys.
WHOOPING

Go on, John!

So, firstly, partner swap week

couldn't have gone
any better for me.

I've got such a great
friendship with Keye. Aw.

Aw. We've had the most
amazing time together.

The main thing that I got from Keye

was him telling me to
live in the moment.

We've been so focussed on, like,
"Oh, what comes next?"

And "When do we say
different things?"

Leaving partner swap week,
I was like,

"No, no, live in the moment."

And as a result of that,

I came home and
told my wife that I love her!

CHEERING AND APPLAUSE
JOHN CHUCKLES

Go on, John!JOHN:Yeah!
CHEERING INTENSIFIES

Hell, yeah!

JOHN:And she said it back!
CHEERING AND APPLAUSE INTENSIFIES

I just want to celebrate love,

whether that is love
for the marriage,

love for your partner,
love for yourself.

Let's just celebrate love.

Yeah! To love! Woo!

Well, isn't it nice to see John
actually standing up

and celebrating the love that him
and Abigail are experiencing?

To love. Cheers, guys.
Cheers, guys. Yay!

Such a gorgeous example of
where this experiment really works.

I think we've done well, guys.

THEY CHUCKLE

LEISHA: How was your week,
Steven, then?

STEVEN: Action-packed. Yeah?
Yeah, action-packed, for sure.

Yeah, I think it was a big week
for both of us, innit?

Obviously you being with
big brother Bailey.

NELLY: Yeah. Bailey said to me,

"All I'm going to do now
is treat you how I treat Bec."

So you actually had
the Bec treatment?

Yeah, I had the Bec treatment.
LEISHA: How was the Bec treatment?

Because I think we've
all got to experience it.

NELLY:Bloody lovely.
THEY LAUGH

He was like,
"You're chilling out tonight.

"I'm gonna cook you dinner."

And I thought,
"This is lovely." Wow.

BAILEY: That's it.
That's the Bec treatment.

This man treats me
like a princess every day. Aw.

I love you.

You're just beautiful,
inside and out.

NELLY VOICEOVER:
I'm just so emotional today

because I want what John
and Abi have,

I want what Davide and Keye have,

I want what Bec and Bailey have.

I want that.

It sucks knowing
that I don't have that.

Yeah.
REBECCA LAUGHS

You have to get it. It's there.

Aw, that's really hard for Nelly.

PAUL: Yeah.
CHARLENE: Yeah.

MEL: Bailey and Rebecca are
in a great place.

Just such a blatant contrast
between Steven and Nelly right now.

And I think also the question
for Nelly is, "Does he consider me?

"Does he respect me?

"Does he care for me
enough to show me affection?"

Hmm. I think these are the things
that she's not getting from Steven

that she's seeing around the table.

INDISTINCT CHATTER
LAUGHTER

Do you think you both, like, dropped
them walls down for each other?

Not fully, no. Not fully. I did.

I came into this.
I was open and vulnerable,

but I did... Like, I am hurt.

Even last night,
I came back and I just cried.

I was like...
It feels like a break-up.

Like, I'm really sad.

TEARFULLY: Um...

NELLY SNIFFS

MEL: You know,
watching Nelly tonight,

it looks like she's coming
to that realisation

that perhaps this is
not the right relationship

for her to be in... Yeah.

..and it's all hitting her.

And this is what we see at this
end of the experiment,

isn't it, quite often?
Where things become really serious

and they're starting to think
about this relationship

in the context of the
outside world as well. Yeah.

You do deserve the world.
And I've said this before,

but it's like I'm not doing
things that you need.

I know.
So where do I go from here?

I came into the experiment
letting my walls completely down,

and I hoped to meet a partner
that would match that.

It just sucks.

I think it sucks more because
Steven and I started off so good.

We could have been there,
but we aren't.

And I don't really get why.

NELLY SNIFFS TEARFULLY

WEDDING BELLS RING

WEDDING BELLS RING

INDISTINCT CHATTER

Aw. Bleurgh!

THEY CHUCKLE

Ooh.

Goddamn, that was a good kiss,
baby G.

Aw. Did you guys miss each other
during partner swap week?

BAILEY: Oh, God, I missed her
like crazy.

Go on. Tell Abi all about how
you missed me. ABI: Aw.
But it felt like a nice time,

missing each other for a week.
I missed her.

She came back as well,
and we were both like new people -

extra loving.

How are you doing?
Yeah, at the end of the day,

I wanted to obviously just
chat to Rebecca

and see how she got on and
what her opinions were of it all,

and then she's basically said
that I'm taking the piss,

I'm leading you on.

That's not what I said.
I'm not doing that.

That was Rebecca's
interpretation of it.

That's not the way I said it.

It just feels like I'm
the bad guy in this situation,

and that's what's
getting my back up.

I didn't say anything slating you.

And I never painted you out
to be like anyone.

Yeah.

The only issue I had...

..you don't really
feel good enough for her

and you're not the man
that she's looking for.

Basically, that your feelings are
so

emotionally invested
in this relationship

and April isn't at where you're at.

And that's where I thought,
"Hang on a minute.

"You're doing so much here."

I worry that, like,
how far that's going to go.

Because she is your dream woman,

she's everything
that you're looking for

and if there's no potential
in this relationship

from April's point of view,

then you need to back off
with how much you're doing...

..because you're going
to get yourself hurt.

CHARLENE: Though
it's really hard for Leo

to hear all this feedback
from the others,

actually, this is the opportunity
for him to self-reflect,

think about what he might need
to hold back on,

creating boundaries. Mm-hmm.

INDISTINCT CHATTER
LAUGHTER

If you do want to talk or anything,
just let me know.

GRACE: I just... I think I've
entered, like, a defensive...

..annoyed stage,

which I don't really
want to feel or be,

but I think you know
I'm just really hurt.

The fact that I'm not doing
what the experts said

and I'm not dealing
with confrontation well...

But my view on it as well
is if you could really see...

..who I was, you would never think
that the compliment was backhanded.

You would never think that the
things that I do are to upset you.

To be honest with you,
I've asked a few people about

the compliment and I think, yeah,
everyone's sort of in agreeance.

It's, like, just not the most
uplifting, elevating compliment.

And honestly, in a marriage,

I do expect to be able to speak

without you thinking
it's a personal attack. Yeah.

I really can't understand,

like, missing the mark
with a compliment

and how that ended up
being such a fixation for you.

It's not once, though, is it?

It's...

Right, but if it's missing the mark,
you should want to get it right.

It shouldn't be
that you use the fact

that you're a good person
to wash your hands of it,

and blame me for taking it wrong.

I didn't take it wrong.
I took it as it was said.

If Ash hasn't heard me now,
he will never hear me.

You know what the issue is?

It's that you just aren't
listening.

It doesn't matter what
was said, I just...

It wasn't the right
compliment for me.

And I feel like when I'm
doing those nice things,

I'm not going to be able to
watch every single letter

of every single sentence,
because there's only one letter

that would have changed that
from "a woman" to, like, you.

And I put a word in there

that has made you take it wrong

when it's, in my eyes...

I'm just saying my view on it.

I'm not saying that you're wrong.

I'm saying that,
if I give you a compliment

in that moment and it's just
me and you in the room

with what's happening in that
moment, I don't understand...

Shall I...? Do you want me
to literally ding a glass

and take this to the table
and ask for a show of hands

who thinks it's an
uplifting compliment?

Do you really need the validation
from the group on this,

or are you willing to just...?
Why am I asking for validation?

I'm trying to explain to you...
No, but this is what I'm saying.

It's like you're not going
to listen to me

until you hear it from everyone else
that it wasn't a compliment.

So is that what you need?

I'll give it to you. No, I think
I'm just... I don't need it.

PAUL: The tit-for-tat, the going
back and forth, is exhausting.

And what you're seeing is how people
who genuinely like each other

can actually hurt each other.

I feel like you both have
put a lot into it.

You've both worked very hard. Yeah.

But I do feel like you both haven't
understood each other from day one,

in terms of
who you both really are.

There's so many positives of
what you've brought to one another,

but there's still that...

You're not really communicating
to understand each other.

LEIGH: Hmm, and it's still a battle,

rather than a resolution.
Result, yeah.

But I'm saying I'll put
my hands up to that now,

cos the person I've been
for the majority of this was

when something happened,
I'd go, "Oh, no, no, come here."

Kind, caring, receptive, doing it.

I feel chipped away so much

that now I'm not reacting well
in them situations.

And I put my hands up to that.
Yeah, I find that insulting.

I feel like I've done
so much to support Ash.

I don't feel I have
chipped away at you.

I feel chipped away at myself,

so I just think it's a bit of
a cop-out, really, to say that.

There was a real opportunity there,
I think, for both of them to open up

and to sort of say, "You're right.

"We're both not getting
our needs met."

But unfortunately,
what Ashley has done here

is gone into blaming mode again.

That's just going to get Grace
on the back foot.

I just... I just wish conversations
with us could go differently.

I never really feel...

..listened to or resolved or...

I just always feel brushed off.

What is it that you don't
feel heard about, Grace?

You're right. I'm wrong.

That's the only way we ever move
forward. No... LEAH: Let her speak.

You don't feel I've supported you.

It is all just tit-for-tat, still,
and it is all so defensive

and I just... I'm really sad

because everything's
gone really sour.

I don't know if I'm ever going
to be able to see you

in the same light again
and you don't seem to care.

CHARLENE: I think the point
that Grace has been making

is that she just wanted an apology.

And I think that if Ashley
was able to take

some kind of recognition for
the hurt that he caused her,

I think that would have
gone a long way

in terms of where they are now.

Grace, I've got
so much love for you.

We're just two pages
from different books.

And I can't see that
we're ever gonna match up.

Are you in the headspace, Grace,

where you want to maybe pursue or,
like, still keep the book open?

I can't work with...this.

How do you feel, Ash?

Same.

PAUL:Wow.Oh.
CHARLENE TUTS

That's something.

I think I just... I have felt
in this experiment, like, unheard.

It feels so unresolved
and I am really hurt

about a lot of what's gone on.

I would love if we could just...

..agree that there was
two parties here and not...

..put it on me
and that I was struggling,

cos when you say
I was struggling,

you don't account for the fact
that you were part of my struggle.

In fact, you were...

..the only reason
I continued to struggle -

because I wanted to
be here with you.

I'm not saying that
to chip away at you, Ash.

I'm just trying to explain
how I feel we got to this point.

If you want my honest opinion...

ASH SCOFFS
..I can't agree with it.

Can I say, you're just
butting heads.

What Grace is saying,
she feels like

she hasn't had the opportunity
to say her side.

She hasn't had the opportunity
to give all of her side

because she feels like
it's chipping away.

The reason Grace doesn't
feel like she's had

a chance to put her side across

is because she's felt like
when I go to ask for advice,

that I'm throwing her
under the bus,

that I'm painting
a bad picture of her.

So, me asking people
for advice on it

is never me throwing you
under the bus.

But Ash, I hear it come back to me

and it's a different
version of events.

It's not... Grace, he probably
speaks to me a lot.

I've never even...
Whatever he's ever said to me,

I've never been like,
"How dare she?" Or "How..."

Honestly, it's never been like
that.

It's never been Ash's right,
you're wrong,

you're right, Ash is wrong.

Since day one,
Grace has had a voice.

Because her voice is normally things
that I'm doing wrong

and things that I have
to change about me.

She's been nitpicking.

How do you not have a voice?

PAUL: This is
absolutely heartbreaking

because you have a couple
where they have shared values,

a shared vision for life,

they're physically attracted
to each other,

but yet can't communicate.

Hmm. And this is the illustration
of why communication

is everything in a relationship.

Should I go and find him?

If you want to go check on him,
you can go check on him, Grace.

Honestly, if that's what your
heart's telling you to do,

you do it.

This shows that Grace
does genuinely care

about Ashley as a person,

but she's so in doubt about

her own gut instinct here,

she's questioning everything.

WEDDING BELLS RING

WEDDING BELLS RING

Go check on him. Has he gone...?

I'll go with you. Go check on him.

Come on.

I'm not saying that
I'm in the right.

Let's just... Let's just stop.

Let's just stop.

Genuinely, Ash, I'm so sorry
that you feel chipped away at

and like I broke you.

I'm sure you know, deep down,
that was never my intention.

I never wanted this.

There's so much I love about you,
Ash. I've said it all before.

There's...

There's so much...
Yeah. There it is.

Can I sit next to Ash?
Yeah, of course you can.

GRACE QUIETLY: Can I put my arm
around you?

ASH SNIFFS
No?ASH:Ah, it's just...

I'm struggling with the amount...

..that you find wrong with me.

OK. And I just want to stress...

..there is so much
I find right with you, Ash.

Cos I don't feel like you've ever

really seen me for who I am.

I do see you for who you are.

I didn't want this to end this way.

I didn't either.

It doesn't have to end.

This isn't going to go anywhere.

I don't know what
we're trying to work through.

ASH VOICEOVER: Grace overanalyses

and always looks
for the bad in things.

I feel absolutely spent
and burnt out

with changing who I am
to validate Grace's feelings.

I just feel like I can't
give any more to this,

so I have to be selfish
and put myself first.

TEARFULLY: I would have really liked
if this had worked out.

I think we recognise now there
was never any way it was going to.

But yeah.

You do know that, deep down.

GRACE VOICEOVER: I think there was
a time where Ash and I

had something worth fighting for,

and I think I've made it clear
what I needed and asked for,

but I just don't think
he's listening.

If I could have got through to Ash,

if I could have helped Ash see
where I'm coming from...

I'm not convinced he
will ever see my point of view,

but I hope he'll come close to it
at some point.

Maybe he could have been the one.

There's so much I love about Ash.
That's never changed.

I think it's just too far gone now.

It's just beyond repair.

Next time...

Welcome to Wales. Thank you.

..homestays get underway.

Oh, this is nice.
This is where you'll be sleeping.

While it's a warm welcome for
some...

Hi! Oh! Hi! Hello.

You are everything that
we could have wished for him.

This is the perfect match.

..others face a much
tougher grilling.

I've struggled to see a future
with Leo outside of the experiment.

It looks almost like
you've made your mind up.

She ain't perfect, mate.
Maybe she's not for you.

And...

I have some information that
I'm going to have to drop Nelly.

..when a scandalous secret
is exposed...

Oh. Why have you wasted
her time in this experiment?

You don't respect her,
you don't care about her

and you've made her feel like shit.

..it threatens to detonate
Nelly's marriage to Steven.

She deserves 100 times better.

DOOR SLAMS SHUT

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