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This programme contains
strong language,
scenes of sexual nature and nudity
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I'm nervous. I'm going to take it
one step at a time.
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In a world saturated with sex...
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I'm absolutely petrified.
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...more young adults than ever
are living without it.
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The thought of having
sex with someone...
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...scares me.
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It gives me the ick.
I'm missing out.
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Terrified. Nerve-racking.
Gut-wrenching. Embarrassing.
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All I think about is
what I'm going to get wrong.
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Can you point to the outer labia?
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Nope.
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Now... Oh, my God!
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...12 virgins are getting
a crash course in intimacy.
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Social media, porn, dating apps -
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there are so many negative messages
and we can help them blossom.
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Use it by stimulating the area.
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They'll be guided by experts...
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You see yourself as? Repulsive.
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...to explore all
aspects of intimacy...
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...and maybe even have sex
with a trained therapist...
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Do you want to put a condom on?
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...or each other.
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Get a room, guys!
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I really do need to change my life.
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Who will be ready...
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Desperate times call
for desperate measures.
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...to go all the way?
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MOANING
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CHEERING
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Over the last few days
on Virgin Island,
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the group were challenged to
bare all in the nudity phase...
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This is my body.
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...which led to
breakthroughs for Ed...
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Will you touch my scars
while I touch yours? Yes.
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I feel like I can be vulnerable
as well and, like, I'm not alone.
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...and Tegan.
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Look at my pussy. Mm-hm.
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It's a very nice pussy.
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Mm, that's nice.
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Oh. I'm buzzing!
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It was the first time I had
my fingers inside another woman.
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Bertie also reached
an important milestone.
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Good. That was my first kiss.
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You did great.
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We're making very good progress
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and I am feeling
absolutely incredible.
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Now, halfway through the course,
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the group are about to
enter a whole new realm.
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The truth is that many people have
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a lot of kinky fantasies and
desires, and it's really
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important to give people permission
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to explore those parts
of themselves.
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And we know just the
person who can help
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the group unlock their kink
in a very playful way.
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Is that for me?
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LAUGHTER
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Brilliant. Another letter.
Another day in paradise.
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It's the fifth phase of the
course and time for some fun.
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"It's time to explore.
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"The next phase of
the course is Play Time."
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Oh...
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HE SIGHS
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I imagine they don't mean an Xbox.
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What do you reckon
we're gonna be playing?
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Er... Oh, noughts and crosses?
Oh, I'd love that.
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This is gonna be fun, I think.
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For me, anyway.
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Not so sure how some of
the others are gonna take it.
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Some will be more nervous
than others, I think, but, yeah...
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I'm excited.
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Well, I'm sure the cuffs are
coming out today, so...
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Oh, mate!
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Bertie, how are you feeling
about this phase?
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God knows what's going to happen.
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Mm-hm. After what I've
done in the last phase,
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there's no going back, so, yeah.
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It's Play Time.
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If there's a ball pit,
that'd be great.
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LAUGHTER
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With vulvas and penises.
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LAUGHTER
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In today's workshop...
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Morning, guys.
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Hello! Hi, y'all!
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...the experts want to encourage
the group to find pleasure in play.
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Some people might think,
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"Oh, why are you bringing in
kinks with a bunch of virgins?"
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but, ultimately,
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they need to have the full menu of
options because maybe they're not
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having sex because they
haven't found the sex
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that really turns them on.
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Sex is this place
that adults go to play
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and this phase is all
about inviting you to play.
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We have a special
guest for you today,
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who is going to help you
explore different ways
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that you might want to play.
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We want to welcome Shelby.
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Ooh...
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Sorry.
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I didn't say anything.
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You're not the only one.
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Hello, everyone.
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Hey. Hello.
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I am a BDSM and kink expert
from San Francisco, California.
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Some of you are probably thinking
this might be a little advanced,
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but it's a game of
leading and following,
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and I'm betting that
most of you struggle
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when it comes to leading and
following sexual encounters,
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and so that's why we're going
to explore that today.
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Sex makes everyone feel
really vulnerable
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and so what I want for the
virgins is to understand
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that what turns them on is
good and should be normalised.
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Education around BDSM is grounded
in consent and boundaries,
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and I want them to have a safe
and meaningful experience.
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BDSM is an acronym.
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It means bondage, dominance,
submission and masochism.
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A way to think about BDSM
and kink is adults playing
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a very sexy game of pretend.
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And what better way
for the games to begin
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than a lesson in submission?
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Submissives want
undivided attention.
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They know deep down that they
want someone to take the reins,
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and this is what we're
going to explore today
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for our first adventure.
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Is anyone curious to
come up here and try?
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LAUGHTER
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Ohhh!
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Ooh, I don't know, I don't know.
What do you think?
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They both raised their
hand at the same time!
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Take both of 'em!
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LAUGHTER
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That sounds great.
Both of you, come here.
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I hope you're both good at sharing.
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I fantasise being more
in a submissive role,
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probably from me not
knowing what I'm doing.
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I'd rather have a girl
taking the dominant role.
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I've always been curious
about what it would be like
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to be in that situation.
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You know why you're both up
here at the same time?
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Why?
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I don't need you to talk. OK. Sorry.
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It's because it would take
both of you to satisfy me.
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Do you think you have what it takes?
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I think so. Then get on your knees.
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Adequate.
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I think we have some work
to do before you're ready.
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Look how bad they are.
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You nailed it.
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Can I give you a hug? Yeah.
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Good job.
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Thank you for trusting me.
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I need a cold shower after that one.
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As the tools of her
trade are revealed...
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SHE GASPS
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...Mistress Shelby is happy
to help the group experiment.
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How long before you ask me to bark?
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Do you want to bark for me?
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HE BARKS
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Good boy.
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Bondage can make people
feel really safe.
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Think of getting a really firm hug.
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That lowers our blood pressure
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when we have that
compression in our body.
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It can make us feel calm
and secure and held.
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Nice. Very good.
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Can you make it back to your
seat with the bondage on?
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Good job.
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All right.
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So, now, we're going
to get into impact play.
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OK.
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CHATTER AND LAUGHTER
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As the group relaxes
and becomes more playful,
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some begin to explore
their own fantasies...
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Climb up here and get
on all fours, please.
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...as 22-year-old theatre usher
Millie takes to the stage.
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My fantasy would be...
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SHE GIGGLES
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...people dominating
the other person,
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and I'd be the one
that's being dominated.
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That makes me feel a bit...
fuzzy and warm inside.
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I'm like, "You know what?
Maybe I'd like that."
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This is a paddle. See, Millie?
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LAUGHTER
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And when it comes to spanking,
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for some, it's not just
a physical sensation.
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What happens in the brain is we get
a lot of cortisol and opiates,
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and basically we get a
lot of fun brain drugs.
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It heightens our pleasure.
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Good girl, Millie.
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Taking it like a champ.
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How did that feel?
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Mm... Yeah.
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Good job, Millie!
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CHEERING
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Are you able to sit down?
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LAUGHTER
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Thank you, Millie.
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No, thank YOU.
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It's my pleasure, truly.
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Millie, was that the first time
you've ever been spanked?
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Like THAT, yeah.
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LAUGHTER
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I'm on cloud nine right now.
Like, I really enjoyed it.
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I think it was something
that I've really wanted to do
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for a while and I knew I would like.
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That was a lot, but Jesus Christ.
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Privately, it's something I can
certainly imagine myself doing.
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Erm...
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In front of everybody else...
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...it's a bit much, but we're
breaking down boundaries, I guess.
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I'm in love, guys.
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With Shelby? Yeah, fair.
She's fantastic.
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It does feel like my thing
is being more submissive.
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If we were given the chance to
explore this in a one-to-one,
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I would absolutely go for it.
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But not everyone is feeling
the Shelby effect.
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How did you find it, Bertie? Erm...
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I mean, it's not exactly
my cup of tea, but, erm...
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...I've got nothing
against people that do.
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I just didn't participate
because it's not my thing.
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Fair. I mean, I've never had sex,
that's why I'm here,
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but I'm probably going to
be as vanilla as they come.
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I've never really been that
adventurous in other things.
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I don't think I'd be particularly
kinky in the bedroom at all,
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so, at this point in time,
and possibly forever,
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these kinds of activities
are not for me.
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Do you want me to spank your bum?
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Yes, please.
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It's the afternoon on Virgin Island.
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Roll over and get on all fours.
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The Play Time workshop is
already having a big impact
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on some of the group...
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Mm... That was a good one!
That was a good one!
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Hello, everyone. Hello!
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...and Shelby is hoping
to get everyone involved
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in some extracurricular activity.
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I have a box of goodies
for you all to enjoy.
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Yay! Yes!
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You can either explore on
your own or with a partner.
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Have as much fun as
you possibly can today.
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Thank you. Bye. Thanks, Shelby. Bye.
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Immediately getting in there.
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Oh, my God. Whoa. Ha-ha!
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This is just Fifty Shades of Grey
right here. Oh, sweeties!
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Edible underwear. Is it?
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Is it? Whoa.
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It could be someone's
laundry they just found!
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LAUGHTER
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LAUGHTER
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Hello!
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Dinner's ready!
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Is it yummy? They're really good.
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As the group continues to play...
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Come with me!
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LAUGHTER
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...it's clear some are embracing
the theme more than others.
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Are you having fun?
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I am. Good. Sit.
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Ooooh!
261
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Do you want to kneel for me?
262
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OK, we'll try that again later.
263
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You're getting too excited now.
264
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LAUGHTER
265
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Will's excitement for
the Play Time Phase
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has caught the attention
of the experts.
267
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Will came up for a little
bondage today, which was great,
268
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and he liked being a puppy.
269
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That was such a fun
surprise when he barked.
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LAUGHTER
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I was like, "Yes!"
272
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I had a few sessions with Will,
273
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and it seems like he's
starting to hold his arousal
274
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and get really excited without
accidentally ejaculating,
275
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and now he's been in a
place of, "OK, but what next?"
276
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So far at the retreat...
277
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Whoa! That's fast for a first date.
278
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...the experts have been
encouraging Will to take his time...
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Let yourself actually check.
280
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What do you want to do?
281
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And slow it down.
282
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We're slowing it down.
283
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...and Aisha...
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Taking a breath.
285
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...has used basic touch exercises...
286
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Shit, please don't come,
please don't come.
287
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...to assess his
premature ejaculation...
288
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I think this is what I needed.
289
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...but now, she wants to take
things to the next level.
290
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Hello! Hi.
291
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My greatest fear if things
carry on the way they are is
292
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just never finding anyone,
never finding love,
293
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never getting to have any,
like, sexual experiences,
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no romantic experiences,
none of that.
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That'd be sad, yeah.
296
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What I would recommend is getting
undressed and direct, skin-on-skin
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genital touch, and we track arousal
and you practise regulating
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your nervous system without
experiencing premature ejaculation.
299
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Yes. Yes. Thank you.
300
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OK, so when you're ready.
301
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Thank you.
Inviting you to start undressing.
302
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What we want to do is train Will
303
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to move as close to
orgasm as possible
304
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without coming.
305
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If he can do that, then he can
finally overcome his fear
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that he's going to
ejaculate early with a lover.
307
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And getting comfortable,
taking some breaths.
308
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Ahh...
309
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Aisha will monitor Will's arousal
using a scale from zero to four,
310
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with four being orgasm.
311
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So, I have a suggestion.
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We agree on, like,
two or three strokes,
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and you'll let me know as
you're moving up the scale,
314
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so like, "I'm a one, I'm a two,
I'm a three,
315
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"I'm a three-and-a-half."
316
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Sounds good. OK.
317
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I'm going to come on the table
318
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and I'm going to move
this leg over me, OK,
319
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and now this one.
320
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I'm just going to
shift myself forward.
321
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OK, great. OK.
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HE CHUCKLES
323
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So, taking a breath.
324
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Ohh...
325
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Two.
326
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Yeah, we're still at a two.
327
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Before long,
things start to escalate.
328
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HE EXHALES
Yeah, I'm climbing, I'm climbing.
329
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OK, so keep breathing.
330
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Oh, shit. Take a breath. Breathe.
331
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HE INHALES
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THEY EXHALE
333
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And just keep breathing. Breathe in.
334
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And now, this third time,
you're gonna breathe in,
335
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you're gonna hold, and you're
gonna tense everything.
336
00:16:08,040 --> 00:16:10,760
And tense, tense,
tense, tense, tense,
337
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tense, tense, tense, tense, tense.
338
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And hold it for as long as
you can, Will. Hold. Tense.
339
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And then, when you're ready,
you can relax.
340
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THEY EXHALE
341
00:16:23,160 --> 00:16:25,240
Yeah, I didn't come.
Yeah, I beat it! Woo!
342
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Woo! Come on! Thank you. High five!
343
00:16:28,000 --> 00:16:29,680
Yes! I was so close as well.
344
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I was like, "Ah, shit."
345
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I'm really aware of, like,
346
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how close I was at the start,
like, nervous-wise,
347
00:16:37,160 --> 00:16:38,480
but Aisha's amazing.
348
00:16:38,520 --> 00:16:40,600
I really feel like that treatment
is kind of what I need
349
00:16:40,640 --> 00:16:42,080
before I do anything else,
350
00:16:42,120 --> 00:16:44,920
so I feel confident about now,
like, moving forward.
351
00:16:47,840 --> 00:16:49,840
You're walking back with,
like, a swagger.
352
00:16:49,880 --> 00:16:51,560
You ARE walking back
with swagger. Yeah.
353
00:16:51,600 --> 00:16:53,360
Will didn't come,
which was the objective.
354
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CHEERING
355
00:16:54,920 --> 00:16:56,640
Thank you, thank you. Well done.
356
00:16:56,680 --> 00:16:59,200
Yeah, just, like, getting to the
point where I think I'm gonna come
357
00:16:59,240 --> 00:17:00,440
and then, like, kind of stopping,
358
00:17:00,480 --> 00:17:02,560
like, breathe, breath-work
and, like...
359
00:17:02,600 --> 00:17:04,360
Oh, right. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
360
00:17:04,400 --> 00:17:05,800
But, yeah, progress.
361
00:17:05,840 --> 00:17:07,760
Let's go! Thank you.
362
00:17:10,440 --> 00:17:13,040
Will's not the only
one making progress.
363
00:17:13,080 --> 00:17:16,560
Would you say the
goals are being met?
364
00:17:16,600 --> 00:17:17,600
Yeah.
365
00:17:17,640 --> 00:17:20,680
As part of the surrogate
partner therapy programme,
366
00:17:20,720 --> 00:17:24,080
clinical therapist Abby checks
in with some of the group.
367
00:17:25,120 --> 00:17:27,760
What does a good ending
look like to you?
368
00:17:27,800 --> 00:17:29,040
Erm...
369
00:17:29,080 --> 00:17:33,000
Giving and receiving,
like, pleasure and orgasm.
370
00:17:33,040 --> 00:17:34,440
OK. Good.
371
00:17:34,480 --> 00:17:35,680
Yeah. Good!
372
00:17:36,880 --> 00:17:40,960
Meanwhile, Marianne is with
Andre, challenging herself...
373
00:17:41,000 --> 00:17:45,640
This is an invitation if we wanted
to potentially de-robe some clothing
374
00:17:45,680 --> 00:17:47,160
to your comfort level.
375
00:17:47,200 --> 00:17:49,640
...to overcome her
trust issues with men.
376
00:17:49,680 --> 00:17:51,800
I'm happy to go to,
like, my underwear.
377
00:17:52,800 --> 00:17:54,840
Marianne is doing extremely well,
378
00:17:54,880 --> 00:17:58,200
connecting and building
emotional intimacy with Andre.
379
00:17:58,240 --> 00:17:59,560
Breathe in.
380
00:17:59,600 --> 00:18:02,960
Taking things slow is
definitely the right way for her
381
00:18:03,000 --> 00:18:04,880
to move through this work.
382
00:18:04,920 --> 00:18:06,840
Hold.
383
00:18:06,880 --> 00:18:08,320
Breathe out.
384
00:18:08,360 --> 00:18:11,320
Each time, I'm trying to push
myself just a little bit further,
385
00:18:11,360 --> 00:18:15,600
so I'm feeling very content with
that, and I'm excited to know more.
386
00:18:16,680 --> 00:18:19,560
All right, ready? Yep.
You can undress with me. Yes. OK.
387
00:18:19,600 --> 00:18:22,960
Having proved he can get
and maintain an erection...
388
00:18:23,000 --> 00:18:25,000
Let's do some bossy touch.
How do you feel about that?
389
00:18:25,040 --> 00:18:26,520
Yeah, comfortable. OK.
390
00:18:26,560 --> 00:18:28,400
Take the tips of your fingers
391
00:18:28,440 --> 00:18:31,000
and run them on the
tops of my thighs.
392
00:18:31,040 --> 00:18:35,040
...Alex is moving along in surrogate
partner therapy with Risdon.
393
00:18:35,080 --> 00:18:37,120
Mm-hm. That's nice.
394
00:18:37,160 --> 00:18:40,680
Alex is one that can
get caught in his mind...
395
00:18:40,720 --> 00:18:42,760
Touch my face,
starting at the forehead,
396
00:18:42,800 --> 00:18:45,080
and then caressing
your way down slowly.
397
00:18:45,120 --> 00:18:48,840
...but he definitely can
work through a lot of that.
398
00:18:48,880 --> 00:18:50,200
It's sexy when you're bossy.
399
00:18:50,240 --> 00:18:51,360
OK.
400
00:18:51,400 --> 00:18:52,400
How are you feeling?
401
00:18:52,440 --> 00:18:55,840
Good. I feel confident
and no pressure on,
402
00:18:55,880 --> 00:18:57,320
like, thinking I have
to get an erection
403
00:18:57,360 --> 00:18:58,600
cos I need to practise
getting an erection.
404
00:18:58,640 --> 00:19:01,000
Oh, yeah. Great. Great.
405
00:19:06,880 --> 00:19:08,240
MUFFLED: Do you want a kiss?
406
00:19:09,360 --> 00:19:10,680
LAUGHTER
407
00:19:10,720 --> 00:19:15,000
It's late afternoon and the group
are embracing the Play Time theme.
408
00:19:15,040 --> 00:19:18,000
It doesn't feel that sharp.
It feels quite... nice, really, yeah.
409
00:19:18,040 --> 00:19:20,280
See, I would just use this
as a pizza wheel, couldn't you?
410
00:19:20,320 --> 00:19:21,440
LAUGHTER
411
00:19:21,480 --> 00:19:24,200
But when it comes
to playing games...
412
00:19:24,240 --> 00:19:27,040
Let's go with D7.
413
00:19:28,040 --> 00:19:29,080
Hit.
414
00:19:29,120 --> 00:19:31,360
...not everyone is in the same boat.
415
00:19:31,400 --> 00:19:32,720
D8.
416
00:19:32,760 --> 00:19:33,760
Hit.
417
00:19:33,800 --> 00:19:35,600
D9. Hit.
418
00:19:35,640 --> 00:19:37,280
And let's finish up with D10.
419
00:19:37,320 --> 00:19:39,320
Hit. You have sunk my battleship.
420
00:19:39,360 --> 00:19:40,360
Cool.
421
00:19:42,000 --> 00:19:43,280
Let's talk about Ed.
422
00:19:43,320 --> 00:19:48,240
Today at the workshop, his curiosity
came out and I think this phase
423
00:19:48,280 --> 00:19:51,880
is really hitting his
desires and interests.
424
00:19:51,920 --> 00:19:55,440
Yeah, he was very engaged
in the workshop,
425
00:19:55,480 --> 00:19:58,720
so when I see him today, I think
we're going to start getting more
426
00:19:58,760 --> 00:20:01,560
comfortable sharing his
fantasies and desires,
427
00:20:01,600 --> 00:20:03,120
and find some confidence.
428
00:20:05,440 --> 00:20:07,840
Hello. Hi, Ed.
Lovely to see you again.
429
00:20:07,880 --> 00:20:09,120
Are we hugging? Can do.
430
00:20:09,160 --> 00:20:11,000
OK, come here.
431
00:20:11,040 --> 00:20:13,240
Life for me, growing up,
wasn't easy.
432
00:20:13,280 --> 00:20:16,160
Being bullied made me lose
a lot of my confidence.
433
00:20:16,200 --> 00:20:20,880
I've worked on it, but it doesn't
take much to knock me back down.
434
00:20:20,920 --> 00:20:22,240
Just lay down, sweetie.
435
00:20:23,760 --> 00:20:25,360
Yeah, that's good.
436
00:20:25,400 --> 00:20:27,800
It's just led to me
having an attitude of,
437
00:20:27,840 --> 00:20:31,400
"Why bother? I'm going to fail,
I can't do this,"
438
00:20:31,440 --> 00:20:35,560
which isn't a great attitude to have
for a lot of things, especially sex.
439
00:20:36,560 --> 00:20:39,200
How does this feel?
It feels nice. Yeah?
440
00:20:39,240 --> 00:20:41,560
After a moment of connection,
441
00:20:41,600 --> 00:20:44,520
Shelby begins exploring
Ed's submissive side.
442
00:20:46,160 --> 00:20:50,160
I think you get turned on by
being humiliated a little bit.
443
00:20:50,200 --> 00:20:53,520
Yeah. Yeah. It's probably cos I
was bullied quite a lot at school.
444
00:20:53,560 --> 00:20:56,800
Oh, OK. So that was kind of,
like, what I was used to. Yeah.
445
00:20:56,840 --> 00:20:59,240
Sometimes that source of pain
446
00:20:59,280 --> 00:21:01,240
that we experience,
447
00:21:01,280 --> 00:21:04,000
we can kind of reclaim it.
448
00:21:04,040 --> 00:21:06,920
I have some good ideas
for you, I think. OK.
449
00:21:08,120 --> 00:21:10,080
Shelby's methods
are based on studies
450
00:21:10,120 --> 00:21:14,120
that identify how people
respond to being humiliated.
451
00:21:14,160 --> 00:21:15,200
Get on your knees.
452
00:21:15,240 --> 00:21:17,360
They might be extreme
in the outside world,
453
00:21:17,400 --> 00:21:20,520
but, in a supportive
environment, can get results.
454
00:21:20,560 --> 00:21:23,240
One of the reasons
people might crave being
455
00:21:23,280 --> 00:21:26,160
humiliated is if you
have a bad emotional
456
00:21:26,200 --> 00:21:29,280
or psychological experience
at a formative age,
457
00:21:29,320 --> 00:21:32,920
as an adult, you might want
to make it work for you
458
00:21:32,960 --> 00:21:35,960
to feel confident
and empowered and safe.
459
00:21:36,000 --> 00:21:38,480
The communication and
trust and safety
460
00:21:38,520 --> 00:21:41,360
is what allows someone
to fully surrender.
461
00:21:41,400 --> 00:21:42,480
Crawl forward.
462
00:21:44,920 --> 00:21:45,920
Stop.
463
00:21:45,960 --> 00:21:47,640
{\an8}Put your head down on the ground.
464
00:21:49,960 --> 00:21:51,640
Do you want my attention?
Yes, ma'am.
465
00:21:51,680 --> 00:21:53,960
Do you deserve my attention?
No, ma'am.
466
00:21:54,000 --> 00:21:56,680
That's right. You have to earn it.
467
00:21:56,720 --> 00:21:58,680
So be good.
468
00:21:58,720 --> 00:21:59,760
Crawl back to me.
469
00:22:01,560 --> 00:22:05,000
Throughout the session, Shelby
will use a traffic light system
470
00:22:05,040 --> 00:22:08,040
to ensure Ed remains in
control of what's happening.
471
00:22:08,080 --> 00:22:09,360
Tell me your colour.
472
00:22:09,400 --> 00:22:10,400
Green.
473
00:22:14,320 --> 00:22:15,920
A footstool.
474
00:22:15,960 --> 00:22:17,840
That might be...
475
00:22:17,880 --> 00:22:20,080
...an acceptable use for you.
476
00:22:20,120 --> 00:22:23,360
I think it's going to be difficult
for you to fuck this up.
477
00:22:23,400 --> 00:22:25,120
What do you think?
478
00:22:25,160 --> 00:22:26,160
Yes, ma'am.
479
00:22:26,200 --> 00:22:28,280
Yes? You think you're
a good footstool?
480
00:22:28,320 --> 00:22:29,360
Yes, ma'am.
481
00:22:29,400 --> 00:22:30,880
SHE SIGHS
482
00:22:33,760 --> 00:22:35,120
Are you enjoying this?
483
00:22:35,160 --> 00:22:36,160
Yes, ma'am.
484
00:22:37,240 --> 00:22:38,520
You bad, bad boy.
485
00:22:39,640 --> 00:22:43,240
By associating insults
with play rather than pain,
486
00:22:43,280 --> 00:22:46,800
Shelby hopes to help Ed
reframe his past trauma.
487
00:22:46,840 --> 00:22:49,160
Why don't you roll around on the
ground for me a little bit more?
488
00:22:54,040 --> 00:22:56,920
SHE LAUGHS
489
00:22:56,960 --> 00:22:58,640
You look ridiculous!
490
00:22:58,680 --> 00:23:00,360
Come on, give me some enthusiasm!
491
00:23:00,400 --> 00:23:01,880
You can't just roll back and forth.
492
00:23:01,920 --> 00:23:04,200
Roll all over. Come on.
493
00:23:09,800 --> 00:23:11,240
All right, stop, stop.
494
00:23:12,280 --> 00:23:13,600
Tell me your colour.
495
00:23:13,640 --> 00:23:14,720
Green.
496
00:23:14,760 --> 00:23:15,840
SHE SIGHS
497
00:23:18,280 --> 00:23:19,960
It was really fun.
498
00:23:20,000 --> 00:23:21,960
I think it was really
helpful as well
499
00:23:22,000 --> 00:23:24,920
because I think finding something
you really do connect with
500
00:23:24,960 --> 00:23:26,800
in these therapies, I think, is...
501
00:23:26,840 --> 00:23:29,600
...is a big thing for your
personal development.
502
00:23:31,760 --> 00:23:33,280
Hey, Ed. How was your one-to-one?
503
00:23:33,320 --> 00:23:35,800
It was so much fun. Yeah.
504
00:23:35,840 --> 00:23:37,960
But I just feel... weird.
505
00:23:39,040 --> 00:23:40,080
Weird good? In what way?
506
00:23:40,120 --> 00:23:42,520
Yeah, weird good. Erm...
507
00:23:42,560 --> 00:23:44,280
Kind of like when
I have a little cry.
508
00:23:44,320 --> 00:23:47,120
Aww. Yeah, man.
We had a cuddle. It was really nice.
509
00:23:47,160 --> 00:23:49,120
Cos it's been so long since
I've cuddled with someone,
510
00:23:49,160 --> 00:23:51,720
I forgot how much I liked that,
but it was really nice.
511
00:24:00,760 --> 00:24:01,760
Good morning.
512
00:24:01,800 --> 00:24:03,920
Are you ready for more Play Time?
513
00:24:03,960 --> 00:24:05,680
Oh, so ready.
514
00:24:05,720 --> 00:24:08,800
It's day two of the Play Time
Phase at the retreat,
515
00:24:08,840 --> 00:24:12,160
and Ed is reflecting on
his session with Shelby.
516
00:24:12,200 --> 00:24:14,640
Yesterday was, like,
a big high... Yeah.
517
00:24:14,680 --> 00:24:16,720
...as you could probably
all tell. Yeah.
518
00:24:16,760 --> 00:24:19,800
See, I woke up and I was like,
"I'm sad now."
519
00:24:19,840 --> 00:24:23,200
Mmm. Any specific reason
why you're feeling sad?
520
00:24:23,240 --> 00:24:25,800
I remembered I really
like cuddling and stuff,
521
00:24:25,840 --> 00:24:28,800
and it's been so long,
and I'd kind of forgotten, like...
522
00:24:28,840 --> 00:24:32,320
I'll cuddle you. We'll cuddle you.
Now I'm, like, I want it every day.
523
00:24:32,360 --> 00:24:33,520
Aww.
524
00:24:33,560 --> 00:24:36,840
I feel like I'm missing out on just
a big part of life's experience.
525
00:24:36,880 --> 00:24:38,440
OK, I get you.
526
00:24:38,480 --> 00:24:39,920
I'm so aching.
527
00:24:39,960 --> 00:24:42,200
I'm not going up
to be spanked again.
528
00:24:42,240 --> 00:24:43,680
My arse, honestly.
529
00:24:43,720 --> 00:24:44,760
More for me!
530
00:24:44,800 --> 00:24:46,280
LAUGHTER
531
00:24:48,120 --> 00:24:49,480
Millie is in luck -
532
00:24:49,520 --> 00:24:53,000
the only spanking today will
be in their imagination.
533
00:24:53,040 --> 00:24:54,720
Hello.
534
00:24:54,760 --> 00:24:57,200
Hello. Oh, no, I'm back.
535
00:24:57,240 --> 00:25:00,040
I'm here to give you a
little homework assignment.
536
00:25:02,400 --> 00:25:05,920
What we would like you to
do is to take some of
537
00:25:05,960 --> 00:25:11,400
your erotic fantasies and
turn them into short stories.
538
00:25:11,440 --> 00:25:12,760
LAUGHTER
539
00:25:12,800 --> 00:25:14,320
Yeah!
540
00:25:14,360 --> 00:25:18,520
OK, I'm seeing some enthusiasm,
there's some hiding...
541
00:25:19,600 --> 00:25:24,200
This is a practice of leaning
into your fantasies more.
542
00:25:24,240 --> 00:25:27,120
Be explicit. Be graphic.
543
00:25:27,160 --> 00:25:28,840
You can do this.
544
00:25:31,000 --> 00:25:32,240
You've gone bright red!
545
00:25:32,280 --> 00:25:33,640
LAUGHTER
546
00:25:35,040 --> 00:25:36,920
Well, have fun.
547
00:25:36,960 --> 00:25:38,200
Heh-heh-heh...
548
00:25:38,240 --> 00:25:40,360
Even the thought is
making you go gremlin.
549
00:25:40,400 --> 00:25:43,640
Yeah! Erm, OK,
I'm gonna go somewhere else
550
00:25:43,680 --> 00:25:46,880
because Callum's giggling
is not part of my fantasy!
551
00:25:46,920 --> 00:25:48,520
LAUGHTER
552
00:25:48,560 --> 00:25:49,960
Don't worry, Callum,
it's part of mine.
553
00:25:51,840 --> 00:25:55,840
The group's homework has set
their creative juices flowing.
554
00:25:55,880 --> 00:25:58,800
Is that sex position called a 69?
555
00:25:58,840 --> 00:26:00,960
Yeah, there is a sex
position called the 69,
556
00:26:01,000 --> 00:26:02,000
but I don't know which one you mean.
557
00:26:02,040 --> 00:26:04,880
Yeah, the 69 is you're both giving
each other oral, basically,
558
00:26:04,920 --> 00:26:06,440
at the same time. Yeah.
559
00:26:06,480 --> 00:26:07,880
Can two women do that?
560
00:26:07,920 --> 00:26:09,040
Absolutely.
561
00:26:10,120 --> 00:26:13,000
But not everyone is
comfortable with the exercise,
562
00:26:13,040 --> 00:26:16,840
as Bertie's erotic
story-writing hits the rocks.
563
00:26:16,880 --> 00:26:17,880
HE SIGHS
564
00:26:19,000 --> 00:26:25,320
I hate every single
aspect of this exercise.
565
00:26:25,360 --> 00:26:29,000
I am not an erotic person
in the slightest.
566
00:26:29,040 --> 00:26:31,760
I mean, just listen -
this is not a voice
567
00:26:31,800 --> 00:26:33,720
you want to hear in the bedroom!
568
00:26:35,400 --> 00:26:36,400
HE EXHALES
569
00:26:38,160 --> 00:26:40,720
While Bertie struggles
with writer's block,
570
00:26:40,760 --> 00:26:44,640
the exercise is causing
other concerns for Tegan.
571
00:26:44,680 --> 00:26:45,720
Do you know what it is, right?
572
00:26:45,760 --> 00:26:47,840
I want to have sex with people,
573
00:26:47,880 --> 00:26:50,480
but I don't want
to underwhelm anyone.
574
00:26:50,520 --> 00:26:52,080
Just practise, Tegan. Mm-hm.
575
00:26:52,120 --> 00:26:53,360
Practice makes perfect.
576
00:26:53,400 --> 00:26:56,600
Mm-hm. You're not going to be
good the first time, are ya?
577
00:26:56,640 --> 00:26:58,320
In a previous session...
578
00:26:58,360 --> 00:27:01,720
See if you can see my
vaginal opening. Mm-hm.
579
00:27:01,760 --> 00:27:05,400
...Tegan touched another woman's
genitals for the first time.
580
00:27:05,440 --> 00:27:07,680
SHE GIGGLES
Mm-hm.
581
00:27:08,760 --> 00:27:11,400
Now they've established
a high level of trust,
582
00:27:11,440 --> 00:27:16,240
Risdon aims to help Tegan explore
a new kind of pleasure through play.
583
00:27:16,280 --> 00:27:17,280
Hi.
584
00:27:18,640 --> 00:27:22,960
I don't know how I would
fare in a sexual encounter.
585
00:27:23,000 --> 00:27:25,200
I read erotica and smut.
586
00:27:25,240 --> 00:27:28,240
I've seen TV shows.
I've seen people having sex.
587
00:27:28,280 --> 00:27:30,880
I think, like, logistically,
I would know what to do,
588
00:27:30,920 --> 00:27:34,840
but to actually be able to do it
is a whole nother thing entirely.
589
00:27:36,240 --> 00:27:39,720
I was thinking, we'll go over
the mechanics of topping.
590
00:27:39,760 --> 00:27:42,560
Yep. All right, cool.
I'm going to take this off.
591
00:27:42,600 --> 00:27:46,920
I want to show you some
harnesses and things.
592
00:27:46,960 --> 00:27:49,720
Cool. And so it'll be good
for me to have pants on.
593
00:27:50,840 --> 00:27:54,000
{\an8}Tegan came onto the island very
clear that she did not want to
594
00:27:54,040 --> 00:27:57,960
{\an8}receive vaginal penetration,
which, culturally,
595
00:27:58,000 --> 00:28:00,400
we would call that
somebody who is a top
596
00:28:00,440 --> 00:28:03,160
versus a bottom in lesbian dynamics,
597
00:28:03,200 --> 00:28:07,160
so it's important for me to
normalise the use of sex toys
598
00:28:07,200 --> 00:28:08,560
with Tegan pretty early on
599
00:28:08,600 --> 00:28:12,480
because it's a common
practice in lesbian sex.
600
00:28:12,520 --> 00:28:14,200
It's the one we got for you.
601
00:28:14,240 --> 00:28:15,840
Cool. Pick which one.
602
00:28:16,960 --> 00:28:19,480
The big boy?
It's closer to me. OK.
603
00:28:19,520 --> 00:28:21,080
All right, so let's see you...
604
00:28:24,720 --> 00:28:27,080
I'll pick the ring first and
be like, "What's going to fit?"
605
00:28:27,120 --> 00:28:29,400
And whatever fits, I want,
like, a tiny bit of room,
606
00:28:29,440 --> 00:28:31,200
so I can put the straps in still.
607
00:28:32,360 --> 00:28:34,080
Through here? Mm-hm.
608
00:28:34,120 --> 00:28:37,240
Lovely. Mm-hm. All right. Now,
try putting it on and see. Cool.
609
00:28:41,360 --> 00:28:42,960
All right, let's try this.
610
00:28:49,240 --> 00:28:51,720
How's that? Yeah, good. Yeah?
OK, all right.
611
00:28:51,760 --> 00:28:54,400
LAUGHS: I'm just gonna
twist it around for you.
612
00:28:54,440 --> 00:28:55,600
Just twist my dick.
613
00:28:55,640 --> 00:28:57,960
LAUGHTER
614
00:28:58,000 --> 00:28:59,120
Ahh...
615
00:28:59,160 --> 00:29:03,560
OK, so we're gonna do some
thrusting mechanics.
616
00:29:03,600 --> 00:29:06,320
I'm getting to the stage where
I'm old enough now that I'm like,
617
00:29:06,360 --> 00:29:10,440
"I want to be wifed up,"
as my friends would put it,
618
00:29:10,480 --> 00:29:15,040
and I feel like I just
need a helping hand -
619
00:29:15,080 --> 00:29:19,200
maybe physically, maybe not -
to help me lose my virginity,
620
00:29:19,240 --> 00:29:21,600
which is all I want, really.
621
00:29:21,640 --> 00:29:23,080
Hit my hand with the dick.
622
00:29:23,120 --> 00:29:24,160
SNIGGERING
623
00:29:25,520 --> 00:29:28,800
Sorry, that's the funniest
thing I've ever heard.
624
00:29:28,840 --> 00:29:31,600
So what I'm seeing you do is
you're kind of this... Yeah.
625
00:29:31,640 --> 00:29:33,240
...and what I want you to do instead,
626
00:29:33,280 --> 00:29:36,400
so there's not this, but this. OK.
627
00:29:36,440 --> 00:29:38,520
So more with the pelvis?
628
00:29:38,560 --> 00:29:40,600
Yeah, that's much better.
629
00:29:40,640 --> 00:29:42,360
Kind of, like, clench your butt
at the top a little bit.
630
00:29:42,400 --> 00:29:43,840
Yeah. That'll give
you more power. Mm-hm.
631
00:29:46,280 --> 00:29:47,400
Good job.
632
00:29:47,440 --> 00:29:49,240
Having grasped the basics,
633
00:29:49,280 --> 00:29:52,240
Risdon wants to see if Tegan
can master thrusting
634
00:29:52,280 --> 00:29:54,840
in different positions.
635
00:29:54,880 --> 00:29:55,880
Great.
636
00:29:55,920 --> 00:29:58,120
TEGAN BREATHES HEAVILY
637
00:29:58,160 --> 00:30:00,320
Yeah, great.
638
00:30:00,360 --> 00:30:03,280
This position seems like the one
that is most natural to your body.
639
00:30:03,320 --> 00:30:06,280
Yeah, I think it is.
OK, cool. That's good, that's good.
640
00:30:06,320 --> 00:30:07,880
All right. What'd you think of that?
641
00:30:07,920 --> 00:30:09,600
Yeah, great educational talk.
642
00:30:12,240 --> 00:30:13,400
It's good. Yeah?
643
00:30:13,440 --> 00:30:16,040
I feel, like, so far ahead of
where I thought I would be
644
00:30:16,080 --> 00:30:18,480
at this stage, so... Yeah.
Thank you.
645
00:30:20,160 --> 00:30:21,520
All right, I'll see you soon.
Yeah, definitely.
646
00:30:21,560 --> 00:30:23,000
Take care. Bye. Thank you. Bye.
647
00:30:24,360 --> 00:30:27,000
No-one's ever taught me
those kind of skills,
648
00:30:27,040 --> 00:30:28,520
so that was very new.
649
00:30:28,560 --> 00:30:33,000
It's very educational and I feel
closer to losing my virginity.
650
00:30:33,040 --> 00:30:35,280
I'm just gonna sit like
this now for a while.
651
00:30:35,320 --> 00:30:37,880
Tegan, put your willy away!
652
00:30:37,920 --> 00:30:39,480
Please don't. Oh, God.
653
00:30:39,520 --> 00:30:40,920
I don't know where to look.
654
00:30:40,960 --> 00:30:43,080
Ellen, come feel it! No!
655
00:30:43,120 --> 00:30:44,320
No, seriously.
656
00:30:44,360 --> 00:30:46,240
Oh, I don't know if I want to.
657
00:30:47,400 --> 00:30:49,080
Keep tugging like that, baby!
658
00:30:49,120 --> 00:30:51,640
Is that, like, what
a real one feels like?
659
00:30:51,680 --> 00:30:53,880
I was literally about to say, "Is
this what a real one feels like?"
660
00:30:53,920 --> 00:30:55,360
Yeah. Ed, can you come and...?
661
00:30:58,160 --> 00:30:59,800
Wow, wow, wow!
662
00:30:59,840 --> 00:31:00,840
{\an8}OK, I'm ready.
663
00:31:00,880 --> 00:31:01,880
{\an8}I'm joking.
664
00:31:01,920 --> 00:31:02,960
LAUGHTER
665
00:31:04,640 --> 00:31:06,400
While Tegan is on a high,
666
00:31:06,440 --> 00:31:09,120
on the other side of the island,
667
00:31:09,160 --> 00:31:13,160
Bertie has hit a creative low
writing his erotic story.
668
00:31:13,200 --> 00:31:14,280
Hello, Bertie.
669
00:31:16,040 --> 00:31:19,400
Hello. Surprise. Appeared out
of nowhere. I know. Hello.
670
00:31:19,440 --> 00:31:22,960
So, I heard that you're having
a little trouble with your story.
671
00:31:23,000 --> 00:31:25,480
I've been having a bit of trouble
672
00:31:25,520 --> 00:31:28,240
with the vast
majority of this phase.
673
00:31:28,280 --> 00:31:34,000
OK! I'm not an erotic
person in the slightest.
674
00:31:34,040 --> 00:31:38,840
Can you think of anything that might
be interesting to you that is real?
675
00:31:38,880 --> 00:31:44,760
The thing is, there's nothing
real about my love life
676
00:31:44,800 --> 00:31:47,800
cos I've never been on any,
like, proper dates before...
677
00:31:47,840 --> 00:31:52,080
That doesn't matter. Your thoughts
are real inside your head.
678
00:31:52,120 --> 00:31:53,640
What do you think about?
679
00:31:57,000 --> 00:31:59,920
I'm not... I don't...
I'm not saying it like this.
680
00:31:59,960 --> 00:32:01,520
I'm not...
681
00:32:01,560 --> 00:32:03,560
You are missing an
opportunity for growth,
682
00:32:03,600 --> 00:32:04,960
and I know that's why you're here.
683
00:32:05,000 --> 00:32:06,040
Yeah, I get that.
684
00:32:06,080 --> 00:32:07,560
You don't have to show me anything,
685
00:32:07,600 --> 00:32:11,160
but if you're thinking of them
right now, write them down, OK?
686
00:32:11,200 --> 00:32:14,560
All right. I'm just gonna look
over here, enjoy the scenery.
687
00:32:14,600 --> 00:32:16,520
OK. Tell me when I can turn around.
688
00:32:16,560 --> 00:32:17,960
Ah...
689
00:32:18,000 --> 00:32:21,080
VO: When it comes to
whenever I have sex,
690
00:32:21,120 --> 00:32:24,080
it would probably be
the most basic thing ever.
691
00:32:24,120 --> 00:32:25,600
It'll be boring and basic...
692
00:32:25,640 --> 00:32:26,640
HE CHUCKLES
693
00:32:26,680 --> 00:32:29,280
...but, er, that's the thing
I need to improve on.
694
00:32:29,320 --> 00:32:32,960
I just want to be more
confident in that.
695
00:32:36,160 --> 00:32:40,080
That's the sound of my book closing.
All right. Good job! You did it.
696
00:32:40,120 --> 00:32:43,600
Yeah. Erm... Would you like...
would you like to see it?
697
00:32:43,640 --> 00:32:47,000
OK. OK, hope you can read
my writing. OK, all right.
698
00:32:47,040 --> 00:32:49,040
This is, er, my, er...
699
00:32:55,960 --> 00:32:57,720
Oh, Bertie...
700
00:32:57,760 --> 00:32:59,080
Yeah.
701
00:32:59,120 --> 00:33:01,320
That is REALLY hot.
702
00:33:01,360 --> 00:33:03,880
I read a lot of
dirty books, Bertie...
703
00:33:05,560 --> 00:33:07,480
...and that sounds like
some of my dirty books.
704
00:33:07,520 --> 00:33:08,920
HE CHUCKLES
705
00:33:08,960 --> 00:33:11,440
Er... I don't know what
to say about that, but, er...
706
00:33:11,480 --> 00:33:17,000
Yeah. Er... That's the first time
I've shared things like that.
707
00:33:17,040 --> 00:33:19,840
What you wrote is
a cohesive fantasy,
708
00:33:19,880 --> 00:33:24,920
and it's beautiful, and it's sexy,
and that was all you had to do.
709
00:33:24,960 --> 00:33:26,680
OK. You nailed it.
710
00:33:26,720 --> 00:33:28,640
Thank you, Shelby.
No, I appreciate that.
711
00:33:29,840 --> 00:33:32,160
I've got a bit of a high
after doing that.
712
00:33:32,200 --> 00:33:36,720
I just shared something
deeply personal to a woman
713
00:33:36,760 --> 00:33:38,680
that I only saw yesterday
714
00:33:38,720 --> 00:33:42,680
and only just spoke to
about 15 minutes ago.
715
00:33:42,720 --> 00:33:44,320
This island's weird, isn't it?
716
00:33:53,760 --> 00:33:55,840
"Just as quickly as
the words left my mouth,
717
00:33:55,880 --> 00:33:57,560
"a firm spank punishes
my right cheek."
718
00:33:57,600 --> 00:33:58,600
Aaaah!
719
00:33:59,560 --> 00:34:03,320
"A gasp radiates throughout my
body and silences the forest..."
720
00:34:03,360 --> 00:34:06,200
While the girls lose
themselves in fantasy...
721
00:34:06,240 --> 00:34:10,560
It's just a safe space to
share about feelings, emotions.
722
00:34:10,600 --> 00:34:13,080
...the boys are discussing
more real-world issues
723
00:34:13,120 --> 00:34:16,280
with Andre and Jason
at a men's circle.
724
00:34:16,320 --> 00:34:21,480
I think I am almost too scared
to approach someone I like
725
00:34:21,520 --> 00:34:23,600
because of the fear of coming across
726
00:34:23,640 --> 00:34:26,440
as weird cos I don't
know what I'm doing.
727
00:34:26,480 --> 00:34:28,240
It's all a foreign language to me.
728
00:34:28,280 --> 00:34:31,720
Yeah, especially if it's someone
I've been interested in for a while
729
00:34:31,760 --> 00:34:35,480
and I'm worried of coming
across as, like, creepy...
730
00:34:35,520 --> 00:34:37,320
Yeah, same. ..or something.
731
00:34:37,360 --> 00:34:41,800
I would describe myself
as undesirable to someone.
732
00:34:41,840 --> 00:34:43,600
Average at best.
733
00:34:43,640 --> 00:34:46,400
I wouldn't have the confidence to
approach a girl in real life.
734
00:34:46,440 --> 00:34:49,040
Everyone I like, I do feel like
they're kind of out of my league
735
00:34:49,080 --> 00:34:50,960
and I'm wasting my time.
736
00:34:51,000 --> 00:34:53,920
It's something I'd really like
to work on cos it is one of
737
00:34:53,960 --> 00:34:56,760
the biggest hurdles
I have personally.
738
00:34:56,800 --> 00:34:58,280
Just give it a go.
739
00:34:58,320 --> 00:34:59,920
It could be a rejection,
740
00:34:59,960 --> 00:35:04,480
but rejection is going to
be part of all of our lives.
741
00:35:04,520 --> 00:35:06,640
Just going to, like,
get that out of the way.
742
00:35:06,680 --> 00:35:10,400
So the more you practise these
things like approaching,
743
00:35:10,440 --> 00:35:12,040
the easier it becomes.
744
00:35:12,080 --> 00:35:15,760
Coming up with the best line,
that's all the land of performance.
745
00:35:15,800 --> 00:35:18,280
And when you can actually
just be more authentic,
746
00:35:18,320 --> 00:35:20,640
which is, like, maybe more scary,
747
00:35:20,680 --> 00:35:25,160
but that is so attractive to people.
748
00:35:28,280 --> 00:35:32,280
Ed's fear of rejection is
fuelling his low self-esteem...
749
00:35:32,320 --> 00:35:33,400
Hello.
750
00:35:35,800 --> 00:35:37,760
I'm glad that we get to
spend more time together. Yes.
751
00:35:37,800 --> 00:35:38,840
Have a seat.
752
00:35:38,880 --> 00:35:42,600
...so he's visiting Shelby, who
wants to reshape his thinking
753
00:35:42,640 --> 00:35:45,800
using a technique known as
cognitive restructuring.
754
00:35:45,840 --> 00:35:48,160
What we're going to
kind of focus on today
755
00:35:48,200 --> 00:35:50,720
is changing this script, right? OK.
756
00:35:50,760 --> 00:35:55,280
It can happen for you if we
work on the real problem,
757
00:35:55,320 --> 00:35:58,520
and the real problem
is your attitude.
758
00:35:58,560 --> 00:36:01,800
You need an attitude
adjustment, right? Yeah.
759
00:36:01,840 --> 00:36:03,760
Ready to work for me? Of course.
760
00:36:06,040 --> 00:36:07,520
All right, stand up.
761
00:36:09,280 --> 00:36:14,240
Ed has a really big wall up
and he's trying not to be seen,
762
00:36:14,280 --> 00:36:18,160
which is unfortunate for him
because I can see through that wall.
763
00:36:19,560 --> 00:36:20,600
Take off your shirt.
764
00:36:26,920 --> 00:36:28,800
Give it to me.
765
00:36:28,840 --> 00:36:31,040
OK, I want you to stand
in front of the mirror.
766
00:36:33,360 --> 00:36:36,320
What kind of thoughts and feelings
are you having right now?
767
00:36:36,360 --> 00:36:39,160
I don't like my pecs. OK.
768
00:36:39,200 --> 00:36:40,920
And, like, my arms.
769
00:36:40,960 --> 00:36:44,400
I don't like my eyes,
I don't like my mouth.
770
00:36:44,440 --> 00:36:46,920
I like my beard,
but I think it's a bit weak.
771
00:36:46,960 --> 00:36:49,480
I love my hair, but sometimes
I think it doesn't suit me.
772
00:36:49,520 --> 00:36:51,200
I just feel very average.
773
00:36:51,240 --> 00:36:53,240
So you don't want to be average?
774
00:36:53,280 --> 00:36:54,760
No. What do you want?
775
00:36:54,800 --> 00:36:56,280
I want to feel good.
776
00:36:56,320 --> 00:36:58,640
You know what's the
easiest way to feel good?
777
00:37:00,480 --> 00:37:02,960
Is to stop being a
whiny little bitch.
778
00:37:03,000 --> 00:37:04,000
SHE LAUGHS
779
00:37:05,960 --> 00:37:09,680
Shelby's aim is to reflect
Ed's negativity back at him,
780
00:37:09,720 --> 00:37:13,160
helping him to challenge
and reframe his thinking.
781
00:37:13,200 --> 00:37:15,560
Tell me that you've been
a whiny little bitch.
782
00:37:15,600 --> 00:37:17,240
I've been a whiny
little bitch, mistress.
783
00:37:17,280 --> 00:37:19,440
You HAVE been a whiny little bitch.
784
00:37:19,480 --> 00:37:23,200
Do you think you might value
my opinion more than your own...
785
00:37:23,240 --> 00:37:24,360
100%.
786
00:37:24,400 --> 00:37:27,000
...when it comes to
what's desirable?
787
00:37:27,040 --> 00:37:28,040
Yeah.
788
00:37:28,080 --> 00:37:29,800
Do you want to attract me?
789
00:37:29,840 --> 00:37:32,480
Yes. Do you want to attract
other women like me?
790
00:37:32,520 --> 00:37:35,600
Yes. Then you're going to
have to listen to me. Yeah.
791
00:37:35,640 --> 00:37:40,120
So the first thing that I noticed
about you were your eyes.
792
00:37:40,160 --> 00:37:42,760
You have really beautiful eyes.
793
00:37:42,800 --> 00:37:45,880
Your beard makes you
look really masculine,
794
00:37:45,920 --> 00:37:47,680
and women love beards.
795
00:37:47,720 --> 00:37:49,760
And when I first met you
on the island,
796
00:37:49,800 --> 00:37:54,760
I didn't notice your arm
and your hand at all,
797
00:37:54,800 --> 00:37:56,640
and I thought you were handsome.
798
00:37:56,680 --> 00:37:59,320
You're too distracted,
putting yourself down,
799
00:37:59,360 --> 00:38:01,320
to put your focus out,
800
00:38:01,360 --> 00:38:04,320
and the only way you
can do that is what?
801
00:38:04,360 --> 00:38:05,520
Stop being...
802
00:38:05,560 --> 00:38:06,800
...a whiny little bitch.
803
00:38:06,840 --> 00:38:08,480
Yes! Exactly!
804
00:38:13,360 --> 00:38:15,560
Does this work? Yes, mistress.
805
00:38:15,600 --> 00:38:18,880
I can take my pleasure from
you here. This is fine.
806
00:38:20,000 --> 00:38:24,080
You do not have permission
to go backwards from here.
807
00:38:24,120 --> 00:38:25,480
No more excuses.
808
00:38:25,520 --> 00:38:27,040
Yes, mistress. Good.
809
00:38:32,160 --> 00:38:33,920
You better be thinking about me, Ed.
810
00:38:33,960 --> 00:38:37,160
Of course. Every morning,
when you look in the mirror,
811
00:38:37,200 --> 00:38:38,520
you do your work.
812
00:38:38,560 --> 00:38:39,560
Yeah.
813
00:38:44,360 --> 00:38:45,400
Thank you, Shelby.
814
00:38:47,360 --> 00:38:48,720
Feeling really good.
815
00:38:48,760 --> 00:38:52,120
She makes me want to be
the guy I want to be.
816
00:38:52,160 --> 00:38:56,000
I can say it to myself all day
and I don't believe it,
817
00:38:56,040 --> 00:39:00,280
but talking with Shelby makes me
actually want to be that guy.
818
00:39:01,600 --> 00:39:03,240
I feel more empowered.
819
00:39:03,280 --> 00:39:05,960
I just needed a session like
this to really remind me
820
00:39:06,000 --> 00:39:08,640
why I'm here and how far I've gone.
821
00:39:13,600 --> 00:39:15,480
Ed! What did you get up to?
822
00:39:16,520 --> 00:39:17,880
So, she had the mirror and got me
823
00:39:17,920 --> 00:39:19,760
to say stuff I don't
like about myself,
824
00:39:19,800 --> 00:39:21,000
and then she countered it,
825
00:39:21,040 --> 00:39:22,920
and was complimenting me and
telling me how it's bullshit,
826
00:39:22,960 --> 00:39:25,280
and I'm not going to be the
whiny little bitch any more.
827
00:39:25,320 --> 00:39:27,360
I've learned to ignore
the voice in my head.
828
00:39:27,400 --> 00:39:29,440
I mean, it'll take practice to
829
00:39:29,480 --> 00:39:31,960
feel like I'll never
listen to him again,
830
00:39:32,000 --> 00:39:34,840
but now, I feel so much
more love for myself.
831
00:39:37,880 --> 00:39:40,320
Bertie is also feeling
more love for himself
832
00:39:40,360 --> 00:39:43,560
after writing his
first erotic story.
833
00:39:43,600 --> 00:39:45,120
Hi. Hello!
834
00:39:45,160 --> 00:39:48,480
Boosted by his new-found
confidence and having established
835
00:39:48,520 --> 00:39:51,160
a strong bond with
surrogate partner, Kat,
836
00:39:51,200 --> 00:39:55,200
she feels Bertie's ready
for a radical next step.
837
00:39:55,240 --> 00:39:58,680
So, the first thing that we're
going to do is undressing.
838
00:39:58,720 --> 00:40:02,800
OK. So, basically, we're
going to just very slowly
839
00:40:02,840 --> 00:40:04,640
undress ourselves in
front of each other.
840
00:40:04,680 --> 00:40:06,120
You'll be doing this too?
841
00:40:06,160 --> 00:40:08,600
Yes, we'll be getting naked
together.
842
00:40:08,640 --> 00:40:10,440
OK. Does that feel...?
843
00:40:10,480 --> 00:40:12,280
It's a leap. It's a big leap,
844
00:40:12,320 --> 00:40:15,760
but it's a leap that I'm willing
to take, so, yeah. OK, perfect.
845
00:40:15,800 --> 00:40:17,520
All right, whenever you're ready.
846
00:40:19,560 --> 00:40:23,760
It's one big leap for Bertie, but
one small step in reaching his goal
847
00:40:23,800 --> 00:40:25,880
of losing his virginity...
848
00:40:25,920 --> 00:40:26,920
SHE EXHALES
849
00:40:26,960 --> 00:40:28,280
Good. How are you feeling?
850
00:40:28,320 --> 00:40:30,760
I did it. Erm... You did it! Yeah.
851
00:40:30,800 --> 00:40:33,240
...so Kat wants to
challenge him further.
852
00:40:33,280 --> 00:40:36,280
We're going to do a little bit
of an anatomy lesson on me.
853
00:40:36,320 --> 00:40:37,720
OK. Does that feel OK?
854
00:40:37,760 --> 00:40:41,000
That feels bold, but I'm
looking forward to it.
855
00:40:41,040 --> 00:40:44,040
I obviously know what
female genitals look like,
856
00:40:44,080 --> 00:40:47,640
but when it comes
to dealing with one,
857
00:40:47,680 --> 00:40:52,240
when, if I ever have sex,
I wouldn't know what to do.
858
00:40:52,280 --> 00:40:56,120
I'd know the different names
of the different parts,
859
00:40:56,160 --> 00:40:57,960
but I don't know where's where,
860
00:40:58,000 --> 00:41:01,920
so I wouldn't know
where to, you know...
861
00:41:01,960 --> 00:41:03,720
...aim.
862
00:41:03,760 --> 00:41:06,080
{\an8}Do you want to try to find things?
863
00:41:06,120 --> 00:41:08,840
{\an8}Yeah? Yeah... OK, so can
you point to the outer labia?
864
00:41:10,000 --> 00:41:11,000
{\an8}Erm...
865
00:41:12,240 --> 00:41:13,240
{\an8}Nope.
866
00:41:15,960 --> 00:41:17,960
{\an8}Nope. Oh, this is going to go well!
867
00:41:18,000 --> 00:41:20,800
{\an8}This is the outer labia right here.
Yeah, OK. All right.
868
00:41:20,840 --> 00:41:22,560
{\an8}And then inner labia?
869
00:41:22,600 --> 00:41:23,840
{\an8}Was it what I just pointed to?
870
00:41:23,880 --> 00:41:25,840
{\an8}Mm-hm. These. Yeah, both of those.
871
00:41:25,880 --> 00:41:27,840
{\an8}THEY CHUCKLE
872
00:41:27,880 --> 00:41:29,560
{\an8}And then the clitoris.
873
00:41:29,600 --> 00:41:31,120
{\an8}This is the hard one.
874
00:41:31,160 --> 00:41:34,840
{\an8}So, it's above the hood,
as you call it.
875
00:41:34,880 --> 00:41:36,160
{\an8}Is it here? Yeah.
876
00:41:36,200 --> 00:41:39,160
{\an8}And the hood is actually
above it, so it's there. Yeah.
877
00:41:39,200 --> 00:41:41,360
{\an8}And that's the clitoris. Yeah. Yeah.
878
00:41:41,400 --> 00:41:43,280
{\an8}Ah! Oh, sorry. No, it's OK, it's OK.
879
00:41:43,320 --> 00:41:44,320
{\an8}It's just super sensitive.
880
00:41:44,360 --> 00:41:46,120
{\an8}Oh, I... Don't worry about.
881
00:41:46,160 --> 00:41:47,760
{\an8}I was curious, that's all.
882
00:41:47,800 --> 00:41:50,000
{\an8}And then the vaginal opening?
883
00:41:50,040 --> 00:41:52,560
{\an8}It's... here? Yep.
884
00:41:55,320 --> 00:41:57,040
{\an8}And you can put your
finger inside too,
885
00:41:57,080 --> 00:41:59,200
{\an8}to just feel what it feels like.
886
00:41:59,240 --> 00:42:01,240
{\an8}You want me to put my
fingers inside, like...?
887
00:42:01,280 --> 00:42:02,600
{\an8}The vagina. Vagina.
888
00:42:02,640 --> 00:42:03,840
{\an8}Is that, like, here?
889
00:42:03,880 --> 00:42:05,560
{\an8}Yeah, the vaginal opening, yep.
890
00:42:08,800 --> 00:42:10,760
{\an8}How does that feel? Just...
HE CHUCKLES
891
00:42:12,640 --> 00:42:16,360
{\an8}And just, like, normalise
the textures for yourself. Yeah.
892
00:42:16,400 --> 00:42:17,880
{\an8}HE SNIFFS
I'm just curious!
893
00:42:17,920 --> 00:42:20,600
{\an8}It's OK. This is all for you to...
894
00:42:20,640 --> 00:42:22,920
{\an8}OK, it doesn't smell of anything.
895
00:42:22,960 --> 00:42:24,680
{\an8}Wow. Yeah.
896
00:42:32,280 --> 00:42:35,360
I just want you to really focus
on what feels good to you, yeah?
897
00:42:35,400 --> 00:42:39,600
Every single ounce
feels so good to me.
898
00:42:44,480 --> 00:42:46,240
That was great. Thank you.
Thank you very much.
899
00:42:46,280 --> 00:42:48,280
Good job.
900
00:42:48,320 --> 00:42:49,480
You too.
901
00:42:49,520 --> 00:42:51,000
SHE SIGHS
902
00:42:52,360 --> 00:42:55,120
Thank you. All right.
Have a good day. I think I will!
903
00:42:55,160 --> 00:42:56,800
HE CHUCKLES
904
00:42:56,840 --> 00:43:01,280
Even the fact of just caressing
and touching a woman's naked body
905
00:43:01,320 --> 00:43:03,640
is something that I've
been wanting for, like,
906
00:43:03,680 --> 00:43:05,440
and thinking about for so long,
907
00:43:05,480 --> 00:43:09,200
and the fact I did that
means so much to me.
908
00:43:09,240 --> 00:43:10,520
Kat's an incredible woman,
909
00:43:10,560 --> 00:43:13,560
and some of the things
that she's allowed me to do
910
00:43:13,600 --> 00:43:16,200
has been nothing
short of mind-blowing.
911
00:43:17,440 --> 00:43:19,200
Flirty Bertie.
912
00:43:19,240 --> 00:43:20,680
Did you have a one-on-one?
913
00:43:20,720 --> 00:43:25,320
I did, and I got it all off, so
that was brilliant. Oh, fantastic!
914
00:43:25,360 --> 00:43:27,080
Give me a high five, Bert.
915
00:43:27,120 --> 00:43:29,360
Fantastic. Well done. Get in.
916
00:43:29,400 --> 00:43:31,240
Well done. Are you feeling good?
917
00:43:31,280 --> 00:43:34,360
Yeah, great. Surprised I'm
able to stand up, but, er...
918
00:43:34,400 --> 00:43:35,400
LAUGHTER
919
00:43:35,440 --> 00:43:36,920
What did she do to you, my guy?!
920
00:43:40,520 --> 00:43:43,000
It's late afternoon
on Virgin Island...
921
00:43:43,040 --> 00:43:46,320
I feel like I'm gonna skip half my
story cos there's a lot of foreplay.
922
00:43:46,360 --> 00:43:49,160
Hello. Hi.
923
00:43:49,200 --> 00:43:52,840
...and time for the group to
brace themselves and reveal all.
924
00:43:54,040 --> 00:43:57,040
We cannot wait to see
your courage in coming up
925
00:43:57,080 --> 00:44:01,320
and sharing these deep
fantasies and desires with us.
926
00:44:02,440 --> 00:44:05,760
As the group read out
their erotic stories...
927
00:44:05,800 --> 00:44:08,280
"The very sight has my
pussy wet and humming.
928
00:44:08,320 --> 00:44:11,280
"A firm spank punishes
my right ass cheek."
929
00:44:11,320 --> 00:44:13,120
...it's clear that
the Play Time Phase
930
00:44:13,160 --> 00:44:15,360
has unlocked some deep desires.
931
00:44:15,400 --> 00:44:16,720
"The fair-haired vixen's hand
932
00:44:16,760 --> 00:44:18,440
"quickly plunged
below his trouser line.
933
00:44:18,480 --> 00:44:20,200
"She manoeuvred herself
on top of him,
934
00:44:20,240 --> 00:44:22,120
"striding him like a wild stallion."
935
00:44:22,160 --> 00:44:25,040
"I start touching my body
and then I hear moans,
936
00:44:25,080 --> 00:44:26,840
"moans that aren't coming from me.
937
00:44:26,880 --> 00:44:28,880
"I look in the mirror
and there she is,
938
00:44:28,920 --> 00:44:31,120
"fingering herself on
the edge of my bath.
939
00:44:31,160 --> 00:44:34,520
"They slowly move into position,
masturbating in sync,
940
00:44:34,560 --> 00:44:36,320
"followed by the 69..."
941
00:44:37,280 --> 00:44:38,560
...which I now know what it is!
942
00:44:38,600 --> 00:44:39,880
LAUGHTER
943
00:44:39,920 --> 00:44:43,720
And for some, the course appears
to be coming to a climax.
944
00:44:43,760 --> 00:44:45,120
"I moved to the bedside drawer
945
00:44:45,160 --> 00:44:47,960
"and removed a strap-on
and handcuffs..."
946
00:44:48,000 --> 00:44:49,040
WHISPERS: I knew it.
947
00:44:49,080 --> 00:44:51,400
"..and whisper in her ear,
'Are you ready to play?'
948
00:44:51,440 --> 00:44:55,040
"We shag until morning light until
both our juices have run dry."
949
00:44:55,080 --> 00:44:57,720
CHEERING
- Yeah.
- Well done, guys.
950
00:44:59,080 --> 00:45:01,760
Amazing! You did it! Yes.
951
00:45:01,800 --> 00:45:04,840
The end of the Play Time Phase.
952
00:45:04,880 --> 00:45:06,600
We're ready for closing circle.
953
00:45:08,160 --> 00:45:10,880
I think Play Time has been
my favourite phase so far.
954
00:45:10,920 --> 00:45:14,160
I'm getting to the stage where
I'm ready to lose my virginity.
955
00:45:14,200 --> 00:45:16,640
I think I learned a hell
of a lot about myself,
956
00:45:16,680 --> 00:45:18,840
and I couldn't be happier
with what I've learned.
957
00:45:18,880 --> 00:45:21,360
Deep breath in...
THEY INHALE
958
00:45:21,400 --> 00:45:22,520
...and out.
959
00:45:22,560 --> 00:45:23,760
THEY EXHALE
960
00:45:23,800 --> 00:45:26,200
I found Shelby's sessions
incredibly important.
961
00:45:26,240 --> 00:45:31,520
It's really kind of awoken
who I am to myself.
962
00:45:31,560 --> 00:45:33,800
I think my progress has
essentially skyrocketed,
963
00:45:33,840 --> 00:45:35,560
and I'm going to take the
lessons she's given me
964
00:45:35,600 --> 00:45:37,480
and keep them forever.
965
00:45:37,520 --> 00:45:38,520
Shake it out.
966
00:45:38,560 --> 00:45:41,480
ALL: Woooo!
967
00:45:41,520 --> 00:45:43,560
In this phase, a lot of big
things have happened to me
968
00:45:43,600 --> 00:45:45,640
and things that I would
never have imagined,
969
00:45:45,680 --> 00:45:47,960
but this is what this
island's all about.
970
00:45:48,000 --> 00:45:51,760
You're on the roller-coaster and, in
the immortal words of Ronan Keating,
971
00:45:51,800 --> 00:45:53,120
you've just got to ride it.
972
00:45:56,880 --> 00:45:57,960
Next time...
973
00:45:58,000 --> 00:46:00,000
Whoa, that's gonna kill someone.
974
00:46:00,040 --> 00:46:02,320
...things get more intense...
975
00:46:02,360 --> 00:46:04,240
...in the Technique Phase...
976
00:46:04,280 --> 00:46:07,600
This may be the scariest
workshop yet.
977
00:46:07,640 --> 00:46:09,360
...romance blossoms...
978
00:46:09,400 --> 00:46:10,720
Feelings are starting to happen
979
00:46:10,760 --> 00:46:13,600
and we want to make sure that
they're equipped to deal with that.
980
00:46:13,640 --> 00:46:15,520
...and someone...
MOANING
981
00:46:15,560 --> 00:46:16,760
...goes all the way.
982
00:46:16,800 --> 00:46:18,760
There were 11 virgins left. Yeah.
983
00:46:18,800 --> 00:46:19,880
LAUGHTER
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