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This programme contains strong language, scenes of sexual nature and nudity

I'm nervous. I'm going to take it one step at a time.

In a world saturated with sex...

I'm absolutely petrified.

...more young adults than ever are living without it.

The thought of having sex with someone...

...scares me.

It gives me the ick. I'm missing out.

Terrified. Nerve-racking. Gut-wrenching. Embarrassing.

All I think about is what I'm going to get wrong.

Can you point to the outer labia?

Nope.

Now... Oh, my God!

...12 virgins are getting a crash course in intimacy.

Social media, porn, dating apps -

there are so many negative messages and we can help them blossom.

Use it by stimulating the area.

They'll be guided by experts...

You see yourself as? Repulsive.

...to explore all aspects of intimacy...

...and maybe even have sex with a trained therapist...

Do you want to put a condom on?

...or each other.

Get a room, guys!

I really do need to change my life.

Who will be ready...

Desperate times call for desperate measures.

...to go all the way?

MOANING

CHEERING

Over the last few days on Virgin Island,

the group were challenged to bare all in the nudity phase...

This is my body.

...which led to breakthroughs for Ed...

Will you touch my scars while I touch yours? Yes.

I feel like I can be vulnerable as well and, like, I'm not alone.

...and Tegan.

Look at my pussy. Mm-hm.

It's a very nice pussy.

Mm, that's nice.

Oh. I'm buzzing!

It was the first time I had my fingers inside another woman.

Bertie also reached an important milestone.

Good. That was my first kiss.

You did great.

We're making very good progress

and I am feeling absolutely incredible.

Now, halfway through the course,

the group are about to enter a whole new realm.

The truth is that many people have

a lot of kinky fantasies and desires, and it's really

important to give people permission

to explore those parts of themselves.

And we know just the person who can help

the group unlock their kink in a very playful way.

Is that for me?

LAUGHTER

Brilliant. Another letter. Another day in paradise.

It's the fifth phase of the course and time for some fun.

"It's time to explore.

"The next phase of the course is Play Time."

Oh...

HE SIGHS

I imagine they don't mean an Xbox.

What do you reckon we're gonna be playing?

Er... Oh, noughts and crosses? Oh, I'd love that.

This is gonna be fun, I think.

For me, anyway.

Not so sure how some of the others are gonna take it.

Some will be more nervous than others, I think, but, yeah...

I'm excited.

Well, I'm sure the cuffs are coming out today, so...

Oh, mate!

Bertie, how are you feeling about this phase?

God knows what's going to happen.

Mm-hm. After what I've done in the last phase,

there's no going back, so, yeah.

It's Play Time.

If there's a ball pit, that'd be great.

LAUGHTER

With vulvas and penises.

LAUGHTER

In today's workshop...

Morning, guys.

Hello! Hi, y'all!

...the experts want to encourage the group to find pleasure in play.

Some people might think,

"Oh, why are you bringing in kinks with a bunch of virgins?"

but, ultimately,

they need to have the full menu of options because maybe they're not

having sex because they haven't found the sex

that really turns them on.

Sex is this place that adults go to play

and this phase is all about inviting you to play.

We have a special guest for you today,

who is going to help you explore different ways

that you might want to play.

We want to welcome Shelby.

Ooh...

Sorry.

I didn't say anything.

You're not the only one.

Hello, everyone.

Hey. Hello.

I am a BDSM and kink expert from San Francisco, California.

Some of you are probably thinking this might be a little advanced,

but it's a game of leading and following,

and I'm betting that most of you struggle

when it comes to leading and following sexual encounters,

and so that's why we're going to explore that today.

Sex makes everyone feel really vulnerable

and so what I want for the virgins is to understand

that what turns them on is good and should be normalised.

Education around BDSM is grounded in consent and boundaries,

and I want them to have a safe and meaningful experience.

BDSM is an acronym.

It means bondage, dominance, submission and masochism.

A way to think about BDSM and kink is adults playing

a very sexy game of pretend.

And what better way for the games to begin

than a lesson in submission?

Submissives want undivided attention.

They know deep down that they want someone to take the reins,

and this is what we're going to explore today

for our first adventure.

Is anyone curious to come up here and try?

LAUGHTER

Ohhh!

Ooh, I don't know, I don't know. What do you think?

They both raised their hand at the same time!

Take both of 'em!

LAUGHTER

That sounds great. Both of you, come here.

I hope you're both good at sharing.

I fantasise being more in a submissive role,

probably from me not knowing what I'm doing.

I'd rather have a girl taking the dominant role.

I've always been curious about what it would be like

to be in that situation.

You know why you're both up here at the same time?

Why?

I don't need you to talk. OK. Sorry.

It's because it would take both of you to satisfy me.

Do you think you have what it takes?

I think so. Then get on your knees.

Adequate.

I think we have some work to do before you're ready.

Look how bad they are.

You nailed it.

Can I give you a hug? Yeah.

Good job.

Thank you for trusting me.

I need a cold shower after that one.

As the tools of her trade are revealed...

SHE GASPS

...Mistress Shelby is happy to help the group experiment.

How long before you ask me to bark?

Do you want to bark for me?

HE BARKS

Good boy.

Bondage can make people feel really safe.

Think of getting a really firm hug.

That lowers our blood pressure

when we have that compression in our body.

It can make us feel calm and secure and held.

Nice. Very good.

Can you make it back to your seat with the bondage on?

Good job.

All right.

So, now, we're going to get into impact play.

OK.

CHATTER AND LAUGHTER

As the group relaxes and becomes more playful,

some begin to explore their own fantasies...

Climb up here and get on all fours, please.

...as 22-year-old theatre usher Millie takes to the stage.

My fantasy would be...

SHE GIGGLES

...people dominating the other person,

and I'd be the one that's being dominated.

That makes me feel a bit... fuzzy and warm inside.

I'm like, "You know what? Maybe I'd like that."

This is a paddle. See, Millie?

LAUGHTER

And when it comes to spanking,

for some, it's not just a physical sensation.

What happens in the brain is we get a lot of cortisol and opiates,

and basically we get a lot of fun brain drugs.

It heightens our pleasure.

Good girl, Millie.

Taking it like a champ.

How did that feel?

Mm... Yeah.

Good job, Millie!

CHEERING

Are you able to sit down?

LAUGHTER

Thank you, Millie.

No, thank YOU.

It's my pleasure, truly.

Millie, was that the first time you've ever been spanked?

Like THAT, yeah.

LAUGHTER

I'm on cloud nine right now. Like, I really enjoyed it.

I think it was something that I've really wanted to do

for a while and I knew I would like.

That was a lot, but Jesus Christ.

Privately, it's something I can certainly imagine myself doing.

Erm...

In front of everybody else...

...it's a bit much, but we're breaking down boundaries, I guess.

I'm in love, guys.

With Shelby? Yeah, fair. She's fantastic.

It does feel like my thing is being more submissive.

If we were given the chance to explore this in a one-to-one,

I would absolutely go for it.

But not everyone is feeling the Shelby effect.

How did you find it, Bertie? Erm...

I mean, it's not exactly my cup of tea, but, erm...

...I've got nothing against people that do.

I just didn't participate because it's not my thing.

Fair. I mean, I've never had sex, that's why I'm here,

but I'm probably going to be as vanilla as they come.

I've never really been that adventurous in other things.

I don't think I'd be particularly kinky in the bedroom at all,

so, at this point in time, and possibly forever,

these kinds of activities are not for me.

Do you want me to spank your bum?

Yes, please.

It's the afternoon on Virgin Island.

Roll over and get on all fours.

The Play Time workshop is already having a big impact

on some of the group...

Mm... That was a good one! That was a good one!

Hello, everyone. Hello!

...and Shelby is hoping to get everyone involved

in some extracurricular activity.

I have a box of goodies for you all to enjoy.

Yay! Yes!

You can either explore on your own or with a partner.

Have as much fun as you possibly can today.

Thank you. Bye. Thanks, Shelby. Bye.

Immediately getting in there.

Oh, my God. Whoa. Ha-ha!

This is just Fifty Shades of Grey right here. Oh, sweeties!

Edible underwear. Is it?

Is it? Whoa.

It could be someone's laundry they just found!

LAUGHTER

LAUGHTER

Hello!

Dinner's ready!

Is it yummy? They're really good.

As the group continues to play...

Come with me!

LAUGHTER

...it's clear some are embracing the theme more than others.

Are you having fun?

I am. Good. Sit.

Ooooh!

Do you want to kneel for me?

OK, we'll try that again later.

You're getting too excited now.

LAUGHTER

Will's excitement for the Play Time Phase

has caught the attention of the experts.

Will came up for a little bondage today, which was great,

and he liked being a puppy.

That was such a fun surprise when he barked.

LAUGHTER

I was like, "Yes!"

I had a few sessions with Will,

and it seems like he's starting to hold his arousal

and get really excited without accidentally ejaculating,

and now he's been in a place of, "OK, but what next?"

So far at the retreat...

Whoa! That's fast for a first date.

...the experts have been encouraging Will to take his time...

Let yourself actually check.

What do you want to do?

And slow it down.

We're slowing it down.

...and Aisha...

Taking a breath.

...has used basic touch exercises...

Shit, please don't come, please don't come.

...to assess his premature ejaculation...

I think this is what I needed.

...but now, she wants to take things to the next level.

Hello! Hi.

My greatest fear if things carry on the way they are is

just never finding anyone, never finding love,

never getting to have any, like, sexual experiences,

no romantic experiences, none of that.

That'd be sad, yeah.

What I would recommend is getting undressed and direct, skin-on-skin

genital touch, and we track arousal and you practise regulating

your nervous system without experiencing premature ejaculation.

Yes. Yes. Thank you.

OK, so when you're ready.

Thank you. Inviting you to start undressing.

What we want to do is train Will

to move as close to orgasm as possible

without coming.

If he can do that, then he can finally overcome his fear

that he's going to ejaculate early with a lover.

And getting comfortable, taking some breaths.

Ahh...

Aisha will monitor Will's arousal using a scale from zero to four,

with four being orgasm.

So, I have a suggestion.

We agree on, like, two or three strokes,

and you'll let me know as you're moving up the scale,

so like, "I'm a one, I'm a two, I'm a three,

"I'm a three-and-a-half."

Sounds good. OK.

I'm going to come on the table

and I'm going to move this leg over me, OK,

and now this one.

I'm just going to shift myself forward.

OK, great. OK.

HE CHUCKLES

So, taking a breath.

Ohh...

Two.

Yeah, we're still at a two.

Before long, things start to escalate.

HE EXHALES Yeah, I'm climbing, I'm climbing.

OK, so keep breathing.

Oh, shit. Take a breath. Breathe.

HE INHALES

THEY EXHALE

And just keep breathing. Breathe in.

And now, this third time, you're gonna breathe in,

you're gonna hold, and you're gonna tense everything.

And tense, tense, tense, tense, tense,

tense, tense, tense, tense, tense.

And hold it for as long as you can, Will. Hold. Tense.

And then, when you're ready, you can relax.

THEY EXHALE

Yeah, I didn't come. Yeah, I beat it! Woo!

Woo! Come on! Thank you. High five!

Yes! I was so close as well.

I was like, "Ah, shit."

I'm really aware of, like,

how close I was at the start, like, nervous-wise,

but Aisha's amazing.

I really feel like that treatment is kind of what I need

before I do anything else,

so I feel confident about now, like, moving forward.

You're walking back with, like, a swagger.

You ARE walking back with swagger. Yeah.

Will didn't come, which was the objective.

CHEERING

Thank you, thank you. Well done.

Yeah, just, like, getting to the point where I think I'm gonna come

and then, like, kind of stopping,

like, breathe, breath-work and, like...

Oh, right. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

But, yeah, progress.

Let's go! Thank you.

Will's not the only one making progress.

Would you say the goals are being met?

Yeah.

As part of the surrogate partner therapy programme,

clinical therapist Abby checks in with some of the group.

What does a good ending look like to you?

Erm...

Giving and receiving, like, pleasure and orgasm.

OK. Good.

Yeah. Good!

Meanwhile, Marianne is with Andre, challenging herself...

This is an invitation if we wanted to potentially de-robe some clothing

to your comfort level.

...to overcome her trust issues with men.

I'm happy to go to, like, my underwear.

Marianne is doing extremely well,

connecting and building emotional intimacy with Andre.

Breathe in.

Taking things slow is definitely the right way for her

to move through this work.

Hold.

Breathe out.

Each time, I'm trying to push myself just a little bit further,

so I'm feeling very content with that, and I'm excited to know more.

All right, ready? Yep. You can undress with me. Yes. OK.

Having proved he can get and maintain an erection...

Let's do some bossy touch. How do you feel about that?

Yeah, comfortable. OK.

Take the tips of your fingers

and run them on the tops of my thighs.

...Alex is moving along in surrogate partner therapy with Risdon.

Mm-hm. That's nice.

Alex is one that can get caught in his mind...

Touch my face, starting at the forehead,

and then caressing your way down slowly.

...but he definitely can work through a lot of that.

It's sexy when you're bossy.

OK.

How are you feeling?

Good. I feel confident and no pressure on,

like, thinking I have to get an erection

cos I need to practise getting an erection.

Oh, yeah. Great. Great.

MUFFLED: Do you want a kiss?

LAUGHTER

It's late afternoon and the group are embracing the Play Time theme.

It doesn't feel that sharp. It feels quite... nice, really, yeah.

See, I would just use this as a pizza wheel, couldn't you?

LAUGHTER

But when it comes to playing games...

Let's go with D7.

Hit.

...not everyone is in the same boat.

D8.

Hit.

D9. Hit.

And let's finish up with D10.

Hit. You have sunk my battleship.

Cool.

Let's talk about Ed.

Today at the workshop, his curiosity came out and I think this phase

is really hitting his desires and interests.

Yeah, he was very engaged in the workshop,

so when I see him today, I think we're going to start getting more

comfortable sharing his fantasies and desires,

and find some confidence.

Hello. Hi, Ed. Lovely to see you again.

Are we hugging? Can do.

OK, come here.

Life for me, growing up, wasn't easy.

Being bullied made me lose a lot of my confidence.

I've worked on it, but it doesn't take much to knock me back down.

Just lay down, sweetie.

Yeah, that's good.

It's just led to me having an attitude of,

"Why bother? I'm going to fail, I can't do this,"

which isn't a great attitude to have for a lot of things, especially sex.

How does this feel? It feels nice. Yeah?

After a moment of connection,

Shelby begins exploring Ed's submissive side.

I think you get turned on by being humiliated a little bit.

Yeah. Yeah. It's probably cos I was bullied quite a lot at school.

Oh, OK. So that was kind of, like, what I was used to. Yeah.

Sometimes that source of pain

that we experience,

we can kind of reclaim it.

I have some good ideas for you, I think. OK.

Shelby's methods are based on studies

that identify how people respond to being humiliated.

Get on your knees.

They might be extreme in the outside world,

but, in a supportive environment, can get results.

One of the reasons people might crave being

humiliated is if you have a bad emotional

or psychological experience at a formative age,

as an adult, you might want to make it work for you

to feel confident and empowered and safe.

The communication and trust and safety

is what allows someone to fully surrender.

Crawl forward.

Stop.

Put your head down on the ground.

Do you want my attention? Yes, ma'am.

Do you deserve my attention? No, ma'am.

That's right. You have to earn it.

So be good.

Crawl back to me.

Throughout the session, Shelby will use a traffic light system

to ensure Ed remains in control of what's happening.

Tell me your colour.

Green.

A footstool.

That might be...

...an acceptable use for you.

I think it's going to be difficult for you to fuck this up.

What do you think?

Yes, ma'am.

Yes? You think you're a good footstool?

Yes, ma'am.

SHE SIGHS

Are you enjoying this?

Yes, ma'am.

You bad, bad boy.

By associating insults with play rather than pain,

Shelby hopes to help Ed reframe his past trauma.

Why don't you roll around on the ground for me a little bit more?

SHE LAUGHS

You look ridiculous!

Come on, give me some enthusiasm!

You can't just roll back and forth.

Roll all over. Come on.

All right, stop, stop.

Tell me your colour.

Green.

SHE SIGHS

It was really fun.

I think it was really helpful as well

because I think finding something you really do connect with

in these therapies, I think, is...

...is a big thing for your personal development.

Hey, Ed. How was your one-to-one?

It was so much fun. Yeah.

But I just feel... weird.

Weird good? In what way?

Yeah, weird good. Erm...

Kind of like when I have a little cry.

Aww. Yeah, man. We had a cuddle. It was really nice.

Cos it's been so long since I've cuddled with someone,

I forgot how much I liked that, but it was really nice.

Good morning.

Are you ready for more Play Time?

Oh, so ready.

It's day two of the Play Time Phase at the retreat,

and Ed is reflecting on his session with Shelby.

Yesterday was, like, a big high... Yeah.

...as you could probably all tell. Yeah.

See, I woke up and I was like, "I'm sad now."

Mmm. Any specific reason why you're feeling sad?

I remembered I really like cuddling and stuff,

and it's been so long, and I'd kind of forgotten, like...

I'll cuddle you. We'll cuddle you. Now I'm, like, I want it every day.

Aww.

I feel like I'm missing out on just a big part of life's experience.

OK, I get you.

I'm so aching.

I'm not going up to be spanked again.

My arse, honestly.

More for me!

LAUGHTER

Millie is in luck -

the only spanking today will be in their imagination.

Hello.

Hello. Oh, no, I'm back.

I'm here to give you a little homework assignment.

What we would like you to do is to take some of

your erotic fantasies and turn them into short stories.

LAUGHTER

Yeah!

OK, I'm seeing some enthusiasm, there's some hiding...

This is a practice of leaning into your fantasies more.

Be explicit. Be graphic.

You can do this.

You've gone bright red!

LAUGHTER

Well, have fun.

Heh-heh-heh...

Even the thought is making you go gremlin.

Yeah! Erm, OK, I'm gonna go somewhere else

because Callum's giggling is not part of my fantasy!

LAUGHTER

Don't worry, Callum, it's part of mine.

The group's homework has set their creative juices flowing.

Is that sex position called a 69?

Yeah, there is a sex position called the 69,

but I don't know which one you mean.

Yeah, the 69 is you're both giving each other oral, basically,

at the same time. Yeah.

Can two women do that?

Absolutely.

But not everyone is comfortable with the exercise,

as Bertie's erotic story-writing hits the rocks.

HE SIGHS

I hate every single aspect of this exercise.

I am not an erotic person in the slightest.

I mean, just listen - this is not a voice

you want to hear in the bedroom!

HE EXHALES

While Bertie struggles with writer's block,

the exercise is causing other concerns for Tegan.

Do you know what it is, right?

I want to have sex with people,

but I don't want to underwhelm anyone.

Just practise, Tegan. Mm-hm.

Practice makes perfect.

Mm-hm. You're not going to be good the first time, are ya?

In a previous session...

See if you can see my vaginal opening. Mm-hm.

...Tegan touched another woman's genitals for the first time.

SHE GIGGLES Mm-hm.

Now they've established a high level of trust,

Risdon aims to help Tegan explore a new kind of pleasure through play.

Hi.

I don't know how I would fare in a sexual encounter.

I read erotica and smut.

I've seen TV shows. I've seen people having sex.

I think, like, logistically, I would know what to do,

but to actually be able to do it is a whole nother thing entirely.

I was thinking, we'll go over the mechanics of topping.

Yep. All right, cool. I'm going to take this off.

I want to show you some harnesses and things.

Cool. And so it'll be good for me to have pants on.

Tegan came onto the island very clear that she did not want to

receive vaginal penetration, which, culturally,

we would call that somebody who is a top

versus a bottom in lesbian dynamics,

so it's important for me to normalise the use of sex toys

with Tegan pretty early on

because it's a common practice in lesbian sex.

It's the one we got for you.

Cool. Pick which one.

The big boy? It's closer to me. OK.

All right, so let's see you...

I'll pick the ring first and be like, "What's going to fit?"

And whatever fits, I want, like, a tiny bit of room,

so I can put the straps in still.

Through here? Mm-hm.

Lovely. Mm-hm. All right. Now, try putting it on and see. Cool.

All right, let's try this.

How's that? Yeah, good. Yeah? OK, all right.

LAUGHS: I'm just gonna twist it around for you.

Just twist my dick.

LAUGHTER

Ahh...

OK, so we're gonna do some thrusting mechanics.

I'm getting to the stage where I'm old enough now that I'm like,

"I want to be wifed up," as my friends would put it,

and I feel like I just need a helping hand -

maybe physically, maybe not - to help me lose my virginity,

which is all I want, really.

Hit my hand with the dick.

SNIGGERING

Sorry, that's the funniest thing I've ever heard.

So what I'm seeing you do is you're kind of this... Yeah.

...and what I want you to do instead,

so there's not this, but this. OK.

So more with the pelvis?

Yeah, that's much better.

Kind of, like, clench your butt at the top a little bit.

Yeah. That'll give you more power. Mm-hm.

Good job.

Having grasped the basics,

Risdon wants to see if Tegan can master thrusting

in different positions.

Great.

TEGAN BREATHES HEAVILY

Yeah, great.

This position seems like the one that is most natural to your body.

Yeah, I think it is. OK, cool. That's good, that's good.

All right. What'd you think of that?

Yeah, great educational talk.

It's good. Yeah?

I feel, like, so far ahead of where I thought I would be

at this stage, so... Yeah. Thank you.

All right, I'll see you soon. Yeah, definitely.

Take care. Bye. Thank you. Bye.

No-one's ever taught me those kind of skills,

so that was very new.

It's very educational and I feel closer to losing my virginity.

I'm just gonna sit like this now for a while.

Tegan, put your willy away!

Please don't. Oh, God.

I don't know where to look.

Ellen, come feel it! No!

No, seriously.

Oh, I don't know if I want to.

Keep tugging like that, baby!

Is that, like, what a real one feels like?

I was literally about to say, "Is this what a real one feels like?"

Yeah. Ed, can you come and...?

Wow, wow, wow!

OK, I'm ready.

I'm joking.

LAUGHTER

While Tegan is on a high,

on the other side of the island,

Bertie has hit a creative low writing his erotic story.

Hello, Bertie.

Hello. Surprise. Appeared out of nowhere. I know. Hello.

So, I heard that you're having a little trouble with your story.

I've been having a bit of trouble

with the vast majority of this phase.

OK! I'm not an erotic person in the slightest.

Can you think of anything that might be interesting to you that is real?

The thing is, there's nothing real about my love life

cos I've never been on any, like, proper dates before...

That doesn't matter. Your thoughts are real inside your head.

What do you think about?

I'm not... I don't... I'm not saying it like this.

I'm not...

You are missing an opportunity for growth,

and I know that's why you're here.

Yeah, I get that.

You don't have to show me anything,

but if you're thinking of them right now, write them down, OK?

All right. I'm just gonna look over here, enjoy the scenery.

OK. Tell me when I can turn around.

Ah...

VO: When it comes to whenever I have sex,

it would probably be the most basic thing ever.

It'll be boring and basic...

HE CHUCKLES

...but, er, that's the thing I need to improve on.

I just want to be more confident in that.

That's the sound of my book closing. All right. Good job! You did it.

Yeah. Erm... Would you like... would you like to see it?

OK. OK, hope you can read my writing. OK, all right.

This is, er, my, er...

Oh, Bertie...

Yeah.

That is REALLY hot.

I read a lot of dirty books, Bertie...

...and that sounds like some of my dirty books.

HE CHUCKLES

Er... I don't know what to say about that, but, er...

Yeah. Er... That's the first time I've shared things like that.

What you wrote is a cohesive fantasy,

and it's beautiful, and it's sexy, and that was all you had to do.

OK. You nailed it.

Thank you, Shelby. No, I appreciate that.

I've got a bit of a high after doing that.

I just shared something deeply personal to a woman

that I only saw yesterday

and only just spoke to about 15 minutes ago.

This island's weird, isn't it?

"Just as quickly as the words left my mouth,

"a firm spank punishes my right cheek."

Aaaah!

"A gasp radiates throughout my body and silences the forest..."

While the girls lose themselves in fantasy...

It's just a safe space to share about feelings, emotions.

...the boys are discussing more real-world issues

with Andre and Jason at a men's circle.

I think I am almost too scared to approach someone I like

because of the fear of coming across

as weird cos I don't know what I'm doing.

It's all a foreign language to me.

Yeah, especially if it's someone I've been interested in for a while

and I'm worried of coming across as, like, creepy...

Yeah, same. ..or something.

I would describe myself as undesirable to someone.

Average at best.

I wouldn't have the confidence to approach a girl in real life.

Everyone I like, I do feel like they're kind of out of my league

and I'm wasting my time.

It's something I'd really like to work on cos it is one of

the biggest hurdles I have personally.

Just give it a go.

It could be a rejection,

but rejection is going to be part of all of our lives.

Just going to, like, get that out of the way.

So the more you practise these things like approaching,

the easier it becomes.

Coming up with the best line, that's all the land of performance.

And when you can actually just be more authentic,

which is, like, maybe more scary,

but that is so attractive to people.

Ed's fear of rejection is fuelling his low self-esteem...

Hello.

I'm glad that we get to spend more time together. Yes.

Have a seat.

...so he's visiting Shelby, who wants to reshape his thinking

using a technique known as cognitive restructuring.

What we're going to kind of focus on today

is changing this script, right? OK.

It can happen for you if we work on the real problem,

and the real problem is your attitude.

You need an attitude adjustment, right? Yeah.

Ready to work for me? Of course.

All right, stand up.

Ed has a really big wall up and he's trying not to be seen,

which is unfortunate for him because I can see through that wall.

Take off your shirt.

Give it to me.

OK, I want you to stand in front of the mirror.

What kind of thoughts and feelings are you having right now?

I don't like my pecs. OK.

And, like, my arms.

I don't like my eyes, I don't like my mouth.

I like my beard, but I think it's a bit weak.

I love my hair, but sometimes I think it doesn't suit me.

I just feel very average.

So you don't want to be average?

No. What do you want?

I want to feel good.

You know what's the easiest way to feel good?

Is to stop being a whiny little bitch.

SHE LAUGHS

Shelby's aim is to reflect Ed's negativity back at him,

helping him to challenge and reframe his thinking.

Tell me that you've been a whiny little bitch.

I've been a whiny little bitch, mistress.

You HAVE been a whiny little bitch.

Do you think you might value my opinion more than your own...

100%.

...when it comes to what's desirable?

Yeah.

Do you want to attract me?

Yes. Do you want to attract other women like me?

Yes. Then you're going to have to listen to me. Yeah.

So the first thing that I noticed about you were your eyes.

You have really beautiful eyes.

Your beard makes you look really masculine,

and women love beards.

And when I first met you on the island,

I didn't notice your arm and your hand at all,

and I thought you were handsome.

You're too distracted, putting yourself down,

to put your focus out,

and the only way you can do that is what?

Stop being...

...a whiny little bitch.

Yes! Exactly!

Does this work? Yes, mistress.

I can take my pleasure from you here. This is fine.

You do not have permission to go backwards from here.

No more excuses.

Yes, mistress. Good.

You better be thinking about me, Ed.

Of course. Every morning, when you look in the mirror,

you do your work.

Yeah.

Thank you, Shelby.

Feeling really good.

She makes me want to be the guy I want to be.

I can say it to myself all day and I don't believe it,

but talking with Shelby makes me actually want to be that guy.

I feel more empowered.

I just needed a session like this to really remind me

why I'm here and how far I've gone.

Ed! What did you get up to?

So, she had the mirror and got me

to say stuff I don't like about myself,

and then she countered it,

and was complimenting me and telling me how it's bullshit,

and I'm not going to be the whiny little bitch any more.

I've learned to ignore the voice in my head.

I mean, it'll take practice to

feel like I'll never listen to him again,

but now, I feel so much more love for myself.

Bertie is also feeling more love for himself

after writing his first erotic story.

Hi. Hello!

Boosted by his new-found confidence and having established

a strong bond with surrogate partner, Kat,

she feels Bertie's ready for a radical next step.

So, the first thing that we're going to do is undressing.

OK. So, basically, we're going to just very slowly

undress ourselves in front of each other.

You'll be doing this too?

Yes, we'll be getting naked together.

OK. Does that feel...?

It's a leap. It's a big leap,

but it's a leap that I'm willing to take, so, yeah. OK, perfect.

All right, whenever you're ready.

It's one big leap for Bertie, but one small step in reaching his goal

of losing his virginity...

SHE EXHALES

Good. How are you feeling?

I did it. Erm... You did it! Yeah.

...so Kat wants to challenge him further.

We're going to do a little bit of an anatomy lesson on me.

OK. Does that feel OK?

That feels bold, but I'm looking forward to it.

I obviously know what female genitals look like,

but when it comes to dealing with one,

when, if I ever have sex, I wouldn't know what to do.

I'd know the different names of the different parts,

but I don't know where's where,

so I wouldn't know where to, you know...

...aim.

Do you want to try to find things?

Yeah? Yeah... OK, so can you point to the outer labia?

Erm...

Nope.

Nope. Oh, this is going to go well!

This is the outer labia right here. Yeah, OK. All right.

And then inner labia?

Was it what I just pointed to?

Mm-hm. These. Yeah, both of those.

THEY CHUCKLE

And then the clitoris.

This is the hard one.

So, it's above the hood, as you call it.

Is it here? Yeah.

And the hood is actually above it, so it's there. Yeah.

And that's the clitoris. Yeah. Yeah.

Ah! Oh, sorry. No, it's OK, it's OK.

It's just super sensitive.

Oh, I... Don't worry about.

I was curious, that's all.

And then the vaginal opening?

It's... here? Yep.

And you can put your finger inside too,

to just feel what it feels like.

You want me to put my fingers inside, like...?

The vagina. Vagina.

Is that, like, here?

Yeah, the vaginal opening, yep.

How does that feel? Just... HE CHUCKLES

And just, like, normalise the textures for yourself. Yeah.

HE SNIFFS I'm just curious!

It's OK. This is all for you to...

OK, it doesn't smell of anything.

Wow. Yeah.

I just want you to really focus on what feels good to you, yeah?

Every single ounce feels so good to me.

That was great. Thank you. Thank you very much.

Good job.

You too.

SHE SIGHS

Thank you. All right. Have a good day. I think I will!

HE CHUCKLES

Even the fact of just caressing and touching a woman's naked body

is something that I've been wanting for, like,

and thinking about for so long,

and the fact I did that means so much to me.

Kat's an incredible woman,

and some of the things that she's allowed me to do

has been nothing short of mind-blowing.

Flirty Bertie.

Did you have a one-on-one?

I did, and I got it all off, so that was brilliant. Oh, fantastic!

Give me a high five, Bert.

Fantastic. Well done. Get in.

Well done. Are you feeling good?

Yeah, great. Surprised I'm able to stand up, but, er...

LAUGHTER

What did she do to you, my guy?!

It's late afternoon on Virgin Island...

I feel like I'm gonna skip half my story cos there's a lot of foreplay.

Hello. Hi.

...and time for the group to brace themselves and reveal all.

We cannot wait to see your courage in coming up

and sharing these deep fantasies and desires with us.

As the group read out their erotic stories...

"The very sight has my pussy wet and humming.

"A firm spank punishes my right ass cheek."

...it's clear that the Play Time Phase

has unlocked some deep desires.

"The fair-haired vixen's hand

"quickly plunged below his trouser line.

"She manoeuvred herself on top of him,

"striding him like a wild stallion."

"I start touching my body and then I hear moans,

"moans that aren't coming from me.

"I look in the mirror and there she is,

"fingering herself on the edge of my bath.

"They slowly move into position, masturbating in sync,

"followed by the 69..."

...which I now know what it is!

LAUGHTER

And for some, the course appears to be coming to a climax.

"I moved to the bedside drawer

"and removed a strap-on and handcuffs..."

WHISPERS: I knew it.

"..and whisper in her ear, 'Are you ready to play?'

"We shag until morning light until both our juices have run dry."

CHEERING - Yeah. - Well done, guys.

Amazing! You did it! Yes.

The end of the Play Time Phase.

We're ready for closing circle.

I think Play Time has been my favourite phase so far.

I'm getting to the stage where I'm ready to lose my virginity.

I think I learned a hell of a lot about myself,

and I couldn't be happier with what I've learned.

Deep breath in... THEY INHALE

...and out.

THEY EXHALE

I found Shelby's sessions incredibly important.

It's really kind of awoken who I am to myself.

I think my progress has essentially skyrocketed,

and I'm going to take the lessons she's given me

and keep them forever.

Shake it out.

ALL: Woooo!

In this phase, a lot of big things have happened to me

and things that I would never have imagined,

but this is what this island's all about.

You're on the roller-coaster and, in the immortal words of Ronan Keating,

you've just got to ride it.

Next time...

Whoa, that's gonna kill someone.

...things get more intense...

...in the Technique Phase...

This may be the scariest workshop yet.

...romance blossoms...

Feelings are starting to happen

and we want to make sure that they're equipped to deal with that.

...and someone... MOANING

...goes all the way.

There were 11 virgins left. Yeah.

LAUGHTER