Original subtitles

I want you to look at these photos

what is the power dynamic here

who's in charge

the one on the bottom well

the bottom is traditionally a submissive position

they're using the leverage from the bottom to control

the person on top he's being pulled down well

there's a term for that in BDSM

it's called topping from the bottom

or doming from below

and you see aspects of this in everyday life

you see advisors to powerful people

who are pretending to serve them

but they're actually pulling strings

that effectively make them the real source of power

and then you see elected officials

who go against their voting base

and their best interests

you see children manipulate their parents

with a threat of disappointment

can you tell me any other examples

that you can think of

blackmail when a person with no standing

uses threats against a prominent person

to force their hand

okay yes what else

drug addicts and family dynamics

how so uh

their addiction affects

the whole way the family unit operates

yes uh

customer service reps um

intentionally delaying

or further inconveniencing angry customers

like waiters spitting in patron's food

anyone in the service industry

intentionally harming

the people that they are hired to serve

people who work on commission

serving their own interest before their clients

like realtors

okay good

what else when victims appeal to media

to publicly punish their aggressors

hmm perhaps

but I would I would suggest this

is an authorized and even encouraged show of power

I would argue that in this case

that the threat of exposure

well that's sort of one of the checks and balances

to make sure that people

who are granted this kind of power play by the rules

but couldn't it be said that there are cases now

where the imbalances

the power hierarchies that have been inverted

I mean if you can identify with the victimized group

or show how the person you are accusing

holds more officially sanctioned power than yourself

then any accusation against the named oppressor

is treated as the absolute truth

followed by swift social execution

without any further look at the context

the details corroborating evidence

is it a checks and balance

if it is not also somehow checked

well yes

the system is not perfect

but isn't it a step up from

a system that refuses to hold power accountable

I think both are wrong

okay well

in periods of social readjustment

of course yes

the pendulum always swings

and there are always casualties

in the upheaval of change

but I am willing to

except these sacrifices for the greater good

which is that change so

do you think that the people who are

those sacrifices feel the same

it can turn a person's life upside down

when they come out as a victim

against a powerful person

there's no incentive for a victim to come forward

without any just cause

there is no safe space in power

when you're on top

it only means the attacks will come from below

every interaction is a power exchange

every interaction

is an opportunity for the party to either

gain power or to lose it

the only place you'll find rest is at the bottom

resign to your powerlessness

you know in BDSM

the subspace is actually a sanctuary

because it's a place you can find rest

no one is fighting you for the lowest rung

and that's what I see in these pictures

the lower rung

struggling for Ascension

shit on the day of the deposition

they're gonna sit you here

they're probably gonna have a camera on you

bring water and dress in layers

so that you can adjust to whatever temperature

the room is

lawyers are known to crank up the thermostat

to make you uncomfortable

is that something you do

of course

their goal is to get you to answer questions

in such a way that it pokes holes in your case

and you have to answer every question

this isn't my court

so you need to learn how to answer questions

while giving them as little information as possible

and how to not get thrown off

because when you're thrown off

you're gonna start telling them things

we don't want them to know

is Matt

is she gonna be there

yes

are you intimidated by her

we should have had this conversation a while ago Ernest

are you carrying a little bit of a torch for her

a little crush maybe

I don't I don't know if I can do this

it's understandable

a strong out of reach woman

that wields direct control over your day to day life

and not to discount her beauty

who wouldn't sexualize that

do you think about

how strong she is between her thighs

and of all the things she could teach you

and of all the things she's done before

and how inexperienced you would feel

as you clumsily presented your cock

for her amusement

hmm hmm

hmm ah hmm

close your eyes and think about her

think about her sitting across this table from you

think of her strong thighs clenched tight

and just a little drop of wetness

spilling onto her panties

can you smell her in the room with you right now

can you feel her close

close to you oh

my God

oh

ah ah ah

ah ah

ah

ah

fuck ah ah

from now on

I will be the surrogate for those attentions

you will not let her overpower you

you are not a victim anymore

what the fuck

what's going on with the fish

they were fine until you put a sick one in there

now there's only one left

you mean this one

great now there's nothing left to fight about

I'm sorry if I upset the balance between you and Avery

I hope it's not too bad between you two

don't flatter yourself

the only thing you upset the balance of

is that fucking fish tank

I can buy you a new fish the damage is done

okay wait

does intention matter at all or is it only damage

because if I had to choose between somebody

whose damage was buying a goldfish

that might have in hindsight

been sick

compared to somebody who's been willfully fucking

another person behind their partner's back

I will gladly take the girl with the goldfish

what what

intention is all that matters Ivy

officers are 3 to five

didn't you pass my class already

I'm sorry I

I don't know exactly what I'm doing here I just

I'm doing this wrong

and I feel it pouring out of me

and I can't stop it because I can't identify it

and I'm hurting and I'm hurting people

I'm hurt by them

I'm sorry I know this isn't your job I just

I just need to know

what am I missing

you know there's a quote

that I've always loved by an Auschwitz survivor

his name is Primo Levi

and he wrote

it's sooner or later in life

everyone realizes that perfect happiness

it's unrealizable

but there are very few that consider the antithesis

that perfect unhappiness is also unattainable

these obstacles

preventing the realization of these

these dramatically extreme states

it's drive from our human condition

and that's supposed to

to everything infinite

and I just worry sometimes that

we aren't missing anything

I really need for there to be something to find

this can't be it

um

I wish I could help you

but

it's a good school policy

to have any students in here after office hours

thanks thank you

you ready

5 6 7

Jenny Odell writes that to seek context

is to already acknowledge

that you don't have the whole story

we have never had the whole story

only the parable of why it is out of our grasp

a group of blind men come across an elephant

for the first time

one feels its tusk and says

elephants are made of stone

another feels its leg and says no

an elephant is like a tree

still another feels its trunk and calls it a snake

another feels its tail and says it's a broom

eventually they come to blows

each claiming the absolute truth

based on his subjective experience

and a cycle of harm is born

I do not know how to wrap my arms

around this whole beast

to tell you everything there is to know

with my faculties bound

as new cycles twist up around me

I do not always know enough to say I don't know

what I do know is

it only takes one incomplete step to break a cycle

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I have the worst fucking day of my life right now yeah

I need to feel something

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look at that dick look at that dick in there

is that what you want is that what you want

is that what you came here for

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you want that dick don't you

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you like having a stranger on you

yeah yeah

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I don't even wanna know your fucking name yeah

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you know that yeah I just look at that

fucking fat dicks on me yeah

just like that just like a slut that I am yeah

I am gonna be a slut for all of you yeah

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I like everybody in this fucking club

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thank you yes thank

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train that thing yeah train that thing

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oh my God

I love you so much

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God

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yes I will buy one fucking more clock yeah

right there oh yeah right there

you ready

I'm always ready

what's wrong

I've been asking my students a lot about happiness

but anger

and power

and victimhood

and

I don't know I guess I just thought

I thought maybe someone would tell me what was wrong

is there something wrong I don't know

I thought you were my flaw

no one's perfect

and I kept trying to escape my flaw

I still do it

I keep going for sex that might get me off of you

and break the cycle

but no matter how many bodies that I burn through I

I just can't find it

but I know that you're not the flaw

you just see the evidence of it

you're the opiate

and when you were off

I really hurt

and I just I just keep going back because

you just relieve the ache in me

there is something wrong and I just

I just I can't find it

I intend to find it

and I'm gonna rip it out by the root

are you ready to begin yes

please state your name for the record

Maitland Ward