Original subtitles

consent as with any sex act and take it extremely slowly your partner may well

find the idea of being penetrated hard to deal with in practice even if they

like the thought of it but if a man is always asking for anal sex when you

really want to by having a strap on handy you can smile sweetly and say i

if you will however in a loving relationship this kind of

give you both a real thrill

There are numerous ways to use a toy on a woman.

Teasing her all over with a vibrator can be a sensual treat.

The nipples can respond just as well to vibration as the clitoris.

Trail the toy over her inner thigh or across her pubic mound.

Use it for lots of clitoral stimulation.

As she gets more aroused, lie down beside her with her leg over yours so

her entire vulva is accessible.

Bring the toy nearer to her vagina and penetrate her with it the way she likes

best. If you don't know what that is, try a variety of things.

Teasing the entrance, sliding the toy in and out.

or resting it deep inside her and ask which she likes best

if you want to experiment with g -spot play a

toy can help there are several toys with bent tips that are designed to make it

easier to find put the toy inside your partner and rotate it gradually

getting deeper until she lets you know that you've hit the spot

A vibrating sponge is a very discreet toy for extra pleasure in the shower or

bath. Or try using an electric toothbrush.

Cover the bristles with cling film, then use it on the clitoris or testicle.

Or there's always the DIY option. The classic is a shower head. Use it to

warm water over, never up the vagina and clitoris, or over his testicles. Vary

the pressure of the spray to see which is the most intense.

Don't be scared of getting creative with the way you use toys either.

If you're petting on the sofa, why not put your favourite toy between the

cushions for your partner to ride while you kiss and caress her?

It can help if you fantasise about group sex but don't want to risk the

emotional dangers of living it out for real.

She can slide up and down on the toy while fellating you.

There are always new toys coming out. The latest wireless toys can even be

in public.

Your partner wears it under their clothes and the vibrations are

either of you using a remote.

No matter what you want, there's sure to be a toy for you. What you do with them

is limited only by your imagination.

Most people assume that touching each other is an essential part of sex play.

However, anticipation is a wonderful thing and teasing without touching can

oh so tempting.

Phoning up your partner and murmuring erotic scenarios in their ear will help

set the mood.

But be careful if they're in an important meeting.

If you call your partner at lunchtime, they have all afternoon to think about

what you're going to do later.

If you're feeling really brave, you may even want to let your partner hear you

come. Lie down somewhere comfortable where you won't be disturbed and stroke

yourself, letting your partner hear your moans.

Text messaging is another great way to get loved up long distance.

Send a saucy message, making sure to leave it open -ended so that your

can easily reply.

Make sure that you dial the number correctly. You don't want your boss to

the message by mistake.

While cyber sex with strangers can be extremely risky...

Titillating your partner by getting kinky with your keyboard can get them

panting for more.

You may want to get a webcam.

Strip off for the camera, caressing yourself as you do.

For extra safety, you may want to keep your head out of the shot while you

Just make sure that your partner isn't the type of person who'd save the

pictures to show to their friends.

Strip tease is another way to tease your partner, and it's not just for women.

Get dressed up in your sexiest outfits, making sure it's easy to remove, and

undies. A little black dress for women, a tuxedo for men is ideal.

Make sure that the room is easy enough for you to dance in. Tripping over is

sexy.

Put on some music that makes you want to bump and grind, and then start the

show. Run your hands all over your body, removing each item achingly slowly.

Remember, striptease isn't about getting undressed as quickly as possible. It's

about slow and sensual seduction.

Eye contact is essential.

Make sure your partner realises just how much you want them as you peel off your

clothes. Sucking your fingers and stroking your body will add to the sex

You may even want to add some fantasy.

Massage can also be an erotic form of sex play. It's arousing, relaxing,

sexual and deeply loving, all at the same time.

And, best of all, giving can be just as much fun as receiving.

There are two main kinds of strokes to use in erotic massage.

Petrissage, which is kneading the muscles, and effleurage, which is

Use both types. Try long, smooth strokes that follow the curves of your

partner's body.

Move slowly and gently and use your body weight rather than the strength in your

arms for deep strokes.

Massage oils smell great and aid relaxation.

Scented candles and mood music also help set the scene.

When they're suitably relaxed and aroused, you can move on to their chest,

arms and hands, teasingly gliding over their genitals until they're eager with

anticipation.

Rather than going straight for oral sex or traditional masturbation techniques,

move on to genital massage.

Stroke your partner's body while you caress his genitals.

If you're massaging a woman, rub her thighs or gently caress the entire pubic

area.

Vary light strokes with a firmer caress and see which she prefers. She may like

both in equal amounts, so experiment.

After that, you could end with a Thai or full -body massage where you slip

-slide all over one another. It's highly arousing for you both.

A sensual massage will set all your partner's nerves alight, so prepare for

serious fireworks.

Sensual food can really help boost the mood.

Have a romantic meal with asparagus, oysters or prawns to start.

Savour the flavours whilst looking your partner straight in the eye.

and leaving them in no doubt that you'd rather be nibbling something else.

Share a glass of champagne for extra fizz.

Ask your partner to get naked.

Take a grape or strawberry, moisten it between your lips, and then roll it over

your partner's body.

As you approach your partner's more intimate areas, the new sensation will

driving them wild and they'll be desperate for more direct contact.

You may want to add some whipped cream or drizzled honey to your foodie

You might be in the mood for some dessert too.

If you want to carry on the tease, team it with mild bondage. A blindfold can

heighten the mood, as your partner will have no idea of what's coming next.

Once you've got your partner suitably bound, tease them with your breath.

Kneel across them, being careful not to let your skin touch theirs, so that all

they can feel is your body heat.

Now breathe lightly over their body. Focus on erogenous zones like the ears

neck, then gradually slide down the body to breathe on the nipples, stomach and

thighs. Work your way down their legs, then back up the thighs towards the

genitals. The trick is to be close enough to give your partner a thrill,

enough away so that they can't make contact.

This is a truly tantalising experience that will have your partner begging for

more.

Experiment with other sensations too. A feather, fake fur or a silk scarf

trailed over the body can get surprising results.

Ice can also be fun. Just make sure you melt it slightly first as ice burns can

be nasty.

Play out your own nine and a half weeks.

To add to the sensation, you may want to drizzle warm or cold water on them so

that your breath sends a delicious shiver through the body.

Sex play is so much more than just a prequel to penetrated sex.

It can be just as intimate as full -on sex, if not more so, and really lets you

go wild with your creativity.

If you have a sexy idea that you'd like to try, talk it over with your partner.

Communication is the key in any relationship and could lead to some

time.

So, lie back.

Sit down or stand up and get ready to enjoy sex play in all its glory.

You'll be amazed at how much it can change your sex life for the better.

Rather than thinking of foreplay as a starter, enjoy sex play as the

bacchanalian, loving and erotic feast it should be.

Favourite bit of foreplay? I guess I like my ear to be kind of nibbled every

often.

I love it when my wife touches me in a very soft, gentle way.

I like to be touched very softly, and I like lots of kisses all over my body.

I like giving it, but it's because he's enjoying it the most that it makes me

enjoy it even more.

I love watching my girlfriend use her vibrator.

I like it when the man plays the alphabet game. I like it when he does it

Russian, though, because there's more letters.

You're 10.

Ever since sex was first discovered, people have experimented with different

positions. Ancient texts like the Karma Sutra contain exotic pictures of

different sexual positions.

These books were created to help couples to enhance their relationship, but also

to try to prevent some of the sexual tedium that can settle into a

when people have been together for a long time.

The fact that these books exist and that they are so popular, proves that for

generations we have had an appetite to expand our sexual horizons.

But, and this is the interesting bit, most people will only ever try three

positions.

The man on top, the woman on top, and doggy style.

I think it's time we looked out there at what else there is to enjoy.

A variety in your sex life will mean a fresh sex life.

Adding new positions to your repertoire can radically improve your sex life. The

old adage, it's not what you've got, it's what you do with it, is true.

Some positions can help make a man seem bigger.

Others make things more comfortable if the man is extremely well endowed.

A woman can make her vagina tighter or looser depending on the way she moves

body.

Different positions allow access to different erogenous zones, making it

to hit those hot spots during sex.

Some allow for deeper penetration, some for dual stimulation.

Some allow for lots of eye contact and touching, whilst others would qualify

the sexual Olympics.

Do you want better orgasms?

Or do you want your first orgasm through penetration?

Only 25 % of women achieve orgasm through penetrative sex alone.

But it doesn't have to be this way. Using different positions can make it

easier.

Positions that allow stimulation of the clitoris, G -spot or both during sex

help women reach climax more easily.

Trying out new positions can improve communication and intimacy between you

your partner.

You don't have to be a gymnast to have great sex.

But doing the same thing time and time again should be a thing of the past.

I'm lazy.

Nothing beats lying on my back while he goes down on me. And I can grab his head

when I come.

It's not just penetrative sex that involves a range of positions.

Oral sex can be varied to get different kinds of stimulation.

One of the classic cunnilingus positions is where the woman lies back with the

man between her legs and revels in the sensation.

This position gives him easy access to the clit and is also easy to incorporate

a toy or fingers into.

For a truly decadent experience, the man should lie on his back whilst the woman

kneels between his thighs.

Sucking him in this position is even better when the woman looks the man

straight in the eyes whilst performing.

If he can see that you enjoy it, then he'll get off on it even more.

It blows me away when she kneels in front of me and sucks me off. She's got

hair and feeling it brush over my balls is so sensual.

Whilst fellatio being performed with a woman on her knees is seen by some as

politically incorrect, the power exchange involved arouses many men and

In a loving relationship, varying playing with submissive and dominant

be a good way to boost your sex life.

Indeed, the man can kneel while the woman is standing.

This position can be a true knee trembler.

Depending on the size and width of the man's penis, Approaching the penis from

the side may be easier.

This position makes it very easy to stroke the balls and close a sex toy

his anus if he's into that kind of thing.

For the best orgasms for a woman through oral sex, an approach from the side can

help. The man has easy access to stimulate the clitoris and pubic mound.

This is particularly good if the woman has a sensitive clitoris, as it's easier

for him to avoid the tip and focus on the hood and upper labia.

or try it from behind. The woman should get onto her hands and knees.

The man can then go down on her from behind. He can use his tongue to great

effect when he approaches from behind.

If you're into it, and well washed, he can also stimulate the anus with his

tongue.

Sitting on a man's face gives the woman a lot of control.

She can rub against his mouth and even nose, careful not to suffocate him, to

get a great orgasm.

A common feature in porn videos is men ejaculating over the woman's face.

Whilst to some people this is unacceptable, other women really enjoy

ideal position is kneeling astride her chest.

Whilst it can be tricky for the woman to take the man very far down her throat

in this position, there's plenty of scope for hands and tongue to provide

than enough stimulation.

At the point of orgasm, the man can easily pull away and ejaculate over the

woman's face.

And then there's the biggie, deep throat.

When it comes to deep throat, some positions are easier than others.

The more space the woman's throat has got, the better.

It's far easier to do if the woman keeps her neck straight rather than bending

over the penis. The woman should control the pace by putting her hands on the

man's hips and only pulling him forward as she feels comfortable.

Deep throat requires practice and will not happen if the guy thrusts. The woman

needs to keep control and do it at her own pace. Only that way will she be able

to overcome the gagging reflex.

Some people enjoy the double thrill of giving and receiving pleasure at the

time. Whilst the traditional man or woman on top positions are fine for

the side -by -side version helps both have equal control and enjoyment.

I'm a romantic soul and love kissing and cuddling during sex.

The missionary is the easiest for that. I have a big crush on the guy I'm with,

so I like to see him face to face.

When missionaries visited Africa and the South Pacific, they apparently insisted

that the man on top position was the only proper way to have sex, and hence

name. However, man on top positions were written about in the very earliest of

sex books.

I like it because I can wrap my arms around his shoulders and pull our bodies

really close together, clinging to him while we make love.

For many people, the missionary position is a favourite. Because it's so natural

and comfortable, it has a lot going for it.

The basic missionary position with the man on top and the woman underneath

allows intimacy. You can see your partner's face, kiss, hug and caress

other.

The full body contact felt in the missionary position means the body's

sexual organ, the skin, is stimulated.

Feeling your lover's skin against yours and your heart beating next to each

other is a great way to make love rather than just have sex.

The man has most of the control and good freedom of movement in this position.

Most women, though, find it equally enjoyable.

The thing I like about missionary is that I can see a face.

I like his power. He can shag me really hard.

Don't see lubricant as a boring thing or something that shows the woman can't

get aroused properly.

Incorporate it into your lovemaking.

A splash of cool lubricant on the clitoris or head of the penis, as well

inside and outside the condom, can add a thrill to the proceedings, as well as

making it easier to have great sex.

Covering each other in oil or lube can add even more sensation as you can glide

seductively over one another.

Maybe start with an erotic massage and then add some extra oil to each other's

chests before you move slowly and sensually into the missionary position.

If you use oil, keep it well away from the pelvic regions as it can rot

As you'd expect with one of the most popular sexual positions, there are many

variations of the missionary position available.

I like it when he pins my arms over my head. I can arch up against him and rub

my clit.

You may both find it more pleasurable if the woman bends her knees with her feet

on the mattress.

She can take more control by putting her feet on the man's buttocks and using

them to push his pubic bone further into her clitoris.

Alternatively, women can try wrapping their legs around their partner. Known

the plough, this position deepens penetration and increases sensation for

partners by tightening the vagina.

Once it's even deeper, the woman should bring her knees up to her chest and then

lock them in place with her arms.

But for the deepest penetration of all, the woman should place her legs over her

partner's shoulders.

The further back her legs are, the deeper the penetration as it lengthens

vagina. If the man is particularly long, he should move slowly until he's

certain that his partner's comfortable.

Called the anvil, it can allow intense sensations for the woman, particularly

the man comes in this position.

I love the missionary.

I put my feet on his shoulders or bring my knees to my chest.

to make him feel bigger.

It's just so versatile.

To increase penetration, the woman can try putting a pillow underneath her

Try varying the place you put the pillow to see which is the best place to

really help you hit the spot.

Use a firm cushion rather than a soft one. You don't want to sink into it. You

want it to help put your clit in the right position for maximum stimulation.

A variation on the missionary position that takes a bit more effort is the bum

lift. The man should put his hands under her hips and lift them up to best angle

his penis towards her G -spot.

A further variation of the bum lift is where the woman rests her legs on the

man's arms or shoulders.

You can add spice to the missionary position by the woman dangling her legs

thighs over the edge of the bed, but it could be the sofa, kitchen table or even

her office desk.

The man can thrust deeper and the woman is in a great position to touch her

clitoris and breasts.

Want to feel him right up to the hilt, the woman wraps her legs around him.

really allows for maximum thrust.

A wilder variation is the jumping frog.

Start in the missionary position, the man then raises himself up to all fours

and the woman raises her pelvis to meet the penis.

The man should stay still as the woman controls the action from underneath.

I love sliding up between her legs. There's something really sexy about

Possibly one of the most effective variations on the missionary position is

coital alignment technique, or cat position.

This stimulates the G -spot and clitoris and is thought to assist mutual orgasm.

The man rests his full weight on the woman, then edges forward so that his

pelvis is directly over hers.

The woman wraps her legs around him, keeping them straight.

then presses up as he moves backwards, so they're both rocking gently against

each other.

As orgasm approaches, rather than speeding up, they just keep rocking so

the orgasm comes naturally rather than being chased.

This is a truly amazing experience and should result in great orgasms for both

of you. In any variation, women can close their legs to tighten things up.

However, this can speed the man's orgasm, so handle with care.

It can be great for both of you, though, if a woman closes her legs. It makes

the man enter the vagina from a sharper angle, increasing the clitoral

stimulation. His penis also stimulates her vaginal lips if she keeps her legs

together.

To improve the quality of the orgasm, the woman can try clenching her buttocks

while the man's on top.

This increases blood flow to the pelvis, making her climax more intense.

The woman can also try reaching between the man's legs in this position to

stroke his testicles. Go gently as some men are more sensitive than others.

However, stimulating his testicles during sex can add a great thrill.

You can also try pressing his perineum during sex instead. This is the area

between his penis and anus. If you press your thumb against this fleshy pad

while he's inside you, it will heighten his pleasure.

Some men and women like having a finger inserted in their backside during sex,

and the missionary position is one of the easiest positions for this.

The prostate gland is a chestnut -shaped lump about a third of the way inside

the man's bum.

Try gently stroking this to send a man into orbit.

Don't do it without asking first, though. There is such a thing as

man too much.

Make sure that any finger inserted into his bum has short nails and is well

lubricated. The inside wall is made of far thinner skin than that of the vagina

and can easily be torn.

However, a careful approach with a well -lubricated finger or toy should be fine

and can be intensely pleasurable.

If you want to have great sex in the missionary position, both of you need to

work at it. Whilst the woman flexes her vaginal muscles and strokes the man's

erogenous bones, he can make circular movements with his hips to stimulate the

-spot or press down with his pubic bone to stimulate her clitoris.

Obviously, it's easy to reach a woman's breasts in the missionary position, but

don't just go for the obvious. Kissing her neck and stroking her torso may have

just as much effect.

The missionary position offers lots of scope and it's no wonder it's been the

top choice for so many people for so long.

It's great for clitoral stimulation, gives you both the chance to touch each

other's bodies during sex and you can kiss and hug whilst you make love.

Who said the missionary position has to be boring?

I love it when I'm on top.

There's more control in my hands.

I decide how fast, deep and intense it can be.

Subconsciously, it's probably a power thing, but that's a whole other area of

psyche.

Another popular position is the woman on top, where the woman rides the man.

This position puts the control with the woman. She can set the speed and depth

of penetration.

Obviously, the man's movement is tempered in this position.

In fact, some women like this element and add to it by pinning their partner's

arms to the bed whilst they make love to them.

There's nothing that makes me feel as sexy as going on top.

It's kind of, I am woman, hear me roar.

Sometimes women like to lean forward and kiss their partner, whilst at other

times they like to sit upright or lean back as they bounce on their partner's

penis.

It generally takes longer for a man to come in this position, so it's a great

one to try if you want things to last longer.

Watching my girlfriend bouncing on top of me turns me on almost as much as the

way it feels.

She's so sexy when she comes.

If the man wants deeper penetration, he can arch his pelvis towards the woman,

although this position is already great for deep penetration.

One of the best things about this position is the amount of visceral

it allows.

The more the woman leans forward, the better the friction it provides.

Use lots of lubricants if chafing is a problem.

Start in the traditional woman on top position, then gradually move until the

woman is lying directly on top of the man. By gently rocking and circling

the man is inside her, the clitoris and pubic area get maximum stimulation while

his penis stimulates her inside.

It's a kind of reverse cat technique.

Close those legs together for maximum pleasure.

This position is great if the man is very well endowed as it controls the

of penetration.

Nothing beats lying flat on top of him and grinding away.

If I ever find it hard to come, we change to that position and it always

off.

Another way to vary this position is to start from woman on top.

The man then gradually sits up, holding the woman in his arms. They then rock

their way to climax.

You can add to the woman on top's position by moving your legs. The woman

on the man's penis, puts her legs over his shoulders, then leans back on her

hands. He also leans back, which pushes his penis against her G -spot to

increase their pleasure.

Or why not try starting with the man on his knees? The woman sits astride him

with her legs out behind him and uses her arms to support herself.

The man grips her hips to control the thrusting.

The raised kneeling position puts the cliff in the perfect place to rub

the man's torso and get the stimulation it needs.

Some men like having their nipples pinched or kissed and sucked while they

love. Woman on top is the perfect position to make lots of chest nibbling

Conversely, some women enjoy having their breasts teased while they're on

Try teasing your partner, hovering your breath tantalisingly millimetres from

his face, then pulling away.

Of course, you want him to catch your nipples between his lips at some stage,

but anticipation can be a wonderful thing.

If you have long hair, brushing it over his body seductively whilst you ride him

can also add an extra frisson.

Alternate leaning forwards and teasing him with your breath.

with leaning backwards to make it easier for his penis to hit your G -spot.

And squeezing your vaginal muscles whilst grinding and moving backwards and

forwards will blow you both away.

For a real mutual treat, a woman should lower herself onto the man's penis but

only slide down as far as the head before oh -so -slowly easing back.

Repeat this ten times.

before sliding all the way down to the base of his shaft in one go.

After that deep thrust, pull back up again and tease the head eight times

slamming back down, this time for two thrusts.

Next, do seven shallow thrusts and three deep thrusts, and so on.

Try gripping his penis with your vaginal muscles when he's on the shallow thrust

for sexercise that will send you both sky high.

By the time you get up to ten deep thrusts, you'll be giving this technique

definite ten out of ten.

Some women enjoy being anally stimulated. If so, this is the best

inserting a well -lubed finger or toy into her.

Woman on top sex is also a very easy position for stroking a man's testicles.

Women, try gently pulling down on them while he's penetrating you. And again, a

bit of perineum stimulation never goes amiss.

In fact, hands can be used in many ways to make sex even better.

If a woman stretches the skin on a man's penis gently downwards by holding on to

the base, it'll add to his thrill, so it's also likely to speed up his orgasm.

Feeling a rush of blood to the head arouses some women. If you're one, lean

in the woman on top position until your head hangs off the end of the bed.

This also clearly presents the clitoris for manual stimulation by either

partner.

If either of you are significantly taller than the other, woman on top is

easiest position.

And if sex doesn't last long enough, woman on top can improve things. The

can keep penetration shallow and go at her pace rather than his.

Try the stop -start technique whilst in the woman on top position.

The man should concentrate on lying still while the woman moves up and down

slowly until he is about to come.

She then stops until he knows he can hold his orgasm back and then starts

Every time the man nears climax, the woman should keep the stop -start going

until she's ready for him to come.

Then he can start moving his hips, and both partners get to enjoy a spine

-tingling orgasm.

A fun variation on Woman on Top is the reverse cowgirl. It takes a bit of

practice, but, hey, you'll have fun practicing.

The woman straddles the man backwards.

She then puts her hands on his knees or on either side of him for leverage.

He gets added visual stimulation from seeing her buttocks.

She gets great G -spot stimulation, however, move slowly in this position

you know exactly what the best angle is for both of you. You don't want the

penis to bend back too far.

When the man's about to climax, the woman should lean forward, grab his toes

tug on them. The nerves in the toes are connected to the ones in his penis, so

this will make his orgasm more intense.

With the woman on top, you can kiss and caress each other easily. If the woman's

pregnant or either of you have large stomachs, it can be the easiest position

use. Woman on top allows lots of scope for caressing each other.

Try looking into each other's eyes while you make love in this position for an

intimately mind -blowing experience.

There's something really comfy about spooning.

We usually drift into it in the mornings when we're both sleepy because it

doesn't take much effort. It's a really great way to wake up.

Sex side by side can be wonderful.

Possibly the most relaxing of sexual positions is spooning. Both of you lie

your sides, facing in the same direction with the man behind the woman.

The man slides in and you both gently thrust or rock to orgasm.

You can kiss in this position and the man can stroke the woman all over at the

same time.

I like spoons because I like the feeling of him all the way down my back and

being hugged.

You can also try side -by -side sex facing each other. Although this is

to get into, being able to stare into your lover's eyes whilst you have sex

a comforting level of intimacy.

Start in either missionary or woman -on -top positions, then roll onto your

thighs.

If the penetration isn't deep enough, then the woman can bend her legs and

it on top of the man's thigh.

Another twist on this position is to have sex facing each other while the

wraps her legs around the man's waist.

To deepen penetration, the man simply bends his legs to give greater leverage.

To get super close and have lots of clitoral stimulation, try side -by -side

with scissoring.

Face each other and scissor your legs together before the man slides inside.

Hold onto each other for leverage.

You could try moving your hips in a circular motion rather than thrusting

side -by -side cat -like position.

If you find side -by -side sex tricky, try starting in the woman on top

position, with the woman leaning back and resting on her arms.

Then roll into side -by -side sex when her legs get tired.

The man should lock his thighs round her waist and hold her thighs before

rolling. This will give deeper penetration than traditional side -by

and the roll itself will give you a thrill.

The whole spoons thing was recommended by a mate when she got pregnant as the

only possible way to have sex comfortably.

I'm so glad she told me about it because she was right and it was handy to know

when I got pregnant.

If either of you are large, taking side -by -side sex from a different angle

will make things easier.

The woman should lie on her back with the man lying on his side.

The woman then lifts her right leg up while the man puts his leg over hers and

inserts his penis.

This position gives lots of scope for the woman to rub her clitoris against

thigh.

For true indulgence, try spooning sex with a glass of champagne in your hand.

You can feed each other erotic tidbits of food whilst enjoying each other's

bodies. Fruits, chocolates or smoked salmon blinis are all ideal for this

decadent of acts.

Generally, sex side by side is a relaxing and romantic position.

The body hug effect will make you feel loving and the shared effort makes it

ideal for a lazy Sunday morning special.

It's an animal thing. When he grips my thighs and gets deep inside me, it feels

wilder than other positions.

Sex from behind is also a popular position, be it the traditional doggy

one of the myriad variations.

It's ideal for G -spot simulation and has raw appeal.

Doggy style is simple to try. The woman gets on her hands and knees or lies on

her front on the bed or wherever else. The man kneels behind her, penetrates

and grafts her hips.

Some men prefer to put their legs between their partner's thighs whilst

keep them outside her legs. As ever, if the woman keeps her thighs together, her

vagina will be tighter.

It's got to be taking her from behind.

The view is good and my legs are a lot stronger than my arms so it's far

This position gives the man a lot of freedom to explore.

He can cut up her breasts and play with her nipples as he thrusts. He can also

play with her clitoris or she can play with herself.

For a lazy and languorous variation of sex from behind, the man can lie on his

back with the woman lying on her back on top of him. Her clitoris and breasts

are easily reachable, and he can enjoy the sensual sliding of her body against

his.

In this position, penetration is not that deep. However, remember that the

vagina is most sensitive at the entrance.

though deeper isn't always better.

Shallow penetration can be great for men too.

It constantly stimulates the head of the penis and the frenulum, which are more

sensitive than the shaft.

Sex from behind can be fun if you take it just outside the bed.

The woman kneels, facing the bed, while the man penetrates her from behind.

The further forward the woman leans, the deeper the man can go.

I love it when he lies on top of me when I'm face down.

I rub myself against the bed while he's shagging me.

Many women find it pleasurable if they lie on their front while the man enters

them from behind.

Penetration isn't as deep as it is with the classic doggy style, so this is a

good one to try if the man is particularly well endowed.

If you're lying on your front rather than kneeling, a pillow underneath your

vulva can add to the clitoral friction you need.

Masturbating during sex is one of the easiest ways to increase the chances of

achieving orgasm. It's not a negative comment on the man's skills.

If anything, it shows great intimacy between partners, as masturbating in

of your lover requires a certain amount of trust.

If you have problems coming with him inside you, masturbate until close to

climax and then let him penetrate you.

Doggy style is a great position to incorporate masturbation and sex toys

particularly given that it doesn't provide any direct clitoral stimulation.

A finger or vibrator on the clit can give a woman the best of both worlds.

G -spot stimulation through the penetration and clitoral stimulation as

Even better, he'll feel the vibrations too.

Remember, using toys isn't just for women. Try setting a vibrator going on

balls whilst he's thrusting to give him a thrill. And men, add some gentle

stroking or rain soft kisses over her neck and shoulders to add more

to proceedings.

Doggy style is great for G -spot simulation, but to make things really

need to aim for the A -zone. Between a woman's G -spot and her cervix is an

called the anterior fornic zone, or A -zone for short.

Found by scientists investigating vaginal dryness in 1996, you can feel it

your fingers first to know where to aim.

First of all, feel for the G spot, a spongy mass about a third of the way up.

Carry on to the cervix, which feels round. Be careful. It can hurt if you

too hard against it.

Then move your fingers back until you're halfway between the two.

This is the A zone, which should be easy to spot because you'll be crying out.

Ah.

During sex, the A -zone is easiest to hit from behind.

Women will often experience strong contractions if it's hit, which feels as

they're trying to push the man out.

If this happens to you, the man should press harder into the woman, as the

harder he presses, the more thrilling her orgasm will be.

Sex from behind is wild, animalistic and gives him a great view while

stimulating her G -spot and giving lots of scope for clitoral stimulation.

What more could you want?

We've got a chair in the front room that's become our chair.

I was sitting on his lap kissing him quite early in our relationship and we

ended up making love.

He was stroking me all over while we were at it.

It was quite hard for us to keep a balance though, so we ended up laughing

lot.

Sitting is the classic slow position to enjoy lazy and leisurely lovemaking.

The woman just climbs on and grinds away.

Whether face to face or not, taking things slowly is key to getting a great

climax. Standing sex, on the other hand, is mostly designed for the quickie. If

he's got strong thighs, try having sex standing up whilst the woman wraps her

legs around him.

You'll both get deep penetration and can kiss and caress each other whilst you

make love.

I love sex standing up, although I have to stand on the phone book that I'm the

right height to do it.

Doggy variance is where the woman leans over a table or office desk or even the

kitchen sink. The penetration is deep and her slightly upturned vagina creates

strong friction.

The split level position is where she lies back on the table or desk or

worktop. Again, penetration is deep and both have great access to each other's

bodies.

A bloke steered me into an alley when we were walking home from a club one time.

We ended up having sex against the wall.

It was really exciting and the fact that we could get caught at any moment

turned us both on.

Sex alfresco can be done secretively because you don't need to remove many

clothes to have plenty of scope for feverish groping while you make love.

To deepen penetration, the woman can lean forward facing the wall while the

penetrates her for a standing doggy style.

Varying locations is a great way to keep things fresh and new.

By far the easiest way to have seated sex is for the man to sit down while the

woman straddles him.

This can be labour -intensive on the thighs as the woman uses them to control

the riding.

I was sitting on top of my boyfriend on the back of a bus. It felt really

naughty and I've masturbated about it loads since.

Cry sex the other way round, with the woman seated.

She leans back in a chair with her legs spread and the man enters her from a

kneeling position.

The further back the woman leans, the more the man can thrust into her.

For deep penetration and a head rush, the woman considers stride the man on an

armchair with her feet on either side of him. She then leans back until her arms

are on the floor and her head is dangling down.

The woman can use her hands and hips to control the thrusting, while the man can

pump his pelvis and play with her clit.

If you want to try something different, try varying the approach.

Again, the man sits down on a chair, but rather than sitting astride him or on

top of him, the woman sits side -on.

This is a very different sensation for both of you. Be careful not to stretch

the penis into an angle that it's not comfortable with, and move slowly until

you're both happy with the feeling.

Find a good place to sit. Start with the man's legs spread and the woman

crouching above him. She slides onto him and then wraps her legs around him. He

then wraps his legs around her and both partners hold hands and lean back, using

each other's weight to balance.

This position is also a good one to try in the bath.

You can also use a variant of it on a chair. Try varying how far your legs are

spread. In this position, the man supports her back with his hands.

Both enjoy the fairly deep penetration.

Women can also flex their vaginal muscles easiest while making love,

down, adding to mutual pleasure.

Don't just thrust, but try making figure -of -eight motions with your hips.

Whilst she does that, she can also keep teasing him with her vaginal grip to

really excite him.

You can use the seated position to make things last longer and have some sexy

fun. Sit astride him, then have a conversation.

Or even both read a book while slowly rocking away.

Take it in turns to tease each other. Maybe he can stroke your breasts or you

can flex your vaginal muscle whilst calmly talking about the weather.

It'll last longer and your eventual orgasm will be far stronger.

A revved up sitting down experience can be enjoyed if the man sits on the

washing machine when it's on spin cycle and the woman sits on his lap. They can

caress each other as they ride the washing machine.

Just don't try it in the laundrette.

Standing up in the shower can be quite good, especially with the power shower

thing going on.

Many people enjoy the feeling of water on their bodies when they make love. Sex

in the shower combines the stimulation of your lovemaking with the additional

sensuality of the water cascading on your bodies.

The water spray can be used to stimulate the clitoris or testicles. If you want

to have sex standing up in the shower, first of all, get a rubber mat.

You'll both need to have strong thighs to take this one all the way, but it

add something gloriously different to your washing routine.

Maybe you've always fancied love in an elevator.

Again, there's the added excitement of risking getting caught.

Keep ringing the changes location is limited only by your imagination

So

you think you've mastered all of those positions and you're looking for

something more advanced The cross position can be enjoyable. The position

exposes the clitoris, enabling either person to stimulate it. Because of the

unusual angle, it is worth using lots of lube.

It's a bit hard to describe. He's on his side facing me, and I'm on my back at

almost right angles with him, with my left leg hooked over him and my right

in between his.

You can get some really nice, deep penetration, and your vagina feels

open against him. You get great clit stimulation from his leg. You can reach

breasts and my nipples, and if you're both tired or fancy some nookie, it's a

great one.

Another position that feels very different is the chain. The woman lies

back with her legs spread widely apart, and the man, facing her feet, lowers

himself on top so that his feet are on either side of her shoulders.

The woman can rest her legs on the man's back as he thrusts into her backwards.

The woman could also try pulling on his hips to deepen penetration.

If you're feeling really smug, try the turn. Start in

the woman on top position with the woman facing forwards.

Once she's really well lubricated, she then makes a quarter turn, keeping the

penis inside her.

She then makes another turn so that she's got her back to the man.

She carries on making turns. This really does stimulate every part of a woman,

and you'll both get some great new sensations from it.

The turn can also be tried with the man on top.

Start in the man on top position.

The man then uses his hands, press -up style, to push himself around.

This is good for G -spot stimulation, albeit requiring strong arms.

For dexterous people, with a good sense of balance, the crane can be fun.

Stand facing your partner, the man with his legs a few feet apart.

The woman hangs onto his neck and raises her leg up to rest on his shoulder.

Once the man has penetrated her, the woman should raise her leg as high as

possible in the vertical splits, moving her calf as far up his shoulder as

possible.

A similarly dexterous position is the three -pointed star.

For this, the woman lies on her back with her left leg pointing up in the air

and her right leg stretched out to the side. She holds on to her right knee.

The man should try squatting between the woman's thighs,

then lifting one of her legs onto his shoulder.

and the other between his thighs.

All the control and power is in the hands of the man, but the angle means

the woman is stimulated by the penis in a different way, which should be

enjoyable for both of you.

For a variation,

the woman sits astride the man while he's... sitting on the floor or the bed

with his legs facing forward and his hands supporting him.

Rather than kneeling over him, she throws her legs over his shoulders. This

an extra zing, stimulating both the G -spot and the A -spot.

For the pull -up, start by having sex in the side -by -side position.

The woman then reaches down and grabs the man's ankles, pulling them up as far

as she can, as the toes are erogenous zones.

Squeeze his feet while you make love and it's as easy to reach them as it is in

the reverse cowgirl position.

For an advanced variation on woman on top, the man puts his feet together so

that the soles are touching.

The woman then sits on them and he can use his feet to help pull her onto his

penis.

The wheelbarrow provides interesting sensations for both, but bear in mind

blood will rush to the woman's head. Some women love this, but be careful.

Fainting during sex doesn't add any thrill to the proceedings.

You can also try the backwards wheelbarrow. The woman climbs onto the

her legs around him and grips onto him with her thighs. She then leans back

until her hands touch the floor.

If you're a woman who loves that head rush and you're supple enough, try the

crab. Your partner kneels between your thighs, holds your hips and enters you.

This also gives a new angle that will send different sensations rippling

both of you.

To vary the angle and really hit that G spot, the woman lies on her side in an L

shape. The man then lies next to her with his head facing her feet and enters

her. She can put her legs on his shoulders for added penetration.

This one goes really deep.

For something completely different, try a position where you can't see each

other. Start in the woman on top position, then the woman leans back

staring at the ceiling.

You could try not looking at each other or touching each other to really focus

attention on your genitals.

For a woman on top position that changes the angle of the penis, Try the

backflip. This offers great G. Scott thrill, but the man needs a supple

All positions can be added to by trying them in different locations, different

angles and with different props.

Trisex on the stairs, the woman lies back and the man kneels one or more

further down to enter her. This adds a new twist to a traditional position.

There are endless positions to choose from. In a car, just like when you were

teenager, push the front seats forward for maximum room.

With any sexual position, but particularly the advanced ones, take

and stop if anything hurts at all.

Sex is about having fun, not always contorting into the most unusual shapes

possible.

I didn't try anal until I'd been with my bloke for a couple of years, but I'm

glad we did. The orgasm is intense and it really feels like we're pushing the

limit. While anal sex is not something that's everyone's cup of tea, research

suggests that well over 10 % of men and women practice it.

If you want to try it, it's important to use a lot of lubrication and a condom.

Take things slowly, starting with a finger or toy, before moving on to

the penis.

As with any sex, if it hurts, stop.

Sex is meant to be fun, not painful.

Side -by -side spooning is a good, gentle starting position for anal sex.

It's easy for the woman to relax her muscles, and the man can play with her

and breasts as he penetrates her.

Some women find anal sex easiest before they achieve orgasm, whilst they're

still at the peak of arousal. So if the man keeps her constantly on the edge,

the woman is more likely to enjoy it.

The missionary is also a good beginner position, as it allows the woman to

her anus, making penetration much easier.

The position generally believed to be the best for anal sex is a variation of

the missionary.

The woman lies on her back with her knees in the air. The man then kneels or

lies facing her and slides in.

This position helps the woman relax all her anal muscles, making it far easier

for her to accommodate the man's penis.

Doggy style is the most common position for anal sex.

However, it's better for partners who've tried it before, as this position tends

to make the receiving partner tighten up their muscle.

To make things more comfortable, try it with the man kneeling behind the woman

with his legs outside hers.

This keeps the woman's legs closer together, which, rather than making

tighter like it does with vaginal sex, actually loosens the anus as there's

pressure on it. You'll still need to take things slowly, though, as the

different approach changes the angle at which the penis penetrates the anus.

The woman on top position may seem ideal, as it puts the woman in more

However, it tightens the woman's anus, making penetration trickier.

If you try anal sex this way, the woman should lower herself very slowly.

She can decide the pace and depth she's happy with. The man should resist the

urge to push up, as this can be uncomfortable or even painful for the

And if you're after an advanced position, try the wheelbarrow, but only

sex is something you're already used to, as penetration is extra deep.

Anal sex is something that should only be tried if both partners are happy with

the idea, as the woman needs to be relaxed to enjoy it. However, you may

experimenting with anal sex add something new and enjoyable to your

repertoire.

Whatever position gets her off is the one I want to be in. I couldn't say what

my favourite is. We're always trying out new stuff and keep finding great new

positions.

The most important thing in sex is to talk to one another. If you want to try

particular position, tell your partner. If something feels good, let them know.

And if it doesn't, ask them to stop and suggest something that you'll enjoy

more. If you feel pain, stop. And if you feel pain for any length of time, it's

worth going to the doctors.

Pain during sex can be an early warning sign.

By changing positions during sex, it can make it last longer, stopping and

starting can temper a man's momentum and make sure he holds back from

ejaculating until both partners are ready. The best male lovers have the

courtesy to let the woman have her orgasm first.

There's no one perfect position.

Everyone has different preferences.

Some women love their G -spot being stimulated and others claim not to feel

anything at all.

Some men love anal play, whereas other men could think of nothing they'd hate

more.

Experimentation is the easiest way to find out what you really enjoy.

Don't be shy. After all, if you're getting intimate enough with someone to

sex, you shouldn't be coy about talking about it.

Be prepared to push your own limits and equally prepared to say no to something

you don't want.

Try new positions and even make up your own.

Try to have sex in five different positions every month.

Then work up to ten to keep your love life constantly fresh.

Got a particular favourite position? Try moving your legs inside or outside your

partner's. Try the position with your legs wide or with your legs tightly

together. Tilt, rotate or thrust your pelvis and squeeze your vaginal muscles.

Try moving from one position to another to see if you discover a whole new

position on your way.

You don't need to be a gymnast for every position.

Just relax, talk to your partner and do what feels good for you both.

And have a laugh trying.

Great sex is limited only by your own imagination.

How happy are you with your sex and love life really?

Does it all feel a bit stale and same -ish? Is it about as predictable as a

Friends rerun on a Friday night?

Just how do you unlock your mind and body's potential for a completely

fulfilling love life?

How do you take charge and get yourself thinking, feeling and living sexually?

Hopefully, my personality and how I would be as a person is more attractive

how I would look.

I think I can be sexy, by the way I act, by the way I dress.

If it's just raw nakedness, then... It depends on the other person and what

find attractive.

What it boils down to is loving your body is loving yourself.

If you learn to love yourself, then you'll love everything else about

So how do you think sexually?

Do you enjoy the thought of sex?

Spend time thinking about the great sex you've had or want to have.

The more you focus on sex, the more you'll want it.

Revisit previous sexy scenarios.

Start anticipating what will happen on the next.

You get what you wish for, remember?

So imagine yourself there, mission accomplished, having lusty, passionate

and you'll feel relaxed and happier with your partner.

Confront any inhibitions you may have.

Identify reasons why you might be reluctant to be sexy.

It might be the lingering impact of previous relationships or a negative

sex drummed into you during childhood.

Find the causes and you'll be a long way towards finding the cure.

When you look in the mirror, focus on the good bit rather than hone in on the

bad. Avoid being self -critical.

or feeling you don't conform to some ideal image.

Stand naked in front of a full -length mirror, but this time stand tall and

confident about what you've got.

Confidence is way sexier than model good looks, and that's a fact.

Imagine yourself as a lover might see you.

Our lovers often find us much sexier to look at than we do ourselves.

Choose good sex videos that you can watch together, like those in the

Guide series, not porn which would be offensive to one of you.

Fantasize. Just about everyone does it, and there are lots of reasons why.

In fantasy land, there are no rules.

We're free to invent idealized situations which are totally impractical

unattainable in real life.

Dream lovers know exactly when, how and what to do to make us giddy with

pleasure. Because we're directing the show.

You might have romance fantasies. Men and women alike fantasize about sex in

dreamy romantic settings.

It's a way of enjoying your sensual side and expressing your capacity for

lasting romantic love.

You might think of sex with someone other than your partner.

This is normal.

Try doing what you do in the fantasy to your real -life lover.

You might imagine sex with multiple partners.

If having sex with one person is great, lots at once must be even better.

This fantasy expresses the need for greater and greater satisfaction as a

You might even imagine forced sex and this might be particularly worrying But

imagining someone else is forcing us to have sex any sexual guilt we might feel

is actually relieved He or she made me do it

When looking for a partner, start by imagining the person you'd like to be

It's called positive mental imaging, and it works on the basis that if you know

what you're looking for, you'll be much more likely to get it.

It also works with sex.

Imagine yourself having great sex, and you probably will.

What's important to you in a partner?

What should they look like?

What would their attitude to life be?

What other qualities would you like your partner to have?

Keep the image of the person that's right for you and pretty soon they will

Now, let's get you feeling sexy.

Pamper yourself and enjoy feeling sensations on your body.

Immerse yourself in some sexy bubbles.

It's all about relaxing and learning to focus on sensations.

If you train your mind to focus on sensual experiences, the most mundane

experience can become thrilling.

The wind in your hair, an unexpected smell, the hairdresser massaging in the

conditioner, boil your body to the point when it moans and says thank you.

No matter if you're single or in a relationship, Hire a professional

massage you, at least until you've got your partner trained.

The health and emotional benefits make it really worthwhile.

Get fit and stay healthy.

Join a gym and actually go there.

Exercise enhances your libido.

Go with a partner. Make it part of your routine together.

The fitter the person, the more active the sex life.

It's a fact.

Eat healthily.

People who eat well have more energy for sex and feel better about their bodies.

Survive on junk food and you'll feel unattractive, listless and depressed.

Treat yourself to high quality food.

Leafy greens, oily fish and the humble old potato are all packed with vitamins

to help boost your sex life.

Dress sexily.

People will and do judge you by what you wear.

Clothes which show off your best bits and cover up the not so good, that you

feel good in.

Try asking your partner what he or she thinks makes you look sexy.

Wear outfits as ongoing treats for both of you.

Use masturbation to boost your sex life not just as a replacement for one.

Virtually 100 % of men, and wait for it, life's getting better, 97 % of women

masturbate. Men still do it twice as often but the girls are improving.

Masturbating is a sure way, often the only way, to discover what women like

sexually.

Few of us are lucky enough to start our sexual lives with a partner who is so

patient and skilled they can teach us about our own body.

It's up to you to explore it.

Some women feel odd masturbating.

Perhaps this will convince you otherwise.

Women who masturbate have more orgasms, longer and more active sex lives and way

better general health than women who don't.

In fact, if you're a woman who's never masturbated, chances are you've never

an orgasm.

Enhance masturbation by making it thoroughly sensual.

Some women start by caressing their breasts, neck and thighs.

Linger and move between the spots which feel particularly sensitive.

Spend time stroking your mons and labia as well as your clitoris. which is just

above the vaginal opening.

Use some lubricant and try making small circles with your finger around and over

your clitoris.

Keep the rhythm steady and experiment with hard, soft, circular and back and

forth strokes.

Experiment with penetration and feel for the G -spot which is halfway up the

inside front wall of the vagina.

Give yourself time to adjust. It can make you feel as if you're going to pee

first.

Some women like penetration on orgasm, but many don't.

After a while, the sensations will build and seem to centre on the clitoris.

Then you'll feel an unmistakable surge of pleasure.

Later, do it in front of a mirror and watch how your whole body reacts on

orgasm. It's quite fascinating and it can be a boost to self -image and sexual

confidence.

Don't worry about how much you masturbate.

Lots of women masturbate two or three times a week or more.

In fact, the more you do it, the higher your sex drive.

Now guys, most of you are quite practiced at masturbating by the age of

But the way you do it could be causing problems with your sex life.

You learnt from an early age to be quick about it so you wouldn't get caught.

And that could explain why you're ejaculating too quickly now.

So you need to slow it down.

You could try using lube.

Bring yourself close to orgasm. Then try switching to the opposite hand, which

isn't quite as practised.

Bring yourself to the brink, hold off, then climb back up there again.

The more control you have masturbating, the more control you'll have during

intercourse.

Touch yourself as you'd like her to touch you. Your scalp, chest, arms.

Vary the style of the touch. Which feels better?

Light tickles with the tips of your fingers or smooth strokes with the whole

palm? As a general rule, men like to be touched harder and faster than women.

And don't forget to tell your partner what you discovered so she can do the

things for you.

If you feel uncomfortable doing this, you might have to get in touch with your

feminine side.

How in touch with your feelings are you?

How comfortable are you with intimacy?

You might not want to see yourself as a new man, but feeling and intimacy are

high on the list of what women want from a lover.

Make me feel sexy. Make me feel that he's me.

Give me a little bit of first and then a little bit more and make me want you.

What attracts me for a woman is mainly their eyes.

Their eyes and the smile that can grab me like, wow.

That can make my knees weak and everything.

I like kind of devouring my partner's body.

Start from the top, lead your way down.

Seduction is a lifelong relationship pleasure which goes far beyond getting a

partner to have sex that first time. Happy couples keep flirting, keep

alive and keep making each other feel sexy and wanted.

Use your eyes. Keep making eye contact.

It's not a staring competition though. Your gaze should be soft and receptive.

Move your eyes between their mouth and eyes and you'll make them fancy you even

more.

We like people like us, so it's a good idea to mirror your partner's body

language. If they sit forward, so do you. They lean back, you follow.

This makes them feel you're on the same level.

But mirror the mood rather than turn into a mime artist.

Get close and use touch.

A hand on the waist or the small of the back multiplies the connection by 300%.

Touching in spots reserved only for lovers, like their face or neck, even

so.

Keep touching and you stay close and show the world and your partner you're

proud to be together.

Use your voice to bring them close.

Talk in a whisper and they're forced to lean in.

Use your partner's name frequently.

They can't help but feel special and complimented.

Share secrets.

Anything which just the two of you know creates that lovely you and I against

the world feeling. You're in it together.

Be interested, truly interested.

Ask questions and let them see you value what they have to say.

We're closer to the person who knows the most about us.

and vice versa.

Order sexy looking food, asparagus or oysters, and try eating together sexily

ways which suggest what you might be doing with each other's body parts later

on.

Oh, and girls, if you really want him gagging for you with dessert, whip the

term that you've forgotten to put on your knickers.

Okay, let's talk about those of you who are single and looking for love.

First rule, stop worrying about whether anyone will like you, but whether you'll

like them.

Think that you're fabulous and they will too.

But even if you're feeling desperate, you don't have to show it.

Three simple things will get you through if you're feeling nervous.

Stand tall with your shoulders back, smile and make direct eye contact. Act

confident and you'll feel confident.

Walk straight to the centre of the room at the start, even if you end up in the

corner.

People's first impression of you will be that you're confident.

After all, you're there to meet people, so put yourself where those people are.

If you're out with friends, make it clear you're approachable and that they

don't have to wade through or impress a cast of thousands to get to you.

Drift off to get a drink or go to the bathroom.

Give shyer people a chance to approach you solo.

What are the giveaway signs?

Are they adjusting their clothes, smoothing their hair, standing up

All are signs they're interested in you.

Add a swivel to your hips and draw attention to your good bit by using your

hands to point to your breath, bottom or legs.

And when you do find the moment to talk, no tacky chat -up lines.

Relax. Instead, draw some casual conversation starters from whatever the

situation might be.

Happy couples in long -term relationships kiss a lot. Keep kissing

the first time. It's as intimate as having sex.

A good kiss makes your knees tremble, your heart race and your groin ache.

It transports us to another extremely delicious world.

Start by letting your lips brush against theirs, covering all of their mouth

with light, fluttery kisses.

Let your lips part to expose the more sensitive skin inside and let your

touch just inside their mouth.

Be guided by how far they insert their tongue as to how far you push yours

inside their mouth.

Use your hands to cup your partner's face.

It gives you more control and it's incredibly sexy.

Detour to the neck. It's a hot zone for most of us.

Try gentle bites alternated with soft, sexy kisses.

The closer the pelvis is when you kiss, the more the two of you want sex.

Try pressing yours close to test the reaction.

Kissing is addictive.

It forms a strong, lasting bond between you and your partner, and it's worth

putting effort and attention into keeping it fresh and exciting.

It's a well -known truth that when relationships break down, it's usually

kissing that stops before the sex.

It's a litmus test of how well you're getting on.

Most of us rip our clothes off eager to get naked or in long -term relationships

just flop into bed.

But every so often when you undress, do a little striptease for your partner.

Make undressing a part of your foreplay.

Try undressing each other, but do it slowly.

Pause to admire the part of the body you're about to reveal.

Tease them and you.

Stop to truly appreciate the newly naked flesh before moving greedily onto the

next part.

It's easier than you think to keep sex exciting.

All you need to do is change just one thing every time.

Lights on or off, music on or off, it's the little things that count.

Take your time, what's the hurry?

Allow your eyes and your hands to work together, each following the other, and

sex will feel much more intimate.

You can watch each other's responses and imprint your partner's body into each

other's mind and heart.

Tell each other what feels great. Even a moan or that feels lovely is better

than nothing.

Some people love hearing what their partner is doing or wants to do with

Others find it a turn -off.

Experiment to find out what works best for you.

Foreplay isn't a luxury for her, by the way.

It's essential to prepare her body for sex and it's often the only way women

their orgasm.

Become a master at foreplay and she's yours for life.

Be more inventive the longer you're together, not less.

Anticipating what an experienced lover will get up to next can be as good as

experiencing each other for the first time.

And don't forget the cuddle afterwards.

It reaffirms your new or renewed sense of love for each other.

trying to tell them how to kiss or how to use their mouth.

It's quite a difficult thing to tell someone, I think.

When you're with a partner, you've got to sort of express yourself and tell her

what you want and what you need.

It's a fundamental thing to a relationship, I think.

It's taken me a long time, I guess, to reach the kind of asking for what I want

sexually.

Now I believe that I'm assertive enough and I have ways.

Talking frank about sex, which we do, somehow makes the actual sex

sexier. Good communication is crucial to maintaining and enhancing a

relationship. Happy couples know how to talk openly, how to ask for what they

want and really hear what their partner's needs are too.

There are certain skills you'll need to do this.

Express positive desired outcomes rather than negatives.

Carrots are always better than sticks.

Feel confident saying what you want to achieve.

Set up goals you can work to achieve together.

Allow enough time to talk.

Rushed, incomplete discussions won't leave either of you satisfied.

And pick your time mood -wise.

Keep reminding them that you love them. Start a discussion with, I love you and

I love our relationship and this is why I want us to talk about this. We're

great and I want us to be even better.

Communicating isn't just about solving problems.

Talking is just as effective as touching to get your partner turned on, both in

and out of the bedroom.

Don't know what to say?

Try telling them how good it felt when they did whatever you enjoyed most last

time around.

Then simply add how much you want them to do the same, but shorter, longer,

softer, harder, next time round.

Then try expressing your desires when having sex.

Now, the way to tell somebody they're bad in bed is to focus on what they do

right, then ask more of it, rather than focus on what's wrong.

One approach is to take turns touching each other and provide a running

commentary on everything your partner is doing for you.

Offer directions and give feedback, perhaps on a scale of 1 to 10. Your

partner's goal, 11.

Too embarrassed to try? Give it two minutes. You won't be.

Use pillow talk following sex to enhance your relationship.

It might be romantic, but it needn't be.

Enjoy listening while your partner says whatever they want.

Your mind will feel clear and refreshed after sex and you'll be open to yourself

and each other.

I had that combination of intimacy and sensuality with a little bit of rough

tumble. I was totally blindfolded, laid on my back and totally taken control of

and I kind of enjoyed that.

Swapping around, it's more fun.

Variety, it's the spice of life.

During foreplay, show your partner what you like.

Don't just rely on words.

The clitoris is covered by a protective hood.

As she becomes aroused, that hood will retract.

Some women like to be touched directly on the clitoris, others find it's too

sensitive and prefer to be touched around it.

When you join in, start soft and stay soft unless she makes it clear she wants

more.

Let her guide you on the intensity, speed and rhythm.

Ask your partner to show you how she uses the vibrator.

Try giving her triple stimulation.

Use one hand to rub her clitoris, one finger in her vagina and another in her

anus.

Make sure your nails are short and don't even attempt this without lubricant.

And don't move a finger from the anus to the vagina without washing it first.

You'll spread all sorts of infections.

When you masturbate him, hold the shaft in one hand for control and use the

other to move up and over the head.

Use lubricant.

You can also hold both hands together and encourage him to thrust into them.

Or try the corkscrew.

Rotate your hands in opposite direction, as if gently wringing the penis.

Cup his testicles and stroke your fingers against the perineum, which runs

between the anus and testicles and is packed with nerves.

Girls, you can start by gently pulling the skin on the shaft down to increase

sensation of anything you do.

Use your tongue on his frenulum.

That's the stringy bit on the underside of the penis.

Try flicking it gently with your tongue while using your hand to glide up and

down the shaft.

Don't ignore his testicles. They respond to being licked and sucked.

It's an individual thing though, so watch his body for his response to this.

It's also a good idea to keep at least one hand caressing his shaft while you

it.

As a treat for him, try holding a vibrator against the outside of your

give him extra sensation.

Some men also like a lubricated finger inserted into their anus where the male

-spot is located.

Others faint at the mere thought.

For this one, make sure you get permission.

Encourage him to stroke himself.

Masturbate each other.

The best way to do it is to take turns so you both get full attention.

You might well decide hand play is more than foreplay and you want to take it to

the point of orgasm.

Above all, copy what your partner does, then add your own touches.

A golden rule for both of you. When performing oral sex on your partner, use

lots of lubricant or saliva.

Wet is best.

Use your hands.

Get a head start on Oral by getting her to demonstrate her preferred tongue

technique on your palm.

Then separate the vaginal lips with your fingers.

Find her clitoris and make gentle, low, upward strokes with your tongue.

Take sides.

One side of the clitoris can be more pleasure -prone than the other.

Keep the movement varied by writing her a love letter.

Spell out each letter of the sentence with your tongue.

Use one hand to softly push your partner's pubic mound upwards, while the

teases her labia and, as it's revealed, her clitoris.

Stretching the whole area will heighten sensation.

Keep it slow, soft, wet and steady.

Changing techniques won't impress her, just frustrate her.

What's the one thing you do which wows your partner?

What makes sex with you memorable to him or her?

Develop your signature sex move.

By that, I mean your personal piece de resistance, so they're not going to

forget you in a hurry.

Ask yourself, what do you do best already?

Or what do you most enjoy doing?

Work on the principle that if you enjoy it, you'll probably do it well and be

good at it.

It might be a simple swirl of the tongue or smoothing her stomach with the palm

of your hands just as she's about to orgasm.

You might be a gobsmackingly great kisser or have hands that are licensed

thrill.

Whatever it might be, find it and focus on it.

Most of the time it's underneath and then I'll go on top because that's what

makes me achieve orgasm because I'm kind of doing it myself, if you know what I

mean. My partner always makes sure that...

I'm enjoying myself. He takes his time.

He just enjoys what he does and he goes out of his way. Every single time

a woman has sex, she should always have an orgasm.

Always. Can you imagine if a man had an orgasm only 40 % of the times he had

sex? Or if he never had one?

Unthinkable. Yet, we're quick to accept that women don't and don't necessarily

deserve to have an orgasm every single time she makes love.

Well, it's time to even up the balance a little.

Here's how to guarantee she can have an orgasm almost every time.

Now girls, I'm talking to you first.

You need to accept responsibility for your own pleasure.

It's not his job to give you an orgasm. You have to take one yourself.

It's your orgasm. You take control of it.

Don't be dependent on how good a lover he is. Think girl power.

You have a magic button he doesn't have.

The clitoris.

The majority of women when they masturbate take between five and seven

to climax.

But it can take over 20 minutes with your partner in sexual intercourse if it

happens at all.

One thing is to have your orgasm before penetration.

Get him to help you reach your climax with his hand, tongue or a vibrator.

It takes the pressure off both of you.

For orgasms during intercourse, you'll need the two Fs, friction and fantasy.

Women who orgasm best through penetration take charge, so the feeling

concentrated in the right spot, and that's the clitoris, by getting on top.

Throw him off you, roll him over, then try the easy rider position, leaning

forward or back to hit the spot.

Or you could try raised kneeling.

where he sits on his haunches and you sit astride him.

This position puts your clitoris in the perfect place to rub against his torso.

Initially, concentrate on what feels good for you rather than him and don't

worry if he doesn't orgasm and you do.

Orgasm for men is much more automatic and you can always switch positions

you've been satisfied to one of his favourites.

Man on top positions can also work well, but it's all in the movements he uses.

Encourage him to push and rub against you, rather than simply thrusting into

you.

Try using the coital alignment technique, or CAT, in which he rides

pubic bone, giving you intensive clitoral stimulation.

Or try the RAP, in which you hug his torso with your legs.

Another way to get maximum feeling is to masturbate yourself during sex.

Choose positions which allow you to do this.

These include doggy, spooning and

the sun lounger in which you lie on top of him facing upwards.

All these positions give you, or him for that matter, the chance to manually

stimulate the clitoris.

If it bothers you to touch yourself in front of your partner, deal with it.

And if he has a problem, he should deal with it too.

He should find it exciting.

And anyway, he should want to learn how best to do it for you.

If either of you still believe it's the penis alone which should make you orgasm

every time, give up now.

It usually can't and won't.

The sooner you accept a helping hand, the better it will be for both of you.

And the second F, fantasize while you have sex.

Let your imagination go wild. The joy of fantasy is that there are no rules or

regulations.

Bring in some of the thoughts you have while you masturbate.

Let yourself visualize intensely.

Your brain is your most... powerful sex organ. Use it to help you to reach

orgasm. Use noise and words to live out your fantasies, but be a little bit

careful sharing them with your partner.

Some cope, lots can't. Tread carefully.

Guys, you can help her enormously by doing one thing, giving her time.

Use at least 20 minutes of foreplay. Now, over 90 % of women will reach

after this, as the American sexpert Alfred Kinsey demonstrated.

Aim to give her at least one orgasm with your fingers or tongue before moving on

to intercourse.

And don't feel you're a bad lover if she starts helping herself during sex.

And you should give her extra stimulation too.

Guys, if you shorten ideas for a great sex position, try this one. It's

inventive and exciting for both of you.

While having sex face to face, lift one of her legs, hoist it over your shoulder

and grind your pubic bone against her.

This stimulates the clitoral area, giving her more chance to orgasm.

Variety might be the spies of life, but when your partner is approaching orgasm,

the last thing they want you to do is stop and try something different.

Don't try to be clever.

They're on their way towards a satisfying climax, so you're obviously

everything right.

Stay right there and keep going until the moans subside.

The more orgasms she has, the more she'll want to have sex with you.

What more incentive do you have to be the best lover she ever had?

It's agreeing what the problem is and then kind of trying to find a resolution

to it. But just discussing it calmly, because things can snowball into

too easily over something quite...

quite simple. I find that I either fancy a guy but I don't really find them

stimulating or exciting enough as a person or I find them really exciting

stimulating as a person but I don't really fancy them. I think we're both

fiery and there's a tendency to sort of go off in your own thoughts and your own

mind frame and realise actually that it's not going to help and I certainly

felt myself kind of going, okay, okay, calm down.

For every one bad time in your relationship, there should be five good

balance it out. Get the balance wrong and your relationship could be in

significant trouble.

If you find you don't trust each other, you close off to each other, don't talk,

rant on to your friends about how awful your partner is, feel bored, sulk and

explode into rows, it's time for some damage control.

You need to take steps to save your relationship.

Or you might find the only solution left to you both is to split up.

Innocent friend, that's rubbish. I can tell that from the look on your face.

He's not an innocent friend. You're always lying to me. Why do you lie to me

the time?

I'm not lying.

Yes, you are lying.

No relationship is without its problems.

All couples argue, and if you don't, you should to some degree.

Arguing shows you still care passionately about each other and want

understood.

Most issues can be resolved, but you'll need to work together to do so.

Lost libido can savage your love life.

Bad sex or no sex has a way of leaking out of the bedroom to set the tone for

the whole of the relationship.

Part of the trouble is we get bored with sex the same as we do everything else.

A good sex life doesn't just happen. It takes effort, care and attention.

If your partner's not in the mood, think outside the bedroom for the cause.

The answer will often be stress.

What's taken your partner's mind off sex?

Is there anything specific taking place at the moment?

Career worries? Financial problems?

Treat loss of sexual appetite as a symptom of other issues which you can

Other causes of low libido are a poor diet, prescription or other drug,

excessive consumption of alcohol and even coffee and smoking.

Work together to bring yourself back to your body.

Just because you're not feeling like sex doesn't mean you can't do sensual

things together.

Take a bath.

Give each other a massage. Cuddle in front of the telly.

Focus more on non -penetrative sex.

Remind each other of how good it feels simply to be touched.

And remember, you might not be having great sex now, but it shouldn't be too

off. If the issue is medical or becomes long -term, there are solutions like

Viagra. So see your doctor.

If the problem is he's your classic wham bam thank you ma 'am, he needs

educating and you're the one to do it. The important thing here is to cool him

down.

Don't strip completely.

Leave your underwear on, forcing him to spend more time on foreplay.

During sex, take over as mistress of ceremony.

Kneel over him, masturbate yourself.

Show him how much pleasure you take in foreplay.

As with other aspects of your relationship, set positive examples

offering criticism.

So what if he orgasms too soon? You don't need an erect penis to be

bed. Let him know his tongue and his fingers feel just as good.

Perhaps you're more experienced than he is. If so, don't be afraid of peeping

him. Power is incredibly sexy.

If your partner suffers from premature ejaculation, encourage him to masturbate

himself shortly before sex, with or without you there.

This should help him continue for longer the second time.

While his system resets, which can take up to half an hour, he can spend that

time pleasuring you.

Condoms can also help to desensitise him.

Some are lubricated with anaesthetics just for this purpose.

Or try a stop -start technique.

Begin to have intercourse, then get him to stop and withdraw the moment he feels

himself approaching orgasm.

Do this about three times before you let him ejaculate.

It can take a few weeks or months but it will train him to last longer.

Premature ejaculation and failure to orgasm are often anxiety related,

reflecting ingrained attitudes to sex and our body.

Most of it is solved simply by getting to know each other and trusting each

other enough to talk about and relieve the situation.

Big isn't best.

Most of the nerves of the vagina are concentrated in the first inch, but lots

women like the filled up feeling of a wide penis.

If he isn't so well endowed, you'll need to work at maximising sexual pleasure.

a position that makes the most of his assets.

Try doggy or keeping your legs together once he's inside you.

Try him on top, your legs over his shoulders crossed at the ankles.

A pillow under your bottom can make missionary much better.

Remember that intercourse isn't the only way of making love and pleasing

yourself and your partner.

Encourage him to use his mouth, hands and imagination.

Tell him what you want him to do.

Never comment on his size unless it's to compliment. The only words you should

ever use to describe his sexual equipment are positive ones.

It's men who suffer from penis envy. Women don't.

Couples can also face relationship problems when communication breaks down.

This kind of crisis can trigger the fight or flight response.

Men's reaction to difficulties is often to close off or sulk. It's not

deliberately done to hurt their partner.

Women are usually far more in touch with their feelings and bodies and find it

easier to know what the cause of a problem might be.

While men sulk when they feel hurt,

They tend to breathe silently.

After all, they can't express what they don't know how to express.

It's the fight or flight response, and sulking is the flight bit.

Some men are worried that if they express built -up resentment, they'll

losing control.

This could mean anger, tears, or losing faith.

Guys, you can help by giving yourself a physical outlet for frustration or

giving yourself an excuse for some time out to think.

Run a bar, walk the dog, go to the gym.

Work it out that way.

If your partner retreats, let him go for a little while.

Then try to draw him back by making it safe for him to talk about other things

which you think might be at the root of the problem.

Most of all though, don't stop touching and cuddling or cut off all affection.

Reassure your partner you love her.

She needs to know that whatever was wrong wasn't her fault.

It should never be his problem or her problem. It's your problem.

You're in this together.

Then there's the fight response to problems.

The other aspect of communication breakdown is to row.

Now, for some people, a good row can be healthy.

They can express and release tension like a storm clearing the air.

They may even be a bonding experience with great making -up sex afterward.

Then there are the rows which collapse into laughter, which come from nowhere

about nothing, and are pursued in a spirit of friendly competition, fervent

flair.

Others aren't so healthy.

If you're rowing frequently in about the same thing over and over, your

relationship is being polluted by anger.

Take stock now, or you could lose the lot.

If you're both too angry to talk logically, take time out.

It takes about 20 minutes for anger to subside if you spend that time doing

something tranquil.

Think about why you're angry. Is it really because his mum's coming to

again? Or because you think he doesn't spend enough alone time with you?

Look beyond what appears to be the problem to what's igniting the fires

You might try to follow the old adage of not letting the sun go down on your

anger. Don't let rows fester overnight. Kiss and make up or make love.

Research does prove, though, that sometimes you really are better off

good night's sleep.

But if that's what you do, you must, and I mean really must, discuss it the next

day.

Rows express many things.

Anxiety.

Feeling of failure.

Discontent or powerlessness.

They may be about you or about the relationship.

Find the real cause. You'll find the real solution.

Finally, there are the problems which really aren't. Air escaping noisily from

vaginas or bottoms.

Penises falling out at an inopportune time. Periods happening when they

shouldn't. Welcome to the real world of real human bodies.

Sex is messy, smelly and ultimately imperfect.

Let's celebrate that, not worry about it.

private joke or a gag or a little kind of that kind of chemistry is

really important.

You don't have to be the same but I do think you have to be compatible with

you want in the long term in life.

So you're both sort of heading the same direction and you can go there together.

How are we going to deal with this?

How are we going to get through things?

How are we going to get what we want out of life?

And it's thinking like that, thinking together.

And talking about things together.

I think that'll go a long way to how a relationship goes in the future.

Communication. And good sex will come on top of that.

It always does.

For the first three months of a relationship, your body is high on love

Enjoy that time, it's precious.

And think of it as setting the tone for your ongoing relationship.

Sadly, most of the exciting love drugs wear off after about 18 months.

But if you hang around for a bit longer, another set kick in, which encourages

snuggling and settling down.

You move from lust and longing to real love and contentment, the time when it's

truly safe to make commitments.

I just want us to be together.

Truthfully. It's you and me, yeah?

Of course. Who else? No one.

Don't assume you have a one -on -one relationship just because you've had sex

few times. You need to discuss whether you are now monogamous and agree not to

have sex with other people, if that's what you both want.

Keep your eyes well and truly open and when making any commitment, make sure

you're seeing your partner for who they really are rather than who you'd like

them to be.

Consider your compatibility.

A relationship isn't just about being in love.

Are you and your partner suited as people? Do you actually like each other

well?

Do you share similar aspirations?

Is your sense of the future compatible?

Do you have similar interests and a similar outlook on life?

Are you both slow or fast -paced people?

Are your social and religious views matched? What about your artistic tastes

your politics?

You don't have to be matching bookends, but while opposites do attract, we tend

to hook up the life with people who are most like us.

When you want to commit, be aware there are different levels of commitment.

Agreement to monogamy doesn't mean you'll be moving in together next week

preparing for childbirth.

It's also important to know why you want to commit to this person.

Is it because your family think it's time?

You're doing it because your friends are?

Or do you just want the house and the 2 .2 kids?

You're in love with the idea of commitment, not the person.

Trust it when you can simply answer, it's because I want to be with them and

can't imagine exploring my life with anyone else.

Controlling or manipulative behavior will leave one or both of you with

dented self -esteem.

A relationship should not be a struggle for power.

Excessive nurturing will leave your partner feeling smothered.

Jealous or possessive behavior will leave your partner feeling suffocated.

Lie and you'll be caught out.

That includes affairs. Now, if you feel the need to play around, you're not

putting 100 % into your relationship.

Or you need to do the decent thing and leave so you can both be happy.

If you feel love really is failing, remember it can be resurrected.

But it takes time and lots of hard work.

Get out of the rut by expressing your worries and boredom to your partner.

Set about rebuilding your future together.

Make time to be with each other, to romance each other again.

Do exciting things together to re -energise your relationship.

Plan a holiday.

Remind each other and yourself of when you first fell in love.

If you stop doing fun things together, you will fall out of love. It's as

as that.

Work on your own life, independent of the relationship.

Individually, grow as a person. You'll have more to bring into the relationship

from outside.

When you're in a long -term relationship, keep the excitement and

Relationships are like fires.

They need feeding, attention and stoking, or the fire will go out.

This means looking after...

All aspects of your partnership, intellectual, emotional and physical.

Keep dating your partner. Keep on making the effort you first made.

The prizes are fantastic.

Little gifts or an experience you've booked to do together.

And don't keep your gifts only for when they're expected, on birthdays,

Valentine's Day and anniversaries. They mean much more the rest of the time.

Do things for your partner which they haven't asked for by anticipating what

they might crave.

It could be an evening in... It's better than a posh restaurant.

It's the little things which make the difference between a good relationship

a great one.

Massaging someone's shoulders when they're stressed is one of the nicest

you could possibly do for your partner.

Anticipating someone's needs and spontaneously doing things you know will

them happy is the essence of true romance.

Throughout your relationship, it's a good idea to feel confident in your

love for each other.

But don't ever assume they'll never leave you.

People stay in love when they feel valued, adored and appreciated sexually.

Don't be complacent. Make your partner feel good and they're much less likely

stray. Think for two, how it feels for them as well as how it feels for you.

Don't skimp on the foreplay.

Remember the 20 minutes rule, which makes it 90 % more likely for her to

Keep showing you value each other's body.

Explore fantasies.

Explore new techniques and positions.

Avoid settling into routines.

Find unexpected moments and places to have sex.

Treat sex with your partner as an ongoing exploration, as well as an

and affirmation of love.

Take charge of your relationship together and steer it towards where you

want it to be.

As we age, just as we develop as people, so our bodies change, and with them,

our sex life.

But that certainly doesn't mean we're doomed to reach a point where we no

have sex.

True love will survive loss of looks, money and even health.

The ways you have sex might change with your changing bodies.

There might well come the point where you're forced to resign the wheelbarrow

position to your sexual past.

But stay healthy and you'll keep having sex for as long as you both want to.

And it will remain as satisfying an expression of love as it ever was.

You know you're truly in love when you feel loyal, happy and totally open with

each other.

When you trust your partner completely, you feel secure, alive and rejuvenated

just knowing they're out there.

It's the feeling of being able to share a fundamental part of ourselves and

trusting our partner to keep that part safe.

Keep the seven secrets with you throughout your relationship.

Love your own body.

Keep seducing your partner again and again.

Keep talking.

Develop your sex skills throughout life.

Girls, keep giving yourself orgasms.

And men, do what you can to assist.

When there are problems, tackle them together.

And think long term.

Love builds our self -esteem, encourages us to be kind to others in our lives.

In short, it helps us become the best person we can be.

We might have a love which lasts forever.

Or we might have a series of lovers.

But whichever you choose, your love life can grow stronger and stronger.

Some might say it's the true measure of our lifetime's achievement.