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it is likely to be only a matter of time before she reaches the climax.

Some women like the stretching effect of two or more fingers, so long as they

are well lubricated.

And some have a G -spot on the front inside wall of the vagina, which can be

stroked with the pad of a finger.

It's possible for some women to reach orgasm in this way.

Often people say that watching their partner stimulate themselves is

sexy.

This can both be very arousing and give you an opportunity to see how your

partner masturbates themselves.

There is no better way of learning than by actually seeing for yourself.

This will help you become an expert on your lover's arousal and teach you how

masturbate them as well, or perhaps even better than they do it themselves.

We like to watch each other masturbate, and it's fun.

Um, yeah, I enjoy watching him masturbate very much.

It just seems so rude, you know, in a really nice way. It's just so rude.

Some people find it hard to stimulate themselves in front of their partner.

However, if it's done during the course of other foreplay, then it can be much

easier.

Women are frequently amazed at how vigorously men masturbate and how

they grasp their penis.

Likewise, men remark on how gentle women tend to be with themselves and how they

centre most of their attention on the clitoris, unlike male masturbation,

tends to recreate the movements of intercourse.

She gets really turned on when I stroke myself in front of her.

It's nice that you can do that, be really open and just masturbate without

worrying what to think.

Masturbation can be a whole sex session by itself or part of other sexual

activities.

As with everything, work out what's best for you both and what you both really

enjoy.

Perhaps even more intimate and enjoyable is oral sex.

Both men and women find this uniquely sensual, and for some, it may often be

culmination of sexual activity.

It can certainly be amongst the most erotic.

There are many ways of stimulating a man with the mouth and tongue.

Try drawing the penis in and out of your mouth with your lips covering your

teeth to avoid inadvertent bites.

Roll your tongue around the shaft and head, using it to explore the opening,

mostly concentrate on the frenum.

That, to him, is like your clitoris.

His sensations will be vastly increased if you flick the frenum rapidly with

your tongue.

Kissing and licking his balls.

and even taking them in your mouth is also very pleasurable for him.

When it comes to orgasm, you could either keep his penis in your mouth or

depending on how you feel.

Oral sex with a woman is something to be taken slowly.

Try making it the end point of a carpet of kisses.

Some women are a little embarrassed at the thought of being kissed there, and a

man should do everything he can to make his partner feel relaxed before he

starts.

Kiss the insides of her thighs, around her pubis and then the outer lips of her

vulva.

Stimulate her clitoris with the very tip of your tongue.

All the time stroke and caress her body with your hands.

Move your tongue down to her vagina.

Lick around the lip, then probe inside, beginning an in -and -out movement.

Why not try any number of variations?

You can use a firm lower lip to rub the pubis, tugging at her vaginal lips with

your mouth and gently sucking the clitoris itself.

It's important to remember that the clitoris is usually the most sensitive

stimulating the clitoris with your tongue keeping the rhythm steady but

is what most women say works best

one

thing to avoid is blowing into the vagina or down the penis for that matter

can be dangerous

Again with oral sex, remember everyone is different and enjoys different

Be guided by what you both want.

Many people believe that the ultimate in oral sex is the celebrated 69 position.

Getting into it as part of romping around the bed can be fun and arousing

both of you.

The intense togetherness it allows, where both partners give and receive

simultaneously, makes its fame well deserved as one of the most erotic

activities there is.

As you can see, sex is definitely not just about penetration and orgasms.

There's a huge array of sensual and erotic activities to be favoured and

enjoyed.

The key to a great sex life is to keep ringing the changes.

It's easy to become complacent about foreplay as the relationship develops,

just a little extra time and imagination devoted to foreplay can reap huge

rewards.

For most people, actual intercourse is the culmination of sexual activity.

As we have seen, this needn't necessarily be so.

But there are many forms of penetrative sex which have the potential to deepen

the emotional feelings between two people.

In a lot of relationships, couples tend to settle on two or three lovemaking

positions.

This is fine, but it can be good fun and highly sensual to explore other

variations.

I guess we do tend to stick to the same position, but every now and again we try

something different and it's great.

Best known of all is the so -called missionary position.

It's justifiably popular and makes for close and sensual lovemaking.

However, subtle variations such as the man placing his legs outside his

partner's and using his thighs to squeeze her legs together can add to the

sensations for both.

And putting a pillow under the woman's bottom can increase the depth of

penetration.

The basic woman on top position is a good position for the woman to increase

stimulation to her clitoris.

There's something really exciting about being able to look down on him. I can

watch his face and his excitement.

For me to be in control and see the pleasure I'm giving is a special turn

She can also try sitting facing away from the man.

This is a good position for her to stimulate herself easily, and for him if

likes to watch her bottom as she rises and falls on his penis.

while keeping the penis inside the vagina can produce wonderful sensations

are difficult to attain in any other way.

In this position, penetration can be very deep.

A woman can also slightly vary her movements so that his penis comes into

contact with anywhere she likes within her pelvis.

Positions in which the woman is on all fours. allow the penis to penetrate

deeply and also to stimulate the front wall of the vagina around the g -spot

either can reach the woman's clitoris and this in itself can make for high

levels of arousal this can be exquisite for some women and a few say that they

can only ever climax during intercourse when using this position

To stimulate the woman fully in a variation of the missionary position,

the so -called clitoral alignment technique.

The man slides forward until his pubic bone compressed directly onto the

clitoral area.

For maximum enjoyment, the woman needs to be highly aroused first.

Whatever position you're in, it can be more arousing for both if the woman

contracts her pelvic muscles on the man's penis to the same rhythm as his

thrusts. And the man can twitch his penis inside the vagina.

A chair provides many enjoyable possibilities for the creative couple.

In a position such as this, the woman controls things by her movements with or

without his help.

Facing away from him allows either to caress her clitoris.

This one allows the woman to caress her partner's bottom or even to stimulate

his anal area.

He can move well and his penis pushes deeply into the back of the vagina in an

almost unique way.

This position is actually much more comfortable than it looks.

Because movement is very limited, it's a good position for the man who tends to

come too quickly.

It's easy for the woman to slip forwards onto his penis so that she ends up

squatting over him.

More adventurous is this one, which brings the penis into contact with the

wall of the vagina.

The man cannot move too much.

but an agile woman can make the most of it.

She can easily reach between her own legs and bring herself to orgasm.

However, it's not recommended for a man with a bad back.

This is a very restful position for both.

Either can reach her clitoris, either can caress her breasts, and she can

him.

Finally, this position allows exceptionally deep penetration the man

massage her feet which many women say they love talk about which positions

produce the best sensations for either or both of you as with so many areas of

our sexual and romantic lives it all comes down to a willingness to

and to share what you enjoy best as you become more experienced with one another

you'll be able to build up a collection of lovemaking positions that suit every

occasion and every mood.

And remember, don't just restrict your lovemaking to set times, set places and

set routines.

Variety is the spice of life and sex with your partner is no exception.

If the mood takes you, then go with it.

I enjoy a lot of different positions, whatever feels good at the time.

Particularly erotic is when a couple get together for passionate and spontaneous

quickies.

It's one of those lightning activities where you both just know you want it,

can't wait, and can't resist giving in to the overwhelming instant desire for

one another.

Short, sharp, and shattering.

Quickie sex can be amongst the greatest moments of lovemaking.

We all find a mass of wonderful sensations in foreplay, lovemaking and

contact of all kinds.

However, an orgasm is, for most of us, the ultimate response to intense sexual

excitement.

It happens when our body goes into spasm at the peak of sexual tension.

Waves of contractions flood through the body and a tremendous release is felt.

It's the uniquely personal blend of emotional and bodily responses.

It's a big build -up and then it's like a kind of release. You feel really

relaxed and absolutely like no strength left.

The physical characteristics of men's and women's orgasms are essentially the

same.

But the length of time to achieve orgasm, as well as the ability to have

orgasms in one session, varies greatly between men and women.

If a man is to help bring his partner to orgasm during lovemaking, he should

pace himself.

This will solve the problem that during intercourse alone, it takes a man four

minutes on average to reach ejaculation, whilst it takes a woman 18 minutes to

arrive at her orgasm.

So what are the characteristics of the male orgasm?

As arousal increases, the heart rate rises to up to double its usual rate.

A few men have a sex flush and experience a considerable increase in

sensitivity.

The scrotum thickens and the testes are drawn more closely into the body.

Sweating, disproportionate to the physical exertion involved, may also

the muscles tense.

If the tension goes on mounting, he reaches a point of no return in the

of arousal when reflex mechanisms take over.

From then on, for three or four seconds before and then during the climax

itself, a man can do nothing but go with it.

With poor control or a high level of arousal, ejaculation can occur within 30

seconds of erection, though most men take an average two to four minutes.

With good control, a man can delay his orgasm through a very long time.

At orgasm, there are three or four major contractions of the penis, about 0 .8

of a second apart, which then rapidly reduce in frequency and power.

The total amount of semen ejaculated is usually just less than a teaspoonful.

Once the man has ejaculated, he may find his penis becomes very sensitive,

preventing further stimulation.

When this happens, it returns fairly quickly to its flaccid state.

There are ways to learn even more control.

For instance, as you become aware that you are about to ejaculate Either you or

your partner can take the head of the penis between thumb and forefinger.

Squeeze hard and the erection will subside in a few seconds.

Once the man is soft, he can create an erection again and continue.

You can repeat this as often as you like.

Eventually you'll gain better control and be able to ejaculate whenever you or

your partner want.

You can also learn control by making your penis very wet when you masturbate

Again delay coming as long as possible

Once able to control when you

ejaculate not only will you have better orgasms yourself You'll also give much

greater pleasure to your lover For the man for whom premature ejaculation is a

problem A condom can also be a help.

It simply makes the penis less sensitive and allows more stimulation before

ejaculation.

Whereas almost all men feel a need to ejaculate to relieve sexual tension,

women say that their need for an orgasm is not so compelling.

There are, of course, enormous variations, but the more women express

honest views about their sexuality, the more it seems they have a similar desire

for orgasm to bring full sexual relief.

Surveys show that roughly two -thirds of all women don't reach orgasm through

penetrative sex alone.

Some women resort to faking.

Often, though, it is because of a selfish partner who hasn't helped enough

her arousal during foreplay.

Some say that they can greatly enjoy sex even though they can only have orgasms

from time to time.

But it's clearly important that a climax for her should be an option.

Every woman can discover what arouses her.

She can either do this with the help of a considerate lover or on her own.

I said to one of my friends that I'm not sure if I've had an orgasm or not. And

she said, well, you must know.

And believe me, if you've had an orgasm, you would know.

Once the woman becomes aroused, she reaches a plateau of excitement.

If stimulation were to stop at this stage, she could quickly return to the

resting state.

However, if the stimulation continues, there's no reason why she shouldn't have

a climax.

The bodily signs of arousal include fine sweating, deeper breathing and

increased heart rate, swollen breasts with hardened nipples, increased

tension,

and sometimes a red rash over the top of the chest and throat.

During actual orgasm, the whole body can be seen to contract.

Lots of women cry out as breath is forced from the chest.

The back may arch, feet and toes curl, and around the genitals and anal area,

contraction of the pelvic muscles can be obvious.

The emotional and psychological aspects of orgasm can be as significant as the

physical ones.

Some women experience difficulty letting go sufficiently to reach their climax,

and if so, can choose various means of self -help to overcome this.

The main difference between a woman's climax and a man's is that she may take

much longer time to get to this peak.

Also, Once at the plateau phase of her arousal, she can remain excited for

considerably longer.

And during this heightened phase, a woman can be re -stimulated to come

and again, something most men can't do.

Once her orgasms are over, it takes a long time for a woman's arousal level to

return to the resting state.

When women stimulate themselves, they tend not, like men, to recreate the

thrusting motion of intercourse.

Instead, stimulation is usually focused on the clitoris.

The clitoris is by far the main sexual pleasure center.

Make sure the area is well lubricated, then try all kinds of motions and

around your clitoris.

Work out what feels nicest and stick with that.

If you do have difficulty reaching a climax, you could also try a vibrator.

Many women find them arousing.

Anyway, take pleasure from the learning process.

This will all add to developing your sexual responsiveness.

Whilst orgasms are important for both emotional and physical reasons, It can

make sense not to make lovemaking too orgasm -centered.

Problems can arise if either partner expects the other to have an orgasm, or

they demand it for themselves.

Either situation can lead to feelings of resentment.

Be sure to talk about your experiences, and you'll soon come to realize how

similar they are in many ways, and how you can benefit from any differences.

I'm gonna take my time.

Making time.

You know I'm going to take my time.

Take it easy. I'm going to take my time. Taking love with

you.

I'm going to take.

The one sexual secret above all others is being confident in yourself and your

sexual ability.

If by the end of this program you are happily aware of all the things in it

have tried all the things you wish, then you can be fairly sure that you are

pretty good in bed.

If the skin is the largest sex organ, the brain is the most powerful.

How good your sex life is has an awful lot to do with your head.

The first thing is to be totally comfortable about yourself.

This means, first of all, accepting that nobody is perfect, but that everyone,

of whatever shape, size or age, is capable of being a thoroughly sexy

Learn how to have vocal sex.

Open up your heart and talk sexily to one another to help remove inhibitions.

Although you may feel silly or embarrassed, try saying what you would

like. You will soon find talking sexily comes naturally and is intensely

arousing. Open up. Try saying what you'd really like.

Ring each other during the day or send emails and describe what you want to do

to your lover that night. Write each other love notes.

Experiment with fantasy and masturbation to discover your own on -button and

encourage your partner to do the same.

Nothing ensures a great night as much as building expectations during the day.

It can be great fun to learn how to talk sexily.

Although you may feel you don't know what to say, all you need to do is

what you're going to do to your lover or what you want them to do to you.

Talking this way will really help in opening up to one another and prove an

instant turn -on for both of you.

Be honest. Try saying what you really like.

Find out what your boundaries are and those of your partner.

Discuss them with your lover.

Always respect each other's limits, but don't be too rigid and always try to

expand your horizons.

Talk about sexy things you have seen or read and make a point of reading sexy

literature and watching sexy programs or videos.

And you don't have to go to the top shelf.

Many magazines have a device on sex.

Discuss what they say and how much you would like to try them out.

It will all help to sort out your own thoughts and attitudes.

That way, you will be happy with yourself in your head.

Real sexual intimacy is about opening your heart to a partner as candidly as

reveal your body.

The depth and richness of lovemaking is built on foundations of knowledge, trust

and deep, deep understanding.

Sharing your wants and needs improves communication between you and deepens

sexual involvement.

At times, though, the two people involved may want different things from

relationship. Some may be looking for long -term commitment, while others are

only seeking short -term pleasure.

As long as you are in tune together, that's fine, whichever option you

But if you want more than your partner is able to give, you may find it

difficult to have fulfilling sex together.

Opening your heart means showing your feelings and letting your partner know

much you care.

Give love tokens such as chocolates, perfume, flowers or sexy underwear to

your partner you've been thinking of them, just because you love them, not

because there is an anniversary or birthday to celebrate.

Planning a sexy night in together can help build the anticipation and heighten

your enjoyment.

Allowing your emotions free reign before, during and after sex can enhance

lovemaking and bring you closer together.

Feel good about yourself and your body. No one pleases all the people all of the

time, so make sure you feel good about yourself and that your partner does too.

Doubts about yourself can be self -fulfilling and lead to poor sexual

performance.

problems with orgasms in women and erectile difficulties in men.

Whatever has happened in the past needs to be left there.

Previous embarrassments and upsets are part of your personal learning curve.

Like learning to ride a bike, you may have the odd tumble before you can fully

enjoy the fun, adventure and freedom that comes from being able to do it

properly.

So leave bad experiences in the past and work on shedding any inhibitions you

have. Leave old baggage behind and look to present and future joys. If you want

to develop the relationship with your partner, then you can build deeper love,

understanding and friendship by spending quality time together.

And if kids come along, don't forget to keep your love life alive and to

continue having a long and passionate affair as the years go by.

Discovering what your emotional needs are and keeping properly in touch with

your feelings and those of your partner will all help get your heart right.

It is being good both to yourself and your partner to be as fit and toned as

can be.

The erogenous zones are sensitive areas of skin packed with extra nerve endings.

When these are stimulated in the right way, they trigger sensual feelings and

act as shortcuts to full -blown arousal.

The major erogenous zones include all the obvious sites.

In men, the major zones are the lips, penis, and scrotum. In females, these

the lips, buttocks, breasts, and external genitals, including the

vaginal entrance.

Erogenous zones can be stimulated in numerous ways.

The nipples are primary erogenous zones that become erect in both men and women

during sexual excitement.

Some like gentle, sensitive handling of these delicate structures, while others

prefer slightly rougher fondling, squeezing and sucking.

The pigmented area surrounding the nipples, the areolae, may swell so much

look bruised.

One can even be more sensitive than the other.

Experiment to see which sensations your partner prefers.

Everyone also has secondary erogenous zones.

These include the eyelids, ears and earlobes, nape of the neck, soft skin at

top of the inner thighs, the backs of the knees, plus the extra sensitive

As the secondary erogenous zones vary from person to person, working out where

your own erogenous zones are, and those of your partner, can be one of the fun

pursuits of good lovemaking.

Some people might be shocked, but the anus is another exquisitely sensitive

area. especially around the part of the rim nearest the vagina or testicles.

Try stimulating these areas with a well -lubricated finger.

Some people enjoy having the tip of a finger slipped inside, but others don't.

The real secret here is to relax and realise that it may take time for you

to enjoy it.

Experiment to find out what you both feel comfortable doing.

Either wash your hands afterwards, or in the height of passion, keep one hand

for anal stimulation and one for vaginal. This is because they both have

different bacteria that shouldn't be mixed.

Learn the art, skills and techniques of giving a sensuous massage.

Use aromatherapy oils, some of which act like pheromones to produce an

aphrodisiac effect.

Try using ambrette, patchouli, vetiver, jasmine or rose to increase your

partner's desire.

Mix a few drops of your chosen essential oils to the massage oil or lotion.

Warm some of the oil in your hands before using it to lubricate the skin as

explore and massage your partner's body.

Indeed, one of the nicest ways of finishing a sensual massage is to lie

partner on their front, raise their hips on a pillow and teasingly massage their

most sensitive parts from behind.

Use plain oil alone, though, on the genitals themselves.

Massage allows you both to fantasize while you luxuriate in your partner's

caresses.

Take turns to explore, stimulate and arouse each other. As well as fondling,

squeezing, sucking, nibbling and even biting these sensitive areas, try also

wetting them and blowing them dry.

Try a range of different textures, velvet, fake fur, silk.

Try eating food of one another.

Much better than having a big meal before sex.

So

enjoy

your own body and each other's.

Accept the way you look and enjoy all the wonderful feelings our bodies can

give.

The real secret of masturbation is that it's a pleasure in its own right.

It is now acknowledged not only to be something almost everyone does, but also

something that everyone should do.

It provides sexual relief, increases libido, and develops suppleness in both

and women.

It should not be viewed as a substitute for sex, but as a useful way of

expanding your sexual repertoire, your fantasy life and training yourself for

intercourse.

For women, masturbation is also useful in developing full orgasmic capability.

And men can use it to train themselves to last as long as they want in

penetrative sex.

Men and women can use stop -start techniques, both to give themselves

orgasms and to develop the kind of control that allows them to come when

want to.

Bring yourself to the brink of orgasm, then stop while your arousal level drops

back and take yourself back to the brink again.

Repeat this several times before allowing the waves of what by now should

sensational orgasm to flood over you.

Once a man can last, say, half an hour whilst masturbating, he will be able to

keep intercourse going as long as any lover would want.

As with intercourse, variety can be the spice of life.

Try different positions.

Some men say it can be difficult for them to cum during sex when they're

on their back with their partner on top.

By practicing masturbation in this position, you should be able to overcome

problems with this.

Try masturbating with lubricants. They prevent soreness, and practicing with

them can help gain more control over ejaculation, as the sensation is similar

that of penetration.

If you always masturbate the same way, try different techniques.

Try using a vibrator.

And if you are both feeling adventurous, insert a dildo or even a chilled

cucumber into her vagina while masturbating.

The secret is to go with the flow and let all the sensations wash over you and

take you to even higher pinnacles of passion.

Women could try thigh power as a novel way to reach orgasm. Building to the

brink manually, then adding in the squeezing of the thighs to bring you to

orgasm.

You could also try deeper and shallower penetration with one or more fingers.

Try tugging on the labia.

or using circular motions while stimulating yourself.

Men can try varying the grip and speed of how they stimulate themselves.

See if rubbing the ligaments in the abdomen just above the penile root does

anything for you.

Try stimulating your perineum and fondling your balls.

Stimulate other erogenous zones, such as tweaking your nipples.

as arousal builds, and particularly at the point of orgasm.

It's also a time to practice flipping a well -lubricated finger into your anus

and perhaps starting to develop this as another pleasure area before you let

anyone else try.

Explore different feelings to give yourself a more sensational orgasm. For

example, try tensing your muscles, particularly pelvic floor, and relaxing

near the point of climax.

Take ten deep breaths near the point of orgasm.

Try masturbating in different places.

It adds a free song to be playing with yourself in places you normally wouldn't

or don't feel you should.

To add an extra dimension of fantasy while you masturbate, try getting your

partner to spy on you.

It may help you feel less inhibited in what you do and is bound to be a huge

turn -on for your partner too.

Masturbation in front of one another not only shows that you feel very

comfortable and uninhibited together, but also allows your partner to discover

what you like and how you do it.

While sex should not be goal orientated, one thing you could aim to do is to

masturbate your partner better than they can do it for themselves.

men need to learn all about how the woman likes her clitoris stimulated is

too sensitive for a direct approach if so rub at the side and the ridge above

does she like a lighter or stronger stroke how fast does she like

the pressure pace and rhythm to be varied

Only she can truly guide you, as another secret you need to know is that the

clitoris changes in sensitivity at arousal peaks.

Some women may want firmer, faster stimulation, while others prefer a

more gentle touch.

Sensitivity can also change from day to day, and from orgasm to orgasm.

You can also explore whether she likes to be penetrated with your fingers, and

if so, how many?

Some women like the sense of the lips of the vagina to be stressed, to feel more

filled up.

Try the thumb secret.

What it lacks in length, it gains in width.

Circular motions allow the thick base of the thumb to stimulate her clitoris,

the vaginal opening, and its inner lip.

When masturbating him, explore how firm a grip he likes you to use,

and how you can best stimulate the head of his

penis. For example, by running a lubricated finger around the rim, and

stimulate the ridge of the skin underneath, the frenulum, where all his

endings are focused.

There are several ways you can massage his penis.

The simplest is to make a tight ring with a finger and thumb and to massage

up and down with this.

Try ringing the changes by going fast then slow, firm then gentle.

and be guided by how he responds and what he thinks alike.

Another technique is to palm the tip of his penis by literally rubbing your palm

all over the tip while perhaps stroking his balls at the same time.

Perhaps the most delicious sensation of all for most men is to use a continuous

hand -over -hand technique.

in which you make a finger -thumb ring with both hands and run these one after

the other down the shaft using plenty of lubrication.

This tight continuous downwards movement feels like deeper and deeper

penetration to him and will soon have him writhing in ecstasy.

For more advanced masturbation you can even use the end of his penis to

stimulate your clitoris.

You'll usually find it brings him off as well.

You can also try getting him to lie on his back with you on top, then rub your

clitoris and labia backwards and forwards over his penis, though you'll

need lots of lubricant for this.

One of the sensational secrets of mutual masturbation is the three -finger

technique in which you gently stimulate her clitoris, vagina and anus together.

This drives many women wild.

Not every woman likes having her anus stimulated, however, so experiment to

what goes down well.

One secret known to advanced lovers is the G -spot.

A controversial, erogenous bone named after its discoverer, Ernst Rastenberg.

It is a button -like area of tissue on the front wall of the vagina that swells

during sexual arousal. When the G -spot is stimulated and gently pressed, it can

trigger a rapid and intense orgasm.

Hunting the G -spot is an erotic game you can both play.

To look for the female G -spot, your partner should lie on her back with her

knee bent and apart while you kneel between her legs.

Using lubrication, insert your index finger two to three inches into her

Make a beckoning gesture with your finger to bring the fingertip up against

front vaginal wall until you can feel the underlying hardness of her pubic

Press your fingertip firmly but gently up against this bone and move round and

round in a small circle, slowly working upwards or downwards.

If she suddenly feels a strange, pleasant and intense sensation, you've

it.

It only appears when she is fully aroused and you may find it feels like a

coin under a blanket.

Don't be too disappointed if it remains elusive, as not every woman seems to

have one.

And don't worry either if it makes you feel like you want to pee.

The G -spot is close to the bladder.

Some women also ejaculate a small amount of fluid when they orgasm, especially

through G -spot stimulation.

This is thought to come from glands in the vaginal wall that become engorged

during intense arousal, then squeeze during climax.

You will also note it while hunting for a G -spot that the upper vagina actually

expands or balloons during arousal. It's not as tight as you might imagine. It

is only the vaginal entrance that tightens as arousal increases.

The male G -spot lies in his prostate gland.

Some men love having this stimulated while others find it strange at first.

and may take time to enjoy it.

The only way to find out if he likes it or not is to gently try and see how you

go. But do make sure your fingernail is short and use plenty of lubrication.

For masturbation is an activity everyone should practice.

It has all sorts of benefits when you do it.

and is an important part of your sexual repertoire with your partner.

Oral sex is a huge compliment to one another, the ultimate acceptance of our

most intimate parts and a powerful involvement with our most personal

Nature has designed your body shape hair and odours as a turn -on for your

partner.

Don't be embarrassed about the way you look or smell.

Get to know your partner's unique body smells which contain pheromones,

sexual attractions that activate your heart and instincts to help bring you

closer together.

Oral sex should be seen as one of the most pleasuring things one can do for

another.

and empowering to you in giving you control over their sensations and

Let it be as big a turn -on for the giver as the receiver.

Realize that far from being demeaning, it gives you the power to control the

sensations and pleasures felt by your partner.

Don't worry too much about hygiene.

As long as people bathe regularly and have no infections, it is relatively

If you prefer, you can include washing your partner as part of your pre -oral

sexual technique.

As for semen, it is mostly a slightly salty tasting mixture of simple proteins

and sugars, which will do no harm when swallowed.

It is up to you whether you want him to come in your mouth, however, and if he

does, whether you want to swallow.

You could wipe it away with a tissue.

When it splashes on the back of your throat, it will trigger a natural

swallowing reflex, which you need to know about.

Don't be surprised by its warmth and how small an amount it is. Only around half

a teaspoon, not the gallons you might expect from porn flick.

If you are fine with oral sex, but don't want him to come in your mouth, bring

him to the brink, then finish him off with your hand.

Do try though by tasting a little bit to overcome any revulsion you might feel.

All sorts of techniques can be used in oral sex.

Lick all over the whole area to give your partner an intimate tongue bath.

The rim of the helmet or glands and the ridge or frenulum.

Underneath at the back are the most sensitive parts of the penis.

While the clitoris and surrounding areas are usually the most sensitive parts of

a woman.

Try fast flicking the tip of the tongue on the clitoris or women to men on the

frenulum.

Another secret here is for the man to keep his tongue still and let the woman

rub against it at her own pace and pressure to give herself maximum

You can also try getting him to hum on your clitoris.

like a human vibrator.

One well -kept secret of oral sex is just how fantastic sucking can be for

partner instead of simply licking.

Do cover your teeth with your lips so you don't accidentally bite these

sensitive areas.

You can take the entire clitoris and inner labia into your mouth and gently

on these and even rub the end of your nose on the pubic mound at the same time

for extra stimulation.

Women can draw more blood into his penis, giving him literally explosive

feelings as they do plenty of luscious tongue work.

Try inserting the tip of your tongue into the sensitive hole or urethral

at the end of his penis.

Use your fingers as well as your mouth. Add in all the manual techniques you've

learned from masturbating your partner.

Men love the sensation of their partner's tongue interacting with her

fingers, especially a firm grip on the base of their penis while her tongue

swirls around the head and ridge at the back.

To stimulate the penis, lick him while using a tight finger thumb ring to

massage him up and down with your hand.

Stimulating the clitoris with your tongue is an art.

as it can be so delicate and sensitive.

Most women, for example, prefer downwards rather than upwards movements,

experiment to see what she likes best.

Try circular movements of the tongue all around the clitoris.

Use your hands as well as your tongue.

Try palming her vulva, and as you lick, use a long, slow, continuous finger

-over -finger technique on either side of the clitoris.

Many women like having their vaginal entrance gently stretched during oral

by inserting a finger try inserting two fingers and opening them slightly to

stretch the entrance she may even want more women can also try gripping their

thighs together for greater friction and making him have to dig deeper with his

tongue

For mutual oral sex, swath on nerve, the 69 position, is the best known.

It's also a great position for mutual G -spot hunting.

Lie facing one another in the swath on nerve position.

Using lubrication, gently place the pad of your index finger against his anus

and gently push so it slips inside.

Gently and slowly advance your finger two to three inches up.

the front wall until you feel a firm, rubbery swelling, the prostate gland.

Press your fingertips firmly but gently up against this swelling and slowly

massage it using small circular movements.

Some men find this exquisitely pleasurable and stimulation of this

even trigger ejaculation.

When removing your finger, do so slowly and gently and wash your hands before

touching each other's genitals again.

One advantage of using the classic 69 position is that, as a bonus, it gives

access to you if you want to try some mutual G -spot searching.

For really different oral sex, try the love triangle.

She leans forward to take her partner's penis in her mouth.

while he has open access to lick her at the same time.

A more advanced position for mutual oral sex is the Big O, which gives you both

improved access for simultaneous oral and manual stimulation.

I've got my hair.

For the superstitious and adventurous, the vertical 69 position is worth

although you are unlikely to be able to keep this up for long.

Remember, oral sex is the real way of showing your partner how intimately you

are involved with them, and how much you appreciate the most private parts of

their body.

Particularly for intercourse, the importance of safe sex cannot be

underestimated. Unless you are in a long -term relationship and know your

partner's sexual history, you really should use condoms.

The secret of realising your full orgasmic potential in intercourse, or

your climaxes deeper, stronger and longer, is to take all the time you

Banish any negative thoughts so you can fully let yourself go.

In the end, it's your orgasm.

Of course, your partner can add a lot, but it means abandoning yourself fully

one of the most powerful feelings any human being can have.

You should have learnt a lot about your arousal and climax from masturbation.

If you were fine to come alone, but not with penetrative sex, then it is a

matter of sorting out your concerns with a partner.

One idea is to take the pressure off orgasming in intercourse by coming

penetration. Apart from quick effects, any good male lover should ensure his

partner has at least one climax before he enters her.

Some women need a helping hand, their own or their man's, to bring them off

during intercourse.

At first, she may need continued clitoral stimulation with his hand too.

This is most easily done if you both lie curled side by side facing the same

way.

He should be able to reach over and gently stimulate her clitoris with one

while inserting his penis from behind.

Some women prefer penetration only to occur at the point of climax.

Others prefer to feel you inside her from the beginning using this position.

One position that gives clitoral stimulation with the fingers is this.

This position gives him full access to her breath.

And as she moves up and down, it's possible to stimulate her clitoris with

hand using a good amount of lubrication.

Women on top positions let her gain control and can be extremely satisfying

both of you.

By moving up and down and varying the speed and depth of penetration, she can

set her own pace and reach orgasm more easily.

If you feel she's going too fast for you, hold her hips so she knows to slow

down a little.

These positions are also good if the man is particularly tired and his partner

is happy to make the effort.

For deeper, longer, stronger sex, you can also try various techniques for

penetration.

Circling and semi -circling thrust during penetration help to stimulate

areas of the vagina and can produce exquisite sensations and orgasm.

Vary the pace and rhythm.

Lower rhythms with alternating shallow and deep strokes can help to make her

orgasm stronger.

Try long, deep strokes followed by almost complete withdrawal.

And another secret is to totally disengage the penis from the vagina

deep thrusts to provide maximum clitoral stimulation.

This is especially delicious for her if the man slowly rubs the tip of his penis

down the length of her clitoris during his approach for the next penetration.

He can also try using just the tip of his penis in shallow motions at the

opening of her vagina, as this is where most of her sensitive nerve endings are,

and where she becomes most engorged, and so tighter during arousal.

During intercourse, you can also stimulate her clitoris with the base of

penis during deep penetration by simply lying further up her body in the

missionary position.

Alternatively, with the man lying on his back and the woman lying on top, she

brings her legs inside his for a snugger sit.

By keeping her legs inside his, she can increase the friction between his penis

and her vagina and clitoris as he thrusts into her.

Finally, if he's come and you haven't, try leaving his wilting penis inside you

as you bring yourself off by rubbing up against him and stimulating yourself

with your hand.

Men need just as much caressing and stimulation as women.

Holding his penis at the base as it moves in and out of you can really

his pleasure.

It can be very arousing for both of you if you slip a finger inside yourself

while he is moving in and out of you.

You will feel even more filled up and you can stimulate the sensitive head of

his penis too.

Try this position for the tightest grasp of his penis.

She squeezes her fingers together to grip him firmly as he moves in and out.

This position also lets her stimulate her clitoris with her hand at the same

time, and gives him access to caress her breasts, clitoris, or buttocks.

A real turn on for him is to stimulate his balls with your fingers during

penetration, and especially at the moment of ejaculation.

The base of the penis is also quite sensitive.

Pressing firmly against his perineum, the area between his anus and scrotum

during penetration, will help to increase the intensity of his orgasm.

Lubrication is a very useful sex aid for avoiding soreness, heightening arousal

and increasing sexual sensations.

A variety of water -based gels are available, but if you haven't any,

provides saliva.

Near the point of coming, there are various techniques for making your

all the more sensational.

Use the stop -start routine learnt in masturbation.

Stop near the brink, letting your arousal subside a little, then start

The more you repeat this, the more shattering your climax will be.

The bigger the build -up, the more intensive the contractions will be and

release of orgasm. You can also try tensing and flexing your muscles to

the sensations.

Women can try pushing out their pelvic floor muscles instead of drawing them in

for a totally different yet exquisite sensation of release.

Try deep breathing just as you are about to come.

To develop these techniques, it helps if you are both able to tell when your

partner is about to come.

so you can stop what you're doing and allow the suspense to build almost

indefinitely. It's up to you how long you want to linger and enjoy the

pleasurable sensations your body can produce, and at what point you want to

strive ahead for your climax.

In men, telltale signs of being near the brink include tensing of the scrotum,

thighs and abdomen, and the balls rising tight against the base of the penis.

In women, it can often be more difficult to tell, although the clitoris will

usually feel more engorged. Her nipples will be swollen, and though you may feel

her vaginal muscles gripping you more tightly at the base, the upper part of

vagina will balloon and so feel looser.

In both men and women, breathing will become more rapid, and one in four

develop a reddening sex flush that starts on the lower abdomen or chest and

spread to the neck, face and limbs.

It is also common to start perspiring more than would be usual for this amount

of exercise.

Communicate verbally or with your body to let your partner know when to slow

down or speed up to maximize the sensations.

Expressing yourself is one of the secrets of sensational sex.

Know and cry out if you want to.

It's all part of letting yourself go.

Don't feel inhibited and be prepared to ask for what you want and to show your

partner so that they can get it right for you.

Give simple words of encouragement or a gentle message to try something else.

Your processes of sexual arousal are finally soon, so you need to be able to

interpret each other's moans of pleasure to know when you're doing something the

other likes, and equally need warning when you do something they're less

A helping hand is often the best way of bringing you both to a simultaneous

orgasm. But it's wise not to make coming together too much of a goal.

Let each other know where you like being touched, either by telling her or by

taking their fingers in yours and showing them what to do.

If you're unsure what your partner is trying to tell you, it really helps to

ask. A whispered, is that good, or do you want me to stop, will usually get

back on track.

If you develop the techniques that delay orgasms and make them deeper, longer

and stronger when they do come, then you and your partner will be well on the

way to enjoying truly sensational sex.

Having a varied repertoire requires knowing a number of sexual positions,

simple, some quite advanced.

Each has benefits, usually for both partners, and different ones can be used

different needs and occasions.

Experimenting with the many hundreds of ways that two bodies can be intertwined

is very arousing and great fun in itself.

So test which ones heighten pleasure for one or both of you. Some allow deeper

penetration, improved stimulation of the clitoris, G -spot, or a tighter grip on

the penis.

While others offer greater visual delight or accessibility of erogenous

Getting into some of the more advanced ones shouldn't be taken too seriously,

though. Have a laugh trying.

Sex, after all, should be great fun.

Penetration from behind often gives the most satisfying orgasms for women, as

this stretches the front wall of the vagina where the G -spot is found.

Another position good for stimulating the G -spot is to make love when lying

curled up side by side, with his front to her back.

This is especially good when you both want a close cuddle.

This position allows him to penetrate her very deeply.

And this one allows full stroke movement and deep penetration.

For deeper, tighter penetration, this position lets him push forward, where he

can penetrate her as fully as possible.

In this position, you could slip a pillow under her buttocks, which allows

to thrust deeper.

And, as a bonus, it also helps increase the sensation of tightness.

More energetic couples can enjoy lovemaking standing up with the woman's

around his neck and her legs entwined around his waist.

This one is particularly good for the second time around, when his penis may

be fully erect.

It allows her to control the rate of movement and the depth of penetration.

He has the freedom to move up and down with the knees and to thrust forward if

he wishes.

Let your imagination run away with you.

Not to mention your body.

and adventurously explore all the many different ways you can entwine yourself

in the discovery of ever more sensational sex.

One of the great secrets of sensational sex is variety.

One exciting way to keep bringing the changes is for you and your partner to

think of your love life as a secret affair.

With this way of thinking, you're unlikely to fall into the trap of doing

same things time and time again, and let your appetites become jaded.

Vary the time of day.

Don't wait until night when you're both tired.

Make time for sex.

Weekends and holidays provide great opportunities, but what if you both take

long lunch in bed together or a few hours off work just for the two of you?

Vary the location all around the house or try sex outside for some added

excitement.

Try rooms you've never used for sex before.

The bathroom can be one of the most erotic rooms in the house.

Don't just vary the setting, spend some time getting the atmosphere right.

Using a large mirror near the bed can also increase excitement.

and adds a voyeuristic element, letting you watch each other's facial responses

and see your partner's body from different angles.

Surprise each other while watching TV.

Try sexy clothing.

Make love through it. Don't always be naked.

Find things, books, videos, fantasies to turn you on and expand your repertoire.

Anything that will help.

Go to sex shops together, get their catalogues or look them up on the

Use melting ice cubes.

Even slip one into the vagina or anus, but make sure it is half melted first.

One secret of advanced lovers is applying a little spearmint or

toothpaste under the foreskin for an extra tingle. This is especially helpful

second time round to re -stimulate an erection.

Sex toys also have an important role to play. For example, vibrators have been

available for years and continue to be popular because they work faster than

hand or tongue.

They can produce exquisite sensations when used around the clitoris, but can

used on all the erogenous zones.

Vibrators are not just for women.

Use them to stimulate the penis, especially the frenulum, which is the

ridge of skin at the back of the foreskin.

His perineum, scrotum and nipples too.

Many couples find mild bondage a real turn -on.

Alternate taking control in one session and then being really passive in

another.

Lying there submissively while your partner does exactly what he or she

you can be one of the most erotic ways to make sex more sensational.

It is important, though, to know your limits.

Be adventurous, but don't get carried too far beyond what you're comfortable

with.

Being a good lover means maximising your own and your partner's pleasure.

It doesn't have to involve weirder and weirder practices, but it should involve

keeping your sex life fresh, exciting and adventurous for you both.

Remember to keep your sexuality as an integral part of your lives.

Physical and emotional intimacy are two of the key elements in maintaining a

healthy sex life.

Sensitivity and sensuality are equally important.

Keep romance alive in your relationship and keep your partner feeling wanted and

sexy.

The way you behave in the rest of your relationship can directly impact on your

sex life.

So have a great time.

Always treat your lover with respect and try to understand their wants and

needs.

Sensational sex comes from being free of inhibitions, so try not to be

embarrassed when things don't always go to plan.

Ultimately, keeping a sense of fun and openness will help ensure that your sex

life is alive and well.

people having sex means penetrative intercourse and an orgasm and most

take sex seriously worrying about whether they're doing it properly rather

giving in to the moment and simply enjoying themselves there's much more to

great love making than just intercourse in the same way as there's much more to

sex than reproduction spending time on sex play will help you relax and really

make love so

Why sex play rather than foreplay?

Quite simply because foreplay implies that it's just the starter, with

penetrative sex being the main course.

Sex play can be a sensual feast in its own right and shouldn't just be seen as

something you do to get to the main bit.

After all, how can you really enjoy it if your mind is on what comes next?

And don't forget the play part of sex play.

Great sex has a sense of humour. After all, rubbing body parts together in a

frenzied way could be seen as a slightly ridiculous thing to do.

There's no need to take sex so seriously that you lose the sense of exploration

and fun.

Relaxation is also essential.

Allow time to set aside the stresses of the day and to connect with your

partner. As Martha Johnston said, good sex begins when all your clothes are

still on.

Go for romantic walks together, share a bottle of wine over dinner, have a bath

together or simply gaze into your partner's eyes and say that you love

As with all sex play, do whatever makes you both feel good and you'll be laying

the foundations for a fabulous time together.

By treating sex play as important in its own right, the pressure to perform is

removed. Men can stop worrying about staying erect and having to perform on

demand, and women can throw away their concerns about coming through

alone.

A woman will always respect a man who helped her to achieve orgasm before

penetration. It shows that he cares about her and that he sees sex as more

simply a way to ejaculate.

And a man will feel fantastic if he knows that he's a good lover, and even

better if he has a partner who loves pleasuring him too.

There's no doubt that sex play can improve intercourse.

Only about 25 % of women can climax through penetrative sex alone.

This increases to over 93 % if the man spends 20 minutes or more on sex play.

So this is the real key to great lovemaking.

The joy of a long and intimate kissing session should never be overlooked.

The Kama Sutra says that kissing kindles love.

There's no doubt about it. Kissing is an incredibly sensual act, and almost

everyone can remember their first kiss.

In the early stages of a relationship, couples tend to kiss regularly, but it

can easily become a neglected part of sex play.

Many couples slip into pressing the right buttons and forget the joy of

lingering hours spent kissing.

However, a really good kiss can be far more memorable than a lacklustre sex

session. According to Relate, couples that kiss regularly but don't make love

are more likely to stay together than couples that are at it like rabbits but

rarely kiss.

For the perfect kiss...

Start gently. Touch your partner's lips with your own.

Simply feeling your partner's mouth on your own can get your juices flowing.

Kiss your partner's face, their eyelids, eyebrows, forehead, cheeks, nose,

wherever else feels right.

Once the kisses are getting stronger, run your tongue softly over your

lips and be sure to pay attention to how they respond.

If they seem to enjoy it, dart your tongue lightly over their lips, then

their mouth.

Run it between their gums and lips.

Explore inside their mouth. And when their tongue meets yours, play with it

your own.

Vary your kisses.

A level of unpredictability makes everything much more exciting.

Alternatively, you could try an Eskimo kiss, which isn't simply rubbing noses,

as is commonly perceived. A true Eskimo kiss involves putting your nose close to

your partner's and breathing in their spirit.

Kissing passionately can be even more arousing than direct genital contact,

particularly for women.

There are even a few lucky people who can climax through kissing alone.

Most importantly, learn what your partner wants. Ask them to kiss you the

they would like to be kissed.

Then do the same to them.

During a long kissing session, you'll probably both be aching with desire.

And it can be a good time to extend the kissing over your partner's body and use

your lips to tease their nipples.

Remember, many men like their nipples kissed too.

Work your way down your partner's torso, kissing their stomach and maybe

flickering your tongue into their navel. Rather than moving straight into oral

sex... Carry on kissing down over thighs and calves, maybe just briefly letting

them feel the warmth of your breath on their genitals before you move on.

Skin creases like the backs of knees or inside of elbows can be incredibly

sensitive, so gently suck or nibble all over their body.

But be careful about leaving love bites. There's no need to brand your partner

to prove that they're yours.

Caressing is a wonderful addition to kissing. Run your fingers gently along

their arms and down their back. If they shiver with pleasure, then you're doing

something right.

Not all kisses involve the mouth.

You can try a butterfly kiss, fluttering your eyelashes over their body to make

them feel cherished.

Butterfly kisses can work wonders in more intimate places.

Some people find toe kissing incredibly sexy.

Let your lips play over your partner's foot, and after working your lips over

their sole and the top of their foot, try sucking their toes.

And return the favour for them, too.

Above all else, don't feel like kissing always has to move on to something more.

It's intimate, romantic and sexy in its own right.

Many men and women find it a challenge to give their partner a really good

orgasm with their fingers or hand.

But there's no need for that to be the case.

There are numerous techniques that can help each of you to give your partner a

huge amount of pleasure.

Watching your partner masturbate will give you a sexy lesson on what to do and

is often an intensely erotic experience.

It's also true that many women lack confidence with men.

Remember, most men masturbate regularly, so they're the best person to show you

what they like.

Ask your partner to masturbate using your hand. Let your hand relax and let

control your movements entirely.

Most importantly, listen to your partner's reactions and watch them to

exactly what they enjoy.

Remember, everyone's different, so some techniques will work on a particular

person better than others.

Don't just stick to one technique.

Surprise your partner with a change of stroke or caress to keep things fresh.

Just don't change technique as they're about to climax, unless you want to be a

real thief.

Hand jobs are a great and usually easy way to make a man climax, so long as the

woman is confident.

First, get your partner into the right frame of mind.

Flirt with him, kiss him, tell him how much you want him. Then stroke his

moving gradually down his torso.

Tell him that he's gorgeous and don't forget to praise his penis. Every man

wants to hear that his penis is big, thick or even just attractive.

Stroke his penis and testicles until he rises to the occasion, if he hasn't

already. Then, get a grip.

Men tend to like a reasonable amount of pressure.

Imagine you're giving his penis a firm handshake. A confident hold reassures

that you know and enjoy what you're doing.

When you've found the technique your partner likes, maintain a steady rhythm,

unless you want to keep him at the edge of pleasure for hours.

Carry on until he climaxes or change to some other form of sex play, depending

on what you both feel like.

Changing position can also change the way a handjob feels.

Ideally, you need a position that lets your arm take some of the strain.

Try emulating your partner's masturbation technique by sitting behind

reaching across his body so that your hand's approaching his penis from the

angle that he does when he masturbates.

Rather than gripping him as you usually would, ask him to move your fingers

until you're holding him in the way he'd normally touch himself.

Ask him to put his hand around your hand so that you can get an idea of his

preferred level of pressure.

He can even masturbate with your hand inside his to give you an exact idea of

his stroke.

Alternatively, lie on the bed next to your partner and rest your elbows on the

bed at groin level. Use one or both hands to masturbate him in this

You can lie on your back with your partner straddling your chest when

masturbating your partner.

Grip him with one or both hands and let him control the thrust.

This is a great position if you're feeling tired, as all you have to do is

your fist clenched and arms still.

Or try approaching from behind, pressing your breasts into his back as you

stroke his penis and balls.

Your partner can sit.

Stand, lie down or kneel while you masturbate him.

Whichever you choose has its own benefits.

And hand jobs while you kneel in front of your partner can give him an extra

thrill. You can easily reach his balls and stroke his frenulum from this angle

that he can feel masterful, which may appeal to you if you're into power play.

You can also widen your sexual repertoire with different hand job

Squeezing an orange is less scary than it sounds and can be a fun and effective

way to give your man pleasure.

Rub and squeeze the head and spin your wrist as if you were trying to juice an

orange. Your other hand can stroke his shaft or testicles at the same time for

maximum pleasure.

A variation on this involves masturbating your partner's penis with

while the other, well -lubricated hand, palm flat, rubs over the head in a

circular motion.

Experiment with the pressure of your grip until you find the best sensation

him.

Another great technique is basket weaving.

Link your fingers together and clasp both hands around your partner's shaft.

Push both hands to the base of his shaft, twist them, slide your hands to

top of his shaft, twist at the top, and repeat.

The church involves making your hands like a steeple and putting them over

partner's penis.

with the thumbs rubbing over his frenulum.

Or try hands together, in which you slide both hands up and down his shaft.

Vary this by crossing your hands with your thumbs facing forwards.

Or try the fire starter in which you roll his penis between your hands as if

using a stick to start a fire.

The birdcage will tease every part of your partner.

Grip your partner's penis with one hand while the other strokes the head,

rotating it for maximum pleasure.

Or try the heartbeat.

Clasp your hands together as you do with basket weaving, then pulse them as you

slide them up and down. This mimics the way your vagina moves around him. As he

gets more aroused, you may want to change back to basket weaving to help

climax.

The rings is a wonderfully effective masturbation technique.

Form the OK sign with both hands, then encircle the head of the penis with the

OK ring of each hand.

Keep up a steady motion, then speed up as your partner gets more aroused. You

can also use the rings at the top of his penis or twist in opposite directions.

Try using both hands alternately, as though paying out a thick, endless rope,

using both hands together, one above the other. The frenulum or frenum is

particularly sensitive for many men.

This is the stringy bit under the head of the penis.

Try rubbing your thumb across it as you masturbate his shaft.

Indeed, you should generally put your thumb to good use when you're

your partner.

Slide your hands up and down, letting them rub against his frenulum and the

on the front of his penis.

Other fun things include making a rain pattern with your hands.

Or letting the penis clap against your hand.

or his stomach.

Pulling down a man's foreskin and holding it firmly towards the base of

penis can also intensify feelings for him.

If you want to get really creative, a pearl necklace can add an unusual thrill

to a hand job.

Lubricate it and then wrap it around his shaft.

He'll get an extra thrill from the beads rolling up and down his shaft.

Or try different textures, like silk.

or fake fur wrapped around his penis.

No matter what the technique or the position, it's important to remember

hand jobs are about far more than just the shaft of the penis.

Lots of men have sensitive nipples and inner thighs, so don't neglect them.

Ask if he likes having them stroked or lightly scratched.

And many men complain their testicles are neglected, so give them the

they deserve.

Use masturbation techniques that involve the testicles, like the taffy pull,

where you gently tug their testicles, or the batter -up, where you rub over

their testicles, cupping them to pull them upwards and curling your fingers

the head of the penis.

Stroke them, cup them, or roll them in your hands.

Some men like it if you tug their testicles at the point of orgasm. Don't

too much pressure. The testicles are tender and can be easily bruised, so

with care.

The top of the scrotum, just below the shaft of the penis, is also a common

erogenous zone.

Stroke it while you masturbate him to make his balls jiggle and give him an

extra thrill.

And then there's the perineum. This is a super -sensitive area between the balls

and the anus.

Try pressing on it while you masturbate your partner's shaft as it stimulates

the prostate gland from the outside.

The prostate gland is a chestnut -shaped lump about a third of the way up the

man's anus on the inside.

If your partner is willing, try sliding a finger or even a toy inside his anus

and gently stroking his prostate while you masturbate him.

This can give some men the most intense orgasms ever.

However, make sure that any finger inserted into an anus is clean, has

nails and is well lubricated.

Ideally, use latex gloves or a condom on the toy or your fingers to prevent

infection.

There aren't many ways you can get a handjob wrong.

However, you should avoid pulling his penis down using your nails.

or masturbating an unlubricated penis too fast, as it could cause pain and

friction burns.

Ask your partner what he wants. There's no need to be shy, after all. If you're

close enough to make love, you're close enough to talk about it.

If your hand gets tired, there are various options.

Swap hands. Ask him to take over.

Or ask him to wrap his hand around yours and control the pace.

Let your partner know that you want to please him and your relationship may

improve as much as your handjob technique.

Pleasuring a woman with your fingers can be immensely satisfying for her and a

good way of expressing intimacy.

It's important to realise that manually stimulating a woman is rarely about

penetration.

Start by stroking her pubic mound, vaginal lips, and particularly her

Keep your touch light and playful. Let your fingers dance over her and tease

her.

It can be easier for a woman to climax through manual stimulation than

penetrative sex, as your fingers can be far more precise than your penis,

hitting her most sensitive zones. You can caress her clitoris, G -spots, A

and even cervix.

Some women feel self -conscious about their genitals. They don't see them in

way their partner does.

Telling your partner that she's got beautiful bits will help her relax and

up. It's a compliment that almost every woman will appreciate.

The clitoris is a wonderful thing with the sole function of giving a woman

sexual pleasure. And it's far bigger than you might think.

It's wishbone shaped with three quarters of it hidden from view.

So there's a lot to stimulate.

Try softly stroking your partner's clitoris.

Focusing on the clitoral hood to start with until she starts to get aroused.

Some women don't like direct clitoral stimulation until just before they

and others don't like the tip being touched at all, as it can be too

Work around the base of the clitoris, and her inner lips if this is the case.

Even if she likes direct clitoral stimulation, she'll appreciate you

gradual approach to reach it.

Loving the pearl is ideal once your partner is getting really aroused.

Rest your thumb and index finger on either side of her clitoris and rub it

and forth.

Follow her body movements to set the pace.

Or try masturbating the clitoris as if it was a miniature penis.

Not all women have a large enough clitoris for this to be possible. If

partner is one of them, simply put your fingers on either side of her clitoris

and rub or squeeze it.

or try rubbing the ridge above it.

Alternative techniques include drumming your fingers against your partner's

pubic mound and clitoris, twirling her labia between your fingers, as if you

were twirling a piece of string, or simply rubbing your partner's clitoris.

While the clitoris is important, it's not the be -all and end -all. The labia

and entire pubic area are very responsive to touch and teething.

Spend time stroking your partner's pubic mound, gently tugging at her pubic hair

or running your fingers over her labia.

And pressing one hand against a woman's pubic bone with the heel of the hand

resting on top of her ovaries while you stimulate her with your fingers can help

deepen orgasm.

Rocking your hand back and forwards as you do so will help stretch her skin and

indirectly stimulate the clitoris.

Once your partner is aroused enough, she'll probably let you know when she

you to penetrate her with your fingers.

Start slowly, with just one finger, a joint at a time, and only adding more

it becomes easy and she's happy for you to continue.

Women vary as to how many fingers they like inside them. One good rule is three

on the outside and two on the inside, but some women like even more.

Vary the speed and rhythm of your fingers inside her and combine this with

movements over her clit and playing with her nipples with your fingers or

tongue. And don't just thrust in and out, experiment with different motions,

crossing and uncrossing two fingers inside your partner or alternating them,

piston style.

A twist of the wrist can also add a delicious thrill.

The stir is a sensual technique that many women enjoy.

Using your index and middle fingers together, insert them into her vagina,

stir them around to tease her vaginal walls.

The G -spot is a spongy mass about a third of the way inside a woman's vagina

the upper wall.

Stroke it with a come -here -the motion.

Bear in mind that not all women have a G -spot, and some women just want to pee

when they're overstimulated.

However, other women can have incredibly intense orgasms, so it's worth looking

for.

And it's not just the G -spot. Between a woman's G -spot and her cervix, the

round bit at the back of the vagina, is an area called the anterior fornic zone

or A -spot for short.

Found by scientists investigating vaginal dryness in 1996, it can also

orgasms for some women.

Spend some time exploring to see if your partner is one of them.

Some women enjoy anal stimulation too.

If your partner is one of them, try sliding a finger around the rim or

a well -lubricated finger into her anus.

Unlike the vagina, the anus does not create its own natural lubrication and

more susceptible to tears, so use plenty of lubricants and make sure that you

wash any finger that's been in the anus before touching the vagina with it,

otherwise it could lead to infection.

Relaxation is the key to anal play, and if it hurts, don't do it. You either

aren't interested or aren't relaxed enough for it to be enjoyable.

Enjoy exploring your partner's body and take your time.

Sex isn't meant to be rushed. Just remember, keep a steady rhythm as orgasm

approaches. Unlike men, women want a constant pace rather than a faster pace

they near climax.

A few guidelines can improve manual sex for both men and women.

Make sure that your nails are short and hands are clean.

Using lube can improve the experience for both of you, even if you get

relatively well lubricated naturally.

Of course, nature also provides saliva as its own form of lubricant.

But it's also worth trying commercial lubes. They come in different types, so

try a few to see which one you like most.

Just remember never to use anything oil -based if you're planning on having

penetrative sex, as it can rot condoms.

Most importantly, ask your partner what they like.

Communication is essential for good sex.

Listen to their body as much, if not more, than their voice.

Pay attention to every arch of the back, every flutter of the eyelashes.

and every moan.

If you learn to read your partner's body language, you'll become fluent in

giving them pleasure.

something that some people are squeamish about, whether giving or receiving.

They worry that they might smell unpleasant or they dislike the idea of

control. Women may not like the idea of swallowing semen and men may worry that

they won't be able to breathe.

However, there's little need to worry about these things.

If you're bothered, you could try a sexy shower together first so you feel

relaxed enough about your body to enjoy oral sex.

There should be something intensely sexy about the aroma and taste of your

partner's most intimate juices.

If you feel uncomfortable at the idea of your partner tasting you, remember,

this is one of nature's most powerful tools for sexual arousal. Indeed, it's

important that some people say if you don't like the way your partner smells

tastes, then perhaps you shouldn't be together.

That said, it is possible to vary the taste of semen and vaginal juices.

if you worry that you taste too bitter cut down on alcohol and coffee while

eating more fresh fruit can sweeten the taste but generally most people worry

far too much about the way they smell or taste when in reality their partner is

more than happy

Do be wary about the risk of STD and STI transmission with oral sex.

Unless you and your partner have been practising safe sex for at least six

months and have full STI tests that have come out clean, you're putting yourself

at risk if you have unprotected oral sex.

Use dental dams or condoms to stay healthy and safe.

Give oral sex because you enjoy it and because your partner enjoys it.

It's not something that you should begrudge doing, and certainly not

that you should do because you want to get it in return.

After you've enjoyed orally pleasuring your partner, remember to tell them if

you love the way they taste and smell.

They'll feel utterly desired.

Giving oral pleasure can be one of the highlights of your sex life. The old

in which a man describes his worst ever blowjob as fantastic rings true.

Most men will see a blowjob as a great gift. But remember, the woman needs to

in control of the pace, rhythm and depth.

Using your hands as well as your mouth allows you to set the depth of

penetration and helps you control your gagging reflex.

Put your hand around his shaft and your lips around the head of his penis, then

move your hand and mouth up and down in time with each other, licking and

sucking as you go.

Lots of men like their frenulum to be teased or flicked with a tongue.

And men, don't put your hand on the back of your partner's head when she's going

down on you, unless she asks you to.

The woman needs to set the pace in fellatio. If you make her gag, she won't

inclined to do it again.

Just relax and enjoy.

Vary the position in which you perform fellatio. Lots of men like the visual

element and the power kick that comes from being fellated by a woman who's on

her knees.

It also gives easy access for the woman to caress his buttocks and perineum.

However, if kneeling in front of your partner sets your feminist hattles

get him to lie on his back and then kneel in front of him.

Depending on the size and width of the man's penis, approaching it from the

may be easier. In this position, you can easily rub the head of his penis

against the inside of your cheek for extra stimulation.

Or try facing his feet. This means that you can get him far enough down your

throat for it to be enjoyable.

It gives him a great view, but also puts you in control.

Alternatively, you can sit back while he kneels over your chest. You can control

his thrust by gripping his buttocks and have easy access to his testicles,

perineum and anus. You may even be able to reach the prostate gland, the male G

-spot, located inside the anus, just in front of the rectum.

Another position that allows lots of scope for anal play is picking the

In this position, you can easily suck and caress his testicles and perineum

while stroking his shaft.

Try writing a big capital W on his scrotum with your tongue for extra

Some men like teabagging, where you take one or both testicles in your mouth.

But it's not just positions. There are numerous techniques to pleasure your

partner orally. Sucking can be tiring, but if you alternate it with licking,

then you'll find it easier. Just don't suck too hard. When you're licking his

penis, let lots of saliva dribble from your mouth as a natural lubricant.

Try flicking your tongue lightly over him, focusing on the frenulum and other

sensitive areas.

Alternating this with a firmer stroke and suction motion will drive him wild.

Some men have a sensitive urethra and like it when you poke your tongue in and

out of it. Others find that it hurts, so check to see how he responds to feeling

your tongue in and around it.

Humming while you've got your partner's penis in your mouth will send vibrations

through his most intimate areas.

Or use a vibrator on the cheek to do it for you.

If you'd like to try deep -throating your partner, learn how to control your

reflex. You can make things easier by raising your soft palate.

Tense your mouth, flare your nostrils, and you'll feel it rise. This gives more

space for his penis to slide down.

The more space your throat has got, the better. So it's far easier to do with

your neck straight than bent, him leaning over you while you pull him

your face, rather than vice versa.

A great trick if you find that oral sex makes you gag, or if he's just too big,

is the cheek push.

With one hand on his shaft, position your partner's penis so that it's aimed

into the side of your cheek while you fillet him.

Let the head of his penis rub against your inner cheek with every thrust.

Most men can't tell the difference in the heat of the moment.

He'll feel like he's been deep -throated and your gag reflex won't be set off.

Another way to add a tingle is to suck on a strong mint or use mouthwash before

going down on him.

Looking for something a bit different? Try changing the temperature of your

mouth for the ice and fire technique.

Chill your mouth by sucking on an ice cube.

Just make sure you let it melt for a bit first. You don't want to give him ice

burns.

Then heat it up with a mouthful of coffee, but again...

Don't let boiling water anywhere near tender skin.

And then on to the eternal question.

To swallow or not to swallow? Some women hate the taste while others love it.

Safer sex assumed it's entirely up to you which one you go for.

If you don't like the taste, taking the man's penis in the back of your throat

can help matters as it means that the semen mostly bypasses the taste buds and

is in your mouth for less time.

If you dislike the taste, keep a glass of squash by the side of the bed. That

way you can wash the taste from your mouth and still cuddle up to your

Leaping up to go and clean your teeth can be a real intimacy killer.

Alternatively, many men find it intensely sexy climaxing over a woman's

face or neck, otherwise known as a pearl necklace.

It's a far sexier way to avoid swallowing than simply spitting it out

tissue.

Your partner won't be remembering the night you didn't swallow.

They'll recall in vivid detail the night you let them come on you.

Don't let yourself feel pressurised into swallowing. If you don't like it, don't

do it.

Asking him what he enjoys and then doing it, assuming you like what he suggests,

is the best way of ensuring you both have fun.

If you're really unsure of what to do, try acting out a fantasy where you are a

sex novice and he has the job of instructing you. It can be a sexy way of

improving your technique.

Oral sex is one of the easiest ways for many women to climax.

If you develop your oral skills, your partner is sure to be happy.

If she's shy, showing enthusiasm for what you're doing will help her feel

about it. It should arouse you, and if it does, let her know. She'll enjoy it

far more as she'll be more relaxed.

Unless she specifies otherwise, make sure you're clean shaven when you go

on her.

Sandpaper sensation on the thighs or genitals isn't a good thing.

Using the soft underside of your lips to rub her clit gives a softer sensation.

Try gently sucking the clit between your lips, French kissing her vagina, softly

blowing across her clitoris or softly pulling her pubic hair to part her lips

and give a pain pleasure thrill if she's into that kind of thing.

Try humming on her clitoris and becoming a human vibrator.

Another popular way to keep going with oral sex is writing the letters of the

alphabet on her clitoris with your tongue.

Can you get the big O before she does?

As with manual sex, don't just focus on the clitoris. There are other parts of

the vulva connected to the clitoris which can also be stimulated.

The inner labia are rooted at the clitoral hood.

Nibbling, licking or sucking the inner labia indirectly stimulates the clitoris

and will help build her arousal.

Try massaging the outer labia with your fingers at the same time to add extra

thrills.

Nudging back the clitoral hood with your tongue with incredibly light pressure

is also easy in this position and will have most women moaning with pleasure.

Penetrating your partner with your tongue can be incredibly intense for

you. Flex and curl your tongue, then insert it into her vaginal opening and

thrust at a rhythm that works for both of you.

Alternate this with sucking her clit and licking her labia to stop your tongue

getting too tired.

The sensations vary depending on the angle at which you approach the clitoris

and vagina.

So don't just stick to the same position. Going in from the side gives

scope to stimulate the whole of the clitoris rather than focusing on the

which may be good if she's sensitive.

Your chin will also rub against her mons in this position, which may add more

pleasure. This is particularly good if the woman has a sensitive clitoris as

it's easier to avoid the tip and focus on the hood and upper labia.

Alternatively, your partner may like lying on her back while you lie between

legs as this gives easy access to the clit and vagina.

She can then spread her legs wide or place one or both on your shoulders to

you deeper access to her vagina.

If she sits on your face, you can get your tongue deeper inside her, but don't

ignore that clit.

Or why not try approaching from above?

Kneel astride your partner as if in the 69 position, then lick and suck her

clitoris. Very soft and hard sucking, and let the tip of the clitoris slide

underneath the clitoral hood, maybe teasing it with the underside of your

tongue.

Of course, in this position, you could always end up orally stimulating each

other at the same time. You may find it easier moving into the classic 69

position in which both lie on your sides, using your fingers as well as

tongue. And don't be afraid to take breaks if you find yourself getting too

distracted by your partner's attentions.

Let them know if you want to focus entirely on them too.

To make oral sex easy for a man, the woman can try lying on her back on a

or bed with her legs over the edge. This position means that she can wrap her

thighs around the man's head while still having the freedom to writhe.

You can even approach from behind, reaching her vagina from an entirely

different angle while your fingers work their magic.

This position is ideal if your partner has a particularly sensitive clitoris

that can't cope with direct stimulation.

Ask your partner what she likes and listen to her moans. Before too long,

be a cunnilingus king.

Sex toys are a great way to add a real buzz to your love life. We've come a

way since the days of a hard dildo being the only option.

Now you can get toys in all shapes and sizes.

Vibrators, love eggs and even remote controlled toys.

They can stimulate your vagina, anus, clitoris, prostate or G -spot.

Whatever you want will be out there.

And don't just think of them as a female thing. There are plenty of toys for men

too. and an erotic afternoon with your partner in a sex shop, there are lots of

couple -friendly stores springing up. If that makes you nervous, you can visit

any number of discreet sites on the Internet, including the Lover's Guide's

website at www .loversguide .com.

It can take time for a woman to get used to the idea or the sensations of a sex

toy too.

Don't see them as a solitary pleasure but allow time for her to explore a toy

her own before you use it together.

Once she's comfortable with it, you'll both be able to relax and enjoy things

much more.

Sharing your toys safely with your partner can help build intimacy between

Some men feel intimidated by sex toys.

So reassure your partner that the toy isn't a replacement for him.

Ask if he'd like to see you using a toy on yourself.

Most men find the idea incredibly stimulating.

Toys can increase the amount and intensity of your orgasms, add variety

lovemaking, and give him a chance to get a rest if he gets tired.

After all, what man can go at 500 revs per minute?

Remember, sex toys are entirely normal.

Picking out a toy or toys is a great way to introduce a conversation about sex

in general. Even better, the anticipation should get you both fired

Many men enjoy it if you run a vibrator over their testicles.

though some find it tickles, so check first.

A good way to reduce the intensity of the vibrations is to cushion the toy

your hand. Put the vibrator on the back of your hand rather than applying it

directly. You can also use any sex toys during fellatio, butt plugs for anal

stimulation and vibrators to use on the shaft while you lick and suck elsewhere.

There's even a toy designed specifically for oral sex.

The tongue joy fits on the tongue with an elastic band and vibrates while you

perform oral sex.

It can be used on men to tease the frenulum.

And then there's the biggie, the prostate gland, sometimes referred to as

male G -spot.

Many men like the idea of being anally penetrated, but are scared to admit it

for fear that they'll be considered gay.

It's nothing to be ashamed of. Wanting to feel the prostate gland stimulated is

as normal as a woman wanting G -spot stimulation.

With all anal play, start slowly, maybe with a small, well -lubed toy.

Only use toys anally that are designed for the purpose.

Butt plugs need flared bases. You don't want anything getting stuck.

If you're using anal beads, the trick is to pull them out of your partner as he

reaches orgasm.

It requires nifty timing, but many men say it adds an incredible intensity to

their orgasms.

If you and your partner want to experiment further with anal play, you

to consider getting a strap -on.

It's advisable to go to a specialist shop and get a harness fitted

for the person who will be wearing it.

If a woman is taking a man with a strap -on, only do it with full concern.