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These are the user uploaded subtitles that are being translated: 1 00:00:01,784 --> 00:00:05,600 Neil was charismatic and witty. 2 00:00:05,601 --> 00:00:07,469 Just a nice, normal man. 3 00:00:11,740 --> 00:00:13,475 That was the ruse. 4 00:00:14,643 --> 00:00:16,979 There's something very strange about this baby. 5 00:00:16,980 --> 00:00:17,812 You can keep the baby. 6 00:00:17,813 --> 00:00:19,714 Great for you. 7 00:00:19,715 --> 00:00:21,116 But it ain't mine, darling. 8 00:00:21,117 --> 00:00:22,718 It seriously, seriously isn't mine. 9 00:00:24,853 --> 00:00:28,991 Tina was in absolute shock. 10 00:00:28,992 --> 00:00:31,792 I've spoken to probably 200 people 11 00:00:31,793 --> 00:00:35,363 who Neil traumatized. 12 00:00:36,431 --> 00:00:40,234 I've had to pretty much talk girls off the ledge. 13 00:00:40,235 --> 00:00:43,004 I didn't realize the gravity of the situation 14 00:00:43,005 --> 00:00:44,171 that I escaped from. 15 00:00:44,172 --> 00:00:46,041 Everything he told me was a lie. 16 00:00:47,043 --> 00:00:48,776 I've never seen anything as extreme as this. 17 00:00:55,617 --> 00:01:00,821 I would like him to suffer slowly, tortuously. 18 00:01:00,822 --> 00:01:02,658 Someone really needs to stop him. 19 00:01:24,146 --> 00:01:26,448 I'm Andrea Gunning, and this is Betrayal, 20 00:01:26,449 --> 00:01:29,183 a show about the people we trust the most 21 00:01:29,184 --> 00:01:31,285 and the deceptions that change everything. 22 00:01:31,286 --> 00:01:34,488 Today I'm talking with Tina Maia, 23 00:01:34,489 --> 00:01:38,794 a strong, independent woman whose casual fling 24 00:01:38,795 --> 00:01:41,562 turned her world upside down. 25 00:01:41,563 --> 00:01:44,466 When she tried to understand what happened to her, 26 00:01:44,467 --> 00:01:47,201 she ended up forming a community of women 27 00:01:47,202 --> 00:01:50,738 that were all deceived by the same man. 28 00:01:50,739 --> 00:01:56,011 Can you talk a little bit about the scope of what Neil did? 29 00:01:56,012 --> 00:02:00,114 He just hides behind being this normal guy. 30 00:02:00,115 --> 00:02:04,419 But his lies are so damaging. 31 00:02:04,420 --> 00:02:06,921 They're so eroding, and it's been going on 32 00:02:06,922 --> 00:02:08,823 for, like, 30-something years. 33 00:02:08,824 --> 00:02:10,424 Wow. 34 00:02:10,425 --> 00:02:11,560 There's a whole load of people that think, 35 00:02:11,561 --> 00:02:12,960 oh, well, you know, how did you go for that? 36 00:02:12,961 --> 00:02:14,763 But this is my truth. 37 00:02:14,764 --> 00:02:15,830 This is my story. 38 00:02:22,637 --> 00:02:28,176 I was born in Tehran before the revolution in 1975, 39 00:02:28,177 --> 00:02:31,046 and things got a little real over there 40 00:02:31,047 --> 00:02:32,747 when I was quite young. 41 00:02:32,748 --> 00:02:34,381 So we moved back to the UK 42 00:02:34,382 --> 00:02:36,817 because my father was born there. 43 00:02:40,289 --> 00:02:43,091 I lived in a very nice place. 44 00:02:43,092 --> 00:02:44,826 I had great friends, good education. 45 00:02:46,128 --> 00:02:48,562 Tina's full of life, carefree. 46 00:02:50,500 --> 00:02:53,602 After I graduated university, 47 00:02:53,603 --> 00:02:57,171 I was starting my career in the technology world, 48 00:02:57,172 --> 00:02:58,906 and I just sort of had to figure out 49 00:02:58,907 --> 00:03:00,575 what this internet was. 50 00:03:01,476 --> 00:03:03,845 Tina ends up in New York City 51 00:03:03,846 --> 00:03:04,745 with a high-paying job, 52 00:03:04,746 --> 00:03:06,413 and she's there for about ten years. 53 00:03:06,414 --> 00:03:09,551 She gets married, has a baby, gets divorced. 54 00:03:09,552 --> 00:03:12,053 And then in 2015, she gets a great job offer in London, 55 00:03:12,054 --> 00:03:13,788 and she decides to move home. 56 00:03:16,391 --> 00:03:19,861 I was just sort of starting again, 57 00:03:19,862 --> 00:03:20,796 just me and my son, Leo. 58 00:03:20,797 --> 00:03:24,265 He was six. 59 00:03:24,266 --> 00:03:26,401 She was working in e-commerce, 60 00:03:26,402 --> 00:03:30,772 and she was very business-minded. 61 00:03:32,474 --> 00:03:36,410 So it was very early 2016. 62 00:03:36,411 --> 00:03:39,413 I was at one of these conferences in London. 63 00:03:39,414 --> 00:03:42,517 I was speaking with a lot of people, 64 00:03:42,518 --> 00:03:48,756 and that's where I stumbled across Neil Lawman. 65 00:03:50,126 --> 00:03:54,995 He had a marketing firm. 66 00:03:54,996 --> 00:03:56,397 He was cute, quite attractive. 67 00:03:56,398 --> 00:04:01,268 But I really didn't think too much about that conversation. 68 00:04:01,269 --> 00:04:04,272 He just seemed like a nice, normal man. 69 00:04:04,273 --> 00:04:06,674 Neil Lawman is from Essex. 70 00:04:06,675 --> 00:04:11,111 It's a tough, working class area outside of London. 71 00:04:11,112 --> 00:04:12,314 He's a successful businessman, 72 00:04:12,315 --> 00:04:14,549 and he even has an interesting hobby. 73 00:04:14,550 --> 00:04:17,451 He loves cooking and appears in YouTube videos. 74 00:04:17,452 --> 00:04:19,421 If you cooked this, I'd actually 75 00:04:19,422 --> 00:04:22,122 come round for dinner and let you cook for me. 76 00:04:22,123 --> 00:04:23,692 Would you spoon me afterwards? 77 00:04:23,693 --> 00:04:24,792 Why not? 78 00:04:27,396 --> 00:04:30,031 Tina had no desire for a relationship, 79 00:04:30,032 --> 00:04:31,131 but after the conference, 80 00:04:31,132 --> 00:04:32,968 Neil texted her out of the blue. 81 00:04:34,469 --> 00:04:37,272 He said that he was going to be in Bromley, 82 00:04:37,273 --> 00:04:39,274 a town close to where I lived, 83 00:04:39,275 --> 00:04:42,611 and did I want to meet up? 84 00:04:42,612 --> 00:04:46,747 I was in a good mood, and Leo was at a sleepover, 85 00:04:46,748 --> 00:04:49,951 and Neil seems like he might be good fun for a drink. 86 00:04:49,952 --> 00:04:51,785 Um, OK. 87 00:04:56,391 --> 00:04:58,993 He was charismatic and witty. 88 00:04:58,994 --> 00:05:00,828 He was a fun guy. 89 00:05:02,664 --> 00:05:09,404 I told him a little bit about my divorce, 90 00:05:09,405 --> 00:05:13,308 and he said that he was divorced also, 91 00:05:13,309 --> 00:05:15,509 and they lived together in the States too. 92 00:05:15,510 --> 00:05:19,680 And he said that his ex-wife had got quite bitter 93 00:05:19,681 --> 00:05:21,816 about the fact that he couldn't give her children. 94 00:05:25,221 --> 00:05:27,321 He said, "I had testicular cancer, 95 00:05:27,322 --> 00:05:29,790 and I'm completely infertile." 96 00:05:29,791 --> 00:05:35,062 And he said his ex-wife had an affair with his friend 97 00:05:35,063 --> 00:05:36,598 and left him for the friend 98 00:05:36,599 --> 00:05:40,301 and gone on to have children with him. 99 00:05:40,302 --> 00:05:41,368 I felt like he was being, you know, 100 00:05:41,369 --> 00:05:44,138 quite vulnerable and genuine. 101 00:05:44,139 --> 00:05:47,642 It actually drew me to him. 102 00:05:47,643 --> 00:05:50,312 Tina starts seeing Neil more often. 103 00:05:50,313 --> 00:05:52,680 She still has no desire for a relationship, 104 00:05:52,681 --> 00:05:56,917 but she's having fun with him, and she's enjoying the sex. 105 00:05:58,353 --> 00:06:01,089 That was part of what it was 106 00:06:01,090 --> 00:06:03,258 and part of what was fun. 107 00:06:03,259 --> 00:06:04,225 She didn't need to live like a nun. 108 00:06:04,226 --> 00:06:05,959 They're two consenting adults. 109 00:06:05,960 --> 00:06:07,828 Have fun. 110 00:06:09,398 --> 00:06:12,000 Even though he told me he was infertile, 111 00:06:12,001 --> 00:06:14,368 I was still worried, 112 00:06:14,369 --> 00:06:16,705 because having another child was not in my plan. 113 00:06:18,541 --> 00:06:21,743 He was like, "No, like, I have zero sperm count." 114 00:06:22,777 --> 00:06:26,381 But he had sort of dropped into conversation 115 00:06:26,382 --> 00:06:28,515 about having a lot of allergies, 116 00:06:28,516 --> 00:06:31,352 and one of those allergies was latex, 117 00:06:31,353 --> 00:06:34,988 and so he couldn't use protection. 118 00:06:36,425 --> 00:06:38,292 Over the next few months, 119 00:06:38,293 --> 00:06:41,629 Tina sees Neil sporadically. 120 00:06:41,630 --> 00:06:44,531 We would see each other once a week or so. 121 00:06:44,532 --> 00:06:47,569 He told me a bit about his family. 122 00:06:47,570 --> 00:06:51,638 He didn't come from money, but I didn't care. 123 00:06:51,639 --> 00:06:56,444 He came up in passing, some guy she'd been seeing. 124 00:06:56,445 --> 00:06:57,544 I never for a minute thought that he was 125 00:06:57,545 --> 00:06:59,013 going to play a part in her life. 126 00:07:02,451 --> 00:07:04,986 Tina started noticing things about Neil 127 00:07:04,987 --> 00:07:06,888 that were off-putting. 128 00:07:06,889 --> 00:07:10,392 I heard him have a phone conversation with his mother, 129 00:07:10,393 --> 00:07:13,127 and he was being so awful to her. 130 00:07:13,128 --> 00:07:15,863 And then there was the lying. 131 00:07:17,465 --> 00:07:20,567 He was clearly lying about his education. 132 00:07:20,568 --> 00:07:23,571 He told me he went to the London School of Economics. 133 00:07:23,572 --> 00:07:27,341 No, you didn't, because I know the area quite well. 134 00:07:27,342 --> 00:07:28,676 We were talking about it, 135 00:07:28,677 --> 00:07:31,879 and he didn't seem to know even where LSE was. 136 00:07:34,083 --> 00:07:37,419 So it was these little things. 137 00:07:37,420 --> 00:07:38,685 Just as Tina's hoping 138 00:07:38,686 --> 00:07:41,388 that this relationship with Neil fades away, 139 00:07:41,389 --> 00:07:44,292 she starts to experience this familiar 140 00:07:44,293 --> 00:07:45,926 but concerning brain fog. 141 00:07:48,463 --> 00:07:52,966 I started to be quite forgetful. 142 00:07:55,403 --> 00:07:57,504 I remember one particular incident 143 00:07:57,505 --> 00:08:00,274 where I threw the rubbish away, 144 00:08:00,275 --> 00:08:01,576 and then I couldn't find my keys. 145 00:08:01,577 --> 00:08:04,511 I'm like, did I not throw the rubbish out, 146 00:08:04,512 --> 00:08:06,214 but I threw my keys in the wheelie bin? 147 00:08:08,550 --> 00:08:11,486 Yes, I'd thrown my keys in the wheelie bin. 148 00:08:11,487 --> 00:08:14,355 And I said, that's weird, because the only time 149 00:08:14,356 --> 00:08:17,224 I've ever been that absent-minded 150 00:08:17,225 --> 00:08:19,861 is when I was pregnant with Leo. 151 00:08:23,798 --> 00:08:28,236 And then my period was late, so I got a pregnancy test. 152 00:08:28,237 --> 00:08:33,273 Immediately popped up: pregnant. 153 00:08:34,743 --> 00:08:37,010 I was like, well, no, I can't be pregnant. 154 00:08:37,011 --> 00:08:41,081 Bought a few more. 155 00:08:41,082 --> 00:08:42,850 That didn't work. 156 00:08:44,286 --> 00:08:46,321 I thought, Neil doesn't know 157 00:08:46,322 --> 00:08:48,755 he can have children. 158 00:08:48,756 --> 00:08:51,091 I thought maybe it's a medical mistake 159 00:08:51,092 --> 00:08:54,028 or it was truly a miracle. 160 00:08:57,699 --> 00:09:00,201 Tina decides to keep the baby and reaches out to Neil. 161 00:09:01,871 --> 00:09:06,340 And then he really got quite venomous. 162 00:09:06,341 --> 00:09:07,509 I cannot produce children. 163 00:09:07,510 --> 00:09:10,511 If you are pregnant, 164 00:09:10,512 --> 00:09:12,279 how you deal with it is not my problem. 165 00:09:23,692 --> 00:09:25,760 I had intercourse with somebody 166 00:09:25,761 --> 00:09:29,464 who I knew was infertile, 167 00:09:29,465 --> 00:09:32,032 and I was pregnant. 168 00:09:34,802 --> 00:09:39,239 So I sent him a text saying, 169 00:09:39,240 --> 00:09:43,545 "We should meet up, and we can have a chat." 170 00:09:43,546 --> 00:09:44,879 He was like, "I don't see why-- 171 00:09:44,880 --> 00:09:45,647 "if you've got something to tell me, 172 00:09:45,648 --> 00:09:46,813 why you can't tell me here." 173 00:09:46,814 --> 00:09:51,152 I'm like, "OK. I am pregnant. 174 00:09:51,153 --> 00:09:54,755 "It's yours. 175 00:09:54,756 --> 00:09:57,559 "I don't want anything from you, 176 00:09:57,560 --> 00:10:00,661 but I'm letting you know." 177 00:10:00,662 --> 00:10:02,697 He said, "Nice try. 178 00:10:02,698 --> 00:10:04,431 I had a vasectomy." 179 00:10:05,868 --> 00:10:09,636 And I sent him a picture of the pregnancy test, 180 00:10:09,637 --> 00:10:11,706 and I said, "Well, it didn't work." 181 00:10:11,707 --> 00:10:14,341 And he started leaving voice messages, 182 00:10:14,342 --> 00:10:18,446 which were insane. 183 00:10:19,847 --> 00:10:21,081 You need to get yourself to a doctor 184 00:10:21,082 --> 00:10:23,417 and have a proper pregnancy test, 185 00:10:23,418 --> 00:10:25,420 not a piss-on-a-stick one. 186 00:10:25,421 --> 00:10:28,121 But I have zero sperm. 187 00:10:28,122 --> 00:10:30,925 Don't sit there putting things on me that this could be mine, 188 00:10:30,926 --> 00:10:35,729 because it isn't-- medically impossible. 189 00:10:35,730 --> 00:10:36,630 It wasn't like he was like, 190 00:10:36,631 --> 00:10:39,634 "Oh, go and have an abortion." 191 00:10:39,635 --> 00:10:42,536 He just didn't want to be blamed. 192 00:10:42,537 --> 00:10:44,304 You can keep the baby. 193 00:10:44,305 --> 00:10:45,607 Great for you. 194 00:10:45,608 --> 00:10:46,874 But it ain't mine, darling. 195 00:10:46,875 --> 00:10:49,109 It seriously, seriously isn't mine. 196 00:10:50,511 --> 00:10:52,980 He was just rude. 197 00:10:52,981 --> 00:10:55,750 I will have nothing to do with you, 198 00:10:55,751 --> 00:10:58,553 nothing to do with your child. 199 00:10:59,921 --> 00:11:05,393 I didn't expect him to be angry with me. 200 00:11:05,394 --> 00:11:09,730 This man, who all his life thought he couldn't ever 201 00:11:09,731 --> 00:11:14,301 have children, why isn't he happy? 202 00:11:19,774 --> 00:11:21,608 It got really weird. 203 00:11:23,945 --> 00:11:26,848 So I just said, "You're more than welcome 204 00:11:26,849 --> 00:11:29,183 to take a DNA test when the baby's born." 205 00:11:30,853 --> 00:11:33,587 Neil refuses to do the DNA test, 206 00:11:33,588 --> 00:11:34,621 but Tina didn't need it. 207 00:11:34,622 --> 00:11:35,756 She knew he was the father. 208 00:11:35,757 --> 00:11:37,625 She hadn't been with anybody else. 209 00:11:37,626 --> 00:11:39,594 She just couldn't understand 210 00:11:39,595 --> 00:11:41,129 why he was adamantly denying it. 211 00:11:41,963 --> 00:11:44,232 But she moved on without Neil, 212 00:11:44,233 --> 00:11:47,769 and in January of 2017, Tina welcomed her baby girl, 213 00:11:47,770 --> 00:11:49,337 Josephine, and she calls her Fifi. 214 00:11:51,739 --> 00:11:54,575 When my daughter was born, 215 00:11:54,576 --> 00:11:57,344 she very quickly went blue. 216 00:12:00,481 --> 00:12:01,948 She had a lung infection. 217 00:12:01,949 --> 00:12:03,216 She was put into an incubator. 218 00:12:03,217 --> 00:12:05,620 She also had really serious jaundice. 219 00:12:08,823 --> 00:12:10,157 The treatment for the jaundice, 220 00:12:10,158 --> 00:12:13,894 the light treatment, wasn't working, 221 00:12:13,895 --> 00:12:15,095 and they said, "There's only one more level 222 00:12:15,096 --> 00:12:16,596 "we can go up before we have to give her 223 00:12:16,597 --> 00:12:18,131 "a blood transfusion. 224 00:12:18,132 --> 00:12:19,800 "Then we're gonna need blood types of the parents, 225 00:12:19,801 --> 00:12:22,036 any medical history." 226 00:12:22,037 --> 00:12:24,805 Tina was afraid for her baby's life. 227 00:12:24,806 --> 00:12:26,374 She hadn't spoken to Neil in months, 228 00:12:26,375 --> 00:12:28,576 but she had kept in touch with one of his friends, 229 00:12:28,577 --> 00:12:29,844 and she reached out to him 230 00:12:29,845 --> 00:12:32,179 to express the urgency of the situation. 231 00:12:32,180 --> 00:12:36,517 I suddenly get these long, nasty texts. 232 00:12:38,654 --> 00:12:41,889 How dare I contact his friend? 233 00:12:41,890 --> 00:12:45,893 Even if he did share DNA with my child, 234 00:12:45,894 --> 00:12:47,161 he would never want 235 00:12:47,162 --> 00:12:50,465 anything to do with someone as vile as me 236 00:12:50,466 --> 00:12:55,569 and that he would not be giving any medical history. 237 00:12:56,738 --> 00:12:59,239 Just ugly messages to someone 238 00:12:59,240 --> 00:13:01,408 who had just given birth to his daughter, 239 00:13:01,409 --> 00:13:04,545 who was potentially about to have a blood transfusion. 240 00:13:07,181 --> 00:13:12,353 Any person would make that phone call to help any baby. 241 00:13:12,354 --> 00:13:15,022 Most people would do more than that to help a kitten. 242 00:13:15,023 --> 00:13:19,527 This [bleep] is not helping. 243 00:13:19,528 --> 00:13:21,528 Why? 244 00:13:24,399 --> 00:13:27,167 Luckily, she didn't need the blood transfusion. 245 00:13:27,168 --> 00:13:29,370 The next level of lights did work. 246 00:13:29,371 --> 00:13:33,374 After a week in hospital, we were able to go home. 247 00:13:39,381 --> 00:13:42,183 Tina and the baby are settling in nicely at home, 248 00:13:42,184 --> 00:13:45,318 but she can't let go of how Neil conducted himself, 249 00:13:45,319 --> 00:13:49,223 so she decides to take action against him. 250 00:13:49,224 --> 00:13:50,892 I thought, I'm gonna set the Child Maintenance Service 251 00:13:50,893 --> 00:13:52,527 onto you for the next 18 years. 252 00:13:52,528 --> 00:13:56,197 Not because I want the money, but because you deserve it. 253 00:13:56,198 --> 00:13:59,267 Because you're not a nice person. 254 00:13:59,268 --> 00:14:01,102 Tina submitted an application 255 00:14:01,103 --> 00:14:02,937 to the Child Maintenance Service, 256 00:14:02,938 --> 00:14:04,971 which is the UK's agency for child support. 257 00:14:04,972 --> 00:14:08,742 Boy, did it open up a box of worms. 258 00:14:10,145 --> 00:14:12,313 When the report came through, 259 00:14:12,314 --> 00:14:14,348 it said that it had been accepted, 260 00:14:14,349 --> 00:14:19,153 and that he had been assessed 5 pounds a week 261 00:14:19,154 --> 00:14:21,255 because he was a benefits recipient, 262 00:14:21,256 --> 00:14:22,956 which was the first, like, what? 263 00:14:22,957 --> 00:14:26,059 Like, I know this guy has a business. 264 00:14:26,060 --> 00:14:28,996 But then the next really alarming thing 265 00:14:28,997 --> 00:14:32,867 was that that 5 pounds a week 266 00:14:32,868 --> 00:14:35,836 was split between four children. 267 00:14:38,640 --> 00:14:41,408 There were no names or details in the CMS report, 268 00:14:41,409 --> 00:14:45,513 so Tina decides to do her own investigation. 269 00:14:45,514 --> 00:14:48,282 The first thing I did was go to Facebook, 270 00:14:48,283 --> 00:14:52,353 and I look up Neil's last name, Lawman. 271 00:14:52,354 --> 00:14:56,023 Straight away, up comes a profile. 272 00:14:56,024 --> 00:14:59,059 I thought, well, this must be his ex-wife. 273 00:14:59,060 --> 00:15:02,229 Or his current wife. Who knows? 274 00:15:02,230 --> 00:15:06,367 Not in America, right here, not far from where I now live. 275 00:15:06,368 --> 00:15:10,804 And on the profile was a picture of two young girls. 276 00:15:12,006 --> 00:15:15,376 And they look like Fifi. 277 00:15:17,912 --> 00:15:20,380 I thought, shall I write to her? 278 00:15:20,381 --> 00:15:21,381 So I did. 279 00:15:22,783 --> 00:15:24,318 I said, "I just had a baby, 280 00:15:24,319 --> 00:15:26,319 and the father is Neil Lawman." 281 00:15:26,320 --> 00:15:31,392 And quite quickly, she got back to me. 282 00:15:31,393 --> 00:15:35,129 The first line was just, "I am so sorry 283 00:15:35,130 --> 00:15:37,697 that you have also been his victim." 284 00:15:37,698 --> 00:15:38,799 I'm like, oh, [bleep]. 285 00:15:51,113 --> 00:15:54,482 Tina reaches out to a woman on Facebook 286 00:15:54,483 --> 00:15:57,585 that has the same last name as Neil, which is Lawman. 287 00:15:59,421 --> 00:16:02,456 She wrote back, "Every word 288 00:16:02,457 --> 00:16:05,393 out of that man's mouth is a lie." 289 00:16:05,394 --> 00:16:09,229 And he'd gone and left her with nothing but a mess 290 00:16:09,230 --> 00:16:13,134 and his two children to raise. 291 00:16:13,135 --> 00:16:14,935 And she was clearly traumatized. 292 00:16:19,173 --> 00:16:21,075 I used to be married to Neil. 293 00:16:27,282 --> 00:16:28,816 I chose to do this interview anonymously 294 00:16:28,817 --> 00:16:32,653 because I have two girls with Neil who are now grown up, 295 00:16:32,654 --> 00:16:36,991 and they don't want this to come back and haunt them. 296 00:16:38,760 --> 00:16:45,131 I would like Neil to suffer slowly, tortuously, 297 00:16:45,132 --> 00:16:46,032 and I'd like to witness it. 298 00:16:55,743 --> 00:17:00,081 Neil and I got married on August the 25th, 2002. 299 00:17:04,519 --> 00:17:08,255 We were together until November 2009 when he left. 300 00:17:08,256 --> 00:17:09,657 Neil's ex-wife, 301 00:17:09,658 --> 00:17:11,826 who doesn't want us to use her name, 302 00:17:11,827 --> 00:17:15,630 tells Tina that they've never lived in the United States. 303 00:17:15,631 --> 00:17:18,566 She did not leave Neil for his friend. 304 00:17:18,567 --> 00:17:21,669 He's definitely the father of her two kids. 305 00:17:21,670 --> 00:17:24,872 And he has never once mentioned having cancer. 306 00:17:26,475 --> 00:17:28,408 At this point, I realized that 307 00:17:28,409 --> 00:17:31,379 he had impregnated me maliciously. 308 00:17:31,380 --> 00:17:33,714 He knew what he was doing. 309 00:17:33,715 --> 00:17:35,181 NEIL'S EX-WIFE: I didn't really want 310 00:17:35,182 --> 00:17:36,349 to do this interview, 311 00:17:36,350 --> 00:17:38,818 but I can't bear the thought of him 312 00:17:38,819 --> 00:17:42,623 having any more children with some other unsuspecting victim. 313 00:17:44,326 --> 00:17:46,493 This is Neil's story to me, 314 00:17:46,494 --> 00:17:50,031 so it may have some degree of untruth. 315 00:17:52,600 --> 00:17:56,737 His mother had him when she was 16. 316 00:17:56,738 --> 00:18:00,206 She told him that his father was Kevin Jones, 317 00:18:00,207 --> 00:18:02,009 who she was then with. 318 00:18:03,912 --> 00:18:07,480 They sat Neil down on his 18th birthday and told him that 319 00:18:07,481 --> 00:18:08,916 Kevin Jones was not his father, 320 00:18:08,917 --> 00:18:11,018 and he had believed all that time that he was his father. 321 00:18:12,988 --> 00:18:15,755 Six months later, Kevin Jones died of a heart attack, 322 00:18:15,756 --> 00:18:18,792 and Neil doesn't know who his father is. 323 00:18:18,793 --> 00:18:21,929 But I can imagine that finding something out like that 324 00:18:21,930 --> 00:18:25,465 when you're 18 probably could have contributed to 325 00:18:25,466 --> 00:18:28,635 his dysfunctional personality. 326 00:18:28,636 --> 00:18:30,603 His ex-wife also shared 327 00:18:30,604 --> 00:18:32,907 that Neil used to go by Neil Jones, 328 00:18:32,908 --> 00:18:36,077 but he changed his last name to his mother's maiden name, 329 00:18:36,078 --> 00:18:37,510 which is Lawman. 330 00:18:37,511 --> 00:18:39,779 NEIL'S EX-WIFE: Neil was very charming 331 00:18:39,780 --> 00:18:43,917 and very good at making people feel comfortable. 332 00:18:45,554 --> 00:18:48,421 He appeared to be ambitious. 333 00:18:48,422 --> 00:18:49,823 He appeared to be a hard worker, 334 00:18:49,824 --> 00:18:52,893 but he was very deceiving in all of those things. 335 00:18:54,563 --> 00:18:56,296 Never spent any time with the kids, 336 00:18:56,297 --> 00:19:00,800 and he was having affairs. 337 00:19:00,801 --> 00:19:03,670 Even though things were getting really bad, 338 00:19:03,671 --> 00:19:05,973 Neil's ex-wife tried to stick it out for the kids, 339 00:19:05,974 --> 00:19:06,907 but Neil left. 340 00:19:08,909 --> 00:19:12,246 He left his ex-wife for another relationship. 341 00:19:13,881 --> 00:19:16,751 NEIL'S EX-WIFE: So he left in November 2009. 342 00:19:16,752 --> 00:19:20,487 The last time my daughters saw him was March 2010, 343 00:19:20,488 --> 00:19:23,124 and they have not seen him since then. 344 00:19:24,826 --> 00:19:27,728 Tina and Neil's ex-wife, they start a connection. 345 00:19:27,729 --> 00:19:30,598 They start talking on the phone and texting all the time. 346 00:19:30,599 --> 00:19:32,633 So they decide to meet up in London. 347 00:19:32,634 --> 00:19:35,001 We instantly got along. 348 00:19:36,770 --> 00:19:38,706 I remember her saying to me, all these years, 349 00:19:38,707 --> 00:19:40,875 I've felt like the stupidest woman in the world. 350 00:19:40,876 --> 00:19:42,675 And then I meet you, and you're, like, 351 00:19:42,676 --> 00:19:45,179 the smartest woman I've ever met, 352 00:19:45,180 --> 00:19:47,680 and you were duped. 353 00:19:47,681 --> 00:19:50,283 And I felt exactly the same way about her. 354 00:19:50,284 --> 00:19:52,952 There was a vindication. 355 00:19:52,953 --> 00:19:56,223 I told Tina everything about my relationship with Neil. 356 00:20:01,662 --> 00:20:04,631 They lived very lavishly. 357 00:20:04,632 --> 00:20:06,000 She thought that he was doing well in business. 358 00:20:06,001 --> 00:20:09,502 But actually, she found out that he remortgaged their house 359 00:20:09,503 --> 00:20:11,171 without her knowing. 360 00:20:12,774 --> 00:20:15,542 NEIL'S EX-WIFE: He also had 40,000 pounds 361 00:20:15,543 --> 00:20:16,777 worth of business debts, 362 00:20:16,778 --> 00:20:19,612 which had a claim over the house, 363 00:20:19,613 --> 00:20:21,948 and I didn't know anything about any of it. 364 00:20:21,949 --> 00:20:23,983 So I had to put the house on the market, 365 00:20:23,984 --> 00:20:27,220 sell it to pay off his debt, and then start again. 366 00:20:28,856 --> 00:20:31,524 Neil's ex and Tina chatted for hours, 367 00:20:31,525 --> 00:20:34,894 and then she dropped a bombshell. 368 00:20:34,895 --> 00:20:38,364 I said to Tina, "I hate to tell you this, 369 00:20:38,365 --> 00:20:40,233 but Neil had two other sons." 370 00:20:42,871 --> 00:20:45,572 After Neil left, his ex-wife finds out, 371 00:20:45,573 --> 00:20:47,675 through Child Maintenance Services, 372 00:20:47,676 --> 00:20:50,277 that he had two sons that he had had 373 00:20:50,278 --> 00:20:51,679 before they had ever met, 374 00:20:51,680 --> 00:20:53,313 and he had never once mentioned them to her. 375 00:20:55,449 --> 00:20:58,484 Why would you wanna have kids 376 00:20:58,485 --> 00:20:59,153 if you didn't want to have kids? 377 00:21:03,891 --> 00:21:06,895 Before calling it a night, Tina had an idea. 378 00:21:08,930 --> 00:21:13,001 I thought it would be funny to send him a little memento. 379 00:21:14,101 --> 00:21:18,871 We took a picture and were giving him the bird, 380 00:21:18,872 --> 00:21:22,576 and we entitled it, "The other mother." 381 00:21:22,577 --> 00:21:25,379 He didn't take it with humor. 382 00:21:27,314 --> 00:21:31,585 He sent emails to my work. 383 00:21:31,586 --> 00:21:35,723 He wrote very graphic, awful depictions 384 00:21:35,724 --> 00:21:37,892 of the time that we dated and made it out 385 00:21:37,893 --> 00:21:40,227 to actually be something quite lewd. 386 00:21:41,762 --> 00:21:45,131 And he sent it to the entire company 387 00:21:45,132 --> 00:21:46,934 I worked for. 388 00:21:46,935 --> 00:21:49,603 If he'd have sent naked pictures of me, 389 00:21:49,604 --> 00:21:51,138 it wouldn't have been less humiliating. 390 00:21:53,942 --> 00:21:57,911 Tina was not about to be bullied by Neil, 391 00:21:57,912 --> 00:22:00,714 so she reports the email to the police, 392 00:22:00,715 --> 00:22:02,448 and they put out a warrant for his arrest 393 00:22:02,449 --> 00:22:04,818 for malicious communication. 394 00:22:04,819 --> 00:22:06,719 The police told me he also had 395 00:22:06,720 --> 00:22:08,621 another warrant out for his arrest 396 00:22:08,622 --> 00:22:11,759 at the same time for fraud. 397 00:22:11,760 --> 00:22:16,397 I learned that he was arrested 11 times 398 00:22:16,398 --> 00:22:18,564 and convicted 5. 399 00:22:18,565 --> 00:22:20,667 But Neil's never served 400 00:22:20,668 --> 00:22:23,737 more than a couple of days in prison. 401 00:22:23,738 --> 00:22:26,907 He always gets suspended sentences. 402 00:22:26,908 --> 00:22:28,776 And so Tina was hoping that, 403 00:22:28,777 --> 00:22:30,778 with this malicious communications charge, 404 00:22:30,779 --> 00:22:35,014 it would finally land him behind bars. 405 00:22:35,015 --> 00:22:37,651 The police said they couldn't find him, 406 00:22:37,652 --> 00:22:41,522 so the warrant got canceled after a year, 407 00:22:41,523 --> 00:22:42,322 and they didn't even let me know. 408 00:22:44,158 --> 00:22:46,693 NEIL'S EX-WIFE: The man is still walking the streets, 409 00:22:46,694 --> 00:22:48,828 and he is still capable of impregnating women 410 00:22:48,829 --> 00:22:51,732 and then walking away with total abandon. 411 00:22:51,733 --> 00:22:53,701 So Tina had this idea to set up a Facebook page 412 00:22:53,702 --> 00:22:56,036 to warn people about Neil. 413 00:22:57,005 --> 00:23:00,974 The Neil Lawman victims support group. 414 00:23:00,975 --> 00:23:03,876 We just hoped that people would type his name 415 00:23:03,877 --> 00:23:06,746 into Facebook before dating him 416 00:23:06,747 --> 00:23:09,750 or before going into business with him, 417 00:23:09,751 --> 00:23:12,251 and it'll give them a little red flag. 418 00:23:12,252 --> 00:23:15,621 Neil tried to get the Facebook page taken down, 419 00:23:15,622 --> 00:23:19,059 but Tina fought to keep it up, and she won. 420 00:23:20,729 --> 00:23:22,496 In the Facebook group, 421 00:23:22,497 --> 00:23:24,797 there are people who claim 422 00:23:24,798 --> 00:23:27,501 they have had business relationships with him 423 00:23:27,502 --> 00:23:29,870 that went very sour, 424 00:23:29,871 --> 00:23:35,608 women that he has dated who claim he's turned on them, 425 00:23:35,609 --> 00:23:37,911 family members of people that he's hurt 426 00:23:37,912 --> 00:23:41,148 who claim he's caused problems within the families. 427 00:23:41,149 --> 00:23:45,919 There's quite a few landlords who claim he doesn't pay rent. 428 00:23:45,920 --> 00:23:50,323 And what I wasn't expecting was other mothers. 429 00:24:01,569 --> 00:24:03,504 How did we all meet? 430 00:24:03,505 --> 00:24:05,104 Where do you start? 431 00:24:05,105 --> 00:24:07,674 Well, it's the first time I've actually met 432 00:24:07,675 --> 00:24:09,977 Adelle and Claire in person. 433 00:24:09,978 --> 00:24:12,946 We arranged for Tina to meet with three members 434 00:24:12,947 --> 00:24:15,014 of the Neil Lawman victims support group. 435 00:24:15,015 --> 00:24:18,652 Right now, there are more than 150 members. 436 00:24:18,653 --> 00:24:20,019 And of course, Karen. 437 00:24:20,020 --> 00:24:21,087 Yeah. 438 00:24:21,088 --> 00:24:23,756 Karen came to the group through Neil's ex-wife, 439 00:24:23,757 --> 00:24:26,559 and she says she was one of his first victims 440 00:24:26,560 --> 00:24:28,094 over 30 years ago. 441 00:24:28,095 --> 00:24:31,331 So obviously, you know, back 30-odd years ago. 442 00:24:31,332 --> 00:24:33,533 Neil was quite young. 443 00:24:33,534 --> 00:24:34,768 Yeah. Yeah, he wasn't like, 444 00:24:34,769 --> 00:24:36,403 obviously what he is now, he was just-- 445 00:24:36,404 --> 00:24:37,638 What was he like? 446 00:24:37,639 --> 00:24:38,671 Just normal dude. 447 00:24:38,672 --> 00:24:40,072 He was just a normal guy. 448 00:24:40,073 --> 00:24:42,843 The thing is, his ruse is normality. 449 00:24:42,844 --> 00:24:44,711 He just pretends to be a normal bloke, 450 00:24:44,712 --> 00:24:46,145 and that's how he gets you. 451 00:24:48,882 --> 00:24:51,218 When I met Neil, I was 24. 452 00:24:51,219 --> 00:24:53,586 Neil was 20. 453 00:24:53,587 --> 00:24:54,321 He was my neighbor. 454 00:24:56,757 --> 00:24:58,125 In the beginning, he was very charming. 455 00:24:58,126 --> 00:25:01,761 It was like he was looking after me all the time. 456 00:25:01,762 --> 00:25:03,630 In this relationship, there was no mention 457 00:25:03,631 --> 00:25:06,166 of infertility or cancer. 458 00:25:06,167 --> 00:25:08,836 And nine months into their relationship, 459 00:25:08,837 --> 00:25:11,572 they get engaged, and Karen was pregnant. 460 00:25:13,240 --> 00:25:15,675 When I told him I was pregnant, he was happy. 461 00:25:15,676 --> 00:25:16,910 He done the nursery up with me. 462 00:25:16,911 --> 00:25:20,214 And there was no problem. 463 00:25:20,215 --> 00:25:24,585 And when my son was born, he was really hands-on. 464 00:25:26,287 --> 00:25:30,691 It's kind of strange how Neil goes from this loving father 465 00:25:30,692 --> 00:25:32,759 when his son is born in 1994 466 00:25:32,760 --> 00:25:34,862 to never mentioning him once 467 00:25:34,863 --> 00:25:38,631 to anyone he dates for the next 31 years. 468 00:25:41,903 --> 00:25:45,171 My name is Daniel, and I'm Neil's son. 469 00:25:48,076 --> 00:25:49,309 I don't really remember much, to be honest. 470 00:25:49,310 --> 00:25:51,278 I think I try and block most of it out. 471 00:25:51,279 --> 00:25:53,013 I don't really ask many questions about him. 472 00:25:53,014 --> 00:25:54,915 It's not gonna change anything for me, 473 00:25:54,916 --> 00:25:57,951 so the less I know, the better I feel. 474 00:25:57,952 --> 00:25:59,685 It's in this relationship 475 00:25:59,686 --> 00:26:01,654 where we see a pattern form. 476 00:26:01,655 --> 00:26:03,290 Neil starts off as a great guy, 477 00:26:03,291 --> 00:26:06,059 but then he morphs into a completely different person, 478 00:26:06,060 --> 00:26:08,996 becomes controlling and just plain mean. 479 00:26:08,997 --> 00:26:12,032 He didn't like to be wrong or be told no. 480 00:26:12,033 --> 00:26:14,768 And if I ever challenged him, Neil would say 481 00:26:14,769 --> 00:26:16,103 that I was really fat and ugly. 482 00:26:16,104 --> 00:26:18,906 And if you leave me, you'll be on your own. 483 00:26:18,907 --> 00:26:20,907 You're gonna become a single mum. 484 00:26:20,908 --> 00:26:22,776 He'd go from, like, nothing to mad. 485 00:26:22,777 --> 00:26:24,377 He just chipped away at me. 486 00:26:28,181 --> 00:26:31,718 Multiple women on Facebook allege that Neil was 487 00:26:31,719 --> 00:26:34,220 violent with them, including Karen. 488 00:26:34,221 --> 00:26:36,622 At the time, I did love him. 489 00:26:36,623 --> 00:26:38,090 But I was nervous of him, 490 00:26:38,091 --> 00:26:40,327 and I didn't wanna make him angry, 'cause I got a smack. 491 00:26:42,363 --> 00:26:44,531 I kept thinking, it's gonna be all right. 492 00:26:44,532 --> 00:26:45,532 He didn't mean to do it. 493 00:26:45,533 --> 00:26:47,000 He was really sorry. 494 00:26:47,001 --> 00:26:48,535 He said, "I'll never do it again. 495 00:26:48,536 --> 00:26:49,670 I'll get help." 496 00:26:51,171 --> 00:26:54,107 A lot of what I'm hearing today is obviously 497 00:26:54,108 --> 00:26:57,077 the first time I'm hearing these--these things. 498 00:26:57,078 --> 00:26:59,011 And the more I hear is-- it's just shocking. 499 00:26:59,012 --> 00:27:01,348 It's nothing less than a scumbag. 500 00:27:01,349 --> 00:27:04,585 In responding to a protective order 501 00:27:04,586 --> 00:27:05,919 sought against him, 502 00:27:05,920 --> 00:27:08,255 Neil denies physical abuse allegations, 503 00:27:08,256 --> 00:27:10,991 and he was never convicted of any violent crimes. 504 00:27:10,992 --> 00:27:12,858 But according to Karen, 505 00:27:12,859 --> 00:27:13,827 Neil promised that he would change, 506 00:27:13,828 --> 00:27:16,263 but things didn't get better. 507 00:27:16,264 --> 00:27:20,166 So Karen left Neil when Daniel was just 20 months old. 508 00:27:20,167 --> 00:27:22,702 He was seeing him on weekend visits, 509 00:27:22,703 --> 00:27:23,670 but there was loads of times 510 00:27:23,671 --> 00:27:25,839 where he'd let him down and not turn up, 511 00:27:25,840 --> 00:27:27,408 and there was always an excuse. 512 00:27:30,912 --> 00:27:32,447 I was obviously upset. 513 00:27:34,983 --> 00:27:36,316 He's not gonna come back. 514 00:27:36,317 --> 00:27:38,485 He's not gonna suddenly become my father again. 515 00:27:41,256 --> 00:27:43,689 And getting to where I want to go to 516 00:27:43,690 --> 00:27:46,158 in my personal journey. 517 00:27:46,159 --> 00:27:48,495 Does Neil have a relationship with his son? 518 00:27:48,496 --> 00:27:49,630 No. 519 00:27:49,631 --> 00:27:51,497 He did until he was about six. 520 00:27:53,667 --> 00:27:57,903 The last time I seen him was sitting in McDonald's, 521 00:27:57,904 --> 00:28:00,941 and there was, like, sea monkeys. 522 00:28:00,942 --> 00:28:02,742 He gave me those and basically said that 523 00:28:02,743 --> 00:28:04,443 he couldn't see me no more. 524 00:28:04,444 --> 00:28:08,782 And then he just literally disappeared, went, gone. 525 00:28:08,783 --> 00:28:10,050 That was in 2000, 526 00:28:10,051 --> 00:28:12,551 the same year Neil met his ex-wife, 527 00:28:12,552 --> 00:28:15,621 who didn't even find out about Daniel until after he left, 528 00:28:15,622 --> 00:28:19,393 and she read the Child Maintenance Service report. 529 00:28:19,394 --> 00:28:22,062 There was another son that was listed on the CMS report. 530 00:28:22,063 --> 00:28:25,098 It was a son that he had when he was 18, 531 00:28:25,099 --> 00:28:27,200 and he ran off as soon as he was born. 532 00:28:27,201 --> 00:28:30,569 And Tina tracked down that mother on Facebook. 533 00:28:31,338 --> 00:28:33,305 She's very, very direct. 534 00:28:33,306 --> 00:28:34,441 She said, "Just forget about him. 535 00:28:34,442 --> 00:28:36,242 Put it behind you. Don't think about him." 536 00:28:36,243 --> 00:28:38,911 And she said the day someone calls her 537 00:28:38,912 --> 00:28:41,348 to let her know that he's dropped dead 538 00:28:41,349 --> 00:28:44,484 will be the day she pops open a bottle of champagne. 539 00:28:45,386 --> 00:28:46,920 Through this Facebook group, 540 00:28:46,921 --> 00:28:49,089 another shocking detail comes to light 541 00:28:49,090 --> 00:28:51,457 28 years after it happened. 542 00:28:51,458 --> 00:28:56,362 Two of his kids were born eight weeks apart. 543 00:28:56,363 --> 00:28:59,198 Those two boys were born to mothers 544 00:28:59,199 --> 00:29:00,800 who lived on the same street. 545 00:29:00,801 --> 00:29:04,170 One of the moms was Karen. 546 00:29:04,171 --> 00:29:08,443 He also had a girlfriend down the road. 547 00:29:12,713 --> 00:29:13,779 And I said, he's 28 in August. 548 00:29:13,780 --> 00:29:15,514 And she said, "I think you should hear it from me. 549 00:29:15,515 --> 00:29:17,783 There's another child, and he was 28 in June." 550 00:29:17,784 --> 00:29:21,987 I was like, "Oh. Oh, OK." 551 00:29:21,988 --> 00:29:26,225 I'm just waiting for who else there is. 552 00:29:26,226 --> 00:29:29,197 I call myself the one who got away. 553 00:29:37,438 --> 00:29:39,406 How did it feel to you when you found out 554 00:29:39,407 --> 00:29:42,642 there was another woman who had a baby at the same time? 555 00:29:42,643 --> 00:29:44,376 To be honest, because I've been speaking to you guys, 556 00:29:44,377 --> 00:29:45,746 I wasn't actually really shocked. 557 00:29:45,747 --> 00:29:48,915 Just made Daniel a bit further down in the pecking order. 558 00:29:51,319 --> 00:29:52,685 She lived on the same street. 559 00:29:52,686 --> 00:29:55,421 Literally the same street. I didn't know that, obviously. 560 00:29:55,422 --> 00:29:57,791 How did they keep you separated and not cross paths? 561 00:29:57,792 --> 00:30:00,327 We had to move quickly. 562 00:30:00,328 --> 00:30:02,429 You have to think to yourself, 563 00:30:02,430 --> 00:30:05,765 how has he managed to do this to people and keep doing it? 564 00:30:05,766 --> 00:30:07,134 Get away with it. 565 00:30:07,135 --> 00:30:08,801 It just gets more and more insane. 566 00:30:17,310 --> 00:30:20,080 I kind of struck up a relationship with Neil 567 00:30:20,081 --> 00:30:24,483 through a Facebook business group in 2015. 568 00:30:24,484 --> 00:30:28,388 I was going through a divorce, and I had two young boys. 569 00:30:28,389 --> 00:30:31,090 I wasn't looking for a relationship 570 00:30:31,091 --> 00:30:33,260 or anything like that, but there was this 571 00:30:33,261 --> 00:30:36,328 underlying charisma that kind of came across 572 00:30:36,329 --> 00:30:38,931 once you started speaking to him. 573 00:30:38,932 --> 00:30:40,733 That's when he reeled you in. 574 00:30:43,304 --> 00:30:48,175 The first time I heard about the infertility, 575 00:30:48,176 --> 00:30:50,510 we'd been out for drinks. 576 00:30:54,681 --> 00:30:57,317 And the next morning, 577 00:30:57,318 --> 00:30:59,618 I woke to find him in my bed. 578 00:31:03,423 --> 00:31:07,093 We hadn't been intimate prior to this. 579 00:31:07,094 --> 00:31:08,461 I remember saying to him, "Oh, my God, 580 00:31:08,462 --> 00:31:10,130 did--did we have sex last night?" 581 00:31:10,131 --> 00:31:12,364 And he was like, "Don't you remember?" 582 00:31:12,365 --> 00:31:14,468 And he made it all jokey and, like, made me feel 583 00:31:14,469 --> 00:31:18,138 a bit stupid for not remembering. 584 00:31:18,139 --> 00:31:21,675 And I said, did we use something? 585 00:31:21,676 --> 00:31:24,376 Obviously, I didn't want to have any more children. 586 00:31:24,377 --> 00:31:27,179 And he said to me, "Listen, don't worry, don't worry. 587 00:31:27,180 --> 00:31:28,782 I can't have children anyway." 588 00:31:30,350 --> 00:31:32,352 "I've had testicular cancer. 589 00:31:32,353 --> 00:31:33,987 "I had to go through chemotherapy. 590 00:31:33,988 --> 00:31:37,724 I have no more sperm cells." 591 00:31:37,725 --> 00:31:39,992 I was ashamed. 592 00:31:39,993 --> 00:31:42,661 I needed to close that chapter. 593 00:31:45,466 --> 00:31:46,666 Neil tried to see Claire again. 594 00:31:46,667 --> 00:31:49,803 Even though she never became pregnant by him, 595 00:31:49,804 --> 00:31:51,604 she cut him off. 596 00:31:51,605 --> 00:31:56,343 He targets divorced women with children and with careers. 597 00:31:56,344 --> 00:31:58,644 And you know, he's-- he's definitely followed 598 00:31:58,645 --> 00:32:02,381 a--a pattern. 599 00:32:02,382 --> 00:32:06,286 He goes for successful, secure women 600 00:32:06,287 --> 00:32:09,656 and then tries to drag them down. 601 00:32:12,627 --> 00:32:16,429 When I reached out to his most recent girlfriend, 602 00:32:16,430 --> 00:32:18,130 she was really under his control. 603 00:32:22,703 --> 00:32:24,170 I'm Rachel. 604 00:32:24,171 --> 00:32:27,040 I met Neil Lawman through my business 605 00:32:27,041 --> 00:32:28,508 I had at the time. 606 00:32:28,509 --> 00:32:31,877 Neil came across very like a successful businessman 607 00:32:31,878 --> 00:32:34,380 and caring person. 608 00:32:34,381 --> 00:32:36,116 In the beginning of the relationship, 609 00:32:36,117 --> 00:32:37,250 he was really good around my kids, 610 00:32:37,251 --> 00:32:38,550 and my kids really liked him. 611 00:32:38,551 --> 00:32:40,754 Neil did tell Rachel 612 00:32:40,755 --> 00:32:42,621 about his two daughters with his ex-wife, 613 00:32:42,622 --> 00:32:45,425 but there was no mention of any other children. 614 00:32:45,426 --> 00:32:48,428 And in the 2 1/2 years that they are together, 615 00:32:48,429 --> 00:32:50,229 there was no mention of infertility, 616 00:32:50,230 --> 00:32:51,398 no mention of cancer. 617 00:32:51,399 --> 00:32:53,532 But he had other stories to tell. 618 00:32:53,533 --> 00:32:57,269 He told me about all the property that he owns 619 00:32:57,270 --> 00:32:59,672 and how he used to work for the government 620 00:32:59,673 --> 00:33:04,144 and how he used to be an ex-pro ice hockey player. 621 00:33:04,145 --> 00:33:05,444 Everything he told me was a lie. 622 00:33:05,445 --> 00:33:08,380 But he says it in such a way, it's very believable, 623 00:33:08,381 --> 00:33:11,483 so I never really questioned it. 624 00:33:11,484 --> 00:33:13,486 Rachel and her kids moved in with Neil. 625 00:33:13,487 --> 00:33:15,487 At first, they stayed in his two-bedroom apartment, 626 00:33:15,488 --> 00:33:17,189 but then Rachel bought her own house, 627 00:33:17,190 --> 00:33:18,657 and Neil came with her. 628 00:33:18,658 --> 00:33:21,694 And according to her, he slowly started to change. 629 00:33:21,695 --> 00:33:24,130 It was mentally controlling. 630 00:33:24,131 --> 00:33:25,497 It's weird. 631 00:33:25,498 --> 00:33:26,198 He had that thing about you where he would 632 00:33:26,199 --> 00:33:27,233 pick you up and lift you up. 633 00:33:27,234 --> 00:33:28,201 You'd think, great, I feel amazing. 634 00:33:28,202 --> 00:33:30,670 But then he'd really drop you down 635 00:33:30,671 --> 00:33:33,139 and just kind of pick on the things you don't like. 636 00:33:34,574 --> 00:33:36,443 The way I dress, the way I look. 637 00:33:36,444 --> 00:33:39,545 And then by the end, he was distant from everyone. 638 00:33:39,546 --> 00:33:41,380 He didn't really show any emotion or care 639 00:33:41,381 --> 00:33:45,452 or interest in me or my kids. 640 00:33:45,453 --> 00:33:48,520 Rachel's family is concerned about Neil. 641 00:33:48,521 --> 00:33:51,224 And Rachel has an aunt that decides to do 642 00:33:51,225 --> 00:33:53,026 her own investigation 643 00:33:53,027 --> 00:33:54,294 and finds this Facebook page 644 00:33:54,295 --> 00:33:55,694 and shows Rachel. 645 00:33:55,695 --> 00:33:58,465 And Rachel is horrified by what she sees, 646 00:33:58,466 --> 00:34:00,800 and it motivates her to leave Neil. 647 00:34:00,801 --> 00:34:03,569 She sends him an email saying that she's left, 648 00:34:03,570 --> 00:34:07,374 and then he starts bombarding her with voice messages. 649 00:34:07,375 --> 00:34:10,042 Rachel, I've just got your email, 650 00:34:10,043 --> 00:34:14,179 and I'm absolutely gutted. 651 00:34:14,180 --> 00:34:16,081 I want to be with you. 652 00:34:16,082 --> 00:34:18,050 I love you. 653 00:34:18,051 --> 00:34:20,319 Please answer my call, Rachel. 654 00:34:20,320 --> 00:34:22,855 Please, please come home. 655 00:34:22,856 --> 00:34:25,625 At the beginning, it was very desperate. 656 00:34:25,626 --> 00:34:28,461 And then it kind of turned nasty. 657 00:34:28,462 --> 00:34:30,897 You snuck off, and I'm walking 658 00:34:30,898 --> 00:34:33,198 around the house, thinking, well, all this is mine. 659 00:34:33,199 --> 00:34:35,100 All this is mine. 660 00:34:35,101 --> 00:34:36,568 I have got nowhere to go, 661 00:34:36,569 --> 00:34:39,304 and I am not leaving this house. 662 00:34:41,408 --> 00:34:42,709 I just ignored it. 663 00:34:42,710 --> 00:34:44,344 There's no way to get me back now. 664 00:34:44,345 --> 00:34:45,944 Not a chance in hell. 665 00:34:45,945 --> 00:34:49,249 Rachel's lucky that she was able to completely 666 00:34:49,250 --> 00:34:50,517 cut Neil out of her life. 667 00:34:50,518 --> 00:34:53,053 So many women are still connected to Neil 668 00:34:53,054 --> 00:34:54,086 through their children. 669 00:34:54,087 --> 00:34:57,890 And how many children Neil has is hard to confirm. 670 00:34:57,891 --> 00:35:01,894 When it comes to kids that there's either a DNA test 671 00:35:01,895 --> 00:35:05,732 or he's on their birth certificate, there's five. 672 00:35:05,733 --> 00:35:09,335 Some people have reached out and said 673 00:35:09,336 --> 00:35:11,438 that they have his child. 674 00:35:11,439 --> 00:35:14,741 I think there's 13 alleged children. 675 00:35:16,777 --> 00:35:20,179 Tina got one of the UK's largest newspapers, 676 00:35:20,180 --> 00:35:21,980 The Times, to cover the story. 677 00:35:24,752 --> 00:35:28,287 My name is Ben Ellery, and I am the crime editor 678 00:35:28,288 --> 00:35:30,889 for The Times. 679 00:35:30,890 --> 00:35:35,428 Every person we spoke to opened another doorway 680 00:35:35,429 --> 00:35:38,264 into this world of Neil Lawman. 681 00:35:38,265 --> 00:35:40,366 Each one took us further 682 00:35:40,367 --> 00:35:42,135 and was slightly more unbelievable. 683 00:35:44,838 --> 00:35:48,841 We got to a stage where if we wanted to run the story, 684 00:35:48,842 --> 00:35:51,778 we needed to gather some hard evidence. 685 00:35:51,779 --> 00:35:55,715 We did a DNA test between my daughter 686 00:35:55,716 --> 00:35:59,618 and his ex-wife's two daughters. 687 00:35:59,619 --> 00:36:02,589 Neil's on their birth certificate. 688 00:36:02,590 --> 00:36:05,825 The markers came through on their DNA test 689 00:36:05,826 --> 00:36:09,194 more than most full siblings have. 690 00:36:09,195 --> 00:36:11,063 It's ironclad. 691 00:36:13,533 --> 00:36:16,635 I know Tina is campaigning for 692 00:36:16,636 --> 00:36:19,272 lying to someone about being infertile 693 00:36:19,273 --> 00:36:21,573 to be made a criminal offense. 694 00:36:21,574 --> 00:36:22,841 There is absolutely justice 695 00:36:22,842 --> 00:36:25,010 that needs to be served against Neil. 696 00:36:26,680 --> 00:36:30,316 I want him to be convicted of rape by deception. 697 00:36:40,860 --> 00:36:45,564 Neil had gone to such lengths with his lies 698 00:36:45,565 --> 00:36:47,733 to impregnate me with a child 699 00:36:47,734 --> 00:36:51,970 he had no intentions of being part of. 700 00:36:54,507 --> 00:36:56,408 At one point, there was a police officer 701 00:36:56,409 --> 00:36:58,611 who did take a great interest 702 00:36:58,612 --> 00:37:02,749 and start investigating Neil's actions. 703 00:37:02,750 --> 00:37:05,886 She said it really did fit with rape by deception. 704 00:37:07,654 --> 00:37:09,389 Rape by deception falls outside 705 00:37:09,390 --> 00:37:10,889 the typical definition of rape. 706 00:37:10,890 --> 00:37:15,127 It's an argument that says a perpetrator deceives someone 707 00:37:15,128 --> 00:37:16,696 in order to get consent. 708 00:37:16,697 --> 00:37:21,800 I didn't consent to be with a fertile man. 709 00:37:21,801 --> 00:37:23,803 There's another high-profile case in the UK 710 00:37:23,804 --> 00:37:26,471 where a man lied about having a vasectomy 711 00:37:26,472 --> 00:37:27,840 and got a woman pregnant, 712 00:37:27,841 --> 00:37:30,376 and the rape-by-deception argument was used, 713 00:37:30,377 --> 00:37:31,877 and he was found guilty. 714 00:37:31,878 --> 00:37:35,782 But ultimately, he was able to have that verdict overturned. 715 00:37:35,783 --> 00:37:40,687 It was overturned because rape by deception 716 00:37:40,688 --> 00:37:44,489 has to be connected to the sex act itself, 717 00:37:44,490 --> 00:37:46,526 not the circumstances around the act. 718 00:37:46,527 --> 00:37:48,528 Now it's precedent. 719 00:37:48,529 --> 00:37:51,430 So Tina's investigation was dropped. 720 00:37:51,431 --> 00:37:54,267 You can't seem to pin him down 721 00:37:54,268 --> 00:37:55,300 and prosecute him for anything. 722 00:37:55,301 --> 00:37:57,636 The rape by deception, malicious communication, 723 00:37:57,637 --> 00:38:00,505 fraud, all been swept under the rug. 724 00:38:00,506 --> 00:38:04,577 But I'd love to see change happening. 725 00:38:04,578 --> 00:38:08,547 But what we have managed to do is, 726 00:38:08,548 --> 00:38:10,884 if not stop him, slow him down. 727 00:38:10,885 --> 00:38:13,486 These women aren't expecting Neil 728 00:38:13,487 --> 00:38:15,854 to make any admissions anytime soon. 729 00:38:15,855 --> 00:38:20,626 They're just left wondering why Neil is the way he is. 730 00:38:20,627 --> 00:38:21,928 Do you think it's a control thing? 731 00:38:21,929 --> 00:38:24,264 - I do think so. - Because he goes for women 732 00:38:24,265 --> 00:38:25,764 that are freshly divorced. 733 00:38:25,765 --> 00:38:27,867 So there's that vulnerability about them 734 00:38:27,868 --> 00:38:29,801 even though they are strong, independent women. 735 00:38:29,802 --> 00:38:31,470 He finds their vulnerability. Yeah. 736 00:38:31,471 --> 00:38:32,938 And that's where he gets in at. 737 00:38:32,939 --> 00:38:36,809 And it's from then he kind of monopolizes everything. 738 00:38:36,810 --> 00:38:39,511 You can't put it down to trauma or anything for him 739 00:38:39,512 --> 00:38:40,479 because he had a good upbringing. 740 00:38:40,480 --> 00:38:41,447 He's got a good family. 741 00:38:41,448 --> 00:38:43,049 He's got no excuse whatsoever. 742 00:38:43,050 --> 00:38:44,082 Yeah. 743 00:38:45,786 --> 00:38:49,322 I know because of the Facebook group 744 00:38:49,323 --> 00:38:51,624 and after The Times article, 745 00:38:51,625 --> 00:38:54,294 people aren't buying into his fraud so much 746 00:38:54,295 --> 00:38:57,796 and his romantic charms. 747 00:38:57,797 --> 00:39:02,100 So I think his lifestyle has definitely taken a downturn. 748 00:39:06,172 --> 00:39:08,675 Betrayal's investigative team went to Neil's home 749 00:39:08,676 --> 00:39:11,277 in Jaywick to get his side of the story. 750 00:39:33,667 --> 00:39:35,468 I think all the mothers are worried 751 00:39:35,469 --> 00:39:37,135 about nature and nurture. 752 00:39:40,707 --> 00:39:42,709 But I've met a number of the children, 753 00:39:42,710 --> 00:39:46,946 and they're all beautiful souls. 754 00:39:48,748 --> 00:39:51,951 NEIL'S EX-WIFE: My girls have really developed 755 00:39:51,952 --> 00:39:57,322 into successful, smart adults in spite of what he did. 756 00:39:58,826 --> 00:40:03,629 My daughter is the most empathetic, 757 00:40:03,630 --> 00:40:05,898 kind, sweet little girl. 758 00:40:05,899 --> 00:40:08,067 There's no faulty wiring in her. 759 00:40:10,404 --> 00:40:14,674 That looks like me. 760 00:40:14,675 --> 00:40:17,777 I think it looks just like you, actually. 761 00:40:17,778 --> 00:40:21,046 We've had some conversations about Neil, 762 00:40:21,047 --> 00:40:25,751 and what I've let her know is that she's been lucky 763 00:40:25,752 --> 00:40:28,854 that she's grown up being given a lot of love 764 00:40:28,855 --> 00:40:31,957 and a lot of affection and a lot of attention. 765 00:40:31,958 --> 00:40:34,861 So she's able to go and give it to other people. 766 00:40:34,862 --> 00:40:38,563 And I said, not everyone is filled with that 767 00:40:38,564 --> 00:40:39,799 when they're growing up. 768 00:40:39,800 --> 00:40:41,968 And unfortunately, he's one of those people 769 00:40:41,969 --> 00:40:44,103 that just doesn't have it to give. 770 00:40:44,104 --> 00:40:48,974 She doesn't ever seem particularly fazed by it. 771 00:40:48,975 --> 00:40:52,511 When Neil's ex-wife told her daughters about Fifi, 772 00:40:52,512 --> 00:40:53,679 they wanted to meet her, 773 00:40:53,680 --> 00:40:55,881 and now they have a relationship. 774 00:40:55,882 --> 00:40:58,718 They've been in her life since she was three months old. 775 00:40:58,719 --> 00:41:00,086 She absolutely adores them. 776 00:41:00,087 --> 00:41:02,988 She's met Daniel, her half-brother, as well. 777 00:41:02,989 --> 00:41:05,791 And--and I think she just feels quite fulfilled 778 00:41:05,792 --> 00:41:09,062 by having people who genuinely care about her, 779 00:41:09,063 --> 00:41:11,430 so why would she care about someone who doesn't? 780 00:41:14,935 --> 00:41:19,871 I wish for his future that it's exactly what he deserves. 781 00:41:19,872 --> 00:41:22,875 But let's end on a positive note and say that, 782 00:41:22,876 --> 00:41:25,411 doesn't he have amazing taste in women? 783 00:41:25,412 --> 00:41:26,312 Oh, absolutely. 784 00:41:28,881 --> 00:41:31,850 Whether he'll actually face justice or not, 785 00:41:31,851 --> 00:41:36,855 I hope so, but all I can do is tell my story 786 00:41:36,856 --> 00:41:40,926 and hope that someone listens 787 00:41:40,927 --> 00:41:44,397 who has the power to do something about it. 62598

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