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Hey guys, and welcome to day six of the
Attraction Blueprint.

So, you've done all the hard work,
right? We've got the confidence, got the

mindset. We know how to talk to a girl.
We've built an amazing connection

through conversation.

She's feeling the energy, she's feeling
the vibe.

By the way, I love how women use that
word.

Vibe check, that's like their
catchphrase right now. Why don't you get

vibes from him?

Well, it's your job as the man to give
her those vibes. That's why the energy

transfer is so important.

so today we're going to talk about the
clothes and what i'm going to do is i'm

going to give you a few of my favorite
closing techniques um because what

happens is and this is so funny um
actually a bunch of street interviews

women a while back and it's one of the
like biggest complaints about women is

didn't ask me out like we just kept
talking and i put him in the friend zone

because he wouldn't lead and on
especially on dating apps um women want

soon as they feel a connection you to
lead and close.

And I literally heard one girl say, it's
called a dating app. It's not a

friendship app.

Ask me out.

It's so funny when I heard her say that
because like, ah, man, that's so true.

And it's a big mistake a lot of guys
make.

You're scared to close because you're
scared of rejection.

But we already talked about active
reframing and how to get around that. So

not really worried about that.

But let's talk about how to increase
your success rate with closing.

First thing I want to talk about is on
the dating apps themselves.

because I think this is where most of
you guys are at. You're on dating apps.

Let's talk about how we close.

So when it comes to closing on a dating
app, your job through conversation, and

look, you're using that FEV protocol
with humor, with storytelling, using all

those things to build emotional
investment through text messaging on a

app. And by the way, secret weapon, if
you have the ability, use a voice note.

Voice notes are absolutely killer on
dating apps.

But as you're having that conversation
with her on a dating app, your job is to

bring her in emotionally, to build her
emotional investment into going out with

you. You get her to the point where she
has to meet you. She has to see you in

person. And you use all the advanced
communication, the frameworks to get her

that point.

So what you're looking for is you're
looking for signs of investment.

This can be long replies.

Um, this can be her asking you amazing
questions.

Um, a lot of emojis, uh, really it's
basically reciprocated effort. Is she

giving you as much effort in the
conversation as you're giving her?

And once you notice that investment's
high, and once you notice she's into the

conversation, the rule that I kind of
use here, guys, um, and it's, it's

but it absolutely is true is strike
while they aren't hot.

A lot of guys, I see this time and time
again.

A lot of guys make the mistake of
waiting until the conversation dies

Oh, crap, I don't have anything else to
say. Let me ask her out.

No, you get her to an emotional
crescendo, and then you capitalize on

emotion, alley -oop that emotion to a
date.

Oh, my God, this is so amazing.

We've got to see if this is real in
person.

Like, this has been an amazing
conversation. I can't wait to see how

is actually going to be with the real
you.

So you're getting her to that emotional
peak. She's into you. She's getting the

vibes as she says.

And then you're taking advantage of that
emotional high. That's when you move

into the close.

And here is my absolute favorite close.

It works a ton. And I haven't had a lot
of negative feedback when guys have used

this close.

Because it gets a micro commitment. It's
true. And it just works.

So get to that emotional high point.

First thing you say.

is, I don't know about you, but I
absolutely hate these dating apps.

You know, whatever your opinion of them
is, chances are she's going to say

something of a micro compliance of, oh
my God, me too, or you have no idea, or

she'll give you something that agrees
with your statement.

So you have no idea how much I hate
these dating apps.

I much prefer the real world or some
variation of, or something about like, I

hate the online world.

I like the real world better.

But when she says something that agrees
with that statement, what she's done is

she's given you a micro compliance of
the real world.

So you give her that. I don't know about
you, but I hate dating apps. I much

prefer the real world.

Yes, me too.

Great. Why don't we? And then you
suggest a date.

Never, ever, ever ask these two
questions in person, on a dating app, in

relationship, in marriage. Never.

Never, as long as you're dating women,
ask these two questions.

When are you free?

What do you want to do?

That is kryptonite in the dating world.
Why?

Shows zero effort, zero leadership, zero
confidence.

No. I say suggest the date. And what I
mean by that is, why don't we go do this

at this time on this date?

Or I bet we would have so much fun doing
this this time of this date.

Oh my God, you're going to have so much
fun when we go do this, this time of the

day.

You're telling her what you want to go
do, when and where.

When you do that, you're going to get
three possible answers from that

suggestion.

First possible answer, best case
scenario is sounds great, let's do it.

Second possible answer you're going to
get from that is probably scheduling

conflict. right you just gave her a very
specific time and a date we live in a

very busy world she may have something
going on and by the way to increase your

odds success always set the first date
monday through thursday women are

typically bit busier already have plans
friday saturday sunday so just to

increase your odds of her being free
monday through thursday is typically a

better first date um time slot so those
are the first two answers you're going

to get from um that close if you do it
right third uh

It's really funny. The third thing women
will do when you suggest a date is they

will literally ignore that you just said
that and keep talking to you.

It's like, they don't know what it's
like. They think we don't know what just

happened, but it actually frustrates a
lot of guys, but you've got confidence.

You know how to reframe this.

And the reframe there is just not yet.
She's not ready to go on a date with me

yet. So I'm going to go back to building
emotional investment. I'm going to go

back. to the FEV protocol, and I'm going
to wait until I get another emotional

investment crescendo, another emotional
investment buy -in, and then I'm going

to try again.

And when I try again, you know, I'm
probably getting one of those three

again. If it happens a second time,

feel free to call it out.

Something as simple as, you know what
you just did, or I know you saw that,

or hey.

we ain't here to play games call her out
on ignoring that message she obviously

read and just have fun with it um this
is part of that flirty interaction some

women do play hard to get some women do
like for some reason make you really

earn a date with them especially if
they're getting a lot of attention which

you're going after an attractive woman
pay to break it to you she's getting a

lot of attention um so you might have to
go through this like emotional

investment

Ask out emotional investment, ask out
emotional investment, call her out.

Um, so you might have to go through that
iteration a couple of times, but I

promise you that framework absolutely
works.

If you did the job of the conversation,
building the emotional investment on the

front end. And guys, like when you're
doing this in person, almost the same

happens. The only thing I tell guys to
do in person is before you start the

conversation with her, Give her a like
pre -framed time exit of, Hey, you know,

I was just on my way to the gym. I got a
couple of minutes. I just want to tell

you, give her the compliment or, you
know, give her your opening line or just

like pre -frame that. Hey, I was just on
my way to a meeting, but had to come

say hello to you.

Um, I've only got a couple of minutes.

I'm going to meet somebody, but pre
-frame that like time constraint,

what that does for her is it takes the
pressure off her of thinking.

that you're going to be there talking to
her for an hour.

Um, that is actually a fear. A lot of
girls have is, Oh my God, I don't want

talk to him. I'm going somewhere.

I don't want to be late.

Um, so if you pre frame this exit, um,
it really helps her just like kind of,

um, take her guard down to know that
you're not going to sit here and talk to

her for 30 minutes.

Um, also watch your body language, like
kind of keep an open body language to

her. So you're like threatening, um,
keep your distance a little bit, keep an

open body language. And as you're in the
conversation, you can square up.

with her, um, as she opens and welcomes
to that in that in -person interaction.

Um, and then as you're going to the
close there, you're going to once again,

transition. Um, and what I like to do is
I like to bring up the like high point

of the conversation.

So if she like got really excited
talking about, let's just say her trip

Japan as I'm going to close, um, I would
like Japan. I really want to know more

about that. Let's connect and go grab a
drink.

Or if she talks about, like, you know,
maybe her favorite type of food, oh, my

God, I can't wait to take you to this
place to go get that.

Let's connect and go.

And a couple other things you can do
there. I like getting a phone number

closed, but a lot of guys are just a
little intimidated to do that. So the

easiest way to do it is you literally
can go through the communication

techniques and protocols and, hey, let's
connect on Instagram.

Very non -invasive.

Very non -threatening. Hey, why don't we
connect?

I'd love to keep talking to you.

Boom, close and get the hell out of
there.

It's your job to end that conversation
and go. Do not make it awkward by

lingering, right? You're a man of
action. You're a man of intention.

Be intentional. Lead the conversation.

Lead to the close and then get out of
there and then leave on a high note.

Crack a joke about something you just
said. I still can't believe you said

was your favorite vacation ever.

As you're like walking out there.

Or it still trips me out that really
your favorite food group is a salad. I

don't understand that. And then walk
away.

Leave her on some type of joke, some
type of high note as you're exiting that

conversation. Just so her last memory of
you is a good emotion.

Guys, so I hope that helps you. Man,
there's so much more to the actual game

closing that we can get into.

But this is, you know, a little over 10
minute video that I just want to give

you. to really give you the techniques
to close on social media or a dating

but also some techniques to employ in
person.

So, guys, that's it for how to close. I
know it was a short video, but I promise

you these techniques do work if you try
them.

So tomorrow, I'm actually going to go
into a little bonus with you of

you absolutely need to know, and I
cannot wait to go with you because it's

something I've done a ton of research on
and have kind of nailed down a couple

specifics.

Um, so yeah, guys, can't wait to see you
tonight. I guess I know I'm leaving it

open for a reason just because it's a
fun topic to go over. Um, there's a

bonus that I put together for you. Um,
but that's it guys. I'll see you

tomorrow's video.

Do me a favor, go approach women and
clothes. Now that you've worked for

everything else, go close.

Let us know how those closes went. Let
us know how many closes were successful.

Let us know where you stumbled so we can
give you some feedback, but go close

today.

Go find someone to make a connection
with today.

Bye guys.