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All right, guys, and welcome to day five
of the Attraction Blueprint, where

today we're talking about advanced
communication.

So yesterday we went over two protocols
to follow, the FPV protocol and the T

-Touch -Tell protocol.

I hope you're practicing those.

Guys, I would encourage you to practice
those every single interaction because,

like anything, the more you do it, the
better you're going to get at it. But

today what I want to do is go over some
advanced communication techniques. So as

you're using those two protocols...

These are some secondary things that you
can implement that are really going to

take your communication to the next
level. The very first one, guys, is you

to become a really good storyteller. And
there's a couple aspects of telling

stories with women and dating that are
really going to take your communication

to the next level. The very first thing
is learn how to tell a story that

engages emotion, right? We have to tell
stories that bring her in emotionally,

make her laugh.

or make her curious is honestly one of
the best emotions to ever create in

women.

And I'm going to go over an advanced
technique on how to do that in a minute.

But what I encourage you to do here, and
this is going to be great homework for

you, is sit down and think about your
five most attractive stories.

This is going to be, you know, your most
attractive story from work, whether it

could be an accomplishment or probably
the most attractive story from work is

something really hard you had to
overcome and the lesson you learned

a really cool food story, a good travel
story, maybe a good concert story or a

fun story.

And then lastly, a funny story.

Those aren't like the five you have to
have, but they're just kind of the five

that I found work best.

So go home and write those out. Use AI
if you need to, to say, hey, how do I

tell this story better? You can actually
input it in there and ask it to tell a

better story.

But then practice telling those stories.

The better you can get at practicing
your stories where maybe you throw in a

pause or maybe you work on your tone of
coming down here for a serious part of

the story, but then getting excited and
talking up here.

Practice delivering those stories. That
way, when you're on the date, your

delivery is on point and you're just
really telling an amazing story that

captivates her emotionally.

So the second thing that I want to talk
about today is the 70 -30 rule.

Guys, there's actual published research
that proves the more a woman talks about

herself, the more attractive she finds
you.

So she's going to be attracted to you
the more she talks about herself.

So therefore, it is your job to get her
talking about herself.

That's why the 70 -30 rule. In a
conversation with a woman, she should be

talking 70 % of the time.

You should be talking 30 % of the time.
And look, I know, I know, I know, I

know. It's really hard.

Conversation is not the easiest thing to
do because we're really good at

texting. But in today's world, in
-person communication, entirely

But, guys, it's the FEB protocol.

You know the questions to ask her.

You just got to follow the protocol to
ask her those questions.

So get her talking 70 % of the time.

Third thing in advanced communication
techniques is...

Guys, you've got to get really good at
not only her body language, but yours as

well. Let's talk about yours first.

In communication, TED Talks research
actually proves the more you talk

with your hands, the more engaged the
person is. So talk with your hands if

you're telling a story.

Next thing in masculine body language is
anytime you move.

Make it an intentional, deliberate
movement. If you're going to grab a

grab the drink, drink from it, put it
down. Don't fidget.

Fidgeting is one of the worst things you
can do on a date. If you're constantly,

I hate when guys do this on a date,
constantly pulling out their shirt or

constantly rubbing their nose or rubbing
their beard, scratching their arm or

just filling with their hands.

Guys, the more you fidget, And the more
you move without intention, the more

anxious and anxiety, anxious you're
going to be and anxiety you're going to

her.

Calm guys that are extremely confident,
we're good.

We don't need to be doing all that. I
can sit, chill as can be.

I don't have to move. I'm good.

That's the body language you have to
portray because when you feel safe on

date, what energy are you giving her?

Safety. So you have to present a calm,
deliberate, very, very stable

body language because that's going to
make her feel safe. With her, what I

suggest is pick up on her body language.

Is she constantly looking down or
looking away?

Is she playing with her hair a lot? Is
she fidgety?

Guys, one of the funnest things I
actually do on dates is like if I saw a

like fidgety or constantly playing with
her hair, I was like, you know, it's so

cute you being nervous like this.

I would call it out and she would
instantly, like, of course, she would

little embarrassed, but she would
instantly relax.

I'm like, hey, look, we're just two
strangers trying to get to know each

Like, this isn't like, there's not a
pressure here.

Like, let's just have fun.

But pay attention to her body language,
especially when it comes to if you're

trying to escalate physically.

You know, if you touch her and she pulls
back, well, hey, slow your roll. Be

respectful. If you touch her, she leans
in and she reciprocates. Hey, now we

know we're in a good place.

Is she leaning into you? Is she sitting
back? Is her arms crossed?

Does she have an open body posture? Is
she showing you her neck? All those are

really good signs.

Is she closed off? Is she angling away
from you, which is not a good sign.

But pay attention to her body language,
especially when you're telling a story

or you're talking to her.

Pay attention to her face. Pay attention
to her eyes, her mouth, how she's

angling herself.

Because there's so many clues into how
you're doing and her body language. And

honestly, guys, we know this about
today's society.

There's way more truth in energy and
body language than there is in words,

right? So pay attention to those things.

Next thing, guys, is I mentioned earlier
curiosity.

Curiosity is one of the greatest things
you can give women because...

A lot of psychology points to with
women, desire is built in gaps.

Curiosity is a great gap to leave her
in.

And to show you how important this is,
if you look at the top two genres of

things women watch on TV and listen to
on podcasts, if you think about it, the

two most watched genres are serial
killer murder and

reality TV. Why?

Heightened drama, heightened curiosity.
I don't know how this is going to end.

So anytime you can create what's called
an open loop with her, really good thing

to do. And an easy way to think about an
open loop curiosity is why is Netflix

and shows like that so bingeable?

It's because they start on episode
solving a problem.

At the very end of an episode, they open
a new problem. They create a new

problem and don't give you an answer.

That's what an open loop is. An open
loop is an unanswered question, a

that has been solved.

The more you can do that in your
conversation, the better.

One of the ways that I employ doing it
when I'm talking to a woman is as I'm

storytelling, I will just like, I'll
drop a bombshell of like maybe something

really hard that happened or maybe
something really tragic that happened to

And I'll just move on to the next
subject.

I'll drop her something she absolutely
wants to know about, but then I'll

pretend like it's not a big deal and
I'll just keep talking about something

else. a lot of times what you'll find is
she'll bring you back to that. Hey,

whoa, time out. You said this. What
about that?

So look for those little opportunities
to create curiosity in her.

And guys, the last thing I want to talk
to you about today is called rephrasing.

This is part of the F .E. protocol that
if you put this in there as well, it

just adds another layer of I see you, I
hear you.

So as she tells you a story, if she
tells you a story, you want to rephrase.

if I heard that right.

You did this and then this happened. And
then, oh my God, this happened too.

Did I hear that right? Like all this
happened.

You're basically like rephrasing her
words back to her.

Checking for clarity.

This is one of the best techniques you
can use to not only help you understand

what she's talking about, but also make
her feel seen and heard too.

Don't overuse this.

Use it anytime she goes into a
monologue.

or tells you a story or tells you
something, you did what?

Tells you something really important.

Rephrase it back to her just to show
that you're actually paying attention.

You're actually listening because we
know the stereotype about, you know,

complain about men's listening skills.

Well, if I just paraphrase back to you
everything you said to me, you can't say

I didn't listen to you.

So guys, those are five kind of second
level communication techniques that I

promise you, if you get good at, this
world of talking to women will change

because now you have the protocol of how
to structure a conversation and you

have the techniques of how to take those
conversations to the next level. So

guys, in tomorrow's video, what we're
going to go over are the steps of

right? We're talking to a woman, either
on a dating app or in person. How do we

get to a date? So we're having this
amazing conversation.

How do we close?

All right, guys, I hope you got
something out of the day. What I want

guys. is if you need help in your
storytelling, your homework is to go

down five stories.

But if you need help in your
storytelling, post in the group. Post

the group and ask for feedback. Get
other guys to help you out with it. I'll

chime in there as well to say, hey, say
this, say not this. Hey, create an open

loop here.

And also, once again, use AI to help you
with that.

But that's your homework, guys, is to go
create those five stories, memorize

them, have them where you can deliver
them.

on an amazing level to get her to feel
those so all right guys i'll see you in

tomorrow's video on how to close