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All right, guys, and welcome to day four
of the Attraction Blueprint. And today,

guys, we've built the foundation. We've
got the great energy.

We've got the confidence. We're in the
right mindset.

Now let's go have an amazing
conversation.

And I'm going to give you two frameworks
today. I promise you they work.

I have used them. My clients have used
them. Hell, I even use them in sales and

business and they work fantastic.

So let's get into it, guys. Let's go
ahead and jump into the framework. The

first framework I want to give you today
is the, I just call it the FEV asterisk

protocol. And there's an asterisk there
for a reason I'll get into.

But let's dive into the FEV framework.

And here's what it is.

When you're talking to a woman, let's
just say you give her.

that compliment right that we talked
about on day one so now you're actually

you've started the conversation you open
the conversation how do i carry on the

conversation well let's do this f e v f
stands for fact ask her a fact -based

question not a yes or no question open
-ended question but a fact -based

question and think past the typical
everyday interview style questions where

you're from what do you do think past
those questions like oh that's like

Where'd you get that cup of coffee from?
Or, hey, like, I'm looking for an

amazing place to bring my boys to for
dinner this weekend. You know where to

Hey, look, I've got some empty time this
weekend. You know a great place I can

go hiking around here.

Ask a kind of fun, fact -based question.

And then she's going to give you an
answer.

All right?

So you wait for that answer. You give
her plenty of space.

Don't interject.

Let her talk.

You give her plenty of space to answer
that question.

And then you take that fact.

And now we're going to move on to E.

E stands for emotion.

What emotions does she have about that
fact, right?

We know from talking to women that women
are deeply emotional creatures and they

bond through emotions.

The more I can get her talking about her
emotions, the more she's going to open

up to me and the more she's going to
connect with me. So I want to ask her a

question like, oh, wow, that hike sounds
amazing.

What did you like most about it? Why did
you pick that hike?

Why did you pick there to go on
vacation?

Why is that your favorite restaurant?
Why is that your favorite thing to cook?

Why is that your favorite?

Why? Why is such a powerful question
with women?

Because it gets them talking emotionally
to you. It gets them to start

connecting with you.

So after a fact -based question, now
find out the energy emotion behind that

fact. Now, V, this is the one that a lot
of guys have trouble with.

It's validation.

So we know the fact, we know the emotion
behind the fact. Now we want to give

her some validation.

And the validation is maybe a choice she
made, maybe a characteristic that she's

showing. One of my favorite ones is,
wow, like that sounds really scary.

Like how brave are you? Or wow, that
sounds hard. You must be really smart.

So I'm giving her a compliment on a
characteristic or.

you know, that decision must've been
really tough to make. Like kudos for

That sounds amazing.

So I'm complimenting something to give
her validation in the information she

just told me. And I'm building her up on
something that she wasn't given from

birth. Like a lot of women, if you
compliment their looks, if you validate,

know, how amazing she looks or her hair
or something like that, it's not really

going to hit home with her because when
you compliment,

a decision she made, or a choice, or
something she did, now

what she's going to interpret that as,
wow, he actually sees me.

She's going to feel seen and validated
when you do that, and now you're really

connecting with her, and boom, you just
repeat the process.

Fact, emotion, validate, repeat.

And feel free to go deeper on some of
this stuff and ask a couple follow -up

questions, but that's how the...
conversation framework works because

getting her to talk about her emotions
and then you're giving her validation.

The two things that women love in
conversation.

So here's the asterisk side of that.

And this one to me, from my coaching
practice, I find a lot of guys struggle

with. So what I tell guys here is as
you're going through this FED protocol,

just to keep you from going down the
rabbit hole of interview mode.

which is what a lot of guys do, a lot of
mistakes, a lot of guys make these

rapid fire questions and it just becomes
this like monotone, non -emotional

interview.

Never ever, as you're going through this
FEV protocol, pass up a Michael Scott,

that's what she said moment.

And what I mean by that is never pass up
a chance to inject Schumer into the

conversation.

Give you an example of that.

I'll be talking with my girlfriend.

and she'll say something, and keep in
mind, just so you get the joke, my

girlfriend's Puerto Rican, and she'll
mention something about like her

coffee or, you know, putting way too
much cream in her coffee.

I was like, wow, that's so basic white
girl of you.

And it's just like a funny thing to say
at the moment. It's humor. She gets its

humor. And it's just a way to lighten up
the conversation.

Look for ways, like, wow, I really, like
she mentions, let's just use this,

because a lot of guys are complaining
about this at the moment.

You know, she mentions her love of
Taylor Swift music.

You could immediately say, I really
thought you had better taste in music

that.

And you do it in a way where she
understands it's humor, right?

You know, you're injecting humor and
you're picking on her. You're talking to

her like your bratty little sister.

You're just not crossing the line,
right? You're not making fun of the way

looks or her family or even like her
hometown.

Some girls get kind of sensitive about
that too.

So never pass up an opportunity to make
a smart -ass comment, to inject humor

into the conversation just to keep her
on an emotional rollercoaster ride. The

more emotions, positive emotions, you
can make her feel in the conversation,

more she's going to be emotionally
connected to you.

Next framework I want to go over, guys,
is the tease, touch, tell framework.

This is, okay, so we've gone through the
FEV framework.

We've got a connection going on.

Now let me get into the flirting side of
the conversation.

So tease. We kind of went over this, but
man, like just treat her

like some of those things, some of those
jokes you want to make, go ahead and

say them. Just take the filter off. Go
ahead and say them. I promise you if

they're done in the right energy and
you've already connected, it'll be okay.

But tease her. She wants to be teased.
Like she wants to, she wants that

energy back and forth.

Touch, right? Now we're getting to
physical escalation.

This is a whole separate topic that
we'll talk about later if you want to go

down that route inside of the program.

But you do want to start physically
escalating. Once you've done the FEV

protocol and the foundation of
connections there and you're teasing,

having fun together, now let's start
escalating with some small safe touches,

respectful touches.

And the last one is tell.

So you're teasing her. You might touch
the back of her hand or her elbow or

something like that.

And what you want to also do if you're
in a date with a girl is give her these

little micro tells, these little micro
commands.

This is a beautiful thing to do because
what it does is establishes your

leadership. It establishes your
masculine frame.

Hey, I'm going to finish checking out.
Go grab that table for us.

Or hey, I'm going to get that table. Why
don't you go grab us some napkins?

Very, very small asks.

But you're doing it in a way that's
giving her a command.

You don't want to do this in a way that
really comes off in a mean.

condescending way, but it's like, hey,
I'm doing this. Why don't you do this?

But you're getting her in a very, very
micro way used to following your

leadership, which honestly is something
she wants you to do. She wants you to

step into a masculine leadership role.
This is an easy way to do that.

So guys, here's your homework for this
week is I want you to practice the FEV

protocol. And inside of the group, I
want you to respond.

how this protocol worked, how the
validation worked. Once you asked the

once you got to the emotion and you
validated her, what happened?

How did she respond to that? Give us
some feedback, guys. Look, I know this

protocol works.

I've never heard any negative feedback
from a guy that I've talked to.

So I want you to go practice this. Go
have three conversations where you

practice the FED protocol and let us
know how it goes.

So guys, next video tomorrow, we're
going to get into... advanced

so i've given you the basic framework
tomorrow we're going to get a couple

advanced techniques just to make sure
that as you're utilizing these

utilize them you know putting in some
additional skills that really take your

communication to the next level so guys
that's it for today appreciate you so

much and i'll see you in tomorrow's
video