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Would you like to inspect the original subtitles? These are the user uploaded subtitles that are being translated: 1 00:00:01,740 --> 00:00:06,580 When I got back from Iraq, I was having issues dealing with anxiety, so we got 2 00:00:06,580 --> 00:00:08,360 Salem to help me deal with it. 3 00:00:08,720 --> 00:00:11,760 At least once a day, Salem will attack the other cats. 4 00:00:14,920 --> 00:00:19,460 To see him fight like that and get pissed like that is a big trigger for 5 00:00:20,900 --> 00:00:26,680 Bartholomew is a beautiful cat, but doesn't have a beautiful personality to 6 00:00:26,680 --> 00:00:30,540 match. He has scratched every piece of furniture we have. 7 00:00:32,910 --> 00:00:36,790 I go, Bartholomew, you stop. And Shari will go, don't be mean to my cat. 8 00:00:40,430 --> 00:00:44,190 When we talk about cats from heaven, this is that cat. 9 00:00:44,490 --> 00:00:46,390 I didn't know my name. I didn't know where I was. 10 00:00:46,870 --> 00:00:51,350 Molly and Otitis met up when they needed each other the most. The reason that he 11 00:00:51,350 --> 00:00:53,670 came into my life was because of his ear infection. 12 00:00:54,910 --> 00:00:55,910 Whoa. 13 00:00:56,070 --> 00:00:59,370 Holy. I'm Jackson Gallagher. What the hell, man? 14 00:00:59,710 --> 00:01:00,870 The animal behavior. 15 00:01:01,820 --> 00:01:04,959 The guardians called, and they're giving him a difficult cat. 16 00:01:05,160 --> 00:01:07,420 Sometimes I wish that I didn't have her. 17 00:01:07,700 --> 00:01:08,700 Damn. 18 00:01:08,960 --> 00:01:13,660 I'm out to prove that there is no such thing as a bad cat. Just a cat that 19 00:01:13,660 --> 00:01:14,780 my help. This is fun. 20 00:01:16,020 --> 00:01:18,780 I'm David. 21 00:01:28,100 --> 00:01:30,020 My wife, Melissa. We've been married. 22 00:01:30,720 --> 00:01:36,160 Just shy of 20 years, we have one child, Ronnie, and we also have our four cats 23 00:01:36,160 --> 00:01:40,000 that live with us, Dexter, Rizzo, Lip, and Salem. 24 00:01:40,600 --> 00:01:42,100 Salem is my therapy cat. 25 00:01:42,620 --> 00:01:47,680 I was deployed in the Gulf War in the 90s, and then once again ended up going 26 00:01:47,680 --> 00:01:49,060 Iraq in 2010. 27 00:01:49,600 --> 00:01:54,200 When I got back from Iraq, I was having issues dealing with anxiety, bad dreams, 28 00:01:54,420 --> 00:01:57,720 things like that, so we got Salem to help me deal with it. 29 00:01:58,830 --> 00:01:59,970 Salem has helped me immensely. 30 00:02:00,290 --> 00:02:02,090 He sees me in a really panicky situation. 31 00:02:02,410 --> 00:02:05,790 He'll come up right at the door, and I'm like, look, I know something's wrong. 32 00:02:05,890 --> 00:02:06,609 Pet me. 33 00:02:06,610 --> 00:02:08,150 But he's our problem child. 34 00:02:09,330 --> 00:02:15,270 They all got along great for the first couple years, and then about a year ago 35 00:02:15,270 --> 00:02:19,670 is when Salem started acting out. At least once a day, Salem will attack the 36 00:02:19,670 --> 00:02:20,409 other cats. 37 00:02:20,410 --> 00:02:22,390 Usually it's Dexter that gets the brunt of it. 38 00:02:24,590 --> 00:02:27,270 It can get pretty loud and violent. 39 00:02:29,480 --> 00:02:32,800 I love Salem, but Salem's a huge jerk. He needs to stop attacking the other 40 00:02:32,800 --> 00:02:36,440 cats. It's plain and simple. Look at that. Got her right on the nose. 41 00:02:37,180 --> 00:02:40,860 Salem could get to that point where he does some serious damage, and we don't 42 00:02:40,860 --> 00:02:41,860 want that to happen. 43 00:02:42,920 --> 00:02:47,180 To see him fight like that and get vicious like that is distressing to me. 44 00:02:49,340 --> 00:02:52,800 Really? You're here to be a therapy cat and not to stress out everyone and the 45 00:02:52,800 --> 00:02:53,800 other cats. 46 00:02:55,290 --> 00:02:59,070 Basically, my whole life right now is centered around just avoiding conflict 47 00:02:59,070 --> 00:03:04,250 altogether. But the fighting causes my stress levels to go up, and just the 48 00:03:04,250 --> 00:03:08,830 overall anxiety level in the house is a big trigger for me, which is why we need 49 00:03:08,830 --> 00:03:09,830 Jackson's help. 50 00:03:17,050 --> 00:03:19,510 Morning. How are you? Hi. Melissa? Hey, 51 00:03:20,410 --> 00:03:22,290 this is Ronnie. What's up, Ronnie? How are you doing? 52 00:03:22,690 --> 00:03:23,770 Okay, guys. 53 00:03:24,280 --> 00:03:25,179 Let's talk cat. 54 00:03:25,180 --> 00:03:29,380 There's definitely evidence of cats, which is nice. A lot of the houses I go 55 00:03:29,480 --> 00:03:31,760 you would never know there was a cat. How many do we have here? 56 00:03:31,980 --> 00:03:33,880 Four. What's going on here with the four cats? 57 00:03:34,420 --> 00:03:39,880 Well, Salem is pretty much my cat, but he can be a bit of a bully sometimes. 58 00:03:40,420 --> 00:03:42,540 In a house of four cats, how did somebody become your cat? 59 00:03:42,880 --> 00:03:49,220 Well, I've got some issues from being in the wars that I've been in, and the VA 60 00:03:49,220 --> 00:03:50,680 had offered me a service dog. 61 00:03:51,130 --> 00:03:55,570 specifically for PTSD is that what they yeah but I'm more of a cat person and um 62 00:03:55,570 --> 00:04:00,030 I wanted one that I could bond with immediately you know and Salem was that 63 00:04:00,030 --> 00:04:05,820 it was like he knew I knew we both knew boom he's coming home with me Oh, wow. 64 00:04:06,100 --> 00:04:10,280 PTSD or post -traumatic stress disorder can develop in people who have survived 65 00:04:10,280 --> 00:04:13,000 scary or shocking or dangerous events. 66 00:04:13,340 --> 00:04:17,740 It's totally normal for those people to feel constantly on edge, to have bad 67 00:04:17,740 --> 00:04:20,839 memories or have trouble sleeping after an experience like that. 68 00:04:21,180 --> 00:04:24,720 You'll know immediately when I walk in the door if I've had a real bad day. 69 00:04:24,800 --> 00:04:27,520 Yeah. They'll come right up to me and sit on my lap the whole night. 70 00:04:27,820 --> 00:04:32,220 That's so cool. Cats now are therapy animals. They go into hospitals. They're 71 00:04:32,220 --> 00:04:33,600 emotional support animals. 72 00:04:33,820 --> 00:04:35,500 They travel with people. 73 00:04:35,840 --> 00:04:39,680 It's about the world catching up a little bit and recognizing that cats are 74 00:04:39,680 --> 00:04:44,720 deeply emotional beings who care about the ones they love, just like any other 75 00:04:44,720 --> 00:04:49,440 animal. Does Salem have a problem with a specific cat or is it just Dexter? It's 76 00:04:49,440 --> 00:04:53,600 Dexter. The three boys used to play together really well, but one morning 77 00:04:53,600 --> 00:04:55,520 attacked Dexter. We didn't see what happened. 78 00:04:55,780 --> 00:04:56,840 Since that first fight. 79 00:04:57,450 --> 00:05:00,610 How often is it that they're... Maybe once a day. 80 00:05:01,130 --> 00:05:02,130 A day? 81 00:05:02,230 --> 00:05:06,270 Yeah, it's very random, though, because they'll be sitting here, and they'll be 82 00:05:06,270 --> 00:05:10,430 nice and calm, and all of a sudden, one will give the other one a look, and bam, 83 00:05:10,490 --> 00:05:11,650 it happens, and then it's done. 84 00:05:11,870 --> 00:05:14,530 Have there been any major injuries from the cat? 85 00:05:14,730 --> 00:05:15,730 Ritzo has one right now. 86 00:05:16,110 --> 00:05:18,150 She's got a nice cut right across her nose. 87 00:05:18,370 --> 00:05:22,770 Oh, no. We got video of them squaring off when the scratch happened. 88 00:05:22,970 --> 00:05:24,130 Okay, let's take a look at that. 89 00:05:25,030 --> 00:05:26,970 Okay, so we've got, this is right here. 90 00:05:27,930 --> 00:05:28,930 That's Rizzo. 91 00:05:34,730 --> 00:05:41,530 Whoa. So there's no predictability in terms of time of day or before 92 00:05:41,530 --> 00:05:46,990 or after meals or anything like that that can connect it. You just know that 93 00:05:46,990 --> 00:05:51,070 someone looks a certain way when someone else walks in the room, you're going to 94 00:05:51,070 --> 00:05:51,719 have trouble. 95 00:05:51,720 --> 00:05:56,100 Or if somebody gets startled. Lip and Rizzo are very skittish. They slink 96 00:05:56,100 --> 00:06:00,040 like they're being tracked. If you walked out there and startled one of 97 00:06:00,080 --> 00:06:04,220 especially Lip, and he takes off running, that'll trigger him. That'll 98 00:06:04,220 --> 00:06:06,500 Salem. So they're constantly in fear. 99 00:06:07,200 --> 00:06:13,720 Well, that's no good. If I didn't get here, what's our worst fear in this 100 00:06:14,220 --> 00:06:17,780 We would keep trying. I mean, none of them are going anywhere. 101 00:06:18,060 --> 00:06:20,740 Okay. We just want Salem to be happy again. Yeah. 102 00:06:21,280 --> 00:06:22,219 And calm. 103 00:06:22,220 --> 00:06:23,260 It's really about staying calm. 104 00:06:23,580 --> 00:06:27,880 Calm in the house. Because to see him fight like that gives me anxiety 105 00:06:28,160 --> 00:06:32,480 Right. David will thrive when the energy in this home is as flat -lined as 106 00:06:32,480 --> 00:06:35,580 possible. All you're doing is breaking up fights all day long. That's not going 107 00:06:35,580 --> 00:06:39,380 to work for David. Oh, who's that? That is Rizzo. Rizzo the princess? There she 108 00:06:39,380 --> 00:06:44,300 is. Now, Rizzo obviously is walking that way because I'm here? 109 00:06:44,660 --> 00:06:47,120 All the time. That happens all the time? That walk? 110 00:06:47,870 --> 00:06:52,070 Yeah, plus she's always crouched down. Oh, that's not cool. When I see Rizzo 111 00:06:52,070 --> 00:06:56,810 slinking across the floor and the family is telling me that's just who she is 112 00:06:56,810 --> 00:07:01,050 and what she does, that leads me to believe that Rizzo is living in fear 24 113 00:07:01,170 --> 00:07:04,430 So I want to see if this behavior is present in all the other cats as well. 114 00:07:04,610 --> 00:07:05,409 Who's that? 115 00:07:05,410 --> 00:07:07,330 Dexter. That's Dexter. That's Dexter? 116 00:07:07,670 --> 00:07:08,670 Hi. 117 00:07:09,330 --> 00:07:11,890 Okay, so we got Dexter and we got Rizzo. 118 00:07:12,230 --> 00:07:16,870 And Salem and Lip. Lip's in the house. Wait, Lip and Salem are back there? 119 00:07:17,640 --> 00:07:18,680 That's interesting, too. 120 00:07:18,960 --> 00:07:25,020 Salem is just crammed in a corner right now. So for the cat that beats the hell 121 00:07:25,020 --> 00:07:28,520 out of everybody else in the house, he's got that sort of unconfident vibe. 122 00:07:28,980 --> 00:07:34,540 Salem is tucked behind a cat tree, plastered against the wall, clearly the 123 00:07:34,540 --> 00:07:36,700 scared cat in this house. That's interesting. 124 00:07:36,980 --> 00:07:41,660 He's a good cat. He likes people. He's very cuddly. He, like, licks his belly, 125 00:07:41,740 --> 00:07:42,800 and I'm really concerned about that. 126 00:07:43,040 --> 00:07:45,220 He's not that stressed out about you. Hi, buddy. 127 00:07:45,880 --> 00:07:47,240 He's just having a good old sit. 128 00:07:47,460 --> 00:07:49,040 Did you tell me a little bit of an issue? 129 00:07:51,060 --> 00:07:52,080 Pick him up for a sec. 130 00:07:53,220 --> 00:07:54,560 Holy crap. 131 00:07:54,940 --> 00:07:55,940 Yep. 132 00:07:56,420 --> 00:07:57,460 Holy crap. 133 00:07:57,820 --> 00:07:58,820 Yeah, come on, Salem. 134 00:07:59,320 --> 00:08:00,920 That's a lot of missing Salem. 135 00:08:08,660 --> 00:08:09,840 Holy crap. 136 00:08:10,220 --> 00:08:11,220 Yeah, come on, Salem. 137 00:08:11,720 --> 00:08:13,320 That's a lot of missing Salem. 138 00:08:14,610 --> 00:08:15,910 He's mutilating himself. 139 00:08:16,230 --> 00:08:20,350 This is the cat who needs my help. So I have to gather more information to 140 00:08:20,350 --> 00:08:23,330 pinpoint exactly where all this anxiety is coming from. 141 00:08:23,590 --> 00:08:27,490 Wow, that is one trough of food you got over there. 142 00:08:27,750 --> 00:08:29,130 When did you start free feeding? 143 00:08:29,370 --> 00:08:30,370 About a year ago. 144 00:08:30,930 --> 00:08:35,789 It's interesting how when they started free feeding the cats, everything 145 00:08:35,789 --> 00:08:40,630 changed. When cats eat at the same time, their energy rises and falls at the 146 00:08:40,630 --> 00:08:44,530 same time. But with free feeding, they're eating on different schedules, 147 00:08:44,530 --> 00:08:48,190 have energy spikes that just aren't synced up. This could be causing 148 00:08:48,190 --> 00:08:54,650 here. Any other areas here where, man, you have been through a lot, dude. I'm 149 00:08:54,650 --> 00:08:55,409 looking around. 150 00:08:55,410 --> 00:08:58,530 You've got, what's your experience in the military? 151 00:08:58,830 --> 00:09:00,090 I was a commander of a vehicle. 152 00:09:00,710 --> 00:09:05,510 We were up on the front lines, and we saw just devastation. 153 00:09:06,079 --> 00:09:07,079 Wow, man. 154 00:09:07,080 --> 00:09:08,640 The first time was the scariest. 155 00:09:08,900 --> 00:09:11,300 There was actually chemical weapons involved in that. 156 00:09:12,100 --> 00:09:13,660 That'll make you grow up real quick. 157 00:09:13,880 --> 00:09:16,760 I was 20 years old when they sent me over there for that one. 158 00:09:16,980 --> 00:09:23,040 Do you feel like, in terms of PTSD, is that... Oh, yeah, that's about 90 % 159 00:09:23,040 --> 00:09:28,000 that comes from. So 20 years old, you get thrown into this, and the rest of 160 00:09:28,000 --> 00:09:29,880 life, you're working around it. 161 00:09:30,540 --> 00:09:36,160 Does Salem play a specific role in terms of, I mean, is it nightmares or 162 00:09:36,160 --> 00:09:37,520 anything like that that hits you? Oh, yeah. 163 00:09:37,820 --> 00:09:43,440 I'll be sleeping on my side and he'll come up and like, wake up, wake up. It's 164 00:09:43,440 --> 00:09:45,720 just a dream. Wake up. Get out of here. Yeah. 165 00:09:46,580 --> 00:09:53,500 I'm so impressed that the idea of therapeutic animals has taken root the 166 00:09:53,500 --> 00:09:57,320 way it has. Like you said, it helps, you know what I mean? 167 00:09:57,540 --> 00:09:59,620 Especially with the suicide rates, which are. 168 00:10:00,200 --> 00:10:03,660 Yeah, I just lost a friend. Due to the after effects? 169 00:10:04,080 --> 00:10:09,700 Yeah. I'm so sorry. This is actually a life and death thing to David. These 170 00:10:09,700 --> 00:10:11,240 get him through every day. 171 00:10:11,600 --> 00:10:14,500 It's so crucial that we restore peace in this house. 172 00:10:15,320 --> 00:10:19,280 Let's start with the first thing first. Obviously, the cat that seems to be 173 00:10:19,280 --> 00:10:25,440 picking these premeditated fights is also incredibly anxious, right? Because 174 00:10:25,440 --> 00:10:26,440 he's bald. 175 00:10:26,840 --> 00:10:31,060 So there's obviously energetic spikes happening in this house. In a normal 176 00:10:31,260 --> 00:10:34,840 spikes happen at least once, twice, three times a day. When we wake up in 177 00:10:34,840 --> 00:10:39,100 morning, we come together after work, we go to bed at night, the energy in the 178 00:10:39,100 --> 00:10:43,560 home comes up. In this home, random spikes happening all the time. Cats 179 00:10:43,560 --> 00:10:48,060 through the house, which starts a fight. So my goal with you guys is to de 180 00:10:48,060 --> 00:10:49,060 -spike this house. 181 00:10:49,440 --> 00:10:53,660 The first thing that I want you guys to start committing to is every single time 182 00:10:53,660 --> 00:10:56,740 there's either a fight, or Salem over grooming. 183 00:10:57,280 --> 00:10:59,740 I want you to mark those areas. X marks the spot. 184 00:10:59,980 --> 00:11:04,480 Blue tape for over grooming and red tape for a fight. 185 00:11:04,840 --> 00:11:08,960 We're going to start seeing some sort of territorial pattern emerge because 186 00:11:08,960 --> 00:11:09,960 right now there's nothing. 187 00:11:10,140 --> 00:11:13,380 The next thing to de -spike the house, we're going to start getting them into a 188 00:11:13,380 --> 00:11:16,600 group routine, starting with the concept of play therapy. 189 00:11:16,860 --> 00:11:20,360 And you need to do it so that it's happening around the same time every 190 00:11:20,360 --> 00:11:23,500 they get to eat at the end of it, and that means the trough is going to go 191 00:11:23,920 --> 00:11:27,680 If we feed them all at the same time, it's going to help. We have to control 192 00:11:27,680 --> 00:11:31,480 their eating because that way their energy will all come up and down at the 193 00:11:31,480 --> 00:11:35,600 time. And if they have a ritual of play that happens every day at predictable 194 00:11:35,600 --> 00:11:40,100 times, we're going to start being able to control the energetic output of these 195 00:11:40,100 --> 00:11:45,500 cats and de -spike the home. The last part of this de -spiking homework. 196 00:11:46,110 --> 00:11:47,110 is catification. 197 00:11:47,250 --> 00:11:49,910 You guys have already started doing that, which I'm really psyched about 198 00:11:49,910 --> 00:11:53,750 I don't have to start you guys from square one. I want to create one more 199 00:11:53,750 --> 00:11:57,230 of superhighway. We can do that very simply with shelving or something like 200 00:11:57,230 --> 00:12:00,590 to give us just that much more space to increase the piece in here. 201 00:12:00,810 --> 00:12:04,270 Because if cats aren't competing for the same resource, which is usually the 202 00:12:04,270 --> 00:12:05,270 ground, 203 00:12:05,589 --> 00:12:09,430 They tend to be a little more peaceful around each other. We're giving the cats 204 00:12:09,430 --> 00:12:12,990 options to get away from each other instead of meeting in the middle of the 205 00:12:12,990 --> 00:12:14,170 floor. All right, guys. 206 00:12:14,570 --> 00:12:16,990 Ronnie, you've been awfully quiet this entire time. 207 00:12:17,210 --> 00:12:18,210 How are you feeling? 208 00:12:18,570 --> 00:12:21,870 I'm good. We're going to fix Salem so RZA doesn't have to be scared all the 209 00:12:21,870 --> 00:12:25,750 now. I hope the homework works because I'm not really going to be pleased. If 210 00:12:25,750 --> 00:12:29,150 doesn't work in Salem, just get to work because it's going to stress out my dad. 211 00:12:36,970 --> 00:12:37,769 I'm sorry. 212 00:12:37,770 --> 00:12:43,370 And I'm David, and we've been married 22 years, and we have a cat named 213 00:12:43,370 --> 00:12:44,370 Bartholomew. 214 00:12:45,010 --> 00:12:50,890 Bartholomew is a beautiful cat, but doesn't have a beautiful personality to 215 00:12:50,890 --> 00:12:51,890 match. 216 00:12:52,870 --> 00:12:57,750 He has scratched every piece of furniture we have in our living room, 217 00:12:57,990 --> 00:13:00,210 the ottoman couches downstairs. 218 00:13:03,819 --> 00:13:07,280 Bartholomew scratches everything. He loves to stretch up and just like go at 219 00:13:07,280 --> 00:13:08,280 like this. 220 00:13:10,240 --> 00:13:11,800 I go, Bartholomew, stop. 221 00:13:12,060 --> 00:13:14,260 And Shari will go, don't be mean to my cat. 222 00:13:14,560 --> 00:13:18,800 When David tries to stop Bartholomew, usually what happens is a lot of 223 00:13:18,800 --> 00:13:20,720 screaming, stomping. 224 00:13:21,780 --> 00:13:22,820 Bartholomew, stop it. 225 00:13:23,060 --> 00:13:26,260 Get away from there. I think Bartholomew hates David. 226 00:13:27,560 --> 00:13:32,340 Shari's idea of stopping Bartholomew from scratching the furniture is to go. 227 00:13:32,940 --> 00:13:35,220 No, that's not good. Bad boy. 228 00:13:35,720 --> 00:13:37,860 And I'm sure that really works. 229 00:13:38,880 --> 00:13:41,120 Well, I just believe in the gentle approach. 230 00:13:41,440 --> 00:13:43,740 Yeah, that's the gentle approach, which is no approach. 231 00:13:43,960 --> 00:13:45,280 Well, guess what? Neither one's working. 232 00:13:45,480 --> 00:13:46,480 That's correct. 233 00:13:54,040 --> 00:13:55,040 Well, hi. 234 00:13:55,300 --> 00:13:57,680 Come on in. Thank you. I'm Jackson. Sorry. 235 00:13:57,900 --> 00:13:58,879 Sorry. David. 236 00:13:58,880 --> 00:14:01,420 David. Who's this? This is Maggie. Hi, Maggie. 237 00:14:02,640 --> 00:14:03,640 Well, come on in. 238 00:14:05,380 --> 00:14:09,380 Looking around the couch where David and Shari are sitting, I can definitely see 239 00:14:09,380 --> 00:14:10,460 there's a little bit of damage. 240 00:14:11,320 --> 00:14:12,540 So why am I here? 241 00:14:12,920 --> 00:14:14,760 Because of the cat toy that I'm looking at? 242 00:14:15,000 --> 00:14:18,840 Yeah. Yeah, it's a giant cat toy. It's every couch and chair. 243 00:14:19,100 --> 00:14:20,540 All right, well, tell me about Bartholomew. 244 00:14:20,800 --> 00:14:22,240 He's a little problem. 245 00:14:22,460 --> 00:14:25,800 He seems to like the furniture, and he'll just dig in. 246 00:14:26,040 --> 00:14:30,800 This is really excessive, and I've never experienced this type of, I think I'm 247 00:14:30,800 --> 00:14:31,800 going to say aggression. 248 00:14:32,340 --> 00:14:33,340 Aggressive scratching. 249 00:14:33,460 --> 00:14:36,060 Yeah. I feel like he hates us, actually. 250 00:14:36,300 --> 00:14:40,180 Mostly him. Yeah, he hates me. He hates you. I can't get near him. He runs away. 251 00:14:40,480 --> 00:14:41,540 Every time. 252 00:14:41,860 --> 00:14:47,640 Well, David would yell at him and stomp his feet and scare the cat. I mean, he 253 00:14:47,640 --> 00:14:52,220 doesn't have a good relationship with me. But that's your fault. 254 00:14:52,580 --> 00:14:56,260 Because you don't spend any time with the cat. No, I spend time with him. 255 00:14:56,540 --> 00:14:58,900 In a year and a half, perhaps. 256 00:14:59,640 --> 00:15:00,640 30 minutes. No. 257 00:15:00,900 --> 00:15:02,280 Yeah, 30 minutes. 258 00:15:02,880 --> 00:15:06,840 David? I've had way more than 30 minutes. What have you guys talked about 259 00:15:06,840 --> 00:15:09,160 terms of why Bartholomew is scratching? 260 00:15:09,480 --> 00:15:11,820 We adopted Bartholomew from a rescue. 261 00:15:12,140 --> 00:15:16,700 They did try to warn us that he had a really rotten year and a half living on 262 00:15:16,700 --> 00:15:21,500 the streets and that he wasn't exactly a lap cat and that he had a difficult 263 00:15:21,500 --> 00:15:24,960 life. So they're warning you ahead of time and you're like, no, I want him. 264 00:15:24,960 --> 00:15:26,640 was it? What did he call out to you? Why? 265 00:15:28,190 --> 00:15:31,230 Previous to Bartholomew, we had another cat named Bandit. 266 00:15:32,150 --> 00:15:35,670 Bandit was an American snowshoe, love of Shari's life. 267 00:15:36,250 --> 00:15:41,330 Shari had gone through cancer, and Bandit never left her side. 268 00:15:41,610 --> 00:15:46,950 Wow. Bandit was a very loving cat, and he was there for me in ways that people 269 00:15:46,950 --> 00:15:48,330 couldn't be, you know. 270 00:15:49,250 --> 00:15:51,090 Throughout my chemotherapy, 271 00:15:52,120 --> 00:15:57,780 My beloved bandit parked himself on my stomach and was there until I started 272 00:15:57,780 --> 00:16:04,340 feeling better. I felt like if I got the same kind of cat that it would ease the 273 00:16:04,340 --> 00:16:08,320 pain. I can empathize with Shari. Of course, anyone who's lost an animal, 274 00:16:08,440 --> 00:16:12,680 especially one that is as close to her as bandit was, it's a hard thing to go 275 00:16:12,680 --> 00:16:17,080 through. But replacing one with someone else, not fair to you, not fair to the 276 00:16:17,080 --> 00:16:19,760 memory of the one you lost, and not fair to the new cat as well. 277 00:16:20,860 --> 00:16:25,480 Bartholomew is one of those things where you saw him and you recognized the 278 00:16:25,480 --> 00:16:26,480 bandit in him. 279 00:16:26,780 --> 00:16:27,780 No. 280 00:16:28,520 --> 00:16:33,040 Not at all. He looks like bandit. But he doesn't act like bandit. He doesn't act 281 00:16:33,040 --> 00:16:38,660 like him. He's no bandit. Shari's completely projecting feelings that she 282 00:16:38,660 --> 00:16:43,380 for bandit all over Bartholomew. How could he be anything but a failure in 283 00:16:43,380 --> 00:16:47,740 eyes? So there's a lot more wrapped up than just claw marks on the couch. 284 00:16:48,400 --> 00:16:51,660 But then we've got claw marks on the couch. So let's take off all these 285 00:16:52,040 --> 00:16:55,140 Let's just see what we're actually dealing with here. This couple is 286 00:16:55,140 --> 00:16:59,900 patches on scratches the same way they put a Bartholomew on a bandit. They're 287 00:16:59,900 --> 00:17:04,900 just trying to, as Shari said, mask things, mask pain, mask dysfunction. 288 00:17:05,339 --> 00:17:09,000 Well, it's time to rip all the patches off. So is this kind of the big hang for 289 00:17:09,000 --> 00:17:10,920 you guys? This is my man cave. 290 00:17:11,200 --> 00:17:13,339 So you hang out here. Yeah. 291 00:17:13,760 --> 00:17:17,220 One reason cats scratch furniture is because it smells like they're humans 292 00:17:17,220 --> 00:17:18,900 they just want to co -own the space. 293 00:17:19,300 --> 00:17:24,400 Given that, it's no wonder that Bartholomew wants to lay claim to the 294 00:17:24,400 --> 00:17:28,720 in David's man cave. He's saying, hey, you and me, we both belong here. We're 295 00:17:28,720 --> 00:17:33,440 compadres. So here's some of Bartholomew's pincushion artwork. 296 00:17:33,660 --> 00:17:36,540 This is one of his favorite places to scratch. 297 00:17:36,740 --> 00:17:41,360 Right. The back of this is another one of his favorite spots. 298 00:17:41,630 --> 00:17:45,050 That one's pretty bad, yeah. Yeah, it's annoying, and it's terrible and 299 00:17:45,050 --> 00:17:48,010 unsightly. Did I say annoying? Because it's really annoying. 300 00:17:48,350 --> 00:17:52,510 We've got plenty of scratching posts for him. That he does use. But he still 301 00:17:52,510 --> 00:17:53,550 enjoys the furniture. 302 00:17:54,010 --> 00:17:57,650 I mean, this is downright... Ridiculous. 303 00:17:58,490 --> 00:18:04,790 I'm seeing a few scratching posts, and the scratching posts don't seem to have 304 00:18:04,790 --> 00:18:05,790 scratch marks. 305 00:18:07,170 --> 00:18:10,430 It's not that much. You said that he uses these scratching posts. 306 00:18:10,720 --> 00:18:13,240 Yeah, well... I must mean squat. 307 00:18:20,900 --> 00:18:25,160 The scratching posts don't seem to have scratch marks. 308 00:18:26,440 --> 00:18:29,900 It's not that much. You said that he uses these scratching posts. 309 00:18:30,140 --> 00:18:32,620 Yeah, well... I must mean squat. 310 00:18:33,219 --> 00:18:36,060 That's a fairly new one. That's a newer one. And what about that one in the 311 00:18:36,060 --> 00:18:39,860 corner there? That one, he'll lay on top of it. Yeah, but it's not a scratching 312 00:18:39,860 --> 00:18:43,160 post. But it's not really so much a scratching post. Looking around, I see a 313 00:18:43,160 --> 00:18:45,600 sad scratching posts that are completely ignored. 314 00:18:45,860 --> 00:18:49,960 Now, having seen Bartholomew's Trail of Destruction, I just want to spend some 315 00:18:49,960 --> 00:18:54,220 time with him and see if his reputation is what they're saying it is. 316 00:18:54,940 --> 00:18:56,120 Hello, my friend. 317 00:18:56,380 --> 00:18:57,380 Come say hi. 318 00:18:58,200 --> 00:18:59,200 Are you a good boy? 319 00:19:00,140 --> 00:19:01,140 You want some? 320 00:19:01,320 --> 00:19:02,320 Here we go. 321 00:19:06,440 --> 00:19:07,440 Baby boy. 322 00:19:08,580 --> 00:19:10,420 There's my baby boy. 323 00:19:11,720 --> 00:19:17,180 Bartholomew's a little timid at first, but with proper motivation, food, and a 324 00:19:17,180 --> 00:19:21,660 little loving intention, he's actually a really friendly cat, and he seems very 325 00:19:21,660 --> 00:19:22,940 driven by human affection. 326 00:19:24,160 --> 00:19:25,360 Yeah, good boy. 327 00:19:26,220 --> 00:19:27,220 Thank you. 328 00:19:28,420 --> 00:19:31,560 Bartholomew goes over on his back, giving me what I call the cat hug. 329 00:19:32,270 --> 00:19:36,990 I earned that, man, and I got it, which means that David can earn it too. He's 330 00:19:36,990 --> 00:19:38,050 just got to want it. 331 00:19:40,610 --> 00:19:44,870 I have got every little piece of information that I need to help out the 332 00:19:44,910 --> 00:19:45,970 so it's time to give him some homework. 333 00:19:46,170 --> 00:19:49,730 First things first, let's just think about why he's scratching where he 334 00:19:49,730 --> 00:19:54,370 scratches. He picks places that it's important for him to own. 335 00:19:54,710 --> 00:19:56,250 It's that way of saying, I belong here. 336 00:19:56,490 --> 00:19:58,590 So it's actually kind of a backhanded compliment. 337 00:19:58,970 --> 00:20:01,430 David, from your perspective, you're saying he hates me. 338 00:20:02,060 --> 00:20:06,660 He's not saying I'm pissed at you. He's saying I want to be a part of this. 339 00:20:07,040 --> 00:20:11,180 So guys, your first assignment is what I call the no -yes. 340 00:20:11,480 --> 00:20:15,480 It's okay to say no. This is not where I want you to scratch as long as right 341 00:20:15,480 --> 00:20:16,480 behind it is a yes. 342 00:20:16,820 --> 00:20:20,280 We're going to use double -sided tape. We're going to put that on in the places 343 00:20:20,280 --> 00:20:23,880 that he has picked because he's going to have that experience over and over that 344 00:20:23,880 --> 00:20:25,140 I reach for the couch and ugh. 345 00:20:25,620 --> 00:20:27,320 But right next to that... 346 00:20:27,520 --> 00:20:31,380 has to be a very sturdy scratching surface that's acceptable to you guys, 347 00:20:31,520 --> 00:20:36,560 So now it comes down to your work, okay? And there is definitely work that you 348 00:20:36,560 --> 00:20:37,560 guys got to do. 349 00:20:38,140 --> 00:20:42,960 First of all, David, if you want a relationship with this cat, you can't 350 00:20:42,960 --> 00:20:47,920 him. You can't stomp your feet. He associates you with scary things now. 351 00:20:47,920 --> 00:20:50,240 homework with him is really just bonding. 352 00:20:50,480 --> 00:20:54,300 I want David to become the most positive. 353 00:20:54,720 --> 00:20:59,600 most amazing presence in Bartholomew's life. He's going to do that by taking 354 00:20:59,600 --> 00:21:03,600 control of all the pleasurable rituals in this house. You're the only one who 355 00:21:03,600 --> 00:21:05,200 gives him treats for the next couple of weeks. 356 00:21:05,460 --> 00:21:09,220 You're the one who feeds him. So you're Santa Claus from now on. Every time you 357 00:21:09,220 --> 00:21:11,600 appear, wonderful things happen. 358 00:21:12,000 --> 00:21:18,820 For you, Shari, I want you to make a list for me of all the things that you 359 00:21:18,820 --> 00:21:23,180 about Bartholomew, independent of any banditness. 360 00:21:23,820 --> 00:21:26,020 Just the things about him that you love. 361 00:21:27,860 --> 00:21:32,260 It's time to commit Bandit to memory. 362 00:21:33,760 --> 00:21:34,760 It's time. 363 00:21:35,640 --> 00:21:42,160 Because regardless of what your pain is, and of course you're still in pain, but 364 00:21:42,160 --> 00:21:43,940 Bartholomew, he's the victim. 365 00:21:45,520 --> 00:21:48,560 It's not a victimless grief. 366 00:21:50,420 --> 00:21:51,420 I understand. 367 00:21:52,270 --> 00:21:57,270 I'm obviously willing to do everything, but just having to address some emotions 368 00:21:57,270 --> 00:21:58,470 that I've kind of buried. 369 00:21:59,350 --> 00:22:05,630 I have every expectation that if you commit to this, things will be 370 00:22:06,110 --> 00:22:10,970 Human and cat, they'll be different. Okay. I will see you guys very soon, and 371 00:22:10,970 --> 00:22:15,010 you'll have a brand new house by the time I get back. It's really hard for me 372 00:22:15,010 --> 00:22:19,470 grieve for Bandit, but I'm looking forward to doing my homework. 373 00:22:21,040 --> 00:22:22,860 Hoping for some positive results. 374 00:22:25,900 --> 00:22:26,900 Anyone? 375 00:22:35,210 --> 00:22:37,110 I'm here for my second visit with Salem. 376 00:22:37,330 --> 00:22:40,970 Last time I was here, I definitely saw evidence of Salem's aggression, but I 377 00:22:40,970 --> 00:22:45,330 also saw redirected aggression onto himself. There was also random spikes of 378 00:22:45,330 --> 00:22:49,410 energy that were causing all kinds of cat mayhem, which is a problem for 379 00:22:49,410 --> 00:22:53,530 post -traumatic triggers. So the homework was supposed to de -spike the 380 00:22:53,630 --> 00:22:54,830 and hopefully that's what I'm going to see. 381 00:22:55,090 --> 00:22:57,310 There was a bunch going on here, looking down on the floor. 382 00:22:57,990 --> 00:22:59,990 Obviously, a bunch of stuff happened here. 383 00:23:00,210 --> 00:23:01,790 Just overall, how are you feeling? 384 00:23:01,990 --> 00:23:03,590 Well, the fighting is down. 385 00:23:04,330 --> 00:23:09,490 Probably about 70%. There haven't been any real, no major league knockdown, 386 00:23:09,490 --> 00:23:11,450 out fights where there's injuries. 387 00:23:11,650 --> 00:23:15,630 Man, I'll take that. Hearing the update, I'm totally excited to see the homework 388 00:23:15,630 --> 00:23:20,850 video because clearly what they've been doing is causing something good to 389 00:23:20,850 --> 00:23:22,010 happen here. Here we go. 390 00:23:22,230 --> 00:23:25,370 As you can see, there's been a change in the food area. 391 00:23:25,670 --> 00:23:29,350 The big tub is dead. Has been washed and put away. 392 00:23:29,550 --> 00:23:31,810 The trough. And this is our play fishing. 393 00:23:32,570 --> 00:23:34,030 And that's how you keep them interested. 394 00:23:35,010 --> 00:23:36,230 Make it run to something. 395 00:23:36,530 --> 00:23:37,449 And look! 396 00:23:37,450 --> 00:23:41,650 Got Dexter and Lip in the middle of the floor, and there's our boy in the back. 397 00:23:41,890 --> 00:23:42,890 Now here comes Salem. 398 00:23:44,750 --> 00:23:45,750 Salem's in. 399 00:23:46,630 --> 00:23:50,030 Nobody runs away from him. This is a large deal. 400 00:23:50,250 --> 00:23:54,450 See, big things happen when you get rid of big troughs of food. Now that that 401 00:23:54,450 --> 00:23:57,670 trough is gone, their physical energy is reined in. 402 00:23:58,510 --> 00:24:00,870 So this is the shelf system installed. 403 00:24:01,170 --> 00:24:05,710 We got one shelf there to get them from the couch up to the big shelf across 404 00:24:05,710 --> 00:24:06,710 this window. 405 00:24:07,550 --> 00:24:13,590 Rocking. So all four cats checking out their perches for the first time. 406 00:24:13,830 --> 00:24:14,830 That's fantastic. 407 00:24:14,910 --> 00:24:19,190 Now we had one minor attack last night. 408 00:24:20,570 --> 00:24:22,750 That's the dining room. They're sitting on the fireplace. 409 00:24:25,480 --> 00:24:28,860 Ooh, Dexter. Yeah, man. But let's go back there for a second. 410 00:24:29,240 --> 00:24:30,560 Hand up, right? 411 00:24:31,040 --> 00:24:35,680 Tail swishing. And he's prepping for a fight. That's a classic posture of, if 412 00:24:35,680 --> 00:24:39,320 you bring it, I will bring it harder. The family, committing to the homework, 413 00:24:39,560 --> 00:24:43,680 has given these cats a social structure that they can adhere to. And because of 414 00:24:43,680 --> 00:24:47,400 that, Dexter is just gaining some serious confidence, which means he's 415 00:24:47,400 --> 00:24:50,800 something. Salem is standing down, which means he's learned something. 416 00:24:51,360 --> 00:24:52,620 Hello, Rizzo. 417 00:24:53,790 --> 00:24:55,370 Rizzo's like, I want to be a part of everything. 418 00:24:56,110 --> 00:24:57,550 Yes, thank you, baby. 419 00:24:57,850 --> 00:24:58,850 Thank you. 420 00:24:59,590 --> 00:25:00,610 Wow, Rizzo. 421 00:25:00,830 --> 00:25:03,870 She's gotten more confident. Like, she's actually sitting in the room with you. 422 00:25:04,150 --> 00:25:05,990 She's just owning these shelves. 423 00:25:06,370 --> 00:25:09,070 She's got more spots now. Now we get to see Rizzo. 424 00:25:09,610 --> 00:25:13,450 A little mojo -fied. Just like Dexter, Rizzo is acting more confident. I mean, 425 00:25:13,470 --> 00:25:16,930 the last time I was here, she was army crawling around the floor because she 426 00:25:16,930 --> 00:25:21,050 so scared. But now, with the addition of the shelves, she is owning the vertical 427 00:25:21,050 --> 00:25:24,630 world, and that is translating to her feeling more confident through the 428 00:25:24,630 --> 00:25:29,010 house. We're seeing a very clear progression here, but I am still 429 00:25:29,010 --> 00:25:29,809 about Salem. 430 00:25:29,810 --> 00:25:34,770 Have you noticed anything in terms of over -grooming? Is Salem still as bald 431 00:25:34,770 --> 00:25:35,770 ever? It's gotten worse. 432 00:25:44,300 --> 00:25:47,700 By the way, have you noticed anything in terms of over grooming? 433 00:25:48,180 --> 00:25:49,720 It's gotten worse. 434 00:25:50,920 --> 00:25:56,940 The aggression is definitely on the way down. But still not all that happy about 435 00:25:56,940 --> 00:26:00,560 the fact that we still have a bald tummy in the house. As long as that's here, 436 00:26:00,740 --> 00:26:02,000 the problem's not solved. 437 00:26:02,300 --> 00:26:07,380 I want to start working on our exes. I got one fight and two over grooms. Any 438 00:26:07,380 --> 00:26:08,560 these happen in the last five days? 439 00:26:08,980 --> 00:26:13,650 No. Okay, great. That's what the progress is all about, because this area 440 00:26:13,650 --> 00:26:18,210 heavily over -owned. Cats are defensive animals by nature. They've stuck around 441 00:26:18,210 --> 00:26:21,310 for all these tens of thousands of years because they know how to stay alive. 442 00:26:21,650 --> 00:26:26,810 So when we create lanes of highway, we're giving the cats a chance to not 443 00:26:26,950 --> 00:26:29,750 and they're taking that bait. Let's take a look. Want to see Thelma's stressed 444 00:26:29,750 --> 00:26:30,970 -out chair? There it is! 445 00:26:31,310 --> 00:26:36,170 Wow. Yeah, that's where he goes, right there. Okay, now, I see X's. Look at 446 00:26:36,170 --> 00:26:38,710 this. You have, look at, look at, it's the path. 447 00:26:39,490 --> 00:26:41,730 The whole path is dotted with fights. 448 00:26:41,930 --> 00:26:45,350 That does explain why the exes are here. 449 00:26:46,070 --> 00:26:47,690 Fight, overgroom. 450 00:26:48,190 --> 00:26:49,870 Fight, self -medicate. 451 00:26:50,070 --> 00:26:54,310 Now, I know that you guys catch him overgrooming. You're always stopping 452 00:26:54,470 --> 00:26:59,310 When I do it, I try not to just say stop and walk away. I start rubbing his 453 00:26:59,310 --> 00:27:02,230 belly and scritching his back and scritching him around the neck and get 454 00:27:02,230 --> 00:27:07,170 purr and then walk away. As we uncover the facts, as we look at the exes on the 455 00:27:07,170 --> 00:27:10,800 ground, It's very clear to me what's going on. It's all insecurity. 456 00:27:11,280 --> 00:27:15,560 He wants control so badly, and of course he can't have it. 457 00:27:15,920 --> 00:27:17,960 So, let's get to some homework. 458 00:27:18,240 --> 00:27:23,080 First of all, catification 2 .0. I want you to get what I call a diffusion post, 459 00:27:23,360 --> 00:27:27,180 just a big scratching post, and put it right by those chairs in the kitchen. 460 00:27:27,420 --> 00:27:30,100 The cats get into trouble when they have straight lines at each other. 461 00:27:30,360 --> 00:27:34,540 The diffusion post acts as a traffic circle, so a cat can get away from 462 00:27:34,540 --> 00:27:39,580 cat. Because right where that bunch of X's are, right there in the kitchen, 463 00:27:39,580 --> 00:27:42,820 the center of all things nasty at this point. This is the essence of 464 00:27:42,820 --> 00:27:46,800 catification. Get them to do what you want behavior -wise by directing the 465 00:27:46,800 --> 00:27:50,580 traffic. The over -grooming part of things is really important here. The 466 00:27:50,580 --> 00:27:54,200 is you see him over -grooming and you pick him up. You cuddle him. You're 467 00:27:54,200 --> 00:27:57,220 actually rewarding him for doing it. I want to see you do something else. 468 00:27:57,480 --> 00:27:59,700 So redirect means toys. 469 00:28:00,020 --> 00:28:01,020 It means treats. 470 00:28:01,260 --> 00:28:04,380 It means something that just grabs his attention so that he just forgets what 471 00:28:04,380 --> 00:28:05,099 was doing. 472 00:28:05,100 --> 00:28:09,560 The more we see a stabilization of territory, the more his hair is going to 473 00:28:09,560 --> 00:28:14,720 back. For all of the therapy that he gave you, your chance to give it back. 474 00:28:14,720 --> 00:28:17,360 needs his therapy, human, right now. I don't want to see him suffer. 475 00:28:17,600 --> 00:28:22,800 Yeah, no. And, hey, listen, we're already a good way down the road. Let's 476 00:28:22,800 --> 00:28:23,519 close the deal. 477 00:28:23,520 --> 00:28:27,480 From the beginning, when Salem and I picked each other out, he's been there 478 00:28:27,480 --> 00:28:32,620 me 100%, reducing my stress level. Now I'm committed to give that back to him 479 00:28:32,620 --> 00:28:33,980 because he's given me so much. 480 00:28:36,750 --> 00:28:37,770 Bartholomew, stop it. 481 00:28:38,150 --> 00:28:39,150 Get away from there. 482 00:28:43,670 --> 00:28:49,370 I am back to see David and Shari and their cat, Bartholomew. Last time I was 483 00:28:49,370 --> 00:28:53,910 here, these guys took normal behavior and turned it into a codependent toxic 484 00:28:53,910 --> 00:28:57,570 cocktail. Hopefully this time around, these guys have taken a logical approach 485 00:28:57,570 --> 00:29:01,010 to the scratching and to their relationship with their cat. 486 00:29:01,310 --> 00:29:02,450 How are things going in this house? 487 00:29:03,020 --> 00:29:04,160 The news is good? 488 00:29:04,380 --> 00:29:05,380 The news is great. 489 00:29:05,520 --> 00:29:06,399 The news is great. 490 00:29:06,400 --> 00:29:07,400 Yeah. Great. 491 00:29:07,600 --> 00:29:10,580 Wonderful. I mean, you're smiling like crazy. What's going on here? 492 00:29:10,820 --> 00:29:17,760 Well, we put the cat furniture and cat posts out and toys and made a 493 00:29:17,760 --> 00:29:19,700 cat amusement park in here. 494 00:29:19,920 --> 00:29:20,879 That's fantastic. 495 00:29:20,880 --> 00:29:22,240 He's left the furniture alone. 496 00:29:22,760 --> 00:29:26,620 Amazing. You know what? On that note, let's watch it. 497 00:29:26,860 --> 00:29:29,720 What we did over here is we put the double -sided tape. 498 00:29:31,240 --> 00:29:36,460 And now we have the brand -new scratching post furniture. 499 00:29:36,900 --> 00:29:40,940 And we place next to this very active area for Bartholomew. 500 00:29:43,340 --> 00:29:44,500 Oh, I love that. 501 00:29:44,740 --> 00:29:51,640 Yeah. In the video, I can see the no -yes being executed to the T because 502 00:29:51,640 --> 00:29:56,560 being told no, but given a proper outlet right to the side of that couch, it's 503 00:29:56,560 --> 00:29:57,560 working perfectly. 504 00:29:58,800 --> 00:29:59,800 Nice. 505 00:30:00,240 --> 00:30:03,600 I feel like we made some significant progress today. 506 00:30:03,980 --> 00:30:07,220 David's been putting in a tremendous amount of effort. 507 00:30:07,980 --> 00:30:12,900 Bartholomew playing with him, feeding him every single day. 508 00:30:13,280 --> 00:30:17,140 Look at David. I mean, you're petting him for a really long time. This is 509 00:30:17,140 --> 00:30:18,140 wonderful. 510 00:30:18,420 --> 00:30:19,680 There it is. 511 00:30:22,920 --> 00:30:24,860 He's absolutely enjoying it. Wow, that's wonderful. 512 00:30:25,220 --> 00:30:29,600 David absolutely executed that bonding homework, and he got the payoff. Right 513 00:30:29,600 --> 00:30:34,300 now he has a relationship with Bartholomew, where before not only was 514 00:30:34,480 --> 00:30:35,860 but the cat was scared of him too. 515 00:30:36,820 --> 00:30:37,820 Great stuff. 516 00:30:37,980 --> 00:30:42,240 So when David started playing with him and feeding him, he started sleeping 517 00:30:42,240 --> 00:30:45,880 us all night on the bed. He just perches himself on the bed all night long. 518 00:30:46,480 --> 00:30:50,660 Wow. Yeah. The fact that Bartholomew is now sleeping in bed with the couple. 519 00:30:51,040 --> 00:30:54,680 That's it. That's the bond building. That's the belonging to an environment. 520 00:30:55,120 --> 00:30:56,120 That's proof. 521 00:30:56,360 --> 00:31:01,700 So, one other homework assignment. I wanted you to make a list of things that 522 00:31:01,700 --> 00:31:04,960 were distinctly Bartholomew, apart from Bandit. What do we got? 523 00:31:05,220 --> 00:31:08,840 Well, of course, I think that my Bartholomew is very sweet. 524 00:31:09,900 --> 00:31:11,480 He's very neat and clean. 525 00:31:12,760 --> 00:31:19,340 He wants to be affectionate, and he wants it to be loved. And Bartholomew is 526 00:31:19,340 --> 00:31:20,340 survivor. 527 00:31:20,460 --> 00:31:23,920 I admire that and I respect it and I have that in common with him. 528 00:31:24,620 --> 00:31:30,380 Before we adopted him, Bartholomew had a really rotten year and a half to two 529 00:31:30,380 --> 00:31:31,820 years living on the streets. 530 00:31:32,200 --> 00:31:37,800 And the fact that Bartholomew just walked into a new home and let all of 531 00:31:37,800 --> 00:31:41,420 and was willing to enjoy life and enjoy our couches. 532 00:31:42,800 --> 00:31:44,280 He's a real tough dude. 533 00:31:45,220 --> 00:31:46,220 So am I. 534 00:31:46,320 --> 00:31:47,320 Yeah. 535 00:31:47,880 --> 00:31:52,400 I love the fact that you can look at him and be reminded of your own strength 536 00:31:52,400 --> 00:31:58,420 and your history as a survivor and not there's a shadow of bandit. 537 00:31:59,080 --> 00:32:03,360 Bartholomew's now Bartholomew, and he occupies a place in your life that's so 538 00:32:03,360 --> 00:32:06,240 much better. And then there's the other payoff, the furniture. 539 00:32:07,280 --> 00:32:10,860 All the way around. Good work, you guys. Good work. Look, these guys have done a 540 00:32:10,860 --> 00:32:14,540 great job with their homework, but I want to see one thing before I leave 541 00:32:14,540 --> 00:32:16,940 today, and that's David's interaction with Bartholomew. 542 00:32:17,290 --> 00:32:18,470 Hey, Barty Moo. 543 00:32:21,350 --> 00:32:26,790 The last time I was here, David claimed that Bartholomew would not let him near. 544 00:32:27,050 --> 00:32:27,729 Good boy. 545 00:32:27,730 --> 00:32:30,590 Now we have a bond. David has earned his trust. 546 00:32:30,850 --> 00:32:35,330 Now, step back for a second. Look at how he looks at you. Gives you that look of 547 00:32:35,330 --> 00:32:41,590 like, you're my man. In a few weeks, you guys basically went from 548 00:32:41,590 --> 00:32:46,660 being... kind of acquaintances to having a true relationship, and that's a 549 00:32:46,660 --> 00:32:47,660 credit to you. 550 00:32:47,720 --> 00:32:51,160 Honestly, we could have fixed the scratching problem. I could have walked 551 00:32:51,160 --> 00:32:56,800 from here. But without relationships formed and repaired, it feels like a 552 00:32:56,800 --> 00:32:57,800 victory. 553 00:32:57,920 --> 00:33:02,000 Seeing David and Bartholomew right now, this is a job well done. 554 00:33:02,560 --> 00:33:03,560 Good work, buddy. 555 00:33:04,270 --> 00:33:08,910 You know, we didn't know what was going to happen in this process. And some of 556 00:33:08,910 --> 00:33:13,230 it was really difficult, having to grieve for Bandit. You know, that's a 557 00:33:13,230 --> 00:33:15,810 process. But they have made a lot of progress. 558 00:33:16,030 --> 00:33:21,330 And now it's a happier household. And it just keeps getting better. 559 00:33:23,730 --> 00:33:25,330 How have your stress levels been lately? 560 00:33:26,010 --> 00:33:30,310 Well, last week I did have to take a mental health day. On days like that, my 561 00:33:30,310 --> 00:33:32,530 hope would be that that's where... 562 00:33:32,920 --> 00:33:33,920 Sam does his job. 563 00:33:35,020 --> 00:33:36,020 Did he do his job? 564 00:33:50,640 --> 00:33:54,840 I'm here to meet up with Molly and Kyle and their cat, Otitis. This is a story 565 00:33:54,840 --> 00:33:59,060 about a woman and a cat who found each other at exactly the right time. 566 00:34:00,260 --> 00:34:01,260 Hey! 567 00:34:02,440 --> 00:34:03,740 Good to see you. You too. 568 00:34:04,240 --> 00:34:07,020 Look at this. As soon as I walk in, it's a cat. 569 00:34:07,340 --> 00:34:10,940 Is this our man? This is our Titan? He is the one and only. 570 00:34:12,139 --> 00:34:17,179 He's so unique. And so what is his deal? 571 00:34:17,600 --> 00:34:24,480 So he was a rescue. His previous owners had him, and he started developing like 572 00:34:24,480 --> 00:34:26,060 this infection in his ears. 573 00:34:27,800 --> 00:34:30,800 The vet recommended that he get this treatment for it. And for some reason or 574 00:34:30,800 --> 00:34:34,840 another, they just decided, nope, not going to treat it. And this progressed, 575 00:34:34,960 --> 00:34:38,639 and it got so bad that eventually it required ear amputation. 576 00:34:39,000 --> 00:34:40,000 Wow. 577 00:34:40,580 --> 00:34:44,679 Otitis had a pretty hard luck story, but the really hard luck part of it is that 578 00:34:44,679 --> 00:34:46,780 his previous family could have saved those ears. 579 00:34:47,139 --> 00:34:49,480 That infection could have been treated. 580 00:34:49,719 --> 00:34:52,320 So what brought you to him? 581 00:34:52,730 --> 00:34:58,970 So in March of 2014, I was on my way back to college, and I got into a pretty 582 00:34:58,970 --> 00:34:59,970 nasty car accident. 583 00:35:01,550 --> 00:35:04,870 I have amnesia from it. I don't remember anything that happened. I was knocked 584 00:35:04,870 --> 00:35:05,870 unconscious. 585 00:35:06,010 --> 00:35:10,250 I remember waking up with, like, spitting out glass, with, like, blood 586 00:35:10,310 --> 00:35:12,930 and people being like, ma 'am, you got to stay calm. 587 00:35:13,350 --> 00:35:18,730 I didn't know my name. I didn't know where I was. And I had terrible anxiety 588 00:35:18,730 --> 00:35:19,730 a result. 589 00:35:19,990 --> 00:35:24,690 After the accident, when I would start to have anxiety or a panic attack, 590 00:35:24,930 --> 00:35:30,930 getting through each day was just a huge struggle. I was losing all hope. I was 591 00:35:30,930 --> 00:35:31,930 nauseous every night. 592 00:35:32,350 --> 00:35:33,770 I was so depressed. 593 00:35:39,130 --> 00:35:41,670 I was so miserable, I wanted to drop out of school. 594 00:35:42,110 --> 00:35:45,770 So then I was thinking about it, I'm like, you know, I'm happiest when I'm 595 00:35:45,770 --> 00:35:48,090 animals. I need to... 596 00:35:48,380 --> 00:35:53,420 get a cat. And I met him, and I'm like, oh, I need him. 597 00:35:53,700 --> 00:36:00,240 Otitis and I both had a rough couple of years, I guess you could say, prior to 598 00:36:00,240 --> 00:36:04,140 the adoption. So I think for both of us, we just had that instantaneous click 599 00:36:04,140 --> 00:36:07,480 that we knew it was just going to work. I adopted him, and it was just like 600 00:36:07,480 --> 00:36:09,280 instantaneous change. 601 00:36:09,540 --> 00:36:10,920 I was able to sleep. Wow. 602 00:36:11,200 --> 00:36:16,420 So symptomatically, you went from not being able to function to okay? 603 00:36:16,660 --> 00:36:17,800 Yeah. Oh, yeah. 604 00:36:18,240 --> 00:36:21,820 The reason that he came into my life was because of his ear infection. 605 00:36:22,080 --> 00:36:25,580 Right. I was really going through a lot, struggling with a lot, and we kind of 606 00:36:25,580 --> 00:36:28,980 both had our own battles that we were fighting, so we understood each other, 607 00:36:28,980 --> 00:36:31,700 it worked out really well. It's amazing how... 608 00:36:32,390 --> 00:36:35,590 Perfectly. He's come into your life. Do you know what I mean? 609 00:36:35,830 --> 00:36:41,090 Oh, yeah. Otitis has helped me in so many ways. I wrote this story about him. 610 00:36:41,450 --> 00:36:47,230 So this is called The Adventures of Otitis. Oh, look at this picture. Poor 611 00:36:48,050 --> 00:36:54,230 So it's him and his journey. I'm a speech pathologist, and we use books a 612 00:36:54,230 --> 00:36:59,370 therapy. So it's just to inspire people to be proud of your differences. 613 00:37:00,160 --> 00:37:03,580 You know, it takes somebody like Molly, somebody who's got their own scars, and 614 00:37:03,580 --> 00:37:08,100 to see a cat like Otitis and look past the physical and see the true beauty. 615 00:37:08,240 --> 00:37:11,980 That book is going to change a lot of lives. So many cats like Otitis die in 616 00:37:11,980 --> 00:37:16,260 shelters every day just because they don't look right. When you're looking 617 00:37:16,260 --> 00:37:20,980 cat to adopt, don't go by the looks, man, because you might have that cat 618 00:37:20,980 --> 00:37:23,820 heaven waiting for you. They just don't look the way you think they will. Thank 619 00:37:23,820 --> 00:37:26,560 you again so much. It was really wonderful to meet you. 620 00:37:26,800 --> 00:37:29,000 And you, and you. 621 00:37:30,010 --> 00:37:34,270 Keep it up. Man, these two came along at the perfect time to save each other, 622 00:37:34,350 --> 00:37:39,050 and now paying it forward so that kids all over the world know that sometimes 623 00:37:39,050 --> 00:37:40,430 being different is cool. 624 00:37:40,750 --> 00:37:41,990 Doesn't get any better than that. 625 00:37:43,490 --> 00:37:44,490 Say one. 626 00:37:51,410 --> 00:37:55,450 I'm here for my final visit with David and Melissa and their cat, Salem. When I 627 00:37:55,450 --> 00:37:58,770 first met these guys, we were dealing with mayhem, straight -up mayhem in this 628 00:37:58,770 --> 00:38:03,240 house. There have been massive improvements, but for someone like David 629 00:38:03,240 --> 00:38:08,260 severe PTSD, it's about consistency. Day after day, things get better, and 630 00:38:08,260 --> 00:38:09,720 that's what I want to see right now. 631 00:38:11,280 --> 00:38:13,080 How's life in this household with cats? 632 00:38:13,300 --> 00:38:16,940 In the last couple days, Phelan's been trying to play with Dexter like he used 633 00:38:16,940 --> 00:38:18,360 to. Wow, that's amazing. 634 00:38:18,700 --> 00:38:22,000 I really can see them getting back to the way they used to be. 635 00:38:22,380 --> 00:38:24,120 Let's go through our video homework. 636 00:38:24,600 --> 00:38:26,860 So we moved the cat post out. 637 00:38:27,980 --> 00:38:33,200 To the middle of the lane in the kitchen. He really enjoyed it. The 638 00:38:33,200 --> 00:38:37,360 post concept has worked perfectly. The kitchen used to be where all the big 639 00:38:37,360 --> 00:38:40,460 fights happened. Now we have a traffic circle in the middle of the house. 640 00:38:40,760 --> 00:38:43,500 There's no way to go straight towards the other cat. 641 00:38:43,800 --> 00:38:45,120 Brilliant. Hey. 642 00:38:45,540 --> 00:38:46,980 Hey. Oh, now he's looking. 643 00:38:49,380 --> 00:38:50,600 Dexter wants to play. 644 00:38:51,700 --> 00:38:56,120 Good work. The idea is if you can get him even moving, you take two steps. 645 00:38:56,750 --> 00:38:58,070 He'll forget what he was doing. 646 00:38:58,290 --> 00:39:02,330 It's that moment of just, what was I doing? Oh, I'm eating. 647 00:39:02,650 --> 00:39:04,970 That's what I'm doing. Oh, I'm playing. That's what I'm doing. 648 00:39:06,070 --> 00:39:11,410 Look at all that fur growing. Look at that. 649 00:39:12,510 --> 00:39:17,090 I mean, we know that it takes about six to eight weeks for that hair to really 650 00:39:17,090 --> 00:39:21,170 start growing back in a good way. But in a couple of weeks, I'm seeing fur, man. 651 00:39:21,250 --> 00:39:24,890 I'm seeing fur on his belly. The first time I met Salem, it was bad. 652 00:39:25,190 --> 00:39:29,540 And this time around, full -on hair growing back, when he overgrooms, it's a 653 00:39:29,540 --> 00:39:33,600 self -soother. If he doesn't need to do that anymore, then that means his life 654 00:39:33,600 --> 00:39:34,578 is better. 655 00:39:34,580 --> 00:39:39,200 So, great stuff all the way around. In general, David, how have your stress 656 00:39:39,200 --> 00:39:40,200 levels been lately? 657 00:39:40,580 --> 00:39:43,640 Well, last week I did have to take a mental health day. 658 00:39:43,940 --> 00:39:48,000 It didn't have anything to do with the cats or anything like that. On days like 659 00:39:48,000 --> 00:39:51,960 that, my hope would be that that's where Sam does his job. 660 00:39:52,740 --> 00:39:53,760 Did he do his job? 661 00:40:01,900 --> 00:40:03,440 How have your stress levels been lately? 662 00:40:04,480 --> 00:40:07,580 Well, last week I did have to take a mental health day. 663 00:40:07,860 --> 00:40:10,600 It didn't have anything to do with the cats or anything like that. 664 00:40:10,900 --> 00:40:15,820 On days like that, my hope would be that that's where Tim does his job. 665 00:40:16,380 --> 00:40:17,400 Did he do his job? 666 00:40:17,780 --> 00:40:18,499 Oh, yeah. 667 00:40:18,500 --> 00:40:19,640 Yeah, there we go. 668 00:40:20,320 --> 00:40:23,560 He stayed in bed with me for a while the night before. 669 00:40:24,280 --> 00:40:26,820 I had a lot of bad dreams that night. 670 00:40:27,260 --> 00:40:30,220 He actually got up there and did the kneading. He did his thing. 671 00:40:30,650 --> 00:40:31,650 Fur in my face. 672 00:40:32,110 --> 00:40:33,110 That's crazy. 673 00:40:33,210 --> 00:40:36,150 I never will get over that, how crazy that is. 674 00:40:36,370 --> 00:40:38,730 The stakes were so high in this house. 675 00:40:38,950 --> 00:40:44,190 I mean, PTSD is no joke, man. And now to hear that Salem is back to his therapy 676 00:40:44,190 --> 00:40:48,190 cat duties and is acting playful with the other cats instead of attacking 677 00:40:48,290 --> 00:40:52,990 that makes me so happy. But there's one thing left that I want to check out. 678 00:40:53,390 --> 00:40:54,390 Well, hi. 679 00:40:55,650 --> 00:40:56,930 What are we doing? 680 00:40:58,250 --> 00:40:59,650 Hello, my friends. 681 00:41:00,620 --> 00:41:02,340 Hi, Dexter and Salem. 682 00:41:02,700 --> 00:41:06,420 I am really glad to see the two of you like this. I really am. 683 00:41:06,680 --> 00:41:11,740 These guys put in a lot of work to get to this spot where these cats have a 684 00:41:11,740 --> 00:41:12,740 healed relationship. 685 00:41:12,780 --> 00:41:13,820 Hi, buddy, buddy. 686 00:41:14,800 --> 00:41:18,920 Getting to spend a moment with them, I can see how comfortable they are. 687 00:41:18,920 --> 00:41:19,920 comfortable with me. 688 00:41:20,660 --> 00:41:22,400 Tells me that this family's been helped. 689 00:41:22,940 --> 00:41:26,200 His confidence level's clearly up from... 690 00:41:26,570 --> 00:41:28,850 The last time I was here. You're being the therapy human. 691 00:41:29,050 --> 00:41:30,050 Yep. 692 00:41:30,490 --> 00:41:33,690 If there's the one guy that's sitting out there and they're struggling and 693 00:41:33,690 --> 00:41:36,990 everything like that, get some kind of animal. It will make a difference in 694 00:41:36,990 --> 00:41:40,550 life. You may be feeling terrible, but if you can sit there and pet that 695 00:41:40,710 --> 00:41:45,230 pet that cat, pet that dog, that tension's going to come out and you're 696 00:41:45,230 --> 00:41:49,330 going to relax and then just realize that you're not alone because there's a 697 00:41:49,330 --> 00:41:51,150 of other people out there that are hurting just like you. 698 00:41:53,350 --> 00:41:58,070 Millions of people like David suffer from PTSD, and many suffer in silence. 699 00:41:58,330 --> 00:42:02,190 If you or someone that you know is suffering from post -traumatic stress 700 00:42:02,190 --> 00:42:08,870 disorder, go to the National Center for PTSD at ptsd .va .gov 701 00:42:08,870 --> 00:42:10,550 for answers and support. 702 00:42:11,550 --> 00:42:13,150 Know that you're not alone. 61315

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