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You are everything that we could
have wished for him.
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Previously...
He told me that he loved me.
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..Abigail and John's home
stay touched hearts...
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I can't express how happy I am.
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..but others were left broken.
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I struggle to see a future
with Leo outside of the experiment.
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He's trying, and you're not.
Maybe she's not for you.
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Leisha,
you really want to settle down,
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I need to have that gut feeling
that you're the same.
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If I was in your position,
I would leave.
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..leaving some... I'm not sure
if I could leave home.
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..with more questions than answers.
If we can't come to an agreement,
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then we're both going to end
up with broken hearts.
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And a shocking discovery...
If you're married,
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do you think it's appropriate
to be on a dating website?
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..was the nail in the coffin
for Nelly and Steven's marriage.
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I'm not on anything. Yes, you are.
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Why have you wasted your time
in this experiment, and told her,
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"I really want to see it work,"
when actually you had no intention?
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This marriage is over.
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I want nothing to do
with Steven any more.
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Tonight... I've never felt like this
before about anybody.
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..it's the final commitment
ceremony... I love you now,
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I loved you at the wedding day,
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and I'm just so excited
for everything.
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While some couples
are more certain than ever before...
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I cannot imagine the rest of my life
with anyone else.
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..damage from home stays...
I did feel the pressure a lot of,
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"Becca, are you going to move
to Hove?"
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..pushed others further apart.
I'm not ready to say yes to that.
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We have had a lot
of unnecessary drama.
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Do I need that?
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How is that possible?
In seven weeks,
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how do I not know you?
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And Steven's secret scandal...
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I found out he was busy swiping on
a dating app.
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I wasn't. ..sends shock waves
through the group.
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That is Steven's profile,
which is verified.
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That is not me. It's your face.
Of course I'm going to deny it,
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because I know
what I'm saying is true.
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That is not me on Hinge.
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Good morning, darling.
Hello, little one.
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Thank you very much.
Do you want some healthy greens?
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Yes, thank you.
Start the day off right.
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Do you want some eye masks on?
Come on then, make me all pretty.
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After time away at home stays,
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the couples are settling back into
the apartments.
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Strangely weird being back.
We've definitely come back stronger.
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Yeah, definitely.
I think the argument
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was hugely beneficial
to our relationship, overall.
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Yeah, it gave us the opportunity
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to learn more on how
to deal with situations.
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I wouldn't change it.
Love you more.
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Love you.
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Mwah.
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Going into this commitment ceremony,
I've got a lot of clarity.
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During this home stay,
I've learned that Stephen
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has been busy swiping women on
a dating app.
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Sad, really.
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I've done a bit more digging,
and Steven is lying.
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Are you really telling me that
that verified account isn't you?
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Honestly, if he owned it,
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this would be a completely
different commitment ceremony.
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If you don't have the basic
respect to even give me the truth,
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then I can't help you at this point.
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I'm done protecting you now,
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but if you want to play that game,
I'm prepared.
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That's not a problem by me.
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The end of the home stay with Nelly,
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yeah, not how I anticipated it
would go.
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I thought I was going to Manchester
purely to
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have a check with Nelly and I,
and just to hash a few things out.
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When her friend come in and told me
I was on a dating app, was,
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was shocking.
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When I'm still in this experiment,
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how stupid would I be to go on
a dating app?
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I think there'll be a fair bit
of animosity from Nelly towards me.
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She probably will want
to get answers, but my head's clear,
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so, if they want to bring it up,
then, I've got the answers for it.
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We'll see once we get to
the commitment ceremony.
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Here you go, babe. Thank you.
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After home stays, I'm like, wow,
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like, that was so good for us.
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The more, kind of, milestones,
I guess, we go through,
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it just strengthens, like, our bond
and it just makes me realise how,
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what an incredible relationship,
like, we do have.
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Home stay has definitely given us
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a taste of what life could be
like outside of the experiment.
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Our family can see our
genuine connection,
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so, I'm really excited
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and, I think we're going to have,
like,
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an incredible life ahead of us.
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People can see the effect
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that this relationship
is having on us,
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and we're both becoming
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better versions
of ourselves because of each other.
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Yeah,
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and just makes me really excited
for everything that's to come.
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So, what do you feel
like you're going
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to do today with the decision?
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I don't know, I'm like
in two minds at the moment.
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OK. The thought of leaving today,
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yeah, it makes me sad,
because we've had a good home stay
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and it's been so good,
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and I did see her
in a different light.
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Now I'm thinking,
could it work on the outside world?
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There's all these
different positives,
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but also some negatives in there,
like, swooshing around.
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She doesn't trust me. Why?
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Because, I've
disrespected her apparently,
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throughout this process. How?
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Obviously, there was the
overfamiliar thing with you,
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and then there was me saying Leisha
was more my type.
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But I did say that because she asked
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me outright at a dinner party.
I'm not going to lie.
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Like I wouldn't mind
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if I've actually disrespected her,
or I've actually done something,
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do you know what I mean?
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I just think it's so unfair not
to be able to trust me.
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It's tough because you want to
give it a chance,
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but I feel like you've given it
a chance for such a long time,
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do you know what I mean?
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It's like huge decision
for me today, definitely.
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After the home stays, me and April,
we are in separate apartments.
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I was really holding out hope
that the home stays
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were going
to be make rather than break.
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The feedback
from my friends wasn't great,
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but my mum and my sister
communicated to me that,
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if you do like her still, you
shouldn't give up right away.
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I have had a lot of feelings
for April, and I still do,
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to be honest. We've had ups
and downs,
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but I really hoped
that we were going to fall in love.
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My head
and my heart really aren't aligned,
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so I've really got
to make this decision wisely.
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It's got to be what's best
for me moving forward.
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Going into home stays,
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the hope that was there was
that I could see the real Leo
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and see
if his personality did come out,
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that he's been talking about all
this time, but that didn't happen.
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Leo's friends confirmed
what I thought,
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which is I'm not getting the real
Leo.
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We've got completely
different personalities,
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and we just haven't gelled.
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I came into this experiment wanting
to find someone
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I could genuinely spend the rest
of my life with.
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I was so hopeful at the beginning
that it was going to work out,
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and, up until this point,
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I've definitely put Leo's feelings
before mine,
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but today is the opportunity
for me to make sure
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that I'm doing what's right for me.
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I want to lay everything out on
the table,
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I'm going to be brutally honest.
This is my time to get
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what I've been thinking
and feeling off of my chest.
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Hey. All right? Yes.
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My anxieties are starting to creep
in a little bit.
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My family loved Reiss
They really, really want it to work.
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The only concern they had was
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when he told them
that he's just not quite there yet.
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Reiss needs to be completely honest
with himself,
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and he needs to really decide
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whether I am his lifelong partner
that he's always wanted.
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So, I think we've always kind
of known that,
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like, my feelings have been a little
bit stronger than yours
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since the start,
which is obviously not nice for me.
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It's never nice to hear that.
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I keep my emotions, like,
quite closed off to begin with,
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until I feel, like, comfortable,
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or until I feel sure,
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and then I can start, like, letting
the barriers down a bit.
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Do you think I am somebody
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that you'd want
to spend the rest of your life with?
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You need to ask yourself that.
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Do you know that answer?
Yeah, you do.
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And am I? Yeah, of course you are.
Yeah.
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You're everything I've ever wanted
in a man.
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SHE SOBS
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Why are you getting upset?
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I'm just scared that, like,
what we've got is just not gonna be
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strong enough for,
like, the outside.
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Like, I think I know the answers
for me,
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but obviously...
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..I don't fully know
the answers from you yet,
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and obviously,
I just get really scared.
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It's never nice seeing
Leisha upset.
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I know she's getting a bit emotional
because she's panicking,
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what's going to happen on
the outside?
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Also, I've got a lot to think about.
It's important for me to make
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the right decision today,
because Leisha could end
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up being, like, the woman
for the rest of my life.
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So, I do need to reflect
on everything,
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I need to make sure I'm making
that right choice.
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I certainly know
that my feelings are very,
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very strong for Reiss,
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and I really want the experts
to ask Reiss where his feelings are.
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It is a very vulnerable moment
for me.
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I'm pretty much giving
somebody my heart
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and soul,
and they could easily crush it.
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But I want him to tell me directly,
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does he see a lifelong partner in me
or not?
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Welcome to your final
commitment ceremony.
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It's been incredible to see all of
your journeys unfold
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with your time with us.
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This is the last time that you get
to bring your marriage to
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the couch and share with us
where you're at
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at this pivotal
stage in the experiment,
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and make that final decision on
whether to stay or leave.
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Before we begin,
obviously, you'll all notice
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that Grace and Ashley
are not with us today.
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They've had a rocky couple of weeks,
and as a result,
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they felt they needed more time
to reflect,
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and they won't be joining us today.
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Now, a lot has happened
since we last met.
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We know it's been a high-pressured,
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emotional time for many of you,
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so let's start unpacking.
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First up on the couch,
if we could have...
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..Davide and Keye.
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Come on.
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All right, gents, how are we? Good.
We're great.
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Ups and downs, but... Good overall.
..yeah.
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Right, home stays. Mm-hm.
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Had a bit of a moment.
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So, Davide and I went to a cat cafe.
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I don't much care for cats,
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but obviously they are important
to Davide, as Davide has a cat.
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But, I also don't particularly
like small spaces,
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so, the cat cafe was a basement,
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which was a very small, enclosed
space with eight cats,
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so, I became extremely overwhelmed
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and extremely uncomfortable...
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..and completely shut down,
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so left.
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We both tried to communicate.
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I then felt
that Davide said something
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that was condescending,
so stormed off again,
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and then I spent the night
separately.
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Wow. Yeah.
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For me, I was frustrated
because I could
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tell something was wrong,
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I just didn't understand
what it was.
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I didn't understand it was
the space,
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the cats, the questions,
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and then when you decided to leave,
you decided to leave by yourself.
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All right, so just so I'm clear,
so Keye,
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where did you go that evening?
So, I went back to my apartment.
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Wow, so you went back home. Yeah.
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And I don't do well
with people walking away
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from me,
because I kind of feel abandoned.
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So Keye, I'm curious, do you retreat
because you feel overwhelmed,
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or do you fear being left?
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In the cat cafe situation,
that was just I had to get out.
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It's better for me to take myself
out of that situation,
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than say something
I can't take back,
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or that I'm going to regret
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that, in the heat of the moment is
what I mean,
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but in actuality I have,
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there's no real meaning
behind it whatsoever.
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OK, but it sounds like you're saying
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that you do admit this is
an unhealthy behaviour.
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100%. OK. 100%.
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But I heard you just mention
that you've figured out
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a resolution around it. Yeah.
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Going forward in those situations,
we're both going to make a gesture,
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whether it's a word, a signal,
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pull the other out of whatever
the situation is,
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and then try and go back into
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the situation
to resolve it properly.
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If we can't, we put a pin in it.
Pin in it, discuss it later.
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Yeah. Great. But I think
the other piece of this is,
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I think, Keye, you should really
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think about, "What is driving me to
retreat?"
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You mentioned most of the time
it's being overwhelmed.
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Right. So if you mark
that as a trigger... M-hm.
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..then you can figure out together
how you will not be overwhelmed,
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you can begin to set conditions.
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"I feel overwhelmed when I'm
in a small space."
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Yeah. So we now know,
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as a team, we're not
going to do this.
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Yeah. Yeah. Well done.
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I'm curious about friends and
family.
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So what was the feedback
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from your friends
and family about your relationship?
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My friends could totally see
that I've never had this before,
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like, they say
that the way we look at each other,
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I've never done that with anyone,
and they can see a huge
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connection between both of us.
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And yeah,
they just loved him massively.
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It was great to see him be himself
around my friends.
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OK, so then, Keye, your friends
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and family,
what were their thoughts on Davide?
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My friends absolutely loved Davide,
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they loved the calmer side,
and like just how at ease
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that I feel
in myself now, around him,
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how, just,
genuine our connection was
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and how we were bouncing off
of each other,
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um, yeah. It's,
yeah, absolutely loved him,
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loved him to pieces.
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All right,
so now we can go to a decision.
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I'm going to let you decide
who goes first.
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I can't believe how much
we've grown since we met.
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You make all of the best parts of me
so much better,
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like, just by being yourself and,
like,
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amplify them
and then find a way to love all of
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the parts I don't really like
about myself.
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So, for that reason,
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I have chosen to stay.
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I love you.
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All right, here we go.
So for this entire time,
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I've seen parts of me with you,
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that I haven't seen
in a very long time,
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and I haven't been
this happy ever...
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..and I would have never chosen
to do this with anyone else.
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Because I can be me...
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..and just see you
and me growing together.
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And I'm never leaving you
because you're stuck with me now.
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So, I decided to stay
for that reason.
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Oh, there's a cat!
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Oh! You know
what I've truly appreciated
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about your journey is
that you two have been, what I say,
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people of their word.
You stood on your values,
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you stood on your beliefs.
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Continue to be of your word.
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Continue to be of your word.
Thank you. Thank you.
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Thank you, it means a lot.
I'm so happy for you.
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Thank you,
thank you, thank you so much.
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Yay! Love you.
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Our next couple tonight...
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..Leigh and Leah. Oh!
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Hello, you gorgeous things.
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So, tell me about your experience of
Partner Swap Week.
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Where has it brought you
to, right now?
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So I was with Leisha, and you
were with Davide.
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For me on my side,
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I came back from that all, like,
excited,
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and I just walked into
the Spanish Inquisition,
336
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you know, I sat
down and it was like,
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"Did you flirt with her?
Did she flirt with you?
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"Did you look at her?"
Just so many mad questions,
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and I was like, the excitement
of coming to see Leigh disappeared,
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and it was more, oh, God,
I feel like that Leigh that we saw
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before was kind of coming back
a little bit.
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So this
is the trust issue, isn't it, again?
343
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Yeah. We had another issue,
similar sort of situation.
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We went for drinks
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after a dinner party with, like
a few of the other couples,
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and Leah was with two girls,
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and I saw her around one girl more.
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Leah didn't introduce us
to each other,
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and so I got paranoid.
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And so in that moment,
I felt like there was more to it,
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and she was around this girl
and then the rest of us left,
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and Leah didn't want to leave,
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and I'm thinking it's
because she's with this girl,
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and my head just went
a million miles an hour.
355
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Can I just jump to Leah for a sec?
I'm just interested in that moment,
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were you aware
that Leigh was feeling insecure?
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For me,
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I'm not really a type of person
that would go out,
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and I've never disrespected someone
or like, the loyalty,
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I've never cheated,
so, I don't think like that.
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Like, I just 100% trust her,
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so I didn't ever think she wouldn't
with me.
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I guess what I'm hearing here is
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that you haven't yet established
that level of trust,
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where it can be comfortable
to flit off
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and do your social butterfly thing
and come back. Yeah, that's what
367
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I've learnt now. So what do you need
from Leah in order to build that?
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Just maybe a bit more reassurance
in certain moments.
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You know, we're not really 100%
sure on where we're at,
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so it's like, you can't
really expect too much
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because there isn't
certainty between us anyway.
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I think, you know, maybe it is time
for you to start having those
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really crucial conversations about
what you need.
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Mm-hm. So tell me about home stays.
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We've come out of home stays
all like, a rock and a hard place.
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Yeah. It's gone...
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Because we was at such
a low point just before home stay.
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The dinner party, we were like,
question mark,
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we don't know if we're going to even
do home stays,
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and then we had real open,
honest conversations at home stays,
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like, we actually had a really
good time. We did.
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I did see a different side to her
that I haven't seen.
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She was softer, like a little
bit more gentle to be around,
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and I think until the home stays
I didn't realise
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Leigh didn't 100% trust me,
because I found out then.
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OK. So I think you got a bit
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of validation
from like my auntie and my cousin,
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they were like,
"Leah likes to have fun.
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"She goes out, she makes 20 friends
and comes back
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"and they're all at her house
for a party."
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Stop deeping everything,
just go and have fun."
392
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And then we went to yours,
didn't we? Yes, that was a lot.
393
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OK.
394
00:19:37,200 --> 00:19:42,520
Um, Nicole's my best friend,
and she's always brutally honest,
395
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you know, she's always going
to tell me the truth.
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She was like,
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"If it was me at this point in
the experiment, I would have left."
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00:19:50,000 --> 00:19:53,120
I think for us, those doubts
were already there anyway,
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as well as the positives, both
are prominent in our minds.
400
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So I think, you know,
having both magnified
401
00:19:58,800 --> 00:20:01,440
during home stay has just,
I suppose,
402
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put us in a space where it's like,
right,
403
00:20:03,240 --> 00:20:05,240
well, now it's the last hurdle.
404
00:20:05,280 --> 00:20:07,720
Wh... Now we've got to make
a decision.
405
00:20:07,760 --> 00:20:09,240
The challenge we have now is
406
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that it's practically the end of
the experiment.
407
00:20:11,440 --> 00:20:12,720
Yeah.
408
00:20:15,560 --> 00:20:17,240
I mean, we could look at this
in a very
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black-and-white way
and say, well, you're not in love,
410
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you know, you're not having a
full-blown romantic relationship,
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therefore, end of days, move on.
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Yeah. But something's certainly
stopping us from saying that,
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and I can see
that it's stopping you guys
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from saying that, as well.
415
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Because we know this is not just
a friendship.
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I've known for ages
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there's something there
more than friendship,
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because each hurdle that we come to,
it's like we have
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another realisation of each other.
Like after home stay,
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we've got to see each other again
in a whole new light,
421
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we've learnt more about each other
that we didn't know,
422
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even eight weeks on,
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we're still learning
about each other now.
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So for me,
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I'm thinking these are more reasons
why we've been matched.
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Now we're like, ah...
427
00:21:01,880 --> 00:21:05,240
..I don't know. I wish
that home stay happened weeks ago.
428
00:21:05,280 --> 00:21:08,760
Yeah. That's what I feel like. Yeah.
429
00:21:08,800 --> 00:21:13,720
Mm, but I think for me as well,
I need 100% trust from my partner.
430
00:21:13,760 --> 00:21:16,800
Especially if we're gonna look
at taking this to the outside world,
431
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and we want to have a
long-distance relationship.
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I think that is a huge thing for me.
433
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I'm also thinking about
who I thought I was coming
434
00:21:25,880 --> 00:21:28,560
in here,
and who I've realised I am now.
435
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Can, can I give my all to somebody
in the ways that they need,
436
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with the stuff
that I've still got to work on?
437
00:21:35,800 --> 00:21:40,520
What you're saying, Leigh,
is, "Maybe I'm not ready.
438
00:21:40,560 --> 00:21:42,920
"Maybe, Leah, you
are the right partner for me,
439
00:21:42,960 --> 00:21:44,680
"but this is not the right time."
440
00:21:48,360 --> 00:21:50,040
I think these are very fair
441
00:21:50,080 --> 00:21:51,440
and important questions
to ask yourself.
442
00:21:51,480 --> 00:21:52,720
Yeah. Yeah.
443
00:21:56,200 --> 00:21:57,960
Well, look,
we're going to go to a decision.
444
00:21:58,000 --> 00:22:00,840
OK. Leah, we'll start with you.
What's your decision?
445
00:22:00,880 --> 00:22:04,040
For me, I guess
what Paul's just reiterating there
446
00:22:04,080 --> 00:22:07,640
is sometimes I don't know
if you are 100% ready for this.
447
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I don't know
448
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if maybe I'm the right person
for you in that sense.
449
00:22:15,760 --> 00:22:18,040
So, yeah, I have
found it really difficult today,
450
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But we've started this journey
from absolutely nothing,
451
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and each time I feel
like we've grown
452
00:22:26,600 --> 00:22:29,400
and grown and grown and grown. Yeah,
we've plateaued a couple of times,
453
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but there's a reason I'm still here,
and a reason you're still here.
454
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And I think each day I'm learning
so much about myself and about you.
455
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So, yeah, for that reason,
456
00:22:40,480 --> 00:22:43,480
I have chose to stay, to see
where this goes.
457
00:22:45,360 --> 00:22:46,880
Good stuff.
458
00:22:46,920 --> 00:22:47,960
And Leigh.
459
00:22:49,080 --> 00:22:52,440
Um, my head's been really conflicted
and all over the place.
460
00:22:53,520 --> 00:22:55,440
I've been back and forth about it,
461
00:22:55,480 --> 00:22:59,160
and nothing about it
is a reflection of you as a person,
462
00:22:59,200 --> 00:23:02,120
but while I'm still
not very trusting,
463
00:23:02,160 --> 00:23:05,400
and while I'm still,
maybe, not over things in my past,
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is it right for me, right now, to
put that on somebody else?
465
00:23:10,520 --> 00:23:12,680
And Nicole telling me
that she would leave
466
00:23:12,720 --> 00:23:16,680
at this point of the experiment,
gave me a lot to think about.
467
00:23:16,720 --> 00:23:19,080
But how I'm feeling right now
468
00:23:19,120 --> 00:23:20,600
about me and you is...
469
00:23:22,680 --> 00:23:24,960
..a lot more positive than
I felt a week ago.
470
00:23:25,000 --> 00:23:27,440
The connection feels better,
especially after home stay,
471
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I think that was needed at
that point,
472
00:23:29,880 --> 00:23:32,840
and I'm holding on to
the moment that we're in right now.
473
00:23:32,880 --> 00:23:36,560
It wouldn't feel right
in feeling how I feel to leave.
474
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So for that reason, I chose to stay.
475
00:23:39,280 --> 00:23:41,320
OK, wonderful.
476
00:23:42,960 --> 00:23:45,160
Well, some really honest,
477
00:23:45,200 --> 00:23:48,400
direct conversation between the two
of you.
478
00:23:48,440 --> 00:23:52,560
It's time to just open it all up
and lay it on the table.
479
00:23:53,640 --> 00:23:55,560
You can do this.
No, but thank you very much,
480
00:23:55,600 --> 00:23:57,440
we do appreciate you,
all three of you.
481
00:23:57,480 --> 00:23:59,840
Such a pleasure. Thank you. Thank
you. Wish you all the best.
482
00:23:59,880 --> 00:24:02,440
Thank you. Thanks, guys. Thank you.
483
00:24:10,600 --> 00:24:11,840
Next up on the couch...
484
00:24:14,920 --> 00:24:16,080
..if we could have...
485
00:24:17,480 --> 00:24:19,600
..Reiss and Leisha. Come on up.
486
00:24:21,840 --> 00:24:23,040
Hello.
487
00:24:27,160 --> 00:24:28,360
Oh, my gosh. All right,
488
00:24:28,400 --> 00:24:31,400
so we cannot wait to hear
about home stays,
489
00:24:31,440 --> 00:24:33,200
Reiss, had you been to
Scotland before?
490
00:24:33,240 --> 00:24:35,200
First time. First time? Mm-hm, yeah.
491
00:24:35,240 --> 00:24:39,560
So then, friends and family... Yeah.
..what do they think of Reiss?
492
00:24:39,600 --> 00:24:42,440
Oh, they love Reiss,
like, how can you not love Reiss?
493
00:24:42,480 --> 00:24:45,480
He's just, he's easy-going,
he's so nice, he's kind.
494
00:24:45,520 --> 00:24:47,320
Everybody got on so well.
495
00:24:47,360 --> 00:24:49,920
The only one thing I would
say with that,
496
00:24:49,960 --> 00:24:55,320
when Reiss left, my sister did say
to me, like, "Just be careful."
497
00:24:55,360 --> 00:24:56,880
I think she just was nervous
498
00:24:56,920 --> 00:24:58,800
that his feelings aren't
as strong as mine.
499
00:25:01,080 --> 00:25:03,640
That's interesting.
Reiss, what's your take on that?
500
00:25:03,680 --> 00:25:05,240
To me, honestly,
I don't think that's,
501
00:25:05,280 --> 00:25:06,680
that's not really a secret, is it?
502
00:25:07,720 --> 00:25:09,760
Not that I haven't got no emotions,
but I feel
503
00:25:09,800 --> 00:25:12,680
like, you're getting quicker to the
end goal, which is love, right?
504
00:25:12,720 --> 00:25:13,760
Mm-hm.
505
00:25:15,240 --> 00:25:18,400
So, you feel like Leisha is 100%
506
00:25:18,440 --> 00:25:20,680
into you and the relationship,
507
00:25:20,720 --> 00:25:23,680
and you're more, like, 80% into her
in the relationship.
508
00:25:23,720 --> 00:25:25,000
Probably, yeah.
509
00:25:28,000 --> 00:25:29,120
Leisha, how does it feel...
510
00:25:33,160 --> 00:25:37,200
..to be in a relationship, you know
that you're in it 100%...
511
00:25:39,080 --> 00:25:41,720
..and your partner's just
acknowledged he's 80% into it?
512
00:25:43,600 --> 00:25:45,680
I just want us to be
in love with each other,
513
00:25:45,720 --> 00:25:48,200
so, I mean, it's not nice, is it?
514
00:26:03,240 --> 00:26:04,280
Leisha, how does it feel...
515
00:26:07,880 --> 00:26:12,000
..to be in a relationship, you know
that you're in it 100%...
516
00:26:13,920 --> 00:26:16,640
..and your partner's just
acknowledged he's 80% into it?
517
00:26:18,640 --> 00:26:20,560
I just want us to be
in love with each other,
518
00:26:20,600 --> 00:26:23,120
so, I mean, it's not nice, is it?
519
00:26:29,240 --> 00:26:33,160
Cos it's just never nice to, like,
hear it, um...
520
00:26:40,160 --> 00:26:41,880
And I can't, I can't fake it, can I?
521
00:26:41,920 --> 00:26:43,960
I can't be like,
"Oh yeah, I'm 100% in it as well,"
522
00:26:44,000 --> 00:26:45,320
I've got to be honest.
523
00:26:47,160 --> 00:26:48,480
Like, I want to get there,
524
00:26:48,520 --> 00:26:50,560
I feel like we're going
in the right direction,
525
00:26:50,600 --> 00:26:52,840
but Leisha's a little bit more
ahead of me.
526
00:26:52,880 --> 00:26:57,000
Just from here and the dinner party,
one thing that is clear is there
527
00:26:57,040 --> 00:26:58,600
has been growth in this
relationship.
528
00:26:58,640 --> 00:27:01,200
Oh, for sure, yeah,
like I didn't start off at 80%.
529
00:27:01,240 --> 00:27:03,080
But the question, though, is,
530
00:27:03,120 --> 00:27:05,040
where are we going to go next?
531
00:27:05,080 --> 00:27:08,520
Because we are at the end of
the experiment,
532
00:27:08,560 --> 00:27:10,440
this is your last time on the couch.
533
00:27:10,480 --> 00:27:12,960
And the hope is
that, when you're leaving the couch,
534
00:27:13,000 --> 00:27:18,600
that there's clarity on
where the relationship could go.
535
00:27:18,640 --> 00:27:20,280
Leisha, where do you believe
536
00:27:20,320 --> 00:27:21,840
this relationship is going to go?
537
00:27:23,120 --> 00:27:27,280
To be honest with you, I don't feel
like I get the clarity that I need.
538
00:27:27,320 --> 00:27:28,720
Oh.
539
00:27:31,760 --> 00:27:35,120
I want it to go, we talk about kids,
540
00:27:35,160 --> 00:27:37,680
so I do feel like there's a slight
mixed messaging
541
00:27:37,720 --> 00:27:40,840
because I feel like, he does say
all these things,
542
00:27:40,880 --> 00:27:44,840
but then, he's then telling me now
that he's 80%.
543
00:27:48,600 --> 00:27:50,920
Reiss, what's the 20%?
544
00:27:50,960 --> 00:27:53,080
Throughout the relationship,
we have had
545
00:27:53,120 --> 00:27:54,840
a lot of, like, unnecessary drama,
546
00:27:54,880 --> 00:27:57,800
that's why my past relationship
didn't work out.
547
00:27:57,840 --> 00:27:59,240
Do I need that again?
548
00:28:00,320 --> 00:28:03,000
But that's what scares me,
is that every single time we have
549
00:28:03,040 --> 00:28:05,760
even the minor argument,
I can see Reiss...
550
00:28:05,800 --> 00:28:07,640
That's what scares me too,
though. ..pushing away,
551
00:28:07,680 --> 00:28:10,480
and I think that's real life.
That's marriage.
552
00:28:11,560 --> 00:28:14,400
This is what you're going
to experience in relationships.
553
00:28:14,440 --> 00:28:16,120
There will be times
where your partner
554
00:28:16,160 --> 00:28:19,400
is feeling a bit emotional
and they might just need a hug.
555
00:28:19,440 --> 00:28:21,640
They just might need
that physical touch.
556
00:28:21,680 --> 00:28:23,240
I just need Reiss to know that,
obviously,
557
00:28:23,280 --> 00:28:25,400
like, I do get irrational now
and again.
558
00:28:25,440 --> 00:28:26,440
It isn't coming from a place
559
00:28:26,480 --> 00:28:28,840
that I'm trying to be annoying
or I'm trying to,
560
00:28:28,880 --> 00:28:30,360
you know, make his life harder,
561
00:28:30,400 --> 00:28:32,960
I'm just, in that moment,
my, my emotions are everywhere,
562
00:28:33,000 --> 00:28:35,280
and I just need him to be like,
"I've got you.
563
00:28:35,320 --> 00:28:36,360
"You're my girl."
564
00:28:39,760 --> 00:28:42,400
You know, what has been consistent
in your relationship is
565
00:28:42,440 --> 00:28:46,480
that when emotions are high,
you react to it differently, right?
566
00:28:46,520 --> 00:28:48,080
Whereas, Reiss,
567
00:28:48,120 --> 00:28:51,400
what you like to do is you
like to take a step back, right?
568
00:28:51,440 --> 00:28:53,320
Leisha,
you like to take a step forward.
569
00:28:53,360 --> 00:28:55,880
Yeah. So you have to figure out, OK,
570
00:28:55,920 --> 00:28:58,160
in these moments,
which you will have,
571
00:28:58,200 --> 00:29:02,040
what can each of you do
to help better the situation?
572
00:29:03,280 --> 00:29:05,480
So Reiss, what's one lesson
that you've picked
573
00:29:05,520 --> 00:29:07,840
up from this advice
that you received?
574
00:29:07,880 --> 00:29:10,360
If I could
see, like, Leisha's stressed,
575
00:29:10,400 --> 00:29:12,240
like a bit erratic, just like,
576
00:29:12,280 --> 00:29:14,760
swallow my pride a little bit
and just give her a hug,
577
00:29:14,800 --> 00:29:16,840
and then we could just save
all the other
578
00:29:16,880 --> 00:29:18,960
unnecessary drama
that comes with it later on.
579
00:29:19,000 --> 00:29:20,080
There you go. Voila.
580
00:29:20,120 --> 00:29:24,080
You're the antidote
to the unnecessary drama, right?
581
00:29:24,120 --> 00:29:26,000
Mm-hm. Let's say that you take
582
00:29:26,040 --> 00:29:29,040
that onboard
and the unnecessary drama reduces.
583
00:29:29,080 --> 00:29:31,400
Mm-hm. Where do you think
that 80% goes to?
584
00:29:31,440 --> 00:29:34,920
Oh, 100%, it will carry on growing,
yeah. Does it go to 100%?
585
00:29:34,960 --> 00:29:36,960
Yeah, of course, why not? It does?
586
00:29:37,000 --> 00:29:39,200
And I heard you earlier say
100% is love.
587
00:29:39,240 --> 00:29:44,040
Yes, there you go. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
So with these small behavioural
588
00:29:44,080 --> 00:29:47,160
changes, we can get to 100%. Yeah.
589
00:29:48,920 --> 00:29:51,360
Hope so.
So then, we'll go to the decisions.
590
00:29:51,400 --> 00:29:54,280
OK. Leisha, if you could go first.
Um,
591
00:29:54,320 --> 00:29:57,200
I've just loved being with Reiss.
592
00:29:57,240 --> 00:30:00,280
I feel like I've been so lucky
to have been matched
593
00:30:00,320 --> 00:30:01,720
with Reiss as well, like,
594
00:30:01,760 --> 00:30:04,600
you're just the perfect person
for me.
595
00:30:04,640 --> 00:30:06,160
You are, you really are,
596
00:30:06,200 --> 00:30:10,040
and just hopefully grow as a couple.
597
00:30:10,080 --> 00:30:13,040
So, I'm going to put stay. Cute.
598
00:30:19,520 --> 00:30:22,320
Reiss. Thank you
for being an amazing person,
599
00:30:22,360 --> 00:30:25,840
amazing wife, amazing cook.
You do put a smile on my face daily,
600
00:30:25,880 --> 00:30:27,960
we always have a giggle
with each other,
601
00:30:28,000 --> 00:30:30,160
and I know we've got plenty more
of them times to come.
602
00:30:30,200 --> 00:30:31,360
So for that reason...
603
00:30:32,320 --> 00:30:34,120
..I'm going to put stay.
604
00:30:34,160 --> 00:30:35,200
Aw.
605
00:30:36,640 --> 00:30:37,680
Mwah.
606
00:30:39,320 --> 00:30:40,600
It's been beautiful to see
the growth,
607
00:30:40,640 --> 00:30:41,880
it really has.
608
00:30:41,920 --> 00:30:43,840
Keep focusing on...
609
00:30:45,080 --> 00:30:48,120
..ensuring that each other, that
you feel safe. Yeah.
610
00:30:48,160 --> 00:30:49,960
This is the key for the two of you.
611
00:30:50,000 --> 00:30:51,840
If you do that,
this relationship will be endless.
612
00:30:51,880 --> 00:30:55,040
Thank you. Well done, guys.
Thanks, guys. Thank you.
613
00:31:05,160 --> 00:31:06,480
Next up to the couch...
614
00:31:10,920 --> 00:31:12,280
..Abigail and John.
615
00:31:15,920 --> 00:31:19,880
Hello. Hi. Hey,
looking lovely. Thank you.
616
00:31:19,920 --> 00:31:23,880
Good to see the two of you.
How are you both doing?
617
00:31:23,920 --> 00:31:25,560
Yeah, we're really good.
618
00:31:26,800 --> 00:31:29,320
John, can you talk us through
Partner Swap Week?
619
00:31:29,360 --> 00:31:31,480
I had Partner Swap Week with
620
00:31:31,520 --> 00:31:35,000
that amazing man over there, Keye,
and we spoke about,
621
00:31:35,040 --> 00:31:38,000
um, living in the moment, you know,
we've been on this sofa
622
00:31:38,040 --> 00:31:39,440
before and spoke so much about, oh,
623
00:31:39,480 --> 00:31:41,720
what happens in
the future or you know, yeah, great,
624
00:31:41,760 --> 00:31:45,040
we want kids and stuff,
and I had this realisation like,
625
00:31:45,080 --> 00:31:47,240
wow, what the hell
have I been waiting for?
626
00:31:47,280 --> 00:31:49,880
I need to go back and tell my wife
that I love her.
627
00:31:49,920 --> 00:31:51,520
So, I came back from
628
00:31:51,560 --> 00:31:54,640
Partner Swap Week
and told Abi that I loved her.
629
00:31:58,080 --> 00:32:01,240
And it felt exactly like it
should, it was amazing.
630
00:32:01,280 --> 00:32:03,080
And then you did say it back,
didn't you?
631
00:32:03,120 --> 00:32:04,400
Yeah, when John said
632
00:32:04,440 --> 00:32:06,840
that he loved me,
I was like, oh my God, like, yes,
633
00:32:06,880 --> 00:32:08,440
like I literally, I love you back.
634
00:32:08,480 --> 00:32:11,040
And there's been many a times
where I think I've wanted to say it,
635
00:32:11,080 --> 00:32:13,120
but I've kind of, maybe,
stopped myself
636
00:32:13,160 --> 00:32:15,320
because I've just, maybe,
been scared to.
637
00:32:17,200 --> 00:32:19,360
I remember saying,
like, before this experiment,
638
00:32:19,400 --> 00:32:21,800
I had such an anxious
attachment style,
639
00:32:21,840 --> 00:32:25,320
and I've just never had
that security from a partner before,
640
00:32:25,360 --> 00:32:28,320
that makes me feel
so good about myself and like,
641
00:32:28,360 --> 00:32:31,000
so secure in our relationship
and just so happy.
642
00:32:31,040 --> 00:32:33,440
It kind of feels like it's gone
from strength to strength.
643
00:32:33,480 --> 00:32:36,160
That has really helped us sort
of solidify the two of you.
644
00:32:36,200 --> 00:32:37,600
Yeah, definitely.
645
00:32:39,160 --> 00:32:40,800
Let's talk about home stays. John,
646
00:32:40,840 --> 00:32:44,000
can you talk us through
the home stay experience for you?
647
00:32:44,040 --> 00:32:45,080
So, um,
648
00:32:45,120 --> 00:32:47,480
just so excited to see Abi's
mum and dad to say,
649
00:32:47,520 --> 00:32:48,560
like, look, do you know
650
00:32:48,600 --> 00:32:50,320
what everything
that I said I was going to do,
651
00:32:50,360 --> 00:32:52,560
look at us, this is what we've done,
and it was a beautiful,
652
00:32:52,600 --> 00:32:53,640
beautiful moment.
653
00:32:53,680 --> 00:32:56,760
And then Abi's mum mentioned, well,
you can take this over if you want.
654
00:32:56,800 --> 00:32:58,920
Yeah, this makes me feel emotional
because, so...
655
00:32:58,960 --> 00:33:02,200
Aw, do you want me to do it?
Yeah, no, no, no.
656
00:33:02,240 --> 00:33:05,720
Um, me and my mum are very close,
and we've been through
657
00:33:05,760 --> 00:33:07,960
a lot of tough times together,
And, you know,
658
00:33:08,000 --> 00:33:10,680
my mum sat there whilst I've been
in tears after,
659
00:33:10,720 --> 00:33:13,200
like, just being hurt
by previous partners.
660
00:33:13,240 --> 00:33:14,560
They've, obviously, never
661
00:33:14,600 --> 00:33:17,760
approved previous partners
that I brought home, um,
662
00:33:17,800 --> 00:33:19,360
and with good reason.
663
00:33:19,400 --> 00:33:20,720
My mum said to me,
664
00:33:20,760 --> 00:33:22,800
like when she obviously saw me
and John,
665
00:33:22,840 --> 00:33:25,040
"You seem like, you know,
a grown woman,
666
00:33:25,080 --> 00:33:27,840
"basically a more confident version
of yourself,
667
00:33:27,880 --> 00:33:30,360
"and we can just see how happy
you are,"
668
00:33:30,400 --> 00:33:32,680
and, like, that's massive,
because I've never
669
00:33:32,720 --> 00:33:35,840
had, like, my mum say that,
you know, about me,
670
00:33:35,880 --> 00:33:38,720
like, with regards
to, like, a partner, it just,
671
00:33:38,760 --> 00:33:41,320
yeah, it just means, like,
so much to me.
672
00:33:42,560 --> 00:33:44,160
I think what's really powerful about
673
00:33:44,200 --> 00:33:48,480
what both of you are saying here is
that prior to meeting each other,
674
00:33:48,520 --> 00:33:50,920
that single journey isn't easy,
675
00:33:50,960 --> 00:33:53,400
you know, there's pros
and cons of the single world,
676
00:33:53,440 --> 00:33:56,040
and you've both very
eloquently spoken about
677
00:33:56,080 --> 00:33:59,160
some of the challenges
of being single, of being alone.
678
00:33:59,200 --> 00:34:03,640
And now it's your turn
to enjoy being in a relationship.
679
00:34:03,680 --> 00:34:07,160
I was a poorer version of myself
before Abi came along,
680
00:34:07,200 --> 00:34:09,080
you know, like, I just feel
681
00:34:09,120 --> 00:34:12,640
like I'm ten foot tall with
being with you. Aww.
682
00:34:18,200 --> 00:34:21,000
Should we go to the decisions?
Do we need to go to a decision?
683
00:34:22,440 --> 00:34:26,120
OK. Big reveal. So let's start with
yourself, Abigail.
684
00:34:26,160 --> 00:34:28,400
I've never been in a relationship
685
00:34:28,440 --> 00:34:33,080
where I felt so secure, so safe,
and so happy.
686
00:34:33,120 --> 00:34:35,840
I came into this experiment wanting
to find my forever person, and
687
00:34:35,880 --> 00:34:39,480
I have found that,
and I'm so excited about our future,
688
00:34:39,520 --> 00:34:42,640
so, that's why I have decided to...
689
00:34:43,960 --> 00:34:45,360
..stay.
690
00:34:48,000 --> 00:34:49,400
Am I supposed to clap?
691
00:34:49,440 --> 00:34:51,400
I don't know when I'm supposed
to clap! I can clap.
692
00:34:53,200 --> 00:34:55,760
You can clap, it's OK.
I need to clap now.
693
00:34:57,080 --> 00:35:01,000
John, what's your decision? Yeah,
I'm having the best time, like,
694
00:35:01,040 --> 00:35:03,920
I'm so pleased that it
was you at the top of the aisle,
695
00:35:03,960 --> 00:35:06,920
like, everybody sees the energy
that we have for each other.
696
00:35:06,960 --> 00:35:08,920
I love you now,
I loved you at the wedding day,
697
00:35:08,960 --> 00:35:10,000
I was just a bit too scared
698
00:35:10,040 --> 00:35:12,280
to say those kind
of things too early.
699
00:35:12,320 --> 00:35:16,160
And also, I love myself,
and that's what you're doing for me.
700
00:35:16,200 --> 00:35:17,280
And I'm just so excited
701
00:35:17,320 --> 00:35:19,680
for everything
that we've got coming.
702
00:35:19,720 --> 00:35:22,560
So wait there. Wait there.
703
00:35:22,600 --> 00:35:24,440
Hopefully you say stay!
704
00:35:24,480 --> 00:35:26,720
So, as a result, I'm staying.
705
00:35:29,760 --> 00:35:32,360
I'll kiss you now.
Now, they can kiss!
706
00:35:35,000 --> 00:35:39,520
Excellent. Abigail and John,
go and enjoy your life together.
707
00:35:39,560 --> 00:35:41,360
Oh, thank you.
708
00:35:41,400 --> 00:35:42,440
Thank you. Well done, guys!
709
00:35:47,240 --> 00:35:49,480
All right, next up on the couch...
710
00:35:51,400 --> 00:35:52,520
..if we could have...
711
00:35:53,560 --> 00:35:54,800
..April and Leo.
712
00:36:03,120 --> 00:36:05,600
All right. April, good to see you.
Good to see you.
713
00:36:05,640 --> 00:36:07,920
Good to see you.
I'm happy to be here.
714
00:36:07,960 --> 00:36:10,040
All right, this is good,
this is good.
715
00:36:10,080 --> 00:36:12,840
I see there's no
smile on April's face.
716
00:36:12,880 --> 00:36:15,080
No. No. No.
717
00:36:16,320 --> 00:36:18,800
Clearly, there's some serious
718
00:36:18,840 --> 00:36:21,200
issues happening between
the two of you, right.
719
00:36:22,720 --> 00:36:24,800
It seems as if what's happened is
720
00:36:24,840 --> 00:36:26,200
the relationship has actually...
721
00:36:27,240 --> 00:36:28,280
..devolved.
722
00:36:30,400 --> 00:36:34,120
So, let's go back and see
what we've missed.
723
00:36:34,160 --> 00:36:37,280
Can we go back to Partner Swap Week?
OK.
724
00:36:37,320 --> 00:36:41,640
So Leo,
you were paired off with Rebecca...
725
00:36:41,680 --> 00:36:45,720
Correct. ..and April you were
paired off with Steven. Mm-hm.
726
00:36:45,760 --> 00:36:48,560
OK. Leo,
what did you learn from your time
727
00:36:48,600 --> 00:36:52,520
with Rebecca about your
relationship?
728
00:36:52,560 --> 00:36:55,000
Rebecca gave me a lot of
affirmations about
729
00:36:55,040 --> 00:36:58,720
what a great guy I am, and how
much I've put
730
00:36:58,760 --> 00:37:00,520
into this relationship as well,
731
00:37:00,560 --> 00:37:03,760
that I've not necessarily heard
from April.
732
00:37:03,800 --> 00:37:06,120
It's always been
about me changing myself,
733
00:37:06,160 --> 00:37:09,440
me improving on this to match
what she wants,
734
00:37:09,480 --> 00:37:11,600
and Rebecca
just showed me I shouldn't
735
00:37:11,640 --> 00:37:14,320
be changing myself this much.
If it's not meant to be,
736
00:37:14,360 --> 00:37:18,560
it's not meant to be,
and that I'm fine the way I am.
737
00:37:18,600 --> 00:37:20,760
Can I just clarify?
I've never asked him to change,
738
00:37:20,800 --> 00:37:24,080
I've said I want him to be himself.
You're almost wording it now as if
739
00:37:24,120 --> 00:37:26,360
I haven't given you affirmations,
and I haven't
740
00:37:26,400 --> 00:37:28,160
been telling you how great of
a guy you are.
741
00:37:28,200 --> 00:37:29,240
That's not true.
742
00:37:30,920 --> 00:37:32,040
You're just acting like I'm just,
743
00:37:32,080 --> 00:37:33,720
I've just been this
horrendous partner.
744
00:37:33,760 --> 00:37:34,800
No, I haven't.
745
00:37:34,840 --> 00:37:36,480
That's how it came across
then, to me.
746
00:37:37,760 --> 00:37:38,800
I don't want him to change,
747
00:37:38,840 --> 00:37:41,000
and if people pleaser is who he is,
then, that's fine,
748
00:37:41,040 --> 00:37:42,680
it's just something
that doesn't work for me.
749
00:37:42,720 --> 00:37:43,840
All right, fair enough.
750
00:37:45,760 --> 00:37:48,840
So now, April, what did you learn
751
00:37:48,880 --> 00:37:52,320
about your relationship
with Leo through Steven?
752
00:37:52,360 --> 00:37:53,560
It just, sort of, highlighted
753
00:37:53,600 --> 00:37:56,800
that I don't necessarily have
the same humour with Leo,
754
00:37:56,840 --> 00:37:59,240
and our personalities
just aren't gelling, like, it did
755
00:37:59,280 --> 00:38:00,880
just sort of flag that up for me,
756
00:38:00,920 --> 00:38:02,640
because it was just
so easy with Steven to have
757
00:38:02,680 --> 00:38:03,960
a conversation and just like,
758
00:38:04,000 --> 00:38:05,400
have that banter, have that back
and forth,
759
00:38:05,440 --> 00:38:07,560
and I just don't feel like I got
that with Leo.
760
00:38:07,600 --> 00:38:11,840
OK. So when you came together,
before home stays,
761
00:38:11,880 --> 00:38:14,160
where did you feel like
the relationship was,
762
00:38:14,200 --> 00:38:15,960
given this new insight that you had?
763
00:38:16,000 --> 00:38:18,520
Me and April really just said
764
00:38:18,560 --> 00:38:20,680
it's going to be make or break now.
765
00:38:21,760 --> 00:38:23,680
The home stay is going to highlight
766
00:38:23,720 --> 00:38:27,240
the emotional connection,
or it's just not going to be there,
767
00:38:27,280 --> 00:38:30,480
but we were both willing
to give it one last shot.
768
00:38:30,520 --> 00:38:32,400
I said, you know, I still want to go
on home stays
769
00:38:32,440 --> 00:38:34,240
and just see
if I can see the real Leo,
770
00:38:34,280 --> 00:38:35,440
if this personality,
771
00:38:35,480 --> 00:38:36,960
he said at the beginning
that he's an extrovert,
772
00:38:37,000 --> 00:38:38,960
he's the loudest one of his friends
and everything like that, and like,
773
00:38:39,000 --> 00:38:40,040
maybe that was just because he's
774
00:38:40,080 --> 00:38:41,600
uncomfortable,
and like it is an unusual
775
00:38:41,640 --> 00:38:43,480
environment that we're in,
this experiment is intense,
776
00:38:43,520 --> 00:38:46,360
and I was like, maybe at home stays,
I will see a different side.
777
00:38:48,480 --> 00:38:51,600
Home stay, we need some hope. Yeah.
778
00:38:51,640 --> 00:38:53,760
We went to Leo's first? Mm-hm.
779
00:38:53,800 --> 00:38:57,920
OK. Was any hope delivered on, Leo,
at your home stay?
780
00:38:59,640 --> 00:39:03,680
When I went and met my friends, um,
with April,
781
00:39:03,720 --> 00:39:05,280
they were very honest with me,
782
00:39:05,320 --> 00:39:07,960
and they basically, sort of,
said, like, that
783
00:39:08,000 --> 00:39:11,560
they don't see any compatibility
between the two of us.
784
00:39:14,320 --> 00:39:17,200
And for me, it really hit hard
785
00:39:17,240 --> 00:39:19,560
because obviously it's coming
from my friends.
786
00:39:19,600 --> 00:39:22,320
I'm curious,
what in particular do they think
787
00:39:22,360 --> 00:39:24,440
was incompatible between
the two of you?
788
00:39:24,480 --> 00:39:25,680
What they mentioned
789
00:39:25,720 --> 00:39:28,560
in particular was,
that she wasn't really into me.
790
00:39:30,360 --> 00:39:32,440
And it was really hard
for me to take
791
00:39:32,480 --> 00:39:36,600
because, obviously, I wanted this
week to work out between us.
792
00:39:36,640 --> 00:39:40,000
I really like April.
She's an amazing woman,
793
00:39:40,040 --> 00:39:42,920
and I still had a lot of hope
in this relationship,
794
00:39:42,960 --> 00:39:46,640
and hearing it from your nearest
and dearest that it's,
795
00:39:46,680 --> 00:39:48,240
it's not working,
796
00:39:48,280 --> 00:39:51,600
and it wasn't something
that I wanted to hear at the time.
797
00:39:51,640 --> 00:39:53,880
OK. It's just frustrating, I just
feel like...
798
00:39:54,920 --> 00:39:57,040
..all I wanted when I came here was
799
00:39:57,080 --> 00:39:59,120
to have somebody
that was themselves,
800
00:39:59,160 --> 00:40:00,520
that was completely honest,
801
00:40:00,560 --> 00:40:02,520
and I just don't feel
like I've got that.
802
00:40:04,080 --> 00:40:06,400
I have been myself,
and I have tried my hardest
803
00:40:06,440 --> 00:40:08,400
in this relationship to try
and make it work.
804
00:40:08,440 --> 00:40:10,040
Your friends confirmed that,
your friends said you're
805
00:40:10,080 --> 00:40:11,880
not even speaking
the way you normally speak.
806
00:40:13,680 --> 00:40:14,960
It was like a light bulb
and I was like,
807
00:40:15,000 --> 00:40:16,840
"Oh, my God, yeah, he's just cared
about how he looks."
808
00:40:18,840 --> 00:40:22,240
You've been putting on the facade...
I've been putting on zero facade.
809
00:40:22,280 --> 00:40:24,560
..throughout the whole experiment,
I was like, I don't,
810
00:40:24,600 --> 00:40:25,800
I don't know you. You know...
811
00:40:25,840 --> 00:40:27,160
How is that possible,
in seven weeks?
812
00:40:27,200 --> 00:40:28,320
How do I not know you?
813
00:40:41,880 --> 00:40:43,160
It's just frustrating.
814
00:40:43,200 --> 00:40:46,760
I just feel like all I wanted
when I came here was
815
00:40:46,800 --> 00:40:48,880
to have somebody
that was themselves,
816
00:40:48,920 --> 00:40:50,400
that was completely honest,
817
00:40:50,440 --> 00:40:51,960
and I just don't feel
like I've got that.
818
00:40:53,640 --> 00:40:56,040
I have been myself,
and I have tried my hardest
819
00:40:56,080 --> 00:40:58,200
in this relationship to try
and make it work.
820
00:40:58,240 --> 00:41:00,000
Your friends confirmed
that, your friends said
821
00:41:00,040 --> 00:41:03,040
you're not even speaking
the way you normally speak.
822
00:41:03,080 --> 00:41:04,640
It was like a light bulb
and I was like,
823
00:41:04,680 --> 00:41:07,360
"Oh, my God, yeah,
he's just cared about how he looks."
824
00:41:08,600 --> 00:41:11,560
You've been putting on the facade...
I've been putting on zero facade.
825
00:41:11,600 --> 00:41:13,240
..throughout the whole experiment.
826
00:41:13,280 --> 00:41:15,560
I was like, I don't,
I don't know you. You know...
827
00:41:15,600 --> 00:41:18,040
How is that possible in seven weeks?
How do I not know you?
828
00:41:25,080 --> 00:41:28,960
All right. So, then,
what happens the next day?
829
00:41:30,440 --> 00:41:33,680
The next day, we decided to have
a break.
830
00:41:33,720 --> 00:41:38,360
Hang on a minute, rewind.
We got home and it just blew up.
831
00:41:38,400 --> 00:41:40,040
I said to Leo,
"We'll talk in the morning,"
832
00:41:40,080 --> 00:41:41,960
he didn't want that, and then left.
833
00:41:42,000 --> 00:41:44,080
Left his phone at home
so no-one could contact him,
834
00:41:44,120 --> 00:41:46,080
and then didn't come back
until seven in the morning.
835
00:41:46,120 --> 00:41:48,360
Wow, you left your own home?
836
00:41:50,520 --> 00:41:54,240
I just needed space. Obviously,
hearing that from my friends,
837
00:41:54,280 --> 00:41:55,880
it really hit me hard.
838
00:41:55,920 --> 00:41:58,560
It was the last thing that
I, sort of, needed,
839
00:41:58,600 --> 00:42:01,520
and it was fight or flight.
And you left.
840
00:42:01,560 --> 00:42:04,880
Never heard of this,
someone leaving their own home stay.
841
00:42:06,680 --> 00:42:11,000
OK, so did you then go to yours,
April?
842
00:42:11,040 --> 00:42:13,200
Yeah, we met my mum and my sister.
I wasn't, like...
843
00:42:14,520 --> 00:42:16,400
..as bubbly or happy or anything
like that as I normally am,
844
00:42:16,440 --> 00:42:18,640
or, they know what I'm like
in a relationship when I'm really,
845
00:42:18,680 --> 00:42:20,280
like, really like the person and
everything like that,
846
00:42:20,320 --> 00:42:22,280
and yeah, it's just not,
they just weren't seeing it.
847
00:42:22,320 --> 00:42:23,520
OK.
848
00:42:24,640 --> 00:42:26,800
Seems like home stays
provided some answers
849
00:42:26,840 --> 00:42:30,240
to your questions,
but not in a positive way.
850
00:42:30,280 --> 00:42:32,640
Looking back from a personal
point of view,
851
00:42:32,680 --> 00:42:34,560
where do you believe
that your behaviour
852
00:42:34,600 --> 00:42:38,160
has contributed to
the down-slide of your relationship?
853
00:42:38,200 --> 00:42:39,840
I've been in my shell quite a lot.
854
00:42:39,880 --> 00:42:42,160
I initially didn't show
April,
855
00:42:42,200 --> 00:42:46,000
potentially, who I really am,
and that
856
00:42:46,040 --> 00:42:48,400
put doubts in her head.
857
00:42:48,440 --> 00:42:51,720
I think, me overcompensating to try
and please April
858
00:42:51,760 --> 00:42:54,080
to make this relationship work
as well,
859
00:42:54,120 --> 00:42:57,160
it's not a normal characteristic
that I would normally have.
860
00:42:57,200 --> 00:43:01,440
April, what behaviour do you
think you've contributed to
861
00:43:01,480 --> 00:43:03,640
the downslide of this relationship?
862
00:43:03,680 --> 00:43:04,680
Over time,
863
00:43:04,720 --> 00:43:06,800
where the emotional
connection just hasn't grown, like,
864
00:43:06,840 --> 00:43:10,000
it was so strong at the beginning
and it's just almost just gone down.
865
00:43:10,040 --> 00:43:13,440
I think, when I started to see
866
00:43:13,480 --> 00:43:17,640
like potential incompatibility,
or, like issues,
867
00:43:17,680 --> 00:43:20,800
I almost get, like, colder
because I'm now like,
868
00:43:20,840 --> 00:43:22,400
"OK, this isn't working,
this isn't working,
869
00:43:22,440 --> 00:43:24,160
"this is gonna, this
is not gonna end well."
870
00:43:24,200 --> 00:43:25,480
And I would be a lot
more affectionate.
871
00:43:25,520 --> 00:43:27,560
I would be a lot more caring,
Do you know what I mean?
872
00:43:27,600 --> 00:43:30,680
And, like, if I'd just forced
affection or forced things,
873
00:43:30,720 --> 00:43:33,000
then that would have
been me forcing it,
874
00:43:33,040 --> 00:43:34,920
and I didn't want to do that.
That's fair.
875
00:43:34,960 --> 00:43:37,080
Yeah. So, you're admitting to,
876
00:43:37,120 --> 00:43:40,680
being cold and not as affectionate
as you could be.
877
00:43:40,720 --> 00:43:42,680
Yeah. And, Leo, you're admitting
878
00:43:42,720 --> 00:43:45,680
to being a people pleaser
in the relationship.
879
00:43:46,800 --> 00:43:49,200
OK, so then final question from me.
880
00:43:49,240 --> 00:43:53,960
Do you believe that, if you have
corrected those two,
881
00:43:54,000 --> 00:43:56,280
then you would have a stronger
relationship?
882
00:43:58,040 --> 00:44:00,040
I think, yeah, we probably would
have done.
883
00:44:00,080 --> 00:44:02,640
It might have ended
the same way,
884
00:44:02,680 --> 00:44:05,640
but we would have been a lot
stronger right now.
885
00:44:05,680 --> 00:44:07,000
OK. What do you think, April?
886
00:44:08,760 --> 00:44:11,040
No, because then
that would have been false,
887
00:44:11,080 --> 00:44:14,440
like, my behaviour changed because
the relationship wasn't working.
888
00:44:14,480 --> 00:44:15,520
OK.
889
00:44:17,560 --> 00:44:18,840
Let's go to a decision.
890
00:44:20,640 --> 00:44:23,400
April, would you
like to give your decision first?
891
00:44:23,440 --> 00:44:26,120
Genuinely, Leo, you have been
so lovely,
892
00:44:26,160 --> 00:44:27,680
and I'm so thankful
893
00:44:27,720 --> 00:44:31,320
that I've been paired with someone
that was so kind and caring.
894
00:44:33,400 --> 00:44:34,720
But,
895
00:44:34,760 --> 00:44:36,920
I am going to leave.
896
00:44:39,440 --> 00:44:41,160
All right,
897
00:44:41,200 --> 00:44:42,240
Well, thank you.
898
00:44:43,480 --> 00:44:45,480
Leo, would you like to give
your decision?
899
00:44:45,520 --> 00:44:48,000
We obviously came here to find love,
900
00:44:48,040 --> 00:44:51,520
and, uh, we've been
through this experiment together,
901
00:44:51,560 --> 00:44:52,560
and I've learnt
902
00:44:52,600 --> 00:44:54,880
so much about myself
during this time as well.
903
00:44:54,920 --> 00:44:56,720
And you're amazing.
904
00:44:56,760 --> 00:44:59,880
Thank you. But as sad as it is,
905
00:44:59,920 --> 00:45:01,920
all good things have to come to
an end, so...
906
00:45:03,360 --> 00:45:04,360
..leave.
907
00:45:05,480 --> 00:45:08,920
OK. All right. Thank you.
908
00:45:10,240 --> 00:45:13,160
You know, we always want our couples
909
00:45:13,200 --> 00:45:16,080
to be happy as a couple,
910
00:45:16,120 --> 00:45:18,520
but more importantly,
individually.
911
00:45:18,560 --> 00:45:22,720
As long as you're leaving
here with lessons
912
00:45:22,760 --> 00:45:24,760
that you can take to become
913
00:45:24,800 --> 00:45:27,120
stronger outside of the experiment,
914
00:45:27,160 --> 00:45:30,320
that's really all we can ask.
So, thank you,
915
00:45:30,360 --> 00:45:32,160
and your time now
916
00:45:32,200 --> 00:45:33,960
is done. Thank you.
917
00:45:34,000 --> 00:45:35,360
Thank you, guys.
918
00:45:35,400 --> 00:45:36,720
Good luck.
919
00:45:39,960 --> 00:45:41,000
Thank you.
920
00:45:43,240 --> 00:45:46,440
This is not the journey I wanted,
this is not the ending I wanted.
921
00:45:46,480 --> 00:45:47,680
I put my all into it,
922
00:45:47,720 --> 00:45:49,800
I've tried my best
and it didn't work out,
923
00:45:49,840 --> 00:45:52,040
but, yeah, I am proud.
924
00:45:52,080 --> 00:45:54,360
Even though me
and Leo weren't compatible,
925
00:45:54,400 --> 00:45:57,920
you know, he is a really good
person, and he has been lovely,
926
00:45:57,960 --> 00:45:59,480
so I wish him the best, genuinely.
927
00:46:01,160 --> 00:46:03,640
Really gutted that it didn't work
out between me and April.
928
00:46:03,680 --> 00:46:06,560
Ever since we met, she was perfect
for me.
929
00:46:06,600 --> 00:46:09,320
I couldn't have asked
for anything more in a partner,
930
00:46:09,360 --> 00:46:11,360
and I'm just, I'm gutted
931
00:46:11,400 --> 00:46:13,960
that we didn't have
that fairy tale ending.
932
00:46:16,720 --> 00:46:18,080
Next up to the couch...
933
00:46:23,320 --> 00:46:24,720
..Rebecca and Bailey.
934
00:46:27,080 --> 00:46:30,080
Hello. Hello. Hi. Hi, guys. Hiya.
935
00:46:32,240 --> 00:46:33,520
Good to see the two of you.
936
00:46:33,560 --> 00:46:34,960
Good to see you all, yeah. Good to
see you, too.
937
00:46:35,000 --> 00:46:36,840
So, how have you both been?
Really well.
938
00:46:36,880 --> 00:46:38,920
Yeah, really good, yeah.
Really good, thank you.
939
00:46:38,960 --> 00:46:42,480
OK, let's talk about the
home stays.
940
00:46:43,960 --> 00:46:46,040
Obviously,
we live miles and miles apart,
941
00:46:46,080 --> 00:46:48,400
and initially,
when we started the home stays
942
00:46:48,440 --> 00:46:50,880
and I turned up in Hove,
where Bailey lives,
943
00:46:50,920 --> 00:46:53,120
where we live
is completely different.
944
00:46:53,160 --> 00:46:54,840
And initially I just thought, like,
945
00:46:54,880 --> 00:46:59,960
I think our lives are so far apart
in terms of what we do day-to-day.
946
00:47:00,000 --> 00:47:01,560
And then by the end
of the home stays,
947
00:47:01,600 --> 00:47:04,640
I realised that actually what we do,
and what we're interested
948
00:47:04,680 --> 00:47:08,400
in is so similar,
we just live in different locations.
949
00:47:08,440 --> 00:47:10,280
That's our only issue. OK,
950
00:47:10,320 --> 00:47:14,280
so where are you at in terms
of who will move where?
951
00:47:14,320 --> 00:47:16,040
We kind of know what we want to do
after this,
952
00:47:16,080 --> 00:47:18,520
and we're, I'm very much happy
to make effort,
953
00:47:18,560 --> 00:47:22,920
Bec is as well, I work remotely,
so the interim is, kind of, fine.
954
00:47:22,960 --> 00:47:26,080
We haven't really answered
the forever question yet,
955
00:47:26,120 --> 00:47:29,680
and if, like, things progress
as we want them to,
956
00:47:29,720 --> 00:47:31,640
we don't really have an answer
957
00:47:31,680 --> 00:47:34,440
for that yet, which is,
I guess it is tough.
958
00:47:36,800 --> 00:47:39,080
It's tough because we don't know
what that looks like
959
00:47:39,120 --> 00:47:41,320
because we said, "Well, would we
meet in the middle?"
960
00:47:41,360 --> 00:47:43,720
Um,
but then, like,
961
00:47:43,760 --> 00:47:45,400
that's taking Bailey away
from Bluebelle,
962
00:47:45,440 --> 00:47:46,720
and I've said all along, like,
963
00:47:46,760 --> 00:47:49,360
I would never put pressure on him
to move away.
964
00:47:51,080 --> 00:47:52,760
Does that then mean, Rebecca,
that you...
965
00:47:54,240 --> 00:47:55,520
..have to do the moving?
966
00:47:57,280 --> 00:47:59,000
Yeah, I did feel the pressure a lot
of, like,
967
00:47:59,040 --> 00:48:00,760
"Bec, are you going to move to
Hove?"
968
00:48:02,480 --> 00:48:04,680
I'm not ready to say yes to that.
969
00:48:10,280 --> 00:48:11,640
Yeah, It's like I'm
970
00:48:11,680 --> 00:48:12,960
caught between a rock
and a hard place.
971
00:48:13,000 --> 00:48:14,280
I don't want to lump
all the pressure on Bec,
972
00:48:14,320 --> 00:48:17,200
but then, I don't really know
what else to do.
973
00:48:17,240 --> 00:48:18,400
I think it's tough.
974
00:48:18,440 --> 00:48:21,080
We don't know
where our forever home is.
975
00:48:21,120 --> 00:48:22,400
We can't give any definite
976
00:48:22,440 --> 00:48:25,400
decisions on
what forever looks like for us.
977
00:48:25,440 --> 00:48:28,080
Say, within five years,
if I had a child,
978
00:48:28,120 --> 00:48:29,400
you typically just want
979
00:48:29,440 --> 00:48:31,600
to be around your family
and your network,
980
00:48:31,640 --> 00:48:32,880
and I've got a very,
981
00:48:32,920 --> 00:48:35,800
very close-knit group
of people around me,
982
00:48:35,840 --> 00:48:38,200
and if that was taken away
and then I embarked
983
00:48:38,240 --> 00:48:42,400
on big life things like having
a baby, how would that work?
984
00:48:42,440 --> 00:48:45,040
Because I wouldn't know anybody
in Hove, other than Bay. I think
985
00:48:45,080 --> 00:48:49,160
the two of you are
talking about some very real issues
986
00:48:49,200 --> 00:48:53,520
that a lot of couples have to, have
to discuss and have to agree to.
987
00:48:53,560 --> 00:48:56,520
Ultimately, it will mean one
of you having to move.
988
00:48:58,320 --> 00:49:01,800
I can hear how difficult
this decision is for you.
989
00:49:06,360 --> 00:49:08,280
OK, let's go to a decision.
990
00:49:08,320 --> 00:49:11,800
Rebecca, if we can start with
you, please. I think,
991
00:49:11,840 --> 00:49:15,600
when I saw you at the wedding day,
and we didn't connect at all,
992
00:49:15,640 --> 00:49:18,880
I honestly believed
that we would have a nice honeymoon,
993
00:49:18,920 --> 00:49:21,480
and then when we saw you for
the first time, I would write leave.
994
00:49:21,520 --> 00:49:24,560
That's what, I just thought,
it's not going to work.
995
00:49:27,760 --> 00:49:29,480
Um,
996
00:49:29,520 --> 00:49:30,560
we just managed
997
00:49:30,600 --> 00:49:33,520
to have some one-on-one time
and everything changed,
998
00:49:33,560 --> 00:49:35,880
and every day since then, I've just
got to know you more and more,
999
00:49:35,920 --> 00:49:38,200
and fell in love with you
more and more, and...
1000
00:49:39,560 --> 00:49:41,960
..I can't
imagine my life without you, so...
1001
00:49:42,000 --> 00:49:44,000
Well, you don't have to...
1002
00:49:44,040 --> 00:49:46,760
..100%, I'm choosing to stay.
1003
00:49:50,480 --> 00:49:52,440
Bailey, could you top that?
1004
00:49:52,480 --> 00:49:56,280
I haven't had one single doubt
in my mind about anything,
1005
00:49:56,320 --> 00:49:57,560
about any decision.
1006
00:49:57,600 --> 00:49:59,400
I just always knew I wanted
to be near you
1007
00:49:59,440 --> 00:50:00,680
and wanted to carry on
1008
00:50:00,720 --> 00:50:03,120
and see a life with you outside,
even from the honeymoon,
1009
00:50:03,160 --> 00:50:04,440
like, I could see that.
1010
00:50:04,480 --> 00:50:08,040
So, yeah, I'm gonna cry, yeah.
You can cry if you want to.
1011
00:50:08,080 --> 00:50:10,000
Why do I cry so much?
I don't know what's going on.
1012
00:50:10,040 --> 00:50:13,120
Because you love me so much. Um.
It's OK. But, yeah,
1013
00:50:13,160 --> 00:50:15,400
I came in here asking
for a best friend, and,
1014
00:50:15,440 --> 00:50:17,000
yeah, I've literally got
that in you,
1015
00:50:17,040 --> 00:50:18,960
so, I am ready for the outside
world.
1016
00:50:19,000 --> 00:50:20,400
and yeah,
I can't wait to do it with you,
1017
00:50:20,440 --> 00:50:24,320
so, obviously I'll be staying.
Well done.
1018
00:50:24,360 --> 00:50:25,760
Well done.
1019
00:50:27,760 --> 00:50:33,120
Well done. Guys, I am so excited
to see where this relationship goes.
1020
00:50:33,160 --> 00:50:36,520
It's been such a pleasure
watching your journey,
1021
00:50:36,560 --> 00:50:38,840
it really has and I think I
1022
00:50:38,880 --> 00:50:41,120
just can't wait
to see little babies come along.
1023
00:50:41,160 --> 00:50:44,120
I just, I feel like it's coming...
Thought you said little Baileys!
1024
00:50:44,160 --> 00:50:46,040
Little Baileys and little babies,
yeah.
1025
00:50:46,080 --> 00:50:48,080
Thank you so much, guys.
Thank you all so much. Honestly,
1026
00:50:48,120 --> 00:50:50,760
yeah, really appreciate it.
Cheers. Thank you.
1027
00:50:50,800 --> 00:50:53,440
Great work. Cheers. Thank you.
1028
00:50:53,480 --> 00:50:55,480
Gonna grab a tissue. Thank you,
guys.
1029
00:50:58,920 --> 00:51:00,160
Thank you.
1030
00:51:02,160 --> 00:51:04,200
Our last couple on the
couch tonight...
1031
00:51:08,680 --> 00:51:09,720
..Nelly and Steven.
1032
00:51:14,880 --> 00:51:16,200
Hey, guys. Hi. Hey, guys.
1033
00:51:19,400 --> 00:51:20,440
Well...
1034
00:51:21,480 --> 00:51:22,800
..let's get straight into it.
1035
00:51:22,840 --> 00:51:24,720
What's going on for the two of you?
1036
00:51:24,760 --> 00:51:26,840
Nelly, why don't you kick it off?
1037
00:51:26,880 --> 00:51:29,280
So, I went to Bailey's
1038
00:51:29,320 --> 00:51:31,640
for the partner swap,
and I felt like, seen,
1039
00:51:31,680 --> 00:51:32,880
I felt cared for,
1040
00:51:32,920 --> 00:51:36,440
I felt he was present,
like he wanted to be around me.
1041
00:51:36,480 --> 00:51:37,960
We started talking about
Steven and I's
1042
00:51:38,000 --> 00:51:40,400
relationship and actually
Bailey asked me like,
1043
00:51:40,440 --> 00:51:41,480
"Nelly, are you happy?"
1044
00:51:41,520 --> 00:51:44,000
And I just cried, because I'm not,
I wasn't.
1045
00:51:45,120 --> 00:51:46,160
I haven't been...
1046
00:51:47,280 --> 00:51:50,440
..and I've probably downplayed
how I've been feeling.
1047
00:51:50,480 --> 00:51:52,600
Have you? Yeah, I think so.
1048
00:51:52,640 --> 00:51:55,560
And so I guess when I came back,
I sort of said to Steven,
1049
00:51:55,600 --> 00:51:56,880
"This is what I've learnt.
1050
00:51:56,920 --> 00:51:59,080
"this is what I would want
in a relationship."
1051
00:51:59,120 --> 00:52:01,880
And I said, "I've just not
been feeling that way."
1052
00:52:01,920 --> 00:52:05,680
And when Steven had his swap
with April,
1053
00:52:05,720 --> 00:52:08,520
I had one boundary, which was,
"You've not cooked me a meal,
1054
00:52:08,560 --> 00:52:09,800
"so don't cook for April."
1055
00:52:09,840 --> 00:52:11,600
He did tell me
that he made breakfast,
1056
00:52:11,640 --> 00:52:13,800
but again, it was downplayed,
and I didn't actually realise
1057
00:52:13,840 --> 00:52:17,040
until recently, that it was a whole,
proper cooked breakfast in bed.
1058
00:52:18,760 --> 00:52:21,160
I've never had that.
I just felt really,
1059
00:52:21,200 --> 00:52:24,440
really stupid, quite embarrassed,
and I think knowing that you've done
1060
00:52:24,480 --> 00:52:25,680
that for someone else
1061
00:52:25,720 --> 00:52:28,440
after two days,
it makes you feel about this big.
1062
00:52:28,480 --> 00:52:29,520
Yeah.
1063
00:52:30,640 --> 00:52:32,240
Let's, let's pause there,
because I'm interested
1064
00:52:32,280 --> 00:52:34,440
in what that experience
of the partner swap
1065
00:52:34,480 --> 00:52:36,280
with April was like for you.
1066
00:52:36,320 --> 00:52:38,240
We were sitting there talking
about places we
1067
00:52:38,280 --> 00:52:40,880
like to travel, and places we've
been, or what's next on the list,
1068
00:52:40,920 --> 00:52:42,840
and it was
so naturally flowing like that,
1069
00:52:42,880 --> 00:52:44,720
I thought, "Why haven't we done
this?"
1070
00:52:44,760 --> 00:52:47,440
But I try, I've tried
so hard to do all this,
1071
00:52:47,480 --> 00:52:49,800
and it just gets shut
down, and I don't get anything back.
1072
00:52:49,840 --> 00:52:51,120
Like I've tried week in, week out.
1073
00:52:51,160 --> 00:52:52,520
I take a lot of accountability
there,
1074
00:52:52,560 --> 00:52:54,760
I should have been asking questions,
I should have done a lot more.
1075
00:52:54,800 --> 00:52:57,000
But it's just hard because, we've
had several conversations
1076
00:52:57,040 --> 00:52:59,040
where you've said about, pressures
of the experiment,
1077
00:52:59,080 --> 00:53:00,600
and that, actually, outside of this,
1078
00:53:00,640 --> 00:53:02,640
it could be a potential and that,
you know,
1079
00:53:02,680 --> 00:53:04,360
you'd be even willing to come
up to Manchester... It could be.
1080
00:53:04,400 --> 00:53:05,720
..for a weekend.
1081
00:53:05,760 --> 00:53:07,600
The conversations we had weeks
before was like,
1082
00:53:07,640 --> 00:53:10,400
look, maybe away from this,
maybe something could work.
1083
00:53:10,440 --> 00:53:12,320
Steven,
are you attracted to Nelly?
1084
00:53:13,760 --> 00:53:15,880
Yes, absolutely.
From the moment I met her,
1085
00:53:15,920 --> 00:53:17,800
from the moment I turned around
and saw her, I was like,
1086
00:53:17,840 --> 00:53:18,840
"Fuck me, she's stunning."
1087
00:53:18,880 --> 00:53:19,960
Right now, today.
1088
00:53:21,200 --> 00:53:22,240
Right now?
1089
00:53:24,720 --> 00:53:25,880
I would say no.
1090
00:53:29,920 --> 00:53:32,440
An attraction is there, or it's not.
I like the girl,
1091
00:53:32,480 --> 00:53:34,440
off course, the like's there,
I think for me,
1092
00:53:34,480 --> 00:53:35,520
I just can't see something
1093
00:53:35,560 --> 00:53:37,920
progressing romantically,
any further.
1094
00:53:37,960 --> 00:53:40,400
Yet, you just said that maybe
it could, outside the experiment.
1095
00:53:40,440 --> 00:53:42,080
Two weeks ago, I did think that...
Can you see that
1096
00:53:42,120 --> 00:53:43,400
there's mixed messages here?
1097
00:53:43,440 --> 00:53:45,160
It's mixed messages, but I'm,
I'm being real,
1098
00:53:45,200 --> 00:53:46,840
like, I genuinely believe
1099
00:53:46,880 --> 00:53:50,440
if we were away from the experiment,
we could have made something work.
1100
00:53:50,480 --> 00:53:54,120
So, when did the like stop?
Partner Swap happened, I thought,
1101
00:53:54,160 --> 00:53:56,720
I'm not giving you what you need,
and what you deserve from someone.
1102
00:53:56,760 --> 00:53:57,800
For me, it's like, OK, well,
1103
00:53:57,840 --> 00:53:59,200
let's stop the relationship
1104
00:53:59,240 --> 00:54:00,640
and just try and be a friend,
1105
00:54:00,680 --> 00:54:03,320
because I was like,
I respect you enough as a friend
1106
00:54:03,360 --> 00:54:04,680
and value you much as a friend,
1107
00:54:04,720 --> 00:54:07,160
and you can give me that look,
I'm telling you..
1108
00:54:07,200 --> 00:54:08,880
We're going to go with that look.
1109
00:54:08,920 --> 00:54:10,000
Tell me about that look.
1110
00:54:13,440 --> 00:54:15,960
It's really hard for me to sit there
and listen to that
1111
00:54:16,000 --> 00:54:19,760
I'm respected as a friend,
because, we came to home stays,
1112
00:54:19,800 --> 00:54:22,840
and Steven decided not
to come with me to Manchester,
1113
00:54:22,880 --> 00:54:23,960
I did want him to come.
1114
00:54:24,000 --> 00:54:25,800
I saw my family, saw my
friends,
1115
00:54:25,840 --> 00:54:28,160
and then Steven came
up a couple of days later.
1116
00:54:28,200 --> 00:54:30,680
But I found out, on that day,
that actually,
1117
00:54:30,720 --> 00:54:34,160
whilst he wasn't with me, he was
busy swiping on a dating app...
1118
00:54:39,760 --> 00:54:40,920
I wasn't.
1119
00:54:40,960 --> 00:54:42,600
..which I have receipts for.
1120
00:54:42,640 --> 00:54:44,440
Just a moment, just so I'm clear...
1121
00:54:44,480 --> 00:54:47,080
That is Steven's profile,
which is verified.
1122
00:55:03,320 --> 00:55:05,800
It's really hard for me to sit there
and listen to that
1123
00:55:05,840 --> 00:55:09,640
I'm respected as a friend
because we came to home stays
1124
00:55:09,680 --> 00:55:12,680
and Steven decided not
to come with me to Manchester,
1125
00:55:12,720 --> 00:55:13,840
I did want him to come.
1126
00:55:13,880 --> 00:55:15,520
I saw my family, saw my friends,
1127
00:55:15,560 --> 00:55:18,000
and then Steven came
up a couple of days later.
1128
00:55:18,040 --> 00:55:20,480
But, I found out, on that day,
that actually,
1129
00:55:20,520 --> 00:55:24,040
whilst he wasn't with me, he was
busy swiping on a dating app...
1130
00:55:29,600 --> 00:55:30,760
I wasn't.
1131
00:55:30,800 --> 00:55:32,560
..which I have receipts for.
1132
00:55:32,600 --> 00:55:34,280
Just a moment, just so I'm clear...
1133
00:55:34,320 --> 00:55:37,560
That is Steven's profile, which is
verified.
1134
00:55:37,600 --> 00:55:38,960
What?!
1135
00:55:45,120 --> 00:55:46,680
Yeah, it's... Because it's verified.
1136
00:55:46,720 --> 00:55:48,760
So, whilst you were within the
experiment...
1137
00:55:48,800 --> 00:55:51,520
No. ..married to Nelly...
Can I see that? Yeah.
1138
00:55:51,560 --> 00:55:53,120
..you were on a dating profile?
1139
00:55:53,160 --> 00:55:55,360
And I wasn't because I got my phone
out,
1140
00:55:55,400 --> 00:55:57,040
during her friends coming over,
1141
00:55:57,080 --> 00:55:58,960
and I showed them, me
putting my number in,
1142
00:55:59,000 --> 00:56:02,360
and it coming up saying, my account
has been removed.
1143
00:56:02,400 --> 00:56:03,800
If you were just open and honest,
1144
00:56:03,840 --> 00:56:05,840
it would, I wouldn't
be doing this. I'm being honest,
1145
00:56:05,880 --> 00:56:07,480
that isn't my profile.
1146
00:56:07,520 --> 00:56:08,720
How is it verified?
1147
00:56:08,760 --> 00:56:10,520
I don't know why it's verified,
that's what I'm saying...
1148
00:56:10,560 --> 00:56:12,560
Don't you have to verify those with
your face?
1149
00:56:12,600 --> 00:56:15,400
With your face, yeah.
That is not me on Hinge.
1150
00:56:15,440 --> 00:56:16,560
It's your face!
1151
00:56:18,160 --> 00:56:19,800
So, you think someone's
catfishing you?
1152
00:56:19,840 --> 00:56:20,840
Absolutely, I'm banned.
1153
00:56:20,880 --> 00:56:22,880
They're impersonating you, then,
you need to go to the police
1154
00:56:22,920 --> 00:56:24,680
station because they've got
all your details.
1155
00:56:24,720 --> 00:56:28,440
Guys, let's try to see through
1156
00:56:28,480 --> 00:56:31,000
the details here,
because we could drown in them.
1157
00:56:31,040 --> 00:56:32,680
The gist of
what you're talking about here,
1158
00:56:32,720 --> 00:56:35,720
Nelly,
is that during your marriage,
1159
00:56:35,760 --> 00:56:38,680
you believe Steven
was on dating apps.
1160
00:56:38,720 --> 00:56:41,200
He was. And you've shown evidence
1161
00:56:41,240 --> 00:56:43,880
that would suggest
that that's the case.
1162
00:56:43,920 --> 00:56:45,480
So, Steven,
are you sitting here now,
1163
00:56:45,520 --> 00:56:48,440
point blank, denying that you've
had anything
1164
00:56:48,480 --> 00:56:51,840
to do with any dating profiles
whilst you've been married to Nelly?
1165
00:56:53,160 --> 00:56:54,280
Absolutely.
1166
00:56:56,840 --> 00:56:59,000
So, are you claiming
that you've been hacked
1167
00:56:59,040 --> 00:57:01,440
or, just help us understand
your thinking here?
1168
00:57:01,480 --> 00:57:02,680
I've only got one phone, so,
1169
00:57:02,720 --> 00:57:04,240
like, when I'm putting in my number,
I haven't got a...
1170
00:57:04,280 --> 00:57:05,400
How is it verified, though? You have
to
1171
00:57:05,440 --> 00:57:07,160
verify it with you face. I
don't know why it's verified.
1172
00:57:07,200 --> 00:57:08,920
Did you, did you give them
your face to verify?
1173
00:57:08,960 --> 00:57:10,320
I don't understand.
1174
00:57:10,360 --> 00:57:11,720
Well, you had to. This is what I
don't understand,
1175
00:57:11,760 --> 00:57:13,600
like, I don't know how there's
a verified profile of me.
1176
00:57:13,640 --> 00:57:15,520
Well, Nelly's just explained how
that happens.
1177
00:57:15,560 --> 00:57:17,680
Yeah, you can have the notes. She
explained, but it still doesn't mean-
1178
00:57:17,720 --> 00:57:19,440
I haven't got Hinge
on my phone.
1179
00:57:19,480 --> 00:57:21,680
So someone's walking around
with your face, then?
1180
00:57:21,720 --> 00:57:24,960
Steven, can you see
that this seems quite far-fetched
1181
00:57:25,000 --> 00:57:26,640
and quite hard to understand,
1182
00:57:26,680 --> 00:57:28,880
that you're sitting here
and denying this?
1183
00:57:28,920 --> 00:57:30,880
Of course I'm going to deny, because
I know
1184
00:57:30,920 --> 00:57:32,080
what I'm saying is true.
1185
00:57:32,120 --> 00:57:34,080
OK. This shit happens all
the time, like,
1186
00:57:34,120 --> 00:57:36,160
people get catfished. Not a verified
account.
1187
00:57:36,200 --> 00:57:38,600
Not a verified,
Ste, Ste, be honest.
1188
00:57:38,640 --> 00:57:39,840
If I had the answers, right...
1189
00:57:39,880 --> 00:57:41,600
Come on. ..I'd tell you, It's not
me...
1190
00:57:41,640 --> 00:57:43,520
I'm hearing this now, but... ..I've
said it's not me, Becs.
1191
00:57:43,560 --> 00:57:45,800
It's your face.
Clearly that's my face.
1192
00:57:45,840 --> 00:57:47,120
Clearly that's my face.
1193
00:57:47,160 --> 00:57:49,920
You can have that dating app without
it being verified.
1194
00:57:49,960 --> 00:57:53,520
When it's verified,
you've had to do a talking video,
1195
00:57:53,560 --> 00:57:55,800
and then a video
of you moving your face around,
1196
00:57:55,840 --> 00:57:58,160
like, I've had the same app.
Since when?
1197
00:57:58,200 --> 00:57:59,560
Since the whole time.
1198
00:57:59,600 --> 00:58:02,160
That is
what dating apps now require.
1199
00:58:03,200 --> 00:58:04,440
The evidence is compelling, Steven,
1200
00:58:04,480 --> 00:58:06,640
I think that's probably
why everyone is saying that,
1201
00:58:06,680 --> 00:58:09,240
but I can imagine this is quite
stressful for you. It's stressful,
1202
00:58:09,280 --> 00:58:11,400
and I'm going to say something.
I'm not an awful person,
1203
00:58:11,440 --> 00:58:13,360
but that's exactly how
I'm being portrayed.
1204
00:58:13,400 --> 00:58:15,240
Whenever I bring stuff up,
it gets rejected.
1205
00:58:15,280 --> 00:58:17,560
My intention was to be grateful
with you, everything.
1206
00:58:17,600 --> 00:58:19,120
I wanted you to be honest.
1207
00:58:19,160 --> 00:58:20,240
And if you came in and said to me
1208
00:58:20,280 --> 00:58:22,840
or even sent me a text that week
saying, "Nells, you know what,
1209
00:58:22,880 --> 00:58:24,680
"I hold my hands up,
I'm really sorry,"
1210
00:58:24,720 --> 00:58:26,160
this whole thing wouldn't
have happened,
1211
00:58:26,200 --> 00:58:29,520
but, I'm not going
to sit here any longer, and...
1212
00:58:29,560 --> 00:58:31,960
..not be true
and not say how I feel.
1213
00:58:36,360 --> 00:58:38,240
Whatever I say, at this rate, is...
1214
00:58:38,280 --> 00:58:39,640
Can I ask a question on that?
1215
00:58:40,680 --> 00:58:42,880
At what point in your life, Steven,
1216
00:58:42,920 --> 00:58:46,880
do you believe that you learned
that defensiveness
1217
00:58:46,920 --> 00:58:49,640
was a better
response than vulnerability?
1218
00:58:52,520 --> 00:58:55,880
What I have observed from you is
that
1219
00:58:55,920 --> 00:58:57,600
your bad behaviour...
1220
00:58:58,600 --> 00:59:01,400
..has come because your reaction...
1221
00:59:02,800 --> 00:59:06,080
..to challenge is defensiveness.
1222
00:59:06,120 --> 00:59:08,440
How I'm being portrayed
from weeks on end,
1223
00:59:08,480 --> 00:59:11,040
sitting here being grilled of X, Y,
Z...
1224
00:59:11,080 --> 00:59:13,400
So, you don't see that there's been
any behaviour
1225
00:59:13,440 --> 00:59:16,760
that you've demonstrated that you
need to take accountability for?
1226
00:59:16,800 --> 00:59:18,880
If I was in that situation,
and someone
1227
00:59:18,920 --> 00:59:21,240
had shown me, "Nelly's on this,"
yeah, it would have hurt,
1228
00:59:21,280 --> 00:59:22,960
I would have been like, I would have
had my back up.
1229
00:59:23,000 --> 00:59:24,040
All I'm saying is,
1230
00:59:24,080 --> 00:59:26,480
I'm still being portrayed
to be this awful person.
1231
00:59:26,520 --> 00:59:27,600
What's causing that?
1232
00:59:28,560 --> 00:59:30,760
What do you mean... We're talking
about your behaviour.
1233
00:59:30,800 --> 00:59:34,440
There's no big, bad bogeyman
here projecting something onto you,
1234
00:59:34,480 --> 00:59:37,200
you are behaving in a certain way
and we are responding to it.
1235
00:59:39,480 --> 00:59:41,000
Trust me,
I didn't want this to happen.
1236
00:59:41,040 --> 00:59:43,760
This is not how I wanted
this last couch with you, ever.
1237
00:59:43,800 --> 00:59:45,840
I had feelings for you,
my feelings were real,
1238
00:59:45,880 --> 00:59:48,400
I don't, I never wanted this.
We're clearly not going
1239
00:59:48,440 --> 00:59:52,240
to resolve this, this
profile situation today.
1240
00:59:52,280 --> 00:59:54,360
Well, I think it is what it is,
and...
1241
00:59:54,400 --> 00:59:57,120
Steven, this is very important
for you to know,
1242
00:59:57,160 --> 01:00:00,080
defensiveness is self-protection,
protecting ego,
1243
01:00:00,120 --> 01:00:02,080
protecting all types of things.
1244
01:00:02,120 --> 01:00:04,600
And I think that if you could
walk away
1245
01:00:04,640 --> 01:00:08,400
from this experiment knowing,
"You know what, I'm a good guy,
1246
01:00:08,440 --> 01:00:12,080
"but when I respond to conflict,
1247
01:00:12,120 --> 01:00:13,760
"if I can just pause and say,
1248
01:00:13,800 --> 01:00:17,840
"how could I respond with
vulnerability?" Then guess what?
1249
01:00:17,880 --> 01:00:20,800
Your life is going
to become infinitely better.
1250
01:00:20,840 --> 01:00:23,480
Yeah, no, that's, I appreciate that.
That's one thing I'm trying,
1251
01:00:23,520 --> 01:00:25,840
I'm trying to be more vulnerable.
1252
01:00:25,880 --> 01:00:27,440
Yes, I've been very defensive.
1253
01:00:27,480 --> 01:00:29,560
I found myself getting more
and more irritable,
1254
01:00:29,600 --> 01:00:30,920
I'd say, during this experiment,
1255
01:00:30,960 --> 01:00:34,480
but I'm trying, I'm
trying to be more vulnerable.
1256
01:00:34,520 --> 01:00:37,320
See, I don't think I've cried
as much, on this experiment,
1257
01:00:37,360 --> 01:00:40,240
as I have in, like, the last, sort
of, 10, 14 years.
1258
01:00:40,280 --> 01:00:43,040
Yeah, yeah.
All right, guys, well, we are...
1259
01:00:44,240 --> 01:00:46,160
..going to move on to
a decision.
1260
01:00:46,200 --> 01:00:48,000
So, let's start with you first,
doll.
1261
01:00:48,040 --> 01:00:50,800
Steven, I know you and I have
had loads of ups and downs,
1262
01:00:50,840 --> 01:00:53,240
and it's been a really, it's been
a rough ride.
1263
01:00:53,280 --> 01:00:56,680
Um, the highs have been great, the
lows have been really, really low.
1264
01:00:56,720 --> 01:00:59,760
But the reason I stayed for
so long, and I pushed so hard, is
1265
01:00:59,800 --> 01:01:02,800
because I genuinely think
that marriage does take hard work,
1266
01:01:02,840 --> 01:01:05,800
and I never wanted to leave here
with any regrets.
1267
01:01:05,840 --> 01:01:07,920
What I have
learnt is I know my worth,
1268
01:01:07,960 --> 01:01:09,480
I know what I deserve,
1269
01:01:09,520 --> 01:01:11,600
I know that the right man for me
is never going
1270
01:01:11,640 --> 01:01:14,520
to leave me feeling confused
or uncertain.
1271
01:01:14,560 --> 01:01:15,800
What you've taught me as well,
1272
01:01:15,840 --> 01:01:17,960
and this is one thing
that I will always take away,
1273
01:01:18,000 --> 01:01:20,040
is that, I will stop
1274
01:01:20,080 --> 01:01:22,600
prioritising people to
the detriment of myself...
1275
01:01:25,840 --> 01:01:28,120
..because I've done
that in every relationship,
1276
01:01:28,160 --> 01:01:29,720
I'm not doing it any more.
1277
01:01:29,760 --> 01:01:31,000
But yeah, it's just sad.
1278
01:01:31,040 --> 01:01:33,320
But, um, but yeah, based on that,
guys,
1279
01:01:33,360 --> 01:01:36,440
I have decided
to do what's best for me,
1280
01:01:36,480 --> 01:01:38,280
and leave.
1281
01:01:38,320 --> 01:01:41,040
Thank you. And to you, Steven.
1282
01:01:42,160 --> 01:01:43,920
I'm gutted that, look,
1283
01:01:43,960 --> 01:01:47,080
I've not been able to give you
what you deserve, and what you want.
1284
01:01:47,120 --> 01:01:49,360
It has been challenging,
but, do you know what?
1285
01:01:49,400 --> 01:01:51,440
You as a person, being introduced
1286
01:01:51,480 --> 01:01:56,680
to you, is a very big moment
in my life in terms of impact...
1287
01:01:58,760 --> 01:02:03,120
..because you've allowed me to be
like this now,
1288
01:02:03,160 --> 01:02:05,280
like, you've brought this side out
of me,
1289
01:02:05,320 --> 01:02:08,360
which I've turned off
for so long.
1290
01:02:08,400 --> 01:02:09,720
So, so long.
1291
01:02:09,760 --> 01:02:11,720
So, in terms of impact
1292
01:02:11,760 --> 01:02:13,920
and what you've done for me,
it's massive.
1293
01:02:13,960 --> 01:02:15,720
Massive. I don't, I couldn't
1294
01:02:15,760 --> 01:02:18,080
even put into words how massive
that is,
1295
01:02:18,120 --> 01:02:21,440
but, for me to grow as a person,
1296
01:02:21,480 --> 01:02:23,760
just to spend time with my kids
as well, who...
1297
01:02:25,200 --> 01:02:26,400
..I miss massively.
1298
01:02:26,440 --> 01:02:28,360
Yeah. I think it's right
for me to,
1299
01:02:28,400 --> 01:02:29,440
to leave as well.
1300
01:02:29,480 --> 01:02:31,040
OK, thank you. Well done, guys.
1301
01:02:34,440 --> 01:02:36,560
Thank you, guys. Thank you both so
much for being so brave.
1302
01:02:36,600 --> 01:02:38,600
Thank you. Well done.
Thank you. Good luck.
1303
01:02:38,640 --> 01:02:40,360
We really appreciate you. Oh, man.
1304
01:02:45,200 --> 01:02:47,200
I think at the beginning,
I don't think I ever expected
1305
01:02:47,240 --> 01:02:48,960
the marriage to end this way,
for sure,
1306
01:02:49,000 --> 01:02:50,680
I think I was very hopeful
in the beginning,
1307
01:02:50,720 --> 01:02:51,960
when you see the wedding day
1308
01:02:52,000 --> 01:02:54,600
and the honeymoon, even moved into
the apartments,
1309
01:02:54,640 --> 01:02:56,800
like the first week, I thought,
do you know what?
1310
01:02:56,840 --> 01:02:58,440
This could work.
1311
01:02:58,480 --> 01:03:00,880
To end it this way, definitely
didn't cross my mind,
1312
01:03:00,920 --> 01:03:02,920
to be accused of being on
a dating app,
1313
01:03:02,960 --> 01:03:05,240
and having to friend someone off
1314
01:03:05,280 --> 01:03:07,080
is never a way you want to
end the marriage,
1315
01:03:07,120 --> 01:03:09,360
but yeah, here we are, I guess.
1316
01:03:12,920 --> 01:03:14,920
Steven has 1,000% been caught out.
1317
01:03:14,960 --> 01:03:18,200
Honestly, I don't know why he
won't, why he won't admit it.
1318
01:03:19,240 --> 01:03:21,040
If you asked me on my
wedding day,
1319
01:03:21,080 --> 01:03:23,400
how I thought
it would end,
1320
01:03:23,440 --> 01:03:25,200
honestly, I just never thought
1321
01:03:25,240 --> 01:03:26,760
our journey would be like this.
1322
01:03:26,800 --> 01:03:29,280
I do deserve better, and he knows
that, too.
1323
01:03:30,560 --> 01:03:32,880
I just know that the right
man will come along
1324
01:03:32,920 --> 01:03:35,080
and he'll make me feel so adored,
so cherished,
1325
01:03:35,120 --> 01:03:37,080
I will never have
to question anything.
1326
01:03:42,200 --> 01:03:43,640
Next time... Oh, my God!
1327
01:03:43,680 --> 01:03:45,440
SCREAMING
1328
01:03:45,480 --> 01:03:49,000
Babe! ..the couples head off
on their final dates.
1329
01:03:49,040 --> 01:03:50,440
This is stunning!
1330
01:03:51,600 --> 01:03:54,280
For some,
it's a fairy tale come to life...
1331
01:03:54,320 --> 01:03:55,920
The connection we had instantly is
1332
01:03:55,960 --> 01:03:57,800
the same connection
that we have now.
1333
01:03:59,880 --> 01:04:03,720
..but for others, the magic fades
as reality sets in.
1334
01:04:03,760 --> 01:04:05,800
It's just the distance,
it's everything.
1335
01:04:05,840 --> 01:04:08,160
I never, ever thought
I'd have this problem.
1336
01:04:08,200 --> 01:04:09,880
I can't be without you.
1337
01:04:11,520 --> 01:04:13,600
And a roller-coaster of emotions....
1338
01:04:14,760 --> 01:04:17,440
I hate it.
We're just not on the same page.
1339
01:04:17,480 --> 01:04:20,520
..sends Leisha and Reiss's
marriage completely off the rails.
1340
01:04:20,560 --> 01:04:21,760
I was trying to be nice to you.
1341
01:04:21,800 --> 01:04:23,080
You were in a fucking mood.
1342
01:04:23,120 --> 01:04:26,320
I don't know if I'm the one for
Leisha. Am I enough?
1343
01:04:26,360 --> 01:04:27,720
Is that it for us?
1344
01:04:27,760 --> 01:04:30,640
I don't know
what else you need from me.
1345
01:04:30,680 --> 01:04:33,360
I just keep pushing him away,
I don't really know what to do.
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