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Would you like to inspect the original subtitles? These are the user uploaded subtitles that are being translated: 1 00:00:02,000 --> 00:00:03,600 You are everything that we could have wished for him. 2 00:00:03,640 --> 00:00:05,920 Previously... He told me that he loved me. 3 00:00:07,200 --> 00:00:09,720 ..Abigail and John's home stay touched hearts... 4 00:00:09,760 --> 00:00:13,040 I can't express how happy I am. 5 00:00:13,080 --> 00:00:14,760 ..but others were left broken. 6 00:00:14,800 --> 00:00:18,360 I struggle to see a future with Leo outside of the experiment. 7 00:00:18,400 --> 00:00:22,240 He's trying, and you're not. Maybe she's not for you. 8 00:00:23,520 --> 00:00:25,720 Leisha, you really want to settle down, 9 00:00:25,760 --> 00:00:28,680 I need to have that gut feeling that you're the same. 10 00:00:29,800 --> 00:00:31,560 If I was in your position, I would leave. 11 00:00:32,960 --> 00:00:36,360 ..leaving some... I'm not sure if I could leave home. 12 00:00:36,400 --> 00:00:39,520 ..with more questions than answers. If we can't come to an agreement, 13 00:00:39,560 --> 00:00:41,920 then we're both going to end up with broken hearts. 14 00:00:43,240 --> 00:00:47,040 And a shocking discovery... If you're married, 15 00:00:47,080 --> 00:00:50,040 do you think it's appropriate to be on a dating website? 16 00:00:51,520 --> 00:00:54,680 ..was the nail in the coffin for Nelly and Steven's marriage. 17 00:00:54,720 --> 00:00:56,640 I'm not on anything. Yes, you are. 18 00:00:57,760 --> 00:00:59,880 Why have you wasted your time in this experiment, and told her, 19 00:00:59,920 --> 00:01:02,440 "I really want to see it work," when actually you had no intention? 20 00:01:06,280 --> 00:01:07,400 This marriage is over. 21 00:01:07,440 --> 00:01:10,040 I want nothing to do with Steven any more. 22 00:01:10,080 --> 00:01:14,160 Tonight... I've never felt like this before about anybody. 23 00:01:14,200 --> 00:01:16,840 ..it's the final commitment ceremony... I love you now, 24 00:01:16,880 --> 00:01:18,160 I loved you at the wedding day, 25 00:01:18,200 --> 00:01:20,160 and I'm just so excited for everything. 26 00:01:21,200 --> 00:01:24,160 While some couples are more certain than ever before... 27 00:01:24,200 --> 00:01:27,040 I cannot imagine the rest of my life with anyone else. 28 00:01:29,400 --> 00:01:31,640 ..damage from home stays... I did feel the pressure a lot of, 29 00:01:31,680 --> 00:01:33,840 "Becca, are you going to move to Hove?" 30 00:01:33,880 --> 00:01:38,640 ..pushed others further apart. I'm not ready to say yes to that. 31 00:01:38,680 --> 00:01:40,560 We have had a lot of unnecessary drama. 32 00:01:40,600 --> 00:01:41,640 Do I need that? 33 00:01:43,400 --> 00:01:44,760 How is that possible? In seven weeks, 34 00:01:44,800 --> 00:01:45,920 how do I not know you? 35 00:01:47,200 --> 00:01:49,400 And Steven's secret scandal... 36 00:01:49,440 --> 00:01:52,600 I found out he was busy swiping on a dating app. 37 00:01:52,640 --> 00:01:55,240 I wasn't. ..sends shock waves through the group. 38 00:01:55,280 --> 00:01:58,160 That is Steven's profile, which is verified. 39 00:01:59,240 --> 00:02:01,680 That is not me. It's your face. Of course I'm going to deny it, 40 00:02:01,720 --> 00:02:03,160 because I know what I'm saying is true. 41 00:02:03,200 --> 00:02:04,560 That is not me on Hinge. 42 00:02:12,480 --> 00:02:14,200 Good morning, darling. Hello, little one. 43 00:02:14,240 --> 00:02:16,000 Thank you very much. Do you want some healthy greens? 44 00:02:16,040 --> 00:02:19,360 Yes, thank you. Start the day off right. 45 00:02:19,400 --> 00:02:23,600 Do you want some eye masks on? Come on then, make me all pretty. 46 00:02:23,640 --> 00:02:25,480 After time away at home stays, 47 00:02:25,520 --> 00:02:28,760 the couples are settling back into the apartments. 48 00:02:28,800 --> 00:02:32,400 Strangely weird being back. We've definitely come back stronger. 49 00:02:32,440 --> 00:02:34,400 Yeah, definitely. I think the argument 50 00:02:34,440 --> 00:02:37,840 was hugely beneficial to our relationship, overall. 51 00:02:37,880 --> 00:02:39,040 Yeah, it gave us the opportunity 52 00:02:39,080 --> 00:02:41,560 to learn more on how to deal with situations. 53 00:02:41,600 --> 00:02:44,360 I wouldn't change it. Love you more. 54 00:02:44,400 --> 00:02:45,920 Love you. 55 00:02:45,960 --> 00:02:47,000 Mwah. 56 00:02:53,160 --> 00:02:56,160 Going into this commitment ceremony, I've got a lot of clarity. 57 00:02:57,240 --> 00:02:59,840 During this home stay, I've learned that Stephen 58 00:02:59,880 --> 00:03:02,520 has been busy swiping women on a dating app. 59 00:03:04,200 --> 00:03:05,280 Sad, really. 60 00:03:05,320 --> 00:03:08,640 I've done a bit more digging, and Steven is lying. 61 00:03:08,680 --> 00:03:12,720 Are you really telling me that that verified account isn't you? 62 00:03:12,760 --> 00:03:14,080 Honestly, if he owned it, 63 00:03:14,120 --> 00:03:16,800 this would be a completely different commitment ceremony. 64 00:03:16,840 --> 00:03:20,120 If you don't have the basic respect to even give me the truth, 65 00:03:20,160 --> 00:03:22,440 then I can't help you at this point. 66 00:03:22,480 --> 00:03:24,440 I'm done protecting you now, 67 00:03:24,480 --> 00:03:27,560 but if you want to play that game, I'm prepared. 68 00:03:27,600 --> 00:03:28,920 That's not a problem by me. 69 00:03:36,040 --> 00:03:37,680 The end of the home stay with Nelly, 70 00:03:37,720 --> 00:03:40,480 yeah, not how I anticipated it would go. 71 00:03:40,520 --> 00:03:42,440 I thought I was going to Manchester purely to 72 00:03:42,480 --> 00:03:45,760 have a check with Nelly and I, and just to hash a few things out. 73 00:03:45,800 --> 00:03:49,720 When her friend come in and told me I was on a dating app, was, 74 00:03:49,760 --> 00:03:51,040 was shocking. 75 00:03:51,080 --> 00:03:52,920 When I'm still in this experiment, 76 00:03:52,960 --> 00:03:55,240 how stupid would I be to go on a dating app? 77 00:03:56,800 --> 00:03:59,520 I think there'll be a fair bit of animosity from Nelly towards me. 78 00:03:59,560 --> 00:04:02,960 She probably will want to get answers, but my head's clear, 79 00:04:03,000 --> 00:04:06,000 so, if they want to bring it up, then, I've got the answers for it. 80 00:04:06,040 --> 00:04:08,040 We'll see once we get to the commitment ceremony. 81 00:04:13,520 --> 00:04:15,200 Here you go, babe. Thank you. 82 00:04:15,240 --> 00:04:17,120 After home stays, I'm like, wow, 83 00:04:17,160 --> 00:04:19,040 like, that was so good for us. 84 00:04:19,080 --> 00:04:22,240 The more, kind of, milestones, I guess, we go through, 85 00:04:22,280 --> 00:04:26,440 it just strengthens, like, our bond and it just makes me realise how, 86 00:04:26,480 --> 00:04:29,280 what an incredible relationship, like, we do have. 87 00:04:29,320 --> 00:04:31,120 Home stay has definitely given us 88 00:04:31,160 --> 00:04:33,880 a taste of what life could be like outside of the experiment. 89 00:04:33,920 --> 00:04:36,280 Our family can see our genuine connection, 90 00:04:36,320 --> 00:04:38,040 so, I'm really excited 91 00:04:38,080 --> 00:04:39,960 and, I think we're going to have, like, 92 00:04:40,000 --> 00:04:41,480 an incredible life ahead of us. 93 00:04:41,520 --> 00:04:43,680 People can see the effect 94 00:04:43,720 --> 00:04:45,360 that this relationship is having on us, 95 00:04:45,400 --> 00:04:46,640 and we're both becoming 96 00:04:46,680 --> 00:04:49,000 better versions of ourselves because of each other. 97 00:04:49,040 --> 00:04:50,080 Yeah, 98 00:04:50,120 --> 00:04:52,520 and just makes me really excited for everything that's to come. 99 00:05:01,760 --> 00:05:02,920 So, what do you feel like you're going 100 00:05:02,960 --> 00:05:04,320 to do today with the decision? 101 00:05:04,360 --> 00:05:07,200 I don't know, I'm like in two minds at the moment. 102 00:05:07,240 --> 00:05:10,440 OK. The thought of leaving today, 103 00:05:10,480 --> 00:05:12,800 yeah, it makes me sad, because we've had a good home stay 104 00:05:12,840 --> 00:05:13,920 and it's been so good, 105 00:05:13,960 --> 00:05:15,760 and I did see her in a different light. 106 00:05:15,800 --> 00:05:18,080 Now I'm thinking, could it work on the outside world? 107 00:05:18,120 --> 00:05:20,400 There's all these different positives, 108 00:05:20,440 --> 00:05:23,360 but also some negatives in there, like, swooshing around. 109 00:05:23,400 --> 00:05:24,840 She doesn't trust me. Why? 110 00:05:24,880 --> 00:05:26,880 Because, I've disrespected her apparently, 111 00:05:26,920 --> 00:05:28,520 throughout this process. How? 112 00:05:28,560 --> 00:05:30,880 Obviously, there was the overfamiliar thing with you, 113 00:05:30,920 --> 00:05:33,720 and then there was me saying Leisha was more my type. 114 00:05:33,760 --> 00:05:35,200 But I did say that because she asked 115 00:05:35,240 --> 00:05:37,680 me outright at a dinner party. I'm not going to lie. 116 00:05:37,720 --> 00:05:38,920 Like I wouldn't mind 117 00:05:38,960 --> 00:05:41,440 if I've actually disrespected her, or I've actually done something, 118 00:05:41,480 --> 00:05:42,520 do you know what I mean? 119 00:05:42,560 --> 00:05:45,760 I just think it's so unfair not to be able to trust me. 120 00:05:45,800 --> 00:05:48,880 It's tough because you want to give it a chance, 121 00:05:48,920 --> 00:05:51,760 but I feel like you've given it a chance for such a long time, 122 00:05:51,800 --> 00:05:53,240 do you know what I mean? 123 00:05:53,280 --> 00:05:55,680 It's like huge decision for me today, definitely. 124 00:06:03,600 --> 00:06:07,200 After the home stays, me and April, we are in separate apartments. 125 00:06:07,240 --> 00:06:09,360 I was really holding out hope that the home stays 126 00:06:09,400 --> 00:06:12,440 were going to be make rather than break. 127 00:06:12,480 --> 00:06:14,080 The feedback from my friends wasn't great, 128 00:06:14,120 --> 00:06:16,840 but my mum and my sister communicated to me that, 129 00:06:16,880 --> 00:06:19,960 if you do like her still, you shouldn't give up right away. 130 00:06:21,200 --> 00:06:24,640 I have had a lot of feelings for April, and I still do, 131 00:06:24,680 --> 00:06:27,280 to be honest. We've had ups and downs, 132 00:06:27,320 --> 00:06:30,960 but I really hoped that we were going to fall in love. 133 00:06:31,000 --> 00:06:32,800 My head and my heart really aren't aligned, 134 00:06:32,840 --> 00:06:36,120 so I've really got to make this decision wisely. 135 00:06:36,160 --> 00:06:38,680 It's got to be what's best for me moving forward. 136 00:06:45,840 --> 00:06:47,000 Going into home stays, 137 00:06:47,040 --> 00:06:49,640 the hope that was there was that I could see the real Leo 138 00:06:49,680 --> 00:06:51,520 and see if his personality did come out, 139 00:06:51,560 --> 00:06:54,800 that he's been talking about all this time, but that didn't happen. 140 00:06:55,920 --> 00:06:58,880 Leo's friends confirmed what I thought, 141 00:06:58,920 --> 00:07:02,000 which is I'm not getting the real Leo. 142 00:07:02,040 --> 00:07:04,160 We've got completely different personalities, 143 00:07:04,200 --> 00:07:05,800 and we just haven't gelled. 144 00:07:05,840 --> 00:07:07,480 I came into this experiment wanting to find someone 145 00:07:07,520 --> 00:07:09,160 I could genuinely spend the rest of my life with. 146 00:07:09,200 --> 00:07:12,120 I was so hopeful at the beginning that it was going to work out, 147 00:07:12,160 --> 00:07:13,760 and, up until this point, 148 00:07:13,800 --> 00:07:17,480 I've definitely put Leo's feelings before mine, 149 00:07:17,520 --> 00:07:19,920 but today is the opportunity for me to make sure 150 00:07:19,960 --> 00:07:21,960 that I'm doing what's right for me. 151 00:07:22,000 --> 00:07:23,760 I want to lay everything out on the table, 152 00:07:23,800 --> 00:07:27,040 I'm going to be brutally honest. This is my time to get 153 00:07:27,080 --> 00:07:29,480 what I've been thinking and feeling off of my chest. 154 00:07:35,640 --> 00:07:37,800 Hey. All right? Yes. 155 00:07:37,840 --> 00:07:39,920 My anxieties are starting to creep in a little bit. 156 00:07:39,960 --> 00:07:43,520 My family loved Reiss They really, really want it to work. 157 00:07:43,560 --> 00:07:45,720 The only concern they had was 158 00:07:45,760 --> 00:07:48,760 when he told them that he's just not quite there yet. 159 00:07:48,800 --> 00:07:51,320 Reiss needs to be completely honest with himself, 160 00:07:51,360 --> 00:07:52,920 and he needs to really decide 161 00:07:52,960 --> 00:07:56,240 whether I am his lifelong partner that he's always wanted. 162 00:07:56,280 --> 00:07:58,240 So, I think we've always kind of known that, 163 00:07:58,280 --> 00:08:01,080 like, my feelings have been a little bit stronger than yours 164 00:08:01,120 --> 00:08:04,200 since the start, which is obviously not nice for me. 165 00:08:05,880 --> 00:08:07,160 It's never nice to hear that. 166 00:08:08,400 --> 00:08:11,360 I keep my emotions, like, quite closed off to begin with, 167 00:08:11,400 --> 00:08:14,240 until I feel, like, comfortable, 168 00:08:14,280 --> 00:08:16,120 or until I feel sure, 169 00:08:16,160 --> 00:08:19,120 and then I can start, like, letting the barriers down a bit. 170 00:08:20,560 --> 00:08:21,920 Do you think I am somebody 171 00:08:21,960 --> 00:08:23,960 that you'd want to spend the rest of your life with? 172 00:08:25,160 --> 00:08:26,680 You need to ask yourself that. 173 00:08:29,840 --> 00:08:32,640 Do you know that answer? Yeah, you do. 174 00:08:34,320 --> 00:08:37,760 And am I? Yeah, of course you are. Yeah. 175 00:08:37,800 --> 00:08:39,960 You're everything I've ever wanted in a man. 176 00:08:41,200 --> 00:08:42,480 SHE SOBS 177 00:08:42,520 --> 00:08:44,160 Why are you getting upset? 178 00:08:45,960 --> 00:08:49,680 I'm just scared that, like, what we've got is just not gonna be 179 00:08:49,720 --> 00:08:52,920 strong enough for, like, the outside. 180 00:08:56,960 --> 00:09:00,200 Like, I think I know the answers for me, 181 00:09:00,240 --> 00:09:01,600 but obviously... 182 00:09:03,000 --> 00:09:05,520 ..I don't fully know the answers from you yet, 183 00:09:05,560 --> 00:09:07,600 and obviously, I just get really scared. 184 00:09:13,240 --> 00:09:15,240 It's never nice seeing Leisha upset. 185 00:09:15,280 --> 00:09:17,480 I know she's getting a bit emotional because she's panicking, 186 00:09:17,520 --> 00:09:19,200 what's going to happen on the outside? 187 00:09:19,240 --> 00:09:22,240 Also, I've got a lot to think about. It's important for me to make 188 00:09:22,280 --> 00:09:25,000 the right decision today, because Leisha could end 189 00:09:25,040 --> 00:09:27,240 up being, like, the woman for the rest of my life. 190 00:09:27,280 --> 00:09:29,720 So, I do need to reflect on everything, 191 00:09:29,760 --> 00:09:33,080 I need to make sure I'm making that right choice. 192 00:09:33,120 --> 00:09:35,400 I certainly know that my feelings are very, 193 00:09:35,440 --> 00:09:36,920 very strong for Reiss, 194 00:09:36,960 --> 00:09:41,840 and I really want the experts to ask Reiss where his feelings are. 195 00:09:41,880 --> 00:09:44,040 It is a very vulnerable moment for me. 196 00:09:44,080 --> 00:09:46,320 I'm pretty much giving somebody my heart 197 00:09:46,360 --> 00:09:49,000 and soul, and they could easily crush it. 198 00:09:49,040 --> 00:09:51,520 But I want him to tell me directly, 199 00:09:51,560 --> 00:09:55,440 does he see a lifelong partner in me or not? 200 00:10:30,920 --> 00:10:33,960 Welcome to your final commitment ceremony. 201 00:10:34,000 --> 00:10:37,680 It's been incredible to see all of your journeys unfold 202 00:10:37,720 --> 00:10:39,640 with your time with us. 203 00:10:39,680 --> 00:10:42,800 This is the last time that you get to bring your marriage to 204 00:10:42,840 --> 00:10:45,880 the couch and share with us where you're at 205 00:10:45,920 --> 00:10:48,680 at this pivotal stage in the experiment, 206 00:10:48,720 --> 00:10:53,880 and make that final decision on whether to stay or leave. 207 00:10:53,920 --> 00:10:56,680 Before we begin, obviously, you'll all notice 208 00:10:56,720 --> 00:10:59,440 that Grace and Ashley are not with us today. 209 00:10:59,480 --> 00:11:02,720 They've had a rocky couple of weeks, and as a result, 210 00:11:02,760 --> 00:11:05,160 they felt they needed more time to reflect, 211 00:11:05,200 --> 00:11:07,080 and they won't be joining us today. 212 00:11:07,120 --> 00:11:10,480 Now, a lot has happened since we last met. 213 00:11:10,520 --> 00:11:12,560 We know it's been a high-pressured, 214 00:11:12,600 --> 00:11:15,440 emotional time for many of you, 215 00:11:15,480 --> 00:11:17,800 so let's start unpacking. 216 00:11:19,080 --> 00:11:21,520 First up on the couch, if we could have... 217 00:11:24,960 --> 00:11:26,360 ..Davide and Keye. 218 00:11:30,200 --> 00:11:31,240 Come on. 219 00:11:35,200 --> 00:11:38,640 All right, gents, how are we? Good. We're great. 220 00:11:38,680 --> 00:11:41,280 Ups and downs, but... Good overall. ..yeah. 221 00:11:41,320 --> 00:11:43,720 Right, home stays. Mm-hm. 222 00:11:43,760 --> 00:11:46,160 Had a bit of a moment. 223 00:11:46,200 --> 00:11:50,320 So, Davide and I went to a cat cafe. 224 00:11:51,560 --> 00:11:53,480 I don't much care for cats, 225 00:11:53,520 --> 00:11:57,280 but obviously they are important to Davide, as Davide has a cat. 226 00:11:58,640 --> 00:12:00,800 But, I also don't particularly like small spaces, 227 00:12:00,840 --> 00:12:03,800 so, the cat cafe was a basement, 228 00:12:03,840 --> 00:12:07,240 which was a very small, enclosed space with eight cats, 229 00:12:07,280 --> 00:12:10,160 so, I became extremely overwhelmed 230 00:12:10,200 --> 00:12:11,800 and extremely uncomfortable... 231 00:12:13,000 --> 00:12:15,040 ..and completely shut down, 232 00:12:15,080 --> 00:12:16,120 so left. 233 00:12:17,480 --> 00:12:19,360 We both tried to communicate. 234 00:12:19,400 --> 00:12:21,000 I then felt that Davide said something 235 00:12:21,040 --> 00:12:23,360 that was condescending, so stormed off again, 236 00:12:23,400 --> 00:12:25,880 and then I spent the night separately. 237 00:12:25,920 --> 00:12:27,800 Wow. Yeah. 238 00:12:27,840 --> 00:12:29,560 For me, I was frustrated because I could 239 00:12:29,600 --> 00:12:30,640 tell something was wrong, 240 00:12:30,680 --> 00:12:32,200 I just didn't understand what it was. 241 00:12:32,240 --> 00:12:33,520 I didn't understand it was the space, 242 00:12:33,560 --> 00:12:34,560 the cats, the questions, 243 00:12:34,600 --> 00:12:37,280 and then when you decided to leave, you decided to leave by yourself. 244 00:12:37,320 --> 00:12:39,160 All right, so just so I'm clear, so Keye, 245 00:12:39,200 --> 00:12:43,000 where did you go that evening? So, I went back to my apartment. 246 00:12:43,040 --> 00:12:44,320 Wow, so you went back home. Yeah. 247 00:12:44,360 --> 00:12:45,800 And I don't do well with people walking away 248 00:12:45,840 --> 00:12:47,640 from me, because I kind of feel abandoned. 249 00:12:50,920 --> 00:12:56,720 So Keye, I'm curious, do you retreat because you feel overwhelmed, 250 00:12:56,760 --> 00:12:59,480 or do you fear being left? 251 00:13:00,560 --> 00:13:03,880 In the cat cafe situation, that was just I had to get out. 252 00:13:03,920 --> 00:13:07,400 It's better for me to take myself out of that situation, 253 00:13:07,440 --> 00:13:08,760 than say something I can't take back, 254 00:13:08,800 --> 00:13:09,840 or that I'm going to regret 255 00:13:09,880 --> 00:13:12,080 that, in the heat of the moment is what I mean, 256 00:13:12,120 --> 00:13:13,560 but in actuality I have, 257 00:13:13,600 --> 00:13:15,080 there's no real meaning behind it whatsoever. 258 00:13:15,120 --> 00:13:17,440 OK, but it sounds like you're saying 259 00:13:17,480 --> 00:13:20,240 that you do admit this is an unhealthy behaviour. 260 00:13:20,280 --> 00:13:21,880 100%. OK. 100%. 261 00:13:21,920 --> 00:13:24,080 But I heard you just mention that you've figured out 262 00:13:24,120 --> 00:13:25,560 a resolution around it. Yeah. 263 00:13:25,600 --> 00:13:29,240 Going forward in those situations, we're both going to make a gesture, 264 00:13:29,280 --> 00:13:31,200 whether it's a word, a signal, 265 00:13:31,240 --> 00:13:33,320 pull the other out of whatever the situation is, 266 00:13:33,360 --> 00:13:34,480 and then try and go back into 267 00:13:34,520 --> 00:13:36,240 the situation to resolve it properly. 268 00:13:36,280 --> 00:13:39,400 If we can't, we put a pin in it. Pin in it, discuss it later. 269 00:13:39,440 --> 00:13:41,760 Yeah. Great. But I think the other piece of this is, 270 00:13:41,800 --> 00:13:43,560 I think, Keye, you should really 271 00:13:43,600 --> 00:13:45,960 think about, "What is driving me to retreat?" 272 00:13:46,000 --> 00:13:48,800 You mentioned most of the time it's being overwhelmed. 273 00:13:48,840 --> 00:13:51,680 Right. So if you mark that as a trigger... M-hm. 274 00:13:52,800 --> 00:13:56,960 ..then you can figure out together how you will not be overwhelmed, 275 00:13:57,000 --> 00:13:58,400 you can begin to set conditions. 276 00:13:58,440 --> 00:14:00,480 "I feel overwhelmed when I'm in a small space." 277 00:14:00,520 --> 00:14:01,920 Yeah. So we now know, 278 00:14:01,960 --> 00:14:04,400 as a team, we're not going to do this. 279 00:14:04,440 --> 00:14:05,640 Yeah. Yeah. Well done. 280 00:14:05,680 --> 00:14:07,880 I'm curious about friends and family. 281 00:14:07,920 --> 00:14:09,640 So what was the feedback 282 00:14:09,680 --> 00:14:13,160 from your friends and family about your relationship? 283 00:14:13,200 --> 00:14:17,000 My friends could totally see that I've never had this before, 284 00:14:17,040 --> 00:14:19,960 like, they say that the way we look at each other, 285 00:14:20,000 --> 00:14:23,520 I've never done that with anyone, and they can see a huge 286 00:14:23,560 --> 00:14:25,960 connection between both of us. 287 00:14:26,000 --> 00:14:28,800 And yeah, they just loved him massively. 288 00:14:28,840 --> 00:14:31,960 It was great to see him be himself around my friends. 289 00:14:32,000 --> 00:14:33,920 OK, so then, Keye, your friends 290 00:14:33,960 --> 00:14:36,320 and family, what were their thoughts on Davide? 291 00:14:36,360 --> 00:14:37,760 My friends absolutely loved Davide, 292 00:14:37,800 --> 00:14:40,800 they loved the calmer side, and like just how at ease 293 00:14:40,840 --> 00:14:43,680 that I feel in myself now, around him, 294 00:14:43,720 --> 00:14:46,320 how, just, genuine our connection was 295 00:14:46,360 --> 00:14:48,320 and how we were bouncing off of each other, 296 00:14:48,360 --> 00:14:51,480 um, yeah. It's, yeah, absolutely loved him, 297 00:14:51,520 --> 00:14:53,160 loved him to pieces. 298 00:14:53,200 --> 00:14:56,680 All right, so now we can go to a decision. 299 00:14:56,720 --> 00:14:58,760 I'm going to let you decide who goes first. 300 00:15:00,400 --> 00:15:04,560 I can't believe how much we've grown since we met. 301 00:15:04,600 --> 00:15:07,760 You make all of the best parts of me so much better, 302 00:15:07,800 --> 00:15:10,160 like, just by being yourself and, like, 303 00:15:10,200 --> 00:15:12,920 amplify them and then find a way to love all of 304 00:15:12,960 --> 00:15:15,320 the parts I don't really like about myself. 305 00:15:16,480 --> 00:15:19,320 So, for that reason, 306 00:15:19,360 --> 00:15:21,400 I have chosen to stay. 307 00:15:22,920 --> 00:15:23,960 I love you. 308 00:15:27,000 --> 00:15:30,400 All right, here we go. So for this entire time, 309 00:15:30,440 --> 00:15:31,960 I've seen parts of me with you, 310 00:15:32,000 --> 00:15:33,720 that I haven't seen in a very long time, 311 00:15:33,760 --> 00:15:36,280 and I haven't been this happy ever... 312 00:15:37,400 --> 00:15:40,560 ..and I would have never chosen to do this with anyone else. 313 00:15:40,600 --> 00:15:41,840 Because I can be me... 314 00:15:43,560 --> 00:15:47,400 ..and just see you and me growing together. 315 00:15:47,440 --> 00:15:51,040 And I'm never leaving you because you're stuck with me now. 316 00:15:51,080 --> 00:15:53,800 So, I decided to stay for that reason. 317 00:15:53,840 --> 00:15:55,240 Oh, there's a cat! 318 00:16:01,280 --> 00:16:03,160 Oh! You know what I've truly appreciated 319 00:16:03,200 --> 00:16:06,200 about your journey is that you two have been, what I say, 320 00:16:06,240 --> 00:16:09,240 people of their word. You stood on your values, 321 00:16:09,280 --> 00:16:10,520 you stood on your beliefs. 322 00:16:11,840 --> 00:16:14,320 Continue to be of your word. 323 00:16:14,360 --> 00:16:15,960 Continue to be of your word. Thank you. Thank you. 324 00:16:16,000 --> 00:16:18,120 Thank you, it means a lot. I'm so happy for you. 325 00:16:18,160 --> 00:16:21,520 Thank you, thank you, thank you so much. 326 00:16:25,240 --> 00:16:26,280 Yay! Love you. 327 00:16:28,520 --> 00:16:29,720 Our next couple tonight... 328 00:16:34,640 --> 00:16:36,160 ..Leigh and Leah. Oh! 329 00:16:42,320 --> 00:16:43,800 Hello, you gorgeous things. 330 00:16:45,200 --> 00:16:48,840 So, tell me about your experience of Partner Swap Week. 331 00:16:48,880 --> 00:16:51,560 Where has it brought you to, right now? 332 00:16:51,600 --> 00:16:55,480 So I was with Leisha, and you were with Davide. 333 00:16:55,520 --> 00:16:57,040 For me on my side, 334 00:16:57,080 --> 00:16:59,320 I came back from that all, like, excited, 335 00:16:59,360 --> 00:17:01,400 and I just walked into the Spanish Inquisition, 336 00:17:01,440 --> 00:17:03,720 you know, I sat down and it was like, 337 00:17:03,760 --> 00:17:05,400 "Did you flirt with her? Did she flirt with you? 338 00:17:05,440 --> 00:17:07,680 "Did you look at her?" Just so many mad questions, 339 00:17:07,720 --> 00:17:11,560 and I was like, the excitement of coming to see Leigh disappeared, 340 00:17:11,600 --> 00:17:15,680 and it was more, oh, God, I feel like that Leigh that we saw 341 00:17:15,720 --> 00:17:18,200 before was kind of coming back a little bit. 342 00:17:18,240 --> 00:17:20,640 So this is the trust issue, isn't it, again? 343 00:17:20,680 --> 00:17:23,840 Yeah. We had another issue, similar sort of situation. 344 00:17:23,880 --> 00:17:25,120 We went for drinks 345 00:17:25,160 --> 00:17:27,800 after a dinner party with, like a few of the other couples, 346 00:17:27,840 --> 00:17:30,840 and Leah was with two girls, 347 00:17:30,880 --> 00:17:34,760 and I saw her around one girl more. 348 00:17:34,800 --> 00:17:36,880 Leah didn't introduce us to each other, 349 00:17:36,920 --> 00:17:39,440 and so I got paranoid. 350 00:17:39,480 --> 00:17:42,360 And so in that moment, I felt like there was more to it, 351 00:17:42,400 --> 00:17:44,760 and she was around this girl and then the rest of us left, 352 00:17:44,800 --> 00:17:46,120 and Leah didn't want to leave, 353 00:17:46,160 --> 00:17:47,880 and I'm thinking it's because she's with this girl, 354 00:17:47,920 --> 00:17:51,120 and my head just went a million miles an hour. 355 00:17:51,160 --> 00:17:54,720 Can I just jump to Leah for a sec? I'm just interested in that moment, 356 00:17:54,760 --> 00:17:57,720 were you aware that Leigh was feeling insecure? 357 00:17:57,760 --> 00:17:58,880 For me, 358 00:17:58,920 --> 00:18:00,800 I'm not really a type of person that would go out, 359 00:18:00,840 --> 00:18:03,840 and I've never disrespected someone or like, the loyalty, 360 00:18:03,880 --> 00:18:06,480 I've never cheated, so, I don't think like that. 361 00:18:06,520 --> 00:18:08,280 Like, I just 100% trust her, 362 00:18:08,320 --> 00:18:10,720 so I didn't ever think she wouldn't with me. 363 00:18:10,760 --> 00:18:12,440 I guess what I'm hearing here is 364 00:18:12,480 --> 00:18:16,080 that you haven't yet established that level of trust, 365 00:18:16,120 --> 00:18:17,680 where it can be comfortable to flit off 366 00:18:17,720 --> 00:18:20,120 and do your social butterfly thing and come back. Yeah, that's what 367 00:18:20,160 --> 00:18:23,520 I've learnt now. So what do you need from Leah in order to build that? 368 00:18:23,560 --> 00:18:26,680 Just maybe a bit more reassurance in certain moments. 369 00:18:26,720 --> 00:18:30,320 You know, we're not really 100% sure on where we're at, 370 00:18:30,360 --> 00:18:33,200 so it's like, you can't really expect too much 371 00:18:33,240 --> 00:18:37,360 because there isn't certainty between us anyway. 372 00:18:37,400 --> 00:18:40,520 I think, you know, maybe it is time for you to start having those 373 00:18:40,560 --> 00:18:45,680 really crucial conversations about what you need. 374 00:18:45,720 --> 00:18:49,400 Mm-hm. So tell me about home stays. 375 00:18:49,440 --> 00:18:53,280 We've come out of home stays all like, a rock and a hard place. 376 00:18:53,320 --> 00:18:55,240 Yeah. It's gone... 377 00:18:56,680 --> 00:18:59,640 Because we was at such a low point just before home stay. 378 00:18:59,680 --> 00:19:01,640 The dinner party, we were like, question mark, 379 00:19:01,680 --> 00:19:03,800 we don't know if we're going to even do home stays, 380 00:19:03,840 --> 00:19:07,240 and then we had real open, honest conversations at home stays, 381 00:19:07,280 --> 00:19:09,360 like, we actually had a really good time. We did. 382 00:19:09,400 --> 00:19:11,400 I did see a different side to her that I haven't seen. 383 00:19:11,440 --> 00:19:14,400 She was softer, like a little bit more gentle to be around, 384 00:19:14,440 --> 00:19:17,200 and I think until the home stays I didn't realise 385 00:19:17,240 --> 00:19:19,800 Leigh didn't 100% trust me, because I found out then. 386 00:19:19,840 --> 00:19:21,160 OK. So I think you got a bit 387 00:19:21,200 --> 00:19:23,000 of validation from like my auntie and my cousin, 388 00:19:23,040 --> 00:19:25,000 they were like, "Leah likes to have fun. 389 00:19:25,040 --> 00:19:26,760 "She goes out, she makes 20 friends and comes back 390 00:19:26,800 --> 00:19:28,800 "and they're all at her house for a party." 391 00:19:28,840 --> 00:19:31,160 Stop deeping everything, just go and have fun." 392 00:19:31,200 --> 00:19:36,000 And then we went to yours, didn't we? Yes, that was a lot. 393 00:19:36,040 --> 00:19:37,160 OK. 394 00:19:37,200 --> 00:19:42,520 Um, Nicole's my best friend, and she's always brutally honest, 395 00:19:42,560 --> 00:19:44,240 you know, she's always going to tell me the truth. 396 00:19:44,280 --> 00:19:45,320 She was like, 397 00:19:45,360 --> 00:19:47,960 "If it was me at this point in the experiment, I would have left." 398 00:19:50,000 --> 00:19:53,120 I think for us, those doubts were already there anyway, 399 00:19:53,160 --> 00:19:56,200 as well as the positives, both are prominent in our minds. 400 00:19:56,240 --> 00:19:58,760 So I think, you know, having both magnified 401 00:19:58,800 --> 00:20:01,440 during home stay has just, I suppose, 402 00:20:01,480 --> 00:20:03,200 put us in a space where it's like, right, 403 00:20:03,240 --> 00:20:05,240 well, now it's the last hurdle. 404 00:20:05,280 --> 00:20:07,720 Wh... Now we've got to make a decision. 405 00:20:07,760 --> 00:20:09,240 The challenge we have now is 406 00:20:09,280 --> 00:20:11,400 that it's practically the end of the experiment. 407 00:20:11,440 --> 00:20:12,720 Yeah. 408 00:20:15,560 --> 00:20:17,240 I mean, we could look at this in a very 409 00:20:17,280 --> 00:20:21,320 black-and-white way and say, well, you're not in love, 410 00:20:21,360 --> 00:20:25,240 you know, you're not having a full-blown romantic relationship, 411 00:20:25,280 --> 00:20:28,000 therefore, end of days, move on. 412 00:20:29,080 --> 00:20:31,360 Yeah. But something's certainly stopping us from saying that, 413 00:20:31,400 --> 00:20:32,760 and I can see that it's stopping you guys 414 00:20:32,800 --> 00:20:34,640 from saying that, as well. 415 00:20:34,680 --> 00:20:37,800 Because we know this is not just a friendship. 416 00:20:37,840 --> 00:20:39,280 I've known for ages 417 00:20:39,320 --> 00:20:41,000 there's something there more than friendship, 418 00:20:41,040 --> 00:20:44,200 because each hurdle that we come to, it's like we have 419 00:20:44,240 --> 00:20:47,200 another realisation of each other. Like after home stay, 420 00:20:47,240 --> 00:20:49,680 we've got to see each other again in a whole new light, 421 00:20:49,720 --> 00:20:51,520 we've learnt more about each other that we didn't know, 422 00:20:51,560 --> 00:20:52,680 even eight weeks on, 423 00:20:52,720 --> 00:20:54,560 we're still learning about each other now. 424 00:20:54,600 --> 00:20:55,920 So for me, 425 00:20:55,960 --> 00:20:59,240 I'm thinking these are more reasons why we've been matched. 426 00:20:59,280 --> 00:21:00,680 Now we're like, ah... 427 00:21:01,880 --> 00:21:05,240 ..I don't know. I wish that home stay happened weeks ago. 428 00:21:05,280 --> 00:21:08,760 Yeah. That's what I feel like. Yeah. 429 00:21:08,800 --> 00:21:13,720 Mm, but I think for me as well, I need 100% trust from my partner. 430 00:21:13,760 --> 00:21:16,800 Especially if we're gonna look at taking this to the outside world, 431 00:21:16,840 --> 00:21:19,320 and we want to have a long-distance relationship. 432 00:21:19,360 --> 00:21:22,920 I think that is a huge thing for me. 433 00:21:22,960 --> 00:21:25,840 I'm also thinking about who I thought I was coming 434 00:21:25,880 --> 00:21:28,560 in here, and who I've realised I am now. 435 00:21:28,600 --> 00:21:32,880 Can, can I give my all to somebody in the ways that they need, 436 00:21:32,920 --> 00:21:35,760 with the stuff that I've still got to work on? 437 00:21:35,800 --> 00:21:40,520 What you're saying, Leigh, is, "Maybe I'm not ready. 438 00:21:40,560 --> 00:21:42,920 "Maybe, Leah, you are the right partner for me, 439 00:21:42,960 --> 00:21:44,680 "but this is not the right time." 440 00:21:48,360 --> 00:21:50,040 I think these are very fair 441 00:21:50,080 --> 00:21:51,440 and important questions to ask yourself. 442 00:21:51,480 --> 00:21:52,720 Yeah. Yeah. 443 00:21:56,200 --> 00:21:57,960 Well, look, we're going to go to a decision. 444 00:21:58,000 --> 00:22:00,840 OK. Leah, we'll start with you. What's your decision? 445 00:22:00,880 --> 00:22:04,040 For me, I guess what Paul's just reiterating there 446 00:22:04,080 --> 00:22:07,640 is sometimes I don't know if you are 100% ready for this. 447 00:22:10,240 --> 00:22:11,280 I don't know 448 00:22:11,320 --> 00:22:13,920 if maybe I'm the right person for you in that sense. 449 00:22:15,760 --> 00:22:18,040 So, yeah, I have found it really difficult today, 450 00:22:20,040 --> 00:22:24,360 But we've started this journey from absolutely nothing, 451 00:22:24,400 --> 00:22:26,560 and each time I feel like we've grown 452 00:22:26,600 --> 00:22:29,400 and grown and grown and grown. Yeah, we've plateaued a couple of times, 453 00:22:29,440 --> 00:22:33,400 but there's a reason I'm still here, and a reason you're still here. 454 00:22:33,440 --> 00:22:37,520 And I think each day I'm learning so much about myself and about you. 455 00:22:37,560 --> 00:22:40,440 So, yeah, for that reason, 456 00:22:40,480 --> 00:22:43,480 I have chose to stay, to see where this goes. 457 00:22:45,360 --> 00:22:46,880 Good stuff. 458 00:22:46,920 --> 00:22:47,960 And Leigh. 459 00:22:49,080 --> 00:22:52,440 Um, my head's been really conflicted and all over the place. 460 00:22:53,520 --> 00:22:55,440 I've been back and forth about it, 461 00:22:55,480 --> 00:22:59,160 and nothing about it is a reflection of you as a person, 462 00:22:59,200 --> 00:23:02,120 but while I'm still not very trusting, 463 00:23:02,160 --> 00:23:05,400 and while I'm still, maybe, not over things in my past, 464 00:23:05,440 --> 00:23:08,320 is it right for me, right now, to put that on somebody else? 465 00:23:10,520 --> 00:23:12,680 And Nicole telling me that she would leave 466 00:23:12,720 --> 00:23:16,680 at this point of the experiment, gave me a lot to think about. 467 00:23:16,720 --> 00:23:19,080 But how I'm feeling right now 468 00:23:19,120 --> 00:23:20,600 about me and you is... 469 00:23:22,680 --> 00:23:24,960 ..a lot more positive than I felt a week ago. 470 00:23:25,000 --> 00:23:27,440 The connection feels better, especially after home stay, 471 00:23:27,480 --> 00:23:29,840 I think that was needed at that point, 472 00:23:29,880 --> 00:23:32,840 and I'm holding on to the moment that we're in right now. 473 00:23:32,880 --> 00:23:36,560 It wouldn't feel right in feeling how I feel to leave. 474 00:23:36,600 --> 00:23:39,240 So for that reason, I chose to stay. 475 00:23:39,280 --> 00:23:41,320 OK, wonderful. 476 00:23:42,960 --> 00:23:45,160 Well, some really honest, 477 00:23:45,200 --> 00:23:48,400 direct conversation between the two of you. 478 00:23:48,440 --> 00:23:52,560 It's time to just open it all up and lay it on the table. 479 00:23:53,640 --> 00:23:55,560 You can do this. No, but thank you very much, 480 00:23:55,600 --> 00:23:57,440 we do appreciate you, all three of you. 481 00:23:57,480 --> 00:23:59,840 Such a pleasure. Thank you. Thank you. Wish you all the best. 482 00:23:59,880 --> 00:24:02,440 Thank you. Thanks, guys. Thank you. 483 00:24:10,600 --> 00:24:11,840 Next up on the couch... 484 00:24:14,920 --> 00:24:16,080 ..if we could have... 485 00:24:17,480 --> 00:24:19,600 ..Reiss and Leisha. Come on up. 486 00:24:21,840 --> 00:24:23,040 Hello. 487 00:24:27,160 --> 00:24:28,360 Oh, my gosh. All right, 488 00:24:28,400 --> 00:24:31,400 so we cannot wait to hear about home stays, 489 00:24:31,440 --> 00:24:33,200 Reiss, had you been to Scotland before? 490 00:24:33,240 --> 00:24:35,200 First time. First time? Mm-hm, yeah. 491 00:24:35,240 --> 00:24:39,560 So then, friends and family... Yeah. ..what do they think of Reiss? 492 00:24:39,600 --> 00:24:42,440 Oh, they love Reiss, like, how can you not love Reiss? 493 00:24:42,480 --> 00:24:45,480 He's just, he's easy-going, he's so nice, he's kind. 494 00:24:45,520 --> 00:24:47,320 Everybody got on so well. 495 00:24:47,360 --> 00:24:49,920 The only one thing I would say with that, 496 00:24:49,960 --> 00:24:55,320 when Reiss left, my sister did say to me, like, "Just be careful." 497 00:24:55,360 --> 00:24:56,880 I think she just was nervous 498 00:24:56,920 --> 00:24:58,800 that his feelings aren't as strong as mine. 499 00:25:01,080 --> 00:25:03,640 That's interesting. Reiss, what's your take on that? 500 00:25:03,680 --> 00:25:05,240 To me, honestly, I don't think that's, 501 00:25:05,280 --> 00:25:06,680 that's not really a secret, is it? 502 00:25:07,720 --> 00:25:09,760 Not that I haven't got no emotions, but I feel 503 00:25:09,800 --> 00:25:12,680 like, you're getting quicker to the end goal, which is love, right? 504 00:25:12,720 --> 00:25:13,760 Mm-hm. 505 00:25:15,240 --> 00:25:18,400 So, you feel like Leisha is 100% 506 00:25:18,440 --> 00:25:20,680 into you and the relationship, 507 00:25:20,720 --> 00:25:23,680 and you're more, like, 80% into her in the relationship. 508 00:25:23,720 --> 00:25:25,000 Probably, yeah. 509 00:25:28,000 --> 00:25:29,120 Leisha, how does it feel... 510 00:25:33,160 --> 00:25:37,200 ..to be in a relationship, you know that you're in it 100%... 511 00:25:39,080 --> 00:25:41,720 ..and your partner's just acknowledged he's 80% into it? 512 00:25:43,600 --> 00:25:45,680 I just want us to be in love with each other, 513 00:25:45,720 --> 00:25:48,200 so, I mean, it's not nice, is it? 514 00:26:03,240 --> 00:26:04,280 Leisha, how does it feel... 515 00:26:07,880 --> 00:26:12,000 ..to be in a relationship, you know that you're in it 100%... 516 00:26:13,920 --> 00:26:16,640 ..and your partner's just acknowledged he's 80% into it? 517 00:26:18,640 --> 00:26:20,560 I just want us to be in love with each other, 518 00:26:20,600 --> 00:26:23,120 so, I mean, it's not nice, is it? 519 00:26:29,240 --> 00:26:33,160 Cos it's just never nice to, like, hear it, um... 520 00:26:40,160 --> 00:26:41,880 And I can't, I can't fake it, can I? 521 00:26:41,920 --> 00:26:43,960 I can't be like, "Oh yeah, I'm 100% in it as well," 522 00:26:44,000 --> 00:26:45,320 I've got to be honest. 523 00:26:47,160 --> 00:26:48,480 Like, I want to get there, 524 00:26:48,520 --> 00:26:50,560 I feel like we're going in the right direction, 525 00:26:50,600 --> 00:26:52,840 but Leisha's a little bit more ahead of me. 526 00:26:52,880 --> 00:26:57,000 Just from here and the dinner party, one thing that is clear is there 527 00:26:57,040 --> 00:26:58,600 has been growth in this relationship. 528 00:26:58,640 --> 00:27:01,200 Oh, for sure, yeah, like I didn't start off at 80%. 529 00:27:01,240 --> 00:27:03,080 But the question, though, is, 530 00:27:03,120 --> 00:27:05,040 where are we going to go next? 531 00:27:05,080 --> 00:27:08,520 Because we are at the end of the experiment, 532 00:27:08,560 --> 00:27:10,440 this is your last time on the couch. 533 00:27:10,480 --> 00:27:12,960 And the hope is that, when you're leaving the couch, 534 00:27:13,000 --> 00:27:18,600 that there's clarity on where the relationship could go. 535 00:27:18,640 --> 00:27:20,280 Leisha, where do you believe 536 00:27:20,320 --> 00:27:21,840 this relationship is going to go? 537 00:27:23,120 --> 00:27:27,280 To be honest with you, I don't feel like I get the clarity that I need. 538 00:27:27,320 --> 00:27:28,720 Oh. 539 00:27:31,760 --> 00:27:35,120 I want it to go, we talk about kids, 540 00:27:35,160 --> 00:27:37,680 so I do feel like there's a slight mixed messaging 541 00:27:37,720 --> 00:27:40,840 because I feel like, he does say all these things, 542 00:27:40,880 --> 00:27:44,840 but then, he's then telling me now that he's 80%. 543 00:27:48,600 --> 00:27:50,920 Reiss, what's the 20%? 544 00:27:50,960 --> 00:27:53,080 Throughout the relationship, we have had 545 00:27:53,120 --> 00:27:54,840 a lot of, like, unnecessary drama, 546 00:27:54,880 --> 00:27:57,800 that's why my past relationship didn't work out. 547 00:27:57,840 --> 00:27:59,240 Do I need that again? 548 00:28:00,320 --> 00:28:03,000 But that's what scares me, is that every single time we have 549 00:28:03,040 --> 00:28:05,760 even the minor argument, I can see Reiss... 550 00:28:05,800 --> 00:28:07,640 That's what scares me too, though. ..pushing away, 551 00:28:07,680 --> 00:28:10,480 and I think that's real life. That's marriage. 552 00:28:11,560 --> 00:28:14,400 This is what you're going to experience in relationships. 553 00:28:14,440 --> 00:28:16,120 There will be times where your partner 554 00:28:16,160 --> 00:28:19,400 is feeling a bit emotional and they might just need a hug. 555 00:28:19,440 --> 00:28:21,640 They just might need that physical touch. 556 00:28:21,680 --> 00:28:23,240 I just need Reiss to know that, obviously, 557 00:28:23,280 --> 00:28:25,400 like, I do get irrational now and again. 558 00:28:25,440 --> 00:28:26,440 It isn't coming from a place 559 00:28:26,480 --> 00:28:28,840 that I'm trying to be annoying or I'm trying to, 560 00:28:28,880 --> 00:28:30,360 you know, make his life harder, 561 00:28:30,400 --> 00:28:32,960 I'm just, in that moment, my, my emotions are everywhere, 562 00:28:33,000 --> 00:28:35,280 and I just need him to be like, "I've got you. 563 00:28:35,320 --> 00:28:36,360 "You're my girl." 564 00:28:39,760 --> 00:28:42,400 You know, what has been consistent in your relationship is 565 00:28:42,440 --> 00:28:46,480 that when emotions are high, you react to it differently, right? 566 00:28:46,520 --> 00:28:48,080 Whereas, Reiss, 567 00:28:48,120 --> 00:28:51,400 what you like to do is you like to take a step back, right? 568 00:28:51,440 --> 00:28:53,320 Leisha, you like to take a step forward. 569 00:28:53,360 --> 00:28:55,880 Yeah. So you have to figure out, OK, 570 00:28:55,920 --> 00:28:58,160 in these moments, which you will have, 571 00:28:58,200 --> 00:29:02,040 what can each of you do to help better the situation? 572 00:29:03,280 --> 00:29:05,480 So Reiss, what's one lesson that you've picked 573 00:29:05,520 --> 00:29:07,840 up from this advice that you received? 574 00:29:07,880 --> 00:29:10,360 If I could see, like, Leisha's stressed, 575 00:29:10,400 --> 00:29:12,240 like a bit erratic, just like, 576 00:29:12,280 --> 00:29:14,760 swallow my pride a little bit and just give her a hug, 577 00:29:14,800 --> 00:29:16,840 and then we could just save all the other 578 00:29:16,880 --> 00:29:18,960 unnecessary drama that comes with it later on. 579 00:29:19,000 --> 00:29:20,080 There you go. Voila. 580 00:29:20,120 --> 00:29:24,080 You're the antidote to the unnecessary drama, right? 581 00:29:24,120 --> 00:29:26,000 Mm-hm. Let's say that you take 582 00:29:26,040 --> 00:29:29,040 that onboard and the unnecessary drama reduces. 583 00:29:29,080 --> 00:29:31,400 Mm-hm. Where do you think that 80% goes to? 584 00:29:31,440 --> 00:29:34,920 Oh, 100%, it will carry on growing, yeah. Does it go to 100%? 585 00:29:34,960 --> 00:29:36,960 Yeah, of course, why not? It does? 586 00:29:37,000 --> 00:29:39,200 And I heard you earlier say 100% is love. 587 00:29:39,240 --> 00:29:44,040 Yes, there you go. Yeah, yeah, yeah. So with these small behavioural 588 00:29:44,080 --> 00:29:47,160 changes, we can get to 100%. Yeah. 589 00:29:48,920 --> 00:29:51,360 Hope so. So then, we'll go to the decisions. 590 00:29:51,400 --> 00:29:54,280 OK. Leisha, if you could go first. Um, 591 00:29:54,320 --> 00:29:57,200 I've just loved being with Reiss. 592 00:29:57,240 --> 00:30:00,280 I feel like I've been so lucky to have been matched 593 00:30:00,320 --> 00:30:01,720 with Reiss as well, like, 594 00:30:01,760 --> 00:30:04,600 you're just the perfect person for me. 595 00:30:04,640 --> 00:30:06,160 You are, you really are, 596 00:30:06,200 --> 00:30:10,040 and just hopefully grow as a couple. 597 00:30:10,080 --> 00:30:13,040 So, I'm going to put stay. Cute. 598 00:30:19,520 --> 00:30:22,320 Reiss. Thank you for being an amazing person, 599 00:30:22,360 --> 00:30:25,840 amazing wife, amazing cook. You do put a smile on my face daily, 600 00:30:25,880 --> 00:30:27,960 we always have a giggle with each other, 601 00:30:28,000 --> 00:30:30,160 and I know we've got plenty more of them times to come. 602 00:30:30,200 --> 00:30:31,360 So for that reason... 603 00:30:32,320 --> 00:30:34,120 ..I'm going to put stay. 604 00:30:34,160 --> 00:30:35,200 Aw. 605 00:30:36,640 --> 00:30:37,680 Mwah. 606 00:30:39,320 --> 00:30:40,600 It's been beautiful to see the growth, 607 00:30:40,640 --> 00:30:41,880 it really has. 608 00:30:41,920 --> 00:30:43,840 Keep focusing on... 609 00:30:45,080 --> 00:30:48,120 ..ensuring that each other, that you feel safe. Yeah. 610 00:30:48,160 --> 00:30:49,960 This is the key for the two of you. 611 00:30:50,000 --> 00:30:51,840 If you do that, this relationship will be endless. 612 00:30:51,880 --> 00:30:55,040 Thank you. Well done, guys. Thanks, guys. Thank you. 613 00:31:05,160 --> 00:31:06,480 Next up to the couch... 614 00:31:10,920 --> 00:31:12,280 ..Abigail and John. 615 00:31:15,920 --> 00:31:19,880 Hello. Hi. Hey, looking lovely. Thank you. 616 00:31:19,920 --> 00:31:23,880 Good to see the two of you. How are you both doing? 617 00:31:23,920 --> 00:31:25,560 Yeah, we're really good. 618 00:31:26,800 --> 00:31:29,320 John, can you talk us through Partner Swap Week? 619 00:31:29,360 --> 00:31:31,480 I had Partner Swap Week with 620 00:31:31,520 --> 00:31:35,000 that amazing man over there, Keye, and we spoke about, 621 00:31:35,040 --> 00:31:38,000 um, living in the moment, you know, we've been on this sofa 622 00:31:38,040 --> 00:31:39,440 before and spoke so much about, oh, 623 00:31:39,480 --> 00:31:41,720 what happens in the future or you know, yeah, great, 624 00:31:41,760 --> 00:31:45,040 we want kids and stuff, and I had this realisation like, 625 00:31:45,080 --> 00:31:47,240 wow, what the hell have I been waiting for? 626 00:31:47,280 --> 00:31:49,880 I need to go back and tell my wife that I love her. 627 00:31:49,920 --> 00:31:51,520 So, I came back from 628 00:31:51,560 --> 00:31:54,640 Partner Swap Week and told Abi that I loved her. 629 00:31:58,080 --> 00:32:01,240 And it felt exactly like it should, it was amazing. 630 00:32:01,280 --> 00:32:03,080 And then you did say it back, didn't you? 631 00:32:03,120 --> 00:32:04,400 Yeah, when John said 632 00:32:04,440 --> 00:32:06,840 that he loved me, I was like, oh my God, like, yes, 633 00:32:06,880 --> 00:32:08,440 like I literally, I love you back. 634 00:32:08,480 --> 00:32:11,040 And there's been many a times where I think I've wanted to say it, 635 00:32:11,080 --> 00:32:13,120 but I've kind of, maybe, stopped myself 636 00:32:13,160 --> 00:32:15,320 because I've just, maybe, been scared to. 637 00:32:17,200 --> 00:32:19,360 I remember saying, like, before this experiment, 638 00:32:19,400 --> 00:32:21,800 I had such an anxious attachment style, 639 00:32:21,840 --> 00:32:25,320 and I've just never had that security from a partner before, 640 00:32:25,360 --> 00:32:28,320 that makes me feel so good about myself and like, 641 00:32:28,360 --> 00:32:31,000 so secure in our relationship and just so happy. 642 00:32:31,040 --> 00:32:33,440 It kind of feels like it's gone from strength to strength. 643 00:32:33,480 --> 00:32:36,160 That has really helped us sort of solidify the two of you. 644 00:32:36,200 --> 00:32:37,600 Yeah, definitely. 645 00:32:39,160 --> 00:32:40,800 Let's talk about home stays. John, 646 00:32:40,840 --> 00:32:44,000 can you talk us through the home stay experience for you? 647 00:32:44,040 --> 00:32:45,080 So, um, 648 00:32:45,120 --> 00:32:47,480 just so excited to see Abi's mum and dad to say, 649 00:32:47,520 --> 00:32:48,560 like, look, do you know 650 00:32:48,600 --> 00:32:50,320 what everything that I said I was going to do, 651 00:32:50,360 --> 00:32:52,560 look at us, this is what we've done, and it was a beautiful, 652 00:32:52,600 --> 00:32:53,640 beautiful moment. 653 00:32:53,680 --> 00:32:56,760 And then Abi's mum mentioned, well, you can take this over if you want. 654 00:32:56,800 --> 00:32:58,920 Yeah, this makes me feel emotional because, so... 655 00:32:58,960 --> 00:33:02,200 Aw, do you want me to do it? Yeah, no, no, no. 656 00:33:02,240 --> 00:33:05,720 Um, me and my mum are very close, and we've been through 657 00:33:05,760 --> 00:33:07,960 a lot of tough times together, And, you know, 658 00:33:08,000 --> 00:33:10,680 my mum sat there whilst I've been in tears after, 659 00:33:10,720 --> 00:33:13,200 like, just being hurt by previous partners. 660 00:33:13,240 --> 00:33:14,560 They've, obviously, never 661 00:33:14,600 --> 00:33:17,760 approved previous partners that I brought home, um, 662 00:33:17,800 --> 00:33:19,360 and with good reason. 663 00:33:19,400 --> 00:33:20,720 My mum said to me, 664 00:33:20,760 --> 00:33:22,800 like when she obviously saw me and John, 665 00:33:22,840 --> 00:33:25,040 "You seem like, you know, a grown woman, 666 00:33:25,080 --> 00:33:27,840 "basically a more confident version of yourself, 667 00:33:27,880 --> 00:33:30,360 "and we can just see how happy you are," 668 00:33:30,400 --> 00:33:32,680 and, like, that's massive, because I've never 669 00:33:32,720 --> 00:33:35,840 had, like, my mum say that, you know, about me, 670 00:33:35,880 --> 00:33:38,720 like, with regards to, like, a partner, it just, 671 00:33:38,760 --> 00:33:41,320 yeah, it just means, like, so much to me. 672 00:33:42,560 --> 00:33:44,160 I think what's really powerful about 673 00:33:44,200 --> 00:33:48,480 what both of you are saying here is that prior to meeting each other, 674 00:33:48,520 --> 00:33:50,920 that single journey isn't easy, 675 00:33:50,960 --> 00:33:53,400 you know, there's pros and cons of the single world, 676 00:33:53,440 --> 00:33:56,040 and you've both very eloquently spoken about 677 00:33:56,080 --> 00:33:59,160 some of the challenges of being single, of being alone. 678 00:33:59,200 --> 00:34:03,640 And now it's your turn to enjoy being in a relationship. 679 00:34:03,680 --> 00:34:07,160 I was a poorer version of myself before Abi came along, 680 00:34:07,200 --> 00:34:09,080 you know, like, I just feel 681 00:34:09,120 --> 00:34:12,640 like I'm ten foot tall with being with you. Aww. 682 00:34:18,200 --> 00:34:21,000 Should we go to the decisions? Do we need to go to a decision? 683 00:34:22,440 --> 00:34:26,120 OK. Big reveal. So let's start with yourself, Abigail. 684 00:34:26,160 --> 00:34:28,400 I've never been in a relationship 685 00:34:28,440 --> 00:34:33,080 where I felt so secure, so safe, and so happy. 686 00:34:33,120 --> 00:34:35,840 I came into this experiment wanting to find my forever person, and 687 00:34:35,880 --> 00:34:39,480 I have found that, and I'm so excited about our future, 688 00:34:39,520 --> 00:34:42,640 so, that's why I have decided to... 689 00:34:43,960 --> 00:34:45,360 ..stay. 690 00:34:48,000 --> 00:34:49,400 Am I supposed to clap? 691 00:34:49,440 --> 00:34:51,400 I don't know when I'm supposed to clap! I can clap. 692 00:34:53,200 --> 00:34:55,760 You can clap, it's OK. I need to clap now. 693 00:34:57,080 --> 00:35:01,000 John, what's your decision? Yeah, I'm having the best time, like, 694 00:35:01,040 --> 00:35:03,920 I'm so pleased that it was you at the top of the aisle, 695 00:35:03,960 --> 00:35:06,920 like, everybody sees the energy that we have for each other. 696 00:35:06,960 --> 00:35:08,920 I love you now, I loved you at the wedding day, 697 00:35:08,960 --> 00:35:10,000 I was just a bit too scared 698 00:35:10,040 --> 00:35:12,280 to say those kind of things too early. 699 00:35:12,320 --> 00:35:16,160 And also, I love myself, and that's what you're doing for me. 700 00:35:16,200 --> 00:35:17,280 And I'm just so excited 701 00:35:17,320 --> 00:35:19,680 for everything that we've got coming. 702 00:35:19,720 --> 00:35:22,560 So wait there. Wait there. 703 00:35:22,600 --> 00:35:24,440 Hopefully you say stay! 704 00:35:24,480 --> 00:35:26,720 So, as a result, I'm staying. 705 00:35:29,760 --> 00:35:32,360 I'll kiss you now. Now, they can kiss! 706 00:35:35,000 --> 00:35:39,520 Excellent. Abigail and John, go and enjoy your life together. 707 00:35:39,560 --> 00:35:41,360 Oh, thank you. 708 00:35:41,400 --> 00:35:42,440 Thank you. Well done, guys! 709 00:35:47,240 --> 00:35:49,480 All right, next up on the couch... 710 00:35:51,400 --> 00:35:52,520 ..if we could have... 711 00:35:53,560 --> 00:35:54,800 ..April and Leo. 712 00:36:03,120 --> 00:36:05,600 All right. April, good to see you. Good to see you. 713 00:36:05,640 --> 00:36:07,920 Good to see you. I'm happy to be here. 714 00:36:07,960 --> 00:36:10,040 All right, this is good, this is good. 715 00:36:10,080 --> 00:36:12,840 I see there's no smile on April's face. 716 00:36:12,880 --> 00:36:15,080 No. No. No. 717 00:36:16,320 --> 00:36:18,800 Clearly, there's some serious 718 00:36:18,840 --> 00:36:21,200 issues happening between the two of you, right. 719 00:36:22,720 --> 00:36:24,800 It seems as if what's happened is 720 00:36:24,840 --> 00:36:26,200 the relationship has actually... 721 00:36:27,240 --> 00:36:28,280 ..devolved. 722 00:36:30,400 --> 00:36:34,120 So, let's go back and see what we've missed. 723 00:36:34,160 --> 00:36:37,280 Can we go back to Partner Swap Week? OK. 724 00:36:37,320 --> 00:36:41,640 So Leo, you were paired off with Rebecca... 725 00:36:41,680 --> 00:36:45,720 Correct. ..and April you were paired off with Steven. Mm-hm. 726 00:36:45,760 --> 00:36:48,560 OK. Leo, what did you learn from your time 727 00:36:48,600 --> 00:36:52,520 with Rebecca about your relationship? 728 00:36:52,560 --> 00:36:55,000 Rebecca gave me a lot of affirmations about 729 00:36:55,040 --> 00:36:58,720 what a great guy I am, and how much I've put 730 00:36:58,760 --> 00:37:00,520 into this relationship as well, 731 00:37:00,560 --> 00:37:03,760 that I've not necessarily heard from April. 732 00:37:03,800 --> 00:37:06,120 It's always been about me changing myself, 733 00:37:06,160 --> 00:37:09,440 me improving on this to match what she wants, 734 00:37:09,480 --> 00:37:11,600 and Rebecca just showed me I shouldn't 735 00:37:11,640 --> 00:37:14,320 be changing myself this much. If it's not meant to be, 736 00:37:14,360 --> 00:37:18,560 it's not meant to be, and that I'm fine the way I am. 737 00:37:18,600 --> 00:37:20,760 Can I just clarify? I've never asked him to change, 738 00:37:20,800 --> 00:37:24,080 I've said I want him to be himself. You're almost wording it now as if 739 00:37:24,120 --> 00:37:26,360 I haven't given you affirmations, and I haven't 740 00:37:26,400 --> 00:37:28,160 been telling you how great of a guy you are. 741 00:37:28,200 --> 00:37:29,240 That's not true. 742 00:37:30,920 --> 00:37:32,040 You're just acting like I'm just, 743 00:37:32,080 --> 00:37:33,720 I've just been this horrendous partner. 744 00:37:33,760 --> 00:37:34,800 No, I haven't. 745 00:37:34,840 --> 00:37:36,480 That's how it came across then, to me. 746 00:37:37,760 --> 00:37:38,800 I don't want him to change, 747 00:37:38,840 --> 00:37:41,000 and if people pleaser is who he is, then, that's fine, 748 00:37:41,040 --> 00:37:42,680 it's just something that doesn't work for me. 749 00:37:42,720 --> 00:37:43,840 All right, fair enough. 750 00:37:45,760 --> 00:37:48,840 So now, April, what did you learn 751 00:37:48,880 --> 00:37:52,320 about your relationship with Leo through Steven? 752 00:37:52,360 --> 00:37:53,560 It just, sort of, highlighted 753 00:37:53,600 --> 00:37:56,800 that I don't necessarily have the same humour with Leo, 754 00:37:56,840 --> 00:37:59,240 and our personalities just aren't gelling, like, it did 755 00:37:59,280 --> 00:38:00,880 just sort of flag that up for me, 756 00:38:00,920 --> 00:38:02,640 because it was just so easy with Steven to have 757 00:38:02,680 --> 00:38:03,960 a conversation and just like, 758 00:38:04,000 --> 00:38:05,400 have that banter, have that back and forth, 759 00:38:05,440 --> 00:38:07,560 and I just don't feel like I got that with Leo. 760 00:38:07,600 --> 00:38:11,840 OK. So when you came together, before home stays, 761 00:38:11,880 --> 00:38:14,160 where did you feel like the relationship was, 762 00:38:14,200 --> 00:38:15,960 given this new insight that you had? 763 00:38:16,000 --> 00:38:18,520 Me and April really just said 764 00:38:18,560 --> 00:38:20,680 it's going to be make or break now. 765 00:38:21,760 --> 00:38:23,680 The home stay is going to highlight 766 00:38:23,720 --> 00:38:27,240 the emotional connection, or it's just not going to be there, 767 00:38:27,280 --> 00:38:30,480 but we were both willing to give it one last shot. 768 00:38:30,520 --> 00:38:32,400 I said, you know, I still want to go on home stays 769 00:38:32,440 --> 00:38:34,240 and just see if I can see the real Leo, 770 00:38:34,280 --> 00:38:35,440 if this personality, 771 00:38:35,480 --> 00:38:36,960 he said at the beginning that he's an extrovert, 772 00:38:37,000 --> 00:38:38,960 he's the loudest one of his friends and everything like that, and like, 773 00:38:39,000 --> 00:38:40,040 maybe that was just because he's 774 00:38:40,080 --> 00:38:41,600 uncomfortable, and like it is an unusual 775 00:38:41,640 --> 00:38:43,480 environment that we're in, this experiment is intense, 776 00:38:43,520 --> 00:38:46,360 and I was like, maybe at home stays, I will see a different side. 777 00:38:48,480 --> 00:38:51,600 Home stay, we need some hope. Yeah. 778 00:38:51,640 --> 00:38:53,760 We went to Leo's first? Mm-hm. 779 00:38:53,800 --> 00:38:57,920 OK. Was any hope delivered on, Leo, at your home stay? 780 00:38:59,640 --> 00:39:03,680 When I went and met my friends, um, with April, 781 00:39:03,720 --> 00:39:05,280 they were very honest with me, 782 00:39:05,320 --> 00:39:07,960 and they basically, sort of, said, like, that 783 00:39:08,000 --> 00:39:11,560 they don't see any compatibility between the two of us. 784 00:39:14,320 --> 00:39:17,200 And for me, it really hit hard 785 00:39:17,240 --> 00:39:19,560 because obviously it's coming from my friends. 786 00:39:19,600 --> 00:39:22,320 I'm curious, what in particular do they think 787 00:39:22,360 --> 00:39:24,440 was incompatible between the two of you? 788 00:39:24,480 --> 00:39:25,680 What they mentioned 789 00:39:25,720 --> 00:39:28,560 in particular was, that she wasn't really into me. 790 00:39:30,360 --> 00:39:32,440 And it was really hard for me to take 791 00:39:32,480 --> 00:39:36,600 because, obviously, I wanted this week to work out between us. 792 00:39:36,640 --> 00:39:40,000 I really like April. She's an amazing woman, 793 00:39:40,040 --> 00:39:42,920 and I still had a lot of hope in this relationship, 794 00:39:42,960 --> 00:39:46,640 and hearing it from your nearest and dearest that it's, 795 00:39:46,680 --> 00:39:48,240 it's not working, 796 00:39:48,280 --> 00:39:51,600 and it wasn't something that I wanted to hear at the time. 797 00:39:51,640 --> 00:39:53,880 OK. It's just frustrating, I just feel like... 798 00:39:54,920 --> 00:39:57,040 ..all I wanted when I came here was 799 00:39:57,080 --> 00:39:59,120 to have somebody that was themselves, 800 00:39:59,160 --> 00:40:00,520 that was completely honest, 801 00:40:00,560 --> 00:40:02,520 and I just don't feel like I've got that. 802 00:40:04,080 --> 00:40:06,400 I have been myself, and I have tried my hardest 803 00:40:06,440 --> 00:40:08,400 in this relationship to try and make it work. 804 00:40:08,440 --> 00:40:10,040 Your friends confirmed that, your friends said you're 805 00:40:10,080 --> 00:40:11,880 not even speaking the way you normally speak. 806 00:40:13,680 --> 00:40:14,960 It was like a light bulb and I was like, 807 00:40:15,000 --> 00:40:16,840 "Oh, my God, yeah, he's just cared about how he looks." 808 00:40:18,840 --> 00:40:22,240 You've been putting on the facade... I've been putting on zero facade. 809 00:40:22,280 --> 00:40:24,560 ..throughout the whole experiment, I was like, I don't, 810 00:40:24,600 --> 00:40:25,800 I don't know you. You know... 811 00:40:25,840 --> 00:40:27,160 How is that possible, in seven weeks? 812 00:40:27,200 --> 00:40:28,320 How do I not know you? 813 00:40:41,880 --> 00:40:43,160 It's just frustrating. 814 00:40:43,200 --> 00:40:46,760 I just feel like all I wanted when I came here was 815 00:40:46,800 --> 00:40:48,880 to have somebody that was themselves, 816 00:40:48,920 --> 00:40:50,400 that was completely honest, 817 00:40:50,440 --> 00:40:51,960 and I just don't feel like I've got that. 818 00:40:53,640 --> 00:40:56,040 I have been myself, and I have tried my hardest 819 00:40:56,080 --> 00:40:58,200 in this relationship to try and make it work. 820 00:40:58,240 --> 00:41:00,000 Your friends confirmed that, your friends said 821 00:41:00,040 --> 00:41:03,040 you're not even speaking the way you normally speak. 822 00:41:03,080 --> 00:41:04,640 It was like a light bulb and I was like, 823 00:41:04,680 --> 00:41:07,360 "Oh, my God, yeah, he's just cared about how he looks." 824 00:41:08,600 --> 00:41:11,560 You've been putting on the facade... I've been putting on zero facade. 825 00:41:11,600 --> 00:41:13,240 ..throughout the whole experiment. 826 00:41:13,280 --> 00:41:15,560 I was like, I don't, I don't know you. You know... 827 00:41:15,600 --> 00:41:18,040 How is that possible in seven weeks? How do I not know you? 828 00:41:25,080 --> 00:41:28,960 All right. So, then, what happens the next day? 829 00:41:30,440 --> 00:41:33,680 The next day, we decided to have a break. 830 00:41:33,720 --> 00:41:38,360 Hang on a minute, rewind. We got home and it just blew up. 831 00:41:38,400 --> 00:41:40,040 I said to Leo, "We'll talk in the morning," 832 00:41:40,080 --> 00:41:41,960 he didn't want that, and then left. 833 00:41:42,000 --> 00:41:44,080 Left his phone at home so no-one could contact him, 834 00:41:44,120 --> 00:41:46,080 and then didn't come back until seven in the morning. 835 00:41:46,120 --> 00:41:48,360 Wow, you left your own home? 836 00:41:50,520 --> 00:41:54,240 I just needed space. Obviously, hearing that from my friends, 837 00:41:54,280 --> 00:41:55,880 it really hit me hard. 838 00:41:55,920 --> 00:41:58,560 It was the last thing that I, sort of, needed, 839 00:41:58,600 --> 00:42:01,520 and it was fight or flight. And you left. 840 00:42:01,560 --> 00:42:04,880 Never heard of this, someone leaving their own home stay. 841 00:42:06,680 --> 00:42:11,000 OK, so did you then go to yours, April? 842 00:42:11,040 --> 00:42:13,200 Yeah, we met my mum and my sister. I wasn't, like... 843 00:42:14,520 --> 00:42:16,400 ..as bubbly or happy or anything like that as I normally am, 844 00:42:16,440 --> 00:42:18,640 or, they know what I'm like in a relationship when I'm really, 845 00:42:18,680 --> 00:42:20,280 like, really like the person and everything like that, 846 00:42:20,320 --> 00:42:22,280 and yeah, it's just not, they just weren't seeing it. 847 00:42:22,320 --> 00:42:23,520 OK. 848 00:42:24,640 --> 00:42:26,800 Seems like home stays provided some answers 849 00:42:26,840 --> 00:42:30,240 to your questions, but not in a positive way. 850 00:42:30,280 --> 00:42:32,640 Looking back from a personal point of view, 851 00:42:32,680 --> 00:42:34,560 where do you believe that your behaviour 852 00:42:34,600 --> 00:42:38,160 has contributed to the down-slide of your relationship? 853 00:42:38,200 --> 00:42:39,840 I've been in my shell quite a lot. 854 00:42:39,880 --> 00:42:42,160 I initially didn't show April, 855 00:42:42,200 --> 00:42:46,000 potentially, who I really am, and that 856 00:42:46,040 --> 00:42:48,400 put doubts in her head. 857 00:42:48,440 --> 00:42:51,720 I think, me overcompensating to try and please April 858 00:42:51,760 --> 00:42:54,080 to make this relationship work as well, 859 00:42:54,120 --> 00:42:57,160 it's not a normal characteristic that I would normally have. 860 00:42:57,200 --> 00:43:01,440 April, what behaviour do you think you've contributed to 861 00:43:01,480 --> 00:43:03,640 the downslide of this relationship? 862 00:43:03,680 --> 00:43:04,680 Over time, 863 00:43:04,720 --> 00:43:06,800 where the emotional connection just hasn't grown, like, 864 00:43:06,840 --> 00:43:10,000 it was so strong at the beginning and it's just almost just gone down. 865 00:43:10,040 --> 00:43:13,440 I think, when I started to see 866 00:43:13,480 --> 00:43:17,640 like potential incompatibility, or, like issues, 867 00:43:17,680 --> 00:43:20,800 I almost get, like, colder because I'm now like, 868 00:43:20,840 --> 00:43:22,400 "OK, this isn't working, this isn't working, 869 00:43:22,440 --> 00:43:24,160 "this is gonna, this is not gonna end well." 870 00:43:24,200 --> 00:43:25,480 And I would be a lot more affectionate. 871 00:43:25,520 --> 00:43:27,560 I would be a lot more caring, Do you know what I mean? 872 00:43:27,600 --> 00:43:30,680 And, like, if I'd just forced affection or forced things, 873 00:43:30,720 --> 00:43:33,000 then that would have been me forcing it, 874 00:43:33,040 --> 00:43:34,920 and I didn't want to do that. That's fair. 875 00:43:34,960 --> 00:43:37,080 Yeah. So, you're admitting to, 876 00:43:37,120 --> 00:43:40,680 being cold and not as affectionate as you could be. 877 00:43:40,720 --> 00:43:42,680 Yeah. And, Leo, you're admitting 878 00:43:42,720 --> 00:43:45,680 to being a people pleaser in the relationship. 879 00:43:46,800 --> 00:43:49,200 OK, so then final question from me. 880 00:43:49,240 --> 00:43:53,960 Do you believe that, if you have corrected those two, 881 00:43:54,000 --> 00:43:56,280 then you would have a stronger relationship? 882 00:43:58,040 --> 00:44:00,040 I think, yeah, we probably would have done. 883 00:44:00,080 --> 00:44:02,640 It might have ended the same way, 884 00:44:02,680 --> 00:44:05,640 but we would have been a lot stronger right now. 885 00:44:05,680 --> 00:44:07,000 OK. What do you think, April? 886 00:44:08,760 --> 00:44:11,040 No, because then that would have been false, 887 00:44:11,080 --> 00:44:14,440 like, my behaviour changed because the relationship wasn't working. 888 00:44:14,480 --> 00:44:15,520 OK. 889 00:44:17,560 --> 00:44:18,840 Let's go to a decision. 890 00:44:20,640 --> 00:44:23,400 April, would you like to give your decision first? 891 00:44:23,440 --> 00:44:26,120 Genuinely, Leo, you have been so lovely, 892 00:44:26,160 --> 00:44:27,680 and I'm so thankful 893 00:44:27,720 --> 00:44:31,320 that I've been paired with someone that was so kind and caring. 894 00:44:33,400 --> 00:44:34,720 But, 895 00:44:34,760 --> 00:44:36,920 I am going to leave. 896 00:44:39,440 --> 00:44:41,160 All right, 897 00:44:41,200 --> 00:44:42,240 Well, thank you. 898 00:44:43,480 --> 00:44:45,480 Leo, would you like to give your decision? 899 00:44:45,520 --> 00:44:48,000 We obviously came here to find love, 900 00:44:48,040 --> 00:44:51,520 and, uh, we've been through this experiment together, 901 00:44:51,560 --> 00:44:52,560 and I've learnt 902 00:44:52,600 --> 00:44:54,880 so much about myself during this time as well. 903 00:44:54,920 --> 00:44:56,720 And you're amazing. 904 00:44:56,760 --> 00:44:59,880 Thank you. But as sad as it is, 905 00:44:59,920 --> 00:45:01,920 all good things have to come to an end, so... 906 00:45:03,360 --> 00:45:04,360 ..leave. 907 00:45:05,480 --> 00:45:08,920 OK. All right. Thank you. 908 00:45:10,240 --> 00:45:13,160 You know, we always want our couples 909 00:45:13,200 --> 00:45:16,080 to be happy as a couple, 910 00:45:16,120 --> 00:45:18,520 but more importantly, individually. 911 00:45:18,560 --> 00:45:22,720 As long as you're leaving here with lessons 912 00:45:22,760 --> 00:45:24,760 that you can take to become 913 00:45:24,800 --> 00:45:27,120 stronger outside of the experiment, 914 00:45:27,160 --> 00:45:30,320 that's really all we can ask. So, thank you, 915 00:45:30,360 --> 00:45:32,160 and your time now 916 00:45:32,200 --> 00:45:33,960 is done. Thank you. 917 00:45:34,000 --> 00:45:35,360 Thank you, guys. 918 00:45:35,400 --> 00:45:36,720 Good luck. 919 00:45:39,960 --> 00:45:41,000 Thank you. 920 00:45:43,240 --> 00:45:46,440 This is not the journey I wanted, this is not the ending I wanted. 921 00:45:46,480 --> 00:45:47,680 I put my all into it, 922 00:45:47,720 --> 00:45:49,800 I've tried my best and it didn't work out, 923 00:45:49,840 --> 00:45:52,040 but, yeah, I am proud. 924 00:45:52,080 --> 00:45:54,360 Even though me and Leo weren't compatible, 925 00:45:54,400 --> 00:45:57,920 you know, he is a really good person, and he has been lovely, 926 00:45:57,960 --> 00:45:59,480 so I wish him the best, genuinely. 927 00:46:01,160 --> 00:46:03,640 Really gutted that it didn't work out between me and April. 928 00:46:03,680 --> 00:46:06,560 Ever since we met, she was perfect for me. 929 00:46:06,600 --> 00:46:09,320 I couldn't have asked for anything more in a partner, 930 00:46:09,360 --> 00:46:11,360 and I'm just, I'm gutted 931 00:46:11,400 --> 00:46:13,960 that we didn't have that fairy tale ending. 932 00:46:16,720 --> 00:46:18,080 Next up to the couch... 933 00:46:23,320 --> 00:46:24,720 ..Rebecca and Bailey. 934 00:46:27,080 --> 00:46:30,080 Hello. Hello. Hi. Hi, guys. Hiya. 935 00:46:32,240 --> 00:46:33,520 Good to see the two of you. 936 00:46:33,560 --> 00:46:34,960 Good to see you all, yeah. Good to see you, too. 937 00:46:35,000 --> 00:46:36,840 So, how have you both been? Really well. 938 00:46:36,880 --> 00:46:38,920 Yeah, really good, yeah. Really good, thank you. 939 00:46:38,960 --> 00:46:42,480 OK, let's talk about the home stays. 940 00:46:43,960 --> 00:46:46,040 Obviously, we live miles and miles apart, 941 00:46:46,080 --> 00:46:48,400 and initially, when we started the home stays 942 00:46:48,440 --> 00:46:50,880 and I turned up in Hove, where Bailey lives, 943 00:46:50,920 --> 00:46:53,120 where we live is completely different. 944 00:46:53,160 --> 00:46:54,840 And initially I just thought, like, 945 00:46:54,880 --> 00:46:59,960 I think our lives are so far apart in terms of what we do day-to-day. 946 00:47:00,000 --> 00:47:01,560 And then by the end of the home stays, 947 00:47:01,600 --> 00:47:04,640 I realised that actually what we do, and what we're interested 948 00:47:04,680 --> 00:47:08,400 in is so similar, we just live in different locations. 949 00:47:08,440 --> 00:47:10,280 That's our only issue. OK, 950 00:47:10,320 --> 00:47:14,280 so where are you at in terms of who will move where? 951 00:47:14,320 --> 00:47:16,040 We kind of know what we want to do after this, 952 00:47:16,080 --> 00:47:18,520 and we're, I'm very much happy to make effort, 953 00:47:18,560 --> 00:47:22,920 Bec is as well, I work remotely, so the interim is, kind of, fine. 954 00:47:22,960 --> 00:47:26,080 We haven't really answered the forever question yet, 955 00:47:26,120 --> 00:47:29,680 and if, like, things progress as we want them to, 956 00:47:29,720 --> 00:47:31,640 we don't really have an answer 957 00:47:31,680 --> 00:47:34,440 for that yet, which is, I guess it is tough. 958 00:47:36,800 --> 00:47:39,080 It's tough because we don't know what that looks like 959 00:47:39,120 --> 00:47:41,320 because we said, "Well, would we meet in the middle?" 960 00:47:41,360 --> 00:47:43,720 Um, but then, like, 961 00:47:43,760 --> 00:47:45,400 that's taking Bailey away from Bluebelle, 962 00:47:45,440 --> 00:47:46,720 and I've said all along, like, 963 00:47:46,760 --> 00:47:49,360 I would never put pressure on him to move away. 964 00:47:51,080 --> 00:47:52,760 Does that then mean, Rebecca, that you... 965 00:47:54,240 --> 00:47:55,520 ..have to do the moving? 966 00:47:57,280 --> 00:47:59,000 Yeah, I did feel the pressure a lot of, like, 967 00:47:59,040 --> 00:48:00,760 "Bec, are you going to move to Hove?" 968 00:48:02,480 --> 00:48:04,680 I'm not ready to say yes to that. 969 00:48:10,280 --> 00:48:11,640 Yeah, It's like I'm 970 00:48:11,680 --> 00:48:12,960 caught between a rock and a hard place. 971 00:48:13,000 --> 00:48:14,280 I don't want to lump all the pressure on Bec, 972 00:48:14,320 --> 00:48:17,200 but then, I don't really know what else to do. 973 00:48:17,240 --> 00:48:18,400 I think it's tough. 974 00:48:18,440 --> 00:48:21,080 We don't know where our forever home is. 975 00:48:21,120 --> 00:48:22,400 We can't give any definite 976 00:48:22,440 --> 00:48:25,400 decisions on what forever looks like for us. 977 00:48:25,440 --> 00:48:28,080 Say, within five years, if I had a child, 978 00:48:28,120 --> 00:48:29,400 you typically just want 979 00:48:29,440 --> 00:48:31,600 to be around your family and your network, 980 00:48:31,640 --> 00:48:32,880 and I've got a very, 981 00:48:32,920 --> 00:48:35,800 very close-knit group of people around me, 982 00:48:35,840 --> 00:48:38,200 and if that was taken away and then I embarked 983 00:48:38,240 --> 00:48:42,400 on big life things like having a baby, how would that work? 984 00:48:42,440 --> 00:48:45,040 Because I wouldn't know anybody in Hove, other than Bay. I think 985 00:48:45,080 --> 00:48:49,160 the two of you are talking about some very real issues 986 00:48:49,200 --> 00:48:53,520 that a lot of couples have to, have to discuss and have to agree to. 987 00:48:53,560 --> 00:48:56,520 Ultimately, it will mean one of you having to move. 988 00:48:58,320 --> 00:49:01,800 I can hear how difficult this decision is for you. 989 00:49:06,360 --> 00:49:08,280 OK, let's go to a decision. 990 00:49:08,320 --> 00:49:11,800 Rebecca, if we can start with you, please. I think, 991 00:49:11,840 --> 00:49:15,600 when I saw you at the wedding day, and we didn't connect at all, 992 00:49:15,640 --> 00:49:18,880 I honestly believed that we would have a nice honeymoon, 993 00:49:18,920 --> 00:49:21,480 and then when we saw you for the first time, I would write leave. 994 00:49:21,520 --> 00:49:24,560 That's what, I just thought, it's not going to work. 995 00:49:27,760 --> 00:49:29,480 Um, 996 00:49:29,520 --> 00:49:30,560 we just managed 997 00:49:30,600 --> 00:49:33,520 to have some one-on-one time and everything changed, 998 00:49:33,560 --> 00:49:35,880 and every day since then, I've just got to know you more and more, 999 00:49:35,920 --> 00:49:38,200 and fell in love with you more and more, and... 1000 00:49:39,560 --> 00:49:41,960 ..I can't imagine my life without you, so... 1001 00:49:42,000 --> 00:49:44,000 Well, you don't have to... 1002 00:49:44,040 --> 00:49:46,760 ..100%, I'm choosing to stay. 1003 00:49:50,480 --> 00:49:52,440 Bailey, could you top that? 1004 00:49:52,480 --> 00:49:56,280 I haven't had one single doubt in my mind about anything, 1005 00:49:56,320 --> 00:49:57,560 about any decision. 1006 00:49:57,600 --> 00:49:59,400 I just always knew I wanted to be near you 1007 00:49:59,440 --> 00:50:00,680 and wanted to carry on 1008 00:50:00,720 --> 00:50:03,120 and see a life with you outside, even from the honeymoon, 1009 00:50:03,160 --> 00:50:04,440 like, I could see that. 1010 00:50:04,480 --> 00:50:08,040 So, yeah, I'm gonna cry, yeah. You can cry if you want to. 1011 00:50:08,080 --> 00:50:10,000 Why do I cry so much? I don't know what's going on. 1012 00:50:10,040 --> 00:50:13,120 Because you love me so much. Um. It's OK. But, yeah, 1013 00:50:13,160 --> 00:50:15,400 I came in here asking for a best friend, and, 1014 00:50:15,440 --> 00:50:17,000 yeah, I've literally got that in you, 1015 00:50:17,040 --> 00:50:18,960 so, I am ready for the outside world. 1016 00:50:19,000 --> 00:50:20,400 and yeah, I can't wait to do it with you, 1017 00:50:20,440 --> 00:50:24,320 so, obviously I'll be staying. Well done. 1018 00:50:24,360 --> 00:50:25,760 Well done. 1019 00:50:27,760 --> 00:50:33,120 Well done. Guys, I am so excited to see where this relationship goes. 1020 00:50:33,160 --> 00:50:36,520 It's been such a pleasure watching your journey, 1021 00:50:36,560 --> 00:50:38,840 it really has and I think I 1022 00:50:38,880 --> 00:50:41,120 just can't wait to see little babies come along. 1023 00:50:41,160 --> 00:50:44,120 I just, I feel like it's coming... Thought you said little Baileys! 1024 00:50:44,160 --> 00:50:46,040 Little Baileys and little babies, yeah. 1025 00:50:46,080 --> 00:50:48,080 Thank you so much, guys. Thank you all so much. Honestly, 1026 00:50:48,120 --> 00:50:50,760 yeah, really appreciate it. Cheers. Thank you. 1027 00:50:50,800 --> 00:50:53,440 Great work. Cheers. Thank you. 1028 00:50:53,480 --> 00:50:55,480 Gonna grab a tissue. Thank you, guys. 1029 00:50:58,920 --> 00:51:00,160 Thank you. 1030 00:51:02,160 --> 00:51:04,200 Our last couple on the couch tonight... 1031 00:51:08,680 --> 00:51:09,720 ..Nelly and Steven. 1032 00:51:14,880 --> 00:51:16,200 Hey, guys. Hi. Hey, guys. 1033 00:51:19,400 --> 00:51:20,440 Well... 1034 00:51:21,480 --> 00:51:22,800 ..let's get straight into it. 1035 00:51:22,840 --> 00:51:24,720 What's going on for the two of you? 1036 00:51:24,760 --> 00:51:26,840 Nelly, why don't you kick it off? 1037 00:51:26,880 --> 00:51:29,280 So, I went to Bailey's 1038 00:51:29,320 --> 00:51:31,640 for the partner swap, and I felt like, seen, 1039 00:51:31,680 --> 00:51:32,880 I felt cared for, 1040 00:51:32,920 --> 00:51:36,440 I felt he was present, like he wanted to be around me. 1041 00:51:36,480 --> 00:51:37,960 We started talking about Steven and I's 1042 00:51:38,000 --> 00:51:40,400 relationship and actually Bailey asked me like, 1043 00:51:40,440 --> 00:51:41,480 "Nelly, are you happy?" 1044 00:51:41,520 --> 00:51:44,000 And I just cried, because I'm not, I wasn't. 1045 00:51:45,120 --> 00:51:46,160 I haven't been... 1046 00:51:47,280 --> 00:51:50,440 ..and I've probably downplayed how I've been feeling. 1047 00:51:50,480 --> 00:51:52,600 Have you? Yeah, I think so. 1048 00:51:52,640 --> 00:51:55,560 And so I guess when I came back, I sort of said to Steven, 1049 00:51:55,600 --> 00:51:56,880 "This is what I've learnt. 1050 00:51:56,920 --> 00:51:59,080 "this is what I would want in a relationship." 1051 00:51:59,120 --> 00:52:01,880 And I said, "I've just not been feeling that way." 1052 00:52:01,920 --> 00:52:05,680 And when Steven had his swap with April, 1053 00:52:05,720 --> 00:52:08,520 I had one boundary, which was, "You've not cooked me a meal, 1054 00:52:08,560 --> 00:52:09,800 "so don't cook for April." 1055 00:52:09,840 --> 00:52:11,600 He did tell me that he made breakfast, 1056 00:52:11,640 --> 00:52:13,800 but again, it was downplayed, and I didn't actually realise 1057 00:52:13,840 --> 00:52:17,040 until recently, that it was a whole, proper cooked breakfast in bed. 1058 00:52:18,760 --> 00:52:21,160 I've never had that. I just felt really, 1059 00:52:21,200 --> 00:52:24,440 really stupid, quite embarrassed, and I think knowing that you've done 1060 00:52:24,480 --> 00:52:25,680 that for someone else 1061 00:52:25,720 --> 00:52:28,440 after two days, it makes you feel about this big. 1062 00:52:28,480 --> 00:52:29,520 Yeah. 1063 00:52:30,640 --> 00:52:32,240 Let's, let's pause there, because I'm interested 1064 00:52:32,280 --> 00:52:34,440 in what that experience of the partner swap 1065 00:52:34,480 --> 00:52:36,280 with April was like for you. 1066 00:52:36,320 --> 00:52:38,240 We were sitting there talking about places we 1067 00:52:38,280 --> 00:52:40,880 like to travel, and places we've been, or what's next on the list, 1068 00:52:40,920 --> 00:52:42,840 and it was so naturally flowing like that, 1069 00:52:42,880 --> 00:52:44,720 I thought, "Why haven't we done this?" 1070 00:52:44,760 --> 00:52:47,440 But I try, I've tried so hard to do all this, 1071 00:52:47,480 --> 00:52:49,800 and it just gets shut down, and I don't get anything back. 1072 00:52:49,840 --> 00:52:51,120 Like I've tried week in, week out. 1073 00:52:51,160 --> 00:52:52,520 I take a lot of accountability there, 1074 00:52:52,560 --> 00:52:54,760 I should have been asking questions, I should have done a lot more. 1075 00:52:54,800 --> 00:52:57,000 But it's just hard because, we've had several conversations 1076 00:52:57,040 --> 00:52:59,040 where you've said about, pressures of the experiment, 1077 00:52:59,080 --> 00:53:00,600 and that, actually, outside of this, 1078 00:53:00,640 --> 00:53:02,640 it could be a potential and that, you know, 1079 00:53:02,680 --> 00:53:04,360 you'd be even willing to come up to Manchester... It could be. 1080 00:53:04,400 --> 00:53:05,720 ..for a weekend. 1081 00:53:05,760 --> 00:53:07,600 The conversations we had weeks before was like, 1082 00:53:07,640 --> 00:53:10,400 look, maybe away from this, maybe something could work. 1083 00:53:10,440 --> 00:53:12,320 Steven, are you attracted to Nelly? 1084 00:53:13,760 --> 00:53:15,880 Yes, absolutely. From the moment I met her, 1085 00:53:15,920 --> 00:53:17,800 from the moment I turned around and saw her, I was like, 1086 00:53:17,840 --> 00:53:18,840 "Fuck me, she's stunning." 1087 00:53:18,880 --> 00:53:19,960 Right now, today. 1088 00:53:21,200 --> 00:53:22,240 Right now? 1089 00:53:24,720 --> 00:53:25,880 I would say no. 1090 00:53:29,920 --> 00:53:32,440 An attraction is there, or it's not. I like the girl, 1091 00:53:32,480 --> 00:53:34,440 off course, the like's there, I think for me, 1092 00:53:34,480 --> 00:53:35,520 I just can't see something 1093 00:53:35,560 --> 00:53:37,920 progressing romantically, any further. 1094 00:53:37,960 --> 00:53:40,400 Yet, you just said that maybe it could, outside the experiment. 1095 00:53:40,440 --> 00:53:42,080 Two weeks ago, I did think that... Can you see that 1096 00:53:42,120 --> 00:53:43,400 there's mixed messages here? 1097 00:53:43,440 --> 00:53:45,160 It's mixed messages, but I'm, I'm being real, 1098 00:53:45,200 --> 00:53:46,840 like, I genuinely believe 1099 00:53:46,880 --> 00:53:50,440 if we were away from the experiment, we could have made something work. 1100 00:53:50,480 --> 00:53:54,120 So, when did the like stop? Partner Swap happened, I thought, 1101 00:53:54,160 --> 00:53:56,720 I'm not giving you what you need, and what you deserve from someone. 1102 00:53:56,760 --> 00:53:57,800 For me, it's like, OK, well, 1103 00:53:57,840 --> 00:53:59,200 let's stop the relationship 1104 00:53:59,240 --> 00:54:00,640 and just try and be a friend, 1105 00:54:00,680 --> 00:54:03,320 because I was like, I respect you enough as a friend 1106 00:54:03,360 --> 00:54:04,680 and value you much as a friend, 1107 00:54:04,720 --> 00:54:07,160 and you can give me that look, I'm telling you.. 1108 00:54:07,200 --> 00:54:08,880 We're going to go with that look. 1109 00:54:08,920 --> 00:54:10,000 Tell me about that look. 1110 00:54:13,440 --> 00:54:15,960 It's really hard for me to sit there and listen to that 1111 00:54:16,000 --> 00:54:19,760 I'm respected as a friend, because, we came to home stays, 1112 00:54:19,800 --> 00:54:22,840 and Steven decided not to come with me to Manchester, 1113 00:54:22,880 --> 00:54:23,960 I did want him to come. 1114 00:54:24,000 --> 00:54:25,800 I saw my family, saw my friends, 1115 00:54:25,840 --> 00:54:28,160 and then Steven came up a couple of days later. 1116 00:54:28,200 --> 00:54:30,680 But I found out, on that day, that actually, 1117 00:54:30,720 --> 00:54:34,160 whilst he wasn't with me, he was busy swiping on a dating app... 1118 00:54:39,760 --> 00:54:40,920 I wasn't. 1119 00:54:40,960 --> 00:54:42,600 ..which I have receipts for. 1120 00:54:42,640 --> 00:54:44,440 Just a moment, just so I'm clear... 1121 00:54:44,480 --> 00:54:47,080 That is Steven's profile, which is verified. 1122 00:55:03,320 --> 00:55:05,800 It's really hard for me to sit there and listen to that 1123 00:55:05,840 --> 00:55:09,640 I'm respected as a friend because we came to home stays 1124 00:55:09,680 --> 00:55:12,680 and Steven decided not to come with me to Manchester, 1125 00:55:12,720 --> 00:55:13,840 I did want him to come. 1126 00:55:13,880 --> 00:55:15,520 I saw my family, saw my friends, 1127 00:55:15,560 --> 00:55:18,000 and then Steven came up a couple of days later. 1128 00:55:18,040 --> 00:55:20,480 But, I found out, on that day, that actually, 1129 00:55:20,520 --> 00:55:24,040 whilst he wasn't with me, he was busy swiping on a dating app... 1130 00:55:29,600 --> 00:55:30,760 I wasn't. 1131 00:55:30,800 --> 00:55:32,560 ..which I have receipts for. 1132 00:55:32,600 --> 00:55:34,280 Just a moment, just so I'm clear... 1133 00:55:34,320 --> 00:55:37,560 That is Steven's profile, which is verified. 1134 00:55:37,600 --> 00:55:38,960 What?! 1135 00:55:45,120 --> 00:55:46,680 Yeah, it's... Because it's verified. 1136 00:55:46,720 --> 00:55:48,760 So, whilst you were within the experiment... 1137 00:55:48,800 --> 00:55:51,520 No. ..married to Nelly... Can I see that? Yeah. 1138 00:55:51,560 --> 00:55:53,120 ..you were on a dating profile? 1139 00:55:53,160 --> 00:55:55,360 And I wasn't because I got my phone out, 1140 00:55:55,400 --> 00:55:57,040 during her friends coming over, 1141 00:55:57,080 --> 00:55:58,960 and I showed them, me putting my number in, 1142 00:55:59,000 --> 00:56:02,360 and it coming up saying, my account has been removed. 1143 00:56:02,400 --> 00:56:03,800 If you were just open and honest, 1144 00:56:03,840 --> 00:56:05,840 it would, I wouldn't be doing this. I'm being honest, 1145 00:56:05,880 --> 00:56:07,480 that isn't my profile. 1146 00:56:07,520 --> 00:56:08,720 How is it verified? 1147 00:56:08,760 --> 00:56:10,520 I don't know why it's verified, that's what I'm saying... 1148 00:56:10,560 --> 00:56:12,560 Don't you have to verify those with your face? 1149 00:56:12,600 --> 00:56:15,400 With your face, yeah. That is not me on Hinge. 1150 00:56:15,440 --> 00:56:16,560 It's your face! 1151 00:56:18,160 --> 00:56:19,800 So, you think someone's catfishing you? 1152 00:56:19,840 --> 00:56:20,840 Absolutely, I'm banned. 1153 00:56:20,880 --> 00:56:22,880 They're impersonating you, then, you need to go to the police 1154 00:56:22,920 --> 00:56:24,680 station because they've got all your details. 1155 00:56:24,720 --> 00:56:28,440 Guys, let's try to see through 1156 00:56:28,480 --> 00:56:31,000 the details here, because we could drown in them. 1157 00:56:31,040 --> 00:56:32,680 The gist of what you're talking about here, 1158 00:56:32,720 --> 00:56:35,720 Nelly, is that during your marriage, 1159 00:56:35,760 --> 00:56:38,680 you believe Steven was on dating apps. 1160 00:56:38,720 --> 00:56:41,200 He was. And you've shown evidence 1161 00:56:41,240 --> 00:56:43,880 that would suggest that that's the case. 1162 00:56:43,920 --> 00:56:45,480 So, Steven, are you sitting here now, 1163 00:56:45,520 --> 00:56:48,440 point blank, denying that you've had anything 1164 00:56:48,480 --> 00:56:51,840 to do with any dating profiles whilst you've been married to Nelly? 1165 00:56:53,160 --> 00:56:54,280 Absolutely. 1166 00:56:56,840 --> 00:56:59,000 So, are you claiming that you've been hacked 1167 00:56:59,040 --> 00:57:01,440 or, just help us understand your thinking here? 1168 00:57:01,480 --> 00:57:02,680 I've only got one phone, so, 1169 00:57:02,720 --> 00:57:04,240 like, when I'm putting in my number, I haven't got a... 1170 00:57:04,280 --> 00:57:05,400 How is it verified, though? You have to 1171 00:57:05,440 --> 00:57:07,160 verify it with you face. I don't know why it's verified. 1172 00:57:07,200 --> 00:57:08,920 Did you, did you give them your face to verify? 1173 00:57:08,960 --> 00:57:10,320 I don't understand. 1174 00:57:10,360 --> 00:57:11,720 Well, you had to. This is what I don't understand, 1175 00:57:11,760 --> 00:57:13,600 like, I don't know how there's a verified profile of me. 1176 00:57:13,640 --> 00:57:15,520 Well, Nelly's just explained how that happens. 1177 00:57:15,560 --> 00:57:17,680 Yeah, you can have the notes. She explained, but it still doesn't mean- 1178 00:57:17,720 --> 00:57:19,440 I haven't got Hinge on my phone. 1179 00:57:19,480 --> 00:57:21,680 So someone's walking around with your face, then? 1180 00:57:21,720 --> 00:57:24,960 Steven, can you see that this seems quite far-fetched 1181 00:57:25,000 --> 00:57:26,640 and quite hard to understand, 1182 00:57:26,680 --> 00:57:28,880 that you're sitting here and denying this? 1183 00:57:28,920 --> 00:57:30,880 Of course I'm going to deny, because I know 1184 00:57:30,920 --> 00:57:32,080 what I'm saying is true. 1185 00:57:32,120 --> 00:57:34,080 OK. This shit happens all the time, like, 1186 00:57:34,120 --> 00:57:36,160 people get catfished. Not a verified account. 1187 00:57:36,200 --> 00:57:38,600 Not a verified, Ste, Ste, be honest. 1188 00:57:38,640 --> 00:57:39,840 If I had the answers, right... 1189 00:57:39,880 --> 00:57:41,600 Come on. ..I'd tell you, It's not me... 1190 00:57:41,640 --> 00:57:43,520 I'm hearing this now, but... ..I've said it's not me, Becs. 1191 00:57:43,560 --> 00:57:45,800 It's your face. Clearly that's my face. 1192 00:57:45,840 --> 00:57:47,120 Clearly that's my face. 1193 00:57:47,160 --> 00:57:49,920 You can have that dating app without it being verified. 1194 00:57:49,960 --> 00:57:53,520 When it's verified, you've had to do a talking video, 1195 00:57:53,560 --> 00:57:55,800 and then a video of you moving your face around, 1196 00:57:55,840 --> 00:57:58,160 like, I've had the same app. Since when? 1197 00:57:58,200 --> 00:57:59,560 Since the whole time. 1198 00:57:59,600 --> 00:58:02,160 That is what dating apps now require. 1199 00:58:03,200 --> 00:58:04,440 The evidence is compelling, Steven, 1200 00:58:04,480 --> 00:58:06,640 I think that's probably why everyone is saying that, 1201 00:58:06,680 --> 00:58:09,240 but I can imagine this is quite stressful for you. It's stressful, 1202 00:58:09,280 --> 00:58:11,400 and I'm going to say something. I'm not an awful person, 1203 00:58:11,440 --> 00:58:13,360 but that's exactly how I'm being portrayed. 1204 00:58:13,400 --> 00:58:15,240 Whenever I bring stuff up, it gets rejected. 1205 00:58:15,280 --> 00:58:17,560 My intention was to be grateful with you, everything. 1206 00:58:17,600 --> 00:58:19,120 I wanted you to be honest. 1207 00:58:19,160 --> 00:58:20,240 And if you came in and said to me 1208 00:58:20,280 --> 00:58:22,840 or even sent me a text that week saying, "Nells, you know what, 1209 00:58:22,880 --> 00:58:24,680 "I hold my hands up, I'm really sorry," 1210 00:58:24,720 --> 00:58:26,160 this whole thing wouldn't have happened, 1211 00:58:26,200 --> 00:58:29,520 but, I'm not going to sit here any longer, and... 1212 00:58:29,560 --> 00:58:31,960 ..not be true and not say how I feel. 1213 00:58:36,360 --> 00:58:38,240 Whatever I say, at this rate, is... 1214 00:58:38,280 --> 00:58:39,640 Can I ask a question on that? 1215 00:58:40,680 --> 00:58:42,880 At what point in your life, Steven, 1216 00:58:42,920 --> 00:58:46,880 do you believe that you learned that defensiveness 1217 00:58:46,920 --> 00:58:49,640 was a better response than vulnerability? 1218 00:58:52,520 --> 00:58:55,880 What I have observed from you is that 1219 00:58:55,920 --> 00:58:57,600 your bad behaviour... 1220 00:58:58,600 --> 00:59:01,400 ..has come because your reaction... 1221 00:59:02,800 --> 00:59:06,080 ..to challenge is defensiveness. 1222 00:59:06,120 --> 00:59:08,440 How I'm being portrayed from weeks on end, 1223 00:59:08,480 --> 00:59:11,040 sitting here being grilled of X, Y, Z... 1224 00:59:11,080 --> 00:59:13,400 So, you don't see that there's been any behaviour 1225 00:59:13,440 --> 00:59:16,760 that you've demonstrated that you need to take accountability for? 1226 00:59:16,800 --> 00:59:18,880 If I was in that situation, and someone 1227 00:59:18,920 --> 00:59:21,240 had shown me, "Nelly's on this," yeah, it would have hurt, 1228 00:59:21,280 --> 00:59:22,960 I would have been like, I would have had my back up. 1229 00:59:23,000 --> 00:59:24,040 All I'm saying is, 1230 00:59:24,080 --> 00:59:26,480 I'm still being portrayed to be this awful person. 1231 00:59:26,520 --> 00:59:27,600 What's causing that? 1232 00:59:28,560 --> 00:59:30,760 What do you mean... We're talking about your behaviour. 1233 00:59:30,800 --> 00:59:34,440 There's no big, bad bogeyman here projecting something onto you, 1234 00:59:34,480 --> 00:59:37,200 you are behaving in a certain way and we are responding to it. 1235 00:59:39,480 --> 00:59:41,000 Trust me, I didn't want this to happen. 1236 00:59:41,040 --> 00:59:43,760 This is not how I wanted this last couch with you, ever. 1237 00:59:43,800 --> 00:59:45,840 I had feelings for you, my feelings were real, 1238 00:59:45,880 --> 00:59:48,400 I don't, I never wanted this. We're clearly not going 1239 00:59:48,440 --> 00:59:52,240 to resolve this, this profile situation today. 1240 00:59:52,280 --> 00:59:54,360 Well, I think it is what it is, and... 1241 00:59:54,400 --> 00:59:57,120 Steven, this is very important for you to know, 1242 00:59:57,160 --> 01:00:00,080 defensiveness is self-protection, protecting ego, 1243 01:00:00,120 --> 01:00:02,080 protecting all types of things. 1244 01:00:02,120 --> 01:00:04,600 And I think that if you could walk away 1245 01:00:04,640 --> 01:00:08,400 from this experiment knowing, "You know what, I'm a good guy, 1246 01:00:08,440 --> 01:00:12,080 "but when I respond to conflict, 1247 01:00:12,120 --> 01:00:13,760 "if I can just pause and say, 1248 01:00:13,800 --> 01:00:17,840 "how could I respond with vulnerability?" Then guess what? 1249 01:00:17,880 --> 01:00:20,800 Your life is going to become infinitely better. 1250 01:00:20,840 --> 01:00:23,480 Yeah, no, that's, I appreciate that. That's one thing I'm trying, 1251 01:00:23,520 --> 01:00:25,840 I'm trying to be more vulnerable. 1252 01:00:25,880 --> 01:00:27,440 Yes, I've been very defensive. 1253 01:00:27,480 --> 01:00:29,560 I found myself getting more and more irritable, 1254 01:00:29,600 --> 01:00:30,920 I'd say, during this experiment, 1255 01:00:30,960 --> 01:00:34,480 but I'm trying, I'm trying to be more vulnerable. 1256 01:00:34,520 --> 01:00:37,320 See, I don't think I've cried as much, on this experiment, 1257 01:00:37,360 --> 01:00:40,240 as I have in, like, the last, sort of, 10, 14 years. 1258 01:00:40,280 --> 01:00:43,040 Yeah, yeah. All right, guys, well, we are... 1259 01:00:44,240 --> 01:00:46,160 ..going to move on to a decision. 1260 01:00:46,200 --> 01:00:48,000 So, let's start with you first, doll. 1261 01:00:48,040 --> 01:00:50,800 Steven, I know you and I have had loads of ups and downs, 1262 01:00:50,840 --> 01:00:53,240 and it's been a really, it's been a rough ride. 1263 01:00:53,280 --> 01:00:56,680 Um, the highs have been great, the lows have been really, really low. 1264 01:00:56,720 --> 01:00:59,760 But the reason I stayed for so long, and I pushed so hard, is 1265 01:00:59,800 --> 01:01:02,800 because I genuinely think that marriage does take hard work, 1266 01:01:02,840 --> 01:01:05,800 and I never wanted to leave here with any regrets. 1267 01:01:05,840 --> 01:01:07,920 What I have learnt is I know my worth, 1268 01:01:07,960 --> 01:01:09,480 I know what I deserve, 1269 01:01:09,520 --> 01:01:11,600 I know that the right man for me is never going 1270 01:01:11,640 --> 01:01:14,520 to leave me feeling confused or uncertain. 1271 01:01:14,560 --> 01:01:15,800 What you've taught me as well, 1272 01:01:15,840 --> 01:01:17,960 and this is one thing that I will always take away, 1273 01:01:18,000 --> 01:01:20,040 is that, I will stop 1274 01:01:20,080 --> 01:01:22,600 prioritising people to the detriment of myself... 1275 01:01:25,840 --> 01:01:28,120 ..because I've done that in every relationship, 1276 01:01:28,160 --> 01:01:29,720 I'm not doing it any more. 1277 01:01:29,760 --> 01:01:31,000 But yeah, it's just sad. 1278 01:01:31,040 --> 01:01:33,320 But, um, but yeah, based on that, guys, 1279 01:01:33,360 --> 01:01:36,440 I have decided to do what's best for me, 1280 01:01:36,480 --> 01:01:38,280 and leave. 1281 01:01:38,320 --> 01:01:41,040 Thank you. And to you, Steven. 1282 01:01:42,160 --> 01:01:43,920 I'm gutted that, look, 1283 01:01:43,960 --> 01:01:47,080 I've not been able to give you what you deserve, and what you want. 1284 01:01:47,120 --> 01:01:49,360 It has been challenging, but, do you know what? 1285 01:01:49,400 --> 01:01:51,440 You as a person, being introduced 1286 01:01:51,480 --> 01:01:56,680 to you, is a very big moment in my life in terms of impact... 1287 01:01:58,760 --> 01:02:03,120 ..because you've allowed me to be like this now, 1288 01:02:03,160 --> 01:02:05,280 like, you've brought this side out of me, 1289 01:02:05,320 --> 01:02:08,360 which I've turned off for so long. 1290 01:02:08,400 --> 01:02:09,720 So, so long. 1291 01:02:09,760 --> 01:02:11,720 So, in terms of impact 1292 01:02:11,760 --> 01:02:13,920 and what you've done for me, it's massive. 1293 01:02:13,960 --> 01:02:15,720 Massive. I don't, I couldn't 1294 01:02:15,760 --> 01:02:18,080 even put into words how massive that is, 1295 01:02:18,120 --> 01:02:21,440 but, for me to grow as a person, 1296 01:02:21,480 --> 01:02:23,760 just to spend time with my kids as well, who... 1297 01:02:25,200 --> 01:02:26,400 ..I miss massively. 1298 01:02:26,440 --> 01:02:28,360 Yeah. I think it's right for me to, 1299 01:02:28,400 --> 01:02:29,440 to leave as well. 1300 01:02:29,480 --> 01:02:31,040 OK, thank you. Well done, guys. 1301 01:02:34,440 --> 01:02:36,560 Thank you, guys. Thank you both so much for being so brave. 1302 01:02:36,600 --> 01:02:38,600 Thank you. Well done. Thank you. Good luck. 1303 01:02:38,640 --> 01:02:40,360 We really appreciate you. Oh, man. 1304 01:02:45,200 --> 01:02:47,200 I think at the beginning, I don't think I ever expected 1305 01:02:47,240 --> 01:02:48,960 the marriage to end this way, for sure, 1306 01:02:49,000 --> 01:02:50,680 I think I was very hopeful in the beginning, 1307 01:02:50,720 --> 01:02:51,960 when you see the wedding day 1308 01:02:52,000 --> 01:02:54,600 and the honeymoon, even moved into the apartments, 1309 01:02:54,640 --> 01:02:56,800 like the first week, I thought, do you know what? 1310 01:02:56,840 --> 01:02:58,440 This could work. 1311 01:02:58,480 --> 01:03:00,880 To end it this way, definitely didn't cross my mind, 1312 01:03:00,920 --> 01:03:02,920 to be accused of being on a dating app, 1313 01:03:02,960 --> 01:03:05,240 and having to friend someone off 1314 01:03:05,280 --> 01:03:07,080 is never a way you want to end the marriage, 1315 01:03:07,120 --> 01:03:09,360 but yeah, here we are, I guess. 1316 01:03:12,920 --> 01:03:14,920 Steven has 1,000% been caught out. 1317 01:03:14,960 --> 01:03:18,200 Honestly, I don't know why he won't, why he won't admit it. 1318 01:03:19,240 --> 01:03:21,040 If you asked me on my wedding day, 1319 01:03:21,080 --> 01:03:23,400 how I thought it would end, 1320 01:03:23,440 --> 01:03:25,200 honestly, I just never thought 1321 01:03:25,240 --> 01:03:26,760 our journey would be like this. 1322 01:03:26,800 --> 01:03:29,280 I do deserve better, and he knows that, too. 1323 01:03:30,560 --> 01:03:32,880 I just know that the right man will come along 1324 01:03:32,920 --> 01:03:35,080 and he'll make me feel so adored, so cherished, 1325 01:03:35,120 --> 01:03:37,080 I will never have to question anything. 1326 01:03:42,200 --> 01:03:43,640 Next time... Oh, my God! 1327 01:03:43,680 --> 01:03:45,440 SCREAMING 1328 01:03:45,480 --> 01:03:49,000 Babe! ..the couples head off on their final dates. 1329 01:03:49,040 --> 01:03:50,440 This is stunning! 1330 01:03:51,600 --> 01:03:54,280 For some, it's a fairy tale come to life... 1331 01:03:54,320 --> 01:03:55,920 The connection we had instantly is 1332 01:03:55,960 --> 01:03:57,800 the same connection that we have now. 1333 01:03:59,880 --> 01:04:03,720 ..but for others, the magic fades as reality sets in. 1334 01:04:03,760 --> 01:04:05,800 It's just the distance, it's everything. 1335 01:04:05,840 --> 01:04:08,160 I never, ever thought I'd have this problem. 1336 01:04:08,200 --> 01:04:09,880 I can't be without you. 1337 01:04:11,520 --> 01:04:13,600 And a roller-coaster of emotions.... 1338 01:04:14,760 --> 01:04:17,440 I hate it. We're just not on the same page. 1339 01:04:17,480 --> 01:04:20,520 ..sends Leisha and Reiss's marriage completely off the rails. 1340 01:04:20,560 --> 01:04:21,760 I was trying to be nice to you. 1341 01:04:21,800 --> 01:04:23,080 You were in a fucking mood. 1342 01:04:23,120 --> 01:04:26,320 I don't know if I'm the one for Leisha. Am I enough? 1343 01:04:26,360 --> 01:04:27,720 Is that it for us? 1344 01:04:27,760 --> 01:04:30,640 I don't know what else you need from me. 1345 01:04:30,680 --> 01:04:33,360 I just keep pushing him away, I don't really know what to do. 110613

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