All language subtitles for Dating in Atlanta The Movie 2017

I'm gonna marry me and find me a good
girl.

I'm gonna marry me and find me a good
girl.

I'm gonna find me a girl.

I'm gonna find me a girl.

Number one in the world.

One in the world. One in the world.

My name is Michael Claiborne, and I was
born and raised in Atlanta, Georgia.

I'm a grad student at Atlanta
University, majoring in psychology right

been here all my life. I have watched
Atlanta grow from music to fashion to

movies. We're the new Hollywood.

See, that's my best friend, Jock. And
even as kids, we was always in

with the girls.

That's how it started. What's better
than girls at everything?

We were born better. I know it.

That's not true.

Women can do anything that men can do.
Oh, really? Like what?

Like everything.

We're smart, athletic.

We can play basketball, baseball,
anything. Stop right there. We're the

We provide, work hard, take care of our
family, put food on the table, and keep

a roof over your head. All y 'all got to
do is cook and clean. Is it really that

hard? And don't forget, taking care of
the kids. Y 'all take care of the kids,

my brother.

Toys are so, so simple.

I am.

so glad that i checked no when you asked
me to be your girlfriend oh really it's

okay you're gonna regret it when i
become a pop star but you know what if i

you to that bench and i win you gotta
give me a kiss on the cheek i will beat

you oh really now

You owe me a kiss. You lost.

Could you stop talking?

Oh, really? Here's my tea.

Now, you owe me a kiss.

Be quiet. Well, stop.

You lost.

Now, give him his kiss.

It's your own business.

You're not in this.

Exactly. You cheated. That's all little
boys do anyway.

Cheat.

That's not the way you treat a young
lady. Now, get up and let her sit down.

You play too much. Life is serious.

You know, you're going to appreciate me
one day. The things I'm telling you.

Now let me ask you a question.

Do you know who Rosa Parks is?

See, that's Miss Perry.

She was everybody's mama at the park.

Always preaching and teaching and
putting us in our place.

For one thing for sure, everything she
said has come to pass.

I miss Miss Perry.

And even though she went to heaven, she
never left me.

I hear her voice every day.

That's my angel.

Rosa who?

That's another problem.

You don't know your history.

Rosa Parks.

She was a strong black woman that defied
all the odds against her when she

didn't give up her seat to a white man
on the bus. And it was even against the

law.

Miss Perry, you see, you're confusing
me.

I'm black. You're black. I was sitting
on the bench and you told me to get up.

You're slow, ain't you, little boy?

That's not the moral of the story.

Women have been changing history since
the beginning of time, just like men.

And relationships, my parents went
together until they went to heaven.

And nowadays, women, they feel like they
don't need a man.

Back then, Black relationships were just
the best because they didn't have all

the opportunities that white folks had.
And so they had each other, the need to

survive.

But now, woman don't need men, so they
think.

And men are just little boys playing too
much.

See, we all wish to be in love and
married to death do us part. But it's

probably going to be hard for us. You
know why? Because we date too many

stereotypes. See, I am doing a study on
the human experience. However, it's a

multi -faceted subject, but somebody got
to do it.

But maybe we should be more like lions.
Think about it.

The lioness goes out and hunt and bring
the food back to the family. Oh, I know

the ladies are going crazy right now
because you think the man should be the

breadwinner. But the moral of the story
is, it's for the family to eat.

And I know you're laughing right now
saying, what is a hippo doing in this

movie? Well, men, I'm talking to you.

A hippo is one of the most protective
animals over their calves.

Now, you think a young man is going to
figure it out by himself and treat a

woman like a queen? I doubt it. Maybe
you should stay in this life a little

longer and teach him how to be a good
man.

Now, this is the black widow.

Ooh -wee.

This is most women that you meet, mad,
pissed off, and dangerous. You know why?

Because they're tired of giving their
heart to the wrong person over and over

again. But when the good guy come along,
you know what she do? She murders him

and it hurts him so bad it's a calamity
and defiles his faith to ever want to

love again.

And the cycle continues and a player is
born again.

Well, it's about that time to go find
out the real truth.

See, I'm already late.

Everybody has already arrived to my
house for the truth circle dinner. And

you can hear, they already started
without me.

Why is it so hard for us to communicate?

Will women ever submit? And will men
ever step up and be committed?

See, my grandmother said to find an
extraordinary person in this lifetime,

like winning the lottery.

What you're about to hear will challenge
your perspective on love and

relationships forever.

Hey, excuse me. Hold up, please.

Excuse me. Excuse me. One second.

Thank y 'all so much for coming. How y
'all doing tonight?

Good.

Appreciate you being here, my brother.

So, tonight is very special because
everybody know I'm about to graduate and

finally get these masters.

So I'm writing my thesis paper and I've
been writing it for a while. And I'm

doing the human anatomy about men and
women in Atlanta and why we can't get it

right when it comes to love,
relationships, and all the other things.

Respect, honesty.

And I picked this human anatomy for a
reason. I think most people think that I

picked it because, you know, for
everybody else, but I really picked it

myself. Because I can't understand
sometimes when I look in the mirror. I

beautiful woman.

She's amazing.

She's attractive. She's smart.

She's God -fearing.

And she loves me from the deepest pathos
of her heart.

And I still can't get it right.

Broken heart syndrome.

may be caused by the heart's reaction to
a surge of stress hormones.

Yeah, that would be me.

I suffer from cardiomyopathy, a broken
heart.

I mess it up.

I don't know. I think sometimes as a
man, it's hard for us to love. It's hard

for us to balance the feeling of being
hurt.

It's egotistical for us. There's certain
things in our brain that we want to be,

and hurt is not one.

And I think that's why women are so
incredible, because I feel like you have

rubber band on you. You can bend, but
don't break.

I was doing a lot of research, and I was
thinking, I was like, man, I don't

think the things that they wrote about
is the same in this environment,

especially in Atlanta.

And I was reading, it was like it's the
top six people that you meet.

You meet the player and the cheater.

You meet the gold digger. I call her
Miss Phipps Plaza.

You meet the broken woman who sits
around and take all the abuse from an

insecure man that she shouldn't take.

And then you also meet the good guy who
could be sitting right in front of you,

but he doesn't have all the intangibles
that you think he should.

And the last two is

a real man and a real woman.

I say that's the hardest thing to
become, but you're twice as lucky to

dating in Atlanta.

This is why we're having this
conversation. I welcome you to my home

want everybody to understand we're
moving the rocks tonight.

We're moving it. We're finding the
secrets. We're finding the answers.

finding the solutions.

We're finding the problems.

And we're going to have real
conversations.

So, tonight is called the True Circle
Dinner.

We're going to drink. We're going to
eat. And we're going to talk.

Tasty.

My first question is to you.

Okay.

I know you just moved in. How hard is it
dating in Atlanta?

I'm so damn tired of these dudes in
Atlanta, Georgia. All they do is lie.

They not honest. They want to just keep
playing with your damn feelings. And

then when you like the honest girl or
the one who really want to get married

have kids and shit, they so quick to
leave.

See, that's Tay -Tay. She really wants
to be in a relationship.

She is a hopeless romantic.

But she suffers from autophobia, the
fear of being alone.

Like, they don't, if you're not willing
to give that shit up instantly, they're

ready to go.

I've been here a year and a half, and I
have yet to be able to date somebody.

Like, we'll go on one date, and they
want to, you want to Netflix and chill?

Nope. Hell no.

Which I moved to Atlanta for.

It's 15 and 1, plenty of women out here.
It's our city.

So if y 'all ain't want to live here, y
'all should have went somewhere else

where there's more men.

My boy Rob, he is everything that most
women are looking for.

Educated, tall, and rich.

But he suffers from commitment.

I'm a man. I love being a man. I love my
two women. They have plenty of money to

blow. That's all y 'all want anyway.

Give y 'all a few dollars, make y 'all
happy. We gonna have fun.

But y 'all lose the odds, boy.

and tell me I made the wrong decision by
moving to Georgia just because it's 15

to 1. There are good men out here, and
I'm going to continue to believe that.

I'm not going to let you mess that up.
You ain't got no man.

I don't. You're right. I ain't got no
man because these dudes out here so far

ain't seen.

But there ain't nobody out here for me,
though.

Okay?

But that's fine.

You playing with God.

Hold on. Let me get that moment. Hold
on. He said something that's profound,

though. You have guys that you've been
dating that you don't know if they

cheated on you or not, but the
relationship didn't work and you're not

with the relationships you was in. Is
that correct?

Right. You said, but they lied to you.
You don't know if they cheated. Let me

finish. But they lied to you. They did.
Okay, so you said to him, you know, hey,

I don't want to date men like you, but
he's saying, I'd rather tell you

through the door what I am. Let me
finish. Hold on, let me finish. Whatever

call it. Jerk, creep, player, or honest,
whatever. Because it seems that... So

men and women, we have a problem with
understanding, understanding, accepting

the truth. Let me finish. It's called
comfortable lies. We love to find

in a lie. So you're telling me which
guy, this is for you Tay Tay, which guy

would you rather have?

Number one, A, a man who tells you
everything you want to hear, but really

in his heart and he's really lying, or a
guy who's telling you the truth of what

I am, who I am, and what I'm doing right
now. Which one of those guys you would

rather have?

I'd rather have the truthful guy, but
once he be truthful, I'm going to leave.

You may not.

You may think that because they told you
the truth and it may not be what you

want that you're going to leave. That's
not true. It's not. Hold on, hold on,

hold on.

It's not. Because once you see that
someone is actually being truthful with

you're going to respect that. I would
rather have somebody that's truthful to

than somebody that's lying to me. At the
end of the day, I can respect the truth

and the honesty all day.

Now. Why do I respect that? Because that
gives me the option to stay or to

leave. With a liar, you don't know what
you get. But, right, I'd rather you be

honest with me and tell me how you are.
But, you know, right, let me know how

you are.

Don't sit here and tell me, oh, I'm this
faithful, honest guy, but then you go

cheat and you lying and you doing all
this.

When I meet you, I'm going to box you
in, bottom line.

There's nothing you can do, really.

I'm going to make you feel like a...

A beautiful woman in the world, which
might be.

I'm going to bring you back to the crib.
We're going to drink. We're going to

have fun. We're going to turn up. I'm
just going to put you in a position

you really can't do nothing.

So, at the end of the day, we're going
to have fun, making love, doing whatever

we need to do.

Can I play devil's advocate just for a
moment? Now, you can get to the dude

loves you and lead you on, but I'm going
to tell you to keep it dope. So, have

it your way.

Cortez, who do you think lied the most?

Men or women?

I'm going to have to say men.

You know what I'm saying? Because we're
protecting who we are.

And depending on how we feel about the
women, we're going to cater to that

feeling. You know what I'm saying?

So by catering to that, we're kind of

building a storyline.

See, it's almost impossible to have a
conversation when one person is talking

and the other person is not listening.
But see, Cortez, he's a cool guy, but he

suffers from being defensive.

So we got to remember who, what we say,
you know what I'm saying? Because again,

like this is the, this is the main
person right here. This is home.

This ain't no, no hoe. This ain't no
groupie. This ain't, this is home. So

can protect home.

You know what I'm saying?

So I feel like, man, I'm going to be
honest with you. See, they say the most

common person you meet in Atlanta is a
liar, the cheater, the player, whatever

you like to call them.

Case study number one.

He is probably somebody every woman has
dated.

This guy, Reggie. Oh, he's one of the
most best and greatest players you've

met.

Until today.

Call me Mr. Ooh, yeah.

You let it say ooh, yeah.

Girl, you know you need love.

Girl, you know you want love.

Girl, you know you need love.

Hey. It's the Lions. Let's rock. Hey,
you know.

Hey.

I want you.

Hey. Hey.

Take them clothes off for me. Oh, man.
You can ride on the pony. Oh, man.

Up and down, don't you fall off.

Yeah. You got to tell me when you're
getting off.

Okay. And I know, and you know, that I
love you.

What the fuck?

Are you serious?

Who the fuck is this? Who the fuck is
this?

Look. No, who the fuck is she?

Let me explain this. Is that what you
mean?

Next time you turn the locations off on
your phone.

The locations on my phone? Yes.

What's wrong with me?

Yes. You what's wrong with me? It's your
fucking fault I'm cheating.

Excuse me?

You're boring. We don't do shit anymore.

We used to have fun. You used to be my
best friend.

But ever since we got married, it's the
same old boring ass routine.

Wake up in the morning, go to work, come
home, cook, pray.

Same old routine.

We have boring fucking sex.

Oh, don't put my leg up. Don't pull my
hair. Cut the lights out. I feel fat.

that bullshit.

I'm tired of hearing it.

You used to be my best friend.

Now the only thing you got time for is
the kids.

You don't got time for me anymore.

And you wonder why I'm out here
cheating?

Tell me something.

What have you done for me lately?

Huh? Only thing you care about is the
fucking kids.

I don't even care about all of this.

We dated for a year and a half.

You proposed to me in front of my entire
family and now you're saying you're

married with kids?

Get your ass in the car. I'll talk to
you later. You know what?

Y 'all belong to each other. No.

Y 'all deserve each other.

Everything that you asked of me, I've
done for you.

You've always had a hot meal on your
table.

I've always watched those dirty -ass
draws.

And you have the nerve to step to me
about sex?

About our kids?

Our kids? Are you serious?

I can't believe you right now.

I'm done.

I refuse to lose my values and morals
over some empty -ass man.

You can have them.

Damn. You know what?

You're all the same.

Black, white, Hispanic, Asian.

You're all fucking liars.

Fuck you.

You know, I was stupid enough to think
that you were sent from God, but...

I was mistaken because the devil sends
gifts too.

Go back to hell.

Where

is

my knife? Let me tell you something. It
would be smoke in the city if I found my

man cheating on me like that.

See, this is Ray.

She is like Superwoman. She do
everything.

Now, where would a man fit in her life?

Nowhere. She suffers from being overly
independent.

You got a second home.

I had to put GPS on you to track your
ass.

Let me tell you something.

Somebody called a black lady from First
48.

I'll get in the driveway on the other
side of town, in the woods, wherever you

can take them back.

I ain't spend none of our money in no
hotel.

But you got a second house that I don't
know about. No, it's not.

That's disrespectful.

Hold on, hold on, hold on. What is
disrespectful? A disrespectful cheater

man who cheats on you in public, have
girls taking pictures, Instagram, and he

knows he has a girl, but letting a girl
disrespect you. A respectful cheater

will let the side chick know that, yo, I
have a chick.

This is what you can't and this is what
you cannot do because I love my lady.

Candy, candy, candy.

See, her relationships let her down so
much, trusting a man is out to question.

See, she suffers from filophobia, the
fear of falling in love.

That's a respectful cheater. I'd rather
a respectful cheater than a

disrespectful cheater. A respectful
cheater uses a condom. A disrespectful

cheater doesn't. It's level -fitting.
It's level -fitting.

I feel like a relationship is just like
a job. If you don't do your job at work,

they're going to do what?

Fire your ass. Exactly. And they're
going to do what?

Replace you. So that's what I do.

Everything is an opportunity. It's just
like a job. Because first of all, you

have to think about the levels of
cheating. There's different levels of

cheating. It's not just physical.

There's mental.

There's physical.

There's now with technology, we have
texting. We got inboxing them,

So anytime you're entertaining anybody
else other than your mate, you're

cheating to me personally.

Excuse me. Let me ask you something.

Yes. Hold on.

One second.

Have you ever cheated?

Yes.

I had a whole three -way triangle of
cheating.

Hold on. Hold on.

Tell us about it. Hold on. I had,
literally, I was in a relationship with

young lady for seven years. Who is? I
was with a woman for seven years.

Girl. I was with a woman for seven
years.

And alongside that, she was pissing me
off and we had some issues. So then I

another gentleman.

You know, when I got pissed off with the
second gentleman, I had another man.

Control. See, that's Aisha's favorite
song.

She never wants to follow.

She suffers from being a control freak.

Listen, it's okay to let your man lead
sometimes.

And when there's something you're not
getting in the home, you're going

somewhere else and getting it. So,
question, ladies.

If you had a man that was super
attractive.

Made love to you well, kissed you where
you wanted to be kissed, satisfied you

all the way you wanted to be satisfied.

Super rich.

Told you everything you wanted to hear.

But he only had one problem.

He loved to cheat.

Would you stay or would you leave?

If a man cheats on me, I feel like he
don't love me, so I'm not cheating.

Okay, so let me just say this. Let me
just say this.

I'm just going to say that just because
a man cheats doesn't mean he doesn't

love you. This man could smash 20 kicks
and none of them mean nothing. But you

can mean the world to him.

I don't agree that, oh, they just out
here smashing all these females. No, if

was that important to him and he wanted
to keep me, he would not do something

that he knows is going to devastate me.
Right. I'm not saying it's right. I

don't agree with that. I don't care
about what technology. I don't care

none of that. Right. I'm not saying it's
right, but that's just the way it is,

honey. Like, that's the way men have
been since the beginning of time. But

not like that with every man.

No,

men have been that way since the
beginning of time. I'm just saying,

something out here that's not like that.

It's every man doesn't know they're put
in that situation.

Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait.

Let's get to something. So you say
you're going to leave, and it sounds

but the truth of the matter is he got
money.

He's giving it to you right.

So there are some things that you're
going to eventually, I'm not saying it's

right on his side or your side, but I've
heard this story before.

And the truth of the matter is, if
there's stability in the situation,

going to put up with more than you would
if there was instability in the

situation. Because, this is the truth,
because you're wired to be attracted to

certain level of stability.

You know what I'm saying? And so that
wiring goes into the decision making.

That's why if there's an option between
a pickup truck and a Lamborghini, you're

going to pick the Lamborghini because
the Lamborghini says something about

stability. It doesn't say anything about
character.

DC, a real politician, he loves to
debate the facts.

He says he's a one -woman man, and he
does not cheat. But ladies, I'm sorry to

tell you, he still suffers from being
over -analytical. It's crazy that they

88 % of women will take money over love.

Love don't pay the bills.

So if my man's going to cheat, either
I'm joining in or I'm coaching.

So, I mean, that's just how it's going
to work.

Hold on. So, elaborate.

You know, that sounds real good.

Joining in is, we all going to do it
together.

Coach, I'm like, yeah, baby.

Fuck her real good.

Because at the end of the day, if she
got the bread, she going to come back

give it to us. You know, we're going to
reap the benefits. So is it her or him?

Is it her or him who got the bread?

It could be both.

But you're not fucking her, though.
You're fucking him. I could be doing

both. It doesn't matter.

If that's what I'm into and that's what
I want at the time, that's what I'm

going to do. So he is right.

He is right. He might be right.

No, it's not might.

He is right.

Okay. Whatever my man wants, I'm going
to do whatever my man wants to keep him

happy. And if that's what he wants,
that's what I'm going to do. Because he

the money.

I mean, because I'm not fucking with
no...

Dudes that don't have no money. The
biggest thing is, like he stated before,

stability is number one.

If a man is bringing in money, you are
more likely to stay because you don't

want to put up with somebody broke.

Even if you have your own money, you
don't want to put up with somebody

You'd rather have that guy who has that
money.

You know, but a lot of women are
different. A lot of women are cut

So I feel like I'm the cream of the
crop.

At the end of the day, I'm going to
work. I'm going to twerk.

I'm going to cook.

I'm going to clean.

I'm going to do everything that it takes
to keep my guy happy. That's all I've

been saying. I'm glad y 'all finally
agreeing with me.

Basically, you'll let me go for a week.

Then you need that. Then you can start
that itch. I'm going to come scratch it.

You need that bill that's due. I might
come pay it.

At the end of the day, we're just going
to get more passes.

The girls that like to pop and do,
that's what they'd rather mess with.

not messing with no lame dude. They
can't do nothing for them. Bottom line,

that's what they want. So they're going
to tolerate it a little bit more.

It's just funny because, like, so let's
say, ladies, I'm going to address you

guys, you know, if I could for a minute.
Is that possible?

Can you possibly date a good man who
happens to live at home with his mom and

he's in between, you know, situations
right now financially, but he is a

great...

God. My best friend, John.

See, I've been knowing this guy all my
life.

And he had a real good woman.

But it was so hard for her to find his
heart because his ego was in the way.

See, he suffers from being egotistical.

I'll answer that. I can pop my own
bottles by my own section.

So if you can't match what I can match,
then I don't need you. Maybe you're in

that in -between stage. At this point in
my life, I don't need a man that's at

that stage because I've been through
that. I've been with a man at that

I'm way past that. I have more than
that. So at this point, what else can

do? If you live with your mama, there's
nothing you can do for her.

Let me think about her. So here's what I
think she's saying.

And I could be wrong, but I feel like
what she's saying, because I feel the

way, is that women want a man that can
bring something to the table. Because

what I personally feel, and I'm not
speaking for all these ladies here, is

I feel that I am the table. Exactly.

So when I be in the table, you need to
be the legs of this table to hold me up.

So if you're living at home with your
mother, you can't do that for me.

So here we go.

You speak of this table that you already
have.

So you already got everything you need.

But you're missing them legs.

Correct. Now, women are always talking
about how they want a good man. They

somebody by their side. They want a
supporter. They want that backbone. They

want that structure.

They want that firmness.

You see how I said that? That firmness.

But he's so caught up in the fact that
he's living with his mama that you can't

see the goodness in his heart, the
pureness.

No, but see, what you caught up in is
somebody who can pull up with a Benz

your Benz. No, no, no, no. What you
caught up in, sister, is somebody who

key to a house that match your house.
See, now y 'all got to figure out who's

going to sell what house.

We're going to live in this house. We're
going to rent it out. See, that's a

problem. But it's a good problem. But I
ain't saying it ain't a bad problem. But

I'm just saying.

You can't deal with the fact that you
got yourself together. And here's a man

who's in the midst of getting himself
back or just getting himself together.

don't want that. In my research, I have
analyzed what happened when two

desirable characteristics, financial
stability versus altruism,

were investigated together.

And I am curious.

as whether women prefer one quality over
the other.

My next case study, number two.

Ho, he could be the man of your dreams.

Everything that you dream about and
desire. Your superman.

He could be sitting right across from
you at this table.

But you just can't see him.

S -E -X -X -X -X.

waiting on this all day.

Damn, baby, you look good.

Come here.

No, waiting on what?

Baby, waiting to satisfy you like the
queen you are. What are you talking

You're not here to satisfy me. Me and
you both know that's gonna take forever.

So please, can you let me go to sleep so
I can get to work in the morning? I'm

just tired.

Who am I?

I'm Clark Kent.

That's who I am.

Sometimes I wish that it could be more,
but for some strange reason,

That never happens to me.

I always get the kind of women that go
after the popular guys, the guys with

money, the guys with the cars.

But after they feel hurt and used up and
want to try something different, I'm

that safe bet.

But maybe I should change.

Maybe I should be the one who's mean,
disrespectful, tells you lies, cheats.

Because that's what you're used to.

More importantly, that's what you like.

Women usually, you know, they talk about
what they want, you know, and how they,

you know, my man got to be on this or
that because I ain't with the mm and the

ah. But you know what?

Half of the chicks who want don't even
bring what they want to the table.

That's right. You can't be like, oh, my
dude got me in something foreign, and

you riding around here in a little
domestic bucket.

You can't be around here in a little old
-ass goddamn 83 Mustang. Talking about

you on a man with a 2018 Bentley.

So, yes, a woman can have a beat -up
car, and he has a Mercedes, and we're

to choose him. And he's forgiving.

Men are forgiving women because they
would choose a woman with nothing if she

treats him right. So you should.

Have a man that adds to your value as a
woman that can teach you, that can

better you in your business.

But what I'm saying to you is y 'all
judge too many people off. But listen,

listen, because a man that got a fancy
car don't mean shit. He might be written

that he might don't own it. It's not an
asset. No difference between liabilities

and assets.

Liabilities is a lot of shit. People are
here faking. They don't own nothing.

They got this and they got that, but
they can't pay for it the next week.

So you got men that could be broke in a
month. So that's why you go out to

people with great mindsets because
they're always going to be rich.

I don't need that at this age. I need
you bringing something to the table.

what I possess is invisible to a woman
like you.

Loyalty, commitment, trust, a
willingness to serve you like you've

served before.

I massage you from head to toe.

I cook you dinner.

I run your bath even when you don't want
to. I serve you.

And my lovemaking skills?

Let's just say God blessed me deeply in
that department.

See, ladies, this is what I'm talking
about.

She has a good man.

Just because he broke doesn't mean he's
not the right one for you.

See, love comes in all types of colors
you can't recognize.

And packages you wouldn't imagine.

I'm just saying.

Beverly.

Wake up, baby. We need to talk. What?
Wake up. I'm trying to sleep.

Please. Baby, why you act like
everything that I do gets on your

it's a task for you to make love to me?
No, I'm not acting.

I do have a job. You don't.

While I'm sitting up here supporting
your quote -unquote dreams, I'm giving

gas money. I'm feeding you. I'm clothing
you. Fuck these flowers. Fuck all of

this shit. The flowers, the cars,
romantic picnics on the park. What good

that going to do for me? I'm a grown
-ass woman, and I need a grown -ass man

pay some bills around here. Now, if you
don't understand that, please let me

know when you decide to do that. The
walks in the park, the cars, I pay

attention to detail.

Nah, bruh, it's the bigger thing.

You know what, Beverly?

You can keep it then. I'm done. I'm done
too. That's fine. Go.

Leave. Fine.

Be done.

Don't nobody want you anyway.

Whatever. Fine.

Fine.

This is why this is my man.

It could be any man that I wanted to be
with no complaints, no walking off, none

of that. I could sit here and it can
just please me like I want to. And guess

what? I'll wake up happy.

I could just breathe. I'm tired of him
just phoning me. I'm tired of doing

everything with him.

I'm just happy he left.

Because now, just let me breathe.

Flowers, candies, roses, all that is
cool. When we were 16, we're adults now.

The money you used to buy that, put it
into a bill or something. Flip a

or something. I need you bringing
something to the table other than

roses. I have a technical question for
you. Oh, a technical? Yes. Did I meet

this man living with his mother, or is
it something that...

you know, happen after what we were
together. Hell, I don't know.

You tell me. You create the scenario.

If I meet him and things happen that
way, then yes, I will stick with him.

if that's how, you know, if he's already
had his stuff together and he failed,

he has to live with his mother, I'm
there.

But if he, I can't say that I'll be with
a man at my age that don't have his

stuff together.

See, this is Sheba.

She is educated, opinionated, and she is
a strong black woman.

But she suffers from being in the
crisis.

It's funny that she was saying that
because it's like, you know, if I met a

he got down on his knees and had to go
stay with his mom. Okay, well, if I met

him and he was already down on bending
knee, I wouldn't get with him. What if

was just going through a divorce? But
that's enough of that. So, I got a

question for you.

So, is it like etched in stone that you
cannot date a man who is not up to par

financially?

I can date a man that's not a support
financially because just because he's

there right now doesn't mean that he
can't get there.

He just wants some right now. Girl, you
got a sweetheart.

You're going to go find life. Don't make
her feel bad about the situation.

I'm serious. I just feel like.

If he's just going through something, I
might miss my blessing because I'm

cutting him off because he's not doing
it.

It's sort of like a guy. He's not going
to talk to a girl because she doesn't

have a fat ass.

A girl can be ugly as shit. I've been
called ugly before, and it's okay

I know I'm a bad bitch. But I think
because I have that ass, I was so

giving a pass.

And that's how it is with guys with
money.

Unfortunately, yes.

A woman's standards are different.

Hold on, wait, wait, wait. Is it why you
act the way you act? How do I act the

way I act?

Because you're materialistic now. I'm
not materialistic. You don't see it.

Everything I got, I paid for myself. But
you're the only man with no money that

label a woman as materialistic. Exactly.
No, it's not about that. You just heard

her broken story.

So she's damaged.

Hold on, wait, wait, wait.

She's damaged right now. She don't trust
men.

Unfortunately, since the beginning of
time, a woman seeks security. This is

we want. So in our genetic makeup, we
want someone who can take her. So

technically, we can have the babies,
even though that's not what we're

necessarily doing, and we take care of
him. Women are always talking about how

they want this type of dude.

And a woman is supposed to submit.

A woman is supposed to make sure that
she, you know, follows her man.

But then you got women at the table who
are not willing to follow a man if he

doesn't have a certain level of...

as we spoke of, the mindset.

And it's about a monetary gain of value.
If he doesn't have that, she can't

follow him because she doesn't see where
he's been successful.

Y 'all can't see that, but we can.

You know what I'm saying?

Here's where them fooling us come into
play.

Fooling? Listen, a man like to, let's
say, showboat things. You don't? Do you

have on a butt pad right now? No, I
don't.

Because girls be doing it. I do.

Okay. That's a facade. That's a facade
because when you take that dress, you're

freaking on the illusion right now.

You're just jumping in and you ain't
even chimed in.

What I'm saying is a man will, a man
will.

My breasts are actually awfully huge.

Okay, so we have to be able to decipher
the difference. As a woman, we're not

putting in, I agree with you, what we
need to put in to secure that successful

man. We need to be able to take care of
him as he takes care of her. Hold on,

hold on. Hold on, wait a second. Let me
respond to you because you were. spoke

to me earlier. Hold on. Like what you
just said to piggyback off her.

As women, we've been taught since little
girls that a man is going to take care

of you. A man is going to provide. A man
is going to bring home the bacon. So

that's why I spoke about tradition.

We have been taught that a man is
supposed to be a man regardless of what

So it means we can have nothing, and y
'all are still supposed to be the ones

that uplift us. Again, it's being the
legs of a damn table. I mean, I hear

but at the same time, what are you
bringing to the table on the other side

that? Are you cooking? Are you cleaning?
But not just that. Is it something else

that you're mentally, emotionally
bringing to the table? I mean, you all

success, but let's understand.
Traditionally, you're not taught to look

success the way you're looking at it
because what you have now is a whole

generation of people have seen video.
They've seen basketball.

They've seen football players.

And so the elevation in your mind is
taken to another level. So a regular

whomever that dude may be, has to live
on the level of a pro ball player for

all to see success.

When success cannot be measured if
you're measuring Michael to Michael

To your point, my father is a
professional basketball player. But with

being said, I'm still very submissive. I
cook. I clean. I don't care what time

of night it is that my man gets home. If
he wants sex, I'm waking up at 3 in the

morning. My God. If he wants to eat,
whatever it is that he wants. So because

I'm asking you to be successful.

I'm also going to be successful in this
relationship, honey. You ain't going to

need no side chicks.

I'm going to be all the chicks. I'm
going to have wigs, whatever you need.

slide down the pole. I'll do what's
necessary for my man. I don't really

But at the end of the day... Wait, wait,
wait.

We're sliding.

We're sliding from that finger. What the
fuck?

And brothers, I got to say this. We're
going to fellowship

one time. And Mike, you know how this
goes.

Hey, man, ain't nothing like having a
woman you want that bad when you like,

know what? I did go to cheaper. I did
buy her a $175 bag.

But do I supposed to go spend $7 ,000 or
$15 ,000 on a bag?

What if my girl ain't even got $7 ,000
to put in her $7 ,000 bag?

Is that wrong, bro? Real wrong.

When I tell you a girl call me straight
from sex, I'm like, hello?

She like...

Baby, what's your credit card number?

Box of the great tech.

She's like, the lady from Saks needs
your credit card number. Hold on, give

to her right there. I said, hello?

Yeah, she's trying to purchase some red
bottoms, $15 .50.

I said, no, put her back on the farm.

I said,

what type of thirsty stuff is that? You
called her for my credit card number

from Saks, putting the lady on the farm?

She said,

well, I ain't never thirsty. I got 30
pair of red bottoms.

I said, but you just going to call me in
the middle of the day for $15 .50 for

some red bottles?

Girl's back.

Hung up.

She came up to the barbershop, found me.

I was getting my little line in front of
me, out in front of everybody. I said,

boy, if you don't give me this $15 .50,
basically, like, I'm off you.

I said, well, you could be off me, man.

Do y 'all, like, have homegirls that y
'all have to just, like, girl, chill

Because they're, like, super.

Gold diggers. I'm talking about like,
girl, we can't go over that, girl. They

got one bottle at the table.

Yeah. My best friend is on it. For real?

Do I know her?

Do I know her?

You know my best friend.

She's all about the text. She's all
about the first day she meet a guy. She

Miss Biff Platt. Is she bad, though? She
is like a woman's woman. She got the

makeup. She got the dress. She got the
ass. She got the tits.

And she's going to give up the nappy
dugout, which you guys love.

I mean, okay, she's going to give up the
nappy dugout because, man, we want

that.

That's the whole point.

So you said she's got the ass and tits,
but is all that real, though?

She's got the whole fantasy, and it
doesn't matter if it's real or not.

right. Because at the end of the day,
it's ass and tits. So to the gold

do I have to spend a little money first
before I can have sex with you?

You're damn right.

That's the whole goal.

It's open.

Curl up.

Curl up.

Curl up.

Curl up.

Curl up.

Curl up.

Curl up.

ever lived like this before.

I just moved to Atlanta. I'm still
settling in. Give me some time.

Some time? Oh, hell no.

Scoot over.

Oh, damn.

Girl, what done happened to your damn
cabinets, girl? Did your house catch on

fire? Let me find out you can't cook.

Um, it was actually like that when I
moved in. And you still moved in? I

yeah. It doesn't bother me. It doesn't
bother you, girl? You should have moved

out. We don't live like this. Girl, you
done bumped your head.

Oh, hell no.

Oh, I can't. I can't. Get your friend.
Oh, my God.

What? Where the hell is your TV? Oh,
here. I don't have TV. I read books.

Girl, you've been reading this same
doggone book since 10th grade. You ain't

fooling nobody.

That's some damn bullshit, and you know
it. Now, we done all been broke before.

Stop trying to flex on us. What's really
going on with you?

Look, you guys know I had to leave
Detroit, and I left everything behind.

What I thought was my man, my home,
everything.

He crushed me.

And he had the audacity to kick me out
and then move in some boy who I guess is

now his boyfriend.

I had to start all the way over.

Girl, I can't. I can't right now. I told
you.

I told you this before you even moved to
Detroit that he wasn't no good.

See, men ain't shit.

Men ain't shit.

That's the reason why I left mine.

Same reason why I left mine.

They only good for two things. And
that's for paying your bills.

and freaking goddamn give you some good
head. That's about it.

See, with a nice body like yours, your
pockets should never be empty. I told

that. Living in Atlanta, Georgia, don't
be too excited about dating.

This next young lady is plotting on your
wallet every chance she gets.

She likes to find the things in life,
but she wants you to pay for them.

When I tell you this girl comes with a
lot of baggage, Gucci, Louis.

Birkin, Fendi, and the list goes on and
on and on.

Without further ado, I would like to
introduce to you case study number

men feel bad.

You got to let these men do what they do
best. And what exactly is that?

Pay. I mean, pay your rent. Pay your
house. No, pay your

car.

They got to pay your rent when you want
to go to feel.

Flies are on a Sunday and they close at
seven, but your dad ain't. You gotta say

big daddy or baby or boot or honey or

sugar. Can I get some cash for this ass?
Can I get a load

of money for this honey?

And see, it can stay funky.

That's how you're reeling me in. You got
to know what you want.

I understand that you're a hot mess, but
I went to school for this, to take care

of myself.

You went to school?

Can you please spare us?

Please, girl. I went to school, too. I
graduated at the top of my class. I was

African Akulabi.

7 .8 GPA in this thing. All honor
classes since first grade.

Are you kidding me? Did you not see me
walk past stage with my purple ribbon I

had on? See?

But I gotta sell it. I gotta sell it
with the truth. You want the truth?

Atlanta men are easy.

They're simple, baby.

All they want is new ass.

They want their ego struck.

They want you to make them feel like
they so important.

I'm going to get you all the way
together.

Neck and tight. Lean in.

Lean in. See?

Tonight is the night that we take over.
Do you understand what I'm saying?

This is how it's about to go down.

We're going to go out tonight.

We're going to get our own section in
VIP.

We're going to buy our own bottles
because we're bosses.

And guess what?

No lanes allowed.

And then we're going to sit there.

And we're going to watch.

And we're going to throw our reel out.
And we're going to reel them on back in.

Throw another one out and reel them on
back in until we catch a big reel.

And we catch that big reel like this.

We're going to pull them in.

Girl, it's going to change your whole
life.

Oh, my God.

And see, men love a woman with money. I
mean, they're always, and I mean always,

looking for the baddest chicks in the
club. And that's not hard. Listen, girl,

they come running in just like they real
out there.

You just bring them in.

Don't cut me the game.

It's all in here.

So, I thought we were just going out to
the club to have fun.

Girl, who said we wasn't?

Going to the club to find a man with
some money is a real good time. You lost

your mind. Get them coins, girl. Don't
put this little ugly book up.

Put your little shoes on.

Let's get it.

I just spent too much time on my hair.
Where you the other two shoes at? We

to take her to camp.

That's where she need to go. You ain't
never been to first before.

So I think every woman is a gold digger,
and I think every woman is a prostitute

to a certain degree because of the fact
that no woman is sleeping with a man for

free. No woman.

But that doesn't make you a prostitute.
Like, because you meet a man, you go

out, you take him to dinner, that does
not make you a prostitute.

No pun intended, but it's always the
woman that's the prostitute that

categorizes every woman like themselves.

So, I mean, to me, there's different
types of women. So wait, didn't you just

call her a prostitute? Right, right.

No, but... But she kind of called
herself a prostitute. I guess everyone

categorized them as gold diggers or
whatever, but at the end of the day,

all the same.

We are. Yes, we are. Because you're not
sleeping with a man for free.

Every woman is not the same. Just
because a prostitute literally is

would sell her ass for money. I'm not
doing that. Yes, I want a man to have

own, be able to hold his own, take me to
dinner, but that does not make me a

prostitute. First off. I think, again,
you're misappropriating her definition

an exact science.

But the truth of the matter is, earlier
when you said... that you wouldn't date

a man that was in his mother's house or
basement.

What you basically said is, that man
with nothing can't have me. So the man

something, you're trading that something
for your mind, emotions, and body. So,

i .e., you are a prostitute. No, I am
not a prostitute. That's not.

It is what it is. It is what it is.

Ladies and gentlemen, I love where y
'all going, but there's a difference.

There's a prostitute and a costitute.

You know what I'm saying?

No, listen.

You're the type of woman that's like,
you know what, I'm not a prostitute

because I'm not going to professionally
toot this ass up for you.

Yeah, but it's going to cost you
something for me to toot this ass up.

prostitute. Most women see themselves as
prostitutes because it's going to cost

you something.

She's going to need something.

There's some form of reciprocation, if I
may say this. And this is one of the

most intellectual moments of my life. I
don't even know where this voice is

coming from.

But this shit is working so perfectly
right now, you know what I'm saying? So

feel you both, and I understand. I just
want y 'all to know that I love y 'all,

whether you're a prostitute or a
constitute.

And I think that black women are more
criticized because of what we look for

a man, but white women...

They breed their little girls to marry
rich.

So when we do it, we're gold diggers.
But when they do it, it's okay.

And I think it's a double standard, and
I don't think it's right at all.

Here's the thing. I went to college, and
I went to a white college. And one

thing I've learned in living in a white
community, that white women are taught

young to go to college and meet their
husbands to take care of their men.

That's what they go to school to do.
We're taught to get a good job and take

care of our homes. Forget about the men.
And so I learned a little of both. And

for me, I have to... For me, I would
take care of my man as well as work. But

prefer to stay home and give him
everything he needs. He'd take care of

I take care of him. I have two degrees.
I have my MBA.

So if I go out and look for a guy
with...

The standards that I'm, you know,
looking for or what I have, I'm a gold

Why is that?

Why is it okay for even a white woman
with no degree?

These are the standards we put on
ourselves as black people. If you were

white men, that wouldn't exist. You
would marry him.

No, what I'm saying is that if you were
dating, if you were searching for a

white man, then you would be searching
for a man to support you and you support

him because that's how they see their
women. A white man expects for his woman

to do certain things like take care of
him and all that. When you're dating

black men, and that makes a difference.

72 % of the black household is raised by
the black woman alone.

So the standards are different.

So I'm glad you said that. You made a
good point. But I want to know, I want

hear you say this. Are you saying that,
like, white men treat black women better

than black men treat black women?

What I am saying is that because of
society and how we're raised, that in a

of cases they can, yes.

Absolutely. They have more respect in
how they treat the women. The way we

at our women today is how we're raised.

The black women oftentimes curse their
children out and all that because

not taught to do anything different.

But white men, their parents are just a
little different with them. And the way

they respect their mothers is different.
And this is just my experience. I've

dated multiple white men. I've dated
black men. And the way I was treated,

per capita between both, it was better
by white men. That is the most

and ignorant thing I've heard tonight.

Because my best friend in junior high
school was white. He cussed out his

on the regular. You're speaking about
one individual. No, pause, let me

One individual.

Sweetie, I've been around white people.
Some of my best friends are white. Do

not depict your life for my life. You
don't know who I know and where. She

she was going for her experience. But
I'm telling you, her experience is super

atypical. Because guess what? The
majority of people that live in America

white. The majority of people in poverty
are white.

Pause again.

So your one story is super, super
atypical. I have multiple stories.

I understand that. But I'm telling you
that you cannot speak for everybody

around the nation or in this room. And I
am not.

I'm telling you statistically, you're
wrong. And so as I move forward, I'm

saying that a white man, no offense to
any of my friends, can never.

Can never treat a black woman the same
way I would treat her because they don't

understand where she comes from. I
didn't say same. I said better. Two

things. Better, the same, nothing.

Because let me tell you why the
statistics are the way they are. Because

the women empowerment movement came
about, it was funded to destroy the

These are facts.

Don't talk.

These are facts. It came to destroy the
family. And in particular, the black

family. And then not only that, if a
woman. has a baby in America, if she

welfare or whatever that is, she has to.
It's in the contract. No husband or no,

excuse me, no, the father cannot be in
the home. So this has happened for, this

has happened for 30 years. So the
mindset of the black man against the

has changed because the government and
other entities. I do not disagree with

you. You're not saying anything I don't
disagree with.

And you can't disagree with it because
it's a fact.

But the fact of the matter is you're
wrong when you say that a white man can

treat a black woman better when I
understand your history, what she came

where we've been, and where we're going,
period. I do not disagree with you. The

reason why they can treat us better,
because they...

In this country, they control
everything.

And the reason why black men don't is
because of the way we were taught,

conditioned. I agree with you. But the
fact is they simply can't because of

that. We're affected by the things that
you mentioned, and I agree with you on

that. But it's a direct derivative of
what is happening today, why they can

treat us better. We don't respect our
women the way they respect theirs.

No, that's not true.

See, it's crazy. Everybody at this
table, all the ladies, you guys have

different opinions about what you guys
want. I want to be in love.

I want to have a family. I want to get
married.

And it's just like being here, it's the
hardest thing ever.

Like, it's the biggest struggle.

And it's sad because I'm starting to get
to a point where I'm like, okay, either

I'm going to have to move out of Georgia
or it may not happen for me at all. And

both of those really suck.

At this point in my life, I'm not
interested in loving again because my

has been broken.

Every time I cared, I've had a guy poop
on me, for lack of a better term, okay?

So I don't need a heart. At this point
in my life, I need my career. I need my

funds. God is very important.

A heart, I mean, I have my heart for my
family. Before God, I just don't have

it. I don't have the time.

Coming home thin, you know, someone that
you love.

in the bed with another guy or ex, and I
felt like I could never love again.

And first of all, as a man, I don't even
want to love anyway.

I want to love my son.

I want to love God. I want to love my
family. I don't want to love a woman

because I feel like giving you my heart
and you taking advantage of it is too

easy for you, especially if I pick
wrong.

You know, it's crazy to me because most
women can love again over and over

again. I say they have rubber band
hearts. They can try it all over and

again.

You, it's a little different.

I don't. I don't. I can't. I don't think
I will, and it's sad. I want to, but at

this point in my life, I don't think I
will ever.

I don't even think I'll get married.

Oh, no.

So, the last relationship was that bad?

It was very bad.

Tell me about it. I was dating a guy.

I won't mention his name.

Um, you know, he was very established.
You know, we, you know, knew each other

for a long time. We were friends before
anything.

I believe in building a friendship
before, you know, we take it to that

Um, I had did a video for someone, I
forget who it was, came home, me and my

makeup artist, and he was banging
another guy.

What? Oh, my God.

Whoa.

And he never came off as being
homosexual to me. If that's what your

fine. But if you're going to be banging
another dude, you need to let me know.

Because first of all, you're messing
with my health.

You're messing with my mental.

And I'm low -key ain't all the way
there.

So I go to the car to go get the gun
because I have a strap on me at all

because I'm a single female.

And I really, I went in the house, took
the gun, and I pointed at him.

And I'm like, I should take you both,
you and this little sissy out right now

because you should have told me. It's
not the point that you're banging him,

point that you led me on to believe that
you love me and care about me, but you

got this man bent over banging the shit
out of him. So at this point in my life,

I don't trust anybody.

I'm hurt. And so I think every man I
meet is gay.

Okay, this is my thing. I hear the
sincerity in what you're saying, but I

hear...

A lot of flack with it. You know what
I'm saying?

With me, I date who I want to date. I
date a woman. I date a man. I do what I

want to do. At the end of the day, I'm
still a man.

I still got a career.

I'm still successful.

Nothing is stopping me.

You know what I'm saying?

This is my thing with you. I feel like
you kind of offended me when you said

that you found your man.

Blame it on another man or whatever. He
could have brought you disease.

Stop that shit.

You know what I'm saying?

He could have. I feel like.

If he was unprotected, he could have.

But this is the thing. Like, with women,
you make it hard for men to tell you

the truth.

No. Listen to what I'm saying.

You make it hard to tell the truth
because you see how you're so judgmental

right now? I'm not judgmental. Listen to
what I'm saying. Go ahead.

You're very judgmental. You.

Basically called out all the
characteristics of a gay man that you

about. Do you sleep with other men?

Do I sleep? Of course. So you don't feel
like you're gay.

You don't want to be put in a box,
basically. Exactly.

I feel like right now in society, the
way things are being displayed, gay men

very colorful, very flamboyant, tight
jeans, rules.

Gay and woo -woo. Now, you can't be mad
that you was attracted to a man who acts

like a man.

You know what I'm saying? There's people
like me who carry themselves like a man

and still do manly things.

We're not flamboyant. We don't do
colorful shit.

You get what I'm saying?

You just put me in a box. I did not put
you in a box. I'm telling you what he

tried to holler at me. When he
approached me...

At that point in time, he should have
let me know what he had going on, what

liked, then let me decide if I was going
to be okay with that.

So, my question to you is, why is it
cool for women to eat another woman's

kiss, dance, flirt, and do all of those
things, street shows with their

boyfriends and all of that? But when a
man do it, it's looked down on. It's

looked like, oh, I'm really a man at
this point. And I feel like the reason

it looks... down upon for men is because
ultimately, when you say the word man,

that's just it. You're supposed to be
the strong, providing, you know,

you're supposed to be a man. You didn't
understand.

Earlier, though, I said, yo, that a man
still acts like a man. I only got

defensive because lately, now, all you
hear is Yo, gay black men, it's down

I don't even know what y 'all something
to say.

I kind of got some questions, man.

Damn.

You know, no offense, man, but my gaydar
didn't pick you up, bro. I didn't see

it,

man. I'm just like, damn.

And it's so crazy because I'm sitting
here and I never would have guessed.

Nothing against you, bro. You know, hey,
man, it's your life. It's your

preference. And I just, there's been so
many times that I just wanted to ask,

like.

Like, how you just, like, how you go
there, bro?

I grew up with my mother. I didn't have
a father in my life. So I always thought

what my mother did and how my mother
reacted to men and whatever like that.

kind of picked up that characteristic.

You get what I'm saying?

So as I'm picking up that
characteristic, I'm still over here kind

was attracted to her when I walked in.

Me and her, like, we was connected.

Oh, Lord.

So glad that that didn't happen because
we would have been sending this poor

baby back to Indiana.

All right. That lady.

Super heartbroken.

Beyond broken, though. Can I say
something? You said I didn't give him my

percent. We have been together for two
years. And I don't want you to feel

offended because of what I said. I said
it in general because...

Having sex with anybody that's not your
spouse, you have a risk of getting an

STD. Say that again.

No, I can say how I want to say it
because I didn't even know you. You

have offended a lot of community and you
don't even know.

You know what I'm saying?

So just be careful what you say.

Both you guys offended each other. Just
like it's not okay for you to say 50 and

it's not okay for you to think that she
could walk in there and see another man

having sex with another man. That's
totally wrong.

Because that's not how, she can't be
misled as a woman. You know what I mean?

Basically in a two -year relationship
and he's living a whole nother life.

That's no, you can't, you can't. Like
I'm honest, whatever I do, multiple

but I'm being honest.

You know what I mean? I try to be
upfront.

So there's no way in the world you can
walk in and see, that's traumatizing for

a woman to see that.

That's not okay, brother.

I don't care what you say on that. When
you talk about Atlanta specifically, it

has a high HIV and AIDS population.

So in Atlanta specifically,

it is not only a duty, but it's
responsible. If you're in a relationship

a time period, for you to be honest
enough or upfront enough or have some

of disclosure, no matter what your
lifestyle is, it could be some type of

disclosure. Add to what you're doing
holistically.

I listen here and listen to your side
and the thing that you experienced as

well. And Rob had a great point.

See, the communication between each
other is messed up.

This is the reason why you feel like you
feel because you feel like you don't

have a space in the gay community to say
who you are and what you are because

you're going to be judged.

Second of all, she also has a great
point as well because she dated a man

didn't come out and tell the truth.

Doesn't matter. Nope, let me finish. No,
I want you to just listen. I listen.

It doesn't matter. She fell in love with
a stranger.

She went to bed with a stranger. True.

She prayed with a stranger because he
did not come out and tell the truth.

The most thing that is important is that
a woman gives so much to a lie. Can you

imagine what she would give to the
truth?

The reason I respect you is because
you're telling the truth.

What I do have a problem with, if I ever
have a daughter, is you telling my

daughter you love her, you want to be
with her, so forth and so on, and guess

what? You're not who you say you are.

And I say that to say because this next
person, a broken woman, who has been

kicked and loved the wrong man, someone
that abused you mentally, physically, I

mean, she's getting her ass kicked over
and over and over again.

And to sit and let a man beat on you, I
have a problem with that. And at some

point, you got to stand up and know what
you're worth.

Know who you should love, and that's you
first.

Don't be a broken woman.

Be a blessing.

I will.

I asked you a question.

Where you been all day? Where you been
at all day? Where have you been all day?

I'm at work.

But you already knew that. When I call
you, pick up the damn phone.

How am I gonna pick up the phone when
I'm at work, Sean?

Yeah.

That doesn't make sense, right?

Being married shouldn't feel like jail.

I didn't marry you to become a prisoner.

Keep running your mouth.

And I'm gonna make it feel like hell.

Give me my phone. Give me my phone.

Touch me one more time. Touch me again.
Don't push me. Touch me again.

What's this happy birthday I talked to
you later today?

It's a female coworker, okay?

She just wished me happy birthday. So
now you have a female coworker named

right? Yes! And I've had one for five
years. You've met her.

You're cheating on me.

I'm not cheating on you.

Nor have I thought about it, but maybe I
should.

Like, what are you on today?

Okay, I come home, and I cook, and I
clean, and I work! I'm not trying to

that shit. Are you cheating on me?

It's my birthday.

Can we not do this?

Fuck your birthday.

Who are you calling to?

How come you?

Watch your mouth.

What do you think you're talking about?
Get off me! Watch your smart -ass mouth,

though.

I will kill you.

You do what I tell you to do. Get off of
me.

Get off.

Get off.

Where are you going?

Where the fuck are you going?

Where the fuck are you going?

Huh? You are so excuse for a wife.

Calm down, okay? You got an urgency on
me? My wife wants you.

Look at you. You ain't not doing your
fucking hair.

I think you're a fan of remembering your
ugly ass.

What the fuck is going on?

What are you doing?

Huh? Open this fucking door.

Come the fuck out.

Leave me alone, all right?

Open this door.

Ephesians 5, 22.

So you also submit to your husband in
everything you do.

I thought you was a saved woman.

I thought you was a God -fearing woman
when I met you.

Open this fucking door. Open this door.

I ain't going nowhere.

Open this door. Stop!

Why you making me act like this? I'm a
God -fearing man and you got me here

tripping?

God, I need help.

He's a good man, right?

I mean, he just lost his mom.

What is getting worse?

Maybe I just need to be a better wife.
Maybe that's it.

be anymore. I can't.

I can't live like this anymore and I
need your help because I'm saying

Help me leave, please.

Come on.

I ain't gonna touch you. Come out.

Come out, baby.

Come here.

I'm here.

You can't stay in there all night.

and don't you ever let a man hit you you
understand you never let a man hit you

i know i'm not just talking i'm talking
about what i've been through loved a man

more than I love myself it's not worth
it and if you have nothing else to do

call on God because he will help you he
will see you through

Coming home and seeing, you know,
someone that you love in the bed with

guy, her ex, and I felt like I could
never love again.

Giving you my heart and you taking
advantage of it is too easy for you,

especially if I pick wrong.

With all these thoughts running through
my head.

Remembering all the things we said.

In my deep down, yeah, I'm scared.

Cause I know I'm not in it by myself.

My worst nightmare is that I'm lost.

Wait a minute. I know that things ain't
perfect.

But soon it'll all be worth it.

Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

Well, if we could stay together, baby,
we'll make it through this weather day.

If you wait a little while longer, baby,
everything will be fine.

Which means...

Dinner's almost ready.

I love you.

Well, we love you too, sweetie.

Hey,

she's still fine, eh?

You good? You good? What's up?

Man, I'm good, man. Just, you know,
working, doing the same old thing.

I need to talk to you, Pop.

Okay.

Hold on.

So listen.

What's up?

Man to man.

Want the truth.

When you first met Mom, first time, did
you think she was going to be your wife?

Hell no.

Y 'all been up there too many movies.

See, our relationship was real life.

I had to court and chase that woman.

She made it hard for me, too.

I thought I'd never have a chance to get
that number.

She turned me down so many times.

How do you keep going over and over
again?

Keep hearing no, no, no, and you still
keep trying. I can't do that, Pop.

You see, when I first met her,

At that moment, I knew she was special.

And no matter how many times she turned
me down, there ain't no difference.

I had already made up in my mind that I
was going to take her on a date.

I took two years, but now, you know.

That's crazy, man.

Man,

to give along my heart over and over
again.

You've been hurt before, you know,
right?

It's tough.

How do you do that? Because I feel like
that's like playing Russian roulette

with my life.

You see, that's what's wrong with your
new generation.

You don't know how to keep fighting.

You give up too easy. You quit.

You know, every time you hit adversity,
you walk out the door complacent in your

job, comfortable, and always looking for
a handout.

You see, these instant gratification
men, they don't believe in work.

They wanted to come easy.

And it comes easy.

Then they're ready.

A real man, he has endurance, patience,
and is witty.

All you have to have is persistence and
consistency to get what you want.

And once you get it, you have to know
how to keep it.

Sound easy.

Love not easy, Pop.

I just don't know if I can get my heart
again.

You asking me to do a lot?

Nah. I want you to be a real man, son.

Do you know the difference between an
eagle and a chicken?

A what? An eagle and a chicken.

Everybody knows the difference between
an eagle and a chicken. Yeah, well, let

me just tell you. You see, a chicken is
a common creature.

And you can find them anywhere.

They all think alike, walk alike, talk
alike.

And they're always looking down because
they're not confident.

But an eagle, he thinks differently.

You see, an eagle sees things on a
different plane.

You see an eagle, oh, you get excited.

When it rains, all the other birds, they
fly for shelter. But the eagle, he

flies above the clouds to avoid
adversity.

I understand, but what are you talking
about?

Well, an eagle can make love in the sky,
man.

What? Yeah, God made it that way. So he
wouldn't make a mistake and make love to

a chicken.

Moral of the story is that you have to
start thinking like an eagle and

stop being a chicken, son.

And Pop here, oh, I didn't come out the
man I am now.

with a lot of prayer and discipline.

See this woman right here? She made me
better. Come around here, girl.

It's a fine self.

Now, it's going to be hard to find one
like this.

Beautiful, outstanding mother, the
greatest definition of love.

Faithful not only to me, but to her
beliefs and values.

You know, she never swayed.

All the mistakes I made, it should never
change.

You know, she's the one that taught me
that falling in love was dumb.

Oh, I remember that one. I can see it
right now.

It's not okay for you to be saying that
I'm willing to be hurt.

Let's do something. The whole world will
gawk at you.

Let's ride in love.

Let's take love to the heavens.

And write love notes on the cloud.

Oh, my.

I still get butterflies every time your
father touches me.

At night, when I pray, I thank God that
I finally said yes to that

cheap date he took me on.

I will never forget our first date.

This man.

said something to me that no man had
ever said before.

If you give me the chance to love you, I
will make you my oxygen.

Happy anniversary, baby.

We made it through another year. Yep.

Still a long way to go.

On our wedding night, I dropped a tear
into the ocean.

Now, when they find that tear,

That's the day I'm going to stop loving
you.

Happy anniversary.

Come over here, chicken.

Case study five and six.

A real man and a real woman.

My parents.

I've been watching this love connection
all my life.

And I still can't get it right.

I mean, this is the true value of a
relationship.

loyalty, commitment, God, everything
that you ask for. Now, don't get me

My father has been every kind of man I
did my research on.

But see, he was smart.

When he found the right moment that made
him fly, that eagle he talking about,

he was smart enough to take off.

So did you really think it would last 32
years?

Um... Well,

actually, I was hoping it would.

You know, and I pray that it lasts 32
more years.

God willing, it will.

Yeah, we'll be very fortunate.

That's because I love you, baby.

I love you too, baby. Yeah.

Not many people have that.

Aren't you right?

We're one of the lucky ones, I can tell
you that.

We are.

Man, I hope one day I can have that kind
of love.

I hope I'm smart enough to when I
finally get my woman back, I'll keep her

32 years.

Real man and real woman is what we
strive to be.

If we're lucky, we'll become one.

But you'll be twice as lucky to find one
dating in Atlanta.

I believe that there's something else
out there for me.

There is one thing that I know.

Wow. I finally finished my thesis and I
discovered the hardest person to date is

yourself. The man in the mirror.

But now that I finally got my woman
back, I can't make excuses.

It's time for me to fly.

See, I can remember my grandfather
saying, son, sit down for a second.

This is simple. It's easy.

This is the formula to a real
relationship.

I follow God. She follows me. And love,
it takes care of itself.

This is your special day.

I'm going to give you everything.

Because of the love of my life.

And our love ain't got a price on it.

I'm taking you out to have a good time.

We're going to have champagne and wine
tonight.

We're going to party.

We're going to dance.

Have some fun with everybody.

I'm going to marry you, baby.

I'm going to give you all my love.

I'm going to marry you, baby.

I'm going to give you all my love.

Mama told me this would come one day.

She said, don't be afraid.

I can change your life. I can change
your life. I will treat you right. And

that's no lie.

I won't let you fall.

I'll be right there.

I won't be that shoulder that you keep
coming on.

You can trust in me, love.

Won't let them hurt you again.

And you know that I do it. You're
driving me crazy. You're driving me

Boy, you always got to try to run away.

Baby's got me thinking like Monday.

Girl, I got your face. I need to heal
it.

If you ever part, you know I pick you
up. I told you that I always be right

there. And I will lift you up. Got you
back forever. And you know that you're

number one. You're hotter than the
summer sun. And you know that I love

that's not right.

I won't.

You can trust in me, love, or let them
hurt you.