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Previously on The Real Housewives of
Beverly Hills. So the first Bachelor is
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Bachelor F. Loves kids, loves to travel.
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I just need to... Oh my God, she's doing
it on his private.
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I like Dory, but I just feel like when
we talk, we're not understanding each
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other. I think for someone who talks so
much, she doesn't listen.
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I do believe... I'm gonna get emotional.
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Life is just too short.
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White. If Kathy and I have an argument,
instead of it being just between us...
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All of a sudden, it's like, okay, then
I'm cut off from everybody.
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I was so nice to you.
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Okay. And you were a bitch to me. Okay.
And you know it. I do? Okay.
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Go watch the show.
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Oh, this is quite the thread.
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Can we eat? Are you guys hungry?
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I'm hearing about this fabulous night
you guys had. You made out with your
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driver. Oh, my God.
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Okay? Okay.
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You're saying it to embarrass her, and
that's not okay. We are having a good
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time, you guys.
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If you have to say it like that, we're
not having a good time. I'm saying that
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because you just attacked me. Just for
the record, I didn't attack you. We were
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having a conversation.
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What's a good word? I don't know what's
a good word, but I feel like for you and
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your privilege, I can't.
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If you don't like me, Garcelle, stop
pretending that you do.
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Did you clear up the thing with Erica?
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No, we haven't. No? Oh, you haven't? No.
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No, we haven't, Potter.
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Okay. I am going to go see my husband
who I've not seen in a week.
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Are you leaving?
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I am.
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Hey, give me a hug before you go.
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Okay, thank you.
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I am so ready to go home.
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So what are you upset about?
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First of all, to insinuate that my
daughters at 14 years old would have
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had a threesome, I think is beyond,
beyond inappropriate.
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You're shaking your head.
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Yeah, I'm shaking my head because that's
not what it was about.
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Children these days, if they have a
phone, I have access to everything.
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Of course they know about that.
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Okay,
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your oldest daughter's on OnlyFans.
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She doesn't know?
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That is a low blow to bring up my
daughter's OnlyFans right now. What did
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think I was going to do, come in here
and not mention the OnlyFans after you
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called me a bitch?
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Did you really think I was going to play
nice with you?
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Did you really think I was going to come
in here and be, what, above it all?
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You are a mean woman.
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You asked for it. No, I did not.
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Well, then you shouldn't have come up
into her house acting like a bitch and
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then I wouldn't be here. Well, you
shouldn't have acted like a bitch.
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What, four years ago when nobody
remembers?
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I think it's great. I just want to know
who's more profitable, you or Sammy.
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You're unbelievable.
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I am.
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Mm.
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Mm -hmm.
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Mm -hmm.
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Well, apparently Lent is over.
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I gave up fighting with y 'all for Lent
as a good Catholic.
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That didn't last long. I did not want to
fight, okay? What do you want from her?
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I wanted to ask what I did to you for
you to do what you did.
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About my kids. It has nothing to do with
your kids. Do you remember at your
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barbecue, there was a table of us, a
round table of kids, and we were all
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talking about threesome, sexual stuff,
whatever.
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Well, not all of us. Hold on.
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You just talked about your husband's big
dick five minutes before.
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I did not talk about it at a dinner with
my kids at the next table, Erica.
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I was at that party, people.
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I was there.
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He still has a big penis and big
muscles, so it's all good.
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Denise,
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you got some explaining to do.
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Denise, I'm right. Anyway, my point is
this. No, you're not right. I am right.
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No, you're not.
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100%. I know I'm right.
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I think you're wrong.
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Okay, great.
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I'm right.
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My point is this. No, you're not. We
were all speaking about these things.
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All of a sudden, you single me out, take
me to coffee and talk about, well, you
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know, my children. I went to lunch
yesterday with Sammy, my oldest
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she overheard something.
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I'm sure that they did. So she mentioned
three thumbs.
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Well, I apologize, you know, because I
have like the nastiest mouth ever. I
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don't have the cleanest mouth either. I
apologize. That's Sasquatch coffee. I
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said, you know what? I'm very sorry. You
brought it up. I didn't bring it up.
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You did.
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Listen, Denise, I have nothing left for
you. You can think however you want of
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me. You can feel however you want. I
have nothing left to say.
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I didn't want this fight.
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Yeah, you did.
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You needed it to get off of all the
other shit going on in your life.
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not. Absolutely.
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That's what you do. You deflect.
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Erica, Erica, stop being so
condescending.
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Denise, we haven't deflected anything
about my life the last few years.
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Absolutely not. There's been no
deflecting.
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Really?
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And you're the one that claims you
didn't know $20 million was deposited in
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account?
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Oh.
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It wasn't, actually.
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Oh, really? And the government's proven
that, so you're a little late. Oh, well.
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It was so nice. I'm going to excuse
myself.
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Excuse yourself.
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Bye, honey. Good to see you. Me too.
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And I love you. Bye.
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Get home safe. Thank you.
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You head below the belt. You do.
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Oh, Denise.
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Off. I've had it. You know what? You had
your chance a week ago. You failed. You
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failed again tonight.
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And that's it.
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Conversation over.
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Bye.
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Don't come for me when you're on
OnlyFans for $7.
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I mean, I do wonder what she makes,
though. I mean, hopefully it's good.
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Really, it should be that children and
families are off limits.
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Yes. You know, not between all of us.
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Why don't you say that to her when she
just said that? I know. Why don't you
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step in and say something?
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We're sitting right next to you. I was
letting you guys talk it out. Why didn't
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anybody stand up for me the other night?
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Why didn't anybody say that's wrong to
do?
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About what?
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About the ring.
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And that Moe must have bought that for
me if he cheated. Why didn't anyone
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up for me then?
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What's with the new band?
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I thought it was a makeup band.
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A makeup band? What does that mean?
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When your husband messes up and you get
a gift.
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So what you're saying is that my husband
cheated on me?
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Where the f***? Because everybody's been
when I've needed them.
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Are you kidding me? If you want to play
every man for themself game, then we're
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going to play it across the board.
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Not one person said, that is so weird to
sit there and say, oh, she has a new
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piece of jewelry. Must be that her
husband bought it because he cheated.
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not cool, guys.
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That's her family. That's her husband.
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Her kids are upstairs.
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Nobody said a fucking thing.
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So guess what? Fuck everybody.
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I'm sorry. You guys can figure it out.
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I didn't defend Kyle when Sutton was
questioning about her marriage because
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too, am curious about Kyle's marriage.
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I'm done.
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With the ring switching and working out
so much, it seems
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like a lifestyle change.
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It's weird to me. I don't know.
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Good night, everybody. Good night, good
night, good night.
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Oh, wait, I came with you.
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Oh, yeah, then you want to come or you?
I came with you. Bye, Denise.
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Bye, everyone.
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Maybe I'll do Taco Tuesday next time.
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I really thought Erica had changed.
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Nice to meet you. Bye, sweetie.
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And seeing her talk like this, it's the
old Erica coming back.
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Your lovely hostess.
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Sorry I ruined your day.
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Good night,
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ladies. Bye.
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You cannot say stuff like that. You
cannot attack people's kids. It's too
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That was super fun.
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You're welcome.
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Bye. You're welcome.
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Bye. Bye, honey.
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Hey, Sutton.
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Wait, hey, Sutton. Don't make out with
your driver.
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I will kill you. Don't be pulling over.
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You may jump in that front seat.
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Don't you worry about it, Colleen. Bye.
Don't you worry about it. Bye.
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Coming up.
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Oh, I hear a girl's voice. Let me guess.
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Ashlyn?
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Hi. What are y 'all doing in the bed?
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We're watching a movie.
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Hello.
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Hello.
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You little people aren't getting fed.
Just the big fish.
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What have you little people done to him?
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What'd y 'all do?
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Okay.
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I sound like a crazy person.
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Mom, what are we going to have for
dinner tonight?
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If it's not too complicated, I can cook.
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Like, don't ask me to do the lasagna
right now.
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I know, but it's going to be our main
dish, though.
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You know what? What do you really look
like?
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Wolfgang Buck?
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Are you going to make the chicken? You
get what you get.
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Love you.
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Love you.
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Mijo.
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Oh,
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I hear a girl's voice. Let me guess.
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Aslan? Hi.
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What are you all doing in the bed?
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We're watching a movie.
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Uh -huh. Where's your father?
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Over there.
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Okay. All right. Have fun.
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Not too much fun. Not too much fun.
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Bye.
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What were they doing in the bed?
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That'll like it.
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Yeah.
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Phoenix, should I wear the Chanel hoop
or my
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studs? Diamond studs.
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Diamond studs all the way. I think she's
here.
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Oh, you look so cute. Thank you. Hey,
princess. How are you? Good.
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Nice to see you. You're growing up so
fast.
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She is. Hi, honey.
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Nice to see you. Come on in. We're going
to go outside.
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She's going to get us drinks if we want
drinks. May I have a Coke like your mom?
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I just knew it.
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Did you know it? Regular Coke, not Diet
Coke. Mama just told me. The other day
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she says to me, Mama, I have got such a
great model walk. She is a performer.
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She really is. Phoenix, why don't you go
get the Coca -Cola, baby, for Erica,
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and then bring it back with your model
walk.
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Thank you so much, my love bug. Thanks,
Phoenix. You're welcome.
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So what's going on? What happened after
I left? Girl, oh, my goodness.
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You know, the Denise of it all.
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Oh, God, Denise.
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What was she saying?
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She was, you know, what you did to my
daughters and what you did to my, you
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know, what you said about my children.
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I was thinking, you're mad at me for
something four years ago? You know what
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is. Well, I'm like, no, I don't. And
then, you know, it got to where, like I
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said, you know, I just said, well,
listen, who makes more money on
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or your daughter?
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Oh, my God.
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I've had it. I don't want to do this.
You wanted this bite. You picked this
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bite, so here it is.
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And now, oh, my God, you're evil.
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Really?
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You're dumb.
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There she is, coming down the catwalk,
Miss Phoenix. I'm not doing the catwalk.
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Did you bring snacks?
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It is from Passover. What a beautiful
little hostess.
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Bye,
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baby girl. This is yummy.
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Let me ask you this, because I walked in
at the end.
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What were you and Garcelle talking about
that you guys got so heated over?
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Hi. Hi.
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How are you?
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I'm good. I'm tired.
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You know, I'm an emotional person, and I
didn't like seeing your face the other
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night.
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I was really messed up.
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After that, I cried to sleep, and I woke
up,
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and I wasn't better.
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I mean, the word attack.
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I would hope somebody who's in my group
would know better than to use certain
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words or say certain things. I didn't
lunge at her. I didn't grab her. I
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do anything that's considered attacking,
right?
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She just doesn't get me. She doesn't
know my world. She doesn't care to know.
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She's in her world, in her bubble.
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And there's rainbows and unicorns
everywhere.
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I think the word attack, when we're
getting in heated
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conversations, to you can kind of go
towards that.
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Aggressive. Yes, yes, yes.
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Yes. Yes.
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I just, I feel like I need to have a few
days. You know, we need to kind of
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process everything.
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When I used the word attack, I did not
mean to have any type of connotation
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would trigger or offend Garcelle.
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Now, I just feel like I have to get a
grasp on how best to approach it.
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I love that you went after the
privilege.
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I feel like for you and your privilege,
I can't.
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I think she lives in a bubble.
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Agree. I feel like over the last few
years, we've made steps forward, and
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felt blindsided again.
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I don't think Dorit is a malicious
person. When Dorit knows better, she
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better. You know, she just, I don't
believe she knew, and now I'm sure she
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knows, and I'm sure she will never do
that again, and I'm sure that...
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She feels terrible because I know
Dorit's heart.
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You got to talk to her.
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Coming up.
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I'm only here because I love you. I
know. And I love her and I want this to
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work. What if I don't want that
relationship?
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Got to meet with the matchmaker.
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I have a really hard time with her name.
Starts with an A. It's not Elizabeth.
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Why can't I remember this poor woman's
name?
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Oh.
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Look how pretty you look.
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Beauty. We're in the same color.
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We keep doing that. I love the pink.
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Well, we're both in pink, so that's
good.
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Here, here, here. Have a seat right
here. Perfect.
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So Miss Sutton. Oh, God.
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Bell of the ball. My report card.
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Oh, my gosh.
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Okay, before we go into your date
feedback, Sal had really good feedback.
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So tell me, how did it go?
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Started off slowly.
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But, you know, it loosened up. Yeah. And
we talked about his mother.
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Okay.
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I get back every two months to see mom.
I'll tell you my favorite mom story. My
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little mother.
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I was just like, Mom, Mama.
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Wow, Mom.
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My mother drives me crazy.
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I'll read you his feedback. It's so
cute.
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Are you ready?
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Generally, he had a great time, but I'm
going to go through. Oh, God.
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I need to lie down.
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No, you're going to do great. What are
some positive qualities about my match?
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She sounds like a great mom.
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This is the worst thing I've ever done
in my life.
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I'm dying.
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I'm literally dying. Okay.
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Did I feel captivated, bored, or
something in between?
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What did he say?
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Captivated. Okay, we're almost done.
We're almost done. Did they make me
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No, he didn't come across as an
individual who makes a lot of jokes.
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Well, I didn't see the funny side of
Sal.
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Okay.
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Just having read Sal's feedback, my
guess would be that he probably thought
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were not into him.
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So I want to work on giving indicators
of interest to the next men that you are
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going to meet. Step one, are you
comfortable giving a compliment? We want
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break these patterns. What would be a
compliment?
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So even saying like, I like your belt.
Yeah, like I love your belt.
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No, that is the worst thing I've been
talking about. What's wrong with that?
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Because it is close to the genitalia
area.
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It's okay. No.
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Men are flattered by anything.
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You could tell them that you like their
ears and they would probably be
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flattered. Men are like big babies that
walk around the earth.
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See, now I'm never going to get a date
because I just said that.
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Let's get to the second date. I love it.
I love it. So, based on all the
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feedback from last time, I have a
client. This is Bachelor S.
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He's VP of sales.
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He's 6 '2". He's cute. Yeah.
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I don't know what VP of sales is. Those
always kind of freak me out, those kind
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of jobs.
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But it's a job.
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It's like a business. He's a
businessman.
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I could easily set you up with the
billionaires.
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They're insane.
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That's not what you need.
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I know that people around me say, you
need a wealthy man.
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Leave that to yourself.
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You don't know what I need. A
billionaire could suit me just fine.
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Okay. You're going to have an amazing
time.
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Okay.
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Oh, my God.
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You know what? I'm going to get off the
peanut butter.
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Oh,
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she
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locked me out?
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Um,
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is this your sister?
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I know it's just my sister.
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I thought this would be open.
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Well, I know. You love me. Oh.
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Hi. You're cute. So colorful.
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Your hair looks great.
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What's with the fur?
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It's so cute.
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Oh, this is a diamond gold hummingbird.
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When my mom passed away, I started
having a lot of weird incidents with
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hummingbirds.
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Here, you can have it.
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No. No, I want you to.
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Why? Why?
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Because when I bought it, I wanted, I
was like, I should get this for Kathy
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Kim, too.
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When Kim and I had our big fight in the
back of the limo.
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You stole my goddamn house!
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You better fucking take that back right
now. You better fucking take that back
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right now.
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The next day, I woke up, and I was
walking into the kitchen in my old
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and there was a hummingbird laying on
the floor.
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It looked great on you.
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I looked at this hummingbird, and I
started crying, and I was like, Mom,
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I do? And I looked up, and Marta, who
works for me, was like, Kyle's
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talking to the person again.
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What else is happening? So you're
getting excited about Whitney's wedding?
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I am. I'm so excited. I think I look at
her and Luke, and... They're the cutest
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couple. They're so cute.
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I just know when she's with him, you
don't have to worry.
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I know she's safe.
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Are you bringing anybody to the wedding?
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To which wedding? You're coming to
Winnie's wedding, right?
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I think that what I'm saying is I don't
want everybody, anybody coming there
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that isn't in a good place with
somebody.
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Or at least if they're not in a great
place. I would always be. I mean,
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obviously I haven't seen Kathy. Well, I
actually saw her at the Elton John Oscar
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party.
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That I would always be polite, always be
nice.
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I don't think it's right to overlook and
share what bothers you about it. I'm
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not writing.
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Do you think you were wrong in any way?
You don't know everything, right? I
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know. I don't know anything. Let's talk
about how we fix it then, since you
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don't know all the backstory. We'll talk
about that another time if you want.
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When Kathy came to my house that day to
apologize because of what happened in
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Aspen, you know, that night, you were in
a mood. You were seeing red.
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You were screaming at me.
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In front of everybody.
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And it really hurt me and embarrassed
me.
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I'm very sorry.
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But I'm mostly sorry for... What you
said back at the house?
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Yeah. I really wanted to accept the
apology and be able to move on.
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But it was the behavior after.
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Why are you upset with me right now?
Because I got upset.
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Just say it. Because you're acting like
a martyr. Like, it's just you.
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That really told me she wasn't really...
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Sorry.
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I'm only here because I love you. I
know. And I love her, and I want this to
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work. This wedding's coming up, and then
Farrah's, and... So what if I don't
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want that relationship?
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I miss my family.
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I miss our lunches, I miss our
barbecues, I miss our fun together as a
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That's been a long time since we had
that. Very long. And, too, this
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coming up, and then Farrah's, and...
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What if I don't want that relationship?
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I mean, obviously if Kathy did take
accountability and reached out to me and
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genuine and wanted to repair our
relationship, I would 100 % be open to
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I'm just not willing to be mistreated.
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She can't have a conversation like this.
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She gets so mean. I really can't handle
the meanness, like the way she talks.
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00:23:08,210 --> 00:23:11,740
You came up and you didn't say, This guy
just hurt my feelings. I'm so
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embarrassed. He said, we are out of
here. Everybody saw.
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I know. And you looked at me like,
you... And I was like, hold on a minute.
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Kathy, first of all... I'm not proud of
that. I'm an adult. You can't talk to me
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like that. I don't like that. It freaked
me out when I was little.
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I don't like that kind of thing.
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00:23:27,900 --> 00:23:32,020
I don't like it either. It gives me... I
don't know what. I just can't... Yeah,
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I can't have someone be that mean and
talk like that. If she wants to have a
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conversation, I could do it, but it's
not about a conversation with her.
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I'm somebody who doesn't do well with
chaos around me.
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You know, when I was growing up, it felt
like there was chaos and, you know, a
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lot of big personalities. And, you know,
my mom was great, but she had a temper.
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She had a very fiery Irish Aries temper.
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I just don't do well with that. That's
why in my home it's very peaceful and
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calm. You don't hear fighting or yelling
in my home ever.
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If you don't even try, then you just go
the rest of your life and never know.
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Well, why doesn't she even try?
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She's the one who created this whole
disaster.
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That's why I'm here. I don't know that
either one of you want to try, and I
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don't know that either one of you don't
want to try, but I think it's so silly.
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And I'll tell you one thing.
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Mom never wanted this kind of stuff.
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She was all about us sticking together.
It was her.
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Her racehorses, her kids, we were all,
and we'd be together. Friends come and
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go, and people come and go. But family
stayed.
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And that was mom.
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And I understand her more now than I
ever did.
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I did not.
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Certain things I helped make. I was
angry. I was resentful for certain
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with mom.
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And then, I don't know, after all the
work, I was like, oh, my gosh. I know
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she did that.
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I'm not angry.
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I love her.
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She gave up her whole life.
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I think for me, you know, the main
thing.
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What? I love mom.
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I know you love mom.
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I just, it's okay to be angry.
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I was, but like, I didn't know how angry
I was. It's just like, and I don't
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think she knew. Do you think she knew I
was upset?
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Like, I feel like maybe she knew I was
like, something that hurt me so much.
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But I just love her so much, and I know,
I get it.
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And I think that you love Kathy, and
that Kathy loves you, and I think that
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we think about it, we think about why,
why.
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And maybe there's underlining something
else, but I'm scared of her right now.
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00:25:51,260 --> 00:25:55,580
But you're trying to set your boundaries
for yourself because you don't want to
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be walked on. I get it. So if you don't
say to her, I love you.
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I want this friendship.
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00:26:01,560 --> 00:26:05,220
I want this sister thing. But I'm
confused. Does she want to do this?
477
00:26:05,640 --> 00:26:08,700
I think she does, yes. I said, would
you? And she said, well, what does Kyle
478
00:26:08,700 --> 00:26:12,000
say? It can't be like that, you guys.
You both have to think, do you want this
479
00:26:12,000 --> 00:26:13,000
or not?
480
00:26:13,060 --> 00:26:15,320
So you guys think about what's best for
you. Yeah.
481
00:26:29,430 --> 00:26:30,850
How's the haroset coming along?
482
00:26:31,190 --> 00:26:33,010
She's doing the haroset, I'm making
matzo ball.
483
00:26:33,270 --> 00:26:34,470
Max, Max, Max, I'm doing this.
484
00:26:34,750 --> 00:26:37,250
Wait, let me give you... Hold, hold,
hold.
485
00:26:37,690 --> 00:26:38,790
We're not going to fight with knives.
486
00:26:39,210 --> 00:26:41,970
Okay, so how many things we got here?
Like wasabi.
487
00:26:42,170 --> 00:26:43,170
One, two, three, four.
488
00:26:43,230 --> 00:26:45,070
Oh, you're going to sit here? Where am I
going to sit? Here?
489
00:26:45,570 --> 00:26:48,770
Okay, you know what this is called,
kids? What? What is this called?
490
00:26:49,210 --> 00:26:50,210
It's called the seder.
491
00:26:50,450 --> 00:26:54,050
Yes, and do you know the significance of
this? When the Jewish slaves are
492
00:26:54,050 --> 00:26:55,050
running away...
493
00:26:55,370 --> 00:26:56,870
Right, from Egypt.
494
00:26:57,470 --> 00:27:01,090
Correct. They couldn't wait for the
bread to arise.
495
00:27:01,490 --> 00:27:02,490
Not arise.
496
00:27:03,030 --> 00:27:06,850
That's what happened to Jesus later. Oh,
yeah. Chinese culture and Jewish
497
00:27:06,850 --> 00:27:08,450
culture is very similar.
498
00:27:08,850 --> 00:27:13,130
We prioritize family, getting together,
traditions, holidays.
499
00:27:13,770 --> 00:27:19,970
And so our marriage that melded our
cultures was very easy. Our families
500
00:27:19,970 --> 00:27:24,310
super into it, and we loved to celebrate
each other's religions and culture.
501
00:27:24,920 --> 00:27:29,160
Can we have Ben and Jerry's? You can
pick a dessert or you can pick TV.
502
00:27:29,800 --> 00:27:30,800
TV. Okay, bye.
503
00:27:30,980 --> 00:27:33,060
Bye. See you. We don't want to be here.
504
00:27:33,420 --> 00:27:34,740
See you. Never want to be here.
505
00:27:35,540 --> 00:27:36,540
I'm going upstairs.
506
00:27:36,980 --> 00:27:41,140
Zoe is a tornado tonight.
507
00:27:41,400 --> 00:27:42,400
Yeah. Cheers.
508
00:27:45,400 --> 00:27:46,700
So, Taco Tuesday.
509
00:27:47,000 --> 00:27:50,580
They keep saying to me, like, you know,
you don't.
510
00:27:51,139 --> 00:27:54,300
Engage you're not speaking up. You're
you know you're so quiet.
511
00:27:54,680 --> 00:27:59,280
You need to speak up in this group Why
do I have to get to a point to like
512
00:27:59,280 --> 00:28:03,660
scream? Why can't I speak with a soft
voice and people listen?
513
00:28:03,880 --> 00:28:10,740
This group wants me to scream all the
time I think that you
514
00:28:10,740 --> 00:28:13,520
have a lot of opinions. I think you have
a lot of very strong opinions.
515
00:28:13,780 --> 00:28:18,010
I do. And I think that you just need to
share that with them.
516
00:28:18,210 --> 00:28:21,630
You know, on the other side of just
being called out for that, which is
517
00:28:21,630 --> 00:28:25,450
very annoying, is, like, the girls are
all so skinny now.
518
00:28:26,110 --> 00:28:28,970
Are you the incredible shrinking woman?
You're so skinny. No, are you?
519
00:28:29,270 --> 00:28:30,270
Oh, my God.
520
00:28:30,310 --> 00:28:32,770
I want to be the incredibly shrinking
woman. Look how skinny she is.
521
00:28:33,090 --> 00:28:38,290
Sometimes I can't focus. Like, I'm
comparing, looking at everyone's bodies.
522
00:28:38,310 --> 00:28:41,970
Like, what does mine look like compared
to theirs? Do I do it all the time?
523
00:28:42,410 --> 00:28:44,990
Right. So then I don't know what they're
saying. Yeah. It's not like I don't
524
00:28:44,990 --> 00:28:45,990
want to pay attention.
525
00:28:46,090 --> 00:28:50,810
L .A. is a city that is obsessed with
beauty and bodies.
526
00:28:51,030 --> 00:28:52,470
I think you're too self -conscious.
527
00:28:53,290 --> 00:28:58,210
I work very hard to feel comfortable in
groups that I'm in, and I finally
528
00:28:58,210 --> 00:29:01,190
started to feel more myself and relaxed.
529
00:29:01,530 --> 00:29:07,890
And now I'm back to having this severe
distraction, which triggers me in a way
530
00:29:07,890 --> 00:29:10,170
that no one in this group could possibly
understand.
531
00:29:10,970 --> 00:29:15,870
And it's very hard for me. It's
affecting me a lot. I'm distracted
532
00:29:15,870 --> 00:29:16,870
so self -conscious.
533
00:29:17,030 --> 00:29:18,530
Yeah. Yes.
534
00:29:18,790 --> 00:29:20,750
But I'm working on that.
535
00:29:21,050 --> 00:29:22,470
Yeah. All right.
536
00:29:24,250 --> 00:29:26,110
So, Jeff's coming.
537
00:29:26,470 --> 00:29:30,150
That's so amazing. I completely forgot
he was coming back. I know. I've been
538
00:29:30,150 --> 00:29:31,230
tracking him. Okay.
539
00:29:31,950 --> 00:29:32,950
And?
540
00:29:34,250 --> 00:29:38,330
I haven't really talked to him. Okay.
They got, he saw her.
541
00:29:38,530 --> 00:29:44,300
Yeah. I totally think my brother still
resents me for being part of his
542
00:29:44,660 --> 00:29:46,360
Crystal is feeling some regret.
543
00:29:46,720 --> 00:29:48,340
You know how I feel. I feel bad.
544
00:29:50,560 --> 00:29:51,560
Thank you.
545
00:29:51,600 --> 00:29:53,660
You know, Jeff has always been my big
brother.
546
00:29:54,580 --> 00:29:58,820
And then I don't know when it was, when
we got married, when we had kids, when
547
00:29:58,820 --> 00:30:02,980
my dad got sick. It shifted to where I
suddenly was like, not even like a big
548
00:30:02,980 --> 00:30:03,980
sister, like a mom.
549
00:30:04,020 --> 00:30:07,880
I was like, I just was like my mom. I
just treated him like my son.
550
00:30:08,570 --> 00:30:15,390
It comes from a good place, but it's
also like I'm sure that I put pressure
551
00:30:15,390 --> 00:30:16,490
on him that I shouldn't have.
552
00:30:17,010 --> 00:30:23,710
I've been too controlling of my brother
and too controlling of what I want for
553
00:30:23,710 --> 00:30:29,350
him. So I really need to like check
myself and really like take a step back
554
00:30:29,350 --> 00:30:32,250
let him be.
555
00:30:36,710 --> 00:30:37,710
Coming up.
556
00:30:38,090 --> 00:30:39,090
I like to karaoke.
557
00:30:39,490 --> 00:30:40,489
Stop it, you do?
558
00:30:40,490 --> 00:30:41,650
Yeah. I'm a fearless.
559
00:30:42,510 --> 00:30:44,450
What is, I don't know this song.
560
00:30:46,190 --> 00:30:47,190
See,
561
00:30:54,410 --> 00:30:56,030
and there's just a big old puddle right
here.
562
00:30:56,310 --> 00:31:00,210
I swear to the good Lord up above, this
is God telling me something.
563
00:31:01,149 --> 00:31:03,430
Hi. So dangerous out here.
564
00:31:03,710 --> 00:31:04,569
How are you?
565
00:31:04,570 --> 00:31:05,570
Hi. I'm Steve.
566
00:31:05,670 --> 00:31:07,610
Nice to meet you. I've heard so much
about you.
567
00:31:08,010 --> 00:31:09,070
Gosh. Watch out. It's slippery.
568
00:31:09,270 --> 00:31:10,670
I know. I'm trying not to die.
569
00:31:10,890 --> 00:31:11,849
Don't die.
570
00:31:11,850 --> 00:31:13,930
Don't die. I'll try not to. We just got
here. Yeah.
571
00:31:14,390 --> 00:31:16,330
Thank you. Would you like something to
drink?
572
00:31:16,630 --> 00:31:18,330
Well, let me sit down real quick.
573
00:31:19,010 --> 00:31:21,150
I'm putting more trust in Alessandra.
574
00:31:21,550 --> 00:31:24,290
I'm going to be delightful and...
575
00:31:24,970 --> 00:31:28,750
Cheery. You look great, by the way.
Thank you. I like your blazer.
576
00:31:29,070 --> 00:31:29,989
Okay, cool.
577
00:31:29,990 --> 00:31:30,990
Give more compliments.
578
00:31:31,070 --> 00:31:32,070
They seem to like that.
579
00:31:32,250 --> 00:31:33,950
Always like a silver head of hair.
580
00:31:37,090 --> 00:31:40,070
What do men want to hear? I don't know,
obviously. I'm not good at this.
581
00:31:40,750 --> 00:31:42,830
Did you guys have any questions? I don't
care.
582
00:31:43,030 --> 00:31:46,450
You don't care? I just don't eat meat.
How about we get the... I just don't eat
583
00:31:46,450 --> 00:31:51,530
meat or chicken other than that. Or
spicy food. Okay. Or a lot of other
584
00:31:51,930 --> 00:31:53,010
Salmon. Absolutely.
585
00:31:53,630 --> 00:31:55,490
Fantastic. All right, thank you.
Absolutely.
586
00:31:56,150 --> 00:31:57,870
Can I ask you a question? Yeah, sure.
587
00:31:58,090 --> 00:32:00,510
So what do you look for in a potential
partner?
588
00:32:00,710 --> 00:32:01,910
Like, what are some of the qualities?
589
00:32:02,410 --> 00:32:05,250
Besides being, like, dashingly handsome
or something like that.
590
00:32:05,990 --> 00:32:08,090
What is it? You say that because...
591
00:32:10,020 --> 00:32:15,280
You know, an outgoing person that can
kind of keep up with me, that likes to
592
00:32:15,280 --> 00:32:17,220
travel, likes to laugh.
593
00:32:17,860 --> 00:32:21,480
I think I saw you play tennis, right? I
do. Yeah. Do you listen to podcasts?
594
00:32:21,760 --> 00:32:24,640
I like true crime, like I like listening
to true crime. Yes, me too.
595
00:32:24,860 --> 00:32:26,580
I like the murder mystery one.
596
00:32:26,900 --> 00:32:27,960
I played a dead guy.
597
00:32:28,220 --> 00:32:31,800
You did? Yeah. You just laid there? I
mean, there's a lot more to it than
598
00:32:31,980 --> 00:32:32,980
You have to not breathe.
599
00:32:35,520 --> 00:32:36,820
I like to karaoke.
600
00:32:37,659 --> 00:32:42,460
I'm a huge karaoke -er. Get out of here.
I have like a list of like 300 songs on
601
00:32:42,460 --> 00:32:44,860
my phone right now. Stop it, you do?
Yeah. Let me see your list.
602
00:32:45,780 --> 00:32:49,280
Okay, I may have had it wrong about
Alessandro.
603
00:32:49,480 --> 00:32:54,460
He's a little quirky and told me to do
some weird things. However, I might be
604
00:32:54,460 --> 00:32:59,000
trusting the process right now because
Steve could be a winner here. I don't
605
00:32:59,000 --> 00:33:00,120
know this song, Nookie.
606
00:33:03,600 --> 00:33:05,380
Both the mustard -glazed salmon.
607
00:33:05,600 --> 00:33:06,600
Oh, thank you.
608
00:33:07,879 --> 00:33:09,500
Enjoy. So that's kind of cool.
609
00:33:13,660 --> 00:33:14,680
Are you liking the salmon?
610
00:33:15,220 --> 00:33:16,220
Yeah. Okay.
611
00:33:17,380 --> 00:33:19,560
I'd like to talk to you more after this,
somehow.
612
00:33:21,040 --> 00:33:24,240
Oh, yeah, for sure. Yeah? Yeah. We
talked, like, the whole time. Yeah.
613
00:33:24,560 --> 00:33:26,200
I'm a talker. I'm a listener.
614
00:33:27,440 --> 00:33:28,440
Well, that's it.
615
00:33:29,140 --> 00:33:30,140
There you go.
616
00:33:31,200 --> 00:33:33,520
So can I have your number? Yes. All
right.
617
00:33:33,850 --> 00:33:37,010
I have now broken the one -date wonder
curve.
618
00:33:38,670 --> 00:33:40,750
I just called you to see if you had my
number.
619
00:33:40,990 --> 00:33:43,790
Oh, you did? Oh, to see if I gave you
the real number.
620
00:33:44,030 --> 00:33:46,790
Yeah, no, it didn't buzz, though, or
ring.
621
00:33:47,170 --> 00:33:49,070
Oh, my phone's right here.
622
00:33:50,290 --> 00:33:51,290
Yes, he did.
623
00:34:01,990 --> 00:34:02,990
Thank you.
624
00:34:07,820 --> 00:34:08,799
This outfit.
625
00:34:08,800 --> 00:34:10,760
Oh, this is lovely.
626
00:34:11,199 --> 00:34:13,179
Hi. Hi. How are you?
627
00:34:13,699 --> 00:34:14,719
Thank you. Thank you.
628
00:34:15,960 --> 00:34:16,960
Hello. How are we doing?
629
00:34:17,179 --> 00:34:20,880
Good. Welcome to the Oaks at Lakeside.
Can I get you anything besides water to
630
00:34:20,880 --> 00:34:24,199
start? Any cocktails or anything? Water
for me. Thank you. Thank you so much.
631
00:34:33,120 --> 00:34:34,120
It's a little awkward.
632
00:34:34,739 --> 00:34:36,699
I know. Do you want to look at the menu?
No.
633
00:34:37,159 --> 00:34:39,860
I mean, yeah, sure, let's do that. Sure.
634
00:34:53,639 --> 00:34:54,639
Okay.
635
00:34:54,820 --> 00:34:58,580
Yeah, what are you having? I think I'm
going to do the Greek salad.
636
00:34:59,100 --> 00:35:00,100
Oh, okay, that's good.
637
00:35:01,920 --> 00:35:05,080
Um, to be honest with you, the food is
secondary to me right now.
638
00:35:05,300 --> 00:35:12,260
Yeah. So, yeah, I want to leave the
floor to you because I know that, you
639
00:35:12,260 --> 00:35:16,320
you've said that you don't feel like I
hear you. And I really want to make sure
640
00:35:16,320 --> 00:35:22,620
that not only I do, but you feel like I
do. I appreciate that. So I would like
641
00:35:22,620 --> 00:35:23,620
to go first.
642
00:35:24,400 --> 00:35:28,220
We're on the both on the same page.
Perfect. Perfect. Perfect. The other
643
00:35:28,220 --> 00:35:31,420
was tough on me.
644
00:35:32,120 --> 00:35:33,260
And so far.
645
00:35:34,440 --> 00:35:37,160
We're good. Why don't we order? Yeah. Do
you have any questions about anything?
646
00:35:37,600 --> 00:35:39,280
I think I'll just do the Greek salad.
647
00:35:39,600 --> 00:35:42,020
Sure. Gnocchi pesto. Sure. Could I also
get some tea?
648
00:35:42,280 --> 00:35:43,620
Yeah. Like, what do you have?
649
00:35:43,840 --> 00:35:45,440
Peppermint? We have hibiscus.
650
00:35:45,740 --> 00:35:47,860
We have, like, dandelion. Oh, I'll do
the hibiscus.
651
00:35:48,180 --> 00:35:49,180
Hibiscus? Sure. Thank you.
652
00:35:50,460 --> 00:35:53,060
Dandelion? You want to do that? Please.
Thank you.
653
00:35:53,340 --> 00:35:54,340
Thank you.
654
00:35:56,900 --> 00:36:02,220
So, the other night, the word attack
just hit me in the wrong...
655
00:36:02,830 --> 00:36:03,830
in the wrong place.
656
00:36:04,050 --> 00:36:08,270
You just attacked me for it. I did not
attack you. Calm down. You and your
657
00:36:08,270 --> 00:36:13,630
privilege, I can't. What does that mean?
It means you're white and the words are
658
00:36:13,630 --> 00:36:16,030
different. They have different
connotations. They have different
659
00:36:16,770 --> 00:36:21,810
Okay. There's certain words, when you
point them at me, it has a complete
660
00:36:21,810 --> 00:36:23,050
different impact.
661
00:36:23,450 --> 00:36:26,430
You have to know who you're dealing
with. There are three words you don't
662
00:36:26,430 --> 00:36:30,070
black women. You don't say aggressive,
you don't say attack, and you don't say
663
00:36:30,070 --> 00:36:31,070
angry.
664
00:36:31,600 --> 00:36:33,120
Because that's labeling us.
665
00:36:34,340 --> 00:36:38,960
So I'm not here to educate you. That's
not my job. I don't have the bandwidth
666
00:36:38,960 --> 00:36:39,779
do it.
667
00:36:39,780 --> 00:36:44,760
But I feel like you need to be aware of
who you're talking to and when you're
668
00:36:44,760 --> 00:36:46,020
talking to them and what you say.
669
00:36:48,980 --> 00:36:54,040
When we use the word, and you've heard
it hundreds of times in this group, I
670
00:36:54,040 --> 00:36:57,100
have been on the receiving end of what
feels like...
671
00:36:57,390 --> 00:37:02,410
being attacked you keep attacking my
character i cannot get attacked in this
672
00:37:02,410 --> 00:37:05,650
group continuously i wasn't trying to
attack you i was actually trying to help
673
00:37:05,650 --> 00:37:10,030
you i understand that that's not the way
it sounds you know exactly you know
674
00:37:10,030 --> 00:37:14,530
exactly towards me what the intent is i
don't know if it's ever been said to you
675
00:37:14,530 --> 00:37:18,550
i don't know i didn't i didn't take
notice because that's exactly what the
676
00:37:18,550 --> 00:37:23,820
night was it was innocent my intention i
didn't Listen, if it's offended you in
677
00:37:23,820 --> 00:37:24,658
any way.
678
00:37:24,660 --> 00:37:26,200
Oh, it has. That's why we're here.
679
00:37:26,440 --> 00:37:31,400
That's why I reacted the way I reacted.
I mean, I was emotional for two days. I
680
00:37:31,400 --> 00:37:35,340
went to bed crying. I woke up crying. I
drove to the beach because I couldn't
681
00:37:35,340 --> 00:37:38,020
figure out why I was so triggered by
that.
682
00:37:38,240 --> 00:37:41,100
But I was absolutely triggered by that.
683
00:37:42,360 --> 00:37:45,200
Do you believe that I said that with bad
intention?
684
00:37:46,100 --> 00:37:48,780
Yeah. Do you believe I said that?
685
00:37:49,310 --> 00:37:51,110
Because why else would you say it?
686
00:37:51,450 --> 00:37:56,070
Garcelle. Why else would you say it?
Have you not heard other people use the
687
00:37:56,070 --> 00:37:59,290
word attack? I'm talking about you and
me. I know, but you're saying, why would
688
00:37:59,290 --> 00:38:00,530
I say it? Like, it's unusual.
689
00:38:02,930 --> 00:38:06,510
I feel like you're, there's, there's
something.
690
00:38:08,590 --> 00:38:14,590
I want to listen to everything you have
to say. I also feel like I need to be
691
00:38:14,590 --> 00:38:15,590
able to defend myself.
692
00:38:16,110 --> 00:38:17,450
So, if.
693
00:38:18,220 --> 00:38:19,220
You haven't finished.
694
00:38:19,660 --> 00:38:21,200
I want you to get it all out.
695
00:38:21,800 --> 00:38:27,820
But some of the things that you're
saying right now, they're not only
696
00:38:27,820 --> 00:38:29,200
they're incredibly hurtful.
697
00:38:29,800 --> 00:38:33,080
This is exactly why she gets under my
skin.
698
00:38:34,220 --> 00:38:37,940
She says she wants to hear, she wants to
understand, but the minute I start
699
00:38:37,940 --> 00:38:40,820
talking, she's on the defense, and she's
not listening.
700
00:38:41,420 --> 00:38:42,560
I feel like...
701
00:38:47,690 --> 00:38:53,630
What I feel, there's a pattern with you
that I don't know whether you're aware
702
00:38:53,630 --> 00:38:57,610
or not, but I'm just going to be
completely blunt.
703
00:38:59,390 --> 00:39:03,170
It feels like an unconscious Karen
behavior with you.
704
00:39:16,490 --> 00:39:18,450
I'm just going to be completely blunt.
705
00:39:18,790 --> 00:39:22,810
It feels like an unconscious Karen
behavior with you.
706
00:39:24,210 --> 00:39:30,950
This is a very, very serious, dangerous
accusation. It's
707
00:39:30,950 --> 00:39:35,710
hurtful. And that accusation holds a lot
of implications.
708
00:39:36,710 --> 00:39:39,170
And I'm not feeling comfortable with
this at all.
709
00:39:41,070 --> 00:39:44,930
So how so? I feel like.
710
00:39:45,340 --> 00:39:50,560
Two years ago, we were talking about
people of color. We've had a lot of
711
00:39:50,560 --> 00:39:54,700
that work for us that are very
multicultural. I've had a lot of black
712
00:39:54,700 --> 00:39:55,860
Hispanic and Filipino.
713
00:39:56,300 --> 00:39:59,780
But is the brown people only help at
your house?
714
00:40:01,060 --> 00:40:05,800
No. Okay. In fact, my mother's best
friend is black.
715
00:40:06,720 --> 00:40:09,720
Awesome. I just wanted to clarify that.
716
00:40:11,100 --> 00:40:15,490
Has there been growth since the last
time you were like, People of color have
717
00:40:15,490 --> 00:40:19,850
worked for you. I don't know why you
keep raising this. Because it feels to
718
00:40:19,850 --> 00:40:22,790
like there's something that you're...
What does it feel like? I don't know
719
00:40:22,790 --> 00:40:25,990
exactly. That I'm racist? I'm not
labeling you. But there's an implication
720
00:40:25,990 --> 00:40:28,830
No, you know what? If there's racist
undertone, that's not my fault.
721
00:40:31,510 --> 00:40:35,270
I'm not calling you anything. Because if
it's simply about me using a word that
722
00:40:35,270 --> 00:40:39,650
triggered you, if that's what this is
about, then I'm apologizing. But it
723
00:40:39,650 --> 00:40:40,710
like there's something more.
724
00:40:41,050 --> 00:40:43,550
I mean, you do realize I'm Jewish,
Garcelle.
725
00:40:45,840 --> 00:40:47,480
What does that have to do with anything?
726
00:40:47,700 --> 00:40:51,160
Well, you reduced me to privilege that
night. I was reduced to privilege. You
727
00:40:51,160 --> 00:40:54,460
don't have a privileged life, Doreen? We
all have a privileged life. Yes. So do
728
00:40:54,460 --> 00:40:55,459
you. Right.
729
00:40:55,460 --> 00:40:59,940
We all are very privileged in this
group. You're a child of the world. You
730
00:40:59,940 --> 00:41:04,440
four different languages. Why don't you
understand that being in my shoes is
731
00:41:04,440 --> 00:41:08,540
different from being in your shoes? I
most certainly understand that. And I've
732
00:41:08,540 --> 00:41:09,860
never suggested otherwise.
733
00:41:10,120 --> 00:41:13,800
What I'm saying by that is I would have
thought that...
734
00:41:14,720 --> 00:41:19,120
both being from marginalized
communities, that we would have some
735
00:41:19,240 --> 00:41:20,560
Far more than differences.
736
00:41:21,140 --> 00:41:25,900
Because it does seem like you are trying
to... I'm not trying to do anything.
737
00:41:26,440 --> 00:41:27,540
It doesn't feel that way.
738
00:41:27,760 --> 00:41:29,820
Well, then that's on you. Thank you so
much.
739
00:41:30,060 --> 00:41:33,940
Well, it definitely feels like
everything is on me right now. Okay.
740
00:41:35,140 --> 00:41:38,600
Garcelle, to me there's a little bit of
a difference... Why do you say my name
741
00:41:38,600 --> 00:41:39,549
so much?
742
00:41:39,550 --> 00:41:40,529
Because that's what I do.
743
00:41:40,530 --> 00:41:44,150
Okay. That's what I do. Okay. I mean,
that's what I do. Like, I'm the only one
744
00:41:44,150 --> 00:41:45,150
here.
745
00:41:45,770 --> 00:41:49,530
That's what I do. Okay. If that's
something else that's going to trigger
746
00:41:49,650 --> 00:41:51,390
then I'll try very consciously not to.
747
00:41:52,850 --> 00:41:55,030
I don't want you walking on eggshells
with me. But you're making me feel that
748
00:41:55,030 --> 00:41:57,650
way. You are making me feel that way,
Garcelle.
749
00:41:58,450 --> 00:42:00,630
I'm telling you, you're making me feel
that way.
750
00:42:01,550 --> 00:42:06,030
There's something that you've just been
getting under my skin.
751
00:42:06,890 --> 00:42:10,210
Yeah. And I think with the things you
say and I think how you say them and I
752
00:42:10,210 --> 00:42:13,050
think the last straw was you saying that
I attacked you.
753
00:42:15,170 --> 00:42:19,850
I don't know how we're going to move
forward, but I'm going to try because I
754
00:42:19,850 --> 00:42:25,890
don't hate you. I just feel like I
needed to say that what happened the
755
00:42:25,890 --> 00:42:28,090
day really triggered me and it really
bothered me.
756
00:42:28,370 --> 00:42:32,190
I'm very sorry that it triggered you and
it hurt you.
757
00:42:32,710 --> 00:42:34,070
And I mean that genuinely.
758
00:42:35,150 --> 00:42:37,490
I would never want to hurt anyone
intentionally.
759
00:42:38,630 --> 00:42:39,630
I believe that.
760
00:42:40,010 --> 00:42:42,470
I just think the choice of words was
horrible.
761
00:42:43,330 --> 00:42:45,210
Well, I appreciate you saying you
believe that.
762
00:42:46,130 --> 00:42:47,790
This was a learning lesson for me.
763
00:42:48,810 --> 00:42:49,810
I was unaware.
764
00:42:50,350 --> 00:42:55,670
And I know now I need to be more aware
of what I'm saying and who I'm saying it
765
00:42:55,670 --> 00:42:56,670
to.
766
00:42:57,570 --> 00:42:58,570
We're going to be good.
767
00:42:58,650 --> 00:42:59,650
We're going to be good.
768
00:43:08,810 --> 00:43:13,090
Next time on The Real Housewives of
Beverly Hills. To our amazing trip.
769
00:43:15,610 --> 00:43:17,750
Welcome to Casa Lote.
770
00:43:17,970 --> 00:43:18,970
No.
771
00:43:21,010 --> 00:43:24,990
Somebody take a picture.
772
00:43:25,470 --> 00:43:26,750
Would you ever date a woman?
773
00:43:27,830 --> 00:43:29,190
No. Would you?
774
00:43:30,390 --> 00:43:32,630
Yep. Let's talk about sex.
775
00:43:32,890 --> 00:43:33,890
Oh, my God.
776
00:43:34,010 --> 00:43:36,050
No. Jack brought it up.
777
00:43:37,740 --> 00:43:41,480
There are elements I understand. There
are also elements that I don't consider
778
00:43:41,480 --> 00:43:42,480
are PTSD.
779
00:43:42,840 --> 00:43:45,220
I consider they're more obnoxious.
780
00:43:45,800 --> 00:43:47,560
Oh, anxious.
781
00:43:49,240 --> 00:43:51,180
I don't know. I really don't know if I
can do it.
782
00:43:51,860 --> 00:43:52,900
You got it.
783
00:43:54,620 --> 00:43:56,700
Her small esophagus.
784
00:43:57,390 --> 00:44:02,530
There is a medical reason why this is
going on. Uh -huh. I want to understand.
785
00:44:02,610 --> 00:44:06,630
I'm done. But small esophagus is not the
reason. You can say that to a lay
786
00:44:06,630 --> 00:44:09,070
person, but if you say that to someone
in medicine, you look stupid.
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