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- This year, the Academy,

in order to express its appreciation

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to one of its members for
a unique screen career,

has voted an Oscar to Mr. Cary Grant

for sheer brilliance
in the acting business.

(audience applauding)

No one's brought more
pleasure to more people

for as many years as Cary has

and no one has done more things well,

from light comedy to strong drama,

and made it look easier.

No one has been more admired
and loved by his fellow actors.

For skill, for finesse,
for subtlety, charm,

and for being Cary Grant.

(dramatic music)

- Hello, there.

- Hello.

- [Narrator] Cary Grant is one
of the greatest leading men

Hollywood has ever produced.

- Hmm.

Tell me, why are you so good to me?

- Shall I climb up and tell you why?

(swing music)

- [Narrator] With unrivaled charm and

stunning good looks, he
starred in a number of

classic films including Bringing Up Baby,

To Catch a Thief, and North by Northwest.

- Oh, I'm so sorry!

- Ask the gentleman to come in.

- You know, your husband is not like

the average American man.

He has more the continental mind, yes?

- Mm, yes, that's right,
I have a continental mind.

Will you have an egg nog?

- Oh, thank you.

(film reel shuddering)

- [Narrator] Cary Grant
was a very private man.

He only rarely spoke to the media.

(gentle music)

This film draws on his
unpublished autobiography

and extracts from interviews

as well as little-known footage
he shot with his own camera.

He had a filmmaker's eye

and his often very personal images

offer a window into his inner world.

(gentle music)

Cary Grant had invented himself.

Driven by fierce ambition
and a desperate need

to leave childhood traumas behind,

Archie Leach, the working
class kid from Bristol,

created for himself a new onscreen persona

as an elegant and
debonair man of the world.

(audience applauding)

Although he became a superstar,

he remained never quite
sure of his true identity.

He once said, "Everybody
wants to be Cary Grant.

"Even I want to be Cary Grant."

In the late 1950s, at
the height of his career

and hitting midlife, he
faced an existential crisis.

(gentle music)

- [Grant] For many years,
I have cautiously peered

from behind the face of a
man known as Cary Grant.

The protection of that
facade was both an advantage

and a disadvantage.

If I couldn't see out,
how could anybody see in?

You spend your time getting
to be a big Hollywood actor,

but then what?

- [Narrator] Deeply
insecure about his identity

and troubled by his inability to sustain

longterm relationships with women,

he turned to a solution that had become

fashionable in the
Hollywood of the late 1950s.

A number of California
doctors and psychiatrists

had started using the drug
LSD as a therapeutic tool.

For Cary Grant, the treatment opened up

the possibility of greater self-knowledge

and a more fulfilled life.

(gentle pop music)

- [Grant] I'd explored yoga,
hypnotism, and mysticism.

Nothing really seemed
to give me what I wanted

until this LSD treatment.

I was so confused when
I first started seeing

Dr. Hartman.

The action of the chemical
releases the subconscious

so that you can see what transpires

in the depths of your mind.

(dramatic music)

(waves crashing)

During therapy I passed
through seas of horrifying

and happy sights, through a montage of

intense love and hates,

a mosaic of past impressions
assembling and reassembling.

(dramatic music)

(baby crying)

(waves lapping)

(tense music)

(gulls cawing)

I don't know what I learned about love.

It took a long time for me to even try

to understand love.

I learnt manners from my parents.

They taught me to be neat and organized,

which I am to this day.

I was born in Bristol,
in a suburban house.

My mother was a delicate
black-haired beauty

with olive skin, frail and feminine.

My parents had another
boy, born before I was.

My mother accidentally
closed the door on his thumb.

He developed gangrene and died

and she blamed herself
for the rest of her life.

She wasn't a happy woman.

I wasn't a happy child
because my mother tried

to smother me with care.

She kept me far too long
in baby dresses and curls

and perhaps for a while I wasn't sure

whether I was a boy or a girl.

- Think it matches?

- Oh, yes.

(gentle music)

(bell rings)

- [Narrator] Cary's
mother was aspirational.

She wanted her son to learn the piano

and beat him if his table
manners weren't up to scratch.

Archie would have to make
sure he was a gentleman.

His father worked for a
clothing manufacturer,

pressing suits.

He passed on his taste for
smart clothes to his son,

a good suit being a sure way of

making an impression on the world.

(children chattering)

- [Grant] The relationship
between my mother and father

seemed to grow unhappier.

I came home from school one
day and Mother was gone.

My cousins told me that she'd gone to

a local seaside resort.

It seemed rather unusual,
but I accepted it

as one of those unaccountable
things that grownups do.

However, the weeks went by and there was

no further explanation of Mother's absence

and it gradually dawned on me that

perhaps she wasn't coming back at all.

There was a void in my life,

a sadness of spirit that
affected everything I did.

I always felt my mother rejected me.

(wistful music)

(bell ringing)

(house crashing)

(gentle music)

- [Narrator] Shortly after
her disappearance in 1915,

his father left for Southampton
to live with another woman

and little Archie, only 11 years old,

was left with his paternal grandmother,

often alone and having
to fend for himself,

hungry and in a cold house.

His mother's disappearance seems to have

created in him a sense that
women couldn't be trusted

or relied upon.

- Won't you say something?

(romantic music)

Don't you like it?

- I don't know.

I don't know whether I like it or not.

(dramatic music)

- [Grant] I regularly
haunted the Bristol wharves.

I sat alone for hours watching
the ships come and go,

sailing with them to far places

on the tide of my imagination,

trying to release myself
from the emotional tensions

which disarranged my thoughts.

Yet, coincidentally, at
such a dispirited time,

my science teacher's
assistant, an electrician,

invited me to the Bristol Hippodrome

in which he'd installed
the lighting system.

♪ 25 of the boys feeling gay and hearty ♪

♪ Some of them married
and some of them not ♪

♪ Oh what a merry party ♪

♪ Then without a warning
there came a heavy shock ♪

The matinee was in full swing
when I arrived backstage

and there I suddenly found myself

in a dazzling land of
smiling, jostling people

wearing and not wearing
all sorts of costumes.

And that's when I knew.

They happily traveled and toured.

They were classless,
cheerful, and carefree.

- You know me, fellas,
when things get tough,

when I feel a worry coming
on, you know what I do.

There!

And then the worries are over.

(bright music)

- [Narrator] At the age of 14 he joined

a group of grand acrobats,
the Pender troupe.

He traveled with them around Britain

and went along when they were
invited to New York in 1920.

(ship's horn blowing)

(jazzy music)

- [Grant] Manhattan island, that skyline.

There it was.

I was actually there.

Off we scurried to present ourselves

at the Hippodrome on Sixth Avenue.

It contained a revolving
stage a city block wide

on which appeared the most renowned

and spectacular acts of the day.

(gentle music)

- [Narrator] When the Pender
troupe returned to England

in 1922, Archie decided
to stay on in New York.

Barely 18, this brave choice
showed remarkable ambition,

which helped him through years of struggle

trying to make it on Broadway.

(jazzy music)

By the end of the 1920s, he'd been cast

in a series of musicals,

always because of his
exceptionally dashing looks

rather than his singing skills,

which were far from outstanding.

(swing music)

- [Grant] After having worked steadily

for more than three years,

I decided to take a vacation.

I set out for California,

the land of clear sunshine and palm trees.

(swing music)

- [Man] Over here on your
right, playing hide and seek

are Gary Cooper and Fredric March.

- [Narrator] A week after
arriving in Hollywood

in 1932, Archie Leach
was signed to Paramount

at 350 dollars a week, a
high salary at the time.

He was given a new, more
audience friendly name:

Cary Grant.

- [Grant] The following
day the lawyers began

preparing the contract.

From a younger man's point of view,

it promised fame and fulfillment,

stardom and serenity.

I couldn't know then that although I would

gain the fame of an actor and the stardom,

such as it is, I would still be seeking

fulfillment and serenity 30 years later.

- Honey, I wonder if you realize

just how much you mean to me.

I've never been so happy in my life.

- You mean that?

- Well, I guess love is a wonderful thing.

- Yes, I've heard it highly praised.

♪ No one could be half as nice I know ♪

- [Narrator] Paramount cast him in

a series of mediocre films alongside

Marlene Dietrich, Mae West, and others.

He gradually learned
to act for the camera,

slowly honing the minimalist grace

that would distinguish
his screen presence.

- [Man] As time went on,
in addition to Malibu,

many of the stars built big
homes further down the beach.

Sounds like Cary's having a party.

(bright piano music)

- [Grant] Surrounded by all
sorts of attractive girls,

I was never able to fully
communicate with them.

Most of the women with
whom I formed attachments

eventually made it evident that I was,

from their point of view, impossible.

If I'd paid more attention,

I might have found
contentment in marriage.

(people chattering)

- What's the matter with you both?

Don't you think it's fine?

- What?

- Why, to be in an
orchard with the singing

and the laughing and the dancing

and the wine and the
smell of the wet grass

and all in the moonlight!

- [Narrator] The first real
glimpse of Cary Grant's

acting skills came in 1935,

when director George Cukor cast him

alongside Katharine
Hepburn in Sylvia Scarlett.

He'd recognized, behind the
gentlemanly performance,

something of the actor's
working class origins.

- Haven't got wise to us,

they'll gain passing information
onto a customs officer who,

recognizing you as a man of public spirit

chalks his moniker on your baggage

and there you are, through
with your cargo duty free.

The old sparklers.

- [Grant] Because he didn't
know who the character was,

George Cukor let me play it the way

I though it should be played.

That was my breakthrough.

It permitted me to play
a character I know.

- Oh, there's plenty of
room for both of us here.

Go on, get your pajamas.

Let's get curled up.

- But, but uh...

- Buh, buh, buh, buh, but what?

- Well, uh...

I'm afraid I'll snore.

- Oh, well, I'll cure you of that.

I'll give you a clump on the
head every time I hear you.

- [Sylvia] Yeah, but I kick, too.

- [Jimmy] Ah, never mind about that.

Hey, you know, it's a bit nippy tonight.

You'll make a proper
little hot water bottle.

- [Grant] My father died in 1935

of what was medically
recorded as extreme toxicity.

Liver disease.

My own life at the time of his death

was following a similar pattern.

My first wife, Virginia
Cherrill was divorcing me.

(tense music)

LSD made me realize I
was killing my mother

through my relationships with other women.

I was punishing them for
what she had done to me.

I was making the mistake of thinking

that each of my wives was my mother.

Once you realize that you
have all things inside you,

love and hate alike, and
you learn to accept them,

then you can use your
love to exhaust your hate.

That moment, when your conscious
meets your subconscious,

is a hell of a wrench.

You feel the whole top
of your head lifting off.

(rain falling)

(gentle music)

- [Narrator] Cary Grant discovered in 1936

that his mother was still alive.

In all those years, his
father had apparently

never mentioned her.

She was admitted to the
Bristol Lunatic Asylum in 1915,

mainly because of her husband's testimony.

She was apparently hearing voices

and was obsessed with the idea
of women being in her house.

Extraordinarily, on such slim evidence,

she was locked up for 21 years.

(rain falling gently)

Cary's mother had never
heard of Cary Grant.

When she met him again
and after so many years,

she had trouble recognizing him.

"Is that really you, Archie," she asked.

He obtained her release from the asylum

and set her up in Bristol,

making regular visits there
for the rest of her life.

♪ Oh we're going to Wall
Street to see old man Topper ♪

♪ Ironbound Topper ♪

♪ That moss-covered Topper ♪

♪ That I promised to meet at his bank ♪

♪ For the annual meeting
of the board of directors ♪

♪ At ten thirty in the morning ♪

- Too many words, honey.

- Yeah, that's what I thought.

- [Man] No, no, no, that's
another vaudeville actor

who went into motion pictures, Cary Grant.

(bright music)

- Come on, Hooper, the music's swell.

- Huh?

- I said the music's swell!

- Can't hear you over that bloomin' music!

- That's what I said.

- [Narrator] At the end of
his contract with Paramount

in 1935, once again
displaying great courage,

Cary Grant went independent.

From now on he was able to
choose all his own roles.

- Yeah!

- Nothing's gonna hurt me anymore.

(piano top crashes)

Oh!

(Lucy laughs)

(piano music)

- Take it!

(dog barking)

Yeah, well, you wouldn't
mind if I looked around.

- Jiu jitsu!

- My, isn't this cozy?

- [Narrator] His career really took off

with a series of now classic comedies

directed by Leo McCarey,
George Cukor, and Howard Hawks.

(clattering)

His persona navigated a totally individual

and endlessly shifting equilibrium

between sophisticated gentleman
and man of the people.

(Lucy singing)

(Lucy laughs)

He wasn't quite American,
but not English either.

His appeal to both men and women

left open all kinds of questions
about gender and sexuality.

You couldn't pin him down.

- [Woman] Who are you?

- Who are you?

- Well, who are you?

- What do you want?

- Well, who are you?

- I don't know, I'm
not quite myself today.

- Well, you look perfectly
idiotic in those clothes.

- These aren't my clothes.

- Well, why are you wearing these clothes?

- Because I just went gay all of a sudden!

You lied to me.

- No!

Well, I did just a little bit.

- Telling me a ridiculous
story about a leopard.

- No, but it wasn't a ridiculous
story, I have a leopard.

- Well, where is the leopard?
- He's right in there.

- I don't believe you, Susan.

- But you have to believe me, you see--

- I've been a victim of your

unbridled imagination once more.

(leopard growling)

The way you talk about (gasps)

(door bangs shut)

Susan, we settled that
question once and for all.

- But what about my leopard?

- Hmm, that's your problem.

- It's not all my problem.

(leopard growls)

- Oh!

Oh, Susan, Susan, don't go
away, I've got the leopard!

- [Narrator] The Cary Grant persona

displayed in the screwball
comedies is very appealing,

not least because Grant
ceaselessly undermined

the image of unshakeable sophistication,

playing with subtle echoes of
down to earth Archie Leach.

- Would you, uh, like
to go over to my room?

Got some letters from home,

pictures of my father and mother,

pictures of me the first
time I went up in the air,

pictures of my first crash.

- Any pictures of you
when you were a baby?

- I don't remember.

(waves lapping)

- [Woman] My darling
son, I was delighted to

receive your cablegram this morning.

Very early I read in the
newspaper a suggestion

you were thinking of
changing your nationality.

I hope and trust you will do what's right

in the sight of God.

I have always trusted in him.

I do, my darling, so wish you were nearer.

I could see you more often and do for you.

I felt ever so confused
after so many years.

You've grown such a man.

I am more than delighted
you've done so well.

I trust in God you will
keep well and strong.

Hoping to hear from you again soon,

I remain your affectionate mother.

Fondest love, wishing you all the best.

- [Narrator] Cary always
said that his mother

wasn't keen to join him in Hollywood.

There's evidence that she
would have gladly come,

but for the Hollywood star,

the last thing he wanted
was someone around

for whom he was still
playing Archie Leach.

(dramatic music)

- See your tickets, please.

Thank you, miss.

I'm afraid you're in the
wrong compartment, sir.

- Well, it's a first class
compartment, isn't it?

- Yes, sir.

- Well, then I'm all right.

- This is a third class ticket, sir.

- [Narrator] Hitchcock saw
something very different

in Cary Grant, something much darker.

The director was also a
working class Englishman

who'd reinvented himself in Hollywood.

He clearly sensed the
presence of Archie Leach

behind the star's smooth persona

as well as the actor's
essential insecurity.

(bright music)

In Suspicion, Grant plays
the suitor of a rich woman

and the story plays with the idea

that he might want to
poison her for her money.

- If you're going to kill
somebody do it simply.

Am I right, Dr. Sedbusk?

- You're right.

- How would you do it simply?

- Mm, I don't know, dear,

but I'd use the most obvious method.

The most important thing is
that no one should suspect me.

- [Lina] For instance?

- [Johnnie] Arsenic.

- Ah, arsenic.

(tense music)

- Feel better?

- What do you care how I feel?

- [Narrator] In Notorious once again

aided and abetted by
his soulmate, Hitchcock,

he is immensely jealous and suspicious

of the woman he's in love with,

much as he'd been in real life.

- Do you want me to take the job?

- You're answering for yourself.

- I am asking you.

- It's up to you.

- [Narrator] He plays a man
who's emotionally damaged,

hard and cold and unable
to receive or express love.

- That you believe I'm
nice and that I love you

and I'll never change back.

- I'm waiting for your answer.

(waves lapping)

(pop music)

♪ Sang love's refrain together ♪

♪ We'll always be ♪

(tense music)

(alarm ringing)

(shuddered breathing)

(dramatic music)

(bombs blasting)

- [Woman] My darling son,

I hope you are not experiencing
the Blitz like here.

We've not had the alert
for a couple of weeks.

This is the third war I've seen.

I'm still living much alone
with my little doggie.

Darling, if you don't come
over as soon as the war ends

I shall come over to you.

- [Narrator] While the
war raged in Europe,

Cary Grant did his bit to
help the morale of the troops,

but continued to work in Hollywood.

(swing music)

Grant had a string of
girlfriends after his divorce

from Virginia Cherrill in 1935,

never managing to settle down.

His marriage to the
millionairess Barbara Hutton

in 1942 ended badly as well.

it was as if he were unable
to open his heart fully.

The insecurity he developed as a child

wouldn't go away.

- [Grant] The first breakthrough came

when I realized I was the one responsible

for repeating the same
mistakes and patterns.

One day when I was twisting
myself all over the

sofa in the doctor's
office, it was as if a light

finally went on in my brain.

I had to take command.

I finally realized all the pain I thought

my mother had caused me,

I had caused her pain, too.

(cello music)

- You're a little flat there, are you?

What's the music called?

- [Woman] None But the Lonely Heart.

- Italian?

- No, Russian.

- [Narrator] None but the
Lonely Heart was a darker film.

Grant plays the kind
of man he would've been

had he never left Bristol.

It's the story of a
bitter, unemployed cockney

who comes home to see his mother.

They have a very difficult relationship.

- Mean to do my best by you, my love.

(loud slapping)

Happy couple, aren't we?

- A bit of proper
respect is what's needed.

I get no more from you that I
got from that father of yours.

- [Narrator] This was not the kind of film

Hollywood liked to do, but in 1943,

Grant insisted on buying
the rights to the novel

so that he could star in it.

Very strikingly, he put his
father's photograph on the set.

- [Ernie] Morning, Mum.

- Morning, son.

- [Narrator] As if to say
this is where I come from,

this is who I really am.

- What happened to you last night?

- [Ernie] Hit by a
train, head on collision,

half the wheels still spinning in me head.

Hey, you're hat's on crooked.

(bells chiming)

- You'll have this shop for your own.

You're all fixed up for a home.

Why don't you look around?

- Had too many looks around

and what an ugly, unsanitary life it is.

- Needn't be.

- But it is.

- Lotsa love in you, Ernie.

Wants an object,
something to lavish it on.

(dramatic orchestral music)

- Oh, I'm sorry.

After you.

- Thank you.

How many have you?

- Hmm?

Beg your pardon?

- These.

How many have you?

- Why, none, fortunately.

- Fortunately?

- I'm not married.

- And when I first saw you

I knew that all I wanted was to cook

little intimate dinners for
you the rest of my life.

- [Narrator] He met
the actress Betsy Drake

on a ship in 1949.

He fell madly in love with her
and pursued her relentlessly.

She was very different
from his previous wives,

passionate about reading, yoga, mysticism,

and self improvement.

The two of them went out into the desert

near Palm Springs and
apparently took peyote

with a Kaluya shaman.

It was Betsy who first tried LSD therapy

and recommended it to Grant.

- [Grant] Betsy was good for me.

Her cautious, but steadily
penetrative seeking

in the labyrinths of the unconscious mind

gradually provoked my interest,

just as she no doubt intended.

(dramatic music)

- [Narrator] Encouraged by Betsy Drake

and keen to pursue new interests,

there was a brief spell
during the early 1950s

when he considered retiring,

but Hitchcock came to him with an offer

he couldn't refuse.

- [Announcer] Cary Grant and this year's

Academy Award winner, Grace Kelly,

two exciting personalities
who were made for each other.

And now Alfred Hitchcock brings them into

very close contact in this
perfect tale of romantic

intrigue, filmed on the
beautiful French Riviera.

- Now, here comes some of the clever part.

You're just not convincing, John.

You're like an American
character in an English movie.

- Mm-hmm?

- You just don't talk the
way an American tourist

ought to talk.

- Don't you know that
all the guide books say

don't behave like a tourist.

- [Grant] Grace Kelly made it so easy.

There are very few actresses
who really listen to you.

- Give up, John.

Admit who you are.

Even in this light I can tell
where your eyes are looking.

- [Grant] Most women
are instinctively wiser

and emotionally more mature than men.

They know about our insecurities.

Men are so busy rushing around
trying to prove themselves

that they fail to develop the interest

and curiosity shown by woman.

- Ever had a better
offer in your whole life?

One with everything.

(tense music)

- I know, I look vaguely familiar.

- Yes.

- You feel you've seen
me somewhere before.

- Mm-hmm.

- Funny how I have that affect on people,

it's just something about my face.

- It's a nice face.

- You think so?

- I wouldn't say it if I didn't.

- Oh, you're that type.

- What type?

- Honest.

- Not really.

- Good, because honest women frighten me.

- Why?

- I don't know, somehow they seem to

put me at a disadvantage.

- Because you're not honest with them?

- Exactly.

(tense music)

- [Narrator] North by Northwest,

perhaps his best known film, is fittingly

about mistaken identity.

It's also a film about
a man who's running away

from shadowy pursuers, but
also running away from himself.

This is a film about a man
who has never been attached,

but who has to commit.

Once again, Grant was playing a role

that mirrored the turmoil
of his inner life.

It's as if in this film
he was being forced

to grow up emotionally.

(airplane roaring)

- [Grant] The shock of each revelation

brought with it an anguish and sadness

because of what wasn't known before,

the wasted years of ignorance.

And at the same time, the ecstasy of joy,

being free of the shackles of ignorance.

Now I know that I hurt
every woman I loved.

(dramatic music)

After weeks of treatment came
a day when I saw the light.

First I thought of all those wasted years.

Second I said, "Oh my God,
humanity please come in."

(gentle music)

- [Bonnie] Where do you
keep those pictures?

- [Geoff] What pictures?

- Those pictures of you
when you were a baby.

Geoff, you don't have to
be afraid of me anymore.

(sultry music)

- [Grant] Now everything's changed.

My attitude towards women
is completely different.

I could be a good husband now.

I learned that my dear parents couldn't

know better than they knew

and I shall think of them
always with love now.

At last I am close to happiness.

(Peter humming)

- Drip dry.

- How often do you go
through this little ritual?

- Oh, everyday, the
manufacturer recommends it.

- I don't believe it.

- Oh yes, it's, wait a minute.

- [Narrator] Grant looked amazingly good

well into his fifties and sixties.

He was still totally convincing as the man

that Audrey Hepburn, 25 years his junior,

could fall hopelessly in love with.

- Stop treating me like a child.

- Well, then stop behaving like one.

Now, if you want to tell me
what's troubling you, fine.

If not, I'm tired, it's late,
and I want to go home to bed.

- Do you know what's wrong with you?

- No, what?

- Nothing.

- [Grant] During my LSD
therapy I learned a great deal

and the result of it all was rebirth.

I got where I wanted to go.

Not completely, because
you cut back the barnacles

and find more barnacles and
you have to get these off.

In life there is no end to getting well.

- [Narrator] Whenever
he returned to England

he would visit his mother in Bristol.

Friends who went with
him remarked on the fact

that he was very excited to see her.

But as he approached Bristol,
his mood would change,

he would gradually become more somber.

When they met his mother, they
were struck by her reserve

and lack of emotion.

It seemed as if something
in their relationship

didn't quite gel.

In her letters, however,
she'd always expressed

a great deal of love for her son.

She died at the age of 96 in 1973.

(gentle music)

Once he retired from film in 1966,

the most important thing in his life

was the daughter he had with
his fourth wife, Dyan Cannon.

He continued to be
offered many film roles,

not least by Hitchcock and
as the first James Bond,

but he wanted to be a full-time father

and Jennifer became the
main focus of his life.

The marriage to Dyan Cannon
ended after two years,

but he remained very close to Jennifer

for the rest of his life.

(gentle music)

After a long courtship, Cary
Grant married Barbara Harris

in 1981.

- The age difference was difficult for me

to come over here and
totally change my life,

but became immaterial because I realized

that to have someone whom you really love

and who really loves you
is far more important

than the age difference.

And also because Cary was who Cary was.

Not Cary Grant, but because he was a man

who was fascinated by life and wanted to

investigate things the
whole time, read new things,

he did not have a closed old mind at all.

His mind was probably younger than mine.

But he was a little bit
shy, a little bit anxious,

a little bit wanting to make sure

that I was the right person.

(Barbara laughs)

I had to prove that I was worthy of him.

Because I think he was a
little bit wary of women.

Somewhere in the depths of his mind

was the fact that women were
not always going to be there.

Once he realized that I was in his life

for the right reason and truly loved him,

I think then all that
had not been shown before

was sort of showered on me.

Thank goodness, I mean it was wonderful.

(audience applauding)

Cary's shyness was a strange combination

of someone who used to be a particular way

and someone that he'd become,

so there was still a little
bit of the old Archie Leach

that sort of stayed with Cary,

but he didn't really love being
out in the public too much.

I mean, he hated, for example,

having to get up and make a speech.

Absolutely hated it, he
wouldn't eat beforehand,

he would be terribly, terribly nervous.

That's why he loved the
Conversations with Cary Grant,

because someone was asking him a question.

He started the whole
evening by showing clips

of many films where back flips were done

and various other things were done

and then he would tell a joke

and then people were asking questions.

So it was a format that
he came up with and loved.

(waves lapping)

- [Narrator] As he was rehearsing a show

in Davenport, Iowa, in
November 1986 at the age of 82,

Cary Grant suffered a massive stroke.

(gentle music)

He died in hospital the following night.

- He was cremated.

He didn't want a funeral
of any description,

he didn't want any party or anything

to do with his death.

So there was no funeral,
there was nothing.

Kurt Krikorian took, he did want his ashes

spread over the sea, the ocean,

and also over the house here

and so Kirk Kerkorian took
us up in a helicopter,

Jennifer and I up in a helicopter,

and we did exactly as Cary had wanted.

- [Schuelke] Can you just describe to me

what you're looking at right now.

- [Grant] What am I looking out right now?

- [Schuelke] Uh-huh.

- Oh, how interesting.

Well, I'm in a bedroom.

It's a bedroom that still has an unmade

king sized bed in it.

(Schuelke laughs)

Facing a TV set and it looks
out upon Beverly buildings.

Well, it has a long,
sloping lawn in front of it,

going down to a swimming pool.

As I look out to my right
as far as the ocean,

there are many, many trees in my vision

and then I look down to
the 20th century buildings.

It's a very nice panoramic view up here.

(gentle music)