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Yes, I'm stressed out.

Yeah, no, everybody's calling me right now. I have a million things to do.

I'm going mental.

Yes, he's coming over.

He'll be here shortly.

Actually, I think he's here right now.

Yeah, okay, I'll call you back. Bye.

Oh, welcome.

How are you?

Good, good. I can see your aura is already off today.

Yeah. I can recommend a nice herbal tea for that.

Oh, nice. Yeah, I'm pretty stressed out today. Okay.

I feel like I'm going crazy.

Well, let's take care of you then. Okay. Let's get to it. All right, great.

Let's go this way.

Well, go ahead and have a seat here.

Thank you. I love your home. It's a very fun place.

Thank you.

Well, I'm glad you're finally here.

So am I. Glad I was able to get on over and make the time for you today. Yeah.

Sounds like you're really stressed out. Yes. I feel like I'm going mental. I'm

losing my mind.

Well, Jenna, the important thing is to remember that you are the sky, okay?

Everything that's going on around you is just the weather.

Meaning?

Meaning don't let other people's...

attitudes or other people's bad behavior influence your day or your goals.

Okay.

It's kind of hard.

Sure, of course. And then that's a struggle of life.

And that's what we're going to practice today.

We're going to practice just trying to get through your ordinary day's events,

your tasks that have to be done without any interruptions.

We're just going to try to clear our minds.

Hey, Mom.

Oh, this is my stepson, Eli.

Oh, hi.

Don't mind me.

You can go on with your session.

Nice to meet you, Eli. I didn't realize we were going along.

That's great.

This will be a great exercise.

We're going to just try to free our minds. We're going to first start by

taking a few deep breaths. Okay.

Into your nose and out through your mouth.

And I want you to just try to clear your mind. Just think of nothing but blank,

maybe black, empty space. Just into your nose,

out through your mouth, with no distractions, okay?

Good, very good.

Now that we've taken a few deep breaths, We've cleared our mind.

I want you to explain to me, just so I have a better understanding of what's

troubling you on a daily basis, these work stresses that you're going through.

Yeah, just everything at work. I mean, just, you know, with my marketing

strategy and sales, and it's like I put this funding, you know, I have a

specific budget, and I put that into marketing, and then when the sales don't

make up for the budget,

dresses me out and, you know, man.

And then these guys, they're just, you know, they're just so frustrating that

they'll ask me a million questions and I'll, I'll spend, you know, days,

sometimes weeks explaining to them, you know, the product and, and then they

just, you know, you don't hear back from them that, you know, they ghost on you.

Um, and then they pop back up again. They ask more questions. They act like,

know, not to mention the fact that they just act like you never told them what

you already told them about it. And it just goes on and on and on.

And then my house is just constantly getting dirty.

Um, I just don't, I don't have time. I don't have time to clean my house. I'm

working all the time and I'm, I'm trying to.

To two of you?

Yeah.

So much on my plate. Is that distracting? Being a parent that way?

It's a lot. Doing everything on your own and stuff.

I don't even know where to begin with that.

Groceries are like $1 ,000 a week.

Not to mention the dinners.

You know, just Xboxes, Oculus.

Okay. It just keeps piling up. Okay. Yeah.

All right. Then the older, the more bigger the things.

So, but aside from work, we're talking about your house, you know, day -to -day

house chores or tasks around the house.

Do you find those overwhelming as well? Yeah. Do you find those to be stressful?

Yeah. Okay, you know, I'm going to empty the dishwasher and then I'm over there.

I pull the handle down and then, you know, I start pulling a couple of dishes

out and then I remember the toilet bowl like really bothering me. So I go back

there and...

I mean, I even find ways to make this as simple as possible, but it still just

seems so overwhelming. And I take that bleach cleaner into the bowl.

Most of the time, I don't have to scrub.

And that helps out. But still, then I forget that I put that in there. I

to flush it down. And the next thing you know, I remembered.

I need to go to the gym.

I forgot to go to the gym.

Sounds like you definitely have a full day. And then I find myself at the

grocery store because I forgot all of the groceries.

We needed groceries. So I'm at the grocery store. And then next thing you

I'm realizing that I need to be at the gym right now.

And then I go to the gym.

And that's a whole nother... I end up being there three hours.

Well, I was going to say, you know, the gym is an important part of your daily

regimen. And if it's something that really means something to you, it's

important to start those more time -consuming tasks.

Get them done early in the morning before you do anything else. That way

sure that you get your gym time in. And that's going to give you that inner

peace that I mentioned earlier.

Okay? Because that's what it's all about.

Then I'm so tired in the morning.

Yeah. Well, I mean, it goes along with, you know.

As we get older, we just get tired.

There's no other way around it.

If it's not one thing, it's another.

So try to think of it more like an exercise, more of a mental exercise.

Okay.

As I mentioned earlier, we're just going to flush everything out of our mind.

Try to take each task one by one.

You want to start with the gym in the morning. You want to get that healthy.

motivation going you want to get all that negative energy that could be built

overnight you're gonna wake up in the morning you're gonna go to the gym

gonna flush that all out a nice healthy productive way all right okay does it

make sense yeah okay and then the next important thing is a good healthy

breakfast okay do you want to skip that yeah i know that's hard i do that all

the time okay those two things alone if you start your morning each and every

day with those two things alone you will be

on a much better pathway to a less stressful, more fulfilling, more

day. And then from there, what I would suggest is not to think of

ten different tasks that you have to do throughout the whole day, but try to

conquer one by one. So you start with your exercise and your diet, and then

move to whatever it may be, your work.

Or if it's maybe your errands, grocery shopping, that type of thing that you

have to do. But don't get overwhelmed by taking on too many tasks all at once.

Okay, so maybe I can just plan on one or two things, focus on those, and then

just, you know, okay. And don't overwhelm yourself, too. If not

your list gets done, then that's just what it meant to happen, you know? Okay.

But put the things in a list of priorities, try to accomplish them one

time, and try not to get overwhelmed.

Try not to allow things to distract.

That's the most important thing.

So as we move throughout the day, I'd like to just observe you and just see

how you carry on and see if you can maintain focus and just... Just be me in

action. Right. Okay, all right. And I'll be quiet for the most part, but if I

see you staring away or kind of getting overwhelmed, I'll just try to bring you

back to that calm inner peace that we spoke about.

Okay. You know...

Before I made my career change years ago, I spent over a decade in a horrible

office job. And it was not fulfilling in the least.

And I always, every morning that I'd get up and take the train to work, I'd

always think, like, I was meant for more.

To do more of my life. That's how I feel.

You're not failing to fill.

Yes. I feel like I should be running my own business. I should be doing my own

thing.

Yes. Well, that goes along with these small steps. And as we progress, and

day we accomplish one task at a time, over the course of weeks, months, before

you know it, you could be well on your way to being an independent business

owner. Instead of making other people rich, you can...

You know, enjoy the luxuries and the rewards and spoils of all the hard work

do. Okay. So we're going to work on these. And then I'll be able to have

control over my workload and organize it.

Exactly. Okay. The best thing I ever did was make my career change.

And it's funny, I'll share this one quick story with you. It all started

trip to the Amazon rainforest.

Oh, wow.

And I did the ayahuasca.

Oh, yeah, I've heard of this. I've actually been thinking about doing it.

very enlightening. Yeah.

From that point forward, like I said, I used to be a suit and tie guy with a

crew cut and that type of thing. I stopped cutting my hair. Wow.

I let it all grow out.

I'm much happier.

More at peace with my inner self. I can see.

Thank you. I love that.

I don't miss my corporate life one bit.

Career change is the best thing I ever did for myself.

No, I believe you. I don't blame you at all.

I would recommend that as well. It's something to maybe think about in the

future. If you're not really sure which direction you want to take in the next

chapter. Well, I want to be more like you. I want you to be more like

The best version of you can be, okay?

Yeah. Alright, that being said, let's get started.

Okay, great.

Let's go look at this refrigerator.

Oh, man. I'm hungry.

I can't open that.

I think I...

You guys might see what your problem is.

What? I mean, you... Your refrigerator is almost completely empty. You just

some condiments, a couple of jars of... I don't know.

Um, yeah, you... You're really, really missing a lot in here.

You don't have... Well, I mean, I don't need much. I mean, I'm... Right?

Yeah, mustard.

Well, you know what? You're right. So much for that $1 ,000 a month.

I mean, a week, actually.

You know? Is that chicken in there? Are you not vegan?

No. Are you still eating meat?

Yeah. Really?

Yeah. You know, I would really recommend switching to a vegan diet.

I mean, I can't tell you the value of it.

Well, I'm just scared I might get too skinny.

Well, you know, it's more about being healthy, you know, and achieving that

inner peace. I mean, can you really enjoy your meal knowing that some poor

creature was slaughtered?

I mean, I just don't sit there and visualize that part.

No, believe me, again, like before I made my change, I was a meat eater

and I enjoyed a good burger or a steak now again.

Went through my transformation a little bit more aware of my surroundings.

And if I make my inner peace, if I'm really peaceful inside, I don't have to

those types of things. I'm to the point now where I even pollinate my own

vegetables.

Wow. Yeah.

Wow. Sometimes people even lie.

They think they're being vegan, but they're really not.

I mean, I was thinking that, too.

Yeah, I mean, somewhere out there, there's a little bee pollinating your

and doing the hard work for you. Yeah, that's kind of sad.

But just little things to think about. You don't have to make the switch today,

but I would recommend it. I'll consider it. At least going grocery shopping.

Maybe we can even do that later today.

I can observe you doing that. I eat meat every day.

Every day?

Mm -hmm.

Fish, poultry, the whole thing? Yeah.

Yep.

Let's take another look and see.

I mean, you have peanut butter in here.

It's a nut.

Yeah, I mean, that's great. That's great.

It's a good source, but baking soda is useful for some things.

I don't know, the smell.

You just leave it in there and it keeps the smell. The smell of nothingness.

Yeah. It's smelling like an empty refrigerator.

It's an energy drink.

Yeah. Yeah, I'm tired.

It helps me get up in the morning.

Do you even read what's on the back of one of these?

There's enough sugar.

And it's an enough snack, but, I mean, look at the ingredients in this.

Carbonated water, citric acid, taurine, natural and artificial flavors, sodium,

baking soda. See, there's some baking soda right in this as well. Baking soda?

Yeah. See, you can put me along. It's right there.

Wow. They put baking soda in just about everything nowadays.

Magnesium, carbonate, colors, caffeine, aspartame. Magnesium's coming, right?

Well, it can be, but aspartame, you know, the Nazis invented aspartame in

Auschwitz. Did you know that? It was mind -suppressing. What is aspartame?

Well, it's what they put in bug repellent.

In fact, you can put aspartame in the, if you have an ant problem, you can put

some aspartame in the corners of your room and the ants won't come near it.

Okay.

Yeah, if you have, what else? Yeah, proxidized, I don't even, vitamin B6,

calcium, and B12. I don't believe that. That's good.

Yeah. Yeah, there's vitamins in there.

Yeah, I'm not sure if I buy that.

But in any case, I mean, you'd be much better served.

With a nice herbal tea, I'd recommend something with honey

would be ideal.

What is that up there?

The real kicker is I don't put honey or anything in my tea.

Really? Yeah. Don't I get any points for that?

I mean, honey is good for you.

It's bigger.

It's a bit of a natural figure.

It's not like an artificial figure.

Oh, like healthy protein bars as well?

I get some points. You get plenty of points, Jenna. You know, when we, uh...

Yeah.

Okay, well... You get your points for that for the day.

But you know what? We need to make sure you get a real nutritious breakfast.

So why don't we move on and go about our day?

Okay. All right.

Oh, man.

What a day.

What you looking for?

Well, you know, I come out here and I pretend like I'm gardening just so I can

smoke a cigarette.

You know, that often happens when we have vices in our life. We kind of

assimilate them with just ordinary day -to -day chores.

You know, having a beer while mowing your lawn or that type of thing.

And it seems innocent and harmless enough, but...

The ramifications of smoking cigarettes, Jenna, I'm sure you know what they are.

You know, a lot of lung cancer, emphysema.

I know, but when you're, you know, as stressed out as I am, I mean, what's

worse, the actual stress or just having that cigarette that just relieves you,

you know, in the moment?

Well, you know, sometimes you just gotta have to, and that's what it is, you

have to just take a break just for a moment and you have to just appreciate.

nature and they're just a fresh ear that you're breathing right now the sun is

out right now it's a great source of vitamin d and that's what you need

what your body needs it doesn't it doesn't need smoking or or any of these

vices that we have a tendency to to yeah you know okay um

i think once we have your diet straightened out and

It will get your vices squared away. I think you'll be on your road to a much

more fulfilling and happy life. Okay.

Okay, yeah, that sounds great.

Okay. And the most important thing throughout the day is to not get

from our tasks, okay? No matter what happens, just stay focused, keep your

on the ball, okay?

Yeah, okay, okay. If you begin to get overwhelmed, like that breathing

I showed you earlier, it's a great way just to...

Take 10, 30 seconds, whatever it takes, and just breathe in through the nose,

out through your mouth, calm yourself down, get your chakras aligned, and then

promise we'll have you stress -free in no time at all.

So do you have any questions?

No.

Okay, well, great.

Why don't we try the breathing exercise real quick then, okay? Breathe in

through your nose, out through your mouth.

It feels relieved a little bit? Yeah.

Feel that inner anxiety start to diminish?

Yeah. Yeah. Okay. Yeah.

All right.

I'm actually feeling pretty good. Yeah? Yeah.

Do you want to continue your gardening or do you want to continue working on

your breathing exercises?

Breathing exercises.

All right. All right. Let's get back to it then. Ready?

Breathe in through your nose.

Free your mind of all that inner turmoil, all that stress that you build

the course of the day.

Yeah, okay.

I just want you to let it all go.

Okay. I want you to start to visualize just nothing, blank, empty

slate that we talked about.

Okay, perfect.

And that'll be your safe space you can go back to throughout the day. Okay.

No matter where you are in life, you can always stop for that moment, do this

exercise, and free your mind, okay?

All right.

How's that feel?

Great. Feels great.

Feel relaxed?

Yep. I think I'm starting to feel better.

Okay. Yeah.

Do you want to continue your exercise now, or do you want to move on and start

your day?

We can move on.

Okay. Yeah.

All right, let's do it. All right.

Okay, breathe in.

Breathe out.

Breathe in.

Breathe out.

It's important to remember, after another struggling day, just not to let

outside distractions

Interrupt your flow, okay?

Okay.

Any sort of negative energy to bother you or slow

your progress, okay?

Okay.

Breathe in.

How do you feel?

I feel great.

Oh, good.

Feeling calm?

Mm -hmm. Yeah.

Nice and relaxed?

Mm -hmm.

Good.

You're doing a great job. Just keep going.

Good job, Jenna.

You feel good?

Yeah, great.

Let's move on to some stretching.

Okay.

Stretching is a great way to really get the oxygen flowing through your blood

system, okay?

Okay. Make sure you can save all your different muscles.

Okay, that sounds good.

All right, let's pick up our stretch. What's it going to be?

Let's get on your knees.

Okay.

There you go.

Now, it's important when you're doing this one is to get your head down low

make sure you really... Like this?

Yes. Okay.

We call it down the doggy, right?

That's nice. It's a great arch.

I want to make sure you feel the stretch.

That's good. Just keep focusing on breathing.

In and out.

Good.

Yeah. I think I'm starting to feel better.

Feeling some of that stress structure leave itself?

Yep.

Good.

How's your back feel?

It feels great.

Good. Yeah.

It's a great stretch.

Now I'll be able to have a little bit of a better day tomorrow.

Well, that's the goal.

I guess I need to go grocery shopping.

Don't let your mind start to wander. Just stay focused on the task at hand,

okay?

Still need to get both of my cars locked.

So hard.

I just don't have help.

So I have to drive one and then bring it back home and

drive the other one over there.

I don't hear you breathing, Jenna.

I hear you.

Fixating on tomorrow's problems.

Sort of concentrating and focusing on your yoga today.

You feel that stretch in your hips too?

Yeah, I do.

Hopefully it's warm tomorrow.

I hate when it's cold.

We're going to do your squats next, okay?

I'm going to have you stand up.

Okay.

Just turn around, get yourself in a nice comfortable position.

Okay, turn which way?

There you go.

You're just going to be squatting up and down. Yeah, that's perfect. Okay.

Keep focusing on your breathing.

I'm definitely going to need to eat after this.

Yeah.

What's your favorite thing to eat?

Jenner, is your mind wandering again?

Not thinking about your stretching right now?

Opening your hips up?

I think I would rather be eating right now.

We'll get to lunch.

And now it's a point for you to feel every single inch of that stretch.

Do you know what time it is?

I actually don't have a watch on today.

It's a part of your zen thing.

Well, not really. I just ran out that one watch.

Oh.

So you're human too.

I'm sorry?

Huh? I'm sorry that I said something.

No.

All right.

Ready for your next stretch?

Yes. That's going to really stretch that hamstring out right there.

Yeah, those get really tight.

and you tell me what your favorite foods are.

Remember, I'm going to the grocery store.

Today, honestly, I'm just feeling like a salad.

A simple salad.

Yeah, chicken Caesar.

Or shrimp.

Why don't you say I don't have a steak to it?

Yeah.

Glad you're on board.

Keep breathing it out.

Slowly.

I don't hate breathing, Jenna.

There you go.

Nice long full stretch.

That's it.

Just maintain focus.

Complete and total concentration.

Well, I'm thinking about cigarettes.

Kind of distracting, isn't it?

What are you feeling right now?

To have a cigarette.

The urge is for devices again, huh?

So we'd be able to come over tomorrow as well?

I'll have to look at my schedule, but I believe I'm open in the afternoon.

Okay, great.

I'll find a way to schedule you in there.

Definitely have to do this again.

Remember to maintain focus on your breathing.

Do it the whole time.

In and out.

From the diaphragm. Long deep breaths.

That's it.

So Jenna, how do you feel?

I feel great.

Yeah, I feel great. Awesome.

Yeah. Give me $500.

Great.

Okay, I'm excited to see you tomorrow.

Okay.

Awesome.