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Previously on The Real Housewives of
Miami.
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I have my two little sons, two brothers.
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One is three, one is a year and a half.
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How are you feeling? Confused. Hello.
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Hello. Goodbye. I don't want you to feel
like you're in a caretaking role.
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and not see me for what you used to see
me as. My sisters, they haven't touched
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base with us in like two years. And I
said, I miss you guys. Like what's going
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on? Tell me. And then dead silent.
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I love him anyway.
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From my part of this, I would like us to
move forward. If somebody will ask me,
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how did it go?
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It's between you and I.
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I thought it would be great to have like
a greeting party. And I have like
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somebody that's going to be like talking
to us. He's been helping me a lot.
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And I'd like to share them with you
girls. I'm going to speak to the girls
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what it is to have narcissistic traits.
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Are you ready for that?
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How's everybody doing today?
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Waiting for you, goddess.
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Lisa, do you think your time's more
important than all of ours?
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Do you think how rude it is to make
everybody wait?
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I think you're f***ing rude.
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That's just far -fetched.
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Goddesses have arrived.
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Let's do this.
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Oh, my God. Welcome.
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Hi.
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Welcome,
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beautiful goddesses.
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Thank you for joining us. This is my
friend Danielle.
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He's originally from Melbourne,
Australia.
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He is an author. I got to know him, and
he's helped me along in my own personal
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journey, and I hope that today you girls
can also learn from him.
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I mean, that got hot.
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If I wasn't with Francie, I'm sure we'd
be going for Australian tonight.
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We have a lot of fun activities planned
for you girls. Ooh, games? Love that.
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They're mental exercises, and I know
you're all really good at that.
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You're going to find me down under.
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Okay. All right, let's go. So anyways,
walk this way.
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This is so beautiful. Wow. I want to get
married here.
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I don't know who the guy is, but I like
the venue.
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So as you enter this area, you will see
mirrors where you can take a look and
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it's about self -reflection. Nobody gets
angrier than a narcissist being accused
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of something they did.
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You just made us wait two hours waiting
on you. It's like the grand Lisa
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entrance. It's very rude. You're being
very rude right now. Oh, you want me to
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say thank you for showing up? One of
this is for everybody to read the quotes
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and see if it can resonate with them.
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That's very cool.
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Let's go to the bar.
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Let's go read.
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We have lots to read, guys.
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Never try to defend yourself against a
narcissist. They already know you're
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right. Is the whole theme narcissism?
Yeah. This is the whole thing how Todd
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treated Alexia. But I don't even want to
talk about Todd so much. We're not here
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because of Todd.
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Alexia, you've been saying how Todd is
narcissistic.
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You don't think you guys need help?
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Like professional help. And you? Oh, no,
you're Mr. Perfect. I'm not part of
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this. Oh, you're an attorney, too. I am.
He doesn't plaster billboards across
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and fix leaky pipes. Okay. He certainly
doesn't eat your Godiva chocolate.
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That night at the house when you had
that party, I know I stressed you out by
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hiding out downstairs in the gym. It was
tough for me. But thank you for
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supporting me. I appreciate that and
understand it.
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How is this party not for Todd?
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Good people get tired of being good to
ungrateful people.
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I think it's funny that all the girls
think it's all about Todd.
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But they don't know that the joke's on
them, too, because I feel that we're all
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narcissists. Can we all agree everyone
out here is a narcissist?
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I'm not.
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I'm confident. I think self -confidence
is the better trait. The problem with
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being empathetic is that you feel sorry
for the people that hurt you. That's
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actually, that's a good one. The fact
that this is a narcissist -themed party
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says a lot, obviously, because I think
that we have a lot amongst us.
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I look crazy right now.
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When we look deeper, we find that
sometimes we aren't really angry at
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more angry at ourselves for allowing
them to treat us that way. I think I'm a
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narcissist. A little bit. A lot of
business people have narcissism.
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It's really not that bad.
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Do we have to have a party for it?
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What are we celebrating?
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That's beautiful.
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Tell me when you're ready.
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Oh, wow.
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Oh, wow.
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We're such narcissists. Here we are in
the narcissists. Stop talking. I'm not
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getting good pictures.
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Lisa being Lisa, she's like oblivious.
She's making it a whole full -blown
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shoot. It's all about me.
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I think I got a lot of good ones.
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Lisa, you should be reading the notes on
the mirror. I think some of these notes
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are replying to you, my friend. Oh, I'm
just swinging away.
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This is totally for me. What?
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You don't always have to tell your side
of the story. Time will. That actually
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suits you too.
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It does. Yeah, me too. For different
reasons, but yeah.
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No, seriously.
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What's the reason?
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I'm not going to tell you right now.
Why?
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But you like to tell me a lot on the
bus.
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Lisa, Lisa!
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I love you.
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I'm sorry. I apologize.
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And I have no problem apologizing again.
Okay, thank you. I'm sorry.
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That was a nice one. That's all I
wanted. I'm definitely not going to be
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with Stephanie again because I don't
want to hear that again.
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There's no way she's going to do it
again, right? She learned her lesson,
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Lars. Where are you with Lisa? I've
tried to talk to her, communicate with
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So it's like at this point, we're
obviously going to have to have a
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conversation. Like Gertie and I, we took
time when we had dinner and we talked
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like two people. I would have liked that
dinner way before that.
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Absolutely.
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But it didn't happen that way and that's
okay.
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That was her process. That was her
process. You know what I mean?
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Because that was her beef chat with me
and I had to accept whatever was coming
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my way.
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There was feeling, you know, but it was
your way of handling it.
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That's it. You know, just keep talking
and talking about it. I thought we moved
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forward or at least try to agree to move
forward. But apparently not. Are you
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girls ready to play some Greek game?
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Let's go. Yeah.
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Let's go.
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Oh, my God.
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Wow.
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This is so pretty, Alexia.
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Yeah.
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Wow, who's sitting in the throne?
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How do you want us to sit, Alexia? I
don't need to name names about the
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narcissistic people in this group, but
they'll be fine.
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Like, we are supposed to be on the same
level. Well, if you feel like you have
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to be above, then it's not narcissistic.
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All right, ladies, we're going to get
into exercise two. This exercise
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how others might see us. Okay.
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You're going to get a red flag. I'm
going to read out a statement. Put it in
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vase that you think the person has that
trait the most.
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Oh, okay. I like this.
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By the way, you thought I played dirty
games? This is extra dirty.
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This game in itself is a red flag.
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All right, ladies, we ready?
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Constantly talking about themselves.
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Oh, that's easy.
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Okay, Marisol, you go because that was
easy for you. You go.
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Sorry, monkey.
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Sorry.
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All right. I have to agree.
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Lisa. It's just a fox.
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Lisa.
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I'm going to put myself.
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Myself. I think Lisa, yeah.
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Lisa.
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Lisa.
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Monkey by a landslide.
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So, lady, Lisa had an overwhelming
number of ticks.
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Monkey for the win!
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Monkey for the win! So I want to know
how you feel about that, Lisa. Maybe I
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tell my problems to the wrong people.
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This was supposed to be a goddess party.
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I expected fun.
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I expected...
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Be treated like a goddess. This isn't a
goddess party.
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It's a witch hunt.
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And I am not a witch.
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You're annoying people talking about
yourself.
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You feel like your problems are the
biggest ones in the room.
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Well, I also feel that you blame me for
not knowing your problems, but you also
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don't tell me your problems.
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Sometimes we feel that we're not heard,
but we're not talking.
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I know, but the problem is when you call
and the person doesn't answer the
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phone, you're not going to be heard.
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I also think you should tell the truth
and stop saying lies.
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You're the light at Dr. Test? I have,
like, receipts, so, baby girl, I am the
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receipt.
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Is that your Halloween costume for this
year?
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Try getting a dress in your size.
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The whole world knows not to mess with
Larsa because she's going to come for
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you. I didn't hear that. Can you repeat
that?
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It is so stupid.
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So we're mature.
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There's a reason she calls herself the
Larsanist.
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The next one, quick to take offense.
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All right, let's go.
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Lisa is quick to take offense.
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Larsa is quick to take offense.
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Bro. Larsa.
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Sorry, Marty.
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Oh, you picked me? Yeah. I don't know. I
don't care.
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Maybe I left you.
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Oh, Kiki.
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Lisa.
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Yeah, you pick Issa? Yeah. I pick Issa
too. Oh, she's very offended with me.
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That one was quick to take offense and
Lisa got the most with three. I win
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again. This is like a whack game with
some whack people.
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Everybody, by the way, has narcissistic
traits.
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For God's sake, Larissa has a Larissa
light.
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And I guarantee you her phone is filled
with 99 % selfies.
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More of just her.
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Her.
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Oh, there's one with the family, but
that's an ad.
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The next one is lack of accountability.
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Okay.
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It's going to get ugly.
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Larissa?
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Uh -huh?
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Guess who is Larissa speaking now?
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Of course.
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Wow, Petty Pippy in the house.
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Well, that's how I feel.
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I'm going muddy again.
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She keeps picking me.
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You want to move forward?
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Okay, just understand that this is an
exercise for everybody to grow and
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It's not about attacking each other.
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Can I please ask you a question? Like if
somebody tells you something very
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painful and hurtful that hurts you deep
in the heart, what is your
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recommendation how to move forward and
how to move?
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And did they apologize?
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Partially, yes.
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Well, I don't think partially is good
enough. So who are you talking about in
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that situation?
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I was talking about my friend Gertie,
who hurt me very, very much when
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calls you a horrible name and it's going
to stick in your head, but you want to
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move past it. How do you forget it?
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One of them is time, because I believe
time is the only thing that heals. Yeah.
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And a willingness to want to rekindle a
relationship that you once had with
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Gertie. Yes. So this is after that I've
been physically assaulted.
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And there's too much context to discuss
this. Okay. And there is a lot of
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context. But I will say that if you have
a willingness to reconnect with her.
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Absolutely.
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To forgive the physical assault too.
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Yeah. What is this going to solve? By
bringing this up to the group, she is
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breaking the past. I see you for who you
are.
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Stupid meme. All right, so the last one
is playing the victim.
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I'm sorry, sorry.
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Lisa. Oh, boy.
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Well, you guys aren't moving forward
tonight, that's for sure.
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You keep saying that, but you were
talking about a photo from four months
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that I wasn't involved with. Guys, guys,
this is not about it.
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Excuse me, I'm going to talk right now.
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Okay, can you take control, Daniel,
please?
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Ladies, ladies.
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You are mad about a photo my boyfriend
took with your ex four months ago. I am
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not mad at that. We're playing a game.
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It's not a game. You are a narcissist,
Larsa.
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You've got to move forward, guys.
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You're not apologetic about anything
you've done. You think everything's
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When I was in Toronto, you texted me
after you knew my dad was dying and then
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dead. I never text you anything, guys.
I'm praying for you. And then you're
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talking about not about my dad. About my
boyfriend, Lisa.
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Your boyfriend shouldn't yell at women.
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No, he didn't. You're a liar. I'm not
used to a man yelling at me. Lisa,
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a liar about him being cheap. He's so
cheap. Oh, my God, Larsa.
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Larsa's going on and on, and all I'm
really thinking about is work.
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How many emails am I getting?
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What Zooms do I have?
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I'm thinking about making money.
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I have so much I can say about you, and
I don't say it. Go ahead.
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You are very lucky. I am not lucky. How
do you say it? You told me Marcus
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doesn't have it like that. You don't
want your tits to be down to your knees
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before you guys get married. You told me
that. I what?
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How does she talk about the tits to the
floor? I'm getting dark. I'm getting
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dark. Tits to the floor. Maybe Lisa
should stop worrying about my boobs and
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start worrying more about how everyone
in this group thinks she's a narcissist.
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Lisa.
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Lisa.
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And P .S., my boobs are sky high, so I
don't know what she's talking about.
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You know what I told you? I don't need a
man. You know what I told you? I'm
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independent. You know what I told you?
I'm teaching my kids to be independent.
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don't know what you're doing. I know
what I'm doing. I know what you're
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Let's count the flags.
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I know what you're doing. You can throw
it, but you can't take it, right? Count
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the flags. I'm good.
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We are better than this.
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The overwhelming score for the trade of
playing the victim was Lisa with five.
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Who picked Lisa?
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So did you raise your hand for Lisa? I
did. Okay, let's explain. I can relate
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Lisa. I'm also going through a very
difficult time in my life, but I choose
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to play victim. I'm not playing a
victim.
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I'm not playing a victim.
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Okay. I have a few people that are my
safe space. You, Adriana.
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You? No, I'm sorry. I don't think
they're saying it. Oh, my God. Do you
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know? I haven't talked about it.
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I haven't brought up Lenny, Lenny, Lenny
at all, even though I'm still dealing
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with it. I wish somebody else had more
problems than I had. I'm talking and
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you're interrupting me again.
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I'm very compassionate and I know what
you've been going through, but sometimes
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you have like a lack of accountability.
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But it's not an attack, Lisa. This is
feeling like a gang up again.
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Everybody's having a narcissistic moment
right now because none of you are
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taking into consideration the fact this
girl just lost her f***ing father.
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So where is the empathy?
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I am leaving this bulls*** party.
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Oh, let's make Lisa the punching bag all
the time.
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Bulls***.
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this bullshit stupid party.
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Oh, let's make Lisa the punching bag all
the fucking time.
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Bullshit.
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Larissa, you really need to make up with
her at some point. Babe, I literally
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was playing the game. I was not the only
one that felt like that. We all felt
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the same thing. When we actually tell
the truth and tell how we feel, we get
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punished for this. How is that fair?
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Like, I'm sorry, but Larissa is done.
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All of you guys at one point or another.
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This is stupid.
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I'm like done.
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You have a choice to behave the way you
have and you have to take control of
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your emotions.
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I don't know. Did everybody have such a
problem with the game?
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I'm going to the bathroom. I think it
was a beautiful game.
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She's in the bathroom.
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She's upset.
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I think she's extremely upset.
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She got all the flags at every game.
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Lisa.
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Are you there?
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Sorry, babe.
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I hate these people. I don't want to be.
I don't really enjoy hanging out with
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this group.
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That's how people perceive her. And
sometimes it's hard. Like when it's only
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yourself, you know, it feels like we're
ganging up on her. It was a lot. It was
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rough. But if you guys all said that,
maybe when I went home, I would be like,
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maybe they're right.
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Larissa has no clue.
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This is just leave me alone and leave my
boyfriend alone. Stop talking about my
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family. He doesn't know about.
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How does everyone conveniently forget
all the things that Larissa did to them?
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I heard crazy things about you.
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I heard you hooked up with every doctor
in the hospital.
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Swear to God.
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Swear to God.
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Someone called me a week ago and told me
you were making out with a man.
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Someone that was at your wedding said a
few of the girls at your wedding were
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doing things at your wedding. What kind
of things?
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I went to meet with Gertie. She's like,
I have breast cancer.
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What? Who the hell do you think you are
to talk about my news to tell people?
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Who are you?
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Larsa can totally bash you one by one.
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But I'm being called a narcissist
because I talk about myself too much. I
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thought we were here to talk about our
problem as friends.
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I just want to thank you all for
participating today.
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I think the exercises will be positive
in the end. And you did a great job.
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Thank you. Thank you.
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Thank you.
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Focus, focus, TikToker.
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I'll be right back.
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As I'm having my issues with Julia, all
I wanted to have is someone.
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To say, you know what, I have empathy,
and let me help you make it right with
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the other. I need to find a way to rise
above it.
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Someone's got to rise above it. So I'm
going to apply it to other people and
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say, hey, guys, I want you guys just to
be better. Where are you coming from?
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You're coming from a place of peace,
right?
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Okay, peace. Peace?
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Okay, peace. One second, one second.
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Okay, Joanna, can you stand up?
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Please? Okay.
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Just the two of you, and listen to each
other.
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Listen.
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I wasn't trying to be with you today. I
know you and I have to talk. This has
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been going on since summer.
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No, we're not.
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I'm a moderator.
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I feel like I've been a really good
friend to you.
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I'll put that in the book as well. I
know.
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I'm out of here. You've admitted that.
You've told everyone I have been a very
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good friend to you. Am I wrong?
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Am I wrong? Have I not been a good
friend to you?
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Not lately, no. Okay. Have I not been a
very good friend to you? Nope.
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Nope. Sorry.
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Mediating.
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I guess we'll leave the girls here. We
can get going. I know it's been a long
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day. I really thought when we were
making progress at your house, I really
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thought, I was like, we're going to be
fine.
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But you never spoke to me and said...
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Whatever your issues are, I'm sorry
you're going through this. I've got your
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back. It's all I ever wanted you to do.
All she wanted you to do is just say,
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hey, I've got your back.
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I honestly didn't want to come and have
a conversation at all with you at his
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birthday. But you did, and it hurt her.
So say sorry.
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The last thing Lisa and I need right now
is a referee. You were mad at me
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because Marcus took a selfie with Jodi.
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Don't let him win.
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Who does Gertie think she is, Dr. Phil?
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Let's just get together one -on -one.
We're not in this environment with a
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of people that have opinions and all
this stuff.
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100%. I just want to have a moment alone
with Lisa. I don't need Gertie or
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anyone else getting involved in our
conversation.
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We're going to figure out our issues.
We're going to solve our problems and
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figure out our issues, but it's not
going to be tonight. Come on. So much
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So much love.
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My work is done here.
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You're welcome, ladies.
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Clinical features of personality
disorders.
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Yes, according to the DSM -5, behavior
must be pervasive and
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inflexible. Are you inflexible, Bosky?
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Are you inflexible with your peeing on
my furniture?
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She loves this place so much.
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Oh, oh, oh. Oh, she's ready. She
freaking loves you.
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Try again, try again. A little warm up.
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Stay active so you can go to sleep in
two hours.
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Oh, I love this. How many squats is this
equivalent to? So this is equivalent to
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20 ,000 squats.
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20 ,000 squats.
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Yeah, turn it all the way up. All right.
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Ooh.
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Can someone pass me a donut?
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Not for you, baby boy.
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No. Back off.
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Move your butt.
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Move your butt.
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Hi.
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Welcome. How are things going?
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I'm slightly sleep deprived.
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I'm like saying hello to you in a
twilight zone. We are not yet official
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of Jackson and Lucas.
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The state needs to make sure that we are
meeting all the needs of the boys. So
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this is our main visit.
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Yeah. And we'll have one next month. So
we're adoptive parents on the way. Yes.
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We are only a few weeks away from
becoming the official parents. But
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like Martina and I, we are already their
parents from the day one. So I would
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love to know what has been the hardest
moment for you bringing the boys home.
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I forgot what the diaper situation is.
Oh, no.
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And it's, like, really funny.
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4 in the morning, 4 .30, he's calling
me. And then we have this deal with
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Martina. It's you tonight. It's you. Or
it's me. It's this and this.
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She gets up. I think now she wants to
bond with them more. She feels, you
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she's a second parent. And she loves
doing it. I like that. I just cannot.
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stop smiling because Martina is spoiling
the boys so much.
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They have this incredibly cute
relationship.
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Martina is good at everything. Of course
she would be a great mom.
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I'm a single mom who adopted boys.
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Where are you going to have the male
role model?
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Well, I'm very close with my brother
who's 12 years younger than me.
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And I FaceTime with him maybe like, I
don't know, three times a week. So they
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know my brother, but...
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In the beginning, like maybe 10 days
after we had them, we had some friends
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coming to the house, and the voice
froze.
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And that's one of the reasons why I
don't invite people to my house to see
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because I remember that reaction.
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They froze, and it reminded me about
changing homes. It's probably when they
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felt safe.
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Somebody came in.
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Think about it. They don't know, right?
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And they say, you're coming with me.
You're changing. Who can, even as an
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comprehend what that feels like?
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Oh, my God.
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I'm thinking of that making me feel sad.
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At times, I feel almost hopeless and
helpless. Like, I don't know what to do,
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how to help them. But I know it's just
time, patience, and love.
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But I feel now it's the time I can
introduce them outside to my friends.
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You are so nurturing and you have so
much nurture to give.
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And these boys need all of that.
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Thunder Stephanie, I think. Welcome,
welcome, welcome.
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Thank you so much.
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You want a glass of wine? You're getting
a margarita? Yeah. Okay, perfect.
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Three margaritas and one pinoir.
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Perfect.
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Bueno, espectacular. Que nos veamos otra
vez aquí en Miami.
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Y el huracán, Milton.
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Bueno, afortunadamente no nos hicieron
muchos daños. Papá, cuidado, se me
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But it was very scary.
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It was very scary.
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Anything that has to do with my parents
worries me. If they have the migraine, I
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worry. If a hurricane's coming, I'm
devastated.
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Oh, this is nice.
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How do you say? Thank you so much.
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I installed their nest and ring cameras
in their house and haven't told them
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that I can see them in their house.
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Is that weird? I think that might be
criminal.
468
00:26:10,010 --> 00:26:13,290
It's not criminal, right? If it's your
parents, what if they fall?
469
00:26:13,490 --> 00:26:14,269
I want to know.
470
00:26:14,270 --> 00:26:19,010
I'm turning 40 this year, and my parents
are going to be together.
471
00:26:21,270 --> 00:26:26,730
They are turning 50 years together.
472
00:26:27,210 --> 00:26:33,910
You guys are the best parents.
473
00:26:34,190 --> 00:26:36,370
I love you. I love you.
474
00:26:37,450 --> 00:26:41,470
When I decided to introduce my parents
to Masoud, I planned a dinner. My dad
475
00:26:41,470 --> 00:26:46,570
didn't say a word. He was shocked. He
was so close in age to my dad.
476
00:26:48,270 --> 00:26:53,990
And then the second time, they hit it
off. And ever since then, they FaceTime
477
00:26:53,990 --> 00:26:55,610
each other during work hours.
478
00:26:55,990 --> 00:26:58,410
And they always, always hang out.
479
00:26:58,830 --> 00:27:03,530
Masoud is a son my parents never had.
But that is if my dad had Masoud when he
480
00:27:03,530 --> 00:27:04,530
was one.
481
00:27:09,670 --> 00:27:12,310
She's tough as nail in the office.
482
00:27:12,550 --> 00:27:14,990
She does better job than I do.
483
00:27:15,430 --> 00:27:19,930
But I feel like a lot of what I am as a
businesswoman comes from my dad. It
484
00:27:19,930 --> 00:27:20,629
really does.
485
00:27:20,630 --> 00:27:22,410
I was literally raised like a boy.
486
00:27:23,710 --> 00:27:27,550
Learn to ride the bike.
487
00:27:27,890 --> 00:27:28,809
Don't cry.
488
00:27:28,810 --> 00:27:30,850
You can do it. You're not quitting.
489
00:27:31,090 --> 00:27:32,090
Keep going.
490
00:27:32,150 --> 00:27:34,690
And he told me weak people.
491
00:27:35,560 --> 00:27:36,640
will never survive.
492
00:27:38,800 --> 00:27:41,280
I'm not sensitive.
493
00:27:41,600 --> 00:27:46,680
My sisters, they are very, very
sensitive. A lot.
494
00:27:46,920 --> 00:27:47,359
A lot.
495
00:27:47,360 --> 00:27:51,300
My sister's tense relationship with my
parents had nothing to do with my
496
00:27:51,300 --> 00:27:55,200
with them. However, my fallout with them
made their relationship even worse.
497
00:27:55,900 --> 00:28:01,020
They can't talk for two minutes. It's
literally like war.
498
00:28:16,570 --> 00:28:22,650
I want to mend the relationship with my
sisters because I truly, truly miss
499
00:28:22,650 --> 00:28:28,170
them. The day my sisters signed the
employment papers at Shoma, it's almost
500
00:28:28,170 --> 00:28:32,010
if they signed our relationship away.
501
00:28:37,260 --> 00:28:38,260
No,
502
00:28:39,100 --> 00:28:44,100
I want to fix it. Okay. But it's very
hard. But one day, we will all be a
503
00:28:44,100 --> 00:28:45,100
complete family.
504
00:29:03,760 --> 00:29:07,100
I feel like my pants are wrinkled. Does
it look wrinkled? No.
505
00:29:09,280 --> 00:29:11,400
Hey. Hello. Hi. How are you?
506
00:29:11,680 --> 00:29:12,599
I'm Russell.
507
00:29:12,600 --> 00:29:13,379
Hello, hello.
508
00:29:13,380 --> 00:29:14,380
Hello.
509
00:29:15,760 --> 00:29:16,880
Bien? Bien.
510
00:29:17,220 --> 00:29:18,220
Oh, my goodness.
511
00:29:18,260 --> 00:29:19,260
Nice meeting you.
512
00:29:19,560 --> 00:29:20,720
It's very cozy.
513
00:29:21,020 --> 00:29:22,360
Thank you. Have a seat.
514
00:29:22,860 --> 00:29:24,580
Oh, my gosh. That's mean.
515
00:29:24,840 --> 00:29:27,100
Either one of you have been in couples
therapy before?
516
00:29:27,460 --> 00:29:29,060
No, not at all. This is a first.
517
00:29:29,800 --> 00:29:33,700
First for everything here. Talk to me
about how y 'all met.
518
00:29:34,000 --> 00:29:37,220
So we were in high school, 10th grade.
Okay.
519
00:29:37,440 --> 00:29:40,040
We met. She fell in love with me at that
point.
520
00:29:40,420 --> 00:29:41,840
And then, right?
521
00:29:42,140 --> 00:29:42,899
That's it.
522
00:29:42,900 --> 00:29:43,900
Boy, bye.
523
00:29:44,100 --> 00:29:47,440
Okay. So fast forward, you're married.
Yes.
524
00:29:48,020 --> 00:29:49,020
Two sons.
525
00:29:49,220 --> 00:29:50,220
Yep. Okay.
526
00:29:50,460 --> 00:29:51,860
And then I got cancer.
527
00:29:53,840 --> 00:29:57,940
It's been over a year and a half since
my cancer diagnosis, and now we have to
528
00:29:57,940 --> 00:30:04,600
live with the post -cancer trauma. You
have had a major disruption in your
529
00:30:04,600 --> 00:30:08,480
marriage. We went through the cancer
together, and Russell was by myself
530
00:30:08,480 --> 00:30:12,100
the whole thing. But I don't want him to
see me as, like, my caretaker, because
531
00:30:12,100 --> 00:30:16,940
we need to now turn the page and move
forward as to being a couple again.
532
00:30:17,200 --> 00:30:21,080
So, Russell, I want to hear your wife,
this phenomenal woman.
533
00:30:21,610 --> 00:30:24,030
in a very vulnerable time of her life.
534
00:30:24,870 --> 00:30:27,510
Talk to me about what that was doing to
you.
535
00:30:32,330 --> 00:30:33,790
That was hard.
536
00:30:35,310 --> 00:30:36,310
OK.
537
00:30:42,130 --> 00:30:43,130
Life.
538
00:30:44,270 --> 00:30:45,270
Love me.
539
00:30:46,210 --> 00:30:47,850
Be strong, OK?
540
00:30:48,670 --> 00:30:49,730
Everything is OK.
541
00:30:50,030 --> 00:30:53,780
OK. You know, when I was at my lowest,
like, when I was just, like, in the bed,
542
00:30:53,840 --> 00:30:57,820
like, just wanted to, I actually told
him I wanted to get, like, I didn't want
543
00:30:57,820 --> 00:31:01,000
any more chemo. I don't care what
happens. Maybe it's my time to go.
544
00:31:05,360 --> 00:31:06,360
Take a moment.
545
00:31:07,540 --> 00:31:08,540
Breathe.
546
00:31:11,240 --> 00:31:18,220
And there was one time that I did that,
and he said, you cannot, you
547
00:31:18,220 --> 00:31:20,280
can't do this to me and the kids.
548
00:31:20,750 --> 00:31:25,070
And then he said, I need you.
549
00:31:25,970 --> 00:31:30,190
Then I just fought, completely switched
it off and never talked about it again.
550
00:31:30,510 --> 00:31:37,410
You see someone that's so powerful, has
so much energy, has so
551
00:31:37,410 --> 00:31:42,430
much life, shut down for, you know, a
time.
552
00:31:42,630 --> 00:31:45,050
You know, luckily we're able to...
553
00:31:45,290 --> 00:31:49,790
get over that, but sometimes she feels
self -conscious.
554
00:31:50,030 --> 00:31:54,410
He doesn't play into the emotional side
that I need him to play into so that I
555
00:31:54,410 --> 00:31:56,910
don't feel like a patient.
556
00:31:57,150 --> 00:32:02,850
Okay. So, Russell, for you, what do we
need to do to turn off that first
557
00:32:02,850 --> 00:32:09,790
responder? Well, I feel like we're
getting to
558
00:32:09,790 --> 00:32:13,830
that point where I've turned it off,
that aspect.
559
00:32:14,430 --> 00:32:18,750
You know, we're going through these ups
and downs, but, you know, you joke about
560
00:32:18,750 --> 00:32:22,590
it. You always say I'm traumatized. I'm
not traumatized.
561
00:32:22,830 --> 00:32:25,050
I'm amazed. I'm proud of you.
562
00:32:25,550 --> 00:32:27,570
I'm like, that's my wife.
563
00:32:27,950 --> 00:32:28,950
My God.
564
00:32:29,090 --> 00:32:33,770
Wow. Thank you, thank you, thank you,
thank you. I never heard you say it like
565
00:32:33,770 --> 00:32:34,689
this at all.
566
00:32:34,690 --> 00:32:39,590
Wow. I would encourage you both, since
this is your first time in therapy,
567
00:32:39,850 --> 00:32:41,370
consider individual.
568
00:32:42,040 --> 00:32:47,140
I've always wanted her to go on her own
because she has issues in the past, like
569
00:32:47,140 --> 00:32:51,800
traumatic events that pop up all the
time.
570
00:32:52,020 --> 00:32:57,440
The way I came to this country, you
know, there's a sense of isolation and
571
00:32:57,440 --> 00:33:01,820
abandonment. I'm one of seven kids, and
then my father decides to come to Miami
572
00:33:01,820 --> 00:33:06,100
to start with the church career. So I
came here at the age of nine.
573
00:33:06,740 --> 00:33:08,380
He took only me and my brother.
574
00:33:08,910 --> 00:33:11,010
All the other siblings got to stay in
France.
575
00:33:11,210 --> 00:33:15,410
When I get triggered when somebody,
like, excludes me from something in a
576
00:33:15,410 --> 00:33:19,450
way. Let me tell you what happened on
the cruise. Julia clearly used me as a
577
00:33:19,450 --> 00:33:20,249
seat filler.
578
00:33:20,250 --> 00:33:23,390
When I brought that up, I said, why
didn't you have her sit with you for
579
00:33:24,010 --> 00:33:29,470
And she said, because Sandy had given
the seat to somebody else when she
580
00:33:29,470 --> 00:33:31,050
realized Martina wasn't coming.
581
00:33:31,250 --> 00:33:34,390
Who would say, no, you can't bring her
when she knows me?
582
00:33:34,810 --> 00:33:36,290
I get triggered by...
583
00:33:36,719 --> 00:33:41,140
My new little thing. To be brought to
the U .S., not speaking English, dropped
584
00:33:41,140 --> 00:33:46,620
off at some cousin's house and told
we'll be right back. We're going to get
585
00:33:46,620 --> 00:33:50,760
other siblings. We'll be back. And not
seeing my parents for three months. I
586
00:33:50,760 --> 00:33:53,960
no control. And I think that could maybe
be the reason why.
587
00:33:55,220 --> 00:33:56,220
Wow.
588
00:33:56,460 --> 00:33:59,400
That could maybe be the reason why I am
the way I am right now. Oh, my God.
589
00:34:00,760 --> 00:34:02,400
It's part of the traumatic experience.
590
00:34:03,280 --> 00:34:06,560
I would highly encourage that you speak
to your own therapist.
591
00:34:21,920 --> 00:34:23,020
Welcome. Hi.
592
00:34:23,280 --> 00:34:25,440
Hi. What's going on? How are you?
593
00:34:25,679 --> 00:34:26,679
I'm good. How are you?
594
00:34:26,900 --> 00:34:27,900
I'm okay.
595
00:34:28,060 --> 00:34:29,060
Thank you.
596
00:34:31,389 --> 00:34:33,530
I feel like we color coordinated
neutral.
597
00:34:34,050 --> 00:34:35,449
Oh, does that mean it's a good sign?
598
00:34:35,730 --> 00:34:40,710
I hope so. There's no reason why Lisa
and I should have been fighting for this
599
00:34:40,710 --> 00:34:45,889
long. Like, we were best friends. Can I
do Casamigos Reposado Soda? I'll do the
600
00:34:45,889 --> 00:34:51,730
same. Same one. I'm hoping that Lisa
comes today with an open mind and heart
601
00:34:51,730 --> 00:34:53,530
accepts some responsibility.
602
00:34:54,670 --> 00:34:56,210
So, yeah.
603
00:34:57,000 --> 00:34:58,000
Excuse me, ladies.
604
00:34:58,260 --> 00:35:01,100
Thank you. Thank you so much.
605
00:35:01,300 --> 00:35:02,620
Thank you. Thank you, ladies.
606
00:35:03,560 --> 00:35:07,660
I wasn't actually looking forward to
this. So we're not?
607
00:35:07,880 --> 00:35:11,480
No. With Larissa, I need to figure out
where her mind is at.
608
00:35:12,340 --> 00:35:18,760
Either resolve our issues or just be
done with her. How long can it be before
609
00:35:18,760 --> 00:35:20,240
we, like, sit down? Like, honestly.
610
00:35:20,660 --> 00:35:21,920
There's a lot. There's a lot.
611
00:35:22,750 --> 00:35:27,270
You know, we've been having these crazy
issues since summer.
612
00:35:28,150 --> 00:35:31,170
I've never been thrown out of anyone's
house. The whole world knows what you
613
00:35:31,170 --> 00:35:32,170
are. Get out.
614
00:35:32,510 --> 00:35:33,510
Loser. Get out.
615
00:35:33,790 --> 00:35:36,030
And I've never been swore at like that
in my life.
616
00:35:36,730 --> 00:35:40,510
Jodi and I left a real party for your
fake breakup. You're a fake bitch to say
617
00:35:40,510 --> 00:35:44,810
that. Things kind of like snowballed
after that. I was really hurt when I
618
00:35:44,810 --> 00:35:48,950
Milan, just so you know. The last night
of Milan, Jodi is so crazy.
619
00:35:49,370 --> 00:35:51,810
She doesn't want us to talk anymore,
yelling over us.
620
00:35:52,170 --> 00:35:55,030
You got heated because of Marcus. It's a
touchy subject.
621
00:35:55,310 --> 00:35:58,810
No, he said to me, you're the one that
had the paparazzi take the photo of him
622
00:35:58,810 --> 00:36:00,450
in the south of France. And I said, me?
623
00:36:00,970 --> 00:36:01,970
What am I, the CIA?
624
00:36:02,010 --> 00:36:05,090
And that's what started it all. Well,
the paparazzi guy told us that.
625
00:36:05,450 --> 00:36:06,450
Okay, well, you're foolish.
626
00:36:09,950 --> 00:36:13,070
Why are you saying I'm foolish? Okay,
that's not what happened. Your boyfriend
627
00:36:13,070 --> 00:36:16,950
lied. I don't want to, like, escalate.
I'm trying to de -escalate. Okay, I'm
628
00:36:16,950 --> 00:36:17,950
just a better friend.
629
00:36:20,360 --> 00:36:24,260
You hear yourself. Yeah, you're running
low on friends. I'm the only friend that
630
00:36:24,260 --> 00:36:27,600
literally would take time to meet you
for lunch. You change friends like I
631
00:36:27,600 --> 00:36:28,538
change underwear.
632
00:36:28,540 --> 00:36:32,200
You need to learn how to be a better
friend. You be a better friend. I'm not
633
00:36:32,200 --> 00:36:35,340
only one because you saw when you got
all the red flags. Oh, right.
634
00:36:35,820 --> 00:36:38,100
Constantly talking about themselves.
635
00:36:38,780 --> 00:36:39,759
Sorry, monkey.
636
00:36:39,760 --> 00:36:40,760
I think Lisa, yeah.
637
00:36:41,300 --> 00:36:42,300
Lisa.
638
00:36:42,820 --> 00:36:44,140
Quick to take offense.
639
00:36:44,600 --> 00:36:46,240
Lisa is quick to take offense.
640
00:36:46,700 --> 00:36:47,700
Lisa.
641
00:36:47,940 --> 00:36:50,540
Lisa. Playing the victim.
642
00:36:50,760 --> 00:36:51,940
Lisa. Lisa.
643
00:36:52,920 --> 00:36:54,980
Lisa. Oh, boy.
644
00:36:55,220 --> 00:36:58,980
Do I regret putting all those flags in
Lisa's face?
645
00:36:59,240 --> 00:37:06,120
No. Do I regret making her feel bad?
Yes, I do. That was a complete
646
00:37:06,120 --> 00:37:07,140
dog pile.
647
00:37:07,460 --> 00:37:08,460
You're a narcissist.
648
00:37:08,840 --> 00:37:10,720
I'm a narcissist. You're a narcissist.
649
00:37:11,080 --> 00:37:14,760
Okay, everyone is against you. All the
girls in our group. This is the truth.
650
00:37:14,860 --> 00:37:16,560
Why do you have a hard time dealing with
the truth?
651
00:37:18,700 --> 00:37:20,640
You have a hard time dealing with the
truth.
652
00:37:21,220 --> 00:37:22,220
Okay.
653
00:37:23,600 --> 00:37:25,160
We're not getting anywhere with this.
654
00:37:33,300 --> 00:37:34,300
Okay.
655
00:37:40,400 --> 00:37:44,060
Everyone is against you. All the girls
in our group. This is the truth. Why do
656
00:37:44,060 --> 00:37:45,360
you have a hard time dealing with the
truth?
657
00:37:45,940 --> 00:37:46,940
Okay.
658
00:37:48,680 --> 00:37:50,220
We're not getting anywhere with this.
659
00:37:56,580 --> 00:37:59,300
I know,
660
00:38:02,800 --> 00:38:07,220
but it's really gross that she's saying
that no one is my friend and everyone
661
00:38:07,220 --> 00:38:09,960
thinks I'm terrible. I know. I
662
00:38:09,960 --> 00:38:15,900
don't want to believe that.
663
00:38:18,570 --> 00:38:25,170
so terrible any african -american or
hispanic that votes for kamala you gotta
664
00:38:25,170 --> 00:38:30,070
have your headaches i remember saying
this she's so unaligned and she's always
665
00:38:30,070 --> 00:38:35,910
reflecting always reflecting and making
about uh like something else and it's
666
00:38:35,910 --> 00:38:42,130
about me and her sorry
667
00:38:48,490 --> 00:38:53,090
You know how it appears when I have
everybody piling up? I just left my dad.
668
00:38:53,370 --> 00:38:57,870
I mean, it's just so mean and hurtful to
think, like, this group of girls, like,
669
00:38:57,910 --> 00:39:02,810
what Lauren's saying is true, that no
one likes me. Like, it's so mean.
670
00:39:07,990 --> 00:39:11,770
And she's calling me a narcissist. It's
messed up. Hi, Mom. Hi.
671
00:39:12,070 --> 00:39:13,290
I'm sorry. I'm really loud.
672
00:39:13,630 --> 00:39:14,488
Oh, I'm sorry.
673
00:39:14,490 --> 00:39:17,710
Oh, yeah, sure, sure. Thank you so much.
I'm sorry about that.
674
00:39:18,380 --> 00:39:19,380
Sorry. Yeah.
675
00:39:19,560 --> 00:39:24,280
But I just want you to go out there and
tell her, we're not talking about any of
676
00:39:24,280 --> 00:39:28,640
the girls right now. This is between you
and I. Okay, please, hold it yourself
677
00:39:28,640 --> 00:39:34,700
and go out there and do it. I am to the
point, I'm like, it's my last chair.
678
00:39:34,940 --> 00:39:36,580
These girls are going to, like, fix it.
679
00:39:36,800 --> 00:39:37,800
So, hasta cuando?
680
00:39:37,960 --> 00:39:42,720
It's like, I'm just, like, tired of it.
I don't, I don't know. I don't even know
681
00:39:42,720 --> 00:39:44,400
what to say. Like, I'm really hurt.
682
00:39:45,060 --> 00:39:46,740
And I think maybe you wanted that.
683
00:39:46,960 --> 00:39:50,660
How am I trying to hurt you by telling
you to be a better friend? What have I
684
00:39:50,660 --> 00:39:54,420
done to you besides be there for you,
stay up with you all night whenever we
685
00:39:54,420 --> 00:39:57,540
travel? You can call me at any time. I
always answer.
686
00:39:57,760 --> 00:40:02,660
From all the stories, I was looking for
you to be a better friend to me. That's
687
00:40:02,660 --> 00:40:06,800
all. That's where this all stemmed from.
I love you. I'm sorry I came to Jodi's
688
00:40:06,800 --> 00:40:08,040
party and called you a bitch.
689
00:40:08,540 --> 00:40:12,480
I'm sorry. Sorry you lost your dad and
felt like I wasn't there for you the way
690
00:40:12,480 --> 00:40:15,820
maybe you feel like I should have been.
Can you accept some responsibility in
691
00:40:15,820 --> 00:40:16,738
some of this, too?
692
00:40:16,740 --> 00:40:21,740
Yeah, in hindsight, if I would have
known all of the stuff that was
693
00:40:21,740 --> 00:40:25,580
and I would have known your true
emotions and your feelings, we wouldn't
694
00:40:25,580 --> 00:40:30,400
today. So I'm sorry for that, that I
didn't know, but I really just didn't
695
00:40:30,480 --> 00:40:31,480
I didn't know.
696
00:40:31,870 --> 00:40:35,870
And I wish that I could, like, sometimes
pull it out of you, like, to get your
697
00:40:35,870 --> 00:40:40,370
feelings, to get how you feel. But you
have this tough exterior, and it's hard
698
00:40:40,370 --> 00:40:43,070
to, like, get in there, you know? It's
hard to, like... No, I get it.
699
00:40:44,670 --> 00:40:49,070
I think we both have to do a better job
of, like, communicating and, like,
700
00:40:49,850 --> 00:40:54,090
picking up the phone and not having
things go on as long as this situation
701
00:40:54,090 --> 00:40:57,030
lasted. It's gone on forever. I hate it.
I don't like having conflicts.
702
00:40:57,370 --> 00:41:00,330
You should always be able to call your
friends and know that your friends have
703
00:41:00,330 --> 00:41:01,330
your back.
704
00:41:01,610 --> 00:41:02,610
I'll always have your back.
705
00:41:04,730 --> 00:41:07,210
I know deep down we have love for each
other.
706
00:41:07,550 --> 00:41:10,750
Larissa is really there for me, and she
would always take my phone calls and
707
00:41:10,750 --> 00:41:14,810
listen to me. And, like, going out and
just we have mutual friends.
708
00:41:15,110 --> 00:41:18,710
I would give anything to go back to
that. I don't want to be fighting with
709
00:41:18,950 --> 00:41:22,910
I literally looked at our Instagram, our
photos, and I was like, some of my best
710
00:41:22,910 --> 00:41:23,950
pictures are with you.
711
00:41:24,530 --> 00:41:27,330
So I was like, we've had so many fun
times and fun memories.
712
00:41:28,620 --> 00:41:31,600
I love you, and if we have problems,
Lisa, we can't let it go this long.
713
00:41:31,840 --> 00:41:35,600
I do miss hanging out with Lisa. We used
to laugh about the silliest things
714
00:41:35,600 --> 00:41:39,120
together. You know, I don't want to be
in the same room with Lisa where I'm
715
00:41:39,120 --> 00:41:42,820
feeling something in the pit of my
stomach instead of being super excited
716
00:41:42,820 --> 00:41:43,860
her like I used to be.
717
00:41:44,240 --> 00:41:45,580
Can we be best friends again?
718
00:41:46,040 --> 00:41:47,900
I don't know. We need, like, a couple of
therapies.
719
00:41:48,780 --> 00:41:49,780
You know?
720
00:41:50,160 --> 00:41:51,160
I think we should do that.
721
00:41:53,320 --> 00:41:56,400
Okay, well, I don't want to fight with
you. I love you. I know, like, you go
722
00:41:56,400 --> 00:41:58,880
through things. I'm going through
things. I don't want to fight with you.
723
00:42:00,200 --> 00:42:01,200
I love you.
724
00:42:05,700 --> 00:42:08,080
Next time on The Real Housewives of
Maine.
725
00:42:08,280 --> 00:42:10,800
Hold on, this necklace? I can smell
money, and that's money.
726
00:42:11,300 --> 00:42:13,920
I smell it, too. My husband smells
delicious.
727
00:42:15,240 --> 00:42:19,760
I'd like to shed some clarity on the
situation that has cast a cloud on my
728
00:42:19,760 --> 00:42:21,140
character. Oh, my God.
729
00:42:21,880 --> 00:42:22,880
What?
730
00:42:24,310 --> 00:42:25,310
Oh, my God.
731
00:42:25,470 --> 00:42:29,010
Maybe this is your norm because you're
married to a crazy guy. Please, my
732
00:42:29,010 --> 00:42:31,150
husband, out of it. You need to shut the
up.
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