All language subtitles for Married at First Sight (AU) - S12E13 - Episode 13.en

You're actually way too hot.
I'm actually not happy.

(LAUGHTER)

NARRATOR: 20 singles across
Australia...

Will you marry me?

..took the ultimate leap of faith.

MORENA: I think I've hit the jackpot
today. He's just divine.

JAMIE: The experts deserve
a bloody raise.

I'm just full of freaking,
like, love.

NARRATOR: During confessions week...

I hope you would have picked up
the phone.

..some bravely opened up.

I hope me telling you this doesn't
push you away

and it gives you a better
understanding of me as a person.

You didn't write
a letter at all?

No.

NARRATOR: While others struggled.

End of. That's it.
There's nothing else to it.

Don't "End of" me.

Don't "End of" me.
There's nothing more.

DAVE: Jesus!

NARRATOR: Intimacy week...
Pack up, boys!

..brought out both the best...

RHI: I could see myself
falling for Jeff.

TONY: That really felt nice

to just have that connection
with her there.

..and worst in our couples.

I made the mistake.
You've told me not to talk.

How hard is it to just be like,

"Hey, I made a mistake.
You're gorgeous." Like...

NARRATOR: And a fiery dinner party...

I'm not done with you, little boy.

No, no, listen, listen.

I will never settle for less,
ever! Ever!

..saw Adrian shut down Awhina
once again.

I am a mum and always looking
to the future.

Anyways, Jeff and Rhi, everyone.

(LAUGHTER)
Now, it's their turn!

He's being
really childish here

by going to the other end
of the table.

He's just showing he doesn't have
the maturity she's looking for.

NARRATOR: Tonight...

Adrian, what you're doing
is the problem

and I'm going to call you on it.

Awhina's opened her heart and you're
sitting here looking at the roof.

NARRATOR: The experts deliver
hard truths.

When you want to get things
off your chest, you point

and you get very much
in someone's face.

Your fight style can be
difficult to listen to.

How does that land for you?

NARRATOR: The benefits of intimacy
week will be on full display.

I'd like to thank you, Alessandra,

because I've got to say,
it was pretty spicy.

(LAUGHTER)

I feel safe, I feel secure,
I feel happy.

Like, tick, tick, tick.

Yes!

NARRATOR: Before...

Sierah, have you opened up
to anybody else in the group?

..Sierah's almighty bombshell.

Ah...

(DRAMATIC MUSIC)

BILLY: Sorry? What?

(DRAMATIC MUSIC)

(GRAND EXCITING MUSIC)

NARRATOR: It's the morning
of the second commitment ceremony...

Wow, this is really good.

Is it? You like it? Good.

It's going to be a very, very
interesting evening.

I wish Riles could come.

Riles!
He can.

..and Intimacy Week
is coming to an end.

(CHUCKLES) You look tired.

I am.
(LAUGHS)

I could sleep till Christmas.

(LAUGHS)

Me and Rhi are in a great place
at the moment.

Intimacy Week, I feel like
it's brought us closer together

and now I feel like we're cuddling,
holding hands,

a couple of little kisses
here and there.

We're having a great time
and we're moving

in, like, an awesome direction,
so I think we're in a good spot.

Ready to get up.

I'm not.
(LAUGHS)

NARRATOR: Last night's dinner party
has left the couples reeling

and this morning, Jamie and Dave

are still trying to process
the up and down nature

of Jacqui and Ryan's relationship.

So, another interesting evening
with Jacqui and Ryan.

Once again, I'm confused.

Yeah, because they're coming
into this

and being really, really united
and strong

but then it's just - it just
crumbles.

My Lady.

NARRATOR: Jacqui and Ryan entered
the dinner party as a united front...

What's happening, kids?

..and Jacqui surprised the group

by minimising Ryan's comments
about her.

What was one of the issues?

Was it Ryan saying
that you had crazy eyes?

I do have crazy eyes. I agree.

(LAUGHTER)

I brought my crazy eyes tonight.

NARRATOR: But the couple's
united front was short lived

when Jacqui brought up Ryan placing
her third in the photo ranking task.

I was triggered when he told me

I was not the most beautiful woman
in the world.

You guys have him

because I've had this argument
five times with you and I'm done.

Ryan said she had crazy eyes

in the same paragraph that he's
saying that she gives good (BLEEP).

It was a put-down comment.

And they say just, like,
such heavily weighted comments

which is just bizarre to me.

The way they speak to each other
is, like, just kind of unacceptable.

Oh, look, far out. When it comes
to Ryan and Jacqui,

I think they are both
freaking bonkers.

They're just both two nutcases
together.

So, I'm not surprised by anything
at this point with them two.

This morning, I woke up
to flowers from Ryan.

It's like really lovely
that he did that

and I've been asking for flowers
from Ryan for a very long time.

You'll be required to buy me flowers
at least once a month.

You buying me flowers today

made me feel like
the luckiest girl in the world.

As a man, I know how to treat
a woman

and really felt like the right time
to surprise her.

Very nice of you.

Very nice.

JAMIE: They're the only couple here
that can tear into each other

and then go cuddle each other
that night.

Would you want to trade me
for any other woman?

No.
Exactly.

That's how I want to feel.

They are the only two people
that understand each other.

From an outsider perspective,
from a rational perspective,

from a sanity perspective,
I can't make sense of it,

but you know what,
it works for them.

I can see them working.

I can see them freaking work.

They will probably end up running
off having children together.

Oh, god. No.
(LAUGHS)

Please no.

Happy wife, happy life.

NARRATOR: Jacqui may have moved on
from last night, but Awhina hasn't.

After sharing her concerns about
her future with husband, Adrian,

she was shut down by him
in front of the group.

All I'm trying to say is I am a mum,
I'm always looking to the future,

and sometimes I say things...
Anyway, Jeff and Rhi, everyone.

(LAUGHTER)

BILLY: Oh, don't worry!
Now, it's their turn!

No, no, no. It's all good.

Do not close me off like that.

How do you think the dinner party
went last night?

Could have went better.

Hmm? Why?

I didn't shut you down.

You said what you felt
you needed to say

and then you shut me down.

I said to everyone,
I said what you said.

You redirected the conversation
to Rhi and Jeff...

..mid - while I was
mid-conversating,

you were like, "Enough about us.
Rhi and Jeff." You did that.

Yeah.

Feeling frustrated.

Because I'm trying to find my voice
in this relationship

and it's hard to have one when
you're constantly feeling shut down.

When I try address my
concerns to you,

it does feel like you put me down,
it does feel like you deflect.

I need to have an outlet,
I need to talk to people,

I need to understand.

How come I feel like Adrian
doesn't show up for me?

When I'm cleaning or doing things

and I'm picking up your things,
that's me saying I care about you.

This is my way of showing up
for someone.

I know everyone expr...

But Adrian, it's not that simple.
All these very real...

I do, Adrian. It's caring
about your partner,

it's thinking about them,

it's appreciating
these little acts of service.

If you're not showing up for me,
how am I supposed to see

a long-term future for us

or how am I going to see
that we are compatible?

I asked her, "How do I show up
for you?"

"What does that physically
look like?"

If I was to ask Adrian

how he shows up for me...
Why are you talking so loud?

Stop talking at me.

I feel like you keep coming back
to the house things.

But I asked her, "Tell me, are there
examples how I can show up?"

And I feel like I haven't got
a proper answer

to what that looks like.

You honestly haven't given me
any reassurances

that we could work or be compatible
outside this experiment.

When there's an angry state
between us

or, you know, my very real child,
my very real lifestyle,

which is very different to yours,

how are we supposed to make it work
outside

when we can't even make it work
inside?

I feel like Adrian is showing
me more every day

how he shows up for a partner

and I'm going,
"That's not enough for me."

I don't want to just settle.

Because I'm not settling
for not just me,

I'm not just settling for my son,

like, I want to have the best
role model,

I want to have someone that shows up
every day,

and if you're not doing
little things for me,

am I wasting my time being here?

NARRATOR: While Awhina and Adrian
are at a standstill...

..down the hall, there's been
a major development

in Sierah and Billy's relationship.

How are you after last night?

So, me and Sierah
was intimate last night.

We had sex.

So, this is a massive breakthrough
for me and Sierah

because we haven't had sex
since the honeymoon

and it just happened naturally.

Thanks.

But this morning, I woke up and
there was a bit of an awkwardness.

Well...

Well, well, well.

Um...

It will be interesting to see
what the experts take

on the dinner party was.

To hear what they say
about the different couples

and their take on it, yeah,
will be...

I'm intrigued.

Hmm.

I don't know, I'm feeling like
some energy from Sierah

that's standoffish.

And I just don't understand why

because she's wanted more physical
touch

and we now obviously have connected
on that level,

so it's confusing me.

Um...

Don't even know what I'm wearing
tonight actually.

Yeah, yeah.

Me and Sierah aren't really
connecting on the deeper level

that I've been craving
in that emotional connection.

(EXHALES)

It's great Nespresso.

But I know there's something
about her past

which she has not felt comfortable
with telling me yet.

She's been very closed off
about her past.

And I respect that,

but it would be nice

to kind of have
the full conversation about it

because that's when you find
a deeper connection.

It's going to be an interesting one.

Yeah. It sure is.

NARRATOR: With the second commitment
ceremony just hours away...

You look beautiful.
Thank you!

That's so nice of you.

..the couples are preparing
to face the experts...

It's going to be another
interesting night.

..and decide whether to stay
in the experiment

or leave their marriages for good.

TONY (SING-SONG): Morena!

You're nice and happy.

NARRATOR: But getting ready
is the last thing on Morena's mind,

as she's still feeling resentful
towards Tony

about last night's dinner party.

What's going on?

I know we had last night
last night.

That table's hard.

You didn't have a hard night, I did.

Since the beginning, you two have
literally been so disconnected,

you do everything separate.
Because he goes home every weekend.

You keep fighting all the time.

Does your girl go home
every weekend?

Do you go home every weekend?

Does anyone here go home
every weekend?

You hurt me so much, Tony.

You didn't stand up for me at all.

The whole table was against me.

There's 14 people at that table.
They weren't against you, Morena.

13...
All they asked you was a question.

You take it on the wrong way.
No, they didn't. No.

Everyone was against me,
everyone else saw it.

Relax.

I know you're upset, I know I let
you down a little bit last night.

But I apologise.

I needed you to stand up last night
and say that

in front of the whole table
but you didn't.

But sometimes you gotta listen, too,
Morena.

Just stop being so serious
and join their conversation

instead of giving them the Morena.

But I'm not an actress.
I know. I know that.

I can be the happiest person
in the world...

That's where I've lost you.
..when you can treat me

the way I expect to be treated
when there's no one around.

That's what counts to me.

I'm not an actress.

I'm sorry, Tony. I'm not.

Alright.

Sometimes you've just got to calm
down and enjoy the ride, man.

Like, talk with people
with happiness.

Everything's kind of always so
dramatic with you when you talk.

Just...
But you understand why?

You go and get your reset
every weekend.

And for me, it's just manifesting
'cause I'm on my own.

You've dumped me every weekend.
I don't dump you.

With no - I don't know anyone
in Sydney.

Morena, sometimes - I spend
a lot of time here

and we're been doing this a lot.

I need Tony time.

That's how I've been,
I've always been like that.

But you're here for me.
No, you're here for me.

There'll be times when we're going
to be spending more time together.

There will be days.

Let's see.

(CLEARS THROAT)

Let's see, huh?

(DRAMATIC MUSIC)

Hey, Tony!

MEL: Hello, gentlemen.

Good evening. Welcome, welcome.

(DRAMATIC MUSIC)

Hi!
Hello, ladies.

MEL: Hello, ladies. Come on in.

(DRAMATIC MUSIC)

(TENSE SOUNDTRACK)

I should have come with Tony.
We're matching.

(LAUGHTER)

Well, hello, everyone,

and welcome to your second
commitment ceremony.

I just want to thank everyone

for taking on Intimacy Week
with such passion

and I hope that you all learned
something

about yourselves and your partners

to help really nourish
these relationships.

Now, as we saw last night
at the dinner party...

..there was a lot of drama.

People got certain things
off their chests.

But obviously, when it comes
to a commitment ceremony,

we go deeper.

So, we want you to bring everything
to the couch tonight.

Well, tonight, our first couple
up on the couch...

Tony and Morena.

Oopa!

(SMATTERING OF APPLAUSE)

Ooh.

Hi, guys. How are you?

Well, we are well.

But we are concerned
about how you two are doing.

Of course, we were there, watching
the dinner party last night

and saw that there was a lot going
on, particularly for you, Morena.

A lot of emotion, so we thought,
let's kick off with you.

Thank you.

I came into this experiment
not to be on my own.

I came into this experiment

to bond...

..with the person you've matched me
up with.

Yeah.

I haven't had that chance.

He's not around.

I feel - I'm really sad.

It feels really lonely.

I didn't come on this experiment
to feel alone.

And when he is around,

obligation, he does all the tasks
'cause he has to.

But the minute the obligation
is done, Tony needs Tony time.

Well, it is me. I do do that.

Sometimes, you just - I just need
to get away

and have Tony time.

And I don't mean to be rude about it
or hurt you in any way.

Tony time in the morning,
Tony time at night...

..and in the weekend, Tony time.

Tony, why do you think you need
Tony time?

It's just how I am.
Like, it's just how I am, like...

Is that an excuse?
Not really. It's just how I am.

That sounds like,
"It's just how I am."

No, but that's just how I am.

I'll sweep everything
under the table.

But that's not going to work
in a relationship.

This needs to be Tony 2.0.

Because if you always do
what you've always done...

It's not gonna work.

..you're going to get
what you've always got.

It's time to change.

And I'm up for that. That's why...

OK.
That's why I'm here.

So, when Tony leaves...

..where does he go?

He's Houdini.

(CHUCKLES)

(MURMURED LAUGHTER)

(TENSE SOUNDTRACK)

You've already given me a
hard time last night, guys. Really?

Focus here, Morena.

They are talking to you.
No.

I don't appreciate them laughing.

No, I don't appreciate
them laughing.

They're beautiful people. You don't
need to get them involved.

I'm not laughing.
I didn't say, I didn't say...

This is where
you've got to listen to.

To these professionals here.
Hang on, hang on.

The most beautiful people.
I didn't say they're not beautiful.

This is what I have a problem with.

This is why I do Houdinis.

(DRAMATIC MUSIC)

Focus here, Morena.
They're talking to you.

No, I don't appreciate
them laughing.

This is what I get.

No, I don't appreciate them
laughing.

They're beautiful people.
I'm not laughing.

Didn't say they're not beautiful.
This is where I have the problem.

This is why I do Houdini.

Billy, why is it that you're
laughing at that?

Because Houdini.

We just thought
it was a funny comment.

Morena, we're not laughing at you,
it's just you made a joke.

The word just... The word was funny,
that's all it is.

OK.

We honestly thought
she was making a joke.

Can I add to that?

Last night, you only ever heard
the negative.

You felt attacked the whole time.

Is that true, Morena?

Do you only hear the negatives,
that you're on the defensive?

Or do you actually see
the positives as well?

Well, I didn't see any positives
last night.

OK.

I saw there was 14 people
at a table and 13 were against me.

That's a big call.
I don't know.

Morena, I have supported you

and I have listened to both of you,

and I feel like I have expressed,

like, I've validated
your feelings over and over again.

To say that there's 13 people
against you, that really offends me.

That's how I felt.

MEL: Morena, it's so important,

in order to get over some hurdles
like this early in a relationship,

to be able to self-reflect,

look at yourself
and your own behaviour,

and take accountability.

Yeah.
I think, Tony,

you've started showing
some of that.

So, I'm asking you,
what are some of the things

that you may have said or done
in this relationship

that have been bad
for the relationship?

Um...

I actually don't know.

I'm being me.

Well, one of the reasons
why we sit here

is because we need to hold
a mirror up.

Now, we know that the both of you
need to take some accountability.

Tony, a very key question.

How have you contributed
to this relationship not working?

It is a lot for me. You know, like,
I do take a lot of that blame,

like, 'cause she's right.
I disappear.

Let me put it another way.

If you were giving a percentage

of who's to blame
for your relationship issues,

what is the breakdown?

I think...

I think probably 50-50, man.

50-50?

For you, Morena?

What is the breakdown?

Well, he keeps going away, John.

It takes two.

So, what is Tony's percentage,
what's yours?

You know, at least a seven
or an eight.

So, he's 80% the problem,
and you're 20%? Just so I'm clear.

Yeah.

80% of the problems
in your relationship

is because of Tony.

Well, yeah.

That's how I feel. I'm so sorry.

I'm so sorry for how I feel.

(TENSE SOUNDTRACK)

But your 20% is what?

Talking. Being open.

How might you talk
that would push him away?

Think about it.

Oh, tone?

Tell me more.

I'm passionate.

Some might say passionate.

Others might say...

..abrasive.

OK.

What do you do when you're getting
things off your chest?

Well, hand actions.

What exactly do you do
with your hands?

I don't know,
I talk with my hands.

Well, I've watched you
over the dinner party

and one of the things
that I've noticed

is that when you want to get things
off your chest, you point.

And you get very much
in someone's face.

Has anyone ever told you that?

No. I didn't even actually realise
I did that.

This is why we're here.

Yeah.

So, the way in which you're talking,

the way in which you're getting
things across,

your communication style,
your fight style...

..can be difficult to listen to.

How does that land for you?

Well, clearly, I didn't realise

my gestures with my hands
were so strong.

Right.

But if that's what you see
and that's what I've done,

I don't even realise I do it.

Tony, do you feel that Morena's
intensity in her communication style

is too much for you?

It is, yeah. At times, it is, yeah.

Sometimes I just shut down
and just think to myself,

"Tony, just shut up
and let her talk."

'Cause, you know, I feel
like I've lost my voice.

Sometimes I just feel like just
packing up and getting out of here.

You know? That's when I disappear,
that's when I start taking off.

When Morena comes at you
with all the words,

you shut down and you walk away.

Yeah.
OK.

So, there's our pattern.

Morena, are you willing
to work on the relationship?

You know, there's hope.

But actions speak larger than words.

Yeah.

Morena, what have we got?
Stay or leave?

(TENSE SOUNDTRACK)

Ah!

(GASPS)
BILLY: Thought she would!

Morena, what's the story there?

I put a heart next to leave

'cause I came here for love.

And I came here
with such a full heart.

And I feel let down.

Tony, what have we got?
Stay or leave?

So, I'm going to stay,

but I put a reset button here.

Let's start again, Morena.

Let's reset, listen to what
they've said, and let's go for it.

Tomorrow's a different day.

Oh.

I'd like to make her happier,
which I've brought sad eyes to her.

Do you hear that?

I heard it.

And that's, and that's...

Fantastic.

Yeah.

Now, as you know, you two,

if one person says stay
and the other says leave,

then the couple remains
in the experiment for one more week

to work on seeing if they can
turn it around.

Morena, you have a chance here...

Yeah.

..to move forward with this guy.
Yep.

Tony needs to feel like,
"I can spend time with her...

"..and enjoy it...

"..and feel good enough."

'Cause what's coming out
of your mouth, I can translate it.

"You're not good enough."

If you want him to step up
and spend time with you,

you've got to embrace him.

What I would say though, Tony,
that's very, very clear...

..is that she is deprived of you
and she wants more.

But you're not giving it to her.

That's where I have to change.

There are no more Houdinis
in this experiment.

Overall, the two of you also need
to just have some fun. You know?

Be present with each other
and with the group.

You guys need to show us
that you can do it.

And we believe you can.

You can go back to the group.

Thank you.
(APPLAUSE)

You alright? You alright?

(CHUCKLES)

It took her a little while
for her to understand

where the experts are coming from,

like, just by, you know,
the gestures she does

and pointing the finger
and stuff like that.

BILLY: She's smiling!

But it's making sense to her,
so tonight was a breakthrough, yeah.

BILLY: It's a reset.
It's alright, Morena. Don't worry.

Reset, press the button.
You have to press the button.

Yeah, press the button, Morena.

Go on, Morena. Press it.

(CHEERING)

This week's a different week, so...

NARRATOR: Coming up,

Intimacy Week ignites passions.

I was blindfolded, you know,

and then she took the blindfolds
off and then...

..and then she just revealed
everything.

(LAUGHTER)

I've got to say,
it was pretty spicy.

(LAUGHTER)

NARRATOR: Also...
Strap yourselves in.

..Jacqui baffles the experts.

I'm not asking Ryan to be dishonest.

I'm asking him to find a way
to put me first.

S... I don't understand.

How does that work?

Our next couple up on the couch...

Jamie and Dave.

(APPLAUSE)

Hello, you guys.

So, Jamie, why don't you tell us,
how do you think things are going?

Things are going, like, yeah,
really, really well.

Like, every day, he shows up
for me, validates me.

Like, I'm a big personality
and not once does he try

to tell me to, like, stop,
tone me down.

Instead he goes, "I love that
you just - you're so confident."

And, like, he always celebrates
when I am vulnerable.

He just knows what I need.

I'm so icky all the time.

It's just, like, I feel safe,
I feel secure, I feel happy.

Like, tick, tick, tick.

Yes!

She doesn't even like to cuddle
and she fell asleep like here.

I want to just climb up in there.

We can't stop touching each other.

I don't like this. I used to be
a bad bitch, I promise.

(CHUCKLES)

And now, I'm just soft as.

To you, Dave. How are you feeling
about this woman?

Oh, she's bloody amazing.

I've shared things with her
inside out

and she's just zero judgement
at all. She's lovely.

She's not big and scary.

(LAUGHTER)

Like, the whole spark thing
is, like, bullshit,

like, how everyone left
'cause they didn't have a spark.

Like, we had, like, the attraction

but, like, the sparks came shooting
out of our arse

when we sat there and worked
every day on building a connection.

Great point.
Like, I got lost in the bullshit

where I'm, like, he likes
going hiking, I don't.

He likes... But like instead
we've got to know

each other's core values
and now we're like...

Yeah.
I'll be a dog mum.

Like, (BLEEP) it.

(LAUGHTER)

Well, this is absolutely gorgeous
and it's no coincidence

that the two of you
are sitting here so happy.

You have done the work, so absolute
kudos to the two of you.

But we do need to go to a decision.

Jamie, let's go with you first.

"Stay."

(APPLAUSE)

Wonderful.

I'm going to stay.

Oh, and a little smile.

(APPLAUSE)
Gorgeous.

Thank you so much, guys.

Thanks, guys. Thank you very much.

(APPLAUSE)
Well done, good stuff.

Our next couple up...

Carina and Paul.

Yeah!

(APPLAUSE)

Hi, guys.
How are you, guys?

Hey, you two.
We're well.

Hello.
Good to see you again.

I would like to thank you,
Alessandra,

for the intimacy week.

Because I've got to say,
it was pretty spicy.

(LAUGHTER)

Tell us about it.

I was blindfolded, you know,

she - I was walking
through the hall of the apartment,

thinking, what the hell
is going on?

(LAUGHTER)

And then she took the blindfolds
off and then...

..and then she just revealed
everything and then...

(LAUGHS)
"And then she revealed everything!"

(LAUGHTER)
"Everything."

I love that you're re-enacting
it for us.

The things we did. I mean,
I did not expect it at all.

It did not expect that at all,
like, at all.

Is that what I could hear
that night? Paul getting whipped.

(LAUGHTER)

When it comes to sex, you know,
like, normally Carina

and I am very dominant
and she's more submissive,

and obviously, she wanted
to reverse that, take control,

which honestly, I really
appreciated that, honestly.

(LAUGHTER)
It was...

I had to make it romantic.

But it was romantic.
'Cause I am... Yeah.

It was really romantic.

But I also came out
of my comfort zone.

I did something completely different
to what I've ever done.

To what you're normally used to.

We just really brang it. We owned
it, we just had fun with it,

we joked, we just made each other,

like, super comfortable.
We were comfortable.

What sort of feelings are you
having now for Carina?

Yeah, I actually adore her, yeah.

(TENDER SOUNDTRACK)

Adore? We like the word adore.

That's a very strong emotion, that.

We're not just physically connected,
we're emotionally connected.

Like, I actually look forward
to, you know,

seeing what life is going to be like
outside this experiment.

What about you, Carina?
How are you feeling for him?

I'm in awe.

Like, I'm so excited to wake up
in the morning

and then, like, yeah, just, like,
little things are making me so happy

and I'm, like, this is...

This is just like something
different.

I don't know how to explain it.

It's not like the physical aspect,
like, yeah, that's fantastic,

but it's more like
the emotional aspect.

And do you notice
that you're not really talking to us.

It's like we're not even here.

Am I talking to him?

(LAUGHTER)
I'm like so...

We may as well just up and leave.

Because you're just transfixed
on the big fella.

(LAUGHS)

We're going to go to the decision.

I don't think it's a surprise
for anyone.

I have "Stay, stay" with a heart.

Oh, double stay.

(APPLAUSE)

Alright, stay.

"Stay."
Yes, it is.

Again with a love heart
and two kisses.

Nice stuff.

Thank you.
Go back to the group

and have a great week, guys.
Thank you.

You too.
Ciao.

(APPLAUSE)

(CHEERING)

Our next couple up on the couch...

Jacqui and Ryan.

(APPLAUSE)

Strap yourselves in for a ride.

We'd like to get right into it.

We were observing last night

and there were a lot of voices
from the group

regarding your relationship.

Why do you think that is, Ryan?

During the intimacy workshop
that we had,

I made a couple of comments
which were crass

and ungentlemanly-like.

I fully admit to that
and I'm sorry again for that.

Yeah.
Thank you.

And my wife looks beautiful tonight.
Oh, thank you. Thank you.

Ryan, those were comments
that were disrespectful

and should not have been said.

And clearly, everybody in the group
when they heard them,

were coming to Jacqui's defence.

Your response wasn't to take
ownership of that

when you were being confronted
by the group.

Why was that?

I admit that they...

I was far too candid and they were
disrespectful within that format.

I fully admit to that,
and I'm sorry again for that.

OK?

I do appreciate you taking
accountability now,

and apologising on the couch
to Jacqui.

Thank you.

So, let's try to understand
where the two of you are at.

The part I'm trying to understand
and the reason I'm so confused

is the flip-flopping.

Yeah.

Last night, I observed
a variety of different couples...

..in different moments of the night.

Yeah.
Yeah, we get that. Yeah.

Because you started off being very
much a united front and a team.

At a certain point, that team seemed
to crumble down.

Then this morning, it was patched
back up together.

Yeah, I guess, like, I woke up
this morning

to two bouquets of flowers.

In that moment, I was like, wow,

I feel like finally the man
that I wanted has just showed up.

But like I realise I need to reset.

There's no point complaining
about the past,

like, ultimately I'm here to build
a positive future with Ryan.

And you got flowers.
And I got my flowers.

You're not machines. It's not simply
magically going to be fixed.

You not putting things under
the rug and ignoring them.

There's things that will need
to be processed...

..regardless of the fact

that you had chosen to hit
that reset button.

So, bear with me because I do want
to go back to confessions week

and the ranking challenge.

Because it was a big topic
last night at the dinner party

because after having supposedly
gotten over it

and put it aside and continued on,

it came up again in a strong way
for you, Jacqui.

I guess, having someone
not put you first,

that was a real challenge for me
because, yeah, like, I've never...

I've never been faced
with a situation

where I have to decide,
am I OK with being third?

If my husband put me third,
I would hold that to the day I die.

I wouldn't get over it.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Ryan, look, I think you have to make
your partner feel

like she is the most special person
everyday.

Yes, special. Special. Correct.

The word she used was beautiful.
Alright?

Take this opportunity
and make her feel like that, man.

Like, that's... This is - and that's
the bottom line.

Yeah, 'cause it's the most
important thing to me, right?

Like, I've said loyalty is my most
important value.

But, like, Ryan will put his own
beliefs and ego before the loyalty.

Jacqui, should Ryan have been
dishonest and put you first,

even though he did not think...

..you were the most attractive
of the photos?

I'm not asking Ryan to be dishonest.

I'm asking him to find a way
to put me first.

(FRANTIC MUSIC)

I'm not asking Ryan to be dishonest.

I'm asking him to find a way
to put me first.

S... I don't understand.

How does that work?

Well, I guess, I'd want him
to find a way to think that.

My question is how does that work,
Jacqui?

Putting me first.

(CHUCKLES) Like, physically putting
me first, yeah.

But it's not about me.

I think about my children.

So, I don't need the validation.

I... I'm happy with how I look.

I'm happy with who I am as a person.

But I don't necessarily want
to be in the energy of someone

who doesn't...

..do that for my children one day.

I just have to show up double-time.

I've got to be my own biggest
cheerleader

and that cheerleader for the people
around me,

and the children around me,

and maybe compensate, maybe,
for the blunt honesty

and explain that,
"He doesn't mean it that way.

"He does love you",
or, you know, like it's...

And that's the solution I've got.

I take your point that there are
times down the road,

a long way down the road,
we're three weeks in,

where those days will be critical
to everyone's self-esteem,

everyone's progress, and everyone's
general harmony in the household.

So, you're going to get
that validation from me.

Especially, my son,
when he comes around.

I'm sorry.

I do believe you.

Yeah?

OK, I'm confused.

Because...

..last night, Jacqui...
Yes.

..when you were in the throes
of, you know, emotion...

Yeah.
..you said,

"He's nothing I asked for."

And now, you're talking about
your future and your kids

and, you know, you're affectionate
on the couch

and being very gentle
with this person

who you've told me
is completely wrong for you.

So, I need you to help me understand
what the hell is going on.

Yeah, so, like, obviously,
I really care for Ryan.

But, like, if we're being honest,

I don't know if we would be
compatible in the real world.

Because we have different interests.

Like, you know, I don't want to
stop him from reading fiction books,

and I want to keep reading
non-fiction.

Um, you know, like, he wants...
Yeah, I didn't come

into this experiment
to change someone.

..to keep watching TV,
I want to watch documentaries.

But hold on. But hold on, Jacqui.
Jacqui.

We three see you as being
exceedingly compatible.

There's so... You guys, you guys
have so much in common.

You're getting caught in what's
not working instead of what is.

Jacqui.
Yeah.

Do you like Ryan?

Yes.

What do you like about him?

He's got a lot of patience
and tolerance.

Somehow he managed to survive a week
of me crying about everything.

He can stand up for himself,
he's very strong.

Um... He has really nice eyes.

And we've identified we both
love the driving range and tennis,

and we take cute photos together,
like, we do have a lot of...

We do have a nice collage going
in the shrine.

For somebody who's supposedly
incompatible,

your list is pretty extensive,
Jacqui.

Yeah.

And Ryan, I'm curious, you.
Do you like Jacqui?

Yes.

What is it about Jacqui
that you like?

She's done so much in her 29 years

that other people in general
wouldn't even get close to.

And she does her best to be
emotionally intelligent as well.

And I like your eyes
and I like your smile.

Thank you.

You're a very smart man.

I know.
(BOTH CHUCKLES)

Yeah.

OK. Are you feeling like
you're a united front again?

Yes.
Yeah, yeah.

I feel like we're on the same page.
Yes.

Yeah.
Yes.

I hope that's the case

because honestly, the flip-flopping
cannot be the vibe with you.

It's not going to work
if you continue flip-flopping

the way you have been.

Let's go to a decision. Ryan.

I'd love to stick around.

(APPLAUSE)

And you, Jacqui.

And "Stay."

Beautiful.
(APPLAUSE)

Thank you, guys.

NARRATOR: Still to come,

Awhina has doubts.

Do you feel like you want to be
in a relationship with Adrian?

Scary question.

Our next couple
on the couch tonight...

Rhi and Jeff.

Hey!

How's the suspense?

Hello.
Hi, guys.

Hi, guys.

Hello.
Hey, guys.

Welcome.

Thank you.
Thank you.

It's good to see you two.

It looks like things are going
pretty well.

Yeah, things are going amazing.

Like, Jeff is the most considerate
partner ever.

Like, I'll have a shower
and I'll come out

and he's made the bed,
put a load of washing on,

started making the coffee,
sandwiches are made,

like, he's steamed my dress.

Rhi, stop there, please!

(LAUGHTER)

That's a keeper, right there.
Yeah, yeah.

I just feel so confident
in who he is as a person...

..which - I don't know whether
that's because of our history.

Now, like, it just feels like
more and more comfortable.

You made reference to the fact

that the two of you have dated
in the past.

Do you feel closer to Jeff
this time round?

100%. We've said that.

Oh, it's worlds apart.

Ooh, that's strong.
Yeah, it's actually incredible.

What's different, Rhi?

I guess because
we were both freshly out

of, like, long-term relationships.

We were just enjoying each other's
company for what it was.

But yeah, this experiment, like,
I really do feel like I know Jeff.

Jeff, we'll go to you.

In terms of, you know, looking
at the relationship

where it's at now

and maybe, you know,
the next couple of steps ahead,

what challenges are you seeing?

I think the biggest challenge for us
right now

is that next step in the romantic
side of the relationship.

That everyone asks us all the time.
Yeah.

"Have you done it yet?"

Yeah.
(LAUGHTER)

Our first relationship,
it was probably - let's be honest,

it was mainly physical
and we had fun.

So, we know the intimacy side
of the relationship works.

Obviously, confessions week,

intimacy week, all these things

unlock things within each other
that we thought we'd never know...

Yeah, yeah.
..I guess.

So, yeah, I think we have
a very sort of deep connection now

and a deeper relationship,

and as soon as we get past
the little hurdle

in the romantic side
of the relationship,

then I think we'll be
in a pretty good spot.

I don't think they should call it
a little hurdle.

Do you? No, no.
Yeah, that's not good (INDISTINCT).

(LAUGHTER)

The little...
Gift.

The little...
No, not so little.

(LAUGHTER)

The big gift.

Alright. Well, we are going to go
to a decision now.

Rhi.
Sure.

"Stay."
No hesitation.

There it is. (LAUGHS)
With kisses.

(APPLAUSE)
Lovely.

And Jeff, to you.

Stay with a smiley face.

Smiley face too. Lovely.

Wonderful. Well, keep doing
what you're doing.

Thanks. Thank you so much.
Awesome. Thanks, guys.

Thank you.
Thank you.

(APPLAUSE)

Adrian, I'll take you through
some lessons tomorrow, mate.

(LAUGHTER)

Alright, let's get
our next couple up.

Awhina and Adrian.

(APPLAUSE)

Hello, hello.
Hello.

Hi.
Hello.

Hi.

Let's start with you first, Awhina.

Look, Adrian and I have had
a very trying week.

I feel like I show up
for Adrian daily

in little acts and little gestures

and kind comments

and I've been feeling very unseen...

..and from that, my...

You know, like, all the problems

that we chose to kind of sweep
under the rug

have been feeling really heavy
lately.

Can you explain how it is
that you don't feel seen?

I just feel like...

This is going to sound silly, but...

(EXHALES)

Like, these little acts of services

like if I am folding your clothes

or if I am making the bed,

I know that Adrian...

Like, even when he made a comment
the other day

that - when I was making the bed

and he said, "Oh, I thought a...

He goes, "Why are you doing that?
A cleaner does that."

I genuinely thought
that was the case

'cause the sheets were so tight
in the bed.

That was just... I just thought
it was like a hotel bed.

But that comment made me feel
very unappreciated.

And when I don't feel like
I'm getting that from him,

that it makes me hard for me
not to look to the future.

How is Adrian going to fit
into my life...

..when I am a mum?

That's when I start feeling
like we're not compatible...

..outside of this experiment.

Adrian, right now,
Awhina's opening her heart

and sharing some stuff

that must be pretty hard
to talk about,

and you're sitting here
looking at the roof.

And now you're smirking
and looking at the boys.

I'm starting to understand
how you might feel

that Adrian's not listening to you.

I was listening.

I'm just reflecting that back to you

because that has an impact
on your partner.

Yeah, and I understand that.

Do you?

Yeah, I do.

But how do you think that makes
her feel when you do that?

Unseen.

Awhina, do you feel like
you bring up issues with Adrian?

I feel like sometimes when
I address problems or issues,

you'll shut me down.

Like what?

When I say things
that you're unhappy with,

I feel like I don't have a voice
anymore and I...

'Cause I just want -

explain to me one thing
that I've done that for.

You said just then when we were
having the conversation

when we do these tasks...
Well, she mentioned today

she's been talking about
how we are not compatible.

Why would I do
any of these things now?

Why would I want to show up?

Because you're telling me
we've got no future,

so what's the point?

I'm not an affectionate type
of person and...

OK. Adrian, what you're doing there
is the problem.

And I am going to call you on it.

That's fine.

I watched you do it last night,

she's trying to tell you
about her feelings,

and you come in hard
and you shut it down.

Has that ever been said
to you before?

That you shut people down
if they bring up an issue?

No.

Do you think that you see and hear
and validate Awhina?

Yeah, I mean, this past week, no.

But you're only telling
one part of this story.

Now, everyone should hear
both sides of the story.

Adrian, that's the real issue

is that when she brings up
a problem,

you push back and shut down.

That is not turning up for her,
it's not validating her.

Do you understand that?
Yeah.

She's saying, "I'm bringing up
issues and he's not validating me."

But she also does that as well.

'Cause it's like, again,
when I say anything...

But now you're in point-scoring.

No, it's not about point-scoring.

Adrian, I'm telling you right now

that you have to win every argument.

I don't.

This is what you're doing.

And this is why she's going
to turn her attention

to, "We're not compatible."

She doesn't want you
to argue with her.

You're going to fail
if you do that.

What she wants you to do
is to listen and validate her.

And I have done that.

Adrian, I need to know from you
right now in this moment.

Do you want to be in a relationship
with Awhina?

Of course, I do. 100%, yes.

Now, Awhina,

do you feel like you want to be
in a relationship with Adrian?

(TENSE SOUNDTRACK)

We have some really great times
where I...

No, no, no, it is a straightforward
yes or no.

It shouldn't be a hard answer.

Do you want to be in a relationship
with Adrian?

(TENSE SOUNDTRACK)

Scary question.

It is scary, I give you that.

(TENSE SOUNDTRACK)

(DRAMATIC MUSIC BUILDING)

No, no, no, it is a straightforward
yes or no.

It shouldn't be a hard answer.

Do you want to be in a relationship
with Adrian?

(TENSE SOUNDTRACK)

Scary question.

It is scary, I give you that.

(TENSE SOUNDTRACK)

(MUSIC BUILDING)

I'm going to say, I think I do.

Why are you getting emotional?

What's going on inside?

(TENDER MUSIC)

They are hard questions.

And you're scared.

Yeah, and I'm scared.

What scares you the most right now?

I guess...

When I think about

how I'm not looking
for a life partner for myself,

I'm looking for a potential future
stepdad for my son.

It's so heavy that it's crashing
down on me.

But that's when fear starts
from rearing its ugly head, I guess.

And that's when I start saying
things like,

"I don't feel like
we are compatible."

But in saying that, like, Adrian
is a really great guy.

I am very comfortable with him,
we do have really great chemistry,

we do have a great physical
connection.

Yeah.

I just need to feel a little bit
more seen as a partner.

And then I won't be making these -

but I know I shouldn't be
making these comments,

but it's how I feel when I -
and I'm reactive to my emotions,

you know, in the moment.

Did you hear that?

Yeah.

(TENDER SOUNDTRACK)

I am sorry that I say things
that hurt Adrian.

Alright, let's go to the decision.

First up, let's go with you, Awhina.

There we go.
Oh, there it is.

Lovely.
Thank you.

(APPLAUSE)

Adrian, stay or leave?
What you got?

I don't know how to spell leave,
so I said stay.

(APPLAUSE)

What you need to really hear, Adrian,

is that she wants to be here
but she's scared.

Which means more validation,
more reassurance.

Agreed.

Just tell me I'm the most beautiful
girl in the world every day.

I'm kidding, guys.
(LAUGHTER)

And less defensiveness.
Yeah.

Alright, guys, you can go back
to the group.

Thank you.
(APPLAUSE)

Well done, guys.

And our last couple
up on the couch is...

..Sierah and Billy.

(APPLAUSE)

Hello, hello.

Hello.
Hello, you two.

Hi. How are you?
Hello. How are you?

Very well.
We're well.

Watching you tonight, I think
what comes through very clearly

is that something's going on

and that's, you know,
getting in between the two of you,

so let's just cut straight
through it. What's happening?

Are you feeling disconnected
as a couple?

Yeah.
Yeah.

Tell us about that. Where do you
think the disconnect is?

I have to be honest with you,
I just feel very confused

about the place we're in right now.

Because when we had sex
on the honeymoon,

we kind of dropped straight off
and I felt a bit...

..like we maybe rushed into that,
or we both did.

Yeah, definitely.

But then last night,
we've had sex again.

So, last night, you chose to
bring sex back into the equation.

So, I wanted it to happen
at the right time

and it felt like it happened
at the right time,

and then, I guess, it feels
like we're back

in a kind of similar spot
on the honeymoon...

..where we've dropped off again
and I'm, like, is it just like...

My head's - cogs are turning,

is it, like, is it just
a sexual thing?

'Cause Sierah is quite, like, sexual
as a whole, like...

And I'm just not like that.

Mine's about, like, what's in here.

An emotional connection
is massive for me...

..and I'm trying to build that,
really, before other things.

Um, I'm being pretty open
with Billy

that I need more physical touch.

And it's not just about the sex.

Like, holding my hand,
putting your arm over me,

like, playing with my hair,
like just touching me.

I mean, I feel like
we're getting there,

that's what I thought anyway.

But...
I don't.

Like, that's the problem.

And I get the emotional bond thing.

I want that too and I think we have
a pretty good bond so far,

but it's a friends thing.

Last night, it was like
a drunken fumble in my opinion.

It was quite slow,
it was passionate.

It was - I felt connected to you.

Yeah. I enjoyed it
and I felt close to Billy

and I like having sex with Billy
because it's Billy.

But, like, it wasn't...

Um...

For me, I'm like,
that just didn't feel

very passionate or intimate to me,
you know?

Well, I felt like we were
connecting.

Yeah, I just think
I'm just finding it...

Like, I just do often feel confused
about, like, where I'm at

with, like, my feelings
and stuff like that

because I do feel like
it's quite fleeting.

I do think that I do really like
Billy sometimes

and I've actually got feelings,
and then...

It's like, and then sometimes
I just don't.

I think it's just because
I'm not getting my needs met at all.

OK.

What are you doing to help build
the emotional connection with Billy?

Billy has expressed for a while now
his need for emotional connection.

I think that we obviously still need
to speak more

about, like, things that have
happened in my past.

I just find that difficult
in this environment.

And it's just a bit (BLEEP) up,
I guess,

and it's hard for me to talk about,
so...

No, but Alessandra's asking
what do you think you've done

to build the emotional connection?

But you'd said to me that you,

to build the emotional connection,
you need me to open up more

about that, but I'm explaining
why I actually can't do that.

You know how important family
is to me. It's my biggest thing,

and you've said a few times,

"Oh, yeah, I'll tell you,
like, I'll tell you, I'll pull you,

"and I'll tell you whenever..."

We're still four weeks
down the line and I don't know,

and I'm like, yeah.

(TENSE SOUNDTRACK)

I was hoping that because I've been
so open with you,

you would... Like, you don't have
to repay that,

you don't have to, but just,
you see, I mean,

you've seen me literally break down.

(TENSE SOUNDTRACK)

Sierah, have you opened up to anybody
else in the group about your past

and past experiences?

Ah...

(TENSE SOUNDTRACK)

Adrian, actually, I had.

(DRAMATIC MUSIC)

BILLY: Sorry? What?

(TENSE SOUNDTRACK)

Sierah, have you opened up
to anybody else in the group

about your past and past experiences?

Ah...

(TENSE MUSIC BUILDING)

Ash and Adrian, actually, I had.

(DRAMATIC MUSIC)

BILLY: Sorry? What?

About your past?

Yeah, I told you.

I told you about this.
I didn't know about...

A couple of weeks ago.

I don't even know about your past.

'Cause it was at our apartment
when you were watching the footy.

I thought I had told you
that night...

..that we had shared some stuff.

Tell me what?

What... I don't know
what you're on about.

(TENSE SOUNDTRACK)

I had told you
about the conversation

Adrian and I had had...

Yeah, but what was it about?

I don't know, I don't know
what this past comment is.

I don't know what you're on about.

Um...

You've shared more with him
then you have me?

I literally had told you this.

Sierah, you have - I swear
on my little brother's life,

you have not mentioned anything
about it.

But for me, it's the circumstances.

I don't like feeling forced
or like I have to do something.

Adrian, you were there, obviously.
Yeah.

But do you remember...

..talking about our past
and I spoke to Sierah.

And I was, like... How I found it
so hard and why I didn't do it...

And she felt the same.

So...

Yeah, the conversation started
and we spoke about it, and...

Did you open up?

Yeah. Oh...

(DARKLY DRAMATIC MUSIC)

Well, I just feel very confused

that if she's shared that someone
else in the group, but not to me,

I asked you multiple times
along the honeymoon

over the first three or four days

and I just decided to leave it
'cause you said

when you're comfortable you will,

but you've been more comfortable
with Adrian than you have me.

That's very confusing to me.

I've shared so much about past
with you

and nobody else in the group.

What I wrote in that letter
in confessions week,

I broke down that night.

I broke down and I revisited
something I thought I put away.

And I was...

That was a lot for me
and you know it was.

So, that was a pretty big thing
that I did.

And the fact that it doesn't feel
reciprocated

coming off that,

but you can with someone else

is very, very strange
and confusing to me.

Can you understand

why Billy's feeling clearly
blindsided at the moment?

Yeah.

I feel blindsided too though.

(TENSE SOUNDTRACK)

'Cause Adrian said he opened up,
too,

which he didn't open up during
our confessions week to me.

And then, like, you know, to find
out that he opened up so easily

with someone else, that's like,
that's a big 'F-you' to the face.

Same. Same.

I'm not trying to come for you,
Sierah.

This is how I feel against Adrian.

I'm like...

I was really upset that night.

Yeah, I understand that. I'm sorry.

What about me?

But you have opened up

to Awhina at some point.
No, he hasn't. No.

About any... We'll I'd be...

I mean, I dunno, I feel like...

In me and Sierah's defence,

we didn't have 50 million cameras
around us

talking about certain things
and I wouldn't be comfortable...

I'm sorry, but that's a cop-out.

(DRAMATIC MUSIC)

That's a cop-out because the cameras
are not there at night

when you're sleeping
next to each other.

In me and Sierah's defence,

we didn't have 50 million cameras
around us

talking about certain things
and I wouldn't be comfortable...

I'm sorry, but that's a cop-out.

That's a cop-out because the cameras
are not there at night

when you're sleeping
next to each other.

Sierah, why do you feel
more comfortable

talking to Adrian than with Billy?

I don't know.

I just - I don't know why
I'm struggling to do that so much.

I just don't want him to be put off
or think that I'm damaged goods.

I think that's probably a big thing.

(SIGHS)

That's pretty harsh.

Hmm.

But I wouldn't think that.

If you were being open with me,

I'm not going to think
you're damaged goods.

I'd just - I'd take the fact
of you wanting to open up

on a deeper connection to me,
which is what I want.

Can you pass me a tissue,
please?

I think it's pretty clear

that the emotional connection
needs a lot of work...

Yeah.
..and in order for that to happen,

you need to have the courage
to take this step,

to start sharing those difficult...

Yep.
..topics.

Yeah.

It's hard, so...

But... Yeah, OK. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Yeah.

So, there's some work
to be done here.

We're going to go to the decision.

Thank god.

(CHUCKLES FEEBLY)

Billy.

Yeah, I mean...

I'm saying.

(APPLAUSE)

Sierah.

I would like to stay another week
to open up to Billy

and have the opportunity
to have the conversations

that we need to have.

(APPLAUSE)

You can go back to the couch.
Thank you.

(APPLAUSE)

JACQUI: Why can't you just say,
"She's such a great wife."?

"She took me out for dinner."
RYAN: Because you weren't.

Because you weren't a good wife
in the first two weeks.

You were horrible to me.

NARRATOR: Tomorrow night...

It took you three weeks
to buy me flowers.

What are you doing?

I'm trying to teach you.
What are you doing here?

NARRATOR: One step forward,
ten steps back

when Jacqui pulls out a list
of Ryan's past indiscretions.

Who do you think you are?

(GRAND MUSIC SWELLS)

NARRATOR: Two brand-new singles
enter the experiment.

WOMAN: I've never had a boyfriend,

so going from single
to married is scary.

NARRATOR: But when Jacqui and Ryan
air their dirty laundry...

Why was I crying this morning?

But you cry if there's not
a full-length mirror in the room!

..they turn this bride's dream day...

Get a grip. Come on, sweetie.

..into a nightmare.

I can't deal with you.

Today, it's not about us.

So deflective. Like...

Jacqui, Jacqui, it's not
your wedding!

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