1 00:00:00,629 --> 00:00:03,830 Previously on Cherish the Day. I hope your meeting with Miss Bluma goes well. 2 00:00:04,790 --> 00:00:05,790 Okay, you remember. 3 00:00:05,930 --> 00:00:08,350 Some things just aren't fair. 4 00:00:08,630 --> 00:00:11,150 There's gotta be something we can do. And her stories are incredible. 5 00:00:11,510 --> 00:00:12,890 We record it and put it online. 6 00:00:13,130 --> 00:00:15,710 People are gonna love this. We're supposed to let the corporate radio come 7 00:00:15,710 --> 00:00:16,349 our house? 8 00:00:16,350 --> 00:00:17,910 I thought we were on the same page. We are. 9 00:00:18,170 --> 00:00:20,290 I want to meet with her, see what she's talking about. You never know. 10 00:00:20,570 --> 00:00:21,570 I'm doing a podcast. 11 00:00:21,910 --> 00:00:22,970 Can we talk about it after dinner? 12 00:00:23,690 --> 00:00:26,910 Do you really care about anything that ain't got to do with you? I don't know 13 00:00:26,910 --> 00:00:29,430 what I did, I don't know what I said. I just don't want to fight anymore, okay? 14 00:00:51,820 --> 00:00:53,160 I'm almost done. Oh. 15 00:00:53,500 --> 00:00:54,560 Take your time. 16 00:01:03,000 --> 00:01:06,460 You sure you still want to do this? 17 00:01:09,280 --> 00:01:10,340 Do you want to? 18 00:01:12,980 --> 00:01:13,980 We're here. 19 00:01:14,580 --> 00:01:16,640 We might as well go in. 20 00:01:17,040 --> 00:01:18,040 Yeah. 21 00:01:27,330 --> 00:01:28,330 Right? 22 00:01:54,430 --> 00:01:55,430 Nervous? No. 23 00:01:57,419 --> 00:01:58,419 You? 24 00:01:59,040 --> 00:02:00,040 No. 25 00:02:01,580 --> 00:02:03,240 We're just checking it out, right? 26 00:02:06,180 --> 00:02:07,180 Shopping. 27 00:02:08,100 --> 00:02:09,059 That's right. 28 00:02:09,060 --> 00:02:10,060 Shopping. 29 00:02:36,620 --> 00:02:39,680 You show me how deep love can be. 30 00:02:56,580 --> 00:02:58,840 This is my prayer. 31 00:03:02,200 --> 00:03:04,720 I cherish the day. 32 00:03:23,240 --> 00:03:24,900 How long have you two been married? 33 00:03:27,720 --> 00:03:28,720 Two years. 34 00:03:29,860 --> 00:03:32,220 Two years, three months, actually. 35 00:03:32,960 --> 00:03:35,120 Why don't you tell me a little bit about yourselves? 36 00:03:39,500 --> 00:03:46,200 I used to be a CEO of my own tech 37 00:03:46,200 --> 00:03:47,200 company. 38 00:03:48,700 --> 00:03:50,500 A great tech company. 39 00:03:51,850 --> 00:03:52,850 And you, Gently? 40 00:03:53,470 --> 00:03:54,870 I produce podcasts. 41 00:03:56,190 --> 00:03:59,130 The number one podcast that's out right now. Busy Lives. 42 00:03:59,390 --> 00:04:00,390 Yeah. 43 00:04:00,910 --> 00:04:06,430 Well, a lot of people coming to couples counseling come with an agenda, a series 44 00:04:06,430 --> 00:04:08,330 of things that they want to work through. 45 00:04:10,170 --> 00:04:12,230 Thank you. 46 00:04:14,060 --> 00:04:18,760 And I try to provide a space where you can talk about anything. I want you both 47 00:04:18,760 --> 00:04:21,560 to feel free and feel safe to share yourselves here. 48 00:04:25,920 --> 00:04:31,660 So, what made you decide to come here today? 49 00:04:35,120 --> 00:04:39,160 Why don't you turn towards one another? 50 00:04:50,840 --> 00:04:55,280 Really try to connect in that time. 51 00:05:00,120 --> 00:05:07,080 Now, Evan, tell me, when you look at your wife, right now, how do you 52 00:05:07,080 --> 00:05:08,080 feel? 53 00:05:08,680 --> 00:05:10,900 I love her dress. Speak to Jen. 54 00:05:21,920 --> 00:05:26,520 And I'm happy that you came today and that we can do this together. 55 00:05:28,380 --> 00:05:29,380 Me too. 56 00:05:34,900 --> 00:05:35,900 You sure? 57 00:05:36,260 --> 00:05:37,260 I am. 58 00:05:37,700 --> 00:05:38,700 Why? 59 00:05:41,180 --> 00:05:42,260 You're making that face. 60 00:05:44,380 --> 00:05:45,380 No, I'm not. 61 00:05:47,410 --> 00:05:51,390 Gently, can you tell Evan what you'd like to accomplish here? 62 00:05:53,190 --> 00:05:54,570 I'd like to know what's wrong. 63 00:05:57,670 --> 00:05:58,669 What's wrong? 64 00:05:58,670 --> 00:06:00,830 Yeah, what made you think we had to come here? 65 00:06:01,390 --> 00:06:03,590 What's going on with you? What's wrong with me? 66 00:06:03,970 --> 00:06:04,970 Don't you mean us? 67 00:06:06,350 --> 00:06:07,490 No, I mean what I said. 68 00:06:09,850 --> 00:06:11,510 I'm not the one who wants to be here. 69 00:06:11,830 --> 00:06:14,190 Okay, we'll come back to this in a moment. 70 00:06:14,810 --> 00:06:16,010 Tell me how you two met. 71 00:06:16,750 --> 00:06:17,850 At the library. 72 00:06:18,190 --> 00:06:19,190 Which one? 73 00:06:22,830 --> 00:06:27,330 I'm going to tell you what I'm about to do. Ladies, can we consider tabling this 74 00:06:27,330 --> 00:06:29,750 while the rest of us in line handle our book business? 75 00:06:31,010 --> 00:06:32,830 I don't have any problems. We just want to read. 76 00:06:34,090 --> 00:06:35,230 They say it's fundamental. 77 00:06:36,910 --> 00:06:37,909 He's right. 78 00:06:37,910 --> 00:06:39,330 My memory is really bad. 79 00:06:40,010 --> 00:06:46,110 When you think back to that first meeting, what word comes to mind? 80 00:06:49,120 --> 00:06:52,920 Why that smile, Johnny? 81 00:06:53,780 --> 00:06:57,920 I've always appreciated how he instantly loved someone I loved. 82 00:06:59,220 --> 00:07:00,220 Luma Langston. 83 00:07:02,820 --> 00:07:04,660 Oh, shit. Luma Langston. 84 00:07:05,040 --> 00:07:06,040 Yeah. 85 00:07:06,540 --> 00:07:11,180 My granddad used to always say that Luma Langston was the real Diamond Dixie and 86 00:07:11,180 --> 00:07:12,980 not that white lady she played the main for. 87 00:07:13,460 --> 00:07:14,780 Your granddad was right. 88 00:07:16,920 --> 00:07:18,620 You still got it, Miss Loma. 89 00:07:20,260 --> 00:07:21,580 You still got it. 90 00:07:22,460 --> 00:07:24,920 Don't intend to lose it anytime soon. 91 00:07:27,040 --> 00:07:31,720 I instantly fell in love with you and everything that came with you. 92 00:07:33,580 --> 00:07:34,780 I wish that were true. 93 00:07:36,620 --> 00:07:37,620 It is true. 94 00:07:40,780 --> 00:07:43,620 You know what she's talking about right now, Evan? 95 00:07:44,170 --> 00:07:46,770 Really try to hear what she's saying. Don't defend. 96 00:07:47,850 --> 00:07:52,210 I'd like you to translate to me what you think she's saying. 97 00:07:59,670 --> 00:08:01,610 That I don't accept parts of her. 98 00:08:02,010 --> 00:08:03,150 Any truth in that? 99 00:08:06,790 --> 00:08:07,790 Damn. 100 00:08:08,590 --> 00:08:09,590 Rewind. 101 00:08:11,050 --> 00:08:13,170 Hey, hey, hey, hey. Jim. 102 00:08:14,800 --> 00:08:16,520 Look, let's just take care of it. 103 00:08:17,160 --> 00:08:21,100 We can go to a real appliance place and we can pick out something with the 104 00:08:21,100 --> 00:08:22,100 measurements. 105 00:08:23,100 --> 00:08:27,360 I can't do that. I can handle it. And we can get it delivered, installed. 106 00:08:28,180 --> 00:08:29,180 It's easier. 107 00:08:29,760 --> 00:08:31,660 That's the solution to everything, huh? 108 00:08:32,320 --> 00:08:36,240 Throw some money at it? You're trying to fix something the way you want it done 109 00:08:36,240 --> 00:08:37,539 and you're judging my way. 110 00:08:38,299 --> 00:08:39,299 I don't... 111 00:08:39,640 --> 00:08:43,000 Believe in blind acceptance and that it should be in a relationship. We should 112 00:08:43,000 --> 00:08:45,760 be pushing each other. We should be helping each other become better. 113 00:08:47,040 --> 00:08:48,900 How does gently help you be better? 114 00:08:50,960 --> 00:08:53,060 She's helped me take risks. How? 115 00:09:01,960 --> 00:09:03,120 By her example. 116 00:09:07,340 --> 00:09:11,980 She's a freer spirit than I am and she made me want to be free. 117 00:09:39,850 --> 00:09:45,290 What's the price for light mosquitoes to light innocence? 118 00:09:46,410 --> 00:09:50,430 I feed off bioluminescence. 119 00:09:53,210 --> 00:09:56,750 Love and intent. 120 00:10:00,910 --> 00:10:02,750 How has heaven helped you? 121 00:10:04,810 --> 00:10:07,330 You show me the value of anchors. 122 00:10:08,680 --> 00:10:10,160 That they aren't always weight. 123 00:10:11,440 --> 00:10:16,380 That feeling stable, solid. 124 00:10:18,600 --> 00:10:19,800 Be a good thing sometimes. 125 00:10:21,520 --> 00:10:27,760 Okay, Evan, I'd like you to look at gently right now and tell her what you 126 00:10:27,760 --> 00:10:28,880 in this moment. 127 00:10:40,520 --> 00:10:41,960 It wasn't supposed to go like this. 128 00:10:44,900 --> 00:10:49,220 I feel like everything I say makes you upset. 129 00:10:50,640 --> 00:10:51,980 You see what you just did? 130 00:10:52,820 --> 00:10:55,760 Oh, my God. You don't know what you're doing. You don't know what you're doing. 131 00:10:56,000 --> 00:10:56,719 Gently, gently. 132 00:10:56,720 --> 00:10:59,560 What could I have said that would have offended you right now in that 133 00:10:59,780 --> 00:11:04,620 Even in a connected moment, he'll say something like, everything I say upsets 134 00:11:04,620 --> 00:11:09,200 you. You're not taking responsibility for yourself or for the part. 135 00:11:09,800 --> 00:11:12,360 that you play in any of this is putting it all on me. 136 00:11:13,220 --> 00:11:18,320 Like, you've done nothing wrong, and I'm just randomly upset. I don't know. It's 137 00:11:18,320 --> 00:11:20,000 juvenile. It diminishes me. 138 00:11:20,980 --> 00:11:21,980 I'm over it. 139 00:11:22,520 --> 00:11:23,520 Yeah. 140 00:11:23,960 --> 00:11:25,120 You're always over it. 141 00:11:25,520 --> 00:11:27,760 Like, since literally day one. 142 00:11:27,980 --> 00:11:29,440 Point blank. The end. 143 00:11:30,340 --> 00:11:34,100 So, look, you can either get in or get left. I'm ready to go. I'm good. 144 00:11:39,530 --> 00:11:41,250 I just think we should have left it right there. 145 00:11:43,170 --> 00:11:44,170 Yeah, me too. 146 00:11:46,050 --> 00:11:47,250 But you didn't. 147 00:11:54,670 --> 00:11:55,670 Apology accepted. 148 00:11:57,050 --> 00:11:59,770 I accept your apology too. 149 00:12:07,820 --> 00:12:13,020 you can see in a short time with some real introspection we can uncover root 150 00:12:13,020 --> 00:12:18,600 causes key questions and layered feelings that need to be assessed and 151 00:12:18,600 --> 00:12:24,300 but it isn't easy now i know you two are meeting with other therapists and 152 00:12:24,300 --> 00:12:29,220 that's a smart process but if you decide to go with me this is what it'll be 153 00:12:29,220 --> 00:12:33,640 like real work unblinking unflinching 154 00:13:23,950 --> 00:13:24,990 You want to go to the other appointment? 155 00:13:26,790 --> 00:13:28,670 Yeah, the next one is Miss Luma's referral. 156 00:13:29,370 --> 00:13:31,130 I don't want her fussing if we miss it. 157 00:13:32,370 --> 00:13:34,210 Is that the only reason you want to go? 158 00:13:36,570 --> 00:13:37,570 Of course not. 159 00:13:38,650 --> 00:13:40,030 I'm not resistant to this. 160 00:13:40,950 --> 00:13:47,890 I just feel... like... I'm forcing you. 161 00:13:47,950 --> 00:13:48,990 Like it's all on me. 162 00:13:50,470 --> 00:13:51,630 Look, I'm committed to this. 163 00:13:52,080 --> 00:13:53,900 I told you I would and I am. 164 00:13:54,220 --> 00:13:55,280 Can that be enough? 165 00:13:55,900 --> 00:13:57,660 Can you just trust what I'm telling you? 166 00:14:28,840 --> 00:14:30,840 Things ain't what they used to be. 167 00:14:31,060 --> 00:14:33,020 Now it's twice as hard. 168 00:14:33,580 --> 00:14:37,660 Keeping the past in the past. These secrets in the dark. 169 00:14:38,220 --> 00:14:40,440 Everyone around me changing. 170 00:14:40,660 --> 00:14:42,480 I still see their scars. 171 00:14:42,980 --> 00:14:45,240 Got two sides on their faces. 172 00:14:45,480 --> 00:14:47,240 And they played a part. 173 00:15:11,150 --> 00:15:15,950 I just wanna take it back, back, back, back, back Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah 174 00:15:15,950 --> 00:15:21,670 just wanna take it back, back, back, back, back Yeah, ooh I just wanna take 175 00:15:21,670 --> 00:15:26,510 back, back, back, back, back Can we take it back, take it back, oh 176 00:15:53,230 --> 00:15:54,230 Is she even a real doctor? 177 00:15:54,530 --> 00:15:55,770 I don't see any degrees. 178 00:15:56,610 --> 00:15:58,070 Maybe she doesn't need to show up. 179 00:16:01,270 --> 00:16:06,350 Ah, you must be Gently and Evan. I'm Coral LaRose. 180 00:16:06,610 --> 00:16:08,210 Nice to meet you, my sweetie. 181 00:16:10,090 --> 00:16:11,090 Get over here. 182 00:16:11,370 --> 00:16:12,410 Give me some love. 183 00:16:12,770 --> 00:16:14,570 All right. 184 00:16:15,070 --> 00:16:16,070 Come on in. 185 00:16:47,530 --> 00:16:48,530 Dr. LaRose. 186 00:16:49,250 --> 00:16:50,290 Doctor of love, sugar. 187 00:16:50,890 --> 00:16:53,590 But I like to keep it simple so you can just call me Coral. 188 00:16:54,190 --> 00:16:56,670 Wow, look at you two. 189 00:16:58,010 --> 00:16:59,050 Beautiful, beautiful. 190 00:17:00,390 --> 00:17:03,650 You know, I think you might be one of the prettiest couples that I've seen. 191 00:17:04,730 --> 00:17:08,210 Fabulous. Okay, and the dress is fierce. 192 00:17:08,890 --> 00:17:11,910 Child, don't let me mess around and lose a couple of pounds because I will be 193 00:17:11,910 --> 00:17:12,910 rocking that. 194 00:17:13,750 --> 00:17:15,349 All right. 195 00:17:16,170 --> 00:17:17,170 So. 196 00:17:18,640 --> 00:17:19,640 How are you guys doing? 197 00:17:19,800 --> 00:17:22,040 Okay, you don't have to be so tense. I don't bite. 198 00:17:26,220 --> 00:17:27,220 Okay. 199 00:17:27,560 --> 00:17:31,580 Well, Miss Luma told me that you guys are looking at different counselors 200 00:17:32,020 --> 00:17:34,360 Smart, smart, smart, smart. 201 00:17:34,820 --> 00:17:37,840 Everybody's different, you know, and you want to find the right person that 202 00:17:37,840 --> 00:17:38,840 you're going to vibe with. 203 00:17:39,300 --> 00:17:46,100 Now, me, I like to cut straight on down to the real nitty gritty, so shall we? 204 00:17:52,240 --> 00:17:53,940 And so my company didn't work out. 205 00:17:55,180 --> 00:17:59,360 I made some miscalculations. 206 00:18:01,060 --> 00:18:05,840 But, you know, we're fine with our personal finances. We don't have any 207 00:18:05,840 --> 00:18:08,560 problems between us. What's mine is hers. 208 00:18:11,160 --> 00:18:12,500 What about you, sweetie? 209 00:18:13,080 --> 00:18:15,360 You're okay with sharing one big pot? 210 00:18:17,360 --> 00:18:18,360 Yeah, it's cool. 211 00:18:19,310 --> 00:18:23,130 It's cool like it's going to work for you, or it's cool like you don't want to 212 00:18:23,130 --> 00:18:24,630 say anything because you don't want to start something. 213 00:18:25,150 --> 00:18:29,950 It's beautiful for the most part, you know, living at the beach, having nice 214 00:18:29,950 --> 00:18:31,390 things, not having to worry about bills. 215 00:18:33,170 --> 00:18:34,470 But it comes at a cost. 216 00:18:34,850 --> 00:18:35,850 Mm -hmm. 217 00:18:36,070 --> 00:18:39,410 Last time I checked, money ain't free, okay? Am I right? 218 00:18:39,890 --> 00:18:40,890 Okay? 219 00:18:42,690 --> 00:18:46,790 I mean, he's a really generous guy. I sound like a crybaby or like I'm 220 00:18:46,790 --> 00:18:47,870 ungrateful, and I'm really not. 221 00:18:48,250 --> 00:18:53,350 I know what I didn't have, and I know what I have now, and I'm very fortunate. 222 00:18:54,170 --> 00:18:58,350 You know, when I think about the things that really cause a lot of emotion, it's 223 00:18:58,350 --> 00:19:00,630 not being a baby if you explore those feelings. 224 00:19:01,770 --> 00:19:03,690 Actually, it's quite the opposite. 225 00:19:05,350 --> 00:19:06,350 Yeah. 226 00:19:06,730 --> 00:19:10,190 When I was on my own, I didn't have a lot, but I had enough. 227 00:19:11,230 --> 00:19:16,390 And when we moved in together, I was not making anything as significant as he 228 00:19:16,390 --> 00:19:20,290 was, so I helped with... I helped out around the house. I helped him with his 229 00:19:20,290 --> 00:19:22,470 errands, and that was my way of contributing. 230 00:19:23,310 --> 00:19:29,050 So when he threw it back in my face, I just can't shake that off. You're just 231 00:19:29,050 --> 00:19:30,270 not going to forgive me for that, are you? 232 00:19:30,530 --> 00:19:31,910 I want to talk about my podcast. 233 00:19:32,150 --> 00:19:35,590 Yes, baby, I want to hear all about it, but can we talk about it after dinner? 234 00:19:35,690 --> 00:19:36,690 Is that cool? 235 00:19:38,730 --> 00:19:40,850 Whatever. Oh, come on, don't do this to me. 236 00:19:41,630 --> 00:19:46,950 I just want to stay focused. You know, take a shower and... Okay, you're right. 237 00:19:47,340 --> 00:19:50,440 I want to hear all about it. I'm listening. Hey, hey, hey, hey. 238 00:19:52,160 --> 00:19:53,160 I'm listening. 239 00:19:53,380 --> 00:19:54,380 Okay, look. 240 00:19:55,000 --> 00:19:58,700 I was just really excited to share my idea with you, and it feels like you 241 00:19:58,700 --> 00:20:01,880 really give a damn. You know how important this dinner is to me. Okay, 242 00:20:01,880 --> 00:20:06,160 thing's important to me. Just as important. Just as important as a $17 243 00:20:06,160 --> 00:20:09,700 investment into a company who allows you to have as many dreams as you want 244 00:20:09,700 --> 00:20:14,620 without having to think about mortgage or insurance or even a bill. 245 00:20:18,190 --> 00:20:22,550 I was over the moon that day. You know, I had finally found my thing, my 246 00:20:22,550 --> 00:20:24,090 purpose, my calling. 247 00:20:24,910 --> 00:20:25,910 The podcast. 248 00:20:26,570 --> 00:20:28,070 Ooh, girl. 249 00:20:28,490 --> 00:20:31,150 Oh, you know I am hooked on that. 250 00:20:31,950 --> 00:20:35,890 Oh, all of those juicy tidbits about black Hollywood. 251 00:20:36,250 --> 00:20:40,730 Oh, and then when Miss Luma gets to talking, girl, and she's going on and on 252 00:20:40,730 --> 00:20:43,670 about who's left with who with it, who's dirty business, and just all those 253 00:20:43,670 --> 00:20:46,830 black stars, girl. You are doing a fantastic job. 254 00:20:47,170 --> 00:20:48,980 I love it. Thank you. 255 00:20:49,380 --> 00:20:54,580 Thank you. I built that from the ground up all around Miss Luna, and I'm really 256 00:20:54,580 --> 00:20:56,160 proud of it. Well, you should be. 257 00:20:57,100 --> 00:20:58,100 Shouldn't she? 258 00:21:00,500 --> 00:21:01,500 Yeah. 259 00:21:10,100 --> 00:21:11,100 Is it? 260 00:21:12,010 --> 00:21:16,370 When you were telling me about the idea for the podcast, you knew that I was 261 00:21:16,370 --> 00:21:20,010 getting ready for a dinner. It was really important, and you knew that. And 262 00:21:20,010 --> 00:21:24,090 just expected me to drop everything in that moment, and I just couldn't. And it 263 00:21:24,090 --> 00:21:27,490 wasn't that I was disinterested forever or against you. 264 00:21:27,810 --> 00:21:31,550 This is the perfect example of the double standard we live under. What's 265 00:21:31,550 --> 00:21:33,410 for him, it ain't okay for me. 266 00:21:33,690 --> 00:21:37,690 He is always complaining about me being on my phone. 267 00:21:37,970 --> 00:21:39,210 Look, tell him. 268 00:21:40,540 --> 00:21:43,000 You are always complaining about me being on my phone. 269 00:21:43,300 --> 00:21:44,900 Yet you stay on your phone. 270 00:21:45,260 --> 00:21:49,100 But when you do it, you're working. When I do it, I'm not paying enough 271 00:21:49,100 --> 00:21:50,100 attention to you. 272 00:21:50,280 --> 00:21:51,360 I work, too. 273 00:21:52,480 --> 00:21:54,040 When I'm on my phone, I'm reading. 274 00:21:54,600 --> 00:21:56,100 I'm doing research, too. 275 00:21:57,140 --> 00:22:01,320 And I just feel like you never really supported me in that. And I've always 276 00:22:01,320 --> 00:22:02,820 supported you. Always. 277 00:22:03,140 --> 00:22:04,960 I'm just, you know, always so busy, so. 278 00:22:05,180 --> 00:22:09,000 Oh, yeah. I mean, you got a whole other vibe going on. Work is important to you. 279 00:22:09,740 --> 00:22:10,639 Of course. 280 00:22:10,640 --> 00:22:14,960 Yeah. But I am considering really striking out on my own. Risky. 281 00:22:15,160 --> 00:22:16,160 I love it. 282 00:22:17,660 --> 00:22:18,660 It's a beauty, right? 283 00:22:19,920 --> 00:22:20,920 You remember that? 284 00:22:21,420 --> 00:22:22,420 Yeah, I do. 285 00:22:22,560 --> 00:22:27,620 I'm sorry. Back up, back up. Because I'm going crazy right now. Are you actually 286 00:22:27,620 --> 00:22:29,880 saying that I don't support you? 287 00:22:30,460 --> 00:22:34,380 Look. I don't support you. That's an accurate statement, gently. 288 00:22:34,990 --> 00:22:36,210 I need a flatbed. 289 00:22:36,410 --> 00:22:37,970 Oh, a flatbed. 290 00:22:38,190 --> 00:22:39,570 That's the worst counter, Erin. 291 00:22:41,270 --> 00:22:42,990 You need a hand? 292 00:22:44,910 --> 00:22:50,230 Yeah, I'd like a hand. What am I not seeing? She makes me happy more and more 293 00:22:50,230 --> 00:22:51,990 every day. She challenges me. 294 00:22:52,650 --> 00:22:57,630 She's who I'm with, and I expect you to respect me enough to see that. 295 00:22:58,510 --> 00:23:04,300 Take good care of me. care of my girl do you hear me otherwise okay look look 296 00:23:04,300 --> 00:23:09,880 look look sometimes we forget the good all right so i just want us just to take 297 00:23:09,880 --> 00:23:15,260 a deep breath okay and we're going to breathe out all of the bad okay just and 298 00:23:15,260 --> 00:23:20,960 we can breathe in the good you guys come on i need you to work with me okay just 299 00:23:20,960 --> 00:23:25,500 try this all right i need you to breathe out just breathe out all of the the 300 00:23:25,500 --> 00:23:26,600 misunderstandings 301 00:23:29,900 --> 00:23:31,900 Breathe out all of the grudges. 302 00:23:32,580 --> 00:23:39,440 Breathe out all of that. And we're going to breathe in those butterflies 303 00:23:39,440 --> 00:23:43,060 that you had in your stomach when you first started dating. 304 00:23:43,940 --> 00:23:46,180 Oh, all right. 305 00:23:47,540 --> 00:23:48,700 That's how we do it, huh? 306 00:23:49,560 --> 00:23:51,080 Want to know my favorite Buddhist quote? 307 00:23:52,240 --> 00:23:53,840 Do not dwell on the past. 308 00:23:54,220 --> 00:23:55,720 Do not dream of the future. 309 00:23:56,840 --> 00:23:58,580 Concentrate your mind on the present moment. 310 00:24:00,240 --> 00:24:01,240 I like that. 311 00:24:01,460 --> 00:24:04,820 Breathe in those moments when you knew that this was real. 312 00:24:05,200 --> 00:24:08,100 My man, I didn't order my car. 313 00:24:09,040 --> 00:24:10,040 Hey. 314 00:24:10,400 --> 00:24:11,460 You need a ride? 315 00:24:12,760 --> 00:24:13,820 I damn sure do. 316 00:24:16,020 --> 00:24:17,020 Come on. 317 00:24:19,580 --> 00:24:22,460 Breathe in the first dance. 318 00:24:27,160 --> 00:24:28,520 This is how you travel. 319 00:24:49,940 --> 00:24:56,340 Breathe in all of those things that you love about each other Where were we? 320 00:25:09,429 --> 00:25:13,690 Breathe in the love that is shared between the two of you. 321 00:25:15,310 --> 00:25:16,310 I love you. 322 00:25:16,630 --> 00:25:17,690 Love you too. 323 00:25:38,890 --> 00:25:42,550 How are you two relating to each other physically? 324 00:25:44,930 --> 00:25:46,510 There's no physical violence. 325 00:25:46,910 --> 00:25:48,690 Boy, she's talking about sex. 326 00:25:49,590 --> 00:25:50,590 Yeah. 327 00:25:51,650 --> 00:25:52,650 Right. 328 00:25:54,130 --> 00:25:55,650 All is well there. 329 00:25:56,170 --> 00:25:57,450 Yeah, when it happens. 330 00:25:57,890 --> 00:26:01,910 Oh, so has your lovemaking become more infrequent? 331 00:26:03,030 --> 00:26:04,650 I wouldn't say infrequent. 332 00:26:05,270 --> 00:26:07,890 Maybe not as frequent as it used to be. 333 00:26:08,440 --> 00:26:09,780 And how frequent was that? 334 00:26:10,460 --> 00:26:11,460 A lot. 335 00:26:24,520 --> 00:26:26,520 Long as you want it, you can keep it. 336 00:26:26,900 --> 00:26:28,880 I jump inside it with no regrets. 337 00:26:29,480 --> 00:26:30,940 Make you cry next to me. 338 00:26:31,520 --> 00:26:34,120 When I'm feeling, you know I mean it. 339 00:26:34,660 --> 00:26:38,360 It's raining all season. I want to feel you rocking on my body. 340 00:26:38,780 --> 00:26:43,240 I feel you rocking on my body. While everybody's in the party. 341 00:26:43,820 --> 00:26:48,520 I feel you rocking on my body. I want to feel you rocking on my body. 342 00:26:48,960 --> 00:26:50,980 I feel you rocking on my body. 343 00:26:54,320 --> 00:26:55,320 Well, 344 00:26:58,820 --> 00:27:01,220 you know, it seems like you guys have shared a lot of beautiful moments. 345 00:27:01,900 --> 00:27:03,200 A lot of trust, too. 346 00:27:03,840 --> 00:27:04,840 It happened. 347 00:27:06,000 --> 00:27:09,340 I think I'm struggling with it now. 348 00:27:10,740 --> 00:27:13,400 Yeah, but I don't think trust is our issue. 349 00:27:15,540 --> 00:27:17,140 Trust is exactly our issue. 350 00:27:19,280 --> 00:27:22,040 Look, it's been really hard for me to watch the way you treated J. Doe. 351 00:27:22,720 --> 00:27:27,340 He was a trusted person in your life, and you just threw him away, and that's 352 00:27:27,340 --> 00:27:28,340 been hard to watch. 353 00:27:29,880 --> 00:27:35,360 Evan built his whole company with his boy, and then he just dumped him. I 354 00:27:35,360 --> 00:27:37,500 dump him, J. Doe. Wait, wait, just let her finish, sweetie. 355 00:27:37,820 --> 00:27:39,560 Because of what? Because he made a mistake? 356 00:27:41,020 --> 00:27:43,600 Because he disagreed with your philosophy? 357 00:27:43,900 --> 00:27:45,240 Because he wanted to stick to the mission? 358 00:27:45,800 --> 00:27:47,260 Babe, that's not what happened. 359 00:27:49,520 --> 00:27:54,720 We are not supposed to have a board that has completely changed the fundamentals 360 00:27:54,720 --> 00:27:55,720 of our company. 361 00:27:56,020 --> 00:28:00,820 They have no idea who we are or what we stand for. They have no idea. They don't 362 00:28:00,820 --> 00:28:01,820 give a shit. 363 00:28:03,020 --> 00:28:05,580 We're not supposed to stop just because they don't get it, man. 364 00:28:07,000 --> 00:28:12,160 Jado, Jado's team slipped up and leaked info to the public. 365 00:28:15,050 --> 00:28:18,050 I mean, the investors were calling for someone's head and it wasn't going to be 366 00:28:18,050 --> 00:28:19,750 mine. I mean, I started the company. 367 00:28:20,870 --> 00:28:22,150 He was our friend. 368 00:28:25,090 --> 00:28:26,090 It's business. 369 00:28:28,490 --> 00:28:30,750 Evan, how does it make you feel when you hear this? 370 00:28:31,310 --> 00:28:32,310 Being judged. 371 00:28:34,470 --> 00:28:36,890 Unsupported. Join the club. 372 00:28:37,570 --> 00:28:39,910 Sorry, I should not have said that. I shouldn't have said that. 373 00:28:40,690 --> 00:28:41,690 Then why did you? 374 00:28:45,840 --> 00:28:46,840 I'm sad. 375 00:28:47,840 --> 00:28:48,840 Disappointed. 376 00:28:50,260 --> 00:28:51,260 I don't know. 377 00:28:52,360 --> 00:28:56,080 See, and that's all the part of this glorious life. 378 00:28:56,900 --> 00:29:02,500 Your reactions, your perceptions, and your processing of these things, they 379 00:29:02,500 --> 00:29:04,460 determine the rise and the fall, darling. 380 00:29:05,280 --> 00:29:06,760 And we've got to rise. 381 00:29:12,960 --> 00:29:14,180 We've got to rise. 382 00:29:20,010 --> 00:29:21,570 What am I admitting? Just admit it. 383 00:29:22,410 --> 00:29:24,690 Look, I'm not saying I'm scared of him, okay? 384 00:29:24,950 --> 00:29:30,690 Okay. So then what would you say? Hey, Evan, I need you to be truthful with Dr. 385 00:29:30,830 --> 00:29:34,370 Como. If we're going to get the most out of this session, we got to look it in 386 00:29:34,370 --> 00:29:36,470 the face. No. We got to trust the process. 387 00:29:36,770 --> 00:29:37,770 You ain't no good. 388 00:29:39,030 --> 00:29:42,810 Nah, look, I'm just giving the man his respect. You got a name like Bone, and 389 00:29:42,810 --> 00:29:44,510 you know you got some respect coming to you. 390 00:29:45,040 --> 00:29:47,880 And whatever, man. I ain't talking to y 'all. Look, me and Bone are good, all 391 00:29:47,880 --> 00:29:48,880 right? 392 00:29:50,100 --> 00:29:51,200 Hey, you smiling, sis. 393 00:29:52,140 --> 00:29:53,140 What's going on? 394 00:29:53,520 --> 00:29:54,520 What are you thinking about? 395 00:29:54,920 --> 00:29:58,320 I'm just thinking back to the first time I ever met Ben and his friends. 396 00:29:58,680 --> 00:29:59,680 You don't snag now. 397 00:30:01,860 --> 00:30:02,860 Ben, 398 00:30:03,400 --> 00:30:05,200 this is Evan, a new friend. 399 00:30:05,420 --> 00:30:07,060 Evan, this is my parent, Ben. 400 00:30:08,040 --> 00:30:12,100 Look, who set you up? Uncle Bob, please sit down. 401 00:30:12,320 --> 00:30:13,320 What set you strong? 402 00:30:13,770 --> 00:30:14,770 TV set. 403 00:30:16,830 --> 00:30:18,130 Homie, I'll take care of you, man. 404 00:30:18,550 --> 00:30:21,070 Nobody moves nothing around here without my say -so. 405 00:30:21,990 --> 00:30:24,770 Yeah, I understand, yeah. I'm good, yeah. 406 00:30:25,410 --> 00:30:26,410 Everything's good. 407 00:30:26,570 --> 00:30:27,630 Okay. Yeah. 408 00:30:28,010 --> 00:30:29,010 Okay. 409 00:30:29,190 --> 00:30:30,950 Oh, it was a pleasure to meet you, sir. 410 00:30:33,150 --> 00:30:34,150 You too. 411 00:30:38,690 --> 00:30:40,430 Finn's like my dad. He raised me. 412 00:30:41,360 --> 00:30:43,100 And he always knew Evan was the one. 413 00:30:45,120 --> 00:30:46,120 He said that? 414 00:30:46,660 --> 00:30:47,660 Yeah. 415 00:30:48,500 --> 00:30:50,720 The night Evan proposed, I got cold feet. 416 00:30:51,480 --> 00:30:53,280 I was scared and confused. 417 00:30:54,000 --> 00:30:55,140 So I talked to Ben. 418 00:30:56,240 --> 00:30:59,760 And he told me not to run away just for the sake of running. 419 00:31:00,440 --> 00:31:03,600 First time your mother was coming to get you and didn't show up. 420 00:31:04,640 --> 00:31:08,460 That night, you ran out of the house. 421 00:31:09,610 --> 00:31:12,530 Rode your bike all the way to Kenneth Hunt Park, remember? 422 00:31:13,230 --> 00:31:16,070 Yeah. That's when you started your running. 423 00:31:16,370 --> 00:31:20,930 The older you got, the further you ran, all the way to the other side of the 424 00:31:20,930 --> 00:31:25,170 world. But you ain't been nowhere since you met Heaven. 425 00:31:25,390 --> 00:31:30,950 He looks at you like you're everything in the world to him. 426 00:31:36,350 --> 00:31:37,370 That matters. 427 00:31:37,870 --> 00:31:38,970 I didn't know that. 428 00:31:41,000 --> 00:31:42,000 Yeah. 429 00:31:42,980 --> 00:31:44,920 And my whole tribe loves Evan, so. 430 00:31:45,460 --> 00:31:47,680 And what about Evan's family? 431 00:31:48,380 --> 00:31:51,960 Do you have a good relationship with them? It depends on how you define good. 432 00:31:52,060 --> 00:31:53,060 Here we go. 433 00:31:53,260 --> 00:31:57,440 What? I mean, look, his pops love me. I can say that, you know, right from the 434 00:31:57,440 --> 00:31:59,860 start. But the rest of his family. 435 00:32:00,160 --> 00:32:02,420 Esther, come on. 436 00:32:03,200 --> 00:32:05,720 Like, gently has got to be my niece's favorite person. 437 00:32:07,100 --> 00:32:08,100 Esther's my heart. 438 00:32:09,900 --> 00:32:14,680 You picked a great color. Rolling in here looking like the Obama's bringing 439 00:32:14,680 --> 00:32:15,960 the flash to get her hair done. 440 00:32:17,200 --> 00:32:18,620 And I think your hair looks dope. 441 00:32:18,900 --> 00:32:20,960 And what about Evan's mom? 442 00:32:23,720 --> 00:32:24,720 Long story. 443 00:32:25,220 --> 00:32:26,300 Sorry, we got a minute. 444 00:32:28,500 --> 00:32:29,500 Okay. 445 00:32:30,780 --> 00:32:37,440 I guess unlike Ben, Evan's mom didn't think I was the one. 446 00:32:38,400 --> 00:32:39,880 It's... Not like that. 447 00:32:41,880 --> 00:32:43,960 Me and my mom, we were always very close. 448 00:32:44,680 --> 00:32:49,400 She was such a classy person, and she had very clear views on what's right and 449 00:32:49,400 --> 00:32:50,440 wrong, what's good or bad. 450 00:32:55,940 --> 00:32:58,800 But the code that she lives by is flawed. 451 00:32:59,640 --> 00:33:00,640 All right. 452 00:33:01,680 --> 00:33:03,300 Drop it, okay? 453 00:33:03,700 --> 00:33:06,140 It's me, and I know you. 454 00:33:08,490 --> 00:33:11,330 That's all right. I'll play the bad guy. I understand that. 455 00:33:12,770 --> 00:33:14,190 But I know what you want. 456 00:33:15,030 --> 00:33:18,570 And I know what will really make you happy. 457 00:33:19,610 --> 00:33:22,250 Don't blow this whole thing on pride, Evan. 458 00:33:23,030 --> 00:33:25,370 Rise to the occasion of your life. 459 00:33:27,230 --> 00:33:33,650 Let me at least give you, and gently, a wedding to remember. 460 00:33:34,770 --> 00:33:36,350 It's based on things that... 461 00:33:36,590 --> 00:33:38,610 Aren't important to me to surface things. 462 00:33:38,910 --> 00:33:40,710 I think that's why she was hard on gently. 463 00:33:45,710 --> 00:33:47,050 Being with her. 464 00:33:48,490 --> 00:33:49,750 Made everything transparent. 465 00:33:52,530 --> 00:33:53,530 You know what I'm saying? 466 00:33:53,930 --> 00:33:54,930 Yeah. 467 00:33:55,290 --> 00:33:56,430 I do know what you're saying. 468 00:33:56,650 --> 00:33:58,490 And getting to know your family is key. 469 00:33:59,170 --> 00:34:04,570 I do that because where we come from gives us the foundation of how we love. 470 00:34:09,319 --> 00:34:13,800 So, let me ask you both, what do you two hope to accomplish through therapy? 471 00:34:18,840 --> 00:34:19,840 It's okay. 472 00:34:20,260 --> 00:34:21,260 It's okay. 473 00:34:21,980 --> 00:34:24,659 We'll work through it step by step. 474 00:34:31,440 --> 00:34:32,440 Hold the pose. 475 00:34:33,000 --> 00:34:34,000 Okay, this is weird. 476 00:34:35,179 --> 00:34:36,179 Hold it. 477 00:34:37,159 --> 00:34:38,600 I mean, I hate this. 478 00:34:40,540 --> 00:34:41,379 How long? 479 00:34:41,380 --> 00:34:42,440 Don't ask questions. 480 00:34:42,679 --> 00:34:43,679 I just want to know. 481 00:34:44,080 --> 00:34:48,739 I don't get it. Try to get out of your own heads and lean into the experience. 482 00:34:51,719 --> 00:34:52,719 Are you okay? 483 00:34:53,880 --> 00:34:54,880 Not really. 484 00:34:55,900 --> 00:34:57,139 It's hard to hold, isn't it? 485 00:34:57,420 --> 00:34:58,420 Yes. 486 00:35:00,700 --> 00:35:02,480 Take a deep breath and close your eyes. 487 00:35:02,700 --> 00:35:03,678 Close your eyes. 488 00:35:03,680 --> 00:35:04,680 Why are you... 489 00:35:06,000 --> 00:35:07,000 Why did you stop? 490 00:35:07,160 --> 00:35:08,160 Too uncomfortable. 491 00:35:08,700 --> 00:35:13,040 If you could have allowed yourself to stay in that place, that particular 492 00:35:13,040 --> 00:35:18,840 exercise simply could be you enjoying the closeness of your partner, holding 493 00:35:18,840 --> 00:35:21,720 your partner, connecting to your partner. 494 00:35:22,060 --> 00:35:23,360 Okay. I see. 495 00:35:24,060 --> 00:35:25,940 It's okay. Let's try another exercise. 496 00:35:27,440 --> 00:35:32,100 Tell me the first thing that pops into your mind when I say marriage. 497 00:35:32,480 --> 00:35:34,300 Why? All right, y 'all. 498 00:35:34,780 --> 00:35:35,780 Roll with me. 499 00:35:36,360 --> 00:35:38,000 Money. Necessary. Burden. 500 00:35:38,600 --> 00:35:39,578 It's okay. 501 00:35:39,580 --> 00:35:42,600 It's okay. We'll embrace our truths at the end of the session. 502 00:35:43,620 --> 00:35:45,680 Sex. Busy. Busy. 503 00:35:45,920 --> 00:35:46,920 Yeah, I hear y 'all. 504 00:35:47,960 --> 00:35:48,960 Church. 505 00:35:49,160 --> 00:35:50,160 Mother. Spirit. 506 00:35:50,300 --> 00:35:51,300 Very good. 507 00:35:51,900 --> 00:35:52,900 Vacation. 508 00:35:53,480 --> 00:35:54,480 Necessary. 509 00:35:55,380 --> 00:35:56,520 Interesting answer there. 510 00:35:57,680 --> 00:35:58,680 Solitude. 511 00:35:59,200 --> 00:36:00,200 Relief. 512 00:36:00,460 --> 00:36:01,460 Future. 513 00:36:01,920 --> 00:36:02,920 Help. 514 00:36:05,640 --> 00:36:07,740 I guess scared. 515 00:36:10,580 --> 00:36:11,700 Marriage is hard, y 'all. 516 00:36:13,920 --> 00:36:19,180 It isn't just smiles and fun and she's my beautiful queen and he's my amazing 517 00:36:19,180 --> 00:36:20,320 king post on Instagram. 518 00:36:21,300 --> 00:36:24,080 Sometimes you gotta dig in. 519 00:36:24,860 --> 00:36:25,860 Go deeper. 520 00:36:26,220 --> 00:36:27,840 Let me ask y 'all a few questions. 521 00:36:28,220 --> 00:36:29,220 Hard ones. 522 00:36:29,900 --> 00:36:30,900 Ready? Yeah. 523 00:36:33,980 --> 00:36:36,640 Evan? Do you love your wife? 524 00:36:36,920 --> 00:36:37,899 Of course. 525 00:36:37,900 --> 00:36:39,360 Do you want to be with your wife? 526 00:36:39,680 --> 00:36:40,680 Of course. 527 00:36:41,500 --> 00:36:42,500 Gently. 528 00:36:43,100 --> 00:36:44,100 Do you love Evan? 529 00:36:44,420 --> 00:36:45,420 Yes. 530 00:36:45,800 --> 00:36:46,980 Do you want to be with Evan? 531 00:36:47,500 --> 00:36:48,500 I do. 532 00:36:48,800 --> 00:36:50,480 Yes, that's why I'm doing this. 533 00:36:51,040 --> 00:36:53,380 How many nights a week do you spend together? 534 00:36:57,420 --> 00:37:00,480 Well, normally a lot. 535 00:37:01,000 --> 00:37:02,480 But I've been working lately. 536 00:37:03,370 --> 00:37:05,690 I have a big show coming up, so I've been really busy. 537 00:37:06,730 --> 00:37:11,610 I feel like... It's like I barely see you anymore, G. 538 00:37:13,110 --> 00:37:16,270 And you are around? I mean, more than she is. 539 00:37:17,110 --> 00:37:19,230 We used to hang out all the time. 540 00:37:19,590 --> 00:37:21,250 I'd come home, and you were there. 541 00:37:23,150 --> 00:37:24,210 I don't know. 542 00:37:24,730 --> 00:37:25,810 Everything was just cool. 543 00:37:27,090 --> 00:37:30,790 But now, it's like I'm lucky if I can see you twice a week. 544 00:37:31,390 --> 00:37:32,390 Wow. 545 00:37:32,620 --> 00:37:36,120 Gently, you have a different take on that? I just find it interesting that 546 00:37:36,120 --> 00:37:38,520 things were cool when I was home waiting for you. 547 00:37:38,900 --> 00:37:39,940 I never tripped. 548 00:37:40,340 --> 00:37:43,800 You know, I never said, I barely see, I'm lucky if I see him. 549 00:37:44,980 --> 00:37:46,140 I mean, but it's different. 550 00:37:48,680 --> 00:37:50,760 Gently, you're shaking your head. Tell us what you're thinking. 551 00:37:53,780 --> 00:37:55,760 I'm just thinking this is crazy. 552 00:37:57,340 --> 00:38:01,340 I don't want to answer to you. If I want to be out, I'm going to be out. 553 00:38:01,640 --> 00:38:03,400 But that's a thing a woman's perspective. 554 00:38:03,780 --> 00:38:04,960 Or a grown woman. 555 00:38:05,260 --> 00:38:06,980 It's not a married woman's perspective. 556 00:38:07,460 --> 00:38:09,580 Because I'm married, I'm beholden to you. 557 00:38:10,160 --> 00:38:13,720 You come and go whenever you please, and you do not ask me for permission. 558 00:38:13,840 --> 00:38:14,840 Actually, yes. 559 00:38:15,120 --> 00:38:18,460 I am beholden to you. I thought that you were beholden to me. 560 00:38:18,840 --> 00:38:21,840 I thought that's the way it was supposed to be. So you don't want me to do the 561 00:38:21,840 --> 00:38:26,620 one thing that makes me the happiest I've ever been in my entire life? The 562 00:38:26,620 --> 00:38:28,340 thing. So I don't make you happy? 563 00:38:28,760 --> 00:38:29,800 I didn't say that. 564 00:38:30,460 --> 00:38:34,960 In a perfect world, what do you want, Evan? Look, it's not even in a perfect 565 00:38:34,960 --> 00:38:37,760 world. I'm not asking you too much. I just want the way that it used to be. I 566 00:38:37,760 --> 00:38:38,760 miss you, Gently. 567 00:38:39,560 --> 00:38:45,420 I want a wife I can come home to at night, a woman who would put me before 568 00:38:45,420 --> 00:38:46,420 job. 569 00:38:54,760 --> 00:38:57,540 Gently, what do you want from Evan? 570 00:38:59,920 --> 00:39:01,760 I want you to want this for me. 571 00:39:02,060 --> 00:39:03,840 This meaning your career? Yeah. 572 00:39:04,060 --> 00:39:05,060 Dude, you're flipping the script. 573 00:39:05,500 --> 00:39:06,500 Oh, there's no script. 574 00:39:06,940 --> 00:39:12,120 It's called evolving. That means growing, changing. It's growing apart. 575 00:39:12,420 --> 00:39:13,540 Go further with that. 576 00:39:15,700 --> 00:39:19,240 I don't know. It's just the exercise that we were doing early when we put our 577 00:39:19,240 --> 00:39:20,980 heads up to each other. It's just... 578 00:39:21,450 --> 00:39:24,330 If you had just stayed in that moment, you could have learned something about 579 00:39:24,330 --> 00:39:27,310 yourself. But you're not willing to be uncomfortable. You don't want to be 580 00:39:27,310 --> 00:39:29,870 uncomfortable, gently, ever. I shouldn't have to be uncomfortable. 581 00:39:31,070 --> 00:39:32,510 I have catered to you. 582 00:39:33,110 --> 00:39:35,090 I've changed myself for you. 583 00:39:35,350 --> 00:39:39,370 And I find one thing for me, and you mad. 584 00:39:40,290 --> 00:39:44,090 That makes me furious, and I resent that, and I'm not doing this with you. I 585 00:39:44,090 --> 00:39:46,830 shouldn't have to give up what I love for you, for anyone. 586 00:39:48,150 --> 00:39:49,150 No. 587 00:39:49,879 --> 00:39:53,760 You shouldn't have to give up what you love for me. Can you please stop with 588 00:39:53,760 --> 00:39:57,200 passive -aggressive shit, Evan? It's really weak. Excuse me? Please stop. I'm 589 00:39:57,200 --> 00:40:00,460 not the weak one. You heard me. No. Okay, okay, okay. Okay. 590 00:40:04,020 --> 00:40:09,280 Stand up. Let's try one more. No, I don't think this is working. It'll all 591 00:40:09,280 --> 00:40:11,060 together with this last one. 592 00:40:12,300 --> 00:40:13,940 Please. Trust me. 593 00:40:16,300 --> 00:40:17,300 Trust. 594 00:40:21,520 --> 00:40:22,520 Okay, y 'all follow me. 595 00:40:42,760 --> 00:40:43,760 Face each other. 596 00:40:57,160 --> 00:40:58,160 Hold hands. 597 00:41:04,040 --> 00:41:10,180 Now, I want you to hold this connection as long as you can.