1 00:00:14,147 --> 00:00:15,949 For most of my life, 2 00:00:16,083 --> 00:00:17,751 I felt really confident 3 00:00:18,752 --> 00:00:21,522 that I could build anything I wanted. 4 00:00:22,856 --> 00:00:30,397 I'd built all of the dreams that I ever dreamed. 5 00:00:30,530 --> 00:00:34,868 But a couple of years ago, after the Oscars, 6 00:00:35,002 --> 00:00:37,304 I realized that... 7 00:00:38,038 --> 00:00:40,240 nothing can last forever. 8 00:00:43,477 --> 00:00:45,279 That shook me a little bit. 9 00:00:46,413 --> 00:00:47,581 So, what do you do? 10 00:00:48,815 --> 00:00:50,517 Collapse? 11 00:00:51,084 --> 00:00:52,753 Dissolve? 12 00:00:53,353 --> 00:00:55,789 I began to ask myself the question... 13 00:00:59,226 --> 00:01:03,864 ..."How can I be happy knowing that everything falls apart?" 14 00:01:40,600 --> 00:01:43,637 For the next leg on my Pole to Pole journey, 15 00:01:43,770 --> 00:01:47,374 I've landed in the Kingdom of Bhutan 16 00:01:47,507 --> 00:01:49,810 to join a scientific expedition 17 00:01:49,943 --> 00:01:53,580 in search of one of life's most elusive treasures, 18 00:01:53,947 --> 00:01:56,350 the secret to happiness. 19 00:01:57,684 --> 00:02:00,153 Hey, Will. Welcome to Bhutan. 20 00:02:00,287 --> 00:02:01,622 Hey! 21 00:02:01,755 --> 00:02:03,357 - Dacher and Denkar. - Yes. 22 00:02:03,490 --> 00:02:05,726 Absolute pleasure, man. 23 00:02:08,295 --> 00:02:09,896 Off to explore. 24 00:02:10,030 --> 00:02:10,964 Yes. 25 00:02:11,098 --> 00:02:12,532 Heading up the expedition 26 00:02:12,666 --> 00:02:15,435 are Bhutanese writer Denkar Tshering... 27 00:02:16,003 --> 00:02:17,237 The road trip begins. 28 00:02:17,371 --> 00:02:19,306 ...and Dacher Keltner, 29 00:02:19,439 --> 00:02:21,241 one of the world's leading professors 30 00:02:21,375 --> 00:02:23,944 in the science of happiness. 31 00:02:26,947 --> 00:02:31,151 How did you make your way to the study of happiness? 32 00:02:31,518 --> 00:02:33,286 I got interested in it because 33 00:02:33,420 --> 00:02:35,789 I think it's one of the biggest questions 34 00:02:35,922 --> 00:02:37,090 we can ask about life. 35 00:02:37,224 --> 00:02:39,226 You know, are you happy? 36 00:02:40,193 --> 00:02:43,597 I've been studying happiness and emotions for 30 years. 37 00:02:44,131 --> 00:02:49,136 In that time, the data tells us people are getting richer, 38 00:02:49,636 --> 00:02:51,004 people live longer, 39 00:02:51,538 --> 00:02:53,874 but what's astounding is that for many of us, 40 00:02:54,007 --> 00:02:56,943 our sense of well-being is actually going down. 41 00:02:59,446 --> 00:03:01,581 Because it doesn't matter who we are. 42 00:03:01,715 --> 00:03:04,818 We have a lot of bad ideas about what makes us happy. 43 00:03:06,586 --> 00:03:09,056 I haven't been this excited in a long time. 44 00:03:09,189 --> 00:03:13,960 This is coming at a really interesting time in my life. 45 00:03:14,561 --> 00:03:15,729 You can have a lot of successes 46 00:03:15,862 --> 00:03:17,898 and it just doesn't bring you a lot of happiness. 47 00:03:18,031 --> 00:03:22,836 Yes. Definitely be interesting to get a sense of why that is. 48 00:03:22,969 --> 00:03:24,171 - Right. - So, what do we do? 49 00:03:24,304 --> 00:03:26,073 - You come to Bhutan. - You come to Bhutan! 50 00:03:29,810 --> 00:03:31,411 Bhutan is very different 51 00:03:31,545 --> 00:03:33,080 compared to rest of the world. 52 00:03:33,547 --> 00:03:37,617 Everything we strive for is people's happiness. 53 00:03:38,552 --> 00:03:39,820 In our country, 54 00:03:39,953 --> 00:03:43,824 we measure our development through the well-being 55 00:03:43,957 --> 00:03:46,426 and happiness of the people here. 56 00:03:46,560 --> 00:03:49,329 You measure the wealth of a nation 57 00:03:49,463 --> 00:03:51,298 by the happiness of the people. 58 00:03:51,431 --> 00:03:53,500 That is beautiful. 59 00:03:54,668 --> 00:03:57,070 And there's even the village 60 00:03:57,204 --> 00:03:59,005 where the happiest people live. 61 00:03:59,639 --> 00:04:03,276 They have been living in the mountains for centuries 62 00:04:03,410 --> 00:04:05,378 at 13,000 feet. 63 00:04:06,613 --> 00:04:09,149 We're actually heading to Laya. 64 00:04:09,282 --> 00:04:10,350 - Laya? - Yep. 65 00:04:10,484 --> 00:04:12,953 It's literally at the top of the country. 66 00:04:13,086 --> 00:04:16,690 It's like, one of the highest settlements in the world. 67 00:04:16,823 --> 00:04:18,458 So, I wanna show you 68 00:04:18,592 --> 00:04:19,826 what's going on in that community. 69 00:04:19,960 --> 00:04:22,863 This is like the perfect Disney movie: 70 00:04:22,996 --> 00:04:25,198 The Journey to the Top of the Mountain 71 00:04:25,332 --> 00:04:27,968 to Find the Secret of Happiness. 72 00:04:41,114 --> 00:04:43,383 Oh, yeah. 73 00:04:43,517 --> 00:04:45,485 - I'm ready. - Let's go. 74 00:04:46,720 --> 00:04:48,088 On our journey up to Laya, 75 00:04:48,221 --> 00:04:49,456 I'm going to introduce Will 76 00:04:49,589 --> 00:04:52,259 to some of the most important principles of happiness 77 00:04:52,392 --> 00:04:56,329 by putting him to the test in some extraordinary experiments. 78 00:04:57,164 --> 00:04:59,332 I thought it was really wise to start 79 00:04:59,466 --> 00:05:01,201 with the most simple source of happiness, 80 00:05:01,334 --> 00:05:06,106 where people very often run into trouble. 81 00:05:11,778 --> 00:05:14,147 What is pleasure to me? 82 00:05:16,149 --> 00:05:17,117 Oh. 83 00:05:18,185 --> 00:05:20,187 You know, the big three. 84 00:05:21,454 --> 00:05:23,156 Money, sex, power. 85 00:05:29,129 --> 00:05:30,630 You know, when I set out, 86 00:05:30,764 --> 00:05:31,865 I told myself I wanted to be 87 00:05:31,998 --> 00:05:33,600 the biggest movie star in the world. 88 00:05:34,067 --> 00:05:37,804 And I was gonna have as much money as I could have. 89 00:05:37,938 --> 00:05:40,040 And I was gonna be happy all the time. 90 00:05:40,173 --> 00:05:43,877 As you can imagine, uh, that idea came crashing down. 91 00:05:46,913 --> 00:05:49,049 So I'm hoping you got something for me. 92 00:05:49,182 --> 00:05:52,419 Yeah, we're gonna need to explore pleasure in the body. 93 00:05:52,552 --> 00:05:53,954 - Oh, love it. - What's it feel like 94 00:05:54,087 --> 00:05:56,590 in our heart, what happens in our brain. 95 00:05:56,723 --> 00:05:58,191 Alright. Let's have some fun. 96 00:05:58,325 --> 00:06:00,227 Yeah. 97 00:06:05,065 --> 00:06:07,300 We're stopping. 98 00:06:11,338 --> 00:06:12,472 Here we are. 99 00:06:14,941 --> 00:06:16,509 Alright, so what are we doing? 100 00:06:16,643 --> 00:06:19,546 So in this exploration of pleasure, 101 00:06:19,679 --> 00:06:21,248 I need you to jump off that bridge. 102 00:06:22,148 --> 00:06:23,250 Oh, my God. 103 00:06:29,890 --> 00:06:32,659 See, 'cause you said we were doing pleasure. 104 00:06:32,792 --> 00:06:34,928 I don't think you understand pleasure. 105 00:06:37,631 --> 00:06:39,900 We are wired to 106 00:06:40,033 --> 00:06:42,636 go out into the world and find exciting things. 107 00:06:43,770 --> 00:06:45,071 We seek out sex. 108 00:06:45,205 --> 00:06:49,910 We seek out delicious foods, and even extreme sports. 109 00:06:50,910 --> 00:06:54,147 Very often we find pleasure in pushing our body to the limits. 110 00:06:56,383 --> 00:06:58,218 We're gonna track your heart rate and your breathing, 111 00:06:58,351 --> 00:07:00,620 all the way down through the whole experience. 112 00:07:00,754 --> 00:07:02,255 So go right across there? 113 00:07:02,389 --> 00:07:03,556 Yeah, that's right. 114 00:07:05,792 --> 00:07:07,260 Dacher went out on a limb. 115 00:07:07,394 --> 00:07:10,263 You just can't ask somebody to jump off a bridge 116 00:07:10,397 --> 00:07:11,965 when you first meet 'em. 117 00:07:14,534 --> 00:07:15,802 Your parents would say that to you. 118 00:07:15,936 --> 00:07:19,239 If your friends jumped off of a bridge, would you do it? 119 00:07:19,839 --> 00:07:23,043 And... apparently, yes. 120 00:07:25,879 --> 00:07:27,314 Oh, check that out. 121 00:07:31,484 --> 00:07:32,519 How's that heart rate doing? 122 00:07:32,652 --> 00:07:34,354 The heart rate is certainly up. 123 00:07:34,487 --> 00:07:35,722 You'll be fine. 124 00:07:36,222 --> 00:07:38,358 Not ready. Not ready. 125 00:08:13,226 --> 00:08:14,861 Will! 126 00:08:18,965 --> 00:08:21,501 Whoa! Ho-ho-ho! 127 00:08:21,634 --> 00:08:23,103 Yes, Will! 128 00:08:23,236 --> 00:08:24,804 Whoa! Whoa! 129 00:08:24,938 --> 00:08:27,240 There you go! 130 00:08:28,608 --> 00:08:29,843 I think I pooped. 131 00:08:29,976 --> 00:08:33,012 Wow! That was exciting! He did it. 132 00:08:33,146 --> 00:08:35,548 Alright, now it's starting to get beautiful. 133 00:08:36,149 --> 00:08:38,818 Will, are you coming up anytime soon? 134 00:08:38,952 --> 00:08:41,388 I certainly hope so. 135 00:08:44,290 --> 00:08:46,393 This was a radical experiment. 136 00:08:46,526 --> 00:08:47,861 He's falling through space. 137 00:08:49,062 --> 00:08:51,197 And we're gathering measures of, you know, 138 00:08:51,331 --> 00:08:53,400 down to the millisecond of what his heart is doing, 139 00:08:53,533 --> 00:08:55,068 and what his respiration is like. 140 00:08:55,535 --> 00:08:56,770 So, here's your heart, 141 00:08:56,903 --> 00:08:58,538 clipping along, you're kinda nervous. 142 00:08:58,671 --> 00:09:00,173 And then you step up on the ledge, 143 00:09:00,306 --> 00:09:02,675 and your heart is almost 160 beats per minute. 144 00:09:03,109 --> 00:09:04,444 - Wow! - Wow! 145 00:09:04,577 --> 00:09:05,712 And then you jump. 146 00:09:05,845 --> 00:09:08,081 And as you start to reframe this acute stress, 147 00:09:08,214 --> 00:09:10,817 like, I'm not dying, the ropes worked, 148 00:09:10,950 --> 00:09:13,420 that then activates dopamine. 149 00:09:14,921 --> 00:09:17,757 Dopamine is a neurotransmitter 150 00:09:17,891 --> 00:09:21,995 that is activated by sources of pleasure. 151 00:09:22,662 --> 00:09:24,064 We have this quick high, 152 00:09:24,197 --> 00:09:28,068 and then by design, our body calms down. 153 00:09:28,201 --> 00:09:31,037 It's how we are chemically constructed. 154 00:09:31,171 --> 00:09:32,806 Pleasure is not meant to last. 155 00:09:32,939 --> 00:09:35,375 This is the hedonistic view of happiness. 156 00:09:35,508 --> 00:09:37,677 We could call that the Will-onistic view... 157 00:09:37,811 --> 00:09:41,548 of, of, of happy... 158 00:09:41,681 --> 00:09:45,718 I've lived most of my adult life here, 159 00:09:45,852 --> 00:09:47,887 climbing the mountain of success, 160 00:09:48,021 --> 00:09:50,490 climbing the mountain of money, you know, 161 00:09:50,623 --> 00:09:52,692 sex and power and fame. 162 00:09:52,826 --> 00:09:57,630 And I absolutely believed 163 00:09:57,764 --> 00:10:00,600 that would bring me happiness. 164 00:10:00,733 --> 00:10:02,368 That wasn't the case. 165 00:10:05,638 --> 00:10:09,843 I got a deeper understanding about the concept of pleasure. 166 00:10:10,610 --> 00:10:15,448 It's like drinking salt water. It just makes you thirstier. 167 00:10:21,354 --> 00:10:22,889 So, Will, yesterday, we explored 168 00:10:23,022 --> 00:10:24,157 the pleasures of the body, 169 00:10:24,290 --> 00:10:25,558 and you chose to jump off a bridge. 170 00:10:25,692 --> 00:10:27,727 Yep. 171 00:10:27,861 --> 00:10:29,362 You got a lot going on in your life, 172 00:10:29,496 --> 00:10:31,531 and, what about your mind gets in the way? 173 00:10:31,664 --> 00:10:35,034 So, the second part of the happiness equation is stress. 174 00:10:42,709 --> 00:10:45,478 My father was military. 175 00:10:45,612 --> 00:10:51,217 So I was raised with that military mindset, 176 00:10:51,351 --> 00:10:56,823 and I've always felt, like, you know, bring it. 177 00:10:56,956 --> 00:10:58,224 I'll handle whatever. 178 00:10:59,792 --> 00:11:01,861 But I'm starting to look at it 179 00:11:01,995 --> 00:11:06,232 as something that's damaging to my health. 180 00:11:07,367 --> 00:11:09,469 I can always tell when I'm stressed. 181 00:11:10,436 --> 00:11:13,907 I'll usually wake up and my neck will be locked, 182 00:11:14,507 --> 00:11:17,544 you know, and I'll be looking around corners like this. 183 00:11:18,912 --> 00:11:20,680 - Here we are, sir. - Okay. 184 00:11:25,985 --> 00:11:27,420 You're gonna swab this around your cheek 185 00:11:27,554 --> 00:11:29,722 to get cortisol, which is a stress hormone. 186 00:11:29,856 --> 00:11:31,624 - A stress hormone? - Right. 187 00:11:31,758 --> 00:11:33,393 And we're gonna read your cortisol levels 188 00:11:33,526 --> 00:11:34,360 and see how are you doing. 189 00:11:34,494 --> 00:11:37,564 Up or down as you probe me through the day. 190 00:11:37,697 --> 00:11:39,098 Yes, exactly right. 191 00:11:40,166 --> 00:11:41,768 Cortisol prepares your body 192 00:11:41,901 --> 00:11:45,138 to deal with threats and struggles of life. 193 00:11:46,239 --> 00:11:49,242 The problem is when it's chronically high. 194 00:11:49,375 --> 00:11:52,979 We tend to suffer in terms of our mental and physical health. 195 00:11:53,112 --> 00:11:54,414 Hello! 196 00:11:54,547 --> 00:11:56,015 - Hello, everybody! - Hey, hey, hey. 197 00:11:56,149 --> 00:11:58,017 - Hey. - Hey. 198 00:11:58,551 --> 00:12:00,720 People call me the happy farmer. 199 00:12:00,853 --> 00:12:02,956 Hello, Mr. Will. Hey! 200 00:12:03,089 --> 00:12:05,024 People think I'm a very positive person. 201 00:12:05,158 --> 00:12:07,794 So I heard you were exploring happiness here? 202 00:12:07,927 --> 00:12:10,230 Yes, and I can feel your energy already. 203 00:12:10,363 --> 00:12:12,832 So, I want some of that. I want some of that. 204 00:12:12,966 --> 00:12:14,634 I want some of that from you too. 205 00:12:15,868 --> 00:12:17,003 Happiness for me 206 00:12:17,136 --> 00:12:20,373 is having right relationship with nature. 207 00:12:20,506 --> 00:12:21,441 And to Denkar. 208 00:12:21,574 --> 00:12:24,377 Nature has a profound effect on our mind, 209 00:12:24,510 --> 00:12:26,212 which helps us to overcome any stress 210 00:12:26,346 --> 00:12:28,248 that we may be carrying in our body. 211 00:12:28,381 --> 00:12:29,949 Can I invite you for nature bathing? 212 00:12:30,083 --> 00:12:32,885 - Nature bathing? Okay. - Yeah, let's do that then. 213 00:12:33,019 --> 00:12:34,420 I don't know what that is, but I'm with you. 214 00:12:34,554 --> 00:12:35,488 You're alright. 215 00:12:40,326 --> 00:12:41,194 You can join me. 216 00:12:41,661 --> 00:12:44,397 I wanna remove my shoes and I want to feel the ground. 217 00:12:44,530 --> 00:12:46,833 Remove your shoes and feel the ground. 218 00:12:46,966 --> 00:12:48,167 Would you love to do that? 219 00:12:48,301 --> 00:12:49,769 I wouldn't, but I will. 220 00:12:52,538 --> 00:12:53,706 I'm a city boy. 221 00:12:53,840 --> 00:12:58,378 So I was resistant to the nature bathing. 222 00:12:59,412 --> 00:13:02,415 I'm in nature sometimes without any clothes. 223 00:13:04,617 --> 00:13:06,019 I was like, 224 00:13:06,152 --> 00:13:08,454 old boy better keep his robe on. 225 00:13:11,791 --> 00:13:13,292 Surrender. 226 00:13:13,860 --> 00:13:15,328 Okay. 227 00:13:16,095 --> 00:13:17,864 Ow. 228 00:13:19,766 --> 00:13:21,300 Smell the soil. 229 00:13:23,903 --> 00:13:24,837 You can join me. 230 00:13:29,842 --> 00:13:31,711 [exhales deeply] Really? 231 00:13:32,712 --> 00:13:34,280 Maybe we can lie here. 232 00:13:35,148 --> 00:13:40,453 It's a real test to just stop. 233 00:13:41,688 --> 00:13:42,955 Just relax. 234 00:13:44,390 --> 00:13:46,726 It's almost like my mind's 235 00:13:46,859 --> 00:13:49,395 a thousand miles per hour. 236 00:13:50,330 --> 00:13:52,498 "You can't just sit there. You gotta take a walk. 237 00:13:52,632 --> 00:13:55,902 Your back hurts, Will. Get up, stand up, stretch." 238 00:13:56,035 --> 00:13:59,872 The energies of my mind almost attack. 239 00:14:05,411 --> 00:14:08,114 Like Mr. Will, many years ago, 240 00:14:08,247 --> 00:14:09,615 I live in the city. 241 00:14:10,850 --> 00:14:12,819 I had a 9:00 to 5:00 job. 242 00:14:13,453 --> 00:14:16,789 So, my mind was full of negative emotions. 243 00:14:16,923 --> 00:14:19,058 But I was looking for peace. 244 00:14:20,159 --> 00:14:23,296 So... what happened? 245 00:14:23,429 --> 00:14:27,166 In 2009, I had a auto car accident. 246 00:14:27,300 --> 00:14:28,034 Wow. 247 00:14:28,167 --> 00:14:29,435 I was disabled. 248 00:14:29,569 --> 00:14:32,004 I could not move. My whole body was casted. 249 00:14:32,138 --> 00:14:33,906 From there, 250 00:14:34,040 --> 00:14:37,443 how did you discover here? 251 00:14:38,244 --> 00:14:40,713 I was bedridden for around nine months. 252 00:14:41,347 --> 00:14:44,317 Nature is a place where I go find myself. 253 00:14:46,352 --> 00:14:48,287 When I was in physiotherapy, 254 00:14:48,421 --> 00:14:50,923 I went to many natural spring waters. 255 00:14:51,057 --> 00:14:53,426 I was there for months soaking in nature. 256 00:14:54,460 --> 00:14:58,531 It was a very profound experience for me. 257 00:14:58,664 --> 00:15:02,034 I was able to let go of the stress in my life. 258 00:15:03,302 --> 00:15:04,904 I'm gonna get well, 259 00:15:05,037 --> 00:15:08,174 to live a life in harmony with nature. 260 00:15:10,009 --> 00:15:11,177 The sun. 261 00:15:14,380 --> 00:15:16,749 The sound of river down the valley. 262 00:15:19,385 --> 00:15:22,955 Research was finding that any relationship to nature 263 00:15:23,089 --> 00:15:25,224 can calm the body down. 264 00:15:26,826 --> 00:15:27,894 Birdsong... 265 00:15:28,728 --> 00:15:31,464 and the wonderful sounds of running water 266 00:15:32,331 --> 00:15:34,600 have positive effects on mood. 267 00:15:36,536 --> 00:15:40,773 The sense of smell, the flowers and trees... 268 00:15:41,841 --> 00:15:44,510 makes you better able to focus. 269 00:15:44,644 --> 00:15:46,045 Open your eyes. 270 00:15:47,680 --> 00:15:50,483 You don't need to radically transform your life. 271 00:15:51,317 --> 00:15:55,288 Just 20 minutes a week can deactivate stress. 272 00:15:56,422 --> 00:15:58,157 Look at the butterfly. 273 00:15:59,992 --> 00:16:02,094 And you're gonna be happier. 274 00:16:06,766 --> 00:16:08,000 I think we heard you howling out there. 275 00:16:08,134 --> 00:16:10,770 I know. Yeah, yeah! 276 00:16:10,903 --> 00:16:12,071 How'd it go in there? 277 00:16:12,205 --> 00:16:13,472 It was interesting. 278 00:16:13,606 --> 00:16:16,075 I realized when my mind is going, 279 00:16:16,209 --> 00:16:18,344 it's like, my eyes and ears are off. 280 00:16:18,478 --> 00:16:19,879 - Yeah. Yeah. - Right. 281 00:16:20,012 --> 00:16:21,514 And then I relaxed into it. 282 00:16:21,647 --> 00:16:23,683 I could see and feel why it was beautiful. 283 00:16:23,816 --> 00:16:26,252 Let's take a quick look at these, at these data. 284 00:16:26,385 --> 00:16:28,221 Um, stuff we gathered from the cheek swab. 285 00:16:28,354 --> 00:16:31,557 What you see is as you hike up the hill 286 00:16:31,691 --> 00:16:34,193 to get ready for your forest bathing, 287 00:16:34,327 --> 00:16:35,494 you see a rise in cortisol. 288 00:16:35,628 --> 00:16:36,996 That's exactly what you would expect. 289 00:16:37,563 --> 00:16:40,500 And then remarkably, after being in nature, 290 00:16:41,100 --> 00:16:44,070 you drop precipitously in cortisol. 291 00:16:44,203 --> 00:16:45,438 Yeah, I certainly felt that. 292 00:16:46,205 --> 00:16:48,040 But, like, when you look around here, 293 00:16:48,174 --> 00:16:52,111 it's a whole lot easier to manage your cortisol 294 00:16:52,245 --> 00:16:54,947 than in traffic on the 405 in LA. 295 00:16:55,081 --> 00:16:56,516 You know. 296 00:16:59,051 --> 00:17:00,520 My friends used to say 297 00:17:00,653 --> 00:17:04,123 that I only had one gear, and it was go. 298 00:17:04,257 --> 00:17:05,424 All the time. 299 00:17:06,859 --> 00:17:11,163 It's now pretty clear to me that for most of my life, 300 00:17:11,297 --> 00:17:15,368 I didn't have a release valve. 301 00:17:16,769 --> 00:17:20,706 I was a cortisol bomb just ready to explode. 302 00:17:21,908 --> 00:17:27,013 I just wish I could have known that long ago. 303 00:17:33,419 --> 00:17:37,590 This is the last stop before our trek to Laya. 304 00:17:42,962 --> 00:17:44,397 So here you are. 305 00:17:54,106 --> 00:17:55,741 Wow. 306 00:18:00,546 --> 00:18:02,548 It’s like from a different era. 307 00:18:06,652 --> 00:18:08,187 So, Will, on our search for happiness, 308 00:18:08,321 --> 00:18:09,755 - we've kinda covered pleasure. - Yep. 309 00:18:09,889 --> 00:18:11,223 And then stress. 310 00:18:11,357 --> 00:18:13,559 But, um, there's a lot more to happiness 311 00:18:13,693 --> 00:18:15,594 - than the individual body. - Mm-hmm. 312 00:18:16,162 --> 00:18:17,296 It's about meaning, you know, 313 00:18:17,430 --> 00:18:19,465 how we find purpose in life. 314 00:18:19,598 --> 00:18:21,067 And so what we thought is, you know, 315 00:18:21,233 --> 00:18:22,602 we'd bring you to a place 316 00:18:22,735 --> 00:18:24,036 where they've been thinking about this 317 00:18:24,170 --> 00:18:25,972 for hundreds of years. 318 00:18:26,639 --> 00:18:29,809 So here you are. The Monastery. 319 00:18:35,348 --> 00:18:36,549 For most of my life, 320 00:18:36,682 --> 00:18:39,885 I've had absolute purpose. 321 00:18:41,420 --> 00:18:43,289 You know, I was striving to be 322 00:18:43,422 --> 00:18:46,292 the biggest movie star in the world. 323 00:18:47,927 --> 00:18:51,797 I set very high standards for myself. 324 00:18:51,931 --> 00:18:55,067 Signing every autograph, and shaking every hand, 325 00:18:55,201 --> 00:18:56,302 and kissing every baby. 326 00:18:56,435 --> 00:18:58,270 And this is our dorm. 327 00:18:58,404 --> 00:19:02,341 I had a relentless focus on 328 00:19:02,475 --> 00:19:05,277 outward perfection. 329 00:19:06,479 --> 00:19:10,316 But it certainly didn't turn out as I had planned. 330 00:19:13,953 --> 00:19:15,454 Um... 331 00:19:16,088 --> 00:19:17,656 Uh, first of all, 332 00:19:17,790 --> 00:19:20,459 sitting like a monk is very difficult. 333 00:19:27,266 --> 00:19:28,267 It's really difficult. 334 00:19:28,401 --> 00:19:29,702 That's why I couldn't be a monk. 335 00:19:31,637 --> 00:19:35,941 So, for you, what is happiness? 336 00:19:36,776 --> 00:19:39,412 How we find happiness is by realizing, 337 00:19:39,545 --> 00:19:42,348 like, everything that happens outside is impermanent. 338 00:19:42,481 --> 00:19:44,984 Everything is changing. 339 00:19:45,117 --> 00:19:47,153 And we use many examples, 340 00:19:47,286 --> 00:19:48,788 we can be rich and poor. 341 00:19:48,921 --> 00:19:52,024 Sometimes we can be very popular and sometimes not. 342 00:19:52,158 --> 00:19:54,393 I-I know about that personally. 343 00:19:55,428 --> 00:19:58,898 I tasted the top of my success, 344 00:19:59,031 --> 00:20:02,601 fame, uh, money, 345 00:20:03,169 --> 00:20:06,472 and then watched it fall apart. 346 00:20:06,605 --> 00:20:12,111 I'm trying to find ways to stop worrying about that. 347 00:20:14,313 --> 00:20:16,182 All the attachment you have 348 00:20:16,315 --> 00:20:18,384 is never gonna lead you to happiness. 349 00:20:19,985 --> 00:20:22,388 So by trying to hold on 350 00:20:22,521 --> 00:20:24,924 to those things so hard, 351 00:20:25,057 --> 00:20:30,529 becomes the actual source of my unhappiness. 352 00:20:31,330 --> 00:20:33,432 Tha-that-that's, um... 353 00:20:35,067 --> 00:20:36,469 pretty accurate. 354 00:20:43,776 --> 00:20:47,146 I can see the emotion in, in you, in your face. 355 00:20:47,279 --> 00:20:49,048 - Yeah. - And that is actually 356 00:20:49,181 --> 00:20:50,349 the starting of our wisdom. 357 00:20:50,483 --> 00:20:53,552 When we encounter a very bad moment, 358 00:20:53,686 --> 00:20:55,254 or incident in our life, 359 00:20:55,387 --> 00:20:57,323 there is no other way to find happiness 360 00:20:57,456 --> 00:20:59,458 than within yourself. 361 00:21:00,426 --> 00:21:02,762 Within me where? 362 00:21:17,710 --> 00:21:18,744 Death. 363 00:21:21,180 --> 00:21:25,084 I've never really thought about 364 00:21:25,217 --> 00:21:27,753 death or dying. 365 00:21:27,887 --> 00:21:32,491 What is the, the theory behind death? 366 00:21:45,271 --> 00:21:47,573 So turn your full attention 367 00:21:47,706 --> 00:21:50,209 to the idea of your death, 368 00:21:50,743 --> 00:21:54,780 to contemplate what's important and what's unimportant. 369 00:22:02,822 --> 00:22:05,658 We would like to offer you the monk's robe. 370 00:22:07,193 --> 00:22:08,494 Thank you. 371 00:22:10,763 --> 00:22:13,032 And it's funny talking about death. 372 00:22:14,266 --> 00:22:15,601 I just don't think about it, 373 00:22:15,734 --> 00:22:19,004 and I feel, like, I... maybe I'm hiding from it a little bit. 374 00:22:19,138 --> 00:22:20,105 Um... 375 00:22:22,241 --> 00:22:23,709 My death. 376 00:22:24,243 --> 00:22:26,078 That's a heavy thought for me. 377 00:22:33,152 --> 00:22:36,055 Unlike Bhutan, one of the real shortcomings 378 00:22:36,188 --> 00:22:38,858 in our Western view of happiness... 379 00:22:41,527 --> 00:22:43,495 is we ignore death. 380 00:22:44,730 --> 00:22:46,999 And I am, like, a classic example. 381 00:22:49,568 --> 00:22:52,104 Ralph was my younger brother. 382 00:22:53,472 --> 00:22:56,208 We really did almost everything together. 383 00:22:58,777 --> 00:23:00,579 Five years ago... 384 00:23:01,547 --> 00:23:03,015 he, uh... 385 00:23:06,886 --> 00:23:08,687 So, Ralph got colon cancer. 386 00:23:12,524 --> 00:23:13,959 So I get a call, 387 00:23:14,827 --> 00:23:17,062 drive two and a half hours to his house. 388 00:23:18,998 --> 00:23:21,934 He was in a unconscious state... 389 00:23:24,169 --> 00:23:26,839 and then passed away at 6:00 a.m. I think. 390 00:23:30,376 --> 00:23:32,144 And I was blown off the map. 391 00:23:35,447 --> 00:23:37,716 I was at my low point in life. 392 00:23:39,551 --> 00:23:41,720 Nothing made much sense. 393 00:23:42,888 --> 00:23:45,791 And so I went to the mountains. 394 00:23:49,295 --> 00:23:54,700 And I talked deeply to the brotherhood of monks. 395 00:23:54,867 --> 00:23:57,636 Reflecting upon death changed my life. 396 00:23:59,405 --> 00:24:03,108 And I sharpened my sense of what really matters. 397 00:24:04,276 --> 00:24:07,646 And for me, that's helping people find happiness. 398 00:24:09,114 --> 00:24:12,718 And I wanted Will to find his own sense of understanding. 399 00:24:14,453 --> 00:24:15,821 So we had to put him to the test. 400 00:25:06,105 --> 00:25:09,008 I have a very active imagination. 401 00:25:10,943 --> 00:25:14,279 When the masked dance started, I was like, "Oh, no." 402 00:25:15,080 --> 00:25:16,849 This is it. 403 00:25:21,520 --> 00:25:24,957 The music, the fire, 404 00:25:25,090 --> 00:25:30,963 those frightening masks and darker energies, 405 00:25:31,697 --> 00:25:34,500 I know that it's set up and it's a ritual, 406 00:25:35,467 --> 00:25:39,838 but it forces you to look deep down inside. 407 00:25:46,211 --> 00:25:47,613 Will Smith! 408 00:25:47,746 --> 00:25:49,048 Grammy-winning rapper, 409 00:25:49,181 --> 00:25:50,816 one of the biggest movie stars in the world right now. 410 00:25:50,949 --> 00:25:52,050 I make this look good. 411 00:25:52,184 --> 00:25:54,086 Please welcome Will Smith! 412 00:25:54,620 --> 00:25:56,955 I was always attractive when I was young. 413 00:25:57,089 --> 00:25:59,625 It clicked in the studio, it's almost triple platinum now. 414 00:25:59,758 --> 00:26:03,295 While the other guy's sleeping, I'm working. 415 00:26:03,429 --> 00:26:06,298 You have this phenomenal career! 416 00:26:06,865 --> 00:26:08,967 As long as they're screaming "Will," I'm cool. 417 00:26:09,701 --> 00:26:10,636 The infamous slap, 418 00:26:10,769 --> 00:26:12,371 it was seen around the world. 419 00:26:13,005 --> 00:26:14,273 Not your highest moment, Will. 420 00:26:14,406 --> 00:26:15,808 - Unacceptable. - Stunned. 421 00:26:15,941 --> 00:26:17,109 Has he blown it forever? 422 00:26:18,177 --> 00:26:19,812 That's when the devil comes for you. 423 00:26:35,627 --> 00:26:37,229 So last time we saw you, 424 00:26:37,362 --> 00:26:38,530 you were going into the monastery, man. 425 00:26:38,664 --> 00:26:39,665 Yeah. 426 00:26:40,032 --> 00:26:42,668 And the dance, what was that like? 427 00:26:42,801 --> 00:26:43,802 I was like, 428 00:26:43,936 --> 00:26:46,071 "Yo, this is scary for real." 429 00:26:47,873 --> 00:26:50,008 And at the same time, it's your own mind. 430 00:26:50,142 --> 00:26:51,376 - Yeah. Yeah. - It's like, 431 00:26:51,510 --> 00:26:52,711 what you're scared of is you. 432 00:26:53,345 --> 00:26:56,682 - And I know this is so weird. - Right. Right. 433 00:26:56,815 --> 00:26:58,183 Um... 434 00:26:59,384 --> 00:27:01,186 after the Oscars... 435 00:27:01,987 --> 00:27:06,358 I mean, that night was brutal for everybody. 436 00:27:07,126 --> 00:27:11,830 But for me, I had a bizarre sense of relief... 437 00:27:11,964 --> 00:27:14,733 - Right. - ...that the image 438 00:27:14,867 --> 00:27:16,835 of Will Smith was dead. 439 00:27:17,803 --> 00:27:19,972 And it was like, "Whew... 440 00:27:20,939 --> 00:27:22,407 - I can be me." - Right. 441 00:27:22,541 --> 00:27:27,412 Somebody who's actually flawed and scared... 442 00:27:27,546 --> 00:27:31,083 - Right. - ...and embarrassed. 443 00:27:31,216 --> 00:27:33,352 - Yeah. - And staring down 444 00:27:33,485 --> 00:27:35,988 your fears of death, 445 00:27:36,121 --> 00:27:39,124 introduces you to that space of freedom. 446 00:27:43,896 --> 00:27:47,399 After my time at the monastery, 447 00:27:47,533 --> 00:27:51,370 now when something presents itself to me and I'm like, 448 00:27:51,503 --> 00:27:55,874 "Am I going to care about that on my deathbed?" 449 00:27:56,808 --> 00:27:59,244 And if the answer's no, 450 00:27:59,378 --> 00:28:02,381 then I'm not gonna let myself care about it now. 451 00:28:04,116 --> 00:28:05,317 We're good to go? 452 00:28:05,450 --> 00:28:06,718 I think we've got some miles ahead of us. 453 00:28:06,852 --> 00:28:08,353 This is gonna be a real walk. 454 00:28:14,960 --> 00:28:17,262 Hey, watch it. 455 00:28:18,230 --> 00:28:22,000 I was very eager to take Will to Laya 456 00:28:22,134 --> 00:28:24,102 because I wanted him to discover 457 00:28:24,236 --> 00:28:28,040 what happiness looks like high up in the Himalayas, 458 00:28:28,840 --> 00:28:32,311 in one of the most remote communities. 459 00:28:34,079 --> 00:28:38,517 We've begun our ascent into Laya. 460 00:28:39,218 --> 00:28:41,653 It's the highest settlement in Bhutan. 461 00:28:41,787 --> 00:28:43,455 Yes. And the happiest. 462 00:28:43,889 --> 00:28:45,591 So it's high in multiple ways. 463 00:28:48,126 --> 00:28:51,863 As we were walking up the mountain towards Laya, 464 00:28:52,764 --> 00:28:54,866 it just felt mythological. 465 00:28:55,801 --> 00:28:59,037 This hard road climbing to... 466 00:28:59,838 --> 00:29:02,240 the highest altitude I've ever been. 467 00:29:05,244 --> 00:29:09,014 It feels very... hard to breathe. 468 00:29:10,015 --> 00:29:11,917 This is the road to these people's town. 469 00:29:12,818 --> 00:29:15,020 I don't know if you can see how little that road is. 470 00:29:15,687 --> 00:29:18,523 Is it gonna get colder or warmer as we go up? 471 00:29:18,657 --> 00:29:19,591 Super cold. 472 00:29:19,725 --> 00:29:21,093 It's gonna be super cold. 473 00:29:21,226 --> 00:29:22,661 We're heading into trouble, man. 474 00:29:22,794 --> 00:29:24,463 Yeah, jeez. 475 00:29:31,503 --> 00:29:34,172 We are here, uh... 476 00:29:35,007 --> 00:29:36,608 at mid-camp. 477 00:29:37,609 --> 00:29:39,244 Um... 478 00:29:40,145 --> 00:29:46,551 It is 29.9 degrees. 479 00:29:48,053 --> 00:29:49,688 That's not enough degrees. 480 00:29:51,590 --> 00:29:54,526 We're at 12,000 right now. 481 00:29:54,660 --> 00:29:58,063 I can't even tie my damn shoes without getting winded. 482 00:29:59,498 --> 00:30:02,434 But tomorrow, we're going to 13,000 feet. 483 00:30:03,635 --> 00:30:07,172 What makes people live up here? 484 00:30:08,440 --> 00:30:11,043 And they the happiest people in the country. 485 00:30:13,145 --> 00:30:14,179 They're gonna have to show me. 486 00:30:31,697 --> 00:30:34,166 There you go, sir! 487 00:30:35,434 --> 00:30:36,601 Wow. 488 00:30:38,136 --> 00:30:39,171 Every five years, 489 00:30:39,304 --> 00:30:42,274 there's a nationwide happiness survey. 490 00:30:42,407 --> 00:30:46,745 And the happiest people have been in Laya. 491 00:30:49,147 --> 00:30:53,051 Today, we regard them as the guardians of the mountains. 492 00:30:53,852 --> 00:30:56,388 Finally, we're here in Laya. 493 00:31:02,160 --> 00:31:04,796 Thank you for, for your beautiful song. 494 00:31:08,133 --> 00:31:09,601 She's, like, "You're handsome." 495 00:31:22,914 --> 00:31:24,649 Oh, absolutely. 496 00:31:30,822 --> 00:31:32,457 That's beautiful. 497 00:31:34,025 --> 00:31:34,993 Wash your hands. 498 00:31:35,127 --> 00:31:36,762 Wash your hands? Okay. 499 00:31:45,871 --> 00:31:47,305 I-I don't cook much. 500 00:31:47,439 --> 00:31:49,775 And by much, I mean, like, not at all. 501 00:31:51,743 --> 00:31:53,278 We went quickly from, 502 00:31:53,412 --> 00:31:56,148 "Hey, how you doing? Nice to meet you." 503 00:31:56,581 --> 00:31:59,084 to, "Come in my kitchen and cook with me." 504 00:31:59,217 --> 00:32:00,986 - La is yes? - Yeah, yeah. 505 00:32:01,119 --> 00:32:02,387 La. La. 506 00:32:02,521 --> 00:32:04,122 It doesn't happen in Philly like that. 507 00:32:06,758 --> 00:32:07,793 Okay. 508 00:32:09,795 --> 00:32:11,296 Alright. Let me try. Let me try. 509 00:32:11,430 --> 00:32:13,064 And I'm scared 'cause I don't wanna chop my finger off. 510 00:32:15,600 --> 00:32:16,701 How am I doing? 511 00:32:16,835 --> 00:32:18,170 We need more? 512 00:32:19,137 --> 00:32:21,473 How many people are we cooking for? 513 00:32:25,410 --> 00:32:26,778 - A hundred people? - Hmm. 514 00:32:26,912 --> 00:32:27,879 We should hurry up. 515 00:32:42,427 --> 00:32:43,395 I feel like I'm good at this. 516 00:32:43,528 --> 00:32:44,963 Good, good. Very good. 517 00:32:45,096 --> 00:32:47,132 Very good... Good, good? 518 00:32:47,265 --> 00:32:48,500 You can say, "That's hot." 519 00:32:48,667 --> 00:32:50,669 - That's hot. That's hot. - That's hot. 520 00:32:50,802 --> 00:32:52,070 You're hot. 521 00:32:55,040 --> 00:32:56,308 Aum Passang, you know, 522 00:32:56,441 --> 00:32:58,977 I could tell she thought I was cute. 523 00:32:59,110 --> 00:33:00,545 She was happy I was there. 524 00:33:07,986 --> 00:33:12,190 I am so intrigued by Laya, 525 00:33:12,324 --> 00:33:16,528 and the joy that you exude. 526 00:33:16,661 --> 00:33:21,366 How did you learn this way growing up? 527 00:34:07,946 --> 00:34:11,850 So, you're here, um, alone? 528 00:34:31,636 --> 00:34:34,372 Aum Passang has suffered 529 00:34:34,506 --> 00:34:37,842 excruciating circumstances. 530 00:34:38,810 --> 00:34:42,981 I don't think that it's a coincidence 531 00:34:43,114 --> 00:34:46,785 that life in Laya is difficult, 532 00:34:46,918 --> 00:34:51,823 yet they are some of the happiest people on Earth. 533 00:34:53,692 --> 00:34:55,794 I don't totally see it yet, 534 00:34:55,927 --> 00:35:01,499 but I can definitely feel that there's a correlation. 535 00:35:16,014 --> 00:35:18,550 Life in Laya, it's cold, 536 00:35:19,250 --> 00:35:20,452 and it's remote. 537 00:35:23,154 --> 00:35:25,156 Electricity only recently arrived. 538 00:35:25,523 --> 00:35:27,325 There's no running water. 539 00:35:28,793 --> 00:35:29,761 It is hard. 540 00:35:33,098 --> 00:35:36,668 But it's the way this community faces these challenges, 541 00:35:38,036 --> 00:35:40,672 that I think is essential to their happiness. 542 00:35:47,545 --> 00:35:50,048 Festivals are very important here. 543 00:35:51,616 --> 00:35:55,453 And central to festivals here is archery. 544 00:35:56,388 --> 00:35:58,656 In fact, it's the national sport. 545 00:35:58,790 --> 00:36:02,527 It brings people from all walks of life to witness the match. 546 00:36:03,862 --> 00:36:05,797 You have your team set there waiting for you. 547 00:36:05,930 --> 00:36:08,166 - Oh, my team? - This is our team. 548 00:36:08,299 --> 00:36:10,769 - This is our worthy opponent. - Okay. 549 00:36:11,603 --> 00:36:13,038 The game of archery in Bhutan 550 00:36:13,171 --> 00:36:16,141 is very different compared to the rest of the world. 551 00:36:16,975 --> 00:36:19,811 Instead of shooting at one direction, 552 00:36:19,944 --> 00:36:24,616 the archers actually shoot across each other. 553 00:36:25,850 --> 00:36:27,652 Wait, we shooting at each other? 554 00:36:28,420 --> 00:36:29,721 Is this tournament to the death? 555 00:36:32,657 --> 00:36:34,259 Tell me the truth. When was the last time 556 00:36:34,392 --> 00:36:36,161 somebody accidentally got hit with an arrow? 557 00:36:36,294 --> 00:36:37,862 Tell me the truth. Be honest. 558 00:36:38,563 --> 00:36:40,498 - Maybe a month ago. - Oh. 559 00:36:40,632 --> 00:36:42,100 At the end of the part of the village. 560 00:36:42,267 --> 00:36:44,202 Oh, okay. I was making a joke. 561 00:36:49,340 --> 00:36:50,508 Let's have some fun. 562 00:36:51,576 --> 00:36:54,846 I am a very competitive person. 563 00:36:59,851 --> 00:37:01,419 Good shot. 564 00:37:01,553 --> 00:37:04,956 People say it's not whether you win or lose, 565 00:37:05,090 --> 00:37:06,858 it's how you play the game. 566 00:37:07,358 --> 00:37:08,760 It's your turn. 567 00:37:11,129 --> 00:37:12,897 Growing up in America, 568 00:37:13,431 --> 00:37:15,133 you would only say that 'cause you lost. 569 00:37:23,975 --> 00:37:25,110 Argh! 570 00:37:26,311 --> 00:37:28,480 But I did love that, 571 00:37:28,613 --> 00:37:31,382 hit or miss, we all dance. 572 00:38:00,512 --> 00:38:02,046 This is crazy, no, sir? 573 00:38:02,180 --> 00:38:04,516 This is wild. 574 00:38:04,649 --> 00:38:07,752 The event is being called because of the wind. 575 00:38:09,220 --> 00:38:10,688 Does that mean we win? 576 00:38:10,822 --> 00:38:12,357 Uh, no, it's not fair to say 577 00:38:12,490 --> 00:38:14,459 that we won the matches. 578 00:38:14,592 --> 00:38:15,927 Damn it. 579 00:38:17,162 --> 00:38:18,997 Oh, that was fantastic. 580 00:38:19,130 --> 00:38:20,532 You know, the wind shut us down. 581 00:38:20,665 --> 00:38:22,433 It was one to zero, 582 00:38:22,567 --> 00:38:25,069 and somehow in Bhutan, that's a draw. 583 00:38:26,104 --> 00:38:28,840 I saw you bust out some moves in dance after that archery. 584 00:38:28,973 --> 00:38:31,309 It's so funny. I wasn't even thinking about that. 585 00:38:31,442 --> 00:38:35,380 But it's like, all of a sudden, I felt accepted. 586 00:38:35,513 --> 00:38:37,515 - Right. Right. - I'm a part of their group 587 00:38:37,649 --> 00:38:39,317 if they're letting me do the dance 588 00:38:39,450 --> 00:38:40,518 and learning the words. 589 00:38:40,652 --> 00:38:42,453 But it's like... 590 00:38:45,356 --> 00:38:46,524 Wow. Okay. 591 00:38:46,658 --> 00:38:48,927 So something just dawned on me. 592 00:38:50,962 --> 00:38:52,297 - It's collective harmony. - Mm-hmm. 593 00:38:52,430 --> 00:38:53,498 Yeah. Yeah. 594 00:38:53,631 --> 00:38:55,600 - It's about togetherness. - Yes, it is. 595 00:38:55,767 --> 00:38:57,902 - Mm-hmm. - What do you make of that? 596 00:38:58,036 --> 00:38:59,103 Of course I want that. 597 00:38:59,237 --> 00:39:02,473 You know, everybody wants a tight-knit family. 598 00:39:02,607 --> 00:39:05,310 But you certainly can't do that 599 00:39:05,443 --> 00:39:07,412 if your priority is something else. 600 00:39:07,545 --> 00:39:08,813 - Mm-hmm. Agreed. - Yeah. 601 00:39:08,947 --> 00:39:10,615 You know, as a scientist, 602 00:39:10,748 --> 00:39:13,051 I really take heart in what Charles Darwin wrote. 603 00:39:13,184 --> 00:39:15,954 A lot of people think he was all about dog-eat-dog, 604 00:39:16,087 --> 00:39:17,488 - survival of the fittest. - Mm-mm. 605 00:39:17,622 --> 00:39:19,023 - And he wasn't. - Right. 606 00:39:19,157 --> 00:39:23,294 Darwin was really about survival of the kindest or friendliest. 607 00:39:23,428 --> 00:39:25,964 - Yes. It's a mentality. - Yeah. 608 00:39:26,497 --> 00:39:28,466 I had a goal. I had a mission. 609 00:39:28,600 --> 00:39:31,002 I wanted to be the biggest movie star on Earth. 610 00:39:31,135 --> 00:39:32,403 Right. 611 00:39:33,004 --> 00:39:35,039 But I'm not one of the best friends on Earth. 612 00:39:35,807 --> 00:39:38,243 I'm not one of the best fathers on Earth. 613 00:39:39,010 --> 00:39:41,479 It was my kids that started making me aware 614 00:39:41,613 --> 00:39:44,449 that my heart wasn't as available. 615 00:39:44,582 --> 00:39:45,750 Yeah. 616 00:39:45,884 --> 00:39:47,352 It's a big part of why I'm here. 617 00:39:47,485 --> 00:39:48,886 Yeah. "I got work to do." 618 00:39:49,020 --> 00:39:51,389 Or you look up and your kids are 28, 619 00:39:51,522 --> 00:39:52,724 and they don't come home for Christmas. 620 00:39:52,857 --> 00:39:55,059 Aw. 621 00:39:58,096 --> 00:40:01,232 The Layans people are so happy... 622 00:40:02,734 --> 00:40:05,436 because they spend 623 00:40:05,570 --> 00:40:08,273 enormous amounts of time together. 624 00:40:10,541 --> 00:40:12,110 They share food. 625 00:40:15,380 --> 00:40:17,815 They revel with dance. 626 00:40:20,418 --> 00:40:24,055 They are kind and warm to each other. 627 00:40:26,391 --> 00:40:29,560 So they're doing all the things 628 00:40:29,694 --> 00:40:32,397 that we are hungering for. 629 00:40:36,801 --> 00:40:38,803 We have a need to belong. 630 00:40:42,206 --> 00:40:44,242 When you're deprived of that, it's like being deprived 631 00:40:44,375 --> 00:40:47,245 of food or water or sleep. 632 00:40:48,513 --> 00:40:49,647 I guess we're going in. 633 00:40:50,148 --> 00:40:54,118 One, two, three, right, left, right. 634 00:40:59,257 --> 00:41:00,224 Come on, turn it up. 635 00:41:00,358 --> 00:41:02,126 I know. 636 00:41:04,429 --> 00:41:05,463 It dawned on me 637 00:41:05,596 --> 00:41:07,365 we might be asking the wrong question. 638 00:41:08,266 --> 00:41:10,068 How can I be happy? 639 00:41:10,201 --> 00:41:13,104 But it seems like the question might be... 640 00:41:14,138 --> 00:41:15,907 how can we be happy? 641 00:41:17,041 --> 00:41:19,010 That's the question they ask in Laya. 642 00:41:30,655 --> 00:41:32,156 Good morning. Good morning. 643 00:41:39,931 --> 00:41:41,566 - I just got a chill. - Really? 644 00:41:41,699 --> 00:41:43,534 Today is my father's birthday. 645 00:41:43,668 --> 00:41:45,570 - He would have been 81 today. - Ohh. 646 00:41:45,703 --> 00:41:47,271 - Eighty-one? - He would have been 81. 647 00:41:50,308 --> 00:41:51,876 - That's great. - Alright, I'm ready. 648 00:41:52,010 --> 00:41:53,945 - Alright, let's go. - Let's go. Okay. 649 00:42:17,368 --> 00:42:19,337 We are all dropped 650 00:42:19,470 --> 00:42:24,108 into this existential confusion 651 00:42:24,242 --> 00:42:28,279 and given the job to figure it out. 652 00:42:30,915 --> 00:42:36,320 Now I'm kinda realizing, you know, if you let life lead, 653 00:42:37,088 --> 00:42:39,924 it'll take you really interesting places. 654 00:42:41,592 --> 00:42:44,962 Walking up to the highest point 655 00:42:45,096 --> 00:42:48,766 to have the flag reach for the heavens 656 00:42:49,834 --> 00:42:53,438 as an honor to those who have passed on. 657 00:42:54,105 --> 00:42:56,007 It's a beautiful ceremony. 658 00:43:19,397 --> 00:43:25,002 In that moment of suffering and loss, 659 00:43:25,903 --> 00:43:29,841 we were connected by letting go. 660 00:43:46,324 --> 00:43:51,095 I never really thought of letting go 661 00:43:51,229 --> 00:43:54,232 as being a part of happiness. 662 00:43:56,868 --> 00:44:01,205 My mindset was always about gaining and keeping, 663 00:44:01,339 --> 00:44:04,709 but there's something in surrendering 664 00:44:04,842 --> 00:44:07,678 that is ecstatic. 665 00:44:15,987 --> 00:44:18,322 Papua New Guinea is the land of the unexpected. 666 00:44:18,789 --> 00:44:20,825 We are renowned for being cannibals. 667 00:44:20,958 --> 00:44:21,959 - Okay. - Me especially. 668 00:44:22,093 --> 00:44:24,195 Alright. 669 00:44:25,429 --> 00:44:26,531 Let's go. 670 00:44:27,965 --> 00:44:30,535 Beneath us is a whole new world. 671 00:44:31,903 --> 00:44:34,338 - I'm not a great swimmer. - I don't care. 672 00:44:34,472 --> 00:44:36,307 I want you to get underwater right now.