All language subtitles for In Treatment (2008) - S02E34 - Walter Week Seven (1080p HMAX WEB-DL x265 Silence)_eng

I came home from work
a little late,

but I brought dinner,
vegetarian,

and she wasn't there.

Once again, Anita,
what you're saying

is that you got so caught up
in your work life, that...

Elaine couldn't help
but feel excluded.

-And, Elaine...

...the moment
that you felt shunted aside,

you ran back to your family.

Exactly.

It feels like
you're you're kind of locked
in this cycle

-that's-- that's very diff--

-Hello, Paul.
-Walter, uh,

you're a little early,
and we're still in session.

Oh, jeez. I'm sorry.
I-- I-- I'll come back.

-Thank you.

So-- I'm sorry, where were we?

Locked in a cycle.

I'm sorry about earlier.

It happens.

WALTER BARNETT:
I didn't realize how many

fellow patients there were.

You're busy all the time,
aren't you?

So they...

finally released me
Monday afternoon.

Thank you for your help.

Connie and Natalie picked me up.

We headed straight out
for the bay.

I have a few shacks there
that...

Connie likes to call a compound
on Shelter Island.

We drove up, a warm day.

First southerly wind
of the new year.

It was a beautiful day
on Monday.

It's amazing when the, uh,

when the cold finally breaks.

Oh, everything was so muddy,
though.

You know, they are a few weeks
behind

the city, uh, weather wise.

The snow had just melted.

Ground was just soaked.

I imagine it felt, uh,
felt good to be...

to be outside.

Especially after the last few
weeks.

Uh, you could say that.

But...

it didn't?

Well, no, the air felt great.
It's just that, uh, you know,

Connie and Natalie,
they were just so...

tentative with me.

There's a separate studio
near the main house

that I've used as an office
sometimes or sometimes just to--

For a little peace and quiet
when the kids were younger.

And I wanted to go there,
but they kept asking me why.

Was there anything you needed
to do in your office?

Well, take care of some bills.

But mostly I just wanted to be
by myself, I...

just wanted to have
a little peace.

That's unusual for you.

Well, Connie's a talker.

Uh, she's always been a talker
and I guess over the--

Over the years
I've learned how to tune it out.

But this time you didn't.

Well, something about her pitch.
It just bothered me.

So, um, I went to the office,

and a few minutes later
I looked up, and...

there's Natalie spying on me
from her bedroom window.

Like she's still, um,
still on duty.

Like I was a little boy
that someone had to babysit.

You told me once that...

when-- when you were a little
boy yourself, you--

You were the one on-- on duty
with your parents.

Oh, I didn't do that much.

Just kept an eye on things.
Really it's nothing even

worth talking about.

So what did you do
when you saw Natalie...

keeping an eye on you?

I glared.

Then about 10 minutes later,
she brought me some tea.

Which I hadn't asked for.

And she asked if she could
just sit with me.

-And how was that?
-Brief.

She's my daughter. I don't
go to her with my problems.

You have a good
relationship with her, though.

You wrote to her
almost every day

when she was in Rwanda.

Imagine she'd worry less

if you talked to her
a little bit more

about what's been
going on with you.

Well, I just didn't feel like
talking.

I went to the shed
and got this...

immense pair of clippers and...

oh, I started hacking away
at the brush down by the water,

limbing the trees
and, uh, paring down the bushes.

God, tore my hands up
something terrible.

All that brush clearing,

it's-- it's-- it's kind of like
what--

What we've been doing here.

You lost me on that one.

In the sense that we've
been working on clearing paths,

opening up your view
of how you got to where you are.

So when you mentioned
this week's thaw, it--

it made me think of the way
our last session ended.

You know,

between the pills and...

the therapists
I saw at the hospital,

I'm not sure I even remember
that one.

You really don't remember?

I find that striking.

Given how emotional a moment
that was.

Hmm.

Well, I know we talked about

getting me out
of the cuckoo's nest, and...

I showed you my pot holder.

Then I got angry about you
bringing up Connie's rehab.

I-- I meant after that.

When we talked about
the two Walters.

The one who you knew
and the one you didn't know.

Oh, yeah. That's right.

You seemed quite moved,

when we talked about
reconnecting to the lost Walter.

Well, I might have
teared up a bit, but...

I was tired, and there's been...

a lot of stress.

I understand that, but my--

my memory
is that you didn't just...

tear up.
You were actually sobbing.

What is it, Walter?
Where did you go?

I just remembered
a dream I had this week.

Mr. Donaldson called me in
for a meeting.

Only it wasn't in an office.

It was--

It was in an old garage.

I went in...

we shook hands,

and he told me they'd traced...

the source of the contamination.

And that it wasn't anything
we'd done wrong.

Some nut job

deliberately tampering
with the product

and then putting it
back on shelf.

-Go on.
-I felt vindicated.

And then,

the old man did something
he never did.

He apologized.

He said that letting go of me...

was the biggest mistake
he'd ever made.

That he wanted me
to take my old job back.

You'd be Walter Barnett, C.E.O.
again.

I tried to answer, but...

I couldn't speak.

I--

I opened my mouth...

but I couldn't get any words
out.

I woke up in a sweat, I...

kept trying to dive back
into the dream,

but I couldn't get there.

You wanted to finish
the conversation?

What did you make
of that dream?

Well, I guess
I still want to think

the whole mess never happened.

-I want my old life back.
-Do you?

Because you said
you couldn't get any words out.

Is it possible
that you weren't sure, if you--

If you wanted to go back?

No. Probably just bargaining.

Could be.

Or perhaps now
with a little distance,

you have a greater sense
of the enormous strain

you've been under for so long.

It never used to feel
like a strain.

That's right.

I think you genuinely
didn't feel it.

You become exceptionally adapted
at overriding your feelings.

I mean,
that's what we were beginning

to talk about last week.
Do you remember?

Right.

How the weak Walter
couldn't handle the stress.

Did you think about that...

Walter this week?

The lost boy?

No, not really.

You did make me think
about my father.

Your father?
How-- how--

how did I do that?

Well, just before
when I came early, and...

walked in on you.

You just had a look
on your face,

that reminded me of him.

In what way?

Well, after Tommy--

After the accident,

he couldn't sleep nights
anymore.

-Insomnia?
-Yeah.

And, he started to work
the graveyard shift.

Uh,

and when he'd come home
from the factory,

he-- he didn't wanna wake up
my mother,

so he'd go to sleep
on the couch.

And I'd come downstairs,

and I'd wanna talk to him,
you know, about--

I don't know. The day before.
What happened at school, and...

there was that look.

Can you describe it?

"How the hell
do I get rid of you,

without making you feel bad?"

Come on, listen, it's okay.

Really, I-- I-- You were busy.
I--

If it had been my session
and somebody walked in,

I would have been pissed off.

Still, you felt--
you felt rejected.

Even abandoned.

-No, I was early.
-Right.

The same way you were too early
for your dad.

Work comes first, that's life.

My mother didn't see
much of him either.

Uh, she got used to it.

She'd come home
from the hospital--

She was a nurse.

I'd fix her an old fashioned.

We'd eat.

I'd fix her another.

I had to get the cherry
and the orange wedge just right.

Then she'd go in her bedroom.

I was always nervous, that...

she'd fall asleep
while she was smoking in bed.

So I'd check in on her, and...

make sure
all the ashtrays were out.

That's a lot of responsibility
for a young boy.

Oh, listen, they were--

You can't blame her.

Either of them.

Their lives were ruined.

I don't think there's
any need to blame them

in order to understand your--
your loneliness.

They were too grief
stricken to take care of me.

I had to put away
my childish things.

Actually, I think the verse is,

"When I became a man,
I put away childish things."

You were still a boy.

WALTER:
A lot of kids had it worse.

Do you remember any good times?

Did the three of you
spend time together?

Not so much.

On weekends, he was always
tinkering with his car.

That thing was a real money pit.

Did you have a garage?

Oh, yeah.
I used to peek in on him.

And he didn't let you in?

After a while I figured out
how to stand on a garbage can

and look through the window.

It turned out, most of the time
he wasn't working on the car.

He was...

staring at a picture of Tommy
on the wall.

One time he saw me.

It was terrible.

You wanted to connect with him,

but you felt he didn't want you
there, is that it?

Boys used to spy on me
the same way,

when I worked on weekends.

They'd want to play
or go swimming, and...

I always had work to do.

Probably gave them
the same look.

Maybe that's why we don't have
anything to talk about now.

You know, Walter,
it's not too late for you

to get to know them
and for them to get to know you.

No, I don't think
they'd be interested.

Well, maybe they feel,

I don't know,
intimidated by you.

Repairing those relationships
is something

-that we can work on in here.
-I said, I don't think

they're interested.

You were interested
in talking to your father,

about what you saw
in that garage.

In fact,
you're still dreaming about it.

We never discussed it.

A few years later we moved
to the next coal town over.

My mother didn't wanna go,
but...

my father thought
it would be better

to start over again
in a new place, without...

Tommy's presence
hovering over everything.

And how did you feel about it?

They didn't ask me.

It must be hard, as a child,
to know what your feelings

are when you're not asked
about them.

You know,

for a while there
after we moved,

I'd run away.

Back to the old home.

And,

get on my bike and I'd just
go there, I don't know...

to check if Tommy
was waiting for us.

Go figure out a child.

What would you do
when you visited?

Nothing, I'd...

just sit there for hours,
waiting, and...

well, he never came back,
of course.

I wonder maybe--
maybe you didn't go back

just to look for Tommy.

Maybe there was someone else
you were looking for.

Who?

The boy that you were
before Tommy was killed.

Maybe the old house
was the only place

you could let yourself
feel your losses, and...

find intimacy with something
that was gone, with your--

with your dead brother, and...

your memories.

There was nothing there for you,
Walter.

And there was nothing
in the new home.

Except duty, loneliness.

Don't worry.

I'm not gonna cry.

I know how uncomfortable
that made you.

Is that how you thought
I reacted, Walter, to last week?

Oh, come on, Paul.
You don't need to pretend.

I know I've been a basket case
in here.

I know how that disgusted you.

Why would I feel like that?

I'm a grown man.

I'm not a six year old.

And men don't cry.

Maybe they do now.

But when I became a man,
they didn't.

Was that what your father
taught you?

He didn't have to.
Where I grew up,

a boy wouldn't be
caught dead crying.

How about when tommy died?
Did you cry then?

I was upset.

I knew it was my fault.

May have started to tremble.
Maybe I started to cry.

Yeah, yeah.

Because the old man, I remember,
picked me up and...

shook me hard.

"Don't you dare", he said,

"In front of your mother.

Don't you...

ever."

Do you think that's when you
started to, maybe...

shut down a little?

You mean,
that other Walter of yours?

Maybe it's not really fair
to call him, "The other Walter."

The truth is,
he's a part of you.

A part of you that was split off
and neglected,

for a very long time.

I was doing fine without him.

-All this time, wasn't I?
-You did more than fine.

You've accomplished great things
in your life, Walter.

So, why is this split
a bad thing?

Well, it can be hard
to live your life,

to be genuinely fulfilled,

when a part of your--
your true self

is-- is locked away.

I think that what happened was,
that the other part of you,

the part
that took responsibility,

that-- that shouldered
all these burdens.

That's the part
that got rewarded

early and often.

Okay.

The more you took on,
the more praise you got.

Your dad must have been relieved
not to have to worry

about his wife.

And your mom, I can imagine

how important you felt
just knowing

that you were her lifeline.

She was tricky.

We were always
walking on eggshells.

My father and I
didn't even tell her

I was going to Vietnam until...

two or three days before I left.

And you were...

a hero in Vietnam as well.

James Donaldson was the hero.

I just did my part.

But I'm sure
you were a natural leader,

in-- in the chaos of the war.

People must have
looked up to you.

And they were right to do so.

I mean, you'd been trained
from an early age to step up.

Well, it helped me survive.

It's always
helped you survive, Walter.

Even thrive.

It's how you rose
to the top of your field.

Except that...

it wasn't really your field,
was it?

What do you mean?

It was James's.

Have you ever wondered why you
spent your working life

building the Donaldsons'
family business?

Was it just another rescue
that you took on,

like the way
you nursed your mother?

Or-- or your wife?

See, that's the paradox.

You've been rewarded
for so long for your...

grace under fire, that...

you just don't think
you're of any value to anybody,

unless you're in that role.

Now that you've launched them,

your boys don't wanna get
to know you.

Natalie was done with you.

I don't want to see you
at the door.

The only way
to feel not rejected,

is to carry the weight,

and to keep carrying it.

Even though your mind
and your body are--

are screaming at you to stop.

Well, I've stopped now,
haven't I?

Walter Barnett, the CEO,

he's gone.

He came to you
with a sleeping problem.

And within weeks,
his life was in shambles.

I think we both understand

that by the time
you came to see me,

there was no way
to prevent the crash.

You knew I was headed for this?

The Walter you knew, the hero,

he staved it off
as long as humanly possible.

If he could have
held it together this time,

he would have.

Well, it doesn't matter
either way, does it?

We both know
what you're telling me.

What is that?

-I missed it.
-What did you miss?

My life.

Isn't that what you're saying?

I'm 68 years old.

And I haven't lived
one moment of my life,

for myself.

What the hell
am I supposed to do with that?

Oh,
are you going to say anything?

Just that I think
that now is the time

to stop taking care
of everybody else, Walter,

and start reconnecting
to yourself.

Was this your plan all along?

To break me down,

so that I'd become dependent
on you?

This would not have been
my conscious choice for you,

any more than it was yours.

But the defenses
that held you together

your whole life,
they just finally wore out.

You-- you've two choices now.

We can try to wrap you back up.

Work on simple
behavioral changes.

And you and I can both talk
to your psycho-pharmacologist.

Get you back to managing things
the way you always have, it's--

It's a valid approach.

Or?

There's a more challenging
route.

If we can keep going,
doing the work that we do,

even at this stage of your life,

I know that you can achieve
a new way of being...

with Connie, with Natalie
and the boys.

But most importantly,
with yourself.

And we can keep exploring
those parts of yourself

that we've just begun
to discover.

-I'm an old dog, Paul.
-PAUL: 70 isn't old, Walter.

It will take work.

Genuine...

introspection.

And you'll have to come
more often.

You really wanna spend
a couple more hours a week,

with...

-an old man?
-I wouldn't offer it,

if I didn't think
it was worth your time,

-and mine.
-Why is it worth your time?

Because you've rescued
so many others.

I wanna be there
when you go back and...

rescue yourself.

Fine, Paul.

Fine.

When do we start?