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This programme contains
some strong language
and scenes of a sexual nature
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I'm assuming you're here
for the workshop? Oh, yes.
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Hi. If not, we're all in
for a little surprise.
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THEY LAUGH
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So, you can close your eyes
and take a few breaths in and out.
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And now, you can bring both of
your hands over top of your vulva,
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making, kind of, a pussy hug.
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I'm going to come around...
and be a little lube fairy.
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Then slowly, we can start
going hand over hand,
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bottom of the vulva to the top.
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Yes, I know, this is
a female masturbation clause.
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It's safe to say my first.
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How did I get here?
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Well, there's so much to know
about the world of sex.
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If this was inside of me,
this is not big.
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So, it's almost like it's this.
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But I want to start with
female sexuality -
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how women think, act,
and feel around sex.
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I'm not used to using vibrators,
like, internally.
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It's more like, clit.
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Why do some of us still
feel shame about sex?
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The idea that women have less sexual
desire than men is just wrong.
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And how can we pleasure-seekers
get our hands on more orgasms?
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ALL: Three, two, one, go!
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Strap on and get ready for
some eye-opening stuff.
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SENSUAL MOANING
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OFF-CAMERA: Is that good, yeah?
Yeah.
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Take one. Mark.
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Are women as horny as men?
I am horny.
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I don't know.
SHE LAUGHS
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I do think that women are
less able and are less accepted
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to speak about how horny they are.
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I think female sexual desire's
definitely been repressed.
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I know from my own love life
just how sexual women can be.
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So, you'd think
that in the 21st century,
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men and women should be having
equally satisfying sex lives.
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Right?
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Well, prepare for a shock.
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When it comes to the orgasm,
there is a definite gender gap.
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Scientists say that 95%
of straight men
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orgasm during intercourse,
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but only 65% of straight women do.
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KETTLE WHISTLES
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To be honest, I think
that sounds way too high.
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Most of my straight female
friends say it's probably
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more like 15 or 20%.
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Lesbians and queer women
definitely seem to have it better.
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WHISTLING INCREASES
Ohh, God.
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BREATHING QUICKENS
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This sad state of affairs is
called the "orgasm gap".
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And, for the benefit of people
with vaginas and clits,
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I want to know how to close it.
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Wish me luck.
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OK, let's start with the basics.
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How do we experience orgasms?
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What's the big deal about them?
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And are female ones
different from male ones?
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I'm off to a lab in Germany
to find out -
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and I volunteered for
the wildest experiment.
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We are about to go into a
university hospital,
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where I am going to...masturbate.
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Yep, I'm here to have an orgasm -
and donate it to science.
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Husband-and-wife team
Johannes Fuss and Sarah Biedermann
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study the chemical changes in
our brains when we come.
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Of course they do.
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We realise that there's
not much going on in
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the whole field of sex research.
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Er, so there is lots
of neuroscience, lots of people
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doing neuroscience in the field,
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but there's not so much
exploring sexuality.
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We're assessing neurobiological
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factors like chemicals in the brain,
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and how does the body react
to sexual stimuli?
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And how would you go about
doing that, team?
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Well, I'm about to discover.
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Oh, it is pleasant.
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There's a bed!
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It's like a hotel room.
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I will leave the room, and then,
I would ask you to masturbate
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for at least ten minutes.
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At least -
that's a nice amount of time.
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THEY CHUCKLE
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If you take longer,
that's no problem.
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So... I'm not looking at you,
cos I'm scared. Perfect.
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You don't need to be.
I'm bad at blood.
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Before I get down to business,
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I need to give a blood sample.
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It's coming out.
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La-la-la-la-la-la-la.
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Once I climax, Sarah and Johannes
will take the second sample
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to see what's changed in my blood.
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Cara, when you climax,
you will just blow the whistle.
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Aw, yay.
I should always have that whistle.
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I will give this to you. Thank you.
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And I will come in,
take blood very quickly.
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Shall I - can I let myself settle
a minute, or should I just be,
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like, orgasm, blow whistle?
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It would be good if you
start masturbating now.
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And in case I need extra help -
sex toys.
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Talk about German efficiency.
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KETTLE WHISTLES
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I have had some weird
sexual experiences,
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but this is definitely up there.
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WHISTLE BLOWS
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So...I will take the blood now.
Oh, my God!
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Did you have a good time?
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Yeah...I had a great time.
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Mas-vacation.
SHE EXHALES
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Run, Johannes, run!
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That blood contains all
the secrets of my climax.
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How many orgasms did you have?
Just one - really long one.
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Luckily, this man can
pipette like a pro..
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..and is back with the results
before I can say "uber-gasm".
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Hello. Hi, welcome back.
Oh, my gosh.
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OK, so come on, guys.
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Tell me, what did you find?
What's in there?
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Now we processed your blood,
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and we found that it
produced endocannabinoids.
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Endocannabinoids are
potent chemicals.
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They're important to reduce anxiety,
to increase euphoria,
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and to have pleasurable sex.
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So, endocannabinoids are basically
your body's own version of cannabis.
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Cannabis -
that's what it sounded like.
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Yeah, exactly. Wow.
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That's why I felt dopey.
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Is it like cannabis? Yeah.
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Your body is producing its own
cannabis-like substance.
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Wow. And it makes you, kind of,
high after masturbation.
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Makes sense.
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You can thank endocannabinoids
for the high we get after exercise.
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They're produced by enzymes
throughout the body, and are closely
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involved in our reward systems.
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In other words,
they give us feel-good feelings.
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Does that happen to everyone?
Yeah, we know from research,
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roughly 80% of people had
such an increase of
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endocannabinoids after orgasm.
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Is it men and women,
both have the same? Yeah.
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In sex - or as I'm now going to
call it, "sexercise" -
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endocannabinoids rise by up
to 44%, spiking at orgasm.
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We think that's why sex
feels so good.
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I feel fantastic.
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Thank you, guys.
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Thank you for participating.
Heroes of sex. Whoo.
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"Heroes of sex."
THEY LAUGH
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Wow!
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Orgasms produce endocannabinoids.
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That is hot news.
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And even better - Sarah and Johannes
have discovered that both males
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and females can hit
these great sexual highs.
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Which means we women should be
getting just as much
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pleasure as men, right?
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So, why aren't we?
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For me, the earliest ideas
I ever got taught about sex
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were that, you know...
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..man plus woman,
dick plus vagina equals orgasm.
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I don't want to go into, like,
the art of making a woman come,
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but like, for fuck sake,
it's just a lot more complicated
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and a lot more fun.
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I do feel that generality,
men are not equipped with the right
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tools to be able to handle women,
especially sexually.
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I mean, I get it.
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It's a lot more complicated for a
woman to have to tell you, you know,
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"You're not doing it right.
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"You have to sit down
and listen to what I say."
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Yeah, it's an ego-killer,
which most men can't handle.
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Look, I might be unfairly dissing
some of the men folk here,
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but maybe the orgasm gap exists
because we're all a bit hazy on,
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you know, the physical details.
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So, am I missing anything?
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Let's get the 101 on
the power packed in our pants.
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I know sexpert Marieke Dewitte will
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love to get into the juicy details.
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So, let's start off with
a casual question.
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Is there any difference between
the male and the female orgasm?
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Why is the gap so big?
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We know that men and women do not
differ in their capacity
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to reach orgasm,
to experience pleasure.
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But only a few women, less than 30%,
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can actually climax via penetration.
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And that's often
where it goes wrong.
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We don't get the right
sexual simulation.
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The clitoris is our female
sex organ, not the vagina.
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The vagina's a birth channel.
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That's where...
Drop the mic right there!
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Yeah, exactly. I mean, it's much
less sensitive than the clitoris -
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which is a good thing, because
otherwise giving childbirth
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would be horrifying. Oh, my God!
It would mean the end of humanity.
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So, the idea that women have
less sexual desire than men
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is just wrong.
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It's just, they don't get
the right sexual stimulation.
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Physically, the duration of an
orgasm is really short.
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It takes about
20-25 seconds in women,
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and about 5-25 seconds in men.
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And in general, it takes longer
for women to reach orgasm.
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For some women, actually,
if you continue to simulate them,
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they also continue to climax.
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And so, that's why women can
have multiple orgasms.
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The clitoris is actually
a small penis. Yes.
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It includes the glands
and a forehead,
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it gets swollen during arousal.
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So, in a way, women have on the
inside what men have on the outside.
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Most women know that the clitoris
obviously needs to be stimulated,
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or do they just think that
penetrative sex is the one
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that is going to make them...?
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Well, we mainly have sex in a way
that fits the male sexual script.
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For a long time,
sex has been studied from
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a biological perspective.
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And biologists study sex
as reproduction.
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So, we know a lot about the penis
and so on because that's important.
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That's the one that's
giving the juice. Exactly.
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I mean, if we think about
the female orgasm,
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and the female sexual response,
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there's so much yet we don't know.
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Because we constantly have this
male gaze, looking at sexuality.
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Totally. But it's also
about focusing on
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your own sexual pleasure.
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And that's also something that is
difficult for women because, yeah,
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we are socialised to prioritise
the pleasure of the partner.
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Until just a few decades ago,
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people generally thought
the clitoris was this tiny,
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tricky-to-access button.
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Hard to stimulate, and way less of
a big deal than the penis.
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Nearly 30 years after
the moon landings...
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NEIL ARMSTRONG: That's one
small step for man.
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..the clitoris was finally,
comprehensively mapped
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in 1998 - by a woman.
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And what a revelation that was.
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It's roughly ten centimetres long,
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and the tip is more densely packed
with nerves than the penis.
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Its only known function is
to provide pleasure.
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So, forget big dicks -
big clits is where it's at.
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Clitoris - it exists.
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Find it, use it, keep it close.
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So, let's celebrate the clit and
give it the recognition it deserves.
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Meet New Yorker Sophia,
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who is on what she calls
a "cliteracy" campaign.
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Cliteracy is my attempt to blast
the clitoris into public awareness.
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Using large scale, using text,
using neon.
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It all began when she found out
that her grandma, a mother of five,
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had never once had an orgasm.
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People with clits are having
not a lot of orgasms,
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whether it's their clits
being externally excised,
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or it's being shamed.
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The clit has this ability for
an incredible amount of pleasure,
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and it's not getting that.
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So, I just was like, "Someone
needs to call bullshit on this".
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The tip of the clitoris
is called the glans.
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It's the bit you can see
from the outside,
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and it's super sensitive.
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It's also the pathway
to the rest of the complex,
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but beautiful clitoral structure.
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I put a lot of attention
into how I design the glans,
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because I feel like that's
the most important part.
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I mean, it feels good,
it's beautiful, and also,
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we're taught not to see
and not to look closely at it.
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And so, there's very few depictions
of it that are actually specific -
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that's usually just, sort of,
like, this round, sort of, blob.
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But if you actually look closely
at the glans, it is a shape.
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And it's also very diverse,
person-to-person.
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All this knowledge about
the mysterious clit
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is just blowing my mind.
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It's about time I saw it
in all its glory.
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This is the Land of Clits.
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The Land of Clits!
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My focus is drawn
straight to the beauty.
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So, these are these porcelain
sculptures that I made that are
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all about honouring this part of
the body that is often so shamed.
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And I just think everyone should be
in awe of how amazing clits are.
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But also, like,
being drawn to the glans.
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This part activates, and then,
everything else engorges.
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This is all erectile.
These are bulbs of erectile tissue.
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Yeah, so these are the glands
that obviously swell, right?
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Yes, exactly. And what are these?
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Basically the same amount
of erectile tissue as a penis.
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Also, we wake up with morning wood -
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we don't even have words
for clit erection.
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Isn't that crazy? That's true.
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Like, when you wake up wet
but you call it,
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you wake up with morning wood?
You still call it the same thing?
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I think we should make new words.
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No, but if this was inside of me -
this is not that big, obviously not.
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Right. But it's, like,
half the size of this, right?
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Yeah, so it's almost like
it's this orientation. Yes, right.
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Which is a really funny way to -
but just so we understand,
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because it's so confusing.
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It's never drawn in any
of the anatomies we see right.
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I will always draw penises
on things as a joke,
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cos I just think it's funny,
and I'm also really bad at drawing.
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But it's so true, I would never just
think to draw a vagina, you know?
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It's ridiculous, I'm just,
like, drawing a penis coming.
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Woohoo, that's funny - it's not.
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Well, that's cos we're taught
to think penises are hilarious...
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Hilarious. ..and, like, cool.
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Clit is just like "Oh, you can't
find it, ha-ha-ha." Ha-ha-ha.
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You know, having sex with other
women where I just realised, like,
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how much more sensitive women are
than they think they are.
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When you take your time and you
are super slow, and super soft,
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you see how much more nerves
there are than a penis.
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Like, it's a beautiful organ.
Exactly.
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I mean, my son, he's 19 months old,
and he will never not know
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what a clit is - and I'm very
proud about that.
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You know what I'm saying? Yes!
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This ignorance about the female body
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is one big reason why women
are lagging behind men
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in the pleasure stakes.
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But there's another
cultural reason, too -
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decades, if not centuries of
prudish and patriarchal attitudes.
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We look back at times
when we all used to wear corsets and
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showing an ankle was something of a
female like, you know, flirting.
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But obviously, it's come
a long way since then.
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I still have always felt, like,
a lot of shame about being a woman.
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Shame about my vagina.
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You know, just from being
a young girl and never feeling
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like I was as good as a man.
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For too long, women have been
made to feel bad about
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both their bodies and sex.
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In many countries worldwide,
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talking about female sexuality
is still taboo -
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including here in Lebanon.
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There is definitely one thing
that unites all Arab countries -
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and it's the culture of shame that
surrounds being in a female body.
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It's very, very deeply embedded.
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Women grew up with
such a fear around sex.
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Sura and Hala have agreed
to speak to us -
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as long as we hide their identities.
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We always say, like, women
are expected to be very sexually
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attractive, but not sexually active.
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You're not the one
in control of your own body.
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Who gets to call the shots?
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Society does. Culture does.
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And so, that causes women to totally
disassociate from their own bodies.
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These two women are
bringing much-needed change,
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by starting a sexual wellness
brand called Mauj.
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Who is reading...the video chart?
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Openly encouraging female pleasure
without getting shut down
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is a massive challenge.
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So, Mauj created a video series
where women send in their most
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intimate stories, which are read out
by volunteers called Hikawatiers.
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So, hikawati means
"storyteller" in Arabic.
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This was typically a role that
only men used to play in society.
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So, we came up with the idea of
flipping hikawati into the feminine.
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We really wanted to find a way
to start to share women's stories,
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when it came to everything
related to their body -
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sexuality, masturbation,
and sexual pleasure.
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If they speak up, there's a risk
that their families might hurt them.
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I've always been an advocate
for women's rights.
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This was an opportunity for me
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to publicly speak up about
a cause I believe in.
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It's harder for them to hear stories
that celebrate pleasure and orgasm.
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There's still this shame of, like,
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"I don't necessarily want to be
associated with that".
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They're still not yet at
the level of public discourse
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as easy as some of
the stories around pain.
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Mauj is dedicated to helping
de-stigmatize female sexuality.
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It's very difficult to find
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pleasure products in the Arab world.
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I just wanted to buy vibrator,
couldn't buy a vibrator.
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They have created a
new intimate pleasure product
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that's small and discrete.
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What's really special about Deem
is that it is the first product
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that's designed by
and for Arab women.
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But breaking taboos can be risky,
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so being discreet
is incredibly important.
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We wanted Deem to be accessible and
available to every kind of woman.
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Even a woman who was practising
her religious belief of not engaging
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in any penetration before marriage.
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We get asked a lot why our first
product is a pleasure product.
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And our answer is,
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"Because what's more taboo
than female pleasure"?
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Taboos around female sexuality
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exist in many more places
across the world.
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And that, lovely people,
is holding women back.
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I'm in Japan, where it's
actually against the law
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to show female genitalia.
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Step up radical artist
Rokudenashiko -
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or should that be, paddle up?
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In 2014, she decided to challenge
Japanese censorship around
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female sexuality by creating
a canoe modelled on her own vulva...
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..as you do.
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Hello! Hello. Nice to meet you.
Konnichiwa, nice to meet you.
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Konnichiwa. Thank you so much.
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So...oh! That's so cool.
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Oh, my gosh.
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I mean, I really want to row in
the vagina canoe, though.
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Rokudenashiko also has been
rocking the boat with
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her vaginal miniatures.
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Is this a real mould of a vagina?
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My vagina. That's your vagina!
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Now I understand, yes.
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Why did you start making vagina?
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Crazy. Crazy. Crazy!
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But it wasn't much of a laugh
when Rokudenashiko was arrested
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for breaking Japan's obscenity laws.
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Luckily, she didn't have
to go to prison -
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but had to pay a pretty
hefty fine of nearly $4,000.
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You're very inspiring.
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I think what you're doing
is amazing.
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Yay!
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Let's disrupt the patriarchy!
Whoo! OK, cool.
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Today, I'm going to make
my own vagina art.
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Step one - whip up some clay.
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I can see why you
have nice arms now.
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It might seem like a little bit of
fun, but making a pussy mould will
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let me look at my vagina properly,
in detail, for the first time.
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Yay.
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See you later.
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What?
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Surely you didn't think
I was going to show you that bit?
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Do you want me to hold it?
Oh, my God.
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Stop looking at it!
CAT MEOWS
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What? I get really nervous.
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My vagina.
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Awwww!
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Very pretty.
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It's do-o-one!
SHE GASPS
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So, I've made the mould -
with help, of course.
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It was successful, I hope.
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There was a bit of cracking,
but, you know.
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Now, for a little vajazzling.
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Yeah, I never thought
I would do this...for sure.
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Maybe we all need to spend a bit
of face-time with our vaginas,
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like Rokudenashiko,
to learn to love them more.
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Oh, my God, this is so fun.
I'm so glad I did this.
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It's really sweet. I love it.
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I feel really proud of what I made.
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So, want to know which
plaster masterpiece is mine?
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Is it the moon landing,
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Sandy bottom beach scene?
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Or the golf course?
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Hole in one!
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Sorry to let you down,
but you're never going to know.
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I admire Rokudenashiko's openness -
but my privates stay private.
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So, what does that say about me?
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I feel like as a model, as, er,
someone who sells their image,
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my vagina is the one
private thing I have that.
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That's the thing that I decide
who sees it, when, how, why.
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But like, thank you so much
for all that you've...
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Oh thank you, so much.
No, but for you've done.
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I'm going to tell people
about your art and spread
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the message of vagina positivity.
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So much fun! I, like, had so much
fun with my vagina today.
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I mean, this job really suits me
perfectly, cos honestly,
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the things that
I get to do are just so...me!
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SHE GIGGLES
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Best time ever.
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She's trying to spread a
selfless message of people -
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and women, specifically -
to love themselves from something
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that is put so much shame on.
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And that is seen as a
criminal offence?
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It's mind-blowing.
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Women's shame around sex
is so deep-rooted,
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and that's led to massive
differences in the way men
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and women learn about
sexual pleasure growing up.
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One of my earliest memories
is masturbating.
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But I didn't know
it was anything sexual.
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It just was, like, this feels good.
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Why would I not touch there
to feel better about life?
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Like, it just made sense.
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But I do think that there's
just a lot more fear about talking
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about women touching themselves.
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But just because I think men,
kind of, can go around and be, like,
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"Yeah, I just came nine times today,
bro, I can't even walk!"
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You're like, "Sick!"
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But I touch myself and they're
like, "Oh, ew, that's gross."
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It's about time we equalled out
on this and stopped feeling
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embarrassed about it all.
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We deserve as much fun as men.
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So, I'm on my way to...
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wait for it -
a group masturbation class.
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Oh, only in New York.
471
00:26:24,600 --> 00:26:27,880
I mean, at this point, why not?
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A masturbation class is more
of like a yoga class for your bits.
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RECORD SCRATCH
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Sitting in a room full of women...
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Like, you know, I won't lie,
I've sat next to my friend
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and masturbated next to each other.
But that's about it.
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Terrified.
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Hi!
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I'm assuming you're here
for the workshop. Oh, yes.
480
00:26:47,520 --> 00:26:50,480
Hi. If not, we're all in
for a little surprise.
481
00:26:50,480 --> 00:26:52,000
THEY LAUGH
482
00:26:52,000 --> 00:26:55,240
This is like my house. Oh, really?
LAUGHTER CONTINUES
483
00:26:55,240 --> 00:26:59,280
LAUGHTER CONTINUES
Is anyone nervous? Yeah.
484
00:26:59,280 --> 00:27:02,480
I'm very curious, and if there's
anything I can learn and, like,
485
00:27:02,480 --> 00:27:07,320
feel less shame about having
a vagina, erm, that would be great.
486
00:27:07,320 --> 00:27:11,280
OK, so how many of you have been
masturbating the same way since
487
00:27:11,280 --> 00:27:15,200
you were, like, seven, or whenever
you started masturbating?
488
00:27:15,200 --> 00:27:17,680
Definitely. The same ways?
489
00:27:17,680 --> 00:27:20,400
Yeah, doing the same thing like,
you know, humping your pillow,
490
00:27:20,400 --> 00:27:22,040
humping your hand. Oh!
491
00:27:22,040 --> 00:27:26,960
I only once have really, like,
spent like an hour, like,
492
00:27:26,960 --> 00:27:30,760
really making love to myself, like,
touching every part of my body.
493
00:27:30,760 --> 00:27:32,200
Like, I cried.
494
00:27:32,200 --> 00:27:34,800
See, that's the thing,
it's like, nothing is weird,
495
00:27:34,800 --> 00:27:36,440
or nothing is abnormal. No.
496
00:27:36,440 --> 00:27:39,800
And because if you know your button,
oh, my God, you know your thing.
497
00:27:39,800 --> 00:27:40,960
That's amazing to have -
498
00:27:40,960 --> 00:27:43,320
and maybe there's more buttons
to figure out, too.
499
00:27:43,320 --> 00:27:45,880
We're trying to find different
pathways to pleasure.
500
00:27:45,880 --> 00:27:48,280
This is my vulva,
but not my actual vulva -
501
00:27:48,280 --> 00:27:50,320
because it's eerily symmetrical
and bright red.
502
00:27:50,320 --> 00:27:53,440
So, there's something I call,
erm, "the pussy sandwich" -
503
00:27:53,440 --> 00:27:56,600
and that's when you're going
to take, like, the outer and inner
504
00:27:56,600 --> 00:27:59,600
labia between your index finger
and your thumb.
505
00:27:59,600 --> 00:28:03,040
The chop-sticking of the clitoris
is when you're going to take, like,
506
00:28:03,040 --> 00:28:06,040
an inverted piece sign, and it's
going to go on the inner labia.
507
00:28:06,040 --> 00:28:09,200
So, knuckling is something
that's going to look like drumming,
508
00:28:09,200 --> 00:28:11,040
but it's going to be
with our knuckles.
509
00:28:11,040 --> 00:28:13,640
And we can do that, kind of,
around the inner labia.
510
00:28:13,640 --> 00:28:16,560
This one is called
the "motorcycle revs".
511
00:28:16,560 --> 00:28:20,440
So, your two middle fingers -
so your middle finger and ring -
512
00:28:20,440 --> 00:28:22,520
will be inside of the vagina.
513
00:28:22,520 --> 00:28:25,120
Then you're going
to rev the motorcycle.
514
00:28:25,120 --> 00:28:28,240
There's one that we're going to go
back to a lot and change it up.
515
00:28:28,240 --> 00:28:31,280
And that's going from the
bottom of the vulva to the top.
516
00:28:31,280 --> 00:28:33,240
Oh, it looks really nice
with my pants.
517
00:28:33,240 --> 00:28:35,320
It really goes well. Yeah.
THEY LAUGH
518
00:28:35,320 --> 00:28:38,280
I'm going to get so self-conscious
cos in my mind, I'm like,
519
00:28:38,280 --> 00:28:39,880
all I want is the lights to be off.
520
00:28:39,880 --> 00:28:42,560
Can you close your eyes?
Or my face to be covered - yes.
521
00:28:44,440 --> 00:28:48,160
Despite the safe space,
I still feel so uncomfortable.
522
00:28:48,160 --> 00:28:50,040
I've decided to wear a mask.
523
00:28:52,240 --> 00:28:55,440
So, you can close your eyes
and take a few breaths in and out.
524
00:28:55,440 --> 00:28:59,360
And now, you can bring both of
your hands over top of your vulva,
525
00:28:59,360 --> 00:29:01,360
making, kind of, a pussy hug.
526
00:29:01,360 --> 00:29:05,280
I'm going to come around and
be a little lube fairy.
527
00:29:05,280 --> 00:29:08,200
If you want some,
you can put your hand out.
528
00:29:08,200 --> 00:29:10,840
And then, slowly, we can
start going hand over hand,
529
00:29:10,840 --> 00:29:13,880
bottom of the vulva to the top.
530
00:29:13,880 --> 00:29:16,360
And now, we're going
to make a pussy sandwich.
531
00:29:18,120 --> 00:29:21,600
And if you're using one hand,
what is your other hand doing?
532
00:29:21,600 --> 00:29:24,360
Is it on another part of your vulva?
533
00:29:24,360 --> 00:29:26,200
Just take the very tip
of one finger,
534
00:29:26,200 --> 00:29:27,920
doesn't matter which finger it is,
535
00:29:27,920 --> 00:29:31,480
and put the tip at the entry of your
vagina and make tiny little circles.
536
00:29:31,480 --> 00:29:33,440
And what this is doing
is it's, kind of,
537
00:29:33,440 --> 00:29:36,720
letting the vagina salivate,
letting it get ready,
538
00:29:36,720 --> 00:29:39,240
instead of just
shoving your way in there.
539
00:29:39,240 --> 00:29:41,200
Just try to tease your hole,
540
00:29:41,200 --> 00:29:43,080
and just tease yourself
a little bit.
541
00:29:44,600 --> 00:29:47,920
Masturbation is just another
healthy part of our life.
542
00:29:47,920 --> 00:29:51,080
And there's so much that we can
gain from it that actually don't
543
00:29:51,080 --> 00:29:53,560
really have anything to do with
pleasure or orgasm.
544
00:29:53,560 --> 00:29:57,880
It can be stress, it could be
to relieve cramps or a headache.
545
00:29:57,880 --> 00:30:02,160
And as soon as we start
removing that stigma,
546
00:30:02,160 --> 00:30:05,360
the dirtiness and shame,
the more we can start enjoying
547
00:30:05,360 --> 00:30:07,520
the actual benefits of masturbation,
548
00:30:07,520 --> 00:30:11,800
instead of trying to assign a
morality to what it means.
549
00:30:11,800 --> 00:30:14,440
I love just, like,
leaving my finger there
550
00:30:14,440 --> 00:30:17,160
and, like, feeling my pussy,
kind of, as the octopus.
551
00:30:17,160 --> 00:30:18,480
That's what you want.
552
00:30:18,480 --> 00:30:21,760
You want the pussy to, like, want
that finger in and welcome it in.
553
00:30:21,760 --> 00:30:25,040
You can slide that internally,
and you can let that just go around
554
00:30:25,040 --> 00:30:27,480
the clock, and then,
just revving that motorcycle.
555
00:30:27,480 --> 00:30:29,120
So, very slowly.
556
00:30:29,120 --> 00:30:30,840
This is very fast for me,
by the way.
557
00:30:30,840 --> 00:30:32,680
Oh, yeah, well, this is a
kind of speed class.
558
00:30:32,680 --> 00:30:34,600
I torture myself -
yeah, no, I like it, though.
559
00:30:34,600 --> 00:30:36,480
I'm like, fuck, dude!
560
00:30:36,480 --> 00:30:40,280
Look, I revved, chopsticked,
and sandwiched for a full-on hour,
561
00:30:40,280 --> 00:30:43,320
and it was kind of sexy -
but it also felt weird for me.
562
00:30:43,320 --> 00:30:46,080
And what I definitely
didn't do was orgasm.
563
00:30:46,080 --> 00:30:48,920
Yet somehow, I feel utterly changed.
564
00:30:48,920 --> 00:30:52,360
It is a very brave thing
to come to a class and masturbate
565
00:30:52,360 --> 00:30:54,000
with a group of strangers.
566
00:30:54,000 --> 00:30:55,240
What was that like?
567
00:30:55,240 --> 00:30:57,200
It's the bravest thing
I've ever done.
568
00:30:57,200 --> 00:30:58,680
I liked the normalising aspect.
569
00:30:58,680 --> 00:31:00,960
I like it that we were
all just laying here.
570
00:31:00,960 --> 00:31:03,600
It was just much more exploratory.
571
00:31:03,600 --> 00:31:05,200
It felt very safe.
572
00:31:05,200 --> 00:31:07,640
I've never masturbated in
front of anyone ever,
573
00:31:07,640 --> 00:31:10,200
apart from when I did it in
a bed with my friend.
574
00:31:10,200 --> 00:31:12,880
Can't believe I did it,
to be honest.
575
00:31:12,880 --> 00:31:14,440
But...
576
00:31:14,440 --> 00:31:19,560
..I haven't actually used my hand,
like, to touch myself in so long.
577
00:31:19,560 --> 00:31:22,360
Because again, that whole -
I always feel really, like,
578
00:31:22,360 --> 00:31:24,560
so much shame around my vagina,
being like,
579
00:31:24,560 --> 00:31:27,000
"Oh, my vagina's not like
other girls I've slept with".
580
00:31:27,000 --> 00:31:29,720
Yeah, and you did, like, you
masturbated in front of people,
581
00:31:29,720 --> 00:31:30,760
and you survived.
582
00:31:30,760 --> 00:31:33,520
It's like, "Oh, that's nice,
but that's actually quite soft.
583
00:31:33,520 --> 00:31:35,680
"Oh, my God, I feel great.
I feel nice. Yeah.
584
00:31:35,680 --> 00:31:38,120
So, thank you. Absolutely.
585
00:31:38,120 --> 00:31:41,200
You know, take what you learned
here, go home, be by yourself,
586
00:31:41,200 --> 00:31:44,480
be in an area that's comfortable
for you and continue to explore,
587
00:31:44,480 --> 00:31:46,000
and do these things.
588
00:31:47,080 --> 00:31:51,000
I think I'm learning a lot from
everyone I've met so far, for sure.
589
00:31:51,000 --> 00:31:54,960
It's making me be a lot more open
in my own personal life.
590
00:31:54,960 --> 00:31:58,080
In my mind the, most important
thing about life is connections
591
00:31:58,080 --> 00:31:59,480
with other humans.
592
00:31:59,480 --> 00:32:02,560
And I just haven't even begun to
have conversations like this
593
00:32:02,560 --> 00:32:04,480
with enough people.
594
00:32:04,480 --> 00:32:07,200
But we can just learn
so much from each other.
595
00:32:07,200 --> 00:32:09,600
CREW LAUGHS
Sexuality! Yes.
596
00:32:17,840 --> 00:32:20,400
A huge part of the orgasm gap
597
00:32:20,400 --> 00:32:24,480
is that women have been conditioned
to act and feel a certain way.
598
00:32:26,720 --> 00:32:29,080
But I do think things are changing.
599
00:32:30,960 --> 00:32:33,800
Is it just an one-or-off type
of thing? It has two speeds.
600
00:32:33,800 --> 00:32:35,640
OK. Fast, and faster.
601
00:32:35,640 --> 00:32:38,120
So, it's, like, it's just
really, like... Yes. OK.
602
00:32:38,120 --> 00:32:40,960
We'll plug it in after this,
I'll show you.
603
00:32:40,960 --> 00:32:45,040
Penda N'Diaye gives women from
Black communities as safe space to
604
00:32:45,040 --> 00:32:47,160
explore sexual liberation,
605
00:32:47,160 --> 00:32:50,720
away from a world where they are
often sexualized by the media.
606
00:32:53,680 --> 00:32:57,080
I think, for Black women
specifically, a lot of the stigmas
607
00:32:57,080 --> 00:32:59,040
are just old stereotypes.
608
00:32:59,040 --> 00:33:02,240
We kind of have the Jezebel,
who's the more, like, promiscuous,
609
00:33:02,240 --> 00:33:05,080
or that you're aggressive,
or that you're sexually deviant.
610
00:33:05,080 --> 00:33:08,080
And I think a lot of it has
to do with just our anatomy
611
00:33:08,080 --> 00:33:09,320
and natural curvature.
612
00:33:10,680 --> 00:33:14,440
Penda wants to break down
these stereotypes by inspiring
613
00:33:14,440 --> 00:33:17,520
a confidence she feels comes
naturally to white women, -
614
00:33:17,520 --> 00:33:21,440
by unlearning shame and celebrating
Black female pleasure.
615
00:33:23,200 --> 00:33:25,840
So, much as I love a
bit of sex talk,
616
00:33:25,840 --> 00:33:28,560
I'm respectfully
sitting this one out.
617
00:33:28,560 --> 00:33:31,520
Black woman particularly
are undergoing this incredible
618
00:33:31,520 --> 00:33:34,200
revolution right now,
and I think sexual identity is
619
00:33:34,200 --> 00:33:35,920
a huge part of that revolution.
620
00:33:35,920 --> 00:33:39,800
Knowing what feels good,
and not accepting anything less.
621
00:33:39,800 --> 00:33:43,120
Today, the women are giving their
inside stories on some homework
622
00:33:43,120 --> 00:33:47,080
Penda set to test drive a
bunch of new sex toys.
623
00:33:47,080 --> 00:33:50,080
Sales have grown
massively worldwide,
624
00:33:50,080 --> 00:33:55,680
and are now estimated to be worth
a whopping £25 billion.
625
00:33:55,680 --> 00:34:00,840
The UK is one of the largest
markets for sex toys in Europe.
626
00:34:00,840 --> 00:34:03,080
Thanks to minority entrepreneurs,
627
00:34:03,080 --> 00:34:06,840
the industry is beginning to
better represent women of colour.
628
00:34:06,840 --> 00:34:10,560
Once you understand the capacity
of your pleasure, you can use that
629
00:34:10,560 --> 00:34:14,320
to inform who we are,
and not silencing ourselves.
630
00:34:14,320 --> 00:34:18,760
So, I'm really glad that all of you
all are joining me in this journey
631
00:34:18,760 --> 00:34:20,920
of pleasure and feeling good,
632
00:34:20,920 --> 00:34:24,240
and you are down for
the sex toys that are here.
633
00:34:24,240 --> 00:34:25,280
SHE CHUCKLES
634
00:34:27,440 --> 00:34:29,800
My mom gave me my first
vibrator for Christmas.
635
00:34:29,800 --> 00:34:32,600
She's like, "OK, I don't need
to know what you're doing,
636
00:34:32,600 --> 00:34:35,800
"who you're doing it with, just
as long as you're getting it in."
637
00:34:35,800 --> 00:34:38,880
What's been challenging, honestly,
is just having conversations with
638
00:34:38,880 --> 00:34:40,960
a lot of women who have
never had orgasms.
639
00:34:40,960 --> 00:34:43,240
Sometimes I'm still like, "Wow".
640
00:34:43,240 --> 00:34:47,760
And if you thought you didn't need
a sex toy, well, listen and learn.
641
00:34:48,880 --> 00:34:51,560
I'm Sade. Hi, everyone. Hey.
642
00:34:51,560 --> 00:34:54,680
This is Sade's first
sex toy experience. Yeah.
643
00:34:54,680 --> 00:34:58,040
THEY CHEER
You've popped the cherry.
644
00:34:58,040 --> 00:35:01,560
How do your partners feel about
bringing toys into the room?
645
00:35:01,560 --> 00:35:04,240
I was always, in my mind,
thinking that men may find it
646
00:35:04,240 --> 00:35:05,880
a little intimidating.
647
00:35:05,880 --> 00:35:09,640
It's something so powerful,
about being able to please yourself,
648
00:35:09,640 --> 00:35:12,360
er, without anyone else. Right.
649
00:35:13,400 --> 00:35:15,080
First time using it, I was like,
650
00:35:15,080 --> 00:35:17,440
"Damn, this feels
so much more, like, easier".
651
00:35:17,440 --> 00:35:20,560
And it felt like I had a little bit
more control over my orgasms.
652
00:35:20,560 --> 00:35:23,400
So, now I know what it is I need.
653
00:35:23,400 --> 00:35:27,800
Whereas, I think, before, so often
of my sex experience relied on men.
654
00:35:29,800 --> 00:35:31,920
Today, I got liberated.
655
00:35:31,920 --> 00:35:36,760
It felt really freeing to have
that type of discourse, erm,
656
00:35:36,760 --> 00:35:41,040
amongst women that look like me,
and that remind me of myself.
657
00:35:41,040 --> 00:35:42,400
I'm Leeza.
658
00:35:42,400 --> 00:35:45,880
For me, it's exploring different
types of toys with my partner,
659
00:35:45,880 --> 00:35:49,680
and then, even going shopping
for toys with my partner
660
00:35:49,680 --> 00:35:51,320
to create that ease.
661
00:35:51,320 --> 00:35:54,240
I had the double trouble.
662
00:35:54,240 --> 00:35:55,520
THEY LAUGH
663
00:35:55,520 --> 00:36:01,400
And for me, it was a nice,
big sigh and a squirt.
664
00:36:02,960 --> 00:36:06,640
And I got to do it with my partner,
and, you know, he would hold it
665
00:36:06,640 --> 00:36:09,800
and I was able to have,
like, three orgasms, like,
666
00:36:09,800 --> 00:36:11,640
back-to-back-to-back. Yes!
667
00:36:13,040 --> 00:36:16,880
Growing up as B black girl,
being told not to do things,
668
00:36:16,880 --> 00:36:18,640
you know, we're being limited.
669
00:36:18,640 --> 00:36:22,000
Sexual pleasure is for
ultimate freedom.
670
00:36:23,280 --> 00:36:26,480
It's no secret I do love a sex toy.
671
00:36:26,480 --> 00:36:30,320
Because honestly, if you're waiting
for someone else to give you a hand,
672
00:36:30,320 --> 00:36:32,640
it can all be a bit touch-and-go.
673
00:36:32,640 --> 00:36:34,160
Love you guys so much.
674
00:36:39,400 --> 00:36:43,000
Well, what an education
this has been.
675
00:36:44,600 --> 00:36:48,040
And it's left me wondering what
real sexual equality
676
00:36:48,040 --> 00:36:50,280
might look like for women.
677
00:36:50,280 --> 00:36:53,080
Is there actually a place
with no orgasm gap?
678
00:36:53,080 --> 00:36:54,480
No shame?
679
00:36:54,480 --> 00:36:58,800
And where everyone understands
the key to female pleasure?
680
00:36:58,800 --> 00:37:01,120
Well, tonight,
I'm going to find out.
681
00:37:02,840 --> 00:37:04,080
Perfect.
682
00:37:04,080 --> 00:37:06,320
I'm off to a women-only sex club
683
00:37:06,320 --> 00:37:09,880
to see what happens when people are
free to explore their raw sexuality
684
00:37:09,880 --> 00:37:14,680
with no inhibitions - and perhaps,
more importantly, no men.
685
00:37:14,680 --> 00:37:17,120
Remember, we have lots of
newbies tonight. Yes.
686
00:37:17,120 --> 00:37:21,200
Always at least over 80%
of our guests are first-timers.
687
00:37:21,200 --> 00:37:24,520
So, keep your eyes peeled for anyone
who looks a little bit unsure.
688
00:37:27,680 --> 00:37:29,200
I'm nervous as hell -
689
00:37:29,200 --> 00:37:32,280
so I've asked my friend
Eleanor to join me.
690
00:37:32,280 --> 00:37:34,520
When we were even talking
about it, she was like,
691
00:37:34,520 --> 00:37:35,880
"Yeah, I'd be so down for, like,
692
00:37:35,880 --> 00:37:38,000
"watching women get off
with each other".
693
00:37:38,000 --> 00:37:39,640
But I would be a bit more awkward.
694
00:37:39,640 --> 00:37:42,720
There was that one three-way with
another girl and another guy,
695
00:37:42,720 --> 00:37:44,320
but that was really it.
696
00:37:44,320 --> 00:37:45,680
That was my one brush.
697
00:37:45,680 --> 00:37:48,440
My most-straight friend. Yeah.
698
00:37:48,440 --> 00:37:52,680
Financial adviser Genevieve
set up Skirt Club in 2014
699
00:37:52,680 --> 00:37:55,000
to host sex parties for women.
700
00:37:57,560 --> 00:38:03,160
It now has 18,000 members
in cities all over the world.
701
00:38:03,160 --> 00:38:05,480
Nice to meet you darling.
How you doing? This is Eleanor.
702
00:38:05,480 --> 00:38:07,720
Pleasure! How you doing?
Nice to meet you. Genevieve.
703
00:38:07,720 --> 00:38:08,920
Welcome to Skirt Club.
704
00:38:08,920 --> 00:38:10,520
Consent is a huge thing. Great.
705
00:38:10,520 --> 00:38:13,000
And remember, like you,
a lot of women are here for
706
00:38:13,000 --> 00:38:15,320
the first time, so they're nervous.
707
00:38:15,320 --> 00:38:19,320
OK. They may not have ever
kissed a woman before.
708
00:38:19,320 --> 00:38:23,600
Some women here are straight,
some gay, some bi, some pan -
709
00:38:23,600 --> 00:38:26,600
but all are curious and
definitely horny.
710
00:38:28,240 --> 00:38:30,800
What's your name? I'm Bella.
711
00:38:30,800 --> 00:38:33,760
I'm a first-timer here.
Yeah? Welcome.
712
00:38:37,200 --> 00:38:38,960
OK, sexy sirens.
713
00:38:38,960 --> 00:38:40,760
Welcome to Skirt Club.
714
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THEY HOWL
715
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We believe in the power of
the feminine here.
716
00:38:47,240 --> 00:38:50,720
So, Skirt Club is a safe space for
you to explore all of your desires.
717
00:38:50,720 --> 00:38:52,680
We're going to
take good care of you.
718
00:38:52,680 --> 00:38:54,480
Here, your pleasure is paramount.
719
00:38:54,480 --> 00:38:56,680
In fact, it's the key to
the Gates of Heaven.
720
00:38:58,600 --> 00:39:01,480
If you do feel uncomfortable,
I'm the Consent Fairy,
721
00:39:01,480 --> 00:39:02,920
so come and find me.
722
00:39:02,920 --> 00:39:05,560
THEY LAUGH
723
00:39:05,560 --> 00:39:07,120
Please make sure to be safe.
724
00:39:07,120 --> 00:39:09,560
Have conscious communication
with each other.
725
00:39:09,560 --> 00:39:13,400
If it's not a "hell yes",
it's a "no".
726
00:39:13,400 --> 00:39:17,400
I so appreciate the fact every
single person who's turned up
727
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is gorgeous in every
single way, shape, or form.
728
00:39:20,400 --> 00:39:23,240
We're all here for the same purpose
- to enjoy each other.
729
00:39:23,240 --> 00:39:26,160
THEY CHEER
730
00:39:26,160 --> 00:39:29,760
So, good people, this is just
a little taste of what
731
00:39:29,760 --> 00:39:32,920
sexual liberation for women
can look like!
732
00:39:32,920 --> 00:39:35,440
And I think I'm going to like this.
733
00:39:44,600 --> 00:39:47,440
I've always known that
I've been bisexual.
734
00:39:47,440 --> 00:39:50,120
I am married, I have a family.
735
00:39:50,120 --> 00:39:54,440
But there's a part of me that...
needs more.
736
00:39:54,440 --> 00:39:59,760
And I have the position
right now to have both.
737
00:39:59,760 --> 00:40:01,560
And it's amazing.
738
00:40:01,560 --> 00:40:03,840
It makes me feel powerful.
739
00:40:03,840 --> 00:40:05,320
I've never felt that before.
740
00:40:11,320 --> 00:40:16,080
And as the evening hots up,
well, so do I.
741
00:40:16,080 --> 00:40:18,040
Three, two, one!
742
00:40:18,040 --> 00:40:19,360
Go!
743
00:40:19,360 --> 00:40:23,000
This is tequila shots -
Skirt Club-style.
744
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It's a lot of fun.
745
00:40:26,560 --> 00:40:28,480
SHE GIGGLES
746
00:40:30,040 --> 00:40:33,120
If other women, like, do this
together, that's an amazing thing.
747
00:40:33,120 --> 00:40:36,040
It makes you feel super, super safe.
748
00:40:36,040 --> 00:40:38,280
I think people are here
to enjoy themselves,
749
00:40:38,280 --> 00:40:40,840
lift each other up,
appreciate each other.
750
00:40:40,840 --> 00:40:44,000
I feel, like, really,
truly, like free.
751
00:40:50,960 --> 00:40:52,960
It's been such
a transformation for me,
752
00:40:52,960 --> 00:40:55,800
cos I come from this really
conservative background.
753
00:40:55,800 --> 00:40:58,720
You know, where, like...
yeah, long skirts and, like,
754
00:40:58,720 --> 00:41:00,600
really crazy Catholic.
755
00:41:00,600 --> 00:41:03,880
And Skirt Club really gave me
the opportunity to express myself.
756
00:41:05,320 --> 00:41:07,680
Well, one of my fantasies
for sure is to have sex
757
00:41:07,680 --> 00:41:09,400
with several women at once.
758
00:41:09,400 --> 00:41:12,320
You know, like 5-6 women
laying on a bed and, you know,
759
00:41:12,320 --> 00:41:13,800
going down on each other.
760
00:41:15,360 --> 00:41:17,320
That's definitely amazing.
761
00:41:25,640 --> 00:41:28,160
You don't have to be a lesbian,
you don't have to be anything.
762
00:41:28,160 --> 00:41:29,640
You can just do whatever you want.
763
00:41:29,640 --> 00:41:32,000
You could be bi-curious,
you could be married,
764
00:41:32,000 --> 00:41:34,440
you could be - it doesn't matter.
There's no label on it.
765
00:41:34,440 --> 00:41:36,120
So, Skirt Club opens the door.
766
00:41:36,120 --> 00:41:39,960
Girls are generally so focused
on pleasuring the male.
767
00:41:39,960 --> 00:41:42,480
Here is all about, like,
girls and their pleasure
768
00:41:42,480 --> 00:41:44,960
and their right to own that.
769
00:41:46,360 --> 00:41:47,960
What happened next?
770
00:41:47,960 --> 00:41:51,840
Well, I'm going to let that be
the only mystery left in this show.
771
00:42:02,840 --> 00:42:05,520
What I've learned about
female sexuality is there is
772
00:42:05,520 --> 00:42:07,360
so much left we need to learn.
773
00:42:07,360 --> 00:42:10,400
I honestly think that most people
know more about space than
774
00:42:10,400 --> 00:42:13,440
the inner workings
of the female orgasm.
775
00:42:13,440 --> 00:42:15,760
I had to come face-to-face
with my own vagina,
776
00:42:15,760 --> 00:42:18,080
had an orgasm for science,
777
00:42:18,080 --> 00:42:20,920
and attempted to masturbate
in a room full of strangers -
778
00:42:20,920 --> 00:42:22,960
which I never thought I would do.
779
00:42:22,960 --> 00:42:26,880
What this has made me feel is
that we need to fight for equality
780
00:42:26,880 --> 00:42:28,680
and pleasure more than ever.
781
00:42:28,680 --> 00:42:32,040
We deserve equal pleasure.
We deserve orgasms!
782
00:42:32,040 --> 00:42:33,560
Who doesn't want that?
783
00:42:33,560 --> 00:42:35,920
There is all this
pleasure right there,
784
00:42:35,920 --> 00:42:38,400
and it's still left unexplored.
785
00:42:38,400 --> 00:42:41,480
Having a clitoris is a superpower.
786
00:42:41,480 --> 00:42:46,040
So, let's become superheroes
and shout it from the rooftops.
787
00:42:46,040 --> 00:42:47,080
Vaginas!
788
00:42:48,760 --> 00:42:51,760
There's so much more
to come on Planet Sex.
789
00:42:53,640 --> 00:42:55,600
So, I'm a trans man.
790
00:42:55,600 --> 00:42:58,120
She's my wife. He's our boyfriend.
791
00:42:58,120 --> 00:42:59,640
Welcome to our sex lab.
792
00:42:59,640 --> 00:43:02,800
Can you read my mind
through my vagina?
793
00:43:02,800 --> 00:43:04,760
What brings you to orgasm?
794
00:43:04,760 --> 00:43:07,000
LAUGHTER
Play with my balls.
795
00:43:07,000 --> 00:43:09,680
In my own life, I definitely
had a lot of internalised
796
00:43:09,680 --> 00:43:11,560
homophobia and shame.
797
00:43:11,560 --> 00:43:14,880
Finding community is super vital.
798
00:43:14,880 --> 00:43:16,960
You can be you.
799
00:43:16,960 --> 00:43:18,280
Free.
800
00:43:18,280 --> 00:43:20,560
Are you going to cry? Mm-mm. OK.
801
00:43:20,560 --> 00:43:22,160
LAUGHTER
Just checking.
802
00:43:23,360 --> 00:43:25,280
I'm just living off
this queer energy.
803
00:43:25,280 --> 00:43:28,480
The most important thing about life
is connections with other humans.
804
00:43:28,480 --> 00:43:31,160
We don't talk enough about how
we can help each other.
805
00:43:31,160 --> 00:43:32,640
So, let's talk about it.
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