All language subtitles for Planet Sex with Cara Delevingne S01E02

And this device measures the amount
of blood in your vaginal cavity.

I'm sorry, what?!

Can I ask a question? Sure.

Can you read my mind
through my vagina?

No.

It's going in...now.

Jesus.

Can you guys see that it's in?

I can see your signal.

Oh, my God, my signal?

The BLEEP is happening?

Good question.

Just how did I end up in
a sex lab in the Netherlands

with a probe up my vagina?

I can see your vaginal pulse, yes.

Great! I love that for us.

Well, I'm on a very personal
journey into my own sexuality.

You may or may not know,

I've had relationships with
both men and women.

But, I still struggle with
being open, really open about

just how much I love women.

Growing up with a lot of
shame and thinking,

"This isn't normal,
this isn't human" -

but it's, like, it is.

Will exploring the science of
sexuality help me accept who I am?

Oh, my God what's it doing?!

The moment there was
something sexual,

you had this automatic
genital arousal response.

My full, glorious queer self?

Can meeting other queer people
from across the globe teach me

how to be out, loud and proud?

I think we need to be
proud every day.

Put your hand together
for The Darvish!

Stunning!
CHEERING

Well, I'm a homosexual.

Very gay, over-the-top.

Extremely flamboyant.

Hold on to your seats,

buckle in,

it's going to be a bumpy,
wild ride, folks.

Loving the crowd's vibe today.
Loving you guys!

CHEERING

OFF CAMERA: Are you ready to go
talk about being ga-a-ay?

Eey. Go gay.

Queer is here.

Cara Dele-queer.

Serious, serious.

I always have, kind of,
believed in the no-labels thing,

but again, have spent a lot
of time then saying,

"I'm bisexual, I'm pansexual".

I am queer.

I'm 100%, can tell you
that I'm queer.

I just don't know what else
I can say other than that.

Even though I've been queer,

I haven't really been able
to live a queer life.

You know, the internalised
shame or the, kind of,

homophobia's slightly there still.

When you are in this job or when
you are famous, or something,

it stunts a lot of things.

I never really was in the community.

Like yes, I, kind, of came out,
but then, afterwards,

I never went to Pride.

I never went to these parties.

I never met all of these people
and, like, I didn't really

develop my queerness.

So, I think I'm just coming
to it all very late.

Does that make sense? Cool.

Ahem.

Well, no time like the present.

I'm diving straight in at
the deep end, headfirst.

I don't know where I expected
this journey to begin,

but it wasn't slap-bang
in the middle of the desert.

Palm Springs. What do I know
about Palm Springs?

It's hot. It's a desert.

This is a place where
old people go to die.

Joking! That was a joke.

It's hot. It's so hot.

No wonder...what?
Why do people come here?

It's so hot!

Well, apparently if you're LGBTQ+,
this is the place for us.

Once a desert hang-out
for the 1960s Hollywood Rat Pack,

Palm Springs is now one of the most
progressive towns in America -

and the first to have an
all-LGBTQ+ council.

So, it's a good place
to dip my toe in the water -

at the uniquely massive mother
of all lady-loving events.

I'm checking in, please.

Yeah, of course, and what's
the last name? Delevingne.

D-E-L-E-V-I-N-G-N-E...
it's hard to spell.

Yes, it's true -

I still never have been to Pride,
or anything like that.

I think I went the wrong way.

Here it comes - my very first
proper, big lesbian day out.

Bloody Nora.

So...do you come here often?

So scared...scared.

I'm a Cancer, and I like
long walks on the beach.

So do I. With you.

OK, deep breath.

Don't really know what to expect.

Go round, go round.

Abort, abort, abort mission.

How intense can it be?

This is the Dinah Shore weekend -

the biggest lesbian
pool party in the world!

15,000 women, trans, and nonbinary
folk out here in the desert

unleashing their true
sexual selves at a rare place

that all can feel safe and free.

You're coming in, and you just see
an ocean of women and titties,

and glitter, and pasties.

A lot of dancing, a lot of
twerking, a lot of making out,

a lot of happy times.

Different body types,
different ethnicities,

I just love it.

It's like Disneyland for lesbians.

It's clear I won't survive
unless I find friends ASAP.

Hi!

Luckily, I got me some neighbours -
Kimber and - Lily to hold my hand.

All right, "Dinah" on three.
One, two, three...

Any hope I had of staying under
the radar goes way out the window...

..as I'm hauled up on stage to
judge a twerking contest.

How is this my job?

Nice crowd. Loving the crowd's
vibe today, loving the vibe!

CROWD CHEERS
Loving you all!

This place is wild - and loud -

so you're going to have
to read the next bit.

Honestly, I feel accepted as myself.

Perhaps for the very first time.

What just happened?

What didn't happen?

I don't know. I think,
I guess I...I don't know.

I'm out and I'm proud, you know,
to a certain extent,

but in my own life,
I didn't really find the community,

and I didn't really speak, like,

experience these sort of
things, you know?

I, kind of, did it in a public eye,
which again, allowed myself to be,

you know, pointed fingers at,
or feel more of the hate than,

I guess, the love, I suppose.
So, it's a lot.

There's so much love
in there, you know?

Oh, God, this is the journey,
this is the discovery of...

I don't know. Yeah.

Like, I feel this is - it gives me
like, I'm feeling things.

I don't usually do that.

It's Kimber's first time
at the festival, too.

I wish that I could go back
to myself back when I was younger,

and just, kind of,
figuring out my sexuality.

And I wish I could show myself
what my life is today.

I grew up in Tennessee in a
very conservative family,

very religious,
and being gay was just, like,

absolutely not acceptable.

Here I am, erm, all these years
later, and I have an unbelievable

queer community around me.

It's just so important
to not feel alone.

And I feel like a lot of queer
people feel alone in that.

And you're not going
to feel alone here.

Where we live, it's a little -
there's not very many places.

OFF CAMERA: Like, do you walk
down the street holding hands?

Er, probably not.

It's amazing for me, especially,
like, I didn't come out until,

like, later in life so...
I'm an old, I'm an old per...

Old lesbian.

So, yeah, for me, like, it's, erm...

It just feels, like, very less,
I don't know, stressful.

Like, I don't feel like
I need to hold back.

I'm just - I'm pretty
much me everywhere,

But here, it's just a little extra,
like, just total...

SHE SNIFFLES
It's emotional.

Yeah.

So.

She's having a good time.
That's all that matters.

Sorry.

It's incredible to be free
just for a few hours.

It feels like a weight
has been lifted.

Yes?

Thank you!

THEY CHEER

Whoo! Yeah!

I now have gay friends.

OFF CAMERA: What have you learned?
So, wait, I'm confused.

Gig, pass me back, that I need it.

OK, so what have
I learned about myself?

I love being queer.

I just didn't realise until now
how reassuring it is to be

in this safe space with people
who share the same feelings as me.

But I still have a lot to learn.

Bears have a flag? I love that!

There are loads of queer
identities to explore.

Isn't she chic, darling?

With all these different
types of sexual orientation,

even the LGBTQ+ community
can get confused.

So, you don't know the difference
between your As, Bis, and pans?

Don't worry, I'll call a doctor.

Dr Ronx is an ER medic,
queer activist, and educator.

They'll help me
straighten it all out.

Well not straight-straight...
look, you know what I mean.

I love your trainers, babe.

I want the quickfire highlights
of a very complex subject -

sexual orientation!

OK, let's go, let's go, let's go.

Lesbian.

A lesbian is a woman who is
attracted to another woman.

Gay.

Basically, men who sleep with,

or who are romantically
attracted to other men.

Also can be extended to women
who are attracted to women.

Bisexual.

I guess traditionally, bisexual
people fancy men and women.

Pansexual.

People who are attracted
to other people,

regardless of their gender identity.

Asexual.

People who are not sexually
attracted to other individuals.

Queer!

For me, it's anybody
who is not heterosexual.

I think it has to be that simple.

OK, so we've got to grips with
just a few of the bazillion

sexual identities out there.

But for me, there's one big
question hanging over it all.

Was I born this way?

What is it that shapes our
sexual orientation?

Is it nature or nurture?

Gerulf Rieger has studied
this subject for years.

Think about it like this.

The majority of us are straight.

We need our sexual orientation
to create babies

and continue to thrive as a species.

So, the idea that the social
environment has such profound

influences on something so important
to us just doesn't make any sense.

Gerulf thinks our sexual
orientation is innate and set

before we're even born.

Hello, hello, hello.
How is everybody doing today?

He believes there's no one factor
that decides our sexual orientation.

Just a big biological cocktail that
shapes a spectrum of sexualities.

First up, it's partly down
to your genes.

If you look at identical twins,

which are genetically literally
identical, if one is gay,

the chance that the other one
is gay is much, much higher.

If one twin is gay, there's
a 24% chance their identical

sibling will be, too.

But in nonidentical twin pairs,
if one is gay, there's just

a 15% chance their sibling
will share their sexuality.

Conclusion - genes play a part,
but they're not everything.

In fact, the latest research on
half a million people showed that

genes only account for up
to 25% of the whole

"what makes us gay" business?

So, what's next, Gerulf?

Well, he believes it's also hormones
we're exposed to in the womb.

One in particular.

So, we do think that testosterone
has a huge impact on

our sexual orientation.

But if you take newly-born rats and
you inject them with testosterone,

if they're female, then you can
almost perfectly turn them around

in their behaviour, including the
fact that this female now wants

to mate with other females.

So, it's definitely a girl.

Perfect.

Lastly, he thinks
antibodies play a part.

Females who've had boy babies
before are programmed to produce

these fighty immune system
proteins against you men.

When the mother is pregnant
for the first time with a son,

she actually gets exposed to
male typical proteins,

which is something that
her own body isn't used to.

These antibodies stay in
the mother's system.

And if she's pregnant again
with a second son, erm,

those antibodies are waiting.

There's a certain chance that
they attack tissue around his brain,

and could therefore disrupt
the regular development

of his sexual orientation.

That could be why the more
older brothers you have,

the more likely you are to be gay.

So, look, this is all
very interesting,

but what does it add up to?

When it comes to the question
of how innate is somebody's

sexual orientation,
my educated guess is probably 100%.

It's something that really comes
from within the person.

What exactly are the ingredients?

That's the million-dollar question.

You can pack that judginess away,
thank you very much.

Sexuality isn't a choice.

For me, it's hugely reassuring
to hear, to be honest.

I was born this way.

What way? Well,
kind of all the ways.

Oh!

Sexuality is definitely a spectrum,

and I feel like mine waivers.

But also, I'm probably definitely
more on the side of women.

But I don't - I like having sex
with men, I just don't date them.

I might, though, you never know.

But again, I think
it's a beautiful, unwavering,

wavering, beautiful...

..moo.

It feels like,
over the last few years,

there's been a new kind of openness
and acceptance of this spectrum

by young people.

And I really wish
I could've been a part of it.

Today, only 54%
of UK Gen Z'ers identify

as exclusively heterosexual.

Welcome!

But the big change
seems to be amongst women.

In 2011, 77% of US
university-age women were

exclusively attracted to men.

Yet, by 2019, that fell to 65%.

But, guys, your numbers
have stayed constant -

with 85% of you totally straight...
apparently.

It seems like,
particularly for women,

working out your sexual identity
isn't always straightforward.

And that might be because,
when it comes to who we find sexy,

our bodies and minds aren't
always on the same page.

Dr Marieke Dewitte is
an expert on sexual arousal.

Are you Flemish? Yeah, I'm Flemish.

I'm Flemish! A fellow Flem. Yeah.

And I've signed up to her sex lab
to dig deeper into what turns us on.

By watching porn!

All in the name of science,
mind you.

The watching porn part is going
to be the really hard part, I think.

Yeah, probably. Yeah, who wouldn't
be excited by watching

a whole lot of porn today?

Come in, and welcome to our sex lab.

So, what we'll do is we are going
to present several video clips.

Do you know what
I just thought about?

My parents watching this.

OK, well, maybe you should've
thought about that before.

Try to ignore it.

The main thing is actually
what you need to do is just sit,

relax, and try not to touch
yourself and sit still.

Try not to... Try not to.
I can contain myself.

Not touch yourself, and just watch.

Yeah? OK, perfect.

Have fun, Cara. I will.

Yeah, definitely. I will try.

Fuck.
SHE CHUCKLES

I'm sorry, this is what?

And it goes where?!

Basically, when you get
sexually aroused, more blood

is being pumped into your vagina.

And therefore, the colour
of your vaginal wall changes.

And this device measures the amount
of blood in your vaginal cavity.

Can I ask a question? Sure.

Can you read my mind
through my vagina?

No.

It's going in...now.

Great.

Jesus.

Can you guys see that it's in?

I can see your signal.
Oh, my God, my signal?!

The fuck is happening?
I can see your vaginal pulse, yes.

Great! I love that for us.

OK, try not to think
about my parents.

Or about the camera
12 inches from my face.

My frankly ridiculous task is
to watch different kinds of porn.

While Marieke's monitor records
how aroused my genitals are,

I rate my subjective arousal,
what I'm thinking,

on a sliding scale from
completely ice-cold to smoking hot.

OK, fire it up!

First, two guys shagging each other.

I can feel my breath shortening,
or whatever crap.

We can see that there is
at least something happening.

The peaks are closer to each other.

Then, lesbian sex.

Yeah, OK.

My body feels, like,
that shivery feeling again.

Great.

Weird. This is strange.

Just had a real big influx
of horniness, and then,

a real big influx of shame.

How bad is that still? Why?

Now there seem to be
a little bit more peaks.

Straight sex.

SHE LAUGHS
He's not very good at this.

There's men masturbating.

I'm less horny than I thought I was.

Oh, Lord. Her body is reacting
here to the gay porn.

You can see the peaks going up.

Women masturbating.

This seems uncomfortable.

It's those fake nails, bro!

You are going to say something
different, aren't you, vagina?

And then, a surprise little bonus
clip of some hairy monkey sex.

OK, this is properly weird now.

Oh, my God, what's it doing?!

It's called oral sex.

This is wild. Literally.

An hour later, that's it, I'm done.

I don't even know
how to feel any more.

So, there she is. How was it?

Do I look traumatised? Not at all.

Did you find it traumatising?

No. Maybe.

But what the F does this all mean
when it comes to sexual arousal?

What did we learn? What did you see?

So, the moment there was
something sexual,

you had this automatic
genital arousal response.

You've learned this is sexual,
so you react.

So, it sounds like
my genitals find everything -

human and animal - sexy.

But is this to be expected?

Your response actually matched with
what we saw in previous research -

that the genital arousal response
of women is rather nonspecific.

It kind of shows that for women,
it's sexual activity that matters.

It says nothing about your sexual
orientation or sexual identity.

Cos also, matters of the genitals
are not matters of the heart.

So sometimes, women who do not,
kind of, identify as being lesbian,

they get turned on by the woman,
and it's like,

"Oh, oh, my God, is this" -
they get confused.

Women get aroused by
different stimuli.

So, it's not some secret
lust for monkeys,

but a primal evolutionary response.

Surprisingly, women's genitals
react to a wide range of sexual

activity that has little to do
with their sexual orientation.

But our minds? Well, that's a
completely different story.

Your subjective sexual arousal
clearly differ depending on

the type of porn you were watching.

And what we saw in your pattern,
it seems that especially the lesbian

porn in specific really turned you
on, in terms of subjective arousal.

Does it match your sexual
orientation? For sure.

Do you feel more attracted to women?

And so, generally, I think women
are my preferred gender, I suppose.

How you feel, the mental component -

we see that in women,
it's a bit more specific,

that what really turns you on is,
kind of, a little bit more tied

to what you also prefer.

My mind is much more in sync
with my own sexual orientation -

but men only react physically to the
stuff that turns them on mentally.

So, men actually only respond
to stimuli that match

their sexual orientation.

For men, when they don't like it,
they don't get an erection.

So then, nothing is
possible any more.

So, in a nutshell, both our bodies
and minds feed into this thing

we call sexual orientation.

And Marieke's experiment
may show why women appear more

sexually fluid than men.

Crucially, none of it's a choice -
and for me, that's a relief.

I think it's also asking yourself,
or thinking whatever you're doing,

however you're feeling is
not natural. Exactly.

Always what I would think,
growing up with a lot of shame,

is thinking, "This isn't normal,
this isn't human" -

but it's like, it is.

Yeah, I mean at this point...

Yeah, that's what it
always comes back to.

The shame.

The pressure from society
and the world around me.

Shame doesn't change your innate
sexual orientation,

but it sure does affect how you
feel about your sexual identity

when you're not straight.

In the UK, male same-sex
relationships were decriminalised

55 years ago.

But laws banning talking about
gay love in schools -

the infamous Section 28 -
were only lifted when I was 11.

Growing up, the messaging
was loud and clear.

I couldn't talk to anyone about it,

and I definitely had a lot of, like,
internalised homophobia and shame.

I thought that I was,
like, abnormal.

Everyone else was right
and I was wrong,

cos I wasn't like everyone else.

I thought about ending my life,
like, I had multiple times.

And, like, I'm so glad I didn't
because if I can help any other kid,

then that means the world to me.

That means the world
to that little queer kid...

..that I was - or am.

I know I shouldn't feel shame.

But I truly believe there are
souls all over the world like me,

battling internalised homophobia,

feeling lost and alienated.

I want to meet people
who can help me move on

and accept myself for who I am.

Come on, take me somewhere fucking
cool and sort me out, people!

Here's what I love about Tokyo.

A busy modern city - and yet,
bang in the middle of it,

ancient traditional
scenes like this.

This land of contrast is
the only country in the G7

that doesn't officially recognise
same-sex unions.

And when tradition and religion is
deeply embedded in your family life,

growing up gay can be a scary thing.

And this is the ceremony hall.

Kodo Nishimura grew up right here,
in this Buddhist temple.

It's like a wedding is ceremony.
I know, look!

I feel like we could be married.

We have shared beliefs.

Even as a child, Kodo felt different
from all the other kids.

I noticed that I shouldn't talk
about my interest in boys publicly,

because most of the time,
homosexual people were portrayed

as villains or creepy in animes
for children.

I was constantly feeling like
there was a huge black cloud

above my head.

Kodo feared that his religion
would never accept him.

So, I was really rebellious and...

Yeah, I really didn't want to be
associated with Buddhism.

He needed to find community in
a place that understood who he was.

Moving to the US was such
a liberation for me.

I kept seeing LGBTQ
Pride parades or TV shows,

and male clerks selling make-up,

and I saw somebody who are like me,

struggling with similar situations,
thriving.

So, to see these representation
really helped me

to reset my normal.

But as time went on,

Kodo felt the pull of the
old family tradition of Buddhism.

I had questions, like,
what happens if I die?

Or why do we have to be good people?

Right. I felt that, well,
I don't like Buddhism,

but I should face what it's like
and see how I can evolve.

In 2013, he returned to train as
a monk, apprehensive about

whether he'd ever fit in.

What I discovered was surprising.

When I was talking to
a master about my sexuality,

he said that Buddhism
is very embracive.

It says, "The mercy of Buddha
is just like the moonlight".

We can prioritise our uniquenesses
and shine in our own colour.

I felt that I was really protected.

And because I got this teaching,
I felt that it is my responsibility

to spread this message of
equality in Buddhism

to people in the world.

The sense of community
he was searching for

had been in Japan all along.

Here we go. Oh, my gosh!

Wonderful style of shirt.

Oh, my God, I'm obsessed!

I think the courage to speak up
is actually cooler than

pretending to be perfect.
Yes. I completely agree with you.

So, yeah, so I will...
High five to that.

So now, I'm going to
transform and...

Transform away. I will leave you.

I will love you and leave you.
OK, cool.

Today, Kodo is a celebrity
in his homeland,

using his skills as an author,
activist, and make-up artist

to spread the message of harmony.

I think what I find
so inspiring about him

is that just by being visible,

he's changing society around him.

Yes, gorgina!

Oh, my God, you look amazing.
Thank you.

What would you like for the future,
and for the future of Japan?

If I can inspire leaders of
the world, also religious leaders

to lift the laws against LGBTQ
people, that would be wonderful.

Because we have to be safe to be us.

And we're not going anywhere.

What an incredibly strong,
but also wise person he is.

No matter how much the traditional
side has probably stopped him

from wanting to be the certain way,

his heart and his light
have shone through.

I've just learned a lot from him.

Being happy in yourself, within
yourself gives you the resources

to be able to help other people.

And that's what is
most important in the world.

Thank you.

Kodo got his happy ever-after
returning home to a warm welcome.

It's the coming-out story
everyone dreams of.

And I guess me, too.

But the truth is, so many people
don't get to go home. Ever.

I want to meet those brave
people who've travelled

across the world to live
an out, queer, proud life.

Where's a force of nature
when you need one?

Sound check.
BUBBLE GUM POPS

My name is The Darvish,

and I am a Syrian
performance artist,

a event organiser,
community changer,

and an LGBTQIA+ rights advocate.

And, erm, I consider myself
a force of nature.

Hello. Hello, my love.

My man, indeed! Hi, my love,

Oh, my goodness. My man!
Hello there. Hi. How are you?

I realised when I'm queer
probably in the age of 14.

Up and straight, then you drop it.

One and two.

And then, the journey started
of me immediately realising that

this is a taboo in the country
that I am in right now.

And that it is dangerous for me
to, you know, own it.

So, yeah, started, er, living
more carefully and cautiously

LAUGHTER
but gracefully.

Yeah, use the hand, OK!

She's getting it! OK.

Same-sex relationships in Syria are
punishable by three years in prison.

But when Isis overtook
parts of Syria,

this situation became even
more desperate for LGBTQ+ people.

And The Darvish had
to make a choice.

The war got really serious.

Persecutions and executions,
and stuff like that.

That's where it really hit us.

We cannot be visible at all.

The decision of me leaving Syria,
that was the hardest thing.

Choosing my life.

And...

Yeah.

One second.

For The Darvish, their imagination
became their refuge.

I focused on imagining
how my life would be.

You can be you...

..free.

The Darvish has now been safe
in Berlin for six years.

The minute I arrived here,
I was able to let go of everything.

Yeah. Start the journey
of self-discoveration,

and what a journey.

Your mum, she understood,
though, you leaving? Or not?

Well, she didn't want to.

She didn't want to understand.

It was very hard for her, for me
to leave, but I think I made

my point very clear that if I stay,
there's no future for me.

Yeah. You know?

It got too dark, right?

I don't like it. Oh, no.

THEY LAUGH
I thought you meant life.

The Darvish was supported
by their community

when they arrived in Germany,

and now they're giving back.

Tonight, they'll be performing
with their collective called

Queens Against Borders, working
for trans and queer refugees.

Hello, hello, hello, hello!

CHEERING

Woohoo! Oh, OK!

Thank you so much, everyone,
for being here with us

tonight in this fundraiser.

We're very, very glad
that you're here.

Whoo, whoo, whoo!

Yes!

Whoo!

Finding and building a community
anywhere in the world,

whatever community it is,
is super vital.

The community that I have built
brought to me everything

that I could ever imagine,
which is me being me.

Please put your hands together,
for the gorgeous, the stunning,

the beautiful,
the one and only The Darvish!

CHEERING

ETHEREAL MUSIC PLAYS

THROBBING DANCE MUSIC

CHEERING CONTINUES

I choose my dance and my passion,
my performances to say something.

I am trying my best to have
the visibility here in order later

to mobilise it there in Syria.

I'm beginning to understand what
I've been missing by not being

more active like The Darvish.

By expressing their true selves,
they manage to shed the shame.

Look, my struggle's nothing
compared to The Darvish.

But they have given me
so much to think about.

I don't really go to gay bars.
I mean, I'm a shit gay person.

Also because I think that comes
from a deep line of, like,

not really wanting to
be gay that much.

With every story, there's been...

It's been plagued with some,
sort of, element of heartbreak,

but then, some massive amount
of joy, you know?

And that's the magic
of queer people.

All over the world, there are
communities of LGBTQ+ people

creating islands of hope.

And perhaps none more so
than in South Africa.

In 1996, the new constitution
was the first in the world

to outlaw discrimination on
the basis of sexual orientation.

And the country was fifth in the
world to legalise same-sex marriage

in a continent where
no other country has.

No wonder South Africa is
a haven for LGBTQ+ refugees.

In Johannesburg a support
group at the, well,

perhaps surprising location
of the Holy Trinity Catholic Church

brings them together.

My name is Victor Motlasa.

I was born in Lesotho,
I'm 24 years old.

I stopped going to church because I
was facing a lot of discrimination,

a lot of hate.

You, as a flamboyant gay man,
in coming into South Africa,

was there a change?

Coming to South Africa,
I think it was a blessing

because you got to be yourself.

You got to express yourself
the way you want.

I couldn't even wear a crop top
in Lesotho, or like, why,

why would I do that, or a short?

Because I have to - they have
an ideal man that you have to be,

you have to dress like this.

You have to walk like this person.

You have to go play soccer, or you
have to go look after the cows.

Imagine, imagine!
THEY LAUGH

Every morning, every morning,
I will have to be here.

I will have to go...

I find a group, like, as a family
because I think they provide

a safe space where you can
literally talk about your problem.

Today, an estimated 634,000
identify as LGBTQ+ in South Africa.

In communities like these,
to quote The Darvish,

people can be themselves - free.

And you kiss and kiss,
and kiss up until...

Kiss another boy.
Kiss another boys, have fun.

If we get, like, spaces where we can
enjoy as the queer community,

like, we get to feel
that love within ourselves.

Spaces like this are definitely
important because, I don't know,

I just feel so much more me.

Well, I'm a homosexual, very gay,
over-the-top,

extremely flamboyant.

We want to get married
and just settle down,

and just live a beautiful life.

And have fur babies, cos
I don't want, like, actual ones.

Every one of these people has been
brave enough to put themselves

out there, despite all
the challenged they've faced.

So, what about me?

I may have been open about
being into women,

but boy, have I missed out
on a bigger picture.

A life-affirming queer community.

It's all been a very interesting
journey of meeting wonderful people,

you know, plagued with quite
horrible circumstances sometimes.

It's just made me really want to be
louder about what I believe in.

Moshi, moshi!

But what do I do, really?

How can I stand up
and fight for my community,

and live that true proud, out life?

Well, there's one
small thing I can do.

I can show up.

It's time to stop hiding and
do what I said at the start

that I've never done before.

Yes, at last, I'm going to go
to freaking Pride!

I want that outfit!
You look amazing!

Darling, look at those model faces.

The fame, the fame!

Do you mind if I interview you?

I would love to interview you,
as well! I can do that. OK, good.

I've never been to Pride before,
so this is my first Pride.

I've been out for a while.

But, yeah, happy Pride.
Happy Pride!

Tell me about your experience
as drag queens.

Like, how old you were
when you discovered...?

But we're still only 15.
Yeah, exactly, me too!

I'm 12. Me too. I'm 12.
No, you aren't.

When did you come out? 26-7.

THEY LAUGH
Don't ask me how old I am.

I wouldn't ask a lady that question!

The last ten years,
I think, changing a lot.

It's changing a lot.

But now, marriage, family, kids -
it's on the table.

It's all possible.
Yeah, it's possible.

The first Pride was held
in New York in 1970.

But Tokyo didn't see
a parade until 1994.

And just like in New York,
it began as a political protest.

Until the late 2000s,
some marchers disguised themselves

with masks and shades.

But this year,
there were 66,000 people,

and the only masks were...

Well, you know why.

Thank you. Happy Pride! Happy Pride.

It's emotional for me a little bit,
cos I think when you're queer and

you spend so much time
being quiet and being silenced,

Pride allows a space for people
to come and feel safe

showing who they really are,
being able to be loud.

Oh, my God!

Here, the weather might be gloomy -
but there are rainbows galore.

And I've just seen a familiar face.

Hello again! Hi.

Oh, my God! Hi, sorry.

How are you? Hi, how are you?

Oh... This is amazing, yeah!

Yesterday, I saw two men holding
hands for the first time in my life,

in Shibuya, and I was like...
Oh, my gosh!

Anybody who sees them would
be like, "Oh, this is..."

This is normal, it's not weird.

What Pride has taught me is
in so many places in the world,

you can find a queer community.

And many of us have been
on similar journeys.

There's strength in numbers,

but individuals
can make a difference.

I've met them, and they've
inspired me to say goodbye

to that shame once and for all.

I feel so much more comfortable,
and I feel very proud.

I mean it, not just
because it was Pride.

It's not like it's changed me.

It's not like it's, erm,
made me someone else,

or I've discovered new
elements of myself.

It's just me being able to be
myself in these situations.

It's just been a real revelation.

I just want to keep being in
this Planet Sex-mode.

Meeting people from around
the world, connecting, listening

to people's stories, trying
to imagine their situation,

trying to understand and, through
that, understand more about myself,

and hopefully ignite
or inspire others

to have similar conversations.

I've just never done anything
so personal.

It just makes me realise
what's important, and how much

more active I want to be,
in terms of trying to make

some sort of small difference.

Any difference is still
better than nothing.

OK, now what? I'm sad!

Is it over? Is it over?

It's never over.
Pride is never over.

Coming out.

It was just a really
beautiful experience,

and I'm so grateful for it.

Oh, don't, I'm going to get
fucking emotional. I hate emotions!

What do you want? Just say "cut"!

SHE LAUGHS
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