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- ♪ I can't help myself,
I like what I see ♪
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- Four newlywed couples
took a leap into the unknown
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in search of love.
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[cheers and applause]
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They married as
complete strangers.
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[cheers and applause]
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♪
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Last time, our couples
took a major step
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towards incorporating each
other into their daily lives.
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- Emily told you some [bleep],
and you guys came in hot.
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- Emily didn't tell me [bleep].
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- ♪ Step into my world
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- Emily and Brennan.
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- Your friends pretty much,
like, came at me unfairly.
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- I am sorry about that, 'cause
I wouldn't want your friends
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to treat me like that.
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- Becca and Austin.
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- You think they all
liked each other?
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- Yeah.
- Nice.
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I think so, too.
- You think so, too?
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- I think so, too.
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- Derik said that
religion in the past
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hasn't really been
an issue for Austin.
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I'm not sure exactly
what that means,
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but, more importantly,
I just want to get intimacy
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to work and trying
to get us to a place
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where we both feel connected.
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- Clare and Cameron.
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- Does he know you're on this?
- No.
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- [gasps]
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- What would you like to tell
a man who's on his deathbed?
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- Oh, wow, okay, I didn't--
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first of all, did not realize
either of those things.
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It's really strange to me that
he's bringing up
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really heavy things, you know,
in front of people,
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when he won't even do
that with me in private.
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♪
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- Lauren and Orion.
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- I didn't have a partner who
was like, it can work out.
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- It's not you.
It's, for sure, him.
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And let him know that it's him,
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and hopefully this is the last
time you see his [bleep].
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♪
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- And tonight...
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our couples
will work harder than ever
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to fight for their dream
of having everlasting love.
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- You pegged me.
- Yep.
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- Let's make this sexual.
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Let's create sexual tension
in this nonsexual game.
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- [laughs]
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- I am head over
heels with how much--
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- Don't make me cry.
Don't do it.
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[laughs]
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- I'm talking to her, though.
- Yeah, I know.
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- Let me talk to her.
- Yeah, I get you.
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- Okay, so let me talk to her.
- So we--
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- Brennan,
I'm talking to Emily.
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Thank you.
- Yeah, I'm just helping--
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- She doesn't need
your help, though.
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♪
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- I still need time to, like,
work through certain things
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that could, like,
really tear us apart.
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♪
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- [crying]
It's really hard.
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- Do you see a future with me?
- You're not--let me finish.
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- Do you see a future with me?
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- Cutting me off really
does piss me off.
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I'm sorry.
- Do you see a future with me?
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- You really cut me off.
- Do you see a future with me?
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- If that's your truth,
that's your truth, but--
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- You're
such a gaslighter, bro.
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- No.
- You are such a gaslighter.
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- Okay.
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- [crying] I tried my best.
[sniffles]
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For you to say
that I failed this marriage
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and I failed you,
when all I've been doing
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is assuring you that
you haven't failed me...
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♪
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[sobs]
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- ♪ It's all or nothing
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- This is
"Married at First Sight."
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- ♪ There's no other way
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♪
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- ♪ It's all or nothing
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- ♪ Tick, tick, boom
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♪ Come on,
let's get it started ♪
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- [vocalizing]
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- ♪ Tick, tick, tick,
tick, tick, tick, boom ♪
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- I slept great, although
it was hot as Hades in here.
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Like, literally--
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- The thermostat
is right over there.
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- Yeah, I get that,
but I literally said,
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like, five times.
I'm like, can I--
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- I didn't hear you say once.
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- Well, and I wanted
to open the window,
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and you just were not
about that.
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I was, like, roasting.
- You didn't--
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- But--
- You didn't ask me once.
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- Anyway.
[sniffs]
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♪
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- Uh, last night,
you know, we talked
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about a few things about--
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I know my father,
and my father's health came up.
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Um...
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I...
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You know, I didn't realize
that I hadn't communicated
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that clearly to you.
- Yeah.
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- I just assumed that--
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- it was very, very strange
the way that it was brought up.
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So I just was like,
whoa, that's interesting
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that out the gate,
he doesn't even know Amy,
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and all of a sudden, he's,
like, diving into all that,
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which, I mean,
I was intrigued.
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- Yeah, for me,
my father's been sick
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for many years, and...
- Yeah.
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And I'm sorry to hear that.
That's, like, really hard.
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- Yeah, well, I mean, it's
something that I've, like,
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already kind of, like,
grieved and, like, accepted,
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in the sense that it's just,
it's just something that--
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- Still hard, though.
- Yeah, absolutely.
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So for me, it's, like, the
reason why I was being short
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was, like, there was
no hidden mystery.
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My dad is sick.
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You know, like, it just kind
of is what it is
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versus, like, oh, you know,
here's this recent thing
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that happened to me,
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and I'm feeling really
emotional about it.
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It's like I've kind of already
gone through the stages,
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and that's why--
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and that's why
we kind of, like,
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you know, missed each other.
- Mm-hmm.
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Thank you for sharing.
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I know that that's not
an easy thing to talk about,
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and so I appreciate
you being so open.
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And now I understand.
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You know, last night
was the first time
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that I had ever heard
that he didn't know
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that you were married.
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- So people don't understand
necessarily, like,
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what it means to have
people in their life
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that are in these situations.
- Yeah.
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- My dad is a survivor, right?
- Of course, yep.
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- And anything I could say...
- Yeah.
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- Can kind of alter that.
- Mm-hmm.
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- I can't just be like,
oh, yeah, by the way,
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I married a stranger, because
I do have to be careful...
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- Yeah, and I get that.
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- Because when that
gets back to him,
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what does that do to him
and his--
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- Right, right.
I completely get it.
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And I am grateful
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that you were willing to have
that conversation with me,
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because I can't imagine
being in your position.
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Like, that sounds
really, really hard.
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Up until last night,
I didn't realize
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that his parents
and his dad didn't know
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that he was actually even
getting married,
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but I hope there comes
a point where Cameron
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feels comfortable just not
hiding this information.
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I think he knows
family is everything to me,
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and Cameron's family
is now my family.
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- It is hard,
but it's something--
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like I said, I've learned over
the years how to work with it.
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- Yeah.
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♪
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- So I'm gonna make
bacon, eggs...
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and toast.
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- Perfect.
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- Oh, I forgot to get butter,
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but it's
really good bread, so...
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- Yeah, that'll be good.
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I do just want to say sorry
again for last night.
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- Yeah.
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♪
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- It's just not how I wanted
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the first fun night to go.
- Yeah.
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I'm trying not to take
it personally, you know.
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They're just looking out
for their friend, and--
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I don't know.
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I think I could have definitely
done things differently
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and handled it better.
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Obviously, I never want to come
across as defensive,
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even though it felt
like a personal attack.
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You know, I have to stand up
for myself and my marriage.
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- Yep.
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- So, you know,
I don't apologize for that.
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I just--you know, obviously,
heated in the moment.
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- Yeah, and I...
[egg tapping]
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Obviously want you to know,
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like, I'm always
gonna take your side,
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and, like, I don't want that
to happen to you ever again,
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and I obviously didn't, like,
tell them
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to say anything that they did.
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Like, I know they care
about me and are protective,
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but that was just,
like, crossing the line.
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- Especially 'cause it
was supposed to just be...
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- Fun. Yep.
- Good vibes.
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And, like, if they had, you
know, questions or concerns,
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like, definitely,
but, you know,
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to come in with that level
of intensity
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when it was such
a good-vibe atmosphere just...
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- Yeah, it just sucks because
you did like my friends
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at the wedding, and,
like, obviously,
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those were my best friends,
and, like, I just--
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like, it is just,
like, a reflection of me,
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and I just don't
want you to, like, think...
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any, like, less of me
or, like, those are--
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- No, I don't think
any less of you.
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I'm honestly just treating
it like a one-off night
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with all this pressure and,
like, just felt a little off.
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- Yeah, that's the right way
to look at it.
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- Yeah, it's not
your fault, obviously.
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You know, or forgive
and forget, you know.
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- That's good.
- So...
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- That's important.
- Yeah..
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♪
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- So this is a game...
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that my mom taught me
when I was a young-un.
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Okay, so there's, like,
two parts of play.
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There's, like,
the pegging round,
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which you, like, play cards...
- [giggles]
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- [laughs]
And then the counting round.
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So, like...
- [laughs]
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- I don't know how
to explain this.
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I probably should have
read the rules first
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to, like, get a better grasp
of it, but basically--
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- Is it actually
called the pegging round?
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- I play a card.
You play a card, and we try it.
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So, if I were to play a king,
you'd want to play a 5.
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This is for, like,
the pegging round.
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- We got to name
it something else.
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[chuckles]
- I know.
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- The process
of pegging in cribbage
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is apparently to keep score.
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However, let's
make this sexual.
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Let's create sexual tension
in this nonsexual game.
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You've got to be ready to peg
if you want to play cribbage.
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Peg yourself, bro.
- Just be 2.
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So then I got 19.
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♪
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- Yeah.
- [whispers indistinctly]
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[laughs]
- So I won.
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- Yeah, so 28, last card.
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You get one point.
- I peg.
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- Boop.
- You pegged me.
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- Yeah, so--
[laughter]
247
00:09:33,500 --> 00:09:35,458
- What is my goal?
What am I trying to do?
248
00:09:35,542 --> 00:09:37,667
- To get points.
Get all the way around.
249
00:09:37,750 --> 00:09:39,167
- And so now I'm just
playing with myself?
250
00:09:39,208 --> 00:09:41,042
[laughter]
- Oh, [bleep].
251
00:09:41,125 --> 00:09:42,792
- Sorry.
252
00:09:42,875 --> 00:09:45,375
I know I need to be patient,
253
00:09:45,500 --> 00:09:48,167
and I am respecting
the fact that Austin
254
00:09:48,250 --> 00:09:51,750
doesn't have the same
comfort level as I do.
255
00:09:51,875 --> 00:09:55,208
But I am starting to feel
worried that I'm running out
256
00:09:55,292 --> 00:09:57,458
of ways for us to connect
257
00:09:57,542 --> 00:10:00,667
that do separate us
from a friendship
258
00:10:00,750 --> 00:10:02,958
and still fulfill my needs.
259
00:10:03,042 --> 00:10:05,167
♪
260
00:10:05,208 --> 00:10:06,417
- All right.
261
00:10:06,500 --> 00:10:07,833
- For later.
- For later.
262
00:10:07,875 --> 00:10:09,833
- For pegging later.
- My stash.
263
00:10:09,958 --> 00:10:11,750
[laughter]
264
00:10:11,833 --> 00:10:15,083
- ♪ 'Cause you know
when you know it ♪
265
00:10:15,208 --> 00:10:17,000
♪ And you'll know when you
know when you figure it out ♪
266
00:10:17,083 --> 00:10:19,833
♪ 'Cause you know
when you know it ♪
267
00:10:19,875 --> 00:10:23,667
♪ And you'll know when you
know when you figure it out ♪
268
00:10:23,750 --> 00:10:26,208
- Doesn't this look good?
- It looks amazing.
269
00:10:30,583 --> 00:10:34,458
[both chewing]
Mmm.
270
00:10:34,542 --> 00:10:36,833
The sounds of mastication.
271
00:10:36,875 --> 00:10:39,500
♪
272
00:10:39,583 --> 00:10:42,708
I think, specifically,
it means chewing, but...
273
00:10:42,833 --> 00:10:45,042
- Could've just said "chewing."
274
00:10:45,125 --> 00:10:47,042
- Hmm, but I wanted
to use a big word.
275
00:10:47,167 --> 00:10:48,458
- Yeah, as you do.
276
00:10:48,542 --> 00:10:50,333
[laughs]
277
00:10:50,417 --> 00:10:51,875
You tend to do
that quite a bit.
278
00:10:51,958 --> 00:10:53,750
- Oh, no, I think I use
a lot of small words.
279
00:10:53,833 --> 00:10:56,167
I wish I used way bigger words.
280
00:10:56,250 --> 00:10:59,000
Then people would know
how really smart I am.
281
00:10:59,083 --> 00:11:01,708
- Oh, my God.
No, that's--
282
00:11:01,792 --> 00:11:04,542
Yeah, okay.
283
00:11:04,542 --> 00:11:07,500
- When Clare expresses feelings
284
00:11:07,500 --> 00:11:10,583
of cascading annoyances,
285
00:11:10,667 --> 00:11:12,875
that makes me feel
like we're stuck,
286
00:11:13,000 --> 00:11:15,958
because I want to feel wanted.
287
00:11:16,042 --> 00:11:18,375
Her body language
and her actions
288
00:11:18,458 --> 00:11:21,000
say that she doesn't want me.
289
00:11:21,083 --> 00:11:21,958
♪
290
00:11:22,042 --> 00:11:23,833
So...
291
00:11:23,917 --> 00:11:28,500
I feel like we are stuck.
292
00:11:28,583 --> 00:11:30,708
Like, I mean, it feels
like we're at, like,
293
00:11:30,792 --> 00:11:32,625
an impasse, right?
294
00:11:32,708 --> 00:11:36,167
- I mean, I feel like we're
both trying very hard,
295
00:11:36,208 --> 00:11:40,583
and I don't know, I...
296
00:11:40,667 --> 00:11:43,542
I'm not sure if
we've, like, hit a wall.
297
00:11:43,625 --> 00:11:45,458
There is zero romance.
298
00:11:45,542 --> 00:11:47,042
I don't think that's
on either of us.
299
00:11:47,125 --> 00:11:48,917
I'm not saying there's
anyone to blame.
300
00:11:49,042 --> 00:11:50,625
It's just that's the way it is,
301
00:11:50,708 --> 00:11:52,333
and I don't think...
302
00:11:52,375 --> 00:11:53,458
♪
303
00:11:53,542 --> 00:11:55,125
That that's healthy.
304
00:11:55,208 --> 00:11:56,375
♪
305
00:11:56,458 --> 00:12:01,125
- Yeah, but it's easy to
look at lack of romance
306
00:12:01,208 --> 00:12:03,042
and say,
it will come with time.
307
00:12:03,125 --> 00:12:04,875
♪
308
00:12:05,000 --> 00:12:06,583
When we're talking
about "romantic"...
309
00:12:06,708 --> 00:12:08,000
- Mm-hmm.
310
00:12:08,083 --> 00:12:09,958
- Turn-ons...
- Mm-hmm.
311
00:12:10,042 --> 00:12:12,917
- Have I actually
been doing any?
312
00:12:13,042 --> 00:12:16,375
- Yeah, yeah, I think--yeah,
when you let me know
313
00:12:16,500 --> 00:12:19,833
that you are here--like,
even little stuff like that,
314
00:12:19,917 --> 00:12:21,500
when you're like, are you okay?
315
00:12:21,625 --> 00:12:23,250
Like, that kind of stuff,
I really love,
316
00:12:23,333 --> 00:12:24,667
and I've noticed that you do
that a lot.
317
00:12:24,750 --> 00:12:26,167
In every situation
where it's, like,
318
00:12:26,208 --> 00:12:28,000
it might be causing a little
bit of stress,
319
00:12:28,042 --> 00:12:29,833
before I even mention it,
you're like, are you okay?
320
00:12:29,958 --> 00:12:31,500
And to me, that is a turn-on,
321
00:12:31,542 --> 00:12:34,000
'cause it's like you're being
in tune with who I am.
322
00:12:34,083 --> 00:12:38,042
- Okay, and then are there
specific things I'm doing,
323
00:12:38,125 --> 00:12:40,792
you know, romantically
that are turning off?
324
00:12:40,875 --> 00:12:42,333
- No.
- Okay.
325
00:12:42,417 --> 00:12:44,042
♪
326
00:12:44,042 --> 00:12:46,333
- I just don't think
I'm romantically ready
327
00:12:46,500 --> 00:12:51,167
to engage in behavior that is,
you know, sexual at this point.
328
00:12:51,208 --> 00:12:54,500
It doesn't feel natural
for me to do that with you,
329
00:12:54,542 --> 00:12:56,667
and it's not
nothing against you.
330
00:12:56,708 --> 00:12:58,125
It's just the way that
our relationship is,
331
00:12:58,208 --> 00:12:59,958
and it's like,
you feel the same.
332
00:13:00,042 --> 00:13:01,542
It's not like you can
just naturally just come over
333
00:13:01,625 --> 00:13:03,208
and give me a kiss.
334
00:13:03,292 --> 00:13:05,667
Like, that's not natural for
you to do that to me, right?
335
00:13:05,708 --> 00:13:07,292
- Well, I would.
336
00:13:07,375 --> 00:13:09,500
- Okay, would it feel
unnatural to kiss me, though?
337
00:13:09,500 --> 00:13:10,667
- No.
338
00:13:10,708 --> 00:13:12,833
- Hmm,
that's interesting, okay.
339
00:13:12,917 --> 00:13:14,500
Hearing him say
that he's attracted to me
340
00:13:14,542 --> 00:13:17,208
and that he wants to kiss me,
this is news to me.
341
00:13:17,292 --> 00:13:19,500
I don't feel that coming
from him all the time.
342
00:13:19,542 --> 00:13:21,833
Like, your actions aren't
aligning with your words.
343
00:13:21,875 --> 00:13:23,542
I just feel
a little bit of guilt,
344
00:13:23,625 --> 00:13:25,333
and maybe that's
built by myself.
345
00:13:25,375 --> 00:13:27,250
But I feel like in all
these conversations,
346
00:13:27,333 --> 00:13:29,125
I just feel a sense of like,
wow, I'm not doing enough.
347
00:13:29,208 --> 00:13:32,833
I'm not enough because I'm not
giving him
348
00:13:32,875 --> 00:13:35,833
what he needs right now
or in this moment, you know?
349
00:13:35,917 --> 00:13:37,667
And that's hard.
That's a hard pill to swallow.
350
00:13:37,708 --> 00:13:38,958
And I'm sorry.
I don't--I don't--
351
00:13:39,042 --> 00:13:40,958
- No, no, don't be sorry.
- [sighs]
352
00:13:41,042 --> 00:13:43,250
- You can't be at fault
for being uncomfortable.
353
00:13:43,375 --> 00:13:45,750
That's not--
In your programming,
354
00:13:45,875 --> 00:13:47,833
that's nothing
that you are at fault for.
355
00:13:47,958 --> 00:13:50,375
But even with the
limited romance we have,
356
00:13:50,458 --> 00:13:51,542
I'm getting attached to you.
357
00:13:51,625 --> 00:13:53,000
♪
358
00:13:53,083 --> 00:13:55,917
And so, like, I'm here to try,
359
00:13:56,000 --> 00:13:58,167
and I'm happy to try.
360
00:13:58,292 --> 00:14:02,167
However, I would be doing
myself a great disservice
361
00:14:02,250 --> 00:14:05,917
if we really thought there
was no future
362
00:14:06,000 --> 00:14:09,333
because it's literally just
pain at that point.
363
00:14:09,375 --> 00:14:12,583
♪
364
00:14:12,667 --> 00:14:14,792
But if there is
a potential future,
365
00:14:14,875 --> 00:14:17,667
then the pain is worth it.
366
00:14:17,750 --> 00:14:19,042
♪
367
00:14:19,125 --> 00:14:23,750
So is there a 0.1% chance
368
00:14:23,833 --> 00:14:25,417
of this working out?
369
00:14:25,542 --> 00:14:31,417
♪
370
00:14:31,542 --> 00:14:33,000
- No.
371
00:14:33,125 --> 00:14:34,000
- Okay.
372
00:14:34,125 --> 00:14:35,833
- I think
there's more than that.
373
00:14:35,875 --> 00:14:37,333
- Oh, there's more, okay.
374
00:14:37,417 --> 00:14:40,250
So, I mean, anything
can happen...
375
00:14:40,375 --> 00:14:42,750
right, at any time?
376
00:14:42,875 --> 00:14:44,875
- Mm-hmm.
377
00:14:44,958 --> 00:14:46,458
- We just got
to stick it through
378
00:14:46,542 --> 00:14:48,167
and make
the romance work, right?
379
00:14:48,250 --> 00:14:49,667
♪
380
00:14:49,750 --> 00:14:52,833
- ♪ To choose love over fear
381
00:14:57,417 --> 00:14:58,833
- ♪ Ooh, ooh-ooh
382
00:14:58,833 --> 00:15:01,750
♪ Where we go
when we are alone ♪
383
00:15:01,875 --> 00:15:04,875
- Hello.
- Hi, it's so good to see you.
384
00:15:05,000 --> 00:15:07,000
- I know.
- How have you been?
385
00:15:07,042 --> 00:15:08,333
- Today was just
a really good day.
386
00:15:08,417 --> 00:15:12,292
We had, like,
a full day together,
387
00:15:12,375 --> 00:15:14,500
so I just want to keep
the mood light.
388
00:15:14,542 --> 00:15:16,958
Hopefully, chemistry can
grow from here on out.
389
00:15:17,042 --> 00:15:18,417
- Better stay with me.
390
00:15:18,500 --> 00:15:20,042
You can hold in stillness
if you need to.
391
00:15:20,125 --> 00:15:21,333
Lots of good people to watch.
392
00:15:21,375 --> 00:15:24,542
Emily, a pro, obviously.
It's gonna be great.
393
00:15:24,625 --> 00:15:26,917
- It's gonna be so fun.
- Yeah.
394
00:15:27,000 --> 00:15:28,125
- Oh, they're getting
in position.
395
00:15:28,208 --> 00:15:29,208
Got to get in position.
396
00:15:29,292 --> 00:15:30,417
♪
397
00:15:30,500 --> 00:15:32,292
- We're gonna go with
center core first.
398
00:15:32,375 --> 00:15:34,167
[cheers and applause]
Anyways...
399
00:15:34,292 --> 00:15:36,292
[laughter]
Okay, cool.
400
00:15:36,375 --> 00:15:40,292
Tiptoes front platform--press
out, and just hold for me.
401
00:15:40,375 --> 00:15:41,750
♪
402
00:15:41,833 --> 00:15:43,167
Beautiful, gorgeous.
403
00:15:43,250 --> 00:15:45,167
You guys, rock your heels
forward slightly.
404
00:15:45,333 --> 00:15:47,917
Emily, pop up onto
your toes for me.
405
00:15:48,042 --> 00:15:51,333
- ♪ Light it up,
light it up ♪
406
00:15:51,417 --> 00:15:53,833
♪ Like a shooting star,
like a... ♪
407
00:15:53,917 --> 00:15:56,125
- In three, two, one.
Hold it.
408
00:15:56,208 --> 00:15:58,000
Beautiful, Brennan.
409
00:15:58,042 --> 00:16:01,792
- ♪ 'Cause nobody else
got a brighter star ♪
410
00:16:01,875 --> 00:16:03,042
♪ So light it up
411
00:16:03,125 --> 00:16:05,125
- So I'm doing it right?
- Yeah, that's good.
412
00:16:05,208 --> 00:16:06,833
- ♪ Yeah, light it up
413
00:16:06,917 --> 00:16:09,292
♪ Yeah, light it up
414
00:16:09,375 --> 00:16:11,167
♪
415
00:16:11,250 --> 00:16:12,792
- A big "hell, yeah"
round of applause...
416
00:16:12,875 --> 00:16:14,333
[cheers and applause]
417
00:16:14,417 --> 00:16:16,500
To our friend Brennan
for his first class.
418
00:16:16,542 --> 00:16:18,000
Well done.
How was it?
419
00:16:18,042 --> 00:16:19,250
- [breathlessly]
Thanks for having me.
420
00:16:19,333 --> 00:16:20,500
- Spicy, huh?
- Appreciate it.
421
00:16:20,583 --> 00:16:21,833
Can't wait to never
see you guys again.
422
00:16:21,917 --> 00:16:23,625
[laughter]
423
00:16:23,708 --> 00:16:25,083
- Fair enough, fair enough.
- Just kidding. It was great.
424
00:16:25,167 --> 00:16:26,542
I'll see you guys next Tuesday.
425
00:16:26,667 --> 00:16:28,000
Oh, man, that was good.
426
00:16:28,083 --> 00:16:29,917
- Would you do it again?
- Yeah.
427
00:16:30,000 --> 00:16:31,333
- I mean, I do give him credit.
428
00:16:31,417 --> 00:16:33,250
I feel like a lot of guys,
like, wouldn't do this.
429
00:16:33,333 --> 00:16:35,958
I'm proud of what
he did here tonight.
430
00:16:36,042 --> 00:16:38,042
- It was cool to see
you in your element.
431
00:16:38,208 --> 00:16:41,042
Model Emily,
everyone look at model Emily.
432
00:16:41,125 --> 00:16:43,292
- Definitely not.
I felt under pressure.
433
00:16:43,375 --> 00:16:45,083
- She called me beautiful,
and so that was--
434
00:16:45,167 --> 00:16:46,333
- Well, that's a plus.
435
00:16:46,417 --> 00:16:48,167
Will you come back
for compliments?
436
00:16:48,250 --> 00:16:49,958
- I mean, why else are
we doing this, right?
437
00:16:50,042 --> 00:16:51,708
- [chuckles]
438
00:16:51,792 --> 00:16:53,417
♪
439
00:16:53,500 --> 00:16:57,375
- ♪ Stuck in my head,
thinking it's dead ♪
440
00:16:57,458 --> 00:17:01,042
♪ It's only just
a matter of time ♪
441
00:17:01,042 --> 00:17:03,500
- First trip
to the grocery store together.
442
00:17:03,542 --> 00:17:06,500
We'll be meeting with the
other couples for potluck.
443
00:17:06,583 --> 00:17:08,000
- That was it?
- Yep.
444
00:17:08,083 --> 00:17:10,667
- That was it? Okay.
- Oh, it's responsibly sourced.
445
00:17:10,708 --> 00:17:12,208
[laughs]
446
00:17:12,292 --> 00:17:14,667
♪
447
00:17:14,750 --> 00:17:17,167
- Friends!
- Hey!
448
00:17:17,208 --> 00:17:20,375
[indistinct chatter
and laughter]
449
00:17:20,458 --> 00:17:22,000
- I feel like it's
been, like, forever.
450
00:17:22,125 --> 00:17:24,500
- I know.
[laughter]
451
00:17:24,583 --> 00:17:27,333
- Yeah, so where is everyone
else's stuff they brought?
452
00:17:27,375 --> 00:17:28,583
- You guys each
brought one thing.
453
00:17:28,667 --> 00:17:30,083
- You guys brought--
454
00:17:30,167 --> 00:17:31,417
Yes, we thought that that was--
I'm sorry.
455
00:17:31,500 --> 00:17:33,000
- It's all right.
We got the team on our back.
456
00:17:33,042 --> 00:17:34,333
It's fine.
- You did. You did.
457
00:17:34,375 --> 00:17:36,292
- If we all brought enough
food for 8 people,
458
00:17:36,375 --> 00:17:38,000
we'd be feeding 36 people.
- Exactly.
459
00:17:38,125 --> 00:17:40,042
- So...
- That's true.
460
00:17:40,125 --> 00:17:42,167
Wow.
- Just throwing it out there.
461
00:17:42,208 --> 00:17:44,042
- God, you're
[bleep] brilliant.
462
00:17:44,042 --> 00:17:47,250
[laughter]
- It's true.
463
00:17:47,375 --> 00:17:49,583
- Lauren and Orion are
not here right now.
464
00:17:49,667 --> 00:17:51,542
- I mean, I've been talking
to Lauren,
465
00:17:51,625 --> 00:17:54,000
and I think
she's gonna come tonight.
466
00:17:54,042 --> 00:17:55,750
I think she's gonna--
467
00:17:55,833 --> 00:17:57,833
I don't know about Orion,
'cause I don't know what you--
468
00:17:57,958 --> 00:17:59,167
- I have not heard
if Orion is coming.
469
00:17:59,292 --> 00:18:00,500
- Have they moved in?
470
00:18:00,625 --> 00:18:02,792
- My understanding is--
I don't think they have.
471
00:18:02,875 --> 00:18:03,875
- I love carrots.
- Me too.
472
00:18:04,042 --> 00:18:05,167
- I hate carrots.
- Me too.
473
00:18:05,250 --> 00:18:06,583
- I like celery.
That's it.
474
00:18:06,667 --> 00:18:07,667
- Really?
- Celery?
475
00:18:07,792 --> 00:18:09,000
- Yeah.
- There's nothing--
476
00:18:09,083 --> 00:18:10,125
- That's the worst
veggie of all.
477
00:18:10,208 --> 00:18:11,750
- Hey, guys, hey.
- Oh, hi.
478
00:18:11,875 --> 00:18:13,000
- Hey.
Oh, see?
479
00:18:13,083 --> 00:18:15,458
This is proper.
- Look at her.
480
00:18:15,542 --> 00:18:17,333
- Nice.
- Oh.
481
00:18:17,458 --> 00:18:19,458
- That is the spread
of the century.
482
00:18:19,542 --> 00:18:21,167
- Give me mine.
Hype me up. Hype me up.
483
00:18:21,208 --> 00:18:24,250
- Where is Orion?
484
00:18:24,333 --> 00:18:26,333
- I actually don't know.
I thought he was gonna be here.
485
00:18:26,375 --> 00:18:27,500
♪
486
00:18:27,542 --> 00:18:30,083
I'm not super excited.
I'm, like, 50-50.
487
00:18:30,167 --> 00:18:32,583
I'm really excited
to see everyone
488
00:18:32,667 --> 00:18:34,750
and hear their good news
with their marriages,
489
00:18:34,833 --> 00:18:37,333
but I'm not looking
forward to seeing Orion.
490
00:18:37,417 --> 00:18:40,833
And as far as the divorce,
it just sucks.
491
00:18:40,958 --> 00:18:44,167
But I'm okay with letting
everyone know what's going on.
492
00:18:44,292 --> 00:18:47,000
- You're not moved in.
- No, we never moved in.
493
00:18:47,042 --> 00:18:49,333
- Wow.
- Yeah.
494
00:18:49,333 --> 00:18:50,292
- There he is.
- Hi.
495
00:18:50,375 --> 00:18:51,667
- What up?
- Hey.
496
00:18:51,708 --> 00:18:53,667
- Oh, he brought dessert.
497
00:18:53,792 --> 00:18:55,625
- I brought dessert.
- Wow.
498
00:18:55,708 --> 00:18:57,250
- Yeah.
499
00:18:57,333 --> 00:18:58,833
- How are you?
- Good. How are you?
500
00:18:58,875 --> 00:19:00,333
- Hey.
- Where can I put these?
501
00:19:00,458 --> 00:19:02,417
- Put it here.
- Okay. So--
502
00:19:02,542 --> 00:19:04,333
- That looks bomb.
- Yeah, so...
503
00:19:04,417 --> 00:19:06,083
- We have, like, a full meal.
- Holy moly.
504
00:19:06,208 --> 00:19:09,250
- Yeah, so toffee cake,
strawberry, and then tuxedo
505
00:19:09,333 --> 00:19:11,583
from a friend who owns a bakery
here in Denver.
506
00:19:11,667 --> 00:19:14,083
- That looks delish.
Thank you, Orion.
507
00:19:14,208 --> 00:19:15,958
- How were your housewarmings?
508
00:19:16,042 --> 00:19:17,625
- Ours was good.
509
00:19:17,708 --> 00:19:20,625
We just played games,
and then I had a one-on-one
510
00:19:20,708 --> 00:19:24,375
with her friends,
or two-on-one, and got grilled.
511
00:19:24,458 --> 00:19:26,208
- I think my plan backfired.
512
00:19:26,292 --> 00:19:27,667
I was like, oh,
everyone will have wigs.
513
00:19:27,750 --> 00:19:29,458
Everyone will be, like,
open and fun,
514
00:19:29,458 --> 00:19:32,042
and then the personas got
a little out of control.
515
00:19:32,167 --> 00:19:33,458
- They assumed
other identities.
516
00:19:33,542 --> 00:19:35,500
- Uh-oh, you got roasted?
517
00:19:35,583 --> 00:19:39,583
- Yeah, Emily and I have
been going through our bumps.
518
00:19:39,708 --> 00:19:43,625
There's not really, like,
a romantic bond yet,
519
00:19:43,708 --> 00:19:46,750
so we're just trying to work
through that
520
00:19:46,875 --> 00:19:48,833
as difficult as it is.
521
00:19:48,917 --> 00:19:51,625
Just want to be open with
you guys on where we're at,
522
00:19:51,708 --> 00:19:53,833
because we were doing
so good on the honeymoon,
523
00:19:53,833 --> 00:19:56,417
and then reality hit,
and things changed, so...
524
00:19:56,500 --> 00:19:58,208
- Yeah, don't feel guilty.
- Yeah.
525
00:19:58,292 --> 00:19:59,875
- This is a lot
for everyone, I think.
526
00:19:59,958 --> 00:20:01,625
both: Yeah.
- For sure.
527
00:20:01,708 --> 00:20:03,667
- Relationships are work.
I mean, you guys are still--
528
00:20:03,750 --> 00:20:05,042
even through that,
529
00:20:05,208 --> 00:20:07,167
you guys are still sticking it
through together.
530
00:20:07,208 --> 00:20:09,125
- Yeah.
- That's commendable.
531
00:20:09,208 --> 00:20:10,542
- Thank you.
532
00:20:10,625 --> 00:20:12,375
- That's very commendable,
actually.
533
00:20:12,375 --> 00:20:14,000
- We're trying.
- I agree.
534
00:20:14,083 --> 00:20:15,750
- Because it's easy
to just leave
535
00:20:15,833 --> 00:20:17,333
when stuff gets hard, so...
536
00:20:17,375 --> 00:20:19,000
And you guys did it.
- Yeah.
537
00:20:19,125 --> 00:20:20,708
[indistinct chatter]
538
00:20:20,792 --> 00:20:23,000
- It's definitely
surprising to hear.
539
00:20:23,083 --> 00:20:25,375
And I know a lot has happened
with Cameron and I,
540
00:20:25,500 --> 00:20:27,333
but we kind of assumed
that, you know,
541
00:20:27,417 --> 00:20:29,625
everyone else is happy
with where they're at,
542
00:20:29,708 --> 00:20:31,000
but we could be wrong.
543
00:20:31,083 --> 00:20:33,000
Who knows?
I don't know.
544
00:20:33,083 --> 00:20:36,000
- I guess we
really didn't talk
545
00:20:36,083 --> 00:20:37,875
to everybody since the
honeymoon,
546
00:20:38,000 --> 00:20:41,125
but Lauren and I...
547
00:20:41,208 --> 00:20:45,000
I have decided
to get a divorce.
548
00:20:45,083 --> 00:20:47,542
- I, not Lauren and I.
- Yeah, I.
549
00:20:47,625 --> 00:20:49,833
♪
550
00:20:49,875 --> 00:20:53,667
- If you don't mind me asking,
when did this happen?
551
00:20:53,708 --> 00:20:55,542
- I think you can speak
to that,
552
00:20:55,667 --> 00:20:57,333
since it happened
so many different times.
553
00:20:57,417 --> 00:20:59,292
- Yeah, I mean, you know,
just coming back
554
00:20:59,375 --> 00:21:02,000
from the honeymoon, just
taking that break and so...
555
00:21:02,125 --> 00:21:03,833
- That's when he
asked for a divorce.
556
00:21:03,958 --> 00:21:06,333
- And so, yeah, so that's
when I first brought up
557
00:21:06,417 --> 00:21:08,667
wanting the divorce.
558
00:21:08,750 --> 00:21:11,958
But everything that kind of
just followed after that
559
00:21:11,958 --> 00:21:15,833
made it more real when we had
our discussion with Dr. Pia.
560
00:21:15,917 --> 00:21:17,625
♪
561
00:21:17,708 --> 00:21:19,833
- Lauren, do you feel like
Orion gave this a chance?
562
00:21:19,917 --> 00:21:22,167
- No, I don't.
563
00:21:22,292 --> 00:21:25,958
Yes, we had a race dis--
564
00:21:26,042 --> 00:21:27,333
not even a disagreement.
565
00:21:27,417 --> 00:21:30,250
I said a horrible,
offensive joke
566
00:21:30,375 --> 00:21:32,750
on, like, day two
of the honeymoon.
567
00:21:32,833 --> 00:21:37,500
But, like, I was called
a failure in the marriage.
568
00:21:37,500 --> 00:21:40,083
You did tell me that I failed
you and I failed the marriage.
569
00:21:40,167 --> 00:21:42,167
You did slut-shame me
570
00:21:42,292 --> 00:21:46,083
for having sex two months
before the wedding.
571
00:21:46,208 --> 00:21:49,208
You've never apologized
for the way you made me feel.
572
00:21:49,208 --> 00:21:51,208
You just cried
about how it made you feel bad
573
00:21:51,292 --> 00:21:52,917
that you made me feel bad.
574
00:21:53,042 --> 00:21:54,917
- Well, I did, that night.
575
00:21:54,917 --> 00:21:56,792
- [voice breaking]
You did not even apologize
576
00:21:56,875 --> 00:21:58,667
for calling me a failure and
that I failed in this marriage
577
00:21:58,750 --> 00:22:00,000
and for not having your back.
578
00:22:00,042 --> 00:22:02,208
So don't sit here
and say you've apologized
579
00:22:02,292 --> 00:22:03,542
for those words
unless you really felt them.
580
00:22:03,625 --> 00:22:05,417
And if you didn't
really feel them,
581
00:22:05,500 --> 00:22:07,208
that hurts even
more for you to say
582
00:22:07,333 --> 00:22:08,833
that I failed this
marriage and I failed you,
583
00:22:08,875 --> 00:22:10,500
when all I've been
doing is assuring you
584
00:22:10,542 --> 00:22:12,167
that you haven't failed.
585
00:22:12,250 --> 00:22:15,208
♪
586
00:22:15,292 --> 00:22:17,458
- Well, I don't think
you have failed.
587
00:22:17,542 --> 00:22:19,125
- Then why would you say that?
588
00:22:19,208 --> 00:22:20,583
- Like, there--
[scoffs]
589
00:22:20,667 --> 00:22:22,458
I'm not changing
what I'm saying.
590
00:22:22,542 --> 00:22:24,958
- But you literally do change
what you say, Orion.
591
00:22:25,042 --> 00:22:26,833
You change it every moment.
592
00:22:26,875 --> 00:22:29,625
- If that's your truth, that's
your truth, but, I mean--
593
00:22:29,708 --> 00:22:31,500
- You're
such a gaslighter, bro.
594
00:22:31,583 --> 00:22:32,667
- No.
595
00:22:32,750 --> 00:22:34,333
- And I'm about
to bring that up.
596
00:22:34,417 --> 00:22:36,250
You are such a gaslighter.
- Okay.
597
00:22:36,333 --> 00:22:38,375
- [clears throat]
598
00:22:38,458 --> 00:22:40,167
- I'm not gonna sit here
and let you say otherwise,
599
00:22:40,250 --> 00:22:41,667
because you know
it's the truth.
600
00:22:41,750 --> 00:22:43,417
♪
601
00:22:43,542 --> 00:22:46,583
I have been accountable for
my actions this entire time.
602
00:22:46,667 --> 00:22:48,542
And if you're not gonna hold
yourself accountable, I will.
603
00:22:48,625 --> 00:22:51,042
♪
604
00:22:51,125 --> 00:22:52,500
- Well, I don't know
605
00:22:52,542 --> 00:22:55,125
what I need to hold
myself accountable with.
606
00:22:55,208 --> 00:22:58,375
The only thing that I really
came to a conclusion on
607
00:22:58,458 --> 00:23:00,958
is that how I felt
about her in the beginning
608
00:23:01,042 --> 00:23:03,583
is not how I was feeling
about her in that moment.
609
00:23:03,667 --> 00:23:05,917
And that hasn't
quite come back.
610
00:23:06,042 --> 00:23:08,250
♪
611
00:23:08,375 --> 00:23:11,250
And so for that,
you know, I don't think
612
00:23:11,375 --> 00:23:15,042
it would be beneficial
to continue on
613
00:23:15,125 --> 00:23:16,625
with the marriage,
614
00:23:16,708 --> 00:23:19,000
because I know in my heart
I'm already out.
615
00:23:19,042 --> 00:23:20,708
♪
616
00:23:20,792 --> 00:23:24,333
- Do either of you feel
like you gave up too fast
617
00:23:24,458 --> 00:23:26,500
or, like, you didn't let
the process play out?
618
00:23:26,542 --> 00:23:27,667
- I don't think I gave up
619
00:23:27,792 --> 00:23:30,083
because I didn't ask
for the divorce.
620
00:23:30,167 --> 00:23:31,958
I was ready to stay married.
621
00:23:32,083 --> 00:23:35,042
- I don't think that I'm
not giving it a chance.
622
00:23:35,167 --> 00:23:37,000
You know, I feel like I tried,
623
00:23:37,042 --> 00:23:40,292
and it was just small steps
back with each argument.
624
00:23:40,375 --> 00:23:41,292
♪
625
00:23:41,375 --> 00:23:43,625
- How?
626
00:23:43,708 --> 00:23:48,667
- How easy it is for us to
fall out of a easy conversation
627
00:23:48,708 --> 00:23:51,042
and then kind of start going
back and forth with each other,
628
00:23:51,167 --> 00:23:54,292
that's something that
has been really consistent.
629
00:23:54,375 --> 00:23:56,333
And it's just...
630
00:23:56,375 --> 00:23:59,583
There is a disconnect
in our communication.
631
00:23:59,708 --> 00:24:01,708
You know,
I'm specifically talking...
632
00:24:01,792 --> 00:24:03,667
- But where was the disconnect?
- With the honeymoon.
633
00:24:03,792 --> 00:24:05,625
I mean, there was disconnect
all throughout the honeymoon.
634
00:24:05,708 --> 00:24:08,750
- Sometimes I feel like you'll
say things, and I'm like, huh?
635
00:24:08,833 --> 00:24:11,708
- As a whole, it does feel like
there's a big disconnect
636
00:24:11,792 --> 00:24:14,042
when it comes to communicating.
637
00:24:14,125 --> 00:24:15,667
- 'Cause we don't communicate.
638
00:24:15,708 --> 00:24:17,000
♪
639
00:24:17,083 --> 00:24:19,042
- Lauren, you're not alone.
640
00:24:19,125 --> 00:24:21,458
Um...
641
00:24:21,458 --> 00:24:23,542
I mean, I can only speak
to our experience,
642
00:24:23,625 --> 00:24:26,000
but it's been very difficult
for Clare and I.
643
00:24:26,083 --> 00:24:29,333
There are some big things that
we just simply don't align on.
644
00:24:29,417 --> 00:24:31,833
- Yeah. Huge things.
- And...
645
00:24:31,917 --> 00:24:34,667
we're having chemistry,
romance issues.
646
00:24:34,708 --> 00:24:38,042
We don't agree on how we would
raise our children--
647
00:24:38,167 --> 00:24:40,625
religious
versus nonreligious.
648
00:24:40,708 --> 00:24:43,542
- And, you know,
I respect him so much
649
00:24:43,625 --> 00:24:46,500
and care for him so much,
and it makes me sad.
650
00:24:46,583 --> 00:24:49,625
- Like, the best person maybe,
ever I've met.
651
00:24:49,708 --> 00:24:52,458
Like, I am--truly, truly...
- Oh, that's so nice.
652
00:24:52,542 --> 00:24:56,458
- I am head over heels
with how much...
653
00:24:56,542 --> 00:24:58,333
- Don't make me cry.
654
00:24:58,375 --> 00:24:59,625
Don't do it.
- Okay.
655
00:24:59,708 --> 00:25:01,333
- [laughs]
- You're gonna make me cry.
656
00:25:01,375 --> 00:25:03,000
I haven't cried since
the second grade.
657
00:25:03,042 --> 00:25:03,958
Come on.
658
00:25:04,042 --> 00:25:05,708
♪
659
00:25:05,792 --> 00:25:10,500
- I can empathize with, like,
how difficult that is to see
660
00:25:10,583 --> 00:25:12,458
and, like, to
be confused by, to be--
661
00:25:12,542 --> 00:25:15,792
- Yeah, we do have...
662
00:25:15,875 --> 00:25:18,667
albeit a tiring chemistry,
663
00:25:18,750 --> 00:25:21,125
we do have a chemistry that
is special to ourselves.
664
00:25:21,208 --> 00:25:22,333
But it is a--
665
00:25:22,417 --> 00:25:25,000
it is a fiery...
666
00:25:25,125 --> 00:25:27,625
[laughter]
667
00:25:27,708 --> 00:25:29,417
- You're not wrong.
He's not wrong.
668
00:25:29,500 --> 00:25:30,833
That is accurate.
669
00:25:30,917 --> 00:25:32,417
- I mean, you know,
we get along.
670
00:25:32,500 --> 00:25:33,833
I mean, that could
easily be a disaster.
671
00:25:33,958 --> 00:25:35,625
- But I love it 'cause
I think we challenge
672
00:25:35,708 --> 00:25:37,250
each other in that way, too.
- Yeah.
673
00:25:37,333 --> 00:25:39,000
- I think that's
what the experts saw
674
00:25:39,042 --> 00:25:40,542
is that they knew that we
would challenge each other,
675
00:25:40,625 --> 00:25:42,167
intentionally...
- And we want to be challenged.
676
00:25:42,250 --> 00:25:43,792
- That we're both passionate
about our opinions, beliefs,
677
00:25:43,875 --> 00:25:45,500
and we're willing to
share that with each
678
00:25:45,583 --> 00:25:46,875
other very openly and safely.
679
00:25:46,958 --> 00:25:48,625
So part of me is
like, yeah, the experts
680
00:25:48,708 --> 00:25:49,875
nailed it there, for sure.
681
00:25:49,958 --> 00:25:51,375
- So nothing's been decided.
682
00:25:51,500 --> 00:25:52,833
You're still sort
of sorting that out?
683
00:25:52,875 --> 00:25:54,000
- Yeah, we're just
kind of just...
684
00:25:54,083 --> 00:25:55,333
Yeah.
- Yeah.
685
00:25:55,417 --> 00:25:56,292
- Figuring it out.
- That's okay.
686
00:25:56,375 --> 00:25:57,458
- Yeah.
- Yep.
687
00:25:57,542 --> 00:25:59,792
- Yeah, nothing is--yeah, so...
688
00:25:59,875 --> 00:26:02,000
Yeah.
Sheesh, I'm sweating.
689
00:26:02,042 --> 00:26:03,125
[laughing] I'm like...
690
00:26:03,208 --> 00:26:06,292
Like, that was a lot.
691
00:26:06,375 --> 00:26:07,833
- How are you guys doing?
692
00:26:07,875 --> 00:26:09,708
- This has been a very
stressful conversation.
693
00:26:09,792 --> 00:26:12,000
[chuckles]
I'm not handling it well.
694
00:26:12,042 --> 00:26:13,292
- You're doing great.
- [chuckles]
695
00:26:13,375 --> 00:26:14,792
But, no, we're doing good.
696
00:26:14,875 --> 00:26:19,500
I mean, we had the similar
religion kind of issues
697
00:26:19,542 --> 00:26:24,125
and my slower intimacy speed,
but we're both,
698
00:26:24,208 --> 00:26:25,750
like, pretty open-minded.
699
00:26:25,833 --> 00:26:27,542
And, you know, I still need
time to, like, work
700
00:26:27,667 --> 00:26:29,375
through certain things.
701
00:26:29,458 --> 00:26:32,958
That's kind of why we went down
the path of figuring out
702
00:26:33,042 --> 00:26:37,667
one another before we really
talk about those big pieces,
703
00:26:37,750 --> 00:26:39,667
because for me, it's, like,
important to understand
704
00:26:39,792 --> 00:26:42,042
who she is at her heart
705
00:26:42,125 --> 00:26:45,417
before we talk about things
that could, like, really--
706
00:26:45,542 --> 00:26:47,167
I don't know--tear us apart.
707
00:26:47,250 --> 00:26:49,750
♪
708
00:26:49,875 --> 00:26:52,833
It has been hard.
- Yeah, for sure, for sure.
709
00:26:52,917 --> 00:26:55,042
- But her support and
everything is, like, really...
710
00:26:55,125 --> 00:26:56,250
- Yeah.
711
00:26:56,375 --> 00:26:58,500
- Helpful and meaningful
for me.
712
00:26:58,583 --> 00:27:00,208
- Yeah, I think
I'm getting emotional right now
713
00:27:00,333 --> 00:27:03,292
'cause it's difficult
to see, like, all of us...
714
00:27:03,375 --> 00:27:06,250
♪
715
00:27:06,333 --> 00:27:07,750
Yeah...
[laughs]
716
00:27:07,833 --> 00:27:09,333
[crying]
To, like, know that each of us
717
00:27:09,417 --> 00:27:10,583
are, like, struggling
in that way.
718
00:27:10,667 --> 00:27:12,333
Like, I know how hard it can be
719
00:27:12,417 --> 00:27:14,500
and then to know that each of
you are feeling that
720
00:27:14,542 --> 00:27:15,833
is really hard.
721
00:27:15,917 --> 00:27:17,375
Now I want to hug all of you.
722
00:27:17,500 --> 00:27:19,125
[both chuckle]
Sorry.
723
00:27:19,208 --> 00:27:20,667
♪
724
00:27:20,750 --> 00:27:22,583
- I have a mix of emotions
725
00:27:22,708 --> 00:27:25,417
with hearing
that all the other couples
726
00:27:25,500 --> 00:27:27,833
are experiencing ups and downs,
727
00:27:27,958 --> 00:27:30,500
but they're still, you know,
navigating their marriage
728
00:27:30,542 --> 00:27:32,042
as best as possible.
729
00:27:32,125 --> 00:27:34,458
It does feel comforting
that they understand.
730
00:27:34,542 --> 00:27:35,667
I just wish they weren't going
731
00:27:35,792 --> 00:27:37,917
through their
own challenges, too.
732
00:27:38,000 --> 00:27:40,500
- We can do a group hug.
- Yeah, can we?
733
00:27:40,583 --> 00:27:42,458
[laughter]
734
00:27:42,542 --> 00:27:44,500
- I'm very excited
735
00:27:44,583 --> 00:27:47,458
to just continue on with life
736
00:27:47,542 --> 00:27:49,000
and know that I tried my best.
737
00:27:49,125 --> 00:27:51,083
[sniffles]
738
00:27:51,208 --> 00:27:53,625
♪
739
00:27:53,708 --> 00:27:56,375
[sobs]
740
00:27:56,458 --> 00:27:58,667
♪
741
00:27:58,750 --> 00:28:00,833
[sniffles]
742
00:28:00,917 --> 00:28:05,042
♪
743
00:28:05,125 --> 00:28:07,583
I'm okay.
744
00:28:07,667 --> 00:28:09,125
I'm okay.
745
00:28:09,208 --> 00:28:13,708
- ♪ No, I'm never
gonna cry again ♪
746
00:28:13,792 --> 00:28:17,000
♪ Yeah, I've done it
for the last time ♪
747
00:28:17,042 --> 00:28:18,667
- [sniffles]
748
00:28:18,708 --> 00:28:23,375
- ♪ No, I'm never
gonna cry again ♪
749
00:28:23,458 --> 00:28:26,292
♪ When it's over you
750
00:28:26,375 --> 00:28:29,000
♪ Goodbye
751
00:28:29,083 --> 00:28:31,458
♪ Goodbye
752
00:28:31,542 --> 00:28:33,292
♪ Goodbye
753
00:28:37,333 --> 00:28:38,917
[dreamy music]
754
00:28:38,917 --> 00:28:42,500
♪
755
00:28:42,583 --> 00:28:44,250
- Ooh.
- Well, that was something.
756
00:28:44,375 --> 00:28:45,708
♪
757
00:28:45,833 --> 00:28:48,667
- That was draining
on many levels.
758
00:28:48,750 --> 00:28:51,292
- Oh, yeah.
- [chuckles]
759
00:28:51,375 --> 00:28:53,000
- Like, holy cow.
760
00:28:53,083 --> 00:28:55,667
Oh, my God.
Yeah, I just...
761
00:28:55,750 --> 00:28:58,792
I guess I didn't realize,
like, you know,
762
00:28:58,875 --> 00:29:00,792
where the other
couples were at.
763
00:29:00,875 --> 00:29:03,000
Like, I thought we were, like,
down in the dumps.
764
00:29:03,083 --> 00:29:06,583
[chuckles] And realizing
that we aren't the only ones,
765
00:29:06,667 --> 00:29:08,542
I think it gave me
a better understanding
766
00:29:08,542 --> 00:29:11,500
that, like, we aren't doing
as poor as maybe I thought.
767
00:29:11,583 --> 00:29:13,667
- Yes, we have potentially
768
00:29:13,708 --> 00:29:15,750
insurmountable problems.
- Yeah.
769
00:29:15,833 --> 00:29:17,583
- But at least we're
talking about it.
770
00:29:17,667 --> 00:29:19,792
- Yeah, right, right.
771
00:29:19,875 --> 00:29:22,542
- I mean what I heard
from Austin and Becca is that
772
00:29:22,625 --> 00:29:24,167
they have major problems...
- Mm-hmm.
773
00:29:24,208 --> 00:29:26,833
- And they're just not
talking about it.
774
00:29:26,875 --> 00:29:30,250
They're just steering clear
of the conversation.
775
00:29:30,333 --> 00:29:31,917
- 'Cause they're scared...
- Yeah.
776
00:29:32,042 --> 00:29:33,583
- To confront it,
you know, but--
777
00:29:33,667 --> 00:29:35,333
- It seems unhealthy.
- Right.
778
00:29:35,458 --> 00:29:37,125
- But, you know,
I'm not gonna tell anyone
779
00:29:37,208 --> 00:29:39,042
how to live their lives.
- Right.
780
00:29:39,167 --> 00:29:41,083
- And then we've got
Brennan and Emily.
781
00:29:41,167 --> 00:29:43,375
- I don't think they're on
the same page about something.
782
00:29:43,458 --> 00:29:44,833
- Something's up.
783
00:29:44,917 --> 00:29:46,667
- I think they're just
not being specific enough
784
00:29:46,708 --> 00:29:48,792
about the issues,
which speaks a lot
785
00:29:48,875 --> 00:29:50,625
to maybe
their relationship, too.
786
00:29:50,708 --> 00:29:52,125
- Mm-hmm.
- You know what I mean?
787
00:29:52,208 --> 00:29:53,667
I think they're not
being honest, really.
788
00:29:53,750 --> 00:29:55,333
And it's like--
So I don't know.
789
00:29:55,375 --> 00:29:57,667
This whole thing has made
me realize, like,
790
00:29:57,750 --> 00:29:59,625
I'm really good
at being honest.
791
00:29:59,708 --> 00:30:01,375
You're really good
at being honest.
792
00:30:01,458 --> 00:30:03,875
And as long as we continue
that for the rest of our lives,
793
00:30:03,958 --> 00:30:06,667
that's gonna be
really beneficial to us.
794
00:30:06,708 --> 00:30:07,958
♪
795
00:30:08,042 --> 00:30:11,167
- Yeah, but in the spirit
of being honest,
796
00:30:11,250 --> 00:30:13,792
you know, this is just
not gonna sound right,
797
00:30:13,875 --> 00:30:15,458
but I'm gonna say it anyways.
798
00:30:15,542 --> 00:30:19,875
I have been inspired...
799
00:30:19,958 --> 00:30:23,125
to actually consider myself
800
00:30:23,208 --> 00:30:25,750
a little more moving forward.
- Mm-hmm.
801
00:30:25,875 --> 00:30:27,708
♪
802
00:30:27,833 --> 00:30:29,708
- I look at Orion
and Lauren,
803
00:30:29,833 --> 00:30:32,333
and, yeah, okay,
there's definitely...
804
00:30:32,417 --> 00:30:34,792
something might have been cut
short there
805
00:30:34,875 --> 00:30:36,833
and maybe selfishly so.
- Mm-hmm.
806
00:30:36,917 --> 00:30:39,083
- And I think Orion
was willing to say,
807
00:30:39,208 --> 00:30:40,917
this is just what I need.
808
00:30:41,000 --> 00:30:43,000
And to be honest...
- [clears throat]
809
00:30:43,125 --> 00:30:45,750
- While the situation
is very unfortunate...
810
00:30:45,833 --> 00:30:47,542
- [sniffs]
811
00:30:47,667 --> 00:30:49,958
- I was actually inspired
to think,
812
00:30:50,042 --> 00:30:52,417
okay, it's very unlikely
813
00:30:52,500 --> 00:30:56,208
that we're going to be able
to move past our roadblock.
814
00:30:56,333 --> 00:30:58,167
- Mm-hmm.
815
00:30:58,250 --> 00:31:02,083
- The biggest hurdle
for our relationship
816
00:31:02,167 --> 00:31:04,125
is the lack
of physical intimacy
817
00:31:04,208 --> 00:31:08,333
and the clash
between our religious views.
818
00:31:08,375 --> 00:31:10,833
We're just stuck between
a rock and a hard place.
819
00:31:10,917 --> 00:31:14,167
Like, is there an adjustment
that we need to make?
820
00:31:14,250 --> 00:31:17,500
♪
821
00:31:17,500 --> 00:31:19,000
- I don't know.
822
00:31:19,083 --> 00:31:23,167
- ♪ I've been waiting
for too long ♪
823
00:31:23,250 --> 00:31:26,333
♪
824
00:31:26,375 --> 00:31:28,167
- Like, sheesh.
825
00:31:28,250 --> 00:31:31,583
♪
826
00:31:31,708 --> 00:31:35,708
- ♪ I'm so tempted
to tell you ♪
827
00:31:35,792 --> 00:31:37,167
♪ That you might be the one
828
00:31:37,292 --> 00:31:39,833
- Welcome to my place.
It's the same as yours.
829
00:31:39,917 --> 00:31:41,250
- I like your guys'
little, like, horn.
830
00:31:41,375 --> 00:31:42,792
- Thanks.
831
00:31:42,875 --> 00:31:43,833
- Why do you guys
like tribal vibes?
832
00:31:43,833 --> 00:31:45,167
- [chuckles]
833
00:31:45,250 --> 00:31:48,083
♪
834
00:31:48,208 --> 00:31:50,917
- What's up, brother?
- What up, my guy?
835
00:31:51,000 --> 00:31:53,833
- Long night, huh?
- Yeah. [chuckles]
836
00:31:53,917 --> 00:31:56,208
- So, before I, like, step
into me,
837
00:31:56,292 --> 00:31:58,125
I also want to hear how things
are going for you.
838
00:31:58,208 --> 00:32:00,708
- Don't want to sing for you.
839
00:32:00,792 --> 00:32:03,958
Ours is, like, relatively...
840
00:32:04,042 --> 00:32:07,167
I wouldn't say easy, but,
like, it's, like, big issues
841
00:32:07,292 --> 00:32:08,875
that are just gonna take time.
- Yep.
842
00:32:08,958 --> 00:32:11,292
- Things are good.
Things are good.
843
00:32:11,292 --> 00:32:12,833
- Awesome.
844
00:32:12,875 --> 00:32:14,667
- I just don't
prescribe to the notion
845
00:32:14,750 --> 00:32:17,500
that we have to figure out
everything right now, you know?
846
00:32:17,542 --> 00:32:19,792
- So I just have to, like...
847
00:32:19,875 --> 00:32:22,042
- Be patient?
- Yeah. [chuckles]
848
00:32:22,125 --> 00:32:24,167
- Which, like, I feel like
I am being very patient.
849
00:32:24,292 --> 00:32:25,667
- Yeah.
850
00:32:25,708 --> 00:32:29,667
- I wasn't expecting
for us to kind of take a turn.
851
00:32:29,750 --> 00:32:31,667
I, like, thought things were
fine during the honeymoon.
852
00:32:31,792 --> 00:32:33,667
- Yeah.
both: They seemed fine.
853
00:32:33,792 --> 00:32:35,833
[chuckles]
Like, liked me a lot,
854
00:32:35,958 --> 00:32:39,458
like, found me
attractive, like...
855
00:32:39,542 --> 00:32:43,000
And then something
is happening right now.
856
00:32:43,083 --> 00:32:44,375
He's, like, shutting off.
- Mm.
857
00:32:44,375 --> 00:32:45,958
- And I was like, that's
literally the one thing,
858
00:32:46,042 --> 00:32:47,667
like, you just can't do.
- Mm-hmm.
859
00:32:47,708 --> 00:32:49,250
- And I've asked him, like--
860
00:32:49,250 --> 00:32:50,917
And the one thing
he won't tell me
861
00:32:51,000 --> 00:32:52,333
is, like, physical attraction.
862
00:32:52,417 --> 00:32:55,083
It's weird.
- So you've directly asked him.
863
00:32:55,083 --> 00:32:57,292
- Yeah.
- He is attracted to you.
864
00:32:57,375 --> 00:33:00,125
There's no way
that, like, it's not there,
865
00:33:00,208 --> 00:33:01,833
so it feels like
there's something else
866
00:33:01,917 --> 00:33:03,042
that he doesn't even know.
867
00:33:03,125 --> 00:33:04,833
- That's what
I, like, feel, too.
868
00:33:04,917 --> 00:33:07,167
- Yeah.
869
00:33:07,208 --> 00:33:09,125
- Yeah, so it was a pretty big
bomb that you dropped
870
00:33:09,208 --> 00:33:12,833
about, like, the romantic
feelings, all that.
871
00:33:12,917 --> 00:33:17,167
Do you think attraction
and, like, romance
872
00:33:17,208 --> 00:33:19,583
and, like, chemistry--
is that, like, something
873
00:33:19,708 --> 00:33:21,500
that you need to have
from the beginning,
874
00:33:21,542 --> 00:33:23,208
or is it something that, like,
can grow over time
875
00:33:23,292 --> 00:33:24,667
as you get to know someone?
876
00:33:24,750 --> 00:33:26,542
- My past--
it's been immediate.
877
00:33:26,625 --> 00:33:30,042
So this is, like, very
uncharted territory for me.
878
00:33:30,125 --> 00:33:32,167
I did this because I wanted
to trust the experts
879
00:33:32,250 --> 00:33:34,208
and do things differently,
880
00:33:34,292 --> 00:33:36,333
not anticipating that this
would be one of my obstacles.
881
00:33:36,458 --> 00:33:39,250
But now that it is, you know,
I told everyone
882
00:33:39,333 --> 00:33:42,333
I wanted to trust the process,
and that's what I'm gonna do.
883
00:33:42,375 --> 00:33:45,875
Divorce is not an option for me
in this, but it's just like--
884
00:33:46,000 --> 00:33:47,667
I don't know, honestly.
- Yeah.
885
00:33:47,708 --> 00:33:50,167
- It's just like, you know,
if I can take a pill for that
886
00:33:50,250 --> 00:33:54,083
and have chemistry, I would
so that this could work,
887
00:33:54,167 --> 00:33:56,958
but, you know, we got to do
it the natural way, so...
888
00:33:57,042 --> 00:33:59,500
- Yeah, yeah, yeah.
889
00:33:59,583 --> 00:34:00,917
I mean, it's hard.
890
00:34:01,042 --> 00:34:03,000
- It's hard.
891
00:34:03,125 --> 00:34:05,167
- I do believe it was there.
- Yeah.
892
00:34:05,208 --> 00:34:07,000
- And I still think
it is there.
893
00:34:07,083 --> 00:34:08,750
- Yeah.
- Yeah, I'm not gonna, like,
894
00:34:08,833 --> 00:34:11,542
harp on it anymore, but it's...
895
00:34:11,625 --> 00:34:13,542
it's just more of, like,
I just want to make sure
896
00:34:13,625 --> 00:34:15,458
I'm, like, playing it right
moving forward.
897
00:34:15,542 --> 00:34:17,333
- Are you playing
it right is you being,
898
00:34:17,458 --> 00:34:19,208
like, your unfiltered self
and, like--
899
00:34:19,208 --> 00:34:20,875
- That's the only
way I know how to be.
900
00:34:21,000 --> 00:34:22,750
- And you know--
901
00:34:22,833 --> 00:34:24,333
Whether he's attracted to you,
902
00:34:24,500 --> 00:34:26,458
you know how attractive
you are, right?
903
00:34:26,542 --> 00:34:28,458
- Thank you. [chuckles]
- Do you know that?
904
00:34:28,542 --> 00:34:31,167
- I mean, this week
has been tough,
905
00:34:31,333 --> 00:34:33,167
but I have learned
a lot about myself.
906
00:34:33,208 --> 00:34:34,792
Like, I'm hitting limits,
like...
907
00:34:34,875 --> 00:34:37,583
[crying] I didn't even know,
like, I was capable of.
908
00:34:37,667 --> 00:34:40,458
Like, I've learned, like,
I am, like, stronger
909
00:34:40,542 --> 00:34:43,417
and, like, more
in tune with my emotions
910
00:34:43,500 --> 00:34:45,667
for not having a relationship.
911
00:34:45,708 --> 00:34:48,625
But like, now it's, like, this
is, like, why I didn't date,
912
00:34:48,708 --> 00:34:50,125
like, for these, like--
913
00:34:50,208 --> 00:34:51,667
I need someone who
was, like, sure of me
914
00:34:51,750 --> 00:34:53,333
and, like, sure of themselves.
915
00:34:53,417 --> 00:34:55,875
Like, it's--but I don't want to
give up because I do believe,
916
00:34:56,000 --> 00:34:58,208
like, a lot's there.
917
00:34:58,208 --> 00:35:00,333
And it's also hard
to, like, hear him.
918
00:35:00,417 --> 00:35:02,917
He just talks
about, like, the romance
919
00:35:03,000 --> 00:35:04,458
and, like, whatever that is
920
00:35:04,583 --> 00:35:06,833
and, like, just doesn't give
me direct answers.
921
00:35:06,917 --> 00:35:09,333
Like, I just don't know,
like, what to do
922
00:35:09,417 --> 00:35:11,417
other than just do nothing.
923
00:35:11,500 --> 00:35:13,750
- And then that just leaves you
in this, like, gray area,
924
00:35:13,833 --> 00:35:15,375
which is so hard.
925
00:35:15,458 --> 00:35:17,917
- I don't know what it's
gonna take for something
926
00:35:18,000 --> 00:35:19,167
to get through to him.
927
00:35:19,250 --> 00:35:21,000
- ♪ Unresolved
928
00:35:21,042 --> 00:35:23,083
♪ Unresolved
929
00:35:27,333 --> 00:35:29,208
- ♪ For you, I will fight
930
00:35:29,208 --> 00:35:30,792
♪ For you, I will cry
931
00:35:30,792 --> 00:35:34,708
- Okay, so today, Dr. Pia is
coming to visit Cameron and I,
932
00:35:34,792 --> 00:35:36,833
and...
933
00:35:36,958 --> 00:35:40,542
I'm feeling pretty lost
and confused.
934
00:35:40,708 --> 00:35:43,500
It's obviously been a lot,
and we're both--
935
00:35:43,583 --> 00:35:47,000
Both Cameron and I are
very mentally drained.
936
00:35:47,125 --> 00:35:51,542
But it'll be nice
to get her expertise
937
00:35:51,667 --> 00:35:53,500
on the situation,
938
00:35:53,583 --> 00:35:55,833
on what we can do
to move forward
939
00:35:55,958 --> 00:35:57,875
in such a difficult time.
940
00:35:57,958 --> 00:35:59,542
♪
941
00:35:59,667 --> 00:36:01,583
- Hello.
- Hello.
942
00:36:01,667 --> 00:36:03,917
You look stunning.
- Likewise. Thank you.
943
00:36:04,000 --> 00:36:05,750
- That's a very
cute outfit you got on.
944
00:36:05,833 --> 00:36:07,167
- Thank you.
- Hello.
945
00:36:07,250 --> 00:36:08,542
- Hi, good seeing you.
- You look well.
946
00:36:08,625 --> 00:36:10,000
- All right, y'all
want to have a seat here.
947
00:36:10,125 --> 00:36:12,458
- All right.
- All right.
948
00:36:12,542 --> 00:36:15,250
- Well, how have
things been going?
949
00:36:15,333 --> 00:36:17,125
- It's been a--
950
00:36:17,208 --> 00:36:18,792
it feels like it's been
a long journey already.
951
00:36:18,875 --> 00:36:20,542
- And then I'm looking
down and neither one of you
952
00:36:20,625 --> 00:36:22,625
have your rings on.
- Yeah.
953
00:36:22,708 --> 00:36:25,167
- What's going on?
What are y'all not telling me?
954
00:36:25,250 --> 00:36:27,208
- Unfortunately,
it's become apparent
955
00:36:27,292 --> 00:36:30,250
that our long-term viability
956
00:36:30,333 --> 00:36:32,917
is probably not there,
unfortunately.
957
00:36:32,917 --> 00:36:34,500
♪
958
00:36:34,583 --> 00:36:35,792
- Wow.
- Yeah.
959
00:36:35,875 --> 00:36:38,000
- That's a pretty strong,
like, bold statement.
960
00:36:38,042 --> 00:36:39,750
So let's pull ourselves back
961
00:36:39,833 --> 00:36:43,792
in terms of giving this
more time to process,
962
00:36:43,875 --> 00:36:47,333
to experience one another,
to think things through.
963
00:36:47,375 --> 00:36:49,125
Is there any possibility
for that--
964
00:36:49,208 --> 00:36:50,542
that you could see
that happening?
965
00:36:50,542 --> 00:36:52,042
- I think I want
to try and figure out
966
00:36:52,167 --> 00:36:53,708
how to make this work.
967
00:36:53,833 --> 00:36:55,625
- I just want to make sure I'm
understanding you correctly.
968
00:36:55,708 --> 00:36:57,208
You're saying--
- Okay, so there are--
969
00:36:57,292 --> 00:36:59,083
I mean, basically, we have
a fundamental disagreement
970
00:36:59,208 --> 00:37:01,500
about how we want
to raise our children.
971
00:37:01,542 --> 00:37:03,792
- So I've heard about that
with regard to religion.
972
00:37:03,875 --> 00:37:05,458
Is that what we're
talking about right now?
973
00:37:05,583 --> 00:37:06,917
- Yeah, primarily.
- Primarily.
974
00:37:07,000 --> 00:37:08,708
Are there other things as well?
975
00:37:08,792 --> 00:37:10,833
- There's also
this lack of maybe,
976
00:37:10,917 --> 00:37:13,208
like, romantic connection.
977
00:37:13,292 --> 00:37:14,500
That's just what it is.
978
00:37:14,625 --> 00:37:16,708
And so, if we can't,
first of all,
979
00:37:16,792 --> 00:37:19,333
be on the same page about our
future, but, second of all,
980
00:37:19,458 --> 00:37:21,417
can't be on the same page
about where we are emotionally
981
00:37:21,542 --> 00:37:23,750
here in this romantic,
physical moment...
982
00:37:23,833 --> 00:37:25,500
- Mm-hmm.
- Then how can we progress?
983
00:37:25,583 --> 00:37:28,125
We have tried very,
very, very hard.
984
00:37:28,208 --> 00:37:29,833
- Okay.
985
00:37:29,958 --> 00:37:31,667
- I'd say the most painful
thing about all this is,
986
00:37:31,708 --> 00:37:34,000
Clare and I, I think, are
extremely compatible.
987
00:37:34,125 --> 00:37:35,500
- Yeah.
988
00:37:35,583 --> 00:37:38,208
- She's the smartest
and most mature person
989
00:37:38,292 --> 00:37:40,000
I've ever been
in a relationship with, so...
990
00:37:40,083 --> 00:37:41,375
- Oh, that's nice.
991
00:37:41,458 --> 00:37:43,333
- It's kind of just like
a perfect mixture there,
992
00:37:43,417 --> 00:37:45,292
where I just feel--
I feel heard...
993
00:37:45,375 --> 00:37:47,083
- Mm-hmm.
994
00:37:47,167 --> 00:37:50,583
- Which, for whatever reason,
in relationships is rare to me.
995
00:37:50,708 --> 00:37:51,792
- Okay.
996
00:37:51,875 --> 00:37:54,250
- You know, we get
along really well.
997
00:37:54,333 --> 00:37:55,792
Just the more time
I spend around her,
998
00:37:55,875 --> 00:37:57,792
the more and more
I'm getting attached.
999
00:37:57,875 --> 00:37:59,833
It's just this feeling that,
like, when I'm away from her,
1000
00:37:59,917 --> 00:38:01,167
like, I miss her.
1001
00:38:01,250 --> 00:38:02,750
And, I mean,
I've essentially said,
1002
00:38:02,833 --> 00:38:04,542
you know, it's time
to protect Cameron
1003
00:38:04,667 --> 00:38:09,167
because I think our future
is bleak.
1004
00:38:09,208 --> 00:38:11,875
♪
1005
00:38:11,958 --> 00:38:14,708
- Wow.
1006
00:38:14,792 --> 00:38:16,750
- Clare, what's it like
to hear him say that?
1007
00:38:16,833 --> 00:38:18,792
- Obviously, it's not great
to hear, because, I mean,
1008
00:38:18,875 --> 00:38:22,000
I think we're both not doing
mentally the best that we want
1009
00:38:22,042 --> 00:38:23,167
to be doing in this moment.
1010
00:38:23,208 --> 00:38:24,917
This has been very draining.
1011
00:38:25,042 --> 00:38:27,000
We can't be a couple if we're
not doing well individually.
1012
00:38:27,083 --> 00:38:29,917
We have to put ourselves first,
1013
00:38:30,000 --> 00:38:32,375
and if that means
that we can't make this work,
1014
00:38:32,458 --> 00:38:34,708
then that's what it has to be.
- Okay.
1015
00:38:34,792 --> 00:38:36,625
So what I'm hearing is,
you feel like you all
1016
00:38:36,708 --> 00:38:38,167
have exhausted all options.
- Mm-hmm.
1017
00:38:38,208 --> 00:38:39,875
- You've given it
your best shot.
1018
00:38:39,875 --> 00:38:42,542
It doesn't seem like there's
any viable opportunity
1019
00:38:42,625 --> 00:38:44,333
for marriage to continue on.
1020
00:38:44,417 --> 00:38:45,917
And I'm looking at, like,
well, wait a minute.
1021
00:38:46,000 --> 00:38:48,000
What have you all tried?
- Mm-hmm. Yeah, that's fair.
1022
00:38:48,083 --> 00:38:49,542
That's a very fair
question to ask.
1023
00:38:49,625 --> 00:38:52,542
- I mean, are there
specific things that...
1024
00:38:52,542 --> 00:38:54,000
that we should try?
1025
00:38:54,042 --> 00:38:55,708
- Yeah, so here's the thing.
1026
00:38:55,792 --> 00:38:57,708
There's been so
much change in such
1027
00:38:57,792 --> 00:39:00,625
a very short period of time...
- Lots, yeah.
1028
00:39:00,708 --> 00:39:03,500
- And it can be really
"dysregulating" to the system.
1029
00:39:03,583 --> 00:39:06,500
- Mm-hmm.
- So my recommendation
1030
00:39:06,583 --> 00:39:08,333
would be to go back into,
1031
00:39:08,375 --> 00:39:10,833
like, what makes you
both work individually?
1032
00:39:10,917 --> 00:39:13,333
Like, let's get you,
like, more stabilized.
1033
00:39:13,417 --> 00:39:17,292
Can there also be some
focus on having fun
1034
00:39:17,375 --> 00:39:19,500
and being more in the moment?
1035
00:39:19,583 --> 00:39:22,083
Take off talking
about children,
1036
00:39:22,208 --> 00:39:24,333
romance, sex, and religion
1037
00:39:24,417 --> 00:39:27,208
until the next
time you meet with an expert,
1038
00:39:27,292 --> 00:39:29,708
because there can
be some, like, fatigue
1039
00:39:29,792 --> 00:39:32,625
in talking about this.
- Totally.
1040
00:39:32,708 --> 00:39:35,333
- And I can understand that
there's a lot of anxiety there
1041
00:39:35,417 --> 00:39:36,875
because you're
thinking, holy [bleep],
1042
00:39:37,000 --> 00:39:39,125
this is the rest of our lives
we're talking about.
1043
00:39:39,208 --> 00:39:40,458
- Yeah.
- Like, hold the phone.
1044
00:39:40,542 --> 00:39:41,833
Get me out.
- [laughs]
1045
00:39:41,875 --> 00:39:44,833
- Right? I hear that.
I see that. I feel that.
1046
00:39:44,958 --> 00:39:48,000
And what I'm offering
is, like, give yourselves time
1047
00:39:48,083 --> 00:39:51,583
to be in the moment and enjoy
one another's company.
1048
00:39:51,708 --> 00:39:54,333
Get to have more fun together.
1049
00:39:54,417 --> 00:39:56,625
I would hate for this to be
a missed opportunity,
1050
00:39:56,708 --> 00:39:58,875
to give up right now, saying,
well, we've tried everything
1051
00:39:58,875 --> 00:40:01,583
under the sun,
right, because you all led
1052
00:40:01,667 --> 00:40:04,708
with saying how compatible
that you feel that you are.
1053
00:40:04,792 --> 00:40:06,625
And you already have
this understanding
1054
00:40:06,708 --> 00:40:07,667
of what you've tried
that hasn't worked.
1055
00:40:07,750 --> 00:40:09,792
Let's focus on what is working.
1056
00:40:09,875 --> 00:40:12,667
What if we take away the
pressure from everything else
1057
00:40:12,708 --> 00:40:16,667
and just focus on having fun
and being more in the moment?
1058
00:40:16,750 --> 00:40:19,042
- Yeah, yeah, I like that.
1059
00:40:19,167 --> 00:40:22,000
- I guess what I'd say is...
1060
00:40:22,083 --> 00:40:26,583
I'd be disingenuous
if I agreed right now.
1061
00:40:26,667 --> 00:40:28,292
I would like to sleep
on your advice.
1062
00:40:28,375 --> 00:40:29,500
♪
1063
00:40:29,583 --> 00:40:30,875
And that's just who I am.
- Yeah.
1064
00:40:30,958 --> 00:40:33,167
- I just need time when
it comes to those things.
1065
00:40:33,208 --> 00:40:35,333
- I respect that.
- So I hear you.
1066
00:40:35,417 --> 00:40:37,375
I think it is fantastic advice.
- Yeah.
1067
00:40:37,500 --> 00:40:39,792
- But I can't commit to you
right in this moment.
1068
00:40:39,875 --> 00:40:43,083
♪
1069
00:40:47,208 --> 00:40:48,333
- ♪ Don't say it's over
1070
00:40:48,458 --> 00:40:49,917
♪
1071
00:40:50,042 --> 00:40:51,625
♪ Don't say goodbye
1072
00:40:51,708 --> 00:40:54,292
- Excited to talk to Pia today?
1073
00:40:54,375 --> 00:40:58,500
- I wouldn't say excited,
but, yeah, I'm excited, sure.
1074
00:40:58,583 --> 00:41:00,333
We went through
a lot of [bleep],
1075
00:41:00,375 --> 00:41:02,750
and we finally put
everything behind us,
1076
00:41:02,875 --> 00:41:05,042
but, like, I just know deep
down that there's still,
1077
00:41:05,125 --> 00:41:06,500
like, a disconnect.
1078
00:41:06,583 --> 00:41:08,792
We need to start
figuring this out.
1079
00:41:08,875 --> 00:41:11,375
Are you nervous?
- I don't know.
1080
00:41:11,500 --> 00:41:13,750
I've never really done
therapy before, so...
1081
00:41:13,833 --> 00:41:15,333
Is this therapy?
- I would say it's therapy.
1082
00:41:15,375 --> 00:41:16,833
- Is it?
- Mm-hmm.
1083
00:41:16,875 --> 00:41:18,292
- Okay.
1084
00:41:18,375 --> 00:41:20,083
I wonder what, like,
her intentions are.
1085
00:41:20,083 --> 00:41:21,167
♪
1086
00:41:21,292 --> 00:41:22,625
- You should ask her.
1087
00:41:22,708 --> 00:41:24,500
- It's gonna be interesting.
1088
00:41:24,583 --> 00:41:28,000
[knock at door]
1089
00:41:28,042 --> 00:41:31,000
[groans]
1090
00:41:31,083 --> 00:41:32,375
[chuckles]
1091
00:41:32,500 --> 00:41:34,167
both: Hello.
- Oh, I love your top.
1092
00:41:34,208 --> 00:41:35,625
Hi!
- I love your pink.
1093
00:41:35,708 --> 00:41:37,250
Love it.
- Nice to see you.
1094
00:41:37,333 --> 00:41:38,667
- Nice to see you.
1095
00:41:38,750 --> 00:41:40,167
- Good to see you
again as well.
1096
00:41:40,292 --> 00:41:41,708
- You too.
- Thanks, love it.
1097
00:41:41,792 --> 00:41:43,792
- Welcome to our home.
- Thank you for having me.
1098
00:41:43,875 --> 00:41:45,375
- Would you like
something to drink?
1099
00:41:45,458 --> 00:41:46,875
- I'm all right.
Thank you for asking.
1100
00:41:47,042 --> 00:41:48,417
- Okay, yeah, of course.
1101
00:41:48,500 --> 00:41:49,875
- Pretty, pretty.
1102
00:41:49,958 --> 00:41:51,583
- Nice, right?
- It is nice.
1103
00:41:51,667 --> 00:41:53,042
- Got you that chair.
1104
00:41:53,125 --> 00:41:54,333
- Thank you.
1105
00:41:54,375 --> 00:41:55,583
All right, get comfy.
1106
00:41:55,708 --> 00:41:56,667
- Yeah.
- Settle in.
1107
00:41:56,750 --> 00:41:58,125
- Is that chair comfy?
- Yeah.
1108
00:41:58,208 --> 00:42:00,500
So how has it been?
1109
00:42:00,583 --> 00:42:03,958
- We had a little rocky,
like, back-to-reality week,
1110
00:42:04,042 --> 00:42:05,167
but then we--
1111
00:42:05,250 --> 00:42:06,542
I feel like we're
back on track.
1112
00:42:06,625 --> 00:42:08,083
- Yeah.
- Yeah?
1113
00:42:08,167 --> 00:42:11,000
So you feel like that rockiness
has subsided now?
1114
00:42:11,083 --> 00:42:14,292
- Yeah, but I still
feel like we're--
1115
00:42:14,417 --> 00:42:17,667
- Disconnect.
- Yeah, disconnect.
1116
00:42:17,708 --> 00:42:19,375
- Currently, there's
a disconnect?
1117
00:42:19,458 --> 00:42:20,833
- Yeah, he doesn't
feel like there's,
1118
00:42:20,917 --> 00:42:23,833
like, romance, chemistry.
- Mm.
1119
00:42:23,875 --> 00:42:27,583
- So we're trying to, like,
let time see...
1120
00:42:27,667 --> 00:42:30,667
- Yeah.
- If that can evolve.
1121
00:42:30,708 --> 00:42:33,250
But I think the only way
for us to figure this out
1122
00:42:33,333 --> 00:42:35,958
is to just be as
open as possible.
1123
00:42:36,042 --> 00:42:38,583
So, like, while it wasn't
what I wanted to hear...
1124
00:42:38,708 --> 00:42:40,708
- Sure.
- And obviously, like,
1125
00:42:40,792 --> 00:42:44,458
doesn't feel great, it's still
like progress to hear
1126
00:42:44,542 --> 00:42:46,042
any bit more than like,
we're fine,
1127
00:42:46,125 --> 00:42:47,833
or like, we're taking it slow.
- Mm-hmm.
1128
00:42:47,917 --> 00:42:50,667
- Like, just hearing any more,
like, words and emotion,
1129
00:42:50,750 --> 00:42:54,458
I think, is gonna be critical.
1130
00:42:54,542 --> 00:42:55,625
- Sure.
1131
00:42:55,708 --> 00:42:57,208
- I mean,
I know I've never had,
1132
00:42:57,292 --> 00:42:58,417
like, a serious relationship.
1133
00:42:58,500 --> 00:42:59,917
This is all new to me.
1134
00:43:00,000 --> 00:43:02,750
But I think, like--
he's getting so much better--
1135
00:43:02,875 --> 00:43:04,417
but, like, talking
about emotions
1136
00:43:04,500 --> 00:43:07,083
is just not his thing,
which is fine.
1137
00:43:07,167 --> 00:43:10,542
- Would you agree with her
that it's challenging at times
1138
00:43:10,542 --> 00:43:12,417
for you to verbalize
what you're feeling
1139
00:43:12,500 --> 00:43:14,500
or to verbalize what
you're thinking?
1140
00:43:14,625 --> 00:43:18,042
- Yeah, absolutely,
you know, definitely.
1141
00:43:18,125 --> 00:43:21,750
- But you are able to identify
that you're not feeling
1142
00:43:21,875 --> 00:43:24,750
the romantic chemistry.
- Correct.
1143
00:43:24,833 --> 00:43:29,083
- Can you put into words
why you're not feeling it?
1144
00:43:29,167 --> 00:43:32,750
Are there certain things that
are turning you off from it?
1145
00:43:32,833 --> 00:43:35,667
- Yeah, let's be mindful
of Emily here.
1146
00:43:35,750 --> 00:43:37,792
This is not easy.
1147
00:43:37,875 --> 00:43:40,417
- I am being mindful.
1148
00:43:40,500 --> 00:43:41,750
Help me understand.
1149
00:43:41,750 --> 00:43:43,292
Is there something
that just happened
1150
00:43:43,375 --> 00:43:45,167
that I did that made you feel
like I wasn't being mindful?
1151
00:43:45,292 --> 00:43:47,708
- Well, it's just--
you know, this is not easy
1152
00:43:47,833 --> 00:43:49,500
to talk about, and, like...
1153
00:43:49,583 --> 00:43:51,375
- Yeah.
- If I was in her shoes,
1154
00:43:51,458 --> 00:43:52,958
I know I would be
really uncomfortable
1155
00:43:53,042 --> 00:43:57,500
hearing my partner, like, talk
about physical intimacy,
1156
00:43:57,583 --> 00:43:59,458
especially through all this.
1157
00:43:59,542 --> 00:44:00,750
- Am I making you
feel uncomfortable?
1158
00:44:00,833 --> 00:44:02,167
- No, but--
- Okay.
1159
00:44:02,208 --> 00:44:04,000
- I feel like I got
over the uncomfortable,
1160
00:44:04,083 --> 00:44:05,333
which was, like, getting
this out in the open.
1161
00:44:05,417 --> 00:44:07,125
- Yeah.
1162
00:44:07,208 --> 00:44:08,875
- So now I'm just trying to
figure out how we move forward
1163
00:44:08,958 --> 00:44:10,833
and, like, fix it
if it's possible.
1164
00:44:10,917 --> 00:44:13,917
- Right, and, like, that's my
intention of being here today,
1165
00:44:14,042 --> 00:44:16,167
is to try to figure out,
what can we do?
1166
00:44:16,208 --> 00:44:18,875
And so for me, like, the way
that I work through that
1167
00:44:18,958 --> 00:44:21,167
is to figure out,
well, how did we get here?
1168
00:44:21,333 --> 00:44:23,000
What's going on?
1169
00:44:23,042 --> 00:44:25,625
Because that's gonna alter
what type of solutions
1170
00:44:25,708 --> 00:44:27,667
or tips or advice
that I'm giving to you.
1171
00:44:27,708 --> 00:44:29,333
- Yeah. Of course.
- Right?
1172
00:44:29,417 --> 00:44:32,375
And the only way in which to do
that is, to your point, Emily--
1173
00:44:32,458 --> 00:44:34,167
is to have a very frank
1174
00:44:34,250 --> 00:44:36,875
and honest conversation, right?
- Of course.
1175
00:44:37,042 --> 00:44:40,000
- So, when I just heard you say
that let's be mindful of her,
1176
00:44:40,042 --> 00:44:43,000
I'm wondering, Brennan,
if there might be some of you
1177
00:44:43,083 --> 00:44:46,333
that is holding back from
being fully honest with her
1178
00:44:46,375 --> 00:44:49,917
because there's a concern
of hurting her feelings.
1179
00:44:50,042 --> 00:44:52,708
- Yeah, I'm definitely mindful
of being respectful
1180
00:44:52,792 --> 00:44:54,833
and taking very much
into account her feelings,
1181
00:44:54,917 --> 00:44:58,000
and I'm not gonna say anything
that won't help anything
1182
00:44:58,083 --> 00:44:59,167
but do damage.
1183
00:44:59,208 --> 00:45:00,792
♪
1184
00:45:00,875 --> 00:45:03,667
- So I'm noticing your
body language
1185
00:45:03,750 --> 00:45:05,333
and your eye movements
as he's saying that.
1186
00:45:05,375 --> 00:45:06,667
- That's just her.
[chuckles]
1187
00:45:06,792 --> 00:45:08,583
- But there's
something behind that.
1188
00:45:08,667 --> 00:45:10,750
So when you're squinting your
eyes and looking like that,
1189
00:45:10,833 --> 00:45:12,375
what does that mean?
- Oh, no.
1190
00:45:12,458 --> 00:45:13,833
- Explain it--explain it--
- I'm talking to her, though.
1191
00:45:14,000 --> 00:45:15,292
- Yeah, I know.
- Let me talk to her.
1192
00:45:15,375 --> 00:45:17,167
- Yeah, I get you.
- Okay, so let me talk to her.
1193
00:45:17,250 --> 00:45:18,500
- So we--
1194
00:45:18,583 --> 00:45:19,833
- Brennan,
I'm talking to Emily.
1195
00:45:19,875 --> 00:45:21,208
- Yeah.
- Thank you.
1196
00:45:21,292 --> 00:45:23,250
- I'm just helping--
this is a lot, right?
1197
00:45:23,250 --> 00:45:25,083
So I'm just gonna help her
take a step back and get her--
1198
00:45:25,167 --> 00:45:26,625
- She doesn't need
your help, though.
1199
00:45:26,708 --> 00:45:28,542
- This is my wife, so I'm just
gonna make sure she's okay.
1200
00:45:28,625 --> 00:45:30,167
So...
1201
00:45:30,292 --> 00:45:33,167
- That's my job, is to
ask her if she's okay.
1202
00:45:33,250 --> 00:45:34,208
♪
1203
00:45:38,250 --> 00:45:39,708
[dramatic music]
1204
00:45:39,708 --> 00:45:41,333
♪
1205
00:45:41,417 --> 00:45:42,958
- Yeah, I am fine.
1206
00:45:43,042 --> 00:45:44,708
I think I will be fine.
1207
00:45:44,792 --> 00:45:46,333
- When you made the kind
of, like, eye squint,
1208
00:45:46,375 --> 00:45:48,417
and we're looking like that,
what was that for you?
1209
00:45:48,542 --> 00:45:49,917
- Um...
1210
00:45:50,000 --> 00:45:51,625
- When you do that,
what does it mean?
1211
00:45:51,708 --> 00:45:52,750
- I think it's a thinking face.
Am I wrong?
1212
00:45:52,833 --> 00:45:54,167
- A what?
- A thinking face.
1213
00:45:54,292 --> 00:45:55,708
- Thinking/frustration.
1214
00:45:55,833 --> 00:45:57,500
- Thank you.
both: Yeah.
1215
00:45:57,625 --> 00:45:59,667
♪
1216
00:45:59,708 --> 00:46:01,542
- It's a hard balance.
Like, I know he cares.
1217
00:46:01,625 --> 00:46:03,417
I know he doesn't
want to disrespect me,
1218
00:46:03,500 --> 00:46:05,833
but I...
- Mm-hmm.
1219
00:46:05,917 --> 00:46:08,458
- Will feel
maybe more resentment
1220
00:46:08,542 --> 00:46:10,833
and feel like we're not
gonna be able to go anywhere
1221
00:46:10,875 --> 00:46:12,458
unless I hear everything.
1222
00:46:12,542 --> 00:46:14,333
- Yeah.
1223
00:46:14,375 --> 00:46:18,125
What I'm trying to figure
out is, what is the barrier,
1224
00:46:18,208 --> 00:46:20,583
and how do we move
forward with that?
1225
00:46:20,708 --> 00:46:22,000
♪
1226
00:46:22,083 --> 00:46:24,708
To do that is,
to your point, Emily,
1227
00:46:24,792 --> 00:46:27,750
is to have
a very frank, direct,
1228
00:46:27,750 --> 00:46:29,958
and honest conversation.
1229
00:46:30,042 --> 00:46:33,000
I can respect
that this is a lot,
1230
00:46:33,125 --> 00:46:35,792
and so I can totally empathize
1231
00:46:35,875 --> 00:46:38,042
with how that might feel
like pressure.
1232
00:46:38,125 --> 00:46:39,958
So we've got to figure out what
we're gonna do differently.
1233
00:46:40,042 --> 00:46:41,333
In order to figure out
what to do differently,
1234
00:46:41,417 --> 00:46:43,208
I got to know, what
have we been doing?
1235
00:46:43,292 --> 00:46:44,583
- Yeah. Yeah.
- Make sense?
1236
00:46:44,667 --> 00:46:46,083
- Mm-hmm.
- Okay.
1237
00:46:46,208 --> 00:46:49,083
So can you put into words,
1238
00:46:49,208 --> 00:46:51,042
in a way that you feel
comfortable with,
1239
00:46:51,167 --> 00:46:55,833
what is holding back for you
the physical attraction?
1240
00:46:55,958 --> 00:46:58,000
- Like, it's just a feeling
that I don't have,
1241
00:46:58,042 --> 00:46:59,750
so I don't act on it.
1242
00:46:59,875 --> 00:47:01,167
- Okay.
1243
00:47:01,250 --> 00:47:03,125
So what is the feeling
that you have?
1244
00:47:03,208 --> 00:47:05,375
You said you don't
have the feeling.
1245
00:47:05,458 --> 00:47:07,625
- Um...
1246
00:47:07,708 --> 00:47:09,375
[sighs]
1247
00:47:09,458 --> 00:47:10,500
♪
1248
00:47:10,542 --> 00:47:11,625
I don't know.
1249
00:47:11,708 --> 00:47:13,833
♪
1250
00:47:13,875 --> 00:47:17,333
Like, just not there.
1251
00:47:17,417 --> 00:47:19,125
- What's not there?
1252
00:47:19,208 --> 00:47:20,667
- That feeling
to want to be intimate.
1253
00:47:20,750 --> 00:47:22,458
- Okay.
1254
00:47:22,542 --> 00:47:25,667
Is this something that you've
experienced before, Brennan?
1255
00:47:25,750 --> 00:47:27,292
- No, it's not.
1256
00:47:27,292 --> 00:47:28,833
- 'Cause I can tell
that there's a lot
1257
00:47:28,958 --> 00:47:30,667
of care that you have
for her, right?
1258
00:47:30,750 --> 00:47:32,625
Like, even when you were like,
1259
00:47:32,708 --> 00:47:35,167
whoa, whoa, stop there,
Dr. Pia, like, this is my wife.
1260
00:47:35,250 --> 00:47:37,458
I'm trying to protect her.
I'm all of that.
1261
00:47:37,542 --> 00:47:39,042
So that feeling is there.
1262
00:47:39,125 --> 00:47:41,500
- Yeah.
1263
00:47:41,542 --> 00:47:44,042
- Is there an emotion
attached to that thought?
1264
00:47:44,125 --> 00:47:47,792
♪
1265
00:47:47,875 --> 00:47:51,333
- Um...
[sighs]
1266
00:47:51,375 --> 00:47:52,750
Maybe.
1267
00:47:52,833 --> 00:47:54,292
I don't know.
- Okay.
1268
00:47:54,375 --> 00:47:57,042
- Like, maybe.
1269
00:47:57,125 --> 00:47:58,750
- What might it be?
1270
00:47:58,875 --> 00:48:01,333
- The emotion?
- Yes.
1271
00:48:01,375 --> 00:48:05,083
- I don't know, like,
what emotion that is.
1272
00:48:05,167 --> 00:48:06,958
- Yeah, that's what I'm asking.
1273
00:48:07,042 --> 00:48:08,292
- Yeah, I don't know
what emotion that is.
1274
00:48:08,375 --> 00:48:10,042
- Okay.
- I just--that's just how I am
1275
00:48:10,125 --> 00:48:12,000
when I care about people.
- Mm-hmm.
1276
00:48:12,083 --> 00:48:14,250
Okay, so there's
care that you have.
1277
00:48:14,333 --> 00:48:17,292
I think I might label
what I saw happen
1278
00:48:17,375 --> 00:48:19,875
is, like, protective of her.
- Yeah.
1279
00:48:20,000 --> 00:48:22,958
- Yeah, is that how you feel?
- Yeah, definitely.
1280
00:48:23,042 --> 00:48:24,542
- Yeah, okay.
1281
00:48:24,625 --> 00:48:27,125
So next thing is,
1282
00:48:27,208 --> 00:48:30,708
I want to ask y'all both about
your thoughts about therapy.
1283
00:48:30,708 --> 00:48:33,042
♪
1284
00:48:33,125 --> 00:48:35,417
- I go back and forth
on my thoughts.
1285
00:48:35,542 --> 00:48:38,375
I haven't had any, like,
bad personal experiences.
1286
00:48:38,458 --> 00:48:41,792
I think, like, the critical
part is wanting to do it.
1287
00:48:41,875 --> 00:48:43,917
- Sure. Right.
What about for you, Brennan?
1288
00:48:44,042 --> 00:48:45,917
- Have I, or what are
my thoughts on it?
1289
00:48:46,042 --> 00:48:47,875
- Both.
- I have not been in therapy.
1290
00:48:47,958 --> 00:48:49,375
Do I believe in it?
1291
00:48:49,458 --> 00:48:51,750
Yeah, I believe
it helps a lot of people
1292
00:48:51,833 --> 00:48:54,042
and could be
a really good resource.
1293
00:48:54,125 --> 00:48:56,667
- Yeah, so I'm gonna make
a suggestion for you
1294
00:48:56,833 --> 00:48:58,875
to enter individual therapy,
Brennan--
1295
00:48:59,000 --> 00:49:00,667
like, outside of this process--
1296
00:49:00,708 --> 00:49:04,833
with the goal of helping
to identify your emotions,
1297
00:49:04,917 --> 00:49:06,667
because I think
that that is going
1298
00:49:06,708 --> 00:49:10,125
to continue to be a barrier
for the relationship.
1299
00:49:10,208 --> 00:49:12,042
- I don't think so.
1300
00:49:12,125 --> 00:49:13,625
Like, I do a lot
of self-reflection.
1301
00:49:13,708 --> 00:49:16,292
I have a, you know, really
amazing support system.
1302
00:49:16,375 --> 00:49:19,333
And, um...
1303
00:49:19,417 --> 00:49:22,500
I don't--right now I'm not
talking about my emotions
1304
00:49:22,542 --> 00:49:24,125
because I don't have any,
1305
00:49:24,208 --> 00:49:27,542
so it's really hard to explain
them if they're not there.
1306
00:49:27,625 --> 00:49:29,875
♪
1307
00:49:29,958 --> 00:49:32,458
- Mm-hmm.
1308
00:49:32,542 --> 00:49:35,667
So that right there, I think,
is an example of why therapy
1309
00:49:35,708 --> 00:49:37,208
would be helpful for you.
- Okay.
1310
00:49:37,292 --> 00:49:38,667
- Because everyone has
emotions all the time.
1311
00:49:38,708 --> 00:49:39,917
- Yeah, right, right,
but I'm associating it
1312
00:49:40,042 --> 00:49:41,417
with feelings, right?
1313
00:49:41,500 --> 00:49:43,167
- Feelings and emotions,
yeah, same thing.
1314
00:49:43,292 --> 00:49:45,208
- Right, so if I don't have
feelings, right, about--
1315
00:49:45,333 --> 00:49:46,875
- You don't know what they are.
1316
00:49:46,958 --> 00:49:48,167
- Okay.
[both chuckle]
1317
00:49:48,208 --> 00:49:50,208
- Okay, so...
- Okay.
1318
00:49:50,292 --> 00:49:52,250
- That's what I'm suggesting.
1319
00:49:52,375 --> 00:49:54,958
♪
1320
00:49:58,708 --> 00:50:00,167
- ♪ Oh, oh
1321
00:50:00,250 --> 00:50:02,583
- Hello.
- Hello.
1322
00:50:02,708 --> 00:50:04,208
- Hi.
- Hi.
1323
00:50:04,333 --> 00:50:06,417
- Look at y'all holding hands,
just casually strolling in.
1324
00:50:06,542 --> 00:50:08,208
- Hi, nice to see you!
1325
00:50:08,292 --> 00:50:09,917
- Good to see you, too.
- Yeah, glad you made it.
1326
00:50:10,042 --> 00:50:11,625
- Good to see you again.
- Of course.
1327
00:50:11,708 --> 00:50:13,083
- Good.
1328
00:50:13,167 --> 00:50:15,333
Have a seat.
Get comfy on the--
1329
00:50:15,417 --> 00:50:16,833
Is this a teal couch,
green couch?
1330
00:50:16,875 --> 00:50:18,208
- A futon.
- Yeah.
1331
00:50:18,292 --> 00:50:20,375
- So I'm just, like,
enamored by how,
1332
00:50:20,500 --> 00:50:22,375
like, genuine
the connection looks,
1333
00:50:22,458 --> 00:50:24,167
like, even in this moment.
- Yeah.
1334
00:50:24,250 --> 00:50:26,875
- Yeah, how you're looking
at each other, the smiling,
1335
00:50:27,000 --> 00:50:28,292
the laughing, the touching.
- Yeah.
1336
00:50:28,375 --> 00:50:30,000
- [chuckles]
1337
00:50:30,042 --> 00:50:31,875
- Yeah, how is the intimacy
in the relationship?
1338
00:50:31,958 --> 00:50:34,292
♪
1339
00:50:34,375 --> 00:50:36,125
- I mean, what do you think?
1340
00:50:36,208 --> 00:50:38,167
[chuckles]
- I like making out with him.
1341
00:50:38,292 --> 00:50:40,167
- [chuckles]
- That sounds good.
1342
00:50:40,292 --> 00:50:42,125
- He moves at a slower pace
than I do,
1343
00:50:42,208 --> 00:50:44,042
so it's been, like,
an adjustment for me.
1344
00:50:44,208 --> 00:50:46,708
But, like, I'm just
being respectful.
1345
00:50:46,792 --> 00:50:48,583
- So, when you say
"a slower pace,"
1346
00:50:48,667 --> 00:50:50,667
can you tell me a little bit
more what you mean by that?
1347
00:50:50,750 --> 00:50:52,625
- I just like to have
an emotional connection
1348
00:50:52,708 --> 00:50:55,375
with someone before...
1349
00:50:55,458 --> 00:50:57,500
like, jumping in bed with them.
1350
00:50:57,583 --> 00:50:59,917
I want it more special
than just, like, banging.
1351
00:51:00,000 --> 00:51:01,292
- Got ya.
1352
00:51:01,375 --> 00:51:03,333
Is there something
that you think
1353
00:51:03,458 --> 00:51:05,167
would make it feel
like banging now?
1354
00:51:05,250 --> 00:51:07,500
'Cause what I'm seeing
is not, like, banging energy.
1355
00:51:07,583 --> 00:51:09,083
- Yeah.
1356
00:51:09,167 --> 00:51:10,792
- I'm seeing, like,
true, genuine connection.
1357
00:51:10,875 --> 00:51:12,167
♪
1358
00:51:12,250 --> 00:51:13,875
- Yeah, I mean, I don't know.
1359
00:51:13,958 --> 00:51:16,292
It's still..
1360
00:51:16,375 --> 00:51:19,292
just need a little more time...
1361
00:51:19,375 --> 00:51:21,500
- Mm-hmm.
- To process and figure it out.
1362
00:51:21,583 --> 00:51:24,167
♪
1363
00:51:24,250 --> 00:51:26,917
- Is that something
that you can understand?
1364
00:51:27,000 --> 00:51:28,875
- I think I can empathize
with it.
1365
00:51:29,000 --> 00:51:32,833
Like, that's not how I see it,
but it's not as easy as, like,
1366
00:51:32,917 --> 00:51:34,583
just what I need
or just what he needs.
1367
00:51:34,708 --> 00:51:37,333
It's, like, two people's
needs coming together, so...
1368
00:51:37,417 --> 00:51:40,333
- Yeah. Have you expressed
some of what your needs are?
1369
00:51:40,375 --> 00:51:42,833
- I think so.
- Yeah.
1370
00:51:42,917 --> 00:51:44,000
- Yeah.
- Yeah?
1371
00:51:44,083 --> 00:51:45,750
- Yeah.
- Can you let me know?
1372
00:51:45,833 --> 00:51:47,333
- [laughs]
1373
00:51:47,417 --> 00:51:50,333
- I am attracted to him,
and I feel connected to him.
1374
00:51:50,417 --> 00:51:54,000
So, like, if it were up to me,
I would move further.
1375
00:51:54,083 --> 00:51:55,708
[laughs]
- Yeah.
1376
00:51:55,792 --> 00:51:58,958
What's it like to know that
she's into you in that way?
1377
00:51:59,042 --> 00:52:00,375
- I mean, it's great.
1378
00:52:00,458 --> 00:52:02,250
Like, I'm also into her
in that way.
1379
00:52:02,375 --> 00:52:06,542
Just, like, I do move slow,
and it, like, has...
1380
00:52:06,542 --> 00:52:08,833
bothered girlfriends
in the past.
1381
00:52:08,917 --> 00:52:10,333
- Okay.
1382
00:52:10,417 --> 00:52:12,583
So, Austin, when we're talking
about sex--
1383
00:52:12,667 --> 00:52:14,542
like, I'm assuming
that you're meaning,
1384
00:52:14,667 --> 00:52:16,583
like, actually intercourse.
- Yeah.
1385
00:52:16,708 --> 00:52:18,792
- Is it okay
to do other things?
1386
00:52:18,875 --> 00:52:20,542
- Yeah.
- Yeah?
1387
00:52:20,625 --> 00:52:23,375
- I mean, we haven't yet,
but it's okay to.
1388
00:52:23,458 --> 00:52:25,500
- I think she just perked up
a little bit.
1389
00:52:25,542 --> 00:52:26,917
♪
1390
00:52:27,000 --> 00:52:28,292
- It's news to me.
1391
00:52:28,375 --> 00:52:30,208
- Okay, well,
how are you receiving?
1392
00:52:30,333 --> 00:52:32,083
- I'm okay with that.
[laughs] I just--
1393
00:52:32,083 --> 00:52:33,833
We haven't gotten there yet.
- Yeah.
1394
00:52:33,917 --> 00:52:35,333
- What might that look like?
1395
00:52:35,458 --> 00:52:37,500
Can we talk about, like,
what would be safe to try?
1396
00:52:37,583 --> 00:52:40,000
- I mean,
we haven't really, like,
1397
00:52:40,083 --> 00:52:43,625
discussed thoroughly,
really, but, like...
1398
00:52:43,708 --> 00:52:45,125
♪
1399
00:52:45,208 --> 00:52:49,625
I feel like that will happen
more in the moment.
1400
00:52:49,708 --> 00:52:51,292
- Okay.
1401
00:52:51,375 --> 00:52:53,542
I think that it's important
to talk about sex,
1402
00:52:53,542 --> 00:52:55,708
and I know that sometimes
it can be awkward to do so.
1403
00:52:55,792 --> 00:52:59,458
Talking about it can truly be
a form of foreplay as well.
1404
00:52:59,542 --> 00:53:01,125
- I don't think we need to turn
her on anymore here.
1405
00:53:01,208 --> 00:53:02,625
- Oh, got ya, okay.
1406
00:53:02,708 --> 00:53:04,375
Are we a light switch
over here, Becca?
1407
00:53:04,500 --> 00:53:06,375
- I don't know.
I am who I am.
1408
00:53:06,458 --> 00:53:08,042
- [laughs]
- Okay. No, girl, own that.
1409
00:53:08,167 --> 00:53:09,792
- [laughs]
- She does own it.
1410
00:53:09,875 --> 00:53:11,125
She owns it.
- Yeah.
1411
00:53:11,208 --> 00:53:12,583
- I just tell her,
like, be yourself.
1412
00:53:12,667 --> 00:53:15,208
Like, you don't have
to worry about me.
1413
00:53:15,292 --> 00:53:17,833
Like, I will tell you
if anything is an issue.
1414
00:53:17,917 --> 00:53:20,000
- Think of it as, like,
getting to know each other,
1415
00:53:20,083 --> 00:53:21,667
which the two of you
are doing that.
1416
00:53:21,792 --> 00:53:23,500
And that's why I want to give
you that homework
1417
00:53:23,542 --> 00:53:25,750
to get to know each other
sexually as well in terms
1418
00:53:25,833 --> 00:53:29,500
of the turn-ons, turnoffs,
boundaries, hard limits,
1419
00:53:29,542 --> 00:53:31,333
if there's anything
that makes either of you
1420
00:53:31,375 --> 00:53:33,167
feel uncomfortable...
- Mm-hmm.
1421
00:53:33,250 --> 00:53:35,333
- If there's anything that
would be really important
1422
00:53:35,417 --> 00:53:38,208
for either of you to know
about your sexual histories.
1423
00:53:38,292 --> 00:53:40,875
As much as you can verbalize it
to one another,
1424
00:53:40,958 --> 00:53:43,083
I think that's gonna be
what's really important.
1425
00:53:43,208 --> 00:53:44,500
- Yeah.
- Yeah, agreed.
1426
00:53:44,542 --> 00:53:47,333
- Yeah, that's good advice.
- Yeah, okay.
1427
00:53:47,417 --> 00:53:49,167
- Yeah, it's--
yeah, nothing wrong with it.
1428
00:53:49,292 --> 00:53:51,167
I'm totally fine with it.
1429
00:53:51,208 --> 00:53:53,083
I love it.
- [chuckles]
1430
00:53:53,083 --> 00:53:55,250
- ♪ Closer to the dream
1431
00:53:55,333 --> 00:53:58,333
♪ Closer to the dream
1432
00:54:00,208 --> 00:54:02,958
- ♪ Nobody can
1433
00:54:03,042 --> 00:54:05,833
♪ Nobody can
1434
00:54:05,875 --> 00:54:08,333
♪ Tell me I can't
1435
00:54:08,375 --> 00:54:11,250
♪ Tell me I can't, no
1436
00:54:11,333 --> 00:54:14,500
- [sighs]
1437
00:54:14,542 --> 00:54:17,250
You know, going
from the conversations
1438
00:54:17,375 --> 00:54:19,417
that we've had...
- Mm-hmm.
1439
00:54:19,500 --> 00:54:20,958
- I need to know.
1440
00:54:21,042 --> 00:54:23,333
Do you want me to stay?
1441
00:54:23,417 --> 00:54:25,167
- I don't know
what to do, like,
1442
00:54:25,250 --> 00:54:26,583
'cause you want to leave,
right?
1443
00:54:26,708 --> 00:54:29,083
- I'm asking about you.
- Mm-hmm.
1444
00:54:29,167 --> 00:54:30,833
It would make me sad.
1445
00:54:30,917 --> 00:54:32,917
♪
1446
00:54:33,000 --> 00:54:34,833
I will miss you.
I would be sad.
1447
00:54:34,917 --> 00:54:38,375
And I'm not sure
if that's a place of, like...
1448
00:54:38,458 --> 00:54:41,833
of just the physical, like,
body that I just--
1449
00:54:41,875 --> 00:54:43,458
we've had for three weeks,
1450
00:54:43,542 --> 00:54:45,708
and then all of a sudden, it's
like, okay, I'm by myself.
1451
00:54:45,708 --> 00:54:47,125
'Cause there is
that attachment,
1452
00:54:47,208 --> 00:54:48,708
but back
to what we talked about,
1453
00:54:48,792 --> 00:54:52,000
is that attachment
even the right attachment?
1454
00:54:52,083 --> 00:54:54,375
♪
1455
00:54:54,458 --> 00:54:56,292
Like, are we just
attached to being--
1456
00:54:56,375 --> 00:54:58,250
- That's for you to decide.
- I know.
1457
00:54:58,333 --> 00:55:01,208
- I've decided for me
that it's unhealthy...
1458
00:55:01,292 --> 00:55:03,500
'cause I want to love you,
1459
00:55:03,583 --> 00:55:06,500
but I don't want us
to hurt each other.
1460
00:55:06,542 --> 00:55:08,333
♪
1461
00:55:08,458 --> 00:55:10,208
- I don't know what
to tell you from here.
1462
00:55:10,208 --> 00:55:11,833
I don't.
1463
00:55:11,917 --> 00:55:13,500
I don't know what to do,
'cause I don't want you to feel
1464
00:55:13,583 --> 00:55:14,667
like I'm pressuring you to stay
1465
00:55:14,750 --> 00:55:16,625
in a situation
that's not healthy.
1466
00:55:16,708 --> 00:55:18,792
- Do you see a future with me?
Do you see a future with me?
1467
00:55:18,875 --> 00:55:20,667
- Cutting me off really
does piss me off.
1468
00:55:20,750 --> 00:55:22,667
I'm sorry.
- Is there an answer?
1469
00:55:22,708 --> 00:55:28,792
♪
1470
00:55:28,875 --> 00:55:30,333
- I don't know.
1471
00:55:30,417 --> 00:55:31,833
I don't know.
1472
00:55:31,958 --> 00:55:36,333
♪
1473
00:55:36,458 --> 00:55:38,625
She told us not to talk
about the future
1474
00:55:38,708 --> 00:55:40,458
and be
so future-focused, right?
1475
00:55:40,542 --> 00:55:42,500
I am trying to stay
present in this moment.
1476
00:55:42,583 --> 00:55:43,917
- Okay.
1477
00:55:44,042 --> 00:55:45,667
- 'Cause you keep
jumping into the future of...
1478
00:55:45,750 --> 00:55:49,292
- Okay, how about tonight...
1479
00:55:49,375 --> 00:55:52,417
I sleep in the spare bed
1480
00:55:52,500 --> 00:55:56,042
and we see if that
seems like something
1481
00:55:56,167 --> 00:55:58,667
that we can maintain?
1482
00:55:58,750 --> 00:56:01,333
- Mm-hmm, okay.
1483
00:56:01,375 --> 00:56:03,208
Yeah, I mean,
I think that works.
1484
00:56:03,292 --> 00:56:04,833
- Okay.
1485
00:56:04,917 --> 00:56:06,833
- I just don't want you
to be resentful towards me
1486
00:56:06,875 --> 00:56:07,833
about anything.
1487
00:56:07,875 --> 00:56:10,083
♪
1488
00:56:10,167 --> 00:56:12,083
Ooh.
1489
00:56:12,167 --> 00:56:14,083
- I mean, I'm not yet.
1490
00:56:14,208 --> 00:56:15,292
♪
1491
00:56:15,375 --> 00:56:16,792
- Okay.
1492
00:56:16,875 --> 00:56:17,583
♪
1493
00:56:21,375 --> 00:56:22,417
- ♪ I set out
1494
00:56:22,792 --> 00:56:26,083
♪ On a mission
just to find where you are ♪
1495
00:56:26,167 --> 00:56:28,833
- What'd you think?
1496
00:56:28,917 --> 00:56:31,667
- Those conversations are
moving in the right direction,
1497
00:56:31,833 --> 00:56:36,000
and I think next week
will be a good opportunity
1498
00:56:36,083 --> 00:56:39,583
for us to, like, work
through some of this stuff.
1499
00:56:39,667 --> 00:56:42,292
- Yeah.
- What about you?
1500
00:56:42,375 --> 00:56:43,958
- She kept harping
on emotions,
1501
00:56:44,042 --> 00:56:46,417
and I'm trying to understand,
like, where that's coming from,
1502
00:56:46,500 --> 00:56:48,833
because I feel like I'm being
open and honest
1503
00:56:48,958 --> 00:56:53,125
about how I feel,
and I can't help how I feel.
1504
00:56:53,208 --> 00:56:55,458
- So I think a little bit was
just, like, trying to--
1505
00:56:55,542 --> 00:56:58,667
her just to better understand
the situation in you.
1506
00:56:58,750 --> 00:57:01,167
- Yeah, but she says I need
therapy because of that.
1507
00:57:01,250 --> 00:57:03,292
- I think you have feelings.
1508
00:57:03,375 --> 00:57:05,708
You just don't know
what those feelings are.
1509
00:57:05,833 --> 00:57:07,750
- Yeah, I'm not saying
I don't have feelings.
1510
00:57:07,833 --> 00:57:09,500
- No, I know--
1511
00:57:09,583 --> 00:57:11,875
- But she asked me to disclose
my feelings for you.
1512
00:57:11,958 --> 00:57:13,917
♪
1513
00:57:14,000 --> 00:57:17,000
And if there are no feelings
there yet--
1514
00:57:17,042 --> 00:57:19,667
and I'm not trying to sound
rude or hurtful,
1515
00:57:19,792 --> 00:57:22,125
but, like, you want me
to be honest--
1516
00:57:22,208 --> 00:57:24,042
if that's where we're at,
1517
00:57:24,125 --> 00:57:26,708
I don't know why I need therapy
1518
00:57:26,792 --> 00:57:29,667
to explain
why that's not there yet.
1519
00:57:29,708 --> 00:57:32,750
♪
1520
00:57:32,833 --> 00:57:34,417
- I think you're sharing
your feelings
1521
00:57:34,500 --> 00:57:36,167
as much as you
can share your feelings.
1522
00:57:36,250 --> 00:57:39,667
That is the point.
- Okay.
1523
00:57:39,750 --> 00:57:42,833
- And I think you have
more feelings and--
1524
00:57:42,917 --> 00:57:44,292
- For you?
1525
00:57:44,375 --> 00:57:45,750
- No, just in general.
[pan clatters]
1526
00:57:45,875 --> 00:57:47,833
- Okay, do you see
why I'm getting frustrated?
1527
00:57:47,958 --> 00:57:49,417
♪
1528
00:57:49,500 --> 00:57:51,000
What are you talking about?
1529
00:57:51,083 --> 00:57:54,250
What am I not expressing
to you about how I feel?
1530
00:57:54,250 --> 00:57:56,500
- I just don't know why this
is getting heated right now.
1531
00:57:56,542 --> 00:57:58,833
- Let's not put this on me.
- It's not you.
1532
00:57:58,917 --> 00:58:00,750
- Because you haven't brought
up any serious topics.
1533
00:58:00,833 --> 00:58:02,667
You haven't brought up
anything you want to discuss.
1534
00:58:02,750 --> 00:58:04,167
- Look, I know it's
a two-way street, duh.
1535
00:58:04,250 --> 00:58:06,083
♪
1536
00:58:06,167 --> 00:58:08,083
- Mm-hmm.
1537
00:58:08,167 --> 00:58:10,667
- I feel like if anyone should
be negative and, like, upset...
1538
00:58:10,708 --> 00:58:12,500
- I'm not--I don't--
- It should be me.
1539
00:58:12,583 --> 00:58:13,833
- [sighing] Oh, my God.
- Right?
1540
00:58:13,958 --> 00:58:15,792
♪
1541
00:58:15,875 --> 00:58:19,583
I don't understand why it
just got so serious so fast.
1542
00:58:22,000 --> 00:58:23,458
So...
1543
00:58:23,542 --> 00:58:25,208
- Well, it wasn't
my intention, so...
1544
00:58:25,292 --> 00:58:26,917
♪
1545
00:58:27,042 --> 00:58:28,458
- I...
1546
00:58:28,542 --> 00:58:30,750
Brain was really going.
I left that feeling good.
1547
00:58:30,875 --> 00:58:32,875
- Yeah, I guess there
was just a disconnect there,
1548
00:58:32,958 --> 00:58:34,917
'cause I did not leave that
feeling good.
1549
00:58:35,042 --> 00:58:36,958
- But, like, why not?
1550
00:58:37,042 --> 00:58:39,542
- Because it's not
a very good feeling
1551
00:58:39,625 --> 00:58:42,083
when someone tells you
you should go to therapy.
1552
00:58:42,167 --> 00:58:44,833
- While I understand that
that was a hard recommendation
1553
00:58:44,917 --> 00:58:47,500
for you, I actually think
it's a very important piece
1554
00:58:47,583 --> 00:58:48,750
to the problem.
1555
00:58:48,833 --> 00:58:50,667
- I understand how you feel.
1556
00:58:50,708 --> 00:58:54,000
You think that I need therapy,
but it's never going to happen.
1557
00:58:54,042 --> 00:59:00,250
♪
1558
00:59:00,333 --> 00:59:03,292
[upbeat music]
1559
00:59:03,375 --> 00:59:04,542
♪
1560
00:59:04,625 --> 00:59:06,750
- Comfy, cozy couch.
1561
00:59:06,875 --> 00:59:09,750
Whoo!
- So that was good.
1562
00:59:09,875 --> 00:59:11,542
- Mm-hmm.
1563
00:59:11,625 --> 00:59:14,000
- Were you surprised to hear
that I was open
1564
00:59:14,083 --> 00:59:18,417
to more than just, like,
making out?
1565
00:59:18,500 --> 00:59:22,333
- I mean, I think I'm surprised
1566
00:59:22,417 --> 00:59:24,792
that you haven't, like...
[clicks tongue]
1567
00:59:24,875 --> 00:59:28,000
Giddy'd up, because I think
you've known that I'm ready.
1568
00:59:28,083 --> 00:59:29,750
So, yeah, I was
a little surprised.
1569
00:59:29,833 --> 00:59:31,500
- Okay.
[chuckles]
1570
00:59:31,583 --> 00:59:34,333
- You haven't
grabbed your lasso and...
1571
00:59:34,417 --> 00:59:35,500
- [laughs]
- [clicking tongue]
1572
00:59:35,583 --> 00:59:37,083
Reeled me in, yeah.
1573
00:59:37,167 --> 00:59:39,542
- You know, it's this,
you know, back and forth--
1574
00:59:39,625 --> 00:59:40,792
- Are you cool to try
it a different way?
1575
00:59:40,875 --> 00:59:42,208
- Yeah, of course.
- Cool.
1576
00:59:42,333 --> 00:59:43,792
- Yeah.
- Bedtime?
1577
00:59:43,875 --> 00:59:46,458
- Yeah, should we just,
like, curl up in here?
1578
00:59:46,542 --> 00:59:48,917
No. Okay.
- Let's kiss.
1579
00:59:49,042 --> 00:59:52,167
Let's get the ab workout
to kiss and then separate.
1580
00:59:52,250 --> 00:59:55,292
♪
1581
00:59:55,375 --> 00:59:57,667
- Give me that again.
[laughter]
1582
00:59:57,750 --> 00:59:59,667
- ♪ Put your body on me
1583
00:59:59,708 --> 01:00:02,750
- ♪ Give it to me right now
- ♪ Right now
1584
01:00:02,875 --> 01:00:04,417
♪
1585
01:00:04,500 --> 01:00:07,167
- Still to come this season
on "Married at First Sight"...
1586
01:00:07,292 --> 01:00:09,167
- ♪ Those pretty eyes...
1587
01:00:09,250 --> 01:00:11,125
- Whoa.
1588
01:00:11,208 --> 01:00:12,875
- Whoo-hoo.
1589
01:00:12,958 --> 01:00:15,958
- ♪ Yeah, you make me
feel alive ♪
1590
01:00:15,958 --> 01:00:18,000
- She is really great
with children,
1591
01:00:18,083 --> 01:00:20,875
and seeing that is
very important to me.
1592
01:00:21,000 --> 01:00:25,042
- ♪ Every time
we get sweeter ♪
1593
01:00:25,125 --> 01:00:26,625
- Can we, like, agree to, like,
try to hug more?
1594
01:00:26,708 --> 01:00:28,083
- Yes. I love hugging.
1595
01:00:28,167 --> 01:00:30,458
- ♪ Every time
we get stronger ♪
1596
01:00:30,542 --> 01:00:32,625
- [laughs]
1597
01:00:32,625 --> 01:00:33,833
- All right, Cameron,
come on down.
1598
01:00:33,875 --> 01:00:35,333
- That was impressive.
1599
01:00:35,458 --> 01:00:36,458
- Austin the other night
1600
01:00:36,542 --> 01:00:37,833
accidentally
told me he loved me.
1601
01:00:37,917 --> 01:00:39,375
[laughs]
1602
01:00:39,458 --> 01:00:41,250
- ♪ Every time
we get sweeter ♪
1603
01:00:41,375 --> 01:00:45,542
- I would really like to build
a bridge back to you
1604
01:00:45,625 --> 01:00:48,208
because I am missing
our connection.
1605
01:00:48,292 --> 01:00:50,000
♪
1606
01:00:50,042 --> 01:00:53,333
- Are you willing to get
married at first sight again?
1607
01:00:53,417 --> 01:00:55,000
♪
1608
01:00:55,000 --> 01:00:57,208
- Michael, you said
it was the biggest failure
1609
01:00:57,333 --> 01:00:58,958
of your personal life.
1610
01:00:59,042 --> 01:01:01,833
I just--I never want him
to feel that way again.
1611
01:01:01,917 --> 01:01:03,125
♪
1612
01:01:03,208 --> 01:01:04,958
- This continual toying
1613
01:01:05,042 --> 01:01:07,667
with my feelings and emotions,
frankly...
1614
01:01:07,708 --> 01:01:09,833
- Yeah.
- Is unsustainable for me.
1615
01:01:09,917 --> 01:01:12,500
- I'm getting
just very frustrated.
1616
01:01:12,542 --> 01:01:14,875
- He's giving you nothing.
- And I'm just--
1617
01:01:14,958 --> 01:01:16,833
- You don't deserve
this [bleep].
1618
01:01:16,958 --> 01:01:18,500
- And, like, after
what you said,
1619
01:01:18,583 --> 01:01:22,042
it makes me kind of feel
like you want me to just not...
1620
01:01:22,125 --> 01:01:23,625
think for myself all the time.
1621
01:01:23,708 --> 01:01:27,375
- I'm starting to whether
Austin is
1622
01:01:27,500 --> 01:01:30,333
really on the same train as me.
1623
01:01:30,417 --> 01:01:32,333
♪
1624
01:01:32,375 --> 01:01:36,083
- One of my deal breakers was
a positive, positive person.
1625
01:01:36,208 --> 01:01:38,917
- I'm the most positive
[bleep] person there is.
1626
01:01:38,917 --> 01:01:40,875
- This is not what
I was expecting.
1627
01:01:40,875 --> 01:01:42,417
- I can't meet him
where he's at.
1628
01:01:42,500 --> 01:01:45,708
- ♪ My eyes roll
to the back of my head ♪
1629
01:01:45,792 --> 01:01:49,167
- My emotions towards you
are open to being open.
1630
01:01:49,208 --> 01:01:50,958
- Yeah?
1631
01:01:51,042 --> 01:01:53,750
- [crying] Days and nights
of rejection,
1632
01:01:53,875 --> 01:01:56,000
and it just, like, gets
to a point
1633
01:01:56,125 --> 01:01:57,917
where, like, I don't know
what to do anymore.
1634
01:01:58,000 --> 01:02:01,667
- I can't do it.
- [crying]
1635
01:02:01,750 --> 01:02:06,500
♪
1636
01:02:06,583 --> 01:02:08,042
- Oh, no.
1637
01:02:08,125 --> 01:02:13,667
♪
1638
01:02:13,750 --> 01:02:15,542
- It's [bleep] bad.
1639
01:02:15,625 --> 01:02:18,292
- ♪ Oh
- ♪ Now I'm running
1640
01:02:18,375 --> 01:02:20,333
- The time is here
for you to decide...
1641
01:02:20,375 --> 01:02:21,958
♪
1642
01:02:22,042 --> 01:02:23,625
- If you want
to stay married...
1643
01:02:23,708 --> 01:02:26,000
- Or do you want to get
a divorce?
1644
01:02:26,125 --> 01:02:29,292
- ♪ Runnin' away,
runnin' away from you ♪
1645
01:02:29,375 --> 01:02:31,958
♪ Runnin' away from you
1646
01:02:32,042 --> 01:02:34,458
♪
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