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I know that when you start a course like this
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you just wanna get straight into the pragmatics
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but hear me out just for a second
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in order to build a house
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you need to set the foundation
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and the bigger the house
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the more important the foundations
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and let me ask you this question
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have you ever put together IKEA furniture
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and then you didn't read the instructions
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and then you did one thing wrong at the start
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and then as a result of that
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you have to undo everything
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and then put it back and then start again yeah
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let's avoid those kind of mistakes
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let's avoid those situations
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and let's do it right the first time
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let me share with you the universal laws
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when it comes to communication skills
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there are few mindset things we need to
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address before we dive into the content plus
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in this section
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you're going to learn a very cool piece of magic
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let's get into what is known as the Universal Lords
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now the first one is called 88 keys 88 keys
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and before I start
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let me ask you this
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if I asked you to use your voice and and
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and you know
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do this and go really high
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would you feel like you're being fake and phony
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every time I ask my students this
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they say yes
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I do feel fake and phony
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and I need to address this immediately
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because it's not fake and phony
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and it's not inauthentic
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let me explain what I mean by 88 keys
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when I learnt this from my vocal teacher
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you see a piano has 88 keys
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and this is what happens
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over the course of your life
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you've become very comfortable with these keys here
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and we rarely use these keys over here
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oh my goodness
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we probably
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you probably never use this one before
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but when I ask you to do that
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it feels uncomfortable
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doesn't it now
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it's uncomfortable
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it's not fake and phony
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and think about it
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how can it be fake and phony
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I mean it's your voice
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if you can make the sound
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it can't be fake and phony
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these keys over here are not fake and phony
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they're not inauthentic
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these keys over here are just unfamiliar
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and what's happened is
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over the course of your life again
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you've just become very familiar with these keys
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so instead of thinking it's fake and phony
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start to think it's just unfamiliar
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whereas these are familiar
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and you've got to look at your voice as an instrument
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you hear me time and time again
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through this course saying
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your voice is an instrument
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your voice is an instrument
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because it is
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it's one of the most complex instruments in the world
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and you can't think
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and have that frame of mind where you go
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oh that's fake and phony
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this is what's natural
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this is what's authentic
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because that's gonna stop you from exploring those keys
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over there and by thinking
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those are unfamiliar
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these are familiar
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it gets you into the right mindset to
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then start to explore your entire instrument
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I believe the most inauthentic thing you can do
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is only play these keys over here
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imagine these are the only keys that I'm using
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I feel like this is being inauthentic
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I feel like authenticity
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I believe that authenticity
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is when we can use the entire instrument
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to express ourselves completely
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I'd like to make another point before we
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go on to the next universal law
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my students tend to have this block in their minds
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where they will say to me Vin
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this is my natural voice
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but when you ask me that
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you know do that with my voice
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or do this with my voice
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I don't sound natural
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I'm sorry to break this to you
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but the voice
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you have right now is not your natural voice
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you lost your natural voice
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you know generally
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at the age of 2 or 3
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you've lost it
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the voice you have now
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is your habitual voice
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you know when we're young
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and we admire our parents
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or we admire
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certain friends at school
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or certain teachers
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or maybe some
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TV star or movie stars
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when we admire someone
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when we're young
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we tend to try to emulate them
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we try to emulate their vocal habits
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so what happens is
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you tend to lose your
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natural voice at 2 or 3
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and then you adopt
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the habits of those that you admire
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when it comes to how you use your voice
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which then leads us to
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having a certain habitual voice
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by the time we're in our teens
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moving into our adult years of life
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now sometimes that could mean
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that we develop a good
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and effective habitual voice
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but more than often
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more often than not
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it tends to lead us down the path of developing a
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less than optimal habitual voice
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think of it this way
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it's kind of like a group of people who
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don't know how to play guitar
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teaching each other how to play guitar
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the chances of someone in that group becoming a great
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musician is
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extremely low
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this course is about recalibrating our voices
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it's about exploring our voice
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so that we can become more impactful
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and more influential
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so don't get too attached
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to how you currently sound
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you hear me say this a lot
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but don't be so attached to who you are in the present
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that you don't give the future
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version of you a chance
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let's get into the second
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universal law
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the second universal law is
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only practice will lead to improvement
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only practice will lead to improvement
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here I'm going to show you a piece of magic
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first of all
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so let's cut to a piece of magic now
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sorry to bother you
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my name is Vin
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I'm gonna be your speaker this morning
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I'd love to show you a little something
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if you don't mind cliff
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could I try this with you mate
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sure could you shuffle the cards for me
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right for sure
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so if you if you you shuffle right yeah
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so if you shuffle the cards
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it means there's no pattern in this pack right
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because you shuffled it right
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so I'm going to get you now Andrew to help with this
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um as well I want you to cut the cards in half
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me just cut in half and just leave it there
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so I want you in a moment
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I want you to take
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take the card there and have a look at the top card
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just have a look at it
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don't show me
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don't show anyone
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just you have a look at it
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and then put it back in the pack okay
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good thank you
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no way I saw that
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no way any of these people saw it
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so and I'm sorry
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it seems like I'm a bloody gambler
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but I'm not
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but I'm obsessed with how people used to cheat
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and they could do this by reading tells
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so you know a card right now
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none of us know what it is
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I think you might know what it is okay
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okay good okay good
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so we have to work out what your card is
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so I'm gonna ask you a series of questions
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you can tell the truth or a lie okay
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but if you lie Andrew
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you'll do something
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to give it away okay
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okay okay good
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he's a bad liar
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you can tell um
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so I want you to read the cards out from ace
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through to 10
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so go ace to do it nice and slow okay
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and I want you to look at everyone while you do this
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cause it creates more pressure okay
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and watch you do something to give it away
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when it gets this card and see if you see what I see
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so go for it 8
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2 3 4 5 6 7
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8 9 10 good
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you may not notice this
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but the pace slowed down towards the end
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six and nine
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good and oh
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you're very good at this sir
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I I don't I'm not
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I'm not sure yet
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but let me see sir
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it's the pace slows down
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which is because pressure increases
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and we're trying to make
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ourselves less obvious by overthinking it
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and therefore slowing down
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so what that means is it's between
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you're right
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it's between six and 10
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so between six and 10
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I'm going to ask you this
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just in your head
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answer truthfully
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in your head
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please genuinely do this
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was your card odd
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or even just in your head
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okay good so it's odd
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so thank you for that
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so yeah thank you
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they're raising the eyebrows so good
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so it's an odd odd
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so it's either the 6
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the 7 or the 9
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I want you to say yes three times
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to these questions about to ask
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just say yes
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regardless of what I asked was it a 6
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yes was it a 7
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yes what is it
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was it a nine
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oh you answered just before I finished
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so was the 9
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nervous again
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so was the 9
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so your card was the
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was the 9 okay good
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so was the 9
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good now it was the oh
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you got it well done
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so was the 9
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and now I'm gonna get the suit of the card um
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can you think of the color
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think of the vibrant
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so if it's vibrant
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it has to be red
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so then it's got to be a red
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I'm gonna go
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nine of hots
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was it that
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hots yes oh
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that's amazing
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we should go play poker together
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we would be amazing yo
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that is amazing
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and welcome back
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I hope you enjoyed that
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when we see something amazing
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we tend to immediately develop this thirst
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for knowledge
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this tends to happen with magic
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I know you're thinking right now
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how did he do that
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let me quench that thirst for you
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I'll teach you how it's done
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alright this is exciting
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what you're about to learn right now
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technically
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is called the criss cross force
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now a force in the word of magic
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when you hear the word force
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what it means is that
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the person doesn't really have a free choice
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now the magician presents the choice as if it's a
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free choice
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but it's not a free choice
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you're forcing them to pick a card
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you want them to pick
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but on their end
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they feel like it's a free choice
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that's what is called a force
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now this particular one is called a Criss Cross Force
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so you can take any ordinary pack of the cards
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you can give it to anyone to shuffle
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so let's say that someone shuffles a card
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if you're here
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I'd let you do it
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but you're not
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so I'll shuffle it for you
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when they hand you back the cards
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under the disguise of saying that look
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now that you've shuffled the cards
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all the cards are in a different order
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is that fair
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under the disguise of saying that
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what you're actually doing
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and this is hiding in plain sight
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what you're doing is
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as you spread out the cards
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to show that there's no particular order
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you take a peek of the top card
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which I'm pointing out with my thumb
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which is the two of spades
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so as you do that
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that looked very innocent
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and very sincere
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so all the cards are different
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see that you glimpse at the two of spades
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then you turn the cards over
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now you're one step ahead of the audience
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you know that the top card
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is the two of spades
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but they don't know that
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you know that
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they don't know that
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you have a piece of information
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so what you then
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say is you use
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the pattern that I was using
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or the dialogue
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I was saying look
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in the casino
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they only let
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you touch the cards once
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and that's to cut the cards
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so then you can say to them
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and the only reason they
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let you do that is because that's the only act that is
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truly random
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so you tell them
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cut the cards anywhere you like
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and then they cut the cards
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now where's the two of spades
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it's here so
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the card they actually cut to
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was the 5 of diamonds
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which was a truly random one
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what you do is
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while you're talking
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you said them look
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I'm just going to leave the Mark
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I'm gonna leave
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the cards there
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and Mark the cut
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and then you bring their
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attention back up to your face
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and you talk a little
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bit more about you know
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making sure this is random
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you cut wherever you wanted
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are you happy with that
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and then when they look back down
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because of that momentary
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misdirection
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that when they look back down
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they give you
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the benefit of the doubt
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now that that's the card
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they cut to
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whereas the card they actually cut to
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was this top card
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so then without
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skipping a beat
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you just look down
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you go look
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you lift off
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the top pack and you go
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I don't wanna touch that card there
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I want you to have a look
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at the card
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you cut to and
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you gesture to it
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and then they lift it up
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they look at it
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and you already know what card they picked
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and then once they
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put it back down
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you go look
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I don't wanna touch the card
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you take it
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now you already know what their card is
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and the rest of it is
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showmanship
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oh I hope you enjoyed that
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you know when you're learning magic
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you often feel disappointment because you go
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oh is that how it's done
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damn I thought it was more complex than that
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but don't be fooled by simplicity
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simplicity is power
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notice how I use
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the very simple piece of slaughter hand
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but I was able to keep an entire table of people
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engaged so simplicity is not stupidity
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simplicity is distilled power
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now if we follow
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the experiential experience of your journey
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you now feel satisfied
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and what that tells us is that
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knowledge brings about great satisfaction
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that's it though
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only satisfaction
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there's no fulfillment there
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to gain fulfillment
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we need one extra step
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and that's application
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you see this is probably
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one of the most original things I'll say
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the acquisition of knowledge brings about satisfaction
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but it is through the application of knowledge
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that brings about fulfillment again
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the acquisition of knowledge brings about satisfaction
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but it is the application of knowledge
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that brings about fulfillment
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what I'm trying to say here is that
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you will only ever experience satisfaction
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with that little piece of magic that I taught you
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until you actually perform it
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until you apply the knowledge you acquired
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and up until that point
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you'll never feel the fulfillment
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that a magician actually feels when they perform
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and the same goes for that magic trick that I taught
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you goes with communication
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in the word of communication
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you can acquire all the knowledge you want
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and you satisfy the thirst for knowledge however
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you never experience the fulfillment
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that can come from applying the lessons that you learn
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until you go out there and actually apply it
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most people read communication books
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or self development books like they read a magic book
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they're reading it
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for the sake of just acquiring knowledge
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knowing how something is done
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but they don't truly apply the things they learn
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when it comes to communication
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there's only one way to improve
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and it is through practice
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the application
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everything you learn in this course
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if you don't practice it with your teams
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if you don't practice it with those
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people that you love
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and you don't practice it in your life
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nothing will change period
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let's move to the third universal law
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the third universal law
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no automatic transfer of skills
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and what I mean by
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no automatic transfer of skills is that
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everything you learn in this course
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you're learning it in a in a vacuum
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and there's no
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automatic transfer of the skills you learn here
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into your everyday life
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there's a process that needs to occur
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and the first part of this process is called
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neutral ears
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and when it comes to neutral ears
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if you're starting to feel inspired by this course
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and you go home tonight and
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you neatly change the way you use your voice
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and let's say that you're
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you're normally very quiet
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and you go home tonight and you say
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honey I'm home
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you will freak the crap out of your behalf
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and you freak them out again
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because your voice is linked to your personality
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your voice is actually deeply linked to your
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personality
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it's why one of my vocal teachers always used to say
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your voice is
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your personality
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your voice is your personality I mean
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think about it
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if that is a true statement
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which I fundamentally believe it is
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when you change your voice
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you indicate to others around you that
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you're changing as a person
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and often this can freak those we
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are the closest to out
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and this is why neutral ears is so important
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because a neutral
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ear is someone who has no preconceived idea
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of how you should sound
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whereas the ones we love
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they already know us
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and they've already attached
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meaning to how we use our voice
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they've attached all of that to a certain
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personality that they believe is who we are however
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a neutral ear again
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you could be
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quiet and you're naturally a fairly quiet person
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and that's how your loved ones perceive you however
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when you go out tonight to a
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clothing store or a gas station or the grocery store
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and you say hi
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could I ask you where the peanuts are
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I have a craving for peanuts
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I don't know why
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you'd have a craving for peanuts
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but I often do
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and if you did that
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because they're a neutral ear
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they're not judging you
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they have no preconceived ideas
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and they'll just say to you look mate
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it's down aisle 7 damn
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you must really want peanuts and again
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when they don't give you a negative reaction to you
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playing with your voice in a different way
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when someone doesn't negatively react to a new behavior
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you're trying out guess what
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that behavior
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sticks a little more
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where is what happens
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when we go home and we
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we try outrageous things
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and we try to use our voice in a different way
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our loved ones will often react negatively
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they often will be the first
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to react negatively
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and they'll say things like
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why are you doing that with your voice
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that's just weird
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let me show you here a comment that I got when I
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was teaching my classes live
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let me show you a comment on Facebook
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check this out
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this particular student of mine was Texan
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so let's see if I can do him justice
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let's get in the zone
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alright alright
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alright last night
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I was discussing the course with some family members
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and I described the five vocal foundations
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and how we practice changing them
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one person responded that
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I hate that
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I won't listen to anybody who does that
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and so now I retreat back into my old ways
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it was great
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meeting y'all
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or not love today
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session as well
574
00:17:15,366 --> 00:17:17,633
they just won't hear about it Yeehaw
575
00:17:17,766 --> 00:17:18,466
you see that
576
00:17:18,466 --> 00:17:19,833
isn't that crazy
577
00:17:20,400 --> 00:17:22,733
one of my students just got inspired to try
578
00:17:22,733 --> 00:17:23,800
new things with his voice
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00:17:23,800 --> 00:17:27,000
and immediately got a negative reaction from his family
580
00:17:27,366 --> 00:17:29,600
now again it's not his family's fault
581
00:17:29,600 --> 00:17:30,866
it's just again
582
00:17:30,866 --> 00:17:33,000
when we change the way we use our voice
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those around us
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it scares them
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00:17:34,733 --> 00:17:38,300
because it indicates a change in you and often
586
00:17:38,533 --> 00:17:39,666
unfortunately
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00:17:39,933 --> 00:17:41,100
anytime there's change
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00:17:41,100 --> 00:17:43,400
people just tend to react negatively
589
00:17:43,400 --> 00:17:44,266
that's again
590
00:17:44,266 --> 00:17:45,666
why we need to find
591
00:17:45,666 --> 00:17:46,633
neutral ears
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00:17:47,000 --> 00:17:47,800
find neutral
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00:17:47,800 --> 00:17:48,400
ears in your
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environment
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00:17:49,100 --> 00:17:50,333
when you're driving home from work
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when you're driving to work
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00:17:51,666 --> 00:17:54,266
change the coffee place that you normally get coffee at
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00:17:54,266 --> 00:17:56,133
change the place where you fill up your car
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00:17:56,133 --> 00:17:57,866
change grocery stores
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and then start trying out
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new behaviors with neutral ears
602
00:18:01,900 --> 00:18:02,566
because again
603
00:18:02,566 --> 00:18:05,066
when they don't give you a negative reaction
604
00:18:05,066 --> 00:18:07,833
it helps these new behaviors stick
605
00:18:07,933 --> 00:18:09,300
just a little bit more
606
00:18:09,933 --> 00:18:10,800
now of course
607
00:18:10,800 --> 00:18:12,333
we're gonna want our family members
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00:18:12,333 --> 00:18:13,366
and those that we love
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to support us
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00:18:14,300 --> 00:18:15,000
on our journey
611
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as we aim to
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improve our communication skills
613
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some of you even want
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00:18:19,966 --> 00:18:22,000
your colleagues to be a part of that journey
615
00:18:22,100 --> 00:18:23,166
and if you do want
616
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your families
617
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and your colleagues
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and those that you work with
619
00:18:25,300 --> 00:18:27,366
if you want them to be a part of the journey
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00:18:27,366 --> 00:18:28,133
you have to learn a
621
00:18:28,133 --> 00:18:29,466
psychological concept
622
00:18:29,466 --> 00:18:31,666
called priming or prime
623
00:18:32,266 --> 00:18:33,700
you've got to prime them
624
00:18:33,900 --> 00:18:36,100
and what I mean by this is again
625
00:18:36,100 --> 00:18:37,200
you can't immediately just try
626
00:18:37,200 --> 00:18:38,266
new behaviors with those
627
00:18:38,266 --> 00:18:39,933
who have preconceived ideas
628
00:18:39,933 --> 00:18:41,366
of how you should sound
629
00:18:41,566 --> 00:18:42,300
what you wanna do is
630
00:18:42,300 --> 00:18:43,400
you prime them
631
00:18:43,500 --> 00:18:45,333
you can say something simple as
632
00:18:45,333 --> 00:18:45,900
whether it's to
633
00:18:45,900 --> 00:18:46,366
your family
634
00:18:46,366 --> 00:18:46,800
or those that
635
00:18:46,800 --> 00:18:47,500
you work with
636
00:18:47,500 --> 00:18:47,933
you can say
637
00:18:47,933 --> 00:18:49,100
hey look I'm
638
00:18:49,100 --> 00:18:50,100
currently on a journey
639
00:18:50,100 --> 00:18:51,300
I wanna improve
640
00:18:51,300 --> 00:18:52,600
the way I communicate
641
00:18:52,600 --> 00:18:53,566
I wanna I wanna I
642
00:18:53,566 --> 00:18:54,466
I don't wanna be so
643
00:18:54,466 --> 00:18:55,933
lazy with my voice
644
00:18:55,933 --> 00:18:57,600
I wanna be more engaging
645
00:18:57,600 --> 00:18:58,133
and I'm telling
646
00:18:58,133 --> 00:18:59,166
you this because
647
00:18:59,300 --> 00:18:59,800
I was hoping
648
00:18:59,800 --> 00:19:01,300
you'd support me on this journey
649
00:19:01,366 --> 00:19:02,133
do you mind just
650
00:19:02,133 --> 00:19:02,800
calling me out
651
00:19:02,800 --> 00:19:04,500
if I'm being lazy with my voice
652
00:19:04,600 --> 00:19:05,966
you know I'm naturally quiet
653
00:19:05,966 --> 00:19:07,366
can you just call me out if I'm
654
00:19:07,366 --> 00:19:08,166
if I'm not using
655
00:19:08,166 --> 00:19:09,000
enough volume
656
00:19:09,766 --> 00:19:11,166
and by saying something
657
00:19:11,166 --> 00:19:12,500
simple as that
658
00:19:12,666 --> 00:19:13,733
it changes the
659
00:19:13,733 --> 00:19:14,766
way they perceive
660
00:19:14,766 --> 00:19:15,966
your new behaviours
661
00:19:15,966 --> 00:19:17,100
whereas before
662
00:19:17,466 --> 00:19:18,333
they didn't have context
663
00:19:18,333 --> 00:19:19,733
you were trying to improve
664
00:19:19,733 --> 00:19:20,166
all of a sudden
665
00:19:20,166 --> 00:19:20,700
you come home
666
00:19:20,700 --> 00:19:21,866
and you're being ridiculous
667
00:19:21,900 --> 00:19:22,333
and to them
668
00:19:22,333 --> 00:19:22,800
they'll be like
669
00:19:22,800 --> 00:19:23,866
oh I don't like that
670
00:19:23,866 --> 00:19:24,500
that makes me feel
671
00:19:24,500 --> 00:19:25,366
very uncomfortable
672
00:19:25,366 --> 00:19:26,200
because again
673
00:19:26,200 --> 00:19:27,366
it's indicating change
674
00:19:27,366 --> 00:19:28,166
in most people
675
00:19:28,166 --> 00:19:28,666
let's face it
676
00:19:28,666 --> 00:19:29,766
don't like change
677
00:19:30,066 --> 00:19:31,000
where's the moment
678
00:19:31,000 --> 00:19:32,266
you prime them
679
00:19:32,400 --> 00:19:33,566
that allows them to
680
00:19:33,566 --> 00:19:34,366
perceive the
681
00:19:34,366 --> 00:19:35,300
new behaviors that
682
00:19:35,300 --> 00:19:36,400
you're trying out
683
00:19:36,533 --> 00:19:37,900
from a different perspective
684
00:19:38,200 --> 00:19:39,500
and all of a sudden
685
00:19:39,533 --> 00:19:40,400
you find that many of
686
00:19:40,400 --> 00:19:40,933
your colleagues
687
00:19:40,933 --> 00:19:41,466
and many of
688
00:19:41,466 --> 00:19:42,500
your family members
689
00:19:42,500 --> 00:19:43,933
are now more likely
690
00:19:43,933 --> 00:19:45,100
to support you
691
00:19:45,466 --> 00:19:47,166
and this leads us nicely
692
00:19:47,166 --> 00:19:48,800
into the fourth
693
00:19:48,800 --> 00:19:49,833
universal law
694
00:19:50,000 --> 00:19:50,700
and the fourth
695
00:19:50,700 --> 00:19:52,200
universal law is
696
00:19:54,066 --> 00:19:56,633
all your judgements are temporary
697
00:19:57,333 --> 00:19:59,100
all your judgements about you
698
00:19:59,100 --> 00:20:01,100
and how you currently communicate
699
00:20:01,100 --> 00:20:02,266
they're temporary
700
00:20:02,566 --> 00:20:04,233
please understand this
701
00:20:04,333 --> 00:20:06,200
when we make judgements about ourselves
702
00:20:06,200 --> 00:20:07,733
and how we currently communicate
703
00:20:07,733 --> 00:20:10,366
we make them as if they're permanent
704
00:20:11,200 --> 00:20:12,300
but it's not
705
00:20:12,666 --> 00:20:14,166
I mean we often say things like
706
00:20:14,166 --> 00:20:16,400
oh I'm never gonna be someone that's engaging
707
00:20:16,400 --> 00:20:19,000
I'm never gonna be someone that communicates in a more
708
00:20:19,000 --> 00:20:20,000
confident manner
709
00:20:20,000 --> 00:20:22,266
I'm never gonna be someone that's charismatic
710
00:20:23,366 --> 00:20:24,533
it's not true
711
00:20:24,533 --> 00:20:25,733
even if you say things like
712
00:20:25,733 --> 00:20:27,233
I'm a monotone
713
00:20:27,800 --> 00:20:29,133
we say things like this
714
00:20:29,133 --> 00:20:30,466
as if they're permanent judgements
715
00:20:30,466 --> 00:20:32,700
as if that's how we're always going to be
716
00:20:33,700 --> 00:20:36,066
all of your judgements are temporary
717
00:20:36,266 --> 00:20:38,400
as you learn little behaviour tricks
718
00:20:38,400 --> 00:20:39,533
and as you learn little
719
00:20:39,533 --> 00:20:42,366
methods on how you can change the way you communicate
720
00:20:42,733 --> 00:20:45,366
you can change those behaviours immediately
721
00:20:45,733 --> 00:20:47,133
a lot of my students ask me Vin
722
00:20:47,133 --> 00:20:48,966
is it actually possible to change the
723
00:20:48,966 --> 00:20:50,033
way you communicate
724
00:20:50,400 --> 00:20:52,166
and I asked them the question in return
725
00:20:52,300 --> 00:20:54,633
is it possible for you to change your behaviour
726
00:20:55,500 --> 00:20:56,666
the answer is yes
727
00:20:56,666 --> 00:20:57,966
and if you can change your behaviour
728
00:20:57,966 --> 00:21:00,300
it means you can change the way you come across
729
00:21:00,300 --> 00:21:02,233
you can change the way you communicate
730
00:21:02,866 --> 00:21:05,900
all the judgements that you have about you right now
731
00:21:05,900 --> 00:21:06,966
they're temporary
732
00:21:07,533 --> 00:21:09,666
you can make a decision now
733
00:21:09,666 --> 00:21:11,133
you can make a decision tomorrow
734
00:21:11,133 --> 00:21:12,600
next week next month
735
00:21:12,800 --> 00:21:15,333
you can make the decision to change the behaviour
736
00:21:15,333 --> 00:21:19,000
therefore you can change the way you communicate 100%
737
00:21:19,066 --> 00:21:21,133
so let's not get so caught up in
738
00:21:21,133 --> 00:21:24,266
the judgements we currently have about ourselves
739
00:21:24,666 --> 00:21:28,000
now this brings us nicely into the final and fifth
740
00:21:28,000 --> 00:21:29,166
universal law
741
00:21:30,766 --> 00:21:33,933
generosity and when we often think about generosity
742
00:21:33,933 --> 00:21:35,700
we think of it in terms of money
743
00:21:35,700 --> 00:21:37,333
so oh this person is very generous
744
00:21:37,333 --> 00:21:39,366
because they give away lots of money
745
00:21:39,666 --> 00:21:41,600
or we say that this person is very generous
746
00:21:41,600 --> 00:21:44,200
because they give away a lot of their time
747
00:21:44,666 --> 00:21:47,700
now we never think of generosity in its third form
748
00:21:47,933 --> 00:21:49,866
and this is the form that's most relevant
749
00:21:49,866 --> 00:21:51,966
when it comes to communication
750
00:21:52,300 --> 00:21:55,366
I want you to think of generosity in terms of energy
751
00:21:56,400 --> 00:21:57,800
you see when you think about
752
00:21:57,800 --> 00:21:59,466
generosity in terms of energy
753
00:21:59,533 --> 00:22:01,933
I'm giving you lots of my energy right now
754
00:22:01,933 --> 00:22:04,433
I'm being very generous with my energy
755
00:22:04,800 --> 00:22:06,333
um no that seems like a bit like oh
756
00:22:06,333 --> 00:22:07,700
then you're patting yourself on the back
757
00:22:07,700 --> 00:22:10,700
how gross you're making all of us want to vomit and die
758
00:22:10,966 --> 00:22:13,466
but I'm doing this because I'm trying to prove a point
759
00:22:13,866 --> 00:22:16,400
I could give you very low levels of my energy
760
00:22:16,400 --> 00:22:17,900
and be less generous with it
761
00:22:17,900 --> 00:22:20,500
I could give you all a little bit of my energy and
762
00:22:20,500 --> 00:22:23,433
and not be as generous and be what we call in Australia
763
00:22:23,466 --> 00:22:26,200
a tight ass when it comes to energy and look
764
00:22:26,200 --> 00:22:28,466
I can do this this is really easy for me I mean
765
00:22:28,466 --> 00:22:31,200
if this was the case I could probably record videos and
766
00:22:31,200 --> 00:22:34,800
create online content for about 25 hours a day you know
767
00:22:34,800 --> 00:22:37,133
I could create an extra hour if I was bloody
768
00:22:37,133 --> 00:22:38,833
conserving my energy like this
769
00:22:38,933 --> 00:22:40,400
and and low levels of energy
770
00:22:40,400 --> 00:22:42,000
I'm trying to indicate that by
771
00:22:42,000 --> 00:22:43,600
even kneeling on the ground
772
00:22:43,666 --> 00:22:46,600
I've given up completely and I mean
773
00:22:46,600 --> 00:22:49,466
just to really push this example another step further
774
00:22:50,066 --> 00:22:53,000
I could give even lower levels of energy if I wanted
775
00:22:53,400 --> 00:22:55,300
imagine you watched an online course
776
00:22:56,000 --> 00:23:00,433
hold on course of me delivering it like this haha
777
00:23:00,933 --> 00:23:03,066
I am a little bit extreme at times
778
00:23:03,066 --> 00:23:03,466
but keep it
779
00:23:03,466 --> 00:23:04,866
can you see the difference
780
00:23:04,866 --> 00:23:07,466
I'm being generous with you with my energy
781
00:23:07,766 --> 00:23:10,133
and this is a mindset shift that I want you to make
782
00:23:10,133 --> 00:23:12,800
I want you to all become more generous
783
00:23:12,900 --> 00:23:14,766
with your energy when you communicate
784
00:23:14,766 --> 00:23:17,400
because as you are more generous with your energy
785
00:23:17,400 --> 00:23:20,900
you're going to be more influential and more impactful
786
00:23:21,266 --> 00:23:23,500
and I'm saying this in the universal law section
787
00:23:23,500 --> 00:23:26,533
because we've got to all build our stamina
788
00:23:26,533 --> 00:23:27,733
as communicators
789
00:23:27,733 --> 00:23:28,366
just like how
790
00:23:28,366 --> 00:23:30,900
you have to become more fit if you wanna run a Marathon
791
00:23:30,933 --> 00:23:34,366
if you want to become a more influential communicator
792
00:23:34,400 --> 00:23:35,766
you're going to have to learn
793
00:23:35,766 --> 00:23:38,366
how to become more generous with your energy
794
00:23:38,500 --> 00:23:40,533
which is going to require you to build
795
00:23:40,533 --> 00:23:42,133
communication fitness
796
00:23:42,133 --> 00:23:43,800
I mean I don't like to say this often
797
00:23:43,800 --> 00:23:46,233
but since we're not being humble in this video anyway
798
00:23:46,266 --> 00:23:49,200
I kinda consider myself as the LeBron James
799
00:23:49,266 --> 00:23:52,000
of fitness when it comes to communication
800
00:23:52,733 --> 00:23:54,633
oh and just in case you're wondering
801
00:23:55,100 --> 00:23:57,466
this is my arrogant face no
802
00:23:57,466 --> 00:23:58,266
I'm kidding
803
00:23:58,266 --> 00:23:59,433
it's way worse
804
00:23:59,766 --> 00:24:01,500
what I'm trying to get at here is
805
00:24:01,500 --> 00:24:04,266
I want you to know that this is a form of fitness
806
00:24:04,300 --> 00:24:05,366
and I'm saying it over and over
807
00:24:05,366 --> 00:24:06,900
but I really wanna drive this home
808
00:24:06,966 --> 00:24:09,766
it takes time to build this level of fitness
809
00:24:09,766 --> 00:24:11,933
and once you have this fitness though
810
00:24:11,933 --> 00:24:14,700
you're now able to be generous with your energy
811
00:24:14,966 --> 00:24:16,466
and I promise you
812
00:24:16,533 --> 00:24:19,333
the world is going to react to you differently
813
00:24:19,333 --> 00:24:21,600
as you become more generous with your energy
814
00:24:21,600 --> 00:24:23,200
especially when you communicate
815
00:24:23,600 --> 00:24:24,600
but remember
816
00:24:24,666 --> 00:24:27,366
athletes don't become athletes overnight
817
00:24:27,366 --> 00:24:28,966
it takes time
818
00:24:29,066 --> 00:24:30,933
the first time you try to be more generous with your
819
00:24:30,933 --> 00:24:32,200
energy for 30 minutes
820
00:24:32,200 --> 00:24:34,333
you're gonna find yourself feeling exhausted
821
00:24:34,333 --> 00:24:37,300
I felt exhausted after doing this for like an hour
822
00:24:37,300 --> 00:24:38,600
when I first started
823
00:24:38,600 --> 00:24:39,800
however now
824
00:24:39,800 --> 00:24:41,200
you can't shut me up
825
00:24:41,333 --> 00:24:43,133
which is probably not a good thing however
826
00:24:43,133 --> 00:24:45,466
I'm able to be more generous with my energy
827
00:24:45,466 --> 00:24:46,700
when I need to be
828
00:24:46,933 --> 00:24:48,733
look I don't do this all the time
829
00:24:48,733 --> 00:24:49,166
but however
830
00:24:49,166 --> 00:24:49,800
when I need to
831
00:24:49,800 --> 00:24:51,066
be more influential
832
00:24:51,066 --> 00:24:52,766
when I need to have more impact
833
00:24:52,766 --> 00:24:55,166
I have the fitness to be able to do so
834
00:24:55,466 --> 00:24:57,966
so have a higher level of expectation for yourself
835
00:24:57,966 --> 00:24:59,466
just make the statement
836
00:24:59,466 --> 00:25:02,300
I want to be more generous with my energy
837
00:25:02,600 --> 00:25:04,466
these are the five core
838
00:25:04,533 --> 00:25:05,566
universal laws
839
00:25:05,566 --> 00:25:08,300
that I really want you to start to embed into your mind
840
00:25:08,300 --> 00:25:09,400
and have them in your mind
841
00:25:09,400 --> 00:25:10,800
and the forefront of your mind
842
00:25:10,800 --> 00:25:12,166
as we're going through
843
00:25:12,166 --> 00:25:13,266
the entire course
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