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I'm absolutely petrified.
Previously...

We haven't had sex.

If you haven't got good sex,
then you're up the creek.

..following a dramatic round
of homestays...

You were dismissing
in how I actually felt.

Wasn't dismissing you how you felt.

This is going nowhere.

..Arthur's comments caused
tempers to flare...

From what I can see, you do not
give a BLEEP about anybody else,
apart from yourself.

OK, bye. What?!

Last night was awful.

I don't care.

You're so rude.

..whilst the doubts of loved ones...

Do you think he's the son-in-law
that you wanted?

No.

..caused a worrying outcome
for Peggy and Georges.

I just need some space.

I just never thought I'd be leaving
on my own.

And after an unexpected
turn of events...

I actually never felt like
this before.

..Rozz made a heartbreaking
confession to Thomas.

I think I am checking out
and I'm just sorry.

I'll pack my bags.

I just feel gutted.

I tried my hardest.

Is anyone right for me?

Tonight...

Welcome to your very final
commitment ceremony.

As some couples
share their progression...

What we have is undeniable.

So you're falling for me?

Yeah, I think I am falling for Paul.

..others are in turmoil.

I left Peggy's on my own.

Wow.

I was trying to express
the way I was feeling
after not participating.

You took it completely wrong.

I am a hell of a woman,
and I'm done hiding it.

Ella...no matter who she was with,

I don't know if they could make her
happy.

And after an emotional homestay...

I feel I'm going to say it.

..Rozz reveals the truth to Thomas.

I can't say it.

I'm just heartbroken, really.

Sorry.

All right, all right!

You don't need to lean on me
like that.

After some time away
at their homestays,

most couples have returned to the
apartments together.

Do you know what?

I am relieved to be back home.

I'm not going to lie.

I'm quite fidgety.

Georges has returned alone.

The last week has been the epitome
of a roller-coaster.

I never thought in my wildest
dreams

that the homestay would end
like this,

with me leaving on my own,

Peggy not coming back with me.

I feel that Peggy's family
could really influence her decision,

so I'm pretty nervous about seeing
Peggy today.

My head's all over the place.

I've been so up and down.

Up and down, you know.

The longer I spend with my family,

the more they're drilling
into my head that he's not the one.

The mistakes that I've made
in the past,

when I should have listened
to my mum,

I don't want to make again.

How are you? I'm all right, thank
you.

I can't explain to you how hard the
last few days have been,

..being at home without you,

and having my family's opinions
constantly.

But...

..what my dad said really hit home.

He said you'd be lovely as a
friend... Yeah.

..not a son-in-law.

I've never thought that I'd be stuck
between how I feel and my family,

because I thought, ultimately, my
family will always win.

I want to fight this. I want to
work at this.

I want us to come out the other end,

and I want to prove to them that
I am the perfect partner for you.

Their opinion means so much to me,
and that's why this decision

has been so hard for me.

Like, I thought the last
commitment ceremony

would be the hardest decision.

This has blown it out of the water.

My parents' opinions mean the world
to me,

and I've always sworn
that mums know best,

so I just feel like if I made the
wrong choice...

..I'll be failing my parents.

Following an argument between them

since they returned
from their homestay,

JJ and Ella
are spending the morning apart.

I'm feeling,
like, down and frustrated.

Our homestay was so positive.

Since then, Ella went out
and we had an argument about that.

It's a reoccurring argument
regarding the drinking

and some of the disrespect that
comes from that.

I need someone else's opinion
and I think since Partner Swap,

Arthur knows Ella quite well.

So I do feel like he'll be a really
good person to speak to.

Ella and I had a really, really
good homestay.

And then since I've been back,
we've been out.

She got super drunk again.

When that happens, she acts
in a way that's just,

I find really disrespectful.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.

I've been insulted.

It's been quite, like, personal
insults.

And it's like, you know,

it's the same problem that's
kind of reoccurring.

It's starting to think, like,
are we not compatible?

Like, it's not what I'm looking
for in a relationship. No.

I don't want to walk away
from this or give up on it.

But there comes a point where
you can't you can't keep trying.

I know that she's got such
a good heart... Mm.

..but you've asked to improve
herself for the relationship,

and she's not listening... Mm. ..it
is disrespectful towards you.

Ella and I, other than these
arguments,

are so good and there's so much
I love about her,

but the disrespect
that comes with Ella's partying,

and going out drinking has to stop.

Alarm bells obviously ringing.

So today the decision
at the commitment ceremony isn't,
like, an easy one for me.

I am feeling nervous about
going on the couch with JJ

just because I don't know
where his head's at.

He wasn't best pleased with my
drunken antics, but like,

I really am worried that he's given
me so many chances to stop

with the whole drinking
and saying, like, crazy stuff.

My concern and worry is
it is too late.

Mate, your face does not look good.

I'm exhausted.

Having parted
ways on their homestay,

Rozz and Thomas have returned
to separate apartments

ahead of tonight's commitment
ceremony.

At the homestay,

I could feel myself, like, stepping
backwards.

As soon as that bubble popped from
the apartments...

..I don't know what happened.
Just my heart felt different.

I do still have feelings, obviously.

Thomas is a beautiful, loyal,
genuine person, and he is brilliant.

But something's changed in my heart.

I'm feeling terrified to go
into the commitment ceremony.

I absolutely don't want to hurt
Thomas, at all...

..but I've got to be true to myself.

What the hell happened?

She says she's checked out,
and she hasn't spoken to me since.

Jesus. I couldn't have anticipated
that.

It feels like I just came
out of nowhere.

Yeah, it did come out of nowhere.

I think she was even surprised.

I mean, this is freaking me.

You guys were, like, the strongest
couple before homestay, man.

It's tough, man. Sorry.
That's all right. That's all right.

Oh, man. I can't imagine how you
feel.

Her feelings, from what she said,
just weren't strong enough

in the real world.

I think she just got scared,
because the fact she's saying

they're not strong enough.
So you have feelings then.

Be proud of yourself, man.

It could have been easy
for you to stop,

but it's just not in you.

Yeah, I have nothing bad to say
about her, you know?

Yeah.

You still care about her.

I'm going to do a Paul here,
and just be positive.

I think the tables will turn
and I think she will regret it.

It's going to be hard, seeing her.

My feelings for us were
unconditional.

I feel very strongly about her.

I still want to fight for Rozz.

That's my aim for today.

Welcome to your very final
commitment ceremony.

This marks many final opportunities.

It's your last chance to be truly
open and honest

about your marriages with us.

It's also your last chance to seek
and gain our help and insights.

And crucially, it's your last chance
to decide

whether you want to remain in the
process...

..or leave your marriage for good.

Do not take any of these things
lightly.

All of you will no doubt
be now contemplating

whether or not your relationships
can go the distance.

This is the forum to seek answers.

First up on the couch is...

..Peggy and Georges.

Come on up.
SCATTERED APPLAUSE

Hi, guys. Hey there, you guys.

Peggy, last time you were
on the couch, you wrote "leave".
Yes.

Feels like ages ago because so much
has happened.

All right, so, Peggy, let's
start with homestay.

I really wanted Georges to
understand

my family means so much to me.

We all had a tea together,
having a chat.

I got a bit of a grilling
about career aspirations.

Am I going to be able to support
Peggy or provide

for her and for a family?

My mum voiced some concerns to me.

She wouldn't pick him as a
son-in-law.

I was so upset because I was split.

I was torn between my family
and my feelings.

How I feel.

Which is tough. It's horrible.

Right. It's horrible.

We can see the struggle
that you're having.

I left Peggy's on my own...

..because Peggy wanted some
time to think about it.

We spent about two days
away from each other.

Wow.

Obviously, it's never fun
leaving your partner, especially

when you've ended on a bad note.

How does it feel to know
that your parents

have these concerns about Georges?

Pretty tough.

Come on. It's OK.

Really tough, because I prioritise
my family, and I always have.

They've been number one.

I don't want to make a mistake...

..and hurt my family.

I said to my mum, what should I do?

Should I stay or leave?

Because you mean the world to me.

And...

Mm.

She said leave.

Wow. Mm.

Your mum said to leave. Mm-hm.

So are you saying that by
continuing your marriage...

..that you were going against
your mother?

And for me...

..family always, always wins.

So are you saying that by continuing
your marriage that you were...

..going against your mother.

And for me, family always,
always wins.

I can't imagine that. So you're at
home.

Your family's essentially
said, leave this man,

and you have to decide
if you're going to stay at home

almost with your family.

I needed time, yeah.

And I feel like in the past
I have always put them first.

And it's not that they're not
a priority.

I realised.

I need to be a bit selfish
and think about what I want,

because then my family
will be happy.

Wow.

That's you, babe.

Thank you.

So, Georges, Peggy has definitely
prioritised your relationship
over family.

Yeah. How does that make you feel?

I mean, it makes me feel on cloud
nine,

and it's obviously a big thing,

and I'm going to prove
to them and prove to Peggy

that, you know, it's worth it.

I think it's so poetic because
there was this battle between
values,

and you both realised that you can
prioritise each other

and keep all those other values.

Yeah. Yeah. Right?

It doesn't have to be that
complicated, you know what I mean?

So let's go to the decision.

We have something so strong and...

..I know we can work.

I'm just excited for our future.

So, I have decided to stay
because I'm falling for you.

So please don't break my heart.

APPLAUSE

I adore you. I adore you, too.

Now, having seen Peggy's
home, where she's from.

It really makes me realise
that she really wouldn't be here

if she didn't like me.

There's something really
special here.

My decision is easy.

I would like to stay.

Awww.

Aw, you guys!

You two are an example of when you
put in the work, the reward comes.

So on that note, thank you so much.

Continue doing what you do.

Well done, you two.

Thank you, guys.

Next up on the couch...

..Tasha and Paul.

That's us.

How are you two gorgeous things?

Oh! Jesus!

So, of course, Tasha met your family.

How did that go?

I think that was a good time.

And then I think we met my friends
and they brought a few concerns.

Because you're quite fiery.

They thought maybe me
and her would clash a lot.

I got defensive.

I feel like I speak a certain way,
I've been raised a certain way

and I'm quite blunt when I speak.

But I'm also very sarcastic.

And not everyone can always know
when I'm being sarcastic

or if I genuinely was being rude.

I guess the learning curve
for you is to read that room.

You know, read how your words
and behaviour are landing

for the other person so that you can
adapt in the moment. Yeah.

Oh, absolutely.

I just wonder, Paul, if
you've had the opportunity

to really unpack for Tasha
how you do feel when she speaks,

you know, a little bit more harshly
to you?

I think if I have an issue
with Tasha,

I do tell her, we're supposed
to have arguments.

Every relationship argues.

But because I've not been
in a serious relationship, maybe

as that argument happens,
I'm thinking, boom, this is a
nuclear explosion.

Probably sometimes I just need
to take time just to think about it

and be like, OK, it's not that deep.

but I think because I like her a
lot...

So maybe a small thing to me
is like, "Shit, is this what our
future's going to be like?"

And I'm thinking
like ten years ahead.

Do I need to realise it's just a
speed bump.

Tasha, I don't know whether it was
lost on you,

but I noticed Paul
there made reference to,

"I'm thinking about her and I being
together in ten years."

Oh, shit.

Yeah, ten years, not ten months.

Ten years. Oh...

I don't know
whether you missed that...

..but just wondering how that kind
of sits with you,

and whether you can imagine
yourself in Paul's life outside
of the experiment.

I can see myself with Paul
for a very long time.

It's so lovely to hear how
vulnerable you are being, Tasha,

because I know that early
on in the process

you were really struggling
and I feel like you've been really

open now with how you're feeling.

Do you notice that too?

Yeah, I've seen a change in myself.

I feel like my caring side
and my soft side comes out
a lot more.

I'm seeing this happy side
to Tasha that no-one ever can pull
out of me,

and I struggle to show to people.

But the main thing for me about the
homestays was he met my
goddaughter.

Seeing how he interacts with a
child,

it was just like, OK, this man
is going to be a good dad one day.

I feel like my feelings got
stronger in that moment.

He does something.

I don't know what, but he does
something.

It sounds like you're falling
in love.

Oh, Mel.

Oh, Mel.

That word still scares me.

But...

..yeah.

So you're falling for me?

Yeah, yeah.

SHE GIGGLES

Yeah, I think I am falling for Paul.

And are you falling for her?

Oh, yeah. I've been saying for
a while.

There's no question about it.

That's my man.

Oh, we love it.

You made us three parents
here very proud.

So why don't we go to the decision?

Tasha.

So, this whole experience
has been wild.

It's been a journey.

You are an amazing person,

and I came here for a reason,

and I do believe that reason is you.

So I'm gonna stay with my boo thang.

Love it.

Beautiful.

And you, Paul?

You make me the best version
of myself.

Like, I'm honestly so happy
with you.

Yes, you give me a headache,
time to time.

but I honestly wouldn't change
anything about you.

So for that reason, I put...

..stay.

Stay.

Well, it's been incredible to watch

the way things have deepened with
the two of you.

We wish you all the best
with the next chapter.

Thank you. Thank you.

APPLAUSE

Thank you.

Thank you.

Thank you.

Next on the couch is...

..Laura and Arthur.

Hello, hello. How are we?
Welcome. Good, thank you. OK.

How are you both doing?

Oh, we've been better, I guess.
Yeah. OK.

Well, let's go back to the dinner
party, because, of course,

there was an anonymous letter,

and there were quite a lot
of emotions that came out
on the back of that.

Our letter was really unbalanced.

So we found out Erica and Jordan
wrote it,

and Erica was very open
and said, some bits,

but I fundamentally didn't agree
with the vast majority

because obviously Erica has seen
a different side to our
relationship.

The words that were in there
that stand out to me were,

"Arthur, don't lose yourself trying
to become the man that Laura
wants you to be.

"And Laura, don't lose yourself
trying to make Arthur the man
that you want him to be."

Can I just say that Erika wrote that
point?

But I told her that. It's
absolutely fine.

I just, I just... Jordan!

Jordan, do you mind if we just stay
here and then we can come back

to your relationship
when you're on the couch?

So, Laura, let's move on from this.
Yeah.

So I was kind of licking my wounds
a little bit going into homestay,

and I think I was also aware
that you and I had, maybe,
the most to prove.

So we went to Chelsea to see
my friends.

It all went downhill after that.

You said something a little
flippantly around...

..not really thinking about how we
build a life outside the
experiment.

So my friends did raise
this with Arthur,

and you didn't react well.

I just felt a little bit attacked.

It's not like I'm not thinking
about it.

It's the fact that I'm thinking
about it.

That's what makes me so stressed.

I think any guy that's being asked
questions that they don't
have the answers to

will feel attacked, and will go
on the defence,

and that's what was happening.

And I was just so conflicted,
so drained from the conversation.

And I just wanted everyone
to get on.

It was horrible.

And that can be a really difficult
position to be in.

When you've got two friends
that want the best for you,

and you've got your partner
who cares for you a lot.

Yeah. And it's like, OK, what do
I do here?

Throughout the whole thing,

I was really trying to stay
as neutral as possible,

because I genuinely do understand.

The way that you do approach
a conversation is quite exaggerated,

and that is just the way
that you talk.

The girls were taken aback,

and they were like, we don't know
how that has happened,

and have you been dealing
with that this whole time?

I was in the wrong.

I shouldn't have reacted the way
I reacted,

and if I did get another chance to
see them,

I'm going to have to apologise,
big time.

I just wish that you would
give more consideration...

..into how you're putting
things across sometimes.

Because I've had to.

I really have had to do
that in this experiment.

And I agree with that.

That's something
I need to take on board,

and I've got to I've got to learn.

I don't know how many times I can
say, "It's just a mistake,"

before I actually think it's
probably more of a habit.

I was quite surprised with the way
I reacted to the whole thing.

I don't normally attach myself
to someone else's opinion,

but I think the pressure
of the whole experiment at that
time...

..started to get to me.

Arthur, what do you feel
is your biggest fear about the world

outside of the process?

Me messing it up.

I know I've got something
special here next to me.

And I care about this girl,
massively.

I suspect the reason why
you reacted the way that you did

is because there is
a fear in you that you will be seen
as not good enough for Laura.

A part of it, definitely.

I feel like the two
of you, each week,

it's a struggle to show
up as your authentic self...

Yeah. ..and what your partner
really should be doing

is your partner should be pulling
that out.

And this is how you inspire
each other to become better.

Let's go to the decisions.

Arthur?

It has been a difficult couple
of weeks for myself, in terms
of the future.

You know, it hasn't been easy
at all.

But what I do know
is that I really like you.

I really like this girl, and she
has showed me so much support...

..and there's no chance in hell
that I'm giving up right now.

So for that reason, I'm staying.

So, genuinely, I honestly did not
know what I was going to do.

My friends are the support
network that I've invested in.

Like, I've chosen these people...

..and to hear them say...

...no, no, absolutely not, was
devastating.

I am aware that I have become
less of myself, I know that.

I am a hell of a woman...

..and I'm done hiding it.

I am a hell of a woman,

and I'm done hiding it.

..and it's up to Arthur
if he can meet me there.

The only reason I am here
is because I know there's absolutely
no ill intent.

Having heard what you had to say,

I understand that you were feeling
anxious about the future.

I genuinely do care for you.

So for that reason, I have chosen
to stay.

Stop feeling threatened.

Like, just be better for me,
and I will do that for you as well.

You know?

Thank you, for being so vulnerable
and so honest.

We wish you the best for the rest
of the week.

Yeah. Thank you. Yeah.

APPLAUSE

I've got a lot of hope
for this marriage.

I wouldn't be here otherwise.

Like, I know there's a lot of work
to do,

and I'm going to do everything I
can, in order to make it work.

Next up on the couch...

..Adrienne and Matt.

Hello, you two. Hi!

How are you two?

Good, thank you. Yeah. Very good.

I would definitely say

going to the homestays
was a make or break week for us...
OK.

..and we both said that if this week
doesn't work,

then we just need to call it quits,

because we don't need to keep
draining each other.

And I don't want that for Matt.

And he doesn't want that for me.

I said to Matt, I was like,
ultimately,

if nothing does come with this
romantically,

I would like to come off this as
friends.

And Matt was like, absolutely not.

And I was like, "Oh, spicy!"

I like it.

I'm stepping up, Paul, you know
what I mean?

I like it, I like it.

So I was like, OK, that's what I
want.

I want that little bit of
a of a fight.

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

Had you had doubts about what Matt
wanted up until that point?

Well, I know that Matt is besotted
by me, not to blow my own trumpet.
SHE LAUGHS

So I know that he wants me
in the relationship.

But...

..sometimes I feel like Matt
is so complacent with life.

You know, my energy might be up
here, but Matt's, even on a good
day,

might not be exactly where mine is.

But what we have is undeniable,

and it would be too much to throw
away

just over a little bit of energy.

The minute we said it was a make
or break week, I straight away said,

we'll go in this and it is
what it is by the end of the week.

I just want this week with no
pressure.

I think the minute we discussed
that, we just started having fun.

I just felt like Matt again.

And I think since that,
I've just been so happy

because we're laughing,
we're chatting about everything.

It's just been a bloody good week.

This is really good.

What does that mean for you guys,

moving beyond the experiment?

Can you imagine yourself in his life
in the real world?

Yeah, 100%.

What about you, Matt?

Oh, yeah, 100%.

Yeah.

Well, he said he couldn't
live in the Lakes, but...
Well, yeah.

We might have to move out.

Well, you may have to move
from the Lakes. Yeah.

I mean, it's incredibly
telling, that the two of you are
having these conversations now.

This is the progress
that we want to be seeing.

Let's go to the decision.

Adrienne?

Oh, well, this could have gone one
or two ways at the beginning of the
week.

I'm glad that you know that we can
draw lines under things,
and just move forward.

And that's huge in a relationship,
for me.

So for that reason, obviously
I'm going to stay.

Lovely.

All right, big man. What'll it be?

I do truly believe that
we are really good together.

And, yeah, I want us
to have a future together.

So, yeah, for that, I am going to
stay.

Wonderful.

Well, you two,
I think you've arrived at such
a terrific place in terms

of understanding each other
and yourselves.

Good on you.

Thank you, guys. Appreciate it.

Good luck, guys.

OK, next up to the couch...

..Ella and JJ.

Go get em, tiger!

Hello, gorgeous ones.

So, how the two of you doing?

You go.

Yeah.

It's not the best place
that we've been in,

if I'm being honest.

Would you agree?

Our homestay was so positive,

but since then, it's been a bit
of a tough few days.

It's like a reoccurring argument
that Ella and I have had.

It's around when...

.when Ella would drink and become
sort of disrespectful to me.

But the thing is, it's like the same
thing over and over again.

And then it sort of made me sort
of question whether I'm getting
through to Ella.

It's something that means quite
a lot to me,

because I explained in previous
relationships

it was a huge problem and led
to heartbreak, and things
like that.

So something that I, like,
don't want in a relationship.

So, the issue is that when
you have a drink,

that a different part of your
character comes out? Yeah.

Sometimes I can be quite
like outlandish and just flamboyant
and crazy anyway.

And I don't always think
before I speak.

I think that is just heightened
when I have a drink.

I don't want to say like the things
that you have said,

but, you know how spiteful some
of them have been. I know.

And I know it doesn't come
from malice or a bad place.

I don't know, I don't really
understand, like why.

I made the mistake.

I haven't told you this.

And...

Oh, I don't know why I'm admitting
this, but fuck it.

I'm looking at JJ's ex-girlfriend
on social media,

and I saw how stunning she was,

and it made me think, like, I wasn't
pretty enough

or good enough for him,
like, looks-wise.

And that's why when I got drunk
and I'll just say it,

I stupidly said, "Oh, well, my ex is
better looking than you anyway."

Which wasn't true.

I've said for a while, like,
I can't believe that someone like JJ
actually likes me.

And I think maybe I throw an insult
at JJ because I keep thinking

he doesn't like me anyway.

I feel like what I'm hearing
here is that there is a fear

in you that you're going
to be rejected again,

and so because of that, this time
around,

you want to be in control of that
scenario.

But it sounds like self-sabotage.

Yeah.

It's come to a point where I am
realising, like, I am skating
on thin ice now,

and to me, JJ is one of the
best things to have happened to me
in a really long time.

For like, I've put him
up here and I feel like I'm there.

What would you need from JJ to feel
more secure in this relationship?

Uh...

I don't know.

You say you have your insecurities
and stuff,

and sometimes I think, Ella, no
matter who she was with...

..I don't know if they could make
her happy, because I don't know if,
like, you're happy.

ELLA SNIFFLES

OK.

SHE SOBS

I do like myself.

Like I am happy with myself. Yeah.

Maybe I have got, like, work to do,

but it doesn't mean I have to do
it on my own, without you.

I know. Yeah.

I think this is what's really
important, isn't it, that, you know,

whilst you go through this journey,
that fear that, oh, if I mess
up again,

he's going to say that he's had
enough and he's going to go.

I have two thoughts for you two.

JJ, you have to continually affirm,
Ella, this is every day
and it doesn't stop.

And Ella, this is a self
esteem issue.

Yeah, that is my issue.

And I think my confidence
and not feeling like I'm good
enough for him.

I want to work on that for you.
Yeah.

Ella, the work also has to be work
that you do for yourself. Yeah.

Let's go to the decisions.

JJ, we can start with you?

If I'm being completely honest,
there obviously was a lot
to think about.

When there's a problem that's
reoccurring,

it's weighing
up whether or not we can be happy.

Some of the things that
you have said and have done,

if it was outside the experiment,

it would have been enough for me
to be, like...

..that's too much.

Some of the things that
you have said and have done,

if it was outside the experiment,

it would have been enough for me to
be, like...

..that's too much.

You are an amazing person, and...

You said to me, how important
it is for you to improve yourself.

And that's, kind of, what I guess
topped the decision to...

..stay.

Wonderful.

Excellent.

I know there's been so many ups
and downs,

and I know I am the root
cause of a lot of these,

and I want to improve for you,
but also for myself.

And, yeah, you do
make me really happy.

So for that reason, I put
1,000,000% stay.

Please don't give up on me.

You are amazing.

Aw.
LAUGHTER

Beautiful.

Brilliant, thank you.

We can't wait to see how
this relationship develops.

Good luck. Thanks, guys. Well done,
guys.

Well done, you.

And next up on the couch...

..Erica and Jordan.

What's up, man? Welcome, guys.

Hi.

So I've got to call it.

The two of you are not looking
too happy tonight.

What's going on?

I think it's been since the last
dinner party.

Obviously, we had an argument
then,

that I feel like still
hasn't been resolved.

Straight after the dinner party,
we went into homestays.

It was the worst time in,
like, going to homestay.

And we both said that we didn't want
it to affect our time

with our family and friends.

It kept this weird, off feeling
and off vibe, with each other.

So you haven't had a chance
to actually unpack it and understand
what went wrong?

Yeah.

So why don't we start with the
argument you had at the dinner party?

So obviously we didn't participate
in the partner swap...

..and I did want to do it.

And Jordan very much didn't
want to do it.

But because I could see
how upset he was and I was like,
we won't take part.

I want to make sure you're OK,
because that's my priority.

Jordan, can you help us
understand your reasoning for not
wanting to do it?

I'm really big on my routine,

because it keeps me settled
because I've got, like, OCD.

So a change to my routine
can cause a bit more stress
than a normal person.

It's like a couple of days
after the whole Luke and Jay
situation,

and we was a real,
like, team like through that.

And Erica was like my support
system since the wedding day.

OK. You got this, mate. Come on.

It's all right.

So for you, this was about someone
taking away your support system.

That's the reason why
I didn't want to do it.

And Erica was happy, and she
understood and she agreed.

For me, there wasn't an issue
at all.

But speaking to the rest
of the group at the dinner party

and hearing all the positives,
I feel like I've got a bit of FOMO.

I was literally just trying
to express the way I was feeling

after not participating.

You took it completely wrong.

The reason I reacted the way
I did at the dinner table...

..was because I felt
like I was under attack.

I'm not taking away any
understanding from Erica's feelings,

but I'm just explaining
the reason behind my actions.

I feel like you're not actually
hearing what I'm saying.

Like, it's always, yeah,
I understand, but let me talk
about me now.

Whenever I try and express
how I'm feeling, then it gets

completely pushed to the side
and that seems to keep happening.

And I just feel like for a while
it's been like, what Jordan needs,

how Jordan feels.

I do feel like he is taking me
for granted a little bit

and I'm not being appreciated.

And like we spoke about
this with his mum and Jordan openly

admitted that, like, he's not
taken me on one date.

He hasn't bought me any flowers.

He's not done any nice gestures
for me.

It feels like every time
we have a problem, it's always

about me reflecting on myself.

But I don't really feel
like Erica reflects on herself.

Like what have you done for me...

..that makes me...

Do you want to actually go there?

OK, guys, I'm going to call time
out here,

because what is going
on here is point scoring.

I think the best thing that I can
tell you is don't pass
the blame, right?

Just stop at, "This is what
I need to do."

Because the moment that you cross
over to, "This is what you need to
do,"

That's the stubborn, that's
being the hard head.

Right?

What's important here is how
you guys feel about each other,

and the level of commitment
that you have to actually
make this work.

What is it that keeps the two
of you together?

I think for me is when we was good,
we was, like, so good.

That was so easy and natural for us.

I care, I wouldn't be here
if I didn't,

and I've seen so much good in Jordan
and so much good in us,

and how we can be in a relationship.

So can you summarise for Jordan
exactly what it is that you need
from him?

I just need you to really start
listening and communicating with me

and trying to not go from 0 to 100.

So what do you need from her?

I suppose we need to show
that we're willing to be with each
other,

not just at our best, but when we do
need to work through problems.

I think the work here is for the two
of you to feel committed

to repairing conflict, as opposed
to wanting to be right.

And I think both of you need to take
accountability

when you have an argument.

One thing I would love...

Move in a little bit, Erica. Move
in a little bit. There you go.

There you go. Come on.
I know you're a big man.

There you go. Slide on in.
There you go. Let the butts touch
each other.

There you go. See? That's it.

And now when you're like this,
it's much harder to disagree.

There's a good foundation here.

We've seen it, but what needs to
happen now, is the work.

We're going to leave it there
for now,

because I think it's really
important that we hear the decisions.

Jordan, we'll start with you.

I think I'm here because I know
the feelings I have and want to get
back on a daily basis.

So for me, it's like not
even a question.

I want to stay, because I know
what I've got to fight for,

and I'm not willing to give
up on that yet.

Good on you.

APPLAUSE

And Erica?

In order for us to move forward,
this chat needed to happen.

And me being able to express what
I need from you and you agreeing
to that,

and me hearing
what you need from me,

and I'm willing
to do that for you as well.

Majority of this experiment,
we were amazing,

and I'm not someone
that gives up on things.

So I have...

..decided to stay.

You've made another commitment
to each other today,

which is really great.

Now it's about really listening
to what each other needs

and reaffirming each other
consistently.

All right guys, thank you, so much,
and all the best this week.

Thank you. Thank you, guys.
Thank you, guys.

I really want to make it work
with Jordan.

We've been through so much together.

I just want to draw a line
under everything that's happened

and just focus on building our
relationship back up again.

And if we both want this to work
enough, then it definitely will.

And finally, on the couch is...

..Rozz and Thomas.

Hi. Welcome, guys. Thomas, welcome.

Good to see the two of you.

This is going to be a hard one...

..but we're all going to get
through it, OK?

All right.

Let's unpack your time
that you've spent most recently.

So how were you feeling?

Tom's going in to seeing your mum.

It was really good.

You were feeling good?
Feeling good. Um...

You know, because I was
just so happy.

Then...

Yeah.

OK. OK.

Rozz, were you excited to meet
Thomas's mother?

Yeah. I love Morag.

I'm so thankful that she was, like,
so lovely and, like, kind and, like,

warming and sweet.

Couldn't get a word in edgeways
between them.

I don't know what he's on about.

All right, all right.

Tell me, you're getting along so
well at the house.

At what point do you begin to not
feel so good about the relationship?

The homestay.

I just, like...

..start feeling
like I'm just stepping back.

TEARFULLY: I just felt different.

My priorities changed.

And then when I got home, I realised
he wasn't probably as high
as he should be.

And I've been on the receiving
end of that.

Like I've had someone that doesn't
prioritise me,

and I'm not going to do it to
Thomas.

You know.

Someone you knew for two months
isn't going to be the top priority,

and that's normal.

Can't explain.

I just, I just know in my heart,
like something changed in my heart.

And I'm not willing to put Thomas
in a situation that isn't
right or fair.

OK.

Goodness.

You know, so...

We've watched you go through a whole
lot of ups and downs.

And we've seen you fight
through those downs.

And each time you fought
through the down,

you know what happened?

You became stronger.

So my question is...

..is this just one of those moments?

Is this just a moment that you have
to fight through to become stronger?

I want to fight for you, Rozz.

SHE SNIFFLES

Is this just a moment that you have
to fight through to become stronger?

I want to fight for you, Rozz.

Like, I just have tried
these past eight weeks.

Like I have tried
and I've been nothing but genuine...

OK. ..but I just feel... OK.

I wish I didn't feel like this.

Like, I know Thomas is so kind.

Yeah. But I just feel like this...

Like, I just feel that I just...

..don't see on the outside.

So where do you believe
the turning point is?

I feel bad, I'm not gonna say it.

Just say, it's fine.

His mum's, like, she was talking
about children,

and I was like, "Oh, no, no, no, I
don't want to have children."

I go home and I see Millie's
little Maeve,

and I'm like, no, I do want
children.

Like, that's all I want.

Like...

And then I feel bad because the fact
that...

I can't say it because I feel bad.

When I look at Thomas, it's not,
like, anything to do with Thomas.

Maybe I just don't want
children with Thomas.

Ah.

I didn't know it was that reason.

Yeah, I just thought it was...

..just overwhelmed.

OK.

OK.

I just think it's not fair on Tom.

So I'm just wanting to just stop
it now.

I would want to fight for you, Rozz.

But...

..I don't want to make you feel
harassed.

I feel like...

I just want someone to accept me.

And even more than that, someone
not to just accept you.

Someone to celebrate you.

You will find that someone.
It's just not me.

And I'm sorry.

It's OK.

It's OK.

You know, in this process, we always
have to go to a decision.

And this is just a formality.

Rozz, if you'd like to tell
us your decision, please.

I have written this because I truly
believe in my heart

it's the right thing for us both,

and I just can't do
it to you because you truly
are the most beautiful,

genuine person I've ever met.

So, mine is to leave.

OK. OK.

Thomas?

From the beginning, I said if
you wanted to leave, I'd leave.

And I feel like you were everything
I wanted.

But no need now.

I put leave as well.

OK. OK.

Are there any...

..last words you'd like to say
to each other?

Honestly, you've been incredible.

And I'm just sorry that the homestay
made my heart feel a different way.

You have nothing to feel
guilty about.

Nothing.

I feel like during our time
together,

it took me a while to break down my
walls...

..and even though I'm heartbroken...

..I don't want to put them back up.

I feel like, it's like a happy
sadness, you know?

Yeah.

And you're always going
to be a friend to me.

I'm always going to be here for you.

You two have been beautiful to work
with,

and when you leave, a piece of
our heart is going to leave with
the both of you, OK?

Thank you, guys.

Thank you so much. Good luck, guys.

Good luck. We love you.

Love you, love you so much, you guys.

Come here. Thanks, Mel.

I feel like I was falling for Rozz.

Heartbroken, really.

Sorry.
HE SNIFFLES
Sorry.

I just feel so sad because
obviously, like, I wanted
this to work.

I wanted to get married and see
a future with children.

The end result is what I'm looking
for,

and I'm not going to stay
with someone...

..who I'm wasting
their time as well as mine...

..and I hope he sees that.

Oh.

I'm just heartbroken that...

I just didn't think it'd end like
this.

Or, that would be the reason
that she gave.

So, yeah, at least I know.
I've got my closure.

I can go, knowing I can move on.

Next time...

..it's the final dates.

Oh, God!

Oh, this is lovely.

I'm so grateful to actually meet
someone that I care about.

As couples express their concerns
for the future...

The distance worries me.

I don't really think long
distance relationships work.

When you have the same argument
over and over again with someone,

you feel like you might as well
give up.

We would never work if my friends
weren't supporting of us.

..Peggy questions her decision
to stay.

It's clear my mum has concerns,
and I can't be with somebody

that my family doesn't approve of.

And...

I would one day like to have kids.

..a potential deal breaker
emerges for Adrienne and Matt.

I've always said don't want them.

I've never met anybody that made me
want to change the answer.

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