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I've made the decision to leave.

Previously... I'm sorry you were
collateral damage.

..the dinner party ended with an
emotional exit...

There's someone else out there for
you.

..while for the other couples,
anonymous letters...

"Thomas, throw caution to the wind
and embrace the sexy time!"

..forced them to face uncomfortable
truths.

"Ella, we believe you should bring
it down a couple of notches

"on the sex chat."

"Laura, you can be patronising
and belittling to Arthur."

For Erica and Jordan...
It makes me feel shit

and I just want you to recognise
that... I do recognise that.

..a stalemate over Partner Swap
Week...

Can't be arsed with it. BLEEP idiot.

..sparked an explosive
confrontation.

How am I ever meant to express
to you how I feel

if this is how you BLEEP react?
OK... It's so unfair, Jordan,

honestly, like, and I'm sick of it.

BLEEP off.

Tonight...
So this is my gaffe.

Oh, it is really pretty.

..homestays get under way.

What is that? Content corner.

Is that where you squatted?

And the couple seek the wisdom
of loved ones.

We haven't had sex.

If you haven't got good sex,
then you're up the creek.

As Erica and Jordan's troubles
continue...

You were dismissing how I actually
felt.

It wasn't dismissing how
you felt.

If this is how it's going to be
every single time.

where do you go from there?

This is going nowhere.

..Arthur is reunited with some
less than friendly faces.

From what I can see today, you do
not give a BLEEP

about anybody else apart from
yourself.

I'm not here to impress you.

Do I think you're right for Laura?

No.

I'm finding it incredibly
difficult to defend my husband.

Looks like we're nearly in Farnham.

Oh! Excited.

The time has come for the crucial
homestays.

The newlyweds have been living
together

in the bubble
of their apartments.

Welcome to Weston.

It feels like a place
you'd go on a school trip.

Now they have the opportunity

to experience each other's
home lives,

where they will gain valuable
insight

into how their partners live.

So this is my gaff.

Oh, it is really pretty.

It's vital for everyone

to open their lives fully
to their other half,

so they can see what their future
lives could look like

after the experiment.

We're here now to see your house.

We're here to see my house? Well,
see your house, see your family.

Yeah, my family,

not my house.

I feel like you're judging
every word I say.

Ready to meet the queen?

The queen of Weston-super-Mare?

Yeah.

Hi, Nanny.

Hello!

In Weston-super-Mare, Ella has
taken JJ

to the home she shares with her nan.

I am a bit nervous.

I've never really introduced
anyone to my nan.

I'm in this experiment with JJ
to get to know him,

and he also needs to get to know me,

and I think a huge part of it is my
family.

It's nice for him to see a different
side of me,

a more vulnerable,
emotional, delicate side.

How did you meet?

Obviously, I was married
to a different guy. Yeah.

We don't mention his name.

No. I can't remember it anyway.

Things just didn't work out for us,

and then JJ came in with his wife.

You've had a wife too? Yeah.

What do you think?

Do you think he's cute? Yes.

Yeah, aw. Thank you.
A little bit more than cute.

Oh!

Do you want a cuppa? Yeah.

I'll go get you a drink, then.

She's jokes, isn't she?

I do love looking after her.
Yeah, she's funny.

She can't really
do that much herself.

Bless her.
We do get on really well

and, like, she's my best friend.

It's really, really nice,
what you're doing.

Oh, thank you.

Ella had previously told me
that she looked after her nan,

but I guess I didn't know
to what extent, so it's really nice

to see another side to Ella.

I feel like I know a little bit more
about her now,

and she should be really proud
of herself.

Grab some biscuits.

Thank you.

This is my pad.

Your pad?

I'm still annoyed with Jordan.

There's been a lot that's unresolved
since the dinner party.

I don't really know where to go
from here, to be honest.

You'll be sleeping on the sofa,

as you pissed me off.

Things aren't normal between me
and Erica at the moment,

but I don't want it to be taking
away from her homestay.

What's the time zone in Scotland?

I bet it's like ten o'clock now,
innit?

Are you actually taking the piss?

Are you actually serious?

Does he think we've gone

to the other side of the world or
something?

It was just a four-hour train
journey.

It took us about a day to get here.

I'm trying not to be a bitch
to Jordan, but right now,

with the way we are, everything
he's doing is kind of irritating me.

It's going to be a long
few days, I think.

Oh, this is nice.

The living room's pretty. Yeah.

This is the living room, TV, couch,
piano.

Here we go. I'll show you my room.

It's been a while since I've
introduced someone to my bedroom,

someone I've dated.

So, yeah, it's nerve-racking
because it's my childhood bedroom.

I'm not sure what's worse,
Ros seeing what's in my bedroom

or my mum seeing what's in my
bedroom.

So here it is.

This is where the magic happens.

I've not, like, had sex in a
parent's house in a long, long time.

Um... With your mum, like, next
door. Hmm.

I am excited, obviously,
to have a future with Thomas.

I think it's just nice to maybe
be outside the apartment,

see how his life is.

I think we need to go, like,
back home

and live like a normal relationship
now.

Maybe if we give your mum
some, like, antihistamines

so she goes drowsy...!

Ros hasn't been here two minutes

and she's already thinking about
drugging my mum

to make sure she's asleep so we can
get busy.

Jesus Christ, Ros,

we've only been here a few minutes!

You have the bunny costume
that I bought for you,

so I also have a shark costume.

Sexy, right?

I'm going to try it on.

Is it naughty?

Oh, God.

SHE GASPS

Are you going through my drawers?

Thomas, why have you got these?

Why are you going through my drawer?

Ew!

That's so gross.

All right, here we go.

Ooh!

Oh, this is lovely.

This is the living area
and the kitchen.

Oh, it's nice.

It's good, isn't it? Georges!
I told you.

It's much bigger than I thought
it'd be. It's amazing, actually.

I was just expecting,
like, boys' clutter and mess

and it to smell like boy.

, I did
not expect any of this.

Oh, I love it, babe.
It smells nice in here, too.

And it just makes me like Georges
even more.

Welcome to my wonderful home.

It means the world to me
that Peggy likes where I live.

I'm really excited for the next
few days.

There's a lot riding on this.

What is that? Content corner.

This corner here is what I expected
everything to be like.

It's very laddish.

I have no reservations about Peggy
living in my world,

seeing what I do.

Gaming is a huge part of my life,
and she has to accept it.

Is that where you squatted?

Yeah.

Georges's online exploits

have been a constant source
of concern for Peggy.

What's the most inappropriate thing
somebody has asked you to do?

Squat facing the other way.
What do you mean?

Just face the wall and squat.

I'm not OK with that.

This is embarrassing, humiliating,

and if that is what you really
want to do,

you'll be doing it without me.

This gaming thing, it is weird.

I never thought it would have such
a professional setup.

I'm really, really surprised.

Deep down in my heart, I thought,

"Oh, please let homestays make us,
not break us."

I was thinking, "No, you're going
to see this gaming station, Peggy,

"it's not going to be for you,
it's not your lifestyle."

But what I've seen today,
I absolutely love it.

Oh, babe, it's a comfy one.

It sounds so weird,

I could see myself living here.

I am so over the moon to hear that.

You make me feel at home,

and I've never felt
that with anyone.

Oh, that's sweet. That's really
cute.

I'm glad.

I'm so glad I make you feel
like that.

Welcome home.

Right, Nan? Yeah?

Now that it's just us,

what do you think of JJ?

You look very happy with him.

But until you've been with somebody
sexually, you don't really know.

We haven't had sex.

Not yet.

Hopefully soon.

Sex has to be included
in a relationship.

If you haven't got good sex, then...

..you're up the creek.

to put it crudely.

Listening to my nan talking
about how sex is really important

in a relationship or a marriage,
it is making me think, actually,

I would have expected sex
to have happened by now.

But I get everybody is different

and I'm not going to put any
pressure on JJ, because if I do,

then I'll be waiting even longer.

Yeah. No, I agree with you.

Good.

Makes a change for you to agree
with me on something!

In Edinburgh...

ERICA SQUEALS

Oh, my God!

..Erica and Jordan are meeting
Erica's friends, Miz and Katrina.

I kind of have mixed emotions
about tonight.

I'm obviously so excited to see my
friends

and just spend some
time with them, but it's not ideal

that me and Jordan aren't
on the best of terms,

and I think that's probably going
to come up in conversation.

My friends aren't stupid.

They will know straight away
that something's not right.

They don't fuck around.
They will not beat around the bush.

Cheers, guys. What are we cheersing
to? Surviving?

What is this, Bear Grylls?

You know? It's tougher
than Bear Grylls.

It's been tough, has it?

You know, well, the whole
experiment, it's stressful.

We were going really well for, like,
up until the past week.

So what's happened in the last week
that's...?

We got a task through from the
experts

and it was like, "This week
is going to be partner swap."

And he was like, "I'm not doing
this."

And after he told me all his reasons

as to why he didn't want to take
part, I was like, "We won't do it."

All the girls were saying to me,
like,

"Oh, my God, we had the best
time, it was amazing."

So I feel like we have missed out

and like it could have been a good
opportunity for us as well.

I brought that up to you, and
we ended up arguing quite badly.

I didn't feel I had support
from you,

which is why
we're now we're still in this place,

because we've obviously
not resolved it.

I do appreciate you not
doing it for me,

and I've always said that.
I don't think you've said that.

Never heard that from you once.

OK. The reason why we clashed,

we sat across from a girl
that I've had a few opinions about.

Regardless of what Laura said, like,
she's not here.

She's not part of the conversation.

You and I did have a separate
conversation,

and we still had the exact same
outcome regardless.

Like, I still feel like you were
dismissing how I actually felt.

I wasn't dismissing how you
felt,

but I was saying how I felt
at the dinner table.

What can Jordan do to...

..fix it?

I tried to get an apology,
and I didn't get one.

She was asking me to apologise
for reacting the way I did

there and then at the dinner table,
but I almost felt

like I was getting attacked.

Not by me, though.
But it came across that way.

Erica wants me to acknowledge
everything that she's feeling,

acknowledge that I'm in the wrong

and to disregard
the feelings I have.

But I cannot ignore my own feelings.

I was trying to tell him how I feel.

I didn't feel like I got heard.

If this is how it's going to be
every single time,

where do you go from there?
This is going nowhere.

I've been asking this boy to listen
to me and hear what I'm saying

and understand what I'm saying
for fucking weeks now.

And if I can't even get
that, why I am I here?

This is like our honeymoon. Yeah!

It's the second day of homestays.

Thank you, babe. You made me a
frothy coffee! I did. Where's yours?

I don't need one. Are you sure?
Yeah.

Waking up next to you is enough.

Oh, you smooth operator.
Oh, thank you.

I was waking up this morning,

and I just feel so much closer
to you.

Last night was, like, something
we both needed.

Yes, yes, we did!

Something we both needed.

For me to progress with intimacy
with anybody,

I do have to really like them.

Like, I need to know about them.

And seeing where you live
was just that kind of affirmation

that I needed
for me to kind of let go of it.

And we didn't go the whole way.

But to say that we've been able
to progress intimacy, like...

It's huge, isn't it? It's massive.

It's just nice to
be brought closer to you,

because obviously, it's such
a big thing for me.

And there's still so much
more to look forward to.

We've progressed physical intimacy.

Yes, we haven't had sex,
but progressive intimacy

was a positive step.

I can't and I won't sleep with
somebody until I fully trust them,

because I'm scared of getting hurt.

I've been hurt in the past.

Oh, honey, you're home!

Let me touch you, let me touch you!

How are you doing, Jordan? Good,
how are you?

Nice to see you again.
Nice to see you.

I hope Erica's grandparents can see,
like, the positives in me and Erica.

But it's difficult, because me
and Erica aren't in the best place,

so I've got to be me

and whether they approve of me
or not is up to them.

CORK POPS

Whoo!

Although it is a bit awkward
between Jordan and I,

I am just so happy to be with my
grandparents, but I'm a bit worried

because my gran, she is
very straight up

and if she doesn't like something,
you'll know she doesn't like it.

Shall we do a little cheers?

Right, a toast.

Go on. To youse.
To Erica and Jordan,

and I'm dying to hear all your
chat.

Thank you. And I want the truth,
the whole truth and nothing but.

God, I feel like I'm in court.

Have you enjoyed it?

I mean, there must have been times
when you think,

"What am I doing here?" Very
intense.

Like, very, very intense.

It's been the last week that a lot's
happened,

and that's caused us a lot of
stress.

I really wanted to come here, like,
as happy as I could be.

For me, it's a shame that we're sat
here right now,

like, not being able to show
you our real best.

It was going so good
and now it's kind of...

But that can happen in any
relationship.

What you've got to do is revalue
it again.

"This made me happy.

You know, "This person or Jordan
or whatever made me happy.

"So why am I feeling like this
now?"

Just because we're not at that level
now, it feels even worse.

I think you're reading a bit
a bit too much into it.

I mean, this is not a short fix.

This has to be a long haul.

It cannae be love's young dream,
that only lasts for so long.

There's something going on here.

There's something not right.
And I'm just getting the vibes.

So I really want to speak
to her to find out,

is she OK?

Chin-chin.

Right, Papa, you go and
do your favourite job.

Clean up. Clean up. Yeah,
I'll take the glasses

and then we'll go and clean up.

Maybe you could... I'm really good
at cleaning, so...

..bring us some more alcohol. No,
no more drink for you or your gran.

We're obviously not in
the best place right now.

Like, right now, I am
very pissed off at him.

I can't communicate with the boy.

Like, I would try and tell him
how I feel and he would be like,

"Yeah, but because you feel like
that, now I feel like this."

I just said to him, I was like,

"Look, see, if you just apologise
for how you've acted,

"we can squash this and let it go",

and he was like, "I'm not going
to apologise for how I feel."

I said, "It's not about how you
feel, it's how you've acted."

It's not what you do, it's how
you deal with it afterwards.

Yeah. Because we've had this
setback, it's just put me back

to, like, square one and I'm like,

"Everything you're doing
now is irritating me."

That's not a nice way to feel.

I don't want you to think

that it's always been like this,
because it hasn't.

Like, for the most part,
it has been amazing.

Like, it has been really good.

We really, really do struggle
on, like, communication.

I need to figure out a way...

..how we can get through that.
You've got to deal with it. Yeah.

I don't want to be like,
"Oh, I'm not doing this."

No, no, don't do that.

You've never been a quitter
in your life.

Going forward, you're gonna
have to sort it out.

I mean, make the best of it
and enjoy what you can.

Yeah.

He seems to be a nice enough lad.

He's very charming.

He is a lovely boy.

I value my gran's opinion so highly.

She knows I'm not a quitter.

And if I do want to make this work,
then we need to set some rules

for both of us and what we need
from each other.

And I think until we do that, things
aren't going to get better.

You just get to the point
where, you know, "This is for me"

or "This is not for me."

That's a fact.

We've got a request for some squats.
Are you going to join me?

Very funny.

Let me show you how it works, OK?

Yeah. I press this and then...

Oh. ..here we are.

Hello!

So what kind of time of the day
would you play this and, you know,

how long will you spend on it?

I would stream three times a week.
For how long?

Between three to five hours,
probably.

Monday, Wednesday, Friday
were normally my stream days.

I schedule things. I really
like structure in my life.

OK.

Um...

How important is this?

If you had like, priorities,
where would gaming be?

For me, gym - obviously, my health
is important to me.

And then obviously job,

and then gaming's also up there.

And then you're a priority.

If my mum or sister said,

"Do you want to do something
on Friday night, you and Georges?",

and you had gaming to do
in the evening,

what would be your priority?

If it was a Friday, I would probably
say no.

I hate letting people down.

I would literally drop anything
for the people I love. Anything.

It's not nice...

..hearing that you're not a priority
in your husband's life.

You're not number one.

I thought progressing intimacy was
a positive step,

and I'm just glad now that I haven't
given all of me to Georges

because what he's given me
today, I'm not happy with.

I want to be with somebody
who would prioritise me

over most things.

I just like being distracted.

But I prioritise you and your
family. And I get that.

I'd rather be with my priorities,
that's just me.

The people I love come first.

I get that.

You're just not the same.

I'll leave you to your gaming.

Once again, I'm in a sticky
situation with gaming and Peggy.

She doesn't understand that I don't
like letting people down,

and I don't like being spontaneous.

And although it's OK
to have different priorities,

I just don't think I explained
it very well.

Oh!

Oh, my goodness me!

Oh, it's been so long.

How are you, all right?

My mum hasn't met Ros since
the wedding.

I'm nervous for Ros to meet
my mum again,

just because if your mum
doesn't like your partner, who will?

This is really strange, isn't it?

Because on the day, you were
so nervous.

Yeah, I just was like...

A leaf blowing in the wind!

I like to see you both having eye
contact.

It's just completely different,
because on the day,

I think everybody was a bit
like rabbits in front of headlights,

and that's gone.

Yeah.

Have you thought
what's going to happen?

We wouldn't be here if we didn't
want to pursue things

once the experiment finishes.

We just need to, like, on the
outside, visit, see friends, family.

Start the journey. Yeah.

It's almost like we've learnt
as much about each other as we can.

Now we need to learn about
what we're like in the real world.

At the beginning, we were, like,
rocky and we didn't know

if we should, like, stay
or should we leave,

in the first two weeks.

And then from then on, it, like,

started getting better
and better each week.

And I think it's just realising

that you can build on friendships
to begin with.

So now I feel fine.
I feel good about it.

So do you both feel as people,

you know yourself better
and you've grown?

Yeah, 100%.

Like, I'm no longer as defensive
or sensitive.

I'm not overly critical of myself.

And I'm also not overanalysing
your behaviour as much.

You have to be good enough for
yourself

before you can be good enough for
anyone else. Exactly, exactly.

So, yeah, I think
it's been really good.

Yeah. That makes me feel better.

I would love it to work out.

Same. I would love it, because I...
I really like you!

Thank you for supporting me. It has
meant a lot, you supporting me,

because if you didn't, who would,
right?

I can see a future for them.

Tom seems really happy.

Rosaline definitely seems

to have been really good for Tom.

What are the plans for the future?

To have kids, you know...

I'm kidding!
I do want grandchildren.

I do feel like Morag is really
liking me, but like, not kids.

Not yet.

Not for a while. No way.

Welcome to Chelsea.

It's lovely here.

Laura is taking Arthur to meet
her best friends, Cam and Lucia.

You've got this.

It's just a couple of girls,
yeah? A couple of girls.

Lucia and Cam are my day ones.

They mean the world to me.

It was a rocky start.

The wedding did not go the way
that we planned.

I love you.

Author's encounters with Cam and
Lucia haven't always run smoothly,

even on his wedding day.

I wasn't impressed with your vows,
I'm afraid.

ARTHUR LAUGHS

Is that bollocks?

There was no effort involved at all.

Yeah, red flags.

And things didn't improve
on their next meeting

during In-Laws Week.

Listen, I've sort of rewritten
the vows in Mexico.

They were from my heart.
That's nice. That's right.

It took me ten minutes.

Sorry?

Yeah, that's not great.

Hello!

Hello!

These girls know me
and they know what I need.

I'm just hoping he is ready
to be grilled by the girls.

How are you? I'm all right, how are
you?

Good, yes, really good,
thank you. Lovely seeing you.

We have met Arthur a couple of
times now.

He seems like a great guy,

but I just want to make
sure he's fully in it.

This is her future, at the end
of the day.

Oh, it's so nice to see you both.

Laura's been married before,
and she's not here to mess around.

She deserves the best, and I don't
want her to accept any less.

I'm glad I'm near the exit.

Oh, it won't be that bad.
Don't feel like that.

This is like a snapshot
of what life would look like.

That's what I'm here for.
Let's get the grill on.

Nah, I'm joking.

Where are you now
in your relationship?

Have you spoken about what
you're going to do going forward?

I'll be completely honest with you,

I haven't really thought
about it yet.

I just live day by day.

But my parents have got a house
in Stevenage,

so I'm going to be there

for probably about a couple of weeks
afterwards

and then obviously back to work,
get myself a little place.

What you said, obviously, is,

"I'm going to do this, I'm going
to do that." Like, you're married.

You can't think of just yourself.

I'd like to think you're excited
on the day you come out

about what you're going to do
and where you're going to be

and where you're going to go
together.

We do need to think about these
things.

What's the ideal case scenario?

Working out where we fit
in each other's life.

Obviously, when I do your homestay,

I'll have a much broader idea
of how I fit in,

because it's not just about you
fitting into my life

here with the girls, it's also about
how I fit into yours.

I agree with that, so let's talk
about after this week, then.

Obviously, that's Laura's idea of
what's next. My ideal case scenario

is just to see what happens
in the outside world.

"Let's just see what happens"?

Do you expect us to just move
in together straight away?

We don't expect anything.
I was asking a question.

I said, "What do you want to do
next?"

That was all.

I just want you to be in it as much
as Laura is.

There's something that is screaming
at me

that I'm not 100% sure.

I agree.

As Laura's best friend,

I don't think your intentions are
100% clear.

What do you need?

Well, firstly, I need
you to be a little softer

with your delivery with my friends.
OK.

They've only got my best
interest at heart.

You should really want to impress
Laura's friends.

And to be honest, you sound
like you just don't give a fuck.

I'm not here to impress you.

I'm here to impress Laura.

I'm sorry, that is... She is
the most important person for me.

I don't think you've given me
a chance to impress you.

We've met you three times,
Arthur.

You're judging me
on every single thing I say.

We're judging what we've heard
of you.

It's an attack. It's not an attack.
That's what it feels like.

What have we said that's attacking
towards you?

The way you talk to me is. What do
you mean, the way that we talk?

Judgemental. Very judgemental.

I feel like
I've seen enough, to be honest.

OK, bye.

There's a tone there. Yeah.

There is a tone there.

I don't like that tone.

Don't use it with me.
Fucking hell, that's a lot.

I need you all to get on.

I'll go and get a drink. Yeah?

What the fuck was that?

He's very direct.

There's being direct and there's
just being a dickhead.

What the fuck was that?

He's very direct.

There's being direct, and there's
just being a dickhead.

You guys have seen, like,

this really exaggerated snapshot
image of him.

But there's more to Arthur
than this.

I just think that he felt
very intimidated

by three strong women that were
questioning him,

and he didn't know how to play it.

We are your family.

Would you do that to his family?

No, like, obviously not.

But the tone in which he just spoke
to me then,

I found
that really inappropriate.

He's more defensive than me.

It's not fine. It's not fine how
he spoke to her

and it's not fine,
the mood he made at the table.

He's still thinking as a single
person. The way that he spoke,

I didn't hear any mention
of you two together.

It was what "I'm" going to do,

"I'm going to move here,
I'm going to move there."

I, I, I. Where the fuck
does that involve you?

I know that he was a bit direct.

He was almost borderline rude.

I wouldn't make excuses for anyone.

But we care so deeply for each
other.

I care for him and I feel for him.

To be completely honest,
even just seeing a snippet

of what we've seen tonight,

I can categorically say
he's probably not the one for Laura.

The red flags that he shows
sometimes, he's confrontational

and he can't deliver himself
in an appropriate way.

And I feel like that's something

that you're not going to want to
deal with for the rest of your life.

It's really hard for me to sit
here

and hear how the girls actually
feel about Arthur,

because I know that deep down,
it's just not him.

Take a seat. I would say

you didn't need to go to the
trouble, but you did.

To say my guard has gone
back up is an understatement.

It's not just going to take a steak
dinner

to take back the words
that he said.

If gaming is your priority,
then I can't even be in your life.

It's pretty black and white for me.

Family and friends
are my number one.

It's annoying for me because,

like, we progressed intimacy.

But had I slept with you last night,

I'd be heartbroken to think,

"I've done that and then he's just
gone and said

"that he'd prioritise gaming.
What an idiot."

Gaming is not a priority,

but it is something I enjoy doing

and it's something
that makes me happy.

But it won't ever be before you,
I can promise you that.

I care more about spending time
with you,

building and working on us,
than anything else.

I've never felt this way
about anyone.

You are my priority.

What you're saying tonight

is exactly what I wanted
you to say today.

I do trust what Georges is saying.

He's trying to express to me
how wrong he got it this morning.

I just don't think he thinks
before he speaks.

I've forgiven him, but I haven't
forgot it.

You OK? Yeah.

Have you been talking about me?

Obviously.

There's a lot to say. Is there?

Yeah, I'd say so.

The last couple of times
I've met Cam and Lucia,

I feel like I haven't stuck up
for myself.

But you know what?
Tonight was a different story.

They don't know how our relationship
is working at the moment.

I can understand where you're coming
from

when you think that
I don't take this seriously.

It's just the way you look at me,
the way you talk to me.

I just feel attacked.

Why do you keep looking
at her like this?

I can look at whoever I want.
I'm trying to talk to both of you

and you just keep looking at her.
I'm making sure that Laura's OK,

because what you're saying is quite
jarring.

All we're asking, as Laura's
best friends, is,

we just want to know
what your ambitions are,

what your intentions are
with Laura next. OK.

You don't really care... About what?

..how we feel.

Um...

..no.

Fucking hell. I'm sorry,

you're just really coming
across really badly.

From what I can see today, you do
not give a fuck

about anybody else apart from
yourself. Me, myself?

Yeah, that's what I can see.
I care more about her than you.

That's not necessarily true.

All you spoke about is "I, I, I"
when you leave the experiment.

I am really sorry that it's worked
out this way,

but there's a certain line that
can't be crossed...

Thank you for your apology.

..and I wouldn't take bullshit from
anybody else,

so we're not going to from Arthur.

Do I think you're right for Laura?

The way that you've acted tonight,
probably not, no.

I really expected more from Arthur.

It's not acceptable.

It's not acceptable for our
best friend.

You know, they're married.

He's thinking about himself
going forward.

He's not thinking about their
future.

From what I've seen tonight,
I'm not his biggest fan.

We're not sold. No.

Absolutely not.

I just really wanted today
to go well.

I'm sorry that this has happened.

I must admit, I'm finding it

incredibly difficult
to defend my husband.

Oh, put your foot down, darling.

I like a man to drive fast.

Here we go. For the second
half of their homestay,

JJ has taken Ella to his hometown
of Southend-on-Sea in Essex.

Welcome to Essex.

Thanks for having me. You're
welcome.

This is a little park that I used
to go to. OK.

I had my first fight over there.
Did you win? No. Oh, you didn't!

It feels, like, really weird
having Ella in Essex.

I almost can't believe
that we're at this stage

where I'm showing her around,
like, my hometown.

But it does feel really nice and
comfortable.

I'm really excited to show
her around.

Well, here we are.

This looks like something
out of Desperate Housewives.

We're here.

Home, sweet home.

I'm hoping that from the homestay
with JJ,

that I'm going to see
a different side to him.

He's really hard to read
half the time.

I don't know what's going
on in his head.

And I think maybe
being around his friends,

he'll just open up more.

Welcome. Very nice. Thank you.

I'm loving the mirror.

Hallway mirror is a must, isn't it?

Oh! Yeah, I know, they're my dogs.

Oh, my God! How cute.
Yeah, they're not with us any more.

Got their ashes there as well.

I noticed. I didn't know what to do
with them.

This is cute.
Yeah, it's quite Essex, isn't it,

with, like, glitter in it.
It is very glam.

Favourite bit so far is probably
that bit in the corner. The wine?

Yeah.

I'd like to get through his wine
and Prosecco cabinet,

but I will definitely try
and be on my best behaviour,

not drink too much.

think about what I say before I say
it,

which is definitely something
I've never really done before.

Oh, this is so nice.

For the second
part of their homestay,

Jordan has taken Erica to his home
city of Sheffield.

I'm excited to see your mum.
Yeah, so am I.

I feel like I didn't really get
to speak to her much at the wedding,

so it would be nice to just sit
and chat to her.

It's really nice seeing my mum.

I've not seen her in too long
and she knows me so well,

so it would be nice to hear her
and see her.

I've got so much to tell her.

I hope she doesn't bring out
the cam recorder, the videos.

I wouldn't say things are better.
Things are still the same.

My head is still pretty much
in the same place with us.

The thing that's annoying me the
most is that I'm not being heard.

I know that his mum's opinion
means a lot to him,

and this is my opportunity
to just sit down

and have a proper chat with her and
get to know Jordan more,

to know if this is just genuinely
how he is,

and if she could give me any tips
on how to deal with that.

Hello! Hello! Come in.

How are you doing? I'm all right.
How are you?

Yes, good, thank you.

I'm really excited to introduce
Ella to Louis.

Louis is one of my closest friends,

so his opinion
is really important to me.

Obviously, he was at my wedding
and he saw me marry Bianca,

so I have no idea how he's going to
react.

Here he is!

Long time, no see, bro.
Hang on a second. Hang on.

Nice to meet you. This isn't...

I'm Ella. Hiya, nice to meet you,
Ella.

There's a lot to fill you in with.

So, yeah, obviously at the wedding,

I married Bianca,
and, um, there was no spark.

Then I come into the experiment
and I saw Ella,

and I was like, "She's a bit me",
like, the way she looks.

Would you agree? Yeah.

You know what, when you walked in
and I saw you,

it was definitely more of a match.

100%. Oh, thank you.

And from the wedding day, just on
the reaction of his face,

he looks a lot happier.

Yeah. It's been good, isn't it?

Her confidence stuff is
what drew me towards her.

She was like, just jokes and funny.

I sound very confident, but I've got
insecurities,

and he's just not
the most reassuring person.

I've never really had to, like,
have someone reassure me,

but because I can't really read JJ,

like, that's the only thing

I would say that we kind
of argue about. Yeah.

But it's fine. Like, we've got time.

I think in terms of reading
JJ, I've known him a few years.

It took me a little while to kind
of understand him.

And over the weeks and days
and months and years to come,

hopefully, being around him more,
he does get easier to read.

Sometimes I'll go quiet, like,
don't I?

And that's just like if I'm thinking
about something, I go quiet

and I sort of do want to be on my
own - not on my own,

but I don't want to talk. Yeah.

And you see that as, like,
sometimes I'm annoyed at you.

Yeah. But really, I will just go
quiet.

He does need to reassure me
a bit more.

When JJ says it's fine,
he's quite easy-going.

He is quite easy-going. Yeah...

When he says it, he does mean it.

At least someone else can see
what I can see.

I'm not going crazy.

JJ clearly is hard to read,
and other people are agreeing.

And if his best friend is saying
that,

then that's like music to my ears.

As long as you're both happy,
then...

Yeah. Does he look happy?
Yeah, he does.

JJ's got his hand on my knee,
which is really cute.

He's being very affectionate,

which I didn't actually think
JJ would do.

So, yeah, I feel like it's going
really, really well.

Better than I thought
it was going to go.

I'm just going to go
to the ladies'.

I'll leave you guys to it
for a sec.

I'll see you in a minute.
Don't say anything bad about me!

So what do you think, then?

THEY LAUGH

So now it's just me and you in the
room... Yeah?

..do you actually see yourself
progressing with Ella? Yeah, yeah.

I wouldn't be here if I didn't.

100%. Obviously, there's things
we've got to work on.

We've been out a couple of times
and she's got really, really drunk.

And she said some things to me
that I didn't like

and done things that I didn't like.

You're going to pick up the flaws
and stuff a lot quicker

than what you might do
on the outside world.

Yeah, and that's why I've flagged
it now,

because I don't want to let it slide

and then flag it in six
months or a year's time.

And that's when obviously,
you're a year in, you're in deep.

Well, I'm 30 years old.

I want the next person I'm with
to be the person that I'm with.

So as soon as I saw Ella,

I was literally like, drawn to her.

Every time I went into a room, she
was the first person I looked at.

She's a good girl.

I'm much happier, more comfortable
with the potential

of a long-term relationship and,
like,

this working outside the
experiment as well.

If you were to write your type
down on paper,

she would be your type to a T.

For JJ in a relationship,
yes, he does need someone fiery

to keep him on his toes.
They're still new to each other,

so there's a lot they need to learn

and there's a lot of boundaries
they need to overcome.

But when they get to know each other
more further down the line,

I'm sure they can overcome it.

As long as you're happy.
I do feel happy, mate,

and I'm looking forward to seeing
where it goes, and fingers crossed,

it goes where I want it to.

So what have you been doing, then?
What have you been getting up to?

So much. Yeah, we're learning about
each other every single day.

Like, new things all the time.

There's been hiccups recently.

There's been a load of things
that have caused this, like, stress,

over the last, like, ten days.

You admit yourself, like, you do
get in your head a lot.

I didn't get that feeling off her

that she was willing to help me and
fight for me.

I just didn't feel that.

If I didn't want to be here,
I wouldn't be here.

I feel like that this has been,
like,

a common thing that happens a lot.

Things that could be very,
very minor,

Jordan sees as very, very big.

And I think he gets in his head
and takes things

to the worst possible situation.

He does. And it's very hard to get
him out of that place.

If Erica likes you enough,
she will like you as you.

I know you're always worried,

but you're always worried about a
lot of things, aren't you?

I can see in your face already

that you're starting to worry
about if you've done things wrong.

That's not what a relationship is.

And that's what worries me,

is that you're going to just make
yourself ill, in a way.

I've only started to worry
about it in this last week

when we've not been good.

And then I think, oh, like, OCD
on top of us not being good,

she's not going to want to help me.

I get worried that she'll be with me
when I'm at my best

or when we're in a really good
place,

but is she going to want to stick
around for the tough times?

I want to help you, and when you
feel like you can't do something

because of your OCD,

I'm like, "Well, let me do it for
you."

But we're not always going
to be good. No, I know, I know.

I know. Rationally, I know,

but I'm just saying what I worry
about.

So I think my advice to you,
then, is to be honest with her

when you're struggling and if she's
asked you to do something

but you can't do it because of your
mental psyche,

she doesn't know that,
and she might just think

that you're just choosing not
to do it.

So you've just got to be honest
about it,

honest about how you're
feeling. It doesn't make you weak.

People who understand you
just do those things.

I see how you tick,
so I'll do something

if I know that you're going
to stress or struggle with it.

If Erica's saying she's already
picked up on that,

that's a really good thing.

With his OCD and stuff,

I asked if he'd ever, like, spoken
to anyone about it or had help.

He said no, and I said,
"Well, I feel like

"the reason that you're not
doing that

"is because if you did,
you'd feel like it was beating you."

Yeah, yeah.
And that's not the case at all.

Her suggestion that you should get
help shows that she cares.

And Erica's showing you that
she's invested in it enough

to want to help you.

Jordan's OCD,

I think it's probably been a bit
of a shock

and a bit of an eye-opener.

Jordan won't be forced into doing
anything,

so the more pressure you put on him,

the more he'll just withdraw from
it.

And I do think she's trying
to understand it.

So have you taken her on dates
and things like that?

Well, yeah, we've been for food
a few times. We have, haven't we?

We go for food, but I wouldn't
class them as dates. Not date-dates.

It's not like we're going to...
I can't get flowers off this boy.

It's been seven weeks and he's not
even bought me any flowers.

It's like, I'm someone that needs
to be shown, I need to be told,

because we're not mind-readers.

Like, I need these little things.

I think Jordan's thought, like,
that just by being there...

Yeah, it's enough.
..that that's enough.

But sometimes for some people,
it's not.

It's just the little gestures
that make the difference.

Take her out.
If you go to the gym or something,

just nip out and get a bunch
of flowers or something.

Don't have to be for any kind
of particular reason, do they?

No. Flowers are nice at any point,
aren't they? Yeah.

Erica's the reason why I want
to change.

Like, I've had relationships before,
but I've never obviously felt

the need to improve and better
myself.

There's a reason to do that now.
So this is the push.

Or do something stupid
like go ice skating or...

Go out and do crazy activities.

Or bowling, because that's a
bit competitive

and I reckon that you two would be
quite competitive with each other.

Yeah, that's the problem.
If I beat her, that's it.

We're sulking, so I don't know if I
want to. I'm scared to beat her.

Jordan's mum's given some
really good advice.

Literally everything she said
is exactly what I need him to hear.

My needs and my feelings
have been sort of pushed to the side

and neglected because it's been so
much focused on Jordan,

but I will need to see a clear
effort and change from him.

It's all good and well he can say
these things and acknowledge them,

but if it's not backed up by
anything, then it means nothing.

Next time...

I'm absolutely petrified.

..it's the second round of
homestays.

There's nothing lovely about this.

Ongoing tensions rear their heads
for some...

Are you saying we're back on form?

That, to me, is just not the case.

I'd say we're getting back on track.
I didn't say we are back on track.

Last night was awful.

I don't care.

You're so rude! How am I rude?
What are you on about?

..while friends and family deliver
damning verdicts for others.

I actually like having arguments,

especially with a little girl,
innit?

Don't fucking call me
a little girl, Paul.

Run for your life, bro.

Do you think he's the son-in-law
that you wanted?

No.

As my parents don't like Georges,
it will be very difficult

for this marriage to survive.
I can't lie.

And Ros and Thomas... The car's
going at full speed,

and I want to
put the brake on and jump out.

..hit an unexpected and worrying
low.

I'm just going spiralling down

and I'm just like, "Look am I ready
for a relationship? I'm not sure."

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