All language subtitles for Chantilly Bridge (2023)

af Afrikaans
ak Akan
sq Albanian
am Amharic
ar Arabic
hy Armenian
az Azerbaijani
eu Basque
be Belarusian
bem Bemba
bn Bengali
bh Bihari
bs Bosnian
br Breton
bg Bulgarian
km Cambodian
ca Catalan
chr Cherokee
ny Chichewa
zh-CN Chinese (Simplified)
zh-TW Chinese (Traditional)
co Corsican
hr Croatian
cs Czech
da Danish
en English Download
eo Esperanto
et Estonian
ee Ewe
fo Faroese
tl Filipino
fi Finnish
fr French Download
fy Frisian
gaa Ga
gl Galician
ka Georgian
de German
el Greek
gn Guarani
gu Gujarati
ht Haitian Creole
ha Hausa
haw Hawaiian
iw Hebrew
hi Hindi
hu Hungarian
is Icelandic
ig Igbo
id Indonesian
ia Interlingua
ga Irish
it Italian
ja Japanese
jw Javanese
kn Kannada
kk Kazakh
rw Kinyarwanda
rn Kirundi
kg Kongo
ko Korean
kri Krio (Sierra Leone)
ku Kurdish
ckb Kurdish (Soranî)
ky Kyrgyz
lo Laothian
la Latin
lv Latvian
ln Lingala
lt Lithuanian
loz Lozi
lg Luganda
ach Luo
mk Macedonian
mg Malagasy
ms Malay
ml Malayalam
mt Maltese
mi Maori
mr Marathi
mfe Mauritian Creole
mo Moldavian
mn Mongolian
sr-ME Montenegrin
ne Nepali
pcm Nigerian Pidgin
nso Northern Sotho
no Norwegian
nn Norwegian (Nynorsk)
oc Occitan
or Oriya
om Oromo
ps Pashto
fa Persian
pl Polish
pt-BR Portuguese (Brazil)
pt-PT Portuguese (Portugal)
pa Punjabi
qu Quechua
ro Romanian Download
rm Romansh
nyn Runyakitara
ru Russian
gd Scots Gaelic
sr Serbian
sh Serbo-Croatian
st Sesotho
tn Setswana
crs Seychellois Creole
sn Shona
sd Sindhi
si Sinhalese
sk Slovak
sl Slovenian
so Somali
es Spanish
es-419 Spanish (Latin American)
su Sundanese
sw Swahili
sv Swedish
tg Tajik
ta Tamil
tt Tatar
te Telugu
th Thai
ti Tigrinya
to Tonga
lua Tshiluba
tum Tumbuka
tr Turkish
tk Turkmen
tw Twi
ug Uighur
uk Ukrainian
ur Urdu
uz Uzbek
vi Vietnamese Download
cy Welsh
wo Wolof
xh Xhosa
yi Yiddish
yo Yoruba
zu Zulu
Would you like to inspect the original subtitles? These are the user uploaded subtitles that are being translated: 1 00:00:32,266 --> 00:00:34,569 - [Natalie] The writer, Thornton Wilder wrote. 2 00:00:34,602 --> 00:00:37,772 There's a land of the living and a land of the dead. 3 00:00:38,773 --> 00:00:40,675 And the bridge is love. 4 00:00:41,441 --> 00:00:45,245 The only survival, the only meaning. 5 00:00:45,279 --> 00:00:47,815 (upbeat music) 6 00:00:49,082 --> 00:00:53,387 We were closer than family, as children playing together, 7 00:00:53,420 --> 00:00:57,491 sharing our secrets and hopes, a day would feel like a year 8 00:00:57,525 --> 00:00:59,192 stretching out before us 9 00:00:59,226 --> 00:01:02,396 filled with end endless possibilities. 10 00:01:02,429 --> 00:01:07,200 And then as we got older, the years flew by like days. 11 00:01:07,234 --> 00:01:12,574 Filled with laughter and tears and love, always love. 12 00:01:22,617 --> 00:01:25,285 We had vowed to be friends for life, 13 00:01:25,319 --> 00:01:28,221 but life interferes with the best intentions, 14 00:01:28,255 --> 00:01:31,759 and its currents take you to places you never intended. 15 00:01:31,793 --> 00:01:34,662 And sometimes much too soon. 16 00:01:37,565 --> 00:01:39,567 I was never really concerned with whether 17 00:01:39,601 --> 00:01:41,669 there was life after death. 18 00:01:41,703 --> 00:01:44,806 Of course, I didn't think I would die at 40. 19 00:01:44,839 --> 00:01:50,210 ♪ Are you going to Scarborough Fair ♪ 20 00:01:50,712 --> 00:01:55,850 ♪ Parsley, sage, rosemary, and thyme ♪ 21 00:01:56,651 --> 00:02:02,222 ♪ Remember me to one who lives there ♪ 22 00:02:03,825 --> 00:02:09,196 ♪ She once was a true love of mine ♪ 23 00:02:13,635 --> 00:02:18,740 ♪ Tell her to find me an acre of land ♪ 24 00:02:19,306 --> 00:02:24,646 ♪ Parsley, sage, rosemary, and thyme ♪ 25 00:02:25,580 --> 00:02:30,918 ♪ Between the salt water and the sea strands ♪ 26 00:02:32,787 --> 00:02:37,424 ♪ Then she'll be a true love of mine ♪ 27 00:02:40,895 --> 00:02:43,296 - [Natalie] Here it is 25 years later 28 00:02:43,330 --> 00:02:46,567 and it's another death that unites my friends. 29 00:02:46,601 --> 00:02:48,870 And through their memories, me. 30 00:02:50,505 --> 00:02:54,307 - We miss you, Natalie, but your mother is with you now. 31 00:03:28,341 --> 00:03:30,878 (upbeat music) 32 00:03:58,472 --> 00:03:59,941 - Welcome home. 33 00:04:04,011 --> 00:04:09,382 ♪ Are you going to Scarborough Fair ♪ 34 00:04:10,017 --> 00:04:15,288 ♪ Parsley, sage, rosemary, and thyme ♪ 35 00:04:16,090 --> 00:04:21,461 ♪ Remember me to one who lives there ♪ 36 00:04:23,064 --> 00:04:28,503 ♪ She once was a true love of mine ♪ 37 00:04:36,744 --> 00:04:40,014 ♪ A true love of mine ♪ 38 00:04:49,456 --> 00:04:52,059 (clock ticking) 39 00:05:26,426 --> 00:05:27,327 - Mom. 40 00:05:34,168 --> 00:05:36,771 (upbeat music) 41 00:05:36,804 --> 00:05:39,439 ♪ Oh bye bye baby that was yesterday ♪ 42 00:05:39,472 --> 00:05:42,375 ♪ I'll tell you now you got a price to pay ♪ 43 00:05:42,409 --> 00:05:44,979 ♪ I know you're gonna miss me ♪ 44 00:05:45,012 --> 00:05:47,682 ♪ Oh you're gonna miss me ♪ 45 00:05:47,715 --> 00:05:49,884 ♪ I know you're gonna miss me ♪ 46 00:05:49,917 --> 00:05:52,854 ♪ You'll be sorry when I'm gone ♪ 47 00:05:52,887 --> 00:05:55,022 ♪ Hey you gonna miss me ♪ 48 00:05:55,056 --> 00:05:59,426 ♪ You'll be sorry when I'm gone ♪ 49 00:06:00,460 --> 00:06:03,097 (crowd cheering) 50 00:06:04,665 --> 00:06:06,801 - Val, come in, come in. 51 00:06:08,836 --> 00:06:11,606 Thank you so much for coming. 52 00:06:11,639 --> 00:06:12,940 - Oh, Maggie. 53 00:06:12,974 --> 00:06:14,842 So glad to see you. 54 00:06:15,843 --> 00:06:17,979 Close this door, oh its cold. 55 00:06:18,746 --> 00:06:19,780 It's mom's coat. 56 00:06:19,814 --> 00:06:21,782 - Well I'm just inhabiting the coat. 57 00:06:21,816 --> 00:06:23,751 - Well I'm very grateful to you for coming, 58 00:06:23,784 --> 00:06:25,452 cause there's an awful lot of work. 59 00:06:25,485 --> 00:06:26,153 - Happy to do it. 60 00:06:26,187 --> 00:06:27,955 - Hey Aspen. 61 00:06:29,790 --> 00:06:30,992 Oh buddy. 62 00:06:32,793 --> 00:06:33,928 (laughs) 63 00:06:40,034 --> 00:06:40,935 Yeah. 64 00:06:42,136 --> 00:06:43,137 Oh, oh, oh. 65 00:06:44,505 --> 00:06:45,873 You are hungry. 66 00:06:46,641 --> 00:06:47,708 Another one? 67 00:06:47,742 --> 00:06:49,442 (doorbell rings) 68 00:06:49,476 --> 00:06:51,812 - Oh God, Rheza. 69 00:06:51,846 --> 00:06:53,214 - I'm so sorry I'm a bit dirty. 70 00:06:53,247 --> 00:06:55,516 - Oh, come here, come in that's fine. 71 00:06:56,083 --> 00:06:57,184 - We had an emergency at the zoo. 72 00:06:57,218 --> 00:06:59,452 - Oh dear. - Didn't wanna be late. 73 00:06:59,486 --> 00:07:00,888 - Do you wanna go in and then get warm 74 00:07:00,922 --> 00:07:02,156 and get your coat off and... 75 00:07:02,189 --> 00:07:02,857 - Thanks Shelley. 76 00:07:02,890 --> 00:07:05,192 We're supposed to think of this? 77 00:07:05,226 --> 00:07:07,028 We're supposed to know what she's talking about? 78 00:07:07,061 --> 00:07:10,765 - [Natalie] Look at them, my friends, my family. 79 00:07:10,798 --> 00:07:13,466 - I remember always around this table doing plays with her. 80 00:07:13,501 --> 00:07:14,769 We did wonderful. 81 00:07:14,802 --> 00:07:17,171 - [Natalie] Shelley was never really part of our group. 82 00:07:17,204 --> 00:07:21,676 Probably my fault, not wanting my kid sister around, 83 00:07:21,709 --> 00:07:23,210 but when our mother died, 84 00:07:23,244 --> 00:07:26,180 my friends immediately reached out. 85 00:07:26,213 --> 00:07:29,917 It's been 25 years since they've all been together. 86 00:07:31,018 --> 00:07:32,853 It was my funeral. 87 00:07:32,887 --> 00:07:34,088 - Natalie was like that too. 88 00:07:34,121 --> 00:07:35,690 - Like mother, like daughter. 89 00:07:35,723 --> 00:07:37,825 - Remember Natalie playing ping pong? 90 00:07:37,858 --> 00:07:39,560 - She was ferocious. 91 00:07:39,593 --> 00:07:41,028 - Hello? 92 00:07:41,062 --> 00:07:42,930 (laughs) 93 00:07:42,964 --> 00:07:45,498 - Love, oh my God. - Nice to see you. 94 00:07:45,533 --> 00:07:46,567 - Oh my gosh Hannah. 95 00:07:46,600 --> 00:07:47,601 - Did you bring food? 96 00:07:47,635 --> 00:07:48,736 - I brought some veggies. 97 00:07:48,769 --> 00:07:50,004 - Oh what do you have here? 98 00:07:50,037 --> 00:07:51,939 - Do you need help getting that in the kitchen? 99 00:07:51,973 --> 00:07:53,674 - No I'll be fine I'll be right back. 100 00:07:56,010 --> 00:07:58,646 - I remember sitting at this table. 101 00:07:58,679 --> 00:08:01,182 - We had so many fun times. 102 00:08:01,215 --> 00:08:02,116 - Yeah. 103 00:08:02,149 --> 00:08:03,684 - It was so fun remember that? 104 00:08:03,718 --> 00:08:04,852 - I can't believe I forgot. 105 00:08:04,885 --> 00:08:07,154 - Midsummers night, 106 00:08:07,188 --> 00:08:09,056 - "Through the forest, have I gone." 107 00:08:09,090 --> 00:08:11,726 - I remember your mom helping me with an audition 108 00:08:11,759 --> 00:08:15,296 for the high school production of the Scottish play. 109 00:08:15,329 --> 00:08:18,299 "Out out damn spot!" 110 00:08:18,332 --> 00:08:20,201 Rage! 111 00:08:20,234 --> 00:08:24,638 She is raging and I was like "she is raging". 112 00:08:24,672 --> 00:08:25,573 (laughs) 113 00:08:25,606 --> 00:08:27,074 Remember that? 114 00:08:27,108 --> 00:08:29,577 - How do you get younger? 115 00:08:29,610 --> 00:08:30,277 - Me? 116 00:08:30,311 --> 00:08:31,012 - Every year. 117 00:08:31,045 --> 00:08:31,879 - Oh that's nice. 118 00:08:31,912 --> 00:08:33,881 - I'm really starting to resent this. 119 00:08:33,914 --> 00:08:35,182 (laughs) 120 00:08:35,216 --> 00:08:37,051 - Oh gosh in this drawer right there 121 00:08:37,084 --> 00:08:38,319 I found something for you guys. 122 00:08:38,352 --> 00:08:39,220 - What, over here? 123 00:08:39,253 --> 00:08:41,956 - Yeah in that drawer. - The top, okay. 124 00:08:41,989 --> 00:08:43,157 - Were you talking about this? 125 00:08:43,190 --> 00:08:44,692 - Yes those. - All right. 126 00:08:44,725 --> 00:08:45,993 - That's for you. 127 00:08:46,027 --> 00:08:48,095 - Yeah, what are these here? 128 00:08:48,129 --> 00:08:51,799 These are birthday cards for Natalie. 129 00:08:51,832 --> 00:08:53,167 (screams) 130 00:08:53,200 --> 00:08:55,970 - Happy birthday Natalie. 131 00:08:56,003 --> 00:08:58,139 - I'm wearing this hat. 132 00:08:58,873 --> 00:09:00,241 - We gave her these on her fortieth. 133 00:09:00,274 --> 00:09:02,343 - I didn't mean to bring up a bummer. 134 00:09:02,376 --> 00:09:04,812 - No it's just so sweet. 135 00:09:04,845 --> 00:09:06,680 - Love. - Beautiful. 136 00:09:06,714 --> 00:09:08,015 - So wonderful. 137 00:09:08,049 --> 00:09:09,950 - But that she kept them. - Oh, my God. 138 00:09:09,984 --> 00:09:12,153 - Your mother had things of yours? 139 00:09:12,953 --> 00:09:16,190 - No, but I'm still here, so it's different. 140 00:09:16,223 --> 00:09:18,092 I don't know what it's like to lose a child, 141 00:09:18,125 --> 00:09:21,662 I just know what it's like to be the one left behind. 142 00:09:22,730 --> 00:09:24,231 (chattering) 143 00:09:24,265 --> 00:09:26,834 - It's kind of who I see here. 144 00:09:26,867 --> 00:09:31,038 I mean, I can't bring us into our present. 145 00:09:32,006 --> 00:09:34,775 ♪ Could it be a faded rose ♪ 146 00:09:34,809 --> 00:09:41,615 - I keep talking to, who we were, that's always here. 147 00:09:42,983 --> 00:09:44,785 - Isn't it so odd though, about getting older, 148 00:09:44,819 --> 00:09:48,856 doesn't it just feel like we're still inside the same. 149 00:09:48,889 --> 00:09:49,757 - Exactly. - I feel like... 150 00:09:49,790 --> 00:09:51,092 - Exactly. 151 00:09:51,125 --> 00:09:53,360 - I'm still struggling with the same, yeah though. 152 00:09:53,394 --> 00:09:55,663 My mother calls it the organ recital. 153 00:09:55,696 --> 00:09:56,831 - Yeah. 154 00:09:56,864 --> 00:10:00,000 - You go around and say, what's wrong like I have a hip, 155 00:10:00,034 --> 00:10:02,770 I have a shoulder, I have a heart. 156 00:10:02,803 --> 00:10:04,338 - If I only had a brain. 157 00:10:04,371 --> 00:10:06,640 (laughs) 158 00:10:10,811 --> 00:10:13,848 - Before I found photography, I probably made a big mistake 159 00:10:13,881 --> 00:10:17,651 choosing a profession that was my mother's. Commercials. 160 00:10:17,685 --> 00:10:19,820 Yeah I just did commercials because I had to pay 161 00:10:19,854 --> 00:10:23,157 for trying to do theater, which didn't work out too well. 162 00:10:23,190 --> 00:10:25,126 - I work with seniors, I take them to, 163 00:10:25,159 --> 00:10:26,227 their appointments and stuff 164 00:10:26,260 --> 00:10:27,094 but I also bring them to the library cause we have 165 00:10:27,128 --> 00:10:29,864 a lot of great classes and like that. 166 00:10:29,897 --> 00:10:30,364 - Well that's wonderful. 167 00:10:30,397 --> 00:10:30,431 - Yeah it's great. 168 00:10:30,931 --> 00:10:32,166 - Keeps your mind. 169 00:10:32,199 --> 00:10:35,970 - And keeps me feeling young, which is the important thing. 170 00:10:36,003 --> 00:10:37,338 - But you look. 171 00:10:37,371 --> 00:10:39,807 - I'm not as sick as that person, oh no. 172 00:10:39,840 --> 00:10:45,179 - What I might like to do, which is to work with the dying. 173 00:10:45,779 --> 00:10:46,747 - Really? 174 00:10:46,780 --> 00:10:47,381 - Yeah I might. 175 00:10:47,414 --> 00:10:48,249 - You didn't tell me that. 176 00:10:48,282 --> 00:10:52,286 - Well it's, we are at that age where, 177 00:10:52,319 --> 00:10:55,756 all of us are searching, it's a natural time. 178 00:10:55,789 --> 00:10:59,760 Am I this, am I that, yes and nuns do that as well. 179 00:10:59,793 --> 00:11:03,797 So I'm thinking of working in hospice. 180 00:11:03,831 --> 00:11:06,066 - I wanna say this to you. 181 00:11:06,100 --> 00:11:10,070 - Is that, well, - The best comedic nun, 182 00:11:10,104 --> 00:11:10,971 I've ever known. 183 00:11:11,005 --> 00:11:11,972 (laughs) 184 00:11:12,006 --> 00:11:13,207 - No I wanna try to explain. 185 00:11:13,240 --> 00:11:16,810 Your mother gave me the privilege of having 186 00:11:16,844 --> 00:11:20,848 to preside, to enjoy, to collaborate with her 187 00:11:20,881 --> 00:11:26,187 during her death, her dying, which was for me... 188 00:11:27,454 --> 00:11:28,722 profound. 189 00:11:29,356 --> 00:11:32,793 I need to tell you that, that she, what you, 190 00:11:32,826 --> 00:11:38,732 it was because we know Ruth had many flaws. 191 00:11:38,766 --> 00:11:42,203 She was very human and, but you know, death is, 192 00:11:42,236 --> 00:11:43,337 it doesn't have to be for most people. 193 00:11:43,370 --> 00:11:46,941 But with her, it was courageous, she caught the light. 194 00:11:48,943 --> 00:11:52,746 - Well, Ruth never had any trouble finding her light. 195 00:11:52,780 --> 00:11:54,949 (laughing) 196 00:11:57,051 --> 00:11:57,952 - Like this. 197 00:11:59,353 --> 00:12:01,355 - I'm not hearing a thing from Lizzie. 198 00:12:01,388 --> 00:12:03,924 Your sister's not coming, should we start packing? 199 00:12:03,958 --> 00:12:05,025 - Lets go, let do our packing. 200 00:12:05,059 --> 00:12:06,126 - Maggie don't take the coat. 201 00:12:06,160 --> 00:12:07,094 Please don't take the coat. 202 00:12:07,127 --> 00:12:09,797 Respect the animal, let's not, let's not-. 203 00:12:09,830 --> 00:12:13,367 - I understand, but this is dead already now what do you do? 204 00:12:13,400 --> 00:12:14,468 - Understand the dying. 205 00:12:14,502 --> 00:12:19,306 - I wanna just inject, like it is, sometimes things 206 00:12:19,340 --> 00:12:23,177 carry a person's spirit and soul, and this vibrant 207 00:12:23,210 --> 00:12:26,447 - Oh my God, looks like, - is a Ruth thing. 208 00:12:26,480 --> 00:12:27,682 (doorbell rings) 209 00:12:27,716 --> 00:12:30,985 - Doorbell, oh wait a minute there's somebody at the door. 210 00:12:32,353 --> 00:12:34,522 Oh it's come on it's Nat, come on. 211 00:12:37,224 --> 00:12:39,026 - I like the coat. 212 00:12:39,059 --> 00:12:39,960 - I know. 213 00:12:40,861 --> 00:12:41,862 - Hi Natalie. 214 00:12:41,895 --> 00:12:43,264 - Hi. 215 00:12:43,297 --> 00:12:44,832 - I'm Shelley. 216 00:12:44,865 --> 00:12:45,533 - Hi Shelley. 217 00:12:45,567 --> 00:12:47,101 - You're named after my sister. 218 00:12:47,134 --> 00:12:49,837 So nice to have you here, thank you so much. 219 00:12:51,472 --> 00:12:52,373 - Hi. 220 00:12:54,942 --> 00:12:58,045 - Hi Val you look amazing. 221 00:12:58,078 --> 00:12:59,581 - Good to see you guys. 222 00:12:59,614 --> 00:13:01,849 - Well, let's get you something to drink 223 00:13:01,882 --> 00:13:04,451 and get your coat off and then get back to work. 224 00:13:04,485 --> 00:13:05,386 - I'm here to help though. 225 00:13:05,419 --> 00:13:06,820 - Yes, here we go. 226 00:13:09,089 --> 00:13:10,924 - Lizzie where are you? 227 00:13:12,192 --> 00:13:12,960 - Where am I? 228 00:13:12,993 --> 00:13:13,762 - Yeah. 229 00:13:13,794 --> 00:13:15,462 - Well I'm home, where should I be? 230 00:13:17,064 --> 00:13:19,266 - Are you kidding me, you're home? 231 00:13:19,300 --> 00:13:21,268 - Yeah I'm home with the kids. 232 00:13:21,869 --> 00:13:23,437 - You're supposed to be here. 233 00:13:23,470 --> 00:13:25,839 We're at Ruth's, we're going through all her stuff. 234 00:13:25,873 --> 00:13:27,041 You're, you're supposed to be here everybody's waiting. 235 00:13:27,074 --> 00:13:28,075 - Oh my God. 236 00:13:28,108 --> 00:13:29,843 - You're home, oh my God. 237 00:13:29,877 --> 00:13:32,413 - Oh my God, Val please don't do this to me again. 238 00:13:32,446 --> 00:13:36,250 I told you I couldn't get up there, I have too much to do. 239 00:13:36,685 --> 00:13:37,519 This is a setup. 240 00:13:37,552 --> 00:13:41,556 - Okay so how are you, how's it going? 241 00:13:41,589 --> 00:13:42,956 How's your new girlfriend? - Normal. 242 00:13:42,990 --> 00:13:44,058 - How's your girlfriend? 243 00:13:44,091 --> 00:13:45,926 - My partner? Great. 244 00:13:45,959 --> 00:13:48,929 Everything's great, everything's normal. All is going well. 245 00:13:50,130 --> 00:13:51,298 - Okay great wonderful. 246 00:13:51,332 --> 00:13:53,967 So did you get your check this month? 247 00:13:54,401 --> 00:13:55,503 (sighs) 248 00:13:55,537 --> 00:14:00,007 - Val can we not with this, can we not you know, no. 249 00:14:00,040 --> 00:14:02,876 No,I didn't get the check this month surprise you know that. 250 00:14:02,910 --> 00:14:04,278 - Really you didn't get it from those guys? 251 00:14:04,311 --> 00:14:05,312 - You know I didn't get it. 252 00:14:05,346 --> 00:14:07,247 - I'm telling you there's something wrong there. 253 00:14:07,281 --> 00:14:08,315 There something wrong with those people. 254 00:14:08,349 --> 00:14:09,249 - No. Val. 255 00:14:09,283 --> 00:14:12,554 - There's something suspicious, I really. 256 00:14:12,587 --> 00:14:15,623 - It's from you, it's you that didn't send me a check. 257 00:14:15,657 --> 00:14:18,025 It's you, you are in charge of sending the check. 258 00:14:18,058 --> 00:14:21,095 - It's what mom wanted honey what do you want me to do? 259 00:14:21,128 --> 00:14:22,963 It's what mom wanted, she wanted me 260 00:14:22,996 --> 00:14:26,668 to be the executor of her estate, she wanted that. 261 00:14:26,701 --> 00:14:30,270 And hmm, I wonder why? I wonder why she thought that 262 00:14:30,304 --> 00:14:31,539 maybe possibly you weren't 263 00:14:31,573 --> 00:14:35,209 responsible enough to handle your own money. 264 00:14:35,242 --> 00:14:36,578 I wonder where I could be thinking 265 00:14:36,611 --> 00:14:38,312 that maybe you still have this problem? 266 00:14:38,345 --> 00:14:40,214 Or was it the time that you missed the plane 267 00:14:40,247 --> 00:14:42,349 and didn't make it to dad's funeral? 268 00:14:42,383 --> 00:14:45,386 Could that have possibly been the reason that, geez. 269 00:14:45,419 --> 00:14:48,255 - I understand I am not a trustworthy person. 270 00:14:48,288 --> 00:14:49,524 I was rebellious, I was this and that. 271 00:14:49,557 --> 00:14:51,291 This is many, many, many years ago. 272 00:14:51,325 --> 00:14:54,428 I have a family I have a career, I have a life. 273 00:14:54,461 --> 00:14:57,965 The person who thinks I'm not responsible is you now. 274 00:15:03,638 --> 00:15:04,639 - How's- 275 00:15:04,672 --> 00:15:06,073 How's Lucas? 276 00:15:06,106 --> 00:15:08,108 - We actually broke up so, 277 00:15:08,643 --> 00:15:11,211 hopefully he's doing wonderfully. 278 00:15:11,245 --> 00:15:15,550 - I'm so sorry, sweetie, what happened? 279 00:15:16,450 --> 00:15:19,587 - He said that he wanted to have kids. 280 00:15:19,621 --> 00:15:23,357 So that was pretty much the end of that. 281 00:15:23,390 --> 00:15:25,159 - You never wanna have kids? 282 00:15:27,327 --> 00:15:29,029 Well I mean I think you're a little young 283 00:15:29,062 --> 00:15:32,634 to making a big decision about your whole life. 284 00:15:32,667 --> 00:15:35,002 You just, I mean, no one can really. 285 00:15:35,770 --> 00:15:40,374 - I don't like wanna do this whole thing. 286 00:15:40,407 --> 00:15:44,978 Like cute little cups, mom home cooking, 287 00:15:45,012 --> 00:15:46,614 while the husband's out. 288 00:15:46,648 --> 00:15:49,049 - Somehow I feel like it's a dig at me, 289 00:15:49,082 --> 00:15:53,621 but I'm sure you're not intending to do that. 290 00:15:54,254 --> 00:15:57,357 - Don't you wish that you had your own thing though? 291 00:15:57,391 --> 00:15:59,627 You know, like dad goes out and goes to work, 292 00:15:59,661 --> 00:16:03,330 I'm not here anymore, and you just don't have, 293 00:16:03,997 --> 00:16:08,603 you know, like your own independent lifestyle. 294 00:16:08,636 --> 00:16:11,038 Doesn't that bother you at all? 295 00:16:11,071 --> 00:16:12,439 - Oh. 296 00:16:13,240 --> 00:16:14,208 Ow. 297 00:16:14,241 --> 00:16:17,545 - Doesn't it though, I mean. 298 00:16:17,579 --> 00:16:19,213 - God, the judgment. 299 00:16:19,246 --> 00:16:23,016 Is there any chance you can just like soften a little 300 00:16:23,050 --> 00:16:24,519 for dear old mom. 301 00:16:24,552 --> 00:16:27,722 - I wanna have a career you gave up your would be career. 302 00:16:27,755 --> 00:16:29,490 - I don't know what it is you think you saw 303 00:16:29,524 --> 00:16:32,092 between your father and me, but we are fine. 304 00:16:32,125 --> 00:16:33,160 There's nothing- - Are you happy? 305 00:16:33,193 --> 00:16:35,028 Are you happy with your marriage? 306 00:16:35,663 --> 00:16:39,500 - Like happiness is not really like a one block thing. 307 00:16:39,534 --> 00:16:42,202 It's not like you find somebody you fall in love, 308 00:16:42,236 --> 00:16:43,538 happy for the rest of your life. 309 00:16:43,571 --> 00:16:46,340 Relationships, it's up and down and up and down 310 00:16:46,373 --> 00:16:50,310 and it takes a lot of fortitude and you're putting your time 311 00:16:50,344 --> 00:16:52,747 and energy into this thing that is movable. 312 00:16:52,780 --> 00:16:55,482 It's more like water, it's not like a rock. 313 00:16:55,517 --> 00:16:57,752 - That's some really beautiful and flowery language 314 00:16:57,785 --> 00:17:01,054 to just say that you were afraid to leave dad 315 00:17:01,088 --> 00:17:02,055 and live your own life. 316 00:17:02,089 --> 00:17:06,293 So you stayed with him and you made me scared 317 00:17:06,326 --> 00:17:08,061 of what I could become. 318 00:17:08,095 --> 00:17:10,598 - Okay I actually can't take this in anymore, 319 00:17:10,632 --> 00:17:12,266 I can't take it in. 320 00:17:12,299 --> 00:17:14,468 Fine, you can have your opinion 321 00:17:14,502 --> 00:17:15,637 and I have my opinion about you. 322 00:17:15,670 --> 00:17:19,172 And quite honestly, you're on a path to be very lonely 323 00:17:19,206 --> 00:17:20,040 in your life. 324 00:17:20,875 --> 00:17:23,410 - Yeah I'm not speaking to you anymore, bye. 325 00:17:23,443 --> 00:17:24,779 - Yeah, fine. 326 00:17:37,257 --> 00:17:38,191 Ugh. 327 00:17:38,225 --> 00:17:40,193 - You weren't there in the hospital for me, 328 00:17:40,227 --> 00:17:41,328 when I had that, 329 00:17:41,361 --> 00:17:44,832 when I had my mastectomy, it really hurt me, it did. 330 00:17:44,866 --> 00:17:47,334 I have to be honest with you, it's very hurtful. 331 00:17:47,367 --> 00:17:48,570 - Oh my God, Val, 332 00:17:48,603 --> 00:17:50,470 I know, you're right. 333 00:17:50,505 --> 00:17:52,707 - My friends were there for me at the hospital 334 00:17:52,740 --> 00:17:55,242 and my friends are like sisters to me, 335 00:17:55,275 --> 00:17:57,712 and I so you know, I'm fine, I'm totally fine. 336 00:17:57,745 --> 00:17:59,547 And the other person who was there, 337 00:17:59,581 --> 00:18:01,749 really, really there for me was Joe. 338 00:18:01,983 --> 00:18:02,884 - Joe. 339 00:18:02,917 --> 00:18:05,252 He was there every single day. 340 00:18:05,285 --> 00:18:06,588 - I know. 341 00:18:06,621 --> 00:18:07,622 - And it made me feel great about myself, 342 00:18:07,655 --> 00:18:09,824 because I was very depressed because you know, 343 00:18:09,857 --> 00:18:11,793 you lose both of your breasts, 344 00:18:11,826 --> 00:18:13,427 and you don't feel like a woman, 345 00:18:13,460 --> 00:18:14,729 but he makes me feel like a woman. 346 00:18:14,762 --> 00:18:16,864 He knows a lot of stuff and oh, by the way, 347 00:18:16,898 --> 00:18:19,333 I just wanna tell you, you're just gonna hate this. 348 00:18:19,366 --> 00:18:21,101 You're going to hate this. 349 00:18:21,636 --> 00:18:22,904 - She's downstairs, 350 00:18:22,937 --> 00:18:25,305 criticizing me and my relationship 351 00:18:25,339 --> 00:18:26,440 and the choices that I've made, 352 00:18:26,473 --> 00:18:29,677 who is she to be giving me advice really on anything, 353 00:18:29,711 --> 00:18:32,379 but especially on relationships and marriage. 354 00:18:32,412 --> 00:18:35,148 - Don't be so quick to judge her. 355 00:18:35,182 --> 00:18:36,450 She loves your father. 356 00:18:36,483 --> 00:18:38,620 Marriage is very complicated. 357 00:18:39,554 --> 00:18:40,722 Really I'm not kidding. 358 00:18:40,755 --> 00:18:42,189 It's, you don't. - I believe it. 359 00:18:42,222 --> 00:18:45,158 You have to be tolerant of your mother. 360 00:18:45,192 --> 00:18:49,831 - I think I just blew it royally with my kid, again. 361 00:18:49,864 --> 00:18:50,765 - Again? 362 00:18:52,399 --> 00:18:53,266 - Ugh. 363 00:18:54,234 --> 00:18:55,268 - I don't think so. 364 00:18:56,436 --> 00:18:59,306 She's wildly unique and wonderful. 365 00:18:59,339 --> 00:19:00,207 - She is. 366 00:19:02,309 --> 00:19:04,612 She's just so mad at me. 367 00:19:05,278 --> 00:19:07,347 - She's going to separate from you 368 00:19:09,383 --> 00:19:11,919 and you have to separate from her. 369 00:19:11,953 --> 00:19:14,221 - I feel like I don't text, I don't call, 370 00:19:14,254 --> 00:19:16,390 I don't say too much, I keep my mouth shut 371 00:19:16,423 --> 00:19:17,424 and still it's like- 372 00:19:17,457 --> 00:19:19,594 - Oh you're the perfect mother. 373 00:19:19,627 --> 00:19:24,364 - I mean, I am in such a flat line moment right now. 374 00:19:26,668 --> 00:19:29,570 - I think it's true probably of every mother, 375 00:19:29,604 --> 00:19:31,506 that the thing you'd like most is for your child 376 00:19:31,539 --> 00:19:35,910 to like the things you like. It would make things so simple. 377 00:19:36,811 --> 00:19:38,746 But it's never true, right? 378 00:19:38,780 --> 00:19:40,982 It's your job to be somebody else. 379 00:19:41,015 --> 00:19:41,883 (chuckles) 380 00:19:41,916 --> 00:19:43,417 It is, right? 381 00:19:44,052 --> 00:19:45,987 And maybe she's having a hard time with it, 382 00:19:46,020 --> 00:19:48,355 but just the listen for the love in it. 383 00:19:48,388 --> 00:19:49,456 Listen for the love in it, 384 00:19:49,489 --> 00:19:51,826 not the content of what she's saying. 385 00:19:51,859 --> 00:19:54,962 She might be getting it all wrong, but she's trying. 386 00:19:54,996 --> 00:19:57,532 - It's so strange to feel like you're a disappointment 387 00:19:57,565 --> 00:19:58,331 to your kid. 388 00:19:58,365 --> 00:20:01,468 - You've been a wonderful mother. 389 00:20:01,502 --> 00:20:02,770 - I think daughters carry 390 00:20:02,804 --> 00:20:04,939 terrible burdens of their mother. 391 00:20:05,540 --> 00:20:08,743 - The unsaid burdens, right? 392 00:20:08,776 --> 00:20:11,879 - The secrets, or the regrets, 393 00:20:11,913 --> 00:20:15,449 or the sacrifices of the mother. 394 00:20:16,450 --> 00:20:17,852 Did you ever get my letter? 395 00:20:19,520 --> 00:20:20,822 (clears throat) -Yeah. 396 00:20:23,624 --> 00:20:25,425 I got your letter. 397 00:20:29,764 --> 00:20:31,264 - Why didn't you answer me? 398 00:20:32,900 --> 00:20:34,669 - I didn't know what to say. 399 00:20:37,739 --> 00:20:42,309 You know, I'm not in love with David 400 00:20:43,511 --> 00:20:45,245 but Hannah you married him. 401 00:20:49,517 --> 00:20:50,417 It's weird. 402 00:20:51,886 --> 00:20:53,888 - It's been really hard between us. 403 00:20:55,422 --> 00:20:56,791 - He's not an easy guy. 404 00:20:57,725 --> 00:20:58,793 (chuckles) 405 00:21:00,628 --> 00:21:03,965 - I just wish I had some way to like answer back to him. 406 00:21:03,998 --> 00:21:04,932 You know? 407 00:21:04,966 --> 00:21:08,803 I feel like I'm getting run over and I just, 408 00:21:08,836 --> 00:21:13,340 I need some caustic witticisms to kind of zing. 409 00:21:13,373 --> 00:21:14,041 (laughs) 410 00:21:14,075 --> 00:21:16,511 I can't like get it out to him. 411 00:21:17,645 --> 00:21:18,646 - Yeah. 412 00:21:18,679 --> 00:21:20,313 - God how do you do it? 413 00:21:20,347 --> 00:21:21,816 - I didn't do it honey, if I'd done it, 414 00:21:21,849 --> 00:21:25,385 we'd still be together okay. 415 00:21:27,522 --> 00:21:28,523 And I warned you. 416 00:21:30,625 --> 00:21:33,928 I warned you if you didn't know who the hell you were, 417 00:21:33,961 --> 00:21:37,832 that you would wind up like the incredible shrinking woman. 418 00:21:41,135 --> 00:21:44,972 - Do you know why my dad divorced Natalie? 419 00:21:49,744 --> 00:21:51,579 - Because she couldn't have a baby. 420 00:21:55,116 --> 00:21:56,017 - Wow. 421 00:21:57,018 --> 00:22:01,022 - I feel like the best years of my life are behind me. 422 00:22:01,055 --> 00:22:01,956 - Oh. 423 00:22:02,757 --> 00:22:03,958 - But I am, 424 00:22:05,827 --> 00:22:07,862 I am super stuck. 425 00:22:09,597 --> 00:22:11,566 Starting at around three o'clock, 426 00:22:11,599 --> 00:22:12,600 this is my deep dark secret. 427 00:22:12,633 --> 00:22:13,668 - Okay. 428 00:22:13,701 --> 00:22:16,804 - I just sit on the couch I manage to get through 429 00:22:16,838 --> 00:22:21,776 to three o'clock and then I'm just totally flat lined. 430 00:22:21,809 --> 00:22:22,743 - And then? 431 00:22:22,777 --> 00:22:25,746 - And then I just can't get up from the couch. 432 00:22:25,780 --> 00:22:27,915 I don't want David to see me, God forbid, 433 00:22:27,949 --> 00:22:30,151 Natalie ever even knew about this. 434 00:22:30,184 --> 00:22:33,855 She already thinks I'm not accomplishing much. 435 00:22:33,888 --> 00:22:36,023 This is so not accomplishing it's- 436 00:22:36,724 --> 00:22:38,425 - But we get up off the couch, right? 437 00:22:38,458 --> 00:22:39,660 - Yes. 438 00:22:39,694 --> 00:22:43,463 - And then we say I have no idea what I'm supposed to do. 439 00:22:43,496 --> 00:22:44,866 That's a big moment. 440 00:22:45,900 --> 00:22:47,500 The "I don't know" moment. 441 00:22:48,435 --> 00:22:49,604 - Yeah. 442 00:22:49,637 --> 00:22:50,805 I don't know. 443 00:22:52,707 --> 00:22:54,075 - I don't know either. 444 00:22:55,475 --> 00:22:56,510 I just trust. 445 00:22:58,846 --> 00:23:01,916 It is a spiritual issue, it is your choice. 446 00:23:02,550 --> 00:23:04,417 Get off the, - I can't. 447 00:23:04,886 --> 00:23:06,721 - Get off, get off. 448 00:23:06,754 --> 00:23:07,588 (laughs) 449 00:23:07,622 --> 00:23:08,856 - Get off this couch. 450 00:23:08,890 --> 00:23:09,857 - I got off the meds 451 00:23:09,891 --> 00:23:14,028 - And I'm totally fine. - No you're foggy. 452 00:23:14,061 --> 00:23:17,698 No I'm not, I got off the meds and I'm totally fine. 453 00:23:17,732 --> 00:23:18,599 - Can I ask, 454 00:23:18,633 --> 00:23:20,534 did you taper off the meds? 455 00:23:20,568 --> 00:23:24,138 You do it with a doctor, did you do it responsibly? 456 00:23:24,171 --> 00:23:26,140 - I know I did it, I know I tapered and don't remember 457 00:23:26,173 --> 00:23:28,676 exactly how went, I can't remember exactly how it went, 458 00:23:28,709 --> 00:23:29,911 but I know I did it, it happened, 459 00:23:29,944 --> 00:23:33,748 and everybody's like totally wanting me to and get involved 460 00:23:33,781 --> 00:23:35,149 in this packing, so I have to go. 461 00:23:35,182 --> 00:23:39,153 So thank you for all your, I really appreciate it. 462 00:23:39,186 --> 00:23:39,887 - Val. 463 00:23:39,921 --> 00:23:40,955 - I love you so. 464 00:23:47,695 --> 00:23:49,897 - Hi, how's it going? 465 00:23:52,133 --> 00:23:53,935 - I'm deciding whether this is a good time 466 00:23:53,968 --> 00:23:57,838 to become an oxycodone addict, what do you think? 467 00:23:57,872 --> 00:23:58,706 I don't know what to do with them 468 00:23:58,739 --> 00:24:00,007 and you can't pour 'em down the sink. 469 00:24:00,041 --> 00:24:02,543 - Wow, Ruth was in all these plays. 470 00:24:02,576 --> 00:24:03,476 - You want this? 471 00:24:04,912 --> 00:24:06,881 I have enough pictures of Natalie. 472 00:24:06,914 --> 00:24:07,982 - Sure. 473 00:24:15,222 --> 00:24:16,023 - Okay. 474 00:24:19,026 --> 00:24:20,661 - My sister's such a bitch. 475 00:24:22,129 --> 00:24:22,997 - Whoa. 476 00:24:24,131 --> 00:24:29,203 - She knows just exactly where to hit. 477 00:24:29,236 --> 00:24:31,505 - Kind of felt that way about Natalie. 478 00:24:31,539 --> 00:24:34,075 - You mean, you thought Natalie did that to you? 479 00:24:34,642 --> 00:24:35,943 She thought you did that to her. 480 00:24:35,977 --> 00:24:37,778 - I don't know maybe all sisters feel 481 00:24:37,812 --> 00:24:39,513 that way about each other. 482 00:24:39,547 --> 00:24:43,517 - Well, I just know that she was worried about your 483 00:24:44,251 --> 00:24:47,521 being angry or envious or something 484 00:24:47,555 --> 00:24:50,992 and just didn't seem to ever work. 485 00:24:51,025 --> 00:24:52,293 - Well, of course I was. 486 00:24:52,326 --> 00:24:54,996 You saw the way mom was with her. 487 00:24:55,529 --> 00:24:59,300 I mean, there's only one picture of one of us in here. 488 00:24:59,333 --> 00:25:01,602 - Yeah, that's kind of how it was with me too. 489 00:25:01,635 --> 00:25:04,972 I had that all that time with my mom before Lizzie was born 490 00:25:05,006 --> 00:25:09,543 and we were a team, my mom and I. 491 00:25:09,577 --> 00:25:13,547 - Do you think that Lizzie felt weird about her being gay 492 00:25:13,581 --> 00:25:15,983 and you weren't gay and life was harder for her? 493 00:25:16,017 --> 00:25:18,719 - I think I've kind of known about it for a while, 494 00:25:18,753 --> 00:25:19,754 you know. 495 00:25:20,154 --> 00:25:24,258 I think I kind of suspected it and stuff, 496 00:25:25,026 --> 00:25:30,631 and I didn't wanna talk about it or anything because, 497 00:25:30,664 --> 00:25:32,199 I was scared of it. 498 00:25:32,233 --> 00:25:33,768 - I can't tell mom and dad. 499 00:25:33,801 --> 00:25:34,769 - No. 500 00:25:34,802 --> 00:25:37,772 - So I really need you to tell me it's alright. 501 00:25:42,076 --> 00:25:43,778 - What's in here? 502 00:25:46,714 --> 00:25:50,618 - Well, yeah there's a lot of stuff that's starting to 503 00:25:50,651 --> 00:25:51,819 probably, oh my God. 504 00:25:51,852 --> 00:25:52,820 - Oh look at this, geez. 505 00:25:52,853 --> 00:25:54,021 - That's hideous. 506 00:25:54,055 --> 00:25:56,190 - No that's for me, this is for me, let me get it on. 507 00:25:56,223 --> 00:25:58,726 - You like it really? - Yeah. 508 00:25:58,759 --> 00:25:59,927 - I can't wear anything of hers. 509 00:25:59,960 --> 00:26:01,695 - I could wear it to the bull fights. 510 00:26:01,729 --> 00:26:03,798 (laughs) 511 00:26:04,865 --> 00:26:06,033 Oh, this is you. 512 00:26:06,067 --> 00:26:06,934 - Oh, you think? 513 00:26:06,967 --> 00:26:08,302 - Oh yeah, well they both, 514 00:26:08,335 --> 00:26:11,806 I can't believe she ever wore those oh my God. 515 00:26:12,406 --> 00:26:14,008 - This was a classic. - What was she thinking? 516 00:26:14,041 --> 00:26:15,976 - I think she was trying to be Minnie Pearl. 517 00:26:16,010 --> 00:26:17,812 - Yeah she was like. 518 00:26:17,845 --> 00:26:19,780 - You know like, oh here this is trash. 519 00:26:20,781 --> 00:26:22,349 Yeah, that's not a keeper. 520 00:26:22,950 --> 00:26:25,853 - Why did she keep coffee in her bedroom? 521 00:26:25,886 --> 00:26:29,924 - Don't open that, it's ashes, her ashes. 522 00:26:29,957 --> 00:26:31,158 - God! Ah! 523 00:26:31,192 --> 00:26:35,062 - You remember when she did that whole commercial campaign 524 00:26:35,096 --> 00:26:38,099 for Monarch Coffee, it was at the height of the 50s 525 00:26:38,132 --> 00:26:40,401 they paid her so much money to do. 526 00:26:40,434 --> 00:26:40,701 It paid for this house. 527 00:26:40,734 --> 00:26:41,869 - Wow. 528 00:26:41,902 --> 00:26:45,873 - So she decides years ago that she's gonna be cremated 529 00:26:46,440 --> 00:26:50,644 and she wants her ashes in a Monarch Coffee can. 530 00:26:50,678 --> 00:26:53,214 Remember they had that tagline, that slogan, 531 00:26:54,181 --> 00:26:57,685 "The end justifies the beans." 532 00:26:57,718 --> 00:26:58,686 (laughs) 533 00:26:58,719 --> 00:26:59,920 - Oh God. - Yeah. 534 00:26:59,954 --> 00:27:02,389 (upbeat music) 535 00:27:21,842 --> 00:27:26,847 - Oh my gosh, my wings. 536 00:27:27,114 --> 00:27:30,084 - Now I gotta get my little skirt going with my wings. 537 00:27:31,118 --> 00:27:32,319 - Get your wing away from me. 538 00:27:32,353 --> 00:27:34,288 - Sorry I'm running into your wings. 539 00:27:34,321 --> 00:27:35,456 (laughs) 540 00:27:35,489 --> 00:27:39,727 - Oh my gosh, I think these were mine, these marbles. 541 00:27:39,760 --> 00:27:40,861 - Do remember playing? 542 00:27:40,895 --> 00:27:44,298 - No, these were from my brain, mom had them removed. 543 00:27:44,331 --> 00:27:47,735 - Oh, check it out, our championship paddles. 544 00:27:47,768 --> 00:27:50,171 - You just figure them out, the algorithms are on my desk. 545 00:27:50,204 --> 00:27:51,906 - What is this, A Viking Myth? 546 00:27:51,939 --> 00:27:52,806 - [Rheza] May I sell a watch? 547 00:27:52,840 --> 00:27:53,974 - I'd really like that one. 548 00:27:54,008 --> 00:27:55,042 - [Shelley] Okay, here you take this. 549 00:27:55,075 --> 00:27:57,912 Look at this watch, this is a very cheap watch. 550 00:27:59,079 --> 00:28:00,080 - Okay, thank you bye. 551 00:28:00,114 --> 00:28:01,782 - You end up with all the books. 552 00:28:01,815 --> 00:28:04,752 - The first chapter of David Copperfield is called, 553 00:28:04,785 --> 00:28:06,187 "I am born." 554 00:28:06,987 --> 00:28:07,888 - What is that? 555 00:28:08,989 --> 00:28:11,492 - Can I have that when you die? 556 00:28:11,526 --> 00:28:13,827 - You want everything when I die. 557 00:28:14,862 --> 00:28:15,896 - Who uses these anymore? 558 00:28:15,930 --> 00:28:16,730 - Hi kids. 559 00:28:16,764 --> 00:28:18,032 - We made angels. 560 00:28:18,065 --> 00:28:20,134 (chattering) 561 00:28:20,167 --> 00:28:22,770 (laughing and chattering) 562 00:28:23,437 --> 00:28:25,839 - Going, going, gone. White Christmas DVD. 563 00:28:26,207 --> 00:28:28,842 - Oh, - That's a great one. 564 00:28:28,876 --> 00:28:30,444 - Yeah that's a good one. 565 00:28:30,477 --> 00:28:31,513 - Sinatra Can-Can. 566 00:28:31,546 --> 00:28:32,313 - Oh. 567 00:28:32,346 --> 00:28:33,380 - That's a great one. 568 00:28:33,414 --> 00:28:35,749 - Oh God, we're never gonna throw anything away. 569 00:28:35,783 --> 00:28:36,784 Esther Williams? 570 00:28:36,817 --> 00:28:38,052 - Oh Esther Williams. 571 00:28:38,085 --> 00:28:39,053 - A Wonderful Life? 572 00:28:39,086 --> 00:28:40,187 - Oh. 573 00:28:40,221 --> 00:28:42,990 - That's kind of how I thought about our little sweet 574 00:28:43,023 --> 00:28:45,492 little town, when we were growing up. 575 00:28:45,527 --> 00:28:46,860 - Yes it was. 576 00:28:46,894 --> 00:28:48,896 - We had time for each other. 577 00:28:48,929 --> 00:28:49,997 - Not so nice for you. 578 00:28:50,030 --> 00:28:52,366 (laughs) 579 00:28:52,399 --> 00:28:54,301 - What are we talking about? 580 00:28:54,335 --> 00:28:56,437 - When I was in school, everybody either wanted 581 00:28:56,470 --> 00:28:58,405 to be my friend because my mother was famous 582 00:28:58,439 --> 00:29:00,307 or the teachers were disappointed 583 00:29:00,341 --> 00:29:01,909 that I wasn't Natalie. 584 00:29:01,942 --> 00:29:04,445 - But it's also different for me because growing up 585 00:29:04,478 --> 00:29:07,214 in a place where people don't look like you, 586 00:29:07,248 --> 00:29:09,116 it was pretty isolating. 587 00:29:09,149 --> 00:29:12,019 - This town is very, very, very, very white. 588 00:29:12,052 --> 00:29:16,857 - It's very homogenous and people definitely growing up 589 00:29:16,890 --> 00:29:18,993 and kids are mean, but people were very quick 590 00:29:19,026 --> 00:29:20,494 to make me feel like the other. 591 00:29:20,528 --> 00:29:23,297 When I was little, it was the, you know, oh, 592 00:29:23,330 --> 00:29:24,566 does the color rub off? 593 00:29:24,599 --> 00:29:28,068 Then it evolves to when you're an actual teenager and people 594 00:29:28,102 --> 00:29:32,273 saying really offensive things and nobody asking you to prom 595 00:29:32,306 --> 00:29:36,043 because they're a target, if they're taking the only black 596 00:29:36,076 --> 00:29:37,579 girl in the class, that kind of thing. 597 00:29:37,612 --> 00:29:38,979 - Oh, I never heard that. 598 00:29:39,013 --> 00:29:41,782 - I'm glad to hear about this. 599 00:29:42,449 --> 00:29:46,253 We have such different experience of life. 600 00:29:46,287 --> 00:29:47,855 I mean, you know. 601 00:29:47,888 --> 00:29:50,491 - Yeah, you have the privilege to not have to see this. 602 00:29:53,093 --> 00:29:53,961 - Serious ladies. 603 00:29:53,994 --> 00:29:54,895 - Whoa. 604 00:29:56,397 --> 00:29:57,931 - See, I got you on that one. 605 00:29:57,965 --> 00:29:58,832 - Woo! 606 00:29:58,866 --> 00:30:00,167 Oh my God. 607 00:30:00,434 --> 00:30:04,004 (shouting and laughing) 608 00:30:29,564 --> 00:30:30,264 - Ready? 609 00:30:30,297 --> 00:30:31,365 - Yeah. 610 00:30:32,299 --> 00:30:34,001 - What? Oh so good. 611 00:30:34,034 --> 00:30:35,469 - Oh sorry. 612 00:30:35,503 --> 00:30:37,605 (sobbing) 613 00:30:45,680 --> 00:30:46,581 (sobs) 614 00:30:49,350 --> 00:30:51,919 (laughing) 615 00:30:51,952 --> 00:30:53,020 - Nice Rheza. 616 00:30:53,053 --> 00:30:54,021 - Yeah. 617 00:30:54,054 --> 00:30:54,955 - Oh! 618 00:30:57,625 --> 00:30:59,927 (sobbing) 619 00:31:03,263 --> 00:31:05,265 (shouting and laughing) 620 00:31:05,299 --> 00:31:06,668 - We only play under the net now. 621 00:31:06,701 --> 00:31:08,135 - Under the net. 622 00:31:15,643 --> 00:31:18,345 (slow music) 623 00:31:29,524 --> 00:31:33,528 - So frustrating, Charlie and I were panting for each other. 624 00:31:33,561 --> 00:31:36,698 So I mean, we were only 10, so we probably weren't panting, 625 00:31:36,731 --> 00:31:40,200 but he runs out the door, he and his friend run out the door 626 00:31:40,234 --> 00:31:42,504 and I ran after him and I grab him 627 00:31:42,537 --> 00:31:44,037 and I kiss him on the mouth. 628 00:31:44,071 --> 00:31:44,972 - Oo! 629 00:31:45,005 --> 00:31:46,940 - It was the boldest thing I've ever done. 630 00:31:46,974 --> 00:31:47,675 - That was so brave. 631 00:31:47,709 --> 00:31:48,843 - It is. 632 00:31:48,877 --> 00:31:53,046 - My first kiss was from a boy named Archie Stalemate. 633 00:31:53,080 --> 00:31:53,748 (laughing) 634 00:31:53,782 --> 00:31:56,216 I kid you not, it just happened. 635 00:31:56,250 --> 00:31:57,317 - Yeah. 636 00:31:57,351 --> 00:32:00,020 - And to start my period that night. 637 00:32:00,053 --> 00:32:02,724 But I thought I was very, I didn't know what was happening 638 00:32:02,757 --> 00:32:04,692 and I thought it was tied into this fact 639 00:32:04,726 --> 00:32:07,562 that I felt something like, I got turned on. 640 00:32:07,595 --> 00:32:10,964 So when I went to the bathroom and I saw this thing, 641 00:32:10,998 --> 00:32:14,736 I thought it was because I had been bad 642 00:32:14,769 --> 00:32:16,470 and had kissed and gotten turned on. 643 00:32:16,504 --> 00:32:19,273 So I thought something somehow connected 644 00:32:19,306 --> 00:32:21,576 guilt, shame, immediately. 645 00:32:21,609 --> 00:32:21,876 - Yeah. 646 00:32:21,910 --> 00:32:22,844 - Wow. 647 00:32:22,877 --> 00:32:26,246 - I remember the first guy that felt me up. 648 00:32:26,280 --> 00:32:27,114 - Okay. 649 00:32:27,147 --> 00:32:28,248 Second base. 650 00:32:28,282 --> 00:32:30,317 - It was like one of those things where it was like, 651 00:32:30,350 --> 00:32:34,154 you were just sort of, it was awful feeling me up. 652 00:32:34,188 --> 00:32:37,090 That was kind of my, me too movement that moment. 653 00:32:37,124 --> 00:32:41,195 13, 14, I didn't wanna be felt up and I was. 654 00:32:41,228 --> 00:32:42,162 - What did you do? 655 00:32:42,196 --> 00:32:44,465 - And I don't love that I'm about to say this. 656 00:32:44,498 --> 00:32:46,568 I think I just was silent. 657 00:32:48,035 --> 00:32:48,670 Just like. 658 00:32:48,703 --> 00:32:50,270 - That's what most of us do. 659 00:32:50,304 --> 00:32:51,773 If you could be born a man would you be? 660 00:32:51,806 --> 00:32:56,143 - No, I love being underestimated as a woman 661 00:32:56,176 --> 00:32:59,446 and then showing up and crushing it with a smile. 662 00:32:59,747 --> 00:33:00,949 - Yeah. 663 00:33:00,981 --> 00:33:04,251 - And having it charm them and scare them at the same time 664 00:33:04,284 --> 00:33:07,789 and you can only do that as a woman and I love that feeling. 665 00:33:07,822 --> 00:33:10,525 - Be nice to be able to pee standing up though. 666 00:33:10,558 --> 00:33:12,493 - So what is something that you've never told 667 00:33:12,527 --> 00:33:14,061 your significant other? 668 00:33:16,396 --> 00:33:18,432 - Sometimes when we're having sex, 669 00:33:18,465 --> 00:33:21,134 I imagine he's like Vladimir Putin. 670 00:33:22,369 --> 00:33:23,403 - No don't. 671 00:33:23,437 --> 00:33:24,304 - No, you're joking right? 672 00:33:24,338 --> 00:33:25,472 - Stop. 673 00:33:25,507 --> 00:33:30,177 - Are you like really, does that make the sex better? 674 00:33:30,210 --> 00:33:31,178 - No, no. 675 00:33:31,211 --> 00:33:33,447 - Please tell me you're making this up right? 676 00:33:33,480 --> 00:33:34,549 - Yeah please. 677 00:33:34,582 --> 00:33:36,316 - I'm not really. - Oh my God. 678 00:33:36,350 --> 00:33:37,519 - I'm sorry I forgot you were here. 679 00:33:37,552 --> 00:33:41,088 - You mean like Vladimir Putin from Saturday Night Live? 680 00:33:41,121 --> 00:33:43,591 - Let's just move along to something else. 681 00:33:43,625 --> 00:33:46,694 - So outrageous something like Putin really? 682 00:33:46,728 --> 00:33:50,532 - It was in the early days before all the terrible spying 683 00:33:50,565 --> 00:33:52,466 on the United States of America. 684 00:33:52,499 --> 00:33:54,301 - Like naked from the waist up on the horse? 685 00:33:54,334 --> 00:33:55,269 - On the horse. 686 00:33:55,302 --> 00:33:56,169 (laughs) 687 00:33:56,203 --> 00:33:57,304 - That kinda got me. 688 00:33:57,337 --> 00:33:59,741 - Yeah, that got you, yeah it got most of Russia too. 689 00:33:59,774 --> 00:34:00,975 (laughing) 690 00:34:01,009 --> 00:34:05,212 - I never told my husband that I wanted a lot of children. 691 00:34:05,245 --> 00:34:06,113 - Oh. 692 00:34:06,714 --> 00:34:10,552 - We had two children and I felt that he, 693 00:34:10,585 --> 00:34:14,254 at that point felt that that was enough 694 00:34:14,288 --> 00:34:17,592 and I didn't tell him. 695 00:34:18,325 --> 00:34:21,663 - You didn't tell him that that's an important thing 696 00:34:21,696 --> 00:34:24,566 that you wanted and you, why? 697 00:34:24,599 --> 00:34:27,134 - Because I instinctively felt that, you know 698 00:34:27,167 --> 00:34:30,738 he was the provider he was, basically the, 699 00:34:30,772 --> 00:34:33,106 the one in charge of the farm and, 700 00:34:34,776 --> 00:34:36,711 that we weren't gonna have a huge amount of money, 701 00:34:36,744 --> 00:34:38,613 that it would put a strain on him 702 00:34:38,646 --> 00:34:42,316 and that it would affect him deeply because if he felt 703 00:34:42,349 --> 00:34:47,187 at any point he was failing us, it would kill him. 704 00:34:47,220 --> 00:34:49,524 - You are the kindest person in the world. 705 00:34:49,557 --> 00:34:50,525 - She is. 706 00:34:50,558 --> 00:34:51,859 She so is. 707 00:34:51,893 --> 00:34:54,394 - Or maybe the most dishonest I don't know. 708 00:34:54,428 --> 00:34:55,295 - No. 709 00:34:55,329 --> 00:34:56,564 - But I just kept it in. 710 00:34:59,466 --> 00:35:00,635 - I promise this is not a way 711 00:35:00,668 --> 00:35:02,537 to get out of cleaning up, but I need to- 712 00:35:02,570 --> 00:35:03,905 I wanna take Natalie upstairs for a second 713 00:35:03,938 --> 00:35:05,673 I have something I have to give you. 714 00:35:05,707 --> 00:35:06,774 - Okay. - Okay. 715 00:35:11,913 --> 00:35:12,814 I, um - 716 00:35:14,916 --> 00:35:20,220 I have to tell you a secret, that I've never told anyone, 717 00:35:22,289 --> 00:35:26,126 but it's really important that you hear this. 718 00:35:27,695 --> 00:35:33,166 When my sister was dying, she was in so much pain 719 00:35:34,802 --> 00:35:39,339 and she made a decision to end her life, 720 00:35:40,541 --> 00:35:45,546 but these were the days that it was illegal, 721 00:35:45,947 --> 00:35:49,216 there was no such thing as assisted suicide anywhere. 722 00:35:49,249 --> 00:35:50,150 - Yeah. 723 00:35:50,685 --> 00:35:53,353 - She knew that mom and all of her friends, 724 00:35:53,387 --> 00:35:54,555 wouldn't be able to do it. 725 00:35:55,188 --> 00:36:00,427 So, she called me, talked to her and told me that, 726 00:36:01,529 --> 00:36:03,631 well because we weren't very close, 727 00:36:04,565 --> 00:36:07,568 that she thought that I would be able to do it. 728 00:36:07,602 --> 00:36:08,268 - That's terrible. 729 00:36:08,301 --> 00:36:10,437 - Yeah it was. - So sorry. 730 00:36:10,470 --> 00:36:11,405 - I just left. 731 00:36:11,839 --> 00:36:12,940 I, I- 732 00:36:13,173 --> 00:36:15,342 I didn't even know how to react. 733 00:36:15,375 --> 00:36:17,444 I went to my therapist, talked to him he said, 734 00:36:17,477 --> 00:36:19,212 you can't talk to me about this. 735 00:36:20,247 --> 00:36:21,582 I would have to report it. 736 00:36:22,349 --> 00:36:25,318 Especially if you did it, it's a crime. 737 00:36:26,721 --> 00:36:28,255 And then I realized I wouldn't even be able 738 00:36:28,288 --> 00:36:29,590 to talk to him about it. 739 00:36:29,624 --> 00:36:31,526 - Wow, that's awful. 740 00:36:31,559 --> 00:36:34,662 - I thought, oh great, she's asked me to, 741 00:36:34,696 --> 00:36:35,863 to do the worst thing I would ever do in my life, 742 00:36:35,897 --> 00:36:39,332 and I wouldn't even be able to talk to anybody about it. 743 00:36:41,401 --> 00:36:49,276 But then, all my life I'd been wanting to be close to Natalie. 744 00:36:50,745 --> 00:36:51,946 And I had never been. 745 00:36:54,649 --> 00:36:58,686 And I felt so terrible, when I just abandoned her 746 00:36:58,720 --> 00:37:03,558 and I left and she was alone and she was in pain 747 00:37:03,591 --> 00:37:07,427 and I felt so bad about that. 748 00:37:07,461 --> 00:37:11,666 And so I went to her and I said, 749 00:37:12,432 --> 00:37:15,268 I can't help you do this, I can't do that, 750 00:37:15,302 --> 00:37:19,406 but I can be there for you I can be with you. 751 00:37:20,742 --> 00:37:25,813 When we sat for hours and talked and talked, 752 00:37:28,315 --> 00:37:29,349 it was very healing. 753 00:37:30,417 --> 00:37:33,487 But one of the things that we talked about was you. 754 00:37:35,388 --> 00:37:36,591 - Why me? 755 00:37:36,624 --> 00:37:39,660 I wasn't even, wasn't even born yet. 756 00:37:40,528 --> 00:37:41,796 - You were on the way. 757 00:37:42,897 --> 00:37:44,665 She wrote you this letter. 758 00:37:45,867 --> 00:37:48,903 Now, I was gonna mail it to you but, 759 00:37:49,971 --> 00:37:50,805 I'm, 760 00:37:51,438 --> 00:37:54,909 I'm so glad that I can give this to you now 761 00:37:54,942 --> 00:37:57,845 because she wanted me to wait until you turn 25. 762 00:37:57,879 --> 00:38:00,347 And so now I can, and you're here and. 763 00:38:08,589 --> 00:38:10,525 - Dear, oh so beautiful girl. 764 00:38:11,458 --> 00:38:13,393 I know you'll be a girl 765 00:38:13,426 --> 00:38:16,798 and I know you'll be beautiful like your mother. 766 00:38:17,598 --> 00:38:20,835 And sensitive, compassionate, creative, 767 00:38:20,868 --> 00:38:23,971 and that you'll feel things deeply just like her, 768 00:38:24,005 --> 00:38:26,507 and you'll also be smart and ambitious 769 00:38:26,541 --> 00:38:29,110 and headstrong like your father. 770 00:38:29,143 --> 00:38:30,477 (chuckles) 771 00:38:31,411 --> 00:38:35,516 But sometimes those qualities can be at war with each other. 772 00:38:36,517 --> 00:38:39,486 And perhaps you might think your strength lies 773 00:38:39,520 --> 00:38:41,388 in all your father's qualities, 774 00:38:41,923 --> 00:38:44,826 and you might not see who your mother really is, 775 00:38:44,859 --> 00:38:49,429 because your mother doesn't, at least not yet. 776 00:38:50,264 --> 00:38:53,801 But I do and I wanted to tell you a story. 777 00:38:54,535 --> 00:38:57,505 [Natalie] At camp, I was Hannah's counselor. 778 00:38:57,538 --> 00:38:59,674 I don't know if you know what color war is, 779 00:38:59,707 --> 00:39:00,808 or if it even still exists. 780 00:39:00,842 --> 00:39:02,543 - Oh, it does. 781 00:39:02,577 --> 00:39:05,780 - The camp would be divided into two sides, two colors, 782 00:39:05,813 --> 00:39:07,949 and they would compete at sports. 783 00:39:07,982 --> 00:39:11,152 Hannah was a terrific swimmer, the best in the camp. 784 00:39:11,185 --> 00:39:12,920 She was a mermaid. - She's amazing. 785 00:39:12,954 --> 00:39:15,957 - There was a swim meet, four girls on each side, 786 00:39:15,990 --> 00:39:18,626 and they would swim out to the dock and back. 787 00:39:18,659 --> 00:39:20,862 The strongest swimmers go last. 788 00:39:20,895 --> 00:39:22,864 The girls were even when your mother 789 00:39:22,897 --> 00:39:26,033 and the girl from the other team dove into the water. 790 00:39:26,067 --> 00:39:28,636 They touched the dock at the same time 791 00:39:28,669 --> 00:39:30,805 and were neck and neck swimming back. 792 00:39:30,838 --> 00:39:33,908 It was close, but the other girl won. 793 00:39:33,941 --> 00:39:36,744 And the other girl was hugged and praised, 794 00:39:36,777 --> 00:39:38,746 and got to hold the trophy. 795 00:39:38,779 --> 00:39:40,882 You see the other girl wasn't liked. 796 00:39:40,915 --> 00:39:42,950 She wasn't pretty, spoke too loud, 797 00:39:42,984 --> 00:39:45,586 said the wrong thing at the wrong time. 798 00:39:45,620 --> 00:39:46,921 But Hannah being Hannah, 799 00:39:46,954 --> 00:39:48,923 saw what the other girls didn't, 800 00:39:48,956 --> 00:39:51,692 a girl wanted desperately to fit in. 801 00:39:51,726 --> 00:39:55,830 So your mother threw the race. That took compassion, 802 00:39:55,863 --> 00:39:59,466 that took selflessness and that's your mother. 803 00:39:59,499 --> 00:40:00,635 I hope she knows that. 804 00:40:01,235 --> 00:40:04,505 I know I've gone on too long, but I'm a writer. 805 00:40:04,538 --> 00:40:08,809 Ask your mother, better yet just hug her for me. 806 00:40:08,843 --> 00:40:12,847 I send you my love beautiful girl, Natalie. 807 00:40:23,691 --> 00:40:24,926 - Thank you. 808 00:40:24,959 --> 00:40:27,862 (upbeat music) 809 00:40:28,796 --> 00:40:31,065 - [Natalie] My mother used to get a script 810 00:40:31,098 --> 00:40:32,266 and immediately turn to 811 00:40:32,300 --> 00:40:36,003 the last page to see what happened to her character. 812 00:40:36,037 --> 00:40:38,039 She said, if she didn't know the end, 813 00:40:38,072 --> 00:40:39,974 she wouldn't know how to play all the scenes 814 00:40:40,007 --> 00:40:41,474 that came before. 815 00:40:42,043 --> 00:40:45,780 So I wonder if I could tell one of my friends, 816 00:40:45,813 --> 00:40:49,016 what's gonna happen to her, should I? 817 00:40:49,050 --> 00:40:53,087 And would that make living it easier or harder? 818 00:40:53,120 --> 00:40:54,956 And which one would I tell? 819 00:40:59,627 --> 00:41:01,929 - Oh my, you are attached that balloon, aren't you, 820 00:41:01,963 --> 00:41:04,131 can you put the balloon down for a minute? 821 00:41:06,634 --> 00:41:08,235 - What time is she coming? 822 00:41:08,269 --> 00:41:09,637 - Three O'clock. 823 00:41:10,771 --> 00:41:12,273 - What time is it now? 824 00:41:12,306 --> 00:41:13,641 - 2:45. 825 00:41:14,275 --> 00:41:15,176 - Excited. 826 00:41:20,815 --> 00:41:22,216 - Hey Kenai. 827 00:41:24,585 --> 00:41:25,686 Hey Kasha. 828 00:41:38,265 --> 00:41:40,568 I gotta tell you something, okay? 829 00:41:43,237 --> 00:41:44,238 (sighs) 830 00:41:45,740 --> 00:41:47,541 I have to go. 831 00:41:47,575 --> 00:41:49,977 I don't wanna go, I don't wanna leave you. 832 00:41:54,315 --> 00:41:55,216 (sighs) 833 00:41:55,249 --> 00:41:57,151 I remember when you were born, 834 00:42:00,588 --> 00:42:02,023 Kenai look at me. 835 00:42:05,760 --> 00:42:06,660 Thank you. 836 00:42:09,330 --> 00:42:11,599 (laughs) 837 00:42:14,668 --> 00:42:17,238 (wolves howling) 838 00:42:21,876 --> 00:42:23,010 (howling) 839 00:42:31,886 --> 00:42:34,088 I'm not gonna forget you. 840 00:42:46,067 --> 00:42:49,070 (wolves howling) 841 00:42:59,914 --> 00:43:02,683 (country music) 842 00:43:04,085 --> 00:43:07,955 - You know, I sing this song with my guys in the bar. 843 00:43:07,988 --> 00:43:08,856 - You do? 844 00:43:08,889 --> 00:43:09,824 - My band yeah. 845 00:43:10,424 --> 00:43:13,694 - You are the sexiest woman on the planet. 846 00:43:13,727 --> 00:43:15,963 - Tell that to my fireman. 847 00:43:15,996 --> 00:43:17,364 - How's that going? 848 00:43:17,398 --> 00:43:21,635 - Oh he's so, he's just given up on me. 849 00:43:21,669 --> 00:43:22,603 - Oh, no, you broke up? 850 00:43:22,636 --> 00:43:24,738 - Well I thought he was gonna leave his wife 851 00:43:24,772 --> 00:43:26,373 which was a little weird. 852 00:43:26,407 --> 00:43:27,509 - I'm sorry. 853 00:43:27,542 --> 00:43:30,644 - But I kind of got my eye on my lead guitar player, 854 00:43:30,678 --> 00:43:32,012 Barry, he's very hot. 855 00:43:32,046 --> 00:43:33,414 (camera clicks) 856 00:43:33,447 --> 00:43:34,281 - I love that face. 857 00:43:34,315 --> 00:43:38,352 - I'm gonna, could you just get that? 858 00:43:38,385 --> 00:43:41,355 - Oh, your hair, your wonderful hair wait, let me go closer. 859 00:43:41,388 --> 00:43:42,323 (camera clicks) 860 00:43:42,356 --> 00:43:42,723 - Got it? 861 00:43:42,756 --> 00:43:43,525 - Got it. 862 00:43:43,558 --> 00:43:46,327 - Cause this is my last donation, 863 00:43:46,360 --> 00:43:49,363 I'm gonna, you know, locks for love. 864 00:43:57,972 --> 00:43:59,673 - I applied to grad school. 865 00:44:00,741 --> 00:44:03,944 - Oh my God you've been wanting to do that forever. 866 00:44:03,978 --> 00:44:06,313 - Classical studies I'm super excited. 867 00:44:07,181 --> 00:44:08,415 Thank you Val. 868 00:44:08,449 --> 00:44:12,753 Thank you I'm waiting to hear, I can't wait, I hope, I hope. 869 00:44:12,786 --> 00:44:14,121 - What time's she coming? 870 00:44:14,889 --> 00:44:17,791 - She's coming sometime after three. 871 00:44:19,193 --> 00:44:21,929 - Okay good, we have a little time. 872 00:44:21,962 --> 00:44:23,197 - Yeah. 873 00:44:28,135 --> 00:44:31,238 (background music) 874 00:44:55,863 --> 00:44:56,797 - Can you take your glasses off? 875 00:44:56,830 --> 00:44:57,798 - Okay. 876 00:44:57,831 --> 00:44:58,165 - Only for a second. - Right. 877 00:44:58,199 --> 00:44:59,266 - Got it. 878 00:44:59,300 --> 00:45:02,169 - Okay that was right, that was a second all right. 879 00:45:03,771 --> 00:45:05,072 - What's going on? 880 00:45:05,105 --> 00:45:06,273 (camera clicks) 881 00:45:06,541 --> 00:45:07,474 - She's early! 882 00:45:09,043 --> 00:45:11,345 - You fearless goddess person, 883 00:45:11,378 --> 00:45:14,815 who's gonna kick the four corners of the universe. 884 00:45:14,848 --> 00:45:17,051 (chatttering) 885 00:45:17,084 --> 00:45:19,086 - Good bye tension happy pension. 886 00:45:19,119 --> 00:45:20,387 - Yeah! 887 00:45:20,421 --> 00:45:22,323 - Picture! 888 00:45:22,356 --> 00:45:24,124 Everybody face forward. 889 00:45:24,158 --> 00:45:25,359 All right, ready? 890 00:45:25,392 --> 00:45:27,361 Say uterus! 891 00:45:27,394 --> 00:45:28,829 - Uterus! 892 00:45:28,862 --> 00:45:30,030 (camera clicks) 893 00:45:30,064 --> 00:45:34,034 - Look at this beauty, who's gonna go out into the world 894 00:45:34,068 --> 00:45:36,036 and teach us how- 895 00:45:36,070 --> 00:45:37,004 - Wait, what? 896 00:45:37,037 --> 00:45:41,442 - I'm not, I'm not retiring. 897 00:45:42,810 --> 00:45:45,045 I got fired this morning. 898 00:45:45,079 --> 00:45:46,747 - Oh, what? 899 00:45:48,816 --> 00:45:52,486 - Wait, wait, wait, Val I thought you said that 900 00:45:52,520 --> 00:45:54,488 I thought you said that this was - 901 00:45:54,522 --> 00:45:56,890 - Well, Sally on the board she told me 902 00:45:56,924 --> 00:45:59,126 that they were retiring her. 903 00:45:59,159 --> 00:46:00,828 - No, no, no, no. 904 00:46:00,861 --> 00:46:04,865 "Retiring her", that's code for that you're getting fired. 905 00:46:06,000 --> 00:46:07,067 - Oh God I feel terrible. 906 00:46:07,101 --> 00:46:07,968 - Rheza! 907 00:46:08,002 --> 00:46:09,870 - It's okay, it's okay. 908 00:46:11,606 --> 00:46:14,208 - Now I've wrecked all this and everything. 909 00:46:14,241 --> 00:46:16,010 - It's all right, it's okay. 910 00:46:16,043 --> 00:46:18,245 (waves crashing) 911 00:46:43,037 --> 00:46:45,906 - This is not just about me. 912 00:46:45,939 --> 00:46:50,911 Patrick has been so depressed. 913 00:46:51,879 --> 00:46:55,215 It's so much harder to run a small farm. It gets harder 914 00:46:55,249 --> 00:46:57,951 and harder, you can't get help you can't keep help. 915 00:46:59,186 --> 00:47:00,254 He's older. 916 00:47:05,292 --> 00:47:07,294 He's in despair about the environment. 917 00:47:08,028 --> 00:47:10,230 He made us write letters to our children 918 00:47:10,264 --> 00:47:12,333 and our grandchild apologizing. 919 00:47:14,335 --> 00:47:17,938 I'm scared Maggie, I, we could fall apart. 920 00:47:20,441 --> 00:47:23,210 Oh God and then there's the animals. 921 00:47:23,243 --> 00:47:25,547 (sobbing) 922 00:47:25,580 --> 00:47:26,413 - Oh. 923 00:47:26,447 --> 00:47:31,619 - You know, we caged them 924 00:47:31,952 --> 00:47:34,288 and we try to give them happy lives. 925 00:47:34,321 --> 00:47:37,525 I'm not under any illusion that we do. 926 00:47:37,559 --> 00:47:38,459 Oh Maggie 927 00:47:41,261 --> 00:47:46,634 - I believe, God has big plans for you. 928 00:47:46,668 --> 00:47:47,535 (laughs) 929 00:47:47,569 --> 00:47:48,235 Well, I do. 930 00:47:48,268 --> 00:47:50,270 - He's gonna be up all night. 931 00:47:50,304 --> 00:47:51,338 - Big plans! 932 00:47:55,543 --> 00:48:00,347 - You gave me a quote years ago about the animals, 933 00:48:01,281 --> 00:48:02,950 they're not underlings. 934 00:48:04,385 --> 00:48:08,088 - [Both] They're other nations. 935 00:48:08,122 --> 00:48:12,359 - Like ourselves captured in the web of time and life. 936 00:48:13,193 --> 00:48:14,562 Fellow prisoners. 937 00:48:15,963 --> 00:48:17,331 - Your work's not done. 938 00:48:21,301 --> 00:48:23,170 Oh my dear friend. 939 00:48:23,203 --> 00:48:25,005 - You went through this. 940 00:48:25,038 --> 00:48:26,340 - I did. 941 00:48:26,373 --> 00:48:29,443 I left the convent, I went to a new convent 942 00:48:29,476 --> 00:48:33,380 and I found my life's work, I found it there. 943 00:48:36,651 --> 00:48:40,053 And my work's just beginning and so is yours. 944 00:48:44,324 --> 00:48:45,292 Big plans. 945 00:48:45,325 --> 00:48:47,562 (laughs) 946 00:48:49,196 --> 00:48:51,098 Our fellow prisoners need you. 947 00:48:56,771 --> 00:48:58,740 - I would like to say how beautiful you look, 948 00:48:58,773 --> 00:48:59,707 you changed into the- 949 00:48:59,741 --> 00:49:01,041 - With the overalls? 950 00:49:01,074 --> 00:49:02,476 - Shell blue, would we say? 951 00:49:03,177 --> 00:49:08,015 - So I wanna make a toast to second chances. 952 00:49:08,048 --> 00:49:10,417 In this country today, given how long everybody lives, 953 00:49:10,451 --> 00:49:12,186 people change their jobs a million times, 954 00:49:12,219 --> 00:49:13,521 they may have three or four careers. 955 00:49:13,555 --> 00:49:17,692 This is my second and so we'll say to second chances. 956 00:49:17,725 --> 00:49:19,727 - What did we say? "We will get there!" 957 00:49:19,761 --> 00:49:20,994 - We will get there! 958 00:49:21,028 --> 00:49:23,330 (chattering) 959 00:49:23,363 --> 00:49:24,331 - To where we're gonna get. 960 00:49:24,364 --> 00:49:26,233 - But just one more toast ready? 961 00:49:26,266 --> 00:49:27,234 - Okay. 962 00:49:27,267 --> 00:49:31,438 - The good Lord said come forth, 963 00:49:31,472 --> 00:49:34,007 but he came fifth and lost the race. 964 00:49:35,209 --> 00:49:36,043 - Is that inspiring? 965 00:49:36,076 --> 00:49:39,079 - He came in fifth and lost race, okay. 966 00:49:39,112 --> 00:49:40,280 - Okay anyway, we're drinking. 967 00:49:40,314 --> 00:49:41,148 - We're drinking. 968 00:49:41,181 --> 00:49:42,416 - We're drinking, yes. 969 00:49:42,449 --> 00:49:43,618 - That's beautiful. 970 00:49:43,651 --> 00:49:44,619 - Drinking. 971 00:49:47,321 --> 00:49:48,155 - I have a firing story. 972 00:49:48,188 --> 00:49:49,256 - Oh great. 973 00:49:49,289 --> 00:49:52,159 - I was in a department store for the makeup counter 974 00:49:52,192 --> 00:49:55,763 and I never wore any makeup and I wasn't very good at it. 975 00:49:55,797 --> 00:49:58,365 And when these women would have their makeup put on, 976 00:49:58,398 --> 00:50:01,468 they would say, I would do was just a terrible job. 977 00:50:01,502 --> 00:50:04,806 I thought, after I got the makeup on and the women, 978 00:50:04,839 --> 00:50:07,341 they would say, how do you think I look? 979 00:50:07,374 --> 00:50:10,077 What do you think, and I would have to tell them the truth 980 00:50:10,110 --> 00:50:12,680 which is I thought they looked better before. 981 00:50:12,714 --> 00:50:13,413 (laughs) 982 00:50:13,447 --> 00:50:14,348 Anyway. 983 00:50:15,148 --> 00:50:19,186 - I wasn't fired, but all the good stuff that's interesting, 984 00:50:19,219 --> 00:50:22,389 at least at school was going to the younger people. 985 00:50:22,422 --> 00:50:24,224 You know the new projects, if I had a project 986 00:50:24,258 --> 00:50:28,128 that I was excited about, I used to get a lot of attention 987 00:50:28,161 --> 00:50:30,798 on those projects and then it was suddenly, 988 00:50:30,832 --> 00:50:33,668 I don't think that's such a good idea and, 989 00:50:33,701 --> 00:50:37,237 just gradually just feel the focus is off you. 990 00:50:37,271 --> 00:50:39,774 But anyway, I've got my band and I wouldn't have started 991 00:50:39,807 --> 00:50:41,843 singing with the band if they done that so. 992 00:50:41,876 --> 00:50:43,511 - And I wouldn't be taking pictures. 993 00:50:43,545 --> 00:50:45,379 - And I wouldn't be applying to grad school, 994 00:50:45,412 --> 00:50:47,180 if I hadn't felt like get off the couch. 995 00:50:47,214 --> 00:50:49,182 (chattering) 996 00:50:49,216 --> 00:50:52,185 - We have transformations, cause that's what we're really 997 00:50:52,219 --> 00:50:52,987 talking about right. 998 00:50:53,021 --> 00:50:54,856 All of us going to the next place, 999 00:50:54,889 --> 00:50:57,659 the next stage into new skin, into new thoughts. 1000 00:50:57,692 --> 00:50:59,694 - Doesn't it make you think back when you were younger 1001 00:50:59,727 --> 00:51:02,429 and you had a grandparent or somebody who was older 1002 00:51:02,462 --> 00:51:05,700 or someone that you might have just a little bit dismissed. 1003 00:51:05,733 --> 00:51:08,636 I would've loved to have asked my grandmother about what 1004 00:51:08,670 --> 00:51:11,238 that felt like after the kids were gone, 1005 00:51:11,271 --> 00:51:14,341 and after I would just love to have had that one on one, 1006 00:51:14,374 --> 00:51:15,409 like how was that for you? 1007 00:51:15,442 --> 00:51:18,145 - You know I wonder if our generation has escaped 1008 00:51:18,178 --> 00:51:20,548 a little bit of that because the baby boomer generation 1009 00:51:20,582 --> 00:51:23,651 was so huge, and then they started saying things like 1010 00:51:23,685 --> 00:51:26,453 50 is the new 40 and 60 is the new 50. 1011 00:51:26,486 --> 00:51:29,591 - And it's so awful, the premium on youth. 1012 00:51:29,624 --> 00:51:30,525 - And everybody in our generation 1013 00:51:30,558 --> 00:51:31,626 started having surgery 1014 00:51:31,659 --> 00:51:32,860 and everybody's working out like crazy. 1015 00:51:32,894 --> 00:51:37,565 And so I think our generation kind of stretched our youth 1016 00:51:37,599 --> 00:51:39,734 longer than the generations before us. 1017 00:51:39,767 --> 00:51:41,703 - On the one hand, I feel like everyone 1018 00:51:41,736 --> 00:51:44,672 should fly their flag like if you wanna be dressing 1019 00:51:44,706 --> 00:51:48,175 in high heeled shoes in your 60s and you know, 1020 00:51:48,208 --> 00:51:49,142 glam in your face, 1021 00:51:49,176 --> 00:51:50,812 then we should just celebrate each other. 1022 00:51:50,845 --> 00:51:53,648 But on the other hand for myself, if I'm being honest, 1023 00:51:53,681 --> 00:51:55,516 there's always a little bit like, 1024 00:51:55,550 --> 00:51:57,518 what mold are you putting yourself in, 1025 00:51:57,552 --> 00:51:58,720 and who is that for really. 1026 00:51:58,753 --> 00:52:02,489 - Now my job doesn't depend on how I sound or how I look 1027 00:52:02,523 --> 00:52:03,658 or you're not pretty enough. 1028 00:52:03,691 --> 00:52:06,360 - That was a great thing about working with animals. 1029 00:52:06,393 --> 00:52:07,895 (laughs) 1030 00:52:07,929 --> 00:52:10,598 - Maggie have ever been fired Maggie? 1031 00:52:12,533 --> 00:52:16,203 - Yes, remember a bunch of us protested. 1032 00:52:16,236 --> 00:52:17,538 - Oh boy. 1033 00:52:17,572 --> 00:52:19,473 - And that's a wild thing if you wanna see 1034 00:52:19,507 --> 00:52:20,808 a bunch of protesting nuns. 1035 00:52:20,842 --> 00:52:23,745 But I was put on probation so you can, 1036 00:52:23,778 --> 00:52:27,447 I think we can all feel we can lose our jobs. 1037 00:52:27,481 --> 00:52:29,717 Sometimes for good reasons. 1038 00:52:29,751 --> 00:52:30,551 - What do you think Natalie 1039 00:52:30,585 --> 00:52:32,854 would've been doing now, if she's... 1040 00:52:32,887 --> 00:52:35,590 Because I remember when she was fired after her 40th 1041 00:52:35,623 --> 00:52:36,658 birthday and we were- 1042 00:52:36,691 --> 00:52:39,661 - She was fired because of growing a little older, 1043 00:52:39,694 --> 00:52:40,561 right was it? 1044 00:52:40,595 --> 00:52:41,529 - Ageism. 1045 00:52:41,562 --> 00:52:42,730 (chattering) 1046 00:52:42,764 --> 00:52:45,232 - Lizzie I told you that in secrecy, how does she know? 1047 00:52:45,265 --> 00:52:47,300 - I didn't tell her. -Well then how does she know? 1048 00:52:47,334 --> 00:52:53,574 - Because I told my wonderful, trustworthy older sister, Val. 1049 00:52:53,875 --> 00:52:56,243 - Oh great so everybody here knows? Great. 1050 00:52:56,276 --> 00:52:57,879 I lost my job okay? 1051 00:52:57,912 --> 00:53:00,615 - She was really pushing the envelope. 1052 00:53:00,648 --> 00:53:02,583 If she lived, do you think she would've been 1053 00:53:02,617 --> 00:53:04,351 like the head of some network? 1054 00:53:04,384 --> 00:53:06,654 - Maybe she would've had her own show on CNN 1055 00:53:06,688 --> 00:53:09,590 or some, or the PBS news hour. 1056 00:53:09,624 --> 00:53:12,292 - The person you tuned into to hear about women, 1057 00:53:12,325 --> 00:53:15,797 - Glass ceiling would've been just shattering all over. 1058 00:53:15,830 --> 00:53:18,465 - I call this guy in Chicago that I knew, a businessman 1059 00:53:18,498 --> 00:53:19,867 and I've known him over the years. 1060 00:53:19,901 --> 00:53:23,638 And I said, I've just turned 40, I've been fired 1061 00:53:23,671 --> 00:53:25,907 and I'm ready to change careers. 1062 00:53:25,940 --> 00:53:27,474 And he said, I'll take a chance. 1063 00:53:27,709 --> 00:53:28,609 - Unbelievable. 1064 00:53:28,643 --> 00:53:30,645 Just outta the blue, I'll take a chance. 1065 00:53:30,678 --> 00:53:32,580 So maybe losing my job was the best thing 1066 00:53:32,613 --> 00:53:34,749 that ever happened to me. 1067 00:53:34,782 --> 00:53:36,551 - Should we toast to Natalie? 1068 00:53:36,584 --> 00:53:40,555 To Natalie, wherever you are. Forever. 1069 00:53:40,588 --> 00:53:41,455 - To Natalie. 1070 00:53:41,488 --> 00:53:42,355 - To Natalie. 1071 00:53:42,389 --> 00:53:42,924 - Yes to Natalie. 1072 00:53:42,957 --> 00:53:43,758 - To Natalie. 1073 00:53:43,791 --> 00:53:45,827 - Keep inspiring us to go forward. 1074 00:53:45,860 --> 00:53:50,263 - You know, when I was here before I was talking to Val 1075 00:53:50,297 --> 00:53:54,334 about spreading my mother's ashes at Christmas, 1076 00:53:54,367 --> 00:53:58,506 she volunteered, she kind of volunteered you guys too. 1077 00:53:58,539 --> 00:53:59,841 How would you feel about that? 1078 00:53:59,874 --> 00:54:01,042 - Yes, I would love that. 1079 00:54:01,075 --> 00:54:02,577 - I would be honored. 1080 00:54:02,610 --> 00:54:03,945 - And I would love to host, 1081 00:54:03,978 --> 00:54:06,446 just to have everybody at my house. 1082 00:54:06,480 --> 00:54:08,015 - My mother would've loved that. 1083 00:54:08,049 --> 00:54:08,850 - Yes. 1084 00:54:08,883 --> 00:54:10,417 - A nice gathering. 1085 00:54:10,450 --> 00:54:11,318 - Beautiful idea. 1086 00:54:11,351 --> 00:54:11,819 - Wonderful. 1087 00:54:11,853 --> 00:54:12,620 - It's beautiful. 1088 00:54:12,653 --> 00:54:14,522 - I would love for you to be there. 1089 00:54:14,555 --> 00:54:15,723 - Yes, definitely. 1090 00:54:15,757 --> 00:54:18,291 - Rheza would you give me a minute, could I talk to you? 1091 00:54:18,325 --> 00:54:18,993 - It would be an honor. 1092 00:54:19,026 --> 00:54:19,927 - I love Christmas time too. 1093 00:54:19,961 --> 00:54:22,462 - Just need to talk to you for a second. 1094 00:54:22,496 --> 00:54:24,799 - We're just gonna, I just have to tell her something. 1095 00:54:24,832 --> 00:54:28,301 Or show her something, just show her something. 1096 00:54:28,335 --> 00:54:29,036 - Okay. 1097 00:54:30,605 --> 00:54:31,471 - Be right back. 1098 00:54:31,506 --> 00:54:32,372 - Okay. - Okay. 1099 00:54:32,405 --> 00:54:33,674 - All right. 1100 00:54:33,708 --> 00:54:35,777 - Well we'll just drink while you're gone. 1101 00:54:35,810 --> 00:54:38,311 - Rheza, Rheza, sit down. 1102 00:54:38,345 --> 00:54:39,446 - What? - Sit down 1103 00:54:41,381 --> 00:54:42,784 I lost the ashes. 1104 00:54:44,051 --> 00:54:45,119 - What? 1105 00:54:45,153 --> 00:54:48,321 - So we were packing everything up, in Ruth's house, 1106 00:54:48,355 --> 00:54:50,490 and I was with Shelley and we found the ashes. 1107 00:54:50,525 --> 00:54:51,592 - Right. 1108 00:54:51,626 --> 00:54:52,827 - And she asked me if I would take them 1109 00:54:52,860 --> 00:54:55,830 because she was going to Africa and she couldn't, take them. 1110 00:54:55,863 --> 00:54:56,731 So what could I say? 1111 00:54:56,764 --> 00:54:59,000 So I took them and I put them in a box 1112 00:54:59,033 --> 00:55:01,102 and then I put them with the other boxes 1113 00:55:01,135 --> 00:55:03,704 and I put them in my car and I brought them home. 1114 00:55:03,738 --> 00:55:06,073 But then I didn't open up for a couple of weeks, 1115 00:55:06,107 --> 00:55:09,043 but when I did, the ashes were gone. 1116 00:55:09,977 --> 00:55:12,880 - When you were packing the car, you gave me a box 1117 00:55:12,914 --> 00:55:15,950 but that was just, that was stuff for the kitchen. 1118 00:55:15,983 --> 00:55:21,088 - Oh that's it, I put them in the kitchen box. 1119 00:55:29,030 --> 00:55:32,834 Oh my God, you use this honey cornbread. 1120 00:55:32,867 --> 00:55:35,502 - What are you talking about? 1121 00:55:37,638 --> 00:55:38,506 Oh my God. 1122 00:55:44,178 --> 00:55:45,713 We have to open. 1123 00:55:45,746 --> 00:55:46,814 (gasps) 1124 00:55:47,347 --> 00:55:49,851 - Okay, I'm gonna... 1125 00:55:50,718 --> 00:55:51,552 No, no you can't 1126 00:55:52,653 --> 00:55:55,488 - There are never any arguments, very happily together. 1127 00:55:55,523 --> 00:55:56,958 And the men said it was because 1128 00:55:56,991 --> 00:55:59,126 they never see each other during the day. 1129 00:55:59,160 --> 00:56:01,428 (laughs) 1130 00:56:01,461 --> 00:56:05,032 - I was just talking about these women in Burma. 1131 00:56:06,868 --> 00:56:09,136 So wait, what did... - Is everything okay? 1132 00:56:09,871 --> 00:56:11,939 - Yes, perfect. 1133 00:56:11,973 --> 00:56:15,576 Everything is very much okay. 1134 00:56:15,610 --> 00:56:17,444 - Oh, wait a minute, present. 1135 00:56:17,477 --> 00:56:18,779 - What about the presents? 1136 00:56:18,813 --> 00:56:19,680 - I can't believe this. 1137 00:56:19,714 --> 00:56:21,182 - They're supposed to be joke presents 1138 00:56:21,215 --> 00:56:23,184 - You get fired and people give you presents. 1139 00:56:23,217 --> 00:56:24,719 - Oh, that's when you should have presents. 1140 00:56:24,752 --> 00:56:25,786 - I'm embarrassed, so excited. 1141 00:56:25,820 --> 00:56:29,991 - And this is about what you can do in your future, 1142 00:56:30,024 --> 00:56:32,492 with the new time that you have. 1143 00:56:32,526 --> 00:56:35,428 - Wait minute, this looks like a, it's a pancake maker. 1144 00:56:35,462 --> 00:56:37,198 (chattering) 1145 00:56:37,231 --> 00:56:39,967 - It's not a dream griddle that's just the box. 1146 00:56:41,736 --> 00:56:42,803 - It's a little alarm clock. 1147 00:56:42,837 --> 00:56:43,604 - I wanted a dream- 1148 00:56:43,638 --> 00:56:45,106 - Dream griddle that's hilarious- 1149 00:56:45,139 --> 00:56:47,575 - Dream griddle alarm box but that's not it. 1150 00:56:47,608 --> 00:56:49,476 - This feels, um... 1151 00:56:49,510 --> 00:56:50,711 - No. - What? 1152 00:56:50,745 --> 00:56:51,879 - Oh my God. 1153 00:56:51,913 --> 00:56:53,714 - Oh my God. 1154 00:56:53,748 --> 00:56:56,083 - What on earth are you thinking? 1155 00:56:56,117 --> 00:56:58,519 - And the funny thing is it didn't have ears 1156 00:56:58,552 --> 00:56:59,486 when I put it in. 1157 00:56:59,520 --> 00:57:01,656 (laughing) 1158 00:57:03,624 --> 00:57:04,792 - Can you not point that at me? 1159 00:57:04,825 --> 00:57:06,627 - What are talking about? 1160 00:57:08,029 --> 00:57:10,665 - And it doubles as a dream griddle. 1161 00:57:11,766 --> 00:57:12,833 - Is it an alarm clock? 1162 00:57:12,867 --> 00:57:13,901 - Its an alarm clock. 1163 00:57:13,935 --> 00:57:15,202 - It will make great alarm clock, wake up girls. 1164 00:57:15,236 --> 00:57:16,938 - It doubles as an alarm clock! 1165 00:57:16,971 --> 00:57:17,872 - Bless your heart 1166 00:57:17,905 --> 00:57:20,641 - Can you just put this up more over here? 1167 00:57:20,675 --> 00:57:23,044 (laughing) 1168 00:57:23,978 --> 00:57:27,782 - Val, I think you're the only older woman I know, 1169 00:57:27,815 --> 00:57:29,216 that still wants to have sex. 1170 00:57:29,250 --> 00:57:29,850 - You're the best. 1171 00:57:29,884 --> 00:57:30,851 - I know. 1172 00:57:30,885 --> 00:57:33,220 - Oh come on. - I'm just looking out for you. 1173 00:57:33,254 --> 00:57:35,890 - I'm in a book club, there's some of the women are married, 1174 00:57:35,923 --> 00:57:37,758 some are not, but everybody, 1175 00:57:37,792 --> 00:57:38,793 they were all saying they didn't care 1176 00:57:38,826 --> 00:57:40,061 if they ever had sex again. 1177 00:57:40,094 --> 00:57:42,763 And that the only reason they were still having sex is cause 1178 00:57:42,797 --> 00:57:45,199 their husbands wanted it and so they were like, okay well. 1179 00:57:45,232 --> 00:57:47,101 - It's so sad. - But they really didn't care. 1180 00:57:47,134 --> 00:57:48,636 - If you don't wanna do it, you don't do it 1181 00:57:48,669 --> 00:57:52,139 but I just think, wow, this is like so much fun, 1182 00:57:52,173 --> 00:57:54,141 and it makes me feel so great, 1183 00:57:54,175 --> 00:57:57,178 and why wouldn't everybody wanna do it? 1184 00:57:57,211 --> 00:57:58,079 It's just me. 1185 00:57:58,946 --> 00:57:59,847 - This is from you. 1186 00:57:59,880 --> 00:58:01,549 - Yeah. - Oh my gosh. 1187 00:58:05,052 --> 00:58:05,820 Oh, this is so beautiful. 1188 00:58:05,853 --> 00:58:09,790 - This is called a Toka from Tibet. 1189 00:58:09,824 --> 00:58:10,725 - Oh. 1190 00:58:11,392 --> 00:58:16,263 - And it's Tara and she's the goddess of protection 1191 00:58:16,297 --> 00:58:21,602 and animals and compassion and she's fearless, 1192 00:58:21,936 --> 00:58:23,537 like our Rheza, beautiful. 1193 00:58:23,571 --> 00:58:24,638 - Oh, thank you so much. 1194 00:58:24,672 --> 00:58:25,873 - You're so welcome. 1195 00:58:25,906 --> 00:58:26,941 - From my heart. 1196 00:58:29,944 --> 00:58:31,112 - Oh my God. 1197 00:58:32,580 --> 00:58:33,547 - You did that? 1198 00:58:33,581 --> 00:58:35,082 - Oh my God. 1199 00:58:35,750 --> 00:58:37,084 - Wow. 1200 00:58:37,118 --> 00:58:39,787 - Oh this is, oh thank you. 1201 00:58:39,820 --> 00:58:41,589 - Is that from that place with the women? 1202 00:58:41,622 --> 00:58:43,190 - Oh, this is beautiful. 1203 00:58:43,824 --> 00:58:46,327 - Oh these were still in Africa when I went through- 1204 00:58:46,360 --> 00:58:46,994 - That's so beautiful. 1205 00:58:47,028 --> 00:58:49,196 - Boy, I'm glad I was fired. 1206 00:58:49,230 --> 00:58:50,998 (laughing) 1207 00:58:51,032 --> 00:58:53,300 - Goodbye tension, happy pension. 1208 00:58:53,334 --> 00:58:54,235 - Yay! 1209 00:58:55,102 --> 00:58:56,971 - Make a wish Rheza! 1210 00:59:00,307 --> 00:59:02,710 - I want us all to make a wish together. 1211 00:59:04,011 --> 00:59:05,546 Ready? - Uh-huh. 1212 00:59:16,757 --> 00:59:17,892 (blows the candle) 1213 00:59:17,925 --> 00:59:20,795 (upbeat music) 1214 00:59:20,828 --> 00:59:25,232 - [Natalie] As we get older, our perspective on age changes. 1215 00:59:25,266 --> 00:59:28,836 When we were younger, we thought 40 was old. 1216 00:59:28,869 --> 00:59:33,174 When I died at 40, my friends said she died too young. 1217 00:59:34,141 --> 00:59:36,877 You have a conviction that at a certain age, 1218 00:59:36,911 --> 00:59:38,646 you should have it all together, 1219 00:59:38,679 --> 00:59:42,216 but then you get older and you keep moving the goal post. 1220 00:59:42,850 --> 00:59:45,953 How will my friends remember this year? 1221 00:59:45,986 --> 00:59:47,988 The year that Ruth died, 1222 00:59:48,022 --> 00:59:50,257 the year they were all together again. 1223 00:59:50,291 --> 00:59:53,127 What change that is coming will take center stage 1224 00:59:53,160 --> 00:59:54,228 in their lives? 1225 00:59:54,762 --> 00:59:58,199 Oh and if you're wondering if everything is predetermined 1226 00:59:58,232 --> 01:00:01,168 or if you are in control of your own destiny, 1227 01:00:01,202 --> 01:00:03,104 the answer is yes. 1228 01:00:05,406 --> 01:00:08,342 (Christmas carols) 1229 01:00:16,217 --> 01:00:18,686 - ♪ Glory to the newborn king ♪ 1230 01:00:18,719 --> 01:00:20,621 (camera clicks) 1231 01:00:21,155 --> 01:00:22,156 - Merry Christmas. 1232 01:00:22,189 --> 01:00:24,358 - Merry Christmas. (camera clicks) 1233 01:00:27,061 --> 01:00:29,296 - So what is the plan when you get home? 1234 01:00:31,298 --> 01:00:35,336 - Actually, Lucas and I are gonna go on a trip. 1235 01:00:36,904 --> 01:00:38,172 I know. 1236 01:00:38,205 --> 01:00:39,907 - You're back together? 1237 01:00:39,940 --> 01:00:43,177 - Yeah we've been dating and spending a lot of time together 1238 01:00:43,210 --> 01:00:45,679 and it's been really, really good. 1239 01:00:46,247 --> 01:00:47,982 - What changed do you think? 1240 01:00:48,682 --> 01:00:55,122 - Well, on the kids' situation, we kind of decided 1241 01:00:55,156 --> 01:00:57,892 that we would just take it as it comes. 1242 01:00:57,925 --> 01:00:58,826 - Uh-huh. 1243 01:00:58,859 --> 01:01:00,194 - And really, 1244 01:01:02,163 --> 01:01:07,401 my example of a mom was a very devoted mother 1245 01:01:07,434 --> 01:01:12,106 and I don't know, I feel like where I am now 1246 01:01:12,139 --> 01:01:14,375 I couldn't be that kind of focused 1247 01:01:14,408 --> 01:01:17,044 and involved and great mom. 1248 01:01:17,678 --> 01:01:21,982 So, but I'm learning that maybe it doesn't have 1249 01:01:22,016 --> 01:01:24,318 to be one extreme or the other, but. 1250 01:01:34,128 --> 01:01:35,362 - There she is. 1251 01:01:35,396 --> 01:01:36,297 - Mm. 1252 01:01:54,114 --> 01:01:57,351 - It's an adjustment cause I was so used to having the house 1253 01:01:57,384 --> 01:02:00,187 to myself and now he's there but, 1254 01:02:00,221 --> 01:02:01,388 - All the time. 1255 01:02:01,422 --> 01:02:04,792 - We're navigating, I've gotten him to go to a yoga class. 1256 01:02:04,825 --> 01:02:06,026 - Dad's doing yoga? 1257 01:02:06,060 --> 01:02:09,230 - He is, and the downward facing dog is a whole other thing. 1258 01:02:09,263 --> 01:02:11,865 - Wow, sign me up. 1259 01:02:11,899 --> 01:02:12,701 - He's doing well though. 1260 01:02:12,733 --> 01:02:15,069 - That's great, good for you guys. 1261 01:02:15,102 --> 01:02:17,972 - Yeah, it's very sweet, he's got the best sense of humor 1262 01:02:18,005 --> 01:02:22,510 and it's- that goes a long way I have to say. 1263 01:02:30,317 --> 01:02:31,885 - I actually decided this morning 1264 01:02:31,919 --> 01:02:33,787 that you should move back. 1265 01:02:33,821 --> 01:02:34,088 - Oh yeah? 1266 01:02:34,121 --> 01:02:35,089 - Yeah. 1267 01:02:35,122 --> 01:02:37,224 We could spend weekends up here I'm thinking, 1268 01:02:37,258 --> 01:02:39,326 this would be a really nice thing. 1269 01:02:39,360 --> 01:02:40,261 - Yeah but if I move back, 1270 01:02:40,294 --> 01:02:42,363 I'll have to see my mother all the time. 1271 01:02:42,396 --> 01:02:43,531 - We won't tell her. 1272 01:02:43,565 --> 01:02:46,100 (laughs) 1273 01:02:46,133 --> 01:02:49,571 - I dunno where she went, she left Chicago, I don't know. 1274 01:02:49,604 --> 01:02:51,071 - You need a sandwich or something? 1275 01:02:51,105 --> 01:02:52,574 I can make you a little shrimp salad. 1276 01:02:52,607 --> 01:02:55,175 - No serve food on the plane these days, it's a new thing. 1277 01:02:55,209 --> 01:02:56,243 - Ah, really? 1278 01:02:57,845 --> 01:02:58,946 - I miss you. 1279 01:02:58,979 --> 01:02:59,980 - Me too, sweetie. 1280 01:03:02,016 --> 01:03:03,317 Take care of yourself. 1281 01:03:08,255 --> 01:03:09,290 Bye, bye. 1282 01:03:10,924 --> 01:03:11,593 Love you. 1283 01:03:11,626 --> 01:03:12,527 - I love you. 1284 01:03:17,632 --> 01:03:18,465 - Val. 1285 01:03:19,534 --> 01:03:20,434 Val? 1286 01:03:21,902 --> 01:03:22,803 Val. 1287 01:03:24,438 --> 01:03:27,007 Sweetie, take a deep breath okay. 1288 01:03:28,242 --> 01:03:29,476 It's hard to be here. 1289 01:03:33,414 --> 01:03:39,019 I am grateful for you and you, grateful for life. 1290 01:03:43,891 --> 01:03:46,860 - No one like you. Okay. 1291 01:03:49,396 --> 01:03:50,431 - Love you Nat. 1292 01:03:59,273 --> 01:04:00,474 - I got back from China, 1293 01:04:00,508 --> 01:04:04,278 I talked to the guy from the gallery, he wants to do a show. 1294 01:04:04,311 --> 01:04:05,647 - That's amazing. 1295 01:04:05,680 --> 01:04:09,617 - I'm calling it The Kingdom of Daughters. 1296 01:04:09,651 --> 01:04:10,351 (chattering) 1297 01:04:10,384 --> 01:04:11,352 - Wonderful. 1298 01:04:11,385 --> 01:04:12,386 - Thank you. 1299 01:04:12,754 --> 01:04:16,190 - So I am very happy in my new order, 1300 01:04:16,223 --> 01:04:20,494 Sisters of the Sacred Mount, we do wonderful hospice work 1301 01:04:20,528 --> 01:04:23,030 and I am moving forward with that. 1302 01:04:24,131 --> 01:04:26,233 But I'm not cutting my hair yet, not yet. 1303 01:04:26,266 --> 01:04:27,368 - I noticed that. 1304 01:04:27,401 --> 01:04:30,572 - I started Rheza's Rescues. 1305 01:04:30,605 --> 01:04:34,241 I'm taking in stray dogs, some wounded animals, 1306 01:04:34,274 --> 01:04:36,377 and making a lot of new friends. 1307 01:04:36,410 --> 01:04:38,613 - Wow, oh gosh. 1308 01:04:38,646 --> 01:04:41,081 - We have a litter of puppies do you want any? 1309 01:04:41,616 --> 01:04:43,651 - And I am at the end of my first semester 1310 01:04:43,685 --> 01:04:47,589 in classical studies and I love, love my cohort. 1311 01:04:47,622 --> 01:04:50,290 It's been incredible. - She's learning. 1312 01:04:50,324 --> 01:04:52,493 - Every night I'm like "Let me tell you about 1313 01:04:52,527 --> 01:04:55,129 the Trojan Women and Hecuba!- 1314 01:04:55,162 --> 01:04:56,029 (chattering) 1315 01:04:56,063 --> 01:04:57,030 And Demeter, and Persephone" 1316 01:04:57,064 --> 01:04:58,399 - And I'm like, oh, I have to go to sleep now. 1317 01:04:58,432 --> 01:05:00,167 And she's like, "But one more!" 1318 01:05:00,702 --> 01:05:04,471 But no, it's exciting, it's nice to see you so passionate 1319 01:05:04,506 --> 01:05:05,439 and lit up about something. 1320 01:05:05,472 --> 01:05:08,442 - Yes, and can I tell your aunties about, 1321 01:05:08,475 --> 01:05:12,112 she's- Nat's been offered this incredible promotion 1322 01:05:12,146 --> 01:05:14,649 that was just, almost like- 1323 01:05:14,682 --> 01:05:19,253 - It's avatars, yes, computers. 1324 01:05:19,286 --> 01:05:21,088 - Tell us about it I don't know. 1325 01:05:21,121 --> 01:05:22,289 - So I was offered a promotion 1326 01:05:22,322 --> 01:05:24,458 as a senior software engineer, 1327 01:05:25,627 --> 01:05:31,533 but I would just have to work closely with another engineer 1328 01:05:31,566 --> 01:05:33,635 and I don't know if it's really a good fit. 1329 01:05:33,668 --> 01:05:35,670 So I'm just kind of weighing my options 1330 01:05:35,703 --> 01:05:39,273 and seeing maybe I wanna switch companies, I'm not sure yet. 1331 01:05:39,306 --> 01:05:42,976 - What's the dynamic like that it's not comfortable or what? 1332 01:05:44,211 --> 01:05:45,179 - Um, 1333 01:05:47,147 --> 01:05:48,982 yeah, it's that. 1334 01:05:49,016 --> 01:05:50,350 I don't think I'd be, 1335 01:05:50,951 --> 01:05:53,020 I just don't think we would work well together. 1336 01:05:53,053 --> 01:05:55,255 It's not the most comfortable situation 1337 01:05:55,289 --> 01:06:00,327 and working even more closely with him, would just not be. 1338 01:06:00,360 --> 01:06:01,596 - What did he do? 1339 01:06:05,365 --> 01:06:06,233 - Oh. 1340 01:06:06,266 --> 01:06:07,167 - Oh God. 1341 01:06:09,436 --> 01:06:13,541 - So a month ago I was at the office late, 1342 01:06:14,107 --> 01:06:17,110 I go into his office, he tells me to come around the desk 1343 01:06:17,144 --> 01:06:20,515 so I can take a look at what he's working on, so I do, 1344 01:06:20,548 --> 01:06:23,484 and he goes to hand me a folder and it drops, 1345 01:06:23,518 --> 01:06:28,690 and so, I go to pick it up, 1346 01:06:30,825 --> 01:06:33,628 and that's when I see that he is um, 1347 01:06:35,429 --> 01:06:37,030 playing with himself. 1348 01:06:37,064 --> 01:06:40,467 I tried to get up, but he pushed my head down into his lap. 1349 01:06:40,501 --> 01:06:41,669 - Oh no, no. 1350 01:06:42,871 --> 01:06:48,141 - And he wouldn't let me go, like I physically couldn't move 1351 01:06:48,175 --> 01:06:51,078 and I've never felt that before. 1352 01:06:51,111 --> 01:06:55,783 And I bit him, I bit it. 1353 01:06:55,817 --> 01:06:56,751 - Good. 1354 01:06:56,784 --> 01:07:00,120 - He pushed me away and he called me a cunt 1355 01:07:00,153 --> 01:07:05,325 and he told me that I'd be fired if I ever told anyone. 1356 01:07:05,994 --> 01:07:10,364 So I didn't, I actually haven't told anyone until now. 1357 01:07:10,397 --> 01:07:11,365 - I'm so sorry. 1358 01:07:11,398 --> 01:07:14,602 - So I'm just figuring out what I'm gonna do. 1359 01:07:18,338 --> 01:07:20,675 - I'm so sorry this happened to you. 1360 01:07:20,708 --> 01:07:22,777 - All I wanna do was my job. 1361 01:07:22,810 --> 01:07:24,679 That night when I went into his office, 1362 01:07:24,712 --> 01:07:26,514 all I wanted to do was my job. 1363 01:07:26,548 --> 01:07:28,616 I don't wanna, I don't wanna talk about this, 1364 01:07:28,650 --> 01:07:31,118 I don't wanna have to deal with it. 1365 01:07:31,151 --> 01:07:35,723 I'm just not, I don't want it. 1366 01:07:36,691 --> 01:07:38,726 I don't want any of this so. 1367 01:07:38,760 --> 01:07:41,563 - I think there is a choice. 1368 01:07:41,596 --> 01:07:44,699 There's so much support now. 1369 01:07:44,732 --> 01:07:50,470 I think for his own sake, you need to report him. 1370 01:07:51,005 --> 01:07:54,776 - Don't report him, it will ruin your whole career. 1371 01:07:55,843 --> 01:07:59,446 - What you both just said, I've been battling in my mind, 1372 01:07:59,479 --> 01:08:00,447 - Right. 1373 01:08:00,480 --> 01:08:05,152 - A lot over the last month and, the thing is, 1374 01:08:05,419 --> 01:08:09,724 Im, I'm a terrible person if I don't report it and stop him 1375 01:08:09,757 --> 01:08:11,793 from potentially doing this other women, 1376 01:08:11,826 --> 01:08:17,230 but I could also completely ruin my career if I do 1377 01:08:17,264 --> 01:08:21,736 and it's such an unfair position to be put in. 1378 01:08:21,769 --> 01:08:25,840 - This happened to Natalie and she didn't report it, and 1379 01:08:25,873 --> 01:08:29,544 she always felt terrible about it, she always regretted it. 1380 01:08:29,577 --> 01:08:32,145 But in our day there wasn't a group of people 1381 01:08:32,179 --> 01:08:35,482 that she could go to talk to who experienced the same thing. 1382 01:08:35,516 --> 01:08:36,851 And you can. 1383 01:08:38,218 --> 01:08:39,854 The only way for you to heal, 1384 01:08:39,887 --> 01:08:42,590 I think, is for you to fight back. 1385 01:08:42,624 --> 01:08:45,192 - Change is always extraordinary, 1386 01:08:45,693 --> 01:08:47,595 you're going to be fine. 1387 01:08:48,261 --> 01:08:48,930 (sighs) 1388 01:08:48,963 --> 01:08:50,364 - [Maggie] We've all been there. 1389 01:08:53,400 --> 01:08:54,702 -[Rheza] You're not alone. 1390 01:08:55,202 --> 01:08:57,371 - [Shelley] You are so not alone. 1391 01:08:57,404 --> 01:09:01,843 (gentle music) 1392 01:09:03,711 --> 01:09:10,618 ♪ Silent night, holy night ♪ 1393 01:09:11,284 --> 01:09:18,258 ♪ All is calm, all is bright ♪ 1394 01:09:18,793 --> 01:09:25,298 ♪ Round yon virgin mother and child ♪ 1395 01:09:26,466 --> 01:09:32,674 ♪ Holy infant so tender and mild ♪ 1396 01:09:33,608 --> 01:09:40,180 ♪ Sleep in heavenly peace ♪ 1397 01:09:40,380 --> 01:09:42,382 (camera clicks) ♪ Sleep in heavenly peace ♪ 1398 01:09:42,416 --> 01:09:45,285 - What are you doing, we're enjoying the company. 1399 01:09:45,318 --> 01:09:47,655 (laughing) 1400 01:09:48,422 --> 01:09:49,090 - No 1401 01:09:49,123 --> 01:09:50,257 - What are we talking about now? 1402 01:09:50,290 --> 01:09:51,926 - Memories, memories oh my God. 1403 01:09:51,959 --> 01:09:54,662 - We're talking about your mother and her fabulousness 1404 01:09:54,696 --> 01:09:58,599 and her dread orange lipstick and her leopard coats. 1405 01:09:59,133 --> 01:10:00,300 - All right, all right. 1406 01:10:00,333 --> 01:10:04,972 Do you know the story of Ruth and Shelley and the movie? 1407 01:10:05,006 --> 01:10:05,973 All right. 1408 01:10:06,007 --> 01:10:10,011 Ruth's latest movie was in town and she decided 1409 01:10:10,044 --> 01:10:11,378 to take the girls. 1410 01:10:11,946 --> 01:10:14,782 She didn't wanna draw a lot of attention to herself, 1411 01:10:14,816 --> 01:10:18,586 she said, when she prepared to go to the movie, 1412 01:10:18,619 --> 01:10:19,887 she was in disguise, - Incognito. 1413 01:10:19,921 --> 01:10:23,323 incognito, in a huge fur hat, 1414 01:10:23,356 --> 01:10:24,726 a lot of fur and a scarf. 1415 01:10:24,759 --> 01:10:25,660 - A Persian fur! 1416 01:10:25,693 --> 01:10:26,661 - And dark glasses. 1417 01:10:26,694 --> 01:10:28,863 - Right, dark glasses in the movie theater. 1418 01:10:28,896 --> 01:10:30,598 - And then they see the lights go down 1419 01:10:30,631 --> 01:10:33,266 and they sneak in the back and sit down. 1420 01:10:33,835 --> 01:10:37,337 So in this movie, Ruth was playing a mother, 1421 01:10:37,370 --> 01:10:40,541 with a little girl, exactly the same age as Shelley. 1422 01:10:41,142 --> 01:10:44,377 So as Shelley's watching the story unfold, 1423 01:10:44,411 --> 01:10:49,550 she starts to think that her mother has another daughter 1424 01:10:49,584 --> 01:10:51,451 and that she loves her more. 1425 01:10:52,153 --> 01:10:56,657 So she starts crying and she's inconsolable 1426 01:10:56,691 --> 01:10:59,326 and Ruth cannot stop this child crying. 1427 01:10:59,359 --> 01:11:00,895 She's trying to stop her and shushing her 1428 01:11:00,928 --> 01:11:04,565 and getting Kleenex and whatever and finally, 1429 01:11:04,599 --> 01:11:08,502 as there's this moving scene between the mother and daughter 1430 01:11:08,536 --> 01:11:12,840 on screen, she stands up, she points to the screen 1431 01:11:12,874 --> 01:11:18,012 and she says, "That's not my daughter." 1432 01:11:18,045 --> 01:11:20,347 (laughing) 1433 01:11:21,281 --> 01:11:24,018 And then lights come up and the projector goes off, 1434 01:11:24,051 --> 01:11:27,387 everybody turns around to look at them. 1435 01:11:27,420 --> 01:11:29,857 And in her grand way she says, 1436 01:11:29,891 --> 01:11:33,528 "Thank you, thank you, carry on please." 1437 01:11:33,561 --> 01:11:34,762 (laughing) 1438 01:11:34,796 --> 01:11:36,664 - To Ruth. - To Ruth. 1439 01:11:36,697 --> 01:11:37,799 - To Ruth. 1440 01:11:37,832 --> 01:11:40,433 - Oh your mother was glamorous. 1441 01:11:41,569 --> 01:11:42,537 - Very glam. 1442 01:11:42,570 --> 01:11:45,773 - She was. I envied that confidence that she had. 1443 01:11:45,807 --> 01:11:48,709 Natalie had it, that confidence. 1444 01:11:48,743 --> 01:11:49,844 - Mm, she did. 1445 01:11:50,410 --> 01:11:53,781 - I didn't, I was the little ugly duckling child. 1446 01:11:53,815 --> 01:11:54,749 - Oh, stop. 1447 01:11:54,782 --> 01:11:55,783 - Not ugly - I was, I was. 1448 01:11:55,817 --> 01:11:57,618 - I wonder how you turned out. 1449 01:11:57,652 --> 01:11:58,586 (laughs) 1450 01:11:58,619 --> 01:11:59,587 - Bitter. 1451 01:11:59,620 --> 01:12:00,521 - It's interesting about mothers and daughters 1452 01:12:00,555 --> 01:12:02,957 and if your daughter isn't in your image, 1453 01:12:02,990 --> 01:12:06,393 what you do to either make her seem more like you, 1454 01:12:06,426 --> 01:12:08,830 or just the path towards acceptance, 1455 01:12:08,863 --> 01:12:12,066 if they really aren't a mini me or, 1456 01:12:12,099 --> 01:12:14,969 they're different from you, just how you navigate. 1457 01:12:15,002 --> 01:12:16,571 - Everyone's looking at me now. 1458 01:12:16,604 --> 01:12:18,105 (laughing) 1459 01:12:18,139 --> 01:12:18,973 - Well. 1460 01:12:20,975 --> 01:12:24,779 - Well, pretty was important to her, looks. 1461 01:12:26,113 --> 01:12:27,915 - Yeah, there's a premium on that. 1462 01:12:27,949 --> 01:12:29,917 - But it's important to women right? 1463 01:12:29,951 --> 01:12:33,054 - I'm pretty sure she saw that as a power that's true, 1464 01:12:33,087 --> 01:12:35,590 but gee, she was so kind to me. 1465 01:12:36,290 --> 01:12:42,129 She took me in when my mother found another man, 1466 01:12:42,163 --> 01:12:45,132 and I came only, I knocked on the door, I said, Ruth. 1467 01:12:45,166 --> 01:12:47,535 And she said, look, come on in. 1468 01:12:47,568 --> 01:12:49,804 She's very kind, she never said anything right? 1469 01:12:49,837 --> 01:12:50,771 To any of you? 1470 01:12:50,805 --> 01:12:52,106 - No. 1471 01:12:52,139 --> 01:12:54,141 - Ruth, thank you. - That's amazing. 1472 01:12:54,175 --> 01:12:56,644 - I think I'd wanna leave behind this idea 1473 01:12:56,677 --> 01:12:58,179 and I know I've told Nat about this, 1474 01:12:58,212 --> 01:13:01,949 that friendship, it actually takes effort, 1475 01:13:01,983 --> 01:13:04,886 that you have to really in the same way, 1476 01:13:04,919 --> 01:13:08,055 marriage or a career, that with friendships, 1477 01:13:08,089 --> 01:13:10,524 you really do have to be the one, 1478 01:13:10,558 --> 01:13:12,193 I mean, this is something that I've learned, 1479 01:13:12,226 --> 01:13:15,696 just over the years to keep reaching out, 1480 01:13:15,730 --> 01:13:16,998 to keep making the effort. 1481 01:13:17,031 --> 01:13:19,466 Sometimes friends can be going through things 1482 01:13:19,499 --> 01:13:20,801 and it might feel personal, 1483 01:13:20,835 --> 01:13:23,470 and actually just what gets stitched together, 1484 01:13:23,503 --> 01:13:25,840 when you keep reaching out, which is... 1485 01:13:25,873 --> 01:13:28,743 (Maggie coughs) 1486 01:13:28,776 --> 01:13:29,777 - Are you okay? 1487 01:13:29,810 --> 01:13:30,645 - I'm giving you a stroke? 1488 01:13:30,678 --> 01:13:31,579 - No it. 1489 01:13:33,614 --> 01:13:34,982 - Oh mm. 1490 01:13:36,884 --> 01:13:37,985 - What dear? 1491 01:13:38,619 --> 01:13:40,187 - What did you put in this? 1492 01:13:40,221 --> 01:13:41,622 (laughs) 1493 01:13:41,656 --> 01:13:43,991 - I mean, no I'm sorry. 1494 01:13:46,994 --> 01:13:51,098 It was a privilege to be with your mother. 1495 01:13:51,132 --> 01:13:52,033 - Yes. 1496 01:13:56,003 --> 01:13:58,539 - And if anything happens to me I want you there. 1497 01:13:58,572 --> 01:14:00,508 - Mm, righty-o. 1498 01:14:01,742 --> 01:14:03,010 - Do you want me there? 1499 01:14:04,612 --> 01:14:05,478 - All right. 1500 01:14:05,513 --> 01:14:06,047 (laughs) 1501 01:14:06,080 --> 01:14:07,949 I love you, I want you- 1502 01:14:07,982 --> 01:14:09,917 I want you all there. 1503 01:14:11,953 --> 01:14:14,822 - I have all the people that I love so much here, 1504 01:14:14,855 --> 01:14:17,925 to pay tribute to our dear friend. 1505 01:14:17,959 --> 01:14:21,095 - Happy birthday Natalie! 1506 01:14:22,563 --> 01:14:25,232 - I'm just so happy to have us all together. 1507 01:14:26,968 --> 01:14:30,771 You know because it's been too long. 1508 01:14:30,805 --> 01:14:31,706 - It's true. 1509 01:14:32,773 --> 01:14:35,042 - Especially that we could be here 1510 01:14:35,076 --> 01:14:40,047 to celebrate this wonderful day. 1511 01:14:42,083 --> 01:14:43,084 Because- 1512 01:14:45,987 --> 01:14:50,591 cause we didn't know if we would ever be able 1513 01:14:50,624 --> 01:14:54,729 to celebrate your 41st birthday together. 1514 01:14:55,930 --> 01:14:58,498 We didn't know if you would be here, 1515 01:14:59,800 --> 01:15:03,137 and here you are. 1516 01:15:03,170 --> 01:15:05,239 (laughs) 1517 01:15:05,272 --> 01:15:06,640 - Oh, no honey. 1518 01:15:09,643 --> 01:15:10,778 Um- 1519 01:15:10,811 --> 01:15:11,679 Val, 1520 01:15:13,714 --> 01:15:15,149 I changed my hair. 1521 01:15:15,182 --> 01:15:16,083 - Oh. 1522 01:15:16,117 --> 01:15:20,755 - And so I look a little more like Natalie 1523 01:15:20,788 --> 01:15:26,127 than I usually do, but I'm Shelley, I'm, Natalie's sister. 1524 01:15:30,364 --> 01:15:31,565 - Shelley. 1525 01:15:31,599 --> 01:15:32,967 - Yeah. 1526 01:15:33,000 --> 01:15:36,537 - Right sweetie, it's Shelley okay? 1527 01:15:37,805 --> 01:15:38,706 - Okay. 1528 01:15:39,840 --> 01:15:40,674 - Okay. 1529 01:15:40,708 --> 01:15:41,609 - Sweetie? 1530 01:15:42,276 --> 01:15:43,044 - Oh Christ. 1531 01:15:43,077 --> 01:15:44,745 - Don't be scared it's all right. 1532 01:15:44,779 --> 01:15:45,646 - Deep breath. 1533 01:15:45,679 --> 01:15:46,814 - I, um, 1534 01:15:47,081 --> 01:15:51,619 yeah, I think I'll give Lizzie a call. 1535 01:15:52,386 --> 01:15:54,021 - That's a good idea. 1536 01:15:54,055 --> 01:15:54,889 - It's Christmas and- 1537 01:15:54,922 --> 01:15:56,090 - Okay. 1538 01:15:56,123 --> 01:15:57,758 - I'll go find my phone. 1539 01:16:07,001 --> 01:16:09,570 - Oh, sweetie, it's all right. 1540 01:16:10,271 --> 01:16:11,238 It's all right, it's been coming. 1541 01:16:11,272 --> 01:16:13,374 - All the times that I wanted to be Natalie, 1542 01:16:13,407 --> 01:16:16,310 I've never wanted it more than just... 1543 01:16:17,078 --> 01:16:19,914 - You handled that very well, you're so very wonderful. 1544 01:16:19,947 --> 01:16:23,184 - Oh here it is, I think, here it is. 1545 01:16:25,719 --> 01:16:28,222 I'll just give her a call. 1546 01:16:32,026 --> 01:16:36,597 - Hey, Merry Merry Happy Happy. 1547 01:16:36,997 --> 01:16:38,632 - Hey, hey. 1548 01:16:40,334 --> 01:16:41,235 - Hey. - Hey. 1549 01:16:43,037 --> 01:16:47,241 - You know, Lizzie, I think 1550 01:16:49,810 --> 01:16:52,680 I think I, something isn't, 1551 01:16:53,080 --> 01:16:55,015 I think I need your help. 1552 01:16:55,049 --> 01:16:56,617 I think I need your help. 1553 01:16:58,719 --> 01:16:59,787 - Okay. 1554 01:16:59,820 --> 01:17:01,188 - Um, 1555 01:17:01,222 --> 01:17:04,391 you know, I think there's, 1556 01:17:04,425 --> 01:17:05,092 - Val? 1557 01:17:05,126 --> 01:17:08,129 I think there's something wrong. 1558 01:17:08,762 --> 01:17:09,730 - Okay. 1559 01:17:09,763 --> 01:17:12,099 - I think I can see that there's something wrong, 1560 01:17:12,133 --> 01:17:14,368 and um I need you to... 1561 01:17:16,170 --> 01:17:17,338 - Val what? 1562 01:17:18,973 --> 01:17:22,309 - I need you come and be with me. 1563 01:17:22,343 --> 01:17:23,310 - Okay. 1564 01:17:23,344 --> 01:17:24,111 - Okay? 1565 01:17:24,145 --> 01:17:25,713 - Yes, Val. 1566 01:17:25,746 --> 01:17:26,313 - Okay. 1567 01:17:26,347 --> 01:17:26,881 - Who is- 1568 01:17:26,914 --> 01:17:28,149 Are you by yourself? 1569 01:17:28,182 --> 01:17:30,050 - No no, I have my 1570 01:17:30,084 --> 01:17:31,352 - Who's there? 1571 01:17:31,385 --> 01:17:33,821 - I have my friends here. - Everybody's here. 1572 01:17:33,854 --> 01:17:35,022 (chattering) 1573 01:17:35,055 --> 01:17:36,157 - Here's Rheza. 1574 01:17:36,190 --> 01:17:37,057 - What's going on? 1575 01:17:37,091 --> 01:17:38,692 - Hi sweetie, its Rheza. 1576 01:17:39,894 --> 01:17:42,897 Hey take it easy everybody's here, 1577 01:17:42,930 --> 01:17:46,200 we'd love it if we could talk to you a little bit later? 1578 01:17:46,233 --> 01:17:47,268 All right? - Okay. 1579 01:17:47,301 --> 01:17:49,103 - Cause Val's just a little, 1580 01:17:49,136 --> 01:17:52,106 you know, she's a little tired, roll on tired. 1581 01:17:52,507 --> 01:17:57,077 She's got loving arms around her all night tonight, okay? 1582 01:17:57,111 --> 01:17:58,746 Why don't you say goodnight. 1583 01:18:01,148 --> 01:18:02,316 - Hi. - Hi. 1584 01:18:02,517 --> 01:18:04,185 - Hi, Val. - Hi. 1585 01:18:04,785 --> 01:18:05,452 - Val. 1586 01:18:05,486 --> 01:18:06,720 - Hi sweetheart. 1587 01:18:06,754 --> 01:18:07,454 - Can you hear me? 1588 01:18:07,488 --> 01:18:09,456 - I can, I can. 1589 01:18:09,490 --> 01:18:09,990 - Val? 1590 01:18:10,024 --> 01:18:11,091 - I have my friends. 1591 01:18:11,125 --> 01:18:12,927 - Val? - Yeah, yeah. 1592 01:18:13,994 --> 01:18:16,430 - I love you. 1593 01:18:16,463 --> 01:18:17,097 - Yeah. 1594 01:18:17,131 --> 01:18:20,201 - I love you so, so much. 1595 01:18:20,234 --> 01:18:21,835 - And I love you sweetheart. 1596 01:18:21,869 --> 01:18:24,338 - First friend, best friend. 1597 01:18:24,371 --> 01:18:24,939 - Okay. 1598 01:18:24,972 --> 01:18:27,007 - Yes? - Okay, yeah. 1599 01:18:27,041 --> 01:18:27,908 - Did you hear me? 1600 01:18:27,942 --> 01:18:29,343 - Yeah! 1601 01:18:29,376 --> 01:18:30,010 - Okay. 1602 01:18:30,044 --> 01:18:31,946 - Okay, I'll see you later. 1603 01:18:31,979 --> 01:18:33,280 - Okay honey - Okay? 1604 01:18:33,314 --> 01:18:34,014 - Yes. 1605 01:18:34,048 --> 01:18:35,316 - Bye, bye. 1606 01:18:36,116 --> 01:18:37,184 - Bye. 1607 01:18:38,385 --> 01:18:39,320 - Stay calm. 1608 01:18:39,920 --> 01:18:41,789 - That was good now I feel better. 1609 01:18:41,822 --> 01:18:43,924 (chattering) 1610 01:18:43,958 --> 01:18:46,961 Thank you, everybody. 1611 01:18:46,994 --> 01:18:49,163 - You know I was just thinking, 1612 01:18:49,196 --> 01:18:50,798 I don't think tomorrow's a good day 1613 01:18:50,831 --> 01:18:52,399 to go spread these ashes. 1614 01:18:52,433 --> 01:18:55,970 - No, that's, it's important that we do it. 1615 01:18:56,003 --> 01:18:57,404 I think we should do it. 1616 01:18:57,438 --> 01:19:00,374 And I feel better now and I, 1617 01:19:00,407 --> 01:19:03,310 who knows how I'll feel if we wait so, 1618 01:19:03,344 --> 01:19:05,913 I think we should do it now, I wanna be here for it. 1619 01:19:05,946 --> 01:19:07,181 (laughs) 1620 01:19:07,214 --> 01:19:08,816 - You're right. - Okay. 1621 01:19:08,849 --> 01:19:09,850 - You are right. 1622 01:19:09,883 --> 01:19:10,552 - Good. 1623 01:19:10,585 --> 01:19:11,819 - We're doing it. - Great. 1624 01:19:11,852 --> 01:19:12,520 - We're doing it. 1625 01:19:12,554 --> 01:19:13,420 - All right. 1626 01:19:13,454 --> 01:19:16,090 - Oh here, toast! - Yes. 1627 01:19:16,123 --> 01:19:17,324 - This is yours. 1628 01:19:22,896 --> 01:19:24,465 Love and friendship. 1629 01:19:24,498 --> 01:19:25,232 - Yeah. 1630 01:19:25,266 --> 01:19:26,300 - That's good. 1631 01:19:27,034 --> 01:19:28,035 - Cheers. 1632 01:19:28,068 --> 01:19:30,804 (upbeat music) 1633 01:19:31,372 --> 01:19:36,544 ♪ Should auld acquaintance be forgot ♪ 1634 01:19:37,011 --> 01:19:42,316 ♪ And never brought to mind ♪ 1635 01:19:42,349 --> 01:19:47,454 ♪ Should auld acquaintance be forgot ♪ 1636 01:19:48,022 --> 01:19:53,394 ♪ For auld lang syne ♪ 1637 01:19:53,861 --> 01:19:59,133 ♪ For auld lang syne, my jo ♪ 1638 01:19:59,333 --> 01:20:04,405 ♪ For auld lang syne ♪ 1639 01:20:04,438 --> 01:20:09,810 ♪ We'll take a cup of kindness yet ♪ 1640 01:20:10,377 --> 01:20:15,550 ♪ For auld lang syne ♪ 1641 01:20:18,385 --> 01:20:23,558 ♪ And surely you will buy your pint ♪ 1642 01:20:23,991 --> 01:20:29,263 ♪ And surely I'll buy mine ♪ 1643 01:20:29,296 --> 01:20:34,468 ♪ We'll take a cup of kindness yet ♪ 1644 01:20:35,336 --> 01:20:40,341 ♪ For auld lang syne ♪ 1645 01:20:40,575 --> 01:20:45,946 ♪ For auld lang syne, my jo ♪ 1646 01:20:46,313 --> 01:20:49,917 ♪ For auld lang syne ♪ 1647 01:20:50,918 --> 01:20:53,921 - [Natalie] Many years have passed since that day, 1648 01:20:53,954 --> 01:20:58,392 Val was the first to join me, Rheza was the last. 1649 01:20:58,425 --> 01:21:00,361 And just like Maggie wanted, 1650 01:21:00,394 --> 01:21:03,230 we were all there for each other's passing, 1651 01:21:03,263 --> 01:21:05,432 on one side or the other. 1652 01:21:05,466 --> 01:21:10,605 ♪ We too have run about the braes ♪ 1653 01:21:11,071 --> 01:21:16,310 ♪ And pulled the daisies fine ♪ 1654 01:21:16,343 --> 01:21:21,415 ♪ And we wandered many a weary mile ♪ 1655 01:21:21,982 --> 01:21:27,187 ♪ Since auld lang syne ♪ 1656 01:21:27,388 --> 01:21:32,527 ♪ For auld lang syne, my jo ♪ 1657 01:21:33,060 --> 01:21:35,462 ♪ For auld lang syne ♪ 1658 01:21:35,496 --> 01:21:39,099 - There is a land of the living and a land of the dead. 1659 01:21:39,133 --> 01:21:41,536 And the bridge is love. 1660 01:21:41,569 --> 01:21:45,172 The only survival, the only meaning. 1661 01:21:45,205 --> 01:21:50,077 ♪ For auld lang syne ♪ 1662 01:21:57,217 --> 01:21:59,953 (upbeat music) 1663 01:22:39,761 --> 01:22:42,496 (upbeat music) 1664 01:22:50,605 --> 01:22:55,976 ♪ Are you going to Scarborough Fair ♪ 1665 01:22:56,611 --> 01:23:01,716 ♪ Parsley, sage, rosemary, and thyme ♪ 1666 01:23:02,517 --> 01:23:08,088 ♪ Remember me to one who lives there ♪ 1667 01:23:09,724 --> 01:23:15,062 ♪ She once was a true love of mine ♪ 1668 01:23:24,806 --> 01:23:30,177 ♪ Tell her to find me an acre of land ♪ 1669 01:23:30,712 --> 01:23:36,049 ♪ Parsley, sage, rosemary, and thyme ♪ 1670 01:23:36,951 --> 01:23:42,489 ♪ Between the salt water and the sea strands ♪ 1671 01:23:44,157 --> 01:23:49,496 ♪ Then she'll be a true love of mine ♪ 1672 01:23:53,801 --> 01:23:59,172 ♪ Then she'll be, she'll be ♪ 1673 01:23:59,373 --> 01:24:04,378 ♪ Then she'll be, she'll be ♪ 1674 01:24:04,612 --> 01:24:09,784 ♪ Then she'll be, she'll be ♪ 1675 01:24:10,183 --> 01:24:14,421 ♪ Then she'll be, she'll be ♪ 1676 01:24:14,454 --> 01:24:15,723 ♪ A true love of mine ♪ 1677 01:24:15,757 --> 01:24:19,527 ♪ Then she'll be, she'll be ♪ 1678 01:24:19,561 --> 01:24:21,261 ♪ A true love of mine ♪ 1679 01:24:21,295 --> 01:24:24,732 ♪ Then she'll be, she'll be ♪ 1680 01:24:24,766 --> 01:24:26,601 ♪ A true love of mine ♪ 1681 01:24:26,634 --> 01:24:30,504 ♪ Then she'll be, she'll be ♪ 1682 01:24:30,538 --> 01:24:32,306 ♪ A true love of mine ♪ 1683 01:24:32,339 --> 01:24:35,743 ♪ Then she'll be, she'll be ♪ 1684 01:24:35,777 --> 01:24:37,712 ♪ A true love of mine ♪ 1685 01:24:37,745 --> 01:24:41,448 ♪ Then she'll be, she'll be ♪ 1686 01:24:41,481 --> 01:24:43,383 ♪ A true love of mine ♪ 1687 01:24:43,417 --> 01:24:46,821 ♪ Then she'll be, she'll be ♪ 1688 01:24:46,854 --> 01:24:51,491 ♪ A true love, a true love, a true love ♪ 1689 01:24:51,526 --> 01:24:55,162 ♪ A true love, a true love, a true love ♪ 1690 01:24:55,195 --> 01:24:59,867 ♪ A true love, a true love of mine ♪ 1691 01:24:59,901 --> 01:25:03,503 ♪ Then she'll be, she'll be ♪ 1692 01:25:03,538 --> 01:25:05,372 ♪ A true love of mine ♪ 1693 01:25:05,405 --> 01:25:08,776 ♪ Then she'll be, she'll be ♪ 1694 01:25:08,810 --> 01:25:10,645 ♪ A true love of mine ♪ 1695 01:25:10,678 --> 01:25:14,448 ♪ Then she'll be, she'll be ♪ 1696 01:25:14,481 --> 01:25:16,350 ♪ A true love of mine ♪ 1697 01:25:16,383 --> 01:25:19,119 ♪ Then she'll be she'll be ♪ 124095

Can't find what you're looking for?
Get subtitles in any language from opensubtitles.com, and translate them here.