All language subtitles for Married.at.First.Sight.UK.S08E11.1080p.ALL4.WEB-DL.AAC2.0.H.264-NTb[eztv.re]_track4_eng

This programme contains strong
language and adult humour

We consummated the marriage last
night. Nothing in my heart changed.

Previously...
Today, you haven't looked at me.

An emotional breakthrough
for Rozz and Thomas...

I feel sad that I would make anyone
feel like that.

..set their marriage back on track.

I'm sorry for my lack of
communication. I do care about you.

But the honesty box revealed
unresolved issues.

Do you see us being intimate again?

Erm...

Do you think we have
the same level of maturity?

And a bumpy confessions week for
the experiment's golden couple...

No.

..was made worse by
a loose-lipped Brad...

He told everyone intimate things
about us.

He grabbed me to tell me

he could see cracks forming in your
relationship.

Urgh! ..before Jay and Luke's
ranking

of the least successful couples...

Laura and Arthur.
Ella and Nathanial, Brad and Shona.

..intensified their downward
spiral.

I'm fuming that people don't see
the love we have for each other.

Shut up!

Relax, let it go.

Tonight... Welcome to the second
commitment ceremony.

As the experts put marriages under
the microscope...

It's so nice that we feel
comfortable around each other.

..for some, there's cause to
celebrate.

She's got me, like, yeah.

Yes, I'm falling in love
with Tasha.

While others...

When I actually get down to it,
I don't know.

..are forced to face
uncomfortable truths.

Brad is using words like
"I will allow you" and "let you."

Absolutely. I feel like that's what
I want to do.

You don't need to allow her
to do anything. She's your equal.

I don't know you.

I can't do this. I can't do this,
this is too much.

Madam, your coffee is ready.

Thank you. Oh, my God, you've done
it exactly how I like it.

I'm learning, right?

Thanks, babe, you are learning.

It's the morning after
the dinner party.

I had a good time, but I think
that's because me and you were cool.

And some of the group
are reflecting

on the relationship between
Brad and Shona.

Brad and Shona, I think we ranked
them actually higher

than they should have been,
and they still kicked off.

Oh, it just winds me up.

The lovey-dovey Brad and Shona,
who everybody thought

was the star couple
at the first commitment ceremony,

you can see there are clear things

not quite right in
that relationship.

I was speaking to Brad, saying,

"You've been saying stuff behind
Shona's back

"about the types of sex you have
and things you do in the bedroom.

"If that's true,
it's disrespectful."

Luke mentioned there's been rumours
going around

that you and Shona are speaking
about your sex life

and stuff like that.

At the end of the day, if so
and so says this,

I'm like,
I don't show it any attention

because I'm like, what's the point?

And why would I have
an emotional attachment

to what someone else thinks?

People are just making weird
assumptions that we're not genuine

and it's odd to me.

Brad and I have definitely had
a huge blip this week.

The dinner party last night
was hard.

Of course I do feel like
I care what people think.

This is Married At First Sight,
it's not friendship.

Even if you and me came in this room

and stayed in here for the duration

and worked on us and got a bond,

brilliant, it's worked,
that's why I came.

Sometimes I feel quite dismissed.

I feel like I have taken a step back
and I'm kind of hiding a bit

and not really saying
how I truly feel.

Right now I feel like
the communication's so clear.

You know, we understand each other
now.

I think Bradley needs to understand
that his views aren't always mine.

I am my own person.

I should be allowed
to have some emotion

and have a voice,
and not have it knocked down.

Namaste.

You know what I mean?

Yeah, no, it's fine.

OK, good.

I like how you are, I think it's
just, let me see the real you

whenever you can, that's all it is.

You like how I am or you lu-u-urv
how I am? Don't go that far!

Cos what else did you say
to me this week, Pauly boy?

Yeah, I said I'm falling for you.

This week has been really good.

Paul is really understanding.

He understands that I struggle
to open up and express myself.

Coming into the experiment,
Tasha had her defences up.

Can you tell me about your
previous relationships?

Very toxic, mentally,
emotionally, physically.

What is your biggest fear about
getting into a new relationship?

I think it's fear of having
to put my guard down.

Trusting someone again is scary.

But confessions week marked
a breakthrough

for her and the couple's marriage.

You're so nice, I'm not used to it.

It's like, this can't be real,

and this is what I need to break out
of.

You as a whole
is who I'm falling for.

I don't want to rush you,
I don't want to put pressure on you.

You take your time,

and maybe that's something
I can do as well.

Honestly, I really don't think it's
a you problem,

it is literally just me.

Like, I've been through too much.

I want to be able express myself
to Paul,

so I'm hoping the experts
can help me work on that.

Cup of tea?

Oh, yes, please. Last night, man...

For me, I learnt things about you,
which was probably the best thing.

During confessions week, Nathanial
revealed what he needed from Ella

to help improve their marriage.

I need depth in conversation.

Like, my soul and mind is not
being tested.

I'm not learning,
and I'm not learning about you.

But at the dinner party...

I was in love, and it felt so
amazing. Yeah.

It's a love that just...

Transcends all things.

Yeah. I just want to feel that
again.

His deeper connections

with other wives worried
and confused Ella.

I wish we had these intimate
moments together.

You want me to be open,
but I also need you to be open.

Physical intimacy
and emotional intimacy

are two key elements in a
relationship,

and Nathanial is having those
with other people.

Obviously, I feel bad when you see
me connecting with other people.

They've become friends to me,

so it's probably easier
to be tactile.

Like, with yourself,
it's quite difficult

because you know what you can
give to a friend

that you can't give to someone
you're trying to date.

You're more open in different ways.

Yeah.

I've got so much love for Ella.

We get on so well, but I need to get
to know her on a deeper level.

Hopefully, I can build on that
with her.

You know that I've got your back.

Yeah.

I want to make this work.

I fancy Nathanial,
I see this going somewhere,

but I am nervous going
into the commitment ceremony.

It's really hard to see other people
have what I want with him,

and it's just a shit feeling.

Arthur is still not very well.

Going into the commitment ceremony
alone

is going to be really difficult.

I really struggled
with the dinner party.

It's not nice being gossiped about.

If it means I have to put another
guy in his place, then so be it.

The gold-digger narrative
is so fucking lazy.

When you sat on the couch at
the ceremony,

what you was asking
for was a man with money.

I have never once in my life

needed a man to pay for anything.

I'm still really struggling
with Luke

and some of the things that he said
about me

before making any effort to get
to know me as a person.

I know I'm not a gold-digger,

and I'm sick of Luke accusing me
of being such.

I'm done with it.

So I know what I'm usually like.

I'm very affectionate,

I'm very touchy-feely,
I'm very complimentary

and I feel like I've taken
a step back from doing all that

because I can see from you,
there's a reservation.

And I don't want to initiate

because I don't want to make you
feel uncomfortable.

I'm feeling a lot better than
last week.

We've enjoyed each other's company,
so something's worked

and I do think it was Paul coming in
and helping us.

When I did have sex, I was thinking
there would be something.

I think we're both inherently scared
to get hurt.

I think that's pretty clear,
would you agree with that?

I don't know.

You come in and you think, like,
"Oh, I'm gonna fall madly in love"

and because it hasn't happened, then
I'm literally, like, panicking.

Because I get inside my own head,

I get a bit conflicted
and confused.

People know what they want.

You know, I never know.

And it's embarrassing.

Our couples are about to face their
second commitment ceremony,

a crucial junction where they must
decide

whether to continue their marriage
or part ways.

For couples who are satisfied,

the ceremony can serve as
an opportunity to enhance

and strengthen their bond.

For those experiencing turbulence,

navigating this junction
can be particularly challenging.

Welcome to the second
commitment ceremony.

We understand that there might
have been some challenges

for a few of you.

But we are here to help,
to listen and to support you all.

So let's start the journey today.

Our first couple on
the couch tonight,

Rozz and Thomas.

Hello, you two.

Beautifully coordinated in your
outfits tonight.

I know, I did change my dress to
fit. You see? Compromising.

So...just an observation.

The two of you sitting there,

you're not touching.

You don't seem particularly
connected in sitting here now.

Where are things at
with you right now?

I do know what you mean,

and I do feel there's...

..a glass pane between us.

And I can't get through to it

because I don't want to make you
feel uncomfortable.

We've had issues with communication.

We're meant to be a team,

but I think we both have big
guards up,

we both don't want to be hurt.

That's where I feel like
we're stuck.

OK, what are the issues
for you, Rozz?

I feel like Thomas thinks I do
a lot of "I don't knows".

I just need, like, you
to understand

that I am trying, like,

and you can also come to me.

It's not just me, it's not just
one-sided,

you can do things too. Yeah.

Let's strip it back to basics.
Do you like each other?

We are in this process together
and I do deeply care for you.

Do you like him?

Yeah, I think he's brilliant.

Like, he's humorous,

he's kind, he's nice.
Like, we actually get on.

Great, this is a good
starting point,

we can build from there.

When you sat down with Paul,

what was it that came

out of that experience
for each of you?

I think for me,

it was that
I was too focused on my hurt

to hear Rosaline

and it would have all been sorted
out

if I'd communicated
with her effectively.

Thomas, since Paul came, he did,
like, hear me when I was talking.

Each day, we get on better and
better. I feel like it's been good.

Great, so we have progress.

I think what could be more helpful
here

is if you just are more open
about what's going on.

We need to go to the decision.

We're going to ask you first,
Thomas.

I mean, anything was better than
last week,

but I feel you did hear me.

I have recognised
your olive branches.

Because of that, I do...

..want to stay.

So, I was, like, panicking
the other day.

I do feel like we've moved
forward from last week.

But when I actually...

..get down to it,

do I need more time?

Or do I just not feel it?

I don't know.

When I actually...

..get down to it,

do I need more time?

Or do I just not feel it?

I don't know.

But I did say stay.

APPLAUSE

Go on, Rozz!

I'd really encourage you over
the next week

to have more of those
deeper conversations,

because there are these issues

with physical intimacy too.

Maybe now's the time in the process
to see if we can help you with that,

otherwise you're not
going to give yourselves that chance

to check out whether this could
potentially work between you.

Sometimes, just to hold
someone's hand

and just say "I'm here for you"
is the beginning of intimacy.

Thank you. Well done, guys.

Thank you.

I'm feeling a lot more confident.

I think the experts are saying,

take the pressure off
the feelings and things will come,

and I believe that can happen.

Like, we've grown from last week,
which is great. Thank God!

Our next couple on
the couch is Terence and Porsha.

Hello, you two.
Well, I've got to say,

you certainly look like
a different couple from last week.

I feel different. You feel
different? It's been a good week.

Really good week. OK. So what has
Porsha done differently

that's made you feel more relaxed?

I feel like she's just let
herself go.

And even in terms
of being affectionate,

Porsha's very good
with her eyes anyway.

Her eyes say a lot.
So when you get them,

it kind of makes me kind of weak.

I'm like, she's got me.

Yeah, I don't want to admit it,
but, yeah, she's good!

All right. How did this dinner
party compare to the week before?

I mean, it was a complete 180,
right?

Um, it was nice
walking in with Terence.

It definitely felt like my husband
last night.

Yeah. I love where this is going.

I love the progress that you've
both made.

Porsha, what can you do this week
that can really help Terrence

to feel comfortable
in the relationship?

Let the little things go.

Terence, what can you do this week?

For myself, I think I definitely
will compromise with Porsha 100%.

We're both on the same page, and
we know baby steps is key for us.

It's give and take.

So why don't we go to a decision?

Porscha, we're going to start
with you today.

OK, it was tough. Obviously,
I wrote stay last week

because I really want to try
with you

and you've tried with me,
and I appreciate that.

And because of that, obviously,

I wrote stay.

It's got a kiss too.

And to you, Terence?

I felt quite embarrassed last week

at how me
and Porsha behaved with each other

and I actually openly admitted
that I'm happy she wrote stay,

because I was ready to go.

So it does show you
what a difference a week can make.

Long may it continue,

because I've wrote stay as well.

Brilliant. With a kiss too.

Brilliant.

And I initiate the hug as well.

ALL: Aw!

Love it. Enjoy the week, guys.
Let's go home and get busy!

This was nicer than last week. Oh,
my God!

Next up to the couch,

we'd like to invite Peggy
and Georges.

Hello to the two of you.
Hello. Hello.

Hey. How are you guys doing?
Really well. Yeah, great.

Good, good. So, talk to me,
what happened this week?

I'll let you lead.

Confessions week.
So we had to rate our values.

The biggest value for me,

other than honesty and ambition,
was children,

because I really want children

and I want to be with somebody that
wants children,

and I understand Georges doesn't
know me enough

to say, "I want children with you",

but I just thought you either want
children or you don't want children.

And where was children on
your ranking?

It was at the bottom.
I've lived the life of a bachelor,

never really wanted children,

but I've met Peggy

and I do think actually, it is
something that I would want

with someone that I'm into
and falling for.

That's what I wanted to hear,
obviously.

But I struggle when somebody says
they don't want something

and changes their mind so quickly.

I just think, can you change your
values that quick?

Peggy, what you were going through,

I think every woman has gone
through - is,

"Is this guy real?"

Focus on the actions,

the actions tell you everything
you need to know. OK?

Yeah.

I think it scares me, like... Don't
be sad. ..to fall in love.

Because I know how bad it can go.

I don't want to be in that
vulnerable position

that I've been in myself,

and I'm scared for
the bad bit of it.

It shocks me how much he's changed.

I think, is it too good to be true?

You know, you talked about being in
previous relationships

where you did get hurt, and having
fear of that happening again.

You're not the same woman you were
back then

and you're now with a man
as a different woman.

I want to be the best wife.

Georges, was there anything on
Peggy's list

that concerned you at all?

Yeah, the sex was low.
It was at the bottom. But...

It wasn't at the bottom,
it was number eight.

It was number eight. It was
penultimate. Yeah, penultimate.

But I might be frustrated at
times, sexually,

not anything else, but that's fine

and I know that it's going to be
worth the wait.

So, that's...

I'm going at our pace.

And I respect that as well.

Yeah. And I suppose with sex,

it's different for different people,
isn't it?

Just means that you need to have
further conversation

around what you want to do at this
stage

from an intimacy point of view.

BOTH: Yeah.

You both agreed there at the same
time. We did. This is good.

Very in tune.

I think this is probably the point
where we ask you for your decisions.

So, Georges,
let's start with yourself.

A very simple decision for me
to make.

A woman that makes me feel complete,

someone that I laugh with
and always have a good time with.

So I have decided to put "Stay,
yay!"

That's so weird!

Thank you, babe.

Easy decision for me.

Short and sweet.

I won't do too much talking
because apparently, I waffle.

So...

..stay!

APPLAUSE

Well, it seems like, guys,

your relationship is going from
strength to strength.

So we wish you all the very best
for the rest of the week.

Thank you very much, guys.
Thanks for your time.

You, too. Thank you.

Thank you.

Next up to the couch,
Ella and Nathanial.

Good to see the two of you.

So tell me, guys, how's your
week been?

I think the week's been a tough one.

I kind of opened up last night
about the love that I want.

But what I've kind of realised

is that I'm a 36-year-old guy

and I think that your life
has been, like, to transition,

and you've only just become your
true authentic self

on the outside to being who you
want to be,

which feels like we're on different
planes of...

You know who you are, and I
don't? Yeah.

I feel like what I need,

I'm scared that you can't give
it me.

And this is why I'm losing myself.

Does that mean I've just got to sit
and wait, then,

for you to feel that you know me
enough on the inside

before I get
anything that I want from you?

I don't know you.
We haven't had a deep conversation.

I don't know how this is ever
going to work, then,

because I've said I need
a bit of affection

so I know that this is going in
the right direction.

At times, you've questioned -
you don't like crazy Ella,

flamboyant Ella, but that is me.

But this time, I want deeper.

That's not something I
would naturally start doing

in a conversation.

Well, maybe it's the responsibility
of both parties here.

So, you know, if you want that
deeper mental stimulation,

maybe it is sort of asking
questions.

If Nathanial asked me questions,

I would happily have
a discussion with him.

But it's not natural for me
to do that

because my friends
and past relationships,

I've not really...I don't really go
that deep.

And I admitted to Nathanial at
the dinner party

that I don't think I've ever been in
love,

and I worry that that puts him off.

Nathanial, does it bother you
that Ella has never been in love?

It scares me, because I know what
love is, and...

..and I'm waiting to feel that
again.

But I need to know everything about
a person

to be in love.

And I can't move forward
if I don't have that.

I can't do this.

I can't do this. This is too much.

SHE SOBS

I can't do this.

I can't do this, this is too much.

SHE SOBS

I don't want to do this any more.

Look at me. Look at me. I'm here for
you.

I know it's rough on that sofa,
but we have to be honest

and honesty will move us forward.
So please come back, yeah?

Yeah? Breathe.

Whatever comes from this scenario,

you know that we've got
each other, yeah?

We have a connection.
We just...we need to be deeper.

This is fucking hard. This is hard,
but please,

we've got this together,

and this is what we need to be
on this couch talking, yeah? Yeah.

Go on, take a breath.

I feel really bad for her.

I feel like I want to go and see if
she's OK.

I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry.

Take a seat, guys.

How are you feeling, Ella?

I'm obviously, like...

..learning things about myself.

And I think Nathanial hit the nail
on the head when he said, like,

my whole life has just been
about my transition.

And sometimes I don't really know
who I am.

I know, I know I'm a strong woman,

but I think you transition

and I suddenly finished my surgeries
and then it's like,

I'm not trans now, I'm Ella,
and I'm just this woman

and I'm in the big wide world
and I don't really...

You don't know where you fit in.
Yeah, where do I fit in?

So I don't know why I'm feeling
the way I'm feeling,

but I want to find out why.

I think what is between
the two of you can be fantastic.

I think you haven't given each other
an opportunity

to see each other yet.
I think it's all there.

And whether that's to become
a friendship or a great love,

we don't know yet.

OK.

OK, let's go to the decisions.

So, Nathanial, let's start with you.

Will you stay this week
or will you leave?

I always see, obviously,

that I feel like I've been in this
dark place

for the last few weeks.

I want to learn about you
and I want to grow, together.

So it was a...

..stay.

Wonderful.

Ella, what's your decision?

I have been kind of wondering,
is this right?

Like, is this going to go anywhere?

I came here for something,

and maybe my expectations were
too high.

And then I'm comparing myself
to other couples,

because I thought I wanted that.

So I said...

..stay, along with "I didn't come
here to make a friend,

"but I do want to give you a chance,
so stay."

You OK? Yeah.

Guys, I just want to wish you both
the best of luck.

I think be vulnerable, be open,

and hopefully take on the advice

that we've been giving you today.
100%.

Thank you, guys. Take care, guys.
Thank you.

God. You OK? Yeah, I'm good.

I think this week is going to be
a big week for us.

And I'll see how Ella can actually
interact in a way that I like to be,

and if she can feed me
the emotion that I need.

I just need to know that we are
moving forward.

I just feel like I
need to give this another try,

I need to see if this can
go somewhere.

I'm not someone who gives up
on anything.

All right, if we could have Tasha
and Paul, come on over.

Welcome. Thank you.

How's the week been?

Yeah, it's definitely been very good
this week.

He says with the biggest smile
on his face!

What does that mean, Paul?

I think it's got to the stage

where I think me and Tasha are
finally taking it to the next level.

Got intimate. Woo!

And I feel like we've got close
because of it. Definitely.

That's beautiful.
It's made you closer. Mmm.

Aw!

All right, what did you learn
about each other this week?

Do you want to start that one, Paul?

Do you want to tell the guys
something?

Um...

..yes, I'm falling in love
with Tasha. OK!

Tasha? Don't ask me. Tasha?

Are you also falling in love
with Paul?

I might be, but I won't...

..I physically can't say it to him.

I've always got a guard up

and I struggle to talk about
feelings and express myself.

With Paul, he's making it
a bit easier as the day goes by,

which I've struggled to do
for ages.

One of the first things
I believe you can do

is, first, call a thing a thing.

So, how do you feel in this moment

with your husband?

Safe.

That's lovely. That's really lovely.

It's beautiful.
So now you just turn around

and you tell him,
"I feel safe with you."

I feel safe with you.

You should be proud
of yourself right now.

No, you don't have to cover it up.
You don't have to cover it up.

Well done.

It's OK, he's got you.
He's got you, right?

OK? Mm-hmm.

Thanks. All right.

All right, now, Paul.

What do you have to say
for us on this decision?

Well, I think that it's nice that
you're slowly opening up to me

because obviously, seeing the real
Tasha is what I want.

What I think I'm going to put
and say is...

..stay.

Yes! Woo!

So, everything about you
is what I need in my life.

Day by day,

I realise why we were
matched together,

and I thank God for that.

So I have decided to stay.

Yeah!

Like you lots. Like you lots.
Guys, we love you, right?

We want you to have
an incredible week.

Work on the emotion, and I guarantee

you'll come back a whole lot
stronger.

Thank you. Thank you.

Well done, guys.

And next up on the couch today
is lovely Laura.

Hello.

Laura, you're alone. I know!

How's Arthur going?

Nothing has happened to him or us,
he's just not very well.

How was it for you coming
to the dinner party by yourself?

It was a challenge.

I felt like I was walking into
the lion's den a little bit,

if I'm honest.

What was so difficult about those
conversations for you?

I just think it's really lazy
to label a woman a gold-digger.

I think it's offensive,

and I feel like I've got
a lot of heat...from Luke.

And financial things
are so sensitive to me,

because I inherited my money
from my dad.

My dad is no longer with me.

So to be accused of looking
for money in another man

is so upsetting.

And it's think just such
a lazy narrative

to call a woman who is strong
and intelligent

and talks a certain way stuck up,
and I'm bored of it.

I'm bored of having to try
and prove people wrong,

just based on how I talk.

Can I say something here quick,
actually?

So I wasn't going to do this,

but because obviously now it's being
pinned back...

Everyone's got a first impression
of everyone,

whether it's negative or positive,

and Laura comes across as stuck-up
to me.

But it wasn't all my opinion.

So I don't want it
to look like I've attacked someone.

I just want to say, you were really
making it obvious

how you felt about Laura
to everyone.

I've only made that gold-digger
comment once.

I'm getting a sense that this issue

is about making assumptions
about a person.

My hope is that this is
a really positive lesson

for everyone here

and that we can all, I guess,

take away from this situation

that making assumptions is
unhelpful,

and in fact very hurtful,
and just plain incorrect.

It must be so hard for you, sitting
here without Arthur.

It is difficult.

Well, I feel very privileged to have
a letter here from Arthur

that he's asked me to read out.

I hope he didn't get
it off the internet this time.

LAUGHTER

Yeah, have you checked?

It's original.

"I've come here to become vulnerable
and open up to love

"and all other emotions
and feelings that come with it.

"Me and Laura have been through ups
and downs.

"And even though we've known each
other for a short period of time,

"I feel like there's
a lot more potential there.

"So my decision today
is to stay. Kiss." Oh, bless him.

So Laura, what's your decision?

OK. Well, obviously it's been
a week

of noise not really to do
with Arthur and I.

And I want to focus
on our relationship,

so my decision is to stay.

Wonderful.

You did really, really well.

Next up to the couch of love,
Jay and Luke.

Come on over.

Help me up.

Bloody hell!

Welcome, welcome, welcome.

BOTH GROAN WHILE SITTING DOWN

Hi!

It's like you've been married
for 30 years! I know.

Can we begin with confessions week?
Big week. Very big week.

What did you learn
about each other?

I learnt to just not keep these
negative thoughts in my brain.

Let go a little bit.

I need to start bringing my
walls down a little bit,

which I have this week.

You know, meeting him is bringing
the good out in me

more and more every day. Yeah.

And I know that this is
something that I've never had, ever.

I can be literally my full self
around you.

It's so nice that we feel
comfortable around each other,

and she tells me that all the time,

that's what makes me proud
of myself, proud of us.

Sometimes...I'm getting a bit
emotional

because it's sometimes hard.

You know when sometimes in life,
you don't feel adequate?

And when you meet someone who makes
you be yourself,

this is it with Jay,
and I've come here with an open mind

and all I want is that connection
with someone.

And with Jay, I've got that.

That's beautiful.

So beautiful.

APPLAUSE

We can all see it. We're very,
very proud

of what you two have accomplished.

Let's go to the decision.

I would love to hear from
Jay first.

I am really enjoying myself
and getting, you know,

getting to know you more
and more every day.

So I have chosen to...

..stay!

Nice.

All right, what have you got over
there, Luke?

So, really easy for me.

Stay.

I'll tell you what -

continue being fond of each other,
continue having fun,

and continue just being in
the moment,

because that clearly is working
for both of you.

All right. Thank you.

Well done.

Don't know what I'm getting upset
for. No one look at me!

Don't look at me, I'm shy.

All right, next up on the couch,
if we could have Shona and Brad.

What's up, guys?

Hi, guys. Hello. How are we doing?

Good.

Yeah, good.

OK. Energy is a whole lot different
than it was last week.

Yeah. Why's that?

Do you want to go
or do you want me to go? You can go.

Sure? Yeah.

Erm, I think it's safe to say

the rollercoaster has taken course.

I don't know, maybe dramas
and conflicts and things like that,

I understand that I can hold
my tongue,

I can let it pass, you know,
and there's situations

where Shona's maybe felt like she
needed to get involved

when it's unnecessary,

when it doesn't concern her
or things like that.

I struggle to understand it,

but that's because we're a different
level of emotional maturity.

I'm just curious, Shona,
what's your opinion of that?

Do you think I'm
emotionally immature?

I think there's traits.

Shona, your husband has just said
you're emotionally immature.

So, what is your opinion of that?

I don't know.
I don't really know how I feel.

OK. Let's go to the dinner party.

I think the moment that really
shifted the energy

was when Luke was giving his
rankings.

So when that moment happened,

Shona, that's where I saw you
beginning to react.

My natural human reaction was
being like, why,

why are we at the bottom of
the list when, like,

we are actually, like, saying we
love each other?

I just want to prove to you,
like, how I feel about him. OK.

Bradley, what was your thought

as to why what Luke was saying
didn't matter?

Just because I'm living in
my vessel.

So all I need to care about
is the way I feel internally.

And this is what I was trying
to explain to Shona.

They're so entitled to feel the way
they feel.

Right. And you know what?
I loved it.

Yeah, I thought it was brilliant.

Thank you, man. It was great.
Until... Yeah?

You did not allow Shona to exist in
her feelings in that moment. OK.

And at that moment, I wanted to say,
"Brad, chill." Let her.

It's a Catch-22, I think, sometimes,
innit,

because, not that I'm in a position
of authority or to teach her,

but if I allow her to get angry,

is she ever gonna learn?

Jesus.

You did not allow Shona to exist in
her feelings in that moment.

It's a Catch-22, I think, sometimes,
innit,

because, not that I'm in a position
of authority or to teach her,

but if I allow her to get angry...

..is she ever gonna learn?
Jesus.

I don't want this to become
a co-dependent situation

where a question is asked and you're
like, "Bradley, what do you think?"

Yeah, he's like my teacher.

A teacher-student relationship

never works as
a romantic relationship.

There needs to be interdependence.

You don't want to be co-dependent.
That is not healthy.

That leads to nowhere.

Yeah, I think that's where we've
kind of had conflict sometimes,

because he will obviously try
and explain what he feels.

But then I'm like, it comes across
sometimes quite...

Stern and authoritative.
..cold and stern and I'm like...

Shona, I'm interested in your
perspective on that.

Does he preach to you?

Erm...Jesus!

I know, innit?
I guess you could...

I'm asking Shona.

Sometimes he'll go, "Duh-duh-duh,
but that's just my opinion",

and, like, it seems like
a little bit defensive.

So I'm like, "Ooh, can I...can I
challenge you on that?"

Do you feel like his equal?

Erm, I think sometimes, naturally,
I feel like he is above me, yeah.

I think that's just me in life.

Brad is using words like "I will
allow you to" and "let you".

Absolutely. Do you notice

that you're using that sort of
language here tonight?

100%. I feel like that's what I
want to do.

You know, I want to allow her to
have the space.

No, but you don't need to allow her
to do anything. Of course not.

She's your equal. She'll make that
call.

Yeah. So I guess I
want to make sure that, Brad,

you're aware of the language
that you're using with her,

and giving Shona the space
to just think for herself.

She's an independent thinker

and she's got a lot to bring
to the table.

We're calling this out because these
are the kind of patterns

that can
become dangerous between two people.

And it sounds like Brad's open
to that feedback

because maybe in the moment,

he's not always aware when he's
using that type of language.

But it's important for you
to be able to say,

"Actually, that language makes me
feel like a student.

"That doesn't make me feel
very comfortable."

It sounds like, Brad, that you're
quite open

to take in that feedback.

And on that point,

what is it that you're learning
from her?

I'm learning how
to you when you've set a boundary,

how to appreciate
somebody's boundary.

And I want to understand

that when I actually really do care
for someone,

that needs to be appreciated.
Yeah. Really important.

These are the things that you
need to pick up on now.

Yeah. You know,
watching your language

and also making sure that you have
that voice

and then you say, "Hey,
I've got an opinion here.

"I want to voice that as well."

So we're going to go to the
decision.

Brad, if we could begin with you.

OK, so being able to accomplish

or get past challenges with somebody

and then come back and be stronger
is a beautiful thing.

And I'm able to do that with you.

So I have decided to...

..stay. Can you read that?

And Shona?

A few days ago, I was like,

"Why is this going so wrong?
Is this over?"

And it just felt horrendous to me.

But obviously, you know
how I feel about you,

and I feel that we've been
on such a big journey this week

and feel closer
to you now than ever before,

and I feel like
the conflict has been good.

It's been healthy.

So I wrote a big fat...

..stay!

Nice.

We love both of you.

Can't wait to see what you look like
next week together.

Good on you, guys.

Thank you, guys. Well done. Thank
you.

Next time...

I just really want to have that one
special someone

that I can spend
the rest of my life with.

Four new singles will put their
faith in the experiment.

The right kind of love
is an unbreakable love.

Taking the ultimate leap of faith.

Finding someone to share my life
with is what I'm looking for.

I want to fall in love.
It's a massive deal for me.

But could a picky bride...

I felt like I'd just taken
a sleeping tablet at the altar.

If he was a bit taller, and lose the
bowl cut...

We can tweak.

..and a lack of spark...

If you'd seen her in a nightclub,

would she have turned your head?

..overshadow the
newcomers' hopes of happiness?

I can't control how I feel,
it's not like love at first sight.

Subtitles by Red Bee Media