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Upbeat doo-wop music.
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You take a little boy.
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And you take a little girl.
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Who got their hearts on fire.
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In a wonderful world.
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Hoo!
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Put them all together.
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Any kind of weather.
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What have you got?
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You've got love.
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You've got love.
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Now you take a starry night.
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And a big yellow moon.
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You've got your radio going.
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With a real groovy tune.
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Oh!
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Put them all together.
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Any kind of weather.
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What have you got?
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How was your trip?
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Oh my gosh!
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- So amazing!
- - Yeah?
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- I'm beaming.
- - Aw...
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It was, like, the best,
like, two and a half weeks ever.
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- We had a great time.
- That's...
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Wonderful.
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- Yeah.
- - Yeah.
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- Wonderful to hear.
- - Mm-hm.
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You're bringing it with you.
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- Yeah.
- - Mm-hm.
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We had a lot of fun!
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Like, I just feel like we
were laughing non-stop,
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just, like,
seeing so much, like,
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felt so lucky to have
this experience together,
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and just...
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I just felt like I was sitting
in the catbird seat with you.
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Yeah.
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That's true.
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I think it's really
easy to get in your head.
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Or at least I get in
my head, you know,
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just thinking about whether this
partnership has a foundation of
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something that is...
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real?
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And so it was so
nice to just, like,
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be with you and to have so much
of all of that just kind of fade
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away, and for it to be... for
it to be just pure experience.
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Yeah.
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No, I... I know
what you feel like.
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Right?
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I think that's why,
when we got back,
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- I felt so bombarded...
- - Mm-hm.
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With the pain that
we have caused each other.
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Like, I'll just be in a
really good moment with her,
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and I'll remember...
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like, you know...
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- the affair.
- Like, I'll remember that.
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Mm-hm.
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And there is a feeling
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where I'm almost hesitant.
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Hesitant to trust
something in yourself?
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Hesitant to trust
something in myself...
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to... trust something in her...
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Mm-hm.
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I guess my thing
is, like, Orna, like,
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I don't know if this is
something that can heal in
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me.
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I wanna fix it;
Like, I wanna cure it,
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you know?
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So that I can fully,
like, 100 percent,
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like, be all in
like I used to be.
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I have some thoughts on that,
but I wanna hear both of you...
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think about it.
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Like, how do you work with that?
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Like, all sorts of breaches
happened between the two of you.
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Mm.
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And how do you arrive
at some sense of trust,
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I guess?
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It's weird 'cause I want her
to commit to something that she,
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I don't think, feels
comfortable committing to,
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which is that she
won't cheat on me again.
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Well, I just feel
like you keep wanting me to make
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blanket promises...
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forever...
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like we used to.
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And that doesn't
feel very fair to me,
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if I'm being totally honest.
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Um, it doesn't sound
very realistic to me.
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I don't know.
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So, I mean, this event that
happened between the two of you,
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it exposed you to
all sorts of things,
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right?
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It exposed you to sides of
Kristi that you cannot unsee.
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Yeah.
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So now you know her better.
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It exposed you to something
about the world and about
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yourself that you
didn't know before...
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which you cannot unsee.
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So there's a lot of things to
kind of reorganize your view of
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yourself and the world that
is, in addition to painful,
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also a source of growth...
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and, ultimately, love.
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And that goes against this kind
of attempt to make you the same.
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It's like loving the cracks.
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I think, for me, like, I'm...
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I'm loving Kristi's differences.
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But it's hard for
me to reconcile...
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- Mm-hm.
- What happened,
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because I can't
believe that that Kristi...
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Mm-hm.
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Is this Kristi,
because if I told her,
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- "This will hurt me..."
- Mm-hm.
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- "This will destroy me..."
- Mm-hm.
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She will do it, or she will not
put up guardrails to not do it.
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- That's terrifying.
- Mm-hm.
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And, like,
sometimes I think about,
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like, "Could I have
an affair right now?"
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On you?"
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I don't think I could!
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Keep going.
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You couldn't because...?
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Because, like, I
would feel so bad, like,
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hurting you!
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Mm-hm.
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I have lots of
thoughts, but where are you?
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It's funny to
hear you say, like...
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"I could never do what you did
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because of how it
would hurt you."
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And what I've tried to
convey to you before
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is space for the idea that
maybe it wasn't about you.
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Like, it was not
about you at all.
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I've told you before that I
wasn't even thinking of you.
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And for me, that
experience was, like,
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so powerful because that was
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really the only time...
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in my life where I can
look back and say, like...
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"Only I owned
myself in that moment."
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Like, questions of...
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duty or culture
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or marriage
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or identity...
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As a woman, as a wife,
as whatever...
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Like, all just...
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were obliterated.
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And so it's hard to talk
about that with you, though,
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because...
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how can something that
was so healing for me
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be the thing that
hurt you the most?
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But I think there's something
else that Brock seems to be
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asking for... I don't know...
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-
- Which is not an explanation...
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but concern.
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Like, yes, I do have
concern for...
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Like, I don't... I just,
like, don't know!
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It just feels like he just wants
to just beat me with this for
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- the rest of my life!
- - Mm.
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It feels like he just wants
to control the relationship...
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- That's not...
- With this!
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That's not what I want.
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What are you looking for?
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What has Kristi not...
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given you?
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Like, I almost feel
like I don't have...
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like, as much... like, she
has more power than me...
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Mm-hm.
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Because she has
proven that she can, like...
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She can, like, completely
forget about me in a moment...
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Mm-hm.
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- And do something for her...
- - Mm-hm.
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And I ca... I don't
feel like I can do that.
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Yeah.
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You don't have
that kind of power.
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- No.
- Right.
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And that bothers me!
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It's not even
like we share power.
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Mm-hm.
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I feel like I have less power.
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Even, like, one time
when I asked you, like,
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"Hey, like, I'd like
to explore, like,"
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other ways of, like, you know,
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doing our relationship,"
and it was like,
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- "No, we're not."
- Mm-hm.
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And since I don't have the
power to go do it on my own...
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Mm-hm.
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I am left at her mercy
for when she decides,
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- "I need this for myself..."
- Mm-hm.
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"Like...
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- "Brock, compartment, boom."
- Mm-hm.
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- And then I come back.
- - Yeah.
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- Yeah.
- -
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That's the
difference between you.
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I know!
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- I know that!
- - Mm-hm.
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But it's like...
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as you're saying to me, like,
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"Well, that's it,
you're different"...
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Mm-hm.
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I wanna yell back, like,
"Well, what if I'm not?!"
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Like, what if I'm stuck?!
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"What if I'm just trapped?!"
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quirky electronic music.
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One of the
things that gets couples through
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impasses the most is the
capacity of people to be
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- accountable.
- - Right.
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To hold up to the
responsibility for what they
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have done.
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At the same time, it's
excruciating for people to stand
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in the space... I mean, we call
it "the space of being the bad"
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- "object."
- Yeah.
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Of being the person
who has harmed someone else.
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It's an awful feeling
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to stand in front of your
partner and really say,
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"I've hurt you."
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I still feel like I...
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am questioning Sean's...
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- movements.
- - Mm-hm.
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Um, uh, you know,
who he's talking to,
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emails, phone conversations,
and I don't know...
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And this is in
reference to Sean's infidelity?
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Yes.
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For instance, he went on a
long bike ride for his birthday.
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That was one of his
birthday gifts to himself.
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Mm-hm.
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And I felt myself thinking,
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"Where is he at?"
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Did he stop off somewhere?
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"Is he meeting up
with someone else?"
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Mm-hm.
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Like, stuff like
that just, you know,
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for some reason... I
know you're... you're kinda,
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like, rolling your
eyes, I'm sure...
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I'm not rolling my eyes,
I'm... I'm just... I'm listening,
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'cause I understand what
triggers it and I get that I
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earned this treatment
with my past behavior,
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but...
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I'm... like, babe, my
location settings are on.
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If you wanna check my fitness...
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Well, before we talk about
possible solutions,
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you were saying, "I recognize
why you'd feel this way."
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Yeah!
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I'm... I get it!
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I earned this scrutiny.
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And if it's gonna
take me six months,
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six years...
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six lifetimes to prove to
you that I'm trustworthy,
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I will continue to
hold myself accountable.
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But I don't wanna keep
talking about it because...
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it hurts!
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Say something
about how it hurts.
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I hurt my wife
thinking that I had a pass.
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And it almost cost me my family.
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Mm-hm.
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So it's a painful
topic to talk about,
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and we keep going back
to it, and it's like...
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you trying to put a
dagger back in my chest?
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Are you trying to put me
on... on edge about it again?
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But how am I putting you on
edge about something you did?
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Babe...
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again...
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it's a wound that I caused you.
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Right, so I have a wound.
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So how... how are you bleeding...
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When the topic comes up?
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Because every time you
wanna bring this subject up,
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it's like you're trying to cut
me again and make it about that.
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I have not satisfied your itch.
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Meaning it brings up
feelings of inadequacy in you?
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Yeah, it's like
what do I need to do?!
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Is that what you're saying?
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Like, what do I need to do?!
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But you're getting
away from feelings.
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It would be helpful to
know it in words of feelings.
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It's a sinking, shitty feeling.
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It's like, "Oh, let's talk
about how I hurt you again."
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- Of inadequacy?
- How I'm shitty.
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How I did a shitty thing.
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It makes you feel
bad about yourself?
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- Yeah!
- Oh, oh, okay.
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Like, I had no
intentions of hurting you!
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But I caused you
this great pain,
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- and now I gotta...
- Sean...
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- Relive it.
- Sean, it's...
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Again, it's kind
of circling around,
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but I think what
you're trying to say,
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to Erica and to me, that
it makes you feel bad about
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yourself.
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Absolutely.
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That's helpful to know...
Using the words to describe
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the actual feeling.
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Me and feelings aren't
something that are...
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easy to discuss.
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Right, but I don't
know if you're noticing,
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when you talk about
your actual feelings...
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- Mm-hm.
- It's really helpful.
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Yeah.
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- He's saying more now...
- Yeah.
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About where he
lives with words that...
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- Connect to feelings.
- Add up, yeah.
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But you had... I think one of
the reasons that this could
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happen is that your
attitude towards him changed.
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Yeah.
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I would say I did a bunch of
attempts to invite him out,
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and some of the things worked
and a lot of the things didn't
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work.
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- Mm-hm.
- - Yeah.
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And there was some moment
in the session where she was
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saying, "How is it possible that
you're now being hurt when I'm"
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the one you cheated on?!"
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Right, yeah, "I'm the one with
the wound and you're bleeding."
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- Yeah, yeah.
- "How are you bleeding?"
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- Yeah.
- But it's totally possible!
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Wait, but what... in
this case, you mean?
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He feels so
failed, and so guilty,
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and so... screwed somehow
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that he really hurts!
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I believe that he really hurts.
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- Don't you?
- - Yeah.
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Ethereal ambient music.
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He wants to think
about himself as a good person.
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Erica was asking him to
experience himself as hurtful.
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For Sean, it's a wound
that evokes shame
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and self-loathing.
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I mean, it could be
related to ways in which he has,
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over his lifetime,
felt not good enough.
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- Let's talk about work.
- Mm-hm.
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From what I understand,
Erica, you've been...
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doubting Sean's
commitment to working,
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based on what you've seen,
328
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and you, Sean, it sounds to me
like you have responded to that
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doubt by not sharing
a lot of information
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because of what feels like
an undermining response.
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I mean, if I get a job offer
and it's not a great fit for me,
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I'm not like, "Hey,
this was presented to me."
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- Mm-hm.
- Why not?
334
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That would be...
That's a total win.
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That's an accomplishment.
336
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It's not a total win and an
accomplishment if it's not
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something that I can take
and utilize for our success.
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Is that because the two of you
have different opinions about
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what is most
important right now?
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I realize that I have
this very small window to
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give my daughter as much time,
as much instruction,
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as much energy to
prepare her for the world,
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whereas Erica's kind of
resentful and mad at me for
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getting to do that.
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- Mm-hm.
- Mm-hm.
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But at the same time, you've
been career-driven for a long
347
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time, and those
successes mean a lot to you.
348
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It's all I've ever had!
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But that's what I'm
saying; I recognize that in you!
350
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Me, on the other hand, all I've
ever had or all I've ever been
351
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focused on is caring about
the people that I love
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and that are important to me.
353
00:16:05,208 --> 00:16:10,008
When you're talking, what
do you see on Erica's face?
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I... see... doubt and concern.
355
00:16:12,418 --> 00:16:13,968
Mm-hm.
356
00:16:15,758 --> 00:16:18,688
How does that affect you, this
kind of facial expression of
357
00:16:18,888 --> 00:16:19,688
doubt?
358
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The same thing my mom did.
359
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Oh.
360
00:16:22,218 --> 00:16:23,218
Also doubting?
361
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It was always,
"You can do better."
362
00:16:26,018 --> 00:16:27,028
- Mm-hm.
- So...
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So how do you
think it affected you?
364
00:16:29,188 --> 00:16:30,818
I mean, it sucks!
365
00:16:31,018 --> 00:16:32,828
It sucks to never
feel like you're enough.
366
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Mm-hm.
367
00:16:34,278 --> 00:16:36,118
So I've learned to
expect people to doubt me,
368
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and I don't care!
369
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And because I don't
give it any energy,
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it doesn't bother me in the
way it probably did when I was
371
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little.
372
00:16:43,618 --> 00:16:46,258
Um, I would assume that you
probably are more affected than
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you're aware of,
374
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so let's try to tap
into that a little more.
375
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I mean...
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my mom was dealing with
the tale of two kids.
377
00:16:57,798 --> 00:17:02,058
- There was me, the dyslexic one.
- Although very intelligent and
378
00:17:02,258 --> 00:17:06,858
did very well in school up
until my dyslexia became...
379
00:17:07,058 --> 00:17:08,858
the forefront issue.
380
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Something as simple as me
not liking to read out loud...
381
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Mm-hm.
382
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Turned into my
mom holding me back,
383
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even though I was
excelling in everything else.
384
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And then by the time I was in
high school and my mom was sick
385
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with cancer and I had
adult responsibilities,
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it made me that much more
disconnected from people in my
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- own age demographic, so...
- Yeah.
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I've had to be
responsible, mature,
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and an adult, but
at the same time,
390
00:17:34,298 --> 00:17:36,274
treated like a child who
doesn't know how to take care of
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themself.
392
00:17:37,258 --> 00:17:38,638
Mm-hm.
393
00:17:38,838 --> 00:17:42,058
So I have learned a long time
ago that the expectation is that
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I'm somehow gonna fuck up.
395
00:17:44,138 --> 00:17:46,108
Yeah.
396
00:17:46,308 --> 00:17:51,108
Yeah, often, kids with
dyslexia, that's their plight.
397
00:17:51,308 --> 00:17:52,948
- Mm-hm.
- Yeah.
398
00:17:53,148 --> 00:17:54,488
So...
399
00:17:54,688 --> 00:17:58,328
So you're saying that there's
kind of already a longstanding
400
00:17:58,528 --> 00:18:01,538
gap between the outside
world and your experience...
401
00:18:01,738 --> 00:18:02,998
Mm-hm.
402
00:18:03,198 --> 00:18:07,748
That ultimately translates
into a style of communication
403
00:18:08,078 --> 00:18:11,088
that keeps people away from you,
404
00:18:11,288 --> 00:18:13,128
that keeps them at
a certain distance.
405
00:18:13,338 --> 00:18:14,388
I mean...
406
00:18:14,588 --> 00:18:16,718
You're not telling them
exactly what's going on.
407
00:18:16,918 --> 00:18:18,258
I mean...
408
00:18:18,468 --> 00:18:21,098
So one of the things that is
happening between the two of you
409
00:18:21,298 --> 00:18:25,608
is that Erica is producing this
kind of doubt that you're so
410
00:18:25,808 --> 00:18:27,768
- used to...
- Mm-hm.
411
00:18:27,968 --> 00:18:30,568
You're saying
there's a life history of this,
412
00:18:30,768 --> 00:18:33,198
and you're putting
up the deflectors,
413
00:18:33,398 --> 00:18:35,544
but the deflectors, what they're
doing is they're promoting
414
00:18:35,568 --> 00:18:38,538
people... Erica, sometimes me...
415
00:18:38,738 --> 00:18:39,778
- Mm-hm.
- To doubt you...
416
00:18:39,948 --> 00:18:41,078
Mm-hm.
417
00:18:41,278 --> 00:18:43,214
Because you're not saying
what's actually going on,
418
00:18:43,238 --> 00:18:45,538
and then you feel doubted...
419
00:18:45,738 --> 00:18:48,748
and you put up deflectors,
and then Erica is like,
420
00:18:48,948 --> 00:18:50,548
"What's goin' on?"
421
00:18:50,748 --> 00:18:54,668
I mean, I learned a long
time ago that it's not about me.
422
00:18:55,708 --> 00:18:56,934
I'm misunderstanding
how that's relevant.
423
00:18:56,958 --> 00:18:58,238
- Yeah, what does that...
- Life!
424
00:18:58,338 --> 00:19:01,388
It's not always gonna be
about... it's not about me!
425
00:19:01,588 --> 00:19:02,984
People aren't always
gonna be concerned about me.
426
00:19:03,008 --> 00:19:04,774
Is that a deflector
you're putting up right now?
427
00:19:04,798 --> 00:19:07,398
It's not a deflector,
it's just my sense of reality.
428
00:19:07,598 --> 00:19:10,358
I think she works very hard
at trying to understand me,
429
00:19:10,558 --> 00:19:13,188
but even when I'm, like, saying,
"This doesn't work for me,"
430
00:19:13,398 --> 00:19:15,358
it doesn't change the
way she goes about things.
431
00:19:15,558 --> 00:19:16,778
Mm-hm.
432
00:19:16,978 --> 00:19:20,368
It's "Let me keep trying to get
you to see it my way so that it"
433
00:19:20,568 --> 00:19:22,578
- "can work for both of us."
- Mm-hm.
434
00:19:22,778 --> 00:19:26,168
But you're saying that some of
the attempts to "understand" you
435
00:19:26,368 --> 00:19:27,754
are not attempts
to understand you,
436
00:19:27,778 --> 00:19:30,168
they're attempts
to influence you?
437
00:19:30,368 --> 00:19:32,048
- Yes.
- - Got it.
438
00:19:32,248 --> 00:19:34,628
So maybe that's good
feedback for you...
439
00:19:34,828 --> 00:19:36,048
Mm.
440
00:19:36,248 --> 00:19:38,434
About when you're trying to
just understand what Sean is
441
00:19:38,458 --> 00:19:41,888
saying and when you're
having actually an attempt to
442
00:19:42,088 --> 00:19:44,018
influence.
443
00:19:44,218 --> 00:19:46,598
I don't think I
interpreted it as an influence
444
00:19:46,798 --> 00:19:48,608
- until you said it.
- Mm-hm.
445
00:19:48,808 --> 00:19:51,608
So I, now, will have to...
446
00:19:51,808 --> 00:19:54,858
really conscientiously figure
out how to speak to you...
447
00:19:55,058 --> 00:19:59,198
- Mm-hm.
- So I don't have that type of...
448
00:19:59,398 --> 00:20:01,198
- vibe.
- I think that the...
449
00:20:01,398 --> 00:20:06,248
If the two of you can figure
out a way to speak where you're
450
00:20:06,448 --> 00:20:09,248
- offering more understanding...
- Mm-hm.
451
00:20:09,448 --> 00:20:13,458
And you're putting more honest
communication on the table...
452
00:20:13,658 --> 00:20:15,298
Not...
453
00:20:15,498 --> 00:20:17,928
circling around but direct...
454
00:20:18,128 --> 00:20:21,638
At least the communication
is about the real thing.
455
00:20:21,838 --> 00:20:22,838
That okay?
456
00:20:23,008 --> 00:20:24,718
I'm saying to you
I'm pretty direct.
457
00:20:24,918 --> 00:20:26,058
No, that is not true.
458
00:20:26,258 --> 00:20:27,458
- Thank you; It's not.
- Okay.
459
00:20:27,638 --> 00:20:29,228
That is not true.
460
00:20:29,428 --> 00:20:33,228
You both have to be a lot
clearer about what you're doing
461
00:20:33,428 --> 00:20:35,978
with your speech.
462
00:20:40,398 --> 00:20:42,118
Okay.
463
00:20:42,318 --> 00:20:47,238
Heartwarming synth music.
464
00:21:18,648 --> 00:21:20,528
So I got
your book recommendations.
465
00:21:20,728 --> 00:21:22,028
Mm-hm.
466
00:21:22,228 --> 00:21:23,544
And they were very lovely,
and I started one of the books.
467
00:21:23,568 --> 00:21:24,568
Which one?
468
00:21:24,728 --> 00:21:25,488
'Your Body's Not an Apology.'
469
00:21:25,688 --> 00:21:27,038
Mm-hm.
470
00:21:27,238 --> 00:21:29,504
I turned it on, and literally,
about three minutes into the
471
00:21:29,528 --> 00:21:31,498
book, I'm driving this morning,
472
00:21:31,698 --> 00:21:33,168
and I was like,
"I'm not gonna cry.
473
00:21:33,368 --> 00:21:35,338
Like, I'm
totally not gonna cry."
474
00:21:35,538 --> 00:21:36,878
What was...?
475
00:21:37,078 --> 00:21:39,338
I think it was, like,
explaining the importance of,
476
00:21:39,538 --> 00:21:42,138
like, uh, radical self-love.
477
00:21:42,338 --> 00:21:44,348
You know, like, "I
love me regardless... ".
478
00:21:44,548 --> 00:21:46,348
- Unconditionally.
- - Exactly.
479
00:21:46,548 --> 00:21:47,928
And I was
thinking and I was like,
480
00:21:48,128 --> 00:21:49,178
"Do I have that?"
481
00:21:49,378 --> 00:21:51,348
And I think what
made me cry was that,
482
00:21:51,548 --> 00:21:53,558
was I just like,
"I don't think so."
483
00:21:53,758 --> 00:21:54,938
Mm-hm.
484
00:21:55,138 --> 00:21:56,364
And then I brought
it back to these sessions.
485
00:21:56,388 --> 00:21:59,318
I was like, "If I
can radically love me",
486
00:21:59,518 --> 00:22:02,408
then I can allow Josh
to radically love me."
487
00:22:02,608 --> 00:22:04,738
So that was my... that was
my epiphany this morning.
488
00:22:04,938 --> 00:22:05,938
Wonderful!
489
00:22:05,978 --> 00:22:06,978
That's a good one!
490
00:22:07,148 --> 00:22:08,148
Thanks.
491
00:22:08,188 --> 00:22:10,118
So...
492
00:22:10,368 --> 00:22:12,328
Where are you, listening?
493
00:22:12,528 --> 00:22:14,328
It's nice, yeah!
494
00:22:14,528 --> 00:22:16,514
Initially, like, what I
wanted to speak about was,
495
00:22:16,538 --> 00:22:20,218
like, I just feel like that she
wasn't committing to some of the
496
00:22:20,418 --> 00:22:22,138
things that she said
she would commit to...
497
00:22:22,208 --> 00:22:25,388
You know, some of, like, the
intimacy or the being close to
498
00:22:25,588 --> 00:22:30,428
each other stuff... and
hearing that helps me to...
499
00:22:30,628 --> 00:22:32,348
not excuse it but to...
500
00:22:32,548 --> 00:22:36,398
understand that her process is
not what I think her process is.
501
00:22:36,598 --> 00:22:37,744
Her process is what
it is for herself.
502
00:22:37,768 --> 00:22:38,568
But there is a process.
503
00:22:38,768 --> 00:22:40,248
Your fear is that
there's no process.
504
00:22:40,388 --> 00:22:42,608
My fear is
that it's stagnant water.
505
00:22:42,808 --> 00:22:46,948
I think a huge thing is, like, I
came in here looking for our sex
506
00:22:47,148 --> 00:22:49,368
life to change.
507
00:22:50,318 --> 00:22:51,958
She's still not initiating.
508
00:22:52,158 --> 00:22:55,458
So although I can recognize
these positive moments,
509
00:22:55,658 --> 00:22:57,998
it doesn't negate the
fact that I'm a human being,
510
00:22:58,198 --> 00:23:01,838
and that I'm having
feelings that are negative.
511
00:23:02,038 --> 00:23:03,628
What's your...
512
00:23:03,828 --> 00:23:06,008
emotional response?
513
00:23:06,208 --> 00:23:08,388
Um, I think that
there's... I don't know,
514
00:23:08,588 --> 00:23:10,068
I don't... I don't
have a word for it,
515
00:23:10,218 --> 00:23:12,058
but there's something
in there that's, like...
516
00:23:12,218 --> 00:23:14,458
I don't know if it's the
way he's saying it or something
517
00:23:14,638 --> 00:23:15,208
that's like...
518
00:23:15,408 --> 00:23:18,228
Like, I feel like things are
happening in our relationship,
519
00:23:18,428 --> 00:23:19,438
and you're kind of like,
520
00:23:19,638 --> 00:23:22,398
"Yeah, that's awesome,
that's regular-degular."
521
00:23:22,598 --> 00:23:25,028
That's not what I
said at all, though.
522
00:23:26,688 --> 00:23:30,078
I completely acknowledged how
what you expressed here today
523
00:23:30,278 --> 00:23:32,658
was important...
To me and to you.
524
00:23:32,858 --> 00:23:34,458
I'm saying that this
is still important,
525
00:23:34,658 --> 00:23:37,418
and I wanna make sure that
that is on... that is there!
526
00:23:37,618 --> 00:23:38,998
So if you don't
want me to bring...
527
00:23:39,198 --> 00:23:39,998
Hold on, Josh.
528
00:23:40,198 --> 00:23:43,088
So what's your response?
529
00:23:44,588 --> 00:23:46,428
Josh is
bringing up my shortcomings,
530
00:23:46,628 --> 00:23:47,428
- right?
- - Mm-hm.
531
00:23:47,628 --> 00:23:49,678
And so it's like I'm...
532
00:23:49,878 --> 00:23:52,848
I feel like I don't bring
that energy to him, right?
533
00:23:53,048 --> 00:23:54,478
In that way.
534
00:23:54,678 --> 00:23:59,398
What is the essence of
the criticism you hear?
535
00:23:59,598 --> 00:24:01,148
It's just not enough!
536
00:24:01,348 --> 00:24:03,074
When he's like, "I just wanna
be... I wanna be more physically"
537
00:24:03,098 --> 00:24:04,578
intimate, I want to
be these things,"
538
00:24:04,688 --> 00:24:06,488
if I'm not, every
week, making progress,
539
00:24:06,688 --> 00:24:08,914
is he gonna be like, "Oh,
well, this all was for nothing?"
540
00:24:08,938 --> 00:24:11,078
- Like, "We failed?"
- Mm-hm.
541
00:24:11,278 --> 00:24:13,288
Wh... what does that mean?
542
00:24:13,488 --> 00:24:17,498
So you're stuck and paralyzed by
543
00:24:17,698 --> 00:24:21,498
the weight of Josh's
disappointment?
544
00:24:21,698 --> 00:24:22,698
Yeah, I guess.
545
00:24:22,868 --> 00:24:27,508
And I guess the other
side of it is that Josh is...
546
00:24:27,708 --> 00:24:31,098
paralyzed by the
weight of your...
547
00:24:31,298 --> 00:24:34,558
not engaging in
the realm of agency.
548
00:24:34,758 --> 00:24:37,558
- Yeah, inaction.
- - Yeah.
549
00:24:37,758 --> 00:24:41,728
And it... what it seems like
to me is that the option is...
550
00:24:41,928 --> 00:24:44,318
"So then, Natasha, it's on you!"
551
00:24:44,518 --> 00:24:48,028
And so I'm like,
"If it is on me..."
552
00:24:49,438 --> 00:24:52,078
those wins have to be the wins
that I would feel important...
553
00:24:52,278 --> 00:24:53,698
- "That are important..."
- Mm-hm.
554
00:24:53,898 --> 00:24:57,028
"Have to be just as
important to you!"
555
00:24:57,408 --> 00:24:58,868
What does that look like?
556
00:24:59,068 --> 00:25:01,094
What does it look like for
me to come in here today
557
00:25:01,118 --> 00:25:04,168
and celebrate... for you, right?
558
00:25:04,368 --> 00:25:05,548
'Cause...
559
00:25:05,748 --> 00:25:08,008
I think I did, but I didn't.
560
00:25:08,208 --> 00:25:12,968
I think what
happens is there's a way..
561
00:25:13,168 --> 00:25:18,058
In which you're
coming across as...
562
00:25:18,308 --> 00:25:20,728
maybe something like, "It's
great that you're doing the"
563
00:25:20,928 --> 00:25:22,358
work...
564
00:25:22,558 --> 00:25:24,728
"but the real important
thing is not happening."
565
00:25:24,928 --> 00:25:26,148
Yeah.
566
00:25:26,348 --> 00:25:28,398
- There we go!
- Yeah.
567
00:25:28,598 --> 00:25:30,358
And that is... demoralizing.
568
00:25:30,558 --> 00:25:32,124
I can understand how it
comes across that way.
569
00:25:32,148 --> 00:25:33,158
I can understand that.
570
00:25:33,358 --> 00:25:34,958
Like, I
understand the urgency as well!
571
00:25:35,148 --> 00:25:36,268
I don't know how to do both.
572
00:25:36,358 --> 00:25:38,158
- Like...
- I think it's my business.
573
00:25:38,358 --> 00:25:39,538
I don't know how to...
574
00:25:39,738 --> 00:25:41,738
I think that Orna said
something really important,
575
00:25:41,818 --> 00:25:44,208
and that I have to
learn to be better at that,
576
00:25:44,408 --> 00:25:46,418
because it's important, period.
577
00:25:46,618 --> 00:25:48,338
What you went through
is important, period.
578
00:25:48,408 --> 00:25:50,628
And my feelings don't
affect the importance of that.
579
00:25:50,828 --> 00:25:54,388
And I think me saying "But,"
it kind of impeded upon that,
580
00:25:54,588 --> 00:25:56,598
and that was
unfair, so I'm sorry.
581
00:25:56,798 --> 00:25:59,308
And my feelings are my
feelings, and they exist,
582
00:25:59,508 --> 00:26:03,438
but it doesn't change the fact
that I'm unbelievably happy,
583
00:26:03,638 --> 00:26:05,608
- and that I love you very much.
- - Me too.
584
00:26:05,808 --> 00:26:07,954
And that the work that
you're doing is important to me,
585
00:26:07,978 --> 00:26:09,778
and it's important
to us and our family,
586
00:26:09,978 --> 00:26:13,448
and I can't wait to
watch you do more of that,
587
00:26:13,648 --> 00:26:16,238
and to be there and support
you in all of those moments.
588
00:26:16,438 --> 00:26:17,828
Really!
589
00:26:18,028 --> 00:26:20,038
I'm not crying!
590
00:26:20,238 --> 00:26:21,458
I love you.
591
00:26:25,328 --> 00:26:27,298
I feel like I felt ego leave me.
592
00:26:27,498 --> 00:26:28,628
Mm-hm.
593
00:26:28,828 --> 00:26:29,628
It hurt.
594
00:26:29,828 --> 00:26:32,588
- It was an exorcism.
- -
595
00:26:35,878 --> 00:26:40,598
twinkling synth music.
596
00:26:41,928 --> 00:26:45,018
He's getting
increasingly able to
597
00:26:45,218 --> 00:26:49,318
calm himself enough to give
her the space she needs.
598
00:26:49,518 --> 00:26:52,698
It was extraordinary to see
it kind of just happen!
599
00:26:52,898 --> 00:26:54,358
Yeah, yeah.
600
00:26:54,558 --> 00:26:57,828
Um, and then, so interesting to
see how that completely shifted
601
00:26:58,028 --> 00:27:00,448
the dynamic between them.
602
00:27:01,528 --> 00:27:03,368
It was real progress.
45081
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