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- Welcome
to a very special edition

of "The Bachelorette."

You're looking very nervous
right now.

How come?
Y'all ready for this?

It's a "Men Tell All" like
you've never seen before.

All of your favorite men

from Charity's season
are back.

- It was really just
"The Brayden show."

Like, you guys watched
all that.

So, like, once
that energy was gone--

- He finally had a shot.

- And they've got
a lot to say.

- He was telling us one side

and telling her
a different side.

- I was being real.

Like, I'm not manipulating
this girl.

- You are a bitch.

That is what you are.

- I didn't care about
taking away your time.

To be honest,
I didn't care about

taking away anyone else's.

- Comments of, like, "Turn off
being the Bachelorette."

I don't think I ever put on
for anybody in this house.

- Those feelings
are still there.

I think about our time together
literally every day.

- Please let me know
how the hell I'm supposed to,

like, take that moving forward.

[dramatic music]

- Plus...

- There will be people
who try to break you down.

There will be people
who try to tell you

you are not worthy.

- Three favorite
Bachelorette royals return.

- I'm the old gal, the OG.

I feel very maternal.

I'm so proud of you.

- Oh, thank you.

- And then...

Bachelor Nation
is falling for this man.

I'm talking about Gerry,
the first ever Golden Bachelor.

all: Gerry! Gerry! Gerry!

- Find out why.

You were trending
on social media.

- If I knew what that meant,

I'm sure I would appreciate it
a whole lot more.

I believe I'll find my person,

the new person that will
make me whole again.

- It's all starting right now
on "The Men Tell All."

[upbeat music]

[cheers and applause]

♪ ♪

Thanks, guys.

How are we doing?

Thank you.

Good evening, everybody.

I'm Jesse Palmer,
and welcome

to "The Bachelorette,"
"The Men Tell All."

And what a season
it's been already.

You know, when Charity's
journey began on this

very special 20th season
of "The Bachelorette,"

she was ready to leave
her past heartbreaks behind

and find the love of her life.

And with 25 of America's
most eligible bachelors,

the odds were definitely
in her favor.

But nobody could have predicted
the drama that would follow.

We've had so many unforgettable
moments up to this point,

and I've got a feeling
we're gonna have

a few more of those
right here tonight.

Now, of course,
the most memorable men

from the season are
here with us.

We got John.

Sean made it.

Adrian's in attendance.

We got Xavier.

And, oh, yes,
even Brayden's here.

Great earrings, brother.

Loving the look.

They cannot wait to spill
all the tea,

and I, for one,
am very thirsty.

Of course,
our Bachelorette, Charity,

is gonna be here tonight
as well.

[cheers and applause]

I know.

I just want to stop right here.

Can we just take a moment
and give it up for Charity?

She's been absolutely amazing.

[cheers and applause]

You know, it's wild.

Charity really has captivated
all of Bachelor Nation

with her grace,
her beauty, her charm.

The big question now,
how is this whole thing

gonna end for her?

Well, later tonight,
you're gonna get

an exclusive sneak peek
at the ending of her journey,

and it's one so emotional,
so powerful, so unexpected

that it's gonna have
all of social media on fire.

But that's not all
we're cooking tonight.

This is, as you know,
"The Men Tell All."

Later tonight,
one man will make history

right here on this very stage.

I'm talking about Gerry,
the first ever Golden Bachelor.

[cheers and applause]

This is gonna be awesome.

I've got so many questions
for Gerry--

what's he looking for,

what's his biggest fear,

and how does he feel
about Fantasy Suites?

I'm gonna ask him
all those questions

when he joins me
in the hot seat.

But before we get to all that,

got a lot
of unfinished business.

We got a lot
of very opinionated men.

They're sitting
right in front of me.

I can tell they just
can't wait any longer.

So you ready to do this?

- Yeah.
- Let's do it.

[cheers and applause]

- All right,
let's get it started.

Ladies and gentlemen,
please welcome Spencer...

[cheers and applause]

Adrian...

[cheers and applause]

Pete...

[cheers and applause]

John...

[cheers and applause]

James...

[cheers and applause]

Caleb...

[cheers and applause]

John Henry...

[cheers and applause]

Michael...

[cheers and applause]

Aaron...

[cheers and applause]

Brayden...

[cheers and applause]

Xavier...

[cheers and applause]

Tanner...

[cheers and applause]

And Sean.

[cheers and applause]

Well, it's great having
you all back here.

It's great having
the gang back together.

We have a lot
we want to get into.

And trust me,
we're gonna get to all of it.

But I do want to go back
to the very beginning.

And, John, I'll ask you.

First night in the limo,
stepping outside,

you're about to meet Charity,
what was that like?

- Exhilarating.

Once I got out there,

I just saw Charity
for the first time.

She looks beautiful,
and I forgot

everything in that moment.

It went well overall,

but those nerves
were incredible.

- They were kicking?
- Yeah.

- Spencer,
you had quite the entrance

on the first night.

Million-dollar question--

do you regret asking Charity
to kick you in the nuts?

- What do you want
from someone other than

a little bit of vulnerability
in a tough situation?

So, Jesse, I'm okay with it.

[laughter]

- That's an interesting
perspective.

Well, I think we can all agree

that Charity's journey
to find love,

it definitely has been
a wild one.

So let's all take a look back.

[soft music]

- Charity is
the whole package.

- The second you saw her,
it was just like--

- She looked unreal.

- My heart was legit pounding.

- Hi!

all: Charity!

- Every time she walks
into a room,

she is captivating.

- Everyone's happy, smiling,

cracking jokes,
but it's dog-eat-dog.

- When you have all these guys
vying for Charity's heart,

it's gonna be a war.

[dramatic music]

- Oh!

- You [bleep] us tonight.

- I've never been
so disrespected in my life.

That was a douchebag move.

all: Oh!

[crowd shrieking]

- Sean is not here
for the right reasons.

He's more interested
in getting

100,000 Instagram followers.

- Barbie, can I steal you
for a second?

- I know--oh, yes.

- I'll bring her
right back, boys.

Just have to finish
our conversation.

- You get done
with time by yourself,

and then you feel the need
to take more time.

It's disrespectful
to the rest of the guys.

If I go home tonight,
I needed the time

that you took at the beginning.

- If you're going home tonight,

it has nothing to do with me.

In this stage of the game,
I'm thinking about,

how can I feel comfortable

bringing Charity home
to meet my family?

- Sean, you're driving me
insane, man.

- And I'm not gonna
spend my time telling her

how this situation is tough
because I just don't think

it would further our connection

by me expressing that to her.

- "I have really just a solid
connection with her."

With his butt chin.

Dude looks like
Prince Charming

off of "Shrek."

- We had a little competition,

and it was the longest kiss
in Bachelor Nation history.

- To have to sit there
and frickin' watch somebody--

like, that's not cool, man.

- So what would you have done,
thrown a fit and walked away?

- I wouldn't have thrown a fit,

but I'm not gonna
sit there and watch.

- How can you argue

about how he felt
about it, bro?

- I'm not arguing how he felt.

- Like, "I don't agree
with how you feel."

Bro, respect
what this man is saying.

Everybody looks at me
like I'm the villain,

I'm the bad guy, and it's like,
bro, you're gonna go home.

You're gonna go home.
You're gonna go home.

You're gonna go home.

Group date's over.
Everybody comes back.

Brayden is kind of like,
"Oh, that's classless.

That's, like,
disrespectful to the guys."

- Bro, I'm a little sensitive
when my name comes up.

It's been coming up a lot
after the word concern.

Why do you have to talk
about me?

You're a grown man.
Talk about yourself.

Talk about your family.

Talk about what
you came here to do.

Don't talk about me, man.

Aah! Aah!

- Brayden's overcompensating
for something.

- I'm gonna get real primal

and start humping everything.

- I don't know if
he's lacking confidence

and he feels like
he has to do more.

He's just making it
about himself.

- I'm a [bleep],
for sure, dude.

I know I'm a [bleep], but...

[laughing]
I'm a [bleep] 100% of the time.

- I just need to tell you
about Brayden.

He's been very vocal
around the house

about not wanting to be here,

not wanting to be with someone

that's dated 20 of his friends.

- There was no reason
to bring up my [...] name.

I'm gonna be
like Will Smith right now

and, like, be like, "Keep my
name out your [bleep] mouth."

- I feel like
you're wasting people's time.

- You did me dirty, man.

It pissed me off

because you caused
unnecessary drama.

My relationship with her
has nothing to do with you.

I dug my own grave, man.

I opened my mouth too much.

But there's a part of me

that doesn't feel like,
you know,

it's necessarily--
the door's shut

with me and Charity either.

- With Brayden gone,
a lot of people

are feeling pretty relieved.

This is honestly the most
mature I've seen everyone.

[gasps]

♪ ♪

- Guys, Brayden.

- You're done.
She walked you out.

- That scumbag walks
through the door again.

- Hello.

- Let me show up
in my flip-flops, sweatpants,

and a scarf around my neck

with feather earrings
hanging down.

- It's [bleep].

Like, I'm on
the chopping block,

and he steals
that moment from me.

Get out.

Like, what are you doing here?

It makes no sense.

- No, you apologize
to John, bro.

You apologize to John, bro.

- So that's what--

- You're not a man, dude.
You're not a man.

- You know what, bro?
[bleep] off.

If that douchebag is the one

that ends up getting down
on a knee for her,

I'm gonna be hurt that, like,

she's gonna end up
with a dude like that.

- [bleep] you, bro.

- Aaron, I'll whup
your ass, bro.

Get out of my [...] face.
- You won't do [...], man.

You are not a man, bro,
with your feather earrings.

- I'll [bleep] you up, bro.
Meet me in PB, baby.

- He is just literally
a [...] cancer.

This is [bleep].

- I'm not [...]
talking to you.

- Close the door.

Get out of here.
Punch the gas, man.

- Don't show up
to "The Men Tell All," bro.

You're not [...] invited,
truthfully.

[cheers and applause]

- All right, it's been
pretty explosive so far.

Sean.
- Jesse.

- We're not gonna waste
any time, brother.

What do you got to say
to that man?

- Oof.

What do I have to say?

I think you were pretty
manipulative in the way

you were shaping
the situation to Charity.

You're like, "Listen,
I'm not--it's tough for me.

It's really tough--I don't know
if I'm gonna get there."

But in the background,
you never were gonna get there.

And then you started
using her as like,

"Well, it's 'cause
she's never off.

"Like, she's the Bachelorette,
and, like,

I can never see
that true side of her,"

as an excuse not to get there.

- You know what I love
about that, bro,

is you're saying
that I was the one

who couldn't get
to the place of, like,

potentially getting engaged.

You couldn't even get her
to go meet your family

'cause you were scared
about that.

- My doubt was never
in Charity's character

or her as a person
or how great she was.

My doubt was, like,
am I gonna--

am I gonna be there at the end,
and I wasn't.

Obviously,
that's why I'm sitting here.

That's why all of us here
are sitting out here.

- Why was my doubts any
different from yours, though?

- Your doubts was not
about that,

about you being there
in the end.

Your doubts were about her.

You're telling her
you really like her,

but on the backside, you're
like, "She's being fake."

And then you go and continue
to accept a rose in Oceanside.

And then you went
into Washington.

She spent time on you
when she thought

you were gonna be able
to get there.

And in your mind,
in your heart,

you knew you never were.

- Until I knew, like, for sure
that I wasn't gonna

be able to get to that point,
I stayed.

But once I realized I wasn't

gonna get to that point,
I left.

- Hold on, hold on,
but my thing is, though,

is, like, then why come back
and say that you had things

that were left unsaid,
you know what I mean?

Because--no, hold on--
because it was critical

for the people
who were still there.

Like, you've already left
at this point,

and you self-eliminated.

So it's critical for the people

who are still there
to get the time.

Why come back
and then take that time away

from--like, that ruined
the rest of the night.

Nobody else got fair time.

- So the reason why I felt like
I needed to come back

is I left in a very heightened
emotional state.

Like, I didn't get to say
everything I wanted to.

- My thing is
timing is everything.

The fact that you took
that moment,

the most crucial moment
of the entire week

right before a Rose Ceremony
is what hurt me the most.

- You want to pretend
like I came

and, like, gypped
your conversation.

Like, bro, you were
making out with her.

- I know. I-I was there.

- I waited for you to wipe
the makeup off your face

before I even let my
presence be known, dude.

- This dude was running
on his emotions.

Why could you fault him
for that?

- Because it got in the way

of other people
being able to make--

- This ain't about
everybody, dude.

- Further their connection.
- This is about--

this is about her
and his connection.

- It's about Charity, exactly.

- His connection ended.
- Develop those connections.

- Okay, Adrian,
I want to ask you,

because you obviously
had concerns

about Brayden very early on.

When did you start
becoming skeptical of him?

- Probably that night
after the group date.

Once he said what he said,
he packed his bags,

he couldn't--
he couldn't do this,

I just feel like, honestly,

he signed up
for the wrong show.

- For me, like,
hearing that y'all had

to sit front and center
and, like, have to see

another dude make out
for five minutes,

like, that's a little much.

- I just feel like that's what

this show is gonna be about.

Like, I haven't saw the show,

but I know that
she's gonna probably kiss you,

kiss you, kiss you, kiss you.
- Kissing is not a problem.

- So it's like,
it is what it is.

- Like, it's one thing to see
someone kiss around the house.

I mean, we don't have
a lot of space, bro.

But, like,
a five-minute-long kiss,

forced to sit front and center
in a crowd of over 100 people.

- But it's a competition,
Brayden.

They should have had
better answers.

- They should have been
allowed to leave.

- That's what--
that is what it is.

Maybe they would have
been up there.

I would have loved
to have a great answer

and been able to kiss her
for 4 1/2 minutes.

[laughter]
- I know, obviously,

that was a very tough date

for those that were there
to have to watch that.

You're not the only ones.

I mean,
Yosef has a daughter at home.

[laughter]

- But we all know
what we signed up for,

that she's going to kiss
someone else.

Everybody up here
probably got a kiss,

and somebody probably saw it,
right?

So it's the same [...].

I meant stuff. I'm sorry.
[laughs]

- Brayden, you were saying
all along you were being real,

and everybody else
was being fake.

- It's not that
they were being fake.

I guess their realness is
just different than mine,

I guess.
- How so?

[laughter]

- For people to say that
they didn't have a level

of a façade on would be a lie.

I mean, the fact that some
people are even editing

their cuss words right now--

like, at home,
you'd be cussing like regular.

But the fact that
you're curbing your cuss words

saying, oh, sorry, like,
that's you putting on

a façade and protecting
that part of you.

- I just didn't know
if we can cuss or not,

but I don't give a [...]--
you know that.

[laughter]

- Again, though,
that's what I'm saying.

- Come on, now.
- That's what I'm saying.

- You know what's up with me.
- The fact that--

the fact that you even
had that in your head,

though,
is what I'm talking about,

is that, like...
- Because I just don't know.

- Is that hesitancy to be,
like, be genuinely yourself.

You were hesitant
to be genuinely yourself

to the point where
you're like, oh, sorry,

I can't say that, like...

- I mean, I still meant
what I said.

So, look, I feel like
he was telling us one side

and telling her
a different side.

- Give me a moment, bro.
Give me a mo--

Give me an example,
because, like--

- Well, apparently--When I had
the conversation with her,

she was in shock--like, whoa,
I didn't know he said that.

If he's as honest
as he say he is with her,

it wouldn't have been
a surprise or a shock

or whatever--just like,
"Oh, yeah, I know. He told me."

And it would have been
a done deal.

But unless
something was shared

that wasn't 100% true--

- There was something that was
shared there wasn't 100% true,

and it was you saying that
I called her classless.

I never called her classless.
That's not something I said.

So don't put that word
in my mouth.

- I wouldn't have made it up.

- Well, you did.
- Do we have the tape or not?

- Show us the tapes!
- Because it didn't happen.

- So nobody--nobody else heard
him say that about the date--

saying that it was classless
and disrespectful?

So, look--
- Did it happen, Jesse?

- This is what
it come down to me--

[laughter]

- I'm trying to find that out
right now.

I wasn't at the pool.
- I'm not saying ask Jesse.

Ask these people here.
- Whether it's proof or not--

- Did you guys hear me--did
I ever say classless, anyone?

Anyone?
crowd: Yeah.

- I said classless?

[laughter]
- Yeah.

So, yeah, apparently,
maybe I did.

- All right, well,
it sounds like there's

a lot that still
needs to be said.

But we do need to take
a quick break real quick.

When we come back,

we'll have more
from "The Men Tell All."

Stick around.

[cheers and applause]

[dramatic music]

♪ ♪

[cheers and applause]

- Welcome back
to a very special

20th-anniversary edition
of "The Bachelorette,"

"The Men Tell All."

Of course,
I'm here with the guys

from Charity's season.

Things are already
pretty tense.

We're gonna dive
right back into it.

Tanner, what was it
about Brayden's behavior,

his approach in Washington
that rubbed you the wrong way?

- I was looking at Brayden
as someone

that got validation
week after week.

I mean, you did. You got
the First Impression Rose.

Then you went on
an amazing one-on-one date

that someone like myself
or John B.

would have loved to go on.

But as time went on, man,

you just got--became more
negative every single week.

I was becoming
more negative myself.

By the time
it got to Washington

when you were like,
"I'm packing my bags,

I'm out of here," I was like,

"Maybe I want
to get out of here, too."

And then I'm happy I stayed,
because eventually

I found out who the ac--
who Charity truly actually was.

- When I was saying
I was out of here,

it was never about Charity
that I was out of there.

It was about this experience.
- It was about Charity,

and it was
about the experience.

- What did I say
about Charity that--

- You said--you were
questioning everything.

You said, "I don't believe
anything she's saying.

I don't know what's true
and what's not."

- You were saying
a lot of that.

- You called her fake.
- I mean,

I'm not the only person
that heard it, man.

- You told her to stop being
the Bachelorette.

- I did ask her to stop
being the Bachelorette.

- It was tough on the outside
just because

I didn't have the time,
and I wanted the time.

And you were
constantly complaining

about your experience.

I'm like, dude, I would kill
to have the experience

you've had on the show so far

and getting to know her
as well as you did.

- Like, you said
you were jealous

of my experience on the show,
but, like,

how do you form a connection
with someone

when someone's--other people
are constantly going

and whispering and talking
[bleep] to the girl

that you like,
that you've been open with,

you've been transparent with,
and have that stuff

come back and hit you
and bite you in the ass?

- Because you weren't smart
about what you said.

- Because I was being real.

Like, I'm not manipulating
this girl.

- You said--you said,

"I was just throwing
stuff out there."

You can't just throw things
out there

on ears that--
- You're right.

- You don't know what
they're gonna think.

- Okay. And that's what
I forgot, dude.

- You have to be
smarter about it.

- I forgot that
I have to be smart.

I have to play a game.
I gotta manipulate everyone.

- It's not a game.
- Be careful with your words.

- You're right, dude,
you know what, next time, bro,

if I ever come on the show--
- Be careful with your words.

- I don't know, man.

- His biggest problem was
that he was too honest

and he's got weird earrings.

Like, I mean, I don't see how
that's that big of an issue.

- I guess what just bothers me
about the whole thing

is, like, none of the guys
ever came up to me

and told me they had
any problems with me.

Like, I found out
that all the guys

had problems with me
through either Charity...

- It didn't happen
until Washington.

- Or even running back--
even running back the tapes.

- It did not happen
until Washington, dude.

- Like, me and Tanner were
roommates in Washington.

I thought--
I thought we were boys.

And then, you know, to see him
talking about me

in that light and the fact
that he didn't--like,

he can say that on camera
behind my back

but didn't say that to my face,
that hurt.

- What did I say behind
your back that wasn't true?

- You said Brayden's immature,
and he's bugging me.

To find--like,
you actually were talking smack

the whole time, bro,
like even in Oceanside,

you're like, "Oh,
Brayden's gonna go and tell her

"exactly what she wants to hear

because that's
what Brayden does."

- Because you talked yourself
out of everything.

- I never talked--again,
I never went and told her.

- I mean, night one, you
talked yourself out of that.

And then Oceanside,
you talked yourself out of it,

so I just felt like you were
just gonna keep doing it.

- But I never blew smoke
up her ass, bro.

- In the moment, Brayden,
when we're in Washington

and I do want a one-on-one
and I still haven't gotten

any time and you're just
taking the attention away

from Charity and everyone else
and making it on you,

it was annoying in that moment.
- Mm.

- And a lot of people on that
group date felt the same way,

but my interviews were
the ones that were shown, yeah.

- All right, well, Sean,
when Brayden decided to leave,

you in particular seemed
really excited about that.

- Best day of my life.

- He finally had a shot.

[laughter]

- What made you so happy
about that?

- Throughout
the entire journey,

like, the one person that
made it about themselves

more than anyone was Brayden.

And, like, it was really
just "The Brayden Show."

So, like, once that energy
was gone in Washington,

it was just like,
we're all here.

We're here for her,
and let's see what happens.

- I want to turn the page
and go back to Oceanside.

James, you found yourself
really frustrated with Sean.

- Yeah.
- How come?

- So I think there was
kind of this mutual respect

that we all had for each other.

Then Oceanside happens,

and you get this
one-on-one time with her.

And, honestly, I didn't even
have a problem with that.

The problem happened
when you decided

to park your little keister
in between

four guys on the couch,
knowing exactly

where she was going to sit,
then take her

right away
at the beginning of the night

and talk to her
for another 30 minutes.

Like, I got 3 minutes with her
at the end of the night

because there just wasn't
enough time for her.

- I never wanted to punch
somebody in the face more,

to be honest.

- It wasn't the fact that

you took her first
that I have a problem with.

It was you had a group
of loser Barbies, right,

loser Kens, we're all sitting
in a room together.

And the last thing
we want to see

is your ass coming in skipping
and singing a song.

Like, you're gonna get--
you just--

you walked
into a hornet's nest.

You knew it, too.

You're like, "Oh, here I am."

- What's really funny
about that moment is, like,

when I came back,
like, I left the guys.

We just had, like, the most
incredible date in Oceanside.

And everyone's vibing
with each other, dancing,

singing, having a good time.

That's when I left the guys.

So I thought, man,
everyone's still happy.

Like, it was such a good day.

So that was my mindset
coming back in.

And I was actually shocked
when the guys weren't like,

"Oh, let's go!"

They were pretty pissed, so...

- Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa.

- Sean, you do say, like, oh--

- Hold up, hold up,
real quick, real quick.

- Who the heck even are you?
- [laughs] Yeah.

- Peter, nice to meet you.
I went home--

I went home night one.
- Oh, wait. You were the dude.

He's back!

Oh, give it up for Peter, guys!

[light cheers and applause]
Yeah. Come on, Pete.

Give us the floor.
You got the floor.

- Okay, I actually want
to take a second.

Pete, obviously, you got
sent home on the first night.

We barely got to know you.

And there was no drama
until you went home.

Can you shed some light
on that for us

and educate us
on what happened?

- After the season wrapped,
we had a cast Zoom call.

Long story short,
15 or 16 of the guys

at the end of their headshots
put the initials

"[bleep] P" after their post.

Brayden was actually man enough

to come to me and tell me
what it--what it meant.

And what it meant
was, "[bleep] Peter."

Went to bed that night
kind of confused

and ultimately pretty upset.

I didn't know
any of these guys.

I met them for two minutes,
maybe some five minutes.

And to have people, you know,
put this online

for the world to see
really affected me.

So, for those of you
who don't know,

that's kind of the story
of what [bleep] P was.

- Before we go any further,
we shouldn't have done that.

It was a bad play.

It was just an inside joke.

Nobody would have known
it was against Peter

if, you know, this guy, like,
shared it, so, like--

- Well, we actually have
some of those posts

just to sort of help everybody

understand kind of
what's going on.

So here's a post from Sean.

And, "It's a love story, baby,
just say yes."

But you look at the bottom
left corner,

there's [bleep] P.

- I didn't know what it meant.

The thing I think
that upset me a lot

was my family, my parents,
my church group,

my volunteer group,
they all saw that.

- There is no chance
they saw that

and thought about that.

Are you kidding me?

- Pete, did you have
any idea night one

that you were rubbing people
the wrong way like that?

- No idea. No, honestly,
when Brayden told me that,

I honestly was shocked.

I had no idea I was rubbing
people the wrong way.

Why would you put that online?

I've never done anything
to you personally.

- Because you are a bitch.
That is what you are.

- I've never done
anything to your family.

I've never done anything
to anyone on this stage.

- It's basically
because you said "[bleep] you"

to every single dude
that tried to speak to you

or speak to them.

You just did the same thing
to everyone.

- I don't agree with that.
I don't agree with that.

- The very first night,
you sit down right next to me.

And you look at the camera,
and you look at me.

You look at the camera,
and you open your body up,

make sure the camera's
getting you at the right angle.

And you go, so who do you think
is here for the wrong reasons?

And I'm like, "I don't know.
You maybe." Like...

- Homey, you were the first
one on the Zoom call

after everyone got home
to ask about endorsement deals.

And you were on the TV show
for five seconds.

- Mm-hmm.
- Five seconds.

I remember you
laughing and saying,

"Thanks for putting me
on the map.

I'll make a T-shirt out of it."

- And monetize it.

- 'Cause he's trying
to make a joke out of it,

and it always was a joke.

- Then the next night,

you use this as a platform
as a pity party.

I have no respect
for that, dude.

Shut the [bleep] up.
- So, Peter, I will say this.

I'm sorry for putting that
on my page.

I thought it was an
inside joke, and it was wrong.

At the end of the day,
all these guys

will speak to my character.

I'm a good guy,
and I made a mistake.

- I do have to say,
I am pretty curious

after listening to you all,
because this is a lot

of stuff that I didn't know--

Pete, did you actually
ever make T-shirts?

- Of course not.

- Okay, it never happened?
- Never happened.

- But you said
you were going to?

- I never--I don't believe
I ever said that.

- Yo, let's run
that tape back, please.

[laughter]

We'll you show everyone
how [...] fake you are, dude.

It'll be great.
- All right.

Well, gentlemen, look,
I appreciate you all.

I told you that
I wanted the tea.

And alas, my cup runneth over.

So thank you all for that.

All right, coming up,
his scarf game is strong.

His earrings actually have
their own social-media handle.

And he always--just like
tonight--he finds himself

in the middle of the drama.

Of course,
I'm talking about Brayden.

He's gonna join me
right here in the hot seat

when "The Bachelorette,"
"The Men Tell All" returns.

[cheers and applause]

[upbeat music]

[cheers and applause]

We're back
on "The Men Tell All."

Everybody still having fun?

[cheers and applause]

All right, well,
this man's bold fashion choices

and his bold personality

that rubbed a lot of the guys
the wrong way.

But the big question is,
what's his side of the story?

We're about to find that out.

Brayden, why don't you
come on up?

[cheers and applause]

- "The Brayden Show."

- Good seeing you, brother.
- Good to see you.

- Good having you here, man.
Have a seat.

Well, Brayden,
never a boring day

on "The Bachelorette" for you.

It was quite the journey.

Let's take a look back.

[soft music]

- You look absolutely
frickin' amazing.

Oh, my God.
- Oh, my goodness, thank you.

Nice to meet you.
- Hi, nice to meet you.

Sorry for the awkward side hug.
- No, it's fine.

You got something hiding
under there.

- Yes, I do.

I work as a nurse in San Diego.
- Okay. Great.

- And so I figured that,
you know,

gotta be responsible
and make sure

we're, you know, up to date
on our shots.

- What are we cheersing to?

- A shot at love.

- Shot at love, love that.

- Oh, God.

Oh! [coughs]

- You didn't take your lime.
Come on.

- I need the lime.

- With Brayden,
we immediately hit it off.

I'm already giddy.
Like, I'm laughing.

That's evidence.

You have truly been
a breath of fresh air for me.

Brayden, will you accept
the First Impression Rose?

- I would absolutely love
to accept.

- Perfect.

I feel very strongly
about Brayden.

I feel very relaxed.

I feel my best self with him.

- Oh, there's a dolphin!
- Oh, my God, there's so many!

We're just so in sync
with each other.

It's so fun.

- I'm hitting it that way.
Okay.

- Oh, my God, Brayden!

That was incredible.

It feels so right.
It feels so real.

♪ ♪

This really could be
my person,

and I see a forever future
with him.

- We had a little competition,

and it was the longest kiss
in Bachelor Nation history.

- Okay, I don't want
to hear anymore.

I understand Charity is
gonna be kissing people.

But she made them watch Joey
kiss her for five minutes.

I think it was
very disrespectful.

- He's been very vocal
around the house

about not wanting to be here,

not wanting to be with someone
that's dated 20 of his friends.

- I'm irritated
times a million.

He has a rose on his chest.

I will rip that [...] off.

Hi.

- How's it going?
- What's the conversation?

- There's one person here

that's packed their bags
more than twice.

- Yeah, and it's been me.

- Oh.

[dramatic music]

Okay.

♪ ♪

Like, what are you--what are
you feeling right now?

- I'm feeling like--

I feel like I like you,
but I feel like

I don't want to be here
right now.

♪ ♪

And I don't feel like
I'm capable

of getting there
in this environment.

- Let's go, then.

I'll walk you out.

♪ ♪

- I feel as though
I've been honest.

I feel as though
I've been transparent.

I'm not sure
if I can get there,

but honestly,
she's worth trying for.

That has not changed.

Maybe I'll watch this back

and realize
I was a total [bleep].

I don't know.

It's just--I tried coming
in here and being 100% me

the entire time, but if
she wants to reach out to me,

I'm here.

♪ ♪

[scattered applause]

- All right, did Charity ever
reach out to you, by the way?

- No, she didn't.

- Not surprised.
- Yeah.

- Um, how does it feel for you
when you watch that back?

- Honestly,
watching it back was tough.

Um, what bothered me
watching it all back

is to see that she was feeling
all those things for me.

Me and her had
such amazing conversations.

We are both huge on our family.

We both work in psych and just
knowing how, like, you know,

how patient someone has to be
to be able to work

in that environment, and just
how patient she was with me.

Like, I had told her
on our date

that I had a lot
of reservations.

She was understanding,

and she didn't
hold it against me.

- Was it reservations
about whether or not

Charity was the right person
for you in your life,

or was it reservations
that you just couldn't get

down on a knee
in this environment?

- I mean, it was more so
the getting down on the knee.

The idea of getting married
at the end of this--

with all the drama,
I just couldn't do it.

And once I realized I couldn't
give her what she wanted,

I realized, like,
I shouldn't be there anymore.

- Okay.

In Skamania, Washington,
you showed up.

You left.

You came back. How come?

- I wanted to let her know
it was the experience.

It wasn't her that got to me.

Like, she's amazing.

And I didn't want to take
any time away from the guys

'cause I'd already
been caught up

in so much frickin' drama that
took away time from the guys.

So I was trying
to just keep my head down

and just walk out and not
make it about me, you know?

But the guys definitely
made it about me.

- I mean, a lot of you were--
you were pissed.

John, you were one of the guys
that made that walk.

- I mean,
because the week before,

I was the only one
defending you.

Then to be the guy
who gets interrupted

and loses a little bit of time
and isn't able to finish

his conversation with Charity,
like, it--it hurt.

- If it means anything,
I thought your conversation

with her was amazing--
heard the whole thing, but...

- Thank you. Thanks.

- Can I say something--
can I say something, please?

If you knew, though, Brayden,
that, like, the conversation

that you were gonna have
with Charity

wasn't gonna change
anything at all,

the mature thing to do in that
situation is to read the room.

You say,
this isn't the right time

to have this conversation,
because you're not

going to matter
beyond that point.

- Right. I didn't care
about taking away your time.

To be honest, I didn't care

about taking away
anyone else's time.

I cared about apologizing
to someone I hurt,

that I was pursuing
a relationship with.

Like, that was my intention.

- How surprised are you
at how angry everybody was?

I've never seen a group of men
chase a dude outside,

yelling at him
all the way to the bus.

Like, where was that
about to go?

- I mean,
I'm just gonna be real, like,

I was gonna--I was gonna--
I was gonna beat them up.

- You were about to throw down
right there?

- I was gonna
throw down, yeah.

- Yeah, Jesse, it was about
to get live real quick.

[laughter]
It was about to get--

- I mean, I don't know, like,
I'm not an aggressive person.

It's not often that
I want to fight people.

But, like, again,
I was ready to fight 'em.

By the way, no--
there was no driver in the van

when he said, like,
"Hit the gas."

I just want to make that clear.

[laughter]

He was sitting there. He said
"hit the gas" to nobody.

I feel like I need
to make that clear.

- I mean, why do you think

you rubbed so many people
the wrong way?

Why were you getting
under their skin?

- Maybe the way I can
come across sometimes

can come across
as maybe arrogant

or maybe cocky
or something like that.

I'm not like your traditional
type of guy, I guess.

- Listen, we can't wrap this up
before we talk

about something
very, very important--

your style.

- Oh, shoot.

Speaking--hey, wait, hold on.
Hold on.

- You gotta walk us
through this.

I mean, like,
how do you put the earrings

and the scarf together?
- I don't know.

I feel like clothes are
a fun way to express yourself.

Like, earrings are a new thing
for me, to be honest.

Like, within the last year,
I got them pierced,

and then it's just been, like--

- You bought a lot of earrings
in a very short amount of time.

- I have, dude.

Like, when I find
something I like,

I kind of just dive into it,
and, like,

you know, it becomes,
like, a part of me.

But I did bring you
a little present, Jesse.

- Uh-oh, I got some--

- I got you
some clip-on earrings.

- I got some clip-on earrings.

- I don't know, I--
I didn't know

if you'd let me pierce
your ears on live TV.

- Piercing ear probably a no.

I'm not gonna lie.

I've always been
kind of curious myself

how this might go or look.

- Oh, yeah, that's a look, man.
- Oh, yeah.

- Ooh, okay.
- How are we--

- Okay. Okay.
[cheers and applause]

- Do we--
- Whoo!

- Can we go--
can we go for this?

[cheers and applause]

Yeah?
- Come on, look at this man.

Look at this man.

- Listen, man, big picture,
regardless of whether or not

people, they agree with you
or they don't, the one thing

I will say, you have been
your true authentic self

throughout this
entire experience.

And if I'm not mistaken,
Brayden here

is packing his earrings
and his scarves,

and he's taking them
to the beaches of Paradise.

Are you not?

[cheers and applause]

Oh, boy.

In fact, we actually have
a little clip of you

from your time down in Paradise

that we're gonna show
everybody.

You're looking very nervous
right now.

How come?
- Dude.

- You all ready for this?
[cheers and applause]

All right, here we go.

- When I first saw you,
I was like, oh, the earrings,

I love 'em.
- Yeah?

- And everyone's like, really?

I was like, yes, I do.

- I think you're
the only person that actually--

actually liked my earrings.

- Really? [laughs]
- Yeah.

- Honestly, I was taken
by surprise by Brayden.

It's not just that he's hot.

I mean, he has, like, depth,
and that's, honestly,

few and far between that
you can find these days in men.

He's like a golden retriever.
[chuckles]

And I love it.

You're funny.

[romantic music]

♪ ♪

- Whoo!

She's a great kisser.

Kat Izzo is a great kisser.

10 out of 10, recommend.
[laughs]

♪ ♪

[cheers and applause]

- All right, all right, dude,
Brayden, honestly, honestly...

yeah, I'd say that you were
definitely in your element.

I'd say Paradise
was more your dojo.

- Yeah, a little bit.
- For sure.

All right, but we're not
gonna spoil what happened

with you down in Paradise.

Everybody's gonna have
to tune in and find out.

Great seeing you, man.

Thanks for the earrings.
Appreciate you.

All right, coming up next,
Xavier is gonna be

joining me in the hot seat.

So what does he have to say

about his shocking departure
that left Charity in tears?

We're gonna find out
when we return.

[cheers and applause]

[upbeat music]

- Welcome back
to "The Men Tell All."

Well, it's already been
a very explosive evening.

And we are literally
just getting started.

But this next man,
he was moments away

from stepping into
the Fantasy Suite with Charity

when it all went wrong.

Xavier, let's have
a talk about it.

Why don't you come up?

[cheers and applause,
scattered boos]

Good seeing you, brother.

All right, man, have a seat.

Well, listen, when I think back
to your journey with Charity,

everything just seemed to come
so easy for the two of you

until that fateful night
in Fiji.

So let's take a look back
at how everything unfolded

and then ultimately unraveled
that night.

[soft music]

- How you doing?
- I'm doing good.

How are you? You look good.
- Good evening. Oh, my God.

- Spiffy!

Xavier, Xavier, Xavier,
he is one

I gotta keep my eyes on
for sure.

Whoo! Oh, God.

No way.
- It's cold.

- With Xavier,
it feels very natural.

♪ ♪

And there is, like,
this physical attractiveness.

I'm feeling really happy
and a little giddy--

actually not a little giddy,
a lot of giddy.

- What are you most wary about
in a marriage?

- It is the infidelity thing.

I'm always wondering, like,
what if that is, like,

something
that could happen again?

- What you're gonna get
from me is complete honesty.

- Mm-hmm.
- Like, I'm not hiding

any part of me from you.

- Xavier reminds me a lot
of my past relationships.

- Come here, come here,
come here.

God, yes.

- It's like he's scared
to commit to one person,

but he's someone
who's gentle, who's kind.

Chemistry is there.

It's like, for me, truly,
like, a total package.

- Charity, honestly...

I'm falling in love with you.

- Same here.

Oh, my goodness.

To hear those words,
it's so reassuring for me.

I want this to be
a forever thing.

I do see Xavier as my husband.

♪ ♪

- So, in the past with my ex,

I was unfaithful,

and I wanted to tell you that

because I know that

that is, like,
very triggering for you.

[tense music]

- This is exactly
what my ex did

on and off
for about six years.

To hear him say this
a week out,

two weeks out from proposal,

this took me for a loop!

I am very curious to know,
like, was it multiple times?

- It was multiple times
in the span of five days.

- Oh, okay.

- I'm not going to do that
if I know that you're my end.

- Okay.

- Is it gonna be hard
to do that?

Hell, yes...
[crowd gasps]

Because I've never been

in a position where it's like,

you have to just choose

one woman
for the rest of your life

and that freedom is gone.

And for me
to get to that point,

that has to happen tonight.

I need to see more.

- I'm so mad.
I'm so mad.

What do you need to see?

Us in a bedroom
is not gonna determine

whether or not you can see

longevity in a relationship.

[cheers and applause]

Mm-mm. No way.

Who Charity Lawson is in 2023--

not willing to settle,

not willing to put up

with just whatever--
it's not happening.

- Okay.

[cheers and applause]

- Let's go.

We're like a week out
from proposal,

and you can't tell me
that you trust yourself

from not making a mistake
of loyalty again?

Like, I'm not--
I'm not doing that.

I'm sorry.

[crying]

Hell to the no.

[crying] I'm so upset.

[sobs]

♪ ♪

- All right,
what are you feeling?

- Um, it's kind of tough
to watch back,

because I feel like
me bringing up my past,

I just wanted to be
so honest with her.

[sighs]

That conversation just
did not happen

like I had planned it
to happen.

And I just stuck my foot
in my mouth,

and I made a mistake

instead of making her feel...

like she was
the only woman for me.

- It's interesting.

In that conversation
after the breakup,

you're at the car,

and that's when
you told her you loved her.

- Mm-hmm.
- Why that moment?

Why then?

- I just wanted
to let her know, like,

how I truly felt about her.

And...

I think what kind of,
like, made me kind of snap

and stick my foot
in my mouth was,

one of my biggest fears is

for love to not be
reciprocated to me.

And so...

Oof. Um...

At that Hometown,

you know, I told her
I was falling in love with her.

And I guess I expected her
to say it back...

and I shouldn't have
expected that.

But that fear
kind of just arose

and took me back
to that really hard time.

And I kind of just melted.

- I can tell
just by talking to you

that this is something
that's been

weighing on you very heavily.
- For sure.

- What's life been like for you
since that night in Fiji?

- You know,
I was in love with her.

And, uh...

it was really difficult
to kind of move on from that,

because, you know, those
feelings don't just go away.

I think about our time together
literally every day.

Um...

So I had to get a therapist
because I felt like

there was some work
that I had to do on myself

in order to be ready
for somebody

that is my forever person.

- You said that you were
in love with Charity.

- Mm-hmm.

- And I can tell you've been
thinking about her a lot

ever since then.

How do you think Charity feels
about you right now?

- Uh, I really have no idea.

I just want her to know
that I want her

to be, like, super happy.

And I want her to thrive

in everything that
she will do in the future.

And I truly want
the best for her.

- Are you nervous to see her?

- Yeah.

- When we come back,
Charity will join us

right here on the stage.

What is she gonna
have to say to Xavier

and all of her other exes?

We're about to find that out,
so don't go away.

[cheers and applause]

♪ ♪

[upbeat music]

- Welcome back.

Well, it's already been

a dramatic
and a very emotional night.

But what does Charity
have to say about it all?

I say we bring her out.

Ladies and gentlemen,
please welcome

your Bachelorette, Charity.

[cheers and applause]

♪ ♪

- Hey, boys.

♪ ♪

- How are you?
- Hi.

- [muffled speech]

- Great seeing you.
Have a seat.

- All right.

- Oh, my gosh.
- Ah!

- It's so great seeing you.
How are you feeling?

- I'm feeling great, honestly.

I'm excited to be here,
honestly.

Hey, boys.
[laughs]

- I was gonna ask, how is it to
be face-to-face

with all these guys for
the first time since we filmed?

- They're great,
so it's good to be back.

It's good to see you guys.
You guys look great, so...

- Well, take me back
to the very first night

when you met all these guys.
- Yeah.

- Your brother, Nehemiah,
of course, showed up.

What did it mean to you to have
your brother there that night?

I think that's so special.

- Oh, it was truly special.

I mean, I was so nervous
coming into all of this.

And, like, I really didn't know
what I was walking into.

You truly can't prepare
for something like this.

And so just to have
that little comfort from home

and someone who's so close
to me, it was really good.

- Especially on night one.
- Especially on night one.

- When you know the nerves
are literally sky high.

Of course,
by the end of the night,

you had given
your First Impression Rose

to Brayden.
- Mm-hmm.

- What was it about Brayden
that you liked so much?

- Yeah, I think we just,
like, really clicked.

And, like, he has a very
charismatic energy

and personality.

Obviously, like,
the chemistry was there, so...

It was there.
- I was just gonna say,

you could really see
the chemistry.

You could feel it, too.

It wasn't too long
after that, though,

that he started voicing
some concerns

about this whole process...
- Yeah.

- And whether or not
he could get to an engagement

in this environment.

Is there anything
you'd like to say to him?

- Uh, yeah, I mean,
obviously, like,

I'm just gonna start off
by saying, like, obviously,

thank you for, like,
coming on this whole journey.

It was an honor
and pleasure meeting you.

I will be honest.

I did not like how you talked
about our relationship

to a lot of the guys.

That was really hard
for me to watch back.

I was caught off guard
by, like, you know,

the comments of, like,
wanting me to not--

like, you know, turn off
of being the Bachelorette,

of just, like, wanting
to see me off.

And I'm like,
I feel like I was

my 100% authentic self to you
the whole time.

I don't think I ever put on
for anybody in this house.

And I hope a lot of the guys

could also, like,
testify to that.

But at the end of the day,
I don't regret anything.

I gave you a lot more grace
than I think

I should have given you,
if I'm being honest.

But just grateful
for the whole experience.

So we'll leave it at that.

[cheers and applause]

- She's 100% valid in how
she's feeling about that.

From the very beginning,
I wasn't sure

if the environment was
the best environment for me.

But the only thing that,
like, I took out of it

was the fact that
I really liked you.

I felt like every time
we hung out,

every time we got to spend
that time together,

there was that spark
that, you know,

you want when you meet someone.

And so, like,
that's why I wanted to stay.

That's what I was really
trying to stay for.

I could have been better
about sharing

some of the stuff
with the guys.

It's hard when
the questions are being asked

to kind of just, like,
keep quiet, to be honest,

and it's probably not
my best suit.

And, again, I'm sorry if that--

you know, me talking
to the guys definitely

hurt you in any way--
that wasn't my intention.

But I'm grateful
for getting to meet you.

I'm grateful for getting
to have the time

I got to have with you.
- Mm-hmm.

- And, yeah.
- Thank you.

[cheers and applause]

- All right, well, Sean,
you had one

of the more emotional goodbyes
of the season.

What would you like to say
to Charity?

- Can I come up there?
- Hi.

Oh, is he coming up?
- Hi. If it's all right, yeah.

- Okay.

- I was thinking a lot
about, like,

any question that I had--sorry.
- Okay.

No, you're fine.

- But I really don't have

any questions at all.
- Okay.

I think, like, the entire time,
you did nothing

but, like, follow your heart.

And, like, when you have
25 people here, like,

people end up getting hurt.
- Mm-hmm.

- But I wanted to thank you
for being the Bachelorette

'cause you showed us
nothing but grace and class

the entire time.
- Thank you.

- You allowed us
to, like, open up and feel

comfortable in situations
that, in turn, I felt feelings

I haven't felt in so long.
- Mm-hmm.

- So thank you for that.

You made all of us better men.

So I just want to say
thank you.

I have no questions.
- Thank you.

That was sweet.
Thank you, Sean.

- Did you just invite yourself
in your own hot seat?

- I was like--

- Sean, go back to your seat.

Go back right now.

- Sorry about that.

- You have to be
invited up here.

He broke the Bachelor
hot seat code.

- He literally did.

- You don't invite yourself
into the hot seat.

- Sorry.

- That was nice, though,
so thank you, Sean.

- Tanner, obviously,
you went home

in New Orleans that--
one step away

from getting a Hometown date,

bringing Charity home
to meet your family.

What would you like to say
to Charity?

- Yeah, I really don't have
any questions

because I feel like...
- Yeah.

- We didn't really
leave any stone unturned.

And I feel like throughout
my experience,

you know, we continued to meet

each other halfway.
- Yeah.

- And I continued
to check in with you.

And I just wanted to try
to, you know,

create an organic
relationship, right,

in, like, the most
un-organic way possible.

- Truly. [laughs]

- And that's why I never wanted
to put any pressure on you.

You know, I wasn't ever trying

to put you
in a certain position.

But thank you.

I mean, it was one of the best
experiences of my life.

So, no questions,
just want to let you know that.

- Thank you, Tanner.
Thank you.

[cheers and applause]

- All right, John, obviously,
you were really frustrated

in Washington
when you went home.

Is there anything
that you didn't get to say

to Charity then
that you wish you could now?

- Please take me back.
[laughter]

I won't lie.

You know,
when I got let go in Skamania,

I was surprised.

And no disrespect to the guys
who made it further,

but I felt like we had
a stronger connection

than some of the guys.

And so it did
catch me off guard.

- Yeah.
- So I guess my question is,

if you have any understanding
of kind what happened?

- That's always, like,
a tricky question to answer,

because I think, for me,
it's like, it's never--

I don't ever want anyone
leaving this, like, experience

thinking that
they did something wrong

or, like, they weren't enough.

It's just, honestly,
what truly I think

I, like, am looking for
or, like, what I need

as, like, the weeks progress.

But nothing that you did,
and I don't want you

to think that because...
- No. I appreciate it.

- You know, you're awesome.

And I've told you that.
- Thank you.

- You're awesome.
He is.

He's awesome.

[cheers and applause]

- We also do have to talk
about the man

who you sent home
in Fiji last week,

who is here with us tonight.

That's, of course, Xavier.

That was obviously
a devastating breakup.

How does it feel to see
Xavier for the first time

since that night?

- It's hard. Yeah.

- What's the hardest part
about it?

- That was just, like,
not something I saw coming.

I think, for me, in that moment

when me and Xavier had
that conversation,

the way everything
just, like, kind of came out,

I was like,
this should have been

told to me way ahead of time.

It's like, you just don't
wake up one morning

and feel like, okay,
I just don't want to do--

Like, that's not--like, you
probably knew in the moment

when I had the conversation
in New Orleans

whether or not
this is something

that you saw with me.

And I don't think,
honestly, at the end of it,

like, he really ever
saw himself,

like, truly getting down
on one knee

or just, like, being with me.

- Okay, I had a chance
to speak to Xavier about it

a little bit earlier.
- Yeah.

- I think you two have a lot
that you should talk about.

Is it okay if
we invite Xavier on up?

- Mm-hmm. Yeah.

- Xavier, why don't you
come back, man?

[applause]

[tense music]

All right, well,
before we get to this,

we are gonna take
a quick break.

- Okay.

- Because when we come back,
Xavier and Charity,

they're gonna be talking
for the very first time

since that dramatic breakup
in Fiji.

Stick around.

[indistinct chatter, applause]

♪ ♪

[tense music]

♪ ♪

- Welcome back,
Bachelor Nation.

Obviously, I'm here now
with Charity and Xavier.

They obviously haven't spoken

since that fateful night
in Fiji.

So, Charity, Xavier...
- [clears throat]

- I just wanted to open it up

to the two of you
to talk to each other.

- Mm-hmm.
- Floor is yours.

- So one thing I want to say
is, like, I denounce cheating.

I don't think
you should ever cheat.

And if you have a problem
in your relationship,

you should focus
on making it better.

And in Fiji, in my heart,
there was no doubt

that I wanted to be with you

and that I was ready
to be with you.

But in my head,
I had that doubt,

and I didn't know
how to suppress it.

I can be that faithful person.

It just didn't come out
in the right way.

- We're a week out
from a proposal,

and it's like,
I almost wish that, okay,

maybe we could have had
this conversation at Hometowns.

Or maybe we could have had
this conversation, like,

I don't know, in New Orleans,
in Washington, whenever.

- Right.
- And it's like,

what you were
saying to me just honestly

could have been a conversation

that would have saved me
a lot of pain.

And I think, obviously,
I hate to say it,

but, like, I don't think

I would have brought you
to that point

because I would have known then
that you were not ready.

Obviously, we're talking
about, like, your infidelity

and, like, what that meant.

You were saying,
"I don't want to cheat on you."

Well, instead of saying,
"I don't want to cheat,"

"I won't cheat on you."
- Won't--exactly.

- Like, it's things like that.

It's like,
that's plain and simple.

Like, if you have love for me
or if you care for me,

you won't do that
to a person that you're with.

Like, it's just
plain and simple.

[cheers and applause]

Mm-hmm.
- 100%.

- And then at the end,
when I'm walking you out,

I'm putting you in the car,

and you decide to say,
"I love you."

And it's like, you had all day.

We had a whole date
that we spent together,

which was incredible.
- Mm-hmm.

- And then we get
to this dinner, and it's like,

that's the timing that
you decide to just throw out,

"I love you."

Saying I love you is not gonna
turn around the situation.

You said what you said,

and, like,
that's just what it is.

So you just, like,
kept almost essentially

digging yourself deeper.

And it's like,
what the [bleep] is going on?

- I knew that you were
sending me home at that point,

and I just wanted
to let you know how I felt.

I just wanted
to give us a chance...

- Yeah.
- Because I really loved you

at that point.
- Mm-hmm.

- And not knowing
how you felt about me

really just, like,
messed my mind up.

- But do you remember me--

in that conversation,
I asked you--I was like,

what reassurance
do you need from me?

And I said, is it
because I haven't verbalized

that I was in love
with you yet?

And you said to me, like,
no, that wasn't the case.

You just wanted to know, like,

okay, like, what are the things
that you liked about me,

like, you know,
all these things.

And it's like, Xavier,
I've told you that.

I've told you that
so many times

about what I liked about you

and where I was at
with my feelings for you.

It's just,
I hadn't said those words,

and, like, at that point,
I hadn't said those words

to other people, too.

So it's like,
I was just getting to a place

where I knew
in my heart of hearts

that when I say those words,

like, it's not something
I just say lightly.

I don't just toss around, like,
"I love you."

Like, I'm not gonna
just say it to you,

and I know, like,
your commitment isn't to me.

And so me asking you
in that conversation--

I asked you so many times
at that dinner,

like, do you trust yourself?

Do you trust yourself
to be committed?

And, like, you told me
time and time again,

it's like, I don't know.
Like, I don't know.

Like, I don't know.
Marriage scares me.

Like, commitment
to one person scares me.

- Yeah.
- Please, let me know

how the hell I'm supposed to,
like, take that, and be like,

"Oh, this is great,
like, this is solid."

Like, I'd be a fool to sit
there and be like, all right,

he just told me,
"I don't want commitment,

or I basically don't
trust myself to commit."

So I don't--

- 100%, I--

[applause]

Yeah, so I think
in a marriage--

when you're getting married,

there's a fear
of, like, commitment.

There's a fear of marrying
the wrong person.

There's a fear
of a lot of things.

- And that's fair.
- And so that allowed--

I allowed that to consume me...
- Mm-hmm.

- Instead of, you know,
allowing myself

to hone in
on what was beautiful

about being with you.

I think about that
conversation every day.

I sometimes shed tears about it

because it was really tough
to, like...

share that part about me

and have it go, like...

so horribly.

Obviously, I wish my answers
reflected the man

that I want to be
in the future,

which is a faithful man
to his wife.

And I just really want
to, like, thank you

for allowing me in that space,

because it wasn't that
I was trying to get there

to just have sex with you.

That was not my goal.

My goal was to hear more
and deepen

that connection that we had.

I genuinely saw you as my wife.

- Mm-hmm.
- And I...

was trying to do everything
in my power

to allow you to know
exactly who I was.

- Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.
- Right.

- You were in love

with Charity in Fiji.
- Yeah.

- What are your feelings
toward her now?

- I'm not gonna lie to you.

I still have those feelings,

and it's great
to sit next to you.

And I'm just happy
that, you know,

I can bring this
to some sort of closure

because I felt like...

we ended so abruptly.

And, like,
I really kind of, like,

get really emotional about that

because...

it really messed me up.

Yeah, yeah.

I got one more thing,
and I'll be right back.

- What?
- Okay.

[soft music]

♪ ♪

[indistinct whispering]

So, I think, Charity,
you definitely carried yourself

with grace and poise.
- Mm-hmm.

- And I just wanted to make you
this knit rose to just...

- Thank you.

- Show you that
I definitely cared.

And at the end of the day,
I'm super happy

and hopeful that you found
your forever person.

- Mm-hmm.
- It sucks that it wasn't me.

But I understand that
you're gonna do great things.

- Thank you.

I hope that you do take this
and use it to your advantage.

I'm glad that we obviously
got to talk about this.

And hopefully, like,

moving forward, like,
I wish you the best.

- I'm really happy that
you had this chance

to really hash this out
and talk face-to-face, too.

So, Xavier, thank you again
for being here so much.

- Absolutely.
Thank you.

- Okay, when we return,
we got more with Charity

and the men on this
very special 20th anniversary

of "The Bachelorette,"
"The Men Tell All."

And then later,
the Golden Bachelor is here.

So how does he feel
about making out

with a bunch of women?

You're gonna find out
'cause I'm gonna ask him.

It's all coming up,
so don't go away.

♪ ♪

[cheers and applause]

[upbeat music]

- Welcome back
to "The Men Tell All."

Of course, I'm here right now
with our Bachelorette, Charity.

How you doing so far?

- I'm doing great.
- You holding up?

- Yeah, this has been great.
- It has been great.

It's obviously been
a very revealing night so far.

- Yeah. Yeah.

- And it's actually now
about to get

a little bit more revealing.
- Oh, great. [laughs]

In what ways?

- In a fun way,
because we're about to take

a look back at a few moments
that, Bachelor Nation,

you never got to see.

Now, some of them are funny,
some of them are

a bit embarrassing.
- Oh, no.

- And some of them are
just downright outrageous.

Charity, you haven't seen
any of this.

- I don't know
what's happening.

- Are you ready?
- I don't know--Yeah.

- Guys, you might want
to cover your eyes.

All right, well, "Barbie" has
taken the country by storm,

and Bachelor Nation
is no different.

On the group date in Oceanside,
Charity, of course,

was our Barbie, but were any
of the guys Ken-ough for her?

[laughter]

[quirky music]

- I feel like we need
to give each of them

a moment to kind of, like,
show off their looks.

- Oh, like a little
mini-fashion-show moment.

- A little fashion show? Strut.

- Cowboy Ken, come on up.

- Come on down.
[people cheering]

Oh, he got a lasso.
- Oh!

- Ooh!

- I am Barbie today.

Oh, God, I'm scared.
[chuckles]

And I'm looking
for my perfect Ken.

- O, that's good. Yeah, yeah.
- Oh, that was cute!

- Now, Cowboy Ken, they gonna
see right through his act.

He's not really the cowboy
they think he is.

He's too fashionable
to be a cowboy.

[laughter]

[indistinct chatter]

- I am Ice Skating Ken.

Movement's gonna be limited,

but I'm gonna do my best
to--to--

to--you know, a little
double triple axel.

Whoa. See?

[indistinct chatter]
- What is the bucket?

- This date takes
a whole lot of balls.

- You're not wrong.

- And, sadly, Birthday Suit Ken
doesn't have any.

[laughter]

[cheers and applause]

- All right, so I gotta know--

did any of you guys keep
the Ken costumes,

and have you been
wearing them at home?

Caleb?

- I wear it on a daily basis.

I mean--I'm kidding.

- I mean, clearly.
[laughs]

- I literally brought
the coat here.

I was gonna wear it.
- Did you?

- I didn't want to--
You know what I'm saying?

I didn't want to steal
the show.

[laughter]

- I know John can't wear
his costume around because--

- Yeah, I burned it. Yeah.
- You would get arre--

- America saw
too much of me there.

- You would get arrested for
indecent exposure, for sure.

[applause]

Now, obviously, you all saw
the dodgeball date, right?

But what you didn't get to see

was the intense preparation

that these guys put in
before the game.

Oh, yeah, let's just say,
it got a little hairy.

[laughter]

You're all gonna be going
head-to-head

in a dodgeball game.

[all cheering]
- Let's go!

- Ah, there's one thing
I forgot, though.

- [laughing]

- We gotta get your uniforms.

[cheering, laughter]

- Oh-ho-ho.

- I mean, come on, Jesse.

I don't know--

Oh, I forgot,
these are your uniforms.

What is that?

- Oh, dude, this is so tight.

Oh, my God.

- That's not gonna fit.

- This is wild. Okay.

- These aren't even men's.

- What is this?
This is not--what is this?

Is this the Spice channel?
[laughs]

- How's the booty look?

- Well, shoot.
- It's a little hairy.

- Should we do a little trim,
butt trim?

- I do believe in manscaping.

[shaver buzzing, laughter]

But the last five days,
the battery ran out.

So I'm looking clean
on the front

and full kitten on the back.

Help!

[laughter]

Help!

[cheers and applause]

- All right, Aaron,
you have to educate America.

What does "full kitten
in the back" mean?

- Uh...
- Full bush?

- Exactly what you'd imagine
full kitten in the back is--

just you're clean cut,
hardwood floors,

and then the back
is all carpet.

[laughter]
Yeah.

- For anybody that says
"The Bachelorette"

is not an educational show...
- Yeah.

- Obviously,
you're not watching.

[applause]

All right, well, there are
so many really funny moments

that Bachelor Nation
never got to see, right?

I'm talking about bloopers!

[cheers and applause]
Y'all ready to see them?

Charity, let's do this.
You know 'em. You love 'em.

Here they are, bloopers.

[cheers and applause]

- Charity,
there's more about me

that, obviously,
that you don't know, too.

- Yeah.
[door slamming]

And I don't know.

This connection that
you can build with people

is, like, so special...
- Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.

and it's like--I love this.
[door creaking]

- Mm-hmm. I do, too.
- You know, I love learning

about people and...
[banging]

Feeling things, and this--

I think someone's dead.
- [laughs]

- Everything okay?
- Oopsies.

- All right, three, two, one.

[crashing]

Oh!

Oh, my God.

Oh, did I break it?

- Athlete!
[crashing]

- Oh, no!

- Opa!

- Sean,
are you kidding me, Sean?

- Like, the group setting
is obviously way more intimate

with her walking in--
- Ooh, heads up. Heads up.

[crashing]
- Whoa!

- How did you see that?

- Ah, the Aarons,
I love you, dude.

- The Aarons.
I love you too, dude.

- Oh, my leg. Ow!
My head.

What the hell is that?

- Oh, God.

- Oh, my God.

They got
low-hanging [bleep] here.

- And whatever I need to do

to, you know,
keep earning time...

- Whoo!

- And keep, you know, growing
as an individual here...

- It's game time, baby!

- But also showing Charity
who I am.

- Ow!
- I'm pumped.

I'm not gonna leave
anything back.

- Hey, I scream!
- Want to start screaming?

- Do I want to start screaming?

Hell, yeah,
I want to start screaming.

Hey, we're talking over here!

- You could use this
one-on-one time?

- Yeah, yeah, for sure.

Yeah, thank you. Thank you.

- They can pound sand,
LBS sand, baby.

L-B-S. That's a wrap.

- Oh! Whoa! Okay.

all: Hey!

[upbeat music]

- Stay here.
Be my Will Smith.

♪ ♪

[cheers and applause]

- [vocalizing goofily]

- I can moonwalk.

- The longest kiss
in Bachelor history

is 3 minutes and 22 seconds,

and I'm about to break it.

[quirky music]

Eh, I'm gonna keep going.

♪ ♪

Whoo!

All right.

- Spicy?

- No, it feels good.

A little--Oh, God.

That was, like, overdose.

Oh, my God, my mouth
is gonna be on fire.

[romantic music]

[audience whooping]

[person screaming]

[ominous music]

[romantic music]

- Oh, jeez.

[ominous music]

- Oh, no!

- [growling]

[laughter]

- There's no way.
I just--

Who is it?
- It's Jesse Palmer.

- I wish you could have
seen your faces.

- No way.
- That was so good.

- I was just like, there's not
a chance I'm looking at this.

- I was just going for a walk,
getting some air.

You kids get back
to doing what you were doing.

I need a burrito.

[cheers and applause]

Spent a lot of time
in that Bigfoot costume,

maybe a little too much time.

You know,
speaking of creatures,

look who's in
the audience tonight.

We got Captain Tom.

He's the swamp boat captain
who took Tanner and Sean out

on their two-on-one date.

Let's hear it
for Captain Tom, everybody.

- Okay.
[laughs]

- Captain Tom, it's so great
seeing you here.

Obviously, you were
on the two-on-one date

with both Sean and Tanner.

What was that date like
for you?

- It was all right, yeah.

Uh, Miss Chastity there--

- Charity.
- Miss Charity.

- That's all right.
[laughter]

- Chastity there.
- He's gonna say it wrong.

- Or Charity--Charity.
- Charity's there.

For Charity,
she's a beautiful young lady,

and whoever she pick
gonna be a lucky man.

- Thank you.

- So, obviously,
you had a chance

to get to know both
Tanner and Sean a little bit.

You know, Charity, she didn't
hand out a rose on that date.

So, if it had been you
handing out a rose,

Captain Tom,
who would you have given it to?

- One like this?

- Yeah, like that.
Where did that come from?

- I'll kill you.
- Ah!

- It was both gentlemen
on the boat.

They got along pretty good.

And I got to look
at body action--

who was getting along with who

and who focuses
on who's talking

and who's actually listening.

And I was thinking, well,

Sean, if you'd accept
this rose...

[cheers and applause]

- Wow.

- I get a rose?

- I don't know.

- Absolutely.

Here, give me a hug.
- Okay.

- Sean, I gotta say, dude,
listen,

I know you didn't get
Charity's final rose,

but at least you're not
going empty-handed tonight.

- It's a good
consolation prize.

- You must be real proud
of yourself.

- I'm all right. Yeah.

- Hey, listen, Captain Tom,

thank you so much
for being here.

We really appreciate
having you here.

Thank you, young pop.

All right, Charity,
don't go anywhere.

Stick around,
because when we come back,

we got some really special
guests that are here,

and they want to say hi to you.

And then we've got Gerry
the Golden Bachelor who's here.

So stick around,
Bachelor Nation.

We'll be right back.

[cheers and applause]

♪ ♪

[upbeat music]

♪ ♪

- Welcome back
to a very special edition--

the 20th season

of "The Bachelorette,"
"The Men Tell All."

And, Charity,
I just gotta tell you,

you have been an absolutely
amazing Bachelorette.

- Thank you. Thank you.

- Just so much class,
so much grace,

and you're so deserving.

And, you know,
before we let you go...

- Yeah.
- In celebration

of this great 20th season...
- Yeah.

- I got a few friends here...
- Okay.

- That think just as highly
of you as I do.

And they may know a little
something about everything

you've been going through.
- Okay. [laughs]

- All right, everybody, please
welcome former Bachelorettes

Trista Sutter,
Desiree Siegfried,

and DeAnna Pappas.

[cheers and applause]

Hey.
- Hi.

- So good seeing you.
How are you?

- Hey.
- Awesome, how's it going?

You look fantastic.
Great seeing you.

- We're gonna squish
on the couch.

- That's all right.
- How cool is this,

by the way, to have them here?
- You don't understand.

I'm, like, trying
to keep it cool right now

because these are, like--
- Aww.

- No, for real,
these are like OGs.

And it's like--especially
Trista, like, we would not--

I would not be here
without you, like, seriously.

- They all are such superstars,
obviously.

And, look,
I know the three of you,

you don't need
any introduction.

But here's just
a little reminder of why

these queens are, well...
- I don't want to cry.

- Queens.
- I know.

[soft music]

- I am so excited.
I am the Bachelorette.

Even though I did not meet,
you know, my Prince Charming

on "The Bachelorette"...

Ooh, I'm scared.
[chuckles]

I truly believe
at that point in my life,

that is where
I was supposed to be.

The show ultimately led me

to my two children,
Addison and Austin.

[laughter]

I'm the happiest woman
in the world.

♪ ♪

- Will you marry me?

- Yes, a thousand times.

♪ ♪

I want to grow old and gray.

♪ ♪

- It is out of love
and affection

for Trista and Ryan,

I now pronounce you
husband and wife.

Will you please
kiss your bride?

♪ ♪

[cheers and applause]

♪ ♪

[cheers and applause]

- Oh, my God.

- We will be celebrating
20 years in December.

- Oh, my God.
- Wow.

- I love that.
- Yeah.

- It's crazy.

- I mean, it's amazing.
- That's incredible.

- Aw, look at my--

- Here's a picture of you
and your family.

There's Ryan and the kids.

- I mean, Max just turned
16 years old yesterday.

I have a 16-year-old.
- Oh, my God.

Happy birthday.

- But life is really good.

It's really hard
to believe

that we were
at the start of all of this.

And to think that this would be
where we are now is...

- Insane.
- It is insane.

- Des, what about you?
What's the latest and greatest?

- I mean,
our life is so normal,

and it's adventurous with
two little boys running around.

Looking back
at the proposal and stuff,

I feel so far removed,
but it's such

a vital point in our story
and in our journey.

So, when the boys
are ready to find out

how Mommy and Daddy met,
I'm gonna have to call you.

[laughter]

- DeAnna, what about you?
Catch us up.

- Golly, where do I begin?

[laughter]

I'm in a bit
of a transitional phase

and finding myself again.

I always knew
I was pretty strong,

but I have learned
just how resilient I truly am.

- Mm-hmm.

- And I'm single.
- Amen.

- I'm single.
- Whoo!

- Thank you.
- She's single.

Let's get her a man.

- If you guys plan to do

a Golden Bachelorette,
just call me.

- That's right!
- Just call me.

- I think you have
a long way off to go.

- I don't need to get married
ever again.

- Charity, this is
such a cool opportunity...

- Yeah.
- And a moment, obviously,

having all this wisdom here...
- Mm-hmm. Yeah.

- Of having been
the Bachelorettes before.

Do you have any questions
for the three of them?

- I have so many, but I, like--

I'm gonna start
with you, Trista.

Obviously, you have remained
with your person,

and that gives me so much
inspiration and hope.

So, with that, what would be
your advice for just, like,

you know, like,
making it, you know, work

in a long-lasting, like,
healthy marriage?

- Yeah. You know, I will say
that we're not perfect,

like everybody.
- Yeah.

- But forgiveness--
I've said this a lot.

Because you're having

a really bad day...
- Mm-hmm.

- And you say something
that maybe you regret

or whatever--
just the little forgiveness

throughout the day.
- Going back and having--yeah.

- You have to choose to
prioritize the relationship...

- Mm-hmm.
- Because there is

so much pressure,
and there's so many opinions.

- Yeah.
- Especially--

- Unwanted opinions.
- Unwanted opinions.

- Obviously,
social media is so much more,

like, heavier
in this day and age.

People give
unwarranted comments.

How do you navigate that space
of just, like, the critics and,

you know, the pressure that it
places on your relationship?

- You have to remember
who you are at your core.

There will always be people
who are not on your ride.

- That's correct.

- There will be people
who try to break you down.

- Yeah.
- There will be people

who try to tell you
you are not worthy.

And I encourage you to remember
you are all of those things.

- That I am.
- Yes.

- Yes.
- Yes.

- Go, Dee. Go, Dee.

- Preach it.
[applause, laughter]

- You can only control you.
- That's right.

- And I believe in this season,
you've done a really good job

of being you and standing up
for who you are

and what you believe in
and using your voice.

And I encourage you
to still do that.

- Yeah.
- Don't lose that.

Don't let people
take that from you.

- You're doing incredible.
- Oh, my God, thank you.

Thank you, guys.
- You're doing great, girl.

- I have always said
that I feel very maternal

towards everyone on the show

just because
I'm the old gal, the OG.

- Uh-huh.
- But...

but I'm so proud of you.
- Oh, thank you.

- You really are just so classy

and so respectful.
- Oh. Thank you.

- And I think you're doing
an incredible job.

- I also just love, like--
you're able to give us insight

into what you're thinking
and what you're feeling,

and I think
it's really beautiful,

and it's fun to watch.

- Very true to your feelings--
you spoke your mind,

and you are strong.
- Yes!

- Thank you.
- Yes!

- I agree. Couldn't agree more.
[cheers and applause]

- Ooh, I didn't know
we were going to church today.

I love this. I love that.
[laughter]

- It really, really is
such great advice.

And I think it's so cool
having former Bachelorettes

come back and support
our current Bachelorette.

It's something
that's really empowering.

It's really,
really great to see.

- It's a tight group of people.
- It is. It really is.

- We are each other's
biggest supporters.

- We are family.
- We are.

- We are family.
- Well, Trista, Des, DeAnna,

thank you so much
for being here.

Let's hear it for our three
former Bachelorettes, everyone.

[cheers and applause]

And also, Charity, thank you
so much for being here.

It's great seeing you again.
Thank you for facing

all of your former boyfriends.
- The men.

- And we're gonna see you
back here next week

when we see how
your journey unfolds.

It's gonna be fun.

Let's hear it again
for Charity, everybody.

[cheers and applause]

All right, well, coming up,
we held a nationwide search

to find the perfect guy

to be our very first
Golden Bachelor.

And guess what, we found him.

And he's here.

And then later,
we're gonna get a sneak peek

at the finale
that is sure to have

all of Bachelor Nation talking.

That's all coming up when
"The Men Tell All" returns.

♪ ♪

It's so great seeing you all.

[upbeat music]

- Welcome back, everybody.

Now, for years, Bachelor Nation
has been clamoring for a show

just like "The Bachelor"
but for--

I don't know
how I can say this--

an older and wiser crowd,
let's just say.

Well, the show is finally here,
and it's called

"The Golden Bachelor."

[cheers and applause]

That's right,
and we couldn't be

more excited about it

or about our
Golden Bachelor himself.

Now, his name is Gerry,
and if you didn't know

anything about him,
just trust me,

you are absolutely
going to love him.

Take a look.

[dramatic music]

- Aah!

[laughs]

I'm Gerry.

I'm 71 years young.

I'm from Indiana,
and I'm going to be

the first Golden Bachelor,

because it's never too late
to fall in love again.

[train horn blares]

[soft music]

I married
my high-school sweetheart,

Toni, in 1972.

We had 43 wonderful years
together.

We had two daughters,
and I now have

two wonderful granddaughters.

We had a real typical
but beautiful life--

full of love,
full of activity.

And as years went on,
I retired.

We had a plan,
and we had an idea

of what our dream house
was going to be.

So, when Toni retired
at the end of May in 2017,

we bought that dream house,
closed on it on June 6th.

[somber music]

From June 6th on,

it didn't go
according to plan at all.

You know, she became ill,

and her situation got worse
over a couple of weeks.

♪ ♪

[voice breaking] And so we went
to the emergency room,

and she had
a bacterial infection

that infected her kidneys
and infected her liver.

And so I took my wife

to the emergency room
on July 7th.

She passed away on July 15th.

[crying]

♪ ♪

[normal voice] Every time
I look at that lake,

I go, this is her dream.

This is what she deserves.

Why am I standing here alone?

It will be six years
since she passed away.

No one's ever gonna
replace Toni.

- I love you, Dad.
- Thanks for everything.

- Love you.
- Thanks, guys.

[indistinct chatter]

But the love of my daughters
and my granddaughters

pulled me out of a dark spot.

- This isn't to replace her
but to just find somebody

that makes you happy.

My dad is just
such a fun guy.

He's so personable
and lovable.

Way to go, Dad!

He's so kind,
and he has so much to give.

He just deserves to find
that in somebody else.

- Where are the babes
you're looking for?

- I don't know that they've
even been chosen yet.

I have passed the STD test
and the drug test.

[laughter]

Best-case scenario
is I find out

that Helen Mirren's
on the market,

and she's really happy
to be on "The Golden Bachelor."

- You can't be laughing.
You gotta have a straight face.

Well, don't make it look
like you're gonna cry.

- I guess the first thing
I'm worried about

is remembering 25 names.

Eunice, will you accept
this rose?

[laughter]

Gertrude, I'm sorry.

This isn't gonna work.

I hope at the end of it,
I find the person

that I'll spend
the rest of my life with

that will complete our family.

- Cheers.

- Cheers to Ger-bear.
- Cheers.

- I want to fall in love.

I really want to find my person

who can put me in my place
when I need it

and make me smile at it,

the person who can lay down
beside you at night...

[voice breaking] Not have to
say anything, and you feel it.

That's love.

♪ ♪

That's what I want.

And I know
that person's out there.

♪ ♪

[cheers and applause]

- Isn't he great?

Man, his story gets me
every time.

And, of course,
he's here tonight.

So, without further ado,
ladies and gentlemen,

your first ever
Golden Bachelor, Gerry.

[upbeat music]

♪ ♪

[cheers and applause]

- Whoo!

♪ ♪

all: Gerry! Gerry! Gerry!
Gerry! Gerry! Gerry!

- Have a seat.

Gerry! Gerry! Gerry! Gerry!

♪ ♪

- Well...
- Welcome, Gerry!

[indistinct shouting]
- Hey, guys. How's it going?

- You got a lot of fans.
- Mm.

- It is so great
to finally get to meet you

face-to-face like this.

How you feeling right now?

- Oh, it's a whirlwind,
the last couple of weeks.

I mean, I feel like
the last ingredient

going into the blender
for a smoothie,

and your finger's right
on the button to start it.

- Yeah.
- So it's amazing.

- You went from
relative anonymity, right,

to just being the most
talked about man in America...

[snaps fingers]
Literally overnight.

What's life been like for you
since the big announcement?

- I was amazed when the radio

and TV announcers

and everybody started
showing up in my driveway.

And it's like, I live
in the middle of nowhere.

It's hard enough to find where
I live, and I live there.

[laughter]
- I gotta be honest.

People literally
have been going Gerry crazy

all around the country.

And I don't know
if you know this or not.

Are you big into social media?
- No, not really.

- Okay, well, you were
actually--for a little while,

you were trending
on social media--trending.

- If I knew what that meant,

I'm sure I would appreciate it
a whole lot more.

- It's a really good thing,
Gerry.

It means people like you,

and they're talking
about you a lot.

And we've actually got
some of those

social-media posts
that we can share with you...

- All right.
- Just kind of let you know

what everybody's been
saying about you.

All right,
"He's the most wholesome man.

"I love him.

Can't wait to watch."

- That's good.
Wholesome, I like.

- Wholesome is good.
- Yep.

- "Gerry can 'Geddit.'"

[laughter]

"Can't wait to watch
his season."

- So, uh, what does
"Geddit" mean?

[laughter]

- I don't think
I'm allowed to say

on this network what it means.
- Okay.

- This might be
my favorite one of all.

"Grandzaddyyyyyy."

[cheers and applause]

- Is it good?
It's good?

Okay.

- So, listen,
in all seriousness, though,

I know that you're--you're
very serious about this.

You're very genuine.

Have you thought
about that first night at all?

Have you thought about
what you're hoping to find

in these women?

- Um, I-I think what I'm--
I'm most looking for

that first night
is for one of those women--

or several of those women--

to just have that look
in their eye like,

"Oh, gosh, okay,
I found my own grandzaddy."

[laughter,
cheers, and applause]

See what I did there?
- I do.

[laughter]

What about overnights?

I think one thing
Bachelor Nation

is really curious about--

are there going to be
Fantasy Suites?

Is that something
we should expect?

- I would say yes, but that's--

[cheers and applause]

But what they would look like
might be a little different.

That's a long way
down the journey.

It's a long way.

And I think
there's a lot of steps

that I and a potential partner

would need to go through
to get to that

to make it
a comfortable situation.

- Yeah.
Have you been watching

Charity's season?
- I have been.

- Have you?
- Yeah.

- So you've been doing
your homework?

- A little bit.
- Yeah.

- A little bit, you know.
- And, of course,

you've seen
all these guys as well.

What's your impression
of all of them?

- I aspire to be like them.

- Oh.
- Oh, gosh.

- A bunch of cool guys, yeah.

- Do you guys have any advice

for our first
Golden Bachelor here?

Anybody have any wisdom
to impart onto him?

- I mean,
you've done it, man.

You've had that relationship,
and I say, like,

just trust your gut,
'cause you had

a relationship
that lasted so long.

And, I mean, just seeing
the photos and everything,

it brought tears to my eyes--
like, it was beautiful.

I mean,
that's what we all aspire for.

And so I say
stay true to yourself, man

'cause you got it.
- Thank you.

- There is nothing we are
gonna be able to say to you

in order to give you advice.

Like, you just told us
that you want to be like us.

That is dead wrong.

Like, we're--we want
to be like you, man.

Like, you're genuine.
You're true.

Kudos to you, man.

- Thanks.
[cheers and applause]

- There ain't nothing
we're gonna tell you.

- Thank you.
- You know, this is sort of--

it's an interesting
opportunity for me, too,

because, of course,
you had 43 years

of a beautiful love
with the love of your life,

Toni, your
high-school sweetheart.

I'm a relatively newly
married guy myself.

I'm gonna be picking your brain
throughout this entire thing.

Do you have any advice
for people out there

that are looking
for a long-lasting,

happy marriage?

- Jesse, if there's--
if there's one thing only

that I would tell you
or anyone else,

it's like,
look at your spouse every day

and tell them you love them,

because the day comes too soon

for one of you
that you can't do that.

And...

I would give anything

to be able to do that
one more time.

Tell them that you
love them every day.

Give them that hug.
[cheers and applause]

- Yeah,
that's such great advice.

That's beautiful.

- Thank you.

- Gerry, I gotta ask you,

can you find a love like that

twice in a lifetime?

- Well, all right,
so your question was,

can I find a love like that?
- Mm-hmm.

- I don't think
that's what I'm looking for.

What I look for
at the age of 70

is different
than what I looked for

when I was in high school
and college.

- Mm-hmm.
- So I believe

I'll find my person,

the new person
that will make me whole again.

And I think we'll knit
a wonderful relationship.

But I don't think
it'll look like

the relationship I had
with Toni.

And I don't think it would be
right to do it that way.

- Yeah. I love to hear you say
that you believe

you're gonna find your person.

- I do.
- I believe you are, too.

Gerry, I think
you are such a great example

that it's never too late
to find love.

I feel so honored and lucky

that I'm gonna get a chance
to go on this journey.

There is not
a more deserving man

to get this opportunity.
- Oh.

- So this is gonna be
a lot of fun.

And I just want to say
thank you again.

It's so great
to finally meet you.

- Oh, I'm looking forward
to it.

- Let's hear it for our first
Golden Bachelor, Gerry.

[cheers and applause]
- Man, this is pretty awesome.

Oh, man, thanks, guys.

Thank you. Thank you.

- And, Bachelor Nation, make
sure you mark your calendars,

because Gerry's journey to find
love begins this September.

All right, when we come back,

we've got a sneak peek
at the explosive end

of Charity's journey.

It is absolutely crazy,
so don't go away.

♪ ♪

[upbeat music]

[cheers and applause]

- Welcome back,
Bachelor Nation.

Well, it's been quite a night.

And next week,
Charity's journey comes

to an emotional conclusion.

The big question now--

how is this whole thing
gonna end for her?

Will Dotun propose?

Will it be Joey?

And what about Aaron?

There really are
so many different directions

this whole thing could go.

I was there, and, honestly,
I couldn't even keep up.

So here it is.

Here's a sneak peek at
Charity's final days in Fiji,

and it's more emotional
and more heartbreaking

than you can even imagine.

[dramatic music]

- I am in love,

and I know that
I am getting engaged,

but I don't know
who it's going to be.

- I still see you as a wife.

I still see you
as the mother of my children.

There's life coming back
into me now.

Kissing Charity just feels

like this all wasn't
for nothing.

And I'm right back
in it emotionally.

- I'm glad that
he did not give up on this

and that he saw me as someone
worth fighting for.

But there is this new
added layer of pressure.

Now I am reconsidering
everything.

- There's no question
in my mind

that I want you to be my wife.

- This was
the most special night

that we've had together.

I'm very much
in love with Charity,

and I want this to end
with us engaged.

- I never imagined
being in love

with three incredible guys.

But for the first time
in all this,

I'm, like, truly not okay.

[sniffles]
- The tears that I see,

that is where you are
with yourself

in making those...

[whispering]
Hard decisions.

♪ ♪

- Like, my brain is,
like, clouded.

- You're gonna have to come
down to one person.

- I'm very nervous.

Every second ticks closer
to the proposal,

there's
a little bit more doubt.

I can't imagine Charity
with anybody else but me.

- I'm a little nervous
about making sure

I explain myself
the best way I can.

- Oh, my God.

- I just feel good
every time I see you.

You make me feel very special.

- I really need help.

My mom is truly
my best friend,

so her opinion is everything.

I want to know your thoughts.
Like--

- Ooh. No.
I don't want to do that.

- Why, though?

- I'm sitting here,
and I'm just--

I'm really torn.

This doesn't make sense.

It doesn't make sense.

I'm gonna have a panic attack.

You are not supposed
to say goodbye

to somebody that you love.

[crying]

♪ ♪

I'm sorry.

[cheers and applause]

- Wow, I told you.

It's gonna be
an emotional one.

And so please join us
next Monday

for the three-hour live finale

that promises to be
one of the most intense,

one of the most emotional,
and, honestly,

one of the most
heartbreaking endings

in Bachelorette history.

Will Charity finally find
the happiness she so deserves?

It's the dramatic conclusion

that is going to absolutely
shock you to your core.

So thank you again
to all the guys

who joined us here tonight

and to Gerry,
our Golden Bachelor,

to our former Bachelorettes,
Trista, Des, and DeAnna,

and, of course,
to Charity as well.

She's just awesome.

And a big thanks
to everybody here

and to all of you,
Bachelor Nation.

I'm Jesse Palmer.

Good night.

[upbeat music]

[cheers and applause]

♪ ♪

- Man, meeting you guys
in person is fantastic.

- Good luck, man.
- Yeah.

- Hey, you're awesome, man.
- Thank you.

- Embrace it, man.
Once in a lifetime.

Good luck.
- Great to meet you, Gerry.

Good luck with everything, man.
- Thank you.

- Congratulations.
- I love this.

- You're gonna do great, okay?
- Are you sure

you don't have
any wise words for me?

- No. Come on, Gerry.

- We can't do better
than you, man.

- Stay true to yourself.
- Have fun with it.

- I would say,
everyone's gonna love you,

but don't read the comments.
- Thank you.

- Don't read the comments.
- You're good.

You'll be great.
You'll be great.

- Thanks to all of you.

Yeah, I've really enjoyed
watching you guys

on the show this year.

- It's gonna be
likewise, man.

We're gonna be stoked
watching you.

- Yeah.
- Hey, thanks.

- You are setting the standard.

No pressure.
[laughter]

- Yeah, no pressure at all.
Yeah, no.

- Just the first one
to ever do this in history.

- Just the first one.

- Like, you have
a bunch of women

that are looking forward
to meeting you.

So, like, let that hype you up.
- Yeah, okay.

- You're literally
the most wanted man

in America right now, like,
in a good way, dude.

Like, that is crazy.

- You got some people
out there saying grandzaddy?

That's a--that's a big deal.

- See, I really need to get
more current with the terms,

don't I?
[laughter]