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[upbeat dance-pop song plays]
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I am ready to spendthe rest of my life with somebody, 130%.
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[pop singer] ♪ 'Cause I can never
Get enough of your love, your love ♪
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-We went to therapy.-Therapist gave up on us.
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She fired you.
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[raucous laughter]
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[contestant 1] Let's play house,
as lesbians do.
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Don't go into that small suitcase'cause that has my dildo.
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If anybody's gonna fuck this shit up,I feel like it's the two of us.
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I thought you were stopping at "fuck."
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[contestant 2] I felt I've loved herbefore I even knew her.
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I was so not expecting it.
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We're all learning things about ourselvesand our relationships and what we want.
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-And don't want.-Yeah, and don't want.
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You wanted to marry me,but you fell in love with someone else.
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You guys slept together.
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[contestant 3]She led my hand to her vagina.
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You want to see us fight for you
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so you can see,"Who died for me? Who didn't?"
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[mother] If you think you're gonnaget married after this,
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you have your heads in the sand.
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♪ Love is just a word ♪
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[contestant 4] I've been wantinga connection with my ex.
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I just don't understandhow it has taken this long.
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I'm fucking done with this shit!
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[contestant 5] This is not
what I want in a marriage.
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♪ I will find my way ♪
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[contestant 6]There's three outcomes here.
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Marrying the person we came with,
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marrying someone else,
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or breaking up for good.
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[contestant 7] I'd love to startliving our happy life,
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but I also know I need to be chosen.
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I don't want this shit.
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♪ My way ♪
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♪ I'm so ready to get on it ♪
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♪ You follow me, you'll be fine ♪
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♪ It's what I need tonight ♪
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♪ I came here for love ♪
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[contestant 1] I want to be married.
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{\an8}It's not the rosesand the walking down the aisle,
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{\an8}as much as I love to dress up.
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My dream isa once-in-a-lifetime commitment.
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{\an8}I want to get married, bring childreninto the world with this person.
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I'm ready, but she's not.
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You just want somebody to be like,"It's you. You're it for me."
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♪ This is what we came here for ♪
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♪ We came here for love ♪
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[contestant 2] I deserve to be happy.
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{\an8}I deserve to be married.
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That's why I'm issuing an ultimatum.
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{\an8}I gave an ultimatum.
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{\an8}I am issuing my partner an ultimatum.
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We either get engaged or we're done.
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♪ I came here for love ♪
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♪ Someone to hold me ♪
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♪ I came here for love, yeah ♪
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I'm ready to find lovein the most beautiful way.
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{\an8}I want to find somebody that I can be withfor the rest of my life.
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♪ I want you to reach out ♪
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-[contestants laughing]-[mellow music playing]
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{\an8}Hello, everyone.
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Oh my God.
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[contestants cheering]
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-[JoAnna] Hi.-Hi.
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I am JoAnna Garcia Swisher.
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Whoo!
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[contestant] Is it correct,you're not queer?
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I am not.
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{\an8}-[contestant] We're happy you're here.-Yes!
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{\an8}-Unbelievably gorgeous.-You are so beautiful!
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Thank you. Goodness.
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-You're literally glowing under this tree.-[JoAnna] Thank you.
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{\an8}-[JoAnna laughs] So sweet.-[Vanessa] Looking good.
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{\an8}[JoAnna] I'm looking forwardto getting to know all of you.
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{\an8}But tonight you're all here
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because someone in your relationshiphas issued an ultimatum.
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One person is readyto get married right now,
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and the other isn't quite ready yet.
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By show of hands,
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who in the relationshipissued the ultimatum?
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[wry chuckle]
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Okay. All right. Okay.
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[JoAnna laughs]
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Let's get into it.Let's get to know each other.
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-Want to start here, Xander?-[Xander] Of course.
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{\an8}Vanessa and I havea… a great life together.
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It has so much fun involved,and I love that. I love that.
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I'm like, honestly…Every day I'm like, "Thank you."
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Vanessa and I metwhen we were seniors in high school
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and our boyfriends were best friends.
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[chuckles]
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[Vanessa] Fast-forward five years.
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I went to a taco truck.
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First, I asked if she was still datingher very long-term boyfriend.
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And then my follow-up question,"Are you gay?"
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{\an8}I had not come out to anyoneexcept for my best friend.
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So I guess I felt comfortable enough.
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"Yes, I am."
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[Vanessa] Four years later, here we are.
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-Your high school boyfriend blocked you.-He did block me.
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[music trails off]
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I feel that we have a connectionthat I'm never gonna find again.
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And I don't, honestly,want to look for it again.
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But I want to be married, and I'm not sureif Vanessa's willing to do that or not.
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[somber, introspective music playing]
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{\an8}I love you so much, but I never envisioneda long-term relationship.
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I don't want permanency,and I don't want stability.
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I want freedom.
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And that's not reallywhat marriage consists of.
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[JoAnna] Giving an ultimatummeans, at the end,
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if she's not ready yet,you will walk away.
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As much as I love our connection…I… I want children.
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It may be a little selfish,
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but I am willing to walk awaybecause I care about my future children
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more than I care about anything else.
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[tense music playing]
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The terms of the ultimatum are very clear.
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You will either leave here engaged,or you will break up.
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[lively music plays]
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And, of course, it's possiblethat along the way you'll see a future,
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and maybe even fall in lovewith someone new.
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Yoly and Mal…
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{\an8}Who's issuing the ultimatum?
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{\an8}Yoly? Okay.
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[Mal] Yoly and I first met during Prideabout three years ago.
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{\an8}She was a men's stylist at Barneys.
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{\an8}I asked for her Instagram
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so I could continueasking for discounts at Barneys.
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That's really it.
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[lively music continues]
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[Yoly] I knew I loved Malwhen I got sick with the flu.
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She took care of me.
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{\an8}She put Vicks VapoRub on me.Like, real rough on the neck.
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And, oh, I just love her so much.
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[Yoly laughs]
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Like, I want you to choose me.
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I need to feel that.
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It's been three years.
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We talk about being married often,
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but Mal has expressed to me thatshe wants to have the money for the ring,
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money for the house, money for the kids,money for the kids' education,
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before even taking the next step.
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-She's a Virgo.-[Mal] Mm-hmm.
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And I'm just like,"I just want to be with you."
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[Mal] Yoly, she wants kids right nowbecause of her age.
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But it's not aboutif I want to marry her. I want to.
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I don't necessarily feel likeI'm in the place
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to provide for her like I want to provide.
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Down payment for the house,
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exactly how much it is gonna be,like, to do in vitro.
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At what point are we joiningthis journey of life together?
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I wouldn't put up withanybody else's bullshit for this long.
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What's holding you back?
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I knew her as a friend before as a lover.
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Every time she's talked aboutanother lover, it's been very similar.
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You've talked about your lover's so great,same tenacity, same boisterous way.
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So I'm just like, "Why? Why me?"
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[mellow music playing]
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I wanna figure that out.
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Yoly falls in love withwherever she's watering the grass at.
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And that is scary.
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Eight weeks, however many weeks from now,
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you could come back and be like,"Mal, I know I told you,
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'You need to marry me.'"
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Then be like, "I actually don't know.I'm in love with this other person."
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"I really don't know now."
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I do want marriage, but I just want herto be really sure about me.
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[music slows, stops]
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Sorry you feel that way.
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I feel like I've found my person.
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I want you to feel confidentin me and in us.
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And it takes a lotfor you to feel confident in us.
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[gentle music playing]
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True.
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I… I don't think it's possiblefor me to find another better person.
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I don't think we're gonna break up.I think we'll choose each other.
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[gentle music continuing]
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I think.
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What's making you so emotional now?
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Ultimatums suck.
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We've been at this for three years.
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And, at the end of this,we could just not be together.
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You lose the person you thoughtyou were building a life with.
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We're both alphas,and we're both very, like…
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If this is done, I'm not gonna chase her,'cause I respect boundaries.
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And she's not the type of personthat speaks to exes.
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That sucks.
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Or it's the beginning of the future.
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-Thank you for that.-Cheers to that. Yeah.
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So committing to marriage is…It's a huge deal.
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And there's a lot of reasonswhy people say that they're not ready.
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But, if we're all being honest,
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it often comes down to one question.
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Is this person
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really the one person that I wantto spend the rest of my life with?
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Or could there be someone else out therethat could be a better fit?
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Well, in this experienceyou're gonna get a chance to find out.
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You're currently strangers,
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but each of you are compatiblewith multiple people here.
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Your only focus over the next week
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will be deciding which of themyou think could be marriage material.
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And then, at the end of the week,each of you are gonna get a chance
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to choose someone that you think embodies
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what you look for in a spouse.
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You'll move in together for three weeks
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as a new couple in a trial marriage.
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And then you'll dothe same thing all over again
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with the person that you arrived with.
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Tonight is your last night as a couple.
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[contestant] Mmm.
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No.
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[JoAnna] Tomorrow morning,you'll break up and become exes.
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Shit.
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At the end of this experience,
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each of you will decidewhat your future holds,
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whether you leave here engaged,single, or newly in love.
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Choosing the personyou're gonna spend your life with is
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the most important decisionyou will ever make.
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But, for now,enjoy your last night as a couple.
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I will see you in one week at the choice.
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Cheers to love.
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-Cheers. Cheers, y'all.-Cheers.
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-Cheers.-Cheers.
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-Cheers.-Cheers.
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Cheers, everyone.
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{\an8}I'm very excitedto begin dating new people. [laughs]
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People fall in love with me pretty easily.
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It's like, "Game on."
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[Vanessa] Mal.
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Cheers to our trial marriage.
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They're cute.
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[Yoly] I'm not readyto see Mal explore other people
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{\an8}and enjoy other people.
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But, I mean, I'm willing to process that,
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if it means at the end of thiswe're sure as hell about each other.
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♪ Our dream's come alive ♪
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-Bye, friends.-Bye.
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Bye. We'll see you soon. I hope.
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[Xander] This experience isthe craziest thing that I've ever done.
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{\an8}Either I leave here engaged to Vanessa,I leave here single, or with someone else.
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No matter what, this experienceis gonna change my life forever.
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♪ But now I got one big heartJust wanna love you ♪
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♪ You got two hands outJust wanna hug you ♪
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♪ One big, one big ♪
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♪ One big, one big ♪
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♪ But now I got one big heartJust wanna love you ♪
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♪ You got two hands outJust wanna hug you ♪
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♪ One big, one big… ♪
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-You ready?-Okay, that way, maybe?
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Lexi, other way.
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-No.-[cork pops]
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God! Fuck…
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Okay.
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-Cheers to the last night.-Cheers.
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{\an8}[upbeat music plays]
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{\an8}I'm wondering how it's gonna feeltalking to other people, and, like…
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Like, do we flirt? I'm curious to know.
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I haven't been flirted withby another woman in a while.
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You don't know how to flirt.
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I don't know if you were good at flirtingwhen we started dating.
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That's fair.
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When I first met Rae,she was trying to booty call me.
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I learned she's a bit of a boobs girl.
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-She's got a lot of what I like.-[laughs]
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I'm sorry, parents.
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-Oh my God.-Oh boy.
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It's okay. My mom doesn't knowhow to work the TV.
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[singer vocalizing]
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♪ I like where we're going ♪
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[Lexi] I love Rae more than I thinkI ever will love another person.
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We've been togetherfor over three years now,
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and I really want to marry this girl.
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My mom plans weddings,and my dad's a jeweler,
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if that gives any hints.
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You're the person I've beensleeping next to for the last three years.
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I get, like, one last night of cuddles.
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Oh my God, stop it.
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I do love you.
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Come here.
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We grow up envisioningthis, like, picturesque, like,
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running down the street,screaming the "I love you,"
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and, like, "That's my person," but…
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I don't know… if that exists for me.
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[gentle music plays]
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Hearing you talk aboutthis, like, picturesque thing,
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this perfect thing that you see…
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That makes me think about, like,
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what your expectations areand, like, I just…
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I'm not gonna live up to them.
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You know, I'm not gonnalive up to perfect.
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We're just…
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We're not perfect,and we're never going to be.
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But I'm scared you don't knowhow to be okay with that.
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It's scary thinking, like,that you could be more sure
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if it was someone else.
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I hate to use the words, like,"I've given you an ultimatum,"
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because I don't want…
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I don't like the idea of feeling likeI pushed you against a wall,
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but, you know, I hopethat this experience gives us clarity.
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[contestant] You're so sexy.What the fuck?
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[sultry music playing]
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♪ You're the fire heating up ♪
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♪ Touch me ♪
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Have another drink.
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{\an8}[romantic music playing]
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{\an8}It is a year and 11 months
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{\an8}since I met your beautiful, fine-ass self.
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I actually found heron an Instagram hashtag.
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That's really embarrassing.
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The hashtag was "lesbian Latina."
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[Tiff] I was lonely, single.
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I wouldn't say thirsty,but a little parched.
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I, of course, DMed her and…
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We just never left each other after that.
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[chuckles]
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I want to be with you in the future.
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So I hope that this experimenthelps us determine
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whether we want to move forward with that.
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-Whether you want to.-Yeah.
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Because I know I do.
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I gave Tiff an ultimatumbecause, you know,
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I don't want to toot my horn,but she really likes what I do in bed.
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Yes, ma'am.
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[knowing laughter]
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[Mildred] Tiff knowsI bring a lot to the table.
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I think the sex is just a plus.
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I love and hate
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that Mildred is spicy as hell.
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But who wants to date a boring person?
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-I already miss you, babe.-I already miss you too.
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If she wants to keepthis spice in her life,
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she needs to put a ring on it.
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Yeah, that's how it is.
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We make each other happy in the moment,
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but it's really hard to see claritywhen it comes to a future with you.
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And I want to be married now.
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Do you just wantthe concept of marriage with someone?
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Or are you leaning more towards
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the concept of marriagewith someone special?
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What are you after?
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I believe that everybody wants to bein a relationship with someone special,
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but if this person is noton the same page as me,
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then this personcan't move forward with me.
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-Mm-hmm.-So I must let them go
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and find who is actuallyon the same page as me.
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And at the end of this experimentthere has to be a decision.
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Yeah.
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I guess it just doesn't seem
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that real.
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Not discrediting your… your feelings.
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It just doesn't seem that real'cause so many times when we break up,
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or majority of the timesyou break up with me,
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I feel like you throw me away,and then two days later,
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not even two days,sometimes two hours later,
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you… you want to get back.
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I understand that, but this isnot another one of our breakups.
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[soft, introspective music playing]
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I won't come back after this.
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I love Mildred so much,
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{\an8}but I'm not ready yetto commit to marriage,
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because Mildred and I'scommunication is horrible.
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We'll be great one weekand then the next week we'll break up
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because we just shoveall our problems under the rug,
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and we're back to the same bullshit.
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I don't want to go into a marriagehaving these issues,
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but I also feel likeI don't want to lose her.
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And it's hard. It's hard.
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I care about you. I love you.
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I think you're sexy as shit.
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[laughs]
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I just really hope that,
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through meeting other people,
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that we can really, truly findconnection with each other.
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[introspective music continues]
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I think this is your opportunity,because I'm ready.
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Whether it's with you or aloneor maybe with someone else.
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Do you want to… work your wayover here for a little kiss?
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-Do you want to…-Yeah.
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[sultry music building]
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♪ We're loving on higher ground ♪
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♪ We're loving on higher ground ♪
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♪ Never falls apart, kingdom to my heart ♪
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♪ Always, baby ♪
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♪ We're loving on higher ground ♪
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♪ We're loving on higher ground ♪
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♪ Never falls apart, kingdom to my heart ♪
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♪ Always, baby ♪
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Mildred's already been married to a woman.
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She's had a wife.
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She's had a family.
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She knows exactly what it is she wants.
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It makes me feel extremely pressuredand uncomfortable, but Mildred is right.
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And Mildred does have a right to know
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whether we are going to leave each other
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or whether we're gonnamove forward together in a marriage.
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-This is it.-Yeah.
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Deep down inside,I know we truly do want this.
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We do want a future with each other.We just don't know how.
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And hopefully I'll find that how.
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But… I can't make any promises.
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And…
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I just want you to knowthat, you know, regardless…
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I will always, always care for you.
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I care for you too.
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I care about you a lot.
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{\an8}At the end of this experience,I'm gonna have to make a choice.
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{\an8}And…
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I feel like it's gonna bethe biggest choice of my life.
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[gentle pop playing]
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♪ Wanna take a little time to breathe ♪
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♪ But I can't ♪
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[Tiff] I feel like I literally…
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just lost a part of me.
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♪ When I'm without you ♪
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But, if I could choose right here,right now to marry her, I still wouldn't.
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♪ But for now, I'll be without you ♪
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-I'm gonna miss this.-I know.
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Who's gonna wake you up? My goodness.
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[laughs]
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I don't have anything to wake me up now.Now that you're not gonna be next to me.
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You're gonna have to learnhow to use this alarm clock here.
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I am.
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When we first touched hands,
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it was like somethingthat you see in the movies.
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It was almost likethe universe brought us together.
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[contestant] Time stood still.
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{\an8}Yeah, it was just magical.
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{\an8}Like, butterflies and rainbowsand unicorns, and it was magical.
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{\an8}-Actual butterflies, I think…-Yeah.
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-No, there were.-Oh yeah.
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So last night was our last night together.
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It was really special.
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It was.
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I am ready to get engaged,have a ring on this finger.
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I am ready to get married.
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The idea of marriage to meis really like that ultimate commitment.
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You also get to wear some flashy bling,which I'm not opposed to at all.
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[Aussie] I want to live with youfor five years,
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and if this is meant to be,where I want to go to that marriage state,
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then I'm open to it.
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Five years sounds like a long time.
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I've been waiting for, like, ten already.
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Oh my God.
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I just feel so… I'm so, like…
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Like, anxious right now.
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-Yeah. I can see it.-Like, my heart is… I know…
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Breathe.
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[Aussie] I feelthat she is the one. I'm just…
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Like, my… my processingtakes longer than her.
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I'm hoping this will accelerate that.
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You kinda have to.
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I know. Oh God.
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-It's not really a hope. It's like…-Okay. Yeah.
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It's like a "have to."
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-I know.-Yeah.
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You're gonna have somebodyon the other side of the bed.
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-I know. And so are you.-Weird, huh?
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Weird, yeah.
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Good luck to you and that person.
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[both laughing]
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[sighs softly]
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I'm gonna miss you, boo.
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[exhales]
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And I'm fully participatingin this experience.
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So, you know, you be youand do your thing.
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[soulful pop music playing]
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-Didn't even give you a hug.-I know. Big hug.
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[Aussie] You're gonna get through this.
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And whatever happens,no attachment to the outcome.
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[Sam] 'Kay.
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{\an8}I did give Aussie the ultimatum.
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And I fully stand by it. Um…
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I just know that it isthe right thing for both of us.
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It definitely feels real now.
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And I knew that this is whenall the emotions were gonna come out.
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[introspective pop song playing]
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Just a lot of sadness.
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♪ I'm blinded by the light ♪
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[Aussie] Let's do this, boo.
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[Vanessa] This is gonna be different.
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I don't want to spend time without you.
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Yeah.
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{\an8}Like, we haven't spent more than, what,like a week apart in three years?
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Yeah, and it was hard. [chuckles]
486
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It's gonna be super weirdto see you with… anyone else.
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And obviously, like, I cannot picture youwith someone else right now,
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and I can't picture myselfwith someone else,
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but if that opportunity comesand feels natural,
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let's both feel free enoughto explore that.
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It's so shitty to say,but… but, let's not hold ourselves back.
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We thought this was a good idea.That's why we're here.
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Commit to it.
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I kind of don't want to do this anymore.Let's just be together.
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But that wouldn't solve anything.
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That brings us right backto where we are right now,
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where you want to get married,and… and I don't.
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[Xander] But I don't want to.
499
00:25:38,703 --> 00:25:41,039
You're having commitment issues,I think, Xan.
500
00:25:41,540 --> 00:25:42,791
You think so?
501
00:25:44,000 --> 00:25:46,962
You know, don't get mad at meif I like someone.
502
00:25:47,045 --> 00:25:47,963
Right?
503
00:25:48,838 --> 00:25:50,715
[laughs] You know.
504
00:25:54,844 --> 00:25:56,263
I'll definitely be jealous.
505
00:25:56,763 --> 00:25:59,724
You've been so committed to me for so long
506
00:25:59,808 --> 00:26:02,602
and known you want to marry meand be with me forever,
507
00:26:02,686 --> 00:26:04,229
which is terrifying.
508
00:26:05,230 --> 00:26:09,651
But give someone else a shot and see ifmaybe the connection you have with me
509
00:26:09,734 --> 00:26:13,280
is something you can see yourselfhaving with someone else.
510
00:26:14,281 --> 00:26:16,116
I don't want to be away from you.
511
00:26:16,199 --> 00:26:17,826
You're a sucker. [laughs]
512
00:26:22,664 --> 00:26:23,498
I love you.
513
00:26:26,668 --> 00:26:28,587
I love you. Ten more minutes, right?
514
00:26:28,670 --> 00:26:30,672
[Vanessa laughs] I think I have to go.
515
00:26:32,215 --> 00:26:35,343
I want you to be ableto get to where I'm at.
516
00:26:35,844 --> 00:26:37,554
I want you to take this seriously.
517
00:26:39,055 --> 00:26:39,889
I will.
518
00:26:40,640 --> 00:26:42,809
♪ Here's to hopingThat it all makes sense ♪
519
00:26:42,892 --> 00:26:46,062
♪ Here's to knowing that it never does ♪
520
00:26:46,146 --> 00:26:48,857
♪ Here's to thinking it'll happen soon ♪
521
00:26:48,940 --> 00:26:51,443
♪ Here's to knowing that it never will ♪
522
00:26:51,943 --> 00:26:55,447
♪ Always tried to do right by youBut it's getting so hard… ♪
523
00:26:55,530 --> 00:26:57,157
You have to let me go.
524
00:26:58,199 --> 00:26:59,951
-I love you.-I love you.
525
00:27:00,744 --> 00:27:03,455
♪ It's getting too hard to be the best ♪
526
00:27:06,916 --> 00:27:08,710
[energetic pop music playing]
527
00:27:08,793 --> 00:27:11,463
♪ Let's go, let's go ♪
528
00:27:13,006 --> 00:27:15,216
♪ Locked and loaded, 'bout to blow ♪
529
00:27:15,300 --> 00:27:17,010
♪ Get ready, get set ♪
530
00:27:17,093 --> 00:27:17,927
♪ Let's go ♪
531
00:27:18,011 --> 00:27:19,763
{\an8}[Lexi] Last night I fell asleep
532
00:27:19,846 --> 00:27:22,182
{\an8}next to the personI want to get married to.
533
00:27:22,265 --> 00:27:25,185
{\an8}And this morning I watched themwalk right out the door.
534
00:27:25,268 --> 00:27:28,897
{\an8}And that sucked, but I thinkeveryone's in the same boat as me.
535
00:27:28,980 --> 00:27:32,984
We're all kind of getting used tothis idea of calling someone our exes
536
00:27:33,068 --> 00:27:37,530
and being in this weird dynamicwhere we haven't been single in forever.
537
00:27:37,614 --> 00:27:40,700
I am literally here in my cutest bikini,
538
00:27:40,784 --> 00:27:43,578
and I'm going on dateswith eight beautiful women.
539
00:27:43,662 --> 00:27:46,122
And, as weird as that is to say,
540
00:27:46,206 --> 00:27:47,957
I'm here, and I'm doing it,
541
00:27:48,041 --> 00:27:51,169
and I am livingin whatever this moment is.
542
00:27:51,252 --> 00:27:54,381
{\an8}So why did you give your ex the ultimatum?
543
00:27:54,464 --> 00:27:57,258
{\an8}I just want to feel chosen.I just feel like you're not…
544
00:27:57,342 --> 00:27:59,552
My thing isI want you to be like, "Hell yeah."
545
00:27:59,636 --> 00:28:01,054
{\an8}This is gonna sound really weird,
546
00:28:01,137 --> 00:28:04,182
{\an8}but, like, I'm super intotarot readings and stuff.
547
00:28:05,016 --> 00:28:10,730
{\an8}The fact that my now ex, Aussie,is going to be dating other people,
548
00:28:10,814 --> 00:28:12,816
I don't know how many feet away from me…
549
00:28:12,899 --> 00:28:14,818
I'm just gonna kinda go with it.
550
00:28:16,069 --> 00:28:17,320
{\an8}-Hello.-[Mal] Hi.
551
00:28:17,404 --> 00:28:21,324
[Mal] It's really rare that you go outand you find this many women
552
00:28:21,408 --> 00:28:23,660
that are focused on marriageand commitment.
553
00:28:23,743 --> 00:28:26,663
{\an8}Whether you were the ultimatum giveror the ultimatum receiver,
554
00:28:26,746 --> 00:28:29,290
{\an8}we're all thinking about marriagein some capacity.
555
00:28:29,374 --> 00:28:30,583
-What do you play?-Basketball.
556
00:28:30,667 --> 00:28:33,169
-Come on. Yes.-Okay.
557
00:28:33,253 --> 00:28:35,588
I played in college.I've also dated my teammates before…
558
00:28:35,672 --> 00:28:37,674
-Oh no.-…so I know what that looks like.
559
00:28:37,757 --> 00:28:39,342
-You're one of those.-Right.
560
00:28:39,843 --> 00:28:42,178
{\an8}Normally, you go into a dateand it's a lot of small talk,
561
00:28:42,262 --> 00:28:46,558
whereas here you're, like, deep divingat the first question you're asking
562
00:28:46,641 --> 00:28:50,562
because we're all tryingto get to what you want in a partner.
563
00:28:50,645 --> 00:28:51,563
What you don't want.
564
00:28:51,646 --> 00:28:55,233
{\an8}I'm more of a doer.Like, you do or you don't.
565
00:28:55,316 --> 00:28:58,778
I'm laughing only becauseyou sound like my ex.
566
00:28:58,862 --> 00:28:59,946
[both laugh]
567
00:29:00,029 --> 00:29:03,158
{\an8}[Mildred] I issued the ultimatum,and I'm ready to commit.
568
00:29:03,241 --> 00:29:08,204
{\an8}And I want to be with someone that I knowI can spend the rest of my life with.
569
00:29:08,288 --> 00:29:10,707
{\an8}This beautiful pool with all these ladies,
570
00:29:10,790 --> 00:29:13,460
{\an8}it's like going to Dinah Shoreall over again.
571
00:29:13,543 --> 00:29:14,961
Where's my drink?
572
00:29:15,545 --> 00:29:16,796
{\an8}So we're on this date.
573
00:29:16,880 --> 00:29:18,631
{\an8}Yeah. I know. You feel it?
574
00:29:20,049 --> 00:29:21,551
{\an8}-I have to say…-I'm not mad.
575
00:29:21,634 --> 00:29:24,095
{\an8}…you're the most masculine personI've ever been on a date with.
576
00:29:24,179 --> 00:29:25,263
-Fair.-Fair enough.
577
00:29:25,346 --> 00:29:27,474
I think for now. You might find out later.
578
00:29:27,557 --> 00:29:29,559
-You might do your hair different.-It's different.
579
00:29:30,643 --> 00:29:32,353
-This is cool, though.-Yeah.
580
00:29:32,437 --> 00:29:35,190
-Traditionally, I don't date masc.-Yeah.
581
00:29:35,273 --> 00:29:37,734
-But I'm also like, "Fuck it."-Eh.
582
00:29:37,817 --> 00:29:39,277
-We're here. I'm grown.-Yeah.
583
00:29:39,360 --> 00:29:41,571
I might have way more in commonwith you than anybody.
584
00:29:41,654 --> 00:29:42,989
-I know. Yeah.-So I'm like, fine.
585
00:29:43,072 --> 00:29:45,033
We'll figure outwho tops and bottoms another time.
586
00:29:45,116 --> 00:29:46,993
-I love it.-For now, we're good.
587
00:29:47,702 --> 00:29:51,372
{\an8}Whether you dress more masculineor more feminine or somewhere in-between,
588
00:29:51,456 --> 00:29:52,957
I try to be more open-minded.
589
00:29:53,041 --> 00:29:57,170
But when it comes to the basic logisticsof each other, I'm a picky person.
590
00:29:57,253 --> 00:29:59,214
{\an8}So a deal-breaker for me, it's like…
591
00:29:59,297 --> 00:30:05,011
I can't get down with a girl that flat upeats a juicy, raw, fucking steak.
592
00:30:05,762 --> 00:30:07,889
I really want to not eat meat, but…
593
00:30:09,265 --> 00:30:10,391
[music halts abruptly]
594
00:30:10,475 --> 00:30:12,435
Interesting, definitely interesting.
595
00:30:12,519 --> 00:30:15,063
{\an8}-What's your take on having a child?-Yeah…
596
00:30:15,146 --> 00:30:18,316
Uh, no, not… not really my forte.
597
00:30:18,399 --> 00:30:19,317
Um…
598
00:30:19,400 --> 00:30:20,860
That's a dealbreaker for me.
599
00:30:21,361 --> 00:30:22,612
On to the next one.
600
00:30:22,695 --> 00:30:25,406
[questioningly] You're young.You're young, right?
601
00:30:25,490 --> 00:30:27,367
{\an8}-Yeah. I'm 24.-You're 24! [laughs]
602
00:30:27,992 --> 00:30:29,536
Gosh. Oh no.
603
00:30:29,619 --> 00:30:31,704
-Did you get the ultimatum or someone…-I gave.
604
00:30:31,788 --> 00:30:33,748
You gave the ultimatum.Okay, so you are ready.
605
00:30:33,832 --> 00:30:34,916
I am ready.
606
00:30:34,999 --> 00:30:37,043
-You are ready to go at 24.-Yeah.
607
00:30:37,126 --> 00:30:42,006
As far as characteristics or qualitiesI see in a potential partner,
608
00:30:42,090 --> 00:30:46,928
I do want someone that isreally good at communicating with me,
609
00:30:47,011 --> 00:30:49,514
and I want someoneto validate my feelings.
610
00:30:49,597 --> 00:30:52,767
I also want someone that can keep it spicy
611
00:30:52,851 --> 00:30:55,687
and keep things interestingand keep me on my tippy-toes,
612
00:30:55,770 --> 00:30:57,188
'cause I get bored as fuck.
613
00:30:59,065 --> 00:31:01,484
[stoic, quirky music playing]
614
00:31:01,568 --> 00:31:02,902
I love your hair, by the way.
615
00:31:03,486 --> 00:31:04,654
-Thank you.-It's awesome.
616
00:31:04,737 --> 00:31:06,573
{\an8}[stoic music continuing]
617
00:31:08,908 --> 00:31:10,201
[sighs] Oh God.
618
00:31:10,285 --> 00:31:11,703
[energetic pop playing]
619
00:31:12,829 --> 00:31:16,499
{\an8}I haven't gone on a date in four years,but here we are.
620
00:31:16,583 --> 00:31:17,458
I'm ready.
621
00:31:17,542 --> 00:31:18,960
I'm gonna get a drink, or five,
622
00:31:19,043 --> 00:31:21,004
and then I'm gonna date everyone I can.
623
00:31:21,087 --> 00:31:23,590
I'm gonna date you and you and you and you
624
00:31:23,673 --> 00:31:26,092
and everyone I can,you know, get my hands on.
625
00:31:26,926 --> 00:31:28,344
-Hi.-Hi.
626
00:31:28,428 --> 00:31:29,429
Welcome to our date.
627
00:31:29,512 --> 00:31:30,680
{\an8}Hi.
628
00:31:31,848 --> 00:31:33,016
{\an8}You smell so good.
629
00:31:33,099 --> 00:31:34,058
Oh, thank you.
630
00:31:34,142 --> 00:31:36,060
-What do I smell like?-You look so good.
631
00:31:36,144 --> 00:31:37,228
Thank you.
632
00:31:37,312 --> 00:31:40,356
{\an8}-What do you look for in a partner?-Vibes.
633
00:31:40,440 --> 00:31:42,150
Fuck. That's what I would say too.
634
00:31:42,734 --> 00:31:43,610
Yes.
635
00:31:44,110 --> 00:31:45,069
-Vibes.-Vibes.
636
00:31:45,778 --> 00:31:48,156
Mal is strikingly good-looking.
637
00:31:48,239 --> 00:31:50,158
You're August 26th. I'm August 26th.
638
00:31:50,241 --> 00:31:53,036
I always say that if I founda clone of myself, I would date them.
639
00:31:53,620 --> 00:31:56,456
Do you think people would thinkwe're clones of each other if they saw us?
640
00:31:56,539 --> 00:31:57,415
I mean, yeah.
641
00:31:57,498 --> 00:31:58,333
We look alike.
642
00:31:58,416 --> 00:31:59,334
1,000%.
643
00:31:59,417 --> 00:32:00,335
[chuckles]
644
00:32:01,419 --> 00:32:03,880
{\an8}I don't want someonewho's just all into work or…
645
00:32:03,963 --> 00:32:06,716
-Good. Yes.-I love adventure, taking risks.
646
00:32:06,799 --> 00:32:07,967
That's my biggest thing.
647
00:32:08,051 --> 00:32:10,553
Oh my gosh.She's the cutest thing I've ever seen.
648
00:32:10,637 --> 00:32:11,596
…know where that is.
649
00:32:11,679 --> 00:32:13,973
You're telling methat you date pillow princesses?
650
00:32:14,057 --> 00:32:15,683
No… Um, not always.
651
00:32:15,767 --> 00:32:19,187
-Mildred is not a pillow princess.-She dates pillow princesses, everybody.
652
00:32:19,270 --> 00:32:22,398
{\an8}-Mildred?-No, no, no, Mildred's not. Mildred's not.
653
00:32:22,482 --> 00:32:24,400
Um, but I have before. I have.
654
00:32:25,360 --> 00:32:27,904
She is beautiful.She's a feisty little thing.
655
00:32:31,366 --> 00:32:33,076
So how are you today?
656
00:32:33,868 --> 00:32:36,245
I'm feeling good, but it feels weird.
657
00:32:36,329 --> 00:32:38,414
I can see what Vanessa's doing.
658
00:32:38,498 --> 00:32:41,876
I definitely have not processed everythingand, yeah, I don't know.
659
00:32:43,461 --> 00:32:46,631
Yes, that's where everything is happening.
660
00:32:46,714 --> 00:32:51,302
{\an8}One thing I'm not doing is lookingto see if Tiff is looking at me.
661
00:32:51,386 --> 00:32:52,929
Because I'm looking really good.
662
00:32:53,012 --> 00:32:55,932
And I don't want to sound cocky,but I know she's thinking of me.
663
00:32:56,015 --> 00:32:57,225
Thank you so much.
664
00:32:57,308 --> 00:33:00,144
{\an8}Last time I was in the dating world,I was mainly dating men.
665
00:33:00,228 --> 00:33:02,522
{\an8}So this is like a huge change for me.
666
00:33:02,605 --> 00:33:04,482
I'm feeling happy and good about it.
667
00:33:04,565 --> 00:33:06,234
It's bizarre.
668
00:33:06,317 --> 00:33:08,027
Oh my gosh.
669
00:33:08,111 --> 00:33:10,530
-What are you drinking?-Tequila water with some lime.
670
00:33:10,613 --> 00:33:12,740
-How about you?-Aperol spritz.
671
00:33:12,824 --> 00:33:15,284
I want to make sure.Lexi wants to get married, right?
672
00:33:15,368 --> 00:33:18,955
{\an8}-Lexi is giving me the ultimatum.-Yeah. Xander's giving me the ultimatum.
673
00:33:19,038 --> 00:33:21,874
-So we both got it.-Same. But you don't want to get married.
674
00:33:21,958 --> 00:33:23,501
Well, it's not necessarily that.
675
00:33:23,584 --> 00:33:25,086
I think it's just, like…
676
00:33:25,169 --> 00:33:29,298
It's such a big deal for methat… that it's scary to commit to.
677
00:33:29,382 --> 00:33:32,927
The idea of being with someone foreverscares me, you know?
678
00:33:33,011 --> 00:33:35,179
-Definitely. I think most people…-Right?
679
00:33:35,263 --> 00:33:37,598
-I don't know…-Apparently not for our partners…
680
00:33:37,682 --> 00:33:39,392
That's the thing that I don't get.
681
00:33:39,475 --> 00:33:42,103
How do you get to that pointwhere you're so confident
682
00:33:42,186 --> 00:33:44,230
in saying, "You're my partner forever"?
683
00:33:44,313 --> 00:33:46,691
I thought you didn't want marriage.How about kids?
684
00:33:46,774 --> 00:33:47,984
Definitely kids.
685
00:33:48,067 --> 00:33:51,195
I would love to host a child in my bellyif my body allows it.
686
00:33:51,279 --> 00:33:52,905
Um, what about you?
687
00:33:52,989 --> 00:33:55,450
I have a specific scenario for kids.
688
00:33:55,533 --> 00:33:56,701
Tell me. What is it?
689
00:33:56,784 --> 00:33:59,704
So me and my partner,like, we have the same sperm.
690
00:33:59,787 --> 00:34:01,247
'Cause I want the mutual father.
691
00:34:01,330 --> 00:34:04,500
-Sure.-And then I will have her embryo in me.
692
00:34:04,584 --> 00:34:06,627
-Whoa! Yes.-So I have a connection.
693
00:34:06,711 --> 00:34:08,629
And then the other one, she'll have mine.
694
00:34:08,713 --> 00:34:10,048
That's like a total transfer.
695
00:34:10,131 --> 00:34:12,216
Wow. That's a wild thought.
696
00:34:12,884 --> 00:34:15,553
So what do you look for in a partner?Do you have a type?
697
00:34:15,636 --> 00:34:17,180
-Great question.-Is this your type?
698
00:34:17,263 --> 00:34:22,310
Well, first, I'm pansexual, so for me…it doesn't really matter, gender-wise.
699
00:34:22,393 --> 00:34:24,812
And I don't knowif I have a real physical type.
700
00:34:24,896 --> 00:34:26,606
I like someone who's confident.
701
00:34:26,689 --> 00:34:29,233
-I mean, that's sexy and I like that.-Yes.
702
00:34:29,317 --> 00:34:30,985
Someone who knows what they want.
703
00:34:31,069 --> 00:34:33,237
Because I thinkI'm not like that sometimes.
704
00:34:33,321 --> 00:34:36,365
Not that I'm not confident.I feel like, in a general sense…
705
00:34:36,449 --> 00:34:38,910
I have a good career,a good head on my shoulders,
706
00:34:38,993 --> 00:34:40,119
good family and--
707
00:34:40,203 --> 00:34:42,121
-You're pretty.-Thank you, so are you.
708
00:34:42,205 --> 00:34:43,581
I guess you can't say that.
709
00:34:43,664 --> 00:34:46,000
-No, I can't. Like, "Hello."-"And I'm pretty."
710
00:34:46,876 --> 00:34:50,379
I am shy, but I feel like I like someonewho can bring it out in me sometimes.
711
00:34:50,463 --> 00:34:52,298
{\an8}Was she the first girl you've dated?
712
00:34:52,381 --> 00:34:54,175
Um, seriously, yes.
713
00:34:54,258 --> 00:34:57,011
I had a girlfriend in college,but it lasted like a month.
714
00:34:57,095 --> 00:35:00,973
Now that I've found the word pansexual,I really feel like that's my vibe.
715
00:35:01,057 --> 00:35:01,891
Cheers.
716
00:35:01,974 --> 00:35:03,976
-To get some clarity, oh my God.-Yeah.
717
00:35:04,060 --> 00:35:05,144
[laughs]
718
00:35:05,228 --> 00:35:07,355
-I don't even know what time it is.-Yeah, same.
719
00:35:07,438 --> 00:35:10,775
I mean, literally this morningwe all woke up with our partners.
720
00:35:10,858 --> 00:35:12,527
-Yes. Yeah.-And now we're single.
721
00:35:12,610 --> 00:35:13,945
Does it feel real?
722
00:35:14,028 --> 00:35:15,029
-No.-Kind of no.
723
00:35:15,113 --> 00:35:16,739
But knowing that our girlfriends…
724
00:35:16,823 --> 00:35:19,325
our ex-girlfriends areover there laughing… I can hear them.
725
00:35:19,408 --> 00:35:21,494
{\an8}I don't know how you're gonna be awake
726
00:35:21,577 --> 00:35:23,162
{\an8}after having another one of these…
727
00:35:23,246 --> 00:35:24,539
{\an8}You're so right.
728
00:35:25,206 --> 00:35:27,375
So we should laugha little bit louder and…
729
00:35:27,458 --> 00:35:29,293
-Throw each other in the pool.-[laughter]
730
00:35:31,963 --> 00:35:33,047
Yeah.
731
00:35:33,131 --> 00:35:35,258
♪ Get down, turn aroundShow me what you got ♪
732
00:35:35,341 --> 00:35:36,425
♪ You a pow-pow juggernaut ♪
733
00:35:36,509 --> 00:35:37,802
So tell me about you.
734
00:35:37,885 --> 00:35:42,140
I love being outsideand pretty much always moving.
735
00:35:42,223 --> 00:35:45,309
{\an8}The first thing I noticed about Lexiis that she is…
736
00:35:45,393 --> 00:35:47,478
♪ Pow-pow juggernaut, take it up a notch ♪
737
00:35:47,562 --> 00:35:49,564
She has this amazing…
738
00:35:49,647 --> 00:35:51,399
♪ Wow, take 'em out, lemme take a shot ♪
739
00:35:51,482 --> 00:35:54,944
I am also pretty active,but I do love a good movie day.
740
00:35:55,027 --> 00:35:57,113
-Yeah, that's huge.-Yeah. I don't know.
741
00:35:58,698 --> 00:36:04,036
Just… I don't know how to say it.Her appearance is extremely sexy.
742
00:36:04,620 --> 00:36:07,206
♪ Show me what it is, show me what it is ♪
743
00:36:07,290 --> 00:36:08,374
♪ Show me what it is ♪
744
00:36:08,457 --> 00:36:11,460
Lexi knew what she was doingpicking the bikini she picked.
745
00:36:12,170 --> 00:36:15,298
I don't know if people are gonna betalking to her or talking to them.
746
00:36:15,381 --> 00:36:17,925
{\an8}But they're honestly hard to hide, so…
747
00:36:18,009 --> 00:36:20,595
{\an8}There's no blaming herfor what she's got going on.
748
00:36:20,678 --> 00:36:22,597
Um, okay. What makes you a catch?
749
00:36:22,680 --> 00:36:24,891
{\an8}Ooh, what makes me a catch?
750
00:36:24,974 --> 00:36:26,017
Wait, how about this?
751
00:36:26,100 --> 00:36:28,978
Tell me what makes me a catch.I'll tell you what makes you a catch.
752
00:36:29,061 --> 00:36:30,897
But I don't know anything about you yet.
753
00:36:30,980 --> 00:36:31,856
Cool. Okay.
754
00:36:31,939 --> 00:36:35,902
I'm gonna not look at your boobsbecause I know they're already great.
755
00:36:35,985 --> 00:36:38,070
I'm really looking at you.You're beautiful.
756
00:36:38,154 --> 00:36:39,989
She's hot. Did I say that? She's hot.
757
00:36:40,072 --> 00:36:41,824
Your eyes look like…
758
00:36:43,701 --> 00:36:44,660
melted chocolate?
759
00:36:44,744 --> 00:36:45,661
I think?
760
00:36:45,745 --> 00:36:46,662
[Lexi laughs]
761
00:36:46,746 --> 00:36:48,247
You have a bubbly personality.
762
00:36:48,331 --> 00:36:51,667
Um, I'm going to imaginethat you are athletic.
763
00:36:51,751 --> 00:36:52,919
Very, yeah.
764
00:36:53,461 --> 00:36:55,338
You seem like you could talk to anyone.
765
00:36:55,421 --> 00:36:57,215
I think that's a really great thing.
766
00:36:57,298 --> 00:36:58,132
Okay.
767
00:36:58,216 --> 00:37:01,052
-Those are the things I know so far.-That was spot on.
768
00:37:01,135 --> 00:37:02,970
-Oh, fantastic.-Yeah.
769
00:37:03,054 --> 00:37:05,431
Should I make another guess?We'll see if it's right?
770
00:37:05,514 --> 00:37:07,850
-Your favorite color's green.-No, blue.
771
00:37:07,934 --> 00:37:09,769
-Mmm.-But I do like green on me.
772
00:37:09,852 --> 00:37:11,312
-Cool.-It was a good start.
773
00:37:11,395 --> 00:37:13,522
I also like yellow,so I'm enjoying the bikini.
774
00:37:13,606 --> 00:37:14,649
-Thank you.-Yeah.
775
00:37:15,483 --> 00:37:17,652
Um, you're also super bubbly.
776
00:37:17,735 --> 00:37:20,029
I can hear you talking elsewhere,and you just--
777
00:37:20,112 --> 00:37:21,530
-I'm loud.-No, no, no.
778
00:37:21,614 --> 00:37:23,324
Your energy is awesome.
779
00:37:23,407 --> 00:37:25,368
It's helping make this experience…
780
00:37:25,451 --> 00:37:27,536
'Cause amidst all of the weight of this…
781
00:37:27,620 --> 00:37:28,454
Yeah.
782
00:37:28,537 --> 00:37:30,831
…you need the light.You definitely have that, like…
783
00:37:30,915 --> 00:37:32,041
Wow.
784
00:37:32,124 --> 00:37:33,709
I'm so glad we went this route.
785
00:37:33,793 --> 00:37:35,836
-Yeah.-Keep telling me. This is amazing.
786
00:37:35,920 --> 00:37:38,256
-Great smile, by the way.-Thank you.
787
00:37:38,839 --> 00:37:40,508
Artsy more than sporty?
788
00:37:40,591 --> 00:37:41,634
Definitely not sporty.
789
00:37:41,717 --> 00:37:42,969
Artsy more than sporty.
790
00:37:43,719 --> 00:37:46,055
Throw me into a sportand I'll just do some somersaults.
791
00:37:46,138 --> 00:37:47,390
I don't know what I'll do.
792
00:37:47,473 --> 00:37:49,684
-But you'll have a good vibe doing it?-Yeah.
793
00:37:49,767 --> 00:37:51,769
-I'm getting somewhere.-You're really good.
794
00:37:51,852 --> 00:37:52,687
[laughs]
795
00:37:52,770 --> 00:37:54,146
-Well, cheers.-Cheers, yeah.
796
00:37:54,230 --> 00:37:56,440
Thanks for playing that game.It made me feel good.
797
00:37:56,524 --> 00:37:58,109
-Good.-I hope I made you feel good.
798
00:37:58,192 --> 00:37:59,485
You made me feel great.
799
00:37:59,568 --> 00:38:02,321
Even though you told memy eyes looked like melted chocolate.
800
00:38:02,405 --> 00:38:03,239
No, I'm kidding.
801
00:38:03,322 --> 00:38:05,449
-So beautiful. Chestnut!-Chocolate is good.
802
00:38:06,951 --> 00:38:11,747
{\an8}I'm amazed at how well I am connectingwith pretty much every single one of them.
803
00:38:11,831 --> 00:38:16,335
Their hesitation is not necessarilybased on the fundamentals of marriage,
804
00:38:16,419 --> 00:38:19,505
but rather, "Do I want to marrythis partner that I'm with right now?"
805
00:38:19,588 --> 00:38:22,300
I see value in marriagefor a lot of reasons,
806
00:38:22,800 --> 00:38:26,929
but, for me, I'm searching forthat real emotional desire to get married,
807
00:38:27,013 --> 00:38:28,723
and that's what I've been lacking.
808
00:38:28,806 --> 00:38:31,392
I feel like I'm alwaystaking care of things now…
809
00:38:31,475 --> 00:38:34,228
-Interesting.-…in my relationship with Xander.
810
00:38:34,312 --> 00:38:37,231
{\an8}I don't want to have to fight battlesfor another adult.
811
00:38:37,315 --> 00:38:40,109
Interesting. Because I am younger, and I--
812
00:38:40,192 --> 00:38:41,861
-You're 24? Right? Yeah.-Yeah.
813
00:38:41,944 --> 00:38:42,987
I have my shit sorted.
814
00:38:43,070 --> 00:38:45,948
I am a protector-provider-type.
815
00:38:46,032 --> 00:38:49,660
"Do you need me to call the doctor?Do you need me to get this together?"
816
00:38:49,744 --> 00:38:52,455
{\an8}Because I feel like I have toin my relationships.
817
00:38:52,538 --> 00:38:54,707
{\an8}-Or else it won't get done.-It won't.
818
00:38:54,790 --> 00:38:57,126
There gets to be a point for mewhere it's like,
819
00:38:57,209 --> 00:38:59,962
I'm… I'm exhausted of always being the one
820
00:39:00,046 --> 00:39:01,797
that feels I need to do thatfor someone else.
821
00:39:01,881 --> 00:39:02,715
I get that.
822
00:39:02,798 --> 00:39:07,595
And I have not dated anybodywho's like, "I can get this done."
823
00:39:07,678 --> 00:39:09,430
-Yes.-Not even just for me.
824
00:39:09,513 --> 00:39:11,432
But for themselves/us. If that--
825
00:39:11,515 --> 00:39:13,809
I totally, totally get that.
826
00:39:13,893 --> 00:39:14,810
That's amazing.
827
00:39:14,894 --> 00:39:15,936
Yeah.
828
00:39:16,020 --> 00:39:18,439
[Lexi] I came herebecause I wanted to marry Rae.
829
00:39:18,522 --> 00:39:19,774
I still feel that way.
830
00:39:19,857 --> 00:39:23,527
But I think I'm seeing thatthere's other outcomes in this process.
831
00:39:23,611 --> 00:39:27,156
{\an8}I feel like, when I first saw Vanessa,I thought we were gonna clash
832
00:39:27,239 --> 00:39:30,159
because we havevery extroverted personalities.
833
00:39:30,242 --> 00:39:33,746
But as I'm talking to her more,I feel very comfortable with her.
834
00:39:33,829 --> 00:39:37,249
There's flirtiness and fun,and, like, it's coming my way.
835
00:39:37,333 --> 00:39:38,584
So it's totally weird.
836
00:39:38,667 --> 00:39:41,045
-What are you drinking?-An old-fashioned and water.
837
00:39:41,128 --> 00:39:42,463
Okay, I'm a Manhattan girl.
838
00:39:42,546 --> 00:39:44,507
{\an8}-Yes.-I will tell you this.
839
00:39:44,590 --> 00:39:47,676
-I make a freaking phenomenal Manhattan.-You make them?
840
00:39:47,760 --> 00:39:49,220
What? You're amazing.
841
00:39:49,303 --> 00:39:52,765
-Are you a Virgo?-No, I'm not. I am a Capricorn.
842
00:39:52,848 --> 00:39:54,392
-Are you a Virgo?-I am.
843
00:39:54,475 --> 00:39:58,145
I've actually been toldI do really poorly with Virgos.
844
00:39:58,646 --> 00:40:00,981
That's not true.That's actually your soulmate.
845
00:40:01,065 --> 00:40:03,734
Whoever told you thatwas trying to keep you away from Virgos.
846
00:40:03,818 --> 00:40:06,195
Oh, so probably just a crazy ex.
847
00:40:06,278 --> 00:40:07,238
For sure.
848
00:40:07,321 --> 00:40:08,197
[Lexi laughs]
849
00:40:08,280 --> 00:40:10,950
-Virgos and Capricorns are the match.-Really?
850
00:40:11,033 --> 00:40:12,576
-All right.-They're both grounding.
851
00:40:12,660 --> 00:40:15,663
-Cheers to already finding it.-Hey, our work here is done.
852
00:40:17,790 --> 00:40:19,166
I got issued the ultimatum.
853
00:40:19,250 --> 00:40:20,543
-You did.-It got put on me.
854
00:40:20,626 --> 00:40:23,254
-You were the issuer, if I remember.-I was, yeah.
855
00:40:23,337 --> 00:40:26,090
-I'm the attacker. I'm the bludgeoner.-Yeah.
856
00:40:26,173 --> 00:40:28,717
Um… it's a timing thing for me.
857
00:40:28,801 --> 00:40:32,263
-My parents've been together 45, 50 years.-Wow.
858
00:40:32,346 --> 00:40:35,057
They didn't get marriedfor the first ten years.
859
00:40:35,141 --> 00:40:37,518
You don't have to rush into these things.
860
00:40:37,601 --> 00:40:38,477
[Lexi] Mm-hmm.
861
00:40:38,561 --> 00:40:43,023
{\an8}The other part of that ismy "ex" loves really hard.
862
00:40:43,107 --> 00:40:44,316
{\an8}She's a serial monogamist.
863
00:40:44,400 --> 00:40:46,569
{\an8}Every relationship,she's super invested in.
864
00:40:46,652 --> 00:40:48,320
I don't feel different than them.
865
00:40:48,904 --> 00:40:51,073
-So you wonder---If you want to marry me,
866
00:40:51,157 --> 00:40:54,368
I want to know why I'm so differentthan where you've been.
867
00:40:56,829 --> 00:40:57,705
-So yeah.-Yeah.
868
00:40:57,788 --> 00:40:59,832
Part of me is annoyed with the ultimatum
869
00:40:59,915 --> 00:41:03,544
'cause I'm like, "You're putting it on me,but I kinda am unsure about how you feel."
870
00:41:03,627 --> 00:41:04,462
No. That makes sense.
871
00:41:04,545 --> 00:41:08,466
{\an8}My ex, when we talkedabout our relationships…
872
00:41:09,133 --> 00:41:12,219
Her problems didn't changebetween me and the last girl.
873
00:41:12,303 --> 00:41:13,971
-Right.-And that's frustrating.
874
00:41:14,054 --> 00:41:17,725
Because it does scare me.It makes me wonder, "Am I different?"
875
00:41:17,808 --> 00:41:20,811
I feel similarly. Except you're the onewho issued the ultimatum.
876
00:41:20,895 --> 00:41:22,480
I know, so I'm the asshole.
877
00:41:22,563 --> 00:41:24,440
No. You just know what you want.
878
00:41:24,523 --> 00:41:26,442
My parents have been married for 25 years.
879
00:41:26,525 --> 00:41:27,359
Sweet.
880
00:41:27,443 --> 00:41:28,986
You know, nothing was perfect.
881
00:41:29,069 --> 00:41:30,070
It wasn't always easy,
882
00:41:30,154 --> 00:41:33,032
but they love each otherand they've gone through life together.
883
00:41:33,115 --> 00:41:34,742
I… I think no relationship's perfect.
884
00:41:34,825 --> 00:41:36,702
It's about being a team.
885
00:41:37,286 --> 00:41:40,372
It's not 50-50 all the time,but it's about working through it.
886
00:41:40,456 --> 00:41:41,749
-And we gotta grow.-Yeah.
887
00:41:41,832 --> 00:41:44,001
I'm gonna work throughthe hard shit with you. It's you.
888
00:41:44,084 --> 00:41:45,628
-Yeah.-That type of thing.
889
00:41:45,711 --> 00:41:48,672
That's interesting.Yeah, I think… I feel the same way.
890
00:41:48,756 --> 00:41:49,798
[swaggering rock plays]
891
00:41:49,882 --> 00:41:53,010
♪ When I strike upShining like lightning ♪
892
00:41:53,093 --> 00:41:55,888
{\an8}Every single conversationI'm having with everyone
893
00:41:55,971 --> 00:41:57,515
goes to another level.
894
00:41:57,598 --> 00:41:59,350
It's been really awesome.
895
00:41:59,433 --> 00:42:02,061
Vanessa is funny. She's quick-witted.
896
00:42:02,144 --> 00:42:03,562
It's fun. It's easy.
897
00:42:03,646 --> 00:42:05,272
But Lexi and I…
898
00:42:05,356 --> 00:42:08,484
She's talking about family dynamics.That's one of my core values.
899
00:42:08,567 --> 00:42:10,694
I didn't expectto have a connection so fast,
900
00:42:10,778 --> 00:42:14,782
but I would absolutely loveto explore more connection with her.
901
00:42:14,865 --> 00:42:15,699
Go deeper.
902
00:42:15,783 --> 00:42:17,618
Want to just do the three weeks now?
903
00:42:17,701 --> 00:42:18,869
[laughs]
904
00:42:18,953 --> 00:42:22,665
The last time I hung out withthis many women at one time
905
00:42:22,748 --> 00:42:24,583
was right before Yoly.
906
00:42:25,167 --> 00:42:26,418
{\an8}-[Xander] Hello.-Hello.
907
00:42:26,502 --> 00:42:27,878
{\an8}-How are you?-Good to see you.
908
00:42:27,962 --> 00:42:28,796
{\an8}You too.
909
00:42:29,838 --> 00:42:30,798
So…
910
00:42:33,175 --> 00:42:37,221
{\an8}So what are some thingsthat you want from this experience?
911
00:42:37,304 --> 00:42:40,849
{\an8}Being… Both of us are the onesthat issued the ultimatum.
912
00:42:40,933 --> 00:42:41,809
[Yoly] Right.
913
00:42:42,393 --> 00:42:44,103
I am excited for an outcome.
914
00:42:44,728 --> 00:42:47,314
{\an8}I kinda just want to knowyes or no, essentially.
915
00:42:47,398 --> 00:42:48,857
{\an8}[Xander] I totally feel that.
916
00:42:48,941 --> 00:42:53,529
I want it to be a "hell yeah," or if not,then I'm okay with letting that go.
917
00:42:53,612 --> 00:42:54,446
Right.
918
00:42:54,530 --> 00:42:59,243
It sucks, but I want youto be like "hell yes" about me.
919
00:42:59,326 --> 00:43:02,871
I would love…How great would it be to hear,
920
00:43:02,955 --> 00:43:04,957
-"Oh my God, I have to have you."-Yeah.
921
00:43:05,040 --> 00:43:07,543
-"You're the love of my life."-Absolutely. Act on it.
922
00:43:07,626 --> 00:43:08,460
Yeah.
923
00:43:08,544 --> 00:43:11,422
♪ The more I lookThe clearer it becomes ♪
924
00:43:11,505 --> 00:43:13,799
I don't feel likeI've gotten that, which--
925
00:43:13,882 --> 00:43:14,717
[Yoly] Damn.
926
00:43:14,800 --> 00:43:16,969
♪ Am I the only one… ♪
927
00:43:17,052 --> 00:43:18,762
Don't think I'm the worst person.
928
00:43:18,846 --> 00:43:20,097
Right, right, right.
929
00:43:20,180 --> 00:43:22,057
-You're like, "I'm not terrible."-Yeah.
930
00:43:22,641 --> 00:43:24,727
[Yoly] After today's round of dating,
931
00:43:24,810 --> 00:43:27,813
{\an8}it's really good meeting peoplewho gave the ultimatum,
932
00:43:27,896 --> 00:43:30,941
just 'cause it's, like,an affirmation of, like,
933
00:43:31,025 --> 00:43:34,778
"You're not crazy for expectingyour partner to kind of show up."
934
00:43:34,862 --> 00:43:38,198
"And here's someone like Xanderwho matches your energy."
935
00:43:38,282 --> 00:43:39,783
Like, it… it feels awesome.
936
00:43:39,867 --> 00:43:42,411
[Xander] This date isthe best one I've had.
937
00:43:42,494 --> 00:43:43,370
[laughs]
938
00:43:43,871 --> 00:43:45,205
[pulsing pop music plays]
939
00:43:45,289 --> 00:43:48,208
♪ This is the one, this is the one ♪
940
00:43:49,168 --> 00:43:51,253
♪ This is the one I've been waiting for ♪
941
00:43:52,212 --> 00:43:53,547
♪ This is the one ♪
942
00:43:53,631 --> 00:43:54,840
{\an8}We're drinking tequila.
943
00:43:54,923 --> 00:43:56,467
-[Vanessa] Yeah.-You're ready.
944
00:43:56,550 --> 00:43:59,386
{\an8}Listen, I would say yesif we were gonna spend the night together.
945
00:43:59,470 --> 00:44:01,263
-Oh my God. Take it back a step.-Sorry.
946
00:44:01,347 --> 00:44:03,265
We haven't even moved in together yet.
947
00:44:03,349 --> 00:44:05,684
-I take it back.-Don't take it back. I'm okay with it.
948
00:44:06,852 --> 00:44:08,854
[Tiff] Everybody grab a drink.Over the fire.
949
00:44:09,438 --> 00:44:12,900
{\an8}Cheers to this wonderful experiencethat we're all going through.
950
00:44:12,983 --> 00:44:16,403
And cheers to love. Cheers to marriage.
951
00:44:16,487 --> 00:44:18,989
And hopefully we can allget our shit together.
952
00:44:19,073 --> 00:44:20,366
-Wow.-Yeah!
953
00:44:20,449 --> 00:44:22,117
[overlapping excited chatter]
954
00:44:22,201 --> 00:44:24,161
-I don't know where my drink went.-Oh yeah.
955
00:44:24,244 --> 00:44:26,622
I feel like we're at a lesbian cluband all our exes are here.
956
00:44:26,705 --> 00:44:27,706
[all laughing]
957
00:44:27,790 --> 00:44:30,292
{\an8}No, I guaranteewe would not be this happy.
958
00:44:32,461 --> 00:44:35,631
{\an8}It's weird.It's weird seeing your ex looking hot.
959
00:44:36,465 --> 00:44:39,259
And then to be single and dating around.
960
00:44:39,343 --> 00:44:41,720
{\an8}It feels very uncomfortable,
961
00:44:41,804 --> 00:44:44,348
but I want to keep pushing myself forward
962
00:44:44,431 --> 00:44:47,142
to give me the answersthat I need out of this process.
963
00:44:48,143 --> 00:44:50,312
I have a questionyou guys might not want to answer.
964
00:44:50,396 --> 00:44:51,271
Um…
965
00:44:52,398 --> 00:44:56,360
Would you guys be willing to tell everyonewho your number one was?
966
00:44:56,443 --> 00:44:59,154
{\an8}[overlapping dissent]
967
00:44:59,238 --> 00:45:00,781
Maybe… Maybe Yoly?
968
00:45:00,864 --> 00:45:01,865
No.
969
00:45:01,949 --> 00:45:03,617
Don't worry about it.
970
00:45:03,701 --> 00:45:05,994
-[Mal] Are we jealous?-That's aggressive. I can't.
971
00:45:06,078 --> 00:45:06,912
A great question.
972
00:45:06,995 --> 00:45:10,082
If Vanessa wasn't here,I would have dated everyone at this table.
973
00:45:10,165 --> 00:45:11,125
[Yoly] I… I…
974
00:45:11,208 --> 00:45:12,167
Whoa!
975
00:45:12,793 --> 00:45:13,711
{\an8}Ooh.
976
00:45:13,794 --> 00:45:17,131
Hostility, sarcasm, jealousy,it's just in the air.
977
00:45:17,214 --> 00:45:19,967
And I feel like me,being born and bred in Jersey,
978
00:45:20,050 --> 00:45:21,927
I've got that in me. Game on.
979
00:45:22,010 --> 00:45:24,638
Okay, no one else? Nothing else?
980
00:45:25,139 --> 00:45:27,558
What I'm excited foris my new relationship with…
981
00:45:27,641 --> 00:45:28,475
with Mal.
982
00:45:28,559 --> 00:45:32,354
{\an8}And you be best friends with Mal,then we'd have threesomes occasionally.
983
00:45:33,689 --> 00:45:35,107
[Tiff] Sounds very uncomfortable.
984
00:45:35,190 --> 00:45:37,735
{\an8}I'll join that throuple.I'll be a part of that.
985
00:45:37,818 --> 00:45:38,819
{\an8}Can we do that?
986
00:45:40,195 --> 00:45:42,322
{\an8}Can all three of us be married together?
987
00:45:42,406 --> 00:45:45,325
It's not legal, but it can be consensual.
988
00:45:45,409 --> 00:45:46,952
We can be okay with that.
989
00:45:48,662 --> 00:45:49,747
They're both cute.
990
00:45:49,830 --> 00:45:52,458
I think it would be bestif this experience just became
991
00:45:52,541 --> 00:45:55,169
like a polyamorous orgy,and we're all like, "Okay."
992
00:45:55,252 --> 00:45:56,879
{\an8}That's kind of how I feel.
993
00:45:58,088 --> 00:46:00,841
I like how you guys are like,"Let's do it." I'm like, "Hold on."
994
00:46:00,924 --> 00:46:03,010
It's just… I feel awkward for that.
995
00:46:04,595 --> 00:46:05,971
Do the awkward dance.
996
00:46:06,472 --> 00:46:08,182
It's a small world out there.
997
00:46:08,932 --> 00:46:10,726
-It is a small world.-It really is.
998
00:46:10,809 --> 00:46:14,521
The lesbian world, I feel like.Especially if you live in one area.
999
00:46:14,605 --> 00:46:17,483
-You hang out with the same people.-Even a big city, it doesn't matter.
1000
00:46:17,566 --> 00:46:19,985
{\an8}It's really weird seeing my exat the cocktail party
1001
00:46:20,068 --> 00:46:21,820
{\an8}because I knowmy mom bought her that dress,
1002
00:46:21,904 --> 00:46:24,615
{\an8}and I want to give her a hugand tell her how pretty she looks.
1003
00:46:25,991 --> 00:46:28,494
[Lexi] Should we go findour own little cozy spot?
1004
00:46:28,577 --> 00:46:29,411
[Vanessa] Absolutely.
1005
00:46:29,495 --> 00:46:31,497
-Should we go to that fire?-The fire.
1006
00:46:31,580 --> 00:46:34,625
But I deserve the personthat is gonna tell me I'm the one.
1007
00:46:34,708 --> 00:46:36,543
I think when you're surrounding yourself
1008
00:46:36,627 --> 00:46:39,755
with people who also havemarriage on their mind, it's fun.
1009
00:46:39,838 --> 00:46:43,050
I kinda told you,you are not my typical type.
1010
00:46:43,133 --> 00:46:44,885
I can't believe you're wearing jewelry
1011
00:46:44,968 --> 00:46:47,054
and playing with your hair,and I'm into you.
1012
00:46:47,137 --> 00:46:48,263
I don't understand it.
1013
00:46:49,515 --> 00:46:51,517
It does tend to havethat effect on people.
1014
00:46:51,600 --> 00:46:52,726
[both laughing]
1015
00:46:53,727 --> 00:46:56,438
-It's this really weird situation.-Yeah, right.
1016
00:46:56,522 --> 00:46:58,315
Like no other time in our life.
1017
00:46:58,398 --> 00:47:00,901
You couldn't pay to have this happento our lives again.
1018
00:47:01,610 --> 00:47:02,653
You could pay me.
1019
00:47:03,278 --> 00:47:04,863
-I could pay you?-I have a rate.
1020
00:47:04,947 --> 00:47:07,950
Good to know. What are we talking?Hundreds? Thousands?
1021
00:47:08,033 --> 00:47:10,786
-Is this a Pretty Woman situation?-You are a sugar mama.
1022
00:47:10,869 --> 00:47:15,165
You would definitely be100% more successful than me in life.
1023
00:47:15,749 --> 00:47:19,670
That's good. I mean, if I make it,then at least I have somebody to spend it.
1024
00:47:19,753 --> 00:47:21,004
I'll spend it.
1025
00:47:21,088 --> 00:47:22,297
Oh no, I'm sure.
1026
00:47:22,381 --> 00:47:24,675
-You are throwing me for a loop.-Good.
1027
00:47:24,758 --> 00:47:29,221
I swear, I think I've beenreferring to you as a curveball.
1028
00:47:29,304 --> 00:47:33,600
Like, not that… If you don't catchthe sports reference, but, like…
1029
00:47:33,684 --> 00:47:35,644
-Baseball? Softball?-Baseball.
1030
00:47:35,727 --> 00:47:39,398
And I've been thinking about ita lot more than I would care to admit.
1031
00:47:40,816 --> 00:47:41,692
Same.
1032
00:47:41,775 --> 00:47:43,026
Too often.
1033
00:47:43,110 --> 00:47:47,322
I feel like every time I talk to you,we have one of those "whoa" moments.
1034
00:47:47,406 --> 00:47:49,658
Like, "Whoa. Why did this happen?"
1035
00:47:49,741 --> 00:47:52,244
But, like, you're unexpected.
1036
00:47:52,327 --> 00:47:56,373
I feel like I came into this and was like,"I know myself pretty well."
1037
00:47:56,957 --> 00:48:00,210
But you were, likethe one that I just didn't think…
1038
00:48:00,294 --> 00:48:01,503
So what are we gonna do?
1039
00:48:01,587 --> 00:48:03,463
-I don't know.-Okay.
1040
00:48:03,547 --> 00:48:08,844
I think I objectively say, I would liketo go on a date with you tomorrow.
1041
00:48:08,927 --> 00:48:10,220
Absolutely same.
1042
00:48:10,304 --> 00:48:13,682
I'm so happy you wantedto go on another date with me.
1043
00:48:14,808 --> 00:48:16,560
There's definitely something there.
1044
00:48:17,144 --> 00:48:20,314
{\an8}I don't know what to make of…
1045
00:48:21,148 --> 00:48:24,109
{\an8}I don't know what to call it,but my situation with Vanessa.
1046
00:48:24,192 --> 00:48:28,447
I think there's maybe some comfortthat I can tell she feels the same.
1047
00:48:28,530 --> 00:48:29,948
We just…
1048
00:48:30,866 --> 00:48:35,037
We don't know what the hell it isabout the two of us,
1049
00:48:36,413 --> 00:48:39,750
but we both just kind of, like,hit each other on our asses.
1050
00:48:39,833 --> 00:48:41,835
♪ The night is young ♪
1051
00:48:42,878 --> 00:48:44,546
♪ Well, we still… ♪
1052
00:48:44,630 --> 00:48:47,799
I feel like there's no doubt in my mindthat it'll be fun.
1053
00:48:47,883 --> 00:48:51,553
But, like, I'm not sureif living with her would be madness.
1054
00:48:52,054 --> 00:48:53,805
Like, I don't know what to do.
1055
00:48:53,889 --> 00:48:56,433
-There you go again.-To learning things from each other.
1056
00:48:56,516 --> 00:48:57,392
[all cheering]
1057
00:48:57,476 --> 00:48:58,352
I need a lime.
1058
00:48:59,394 --> 00:49:00,938
Mind if we move over there?
1059
00:49:01,021 --> 00:49:02,606
Let's do it. Yeah.
1060
00:49:04,775 --> 00:49:06,944
[Vanessa] What a… What a fun thing.
1061
00:49:08,737 --> 00:49:13,492
You are someone that I never thoughtI would be interested in.
1062
00:49:13,575 --> 00:49:16,328
Not because you're not beautiful.You are stunning.
1063
00:49:16,411 --> 00:49:18,956
But I just didn't thinkyou would be my type.
1064
00:49:19,039 --> 00:49:21,333
But when we were sitting on the towels,
1065
00:49:21,416 --> 00:49:24,002
I was like,"Oh my God, I like this girl so much."
1066
00:49:24,753 --> 00:49:27,214
-No, I'm not joking.-No, I know. I'm sorry.
1067
00:49:27,297 --> 00:49:29,049
-I'm serious, like…-Me too.
1068
00:49:29,883 --> 00:49:31,426
That means a lot to me.
1069
00:49:31,510 --> 00:49:34,888
Yeah. I think, same here.I think there's a little bit of, like…
1070
00:49:36,515 --> 00:49:37,724
confusion for me.
1071
00:49:39,977 --> 00:49:41,103
I'm curious about you.
1072
00:49:41,186 --> 00:49:44,064
I think… we're tryingto make a connection here.
1073
00:49:44,564 --> 00:49:49,653
I think, any time I date someone,there's a nervousness to it, right?
1074
00:49:49,736 --> 00:49:52,155
-We could continue to figure this out?-Okay.
1075
00:49:52,239 --> 00:49:53,740
A second day together.
1076
00:49:54,741 --> 00:49:56,326
Somebody want to break up our exes?
1077
00:49:56,410 --> 00:49:58,161
-Who?-[music slows, distorts]
1078
00:49:58,245 --> 00:49:59,830
[flirty laughter]
1079
00:50:00,789 --> 00:50:03,458
♪ You can run if you want to ♪
1080
00:50:03,542 --> 00:50:06,086
♪ But the truth will find you ♪
1081
00:50:06,712 --> 00:50:09,840
♪ I'm breaking all the rules ♪
1082
00:50:09,923 --> 00:50:12,092
♪ I'm playing it so cool ♪
1083
00:50:12,175 --> 00:50:15,554
♪ I'm playing it so cool, baby ♪
1084
00:50:15,637 --> 00:50:18,765
♪ I'm breaking all the rules ♪
1085
00:50:18,849 --> 00:50:20,851
♪ I'm playing it so cool ♪
1086
00:50:20,934 --> 00:50:24,438
♪ I'm playing it so cool, baby ♪
1087
00:50:24,938 --> 00:50:27,190
♪ 'Cause I'm never gonna ever stop ♪
1088
00:50:27,274 --> 00:50:29,693
♪ I'm always gonna shake it up ♪
1089
00:50:29,776 --> 00:50:32,738
♪ Always gonna shake it up ♪
1090
00:50:34,573 --> 00:50:35,574
[song trails off]
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