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It started for me a year ago
when I moved to Mexico City for work
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You told me you'd lived there
your whole life
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We'd been chatting on a dating application
and had agreed to meet at an opening
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I'd already been thinking
about sleeping with you
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I googled you and found out
you were born 30 years before me
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I'd had fantasies about older men
since I was a teenager
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And now, far from home,
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I decided I was finally ready
to let myself fall in love with one
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It took me a moment to find you
even though you're tall
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We kissed outside the gallery
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It was awkward that first time
I'd had to stand on my tiptoes
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I touched your chest
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And you invited me to your place
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Your touch was electric
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Your hands on my back,
neck, thighs, ass
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My lips around your tongue
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My fingers in your soft, thick hair
Your eyes locked on mine
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The whole night,
under me, around me, inside me
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You disappeared
and came back a few minutes later
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to slip a piece of cheese
into my eager mouth
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A few weeks later,
I stopped paying rent
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and I moved in with you
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One morning,
I was brushing my teeth
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when you pointed out
the hair I have on my upper arms
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I started shaving them
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You told me to start exercising
since I'd only be this age once
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I wondered which birthday'd
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be the one where you'd decide
that I'd gotten too old for you
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Now it's summer
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You're traveling and so am I
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You made no promises
about seeing me again
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But I can't stop thinking about you
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Once I got to Chicago,
I started thinking about a film
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I wrote on my dating profile,
inviting men to an audition
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"Come to my studio and be on camera.
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"You'll receive something in exchange."
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"It could be sex or something else."
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The guys who came in
have agreed to act in a film with me
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They don't know what it'll be about
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And neither do I
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Maybe I'm making it in spite of you
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Or maybe it's for you
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What specifically is this for?
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I'm a filmmaker...
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So there's no specific purpose...
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It's just... I make films and...
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I'll talk in a second...
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- I have to concentrate.
- Okay.
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I'm just gonna frame this.
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Okay.
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Looks good. Great.
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And I'm gonna check on this one.
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- Need to shift this over a bit.
- Cool.
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- Welcome.
- Thank you.
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Thanks for coming in.
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In terms of Grindr,
I've been on Grindr for a while.
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Met my husband on Grindr,
surprisingly.
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'Cause it's not really where you...
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It's changed over the years.
You see more people there
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looking for a relationship.
But like, "Dude, it's Grindr."
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But it can happen...
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But that wasn't the purpose.
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Recently I've shifted.
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I've gotten older.
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My libido's
not what it used to be,
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so I'm not horny all the time,
like I was when I was your age,
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when we didn't have Grindr.
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So I actually am interested
in meeting people
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just to talk
and meet new people.
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We've lost that
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art of the cruise.
Walking around, eyeing a guy...
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Brushing up against him,
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in a discreet or not-so-discreet way.
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Because we've got these apps.
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- You know Jackhammer?
- I don't.
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It's a...
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bar. Like, just a bar.
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Jackhammer has a basement.
They call it "The Hole."
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Of course.
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It's raunchy,
exactly what you'd expect.
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Those are things
that I'd never experienced...
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And had always been
a little wary of.
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So a friend of mine
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was just like, "We've gotta go."
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Had that friend
been to those places before?
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Oh yeah. That's like, his thing.
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But it's interesting to see
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just demeanors...
and seeing people change
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as they come down through a room
and strip.
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Like, seeing how
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people kind of come alive
in those situations.
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You wanna do this interview naked?
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No.
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I'm really like...
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If you want to, we can.
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That's all up to you.
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If you want to, I'm more than...
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I'm comfortable doing it.
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Yeah, let's go for it.
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- Now we're naked.
- Now we're naked.
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- Have you done these like this before?
- No.
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I did two on Tuesday,
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and I've done three so far today.
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I've got one afterwards.
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We've been clothed for each of them.
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Is it awkward for you to be naked?
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No.
There's a tension right now...
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different than with the other ones.
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What kind of tension
do you think?
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Sorry, I keep staring.
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It's like I wanna touch it,
but...
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like, "I don't know how he'd take that,
if I'm like, 'Can I touch it?'"
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That's all up to you.
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I think I'd feel uncomfortable.
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- You from Chicago?
- Originally Alabama.
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- What part?
- Small, little town...
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In the southeast.
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I don't know.
I grew up in Atlanta.
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It's like a 15-hour drive.
I do that if I take the dog.
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You have a dog?
What kind?
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English Bull, Boston Terrier mix.
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- I love dogs.
- He's a big goofball.
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- What's his name?
- Fatboy.
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- He's still got his tail so it wags.
- A full tail? Nice!
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Let him keep his tail.
I haven't even neutered him.
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He's five and a half.
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Does that cause any problems?
Really?
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He's a bit more aggressive than normal,
but nah.
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- What part of town do you live in?
- Rogers Park.
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- You?
- The West Loop.
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It's like a 20-minute walk.
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I just have
a small sublet, close...
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Not far from...
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So...
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You don't have to get dressed again,
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but you might feel
uncomfortable going out with...
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With a hard-on.
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I've got someone coming in at nine.
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Could you sit right here?
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And you're taller than...
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The last guy, so I'm gonna...
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See... Actually...
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That actually works.
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Yeah... 6'4".
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Yeah, that works.
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Do you have anything
you're itching to ask, to say?
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You don't have to say anything.
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That's why we have the hanky code
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- in the leather community.
- I'm not familiar.
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That's a whole other conversation.
I can teach you!
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- There's a leather convention in Chicago?
- You missed it.
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I stayed with four pups,
men who wear dog masks with tails as dildos
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and tails.
They walk around in chains often.
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Do they speak, if they're pups?
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The pups? Yes and no.
I mean, they "ruff" a lot.
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Someone asked me,
"How could you ever be a pup?"
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I said, "I'm not a pup,
but that you maybe would never"
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"have to make a decision for yourself
is maybe sorta refreshing."
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Like, you'd never
have to make a decision:
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"I need to go pee."
"Okay, go pee."
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"I'm hungry."
"Okay, there's food."
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Everything is done for you.
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That's sort of euphoric and sounds like
you're just a lazy bastard,
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but no, think about that:
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- You're taken care of.
- I can see that.
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It's sort of amazing.
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I've been into scruffy white guys.
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My Scruff was just my Scruff.
It has...
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A really adorable, like:
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"Student getting his MFA, just moved here.
Be different from the guy beside you.
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"I'm cerebral and smiley."
All these things, right?
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I'd have a shirtless photo
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with a goofy-ass hat on.
I'd have my thumbs up, and it's great.
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But it didn't stop statements like,
"Come rape me."
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Or "I'd like you to come over
but you might scare the kids." Or, like...
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"Give me that nigga dick now"
from white people.
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So I changed my profile:
"Stop asking me to rape you
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"and offering money to sleep with you."
The comments stopped.
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People know it's bad. They see it
and they're like, "It's horrible."
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But what do you do?
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As an artist, I can't just blow 'em up
and put 'em in a gallery.
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You have to make work about it.
You have to fix it for yourself.
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As an artist, you have to make work about
something so tense to you.
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I would like to...
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Make a film...
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Based on this conversation.
A piece of fiction I'll write...
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based on our transcript.
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I'll contact you about when to shoot that,
if you're willing...
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Okay. Sure. Okay.
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- Thank you.
- You're welcome.
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I don't know how to turn this off.
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- I wish I knew how to use this.
- Here.
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I just stopped recording.
To turn it off...
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- Do you care about learning?
- Teach!
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This toggle.
Switch it to the middle.
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Have fun with this project.
Don't try to define it.
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- Let it define yourself.
- Don't let it?
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No, let it define itself.
Don't try to define it.
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Could you put that on right here.
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String it through
wherever's convenient.
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When's the last time you came?
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This morning.
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You want me to come?
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If that happens,
it'd be worth it to stay together.
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Is that the line?
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"If that happens, it's worth it..."
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All right. One more time?
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Closer than that?
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Let's do one like that.
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Want me to move up and down
as well?
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- No.
- No? Just faces.
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When was the last time you came?
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I think Saturday.
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It's been a lot longer than Saturday
for me.
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You wanna get naked?
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You like that?
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- I'm sorta scared.
- Why?
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I dunno.
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- Want me to do anything else?
- No.
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I wanna suck it.
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I think I'm done. Yeah.
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Finish this beer.
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Are you gonna have yourself
be in all your films?
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- I dunno.
- Okay. Just wondering.
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It seems...
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I won't say odd.
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It is unusual. Part of it is...
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Even as an artist, I am fairly private.
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I would hate for anyone
to see me in a film like that.
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But I think...
you can also consider, like...
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"I am an actor."
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- That what?
- I am an actor.
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But I also think the minute that...
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You're there and using your name,
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everybody's gonna read everything
as autobiographical,
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'cause people do that anyway,
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even if you had a different character
and an actor...
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and named the person Bob.
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You're backing out, but...
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I'm not backing out
because I was never in!
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I don't know if you understand...
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How absolutely...
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Skin-crawly the whole thing
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makes me feel.
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Anyway...
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Regardless of what we talk about,
I enjoy talking to you.
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I love you, Mom.
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Although now I feel suspicious
every time you say it.
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You're just saying that
to get on my good side!
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- But I do love you.
- I love you, Mom.
251
00:19:07,300 --> 00:19:09,467
- Bye bye.
- Talk to you soon.
252
00:19:36,200 --> 00:19:38,600
- What do you do?
- I'm an artist.
253
00:19:38,700 --> 00:19:40,200
What kind of artist?
254
00:19:40,867 --> 00:19:42,367
Visual artist.
255
00:19:42,700 --> 00:19:46,533
- Are you being evasive?
- You think so?
256
00:19:46,633 --> 00:19:49,667
You're giving me
almost monosyllabic answers.
257
00:19:50,067 --> 00:19:54,367
- What do you wanna know?
- What kind of artist are you?
258
00:19:54,467 --> 00:19:56,967
I'm an artist! I make artwork.
259
00:19:57,300 --> 00:19:58,800
Wow, that face.
260
00:19:58,967 --> 00:20:00,633
I make photography.
261
00:20:05,000 --> 00:20:07,700
You gonna tell me
what your art's about?
262
00:20:08,933 --> 00:20:11,500
My art deals with visibility.
263
00:20:14,900 --> 00:20:16,667
Visibility of what?
264
00:20:18,067 --> 00:20:19,567
People.
265
00:20:20,500 --> 00:20:22,000
All people?
266
00:20:23,633 --> 00:20:26,167
Very specific types of people.
267
00:20:27,567 --> 00:20:29,067
All right.
268
00:20:29,933 --> 00:20:32,300
I think it's all people, really,
269
00:20:32,433 --> 00:20:36,467
but specifically the way
certain types of people are seen...
270
00:20:36,567 --> 00:20:39,467
Or certain people
have the right to see.
271
00:20:40,767 --> 00:20:42,267
Who's texting?
272
00:20:44,700 --> 00:20:46,200
Some dude.
273
00:20:47,467 --> 00:20:48,967
Yeah?
274
00:20:55,133 --> 00:20:57,300
I'd like to see your photos.
275
00:20:58,833 --> 00:21:01,833
Maybe I'll take you
to my place sometime.
276
00:21:09,833 --> 00:21:11,333
Not bad.
277
00:21:17,367 --> 00:21:19,467
Could you get undressed for me?
278
00:21:20,167 --> 00:21:21,667
Boxers, too.
279
00:21:25,467 --> 00:21:26,967
Stop.
280
00:21:30,467 --> 00:21:31,967
Bow head first.
281
00:21:32,400 --> 00:21:33,900
Down.
282
00:21:37,167 --> 00:21:38,667
Perfect.
283
00:21:48,533 --> 00:21:50,067
Can you get erect?
284
00:21:58,167 --> 00:22:00,933
I don't think I can get hard.
285
00:22:05,133 --> 00:22:07,833
- A different pose would help.
- Okay.
286
00:22:07,933 --> 00:22:09,433
Put these on.
287
00:22:12,900 --> 00:22:14,400
Stop.
288
00:22:26,767 --> 00:22:28,267
Keep going.
289
00:22:31,367 --> 00:22:32,867
Stop.
290
00:22:43,233 --> 00:22:46,400
What do you think you'll gain
by not listening?
291
00:22:46,500 --> 00:22:48,000
I'm not listening?
292
00:22:48,367 --> 00:22:51,000
You kept going. I said stop.
293
00:22:54,000 --> 00:22:56,133
There must be miscommunication.
294
00:23:04,700 --> 00:23:06,200
You look great.
295
00:23:10,467 --> 00:23:11,967
Okay, try again.
296
00:23:21,667 --> 00:23:23,633
I don't think I can get hard.
297
00:23:26,933 --> 00:23:28,633
I'm done shooting.
298
00:23:30,733 --> 00:23:32,233
I'm sorry.
299
00:23:38,267 --> 00:23:40,300
Doesn't really matter anyway.
300
00:24:17,933 --> 00:24:19,433
Where are you going?
301
00:24:21,300 --> 00:24:22,800
Does it matter?
302
00:24:24,133 --> 00:24:25,633
Why are you...? What...?
303
00:24:48,967 --> 00:24:51,167
I'm gonna go get some coffee.
304
00:25:22,367 --> 00:25:25,067
We had dinner with your ex in the spring
305
00:25:26,500 --> 00:25:30,667
You went to the bathroom
and he asked how we'd met
306
00:25:30,767 --> 00:25:32,533
Online, I answered
307
00:25:33,433 --> 00:25:36,667
He said you were an inveterate flirt,
308
00:25:36,767 --> 00:25:39,667
you were unreliable, lascivious, unfaithful
309
00:25:40,200 --> 00:25:42,533
you'd fuck anything that moved,
310
00:25:43,067 --> 00:25:44,667
you'd never change
311
00:25:47,733 --> 00:25:49,567
I believed that you could,
312
00:25:49,667 --> 00:25:51,567
that you would, for me
313
00:25:54,067 --> 00:25:56,767
You came back
and picked up the check
314
00:25:57,267 --> 00:25:59,833
We kissed your ex goodbye
on the cheek
315
00:26:00,100 --> 00:26:02,400
but I couldn't look him in the eye
316
00:26:06,000 --> 00:26:08,700
Later that night,
I told you I loved you
317
00:26:09,433 --> 00:26:13,467
I didn't know how you'd react,
I sort of mumbled it
318
00:26:14,500 --> 00:26:16,167
You looked uncomfortable
319
00:26:16,267 --> 00:26:19,200
I felt ashamed and we fell asleep
320
00:26:23,400 --> 00:26:27,100
In the middle of the night
we had sex, fast
321
00:26:27,700 --> 00:26:29,733
You didn't look me in the eye,
322
00:26:30,167 --> 00:26:31,933
restrained my hands,
323
00:26:32,167 --> 00:26:34,067
turned my body away from you
324
00:26:37,400 --> 00:26:41,000
I felt your affection again
when we fell back asleep
325
00:26:41,233 --> 00:26:42,933
Your heart under my ear
326
00:26:43,600 --> 00:26:48,633
I tried to match our breathing
but yours was too fast
327
00:26:53,500 --> 00:26:56,167
Goose Island or a Sweetwater?
328
00:26:57,200 --> 00:26:59,800
We can drink whatever.
I don't care.
329
00:27:02,967 --> 00:27:06,333
I can chug beer,
but I can't chug wine.
330
00:27:06,667 --> 00:27:08,167
Tried that once...
331
00:27:08,533 --> 00:27:10,100
Not a good ending.
332
00:27:26,233 --> 00:27:28,567
The most interesting thing is...
333
00:27:28,667 --> 00:27:30,167
This was the shirt...
334
00:27:30,267 --> 00:27:32,133
I came home from Iraq in.
335
00:27:34,733 --> 00:27:36,233
One, two, three...
336
00:27:44,300 --> 00:27:45,800
Someone's in the navy.
337
00:27:46,267 --> 00:27:50,733
The pictures in there?
That's of my classes that I taught at.
338
00:27:51,600 --> 00:27:53,100
The first class...
339
00:27:54,133 --> 00:27:56,433
Where we're all wearing the blues...
340
00:27:56,533 --> 00:27:58,567
They're prior students,
341
00:27:58,667 --> 00:28:01,933
doing both mounted
and unmounted patrols...
342
00:28:03,233 --> 00:28:04,767
When you were in...
343
00:28:05,933 --> 00:28:08,700
- Iraq, you were a corpsman?
- Yeah.
344
00:28:13,200 --> 00:28:16,067
Are you gonna be mad
if we don't...
345
00:28:16,600 --> 00:28:18,100
No.
346
00:28:21,733 --> 00:28:24,100
I'm just gonna kiss you.
347
00:28:24,200 --> 00:28:26,700
Just reciprocate if you want.
348
00:28:27,833 --> 00:28:29,333
What?
349
00:28:33,933 --> 00:28:35,667
Would you sing for me?
350
00:28:37,833 --> 00:28:39,633
If you get naked for me.
351
00:28:43,500 --> 00:28:47,000
From the moment that we had
352
00:28:48,100 --> 00:28:52,267
So way down in my mind
where you belong
353
00:28:55,333 --> 00:28:59,500
I'd go hungry,
I'd go blind for you
354
00:29:01,600 --> 00:29:05,500
I'd go crawling down the avenue
355
00:29:07,633 --> 00:29:12,167
Make you happy,
make your dreams come true
356
00:29:14,200 --> 00:29:16,667
To make you feel my...
357
00:29:19,300 --> 00:29:20,800
love
358
00:29:31,733 --> 00:29:35,067
I'd also say that
unless it's an ironic title,
359
00:29:35,167 --> 00:29:38,333
I don't think
it has anything to do about love.
360
00:29:38,433 --> 00:29:40,933
What do you think
it has to do with?
361
00:29:53,333 --> 00:29:58,067
It's just a series of encounters
that don't have much meaning.
362
00:29:58,933 --> 00:30:01,167
Which I think you could say
363
00:30:01,300 --> 00:30:04,267
is part of the way
that I'm looking at love.
364
00:30:04,367 --> 00:30:06,133
I don't think that's love.
365
00:30:06,233 --> 00:30:09,367
It's so sad it almost makes me cry.
366
00:30:10,000 --> 00:30:12,633
It's like, you don't wanna know details
367
00:30:12,733 --> 00:30:15,367
about your parents' sexual life
368
00:30:15,467 --> 00:30:19,967
and you don't wanna know details
about your children's sexual life.
369
00:30:21,267 --> 00:30:23,633
But I would go even further:
370
00:30:23,733 --> 00:30:27,967
Basically, I don't wanna know
details of anybody's sexual life.
371
00:30:28,067 --> 00:30:32,067
I consider it the least
interesting part of anybody's life.
372
00:31:48,733 --> 00:31:50,233
Good morning.
373
00:31:53,467 --> 00:31:54,967
He woke me up.
374
00:31:55,133 --> 00:31:57,033
Did you wake him up, Fatboy?
375
00:32:02,900 --> 00:32:06,467
Let's put him up.
If not, he won't leave us alone.
376
00:32:06,567 --> 00:32:08,067
Say: "I'm a jealous..."
377
00:32:08,167 --> 00:32:10,533
"jealous widdle puppy.
Yes, I am."
378
00:32:24,567 --> 00:32:26,400
How'd you sleep last night?
379
00:32:26,867 --> 00:32:28,367
Pretty well.
380
00:32:36,733 --> 00:32:38,800
I know you lied to me.
381
00:32:50,433 --> 00:32:51,933
What?
382
00:32:58,400 --> 00:33:00,567
Are you dating someone just now?
383
00:33:00,667 --> 00:33:02,767
You were dating someone, right?
384
00:33:03,833 --> 00:33:08,000
- You guys were in a semi-pseudo-relationship?
- Yeah.
385
00:33:08,467 --> 00:33:12,300
It's complicated.
We're very rarely in the same place.
386
00:33:13,800 --> 00:33:15,300
He's in Mexico City.
387
00:33:24,100 --> 00:33:25,900
Are you in a relationship?
388
00:33:26,567 --> 00:33:28,333
Nuh uh. I was and then...
389
00:33:30,400 --> 00:33:31,900
Then it ended.
390
00:33:40,000 --> 00:33:43,433
It was a week before I'd leave
for Chicago
391
00:33:45,200 --> 00:33:47,700
You were downstairs making breakfast
392
00:33:47,867 --> 00:33:49,367
A Sunday morning
393
00:33:52,333 --> 00:33:54,833
Your phone was on the counter
394
00:33:54,933 --> 00:33:58,300
It was still buzzing
when I got out of the shower
395
00:33:59,700 --> 00:34:02,133
I picked it up and saw messages
396
00:34:02,233 --> 00:34:05,533
from someone begging
to have sex with you again
397
00:34:06,167 --> 00:34:09,267
You'd been texting at dinner
the night before
398
00:34:09,367 --> 00:34:11,200
with fire in your eyes
399
00:34:12,400 --> 00:34:15,833
You hadn't looked at me like that
in a while
400
00:34:15,933 --> 00:34:19,967
And it hurt to remember
when it had been for me
401
00:34:23,033 --> 00:34:26,667
I came downstairs in my underwear,
gave you your phone
402
00:34:29,000 --> 00:34:31,467
You said it'd just been a fling
403
00:34:31,567 --> 00:34:35,667
You could barely remember him,
you'd just been playing around
404
00:34:35,767 --> 00:34:37,533
There was no emotion in it
405
00:34:41,300 --> 00:34:44,667
Your throat had tightened,
your voice was soft
406
00:34:47,133 --> 00:34:50,367
You were kinder
than I'd ever seen you
407
00:34:52,567 --> 00:34:55,467
You said you'd ended
your last relationship
408
00:34:55,567 --> 00:34:58,267
because your ex
had been cheating on you
409
00:34:59,333 --> 00:35:00,833
A week later
410
00:35:00,933 --> 00:35:05,300
you told me you'd cheated
on your ex before that for about a year
411
00:35:05,967 --> 00:35:09,333
That's when I started seeing other men
412
00:35:36,400 --> 00:35:41,367
So our agreement is:
I don't bring anybody back to the house.
413
00:35:42,433 --> 00:35:45,567
I don't take away time
when my husband's home,
414
00:35:45,667 --> 00:35:48,633
'cause he's gone
from Monday to Thursday,
415
00:35:48,733 --> 00:35:52,600
so I don't fuck around
on Friday to Sunday.
416
00:35:52,933 --> 00:35:54,433
But there are times...
417
00:35:54,633 --> 00:35:56,133
It'd be nice to have...
418
00:35:56,933 --> 00:35:58,433
A friend...
419
00:35:59,367 --> 00:36:02,367
A friend with benefits also,
sometimes...
420
00:36:02,467 --> 00:36:05,900
That's something
I'm having to work out in my head:
421
00:36:06,000 --> 00:36:08,667
"If we're friends and we're fucking..."
422
00:36:09,867 --> 00:36:11,700
"How's that not an affair?"
423
00:36:11,800 --> 00:36:14,167
The way I was thinking about it is:
424
00:36:14,267 --> 00:36:17,467
If the intention...
And intention does matter...
425
00:36:17,700 --> 00:36:20,933
If the intention is:
We're just gonna be friends
426
00:36:21,033 --> 00:36:25,000
who, once in a while,
suck each others' dicks, that's fine.
427
00:36:28,200 --> 00:36:31,167
It was a surprise
seeing you the first time.
428
00:36:33,000 --> 00:36:36,300
- Where'd it go?
- "Is that a good or bad thing?"
429
00:36:36,400 --> 00:36:39,133
I'm not sure
that's a good or bad thing.
430
00:36:39,700 --> 00:36:43,667
You were the first guy
to whom I was attracted sexually.
431
00:36:43,767 --> 00:36:46,167
Is that the "suck the dick" line?
432
00:36:46,567 --> 00:36:48,067
I'm sorry...
433
00:36:52,400 --> 00:36:53,900
"We can be...
434
00:36:54,000 --> 00:36:58,567
- "Friends who, once in a while, suck..."
- Yeah, I know what it is.
435
00:37:03,100 --> 00:37:07,600
I need to look at you two
and get over the embarrassment
436
00:37:07,700 --> 00:37:10,667
of saying it
with straight boys in the room.
437
00:37:10,767 --> 00:37:13,933
"We're just..."
I can't say it in front of 'em!
438
00:37:14,100 --> 00:37:19,067
"We're just gonna be friends who
once in a while suck each other's dicks."
439
00:37:24,367 --> 00:37:25,867
Since Thursday...
440
00:37:26,100 --> 00:37:28,067
I've thought about you a lot.
441
00:37:29,233 --> 00:37:33,033
It began for me
when I got your script,
442
00:37:34,267 --> 00:37:36,367
and then you had that line...
443
00:37:37,667 --> 00:37:42,467
"You were the first guy who came in
to whom I was attracted sexually."
444
00:37:42,600 --> 00:37:44,033
And I thought, "Well..."
445
00:37:44,133 --> 00:37:47,067
"So there was a mutual attraction."
446
00:37:48,367 --> 00:37:49,867
I'm a little confused...
447
00:37:49,967 --> 00:37:52,733
I haven't felt this way
in a long time...
448
00:37:52,833 --> 00:37:54,333
I mean, a long time...
449
00:37:54,433 --> 00:37:58,000
Since-I-was-your-age long time.
So it's been a while.
450
00:37:58,167 --> 00:37:59,833
I love my husband a lot...
451
00:38:01,000 --> 00:38:03,033
We have a great life together,
452
00:38:03,133 --> 00:38:05,267
and what I'm feeling for you...
453
00:38:05,433 --> 00:38:08,133
I don't know
that I want to have sex,
454
00:38:08,233 --> 00:38:10,133
but I do want to know you.
455
00:38:12,667 --> 00:38:14,167
Does that make sense?
456
00:38:14,533 --> 00:38:16,433
Yeah. I mean, it's mutual...
457
00:38:16,533 --> 00:38:20,533
That's a lie.
I do wanna have sex with you.
458
00:38:55,967 --> 00:38:59,200
What we're doing here...
What I'm doing here...
459
00:38:59,433 --> 00:39:01,633
is such a betrayal.
460
00:39:11,600 --> 00:39:13,733
How often do you come out here?
461
00:39:14,233 --> 00:39:17,333
I try at least once a month,
sometimes twice.
462
00:39:19,700 --> 00:39:21,333
To get it ready to sell,
463
00:39:21,433 --> 00:39:26,533
I'm painting the outside,
though it needed it regardless.
464
00:39:27,600 --> 00:39:29,500
Just trying to get it sold,
465
00:39:29,600 --> 00:39:31,100
get rid of it.
466
00:39:52,133 --> 00:39:54,433
What made you wanna
come out here...
467
00:39:54,833 --> 00:39:56,333
With me?
468
00:40:31,200 --> 00:40:33,900
Do you ever
let your beard grow out?
469
00:40:34,267 --> 00:40:35,767
Yes,
470
00:40:36,767 --> 00:40:38,267
but...
471
00:40:39,433 --> 00:40:42,567
last time I did,
there was a lotta gray in it.
472
00:41:19,333 --> 00:41:21,833
You haven't texted in weeks
473
00:41:24,267 --> 00:41:28,100
I call you and explain
what I've been doing in Chicago:
474
00:41:29,767 --> 00:41:32,133
I chatted online with 900 men,
475
00:41:32,667 --> 00:41:34,133
met 12 in person,
476
00:41:35,167 --> 00:41:37,433
and am filming with a few of them
477
00:41:39,167 --> 00:41:41,733
Some of them
want to have sex with me
478
00:41:42,567 --> 00:41:46,400
I thought it'd feel good
to give them what they want
479
00:41:46,500 --> 00:41:49,533
But I still can't sleep,
I'm not eating
480
00:41:49,667 --> 00:41:52,300
I don't feel right
about what I'm doing
481
00:41:54,033 --> 00:41:55,533
I stop talking
482
00:41:58,600 --> 00:42:00,100
You seem distracted
483
00:42:01,267 --> 00:42:04,967
It looks like you're answering emails,
you keep typing
484
00:42:08,533 --> 00:42:10,967
You tell me I'm crazy and laugh
485
00:42:12,867 --> 00:42:14,833
I want your attention
486
00:42:16,667 --> 00:42:19,300
I want you to tell me to stop
487
00:42:26,200 --> 00:42:28,033
So, my husband...
488
00:42:29,033 --> 00:42:30,533
He'll be...
489
00:42:31,267 --> 00:42:33,300
Back in a few minutes...
490
00:42:37,800 --> 00:42:39,500
Do I need to leave?
491
00:42:48,100 --> 00:42:49,667
Not in the apartment.
492
00:42:49,767 --> 00:42:51,467
- Okay.
- Okay.
493
00:42:55,333 --> 00:42:56,833
For you...
494
00:43:05,200 --> 00:43:06,700
To be honest...
495
00:43:07,967 --> 00:43:10,533
To be really, bluntly honest...
496
00:43:10,700 --> 00:43:14,967
This is just like completely narcissistic,
you know...
497
00:43:15,167 --> 00:43:17,600
"These are the guys I went out with...
498
00:43:17,900 --> 00:43:20,200
"And aren't I special?"
You know?
499
00:43:20,433 --> 00:43:24,467
'Cause in the film,
you're a monster, really!
500
00:43:25,467 --> 00:43:29,567
There's a real sense of you
using people when you make films.
501
00:43:29,667 --> 00:43:33,200
Why not just write a script
and hire actors?
502
00:43:33,367 --> 00:43:36,533
That's not a real normal thing
to do in life.
503
00:43:36,633 --> 00:43:40,333
It's like, "My personal life's
of great interest to me"
504
00:43:40,433 --> 00:43:43,267
"so it must be
to everybody else,
505
00:43:43,367 --> 00:43:46,267
"so here it is."
It's almost like a comedy.
506
00:43:46,367 --> 00:43:48,267
For me, it is a comedy.
507
00:43:48,800 --> 00:43:51,000
- Huh?
- It is a comedy.
508
00:43:51,433 --> 00:43:53,833
I'm not sure people will get it.
509
00:43:54,867 --> 00:43:57,067
So, you remember Miranda?
510
00:43:58,233 --> 00:44:00,100
So Miranda had an uncle,
511
00:44:01,433 --> 00:44:02,933
who...
512
00:44:04,767 --> 00:44:07,033
I think he died of AIDS
513
00:44:07,133 --> 00:44:11,267
just before she was born,
and he was gonna be her godfather.
514
00:44:12,733 --> 00:44:15,300
He gave her a stuffed animal,
I think,
515
00:44:15,733 --> 00:44:17,833
and wrote her a letter...
516
00:44:21,667 --> 00:44:23,400
Basically saying that he...
517
00:44:23,867 --> 00:44:26,433
He loved her without knowing her,
518
00:44:27,067 --> 00:44:28,900
before she was born,
519
00:44:33,367 --> 00:44:37,200
I think there's something of that when...
520
00:44:38,367 --> 00:44:40,300
you kind of blindly...
521
00:44:43,267 --> 00:44:46,833
Want to put together something
that can be meaningful
522
00:44:46,933 --> 00:44:48,767
for people you don't know.
523
00:44:49,633 --> 00:44:53,167
You're supremely aware of
what image making is.
524
00:44:53,300 --> 00:44:54,800
Yeah.
525
00:44:54,933 --> 00:44:56,533
And how it can be...
526
00:44:58,700 --> 00:45:01,667
A betrayal,
but how it can also be...
527
00:45:01,967 --> 00:45:03,467
A gift.
528
00:45:13,200 --> 00:45:14,700
A gift to whom?
529
00:45:18,733 --> 00:45:20,867
I wanted to say that I'm sorry.
530
00:45:25,433 --> 00:45:27,200
I was not performative...
531
00:45:28,067 --> 00:45:29,567
Sexually.
532
00:45:30,200 --> 00:45:32,867
I really wish
that I had been into it
533
00:45:33,000 --> 00:45:37,633
'cause I really like you.
I wish there was a possibility on my end.
534
00:45:37,733 --> 00:45:41,033
Something fucked up about me
prevented that.
535
00:45:41,133 --> 00:45:43,167
What do you think it was?
536
00:45:50,967 --> 00:45:53,733
I think it's 'cause you're young.
537
00:45:54,900 --> 00:45:57,500
I'm intimidated by people who are...
538
00:45:57,900 --> 00:46:00,200
My age, sexually. Not like...
539
00:46:00,300 --> 00:46:01,900
In terms of friendship.
540
00:46:02,100 --> 00:46:03,600
Interesting.
541
00:46:07,800 --> 00:46:09,700
As much as I want that,
542
00:46:10,700 --> 00:46:12,400
my body's not doing that.
543
00:46:14,533 --> 00:46:17,433
- Okay.
- Have you thought about that?
544
00:46:17,600 --> 00:46:21,700
Why you'd be intimidated by someone
who's more your age than...
545
00:46:21,800 --> 00:46:26,100
Someone who's less your age...
or more than your age.
546
00:46:30,267 --> 00:46:34,833
This guy's in for a good night.
I sleep older, too. It's great.
547
00:46:40,267 --> 00:46:44,300
I'd love to hear
why you're attracted to him.
548
00:46:46,367 --> 00:46:49,400
- You're thinking too long.
- Am I?
549
00:46:53,067 --> 00:46:55,767
You said to me,
when we first met:
550
00:46:55,867 --> 00:46:59,900
"I try not to have expectations..."
I have granola in my hair.
551
00:47:00,000 --> 00:47:03,733
"Because expectations create frustration"
552
00:47:03,833 --> 00:47:05,933
"and lead to disappointment."
553
00:47:06,033 --> 00:47:10,667
Which struck me as wise.
I was like, "Wow! You're really wise."
554
00:47:10,767 --> 00:47:12,667
And then you came out with
555
00:47:12,767 --> 00:47:15,933
- all these expectations.
- Okay, good.
556
00:47:16,033 --> 00:47:20,400
I disappointed you, and I'm confused
about what's between us now.
557
00:47:24,400 --> 00:47:26,300
What was it that you wanted?
558
00:47:26,767 --> 00:47:28,267
I wanted him!
559
00:47:32,567 --> 00:47:36,400
I think you being explicit about it
made me not want it.
560
00:47:38,633 --> 00:47:40,633
Maybe that was fair, I mean...
561
00:47:41,667 --> 00:47:45,167
Just 'cause I want it
doesn't mean you want it.
562
00:47:45,267 --> 00:47:48,233
I'm curious
why you wanna work this out now.
563
00:47:48,333 --> 00:47:49,833
If you didn't want it...
564
00:47:50,167 --> 00:47:51,867
I didn't force it on you,
565
00:47:51,967 --> 00:47:56,000
like you didn't force us to be here.
Why... what is this?
566
00:48:02,000 --> 00:48:04,900
Part of the truth
in his being obtuse is...
567
00:48:05,000 --> 00:48:06,900
in the artist's mind:
568
00:48:07,067 --> 00:48:10,100
You make something
and figure it out later.
569
00:48:12,733 --> 00:48:14,233
You... I think...
570
00:48:15,000 --> 00:48:17,633
like the idea of not having...
571
00:48:20,867 --> 00:48:22,367
A script.
572
00:48:22,467 --> 00:48:26,200
You create scripts,
but you like not having a script...
573
00:48:26,300 --> 00:48:27,800
There is this...
574
00:48:29,300 --> 00:48:32,533
artistic persona
that I find bothersome:
575
00:48:34,267 --> 00:48:37,267
that finding meaning after the fact.
576
00:48:38,267 --> 00:48:42,867
There might be meaning after,
but there had to be some impetus.
577
00:48:43,367 --> 00:48:46,000
We don't do things without impetus.
578
00:49:26,567 --> 00:49:31,433
As soon as I'm alone again,
you creep back into my thoughts
579
00:49:36,167 --> 00:49:38,767
I ask you to visit me in Chicago
580
00:49:39,800 --> 00:49:41,567
You come for a few days,
581
00:49:42,133 --> 00:49:43,633
book us a hotel
582
00:49:45,800 --> 00:49:47,700
I'm excited to see you again
583
00:49:48,367 --> 00:49:50,700
but you're texting the whole time
584
00:49:52,500 --> 00:49:55,800
We get to the room, though,
and it all comes back
585
00:49:57,500 --> 00:49:59,367
I can't control myself
586
00:49:59,800 --> 00:50:01,300
I need you
587
00:50:01,600 --> 00:50:03,500
I'll do anything for you
588
00:50:08,133 --> 00:50:12,900
The morning you're flying back,
I wake up and see you on your phone
589
00:50:14,567 --> 00:50:18,767
You're making plans to see sometime
in Mexico after you land:
590
00:50:19,633 --> 00:50:22,400
"I can't wait to taste you again"
591
00:50:25,467 --> 00:50:27,033
You go to shower
592
00:50:27,133 --> 00:50:29,900
and I read other messages
you've written:
593
00:50:30,000 --> 00:50:34,033
"I can't stop thinking about you"
"Stay the night"
594
00:50:34,800 --> 00:50:37,600
"I'll make you breakfast tomorrow"
595
00:50:40,367 --> 00:50:44,267
I copy your message thread
and email it to myself
596
00:50:45,833 --> 00:50:47,333
You kiss me,
597
00:50:47,833 --> 00:50:49,333
leave the hotel room,
598
00:50:49,867 --> 00:50:51,367
and fly back to Mexico
599
00:50:54,500 --> 00:50:56,867
I read your messages over and over,
600
00:50:58,300 --> 00:51:01,667
my face tightening so hard I can't cry
601
00:51:28,967 --> 00:51:30,467
Thank you.
602
00:51:38,600 --> 00:51:41,433
- It's the boy. Wanna talk to him?
- What?
603
00:51:41,533 --> 00:51:44,300
It's the child,
if you wanna talk to him.
604
00:51:45,133 --> 00:51:46,633
Oh, okay.
605
00:51:47,767 --> 00:51:51,467
- Too busy to talk?
- No, not at all.
606
00:51:52,500 --> 00:51:54,567
- Here she is.
- Thanks, Dad.
607
00:51:56,567 --> 00:51:58,933
- Hola?
- Hey Mom. How's it going?
608
00:51:59,967 --> 00:52:02,333
- Okay. You?
- I'm doing all right.
609
00:52:03,467 --> 00:52:04,967
It's hot.
610
00:52:05,367 --> 00:52:08,000
Do you remember the guy
who is married?
611
00:52:09,733 --> 00:52:11,900
- No.
- Okay. Well, in the film.
612
00:52:15,000 --> 00:52:18,967
- Not really.
- Okay. Well, he sent me...
613
00:52:20,200 --> 00:52:21,700
yesterday...
614
00:52:23,700 --> 00:52:25,400
Basically, anyway...
615
00:52:25,500 --> 00:52:27,767
He sent me this message yesterday
616
00:52:27,867 --> 00:52:29,367
that was...
617
00:52:31,333 --> 00:52:32,833
Really...
618
00:52:34,000 --> 00:52:37,600
Bizarre but also maybe...
it felt calculated...
619
00:52:39,233 --> 00:52:40,733
It was:
620
00:52:41,400 --> 00:52:45,667
"I don't have time for your
project anymore. Good luck..."
621
00:52:45,767 --> 00:52:51,333
"I was only in it to fuck you again. That's
not happening. My interest's dried up."
622
00:52:54,700 --> 00:52:56,200
Which...
623
00:52:59,333 --> 00:53:00,833
I think...
624
00:53:03,300 --> 00:53:06,133
I don't know.
I'm still thinking about it.
625
00:53:09,567 --> 00:53:14,600
I guess it's only to be expected
when trying to use real people.
626
00:53:14,700 --> 00:53:17,467
Real people do unexpected things.
627
00:53:57,200 --> 00:53:59,833
Whether you're on camera,
off camera,
628
00:54:01,267 --> 00:54:02,767
there's always...
629
00:54:03,800 --> 00:54:07,076
a certain level of manipulation
in any type of...
630
00:54:07,100 --> 00:54:09,200
relationship, regardless,
631
00:54:09,300 --> 00:54:10,800
whether it be...
632
00:54:11,700 --> 00:54:13,767
intentional, non-intentional...
633
00:54:13,867 --> 00:54:15,533
Or just to protect.
634
00:54:16,733 --> 00:54:19,200
'Cause it's funny, it's like...
635
00:54:20,000 --> 00:54:23,633
I don't care if I get naked
in front of anybody.
636
00:54:23,733 --> 00:54:26,567
I don't care.
Does not bother me one bit.
637
00:54:26,667 --> 00:54:29,667
But I won't put myself out there
that much.
638
00:54:29,867 --> 00:54:31,367
'Cause when you kinda...
639
00:54:31,467 --> 00:54:33,633
Throw it all on the table,
640
00:54:36,400 --> 00:54:38,433
sometimes people get burned.
641
00:54:41,900 --> 00:54:45,067
There is something there
between the two of us.
642
00:54:45,167 --> 00:54:48,667
Definitely sexual tension,
from almost the moment...
643
00:54:51,300 --> 00:54:54,233
But there is some attraction
between us.
644
00:54:55,433 --> 00:54:57,333
Where that's at, not sure.
645
00:54:57,433 --> 00:55:00,400
If it's just curiosity or what it is,
but...
646
00:55:00,500 --> 00:55:03,333
There is something more than
just sex.
647
00:55:03,433 --> 00:55:08,000
- Does that feel like it's key for you?
- No, not really, but...
648
00:55:08,167 --> 00:55:10,433
it's the icing on the cake.
649
00:55:13,167 --> 00:55:15,467
If it doesn't happen...
650
00:55:15,567 --> 00:55:19,200
It's not gonna be like,
"Don't talk to me ever again."
651
00:55:19,300 --> 00:55:20,800
But if it does,
652
00:55:22,967 --> 00:55:25,667
the more the merrier,
so to speak.
653
00:55:27,500 --> 00:55:29,167
You've been here for...
654
00:55:29,600 --> 00:55:31,667
about 30 minutes and we still...
655
00:55:31,767 --> 00:55:34,100
We still both have our clothes on.
656
00:55:35,400 --> 00:55:36,900
It's a record!
657
00:55:48,967 --> 00:55:50,467
Fatboy!
658
00:56:04,900 --> 00:56:06,400
No, Fatboy!
659
00:56:31,033 --> 00:56:32,500
I see a bit of it.
660
00:56:32,900 --> 00:56:36,600
Then I've got one
where I almost cut off my knuckle.
661
00:56:36,700 --> 00:56:38,267
Which knuckle was that?
662
00:56:38,933 --> 00:56:40,433
Oh, here also?
663
00:56:40,533 --> 00:56:44,067
Opening beer bottles
when I used to bartend.
664
00:56:44,333 --> 00:56:46,267
I fell directly on my chin.
665
00:56:46,600 --> 00:56:49,833
And it was cold, so I didn't notice.
666
00:56:50,700 --> 00:56:53,033
Either my parents or my friends...
667
00:56:53,667 --> 00:56:55,167
Said:
668
00:56:57,000 --> 00:56:58,500
"Are you hurt?"
669
00:56:58,600 --> 00:57:02,500
Behind me,
I'd left a stream of blood on the ice.
670
00:57:03,533 --> 00:57:07,400
Me and my brother were sword-fighting.
He smacked me.
671
00:57:07,500 --> 00:57:10,867
I needed stitches
but didn't have any money
672
00:57:10,967 --> 00:57:13,033
so we just cleaned it out.
673
00:57:14,400 --> 00:57:18,200
We were playing in the barn.
I slipped off the hay bale,
674
00:57:18,300 --> 00:57:21,100
and a piece of wood
went into my leg.
675
00:57:24,767 --> 00:57:28,333
- How'd you pull it out?
- We just pulled it out.
676
00:57:28,433 --> 00:57:32,200
My mom had to cut it
to get all the wood out.
677
00:57:41,933 --> 00:57:44,567
So are you going back?
I didn't know.
678
00:57:45,967 --> 00:57:47,600
I'm leaving on Saturday.
679
00:58:33,100 --> 00:58:36,267
- That's the charm of it for me.
- I feel that.
680
00:58:36,967 --> 00:58:39,067
You get to see different parts.
681
00:58:40,433 --> 00:58:43,733
Tonight, I've been to Elmwood Park.
682
00:58:44,133 --> 00:58:46,767
I don't know.
I'm not from Chicago.
683
00:58:46,867 --> 00:58:48,367
Basically, it's...
684
00:58:50,200 --> 00:58:54,467
north and west of the city,
right on the border.
685
00:59:41,267 --> 00:59:43,667
Somebody tried to put it in me.
686
00:59:50,067 --> 00:59:51,700
It's like that...
687
00:59:52,933 --> 00:59:55,433
quiet... intense lurking...
688
00:59:58,033 --> 01:00:00,267
Somebody's over there behind you.
689
01:00:00,967 --> 01:00:03,900
Somebody's off in the shadows...
690
01:00:08,133 --> 01:00:12,400
It's interesting how hard it is
to be invisible.
691
01:00:36,100 --> 01:00:38,000
Today's my birthday.
692
01:01:06,533 --> 01:01:10,900
I've boarded a plane to Paris
where I'll be teaching in the fall
693
01:01:14,700 --> 01:01:16,200
You text me,
694
01:01:17,967 --> 01:01:21,000
ask me to spend New Year's with you
695
01:01:22,633 --> 01:01:24,133
It's too late
696
01:01:25,667 --> 01:01:29,167
I've already made plans
to spend it with another man
697
01:01:33,200 --> 01:01:34,700
A moment passes
698
01:01:38,667 --> 01:01:40,167
You write me:
699
01:01:41,633 --> 01:01:43,133
"1,877"
700
01:01:44,267 --> 01:01:46,467
"I'm not seeing anyone"
701
01:01:46,567 --> 01:01:48,067
"I'm crying"
702
01:01:49,667 --> 01:01:51,167
"1,877"
703
01:01:52,633 --> 01:01:54,133
You write again
704
01:01:54,833 --> 01:02:00,667
"That's the number of attachments we've
sent each other since I got a new phone"
705
01:02:00,767 --> 01:02:03,033
"1,877, I just checked"
706
01:02:06,200 --> 01:02:07,700
You keep writing:
707
01:02:08,633 --> 01:02:11,533
"Why did you talk to me every day?"
708
01:02:11,800 --> 01:02:14,633
"Why did we keep having sex?"
709
01:02:15,033 --> 01:02:17,700
"Why did you give me hope?"
710
01:02:18,000 --> 01:02:19,500
"1,877 attachments"
711
01:02:22,533 --> 01:02:27,033
"I didn't need to find someone else
I'm destroyed"
712
01:02:28,333 --> 01:02:32,567
"1,877 staples I now have to tear
off my heart"
713
01:02:34,567 --> 01:02:36,933
"Our bodies are so good together"
714
01:02:37,033 --> 01:02:39,400
"I can't imagine life without you"
715
01:02:39,500 --> 01:02:41,733
"Call me, please"
716
01:02:42,333 --> 01:02:44,367
"I love you"
717
01:02:44,467 --> 01:02:46,633
"1,877"
718
01:03:56,600 --> 01:04:00,967
You're still typing when my
flight takes off and I lose service
719
01:04:07,700 --> 01:04:11,400
Recently, you said
you'd really like somebody
720
01:04:11,500 --> 01:04:15,333
you formed a long-term relationship with...
721
01:04:15,567 --> 01:04:17,067
Yeah.
722
01:04:17,967 --> 01:04:21,500
That's not a thrill-a-minute proposition.
723
01:04:21,600 --> 01:04:25,367
The thrill-a-minute stuff,
you get out of your system
724
01:04:25,467 --> 01:04:29,000
- when you're a teenager.
- In your twenties?
725
01:04:29,833 --> 01:04:32,400
- Pardon?
- In your twenties.
726
01:04:32,633 --> 01:04:34,133
Well, yeah.
727
01:04:35,233 --> 01:04:38,667
A lot of people
don't get what they want because
728
01:04:38,767 --> 01:04:42,667
they're looking for something dramatic
like in the movies.
729
01:04:42,767 --> 01:04:45,600
But it's not an all-the-time thing
730
01:04:45,900 --> 01:04:48,000
that works constantly.
731
01:04:48,700 --> 01:04:52,400
To be honest,
one time when I left your dad,
732
01:04:52,500 --> 01:04:57,100
I thought about it for four months
to decide whether to go back.
733
01:04:58,000 --> 01:05:02,400
And I finally decided.
And the deciding factor was...
734
01:05:03,233 --> 01:05:07,267
That I liked traveling with Dad
more than I liked traveling
735
01:05:07,367 --> 01:05:10,367
with anybody else
I'd gone traveling with.
736
01:05:13,633 --> 01:05:15,133
I love that.
737
01:05:16,600 --> 01:05:19,833
We're compatible on the road.
It's great!
738
01:05:22,967 --> 01:05:25,100
In the film and in your life,
739
01:05:25,300 --> 01:05:29,233
I want you to
do whatever you have to do.
740
01:05:29,533 --> 01:05:31,867
Don't do anything because you want
741
01:05:36,267 --> 01:05:39,967
to please me or actually anybody else.
742
01:05:40,333 --> 01:05:43,633
Just think long and hard about
what you're doing,
743
01:05:43,733 --> 01:05:48,567
and what the consequences are going to be.
Will you be happy with them?
744
01:05:48,667 --> 01:05:51,367
I appreciate you saying that, Mom.
745
01:05:55,333 --> 01:05:58,433
It crystallizes a lot of how
you raised me,
746
01:05:58,533 --> 01:06:00,533
and I'm grateful for that.
747
01:06:02,200 --> 01:06:03,700
Well.
748
01:06:08,200 --> 01:06:09,700
Yeah. Whatever.
749
01:06:28,200 --> 01:06:30,567
I fly to Mexico for work
750
01:06:33,433 --> 01:06:35,033
I want to see you again
751
01:06:36,433 --> 01:06:37,933
And you do, too
752
01:06:40,600 --> 01:06:43,367
I'm exhausted but full of adrenaline
753
01:06:44,633 --> 01:06:46,133
You open the door
754
01:06:46,400 --> 01:06:47,900
Tall and quiet
755
01:06:49,467 --> 01:06:50,967
Gentle
756
01:06:53,867 --> 01:06:56,300
You say it's a surprise seeing me
757
01:06:58,533 --> 01:07:00,633
Your beard has grown out
758
01:07:00,733 --> 01:07:02,300
You know I like that
759
01:07:04,167 --> 01:07:05,867
We walk up the steps
760
01:07:06,800 --> 01:07:08,833
You try to take one of my bags
761
01:07:09,300 --> 01:07:11,967
but it's easier to let me carry it
762
01:07:16,067 --> 01:07:17,933
Your house and your body,
763
01:07:18,967 --> 01:07:20,567
the same but different
764
01:07:22,833 --> 01:07:25,000
A new clearing in the garden
765
01:07:25,800 --> 01:07:28,367
An unfamiliar painting in your bedroom
766
01:07:30,600 --> 01:07:34,033
You wear a white cardigan
I've never seen before
767
01:07:36,467 --> 01:07:38,033
You taste the same
768
01:07:43,267 --> 01:07:45,767
We use your phone to film each other
769
01:07:47,833 --> 01:07:50,533
And we make love
better than ever before
770
01:07:55,667 --> 01:07:57,200
You know my body
771
01:07:59,733 --> 01:08:01,233
How it moves
772
01:08:02,033 --> 01:08:03,533
What I like
773
01:08:03,633 --> 01:08:05,133
Dislike
774
01:08:05,567 --> 01:08:07,067
What I hate
775
01:08:08,967 --> 01:08:10,467
What I love
776
01:08:19,500 --> 01:08:21,800
You show me what we recorded
777
01:08:22,867 --> 01:08:25,467
And I ask you to send it to me
778
01:08:27,833 --> 01:08:29,333
1,878
57006
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