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Switch it on... 2 00:00:23,732 --> 00:00:25,233 Impose your will on the sea. 3 00:00:27,318 --> 00:00:28,361 (EXHALES DEEPLY) 4 00:00:28,737 --> 00:00:29,863 FEMALE VOICE: He's at 145. 5 00:00:30,780 --> 00:00:32,532 This is double his heart rate. 6 00:00:35,243 --> 00:00:36,494 CHRIS: Over the past year, 7 00:00:36,619 --> 00:00:38,830 I've been exploring the science of living longer. 8 00:00:39,539 --> 00:00:41,666 Doing everything I can to hold back time. 9 00:00:45,628 --> 00:00:50,884 But whatever I do, sooner or later, aging and death will win. 10 00:00:52,844 --> 00:00:54,012 So, what am I going to do about that? 11 00:00:58,266 --> 00:01:00,143 -You're gonna tie me up. -(ALL CHUCKLE) 12 00:01:00,393 --> 00:01:02,270 This wasn't-- this wasn't in the initial contract. 13 00:01:02,687 --> 00:01:03,772 Super attractive. 14 00:01:06,357 --> 00:01:09,110 Okay, Chris. We are gonna attach the weights to it. 15 00:01:09,694 --> 00:01:13,073 CHRIS: Apparently, this is what I'm going to do about it. 16 00:01:13,615 --> 00:01:17,786 This fashion disaster is what's called an age simulation suit. 17 00:01:18,244 --> 00:01:19,412 Designed at MIT, 18 00:01:19,788 --> 00:01:22,082 it's been precisely calibrated to my physique. 19 00:01:24,542 --> 00:01:26,294 The bungees restrict my movements. 20 00:01:28,004 --> 00:01:30,799 And I'll be carrying an extra 30 pounds around with me. 21 00:01:32,258 --> 00:01:34,302 And these shoes will make me unbalanced. 22 00:01:36,513 --> 00:01:38,973 I'm doing all this, so that I can experience 23 00:01:39,057 --> 00:01:41,351 how my body will feel in 50 years' time. 24 00:01:43,186 --> 00:01:46,189 I'm really curious to see how you look at 87. 25 00:01:47,107 --> 00:01:49,776 CHRIS: And my wife, Elsa, is a little too interested. 26 00:01:50,401 --> 00:01:51,820 Hey, you're into this suit, aren't you? This is... 27 00:01:52,195 --> 00:01:55,073 -Just leave it like that. -CHRIS: I can wear this on date night. 28 00:01:55,615 --> 00:01:57,117 "No, no, no, don't put the fireman suit on. 29 00:01:57,242 --> 00:01:59,160 -Put the-- the aging suit on." -ELSA: Exactly! Put the aging suit... 30 00:02:01,621 --> 00:02:04,374 CHRIS: Counterintuitively, longevity scientists 31 00:02:04,499 --> 00:02:05,625 actually believe that a key 32 00:02:05,750 --> 00:02:09,379 to the longest, healthiest life might not be to resist aging, 33 00:02:09,671 --> 00:02:10,922 but to embrace it. 34 00:02:11,172 --> 00:02:13,633 FEMALE VOICE: You're gonna lose your hearing. 35 00:02:14,175 --> 00:02:16,511 ELSA: You look ridiculous. (CHUCKLES) 36 00:02:16,970 --> 00:02:21,099 CHIRS: So, I'm finishing my fight to stay young, by learning how to get old. 37 00:02:21,224 --> 00:02:23,309 FEMALE VOICE: You're gonna lose a little bit of your vision. 38 00:02:23,518 --> 00:02:24,769 This sucks, by the way. 39 00:02:26,146 --> 00:02:27,105 Okay, Chris. 40 00:02:27,605 --> 00:02:29,274 (GROANS) Brutal. 41 00:02:32,277 --> 00:02:33,611 -FEMALE VOICE: How you feeling? -Old. 42 00:02:36,656 --> 00:02:38,449 MALE VOICE 1: Okay, rolling through. Rolling. 43 00:02:40,827 --> 00:02:42,162 MALE VOICE 2: All on the rehearsal. 44 00:02:43,037 --> 00:02:44,247 CHRIS: All I've been told 45 00:02:44,330 --> 00:02:47,834 is that I'm about to jump forward 50 years into the future 46 00:02:48,668 --> 00:02:52,589 and spend the next three days living the life of an octogenarian. 47 00:02:53,381 --> 00:02:55,049 MALE VOICE 1: Move to reception, thank you. 48 00:02:55,884 --> 00:02:57,677 (INDISTINCT CHATTER) 49 00:03:05,351 --> 00:03:07,520 CHRIS: The architect of this strange challenge 50 00:03:07,896 --> 00:03:09,272 is Dr. BJ Miller. 51 00:03:09,480 --> 00:03:11,566 A world-renowned palliative care physician. 52 00:03:11,983 --> 00:03:15,320 His work centers on unlocking the transformative power 53 00:03:15,945 --> 00:03:18,489 of accepting aging and death. 54 00:03:18,948 --> 00:03:20,742 Dying offers us something, 55 00:03:20,992 --> 00:03:24,078 we can change how we see it, what we do with it, how we play with it. 56 00:03:25,205 --> 00:03:28,666 BJ: Chris is about to take part in a truly unique experiment. 57 00:03:30,251 --> 00:03:31,628 ELSA: Ready, my old man? 58 00:03:32,503 --> 00:03:35,215 I don't know. I mean, ask me in three days' time, maybe. 59 00:03:36,424 --> 00:03:38,843 We are doing something bold and novel here. 60 00:03:39,219 --> 00:03:41,804 (DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYING) 61 00:03:42,096 --> 00:03:44,474 BJ: We're going to combine the arts and sciences 62 00:03:44,599 --> 00:03:47,518 to create a completely immersive world for Chris. 63 00:03:47,727 --> 00:03:50,271 (MUSIC CONTINUES) 64 00:03:50,939 --> 00:03:53,358 It's a constructed world of a retirement community. 65 00:03:53,566 --> 00:03:57,278 (MUSIC CONTINUES) 66 00:04:03,117 --> 00:04:05,912 BJ: And then, at the end of three days at Sunset Pines... 67 00:04:06,871 --> 00:04:08,790 we're going to kill Chris Hemsworth. 68 00:04:09,749 --> 00:04:11,417 (MUSIC ENDS) 69 00:04:20,718 --> 00:04:23,638 -Slow down! Why are you driving so fast? -(ELSA GIGGLES) 70 00:04:24,931 --> 00:04:27,100 It's okay. We'll get there. 71 00:04:27,725 --> 00:04:29,227 Maybe you should let me drive. 72 00:04:29,394 --> 00:04:30,520 No way! 73 00:04:30,770 --> 00:04:32,397 I can't see or hear anything. 74 00:04:41,489 --> 00:04:43,366 ELSA: Welcome to Sunset Pines. 75 00:04:44,075 --> 00:04:45,451 This is my new home, huh? 76 00:04:53,710 --> 00:04:54,961 -New best friend. -(CHUCKLES) 77 00:04:56,754 --> 00:04:59,048 CHRIS: So, finally, here we are. And this is what I've been waiting for. 78 00:04:59,173 --> 00:05:00,925 This is my opportunity to beat aging. 79 00:05:01,092 --> 00:05:02,010 Hello. 80 00:05:02,427 --> 00:05:03,594 How hard that can be? 81 00:05:06,180 --> 00:05:10,101 Chris doesn't seem very worried, but I think he's underestimated old age. 82 00:05:13,229 --> 00:05:17,900 I think he's going to probably want to get out of there as soon as he can. 83 00:05:24,115 --> 00:05:25,033 This is it. 84 00:05:26,617 --> 00:05:27,618 Okay. 85 00:05:30,330 --> 00:05:32,457 -CHRIS: Elsa. -Hey. Can you see me? 86 00:05:34,751 --> 00:05:35,752 Where we going? 87 00:05:35,877 --> 00:05:39,589 -Oh, look at this. Hello. Hello. -How are ya? 88 00:05:41,257 --> 00:05:43,092 BJ: Chris. Pleasure, buddy. 89 00:05:43,217 --> 00:05:44,093 CHRIS: Nice to meet you. 90 00:05:44,302 --> 00:05:46,429 I'm BJ. How's the suit feeling, my guy? 91 00:05:46,596 --> 00:05:48,306 A little heavy and slower than I used to be, but... 92 00:05:48,639 --> 00:05:50,725 -Right on. That's the idea. -That the idea. 93 00:05:51,017 --> 00:05:53,144 So, that's the first part of this immersion. 94 00:05:53,436 --> 00:05:54,896 The second part is-- is this place. 95 00:05:55,313 --> 00:05:56,439 -Yeah. -Sunset Pines. 96 00:05:56,522 --> 00:05:59,192 So, it's a retirement village made just for you. 97 00:05:59,734 --> 00:06:00,735 All right. 98 00:06:01,194 --> 00:06:04,447 (INDISTINCT CHATTER) 99 00:06:06,240 --> 00:06:09,160 BJ: This is a three-day piece of immersive theater. 100 00:06:09,869 --> 00:06:11,704 It's going to be a little bit surreal. 101 00:06:11,996 --> 00:06:14,332 But there's something very real about surreal. 102 00:06:15,750 --> 00:06:16,793 Yay! 103 00:06:16,918 --> 00:06:20,671 BJ: All the older people that he's meeting along the way are entirely real. 104 00:06:21,339 --> 00:06:23,007 And they're there for Chris to interact with 105 00:06:23,091 --> 00:06:25,385 and to befriend and to relate with. 106 00:06:25,510 --> 00:06:26,761 Aw! 107 00:06:26,928 --> 00:06:30,306 BJ: But the staff of Sunset Pines, the carers are actors. 108 00:06:30,556 --> 00:06:33,184 They are going to treat Chris as though he is an 87-year-old. 109 00:06:33,309 --> 00:06:34,477 They will not break character. 110 00:06:35,812 --> 00:06:38,147 Apologies for the interruption, Dr. Miller. Welcome, 111 00:06:38,231 --> 00:06:41,692 Mr. Hemsworth, to Sunset Pines, where we live every day to the fullest. 112 00:06:41,943 --> 00:06:43,528 My name is Sofia. I'm one of the carers here. 113 00:06:43,653 --> 00:06:45,279 I'm going to take you in for orientation. 114 00:06:45,363 --> 00:06:47,448 So, I'd like to ask you to say your goodbyes now. 115 00:06:47,615 --> 00:06:49,992 -See you later. -See you later. 116 00:06:51,202 --> 00:06:52,078 All right. 117 00:06:52,578 --> 00:06:54,789 Now, are you happy to walk or would you like a chair? 118 00:06:55,415 --> 00:06:57,250 -Yeah, I'm okay to walk. -SOFIA: Okay, no problem. 119 00:06:57,667 --> 00:07:00,336 Now, it can be a little bit of an adjustment period 120 00:07:00,503 --> 00:07:01,587 here at Sunset Pines. 121 00:07:01,671 --> 00:07:03,881 So, it's totally normal to feel a little bit 122 00:07:03,965 --> 00:07:05,883 out of place at first, but I can assure you, 123 00:07:05,967 --> 00:07:08,719 our community are very welcoming and supportive. 124 00:07:08,886 --> 00:07:11,139 There is a handrail there. I'll just ask you to use that. 125 00:07:11,222 --> 00:07:13,474 Yep, that's it. All right. Are you okay? 126 00:07:13,641 --> 00:07:14,809 -CHRIS: I'm good, thanks. -SOFIA: Yeah? 127 00:07:16,310 --> 00:07:17,228 FEMALE VOICE: Hey! 128 00:07:18,563 --> 00:07:20,857 -Joy is gonna get you all checked in. -All right. 129 00:07:20,940 --> 00:07:22,525 And then you'll be shown up to your apartment. 130 00:07:22,942 --> 00:07:24,861 CHRIS: I mean, this is a wild experience. 131 00:07:25,153 --> 00:07:28,781 I'm kind of trying to piece it together as I go, but it's-- 132 00:07:28,948 --> 00:07:30,324 it's just kind of weird. 133 00:07:30,491 --> 00:07:31,617 -Hi, Joy. -Hello. 134 00:07:31,742 --> 00:07:33,369 This is Mr. Hemsworth. He's one of our newest residents. 135 00:07:33,619 --> 00:07:35,580 Hello, Mr. Hemsworth. 136 00:07:35,705 --> 00:07:38,916 Welcome to Sunset Pines where we live every day to the fullest. 137 00:07:39,375 --> 00:07:41,169 -Cool. -So, I'll... I'll put you into our system. 138 00:07:41,294 --> 00:07:43,421 So, if you can just give me a moment. 139 00:07:45,089 --> 00:07:49,343 All right, so, I would just need this... 140 00:07:50,803 --> 00:07:54,515 CHRIS: Wearing the suit, it's just horrible, really uncomfortable. 141 00:07:54,640 --> 00:07:55,808 Everything is heavy. 142 00:07:56,184 --> 00:07:59,353 And I find myself feeling very restricted. 143 00:07:59,520 --> 00:08:03,357 And then, you know, the lack of vision, hearing, 144 00:08:03,608 --> 00:08:06,235 I find myself missing 20 to 30 percent of what's being said. 145 00:08:06,611 --> 00:08:11,282 JOY: I just need you to look directly at the lens, please. All done. 146 00:08:11,365 --> 00:08:13,993 CHRIS: It feels really isolating because everything is, 147 00:08:14,994 --> 00:08:16,662 you know, feels somewhat closed off. 148 00:08:17,997 --> 00:08:19,081 BJ: How you doing? 149 00:08:19,790 --> 00:08:20,750 What was that? 150 00:08:20,917 --> 00:08:23,377 -How you doing? -I'm sorry. I'm sorry. 151 00:08:23,920 --> 00:08:26,964 -I'm feeling a little disorientated. -Right. 152 00:08:27,048 --> 00:08:28,633 Can't really see properly or hear properly. 153 00:08:28,799 --> 00:08:31,010 -Well, that's exactly the idea, right? -Okay. 154 00:08:32,345 --> 00:08:35,431 BJ: A big part of the reason to give him this experience 155 00:08:35,640 --> 00:08:40,728 is we are living amidst an epidemic of denial that we are denying aging, 156 00:08:40,811 --> 00:08:43,898 older age and we are denying death. It's a kind of stress. 157 00:08:44,440 --> 00:08:47,610 It's bad for our blood pressure, it's bad for our hormonal lives, 158 00:08:47,818 --> 00:08:49,612 it's bad for our neurochemistry. 159 00:08:49,862 --> 00:08:52,448 In-- in this way, there's a physiologic effect directly 160 00:08:52,615 --> 00:08:55,743 on our bodies. And this stress can shorten a life. 161 00:08:56,536 --> 00:08:59,622 Increasingly we are seeing multiple peer-reviewed studies 162 00:08:59,705 --> 00:09:03,084 that suggest that if we can actually embrace that reality, 163 00:09:03,292 --> 00:09:06,504 if you can find a way to accept it and to accommodate being older 164 00:09:06,629 --> 00:09:10,174 that you'll be happier, less depressed, and maybe you'll actually live longer, 165 00:09:10,591 --> 00:09:13,719 and not by just a day or two but years-- years longer, potentially. 166 00:09:13,928 --> 00:09:15,471 -Yeah. -Wow. 167 00:09:15,596 --> 00:09:16,556 Make sense? 168 00:09:18,099 --> 00:09:19,850 Okay, looks like you're ready. 169 00:09:21,227 --> 00:09:23,396 We have your ID printed out. 170 00:09:23,646 --> 00:09:27,024 So, if you can just double-check that all your details are correct, 171 00:09:27,149 --> 00:09:28,943 date of birth and spelling of your name. 172 00:09:29,318 --> 00:09:31,195 (CHUCKLES) 173 00:09:32,488 --> 00:09:35,074 Yeah, the spelling is all right. I don't know about that photo. 174 00:09:35,199 --> 00:09:36,284 What happened to me? 175 00:09:36,576 --> 00:09:39,328 BJ: That's you, brother. That beautiful old man. 176 00:09:40,079 --> 00:09:41,372 -Wow. -Well. 177 00:09:41,539 --> 00:09:42,748 It's been a rough 50 years. 178 00:09:43,666 --> 00:09:45,376 Do you need help putting on that lanyard? 179 00:09:45,501 --> 00:09:48,462 I'm just gonna fit it over my giant head. There we go. 180 00:09:48,546 --> 00:09:50,464 -JOY: Yes! -(ALL CHUCKLE) 181 00:09:51,507 --> 00:09:52,466 There we are. 182 00:09:54,468 --> 00:09:57,972 JOY: It's official. You are a new resident. Michael. 183 00:09:59,140 --> 00:10:01,058 Mr. Hemsworth, how you doing? I'm Michael. I'm a carer here. 184 00:10:01,267 --> 00:10:02,893 -How are ya? -Welcome to Sunset Pines. 185 00:10:02,977 --> 00:10:03,936 -Thank you. -Where we live... 186 00:10:04,895 --> 00:10:06,772 Where we live every day to the fullest. 187 00:10:07,106 --> 00:10:08,566 Great ID photo, man. 188 00:10:08,899 --> 00:10:09,900 -Thanks. -Where we going? 189 00:10:09,984 --> 00:10:12,236 -Apartment nine, spruce. -Spruce. 190 00:10:12,778 --> 00:10:14,780 -Spruce, eh? -MICHAEL: They're nice suites, dude. 191 00:10:15,031 --> 00:10:17,325 (SEAGULLS SQUAWKING) 192 00:10:17,617 --> 00:10:21,912 BJ: So, over the next few days, we are going to leap Chris forward 193 00:10:22,038 --> 00:10:26,000 50 years and introduce him to an accelerated version of aging. 194 00:10:26,250 --> 00:10:27,251 MICHAEL: You like croquet? 195 00:10:27,543 --> 00:10:29,754 -CHRIS: Nah, not really. -MICHAEL: Oh, fair enough. 196 00:10:30,087 --> 00:10:33,883 So, he can have a little bit of a taste of not just as an idea 197 00:10:34,383 --> 00:10:36,927 but a visceral way, he can touch what it feels like 198 00:10:37,053 --> 00:10:39,472 to be an elder and he can begin to touch what it feels like 199 00:10:39,597 --> 00:10:42,475 to be at the edge of life and at the end of life. 200 00:10:43,059 --> 00:10:43,976 MICHAEL: Hang on, Fred. 201 00:10:44,810 --> 00:10:47,146 And things are only going to get weirder from here. 202 00:10:47,605 --> 00:10:48,481 Never. 203 00:10:48,648 --> 00:10:50,691 Watch out, ladies. Fresh meat coming through. 204 00:10:50,816 --> 00:10:52,151 -FEMALE VOICE: Good morning. -Come on, Chris. 205 00:10:53,235 --> 00:10:55,029 All right, mate. It's a great environment here. 206 00:10:55,237 --> 00:10:56,280 It's really friendly. 207 00:10:56,364 --> 00:10:57,740 -MALE VOICE: All right. Welcome. -Thank you. 208 00:10:57,990 --> 00:10:59,158 -How are you, Fran? -I'm ready to go. 209 00:10:59,533 --> 00:11:01,535 We'll circle back and say hi later. 210 00:11:01,661 --> 00:11:03,412 Keep away from that woman, okay? 211 00:11:03,496 --> 00:11:05,206 -Yeah. -She's a deadly card player. 212 00:11:05,289 --> 00:11:06,999 CHIRS: Oh, I'm not much of a card player, so I'll stay away. 213 00:11:07,124 --> 00:11:08,918 Keep away from her then. Ian, how you doing? 214 00:11:09,001 --> 00:11:10,795 -Hello. How are you? -Hello, welcome. 215 00:11:11,253 --> 00:11:13,214 MICHAEL: You can pretty much roam wherever you want here. 216 00:11:13,422 --> 00:11:15,925 Apart from that there. You don't need to worry about that. 217 00:11:16,092 --> 00:11:17,802 -That's off limits. -Yeah. Yeah. 218 00:11:19,011 --> 00:11:21,597 Yeah, but, this is it. Your home now, okay? 219 00:11:21,806 --> 00:11:23,224 -Here I am. -MICHAEL: That's you. 220 00:11:29,313 --> 00:11:31,440 (CHUCKLES) 221 00:11:35,111 --> 00:11:36,487 MICHAEL: Huh, what do you think of this? 222 00:11:36,696 --> 00:11:37,780 Wow. 223 00:11:38,739 --> 00:11:41,701 -(CHRIS CHUCKLES) -MICHAEL: Take a trip down memory lane. 224 00:11:43,577 --> 00:11:44,704 I got old quick. 225 00:11:47,707 --> 00:11:49,959 My older brother looks the youngest. (CHUCKLES) 226 00:11:50,209 --> 00:11:52,628 That's, uh... That's crazy. 227 00:11:54,755 --> 00:11:56,716 MICHAEL: Joy mentioned you used to do some acting. 228 00:11:56,841 --> 00:12:00,845 Yeah. I don't think I'd be doing it till my hair looks like that. 229 00:12:02,930 --> 00:12:04,682 MICHAEL: I thought it was like local theater, but like... 230 00:12:04,807 --> 00:12:06,976 -Mostly local theater. -MICHAEL: Nice job. 231 00:12:11,480 --> 00:12:13,065 We got your books there as well. So... 232 00:12:13,733 --> 00:12:15,025 (CHUCKLES) 233 00:12:16,277 --> 00:12:17,403 CHRIS: Thorever! 234 00:12:17,653 --> 00:12:19,905 MICHAEL: Your wife dropped off some of the other stuff as well. 235 00:12:19,989 --> 00:12:22,324 So, we just want to make it feel like a home to you. 236 00:12:23,701 --> 00:12:26,829 (SOMBER MUSIC PLAYING) 237 00:12:31,792 --> 00:12:33,419 So, looking around, 238 00:12:34,920 --> 00:12:35,880 does this feel all right to you? 239 00:12:36,297 --> 00:12:37,798 Feel like it could be home? 240 00:12:38,507 --> 00:12:40,176 CHRIS: I think it feels a little lonely, doesn't it? 241 00:12:41,010 --> 00:12:42,219 BJ: Yeah? 242 00:12:43,846 --> 00:12:45,765 It feels a bit like a hospital, you know? 243 00:12:46,056 --> 00:12:46,932 Yeah. 244 00:12:48,058 --> 00:12:48,976 It's... 245 00:12:52,188 --> 00:12:55,191 CHRIS: Everything up until this point has felt like theater. 246 00:12:55,566 --> 00:12:56,734 It has been quite fun... 247 00:12:58,694 --> 00:13:00,196 and then when I find myself in my room, 248 00:13:01,530 --> 00:13:04,784 it kind of begins to hit home a bit more 249 00:13:05,075 --> 00:13:06,494 and has a bit more weight to it. 250 00:13:10,414 --> 00:13:11,749 Yeah, interesting. 251 00:13:12,333 --> 00:13:14,460 Chris, I'm gonna chuck this bag down, all right, 252 00:13:14,585 --> 00:13:16,504 and then we're gonna move on to meet Gary, all right? 253 00:13:16,754 --> 00:13:17,838 He's you're moving buddy. 254 00:13:18,130 --> 00:13:19,006 -Yeah. -Okay. 255 00:13:19,465 --> 00:13:23,385 He's gonna show you awesome activities. He's a nice guy, a master of Tai Chi. 256 00:13:23,677 --> 00:13:24,678 -CHRIS: Cool. -MICHAEL: Yeah. 257 00:13:25,471 --> 00:13:27,723 (LIGHT FLICKERS) 258 00:13:29,099 --> 00:13:30,392 MICHAEL: Gary's a bit of a legend around here. 259 00:13:31,143 --> 00:13:33,062 So, be careful if he challenges you in anything. 260 00:13:33,187 --> 00:13:36,065 Oh, yeah. I've got a bit of a competitive spirit myself. 261 00:13:36,232 --> 00:13:37,149 MICHAEL: Gary. how you doing? 262 00:13:37,233 --> 00:13:39,026 -Oh, good. Thanks. -It's your new neighbor. It's Christopher. 263 00:13:39,109 --> 00:13:41,946 -Hello. -Oh, hi, Chris. Welcome to Sunset Pine. 264 00:13:42,071 --> 00:13:45,699 -Oh, thank you. -This is the paradise for retirement. 265 00:13:45,783 --> 00:13:46,784 Is it? 266 00:13:46,951 --> 00:13:48,327 What-- What's the best thing around here to do? 267 00:13:48,619 --> 00:13:51,539 Ah! We have that traditional bingo. 268 00:13:51,789 --> 00:13:52,706 -Bingo? -Bingo! 269 00:13:52,790 --> 00:13:53,874 -All right. -Yeah. 270 00:13:54,083 --> 00:13:55,501 Bit of a workout for the mind. 271 00:13:55,626 --> 00:13:58,546 Bingo is not as-- not as physically challenging. 272 00:13:58,629 --> 00:14:03,509 Then, if you like, we do have a ping-pong, you know, or workout in the gym. 273 00:14:03,801 --> 00:14:05,052 -Yeah. -And also, aerobic classes. 274 00:14:05,177 --> 00:14:06,053 Terrific. 275 00:14:06,136 --> 00:14:07,346 -Would you like to join it? -I'd love to. 276 00:14:07,471 --> 00:14:09,431 Come this way. Whoa, watch your steps, okay? 277 00:14:15,521 --> 00:14:17,690 Okay, guys, how are we feeling, good? 278 00:14:17,815 --> 00:14:19,191 -Are we ready to get started? -(CLASS CHEERS) 279 00:14:19,316 --> 00:14:21,402 Yes! Our aerobics class. Oh, here's Gary. Come in. 280 00:14:21,569 --> 00:14:22,695 Oh, Chris, this way. 281 00:14:22,945 --> 00:14:27,741 Oh, and he's got our new resident here with us. Hello, Chris. Nice to meet you. 282 00:14:28,075 --> 00:14:29,535 -Nice to meet you. -How you doing? 283 00:14:30,035 --> 00:14:32,496 BJ: The scientists at MIT who developed this suit, 284 00:14:32,621 --> 00:14:37,084 have observed the people who wear it, tend to go through three distinct phases. 285 00:14:38,168 --> 00:14:40,963 The first being denial, essentially, that they fight the suit. 286 00:14:42,214 --> 00:14:46,051 Okay. Guys, we're gonna start with a big, deep breath in, legs apart. 287 00:14:46,218 --> 00:14:47,761 Breathe in. (INHALES DEEPLY) 288 00:14:48,804 --> 00:14:52,600 BJ: So, now we're handing Chris an opportunity to fight his suit. 289 00:14:52,808 --> 00:14:54,935 We're offering him a chance to beat aging... 290 00:14:55,644 --> 00:14:57,229 -(CHUCKLES) ...sort of. -("I LIKE TO MOVE IT" PLAYING) 291 00:14:58,606 --> 00:15:03,944 Right. Left. Right. Good movement. Yes, get that whole body going. 292 00:15:04,069 --> 00:15:05,446 -Whoo! -Whoo! 293 00:15:05,613 --> 00:15:07,031 Yes! 294 00:15:11,076 --> 00:15:13,495 So, add the hands. Yes! Bit of drama. 295 00:15:14,079 --> 00:15:15,289 Like we're at the nightclubs. 296 00:15:15,372 --> 00:15:17,041 Come on, back in the day, you know what I mean. 297 00:15:17,207 --> 00:15:19,376 Yeah, back in the day. Feels like yesterday. 298 00:15:19,501 --> 00:15:22,046 All right. Let's do the hips. 299 00:15:23,631 --> 00:15:25,716 We're gonna go back and thrust. 300 00:15:26,008 --> 00:15:27,760 Back and thrust. 301 00:15:28,344 --> 00:15:29,553 Look at Gary. He's killing it. 302 00:15:29,803 --> 00:15:31,013 Come on. 303 00:15:31,221 --> 00:15:33,098 Are you okay there, Chris? You need to sit out? 304 00:15:33,223 --> 00:15:34,850 -Nah, I'm doing good. -You're all good? Okay. 305 00:15:35,517 --> 00:15:37,144 -Chris, are you ready? -Yeah, yeah. Come on. 306 00:15:37,227 --> 00:15:38,520 Okay. Here it comes. 307 00:15:39,521 --> 00:15:40,814 Come on, old man. 308 00:15:42,066 --> 00:15:44,401 -Something wrong with the bat, I think. -(CHUCKLES) 309 00:15:44,777 --> 00:15:46,695 -That's what they always say. -Stop talking. 310 00:15:48,989 --> 00:15:50,491 CHRIS: The aging suit is brutal. 311 00:15:50,908 --> 00:15:54,370 Affects my movement in a lot of ways. And it's bloody exhausting. 312 00:15:54,536 --> 00:15:55,621 (GRUNTS) 313 00:15:57,206 --> 00:16:02,378 -Sunset Pines. Sunset Pines. -Sunset Pines. 314 00:16:02,628 --> 00:16:05,130 Come on, Chris, say Pines. 315 00:16:06,340 --> 00:16:08,467 CHRIS: And I'm trying to muscle through it, but... 316 00:16:09,051 --> 00:16:10,761 I'm just sort of wearing myself out. 317 00:16:11,053 --> 00:16:14,098 (CHUCKLES) And... I find myself losing the battle. 318 00:16:14,264 --> 00:16:16,976 (SONG CONTINUES) 319 00:16:19,103 --> 00:16:20,562 No way, Chris, you're giving up already? 320 00:16:21,063 --> 00:16:22,856 -CHRIS: Shut up, Gary. -GARY: Oh, look at that. (CHUCKLES) 321 00:16:23,732 --> 00:16:26,443 This is a lot more difficult than I thought it was gonna be. 322 00:16:27,111 --> 00:16:32,324 -TEACHER: Sunset Pines. Sunset Pines. -That's enough Sunset Pines already. 323 00:16:32,825 --> 00:16:34,243 -Let's breathe out. -(EXHALES) 324 00:16:34,451 --> 00:16:36,662 And that's just our warm-up, guys. 325 00:16:36,745 --> 00:16:38,455 -Amazing! -What? 326 00:16:38,706 --> 00:16:40,416 You've got it in you, Chris. How you feeling? 327 00:16:40,916 --> 00:16:42,001 I'm gonna take a seat for a second. 328 00:16:42,501 --> 00:16:46,797 Chris is just gonna sit this one out. All good. Step together. Tap. Tap. 329 00:16:47,339 --> 00:16:49,800 Tap and step together. Tap... 330 00:16:49,967 --> 00:16:52,678 CHRIS: The aging suit makes me feel pretty nervous about the future. 331 00:16:53,137 --> 00:16:54,263 I guess what scares me 332 00:16:54,430 --> 00:16:57,349 is the deterioration of-- of physical capabilities. 333 00:16:58,142 --> 00:17:02,062 Not being mobile, not being able to play with my grandkids, 334 00:17:02,146 --> 00:17:03,731 not being able to surf, not being able to be active. 335 00:17:03,939 --> 00:17:04,940 All the things I love to do. 336 00:17:05,274 --> 00:17:09,069 Could be incredibly challenging but also scary, I'm sure. 337 00:17:17,536 --> 00:17:20,414 Great work today, guys, thank you so much. See you next time. 338 00:17:20,539 --> 00:17:21,415 Good session. 339 00:17:22,082 --> 00:17:23,167 You all right there, Chris? 340 00:17:23,375 --> 00:17:25,753 -Good. Thank you. -No worries. Take your time, okay? 341 00:17:26,795 --> 00:17:28,172 -BJ: Hey, bud. -CHRIS: Hey. 342 00:17:28,464 --> 00:17:31,967 I just wanna check in at the end of a-- a long day, I'd imagine. 343 00:17:32,134 --> 00:17:35,846 Yeah, very long day. I feel like I've had an intense workout. 344 00:17:36,055 --> 00:17:38,891 -Well, we're not getting any younger. -Yeah. 345 00:17:39,058 --> 00:17:42,478 So, Gary, I thought it'd be really helpful if you shared with Chris 346 00:17:42,686 --> 00:17:45,439 some of your background, story of your younger self. 347 00:17:46,023 --> 00:17:49,902 Well, when I was younger, I used to be, you know, quite fit. 348 00:17:50,235 --> 00:17:52,988 When I was very active and very physical. 349 00:17:53,322 --> 00:17:54,198 Yeah. 350 00:17:54,323 --> 00:17:56,492 You know. And my favorite was in kung fu. 351 00:17:56,784 --> 00:18:00,204 (SLOW TEMPO MUSIC PLAYING) 352 00:18:02,247 --> 00:18:05,918 GARY: It became a huge part of my life, my identity. 353 00:18:08,754 --> 00:18:12,299 I was really good at it, winning lots of awards and titles. 354 00:18:14,885 --> 00:18:18,597 I was, at one stage, even awarded a black belt by the Shaolin Temple. 355 00:18:20,724 --> 00:18:22,726 It was really, really something. 356 00:18:25,521 --> 00:18:29,525 And then one day, I had an accident, you know, in the training. 357 00:18:29,650 --> 00:18:32,736 I went too hard and practically smashed my knee. 358 00:18:33,987 --> 00:18:37,699 As I got older, my body just never felt the same again. 359 00:18:38,158 --> 00:18:40,786 I could never be what I used to be. 360 00:18:42,663 --> 00:18:45,749 GARY: When you're young, we always think that we are super or Superman, 361 00:18:45,916 --> 00:18:46,917 that we will live forever. 362 00:18:47,084 --> 00:18:48,919 We never give a thought that as you age, 363 00:18:49,002 --> 00:18:53,423 you start to realize that different parts of the body may start breaking down. 364 00:18:56,552 --> 00:18:57,803 But the truth is, 365 00:18:59,346 --> 00:19:00,514 you will grow old 366 00:19:01,014 --> 00:19:02,432 and your body will fail. 367 00:19:06,228 --> 00:19:10,899 So, gradually, you know, you sort of have to accept... 368 00:19:11,441 --> 00:19:12,734 -Yeah. -...the situation. 369 00:19:12,943 --> 00:19:14,486 And that's when Tai Chi came in. 370 00:19:20,659 --> 00:19:23,036 One morning when I was out walking, 371 00:19:23,328 --> 00:19:28,375 I saw a group of elderly people doing this slow-motion type of exercise. 372 00:19:32,546 --> 00:19:33,964 And the balance that they have, 373 00:19:34,256 --> 00:19:39,386 you know, the flexibility and the grace got me really curious. 374 00:19:42,681 --> 00:19:44,641 I saw something that I could relate to. 375 00:19:46,351 --> 00:19:47,811 An opportunity.... 376 00:19:52,566 --> 00:19:55,360 And so, I started to learn Tai Chi. 377 00:19:58,280 --> 00:20:00,574 And I did it more and more. 378 00:20:15,547 --> 00:20:20,219 And as I learn about this, you know, I found a new way 379 00:20:20,302 --> 00:20:22,888 of connecting to my physicality, you know? 380 00:20:22,971 --> 00:20:28,101 And so, this taught me a lot of things and a new way of looking and of living. 381 00:20:29,019 --> 00:20:33,774 You know. And maybe that is something that might be useful to you. 382 00:20:34,107 --> 00:20:37,319 One of the cruelties we do to each other is we consider aging a failure, 383 00:20:37,569 --> 00:20:39,112 that our body's failing us. 384 00:20:39,947 --> 00:20:42,324 No. No, that's just the way we see it. 385 00:20:42,532 --> 00:20:46,954 Even as our body is maybe weakening, it's opening up something else. 386 00:20:47,329 --> 00:20:48,997 And this may be part of us is getting smaller, 387 00:20:49,206 --> 00:20:51,875 there's this room for us to get bigger in some other way. 388 00:20:52,209 --> 00:20:55,003 That's when humans really shine, as we come up against the limit. 389 00:20:55,170 --> 00:20:57,631 -Exactly. Yeah. -It's a gift in a way, isn't it? 390 00:20:57,839 --> 00:21:00,050 GARY: Yeah, yeah, it's a kind of revelation 391 00:21:00,342 --> 00:21:03,387 that once you learn to accept things 392 00:21:03,512 --> 00:21:04,513 for what it is, 393 00:21:04,638 --> 00:21:08,809 you actually find something even deeper and more valuable. 394 00:21:09,309 --> 00:21:12,020 A lot of what you're saying, you know, rings true to me, 395 00:21:12,145 --> 00:21:14,690 and it-- and it makes you think this is not a bad kind of... 396 00:21:15,190 --> 00:21:18,902 How to--- how to reframe that and how to-- how to adjust to it. 397 00:21:19,278 --> 00:21:21,822 How about, let's go and try out some Tai Chi moves? 398 00:21:21,947 --> 00:21:23,365 -Sounds good. -Okay. 399 00:21:24,449 --> 00:21:26,660 (MUSIC CONTINUES) 400 00:21:28,370 --> 00:21:32,291 GARY: Well, I hope that by listening to my experience, 401 00:21:32,541 --> 00:21:36,920 Chris will learn that there are ways 402 00:21:37,004 --> 00:21:41,508 that you can continue to live the life that you want to. 403 00:21:43,552 --> 00:21:46,179 You can actually expand yourself. 404 00:21:46,888 --> 00:21:52,102 So, you actually discover a deeper understanding of the body. 405 00:21:58,275 --> 00:21:59,735 CHRIS: It was great talking to Gary. 406 00:22:00,110 --> 00:22:03,447 Makes me realize that, you know, my approach to the aging suit 407 00:22:03,655 --> 00:22:08,827 shouldn't be to try and beat it. Should be to adapt and evolve with it. 408 00:22:11,413 --> 00:22:12,998 (MUSIC ENDS) 409 00:22:15,917 --> 00:22:17,878 -(CRICKETS CHIRPING) -(CAMERA DINGS) 410 00:22:18,086 --> 00:22:22,632 All right, so day one down. Sunset Pines Retirement Village. 411 00:22:23,633 --> 00:22:27,137 Officially retired and feeling pretty old after wearing that suit all day, 412 00:22:27,262 --> 00:22:28,263 pretty restrictive. 413 00:22:28,472 --> 00:22:31,683 I started to get kind of irritated, especially when people were talking to me 414 00:22:32,976 --> 00:22:35,854 the way that I guess a lot of us talk to elderly people, 415 00:22:36,021 --> 00:22:39,399 which is that sort of, you know, speaking very clear and "hello." 416 00:22:39,566 --> 00:22:42,986 And there's almost this kind of patronizing sort of tone to it. 417 00:22:43,236 --> 00:22:46,490 So, I hope I don't do that when I speak to elderly people. 418 00:22:46,656 --> 00:22:48,617 Now, I've got to get comfortable in this room here. 419 00:22:48,742 --> 00:22:51,620 We've got a massive bed here which looks like something 420 00:22:51,953 --> 00:22:54,206 one of my kids would sleep in. What else we got in here? 421 00:22:54,414 --> 00:22:57,167 Not much, this is it. It's a little bit like a prison. 422 00:22:57,793 --> 00:22:59,086 Yeah, good night. 423 00:23:08,261 --> 00:23:09,721 FEMALE VOICE: (OVER P.A.) Good morning, residents. 424 00:23:09,846 --> 00:23:12,057 It's another beautiful day here at Sunset Pines 425 00:23:12,182 --> 00:23:16,186 where we live every day to the fullest. Lots of fun activities to do today 426 00:23:16,478 --> 00:23:17,437 and tonight 427 00:23:17,646 --> 00:23:19,773 there's our very own Sunset Pines Ball. 428 00:23:20,315 --> 00:23:21,858 So, don't forget your dancing shoes. 429 00:23:26,738 --> 00:23:30,158 ("WILLIAM TELL OVERTURE" PLAYING) 430 00:23:30,617 --> 00:23:31,576 FEMALE VOICE: Morning, Chris! 431 00:23:34,371 --> 00:23:37,582 BJ: Day two at Sunset Pines is designed for Chris to sort of settle in. 432 00:23:37,791 --> 00:23:38,708 MALE VOICE: Hey, Chris. 433 00:23:39,501 --> 00:23:43,255 BJ: As people wear this suit, what the researchers at MIT have seen, 434 00:23:43,463 --> 00:23:46,425 is the second stage is you move into this adaptive response. 435 00:23:47,050 --> 00:23:49,094 Touch your toes, man. See if you can touch your toes. 436 00:23:49,386 --> 00:23:52,889 CHRIS: So, if I'm going to get any longevity benefits from this experience... 437 00:23:52,973 --> 00:23:54,182 (GRUNTS) 438 00:23:54,307 --> 00:23:58,353 ...then my objective today is to adapt to life in the aging suit. 439 00:23:59,062 --> 00:24:00,689 -Wow. -CHRIS: First up... 440 00:24:01,690 --> 00:24:03,066 the rematch with Gary. 441 00:24:03,233 --> 00:24:04,317 Ready to go again, Chris? 442 00:24:04,443 --> 00:24:08,738 And this time, I've adapted and recruited a doubles partner, 443 00:24:09,072 --> 00:24:10,198 Douglas. 444 00:24:10,740 --> 00:24:12,951 (SONG CONTINUES) 445 00:24:15,412 --> 00:24:16,413 Oh, good shot. 446 00:24:17,414 --> 00:24:18,331 Gary! 447 00:24:19,916 --> 00:24:20,792 Good shot. 448 00:24:21,042 --> 00:24:23,420 Okay. Watch this. Huh? 449 00:24:23,628 --> 00:24:25,088 We're not gonna watch that. Just hit the ball. 450 00:24:25,297 --> 00:24:26,214 Okay, here it comes. 451 00:24:28,717 --> 00:24:31,511 -That's it. Game over. -I'm not playing anymore. 452 00:24:33,430 --> 00:24:35,098 Ah! Steady. 453 00:24:35,974 --> 00:24:37,058 (EXHALES) 454 00:24:37,517 --> 00:24:40,020 BJ: So, Chris is trying to adapt to this suit... 455 00:24:41,313 --> 00:24:43,648 to work around it. Hack it. 456 00:24:44,107 --> 00:24:46,067 (SIGHS) Too old for this... (BLEEP) 457 00:24:46,902 --> 00:24:50,197 But he's still in this mode that this is something to beat. 458 00:24:52,699 --> 00:24:56,077 But adaptation is not how he's going to beat the suit. 459 00:25:05,086 --> 00:25:07,339 -(SONG ENDS) -(GLASS CRASHES) 460 00:25:11,718 --> 00:25:13,678 CHRIS: So, I'm doing my best to adapt to the suit. 461 00:25:14,012 --> 00:25:16,848 But mostly it's just kind of bugging me. 462 00:25:18,308 --> 00:25:19,392 That is mine. 463 00:25:19,476 --> 00:25:21,353 -Thank you very much. -Good game. 464 00:25:22,479 --> 00:25:25,273 CHRIS: Maybe it's time I tried something a little less physical. 465 00:25:25,899 --> 00:25:27,067 Oh, are you all right there, Chris? 466 00:25:28,568 --> 00:25:29,736 DOUGLAS: Poor old bugger. 467 00:25:31,154 --> 00:25:32,572 CHRIS: And a bit more creative. 468 00:25:33,323 --> 00:25:37,327 Hi, everyone. I just wanted to welcome you to today's art class. 469 00:25:37,536 --> 00:25:39,746 Today we're going to be doing self-portraits. 470 00:25:40,247 --> 00:25:45,001 Now, don't give me that, you'll be fine. We're going to explore our identity today. 471 00:25:45,293 --> 00:25:47,087 So, yeah, get into it. Have fun. 472 00:25:47,212 --> 00:25:48,964 -Okay. Thank you. -Have fun. 473 00:25:49,339 --> 00:25:50,715 Hi, Chris. My name is Natalie. 474 00:25:51,132 --> 00:25:53,051 -Nice to meet you. All right. -I just wanted to welcome you. 475 00:25:53,134 --> 00:25:54,427 -Good luck. -Cool. Thank you. 476 00:25:55,136 --> 00:25:57,013 (FEMALE VOICE SPEAKING INDISTINCTLY) 477 00:25:57,264 --> 00:26:02,936 BJ: So, the real goal of day two is to move Chris beyond adaptation 478 00:26:03,228 --> 00:26:04,980 to the third and final lesson of the suit. 479 00:26:05,313 --> 00:26:08,483 Acceptance and learning to rely upon others. 480 00:26:09,150 --> 00:26:10,485 What's your favorite color? 481 00:26:11,111 --> 00:26:13,572 I like this bluey-pink kind of vibe we got going here. 482 00:26:13,697 --> 00:26:14,948 FEMALE VOICE: Oh, okay. 483 00:26:16,032 --> 00:26:17,909 -Bit on my helmet. -(ALL CHUCKLE) 484 00:26:18,034 --> 00:26:20,704 Very nice. It probably makes it look a little bit more interesting, doesn't it? 485 00:26:20,787 --> 00:26:23,123 Oh, I know-- I know what I'll do. I'll give you a rally stripe. 486 00:26:23,498 --> 00:26:24,624 -A rally stripe? -Yeah. 487 00:26:25,125 --> 00:26:27,085 -Oh, yeah. Bring it on. -A rally stripe. 488 00:26:27,335 --> 00:26:28,670 Wait, wait. Don't move. 489 00:26:29,379 --> 00:26:31,006 -Yeah? -What do you reckon, guys? 490 00:26:31,298 --> 00:26:33,216 -NATALIE: Aw. It looks fantastic. -Nice. 491 00:26:37,470 --> 00:26:39,931 How do you deal with that hand with that strap on it? 492 00:26:40,390 --> 00:26:41,600 Very tricky, isn't it? 493 00:26:41,766 --> 00:26:43,435 -What do you feel like? An 80-year-old? -Yep! 494 00:26:43,560 --> 00:26:45,061 (ALL LAUGH) 495 00:26:45,645 --> 00:26:47,147 Arms feels a little bit heavy. 496 00:26:47,480 --> 00:26:50,066 -You're looking a bit stiff. -I feel a bit stiff. 497 00:26:51,318 --> 00:26:54,112 So, what's the secret? How have you guys stayed so active? 498 00:26:54,446 --> 00:26:56,489 -I swim and I walk. -CHRIS: Yeah. 499 00:26:56,615 --> 00:26:59,743 You know, and I get out and do stuff. I swim all winter. 500 00:27:00,035 --> 00:27:02,245 -I'm pretty active at 80, so it's not bad. -Yeah. 501 00:27:02,454 --> 00:27:06,666 I think as well as being physically active at the same time, keep your mind active. 502 00:27:06,875 --> 00:27:09,919 You know, build up a good relationship with your family, your children, 503 00:27:10,128 --> 00:27:12,422 grandchildren... make a lot of friends. 504 00:27:12,797 --> 00:27:13,715 Yeah. 505 00:27:13,840 --> 00:27:16,468 And-- and while you're doing that, you will also helping yourself 506 00:27:16,635 --> 00:27:18,261 in maintaining your youth. 507 00:27:19,596 --> 00:27:23,725 BJ: So, if Chris can accept getting older and drop this notion 508 00:27:23,850 --> 00:27:25,226 of physical independence, 509 00:27:25,644 --> 00:27:27,854 that's when he can learn to rely on others. 510 00:27:28,521 --> 00:27:31,900 He's going to have to adopt a bigger sense of himself 511 00:27:31,983 --> 00:27:36,363 that can accommodate frailty, and vulnerability, and old age. 512 00:27:37,364 --> 00:27:40,784 This is the lesson if you can learn to accept that fact. 513 00:27:40,909 --> 00:27:44,746 That's when we get to experience just how connected we all are 514 00:27:44,829 --> 00:27:48,583 to each other and to the world around us. This is very, very good for your health. 515 00:27:49,459 --> 00:27:52,045 -So, you got children? -Yep. Three kids. 516 00:27:52,253 --> 00:27:53,171 How old? 517 00:27:53,421 --> 00:27:57,217 -Nine and seven. Two twin boys at seven. -Oh! 518 00:27:57,342 --> 00:27:59,678 -Yeah. -They were fun when they were babies. 519 00:27:59,928 --> 00:28:00,845 Yes, they're fun now. 520 00:28:03,264 --> 00:28:05,684 You miss them when you are out and about doing 521 00:28:05,892 --> 00:28:07,727 -your acting? -Yeah, definitely. Yep. 522 00:28:07,894 --> 00:28:09,020 Yep. Yep. 523 00:28:11,356 --> 00:28:13,692 NATALIE: It's looking good. Well done. 524 00:28:14,401 --> 00:28:18,029 -Oh, Chris. Tell me about yours. -I'm not sure what it is. 525 00:28:18,321 --> 00:28:20,365 It's like me crossed with a koala. 526 00:28:20,949 --> 00:28:22,450 (ALL CHUCKLE) 527 00:28:23,702 --> 00:28:25,662 CHRIS: I just need a eucalyptus leaf to be chewin' on. 528 00:28:25,995 --> 00:28:27,122 NATALIE: No, looks great. 529 00:28:41,386 --> 00:28:42,429 BJ: Hey, bud. 530 00:28:42,721 --> 00:28:44,139 -Hello. -How you doing? 531 00:28:44,889 --> 00:28:45,807 CHRIS: Just... 532 00:28:46,349 --> 00:28:50,729 remove the-- the suit for a minute. Just a... Yeah, it's just so good to... 533 00:28:50,895 --> 00:28:52,021 It's nice to have a breather. 534 00:28:52,564 --> 00:28:54,733 -Feel good to take it off? -It does, yeah. 535 00:28:54,816 --> 00:28:56,276 Well, good news. 536 00:28:56,609 --> 00:28:59,696 -(CHUCKLES) -You get to be done with that suit. 537 00:28:59,904 --> 00:29:01,364 That experiment is over. 538 00:29:01,990 --> 00:29:02,991 Wonderful. 539 00:29:03,241 --> 00:29:04,826 Yeah, I'll leave it right here on the couch. 540 00:29:05,076 --> 00:29:06,369 Right, oh. Exactly. 541 00:29:07,370 --> 00:29:09,622 The major lesson here is acceptance. 542 00:29:09,956 --> 00:29:13,168 There's certain things or certain battles we're just not going to win 543 00:29:13,334 --> 00:29:15,128 and you're not going to beat that suit... 544 00:29:15,211 --> 00:29:16,129 Yeah. 545 00:29:16,296 --> 00:29:18,006 ...and you're not going to beat aging and that's okay. 546 00:29:18,173 --> 00:29:22,260 Yeah. But then how do you come to terms with that? How do people accept? 547 00:29:24,262 --> 00:29:27,474 For me, just couple things to tell you about. 548 00:29:27,557 --> 00:29:29,267 I-- So, when I was 19, 549 00:29:30,059 --> 00:29:31,352 a sophomore in college... 550 00:29:34,731 --> 00:29:36,107 you know, life was really good. 551 00:29:39,027 --> 00:29:40,570 Then sophomore fall, 552 00:29:41,154 --> 00:29:43,490 friends of mine and I, we were screwing around 553 00:29:43,823 --> 00:29:46,743 on our commuter train and my buds and I, 554 00:29:46,910 --> 00:29:49,329 we just climbed it like you climb a tree. 555 00:29:49,537 --> 00:29:51,414 There was just a parked train just sitting there. 556 00:29:51,998 --> 00:29:55,752 But when I stood up, I had a metal watch on my wrist. 557 00:29:56,211 --> 00:29:58,838 And when I stood up, I was close enough to the power source, 558 00:29:58,922 --> 00:30:02,675 the electricity arced to the watch. Instantaneous big explosion, 559 00:30:02,801 --> 00:30:07,388 and in a moment just, you know, everything changed in a way. 560 00:30:13,061 --> 00:30:16,773 I lost one arm below the elbow and both legs below the knee, 561 00:30:19,025 --> 00:30:20,985 and I came very close to death. 562 00:30:27,367 --> 00:30:28,701 It broke me down. 563 00:30:30,161 --> 00:30:32,872 My life was over. I was just pure loss. 564 00:30:36,751 --> 00:30:39,379 And I thought, "Who am I, now?" 565 00:30:43,550 --> 00:30:47,804 This forced me to reimagine myself. 566 00:30:48,221 --> 00:30:50,640 Adaptation was only going to get me so far. 567 00:30:51,391 --> 00:30:52,600 I had to accept it. 568 00:30:53,810 --> 00:30:56,229 And somewhere along the way, it took me a few years, 569 00:30:56,563 --> 00:31:00,191 but there came a point where I let that old body, 570 00:31:00,483 --> 00:31:03,069 that old sense of self, I let him go. 571 00:31:06,406 --> 00:31:07,699 He died. 572 00:31:09,367 --> 00:31:10,994 What was in store for me... 573 00:31:15,123 --> 00:31:19,043 I knew that my identity didn't exist in my feet. 574 00:31:23,798 --> 00:31:25,633 I look at myself in the mirror every once in a while and say, 575 00:31:25,758 --> 00:31:28,803 "This is my life. This is it. This is-- this is my life." 576 00:31:38,771 --> 00:31:41,232 I think this is a part of acceptance is where you actually 577 00:31:41,357 --> 00:31:42,400 let the change happen. 578 00:31:53,828 --> 00:31:55,788 -(DOG BARKS) -Come on. 579 00:31:56,039 --> 00:31:57,040 That's it. 580 00:31:57,999 --> 00:31:59,167 Good girl. 581 00:32:05,048 --> 00:32:06,716 BJ: That was a big, big deal for me. 582 00:32:06,799 --> 00:32:09,135 Those years following my accident and learning to play 583 00:32:09,218 --> 00:32:11,137 with how I saw myself in the world. 584 00:32:16,017 --> 00:32:19,520 My sense of self had expanded to the point where not only 585 00:32:19,729 --> 00:32:21,564 I could accommodate limb loss. 586 00:32:22,357 --> 00:32:25,234 But I started making meaning and making sense of my experience. 587 00:32:25,360 --> 00:32:28,196 I went into medicine and fell immediately in love 588 00:32:28,404 --> 00:32:29,572 with palliative care. 589 00:32:33,910 --> 00:32:35,870 People usually have a misunderstanding of it that it's all about 590 00:32:36,037 --> 00:32:37,121 end of life and death. 591 00:32:37,413 --> 00:32:40,458 But my job is to treat suffering and to help people 592 00:32:40,583 --> 00:32:42,085 find meaning in their life. 593 00:32:42,168 --> 00:32:45,338 So, you could also say it's something of a philosophy. 594 00:32:45,505 --> 00:32:46,506 Come on. Right here. 595 00:32:47,840 --> 00:32:51,552 My story is dramatic, but it's just a variation on a theme. 596 00:32:51,928 --> 00:32:55,723 We all suffer, we all bump up against things that we can't control. 597 00:32:59,352 --> 00:33:01,688 And that brings us to this point of acceptance 598 00:33:02,021 --> 00:33:03,898 and that's a place where I'm trying to move Chris. 599 00:33:08,069 --> 00:33:11,948 CHRIS: Talking with BJ, I find myself in awe of his attitude. 600 00:33:12,532 --> 00:33:15,994 He went through one of the toughest experiences 601 00:33:16,202 --> 00:33:18,329 someone can go through at a very young age too, 602 00:33:19,330 --> 00:33:22,458 and yet he's accepted that experience, 603 00:33:22,583 --> 00:33:26,212 and I find that such a beautiful approach to life. 604 00:33:33,636 --> 00:33:36,097 So, are you starting to get a little hint, 605 00:33:36,180 --> 00:33:38,599 a little glimmer at this thing called acceptance? 606 00:33:39,809 --> 00:33:44,397 Yeah, I mean, one thing I've accepted and come to terms with is 607 00:33:44,480 --> 00:33:46,357 that I-- I don't feel invincible, you know. 608 00:33:46,441 --> 00:33:49,068 And the really interesting thing that certainly I think about is, like, 609 00:33:49,235 --> 00:33:53,740 well, there will come a day when you can't take the suit off and... 610 00:33:54,032 --> 00:33:55,491 that's an intimidating... 611 00:33:55,825 --> 00:33:58,244 -thought for me, you know? -Mm-hmm. 612 00:33:58,411 --> 00:34:00,079 -It's a big one. -Yeah. 613 00:34:03,708 --> 00:34:05,626 Yeah, so, it stirs up a whole lot of 614 00:34:06,544 --> 00:34:09,005 ideas and-- and thoughts. 615 00:34:09,338 --> 00:34:14,260 And, you know, I-- I think just living in that space of sort of goal-orientated 616 00:34:14,385 --> 00:34:17,805 -kind of get through this checklist first. -Mm-hmm. 617 00:34:19,098 --> 00:34:21,225 It can also be sort of dangerous, right? Like a-- 618 00:34:21,434 --> 00:34:22,935 -Absolutely. -'Cause it's the assumption 619 00:34:23,061 --> 00:34:25,188 that you have time to get through it rather than going... 620 00:34:25,646 --> 00:34:26,564 Right. 621 00:34:26,773 --> 00:34:28,191 -Man. -There may not be a tomorrow. 622 00:34:28,274 --> 00:34:30,234 Yeah, absolutely. Yep. 623 00:34:30,610 --> 00:34:33,362 I've come to learn how hard it is to actually be in the moment. 624 00:34:33,613 --> 00:34:34,989 Is that a skill you have? 625 00:34:35,490 --> 00:34:36,699 It's something I... 626 00:34:37,492 --> 00:34:40,953 am aware that I-- I-- I want to achieve... 627 00:34:41,162 --> 00:34:42,580 and be better at, you know. 628 00:34:43,122 --> 00:34:44,707 But... 629 00:34:45,041 --> 00:34:48,419 you know. Being in it, being brutally honest with myself. 630 00:34:48,920 --> 00:34:51,506 I'm not. And now... 631 00:34:54,258 --> 00:34:56,469 I'm sort of going, "What's really important?" You know? 632 00:34:56,677 --> 00:34:59,222 You know, I just feel like I'm sort of, you know, busier and busier and busier, 633 00:34:59,388 --> 00:35:02,683 and I'm not even with the kids as much as I want to be. 634 00:35:03,351 --> 00:35:04,811 But like, I think about it-- 635 00:35:05,686 --> 00:35:07,105 that a lot, you know, and just... 636 00:35:09,565 --> 00:35:12,026 Just the sort of fragility of it all. 637 00:35:17,281 --> 00:35:19,575 (EXHALES DEEPLY) 638 00:35:35,216 --> 00:35:36,884 I just wanna get this right. 639 00:35:39,595 --> 00:35:40,721 It... 640 00:35:44,183 --> 00:35:46,144 I've been working so much for... 641 00:35:47,145 --> 00:35:48,271 ten or twelve years now, 642 00:35:49,772 --> 00:35:53,526 and found a lot of, you know, my memories have... 643 00:35:53,734 --> 00:35:58,030 it felt like they are in fast forward, and wishing I had a sort of pause 644 00:35:58,156 --> 00:35:59,323 and taken more time. 645 00:35:59,949 --> 00:36:00,992 And... 646 00:36:01,909 --> 00:36:03,411 it makes me think about a story 647 00:36:03,536 --> 00:36:06,038 my mom was telling me about. The experience she had recently, 648 00:36:06,122 --> 00:36:10,334 where she thought she was facing the end of her life for a brief moment. 649 00:36:12,253 --> 00:36:14,672 And that she felt... 650 00:36:15,715 --> 00:36:18,342 complete peace with her experiences 651 00:36:18,426 --> 00:36:22,054 in the fact that she had many people around her that loved her, 652 00:36:22,221 --> 00:36:25,057 many people that she loved and she had a very full life, 653 00:36:25,183 --> 00:36:29,687 and I think it affected me because I... 654 00:36:31,480 --> 00:36:34,108 I don't want to find myself rushing through things anymore. 655 00:36:38,821 --> 00:36:40,489 Yeah. This experience is making me 656 00:36:40,656 --> 00:36:42,783 want to press pause on everything for a while 657 00:36:42,992 --> 00:36:45,786 and then kind of be much more present than I've been. 658 00:36:51,459 --> 00:36:54,212 BJ: So, at this point, Chris is opening up a little bit, 659 00:36:54,503 --> 00:36:57,632 which is an invaluable moment along the way to acceptance. 660 00:36:59,634 --> 00:37:02,887 It's now time to make some of these lessons more personal for him. 661 00:37:03,471 --> 00:37:05,556 And explore the world of emotional loss. 662 00:37:10,061 --> 00:37:13,689 The finale of day two is a dance at Sunset Pines. 663 00:37:13,814 --> 00:37:15,233 (INDISTINCT CHATTER) 664 00:37:15,399 --> 00:37:16,901 MALE VOICE: Do you wanna try this on, see if it fits? 665 00:37:17,944 --> 00:37:21,072 BJ: What Chris doesn't know is, at the dance, his wife, 666 00:37:21,239 --> 00:37:23,658 his real wife, Elsa, will be waiting for him. 667 00:37:24,408 --> 00:37:26,369 Oh, my God. 668 00:37:26,786 --> 00:37:30,998 And Elsa has signed up to be age 50 years through the magic of prosthetics. 669 00:37:31,165 --> 00:37:32,917 Yeah, I don't feel bad about my hands now. 670 00:37:33,042 --> 00:37:34,919 -Look at my hands! -Yeah. There ya go. 671 00:37:35,086 --> 00:37:37,171 ELSA: So, I'm sitting in the chair, 672 00:37:37,505 --> 00:37:40,174 and they started putting on the prosthetics 673 00:37:40,925 --> 00:37:42,969 and it start to feel really weird. 674 00:37:43,719 --> 00:37:45,805 I was like, I don't want to do this. 675 00:37:46,180 --> 00:37:48,808 It was a moment of, like, "I can't do this." 676 00:37:51,143 --> 00:37:52,186 Aging is... 677 00:37:53,354 --> 00:37:56,107 is threatening, especially with women 678 00:37:56,274 --> 00:37:59,193 and in this society, it made me think about 679 00:37:59,402 --> 00:38:01,696 how much value we give to youth. 680 00:38:02,738 --> 00:38:04,824 BJ: This is possibly the most confrontational, 681 00:38:04,991 --> 00:38:06,993 daring moment of this whole experiment. 682 00:38:07,201 --> 00:38:09,996 Chris does not know this is coming. This is a big surprise for him. 683 00:38:10,288 --> 00:38:12,123 Yeah, I can-- I can see my mom actually. 684 00:38:12,373 --> 00:38:17,086 It just makes you feel like, God is that where we gonna go 685 00:38:17,295 --> 00:38:19,922 and be, you know. It's-- it's difficult. (CHUCKLES) 686 00:38:20,631 --> 00:38:22,008 BJ: But, you know, what's interesting is, 687 00:38:22,174 --> 00:38:24,844 we know from data that most of us are less afraid 688 00:38:24,969 --> 00:38:27,471 by our own frailty, our own deaths 689 00:38:27,763 --> 00:38:30,474 than we are at the deaths of people we care for. 690 00:38:32,226 --> 00:38:34,270 So, to explore this further, 691 00:38:34,520 --> 00:38:37,982 we want Chris to meet another resident of Sunset Pines. 692 00:38:38,858 --> 00:38:42,862 Well, my name is Aisea Vakalalabure. I'm a Fijian, from Fiji. 693 00:38:43,029 --> 00:38:45,531 And I'm 88 years old. 694 00:38:45,865 --> 00:38:48,576 And here's your table Mr. Hemsworth. I like you to meet Aisea. 695 00:38:48,826 --> 00:38:49,744 Aisea? 696 00:38:50,202 --> 00:38:52,538 -Hi Chris, pleased to meet you. -You too. 697 00:38:52,955 --> 00:38:54,498 PRODUCER: Do you know who Chris Hemsworth is? 698 00:38:54,707 --> 00:38:55,583 No. 699 00:38:55,875 --> 00:38:58,085 (ALL CHUCKLING) 700 00:38:58,961 --> 00:39:00,254 No. 701 00:39:02,381 --> 00:39:05,468 How do you feel now coming to this life of retirement? 702 00:39:05,634 --> 00:39:07,762 -How... -Very different, very different. 703 00:39:08,262 --> 00:39:10,348 A lot of wonderful people though, you know? 704 00:39:10,556 --> 00:39:12,767 It's been a very unique experience. 705 00:39:12,892 --> 00:39:13,934 Well, I'll tell you 706 00:39:14,226 --> 00:39:16,937 being an elderly person is the best thing, 707 00:39:17,646 --> 00:39:19,648 aging is very important in life. 708 00:39:19,940 --> 00:39:22,360 BJ said it was a-- a great opportunity to meet you 709 00:39:22,568 --> 00:39:24,320 because you have an important story. 710 00:39:24,820 --> 00:39:25,780 Well. 711 00:39:26,447 --> 00:39:28,949 I come from Fiji and I come from a chiefly family, 712 00:39:29,533 --> 00:39:34,330 and my eldest brother we were very close. I was closer to him than to my parents. 713 00:39:36,957 --> 00:39:39,460 To him, I am the small baby brother 714 00:39:40,211 --> 00:39:42,213 but to me, he's everything. 715 00:39:44,965 --> 00:39:47,760 And everywhere he goes I'm always behind him. 716 00:39:47,843 --> 00:39:49,095 I was his shadow. 717 00:39:52,932 --> 00:39:54,809 From childhood, right up until 718 00:39:54,934 --> 00:39:57,603 we went to the army he's always there, 719 00:39:57,812 --> 00:39:59,480 and he's always looking after me. 720 00:40:02,316 --> 00:40:04,026 And I look at him as a father, 721 00:40:04,568 --> 00:40:06,737 big brother, and my protector. 722 00:40:07,905 --> 00:40:09,115 When our father died, 723 00:40:09,281 --> 00:40:10,908 being the eldest of the family, 724 00:40:11,283 --> 00:40:14,120 he had to take over the role of chief. 725 00:40:19,208 --> 00:40:20,835 And he became a good chief, 726 00:40:21,419 --> 00:40:22,586 and the people loved him. 727 00:40:24,088 --> 00:40:26,465 Unfortunately, this didn't last long. 728 00:40:27,675 --> 00:40:29,135 He became sick. 729 00:40:35,933 --> 00:40:36,934 When he died, 730 00:40:39,103 --> 00:40:41,397 my world came crumbling down. 731 00:40:45,443 --> 00:40:47,194 And I lost 732 00:40:48,571 --> 00:40:51,907 the man that I loved, my real brother. 733 00:40:53,200 --> 00:40:54,827 And I was devastated, 734 00:40:55,411 --> 00:40:57,037 the loss that I suffered 735 00:40:57,788 --> 00:40:59,290 is unmeasurable. 736 00:41:08,507 --> 00:41:10,342 But in Fijian society 737 00:41:10,551 --> 00:41:14,346 there is a period of mourning of 100 days and 100 nights 738 00:41:14,722 --> 00:41:16,974 when the whole village is closed down. 739 00:41:21,770 --> 00:41:25,441 No singing. No playing. No nothing. 740 00:41:28,611 --> 00:41:30,196 And as the 100 days began, 741 00:41:30,362 --> 00:41:32,323 (THUNDER RUMBLES) 742 00:41:32,448 --> 00:41:34,200 I didn't want to be around people 743 00:41:34,408 --> 00:41:36,410 let alone lead a community. 744 00:41:39,663 --> 00:41:41,373 And I thought to myself 745 00:41:41,499 --> 00:41:42,875 will I be good enough? 746 00:41:43,751 --> 00:41:46,212 (LIGHTNING CRACKLES) 747 00:41:51,300 --> 00:41:54,011 Will they respect me as they respected my brother? 748 00:41:55,679 --> 00:41:56,805 I can't do this. 749 00:42:05,689 --> 00:42:07,775 But 100 days is a long time. 750 00:42:08,150 --> 00:42:11,153 (BIRDS CHIRPING) 751 00:42:12,112 --> 00:42:14,323 It gives you time to think. 752 00:42:18,494 --> 00:42:20,788 To learn, to be more open to others. 753 00:42:22,831 --> 00:42:23,832 To grow. 754 00:42:25,751 --> 00:42:27,127 Day after day. 755 00:42:28,754 --> 00:42:30,130 Every sunrise. 756 00:42:31,632 --> 00:42:32,841 Every sunset. 757 00:42:33,467 --> 00:42:35,844 The grief was changing me. 758 00:42:38,347 --> 00:42:40,182 And that was how I accepted 759 00:42:40,516 --> 00:42:42,560 I must stand up. 760 00:42:42,977 --> 00:42:45,312 Follow his footsteps, put on his shoes, 761 00:42:45,563 --> 00:42:46,939 though big it may be, 762 00:42:47,022 --> 00:42:49,275 and accept the role of being a chief. 763 00:42:51,986 --> 00:42:54,989 BJ: What I really want Chris to learn from Aisea's example 764 00:42:55,239 --> 00:42:59,243 is the importance of giving ourself time and space 765 00:42:59,451 --> 00:43:01,787 to have very difficult feelings. 766 00:43:02,955 --> 00:43:05,916 Life includes incredible sorrow, 767 00:43:06,292 --> 00:43:10,170 incredible sadness, and that those, just like aging aren't our enemy, 768 00:43:10,671 --> 00:43:12,172 they're just part of the deal. 769 00:43:14,258 --> 00:43:17,094 AISEA: You will lose the people you love. 770 00:43:18,429 --> 00:43:21,307 But I was a better community leader 771 00:43:21,849 --> 00:43:24,268 a better man, because of those hundred days. 772 00:43:25,853 --> 00:43:29,565 And so, I learnt grief is beautiful. 773 00:43:30,649 --> 00:43:33,569 Sounds like where you're from there's far more acceptance 774 00:43:33,736 --> 00:43:35,904 and welcoming of that transition. 775 00:43:36,071 --> 00:43:38,198 AISEA: You know, I believe that Western society 776 00:43:38,282 --> 00:43:40,159 don't give enough time to grieve. 777 00:43:41,327 --> 00:43:42,745 Grief is good. 778 00:43:43,037 --> 00:43:44,496 That’s what I believe in. 779 00:43:44,955 --> 00:43:47,583 Gentlemen, here are your meals. 780 00:43:48,000 --> 00:43:51,253 This is Sunset Pines finest, and, Mr. Hemsworth, 781 00:43:51,378 --> 00:43:54,798 we'll be looking forward to seeing you at our weekly dance this evening. 782 00:43:56,133 --> 00:43:58,344 -Bon appetit. -Thank you. 783 00:43:58,510 --> 00:43:59,553 Dancing? 784 00:44:01,388 --> 00:44:03,932 -Should be fun. -AISEA: Yes. (CHUCKLES) 785 00:44:06,477 --> 00:44:09,521 CHRIS: It's great talking to Aisea and so good to hear his story. 786 00:44:10,272 --> 00:44:12,608 But the idea of losing the people you love, 787 00:44:13,067 --> 00:44:14,818 I think is the scariest thing 788 00:44:15,277 --> 00:44:18,947 and that's not really something I'm ready to accept just yet. 789 00:44:21,950 --> 00:44:24,536 MALE VOICE: Sorry, Elsa. Is it okay if you just keep your eyes closed 790 00:44:24,703 --> 00:44:25,704 -for a little while? -ELSA: Mm-hmm. 791 00:44:25,829 --> 00:44:27,122 Just while we do this. Thank you. 792 00:44:29,833 --> 00:44:32,336 BJ: So, the last part of day two, we come to the dance, 793 00:44:32,586 --> 00:44:37,841 and this is where we confront Chris with Elsa, his beloved wife. 794 00:44:38,467 --> 00:44:41,053 But now Elsa is the one who's aged 50 years. 795 00:44:41,303 --> 00:44:43,722 ("SMOKE GETS IN YOUR EYES" PLAYING) 796 00:44:43,972 --> 00:44:45,641 This could be good, or it could be very tragic. 797 00:44:47,226 --> 00:44:48,936 I don't know what's going to happen. 798 00:44:51,939 --> 00:44:54,316 ELSA: Looking at myself, it's really confronting, 799 00:44:54,692 --> 00:44:57,986 and so real, like, really, really real. 800 00:45:01,281 --> 00:45:03,242 I feel really vulnerable. 801 00:45:05,327 --> 00:45:08,288 And I'm not sure I want Chris to see me like this. 802 00:45:08,872 --> 00:45:09,998 Yeah. 803 00:45:10,416 --> 00:45:15,254 (SONG CONTINUES PLAYING) 804 00:45:21,468 --> 00:45:25,264 (SPEAKING FOREIGN LANGUAGE) 805 00:45:25,472 --> 00:45:27,641 -Chris, there you are. Now... -CHRIS: You all right? 806 00:45:28,434 --> 00:45:32,104 I have set you up with a fantastic date. 807 00:45:32,438 --> 00:45:34,314 -Oh, really? -Yeah, now, I know you're married. 808 00:45:34,398 --> 00:45:37,109 -But we won't tell your wife, okay? -Yeah, yeah, but? 809 00:45:37,234 --> 00:45:39,027 Come with me. Come on now. Don't be shy. 810 00:45:39,111 --> 00:45:40,779 -Okay, I'm not shy. I know. -Not shy though? 811 00:45:40,946 --> 00:45:43,991 -Nervous not-- not shy though. -Oh, okay. See the lady in pink there? 812 00:45:44,074 --> 00:45:46,118 -Yeah, yeah, yeah. -Go get her, boy! 813 00:45:46,452 --> 00:45:49,621 (SONG CONTINUES PLAYING) 814 00:45:51,874 --> 00:45:54,877 Excuse me, I think I'm your date. 815 00:45:55,169 --> 00:45:57,254 (SONG CONTINUES PLAYING) 816 00:46:03,010 --> 00:46:05,554 (BOTH CHUCKLING) 817 00:46:07,389 --> 00:46:10,726 -Oh, my God. -(MUMBLES INDISTINCTLY, CHUCKLES) 818 00:46:12,728 --> 00:46:14,438 -It's so weird! -Look at you. 819 00:46:19,151 --> 00:46:20,360 Oh, my God. 820 00:46:23,030 --> 00:46:25,491 Is it... I just wanna touch your shoulder and I was like... 821 00:46:25,616 --> 00:46:26,825 "Oh, my God. I know this person." 822 00:46:26,992 --> 00:46:28,368 -Did you know? -(LAUGHS) 823 00:46:29,620 --> 00:46:30,704 Oh, wow. 824 00:46:38,462 --> 00:46:39,505 Hello. 825 00:46:47,221 --> 00:46:48,138 Still beautiful. 826 00:46:49,056 --> 00:46:50,098 (CHUCKLES) 827 00:46:53,852 --> 00:46:56,772 ELSA: I think this moment we will remember forever. 828 00:46:58,565 --> 00:47:01,443 It was so deep and so unexpected. 829 00:47:03,654 --> 00:47:05,113 I felt safe. 830 00:47:06,865 --> 00:47:08,116 (VOICE BREAKS) It was so beautiful. 831 00:47:11,078 --> 00:47:14,915 -Do you expect it, you know? Not at all? -I don't know what was going on. 832 00:47:16,083 --> 00:47:17,751 CHRIS: I mean, this is a wild experience. 833 00:47:18,252 --> 00:47:24,550 Looking at my wife having aged 50 years and it was a strange mixture of emotions 834 00:47:24,675 --> 00:47:25,592 of sort of... 835 00:47:27,010 --> 00:47:29,930 love, joy, empathy... 836 00:47:31,682 --> 00:47:32,891 and then also 837 00:47:34,184 --> 00:47:36,353 kind of absurd in a brilliant way. 838 00:47:36,937 --> 00:47:38,021 It's been such a weird... 839 00:47:38,689 --> 00:47:41,149 day, like, I don't know. Just thinking about... 840 00:47:41,525 --> 00:47:43,819 life and death and everything. And then, this... 841 00:47:44,528 --> 00:47:47,823 ELSA: For me, today was, like, I was just putting on 50 years. 842 00:47:48,115 --> 00:47:50,367 -Yeah. Yep. -And it's really, really shocking, 843 00:47:50,868 --> 00:47:53,203 not-- not having those years to adapt. 844 00:47:53,579 --> 00:47:55,247 And I think nature gave you that... 845 00:47:55,664 --> 00:47:59,167 -steps to get used to me in a way. -Yeah. 846 00:47:59,376 --> 00:48:01,920 It's pretty intense diving straight into. This is what... Yeah. 847 00:48:02,004 --> 00:48:04,923 Yeah. It's just... it's really confronting. 848 00:48:05,632 --> 00:48:07,217 No, it was quite shocking when I saw you then. 849 00:48:07,384 --> 00:48:10,345 I was like, "Oh! Wait, wait." Been robbed of 50 years. 850 00:48:11,179 --> 00:48:13,891 It was kind of like-- it was kind of, 851 00:48:14,975 --> 00:48:18,186 you're at the tail end of things maybe. (CHUCKLES) 852 00:48:19,271 --> 00:48:21,523 Got a little-- a little sort of teary-eyed. 853 00:48:22,232 --> 00:48:24,359 -I want to live those years with you. -Yeah. 854 00:48:24,860 --> 00:48:26,653 We need those memories, yeah? 855 00:48:28,405 --> 00:48:29,281 Should we dance? 856 00:48:29,531 --> 00:48:32,159 Should we dance? Sure. Be careful with my back. 857 00:48:32,284 --> 00:48:34,286 You gotta be careful. You just try and keep up, all right? 858 00:48:35,579 --> 00:48:37,664 You all right? Moving slow. 859 00:48:38,999 --> 00:48:42,210 ("THIS MAGIC MOMENT" PLAYING) 860 00:48:43,629 --> 00:48:47,174 BJ: Maybe with this experience, we've ratcheted down Chris's anxieties 861 00:48:47,299 --> 00:48:49,092 or fears around aging and death, 862 00:48:49,384 --> 00:48:53,138 so that he gets to see this idea that aging ain't so bad. 863 00:48:53,597 --> 00:48:56,350 (SONG CONTINUES) 864 00:49:00,312 --> 00:49:02,230 BJ: And that love actually really 865 00:49:02,314 --> 00:49:04,191 can hold you through just about anything. 866 00:49:10,155 --> 00:49:14,451 CHRIS: I think what is quite confronting is approaching that age on my own. 867 00:49:16,620 --> 00:49:17,913 What makes it less scary 868 00:49:18,330 --> 00:49:20,165 is having someone to experience it with. 869 00:49:24,544 --> 00:49:26,713 You know, having people around you that you love, 870 00:49:27,255 --> 00:49:28,507 makes me feel a lot more... 871 00:49:29,591 --> 00:49:30,759 accepting. 872 00:49:31,635 --> 00:49:34,429 -(CAMERA FLASHES) -(SONG CONTINUES) 873 00:49:45,565 --> 00:49:46,775 (SONG ENDS) 874 00:49:50,028 --> 00:49:51,446 Sorry, I have to go. 875 00:49:52,406 --> 00:49:53,365 Okay. 876 00:49:53,824 --> 00:49:54,908 I love you. 877 00:49:55,409 --> 00:49:56,576 I love you too. 878 00:50:16,972 --> 00:50:20,142 BJ: One of the really important lessons that Chris needs to learn 879 00:50:20,267 --> 00:50:22,853 is where there is love, there is loss. 880 00:50:24,604 --> 00:50:26,773 There will be losses in his own life. 881 00:50:27,065 --> 00:50:29,151 It's not if, it's when. 882 00:50:32,779 --> 00:50:36,491 And this sets us up for the next piece of this very strange odyssey... 883 00:50:38,535 --> 00:50:41,830 Where we're moving from aging into mortality, into death. 884 00:50:50,589 --> 00:50:53,925 (SERENE MUSIC PLAYING) 885 00:50:57,304 --> 00:50:58,972 FEMALE VOICE: (OVER P.A.) Good morning, residents. 886 00:50:59,347 --> 00:51:01,892 It's yet another beautiful day here at Sunset Pines, 887 00:51:02,059 --> 00:51:03,894 where we live every day to the fullest. 888 00:51:05,395 --> 00:51:06,605 Theater Club is starting soon. 889 00:51:07,189 --> 00:51:10,400 And don't forget, there's bingo in the village hall this evening. 890 00:51:13,737 --> 00:51:18,408 Oh, and we also want to formally welcome Mr. Hemsworth, 891 00:51:18,742 --> 00:51:20,619 who's already settling right in. 892 00:51:23,705 --> 00:51:27,250 CHRIS: I feel quite immersed, and at home in the experience now. 893 00:51:27,793 --> 00:51:30,587 And I'm just trying to be constantly open to it. 894 00:51:31,546 --> 00:51:32,672 Makes me realize, you know, 895 00:51:32,756 --> 00:51:36,259 this-- this might not be as bad as I thought it was gonna be. 896 00:51:36,676 --> 00:51:39,429 -(MUSIC CONTINUES) -(LIGHT FLICKERS) 897 00:51:44,935 --> 00:51:48,146 BJ: So here we are at the beginning of day three, our final day, 898 00:51:48,855 --> 00:51:52,692 and we're moving now towards death, mortality. 899 00:51:53,693 --> 00:51:54,778 -CHRIS: Hello. -Hi. 900 00:51:54,945 --> 00:51:58,365 I wanted to introduce Chris to my friend and colleague... 901 00:51:58,448 --> 00:52:03,453 Alua Arthur. And she works as, what's called a death doula. 902 00:52:03,703 --> 00:52:05,622 Now tell me, what exactly is a death doula? 903 00:52:05,789 --> 00:52:08,834 So, a death doula is somebody who does all the non-medical care 904 00:52:08,917 --> 00:52:12,420 and support of the dying person and the family through the process. 905 00:52:12,546 --> 00:52:14,881 We essentially walk people toward the end of life. 906 00:52:15,048 --> 00:52:15,924 Wow. 907 00:52:16,007 --> 00:52:17,843 ALUA: So, if you were talking a lot about the end of life. 908 00:52:18,093 --> 00:52:19,970 Today, we're gonna talk about your mortality. 909 00:52:20,137 --> 00:52:21,054 Okay. 910 00:52:21,138 --> 00:52:22,055 -Okay? -Yeah. 911 00:52:22,139 --> 00:52:23,682 So we have a little exercise prepared for you, 912 00:52:23,807 --> 00:52:25,142 a little bit of exposure therapy... 913 00:52:25,308 --> 00:52:26,560 -All right. -...to get you ready for that. 914 00:52:26,726 --> 00:52:27,936 -CHRIS: Okay. (CHUCKLES) -ALUA: You ready? 915 00:52:28,228 --> 00:52:29,938 -CHRIS: Yeah. -Okay, let's go check it out. 916 00:52:32,232 --> 00:52:33,483 (CHRIS CHUCKLES) 917 00:52:33,567 --> 00:52:34,484 ALUA: So, as you see, 918 00:52:34,609 --> 00:52:36,027 -we have a bunch of coffins here for you. -CHRIS: Wow. 919 00:52:36,403 --> 00:52:38,029 ALUA: Yeah, you have a chance to take a look at them, 920 00:52:38,321 --> 00:52:40,448 see what you like, see what you don't like. 921 00:52:40,532 --> 00:52:42,701 -I-- I have to choose one? -Yeah, that'd be great. 922 00:52:42,826 --> 00:52:44,161 -CHRIS: Wow. -You can do a little shopping, 923 00:52:44,327 --> 00:52:46,413 take a look around, see what you're interested in, 924 00:52:46,580 --> 00:52:48,206 what you're drawn to. 925 00:52:48,623 --> 00:52:53,044 What an odd concept. This is a little kind of dollhouse vibe. 926 00:52:53,545 --> 00:52:54,921 -ALUA: It is. -So I'll maybe not go there. 927 00:52:55,547 --> 00:52:56,673 -We have a beautiful... -Yeah. 928 00:52:56,798 --> 00:52:57,883 ...pine one here. 929 00:52:58,008 --> 00:53:01,136 All the sort of fancy timbers feel a little bit of a waste, don't they? 930 00:53:01,386 --> 00:53:02,637 To bury those in the ground. 931 00:53:02,888 --> 00:53:05,682 Feels like that should be furniture or something. 932 00:53:07,601 --> 00:53:10,562 Maybe cardboard. Compostable. 933 00:53:10,770 --> 00:53:12,105 Really economical too. 934 00:53:12,272 --> 00:53:13,523 -Yeah. -They are totally compostable, 935 00:53:13,648 --> 00:53:15,066 -biodegradable. -Yeah. 936 00:53:15,192 --> 00:53:16,276 Everything like that. 937 00:53:16,401 --> 00:53:19,654 I mean, I'm not gonna-- I'm not gonna need much where I'm going, I guess. 938 00:53:22,490 --> 00:53:23,783 Breathes well? 939 00:53:23,950 --> 00:53:27,037 ALUA: Breathes well, beautiful, natural, Moses vibes. 940 00:53:27,245 --> 00:53:32,042 -Extra-large picnic basket. Good. -Absolutely. Here we have a mahogany one. 941 00:53:32,417 --> 00:53:34,085 -CHRIS: Oh, yeah? -ALUA: Yeah, really beautiful. 942 00:53:34,211 --> 00:53:36,796 This one has been built specifically for your body. 943 00:53:37,088 --> 00:53:38,798 Maybe you might wanna check it out, get in it? 944 00:53:39,674 --> 00:53:40,967 -(EXHALES) Yeah, cool. -Ready? 945 00:53:41,176 --> 00:53:44,054 -Just jump straight in there, right? -Yeah, take it easy. 946 00:53:47,807 --> 00:53:48,975 (GRUNTS) 947 00:53:51,186 --> 00:53:54,147 ALUA: My hope, in looking at the coffins with Chris, 948 00:53:54,606 --> 00:53:58,860 is that he will connect to his own body one day in those coffins. 949 00:53:59,110 --> 00:54:02,447 And so he starts to think of his death itself. 950 00:54:02,697 --> 00:54:05,158 -Yeah, you already got the position down. -Yeah, look at that. 951 00:54:05,325 --> 00:54:07,327 -Just like that. -It's weird-- I feel like a vampire. 952 00:54:07,452 --> 00:54:09,537 -Yeah, well, close. -Just going away for the... 953 00:54:10,372 --> 00:54:11,456 long night. 954 00:54:11,915 --> 00:54:13,500 -Also called death? -CHRIS: Yeah. 955 00:54:15,085 --> 00:54:16,127 Yeah. 956 00:54:18,880 --> 00:54:20,590 -Done. -Well... 957 00:54:21,383 --> 00:54:22,676 ALUA: We're scared about talking about death 958 00:54:22,759 --> 00:54:24,177 'cause it makes us really uncomfortable, 959 00:54:24,344 --> 00:54:25,762 like it's something wrong. 960 00:54:25,971 --> 00:54:31,643 Trees die, flowers die, animals die, car batteries die, humans die. 961 00:54:33,186 --> 00:54:35,063 It was-- it was a strange experience, wasn't it? 962 00:54:35,563 --> 00:54:36,898 What do you think of coffins generally? 963 00:54:37,482 --> 00:54:41,403 You-- I don't know, I kind of maybe would prefer to be cremated, I guess. 964 00:54:42,570 --> 00:54:45,365 Rather than cocooned up in some space, 965 00:54:45,532 --> 00:54:47,367 there's something sort of claustrophobic about that thought. 966 00:54:47,575 --> 00:54:48,827 -Oh. -Yeah. 967 00:54:49,035 --> 00:54:50,787 And maybe you could just-- you could throw me in the ocean 968 00:54:50,870 --> 00:54:52,789 and the sharks could have at me, and-- 969 00:54:52,914 --> 00:54:54,416 -Throw your body in the ocean? -Yeah. 970 00:54:54,874 --> 00:54:57,919 I'm curious about how you view what happens after death. 971 00:54:58,461 --> 00:55:02,007 I don't know. I remember as a kid, sort of lying awake at night, 972 00:55:02,090 --> 00:55:04,259 thinking about the idea of nothing, 973 00:55:04,426 --> 00:55:08,013 you know, and... poof... just that's it, you know, forever... 974 00:55:08,221 --> 00:55:09,681 -Yeah. -...you know? And not just forever, 975 00:55:09,764 --> 00:55:11,266 -but forever, forever, forever, you know? -Forever. 976 00:55:11,391 --> 00:55:13,768 And it used to kinda-- And it'd, like, keep me up. 977 00:55:13,935 --> 00:55:15,520 You know, it was this, like, 978 00:55:16,354 --> 00:55:17,939 just that complete empty, nothing, 979 00:55:18,231 --> 00:55:19,649 gone kind of idea. 980 00:55:20,400 --> 00:55:21,693 Scared the hell out of me. 981 00:55:21,818 --> 00:55:24,070 The reality is, as we know, that it could be at any point in time... 982 00:55:24,195 --> 00:55:25,739 -Yeah. -...right? You know, often people 983 00:55:25,822 --> 00:55:28,658 think about the end of life as some faraway notion. 984 00:55:29,034 --> 00:55:31,202 Like it's something that happens out there, over there 985 00:55:31,328 --> 00:55:33,413 and it comes far sooner than most people are ready for, 986 00:55:33,663 --> 00:55:38,585 which is why opportunities like this one, to be present to mortality, is so useful. 987 00:55:39,836 --> 00:55:42,130 What would you say the biggest thing you've learned 988 00:55:42,339 --> 00:55:44,466 through talking to people at the end of their days? 989 00:55:49,512 --> 00:55:52,140 Being with somebody 990 00:55:52,599 --> 00:55:54,684 as they have just stopped breathing, 991 00:55:55,185 --> 00:55:57,437 to feel the incredible stillness in the room 992 00:55:57,562 --> 00:55:59,064 after life has just left a body, 993 00:55:59,814 --> 00:56:02,859 is the most simple, yet the most profound. 994 00:56:03,276 --> 00:56:06,821 In that life really does hang on a single breath. 995 00:56:07,238 --> 00:56:09,199 It's there one minute and then it's gone the next. 996 00:56:09,699 --> 00:56:12,911 And when it's gone, it reminds me that I still have 997 00:56:13,036 --> 00:56:17,248 the capacity to breathe, and to live, and to be engaged, and to love, 998 00:56:17,332 --> 00:56:18,875 and to laugh, and to... 999 00:56:19,084 --> 00:56:21,086 be joyful, and to wear color, and to... 1000 00:56:21,252 --> 00:56:23,338 -Yeah, yeah. -...hug, and, you know, dance, 1001 00:56:23,505 --> 00:56:25,465 and to live, to live. 1002 00:56:25,757 --> 00:56:26,674 Yeah. 1003 00:56:27,300 --> 00:56:28,385 That's beautiful. 1004 00:56:30,136 --> 00:56:32,847 Later on, today, we're gonna do a death-bed meditation. 1005 00:56:33,056 --> 00:56:34,933 -Mm. -Get you closer to your death. 1006 00:56:35,225 --> 00:56:37,560 (CHUCKLES) Okay, great. 1007 00:56:37,977 --> 00:56:40,355 For now, there's somebody I want you to meet before we do that. 1008 00:56:40,772 --> 00:56:41,648 -Okay. -You ready? 1009 00:56:41,815 --> 00:56:42,774 -Yeah. -Let's go. 1010 00:56:46,194 --> 00:56:49,280 ALUA: One of the benefits for somebody as young and as vital as Chris 1011 00:56:49,406 --> 00:56:53,701 to be talking and thinking about death is that it really does drive home 1012 00:56:53,868 --> 00:56:57,288 the conversation that this is possible for anybody at any time. 1013 00:56:58,498 --> 00:56:59,916 -Natalie. -Hello, Chris. 1014 00:57:00,792 --> 00:57:04,045 But that young people also become sick. 1015 00:57:05,046 --> 00:57:06,714 Saw you in art class the other day. 1016 00:57:06,965 --> 00:57:07,966 Yeah. Hi. 1017 00:57:08,174 --> 00:57:10,552 Hi. Alua said that we should speak. 1018 00:57:10,844 --> 00:57:13,763 Yeah. Well, I'm here to tell you about my experience 1019 00:57:13,847 --> 00:57:14,764 with stage-four cancer. 1020 00:57:15,598 --> 00:57:18,935 And to be honest, I don't know how much time I have left. 1021 00:57:19,644 --> 00:57:20,895 I'm 27 now. 1022 00:57:21,271 --> 00:57:25,608 But when I was 20, I was diagnosed with stage-three melanoma. 1023 00:57:26,568 --> 00:57:28,820 It got into my lymph nodes. 1024 00:57:29,112 --> 00:57:30,905 And so, surgery was my only option. 1025 00:57:30,989 --> 00:57:34,117 So, they cut off my toe, they got rid of all my lymph nodes. 1026 00:57:34,325 --> 00:57:37,328 And for a 20-year-old, you can imagine, your life got turned upside-down. 1027 00:57:37,787 --> 00:57:39,038 -Yeah. -And... 1028 00:57:39,664 --> 00:57:42,959 from there on, I have thought about death every single day of my life. 1029 00:57:45,795 --> 00:57:49,757 No one at 20 expects to be diagnosed with cancer. 1030 00:57:51,968 --> 00:57:55,430 No one prepares you for a diagnosis like that. 1031 00:57:56,097 --> 00:57:59,684 And especially, like, the effects it has on your family, 1032 00:57:59,767 --> 00:58:03,438 and your friends, and my whole world changed, pretty much, 1033 00:58:03,813 --> 00:58:05,356 like, overnight. 1034 00:58:09,736 --> 00:58:11,821 Cancer became my overall identity. 1035 00:58:14,240 --> 00:58:16,451 Essentially, I was referred to as the sick one. 1036 00:58:17,577 --> 00:58:20,330 For a little while there, I was-- I was really lost. 1037 00:58:20,872 --> 00:58:23,791 And I needed to find that person who I once was before. 1038 00:58:23,958 --> 00:58:25,251 Yeah. 1039 00:58:26,878 --> 00:58:29,047 NATALIE: And so, off I went, I went to Venice. 1040 00:58:29,172 --> 00:58:34,469 Not to run away, more to be in a place where no one knew my story, 1041 00:58:34,594 --> 00:58:39,516 so I could truly figure out myself and how to live alongside this cancer. 1042 00:58:40,850 --> 00:58:43,937 And I met a boy, I fell in love. 1043 00:58:47,815 --> 00:58:49,984 And he just saw me for me, which was, honestly, 1044 00:58:50,193 --> 00:58:51,277 really, really beautiful. 1045 00:58:56,366 --> 00:58:59,786 Alexander is genuine and kind. 1046 00:59:00,245 --> 00:59:03,289 And I've often referred to him as my oak tree. 1047 00:59:05,250 --> 00:59:09,379 He's the person who's just standing steadfast and he keeps me steady. 1048 00:59:13,299 --> 00:59:16,719 When you have cancer, you don't know if you can be loved. 1049 00:59:17,387 --> 00:59:20,848 And your relationship with love and yourself... 1050 00:59:23,184 --> 00:59:24,561 pretty much goes out of the window. 1051 00:59:25,478 --> 00:59:26,896 Love is the most 1052 00:59:28,273 --> 00:59:29,857 amazing thing that we have, 1053 00:59:30,400 --> 00:59:32,360 and that we can experience in this world. 1054 00:59:32,694 --> 00:59:35,572 And the fact that I get to experience his love, you know... 1055 00:59:36,823 --> 00:59:39,576 he makes me so happy. 1056 00:59:40,285 --> 00:59:41,452 And these are happy tears. 1057 00:59:42,912 --> 00:59:47,542 But three months into our love story, I came home, 1058 00:59:47,667 --> 00:59:52,255 and I had a routine scan, and they told me that the cancer was back in my lungs. 1059 00:59:52,839 --> 00:59:54,299 And now, I was stage four. 1060 00:59:55,675 --> 00:59:57,010 So, I told him. 1061 00:59:57,594 --> 00:59:59,304 And then I said, "I'm breaking up with you." 1062 00:59:59,804 --> 01:00:01,806 And he just turned around 1063 01:00:01,889 --> 01:00:04,684 and was like, "No." And he was like, 1064 01:00:06,352 --> 01:00:07,604 "I'm in this." 1065 01:00:09,814 --> 01:00:12,817 And he says, "I choose all the time with you that I have. 1066 01:00:13,526 --> 01:00:15,945 It doesn't matter if it's long, if it's short. 1067 01:00:16,863 --> 01:00:18,156 Well, I choose you." 1068 01:00:24,954 --> 01:00:28,541 It's probably because of my diagnosis of the way that I look at time. 1069 01:00:29,959 --> 01:00:32,587 The time that anybody has is so precious. 1070 01:00:32,795 --> 01:00:38,718 So, if you just dive in headfirst, and use whatever time that you have 1071 01:00:38,801 --> 01:00:42,597 because nobody knows their timelines. So, we're just going to love each other. 1072 01:00:44,223 --> 01:00:45,975 And we're gonna love each other no matter what. 1073 01:00:46,643 --> 01:00:48,227 No matter how much time we have left. 1074 01:00:50,521 --> 01:00:52,607 CHRIS: You know, we talked about acceptance. 1075 01:00:53,274 --> 01:00:58,529 How are you with-- with acceptance? With that word or with the idea of it? 1076 01:00:58,946 --> 01:01:02,158 I've thought about death every single day for the past seven years. 1077 01:01:02,825 --> 01:01:04,577 Have I accepted my mortality? 1078 01:01:05,620 --> 01:01:06,788 Yes and no. 1079 01:01:08,748 --> 01:01:12,335 I think people have a very funny relationship with aging, 1080 01:01:12,502 --> 01:01:13,419 they get really scared of it. 1081 01:01:14,045 --> 01:01:16,631 But in truth, I would love to age. 1082 01:01:16,798 --> 01:01:18,716 I would love nothing more than to get old, 1083 01:01:19,133 --> 01:01:20,426 and I think that's a gift. 1084 01:01:25,223 --> 01:01:27,642 We're all-- we're all gonna die one day. 1085 01:01:27,934 --> 01:01:31,521 So, you have to really live life as much as like you can and enjoy it. 1086 01:01:32,438 --> 01:01:34,482 To soak up every single moment. 1087 01:01:35,149 --> 01:01:36,317 -Yeah. -CHRIS: Yeah. 1088 01:01:41,447 --> 01:01:43,324 NATALIE: Your life could end at any time. 1089 01:01:43,825 --> 01:01:46,828 So just enjoy life, enjoy time, 1090 01:01:47,787 --> 01:01:48,996 make the most of it. 1091 01:01:49,539 --> 01:01:51,457 And love as much as you can. 1092 01:02:10,643 --> 01:02:13,813 CHRIS: This is a heartbreaking experience, talking to Natalie 1093 01:02:14,605 --> 01:02:16,816 and listening to her story and-- and... 1094 01:02:18,025 --> 01:02:19,235 hearing someone... 1095 01:02:20,445 --> 01:02:23,197 talk with such grace and-- and maturity 1096 01:02:24,240 --> 01:02:27,410 about something so, so uncertain is, 1097 01:02:28,119 --> 01:02:29,203 is really inspiring. 1098 01:02:30,163 --> 01:02:32,915 (SOMBER MUSIC PLAYING) 1099 01:02:45,386 --> 01:02:46,554 -Hello. -Good to see you. 1100 01:02:46,679 --> 01:02:48,139 -How are you? -I'm great, man. 1101 01:02:49,515 --> 01:02:50,808 How was your chat with Natalie? 1102 01:02:51,142 --> 01:02:52,977 Yeah, an incredible individual. 1103 01:02:53,060 --> 01:02:54,020 Could you feel that-- 1104 01:02:54,687 --> 01:02:57,315 this idea that there-- tomorrow isn't guaranteed? 1105 01:02:57,482 --> 01:02:58,441 Yeah. 1106 01:02:58,775 --> 01:03:01,527 There's no certainty around that at all. Do you feel that? 1107 01:03:01,944 --> 01:03:03,154 Absolutely. Yeah. 1108 01:03:03,321 --> 01:03:04,614 There was this sort of... 1109 01:03:05,114 --> 01:03:07,283 essential need to, sort of, shake the world 1110 01:03:07,450 --> 01:03:10,286 and get this message out and say, "Do not mess around, 1111 01:03:10,411 --> 01:03:11,621 do not take it for granted. 1112 01:03:12,246 --> 01:03:13,247 Soak up every moment." 1113 01:03:13,372 --> 01:03:15,708 And that is sort of the running theme I've sort of felt with people. 1114 01:03:15,917 --> 01:03:17,293 Yeah, it's also to kinda... 1115 01:03:17,877 --> 01:03:18,753 weave together 1116 01:03:19,086 --> 01:03:21,214 in a sort of-- a-- a better understanding of it all. 1117 01:03:21,798 --> 01:03:22,882 So, 1118 01:03:23,341 --> 01:03:27,595 we have come to the end of the-- of your time at Sunset Pines, brother. 1119 01:03:28,095 --> 01:03:31,641 All that's left for you to do is walk through that door. 1120 01:03:32,934 --> 01:03:34,143 And... 1121 01:03:35,019 --> 01:03:38,022 whatever you find there, just go with it. 1122 01:03:38,356 --> 01:03:39,273 Okay. 1123 01:03:42,109 --> 01:03:45,071 This is the boldest part of this whole experiment. 1124 01:03:46,697 --> 01:03:48,407 Thanks, brother. (CHUCKLES) 1125 01:03:48,658 --> 01:03:51,369 We are going to push our immersive theater 1126 01:03:51,494 --> 01:03:52,620 to its limits. 1127 01:03:53,287 --> 01:03:54,372 All right. 1128 01:04:02,046 --> 01:04:04,006 -(TENSE MUSIC PLAYING) -(GASPS) 1129 01:04:04,257 --> 01:04:05,424 We're gonna get you to the hospital. 1130 01:04:06,175 --> 01:04:08,344 Cardiac arrest, 180 over 120. 1131 01:04:08,719 --> 01:04:09,637 Let's go, let's go. 1132 01:04:11,681 --> 01:04:12,890 Oxygen running. Breathe deep. 1133 01:04:13,391 --> 01:04:15,351 (INDISTINCT SHOUTING) 1134 01:04:18,104 --> 01:04:19,230 MALE VOICE: Chris, Chris! 1135 01:04:19,397 --> 01:04:21,649 -Chris, can you hear me? -I'm not getting a pulse. Get clear. 1136 01:04:21,732 --> 01:04:23,442 -Clothing clear. -(PADDLES CHARGING) 1137 01:04:24,443 --> 01:04:25,945 (SOUND ENDS ABRUPTLY) 1138 01:04:41,252 --> 01:04:43,963 -ALUA: That was intense, huh? -CHRIS: Yeah, very strange. 1139 01:04:44,213 --> 01:04:45,840 -ALUA: Quite the experience. -CHRIS: It was-- Yeah, yeah. 1140 01:04:45,923 --> 01:04:47,508 ALUA: Well, you know if you're seeing me at this point, 1141 01:04:47,592 --> 01:04:49,510 things probably didn't go according to plan. 1142 01:04:49,760 --> 01:04:50,887 CHRIS: Yeah. 1143 01:04:51,178 --> 01:04:53,097 So, we're going to do the death meditation now. 1144 01:04:53,472 --> 01:04:57,268 The intention for this meditation is to bring you into greater awareness 1145 01:04:57,643 --> 01:05:01,022 of the end of your life and also to create renewed engagement 1146 01:05:01,105 --> 01:05:02,940 -with life as it is. -Yeah. 1147 01:05:03,232 --> 01:05:04,859 So, you can begin by closing your eyes. 1148 01:05:08,446 --> 01:05:10,031 And now take a deep breath in. 1149 01:05:10,406 --> 01:05:12,199 (INHALES) 1150 01:05:12,408 --> 01:05:14,994 ALUA: Repeat to yourself, "My death is inevitable." 1151 01:05:15,703 --> 01:05:16,829 "My death is inevitable." 1152 01:05:16,996 --> 01:05:19,206 ALUA: On the out-breath, "I too will die." 1153 01:05:19,624 --> 01:05:21,083 "I too will die." 1154 01:05:22,084 --> 01:05:24,378 (EXHALES) 1155 01:05:27,048 --> 01:05:28,799 ALUA: We're going to take you on a journey. 1156 01:05:29,467 --> 01:05:32,261 Everyone you've met and everything you've done 1157 01:05:32,553 --> 01:05:34,055 has been leading to this. 1158 01:05:38,059 --> 01:05:39,435 On the in-breath, 1159 01:05:40,978 --> 01:05:43,439 -you will grow old. -(ECHOES) You will grow old. 1160 01:05:45,149 --> 01:05:48,361 ALUA: And on the out-breath, repeat, "Your body will fail." 1161 01:05:49,028 --> 01:05:50,696 CHRIS: Your body will fail. 1162 01:05:55,284 --> 01:05:57,912 GARY: Once you've learned to accept 1163 01:05:59,664 --> 01:06:04,502 you can actually find something even deeper and more valuable. 1164 01:06:16,013 --> 01:06:18,766 (EXHALES) 1165 01:06:23,145 --> 01:06:26,941 ALUA: On the in-breath, "You will lose the people you love." 1166 01:06:27,066 --> 01:06:29,610 AISEA: "You will lose the people you love." 1167 01:06:30,027 --> 01:06:32,238 CHRIS: You will lose the people you love. 1168 01:06:33,239 --> 01:06:37,660 ALUA: And on the out-breath, repeat... "Grief is beautiful." 1169 01:06:37,743 --> 01:06:39,453 AISEA: Grief is beautiful. 1170 01:06:44,500 --> 01:06:49,463 ALUA: On the in-breath, "Your life could end at any time." 1171 01:06:49,547 --> 01:06:51,132 NATALIE: Your life could end at any time. 1172 01:06:51,298 --> 01:06:53,175 CHRIS: Your life could end at any time. 1173 01:06:53,801 --> 01:06:55,594 -ALUA: "You too, will die." -NATALIE: "You, too, will die." 1174 01:06:55,970 --> 01:06:57,221 CHRIS: You, too, will die. 1175 01:06:58,389 --> 01:07:00,933 (BIRDS CHIRPING) 1176 01:07:01,892 --> 01:07:03,686 NATALIE: He is my oak tree. 1177 01:07:04,228 --> 01:07:07,606 (SLOW TEMPO MUSIC PLAYING) 1178 01:07:07,940 --> 01:07:09,817 NATALIE: Just enjoy time... 1179 01:07:12,486 --> 01:07:14,530 And love as much as you can. 1180 01:07:16,282 --> 01:07:19,910 (MUSIC CONTINUES) 1181 01:07:27,418 --> 01:07:30,713 ALUA: As you see yourself on your deathbed now in your mind's eye, 1182 01:07:32,423 --> 01:07:35,051 look closely at who is surrounding your bedside. 1183 01:07:36,552 --> 01:07:38,095 Who is holding your hand? 1184 01:07:43,100 --> 01:07:45,061 Your body is weakening... 1185 01:07:47,063 --> 01:07:48,647 and you're beginning to dissolve. 1186 01:07:48,981 --> 01:07:54,028 (MUSIC CONTINUES) 1187 01:07:57,948 --> 01:07:59,909 ALUA: Release attachment to Elsa. 1188 01:08:00,951 --> 01:08:02,369 (CHUCKLES) 1189 01:08:04,246 --> 01:08:07,458 (CHILDREN LAUGHING) 1190 01:08:07,708 --> 01:08:09,710 ALUA: Release attachment to your children. 1191 01:08:16,050 --> 01:08:18,177 Your loved ones cannot save you. 1192 01:08:24,934 --> 01:08:26,852 You will create no new memories. 1193 01:08:31,232 --> 01:08:32,566 Now you surrender... 1194 01:08:33,734 --> 01:08:35,653 and release into death. 1195 01:08:42,409 --> 01:08:46,997 And you find yourself gaining acceptance that one day your life will end. 1196 01:08:49,500 --> 01:08:50,960 You may open your eyes 1197 01:08:51,585 --> 01:08:52,962 and blow out this candle. 1198 01:09:05,391 --> 01:09:09,019 (MUSIC ENDS) 1199 01:09:31,417 --> 01:09:33,002 -Hello. -BJ: Hey. (CHUCKLES) 1200 01:09:33,252 --> 01:09:34,670 Hey! Come here. 1201 01:09:35,045 --> 01:09:36,380 Yeah, come on. 1202 01:09:36,547 --> 01:09:38,215 (BOTH CHUCKLE) 1203 01:09:39,425 --> 01:09:41,177 Come on. Have a seat. 1204 01:09:42,761 --> 01:09:43,929 Either way. 1205 01:09:45,055 --> 01:09:46,724 -(CHRIS GRUNTS) -(BJ CLEARS THROAT) 1206 01:09:50,352 --> 01:09:52,605 Another unique experience. 1207 01:09:52,771 --> 01:09:53,939 How was it? How'd you find it? 1208 01:09:54,899 --> 01:09:57,193 It felt really peaceful. It just felt... 1209 01:09:57,818 --> 01:10:00,196 It didn't feel intimidating, 1210 01:10:00,321 --> 01:10:04,533 it felt sort of like I was off floating down a river or something, you know? 1211 01:10:05,743 --> 01:10:08,704 Onto the next place, wherever that was. And... 1212 01:10:09,455 --> 01:10:10,331 It's just-- 1213 01:10:10,456 --> 01:10:13,834 When you said, "Think of the place you'd be or you wanna be. 1214 01:10:13,959 --> 01:10:16,045 Who would be around you when you're dying, when it's happening." 1215 01:10:16,795 --> 01:10:19,006 And I was just imagining myself in my living room with all my family 1216 01:10:19,173 --> 01:10:20,341 and friends around and-- 1217 01:10:20,841 --> 01:10:22,384 and then it sort of struck me, I was like, 1218 01:10:23,135 --> 01:10:25,179 "This is what I have all the time." Like... 1219 01:10:25,346 --> 01:10:27,223 -how lucky I am, you know? -BJ: Right on. 1220 01:10:27,473 --> 01:10:28,849 -Yeah, absolutely. -Yeah. 1221 01:10:30,100 --> 01:10:33,229 It's a very familiar place and experience for me. 1222 01:10:34,063 --> 01:10:37,274 And it doesn't feel lonely at all, it feels... 1223 01:10:40,569 --> 01:10:41,946 it feels like any other Sunday, 1224 01:10:44,406 --> 01:10:46,367 when I'm surrounded by loved ones. 1225 01:10:48,494 --> 01:10:50,746 Oh, the-- the conversation we'd have in the last couple of days 1226 01:10:51,080 --> 01:10:55,000 about, you know, just feeling like I've been missing things 1227 01:10:55,167 --> 01:10:56,961 or doing too much, and I just had a moment of 1228 01:10:57,836 --> 01:10:58,879 kind of calm and... 1229 01:10:59,880 --> 01:11:01,465 pause about it all, and thought, 1230 01:11:02,466 --> 01:11:04,760 it's-- it's all great, sure I can do things differently, 1231 01:11:04,843 --> 01:11:09,223 but not to look at anything past as it having been a mistake 1232 01:11:09,390 --> 01:11:10,683 or being done wrong. 1233 01:11:10,808 --> 01:11:13,394 And then, that sort of strange parallel with 1234 01:11:14,144 --> 01:11:15,854 this idea of acceptance of death 1235 01:11:16,105 --> 01:11:19,108 and letting go, and also with life and letting go, 1236 01:11:19,650 --> 01:11:22,194 and doesn't mean you let go of the steering wheel completely, 1237 01:11:22,278 --> 01:11:26,282 but just kind of enjoying the ride and enjoying the view, you know? 1238 01:11:27,032 --> 01:11:30,536 There's something very peaceful about that-- that acceptance. 1239 01:11:30,744 --> 01:11:33,247 And maybe it's fun the circle back to this Sunset Pines. 1240 01:11:33,414 --> 01:11:37,126 This sort of, what feels maybe like a tacky tagline. 1241 01:11:37,543 --> 01:11:39,586 "Sunset Pines, where we live every day to the fullest." 1242 01:11:39,712 --> 01:11:43,340 -But the clue is in that title all along. -Yeah. 1243 01:11:43,632 --> 01:11:46,135 -(UPBEAT MUSIC PLAYING) -(ALL CHUCKLING) 1244 01:11:47,428 --> 01:11:49,555 SOPHIA: Welcome, Mr. Hemsworth, to Sunset Pines, 1245 01:11:49,722 --> 01:11:51,181 where we live every day to the fullest. 1246 01:11:51,432 --> 01:11:54,727 Welcome to Sunset Pines, where we live every day to the fullest. 1247 01:11:54,935 --> 01:11:57,980 Welcome to Sunset Pines, where we live every day to the fullest. 1248 01:11:58,188 --> 01:11:59,106 Thank you. 1249 01:12:01,066 --> 01:12:03,319 Hello. (CHUCKLES) 1250 01:12:03,819 --> 01:12:07,489 That was the real instruction. "Live every day to the fullest." 1251 01:12:07,906 --> 01:12:09,616 -You all right? (CHUCKLES) -You all right? 1252 01:12:10,159 --> 01:12:11,160 How was it? 1253 01:12:11,368 --> 01:12:13,287 It was awesome. It's pretty-- pretty special. 1254 01:12:13,537 --> 01:12:15,289 You can do it. It only takes three days. 1255 01:12:15,456 --> 01:12:16,915 -Yeah, yeah. -(BJ CHUCKLES) 1256 01:12:17,541 --> 01:12:20,794 BJ: We tend to treat life as this right that we have. 1257 01:12:21,337 --> 01:12:23,255 And that by virtue of being born, 1258 01:12:23,380 --> 01:12:26,216 we have a right to life, we have a right to a tomorrow. 1259 01:12:26,717 --> 01:12:28,510 No. Life is a gift. 1260 01:12:28,802 --> 01:12:30,637 Another day is a gift. 1261 01:12:30,929 --> 01:12:33,349 -Before you go, can you sign my picture? -Sure. 1262 01:12:33,432 --> 01:12:35,851 (ALL CHUCKLE) 1263 01:12:36,101 --> 01:12:40,105 A full life is one that includes death, includes pain. 1264 01:12:41,482 --> 01:12:44,902 But if we can be grateful for yet another minute 1265 01:12:44,985 --> 01:12:47,988 on this beautiful, crazy planet. Imagine that. 1266 01:12:50,991 --> 01:12:52,743 Hey! 1267 01:12:53,202 --> 01:12:56,830 -(LAUGHS) -(MUSIC CONTINUES) 1268 01:13:00,084 --> 01:13:02,461 -This is my oak tree. -(BOTH CHUCKLE) 1269 01:13:03,045 --> 01:13:04,713 -Indy, quick, quick, quick. -ALUA: Life doesn't come 1270 01:13:04,963 --> 01:13:05,964 at some point in the future, 1271 01:13:06,131 --> 01:13:09,051 when you finally find that person, or lose that weight, 1272 01:13:09,134 --> 01:13:12,721 or stop working so much, or get that job, or whatever it is, 1273 01:13:12,846 --> 01:13:15,140 it's happening right now. You're in it. 1274 01:13:15,432 --> 01:13:16,350 You're living it. 1275 01:13:16,517 --> 01:13:17,726 -Thank you, buddy. -BJ: All right, see you. 1276 01:13:17,851 --> 01:13:19,853 CHRIS: The truth is that we're not limitless. 1277 01:13:19,937 --> 01:13:20,813 Thanks, guys. 1278 01:13:20,938 --> 01:13:23,399 This experience has come at the right time for me. 1279 01:13:23,524 --> 01:13:26,693 At a time in my life where I really wanna focus on what matters. 1280 01:13:27,152 --> 01:13:29,655 (MUSIC CONTINUES) 1281 01:13:32,074 --> 01:13:33,492 CHRIS: And it all matters. 1282 01:13:35,327 --> 01:13:36,370 Every moment. 1283 01:13:36,787 --> 01:13:37,788 (ALL CHEERING) 1284 01:13:37,913 --> 01:13:40,916 CHRIS: Every smile. Every tear. 1285 01:13:41,458 --> 01:13:43,585 -Daddy! -CHRIS: Every kiss. 1286 01:13:44,128 --> 01:13:46,004 -All of it. -(YELLS) 1287 01:13:47,923 --> 01:13:49,216 This has brought you joy? 1288 01:13:49,425 --> 01:13:50,717 -Absolutely. -Excellent. 1289 01:13:51,510 --> 01:13:52,886 -Hey, Chris! -(LAUGHS) 1290 01:13:54,930 --> 01:13:57,182 CHRIS: Living my longest, healthiest, happiest life. 1291 01:13:57,349 --> 01:13:59,601 That's gonna be the work of a lifetime. 1292 01:13:59,726 --> 01:14:00,853 (MUSIC ENDS) 1293 01:14:01,770 --> 01:14:03,147 (CHUCKLES) 1294 01:14:03,939 --> 01:14:05,190 CHRIS: Tell you what. That's a wrap. 1295 01:14:05,399 --> 01:14:07,734 (APPLAUSE, CHEERING) 1296 01:14:08,318 --> 01:14:09,695 Well done, everybody. 1297 01:14:10,487 --> 01:14:11,697 MALE VOICE: Jake, cut! 1298 01:14:12,197 --> 01:14:16,410 (JUBILANT MUSIC PLAYING) 1299 01:14:53,780 --> 01:14:56,074 -(MUSIC ENDS) -(CHEERING) 107217

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