All language subtitles for 35 - Being a Role Model English

Being a great role model is terrific.

One of my ambitions in life is to take women out of role model hell so they don't feel that everything

they do is going to impact other women's careers.

But one of the most important things I think we can do is to support each other and intervene when we

see these things happening.

There were multiple times where in a meeting what she had done was not acknowledged.

And one of the most powerful things we can do, and it's really important for other women, but it's

important for ourselves.

It's important for men.

It's important for creating a culture in which women can be recognized is when someone says something

it doesn't, it goes right by to say, hey, I noticed that I made this point.

I think we need to respond to that to just be the one who speaks up and holds other people to account.

Because guess what?

A lot of times it's not a malign thing.

They're just not noticing in the female vision.

The book I did before this, one of the things we found, which is a really important point, women's

brains are processing more information at the same time, whereas men's are operating more like laser

going on from one point to the next.

So when you're expecting men and who have that laser light notice to be noticing what you're contributing.

Good luck with that.

They're focused on what they are doing.

They're focused on what they're not reading the room to see who is getting ignored like a lot of women

do, so that it's really important to be able to do those kinds of interventions and to do them with

good will.

Not like to just see him.

He can't listen to anything a woman says.

No, maybe he was doing something else.

But hey, did you notice that she made this contribution?

So when you do that, you do it over and over and you can do it in groups.

You begin to create a culture where it's easier to recognize what women contribute.

I think many of us have had that kind of experience, and that's the classic double bind that keeps

getting that is constantly written about, you know, that it's it lands one way when a man says it

and it can land another way when a woman says it.

And I think the most important thing to do when that happens is to not then automatically back off and

think he doesn't support me, he doesn't support women.

He's part of the old guys network.

I'm never going to make I'm never going to make an impact on this guy to be there.

Thank you.

Like Marcia would say, thank you for that feedback.

I feel that what I've said is, is really important and that there is value for you and for your team

in understanding the contributions that I've made.

So I am going to continue to do that and I'm going to continue to do that in a way that that you may

find comfortable or you may find uncomfortable.

I'm going to search for a way to make you comfortable, to help you be comfortable, not make you to

help you be comfortable with hearing this information.

And I hope to find it.

But even if I don't, I am going to continue sharing this.