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What was that like,
living like a monk?

Yes, you wake up at 4:00 a.m.
every day.

You sleep on the floor
on, like, this thin, tiny mat.

And all of your possessions
fit into a gym locker.

♪♪♪

Today I'm talking to an author,
podcaster,

and award-winning storyteller.

He's on a mission to spread the
riches of wisdom and gratitude.

And, like me, he's
always striving

for balance of mind,
body, and spirit.

I'm so excited to welcome
Jay Shetty.

Welcome, Jay.

Thank you so
much for coming.

From what I understand,

you started in finance,

and you ended up
becoming a monk?

- Like--
- That's...[ laughs ]

How does that happen?

When I was 18
I'd met people who were rich.

I'd met people who were
beautiful and attractive.

I'd met people
who were strong and powerful.

I'd met people who were
intellectual and smart.

But I don't think I'd ever met
anyone who was truly happy.

Mm.

And when I met a monk, he
just exuded joy and happiness.

And he said that
we experience that

when we use all of our talents
and gifts to serve others.

- Mm.
- And I thought to myself,

I want that.

What was that like,
living like a monk?

Yes, you wake up at 4:00 a.m.
every day.

- Wow.
- You sleep on the floor

on, like, this thin, tiny mat.

And all of your possessions--

literally everything
from in your wardrobe--

fits into a gym locker.

That is not my life anymore
today, but that's how it was.

Half your day is spent on the
self, on working on yourself,

and the other half is service.

So you start your morning
with your personal prayer,

your personal meditations,

working on your inner world,

and then, for the rest of the
day, you work in the outer
world,

so you're feeding
homeless children,

you're working on charities,
philanthropic projects,

and so you get this perfect
balance between self and
service.

♪♪♪

You recently released
your very first book...

What was the
motivation behind it?

I think for me it was
to help people understand

that you don't
have to live like a monk

to think like a monk.

- I love that.
- Monks have been shown

to have the happiest, calmest,

most compassionate brains
on the planet.

And so I thought,
if I could show people

the practices,
the easy tools and techniques,

and the tips that they could
start right now

to experience that

without having to live
as a monk for three years.

Then that was the
goal of the book.

What are a few simple things
that everyone can do on their
own

to start living a happier
and healthier life?

I'm gonna give you
four really simple ones.

So the first one,
which is probably my favorite,

and you can do it
through journaling as well,

- is thankfulness or gratitude.
- Mm-hmm.

The most amazing thing
about thankfulness and gratitude

is not just feeling it
or experiencing it,

but it's when we share it
in a specific way,

not only does the person
receiving it

feel a great sense of happiness,

but the person
giving it ourselves,

we feel a deeper sense of joy
as well.

- Mm.
- So that's the first one.

The second one is inspiration.

It's doing something
that inspires you every day.

How amazing would it be

if the first thing
you saw in the morning

was a painting
that inspired you,

or a quote or a prayer
that you loved,

or a mantra or an affirmation

that made you feel like you were
starting your day off right?

The third one is meditation.

Meditation at the simplest way,
if anyone struggled with it
before,

is just spending
time with yourself.

- Mm-hmm.
- And so I really feel

like if you can find
one thing to do a day

where you get to know yourself
a little better,

then that's the beginning

of a lot of people's
meditation journey.

- Mm.
- And then the final one

is exercising.

When I say exercising, I don't
mean the gym or the treadmill.

- I mean dance parties.
- Yeah.

I mean whatever it could be,

like whether it's a sport
that you love.

I just think it's important
for us to move every day,

so that spells the word "time,"
so it's easy to remember.

"T" for thankfulness,
"I" for inspiration,

"M" for meditation,
and "E" for exercise.

♪♪♪

You seem like a
spiritual person.

Where do you think religion
ties into this, if at all?

For me, spirituality is like
the heart of religion.

- Yes.
- What I was taught as a monk,

the word spiritual means
the spirit behind the ritual.

So it's the essence,
the reason why you do it,

that brings you joy.

And so I think, as long as we're
seeking the divine in
everything,

then we'll actually
be able to learn

from all the different
traditions and all the different
parts

and bring them together

because I think that any path

that is giving you that
opportunity to do that

is beautiful,
and it should be welcome.

It's so inclusive,

and as I've been on this
spiritual journey myself,

I found that, when you pick a
flower from here and a flower
from there,

you end up with a bouquet
and a beautiful life.

- Absolutely.
- What's one thing you hope

our viewers take away
from this conversation?

I feel like we really get
caught up right now

in always feeling
like we're ahead or behind.

- Mm.
- So we always feel like, "Oh,

I haven't got married yet"
or "I haven't got promoted yet"

or "I'm not living my passion
yet" or "I haven't found the one
yet."

And we always feel
ahead or behind.

And I think if everyone was
able to understand

that they're exactly
where they need to be,

I think if we could just
breathe that in

and just sit with that

and be like, "I've got
everything I need right now

- to become who I want to be..."
- Mm-hmm.

And if we start there,

then we won't waste
so much time and energy

on comparing ourselves.

That's so beautiful.
Thank you so much.

Thank you. Thank you.