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♪ Move in the wind ♪
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♪ Let's enjoy how it all begins ♪
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♪ Yeah, yeah ♪
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♪ Oh, my gosh, Bobby ♪
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♪ Who are we doing this week? ♪
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♪ We are doing Wesley ♪
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-Cute!
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So, Wesley is 30 years old,
and he is from Kansas City, Missouri.
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-He is a community activist.
-Love an activist.
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-Love an activist that's giving back.
-Birds of a feather.
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Wesley is a single father
to a ten-year-old girl named Nevaeh.
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Which is "heaven" spelled backwards.
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-I love that.
- Cute.
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Um, he was nominated by his mama,
Dawn Henderson.
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I am nominating Wesley
because he's an awesome young man.
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Woo!
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He made it when I didn't think he could.
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Come on, Mike. A little faster, baby.
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Wesley started a foundation to give
awareness of people with disabilities.
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Disabled But Not Really.
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We do programs based on
fitness and nutrition
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that helps instill
a physical limitless mindset.
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He doesn't let
that chair define who he is.
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I became a bad boy at a young age.
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I remember wanting to fit in,
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wanting to look like everybody else.
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And being inspired and motivated by
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the only role models I could,
which were drug dealers in my community.
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I was gonna live my life
as reckless as I could,
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because I knew that
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eventuallyI was gonna die
or I was gonna go to jail.
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Five days after my 24th birthday,
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I was shot multiple times in my abdomen.
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They turned to me...
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and said,
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"He's paralyzed from the waist down".
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That was the worst day of my life.
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Two years of bedridden.
Just up a couple of hours a day.
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I cried so much.
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I remember many nights
of just beating my legs up
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because I just thought
they were worthless.
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I hated myself.
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I couldn't be seen
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as this guy with a disability.
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Wesley lashed out.
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I just knew I couldn't leave his side.
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Hey, Daddy.
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Hey. How was school?
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Good.
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It's been a rough ride
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for seven years.
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I just want his life to be easy,
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just to be independent,
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and not have to rely on anybody.
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Actually, do the green beans.
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I found strength in my weakness.
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My daughter, she used to say
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it was my Superman chair.
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So, I gotta be Superman.
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I work out seven days a week.
I love working out.
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Like, I love working out.
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Lost a hundred pounds
while I was on bed rest.
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And I could never lose weight
when I was walking.
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He's improved so much and he came so far.
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But I believe there is
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some things that Wesley's
still holding in.
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People look at me and say,
"Still the same Wes."
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I'm ready to let go of my old life...
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and grow into my new.
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Wesley is attending a social mixer
at the end of the week.
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It's a fundraiser for his non-profit
that's called Disabled But Not Really.
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Yes, yes! Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes!
♪ Yes! ♪
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-All right, guys, our mission this week--
-Is to get Wesley to take his shirt off
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and take very many gorgeous
Instagram pictures.
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Or...
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It's to make him feel free
in both his heart and home.
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-Yeah.
-Aw! There we go.
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♪ Oh, things just keep getting better ♪
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♪ Can we finish what we started? ♪
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Oh, great job pulling in, Tan.
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-Thank you.
-Wow.
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- Ready, kids?
- Yeah,just fixing myself.
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- Come on, Karamo.
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Whoa. That can't be safe.
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- Hello there, beautiful.
- Hi.
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- How are you?
-Can I come in?
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Hi, I'm Bobby. Can I have a hug?
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-How y'all doing? What's going on?
-Bobby. Nice to meet you.
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If five grown-ups ever come
to the door like that...
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-Don't let us in.
-Don't let 'em in.
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How you doing?
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-How you doing?
-Like, the most gorgeous hair
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-just runs in this family.
-I know.
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Wesley has the biggest,
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brightest smile ever.
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You look at Wesley, you start smiling,
'cause you're like, "I wanna smile, too."
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So, this is my front room.
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- Clean. Tidy.
- It's really clean.
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'Cause if it was stuff in the way
I'd be rolling over stuff all day.
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What's the NPC Wheelchair Championship?
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Uh, bodybuilding.
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I did win first place, you know.
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Yeah, I'm with it.
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Do you now that he does pull-ups
with his chair?
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I can't even do a pull-up
without extra 30 pounds.
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I can barely do a set
with my own body weight.
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Nobody's believing that.
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It seems like it's hard for you
to maneuver around this room...
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- It is.
-...to get stuff.
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Like, there's hats over here.
How are you getting around?
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So, this is, like, very handy.
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- Oh, yeah.
-I normally just grab,
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-and then, normally, hangers fall, too.
-Yep.
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Then when I'm ready to put it back,
it don't go back.
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So, actually, I'll just set it down
on the floor.
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Wesley doesn't need anybody
to do anything for him.
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-Have you ever burnt yourself on here?
-I have burnt myself.
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-Yeah.
-And this is how I cut it on.
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But everything in this house
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makes him struggle more than he needs to.
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- Wanna see how I go in and out?
-Yeah.
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I go in...
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I never go toward the mirror
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-because I can't get up there.
-Okay.
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Um, and this is how I get out.
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So...
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-Like, literally, I cannot turn around.
-You can't turn in there at all.
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-There's no turn.
-Okay.
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We had our little election at my school,
my old school.
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Who won at your school?
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-Clinton.
-She did?
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-Yes! Two high-five.
-But...
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But then, Trump had to go ahead.
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Like, at my school,
there's rumors going around.
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Like, he voted himself.
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Secretly voted himself.
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You heard it here first.
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I love to cook.
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Like, what's the thing
that you're not able to do right now
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in the kitchen that you would love to?
Like, what's the dream?
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Maybe cooking more of a variety of foods.
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We want health to be the focus.
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Yeah, 'cause if I didn't eat right,
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I still would be the overweight,
depressed Wesley.
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-You know, food is medicine.
-But-- It's medicine!
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Doesn't it make you a happier person
when you eat a good meal
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-versus, like, a food coma?
-It do.
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I've gotta disagree.
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-I love a carb.
-This is not an example.
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America, embrace the carbs.
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I love a carb.
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-You have the little angel and the devil
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-on each of your shoulders right now.
-I'm clearly the angel.
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Because I get to eat what I want.
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What are your food weaknesses?
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Mine's cake. What's yours?
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-Mine is, like, butter and cheese.
-Okay, butter.
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Hot Cheetos.
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-Oh, my God, I love a Hot Cheeto.
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Can I keep on creeping in your kitchen?
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-Go ahead.
-Perfect.
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Before we get into your closet,
a little birdie tells me that you were...
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a bad boy.
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When I was growing up, I was bad.
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Rippin' and runnin' the streets,
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and the only thing I could do
was sell drugs.
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That was my environment.
That's what I seen.
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Did you dress like you were a bad boy?
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I didn't dress up
before my accident.
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You're more mature.
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You now are the head of this organization
that you've created.
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So, now I'm assuming it is important
for you to dress a different way
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because you need to represent. No?
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I want something to match my maturity.
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I'm trying to figure out what's Wesley.
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Is there anything that you think,
"I can't wear that,"
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or, "I don't wear that
because it's restrictive"?
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-I'm not a fan of jackets.
-Okay.
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-The reason why is because the wheels.
-Gets caught in the wheels.
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-If it's raining...
-Yeah.
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...then, next thing you know,
my jacket is completely--
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it's filthy on the sides
'cause the wheels get wet.
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Would you like to wear a jacket?
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I would love to wear a jacket.
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You might be the person
that helps me figure out what my look is.
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-No, not might. I'm sorry, you misspoke.
-Oh!
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I am the person.
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So, how long have you been rocking
your gorgeous braids and beard?
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The last time I had my hair cut
was the day I got shot.
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And I feel like I'm holding onto that day.
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-Yeah.
-Because I prefer someone saying,
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"How long have you been growing
your hair?"
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And I'm like, "Man, maybe a couple years."
But instead when you ask me,
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I'm automatically gonna say,
"The day I was shot."
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So, it's always bringing that memory back.
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-Been six years.
-Babe, I'm...
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Man, but it was the best thing
that ever happened to me.
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Sorry I felt your bicep
when you were telling your story.
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-Hi.
-Hi. Are you Dawn?
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-I'm Dawn.
-Antoni. It's so nice to meet you.
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Hi, Antoni. How you doing?
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-Lovely to meet you. Aren't you fabulous?
-Love that jacket.
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Oh, thank you so much.
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Come sit with us.
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Thank you for nominating him.
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He's a gem.
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I'm very proud of Wesley,
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'cause he could've made this
and went left.
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It was very hard to accept that
two years out of that,
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he was bedridden, right in there.
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He's 240 pounds and I had to lift him up
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and get him in the tub
so he can take a bath,
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and then try to figure out how
I'm gonna get him out of this tub.
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It's still hard today.
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Coming over to do laundry
because it's in the basement.
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I don't really wanna come over
and do that, but I have to.
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I just want things to be better for him,
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you know, so I don't have to worry.
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I've matured up so much.
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I actually figured out
who I was through this process.
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And even though, like, I love my hair,
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when people see me, they see the old me.
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They don't see the new me.
The only thing new is the beard.
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Please don't make me get rid of him.
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-No, I love my beard. I love it.
-Because I love him.
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What I hear you saying is, like,
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your hair look hasn't evolved with, like,
your inside as much.
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So you just want a little baby change,
and I'm so here for that.
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-So, let's change it. Yeah.
-I'm excited.
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All right.
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That had to have been hard for you.
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You gave up your life for seven years.
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Uh, it was a really rough.
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Really rough.
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I lost my relationship.
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I lost my house,
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just to make sure I could provide
for the things that he needed.
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You did it.
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And I don't ask for anything.
I don't ask for no help.
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I just do it.
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Has he ever said thank you?
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He don't have to say thank you.
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It's what I would have did anyway.
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- Mm.
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You are an amazing, amazing mother.
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He's such a straight boy,
247
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isn't he?
248
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-Oh, my.
-He sure is.
249
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-How are you?
-I'm great.
250
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I'm glad to finally spend some time
with you.
251
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I see this Wesley,
252
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and this Wesley is smiling,
253
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happy, amazing.
254
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And I kind of wanna know about
the Wesley before this Wesley.
255
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You know, um,
256
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I grew up on the East Side of Kansas City.
257
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I mean, it was gangs, drugs.
258
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I remember dropping out of school,
you know, riding around with guns.
259
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I mean, I was happy
when I made it past 21.
260
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I actually celebrated it
like the president's election.
261
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-Yeah.
-Twenty-one, baby.
262
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-We there.
-Yeah.
263
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So, when I got shot at 24,
264
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even though I had all these regrets
while I was laying on that ground,
265
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I mean, I was like,
"Man, at least I made it this far."
266
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Yeah.
267
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Before the moment happened
when you got shot,
268
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did you...
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did you feel like,
"Okay, there's something going down"?
270
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I was there, you know,
talking to a ex-girlfriend,
271
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and, I mean, me and her had
maybe a hostile conversation,
272
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but she had a friend over.
273
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I was actually walking back to my car.
274
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And moments after that,
275
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that friend's friend shot me.
276
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So, for me, it was more like,
"Why did it even happen?"
277
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Did you ever get answers from him
278
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or her or anyone?
279
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No, um...
280
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The guy that shot me did time,
but he's out now.
281
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I never got answers. No.
282
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But I didn't seek 'em either.
283
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I mean, you weren't perfect.
284
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-Right.
-Yeah, hearing your story,
285
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-and I can hear some gaps in there.
-Yeah.
286
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It doesn't make any of us feel good
to sit in life
287
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still questioning why something happened.
288
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I want that understanding of what I did
that put me in this position.
289
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After talking to Wesley and his mom,
290
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I realize there's been a lot of growth,
but not a lot of healing.
291
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I'mma let know right now
that if Jonathan cuts your hair,
292
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I'm going to pick it up off the ground
293
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and sew it to my head.
294
00:11:48,082 --> 00:11:49,875
-I'm just letting you know right now.
-Hey, man.
295
00:11:49,959 --> 00:11:51,252
I've never had a weave.
296
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This'll be my first.
297
00:11:52,837 --> 00:11:54,922
Did someone say they've
never had a weave?
298
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-I did.
-Emergency!
299
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-I've never had a weave.
300
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It's gonna be a frickin' awesome week.
301
00:12:02,096 --> 00:12:04,014
So, how do you feel like
we can help you?
302
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Um...
303
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I was--
304
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You know, I was paralyzed, uh,
close to seven years ago,
305
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and I figured out who I was
through this process.
306
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And I want you guys
307
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to help me become the man I am today.
308
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Tell us a bit about
the end of this week.
309
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We're having, like,
a rooftop social for my non-profit.
310
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It's all about just awareness.
311
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When I say "Disabled But Not Really,"
312
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I'm proud to say it
313
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because I'm living every part of that.
314
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- Yeah!
315
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♪ Let the rhythm take you tonight ♪
316
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♪ We can work it outUnder all the lights ♪
317
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♪ Get on the floorAnd just let go... ♪
318
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Wesley is in a place of acceptance,
319
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he's in a place of self-love.
320
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We are going to create a physical change
321
00:12:47,266 --> 00:12:50,269
that matches the inside
to who he sees on the outside.
322
00:12:51,604 --> 00:12:53,689
There's an old saying
that clothes maketh the man,
323
00:12:53,773 --> 00:12:55,858
and so I wanna find options
324
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that make him look more refined,
325
00:12:57,568 --> 00:12:58,986
make him look more professional,
326
00:12:59,069 --> 00:13:00,905
just a more polished version of Wesley.
327
00:13:02,031 --> 00:13:04,742
His home was not built
for somebody who uses a chair.
328
00:13:04,825 --> 00:13:07,453
Iwanna make sure
that Wesley's entire home
329
00:13:07,536 --> 00:13:09,538
is comfortable and works for him.
330
00:13:10,831 --> 00:13:14,710
♪ And all them stars come outWhen you're movin'... ♪
331
00:13:14,794 --> 00:13:16,921
Wesley's life is eating healthy,
332
00:13:17,004 --> 00:13:19,632
but I wanna teach Wes how to look
at his food a little differently,
333
00:13:19,715 --> 00:13:21,008
flavored a little differently.
334
00:13:21,091 --> 00:13:23,677
I just wanna expand his palate.
335
00:13:24,136 --> 00:13:26,931
Wesley has worked very hard
to create a better life for himself,
336
00:13:27,014 --> 00:13:29,266
but he hasn't truly put his past
behind him yet.
337
00:13:29,350 --> 00:13:32,061
And if I'm really gonna be able
to set him off on a new path,
338
00:13:32,144 --> 00:13:33,854
he has to get clarity about that night.
339
00:13:35,815 --> 00:13:36,774
Hello.
340
00:13:36,857 --> 00:13:38,567
Hey, Wes, what's going on, man?
It's Karamo.
341
00:13:38,943 --> 00:13:40,069
What's going on, man?
342
00:13:40,152 --> 00:13:42,279
I was thinking of a way
that I could help you,
343
00:13:42,363 --> 00:13:43,364
but I need your blessing.
344
00:13:43,447 --> 00:13:44,406
Hit me with it.
345
00:13:51,789 --> 00:13:54,041
You ever heard of something called
Disabled But Not Really?
346
00:13:54,124 --> 00:13:54,959
No, I have not.
347
00:13:55,042 --> 00:13:59,380
So, I train, uh, different people, uh,
at a CrossFit gym locally.
348
00:14:00,005 --> 00:14:02,174
Look me up and let's-- let's connect.
349
00:14:02,424 --> 00:14:03,676
-Nice meeting you.
-You too.
350
00:14:03,759 --> 00:14:05,219
I wanna spend some time with Wesley
351
00:14:05,302 --> 00:14:08,222
out about in the city
to see what works for him,
352
00:14:08,305 --> 00:14:09,473
what doesn't work for him.
353
00:14:09,849 --> 00:14:12,226
They got this fantastic button
they made for me.
354
00:14:12,560 --> 00:14:13,394
For you?
355
00:14:14,562 --> 00:14:16,730
-Welcome to my happy place.
-Hi, baby.
356
00:14:16,814 --> 00:14:18,315
-How's it going?
-It's my happy place.
357
00:14:18,399 --> 00:14:19,859
Your happy place, too, actually.
358
00:14:20,025 --> 00:14:22,319
We're gonna grab a few things
to make dinner later.
359
00:14:22,403 --> 00:14:24,697
♪ We'll just keep on livin'... ♪
360
00:14:25,865 --> 00:14:28,701
We're gonna roll up
right over here and get spices.
361
00:14:28,784 --> 00:14:30,786
So, we're gonna grab one of these.
Do you cook with turmeric?
362
00:14:30,870 --> 00:14:32,580
I do. I can't reach up there,
363
00:14:32,997 --> 00:14:34,915
so a lot of my stuff at home
364
00:14:34,999 --> 00:14:37,710
is just the same stuff
because it's easier to grab.
365
00:14:37,793 --> 00:14:39,879
But it's especially frustrating
hearing that
366
00:14:39,962 --> 00:14:42,464
because you don't wanna be doing
the exact same thing all the time
367
00:14:42,548 --> 00:14:43,757
because that kinda gets boring.
368
00:14:43,841 --> 00:14:47,094
You wanna, sorry for lack of
a better word, spice things up, right?
369
00:14:47,177 --> 00:14:49,263
I never thought about the fact that
370
00:14:49,346 --> 00:14:51,557
more than half of what's
in a grocery store
371
00:14:51,640 --> 00:14:53,851
is not accessible to somebody in a chair.
372
00:14:53,934 --> 00:14:55,019
In this situation,
373
00:14:55,102 --> 00:14:57,271
I'll be the man that eats nothing
but sweet potatoes
374
00:14:57,354 --> 00:14:58,606
'cause it's right here.
375
00:14:58,689 --> 00:14:59,690
I wanna make sure
376
00:14:59,773 --> 00:15:01,859
that everything in his kitchen
is fully accessible
377
00:15:01,942 --> 00:15:05,487
so he can really do what he loves,
which is cook.
378
00:15:05,571 --> 00:15:07,781
♪ We fight the good fight ♪
379
00:15:08,449 --> 00:15:11,702
♪ There's no need to waste it anymore ♪
380
00:15:11,785 --> 00:15:13,662
All right, so we have everything we need.
381
00:15:14,330 --> 00:15:16,248
-Let's cook!
-Let's cook.
382
00:15:16,832 --> 00:15:19,793
We're making a simple
but healthy meal with chicken and veggies.
383
00:15:20,002 --> 00:15:23,631
Food has completely changed
Wes' body, his way of life.
384
00:15:23,714 --> 00:15:25,674
It's how he lost 100 pounds.
385
00:15:25,799 --> 00:15:27,635
He's been eating really healthy foods,
386
00:15:27,718 --> 00:15:30,346
but there hasn't been an evolution
into learning new techniques
387
00:15:30,429 --> 00:15:32,431
and delving into different ingredients.
388
00:15:32,723 --> 00:15:36,143
I love a rotisserie chicken,
and you can use it in different ways,
389
00:15:36,226 --> 00:15:39,146
and I'm gonna show you, like, a slightly
different way of doing that now.
390
00:15:39,229 --> 00:15:41,231
We're just gonna dress it up a little,
and, boom,
391
00:15:41,315 --> 00:15:44,318
you got yourself a healthy,
delicious chicken salad.
392
00:15:44,401 --> 00:15:47,738
- All right.
-I need all the meat from this little guy
393
00:15:47,821 --> 00:15:48,948
basically put into here.
394
00:15:49,740 --> 00:15:51,492
So, I'm just doing a rough chop like this.
395
00:15:51,575 --> 00:15:53,535
Our dear sweet friend cilantro.
396
00:15:53,619 --> 00:15:55,496
Lemon. We need acid in here now.
397
00:15:55,579 --> 00:15:57,247
This is a head of garlic,
398
00:15:57,331 --> 00:15:59,333
and inside, we have the cloves.
399
00:15:59,625 --> 00:16:02,002
- So, that's a garlic clove.
- That's a clove of garlic.
400
00:16:02,086 --> 00:16:03,253
Now, this is the fun part.
401
00:16:05,130 --> 00:16:06,757
-Try it again.
402
00:16:07,716 --> 00:16:09,927
Look, you take it out
and you have all your skin off.
403
00:16:10,469 --> 00:16:12,805
Oh, my God, I seen this on,
like, a cooking channel,
404
00:16:12,888 --> 00:16:15,349
and it looked so much harder
than what it just was.
405
00:16:15,432 --> 00:16:16,266
Exactly.
406
00:16:16,725 --> 00:16:18,602
And then, you just start to chop.
407
00:16:18,811 --> 00:16:19,770
Oh...
408
00:16:20,270 --> 00:16:22,189
We're gonna make a bit of a garlic paste.
409
00:16:22,272 --> 00:16:23,482
With your knife like so,
410
00:16:23,565 --> 00:16:25,025
you just slide it across.
411
00:16:25,109 --> 00:16:25,985
Yeah.
412
00:16:26,235 --> 00:16:29,822
So, were you passionate about food
before the accident at all?
413
00:16:29,989 --> 00:16:32,241
Double Quarter Pounder with Cheese.
414
00:16:34,785 --> 00:16:36,495
-It's a newfound love for you.
-Yeah.
415
00:16:36,578 --> 00:16:41,208
This chair empowers me in ways
that I was never empowered walking.
416
00:16:41,500 --> 00:16:44,670
A lot of people would always say like,
"Man, Wes was mean."
417
00:16:44,753 --> 00:16:45,754
Really?
418
00:16:46,130 --> 00:16:48,507
-I never smiled before I was paralyzed.
-Yeah.
419
00:16:48,590 --> 00:16:51,969
And now that even though people
might see, like, physical limitations,
420
00:16:52,052 --> 00:16:54,221
it's just became so much better.
421
00:16:54,638 --> 00:16:56,098
It's pretty incredible how
422
00:16:56,181 --> 00:16:59,101
sometimes you have to go through
something really terrible and traumatic
423
00:16:59,184 --> 00:17:00,769
to have such a profound respect,
424
00:17:00,853 --> 00:17:02,521
and to turn it into your life's work.
425
00:17:02,688 --> 00:17:04,440
So, how do you cook
your sweet potatoes typically?
426
00:17:04,523 --> 00:17:05,816
'Cause you love sweet potatoes.
427
00:17:05,899 --> 00:17:08,485
-I just bake 'em.
-So what's nice, what we're gonna do here,
428
00:17:08,569 --> 00:17:10,946
we're gonna roast, we're gonna get them
nice and crispy.
429
00:17:11,030 --> 00:17:12,031
I can't wait.
430
00:17:12,114 --> 00:17:13,991
-We gotta get a little bit of fat.
-Okay.
431
00:17:14,074 --> 00:17:17,286
I'm just gonna drizzle a bit of olive oil,
and then we're gonna put some turmeric.
432
00:17:17,870 --> 00:17:19,997
Nice anti-inflammatory properties.
433
00:17:20,330 --> 00:17:22,249
Play around.
You have tons of spices at home.
434
00:17:22,332 --> 00:17:23,333
Smells good already.
435
00:17:25,836 --> 00:17:27,296
Now, spaghetti squash.
436
00:17:28,630 --> 00:17:31,258
So, my father--
actually, a nurse at his hospital,
437
00:17:31,341 --> 00:17:33,552
has maple trees,
and she makes her own maple syrup.
438
00:17:33,635 --> 00:17:34,511
Have a little try.
439
00:17:34,595 --> 00:17:37,556
This is gonna help caramelize
nicely along.
440
00:17:38,849 --> 00:17:41,018
Are you even paying attention
to me right now?
441
00:17:41,101 --> 00:17:42,519
Oh, my God. I've never--
442
00:17:45,355 --> 00:17:46,190
Boom!
443
00:17:47,316 --> 00:17:48,692
Now you try and get fancy with me.
444
00:17:48,776 --> 00:17:51,028
-I need to be fancy with you.
445
00:17:51,111 --> 00:17:51,987
Cheers.
446
00:17:53,530 --> 00:17:54,782
Oh, my God.
447
00:17:55,324 --> 00:17:56,325
This...
448
00:17:56,784 --> 00:17:58,452
-is amazing!
449
00:17:58,535 --> 00:18:00,704
It is so good! It's so good!!
450
00:18:00,788 --> 00:18:03,290
I've never seen somebody more excited
about food than me.
451
00:18:03,373 --> 00:18:05,042
I've officially met my match.
452
00:18:05,459 --> 00:18:08,295
Is this your reaction to food
whenever you eat it, typically?
453
00:18:08,378 --> 00:18:10,798
Right now, it's so overwhelming because...
454
00:18:11,507 --> 00:18:14,176
these are things that I wanted to learn,
455
00:18:14,259 --> 00:18:17,054
I just didn't know how to do it myself.
456
00:18:17,513 --> 00:18:19,139
Though, thank you.
457
00:18:19,515 --> 00:18:20,891
-You're very welcome.
458
00:18:20,974 --> 00:18:22,851
Oh, his plate
is about to be gone!
459
00:18:22,935 --> 00:18:24,311
- Oh, my God!
460
00:18:24,394 --> 00:18:27,064
♪ Clap your hands to the music ♪
461
00:18:27,147 --> 00:18:28,565
♪ Clap your hands now ♪
462
00:18:28,649 --> 00:18:32,903
♪ DJ gonna play your favoriteBeat, beat, beat, yeah ♪
463
00:18:32,986 --> 00:18:36,740
♪ And when we drop itAin't no way to stop it ♪
464
00:18:37,908 --> 00:18:41,161
♪ And when we drop itAin't no way to stop it ♪
465
00:18:41,829 --> 00:18:43,831
♪ Five, four, three, two ♪
466
00:18:43,997 --> 00:18:46,959
♪ This is how we drop itOn the one... ♪
467
00:18:47,042 --> 00:18:49,294
-Talk to me.
-Yay! The washer and dryers came in.
468
00:18:49,378 --> 00:18:50,671
-Grab bars.
-Yay.
469
00:18:50,754 --> 00:18:52,506
-Those are going in today.
-Perfect.
470
00:18:52,589 --> 00:18:55,968
I wanted to make sure that
in every aspect of Wesley's life at home,
471
00:18:56,051 --> 00:18:58,095
he had complete and full independence.
472
00:18:58,554 --> 00:19:00,514
-We're lowering the bed, too, right?
-Yeah.
473
00:19:08,355 --> 00:19:09,982
- Awesome sauce.
- Got it?
474
00:19:10,065 --> 00:19:12,609
-I'm gonna let you back up.
-You said you're gonna push me?
475
00:19:12,693 --> 00:19:14,486
Do you want me to push you?
476
00:19:16,488 --> 00:19:18,448
-After you, sir.
-Thank you.
477
00:19:18,866 --> 00:19:20,117
-Okay.
-This is nice.
478
00:19:20,200 --> 00:19:22,953
This is ULAH. I love this store,
I've been in a few times,
479
00:19:23,036 --> 00:19:25,956
so I kinda wanted to bring you in
and show you exactly what they've got.
480
00:19:26,373 --> 00:19:28,458
I know that it's important for you
to be comfortable,
481
00:19:28,542 --> 00:19:31,670
but you also mentioned that you do
wanna look a lot more dressed up,
482
00:19:31,753 --> 00:19:33,797
especially because
of Disabled But Not Really.
483
00:19:33,881 --> 00:19:35,007
I wanna get you to that point.
484
00:19:35,090 --> 00:19:38,343
But you have very specific requirements
that will affect your wardrobe.
485
00:19:38,719 --> 00:19:40,345
You, more than most people,
486
00:19:40,429 --> 00:19:42,556
will have have to get to know a tailor
very well.
487
00:19:42,890 --> 00:19:43,891
But first,
488
00:19:43,974 --> 00:19:45,184
I wanna see how you would shop.
489
00:19:45,267 --> 00:19:49,021
I'm lost in here when it comes to anything
that I'm not used to.
490
00:19:49,646 --> 00:19:51,315
What's behind there?
491
00:19:52,524 --> 00:19:56,278
Yeah, like, what if I had, like, a...
a burgundy jacket?
492
00:19:56,695 --> 00:19:58,697
I'm thinking maybe some blue jeans.
493
00:19:58,780 --> 00:20:00,324
This is nice.
494
00:20:00,407 --> 00:20:03,160
You say you're lost,
but you just put a full look together.
495
00:20:03,619 --> 00:20:06,788
You've got the eye, but now I wanna show
you how to make that work for you.
496
00:20:06,872 --> 00:20:07,873
Awesome.
497
00:20:07,956 --> 00:20:09,958
Are you nervous at all? Hesitant at all?
498
00:20:10,042 --> 00:20:12,502
Yeah, I haven't been in a fitting room
since I was paralyzed.
499
00:20:12,586 --> 00:20:14,046
Really? Why?
500
00:20:14,129 --> 00:20:17,049
What would take someone else maybe,
like, two, three minutes
501
00:20:17,132 --> 00:20:18,759
might take me ten, 15 minutes.
502
00:20:18,842 --> 00:20:21,345
But, I mean, I wouldn't
be uncomfortable right now.
503
00:20:21,428 --> 00:20:24,431
Like, I don't wanna just say,
"Oh, this is Wes, this is what I do."
504
00:20:24,848 --> 00:20:26,850
Let's get you in here.
Let's try some stuff on.
505
00:20:26,934 --> 00:20:29,561
Wesley has done all he can
to get to a position in his life
506
00:20:29,645 --> 00:20:30,646
that he's happy with,
507
00:20:30,729 --> 00:20:32,773
but he knows that to get to the next step,
508
00:20:32,856 --> 00:20:34,816
he needs to be vulnerable,
he needs to open up.
509
00:20:34,900 --> 00:20:36,818
Wesley, how you doing?
How you getting along?
510
00:20:36,902 --> 00:20:38,737
Oh, just putting pants on.
511
00:20:38,820 --> 00:20:40,739
-Okay. Do you need any help at all?
-Nope.
512
00:20:41,281 --> 00:20:44,868
And now he's letting us in so we can help
the finesse of the final part.
513
00:20:46,036 --> 00:20:47,579
-Check me out.
514
00:20:47,829 --> 00:20:49,623
It's more put together.
515
00:20:49,706 --> 00:20:52,251
I do wanna throw on a jacket
516
00:20:52,334 --> 00:20:54,419
to show youjust how you can
dress it up even more.
517
00:20:55,796 --> 00:20:57,172
Ooh!
518
00:20:57,339 --> 00:21:00,300
-Who knew you could look like this?
-Who knew I could like this?
519
00:21:00,384 --> 00:21:01,218
Yeah!
520
00:21:01,843 --> 00:21:02,719
I like it.
521
00:21:02,803 --> 00:21:05,514
When you're feeling yourself,
you carry yourself in a different way.
522
00:21:05,597 --> 00:21:07,349
And you're clearly feeling yourself
right now.
523
00:21:07,432 --> 00:21:09,518
Give me your best model roll.
524
00:21:12,396 --> 00:21:14,564
Yes! Oh, yeah!
525
00:21:14,648 --> 00:21:15,941
Oh, yeah!
526
00:21:17,901 --> 00:21:20,779
Oh! I was certainly not expecting
the hair to come out!
527
00:21:20,862 --> 00:21:21,697
Yes!
528
00:21:22,197 --> 00:21:24,241
- And spin it.
529
00:21:24,658 --> 00:21:25,659
Get outta here.
530
00:21:29,121 --> 00:21:30,706
All right, get back in there.
531
00:21:33,959 --> 00:21:36,378
Oh, my. Oh, my. Oh, my. Okay.
532
00:21:36,670 --> 00:21:40,299
Here I know it's baggier, so I'm gonna
make it tighter on the inside here,
533
00:21:40,382 --> 00:21:41,466
but also on here.
534
00:21:42,009 --> 00:21:43,302
The shirt is an easy fix.
535
00:21:43,385 --> 00:21:45,387
All we're gonna do is get it cropped,
536
00:21:45,470 --> 00:21:49,182
so it's not gonna cause you any issues
over your wheels.
537
00:21:49,266 --> 00:21:51,560
To make it that much shorter,
538
00:21:52,144 --> 00:21:53,437
not even $10.
539
00:21:54,021 --> 00:21:56,898
This is good. I'm just--
Yeah, this is exciting.
540
00:21:56,982 --> 00:21:58,900
I mean, even going in and actually
541
00:21:58,984 --> 00:22:01,111
getting dressed in a dressing room,
542
00:22:01,695 --> 00:22:04,448
it wasn't as hard as I made it seem.
543
00:22:05,615 --> 00:22:08,368
Like, I could roll out of here right now
and just like...
544
00:22:08,744 --> 00:22:11,163
-This is me. This is the new me.
545
00:22:11,246 --> 00:22:13,707
You have more confidence
546
00:22:13,790 --> 00:22:15,208
than most people we meet.
547
00:22:15,292 --> 00:22:18,128
You just needed us to give you,
like, the little kiss of something more.
548
00:22:18,211 --> 00:22:22,215
I think, like, the confidence
you guys have is amazing.
549
00:22:23,342 --> 00:22:25,385
Was it hard to get there?
550
00:22:26,178 --> 00:22:28,513
Uh, I didn't actually come out
to some of my family members
551
00:22:28,597 --> 00:22:30,807
until after this show aired.
552
00:22:31,224 --> 00:22:34,102
And when I first told
some family members...
553
00:22:36,021 --> 00:22:37,481
Sorry.
554
00:22:37,564 --> 00:22:39,274
I really struggled, and...
555
00:22:40,192 --> 00:22:41,860
and it knocked my confidence a lot.
556
00:22:42,652 --> 00:22:44,613
It-- It's not easy for me
to be able to say,
557
00:22:44,696 --> 00:22:46,698
"This is me. This is what I represent."
558
00:22:47,741 --> 00:22:50,911
It's a process, and you will know this
better than anybody.
559
00:22:51,119 --> 00:22:52,871
Some days, it's really hard.
560
00:22:53,080 --> 00:22:56,583
And then I remembered that I'm in
a position to be able to influence people,
561
00:22:56,666 --> 00:22:58,251
and you are in the same position.
562
00:22:58,335 --> 00:23:02,506
You know, I haven't been around
five gay guys, you know, just ever.
563
00:23:02,589 --> 00:23:03,465
Yeah.
564
00:23:03,548 --> 00:23:04,966
Um, but have you been around like
565
00:23:05,050 --> 00:23:06,426
-five people with disabilities?
-No.
566
00:23:06,510 --> 00:23:10,889
I teach people with disabilities
that it's okay to seek to be different
567
00:23:10,972 --> 00:23:13,183
and be comfortable within your own skin.
568
00:23:13,308 --> 00:23:14,935
That's just what I got from you right now.
569
00:23:16,019 --> 00:23:18,188
I truly appreciate you even sharing it.
570
00:23:18,647 --> 00:23:19,564
It's awesome.
571
00:23:19,648 --> 00:23:21,233
-Hug?
-Yes!
572
00:23:21,358 --> 00:23:23,527
-Yes, I can give you a hug.
573
00:23:23,610 --> 00:23:24,945
It was good.
574
00:23:25,028 --> 00:23:28,448
I mean, I literally just heard myself
through you right now.
575
00:23:31,785 --> 00:23:32,911
♪ Seize the day... ♪
576
00:23:32,994 --> 00:23:35,163
Okay, here we are.
Let me get the door for you.
577
00:23:35,247 --> 00:23:37,332
♪ It can never bring you down ♪
578
00:23:37,416 --> 00:23:39,459
♪ You go and do it anyway ♪
579
00:23:40,335 --> 00:23:42,629
I know that when we spoke at your house,
you were, like,
580
00:23:42,712 --> 00:23:45,590
we are ready for, like,
an outside transformation, it feels like.
581
00:23:45,674 --> 00:23:47,509
I wanted something to match my maturity.
582
00:23:47,592 --> 00:23:49,761
Um, I just have a look that
583
00:23:50,011 --> 00:23:52,055
I've always had since the day I got shot.
584
00:23:52,139 --> 00:23:55,350
So, to me, I need to let go and start new.
585
00:23:55,434 --> 00:23:58,395
In my mind, I was thinking like Drake-ish.
586
00:23:58,728 --> 00:23:59,646
I'm down with that.
587
00:23:59,729 --> 00:24:01,606
Wait, but that's only one half
of the consultation.
588
00:24:01,690 --> 00:24:03,150
'Cause the other consultation
is your beard.
589
00:24:03,233 --> 00:24:04,443
What about my beard?
590
00:24:04,943 --> 00:24:07,195
I feel like the shape of it
is giving me...
591
00:24:07,529 --> 00:24:08,530
a fan...
592
00:24:08,613 --> 00:24:10,949
-instead of circular.
-Should it be that short?
593
00:24:11,491 --> 00:24:13,452
If you can read newspaper
through the ends,
594
00:24:13,535 --> 00:24:15,287
that doesn't scream health and vitality.
595
00:24:15,370 --> 00:24:17,914
That screams, "I'm holding onto something
that I don't wanna let go,"
596
00:24:17,998 --> 00:24:20,167
which is like the opposite
of what we're doing here.
597
00:24:22,043 --> 00:24:24,004
You are giving me an eye roll right now,
598
00:24:24,087 --> 00:24:26,631
like a client that does not wanna
cut their hair a little shorter.
599
00:24:26,840 --> 00:24:28,049
No, I'm good.
600
00:24:28,133 --> 00:24:29,634
Do you like your wispy-kins?
601
00:24:30,135 --> 00:24:32,679
Yeah, but I'm with that.
Man, I'm so ready.
602
00:24:32,762 --> 00:24:35,182
I actually am gonna have a barber
help me out 'cause, like...
603
00:24:35,265 --> 00:24:37,934
Is fading my number one forte?
604
00:24:38,268 --> 00:24:39,603
-No.
605
00:24:39,686 --> 00:24:41,646
It's all about accentuating
your strengths.
606
00:24:41,730 --> 00:24:44,649
Clippers is not my truth.
607
00:24:44,733 --> 00:24:47,736
And so I'm like, "Tahki, girl."
608
00:24:47,944 --> 00:24:48,904
It's his truth.
609
00:24:48,987 --> 00:24:51,239
-That beard is so amazing.
-We gotta talk about the beard.
610
00:24:51,323 --> 00:24:53,700
Not so many people can even
grow their beard like that.
611
00:24:53,783 --> 00:24:56,328
I want his beard to mimic
a little bit more of his jaw shape.
612
00:24:56,453 --> 00:24:58,788
Wesley has such a strong face
and such handsome features,
613
00:24:58,872 --> 00:25:00,999
I know his confidence
is just gonna be like...
614
00:25:01,082 --> 00:25:03,376
"Yes. Look at my arms. Look at my vision.
615
00:25:03,460 --> 00:25:05,003
Look at how smart I am. Let's go."
616
00:25:05,378 --> 00:25:07,589
Surprise. Ah!
617
00:25:07,756 --> 00:25:08,590
Hey, what's up?
618
00:25:08,673 --> 00:25:10,300
I'mma leave her for a little bit, okay?
619
00:25:10,383 --> 00:25:11,468
I got it. Babysitter.
620
00:25:11,551 --> 00:25:14,012
-Ah, sounds good.
-Babysitter. Bye, love you to pieces.
621
00:25:14,095 --> 00:25:15,347
Bye, Queen Love.
622
00:25:15,430 --> 00:25:17,933
Are you ready for this moment?
Do you know what we're about to do?
623
00:25:18,433 --> 00:25:20,977
Well, Dad is about
to get his hair cut off.
624
00:25:21,353 --> 00:25:22,521
Are you scared?
625
00:25:22,687 --> 00:25:24,898
He's gonna look just like your dad
but with shorter hair.
626
00:25:24,981 --> 00:25:26,483
Sometimes you just need change,
627
00:25:26,566 --> 00:25:27,776
and I'm ready for it.
628
00:25:29,528 --> 00:25:31,404
-Wesley, my man, are you ready?
-I'm ready.
629
00:25:31,488 --> 00:25:33,156
I'm not ready at all.
630
00:25:37,953 --> 00:25:40,038
- Okay?
- No turning back.
631
00:25:40,497 --> 00:25:43,166
-He's gonna look so handsome.
-I'm not looking.
632
00:25:43,708 --> 00:25:44,626
No more shake.
633
00:25:49,756 --> 00:25:51,925
Will you just get this little girl's
gorgeous little hair washed for me
634
00:25:52,008 --> 00:25:53,718
-and then we're gonna style her up.
-Absolutely.
635
00:25:53,843 --> 00:25:56,346
When we were cutting those off
I felt you were like--
636
00:25:56,429 --> 00:25:58,098
That felt like a moment.
637
00:25:58,181 --> 00:25:59,558
I want it to be normal,
638
00:25:59,641 --> 00:26:01,518
and I thought, like, having that same look
639
00:26:01,601 --> 00:26:04,104
would make me feel like who I used to be.
640
00:26:04,312 --> 00:26:06,314
And now, since I've embraced
641
00:26:06,398 --> 00:26:07,983
-who I am...
-You're, like, proud of it.
642
00:26:08,358 --> 00:26:09,693
...it feels free.
643
00:26:10,151 --> 00:26:12,654
Wes was dealt a very difficult pill
to swallow,
644
00:26:12,737 --> 00:26:15,949
and he swallowed that gorgeous pill,
turned it into a multivitamin,
645
00:26:16,032 --> 00:26:18,952
and he wants to see that reflection
in the mirror instead of
646
00:26:19,035 --> 00:26:21,663
the Wesley who he's kind of been carrying
with him this whole time.
647
00:26:21,746 --> 00:26:23,582
That is gorgeous acceptance.
648
00:26:24,916 --> 00:26:26,126
He looks like Drake.
649
00:26:26,209 --> 00:26:28,253
She said I look like Drake!
650
00:26:29,588 --> 00:26:31,006
You wanna see your hair?
651
00:26:32,048 --> 00:26:34,259
Look at that.
652
00:26:34,801 --> 00:26:36,386
Looking very beautiful.
653
00:26:36,845 --> 00:26:38,930
-You ready to see the whole new you?
- Yep.
654
00:26:39,014 --> 00:26:42,225
Three, two, one...
655
00:26:45,270 --> 00:26:46,605
Hey!
656
00:26:46,813 --> 00:26:48,356
That's what I'm talkin' 'bout.
657
00:26:48,815 --> 00:26:50,066
Oh, I like the beard.
658
00:26:50,150 --> 00:26:52,819
See how it's actually stronger
by making it a bit shorter?
659
00:27:09,002 --> 00:27:10,962
-I reached out to Maurice.
-Mm-hmm.
660
00:27:11,046 --> 00:27:12,088
And...
661
00:27:12,464 --> 00:27:13,882
Maurice is willing to meet with you.
662
00:27:14,633 --> 00:27:18,178
That night is critical
in who you are as a man.
663
00:27:18,261 --> 00:27:19,971
But there's still little holes for you
664
00:27:20,055 --> 00:27:22,849
that I'm noticing that, like,
have to get fixed and get plugged.
665
00:27:23,516 --> 00:27:26,770
So, I've set up an opportunity
for Wesley to meet Maurice,
666
00:27:26,853 --> 00:27:27,729
the man who shot him.
667
00:27:28,271 --> 00:27:30,690
Because there's still
a lot of things in Wesley's mind
668
00:27:30,774 --> 00:27:32,859
that he doesn't understand
about this night.
669
00:27:32,942 --> 00:27:33,818
And hopefully
670
00:27:33,902 --> 00:27:36,029
he can finally close that chapter,
671
00:27:36,112 --> 00:27:38,490
and begin to go to the next chapter
of his life.
672
00:27:39,616 --> 00:27:41,868
You said you've never had
a conversation with him.
673
00:27:42,243 --> 00:27:44,037
I didn't really wanna approach, you know?
674
00:27:44,120 --> 00:27:46,623
Like, I knew people
that possibly knew him, and...
675
00:27:46,706 --> 00:27:48,875
coulda had set up something long time ago,
676
00:27:48,958 --> 00:27:51,211
but I was living this life of positivity.
677
00:27:51,670 --> 00:27:54,506
Last thing I wanted to do
was be in a negative mindset
678
00:27:54,589 --> 00:27:56,716
because someone maybe felt something
679
00:27:56,800 --> 00:27:59,427
'bout going to jail for five, six years.
680
00:27:59,511 --> 00:28:01,680
-Man, I'm just trying to live my life.
-Yeah.
681
00:28:02,555 --> 00:28:03,807
You are not alone.
682
00:28:03,890 --> 00:28:05,100
Like, I'm here to support you.
683
00:28:05,183 --> 00:28:07,268
So, as for you to be able to say,
684
00:28:07,435 --> 00:28:09,187
"Well, what was I doing in that space?"
685
00:28:10,397 --> 00:28:11,731
Understandable.
686
00:28:16,444 --> 00:28:17,946
You gotta always think, like,
687
00:28:18,029 --> 00:28:21,491
you'll be looking at a man
that tried to take your life.
688
00:28:22,325 --> 00:28:25,537
I just don't want my emotions
to get over me.
689
00:28:27,831 --> 00:28:30,834
Like, people assume
that forgiveness is a destination,
690
00:28:30,917 --> 00:28:33,962
not realizing it's a journey
that continues all throughout your life.
691
00:28:34,045 --> 00:28:34,921
Right.
692
00:28:35,630 --> 00:28:37,298
I feel like I can handle it.
693
00:29:01,656 --> 00:29:03,158
-What up with it, man?
-How's it going?
694
00:29:03,241 --> 00:29:04,617
-Karamo.
-Karamo?
695
00:29:04,701 --> 00:29:05,535
-Yeah.
-Maurice.
696
00:29:05,618 --> 00:29:06,953
-Nice to meet you, man.
-You too.
697
00:29:07,412 --> 00:29:09,664
First of all, thank you again
for you being here.
698
00:29:09,748 --> 00:29:11,499
Thank you for you
being willing to do this.
699
00:29:11,583 --> 00:29:13,543
I just am here for...
700
00:29:13,626 --> 00:29:16,045
to help you all navigate
this conversation,
701
00:29:16,296 --> 00:29:17,922
but this is your time.
702
00:29:19,257 --> 00:29:21,760
So, sort of ask whatever questions,
get clarity.
703
00:29:22,051 --> 00:29:24,429
You kinda don't know why
and what happened that night.
704
00:29:26,264 --> 00:29:27,265
That day,
705
00:29:28,224 --> 00:29:30,143
I'd only seen you for a second.
706
00:29:31,060 --> 00:29:33,271
I was literally walking back to my car
and leaving.
707
00:29:33,855 --> 00:29:38,026
We never had, like, a conversation
or, like, a altercation.
708
00:29:39,235 --> 00:29:40,737
You don't believe that...
709
00:29:41,821 --> 00:29:44,324
...you done anything to warrant
what happened?
710
00:29:44,866 --> 00:29:46,242
No, like, I know that--
711
00:29:46,326 --> 00:29:48,286
I mean, I just know who I was before.
712
00:29:48,369 --> 00:29:50,497
I don't wanna go back and forth
to make it like a,
713
00:29:50,580 --> 00:29:52,916
you know, whose fault this was,
whose fault that was.
714
00:29:52,999 --> 00:29:54,167
I don't wanna do that.
715
00:29:54,250 --> 00:29:57,086
To give you some kind of clarity
on my perspective of what happened,
716
00:29:57,378 --> 00:29:58,463
when I get there,
717
00:29:58,546 --> 00:30:00,048
I see your partner
718
00:30:00,131 --> 00:30:02,884
and your, uh, woman at the time
or whatever like that,
719
00:30:03,343 --> 00:30:04,177
arguing.
720
00:30:04,469 --> 00:30:07,347
So, I understand that my actions
and my feelings
721
00:30:07,430 --> 00:30:09,724
and my emotions
probably took the best of me that day,
722
00:30:10,934 --> 00:30:12,769
but it was still more or less like,
723
00:30:14,020 --> 00:30:15,063
"Why you?"
724
00:30:15,688 --> 00:30:17,982
I seen you bucking up to my cousin.
725
00:30:18,441 --> 00:30:21,027
You know what I'm saying?
And he told me that you had a pistol.
726
00:30:21,110 --> 00:30:22,779
And your partner, I see his pistol.
727
00:30:22,862 --> 00:30:24,823
He got a 30-round magazine hanging out.
728
00:30:24,906 --> 00:30:26,616
And I'd seen him back and forth going,
729
00:30:26,699 --> 00:30:28,368
and I'm like,
"Damn, all this over a bitch?"
730
00:30:29,285 --> 00:30:31,412
That's when you started
to come over towards me.
731
00:30:31,830 --> 00:30:34,082
You know how the streets are.
You know, I can't see yours.
732
00:30:34,165 --> 00:30:35,667
In my mind, you got the pistol, too.
733
00:30:36,626 --> 00:30:38,545
I'm like, "Man, look,
I'm not going for that.
734
00:30:38,628 --> 00:30:41,297
I can't, you know what I'm saying,
risk me getting shot or getting--"
735
00:30:41,381 --> 00:30:44,050
You know what I'm saying?
So, what happened, happened.
736
00:30:46,845 --> 00:30:48,096
It's crazy
737
00:30:48,555 --> 00:30:49,514
to hear it now.
738
00:30:51,224 --> 00:30:52,767
We lived in a place where...
739
00:30:53,852 --> 00:30:55,061
we all strap.
740
00:30:55,144 --> 00:30:58,565
You know, we don't care as long as we
trying to protect somebody that we love.
741
00:31:02,235 --> 00:31:04,404
I could understand
why you did what you did.
742
00:31:04,988 --> 00:31:06,573
If it was the other way around,
743
00:31:07,365 --> 00:31:09,033
I probably would react
the same way you did.
744
00:31:09,117 --> 00:31:12,287
I didn't imagine you seeing it from that--
from that perspective, like...
745
00:31:13,121 --> 00:31:14,622
It was no malice in my heart.
746
00:31:15,790 --> 00:31:17,667
Wes, do you need an apology?
747
00:31:18,543 --> 00:31:19,586
I don't--
748
00:31:19,836 --> 00:31:21,963
I don't think it's necessary
for a apology.
749
00:31:23,840 --> 00:31:25,800
I'd prefer not you to feel sorry.
750
00:31:26,384 --> 00:31:27,385
I thank you...
751
00:31:28,553 --> 00:31:30,513
for me being, like, in this position.
752
00:31:32,181 --> 00:31:34,392
I don't even feel bad energy from you.
753
00:31:34,684 --> 00:31:36,561
That's crazy.
I was thinking the same thing.
754
00:31:36,644 --> 00:31:37,478
I'm like, "Man."
755
00:31:38,438 --> 00:31:41,190
I'm actually empowered by the life
that I was given
756
00:31:41,274 --> 00:31:42,150
that day.
757
00:31:42,734 --> 00:31:44,861
I've had a lot of time to grow.
758
00:31:44,944 --> 00:31:46,654
I'm definitely
in a better space,
759
00:31:46,738 --> 00:31:49,157
you know, just striving to be the man
that I know I can be.
760
00:31:50,033 --> 00:31:51,576
We are two black men,
761
00:31:51,659 --> 00:31:52,827
and...
762
00:31:53,620 --> 00:31:54,996
we're doing something that...
763
00:31:56,039 --> 00:31:57,457
they don't want us to do.
764
00:31:58,625 --> 00:32:00,376
And that is forgive each other,
765
00:32:01,002 --> 00:32:02,629
but also uplift each other.
766
00:32:02,712 --> 00:32:04,797
I found purpose in my situation,
767
00:32:04,881 --> 00:32:06,758
and it seems like you did, too.
768
00:32:06,841 --> 00:32:09,594
Like I said, I was planning on doing
great things from here on out, man.
769
00:32:10,219 --> 00:32:12,221
Hopefully we can both do
some great things.
770
00:32:12,680 --> 00:32:15,433
Hey, man,
I see we can do it probably together, man.
771
00:32:16,017 --> 00:32:17,936
-True.
- I agree with you.
772
00:32:18,019 --> 00:32:20,563
I have a feeling that this is just
the beginning of a bigger purpose
773
00:32:20,647 --> 00:32:22,023
that I don't even think y'all knew.
774
00:32:22,106 --> 00:32:23,900
Hey, man. I'm with it.
775
00:32:23,983 --> 00:32:25,234
-I appreciate you, bro.
-Thank you.
776
00:32:25,318 --> 00:32:26,819
-My son.
-I appreciate you.
777
00:32:28,905 --> 00:32:29,739
Wow.
778
00:32:30,031 --> 00:32:31,282
How was that? Good?
779
00:32:31,366 --> 00:32:32,283
Wow.
780
00:32:32,617 --> 00:32:34,661
It was really, really liberating.
781
00:32:34,744 --> 00:32:35,620
I'm like...
782
00:32:36,955 --> 00:32:38,414
having all these mixed emotions.
783
00:32:39,040 --> 00:32:41,876
Like, I looked at a man that shot me,
784
00:32:42,293 --> 00:32:43,878
-and told him "thank you."
-Mm.
785
00:32:43,962 --> 00:32:47,006
And now I can be the Wesley Hamilton
that I always wanted to be.
786
00:32:51,177 --> 00:32:53,596
♪ If I was you, I'd be dying to be ♪
787
00:32:53,680 --> 00:32:56,557
♪ The reflection of the personThat you're seeing in me ♪
788
00:32:56,641 --> 00:32:59,435
♪ Like I was born on the moonBut I'm conceived by the sea ♪
789
00:32:59,519 --> 00:33:02,689
♪ And I won't concedeUntil I'm achieving my dreams ♪
790
00:33:02,772 --> 00:33:06,109
♪ I'm flyin' home, home ♪
791
00:33:06,192 --> 00:33:08,945
♪ Home, home ♪
792
00:33:10,613 --> 00:33:12,240
Are you excited
to see the house?
793
00:33:12,323 --> 00:33:14,492
I feel like I'm all
wrapped out of excitement,
794
00:33:14,575 --> 00:33:15,910
but I know it's still in there.
795
00:33:16,995 --> 00:33:18,121
What?
796
00:33:18,538 --> 00:33:20,498
Oh!
797
00:33:24,002 --> 00:33:25,712
No! Is that my crib?
798
00:33:25,795 --> 00:33:26,629
Yeah!
799
00:33:28,589 --> 00:33:30,216
Oh, look at his hair!
800
00:33:30,299 --> 00:33:32,427
- Oh, my gosh.
- Is this my house?
801
00:33:32,510 --> 00:33:35,513
-Can we talk about how handsome you look?
-Oh, my God. Look at this ramp!
802
00:33:35,596 --> 00:33:37,056
So much room.
803
00:33:37,140 --> 00:33:38,891
-You look awesome.
-Hello.
804
00:33:38,975 --> 00:33:40,768
-Good to see you.
-What's up?
805
00:33:41,269 --> 00:33:43,396
Oh, my God, I smell flowers.
806
00:33:43,479 --> 00:33:45,898
- Flowers!
- Right? We landscaped, painted.
807
00:33:45,982 --> 00:33:47,900
Now you can see who's at the front door
from your phone.
808
00:33:47,984 --> 00:33:49,277
- That's what that's for?
-Yeah.
809
00:33:49,360 --> 00:33:50,695
I'm never opening the door!
810
00:33:52,613 --> 00:33:54,574
- You ready for more?
- I am ready.
811
00:33:56,492 --> 00:33:58,494
No! What?
812
00:33:59,287 --> 00:34:00,747
Hey!
813
00:34:01,247 --> 00:34:02,373
Dude!
814
00:34:04,834 --> 00:34:06,586
Hey, this is nice!
815
00:34:06,836 --> 00:34:08,755
-Do I got a washing machine?
- Yeah!
816
00:34:08,838 --> 00:34:12,216
I moved it upstairs,
so now you get to do your own laundry.
817
00:34:12,300 --> 00:34:15,178
-Great. Oh, man.
-That is actually really sweet.
818
00:34:15,261 --> 00:34:17,138
I'mma wash clothes every day.
819
00:34:17,680 --> 00:34:18,848
I got it!
820
00:34:21,434 --> 00:34:22,977
This is all, like...
821
00:34:23,186 --> 00:34:25,563
I'm very overwhelmed right now.
822
00:34:28,524 --> 00:34:29,567
Aw.
823
00:34:31,652 --> 00:34:33,362
What?! What?! No--
824
00:34:35,073 --> 00:34:36,532
Hey, no!
825
00:34:37,158 --> 00:34:38,785
Now, who house is this?
826
00:34:40,244 --> 00:34:41,496
- Dude.
- I know.
827
00:34:41,954 --> 00:34:44,248
Yeah!
828
00:34:45,583 --> 00:34:47,043
Oh, my God.
829
00:34:47,710 --> 00:34:50,129
Hey, you put the microwave
to my height.
830
00:34:50,213 --> 00:34:51,047
Hold on.
831
00:34:51,130 --> 00:34:53,591
No cabinets up top, man!
832
00:34:53,674 --> 00:34:55,259
That's what I'm talking about.
833
00:34:55,343 --> 00:34:56,594
Now I don't feel challenged.
834
00:34:56,677 --> 00:34:58,387
And I gave you an induction stove.
835
00:34:58,471 --> 00:35:00,890
It only gets hot
when other metal is touching it.
836
00:35:00,973 --> 00:35:04,060
This, this, this is amazing.
837
00:35:07,188 --> 00:35:08,481
Oh, man!
838
00:35:08,564 --> 00:35:10,650
I got a mirror! I can look at myself?
839
00:35:10,733 --> 00:35:12,610
I put our bathroom mirror
at an angle
840
00:35:12,693 --> 00:35:14,695
so that you can finally see yourself.
841
00:35:15,488 --> 00:35:18,449
It did not dawn on me
that you could mathematically do this.
842
00:35:18,533 --> 00:35:20,284
Before, the footprint that it was,
we couldn't.
843
00:35:20,368 --> 00:35:21,994
We took a wall out of the kitchen,
844
00:35:22,078 --> 00:35:23,788
moved the dining room over
and expanded this.
845
00:35:23,871 --> 00:35:26,707
-It's double the size that it was.
846
00:35:28,042 --> 00:35:29,710
Oh, man.
847
00:35:30,128 --> 00:35:33,005
This gives me so much independence.
848
00:35:34,048 --> 00:35:36,134
I can actually feel like a normal person
849
00:35:36,217 --> 00:35:38,678
where they go into their bathroom,
get themselves together.
850
00:35:39,887 --> 00:35:40,805
I mean...
851
00:35:42,807 --> 00:35:44,684
And it looks nice.
852
00:35:46,602 --> 00:35:48,354
-This my room?!
-This is your room.
853
00:35:49,230 --> 00:35:50,481
This is my room.
854
00:35:50,815 --> 00:35:51,899
I love it.
855
00:35:54,360 --> 00:35:56,237
A lowrider bed.
856
00:35:56,654 --> 00:35:59,073
They got hydraulics now, baby!
857
00:35:59,157 --> 00:36:01,367
Ooh!
858
00:36:01,450 --> 00:36:04,287
Now I can feel comfortable,
like, sitting or reading.
859
00:36:04,370 --> 00:36:06,164
I gotta see myself in this mirror, though.
860
00:36:06,247 --> 00:36:07,707
Yeah, you do.
861
00:36:07,790 --> 00:36:08,875
-Yeah.
-Right?
862
00:36:09,292 --> 00:36:11,544
-This is me.
-Full-length mirror.
863
00:36:11,878 --> 00:36:12,879
Woo-hoo!
864
00:36:14,922 --> 00:36:16,299
So, what has this week been like for you?
865
00:36:16,382 --> 00:36:20,052
It has gave me the fresh start
that I was always looking for,
866
00:36:20,136 --> 00:36:22,263
but didn't know exactly how to do it.
867
00:36:22,346 --> 00:36:25,433
Yeah. I gotta tell you,
yesterday was probably, for me,
868
00:36:25,975 --> 00:36:28,060
the most powerful, most impactful moment.
869
00:36:28,853 --> 00:36:31,522
It lifted weight off of my shoulders.
870
00:36:32,106 --> 00:36:35,443
It was a need,
not only to free me completely,
871
00:36:35,526 --> 00:36:39,447
but to put me in a position
to be this new me.
872
00:36:39,530 --> 00:36:41,782
Now I'm looking at life, like,
873
00:36:41,866 --> 00:36:45,536
ten steps ahead instead
of feeling like something's behind me.
874
00:36:45,620 --> 00:36:49,415
Forgiveness is something
that is contagious,
875
00:36:49,832 --> 00:36:52,210
and freedom is something
that's contagious.
876
00:36:52,293 --> 00:36:53,669
You can pass that on.
877
00:36:54,253 --> 00:36:56,005
I want my mom to...
878
00:36:57,632 --> 00:37:00,593
release all that pain, all that struggle.
879
00:37:00,676 --> 00:37:04,347
I want her to be the woman that I knew...
880
00:37:05,223 --> 00:37:07,141
two hours before I was shot.
881
00:37:07,850 --> 00:37:10,728
I just thought I couldn't give her
as much as she's gave me.
882
00:37:10,811 --> 00:37:12,480
You know, it's like it's so many things
883
00:37:12,563 --> 00:37:14,482
that's gonna be lifted off
her shoulders today.
884
00:37:15,399 --> 00:37:17,235
-She's gonna be free.
- Yeah.
885
00:37:17,693 --> 00:37:20,863
You know, we always put in our minds
that we wanna do a lot more
886
00:37:20,947 --> 00:37:22,740
to sort of match
what someone else has done.
887
00:37:22,823 --> 00:37:25,159
But sometimes it's as easy
as just saying,
888
00:37:26,327 --> 00:37:27,495
-"Thank you."
-Mm-hmm.
889
00:37:28,037 --> 00:37:30,706
I don't now why I feel like an old Negro
spiritual should be coming on right now.
890
00:37:30,790 --> 00:37:32,875
I don't sing, but I feel like-- Right?
891
00:37:32,959 --> 00:37:35,253
You found freedom! You found freedom!
892
00:37:35,378 --> 00:37:37,588
♪ Lift every voice ♪
893
00:37:37,672 --> 00:37:39,757
♪ And sing ♪
894
00:37:41,050 --> 00:37:44,303
Yes, that's quite lovely, but, see,
Karamo, I can't hear you sing anymore.
895
00:37:44,387 --> 00:37:46,264
Come on, Wesley,
I'm gonna get you dressed.
896
00:37:47,974 --> 00:37:49,725
- This is nice.
-It's nice, right?
897
00:37:50,726 --> 00:37:52,520
First of all, I know that Bobby's
lowered this
898
00:37:52,603 --> 00:37:54,146
so you can easily access all your clothes.
899
00:37:54,230 --> 00:37:55,690
I've got you an outfit for tonight.
900
00:37:55,773 --> 00:37:57,692
You are the face of the foundation,
901
00:37:57,775 --> 00:38:00,111
so I wanted to make sure
that you are looking right.
902
00:38:00,194 --> 00:38:01,487
-I'm excited.
-Okay, good.
903
00:38:01,570 --> 00:38:03,364
Because I've got a beautiful suit for you.
904
00:38:03,447 --> 00:38:05,574
It was made especially for you.
905
00:38:05,658 --> 00:38:07,952
The pants have an elasticated waist
at the back
906
00:38:08,035 --> 00:38:09,745
so it's easy to get on, easy to get off.
907
00:38:09,829 --> 00:38:11,163
And then the jacket,
908
00:38:11,247 --> 00:38:14,000
it's gonna look like it's super,
super short.
909
00:38:14,083 --> 00:38:16,419
But once it's on,
it's gonna hit the perfect point.
910
00:38:16,836 --> 00:38:19,463
How powerful will it look
911
00:38:19,547 --> 00:38:22,591
to not only have something
that everyone else wears,
912
00:38:22,675 --> 00:38:25,136
-but it complements...
- Yeah.
913
00:38:25,594 --> 00:38:28,097
-...my disabled-but-not-really-ness?
- Yeah.
914
00:38:28,180 --> 00:38:29,307
Absolutely.
915
00:38:29,390 --> 00:38:31,767
Is the new Wesley Hamilton
ready to try on a new outfit?
916
00:38:31,851 --> 00:38:32,768
Yes.
917
00:38:32,852 --> 00:38:34,395
I wonder what he's gonna look like.
918
00:38:34,478 --> 00:38:36,605
-You boys ready to see this look?
- Yeah!
919
00:38:36,689 --> 00:38:40,109
Okay. The new, new, new Wesley,
will you please roll in?
920
00:38:40,526 --> 00:38:42,528
- Yeah!
- Nice.
921
00:38:42,611 --> 00:38:43,529
Hey!
922
00:38:43,612 --> 00:38:45,489
Check me out. Hold on.
923
00:38:46,782 --> 00:38:49,452
-I love it!
-Wes, are you feeling yourself?
924
00:38:49,952 --> 00:38:51,704
-Oh, yeah.
925
00:38:51,787 --> 00:38:54,874
Do I have separation anxiety from being
able to see your biceps? Maybe.
926
00:38:54,957 --> 00:38:57,626
You can still see the width of the guns
through that.
927
00:38:58,961 --> 00:39:00,755
This was a jacket that was much longer.
928
00:39:00,838 --> 00:39:03,799
We've cropped it down to make sure
that it fits over his wheels correctly.
929
00:39:03,883 --> 00:39:07,678
You would never know that it has
all been altered to make sure it fits.
930
00:39:07,762 --> 00:39:09,472
- Not at all.
- Not at all.
931
00:39:09,930 --> 00:39:12,558
I didn't have the courage
to make this change.
932
00:39:12,808 --> 00:39:15,144
I was able to see, like, you guys
933
00:39:15,227 --> 00:39:16,937
embrace your reality,
934
00:39:17,021 --> 00:39:20,399
which made me so comfortable about me
embracing mine.
935
00:39:21,108 --> 00:39:24,403
I had sunk into a place
where I just wanted to adapt.
936
00:39:25,446 --> 00:39:27,323
You guys didn't adapt anything.
937
00:39:28,115 --> 00:39:31,494
You taught me the true meaning
of being yourself.
938
00:39:33,329 --> 00:39:36,457
I can't do nothing but thank
all of you for that.
939
00:39:37,041 --> 00:39:39,418
I don't think any of us
were bracing ourselves
940
00:39:39,502 --> 00:39:41,420
enoughfor what we learned
from you this week.
941
00:39:41,504 --> 00:39:43,881
The way that you look at things,
I think, is so admirable.
942
00:39:43,964 --> 00:39:47,968
I feel like I got just as much
from my time with you as vice versa,
943
00:39:48,052 --> 00:39:50,846
and so I just wanna say keep doing you,
I am so about it.
944
00:39:50,930 --> 00:39:52,890
The event tonight is gonna be amazing.
945
00:39:53,307 --> 00:39:56,102
It's gonna be new people
that I've never met.
946
00:39:56,352 --> 00:39:58,187
It's gonna be friends.
947
00:39:58,270 --> 00:39:59,563
It's gonna be family.
948
00:40:00,022 --> 00:40:03,192
But I'mma actually roll in there
with the confidence
949
00:40:03,734 --> 00:40:07,363
to represent my brand in a way
I've never represented it before.
950
00:40:07,947 --> 00:40:09,073
Well, you're not quite ready.
951
00:40:09,156 --> 00:40:11,492
You've gotta change your outfit first
and you're gonna look sharp as hell.
952
00:40:11,575 --> 00:40:13,494
We should probably get out of here
and let you get changed.
953
00:40:13,577 --> 00:40:15,413
Can we group hug? Little one?
954
00:40:15,496 --> 00:40:17,081
- Yeah.
- Come here.
955
00:40:17,164 --> 00:40:18,707
-Come on in.
-Come here, baby.
956
00:40:18,791 --> 00:40:21,710
I'll just take care
of these shoulders back here. Yeah!
957
00:40:21,794 --> 00:40:22,711
Thank y'all.
958
00:40:22,795 --> 00:40:24,088
- Bye.
-Thank you for everything.
959
00:40:24,839 --> 00:40:26,715
- Have fun, babe.
- Keep it up.
960
00:40:28,259 --> 00:40:30,386
♪ I'm feeling good, I'm feeling right ♪
961
00:40:30,469 --> 00:40:33,222
♪ Aviator statusWe have to book a flight ♪
962
00:40:33,305 --> 00:40:35,307
♪ We outta here, out, outWe outta here ♪
963
00:40:35,766 --> 00:40:38,060
♪ Grab your bag and your purseWe outta here ♪
964
00:40:38,477 --> 00:40:40,479
Gentlemen, would you like to join us?
965
00:40:40,563 --> 00:40:42,773
- Yeah.
-I'm just cooking up a little breakfast.
966
00:40:42,857 --> 00:40:45,526
I feel like it's like my daddies
are making me breakfast!
967
00:40:45,609 --> 00:40:47,611
I've never had scrambled eggs
with gummies in it.
968
00:40:48,195 --> 00:40:50,656
So, we made these, like,
little turmeric coffees with ginger
969
00:40:50,739 --> 00:40:52,032
-and cinnamon and honey.
-Yummers!
970
00:40:52,116 --> 00:40:55,244
Oh, my little Bruley is so tired.
971
00:40:55,327 --> 00:40:56,328
Come here, baby boy.
972
00:40:56,412 --> 00:40:57,288
Oh.
973
00:40:58,247 --> 00:41:02,001
Who's ready to watch
one of our most inspirational heroes ever?
974
00:41:02,084 --> 00:41:03,419
-Yeah.
-Let's watch Wesley.
975
00:41:04,712 --> 00:41:06,130
- Aw!
- Aw!
976
00:41:06,213 --> 00:41:08,507
I love him in this look.
977
00:41:08,591 --> 00:41:10,259
Have you done
a French tuck this season?
978
00:41:10,801 --> 00:41:12,511
-Yes, bitch.
-Ah!
979
00:41:16,474 --> 00:41:19,560
-Oh, my.
-Oh, my God.
980
00:41:20,227 --> 00:41:21,395
Oh, my God.
981
00:41:21,979 --> 00:41:23,439
Nevaeh.
982
00:41:23,522 --> 00:41:25,524
-Did she get a blowout?
-Yes, I did it.
983
00:41:25,608 --> 00:41:26,692
Oh, it looks so pretty.
984
00:41:27,193 --> 00:41:29,445
Oh, this don't look
like the same place.
985
00:41:29,528 --> 00:41:31,530
This is gonna massively
alter her life, too.
986
00:41:31,614 --> 00:41:33,240
-Ripple effect.
-She gets her freedom back.
987
00:41:33,324 --> 00:41:35,659
-What's up?
-This is amazing.
988
00:41:35,743 --> 00:41:37,536
Oh, my God. Oh!
989
00:41:37,703 --> 00:41:39,038
Oh, you look so nice.
990
00:41:39,788 --> 00:41:40,623
Look at my home.
991
00:41:40,706 --> 00:41:42,625
Is this even real?
992
00:41:42,708 --> 00:41:44,460
- Aw!
-It's real, baby girl!
993
00:41:46,837 --> 00:41:49,048
You can just see the release
Mom is having.
994
00:41:49,131 --> 00:41:50,007
Yes.
995
00:41:50,633 --> 00:41:53,177
Ready for the bathroom.
We've got a door. Yay.
996
00:41:55,513 --> 00:41:57,598
Ooh. We all up in here now. Look.
997
00:41:57,681 --> 00:41:59,016
Mm-hmm!
998
00:41:59,099 --> 00:42:00,309
Oh, yes, Dawn.
999
00:42:00,392 --> 00:42:01,936
-Look at this closet.
1000
00:42:02,019 --> 00:42:03,145
This is nice.
1001
00:42:03,229 --> 00:42:04,647
-It's a big closet.
1002
00:42:04,730 --> 00:42:08,359
Every jacket is actually
tailored to fit me.
1003
00:42:09,443 --> 00:42:10,819
I'm speechless.
1004
00:42:10,903 --> 00:42:14,406
I love how excited he was about the fact
that he can finally wear outerwear.
1005
00:42:14,490 --> 00:42:16,325
Could you--
I would never even think about that.
1006
00:42:16,408 --> 00:42:18,202
I can't wear a jacket?
1007
00:42:19,036 --> 00:42:22,248
You know, we're going into
seven years of being paralyzed.
1008
00:42:22,456 --> 00:42:25,584
And even though, like,
my life has been better from it,
1009
00:42:26,335 --> 00:42:30,673
I feel like we all never forgave
the person that did this to me.
1010
00:42:30,756 --> 00:42:32,007
And, um,
1011
00:42:32,091 --> 00:42:33,717
I got to see him yesterday.
1012
00:42:35,553 --> 00:42:37,429
We were face to face,
1013
00:42:37,513 --> 00:42:39,974
and it gave a lot of clarity.
1014
00:42:40,432 --> 00:42:44,353
I freed myself from so much last night,
1015
00:42:44,853 --> 00:42:48,399
I wanna give you the ability to be free
from all of this, too.
1016
00:42:50,317 --> 00:42:52,778
Even though you can't get
that seven years back,
1017
00:42:53,487 --> 00:42:56,699
you can start your journey now
of living...
1018
00:42:57,616 --> 00:42:58,993
your life again,
1019
00:42:59,159 --> 00:43:01,245
and you don't have to worry about me.
1020
00:43:03,247 --> 00:43:05,916
You've allowed me to vent
when I needed to.
1021
00:43:06,750 --> 00:43:08,711
You've literally been there
1022
00:43:08,794 --> 00:43:10,004
every day.
1023
00:43:11,255 --> 00:43:12,172
Thank you.
1024
00:43:21,307 --> 00:43:22,808
-Oh.
1025
00:43:23,267 --> 00:43:26,186
It's sort of a sense of release
and closure for Mom, too.
1026
00:43:26,562 --> 00:43:28,105
It's like a positive
ripple effect.
1027
00:43:28,188 --> 00:43:29,064
Oh, yeah.
1028
00:43:29,481 --> 00:43:31,775
- Check me out!
- Wow!
1029
00:43:31,859 --> 00:43:33,444
Wow, look at you, Wesley.
1030
00:43:33,902 --> 00:43:35,112
Uh-uh. Look at him.
1031
00:43:35,195 --> 00:43:36,655
Mm, mm, mm!
1032
00:43:36,739 --> 00:43:38,991
Oh, he looks so handsome!
1033
00:43:39,158 --> 00:43:40,576
Tan, that suit.
1034
00:43:41,076 --> 00:43:42,077
You did good.
1035
00:43:48,292 --> 00:43:49,627
Oh, that's nice!
1036
00:43:50,252 --> 00:43:51,503
That's nice!
1037
00:43:51,587 --> 00:43:55,257
Make some noise for Wesley Hamilton!
1038
00:43:58,218 --> 00:43:59,720
Let's go!
1039
00:44:00,471 --> 00:44:02,473
Let's go!
1040
00:44:05,851 --> 00:44:07,811
This event is poppin'.
1041
00:44:07,895 --> 00:44:10,189
-Hey, looking clean, man.
-Hey! Hey!
1042
00:44:10,272 --> 00:44:12,941
How does it feel
to have the fresh hair?
1043
00:44:13,025 --> 00:44:14,943
- It feels liberating.
-Yeah.
1044
00:44:15,027 --> 00:44:16,445
You look awesome with your haircut.
1045
00:44:16,528 --> 00:44:17,863
Hey, you know!
1046
00:44:17,946 --> 00:44:21,033
Look at that gorgeous smile
just illuminating from his inside. Oh!
1047
00:44:21,492 --> 00:44:24,578
-All right, all right, all right.
1048
00:44:24,662 --> 00:44:27,956
- Man. Oh, man.
- You look good! Woo!
1049
00:44:28,040 --> 00:44:30,793
I don't think I could ever be this clean,
you know?
1050
00:44:31,293 --> 00:44:34,463
It might not show my guns right now,
but y'all know what's real.
1051
00:44:36,715 --> 00:44:39,176
Never a bad opportunity to pass out
on a comment about his guns.
1052
00:44:40,052 --> 00:44:42,262
First of all, thank you, everybody,
for being here.
1053
00:44:42,346 --> 00:44:45,015
Um, it's truly an honor to see...
1054
00:44:45,391 --> 00:44:46,433
everybody
1055
00:44:46,517 --> 00:44:48,727
that supports this organization.
1056
00:44:49,645 --> 00:44:51,689
I came from somewhere where...
1057
00:44:52,398 --> 00:44:55,442
I wasn't surrounded by five gay guys.
1058
00:44:56,527 --> 00:44:58,112
-You're gay?
1059
00:44:58,195 --> 00:45:01,532
And what I found was that all of us...
1060
00:45:02,533 --> 00:45:04,201
kind of face the same thing.
1061
00:45:04,827 --> 00:45:07,663
And it was that society
seen us differently.
1062
00:45:07,913 --> 00:45:09,707
When I talk about acceptance,
1063
00:45:10,290 --> 00:45:13,001
seeing five guys
that accepted who they were,
1064
00:45:13,335 --> 00:45:16,130
and they see one guy
that accepted who he was,
1065
00:45:16,213 --> 00:45:17,297
it was just amazing.
1066
00:45:17,381 --> 00:45:18,507
And I just wanna say
1067
00:45:18,590 --> 00:45:20,718
we just can't look at anybody differently.
1068
00:45:21,301 --> 00:45:22,636
It's all about love.
1069
00:45:23,220 --> 00:45:24,888
I'm a new me today.
1070
00:45:24,972 --> 00:45:28,392
And I just want everybody to know
is that, yeah, I am disabled,
1071
00:45:28,892 --> 00:45:30,102
but not really.
1072
00:45:37,317 --> 00:45:39,319
-I love Wesley!
- Me, too.
1073
00:45:40,279 --> 00:45:42,239
I didn't give credit where credit was due.
1074
00:45:42,865 --> 00:45:46,702
The woman that actually was there for me
through it all...
1075
00:45:47,745 --> 00:45:49,371
I'm talking about my mom.
1076
00:45:49,830 --> 00:45:51,707
And I want her to come up here...
1077
00:45:55,753 --> 00:45:56,837
Because...
1078
00:45:58,338 --> 00:46:00,966
she gave me the love...
1079
00:46:02,926 --> 00:46:05,137
that I needed when I didn't love myself.
1080
00:46:05,929 --> 00:46:08,390
So, I just wanted to give credit
to my mom
1081
00:46:09,099 --> 00:46:11,018
'cause this is-- this is my backbone.
1082
00:46:14,897 --> 00:46:15,856
I love you.
1083
00:46:18,150 --> 00:46:19,318
What an incredible man.
1084
00:46:19,401 --> 00:46:20,903
-Yes.
-Guys, to Wesley.
1085
00:46:20,986 --> 00:46:23,155
-Yes, to Wesley.
-Disabled but not really.
1086
00:46:23,238 --> 00:46:24,406
Yes!
1087
00:46:28,202 --> 00:46:30,412
Daunted by the notion
of tying your own tie?
1088
00:46:30,496 --> 00:46:32,039
I'm gonna keep it simple for you.
1089
00:46:32,122 --> 00:46:33,707
The thin end on your right side,
1090
00:46:33,791 --> 00:46:35,417
the thicker end on your left side.
1091
00:46:35,501 --> 00:46:37,002
Make the left side longer.
1092
00:46:37,085 --> 00:46:38,545
About three or four inches down
1093
00:46:38,629 --> 00:46:41,381
is where you're going to cross
the thinner end.
1094
00:46:41,465 --> 00:46:44,009
With the thicker end,
you're gonna spin it around,
1095
00:46:44,635 --> 00:46:46,053
and then feed it over.
1096
00:46:46,136 --> 00:46:47,429
Tuck it through the loop,
1097
00:46:48,430 --> 00:46:49,264
and pull.
1098
00:46:49,348 --> 00:46:52,684
Then, simply pull the thinner end up,
1099
00:46:52,768 --> 00:46:55,646
bring your collar down
for one final adjustment,
1100
00:46:55,896 --> 00:46:59,191
and that is how you tie a simple knot.
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