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hi I'm Susan Bratton your trusted hot

sex adviser to millions I'm happy to

talk to you today about prostate care

this is my prostate care video series

with dr. Riley

dr. Riley's a youtuber as well and she's

a real sex talk dr. Riley also has a

prostate cancer awareness Foundation of

prostate cancer prevention Awareness

Foundation because you can't prevent it

if you're not aware of it and prostate

cancer happens to so many men and it

could be avoided if you do prostate

massage so we're gonna talk a little bit

more about prostate massage why you

can't really do it to yourself and how

you can actually give yourself prostate

massages and why they're not only fun

but so so so so good for you

so dr. Riley just give us a little bit

of information about how a guy would

approach giving himself prostate

massages and how often you'd recommend

if he could do it it's almost impossible

for a male to reach his own g-spot I

know a lot of guys have tried and going

in in general is gonna feel amazing so

they're gonna get that intense feeling

but they're probably not gonna get right

on the prostate and actually be able to

massage it so definitely a toy is

recommended or a partner if you can do

that exactly yes you have some wonderful

toys and we're going to explain all of

those and they make them I mean you can

get vibrating ones you didn't get all

different kinds so they're fantastic but

how often should you do it really

depends on the guy himself if you're in

your 20s and you're just doing a

prostate massage because you enjoy it

and you like it there's really not that

huge risk of prostate cancer or

prostatitis or not a lot of fluid built

up in the prostate if you're in your 40s

50s 70s 80s you definitely need to be

doing it a lot more because you need to

keep that fluid flushed out so I always

tell people you have to go based on your

body and how you feel ask

you have the prostate massage because

men see such a difference after they've

had it that they know like in two weeks

or a month or whatever oh I'm kind of

feeling that heavy sort of feeling again

when it's probably time to you know get

another one and that's if you're doing

it for the health benefits but if you're

just doing it because you simply enjoy

it you want to add it to your sex life

and your partner's into it I say do it

as much as you want now we have a couple

of videos in this prostate care series

that talk about things like how to

masturbate

during prostate massage for both

pleasure and for getting the fluid out

we have a specific video on how to get

the fluid out but how long should a guy

could this be something he could do like

maybe with the toy in five minutes

do a little masturbation or what's the

average length of a prostate massager is

he got to be up in there a half an hour

or how does it work

again I think it depends on whether

you're doing it for pleasure or you're

doing it for the health benefits um

let's just say for the health benefits

cuz for pleasure he can take himself up

and down the arousal ladder as many

times as he wants and have the prostate

and have vibration and enjoy himself

enjoy all the pleasure of his pee spot

hit the woman the analogous to the

woman's g-spot is his pee spot but I'm

saying for health reasons if a guy's

like look my dad died of prostate cancer

and I ain't gonna get it what do I do

dr. Riley you give him and let's just

say he's 50 years old what would be a

good average because you've had

thousands I dare say thousands of

patients men that you've worked on doing

prostate massagers four so about how

long is a good healthcare prostate

massage for the average 50 year old guy

all right great um I always recommend

that they bring themselves close and

back off at least four to six times okay

in in one you know times so I've had

guys who come in every

week I've had guys who come in every

month guys who come in every six months

and here's how you can tell

depending on if they're up all night

going to the bathroom if their urine

stream is weaker if they you know or

having your pain during urination or

ejaculation if they have any of the five

main symptoms that are like an enlarged

prostate obviously they need to be doing

it more often so you know if you come in

every week you might only need to do

that for a couple months and then you

know we've got most most I say because I

never know exactly how much fluid we're

getting out at a time but the other

important thing is that if you come and

see me every week I'm still recommending

that you're masturbating five times a

week when you're not seeing me so you

know if you don't masturbate and you're

just coming in for a prostate massage

then you're gonna want to do it more

often but if you're following up at home

and you're masturbating properly and

you're doing what you should be doing

you might be able to stretch that out to

two weeks you know so it it's so hard to

tell and it really also goes based on

the size of the prostate so you really

want to listen to your own body with

your own intuition your own sense of

self the feelings that are coming tune

into all of your equipment and feel what

feels good to you another thing I wanted

to tell you is that during this series

on prostate care dr. Riley and I are

going to be doing what we're calling our

prostate toy haul we're gonna unbox a

bunch of prostate toys and show them to

you and there's some that vibrate some

that don't some are small some are

bigger you'll see there's such a wide

variety but one of them will be the one

that calls to you and like this is the

one that calls to me but I've got a

whole bunch of other ones we're gonna

show you and you can do your prostate

massage in the shower so you can also

think about well you know you're

sticking this thing up your butt so

what's a good place to do it you don't

have to do it in bed or your loungy

chair you can do it right in the shower

and you can do it once or twice a week

while you're taking a shower and

essentially what you're doing is you're

getting that prostate gland when you're

starting to feel the orgasmic

contractions of your

all that bland is starting to squeeze

and contract squeeze and contract and

that's getting that fluid kind of moving

in your prostate as dr. Riley explains

when you take yourself from an arousal

level of one to five on a scale of 10

and then you take yourself up to a 9 but

not 10 which would be you'd ejaculate

you're gonna go five to seven or eight

five to seven eight nine and come back

down to five go back up come back down

do that five times and then when you

ejaculate what you've done is you've

squeezed that prostate glands such that

she says it gets that fluid from the

bottom that kind of sits in there it

gets it up and mixing in with the fresh

fluid in your semen so that when you do

finally ejaculate after taking yourself

up and down the arousal scale you're

moving through and moving out some of

that old fluid that's mixing in with the

newer fluid instead of just ejaculating

right away and shooting the new stuff

out all the time you want to get the old

stuff mixed in through the quick through

the contractions dr. Riley Susan I want

to tell you that as you're speaking of

the old fluid and the new fluid most

guys are going to be able to tell the

difference because the old fluid that

sits in the bottom of it is more like a

thick milky consistency and then the new

fluid that kind I see it's like oil and

water that kind of sit on the top that's

more of like just a creamy more

see-through kind of clear so when guys

will ejaculate they'll say oh my gosh

like it was so thick or it looked like

this and I'm like that's good that's how

you know you're actually getting that

fluid out and what you're doing is

making a difference because you know

some guys will maybe take a toy and go

in and be in there for a minute or

something and not do the back and forth

and then when they ejaculate they're

like well I don't know it doesn't look

any different it's because you're not

getting that fluid built up so it's

super important for the back and forth

because yeah and you want to be able to

tell when you get the right kind of

fluid out of there and also going up and

down

that arousal ladder from the five to the

nine to the five to the nine to the five

to the nine though that is a learned

skill and you know you're gonna you're

gonna ejaculate by accident sometimes

it's gonna feel pretty darn good when

there's an a vibrating prostate massager

up your butt and that's okay because

what you're doing is you're training

your body and one of the great things

we're going to be talking about in

another one of our prostate care

episodes here on this series is stamina

and what you're really doing is you're

training yourself to have more stamina

by also caring for your prostate so this

is a very virtuous cycle of physical and

emotional experiences because there's

also a lot of emotion in the seat of

your prostate and this is gonna help

kind of clear out some of the angers and

the frustrations and you know like

literally some guys you've called them a

tight ass you know you know guys that

are a tight ass hey that's a thing and

that's a stuck emotion and frustration

of a guy that tight ass he needs that

kind of release and you might be that

guy and so these are all really healthy

things now dr. Riley is there any last

thing that you want to say in this

particular episode I would say when

you're doing the prostate massage give

yourself time and do not rush through it

and actually learn to enjoy what you're

doing and not you know think about what

society thinks about it and all of that

just think I'm doing this for my health

I'm doing it for my pleasure and and be

into it you know give yourself time and

enjoy it I I can't stress that enough

you really need to enjoy what you're

doing yeah for some reason we've lost

touch with the old medicine and the wise

wisdom of our forbearers

when men had prostate problems in the

past their doctor would massage their

prostate for them and your doctor

doesn't do that for you anymore and so

you have to take you are your own

medical advocate it is your

responsibility to take care of yourself

in the healthcare systems of today that

don't provide this for you anymore you

can find a good prostate masseuse in

many major metropolitan areas

dr. Reilly what would someone Google to

find somebody like you um prostate

massage okay

process that's it

and but make sure that they know what

they're doing yeah and I want to go back

to just one thing that you said about

like how before doctors used to do the

prostate massage any other country you

can go into a doctor and get a prostate

massage you can actually go to a

doctor's office and they will do it only

in America do we not have that option so

it's very crazy because anywhere else in

the world prostate massage is a serious

thing and people take it very seriously

and in America we have higher rates of

prostate cancer

actually it being the second leading

cause of death in men yet it's

preventable so it doesn't make a whole

lot of sense you know yes most

definitely and thank you for the great

work you do and all of the men that

you've helped over so many years that

you've been doing this as a professional

prostate masseuse you're you are a

professional and I really appreciate

getting to talk to you about this really

important part of men's sexual health

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