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Would you like to inspect the original subtitles? These are the user uploaded subtitles that are being translated: 1 00:00:20,020 --> 00:00:21,586 ? Don't care what you think about it ? 2 00:00:21,630 --> 00:00:23,240 ? Ain't here to please nobody 3 00:00:23,284 --> 00:00:24,850 ? I'm running undercover 4 00:00:24,894 --> 00:00:26,200 ? Here comes trouble now 5 00:00:30,073 --> 00:00:34,599 ? Me and my wicked ways 6 00:00:34,643 --> 00:00:36,384 ? I'll get you into trouble now ? 7 00:00:36,427 --> 00:00:41,041 ? It's just so hard to behave 8 00:00:41,084 --> 00:00:42,868 ? Got you seeing double, now 9 00:00:49,484 --> 00:00:51,094 ? I'm the one your mama told you ? 10 00:00:51,138 --> 00:00:52,922 ? I'll play the one that's told you ? 11 00:00:52,965 --> 00:00:54,141 ? A risk you can't afford 12 00:00:54,184 --> 00:00:56,360 ? And here comes trouble now 13 00:00:56,404 --> 00:00:59,929 ? Turning it up all night 14 00:00:59,972 --> 00:01:03,106 ? Got you feeling all right 15 00:01:03,150 --> 00:01:06,022 ? Turning it up all night 16 00:01:06,066 --> 00:01:09,112 ? Got you feeling all right 17 00:01:09,156 --> 00:01:10,722 ? Get you into trouble, now 18 00:01:27,130 --> 00:01:29,176 - One would imagine that in America, 19 00:01:29,219 --> 00:01:32,048 we're a lot more liberal when it comes to sexuality. 20 00:01:32,092 --> 00:01:35,269 In our country, we're still so judgmental. 21 00:01:35,312 --> 00:01:36,966 Things are very taboo. 22 00:01:37,009 --> 00:01:38,707 - Right now it's not really happening for me. 23 00:01:38,750 --> 00:01:41,710 I just survived The Summer of Celibacy. 24 00:01:41,753 --> 00:01:43,103 - I would say my sex life is-- 25 00:01:43,146 --> 00:01:45,017 I'm a very, like, erotic kind of guy, 26 00:01:45,061 --> 00:01:47,542 so I like the-- the slow, passionate-- 27 00:01:47,585 --> 00:01:48,978 you know, I like the build-up. 28 00:01:49,021 --> 00:01:50,719 - If I could eat pussy all day, I would. 29 00:01:50,762 --> 00:01:52,547 But to me, what I love the most is, 30 00:01:52,590 --> 00:01:54,114 I like to eat pussy, like to have sex, 31 00:01:54,157 --> 00:01:55,811 When I'm done, I gotta go have a sandwich. 32 00:01:55,854 --> 00:01:57,943 People know that about me. When I'm done having sex, 33 00:01:57,987 --> 00:01:59,162 I'm gonna go have a sandwich, come back, 34 00:01:59,206 --> 00:02:01,164 and have sex again. 35 00:02:01,208 --> 00:02:02,557 And then I'm gonna go get another sandwich. 36 00:02:02,600 --> 00:02:04,950 - Ideally, I'd have sex twice a day. 37 00:02:04,994 --> 00:02:06,126 Breakfast, and fucking dinner. 38 00:02:06,169 --> 00:02:07,562 - I think talking about sex 39 00:02:07,605 --> 00:02:09,259 is highly important 40 00:02:09,303 --> 00:02:11,174 for everyone to do, 41 00:02:11,218 --> 00:02:12,828 because we don't talk about it enough. 42 00:02:12,871 --> 00:02:14,612 - I'm London. - I'm Donovan. 43 00:02:14,656 --> 00:02:16,223 - Kelly. - Michael, and this-- 44 00:02:16,266 --> 00:02:17,659 - And this-- - And this-- 45 00:02:17,702 --> 00:02:19,269 Both: And this is our sex life. 46 00:02:20,879 --> 00:02:23,708 - Oww! - But don't tell my mother. 47 00:02:33,588 --> 00:02:36,765 - People come to these Erotic Sleepovers 48 00:02:36,808 --> 00:02:41,509 because they really need and want to experience 49 00:02:41,552 --> 00:02:45,077 true freedom and liberation. 50 00:02:48,472 --> 00:02:50,431 - There's a spiritual component of it. 51 00:02:50,474 --> 00:02:53,390 Really getting into the energy, learning about energies 52 00:02:53,434 --> 00:02:57,525 and the sensuality of it all. 53 00:02:57,568 --> 00:03:01,224 Sex is good. We say "yes" to pleasure. 54 00:03:01,268 --> 00:03:03,270 We say "yes" to variety, both women and men. 55 00:03:03,313 --> 00:03:05,402 We say "yes" to sharing! 56 00:03:08,927 --> 00:03:12,540 - I want them to leave with their lives changed 57 00:03:12,583 --> 00:03:15,107 forever at their core. 58 00:03:15,151 --> 00:03:17,501 That's the power of what we're doing here. 59 00:03:41,917 --> 00:03:47,792 - You have 360 degrees of access to your partner. 60 00:03:47,836 --> 00:03:50,273 - Right. - And so you can really 61 00:03:50,317 --> 00:03:53,755 position her in any position and play 62 00:03:53,798 --> 00:03:55,887 and just have a really good time. 63 00:03:55,931 --> 00:03:58,107 - We have been married for three years, 64 00:03:58,150 --> 00:03:59,717 been together for four. 65 00:03:59,761 --> 00:04:01,284 Loving every single moment of it. 66 00:04:01,328 --> 00:04:02,546 - You better. - [ chuckles ] 67 00:04:02,590 --> 00:04:04,809 - She's spicy. 68 00:04:04,853 --> 00:04:06,811 Very, very spicy. 69 00:04:06,855 --> 00:04:09,031 - Are you from Atlanta? - No. 70 00:04:09,074 --> 00:04:10,554 - No? - We've only been here 71 00:04:10,598 --> 00:04:11,729 for about a year now. She's from New York. 72 00:04:11,773 --> 00:04:12,904 - New York. - Louisiana. 73 00:04:12,948 --> 00:04:14,384 - Oh, okay, okay. 74 00:04:14,428 --> 00:04:16,691 - Bringing in an extra toy or two, whatever, 75 00:04:16,734 --> 00:04:18,432 it's spicy, it's sexy. 76 00:04:18,475 --> 00:04:20,260 It keeps your relationship alive. 77 00:04:20,303 --> 00:04:24,220 - I think this toy is a really-- an amazing showpiece. 78 00:04:24,264 --> 00:04:26,831 - Hmm. - It enhances everything. 79 00:04:26,875 --> 00:04:28,398 - Exactly, and that's what we're about. 80 00:04:28,442 --> 00:04:29,878 We're about enhancing each other's pleasure. 81 00:04:29,921 --> 00:04:31,140 - Yeah. - That's what we're here for. 82 00:04:31,183 --> 00:04:32,315 - And if it can enhance 83 00:04:32,359 --> 00:04:34,143 more than what he already does? 84 00:04:34,186 --> 00:04:35,927 - Mm-hmm. - I'll just be like, 85 00:04:35,971 --> 00:04:37,320 coming on the walls. 86 00:04:41,019 --> 00:04:43,935 - Bring your poncho. Bring your poncho. 87 00:04:45,372 --> 00:04:46,895 He's just looking at me. 88 00:04:46,938 --> 00:04:48,853 - Hey, if you can work up to it and you feel 89 00:04:48,897 --> 00:04:52,292 comfortable with it, I say let's go for it. 90 00:04:52,335 --> 00:04:53,641 - Do you think they'll have some of those 91 00:04:53,684 --> 00:04:55,860 at the Erotic Sleepover? 92 00:05:03,868 --> 00:05:05,653 - All right, son everybody, 93 00:05:05,696 --> 00:05:07,219 we're gonna go ahead and get started. 94 00:05:07,263 --> 00:05:10,353 First off, I want to say thank all of y'all people 95 00:05:10,397 --> 00:05:13,574 for coming and participating in Erotic Sleepover 3.0. 96 00:05:13,617 --> 00:05:15,880 I don't know how many of you guys know me, 97 00:05:15,924 --> 00:05:17,360 but I am gonna introduce myself so you know 98 00:05:17,404 --> 00:05:19,362 who the fuck I am. 99 00:05:19,406 --> 00:05:22,147 I'm Cidney Green. This is my brain child. 100 00:05:22,191 --> 00:05:26,500 It started off as just an idea and here we are, 101 00:05:26,543 --> 00:05:27,936 three years later, doing it. 102 00:05:27,979 --> 00:05:30,852 And this is actually a bit surreal. 103 00:05:30,895 --> 00:05:32,680 You know what I'm saying? So it's cool! 104 00:05:32,723 --> 00:05:36,901 An Erotic Sleepover is an all-inclusive, 105 00:05:36,945 --> 00:05:39,382 luxury, spiritual, sexual retreat. 106 00:05:48,260 --> 00:05:50,175 The people that come to the Erotic Sleepover, 107 00:05:50,219 --> 00:05:52,874 you get all walks of life. 108 00:05:52,917 --> 00:05:55,746 I think the common thread that keeps all of us together 109 00:05:55,790 --> 00:05:59,141 is the desire for sexual freedom and sexual expression. 110 00:05:59,184 --> 00:06:01,839 And what I provide here is just really a safe place. 111 00:06:01,883 --> 00:06:04,364 It has to be safe as far as not being judged, 112 00:06:04,407 --> 00:06:06,366 safe as far as just physical safety 113 00:06:06,409 --> 00:06:09,412 and it's a very loving, warm environment. 114 00:06:15,853 --> 00:06:17,464 - I mean... 115 00:06:17,507 --> 00:06:20,380 I've never been on an Erotic Sleepover before. 116 00:06:22,120 --> 00:06:23,034 - Mm-hmm. 117 00:06:23,078 --> 00:06:25,776 - So I'm just...nervous? 118 00:06:25,820 --> 00:06:27,691 - Nervous? - Nervous. 119 00:06:27,735 --> 00:06:30,172 - What kind of things make you nervous about it? 120 00:06:30,215 --> 00:06:31,826 - Being outside of our bedroom. 121 00:06:31,869 --> 00:06:34,045 - Right, that's-- 122 00:06:34,089 --> 00:06:35,830 - So, again, we haven't been outside 123 00:06:35,873 --> 00:06:38,223 of our bedroom, sexually. 124 00:06:38,267 --> 00:06:39,834 So being there with a bunch of people-- 125 00:06:39,877 --> 00:06:42,271 I don't even know how many people--50 people. 126 00:06:42,314 --> 00:06:44,273 You know what I mean? It's just gonna be like-- 127 00:06:44,316 --> 00:06:47,145 it's--it's not normal, it seems. 128 00:06:47,189 --> 00:06:48,712 But then, what's normal? 129 00:06:48,756 --> 00:06:50,235 - Yeah, nobody else can define your normal, 130 00:06:50,279 --> 00:06:52,542 but you. 131 00:06:52,586 --> 00:06:53,804 - I guess. 132 00:06:53,848 --> 00:06:55,327 - So let's go define our normal. 133 00:06:55,371 --> 00:06:57,286 - I guess. 134 00:07:01,638 --> 00:07:05,599 So hopefully, like, we walk in and just find 135 00:07:05,642 --> 00:07:07,688 the people that we're looking to hook up with. 136 00:07:07,731 --> 00:07:09,124 - Uh-huh. - Like, that's the dream. 137 00:07:09,167 --> 00:07:10,473 - That's the dream scenario? 138 00:07:10,517 --> 00:07:12,562 - Like, I don't want to go searching. 139 00:07:12,606 --> 00:07:13,694 - All right, so you open the door. 140 00:07:13,737 --> 00:07:15,435 Boom. Pow. Door open. 141 00:07:15,478 --> 00:07:18,699 You walk in. Describe the person you see. 142 00:07:18,742 --> 00:07:21,832 - Girl or guy? 143 00:07:21,876 --> 00:07:23,399 - Let's start with guy. 144 00:07:23,443 --> 00:07:25,793 - Shirtless. - Okay. 145 00:07:25,836 --> 00:07:28,404 - Abs. - All right. 146 00:07:28,448 --> 00:07:29,840 - And he's sweating. - Okay. 147 00:07:29,884 --> 00:07:31,363 - He's like-- 148 00:07:31,407 --> 00:07:33,801 Sweat, sweat, sweat, sweat, sweat. "You!" 149 00:07:33,844 --> 00:07:36,368 And then I'm just like, "Oh, ah!" 150 00:07:36,412 --> 00:07:39,284 And then you're like, "Do you want him?" 151 00:07:39,328 --> 00:07:40,982 And then I'm just like, "Yeah," 152 00:07:41,025 --> 00:07:42,853 and then we, like, attack him. 153 00:07:42,897 --> 00:07:44,899 Like, that's my-- when we walk through the door. 154 00:07:44,942 --> 00:07:46,291 - Uh-huh. - That's fantasy. 155 00:07:46,335 --> 00:07:47,684 - First thing? - First thing. 156 00:07:47,728 --> 00:07:48,772 - Okay. - Soon as we open the door. 157 00:07:48,816 --> 00:07:51,079 And it's just like "Whoa!" 158 00:07:53,603 --> 00:07:57,520 - I think, honestly, if more people did this, 159 00:07:57,564 --> 00:07:59,261 there'd be a lot less cheating in relationships. 160 00:07:59,304 --> 00:08:00,784 - There would be, and people would be together. 161 00:08:00,828 --> 00:08:02,177 - That's one thing I can say. - People would be together 162 00:08:02,220 --> 00:08:03,004 and people would be happy. 163 00:08:03,047 --> 00:08:05,920 - Mm-hmm, mm-hmm. 164 00:08:05,963 --> 00:08:06,964 I agree. 165 00:08:07,008 --> 00:08:08,836 - High five! Pow! 166 00:08:23,938 --> 00:08:25,635 - What about this space? 167 00:08:27,768 --> 00:08:30,335 What about--we could put some maybe in here? 168 00:08:30,379 --> 00:08:32,512 - We have to have a place for people to sleep. 169 00:08:32,555 --> 00:08:34,949 - Are those air mattresses fluffy? 170 00:08:34,992 --> 00:08:37,386 This is looking kind of-- it's still looking kind of-- 171 00:08:37,429 --> 00:08:40,520 Yeah, like, there needs to be no wrinkles in it. 172 00:08:40,563 --> 00:08:43,566 Stephanie, do you have all the alcohol stations planned out? 173 00:08:43,610 --> 00:08:44,872 I can put that in Milo's quarters 174 00:08:44,915 --> 00:08:46,308 if you want to, with the trays. 175 00:08:46,351 --> 00:08:48,266 I don't know if you want the trays to be 176 00:08:48,310 --> 00:08:49,746 already in Milo's quarters or have the trays at your station. 177 00:08:49,790 --> 00:08:50,965 - Yeah, the trays are gonna be split up. 178 00:08:51,008 --> 00:08:52,488 - So this year's Erotic Sleepover, 179 00:08:52,532 --> 00:08:54,185 we're gonna have 30 guests. 180 00:08:54,229 --> 00:08:57,841 And this venue is by far the best venue we've ever had, 181 00:08:57,885 --> 00:09:01,192 the biggest and the most grandest venue we ever had. 182 00:09:01,236 --> 00:09:03,281 So I just can't wait for people to see it. 183 00:09:03,325 --> 00:09:05,849 Thank y'all. Again, if I'm sharp, 184 00:09:05,893 --> 00:09:07,982 it is not because I don't love and appreciate y'all. 185 00:09:08,025 --> 00:09:09,374 I'm just-- this is just sharp time. 186 00:09:09,418 --> 00:09:10,985 Like, I gotta be sharp. 187 00:09:20,995 --> 00:09:22,170 I grew up in Monroe, Louisiana, 188 00:09:22,213 --> 00:09:24,868 obviously the South, okay. 189 00:09:24,912 --> 00:09:27,741 So my mom did not raise us in the church 190 00:09:27,784 --> 00:09:30,308 like a lot of families were. 191 00:09:30,352 --> 00:09:34,356 Even though my mom was relatively liberal, 192 00:09:34,399 --> 00:09:37,359 you still get those ideals that sex is-- 193 00:09:37,402 --> 00:09:39,883 you shouldn't do it and masturbation is bad. 194 00:09:39,927 --> 00:09:41,537 But I started playing with my pussy young. 195 00:09:41,581 --> 00:09:43,452 I started masturbating young, okay? 196 00:09:43,495 --> 00:09:45,933 I started figuring out that things felt good 197 00:09:45,976 --> 00:09:47,108 when you touched them a certain way 198 00:09:47,151 --> 00:09:49,110 when I was about eight. 199 00:09:49,153 --> 00:09:51,416 And to this day, you should not trust me 200 00:09:51,460 --> 00:09:54,811 around pool jets because I will position myself 201 00:09:54,855 --> 00:09:56,596 and act like I'm reading a book when really, 202 00:09:56,639 --> 00:09:58,902 I'm letting the water hit my clit. 203 00:09:58,946 --> 00:10:01,296 Yes, I like that. 204 00:10:01,339 --> 00:10:03,167 But, I'm saying all this to say 205 00:10:03,211 --> 00:10:07,476 I still remember feeling guilt about sexuality. 206 00:10:07,519 --> 00:10:11,219 I had to figure out a way to stop giving a fuck 207 00:10:11,262 --> 00:10:14,875 about what I thought a man wanted or what I thought 208 00:10:14,918 --> 00:10:16,964 society expected of me, being a black woman. 209 00:10:17,007 --> 00:10:20,271 And I had to sit with myself, just really figuring out 210 00:10:20,315 --> 00:10:22,883 if there was no such thing as a social norm at all, 211 00:10:22,926 --> 00:10:25,320 would I like having more than one man that love me? Yes. 212 00:10:25,363 --> 00:10:26,930 Would I want to be monogamous? No. 213 00:10:26,974 --> 00:10:29,063 Would I want to have sex as much as I want 214 00:10:29,106 --> 00:10:31,326 and all this other time? Yeah. 215 00:10:31,369 --> 00:10:33,676 And I fell in love with all of it. 216 00:10:33,720 --> 00:10:35,112 And I fell in love with the person who 217 00:10:35,156 --> 00:10:37,071 had those beliefs and had those desires. 218 00:10:37,114 --> 00:10:39,682 And so yeah, I figured out who the fuck I was 219 00:10:39,726 --> 00:10:41,510 and fell in love with that person and here you are. 220 00:10:41,553 --> 00:10:44,078 I was repressed and now I'm not. 221 00:10:56,003 --> 00:10:57,221 - This is what we've been waiting for. 222 00:10:57,265 --> 00:10:58,483 - Yep. - The moment we have 223 00:10:58,527 --> 00:11:00,224 been waiting for. - Here we go. 224 00:11:10,147 --> 00:11:12,541 Look how huge this house is! 225 00:11:14,717 --> 00:11:17,198 Don't forget your mask. - I got it. You got yours? 226 00:11:17,241 --> 00:11:18,460 - Yeah. - All right. 227 00:11:30,341 --> 00:11:32,474 - Sounds loud in there. 228 00:11:32,517 --> 00:11:34,606 - Hello. - Hello! 229 00:11:34,650 --> 00:11:37,044 Hello! Hello! Hello! 230 00:11:48,185 --> 00:11:49,883 - Cidney is my sister. 231 00:11:49,926 --> 00:11:51,928 - Cidney is your sister, really? - Yes. 232 00:11:51,972 --> 00:11:53,974 - All right, I'm Mike. It's nice to meet you. 233 00:11:54,017 --> 00:11:55,758 - Nice to meet you. Welcome, welcome. 234 00:12:10,425 --> 00:12:13,123 - You're in room one. 235 00:12:13,167 --> 00:12:14,603 'Cause you're number one. 236 00:12:14,646 --> 00:12:17,998 - We are number one. Ohh! - Ohh! 237 00:12:18,041 --> 00:12:19,521 - When people come to my events, 238 00:12:19,564 --> 00:12:21,436 it's a very freeing, liberating feeling. 239 00:12:21,479 --> 00:12:23,220 You get to be yourself. 240 00:12:23,264 --> 00:12:25,875 They get to know themselves on a level 241 00:12:25,919 --> 00:12:28,269 that they've never gotten to know themselves before. 242 00:12:28,312 --> 00:12:31,098 - Thank you, and your name is? - Kamia. 243 00:12:31,141 --> 00:12:33,100 - And her titties are not fake. They are real. 244 00:12:33,143 --> 00:12:34,710 - I see, they're gorgeous! - They look very real. 245 00:12:34,754 --> 00:12:37,278 - Those are real tits. - Very, very, real. 246 00:12:37,321 --> 00:12:39,759 - Are yours real too? - If you need a towel, 247 00:12:39,802 --> 00:12:42,805 if you need your head massaged, whatever it is. 248 00:12:42,849 --> 00:12:46,287 - Which head, though? 249 00:12:46,330 --> 00:12:47,854 - My name is Princess. 250 00:12:47,897 --> 00:12:50,030 I'm the event manager and model coordinator 251 00:12:50,073 --> 00:12:51,640 for the Erotic Sleepover this year. 252 00:12:51,683 --> 00:12:52,989 I'm here for both of you. 253 00:12:53,033 --> 00:12:54,904 I'm here all night if you need me. 254 00:12:54,948 --> 00:12:58,386 People are really coming just for that ambiance, 255 00:12:58,429 --> 00:13:00,780 for that freedom, for the spirituality. 256 00:13:02,999 --> 00:13:05,915 - I'm looking forward to a whole lot of voyeurism. 257 00:13:05,959 --> 00:13:09,527 Like, I want to see all sorts of sex. 258 00:13:09,571 --> 00:13:12,835 All sorts of sex-- juicy sex, saucy sex, 259 00:13:12,879 --> 00:13:14,881 morning sex, nighttime sex. 260 00:13:14,924 --> 00:13:16,708 I want to see sex, sex, sex. 261 00:13:16,752 --> 00:13:18,841 In the room, in the closet, everywhere. 262 00:13:20,495 --> 00:13:24,412 This event has a spiritual twist or spin to it. 263 00:13:24,455 --> 00:13:26,153 - Yes, yes, and you are? 264 00:13:26,196 --> 00:13:27,197 - I'm J. Jose! 265 00:13:27,241 --> 00:13:29,025 - J. Jose! All right, man! 266 00:13:29,069 --> 00:13:31,245 Good to meet you, man. Good to meet you. 267 00:13:31,288 --> 00:13:35,336 - So it's not your typical orgy or sex party at all. 268 00:13:35,379 --> 00:13:37,729 - That's what I'm talking about. Get it girl, get it, get it. 269 00:13:37,773 --> 00:13:39,644 - It's my quads. - I need to get more like you. 270 00:13:39,688 --> 00:13:41,124 I should start twerking more. 271 00:13:41,168 --> 00:13:42,778 - What do you do? 272 00:13:42,822 --> 00:13:43,605 - Eat fish. 273 00:13:45,694 --> 00:13:49,176 - Brown people are very sexually inhibited. 274 00:13:49,219 --> 00:13:52,222 Don't believe all the twerk videos you see on TV. 275 00:13:52,266 --> 00:13:55,182 That's not the truth, not for the mass populace. 276 00:13:55,225 --> 00:13:57,227 We're not liberated in that way. 277 00:13:57,271 --> 00:13:59,099 So if people come and they just really want 278 00:13:59,142 --> 00:14:02,798 to have good, clean, open fun, 279 00:14:02,842 --> 00:14:04,931 an event like this can open them up 280 00:14:04,974 --> 00:14:06,062 to another part of themselves 281 00:14:06,106 --> 00:14:07,847 that they didn't know existed. 282 00:14:07,890 --> 00:14:10,632 - We have a couple of activities for you guys, okay? 283 00:14:10,675 --> 00:14:12,460 But the first thing we're gonna do 284 00:14:12,503 --> 00:14:15,942 is introduce you to King Heff. 285 00:14:20,163 --> 00:14:25,038 - I teach the sensual art of impact play, right? 286 00:14:25,081 --> 00:14:27,344 So tonight, I'm gonna do a little demonstration. 287 00:14:27,388 --> 00:14:29,433 We're gonna do a little breath play, okay? 288 00:14:29,477 --> 00:14:31,000 So if y'all don't know what breath play is, 289 00:14:31,044 --> 00:14:34,177 breath play is a little choking, all right? 290 00:14:34,221 --> 00:14:36,832 So before I do this, consent is very key 291 00:14:36,876 --> 00:14:38,921 and very sexy, all right? 292 00:14:38,965 --> 00:14:41,750 So Junita, do I have your consent to choke you tonight? 293 00:14:41,793 --> 00:14:44,622 Yes. 294 00:14:44,666 --> 00:14:47,669 - I'm watching everything you guys do. 295 00:14:47,712 --> 00:14:49,410 - Consent is very important. 296 00:14:49,453 --> 00:14:53,022 Consent for everything, not even just sex, okay? 297 00:14:53,066 --> 00:14:55,938 If you want to touch somebody, 298 00:14:55,982 --> 00:14:57,548 you have to get a hard "yes." 299 00:14:57,592 --> 00:14:59,724 Anything that's not a "hell yes" is a "hell no." 300 00:14:59,768 --> 00:15:01,465 A "I guess you can"? 301 00:15:01,509 --> 00:15:03,337 No. That's a "no," okay? 302 00:15:03,380 --> 00:15:05,469 Everything has to be a hard "yes." 303 00:15:23,444 --> 00:15:25,707 - Oh, yes sir! 304 00:15:25,750 --> 00:15:27,709 - I had strict Caribbean parents, 305 00:15:27,752 --> 00:15:29,189 and I grew up very private. 306 00:15:29,232 --> 00:15:31,321 In my house, we always were clothed. 307 00:15:31,365 --> 00:15:33,758 You know, come out the shower, you have a towel on, 308 00:15:33,802 --> 00:15:35,586 you have a robe on, you have something on. 309 00:15:35,630 --> 00:15:38,198 So if I ever had anything little on with company over, 310 00:15:38,241 --> 00:15:39,590 my mom's like, "Put on some pants." 311 00:15:39,634 --> 00:15:41,375 You know, so we were very covered. 312 00:15:41,418 --> 00:15:44,944 Very--you know, sex wasn't open. 313 00:15:44,987 --> 00:15:48,208 So just seeing everyone do that was a lot. 314 00:15:48,251 --> 00:15:53,778 - Remember that 10,000 years ago, 315 00:15:53,822 --> 00:15:56,738 prior to sexual repression. 316 00:15:58,305 --> 00:16:00,698 Prior to the Victorian Age! 317 00:16:03,136 --> 00:16:04,833 - I could definitely tell 318 00:16:04,876 --> 00:16:06,356 that she was first starting to get uncomfortable 319 00:16:06,400 --> 00:16:09,055 right when we started to sit on the beds. 320 00:16:09,098 --> 00:16:10,447 And I think it was just the overwhelming 321 00:16:10,491 --> 00:16:13,059 of emotions and sensory overload, 322 00:16:13,102 --> 00:16:14,930 kind of with everything that was going on. 323 00:16:14,974 --> 00:16:16,758 So it was just a lot for her to take in 324 00:16:16,801 --> 00:16:21,023 and it was--it just started going south, unfortunately. 325 00:16:21,067 --> 00:16:23,983 - In societies where people take care of each other, 326 00:16:24,026 --> 00:16:27,551 all people have sex together, who want to. 327 00:16:27,595 --> 00:16:29,423 - And that's why I tried to pay more attention to her, 328 00:16:29,466 --> 00:16:32,382 every once in a while, reach over and give her a kiss, 329 00:16:32,426 --> 00:16:34,341 grab her hand and try to hold her close, 330 00:16:34,384 --> 00:16:37,039 let her know that everything's going to be all right. 331 00:16:37,083 --> 00:16:39,085 - If you would, come around this way 332 00:16:39,128 --> 00:16:41,174 and we're gonna get into an exact circle. 333 00:16:41,217 --> 00:16:45,265 Preferably male, female, male, female. 334 00:16:45,308 --> 00:16:46,483 - I'm going to the room real quick. 335 00:16:46,527 --> 00:16:47,571 - Say again? 336 00:16:47,615 --> 00:16:48,746 - I'm going to the room real quick. 337 00:16:48,790 --> 00:16:49,747 - You need me? 338 00:16:57,103 --> 00:16:58,234 - She's in the bathroom. 339 00:16:58,278 --> 00:17:00,454 - Oh. - She'll be back. 340 00:17:00,497 --> 00:17:02,543 - ...where you're going to practice consent. 341 00:17:02,586 --> 00:17:07,069 So the woman is going to ask for a sexual favor. 342 00:17:07,113 --> 00:17:10,072 - How do I kiss two people at the same time? 343 00:17:10,116 --> 00:17:11,508 - We can kiss you at the same time. 344 00:17:11,552 --> 00:17:14,033 - Okay, that works for me. 345 00:17:28,264 --> 00:17:35,010 - Four, three, two, and motherfucking one. 346 00:17:35,054 --> 00:17:37,404 - I felt uptight, a little prudish. 347 00:17:37,447 --> 00:17:39,754 Like, "Oh my god, they're naked!" 348 00:17:39,797 --> 00:17:41,277 Like, you know what I mean? 349 00:17:41,321 --> 00:17:42,931 So I just needed something to loosen up 350 00:17:42,974 --> 00:17:44,324 and nothing was working. 351 00:17:44,367 --> 00:17:45,499 - Where are you at? Come on, scatter, 352 00:17:45,542 --> 00:17:46,804 scatter, scatter. 353 00:17:46,848 --> 00:17:49,155 Get new groups! Come on, scatter. 354 00:17:49,198 --> 00:17:52,071 - It was just like, "Come on, Sunshine." 355 00:17:52,114 --> 00:17:55,117 - Is anybody gonna come to my bed? 356 00:17:57,119 --> 00:18:01,471 - I would like to have an ass massage 357 00:18:01,515 --> 00:18:03,995 at the same time as having a boob massage. 358 00:18:04,039 --> 00:18:05,301 - Okay. 359 00:18:05,345 --> 00:18:06,520 - Is that something you guys can do? 360 00:18:06,563 --> 00:18:07,651 - We can do that. - [ laughs ] 361 00:18:07,695 --> 00:18:08,957 - We can do that. 362 00:18:09,000 --> 00:18:10,393 You can take one of each 363 00:18:10,437 --> 00:18:12,134 and I'll take one of each. - I got you. 364 00:18:12,178 --> 00:18:14,789 Yes! 365 00:18:14,832 --> 00:18:17,531 I'm surrounded by beautiful, younger men. 366 00:18:35,505 --> 00:18:37,638 - Oh, of course. 367 00:18:37,681 --> 00:18:39,770 - I didn't really know what was going on out there 368 00:18:39,814 --> 00:18:44,297 but I wasn't comfortable enough to go back out there. 369 00:18:44,340 --> 00:18:47,387 - Very strong. 370 00:18:47,430 --> 00:18:49,693 Women, you can tell your guy that they are 371 00:18:49,737 --> 00:18:51,913 very powerful, they are very strong. 372 00:18:51,956 --> 00:18:53,871 [ voice on phone video ] ...change your expectation 373 00:18:55,569 --> 00:18:57,745 - You're very soft, very silky. 374 00:18:57,788 --> 00:19:01,052 - So I don't know, I didn't really know how to feel. 375 00:19:13,674 --> 00:19:15,371 ...absence of what you want, 376 00:19:15,415 --> 00:19:17,156 you'll get in the presence of what you want. 377 00:19:17,199 --> 00:19:18,853 It's just that simple. 378 00:19:18,896 --> 00:19:21,943 Distraction from the absence of what you want. 379 00:19:21,986 --> 00:19:25,338 - What's going on, babe? Come here. 380 00:19:25,381 --> 00:19:27,253 - Hey, go out there and have fun. 381 00:19:29,777 --> 00:19:32,649 - It's okay, I do understand and I thank you. 382 00:19:32,693 --> 00:19:34,956 But I want you to go out there and enjoy yourself. 383 00:19:34,999 --> 00:19:36,175 - Look... 384 00:19:58,240 --> 00:19:59,546 - For those people who've never been 385 00:19:59,589 --> 00:20:01,635 to an Erotic Sleepover before, 386 00:20:01,678 --> 00:20:04,812 first thing I would say is, feel the nervousness, 387 00:20:04,855 --> 00:20:07,336 feel some of the fear and work through it. 388 00:20:07,380 --> 00:20:09,295 Because on the other side of fear is everything 389 00:20:09,338 --> 00:20:11,340 that you've ever desired. 390 00:20:11,384 --> 00:20:15,257 - So I know how last night ended and we continue 391 00:20:15,301 --> 00:20:16,954 to try and support each other and 392 00:20:16,998 --> 00:20:19,957 make sure we don't get a repeat of last night. 393 00:20:20,001 --> 00:20:22,264 - In my head, I was like, "Yeah, we're gonna do this, 394 00:20:22,308 --> 00:20:23,700 "we're gonna do that. Oh, my God, 395 00:20:23,744 --> 00:20:25,398 what if we had six guys? What if you had--" 396 00:20:25,441 --> 00:20:28,314 And you know, it was all of this built-up excitement. 397 00:20:28,357 --> 00:20:31,708 And then when I get there, it was just a shock. 398 00:20:31,752 --> 00:20:35,059 I didn't know what to expect and it was just-- 399 00:20:35,103 --> 00:20:37,279 it was very overwhelming, I guess. 400 00:20:37,323 --> 00:20:38,933 - If you're not doing well and you're not feeling well, 401 00:20:38,976 --> 00:20:40,891 I'll get you up and I'll bring you out. 402 00:20:40,935 --> 00:20:42,502 You won't even have to do that on your own. 403 00:20:42,545 --> 00:20:44,286 - Okay, I appreciate that. 404 00:20:44,330 --> 00:20:46,114 - I got you, babe. - I appreciate that. 405 00:20:46,157 --> 00:20:47,289 - Hey! 406 00:20:47,333 --> 00:20:49,030 - So you guys are ready to play? 407 00:20:49,073 --> 00:20:50,379 - The lovely Miss Princess. 408 00:20:50,423 --> 00:20:52,729 - You look beautiful! - Thank you! 409 00:20:52,773 --> 00:20:54,862 I'm still gonna give you guys your massage tonight. 410 00:20:54,905 --> 00:20:56,342 - Princess has just told me about this massage 411 00:20:56,385 --> 00:20:57,343 since we've been here. 412 00:20:57,386 --> 00:20:58,996 She's like "Oh, my God. 413 00:20:59,040 --> 00:21:00,737 Wait till you feel my massages!" 414 00:21:00,781 --> 00:21:04,306 So we're excited to see Princess's skills. 415 00:21:07,266 --> 00:21:10,312 Ooh! 416 00:21:18,102 --> 00:21:20,322 - Soft kisses on my leg. 417 00:21:20,366 --> 00:21:21,628 - I don't know what you're talking about. 418 00:21:21,671 --> 00:21:24,021 - I would like to feel more open. 419 00:21:24,065 --> 00:21:27,764 I felt like I was closed off yesterday to almost everything. 420 00:21:30,724 --> 00:21:32,769 To take everything outside of the bedroom, 421 00:21:32,813 --> 00:21:34,902 into this open forum, you know, 422 00:21:34,945 --> 00:21:37,078 is completely opposite of what I'm used to. 423 00:21:37,121 --> 00:21:38,645 So I want to be open about it. 424 00:21:38,688 --> 00:21:40,777 Yeah. 425 00:21:40,821 --> 00:21:41,952 - How does your butt feel? 426 00:21:41,996 --> 00:21:43,432 - So good. 427 00:21:43,476 --> 00:21:45,434 - How does it feel for you? - So soft. 428 00:21:45,478 --> 00:21:48,002 - Your skin is soft! 429 00:21:52,398 --> 00:21:53,834 I've gotten a lot of massages in the past, 430 00:21:53,877 --> 00:21:57,228 but like, this was different. 431 00:21:57,272 --> 00:22:00,362 She would rub a leg, and then Mike would rub a leg, 432 00:22:00,406 --> 00:22:05,062 and it was very soft, very sensual. 433 00:22:06,673 --> 00:22:09,371 For me to just have a moment with my husband, Princess, 434 00:22:09,415 --> 00:22:12,896 all in that like, more comfortable type of setting, 435 00:22:12,940 --> 00:22:16,422 I had more of a calmness to me. 436 00:22:16,465 --> 00:22:20,382 Oh! That felt amazing! 437 00:22:20,426 --> 00:22:23,472 Let me just relax and everything is going to be okay. 438 00:22:23,516 --> 00:22:26,214 So, it's just a different mindset 439 00:22:26,257 --> 00:22:27,650 going into the second day. 440 00:22:27,694 --> 00:22:30,392 Ah, I feel so relaxed! - Yeah, you do. 441 00:22:30,436 --> 00:22:34,265 - People coming to an Erotic Sleepover for the first time, 442 00:22:34,309 --> 00:22:37,660 your programming and your conditioning is gonna come up. 443 00:22:37,704 --> 00:22:40,750 You're gonna feel triggered, you're gonna feel uncomfortable. 444 00:22:46,626 --> 00:22:48,584 - So I support people in shifting their mindset. 445 00:22:48,628 --> 00:22:51,674 You want to feel that feeling and push forward anyway. 446 00:22:51,718 --> 00:22:54,242 Or ask for support, move through it, 447 00:22:54,285 --> 00:22:56,766 so that you can open up, de-stress, 448 00:22:56,810 --> 00:22:59,943 and come back to your natural, sexual self. 449 00:23:05,819 --> 00:23:07,821 - Hmm. 450 00:23:07,864 --> 00:23:12,303 - Hey. 451 00:23:12,347 --> 00:23:14,001 - Come hither. 452 00:23:14,044 --> 00:23:17,265 - Hi, what you guys doing? 453 00:23:18,875 --> 00:23:20,616 - It's a special contest. 454 00:23:20,660 --> 00:23:22,052 - Special contest? 455 00:23:23,750 --> 00:23:26,405 - Oh, wow. - It's one on one. 456 00:23:29,756 --> 00:23:31,801 - Let's go. Let's do it. 457 00:23:33,716 --> 00:23:35,805 - All right, let's go. 458 00:23:35,849 --> 00:23:37,154 - Let's go. 459 00:23:37,198 --> 00:23:39,374 - Ready, ladies? - Let's go. Let's do it. 460 00:24:02,484 --> 00:24:04,486 - We're on the beds and they both just 461 00:24:04,530 --> 00:24:07,750 went to town on us, and that was exciting. 462 00:24:07,794 --> 00:24:09,491 That was definitely exciting. 463 00:24:09,535 --> 00:24:16,672 Oh, shit! [ moans ] 464 00:24:16,716 --> 00:24:19,980 Mike pleasuring me while another woman 465 00:24:20,023 --> 00:24:21,460 next to me was definitely new. 466 00:24:21,503 --> 00:24:24,767 We have never done that before, ever. 467 00:24:27,248 --> 00:24:29,859 It was hot to hear her moaning from being pleasured 468 00:24:29,903 --> 00:24:31,208 from her guy and then I'm moaning 469 00:24:31,252 --> 00:24:32,906 from being pleasured from my guy. 470 00:24:32,949 --> 00:24:36,562 It was all a hot experience. It's definitely a fantasy 471 00:24:36,605 --> 00:24:38,041 that we didn't even realize we had. 472 00:24:43,264 --> 00:24:45,484 - At this point, I am wet. 473 00:24:45,527 --> 00:24:49,270 So I was just like "Oh, no, no, no, no, this has to happen. 474 00:24:49,313 --> 00:24:50,576 "He gon' stick it in. 475 00:24:50,619 --> 00:24:51,707 He gon' stick it in or I'm gon' stick it in." 476 00:24:54,797 --> 00:24:56,495 We just had to get into the sex. 477 00:24:56,538 --> 00:24:58,627 There was just no other way to do it. 478 00:25:45,413 --> 00:25:48,547 - Like, we just toned everybody out from around us 479 00:25:48,590 --> 00:25:51,680 and we were just doing us, we were being us. 480 00:25:51,724 --> 00:25:53,856 We did come here for new sexual experience, 481 00:25:53,900 --> 00:25:58,600 so that was, by golly, a new experience. 482 00:25:58,644 --> 00:26:03,213 It was so exciting just to be there and to feel it 483 00:26:03,257 --> 00:26:04,998 and to feel them and their energy 484 00:26:05,041 --> 00:26:06,565 and what they're going through. 485 00:26:06,608 --> 00:26:08,610 And for it to be something new for us 486 00:26:08,654 --> 00:26:11,178 that we did together for the first time, 487 00:26:11,221 --> 00:26:12,919 it was beautiful. It was wonderful. 488 00:26:18,359 --> 00:26:20,753 - With Erotic Sleepovers, I'm creating 489 00:26:20,796 --> 00:26:23,973 a culture of acceptance and really working through 490 00:26:24,017 --> 00:26:26,236 the barriers of things that society just does not 491 00:26:26,280 --> 00:26:28,978 talk about, especially in the black community. 492 00:26:33,330 --> 00:26:35,289 We really are creating a culture 493 00:26:35,332 --> 00:26:37,987 of melananted acceptance and sex positivity. 494 00:26:38,031 --> 00:26:39,510 That's what we do here. 495 00:26:39,554 --> 00:26:41,512 That's what the fuck the culture's about. 496 00:26:41,556 --> 00:26:42,862 - I hope we get to do this again, baby. 497 00:26:42,905 --> 00:26:44,298 It was so much fun with you. 498 00:26:44,341 --> 00:26:45,995 - It was very fun with you as well, 499 00:26:46,039 --> 00:26:48,215 and it's a maybe on doing it again. 500 00:26:48,258 --> 00:26:52,175 What I expected it to be, which was just sex everywhere 501 00:26:52,219 --> 00:26:54,047 and everyone acting crazy and things like that. 502 00:26:54,090 --> 00:26:55,918 - Right. - It wasn't like that. 503 00:26:55,962 --> 00:26:57,659 - Okay. - I mean, there was 504 00:26:57,703 --> 00:26:59,313 sex everywhere and everyone was acting crazy, yes. 505 00:26:59,356 --> 00:27:01,228 But it was more than that. It was more than that. 506 00:27:01,271 --> 00:27:02,708 - Right. - So it surpassed expectation. 507 00:27:02,751 --> 00:27:04,753 We're out of here. 508 00:27:04,797 --> 00:27:08,583 - Ahh! No! Don't leave! 509 00:27:12,239 --> 00:27:14,284 - I thought maybe there would be another 510 00:27:14,328 --> 00:27:18,462 Erotic Sleepover in the future. 511 00:27:18,506 --> 00:27:20,029 I don't know how soon, though. 512 00:27:20,073 --> 00:27:21,640 - I don't want you guys to leave, seriously. 513 00:27:21,683 --> 00:27:23,337 - I know. I wish we didn't have to. 514 00:27:23,380 --> 00:27:24,599 - I didn't get to do anything strange with y'all. 515 00:27:24,643 --> 00:27:25,861 - I didn't like that. - I know, 516 00:27:25,905 --> 00:27:26,819 we didn't do anything with you. 517 00:27:26,862 --> 00:27:28,255 - I feel the same way, 518 00:27:28,298 --> 00:27:30,344 that I would definitely love to do 519 00:27:30,387 --> 00:27:31,911 another Erotic Sleepover in the future. 520 00:27:31,954 --> 00:27:34,696 Not too sure when, but because of what 521 00:27:34,740 --> 00:27:37,394 this experience did for us, I would love to do it again. 522 00:27:37,438 --> 00:27:39,179 I would love to experience more new things 523 00:27:39,222 --> 00:27:40,789 and continue to build on our relationship, 524 00:27:40,833 --> 00:27:42,399 continue to build on the sexuality, 525 00:27:42,443 --> 00:27:44,401 continue to build on the community that we found 526 00:27:44,445 --> 00:27:46,012 and just keep going. 527 00:27:46,055 --> 00:27:49,145 So I do believe we would be back. 528 00:27:49,189 --> 00:27:51,365 - We might. 529 00:27:52,714 --> 00:27:55,456 Thank you so much. 530 00:27:55,499 --> 00:27:58,198 - Oh, Lord, save me. 531 00:27:58,241 --> 00:28:01,636 - We love you! 532 00:28:13,213 --> 00:28:17,130 - I think my ultimate fantasy man is long hair, 533 00:28:17,173 --> 00:28:19,741 long beard, Viking-like. 534 00:28:19,785 --> 00:28:21,874 - Usually, I tend to like boys 535 00:28:21,917 --> 00:28:24,267 that look like Cindy Crawford. 536 00:28:24,311 --> 00:28:28,619 Sometimes, like, a short-haired archeologist will pop up. 537 00:28:28,663 --> 00:28:31,187 - My fantasy woman is a very strong, 538 00:28:31,231 --> 00:28:32,711 dark-skinned woman, 539 00:28:32,754 --> 00:28:35,104 is what I always thought I was gonna be with. 540 00:28:35,148 --> 00:28:38,238 And I fell in love with blonde hair, blue-eyed, 541 00:28:38,281 --> 00:28:41,371 all-American woman and I'm completely happy. 542 00:28:41,415 --> 00:28:43,852 - If I could have my fantasy man, 543 00:28:43,896 --> 00:28:47,464 he would look exactly like Michael B. Jordan. 544 00:28:47,508 --> 00:28:49,162 I'm thinking about like 6'3". 545 00:28:49,205 --> 00:28:53,514 I really like tall men, even though I am 4'11". 546 00:28:53,557 --> 00:28:54,863 We're not gonna talk about that, though. 547 00:28:54,907 --> 00:28:56,299 We're talking about the dream guy. 548 00:28:56,343 --> 00:28:58,562 - My ultimate fantasy woman would be 549 00:28:58,606 --> 00:29:02,262 probably like a '60s sort of spy movie Bond girl 550 00:29:02,305 --> 00:29:04,264 mixed with a little bit of a vampire-- 551 00:29:04,307 --> 00:29:05,700 like, just a touch. 552 00:29:05,744 --> 00:29:07,571 That's also like Jennifer Connelly, 553 00:29:07,615 --> 00:29:10,009 "Career Opportunities" with, like, a little bit 554 00:29:10,052 --> 00:29:11,314 of Sharon Tate going on. 555 00:29:11,358 --> 00:29:13,577 You know, just ballpark. 556 00:29:30,159 --> 00:29:32,031 - When you're watching VR porn, 557 00:29:32,074 --> 00:29:33,859 you're immersed in the experience. 558 00:29:33,902 --> 00:29:35,208 - Hello. 559 00:29:35,251 --> 00:29:36,775 You feel like you've been transported 560 00:29:36,818 --> 00:29:38,907 to this new place. 561 00:29:38,951 --> 00:29:41,823 It's about creating a sense of connection 562 00:29:41,867 --> 00:29:44,130 in addition to arousal. 563 00:29:44,173 --> 00:29:47,089 - I still can't believe we're doing this. 564 00:29:47,133 --> 00:29:49,831 - And that's what I think VR is really, really great at, 565 00:29:49,875 --> 00:29:52,094 is making you feel connected with the person 566 00:29:52,138 --> 00:29:56,664 that you're watching. 567 00:29:56,707 --> 00:30:02,452 - It's an intensely erotic, sensual, and sensory experience. 568 00:30:02,496 --> 00:30:03,845 She's right there in front of you. 569 00:30:03,889 --> 00:30:05,542 She's talking to you, she wants you, 570 00:30:05,586 --> 00:30:08,545 and you're now your own porn star, basically. 571 00:30:12,114 --> 00:30:14,943 - I want you feel your skin against my skin. 572 00:30:14,987 --> 00:30:16,075 - Rolling. 573 00:30:16,118 --> 00:30:17,685 - Rolling. - Action. 574 00:30:34,963 --> 00:30:37,748 - I've been performing in porn for about ten years now, 575 00:30:37,792 --> 00:30:40,099 though I don't perform much anymore. 576 00:30:40,142 --> 00:30:44,712 After I shot my first VR solo scene, 577 00:30:44,755 --> 00:30:47,802 we watched it on the early Oculus Rift. 578 00:30:47,846 --> 00:30:51,588 And I hate watching myself on camera, 579 00:30:51,632 --> 00:30:54,504 I hate watching my own scenes, but when I watched that, 580 00:30:54,548 --> 00:30:57,029 I felt present and transported 581 00:30:57,072 --> 00:30:59,988 and this sense of awe and whimsy and wonder. 582 00:31:00,032 --> 00:31:03,122 And that was sort of the moment that I realized 583 00:31:03,165 --> 00:31:05,298 that this medium is gonna be really incredible 584 00:31:05,341 --> 00:31:08,344 for the content that I produce. 585 00:31:08,388 --> 00:31:09,911 For this occasion. 586 00:31:09,955 --> 00:31:12,000 - I like that. - We like this, right. 587 00:31:12,044 --> 00:31:13,480 - So first of all, let me hear what you were thinking. 588 00:31:13,523 --> 00:31:15,134 - So I want to do a lot of oral stuff. 589 00:31:15,177 --> 00:31:17,310 I want to do the lollipop. I want to do the vape. 590 00:31:17,353 --> 00:31:19,573 But I was thinking pantyhose because I have 591 00:31:19,616 --> 00:31:21,009 a lot of pantyhose fans and it's something 592 00:31:21,053 --> 00:31:22,706 that makes me feel sexy. - Okay. 593 00:31:22,750 --> 00:31:25,057 - The adult industry has been on the forefront 594 00:31:25,100 --> 00:31:27,102 of technology for quite some time. 595 00:31:27,146 --> 00:31:28,799 And you want to stay ahead of the game, 596 00:31:28,843 --> 00:31:31,019 you want to give your viewers something exciting 597 00:31:31,063 --> 00:31:32,629 and something that entices them 598 00:31:32,673 --> 00:31:34,327 to keep paying for your content. 599 00:31:34,370 --> 00:31:37,373 And I think that with VR, that's definitely been the case. 600 00:31:37,417 --> 00:31:38,635 - Alex? - Yep? 601 00:31:38,679 --> 00:31:40,289 - We're ready. - Okay. 602 00:31:40,333 --> 00:31:41,943 - When you're watching something on your phone 603 00:31:41,987 --> 00:31:43,945 or your computer or on your TV, 604 00:31:43,989 --> 00:31:47,209 there's literally a fourth wall that is in front of you. 605 00:31:47,253 --> 00:31:49,472 But when you put the headset on, 606 00:31:49,516 --> 00:31:51,126 all of that goes away. 607 00:31:51,170 --> 00:31:53,389 The fourth wall is broken. 608 00:31:53,433 --> 00:31:56,305 - All I want is for you 609 00:31:56,349 --> 00:32:03,878 to be right here with me, right now. 610 00:32:03,922 --> 00:32:06,315 And here you are. 611 00:32:06,359 --> 00:32:08,578 - Oh, my God. 612 00:32:08,622 --> 00:32:12,321 - Ana, my colleague, she's innovative, she's brilliant, 613 00:32:12,365 --> 00:32:14,497 she's pioneered so many things. 614 00:32:14,541 --> 00:32:16,760 And she makes the best VR porn 615 00:32:16,804 --> 00:32:18,284 that you're ever gonna see. 616 00:32:18,327 --> 00:32:20,286 - Literally, you're gonna come right in here. 617 00:32:20,329 --> 00:32:21,722 - Okay. 618 00:32:21,765 --> 00:32:23,463 - What I'm looking to do in VR porn 619 00:32:23,506 --> 00:32:28,163 is to affect you emotionally. 620 00:32:28,207 --> 00:32:31,862 Give you an experience, so that you feel, 621 00:32:31,906 --> 00:32:36,215 when you come away from it, like, 622 00:32:36,258 --> 00:32:41,307 just maybe you were in a different place. 623 00:32:45,311 --> 00:32:46,921 - How did you sleep? 624 00:32:46,965 --> 00:32:49,054 - The big thing that really blew people away 625 00:32:49,097 --> 00:32:53,449 is your favorite performer is right there in front of you. 626 00:32:53,493 --> 00:32:54,929 And you look through the headset 627 00:32:54,973 --> 00:32:57,671 and there is the star looking at you, 628 00:32:57,714 --> 00:33:00,717 and she feels real. 629 00:33:00,761 --> 00:33:02,458 - And you can look down and there's a body 630 00:33:02,502 --> 00:33:05,984 that sort of becomes your body. 631 00:33:06,027 --> 00:33:09,988 - I mean, you feel like you feel good. 632 00:33:11,598 --> 00:33:12,947 It's pretty cool. 633 00:33:12,991 --> 00:33:14,514 - And that's the cool thing about VR. 634 00:33:14,557 --> 00:33:16,298 It's almost like there's this physical sensation 635 00:33:16,342 --> 00:33:17,908 that happens when you watch something 636 00:33:17,952 --> 00:33:19,562 that feels so immersive. 637 00:33:25,873 --> 00:33:29,964 Black Box was born out of the idea of 638 00:33:30,008 --> 00:33:33,837 taking VR to another level. 639 00:33:33,881 --> 00:33:37,189 We're going to make VR porn even more immersive. 640 00:33:37,232 --> 00:33:39,582 We're gonna make VR porn even more realistic. 641 00:33:41,584 --> 00:33:45,806 - Black Box is a solo VR series. 642 00:33:45,849 --> 00:33:49,462 It's a performer in literally a black box 643 00:33:49,505 --> 00:33:52,117 with a camera in it and the performer 644 00:33:52,160 --> 00:33:54,075 is right in front of the camera. 645 00:33:54,119 --> 00:33:56,599 So when you watch it, you feel like you're 646 00:33:56,643 --> 00:33:58,949 in this very isolated space 647 00:33:58,993 --> 00:34:00,429 with the performer in front of you... 648 00:34:00,473 --> 00:34:02,562 - Camera. - ...talking to you. 649 00:34:02,605 --> 00:34:04,999 - I'm so glad that we can be here together right now. 650 00:34:05,043 --> 00:34:06,696 - Engaging with you. 651 00:34:06,740 --> 00:34:12,267 - You caught my eye from the minute you boarded. 652 00:34:12,311 --> 00:34:18,056 Um, I'm not supposed to give second drinks. 653 00:34:18,099 --> 00:34:21,755 But you're so cute, I couldn't help myself. 654 00:34:21,798 --> 00:34:23,278 - Enticing you. 655 00:34:25,411 --> 00:34:27,108 Flirting with you. 656 00:34:27,152 --> 00:34:29,197 - Can I place my lips against your lips? 657 00:34:29,241 --> 00:34:31,895 - What I wanted to create was an experience 658 00:34:31,939 --> 00:34:34,811 where it's just you and the girl 659 00:34:34,855 --> 00:34:36,857 and all you can see and hear 660 00:34:36,900 --> 00:34:38,772 is what she is saying directly to you. 661 00:34:38,815 --> 00:34:43,777 - Are you feeling relaxed with me right now? 662 00:34:43,820 --> 00:34:45,605 - You're not distracted by the other things 663 00:34:45,648 --> 00:34:47,911 that are happening, because there's nothing else to see. 664 00:34:47,955 --> 00:34:50,523 - I feel so comfortable with you. 665 00:34:50,566 --> 00:34:54,875 - You feel a sense of reciprocal affection and attraction. 666 00:34:54,918 --> 00:34:59,271 - You've just got the most beautiful eyes. 667 00:34:59,314 --> 00:35:02,404 I just can't stop staring at you. 668 00:35:07,105 --> 00:35:11,239 - The audio plays a very important role. 669 00:35:11,283 --> 00:35:13,676 So remember, this is a lot about the audio. 670 00:35:13,720 --> 00:35:15,200 It's way turned up. - Okay. 671 00:35:24,513 --> 00:35:28,517 - ASMR stands for autonomous sensory meridian response. 672 00:35:28,561 --> 00:35:29,910 - Cheers. 673 00:35:29,953 --> 00:35:31,651 - It's really big right now. 674 00:35:31,694 --> 00:35:33,261 There's a Super Bowl commercial, 675 00:35:33,305 --> 00:35:35,568 all the kids are doing it on YouTube. 676 00:35:37,091 --> 00:35:38,353 You're watching and listening 677 00:35:38,397 --> 00:35:40,877 to certain cues and triggers 678 00:35:40,921 --> 00:35:44,316 that create a sensation within your body. 679 00:35:44,359 --> 00:35:45,882 People describe tingles. 680 00:35:45,926 --> 00:35:48,885 They describe extreme states of relaxation. 681 00:35:48,929 --> 00:35:51,192 They're affected by it, physically. 682 00:35:51,236 --> 00:35:53,194 - Mm. 683 00:35:55,849 --> 00:35:59,722 - The ears, I use binaural mics. 684 00:35:59,766 --> 00:36:01,289 It's actually shaped like ears 685 00:36:01,333 --> 00:36:03,378 and the microphones themselves are imbedded 686 00:36:03,422 --> 00:36:05,337 within the ear canal so that the sound quality 687 00:36:05,380 --> 00:36:08,557 is very similar to what you would hear naturally. 688 00:36:08,601 --> 00:36:14,389 This is like a guy's eyes and his ear length. 689 00:36:14,433 --> 00:36:17,827 And I thought, "This would be an incredible way 690 00:36:17,871 --> 00:36:20,439 to use ASMR techniques..." 691 00:36:21,918 --> 00:36:23,355 - ...and adapt that 692 00:36:23,398 --> 00:36:26,401 into a virtual reality porn scene." 693 00:36:28,142 --> 00:36:29,796 - So you have the ultimate sensory experience... 694 00:36:30,971 --> 00:36:33,452 - ...and just blow your mind. 695 00:36:33,495 --> 00:36:35,628 Wow. 696 00:36:35,671 --> 00:36:36,977 Action, Ela. 697 00:36:37,020 --> 00:36:39,066 - Combining ASMR and VR, 698 00:36:39,109 --> 00:36:41,895 it seems like kind of the obvious next step. 699 00:36:41,938 --> 00:36:43,636 With binaural microphones, 700 00:36:43,679 --> 00:36:46,421 with positional sound within the headset, 701 00:36:46,465 --> 00:36:48,031 you can take an ASMR experience 702 00:36:48,075 --> 00:36:51,252 and really bring it to a whole new level. 703 00:36:51,296 --> 00:36:54,212 - Rolling. Action! 704 00:36:54,255 --> 00:36:58,607 - just...yeah. 705 00:36:58,651 --> 00:37:03,090 - I kind of just want to show you everything about me. 706 00:37:03,133 --> 00:37:04,787 And I just want you to see me, 707 00:37:04,831 --> 00:37:07,573 not as a stewardess, 708 00:37:07,616 --> 00:37:09,836 but just as a woman 709 00:37:09,879 --> 00:37:12,665 who just wants to be touched. 710 00:37:16,277 --> 00:37:18,497 - What I wanted to do was to create an experience 711 00:37:18,540 --> 00:37:20,542 that men, women, or whomever 712 00:37:20,586 --> 00:37:25,286 could watch and feel like they were included 713 00:37:25,330 --> 00:37:26,853 and being spoken to. 714 00:37:26,896 --> 00:37:28,898 - It's not that I do this on every flight. 715 00:37:28,942 --> 00:37:32,511 Honestly, I've been in this business for 716 00:37:32,554 --> 00:37:34,164 two years now and this is-- 717 00:37:34,208 --> 00:37:36,906 you are honestly the first passenger. 718 00:37:36,950 --> 00:37:38,517 - So I specifically told the girls, 719 00:37:38,560 --> 00:37:40,736 no "Your cock is getting hard." 720 00:37:40,780 --> 00:37:43,652 No "I want you to jerk it off." 721 00:37:43,696 --> 00:37:46,220 None of that. 722 00:37:46,264 --> 00:37:48,831 - God, just looking at you, 723 00:37:48,875 --> 00:37:51,181 you just make me want to touch myself. 724 00:37:51,225 --> 00:37:53,314 - Why not create it for everybody? 725 00:37:53,358 --> 00:37:55,621 We're already suspending reality. 726 00:37:55,664 --> 00:37:57,275 - I just feel like you see me. 727 00:37:57,318 --> 00:37:58,928 - And so, that was very important to me, 728 00:37:58,972 --> 00:38:01,540 to make sure that it was gender-neutral. 729 00:38:17,120 --> 00:38:19,297 - I want to feel you. 730 00:38:19,340 --> 00:38:21,255 I want to feel your body. 731 00:38:21,299 --> 00:38:23,518 I want to feel your flesh. 732 00:38:24,824 --> 00:38:28,218 Think of a secret that nobody else knows. 733 00:38:31,700 --> 00:38:35,138 I'm so glad to have you here with me. 734 00:38:36,488 --> 00:38:38,838 - I'm excited to see where this goes. 735 00:38:38,881 --> 00:38:41,928 I'm excited to see where-- how it's received. 736 00:38:41,971 --> 00:38:45,366 This project has really opened up this desire 737 00:38:45,410 --> 00:38:47,063 to keep pushing the envelope and seeing 738 00:38:47,107 --> 00:38:50,328 where we can take this next and how we can refine it 739 00:38:50,371 --> 00:38:51,894 and make it an even better experience. 740 00:38:54,114 --> 00:38:56,682 - Come back and play with me again soon. 741 00:39:03,341 --> 00:39:04,385 - Cut. 742 00:39:12,262 --> 00:39:14,047 - I think I go both ways in the bedroom. 743 00:39:14,090 --> 00:39:17,180 I prefer to be submissive but men are cowards. 744 00:39:17,224 --> 00:39:18,573 Sorry, you guys, I don't mean all men. 745 00:39:18,617 --> 00:39:20,227 I just mean the ones I've been with. 746 00:39:20,270 --> 00:39:21,968 - I wear the suit and the tie. I'm the boss. 747 00:39:22,011 --> 00:39:23,883 She can wear whatever she wants and, 748 00:39:23,926 --> 00:39:25,101 you know, she's a submissive. You know, that's how it works. 749 00:39:25,145 --> 00:39:27,626 - I was friends with a couple. 750 00:39:27,669 --> 00:39:32,892 And they had asked me to partner with the husband 751 00:39:32,935 --> 00:39:35,068 and I was super uncomfortable with that. 752 00:39:35,111 --> 00:39:37,331 I'm like, "What if it goes awry?" 753 00:39:37,375 --> 00:39:39,551 - I have introduced Pat to BDSM 754 00:39:39,594 --> 00:39:41,509 and it is something that we experiment. 755 00:39:41,553 --> 00:39:43,381 It's good, as long as you keep it safe 756 00:39:43,424 --> 00:39:45,078 and know each other's limits. 757 00:39:45,121 --> 00:39:47,210 We do use spanking, yes. 758 00:39:47,254 --> 00:39:48,647 And Pat does enjoy that. 759 00:39:48,690 --> 00:39:50,779 She's sometimes asked me to do that. 760 00:39:52,346 --> 00:39:54,304 - When I was in my BDSM relationship, 761 00:39:54,348 --> 00:39:57,569 I was such a bitch, I would never use the safe word 762 00:39:57,612 --> 00:39:59,309 and it freaked him out. 763 00:39:59,353 --> 00:40:01,921 I wanted to see how far his boundaries would go 764 00:40:01,964 --> 00:40:04,271 and he was way more of a chicken than I. 765 00:40:11,974 --> 00:40:13,759 - When you're really sick, you look at the world 766 00:40:13,802 --> 00:40:17,110 in such a different way. 767 00:40:17,153 --> 00:40:19,895 So many things seem so trivial 768 00:40:19,939 --> 00:40:22,332 when you're literally fighting to save your life. 769 00:40:24,596 --> 00:40:28,643 Our association with pain before was positive. 770 00:40:28,687 --> 00:40:30,166 Kink pain and medical pain 771 00:40:30,210 --> 00:40:32,778 are just two completely different things 772 00:40:32,821 --> 00:40:36,042 and it was something that we had to deal with. 773 00:40:45,573 --> 00:40:47,401 - Cool, okay. 774 00:40:47,445 --> 00:40:49,664 Radishes, peppers. 775 00:40:49,708 --> 00:40:52,232 Yeah, that's it. 776 00:40:52,275 --> 00:40:54,495 Have to have that pre-heated. 777 00:40:54,539 --> 00:40:56,018 Medium pot with water. 778 00:40:56,062 --> 00:40:58,020 We'll do orange. 779 00:40:58,064 --> 00:41:01,197 Peel and medium dice, okay. 780 00:41:01,241 --> 00:41:04,723 Hi. I know, you're waiting for food to drop. Mm-hmm. 781 00:41:07,726 --> 00:41:09,423 How long have we been doing these for? 782 00:41:09,467 --> 00:41:12,861 - I mean, we started after you moved in, right? 783 00:41:12,905 --> 00:41:14,210 - Yes. 784 00:41:14,254 --> 00:41:16,561 - So probably two years or so. 785 00:41:16,604 --> 00:41:19,346 We used to say "kiss girlfriend." 786 00:41:19,389 --> 00:41:21,391 Now it should be-- - "Kiss wife," yeah. 787 00:41:21,435 --> 00:41:22,871 - The extra ingredient 788 00:41:22,915 --> 00:41:24,264 that they don't include in the recipes. 789 00:41:24,307 --> 00:41:26,092 - Kinzie and I have been together for 790 00:41:26,135 --> 00:41:27,876 about three and a half years 791 00:41:27,920 --> 00:41:30,488 and married for the past few months. 792 00:41:30,531 --> 00:41:36,537 - We met on a BDSM social networking website. 793 00:41:36,581 --> 00:41:39,932 He found me on the "Kinky Jews" group. 794 00:41:42,674 --> 00:41:44,806 Yeah. 795 00:41:44,850 --> 00:41:47,417 The first date was awesome. 796 00:41:47,461 --> 00:41:48,854 We ended up doing some spanking 797 00:41:48,897 --> 00:41:50,333 on the roof of our building. 798 00:41:50,377 --> 00:41:53,815 And I remember just crying, 799 00:41:53,859 --> 00:41:56,165 but it wasn't a cathartic cry. 800 00:41:56,209 --> 00:41:58,951 I just realized I had never felt so safe 801 00:41:58,994 --> 00:42:00,256 with another person before. 802 00:42:00,300 --> 00:42:02,389 I mean, when I started 803 00:42:02,432 --> 00:42:04,347 I was mainly looking for kink stuff. 804 00:42:04,391 --> 00:42:06,045 I had, like, no idea... - Yeah. 805 00:42:06,088 --> 00:42:07,394 ...about the poly world. 806 00:42:07,437 --> 00:42:09,309 - I introduced you to that, I guess. 807 00:42:09,352 --> 00:42:10,702 - You introduced me to the poly world. 808 00:42:10,745 --> 00:42:12,747 - We like to say that we're, you know, 809 00:42:12,791 --> 00:42:14,836 emotionally monogamous to each other 810 00:42:14,880 --> 00:42:16,621 but physically non-monogamous. 811 00:42:16,664 --> 00:42:18,840 - I mean, to say that there's never jealousy, 812 00:42:18,884 --> 00:42:22,191 that's just not accurate. 813 00:42:22,235 --> 00:42:24,933 But jealousy to us isn't an ugly negative emotion. 814 00:42:24,977 --> 00:42:27,109 It's something that we can grow from. 815 00:42:27,153 --> 00:42:29,938 - I find it a turn-on knowing that my partner 816 00:42:29,982 --> 00:42:33,420 is enjoying herself with other people. 817 00:42:33,463 --> 00:42:35,378 - I've had a lot of friends tell me, 818 00:42:35,422 --> 00:42:37,990 "I don't know if I could handle your life." 819 00:42:38,033 --> 00:42:39,252 - It's not for everybody. 820 00:42:39,295 --> 00:42:40,601 - It's definitely the most work 821 00:42:40,645 --> 00:42:42,168 I've ever put into a relationship 822 00:42:42,211 --> 00:42:43,561 and it's definitely the best relationship 823 00:42:43,604 --> 00:42:45,171 I've ever been in. 824 00:42:45,214 --> 00:42:48,304 - Likewise. - Yeah, so... 825 00:42:48,348 --> 00:42:53,788 - For me, I like that he can give women positive experiences. 826 00:42:53,832 --> 00:42:57,139 I'm very close with all of his female partners. 827 00:42:57,183 --> 00:42:58,663 They're very good friends of mine. 828 00:43:00,403 --> 00:43:02,014 - Come on. 829 00:43:02,057 --> 00:43:04,190 Come on. 830 00:43:05,800 --> 00:43:10,283 August of 2016, I started feeling pain in my chest 831 00:43:10,326 --> 00:43:11,850 that kind of felt like a sore muscle. 832 00:43:11,893 --> 00:43:14,548 And then I went for a breast exam 833 00:43:14,592 --> 00:43:16,158 at Planned Parenthood. 834 00:43:16,202 --> 00:43:18,639 And they said, "Let's do a biopsy." 835 00:43:18,683 --> 00:43:20,772 'Cause I have a family history of breast cancer. 836 00:43:20,815 --> 00:43:23,644 We have a family history of the BRCA1 mutation. 837 00:43:23,688 --> 00:43:25,777 And what the doctor said to me, she said, 838 00:43:25,820 --> 00:43:27,648 "We found some cancer cells." 839 00:43:27,692 --> 00:43:30,085 So I said, "So it's a cancerous tumor?" 840 00:43:30,129 --> 00:43:32,305 And she said, "Yes." And I said, "So it's breast cancer?" 841 00:43:32,348 --> 00:43:33,349 And she said, "Yes." 842 00:43:39,704 --> 00:43:42,707 - It was-- I mean, that conversation was very surreal. 843 00:43:42,750 --> 00:43:46,928 I don't think it fully sunk in right away. 844 00:43:46,972 --> 00:43:51,019 I mean, it definitely took days, weeks, kind of, 845 00:43:51,063 --> 00:43:54,283 to realize, like, what we were in for. 846 00:43:56,677 --> 00:43:59,724 - He was with me at every appointment 847 00:43:59,767 --> 00:44:02,204 and was there for me the entire time 848 00:44:02,248 --> 00:44:04,293 when all of this was going on. 849 00:44:04,337 --> 00:44:07,862 - It was a long journey but we made it through it. 850 00:44:07,906 --> 00:44:08,863 - Mm-hmm. 851 00:44:11,736 --> 00:44:13,912 - I mean, we didn't really have the kink lifestyle 852 00:44:13,955 --> 00:44:17,089 when I was going through cancer, we couldn't. 853 00:44:17,132 --> 00:44:20,396 - Yeah. I mean, we were just so preoccupied. 854 00:44:20,440 --> 00:44:22,616 We just needed that simplicity. 855 00:44:22,660 --> 00:44:24,923 That whole part of our relationship 856 00:44:24,966 --> 00:44:26,968 had to be put on hold. 857 00:44:27,012 --> 00:44:29,101 - The focus wasn't on us being monogamous. 858 00:44:29,144 --> 00:44:30,842 The focus was on me not dying. 859 00:44:34,802 --> 00:44:36,282 "If I have cancer, we're getting a dog." 860 00:44:36,325 --> 00:44:37,718 "Okay." 861 00:44:37,762 --> 00:44:39,589 What 25-year-old gets breast cancer? 862 00:44:40,895 --> 00:44:42,984 - Didn't realize what I was getting into. 863 00:44:43,028 --> 00:44:44,943 - Into the dog or into the whole marriage? 864 00:44:44,986 --> 00:44:47,467 - In terms of agreeing to the dog. 865 00:44:53,516 --> 00:44:54,996 - Do you want to go look at stuff for tonight? 866 00:44:55,040 --> 00:44:57,172 We don't have to decide now, we can just look. 867 00:44:57,216 --> 00:44:58,826 - Yeah. - So tonight, 868 00:44:58,870 --> 00:45:00,175 we're going to a BYO kink party. 869 00:45:02,830 --> 00:45:07,530 We haven't been to a kink party since cancer 870 00:45:07,574 --> 00:45:10,142 so this is a big deal for us. 871 00:45:10,185 --> 00:45:13,928 Okay, so we don't want any floggers 872 00:45:13,972 --> 00:45:17,497 'cause they're gonna be-- we're gonna hit people. 873 00:45:17,540 --> 00:45:20,369 It was really challenging going through cancer 874 00:45:20,413 --> 00:45:22,371 and being kinky. 875 00:45:22,415 --> 00:45:24,852 My first surgery was a really big one. 876 00:45:24,896 --> 00:45:27,550 I had a 10-hour surgery. 877 00:45:27,594 --> 00:45:32,555 I had did a total mastectomy of the left breast. 878 00:45:32,599 --> 00:45:35,297 They took out 12 lymph nodes. 879 00:45:35,341 --> 00:45:39,824 So these are the scars on my thighs. 880 00:45:39,867 --> 00:45:42,957 When they reconstructed my left breast, 881 00:45:43,001 --> 00:45:46,134 they took tissue from both sides of the thigh. 882 00:45:46,178 --> 00:45:49,964 They cut the tissue out and they made it into a new breast. 883 00:45:50,008 --> 00:45:52,184 This big circle here. 884 00:45:52,227 --> 00:45:55,274 And then I have the scars on the side of my breasts 885 00:45:55,317 --> 00:45:57,145 that are actually looking really good. 886 00:45:57,189 --> 00:45:59,669 - This is one that's always fun. 887 00:46:01,584 --> 00:46:04,370 - So right now, we are slowly getting back 888 00:46:04,413 --> 00:46:06,067 into the kink world. 889 00:46:06,111 --> 00:46:10,202 I like it better, I think, when it's moved faster. 890 00:46:10,245 --> 00:46:12,204 When it's really slow, it reminds me of needles 891 00:46:12,247 --> 00:46:15,076 and that's, like, not a good reminder for me. 892 00:46:15,120 --> 00:46:16,991 - Mm-hmm. - Not a good image for me. 893 00:46:17,035 --> 00:46:19,820 - We want to get back to how we were before cancer. 894 00:46:22,518 --> 00:46:24,259 - I'm gonna wear one of my corsets. 895 00:46:24,303 --> 00:46:26,827 Maybe I'll pare them down and I can ask Daphne which one. 896 00:46:26,871 --> 00:46:28,698 I'll ask Daphne. 897 00:46:35,618 --> 00:46:37,664 - Okay, which corset? 898 00:46:37,707 --> 00:46:39,579 Because you were saying that you were thinking-- 899 00:46:39,622 --> 00:46:41,668 wait, what happened to the-- oh, no, this is the purple one. 900 00:46:41,711 --> 00:46:43,713 My name is Daphne and I would identify as 901 00:46:43,757 --> 00:46:46,542 being bi-sexual, kinky, and ethically non-monogamous 902 00:46:46,586 --> 00:46:48,022 or polyamorous. 903 00:46:48,066 --> 00:46:49,676 You have a lot of corsets. I did not know 904 00:46:49,719 --> 00:46:51,460 that you had this many. - I have six corsets. 905 00:46:51,504 --> 00:46:52,853 I have a collection. I want 12. 906 00:46:52,897 --> 00:46:54,289 - Lady, I have, like, two. 907 00:46:54,333 --> 00:46:57,292 - I found Daphne intriguing, and, like, 908 00:46:57,336 --> 00:46:58,859 asked her out on a coffee date. 909 00:46:58,903 --> 00:47:00,905 Kinzie came home. 910 00:47:00,948 --> 00:47:03,342 Daphne and I were in bed together 911 00:47:03,385 --> 00:47:04,865 and Kinzie just kind of-- 912 00:47:04,909 --> 00:47:07,172 - Joined. - Joined and-- 913 00:47:07,215 --> 00:47:09,087 - And then-- - So, I love the design of this, 914 00:47:09,130 --> 00:47:11,219 but I think I look better in this one. 915 00:47:11,263 --> 00:47:12,525 - I think you should go with this one. 916 00:47:12,568 --> 00:47:14,092 - She helped me through cancer 917 00:47:14,135 --> 00:47:16,659 and she's always in our lives. 918 00:47:16,703 --> 00:47:18,661 My thighs are smaller now, as you see from 919 00:47:18,705 --> 00:47:20,881 the gigantic scars that I have running down my legs. 920 00:47:20,925 --> 00:47:22,143 - Yes. - Yeah. 921 00:47:22,187 --> 00:47:24,058 - The scar is numb. - Yeah. 922 00:47:24,102 --> 00:47:27,409 - That's like the main thing, is the sensation of my body-- 923 00:47:27,453 --> 00:47:29,847 - Is different. - Feels so different. 924 00:47:29,890 --> 00:47:31,761 When I was going through physical therapy, 925 00:47:31,805 --> 00:47:34,286 even though my thighs were completely healed, 926 00:47:34,329 --> 00:47:35,940 it still felt like there was pain, 927 00:47:35,983 --> 00:47:37,463 even though there wasn't. 928 00:47:37,506 --> 00:47:41,815 In terms of kink and enjoying positive pain, 929 00:47:41,859 --> 00:47:44,296 my body felt weird about it but my head 930 00:47:44,339 --> 00:47:46,994 was like, "I really want this." 931 00:47:47,038 --> 00:47:49,388 It's getting my body back into that. 932 00:47:49,431 --> 00:47:52,478 It's my first time in a corset since my last surgery. 933 00:47:52,521 --> 00:47:53,827 - Nice. 934 00:47:53,871 --> 00:47:55,350 It's good. 935 00:47:55,394 --> 00:47:57,265 - Oh, my God, my boobs are so much flatter 936 00:47:57,309 --> 00:47:58,614 than they used to be! 937 00:47:58,658 --> 00:48:01,269 - Correct. - Elan, I'm so flat now! 938 00:48:01,313 --> 00:48:03,184 What happened to my boobs? 939 00:48:03,228 --> 00:48:06,840 - She says, with this curvature to her. 940 00:48:06,884 --> 00:48:08,624 - I think going to parties will help me 941 00:48:08,668 --> 00:48:11,976 feel more comfortable with my new body. 942 00:48:12,019 --> 00:48:15,980 It's kind of like a first step back into the kinky world. 943 00:48:16,023 --> 00:48:20,288 I feel nervous, so it's just a matter of me making sure 944 00:48:20,332 --> 00:48:24,553 I use my safe word and that I don't push myself too hard. 945 00:48:49,709 --> 00:48:50,884 - Hello. 946 00:48:50,928 --> 00:48:52,233 - Oh, it's warm in here. 947 00:48:52,277 --> 00:48:53,321 - Are you familiar with our rules? 948 00:48:53,365 --> 00:48:54,496 - Yes. - We are. 949 00:48:54,540 --> 00:48:55,541 - Of course. - Thank you. 950 00:48:55,584 --> 00:48:56,498 - Enjoy. - Thanks. 951 00:48:56,542 --> 00:48:58,022 You know, we walk in. 952 00:48:58,065 --> 00:49:00,111 It was exciting because 953 00:49:00,154 --> 00:49:02,504 there's a good amount of people there. 954 00:49:02,548 --> 00:49:03,766 It's a space we're familiar with. 955 00:49:03,810 --> 00:49:06,334 I have to mark my territory. 956 00:49:06,378 --> 00:49:08,684 - Marking your territory? - Yes. 957 00:49:08,728 --> 00:49:11,861 - I think that Kinzie wants to get back into impact, 958 00:49:11,905 --> 00:49:13,733 get back into feeling that she's 959 00:49:13,776 --> 00:49:15,648 reclaiming parts of her kink. 960 00:49:17,519 --> 00:49:20,827 - I'm gonna be doing a lot of... [ deep breath ] tonight. 961 00:49:20,870 --> 00:49:25,049 - And going into that with both her partner and with me 962 00:49:25,092 --> 00:49:27,573 is a very comfortable way of doing that 963 00:49:27,616 --> 00:49:28,966 and feeling like they can 964 00:49:29,009 --> 00:49:30,706 start to reclaim that part of their lives. 965 00:49:42,936 --> 00:49:44,372 - Oh, I like that thing. 966 00:49:44,416 --> 00:49:46,287 Can we do that thing with impact? 967 00:49:46,331 --> 00:49:47,680 - Yeah. - We can. 968 00:49:47,723 --> 00:49:49,160 - Yeah, I want to do that with impact. 969 00:49:49,203 --> 00:49:51,727 These cuffs hanging from this metal bar 970 00:49:51,771 --> 00:49:54,817 reminded me of the first time I was suspended from rope 971 00:49:54,861 --> 00:49:57,559 and that was a really good experience for me. 972 00:49:57,603 --> 00:50:00,736 - We'll do, you know, a good warm-up and build-up. 973 00:50:00,780 --> 00:50:02,303 - Yes, please. - Yes. 974 00:50:02,347 --> 00:50:03,826 - It's been a while since I've had impact, so... 975 00:50:03,870 --> 00:50:05,915 - I know. - Okay, I love you. 976 00:50:10,920 --> 00:50:14,533 - It's a challenge for us getting back to our lifestyle 977 00:50:14,576 --> 00:50:17,144 because finding that, like, line 978 00:50:17,188 --> 00:50:20,104 between good pain and bad pain is tricky. 979 00:50:22,715 --> 00:50:23,803 - You look so happy. 980 00:50:25,631 --> 00:50:29,156 - The voyeurism and exhibitionism of public parties 981 00:50:29,200 --> 00:50:31,289 is a big draw for us. 982 00:50:32,638 --> 00:50:37,251 - Kink for me is definitely a big stress relief. 983 00:50:37,295 --> 00:50:40,211 I also like the different personalities that come out, 984 00:50:40,254 --> 00:50:42,082 like my brat persona. 985 00:50:42,126 --> 00:50:43,605 You're gonna mess up my hair. 986 00:50:43,649 --> 00:50:45,738 - Oh, I'm sorry. 987 00:50:47,435 --> 00:50:48,697 Yeah. 988 00:50:48,741 --> 00:50:50,438 Such a brat. - I'm such a brat. 989 00:50:50,482 --> 00:50:53,789 I love being a brat because so much of my life 990 00:50:53,833 --> 00:50:55,574 is about being in control. 991 00:50:55,617 --> 00:50:59,143 And when I'm a brat, I don't have to keep composure. 992 00:50:59,186 --> 00:51:02,798 I don't have expectations. I don't have to be in control. 993 00:51:02,842 --> 00:51:07,151 - By nature, I am very shy and introverted. 994 00:51:07,194 --> 00:51:11,764 But when I'm in a scene at a public party, 995 00:51:11,807 --> 00:51:13,722 I'm focused on my partner, 996 00:51:13,766 --> 00:51:17,248 I'm focused on the task at hand. 997 00:51:17,291 --> 00:51:19,032 - You're supposed to encourage. You're not playing tonight. 998 00:51:19,076 --> 00:51:23,689 Ow! Ow! Ow! Ow! 999 00:51:23,732 --> 00:51:24,994 I said "Ow!" 1000 00:51:25,038 --> 00:51:26,648 - "Ow" is not a safe word. 1001 00:51:43,839 --> 00:51:49,802 - Okay. - Okay. 1002 00:51:49,845 --> 00:51:52,848 I felt some anxiety building up. 1003 00:51:52,892 --> 00:51:55,590 I realized I actually just needed the scene to be done. 1004 00:51:57,157 --> 00:51:59,072 - Yeah. - That's fine. 1005 00:51:59,116 --> 00:52:01,466 - Emotions are kind of starting to bubble up. 1006 00:52:03,120 --> 00:52:04,382 - It is. 1007 00:52:04,425 --> 00:52:05,774 - I have to undo the corset a little bit. 1008 00:52:05,818 --> 00:52:07,733 I just need a break. 1009 00:52:07,776 --> 00:52:08,734 I need to undo it a little bit. 1010 00:52:14,392 --> 00:52:15,393 I got it. I got it. 1011 00:52:22,530 --> 00:52:24,402 So much better. 1012 00:52:24,445 --> 00:52:25,751 Oh, my God. 1013 00:52:27,970 --> 00:52:29,929 Yeah. 1014 00:52:29,972 --> 00:52:33,846 A lot of the impact we were doing was pretty light. 1015 00:52:33,889 --> 00:52:38,372 It's not something that is really, really painful. 1016 00:52:38,416 --> 00:52:41,158 But after, I came down a lot harder than I normally do 1017 00:52:41,201 --> 00:52:43,334 for bratty scenes. 1018 00:52:43,377 --> 00:52:44,857 I don't know why, but that scene 1019 00:52:44,900 --> 00:52:47,686 took more out of me than I thought it would. 1020 00:52:47,729 --> 00:52:51,080 I feel like I'm emotionally drained right now. 1021 00:52:51,124 --> 00:52:54,562 Usually, I can focus on one type of pain 1022 00:52:54,606 --> 00:52:56,260 or one place the pain's coming from. 1023 00:52:56,303 --> 00:52:58,958 It was more of a challenge than I was anticipating. 1024 00:52:59,001 --> 00:53:00,481 I have to know my body's limits. 1025 00:53:00,525 --> 00:53:02,875 - Yes. - Which doesn't always align 1026 00:53:02,918 --> 00:53:05,443 with what I actually want to do, yeah. 1027 00:53:05,486 --> 00:53:07,923 There's this huge part of me that wanted it 1028 00:53:07,967 --> 00:53:10,361 and then this other part of me that was scared of it. 1029 00:53:10,404 --> 00:53:12,493 I think something in your mind triggers, like, 1030 00:53:12,537 --> 00:53:15,453 "I'm allowed to be upset if I'm in physical pain." 1031 00:53:15,496 --> 00:53:17,237 - You feeling like this is very normal. 1032 00:53:17,281 --> 00:53:20,022 - I know. - I would think. 1033 00:53:20,066 --> 00:53:21,937 - I'm okay. 1034 00:53:21,981 --> 00:53:24,201 I love you a lot. - I love you a lot. 1035 00:53:24,244 --> 00:53:26,333 - I'm glad we're back out here. - Mm-hmm. 1036 00:53:26,377 --> 00:53:30,032 - I feel like I didn't fully get the release 1037 00:53:30,076 --> 00:53:33,035 I'm used to with impact. 1038 00:53:33,079 --> 00:53:34,776 Can we do a little more impact, like on a bed? 1039 00:53:34,820 --> 00:53:36,822 - Do you think that's what-- - Yeah. 1040 00:53:36,865 --> 00:53:38,302 - Okay. - I think I need a little more, 1041 00:53:38,345 --> 00:53:39,781 just like-- I don't think I hit a peak. 1042 00:53:39,825 --> 00:53:41,261 - Straight impact? - Yeah. 1043 00:53:41,305 --> 00:53:44,133 So I want to like, do straight impact 1044 00:53:44,177 --> 00:53:46,527 where I can just relax and have him hit me 1045 00:53:46,571 --> 00:53:50,227 and get out whatever I need to get out. 1046 00:54:09,202 --> 00:54:15,382 ? All these choices that we make ? 1047 00:54:18,559 --> 00:54:21,301 ? How they leave 1048 00:54:21,345 --> 00:54:26,350 ? The mended ones to break 1049 00:54:26,393 --> 00:54:28,656 - Knowing that I have this person who's holding my hand... 1050 00:54:28,700 --> 00:54:30,484 - You can squeeze. 1051 00:54:30,528 --> 00:54:34,445 - ...and helping me through something that I chose to do 1052 00:54:34,488 --> 00:54:37,578 is very important for me. 1053 00:54:37,622 --> 00:54:41,321 And I think really, mentally healing 1054 00:54:41,365 --> 00:54:44,150 past the cancer process. 1055 00:54:47,414 --> 00:54:53,290 ? And I despise your wicked love ? 1056 00:54:53,333 --> 00:55:00,688 ? Your 1057 00:55:00,732 --> 00:55:02,995 ? Your wicked love 1058 00:55:10,959 --> 00:55:12,744 Aah! Yellow, yellow. 1059 00:55:19,577 --> 00:55:22,275 I was in so much pain for so long, 1060 00:55:22,319 --> 00:55:25,409 for me to be able to get that cathartic release, 1061 00:55:25,452 --> 00:55:29,587 to do some impact and experience positive pain 1062 00:55:29,630 --> 00:55:32,067 and feel safe again, 1063 00:55:32,111 --> 00:55:35,941 reaffirms "Oh, this is stuff that we dolike to do." 1064 00:55:35,984 --> 00:55:40,293 And it's almost nostalgic in a way. 1065 00:55:40,337 --> 00:55:42,774 - Did I do good? - You did very good. 1066 00:55:44,384 --> 00:55:46,168 - You did good. 1067 00:55:51,652 --> 00:55:53,741 ? Your wicked love 1068 00:56:00,357 --> 00:56:03,055 - Cheers. - Cheers. 1069 00:56:03,098 --> 00:56:04,186 - This one's really good. 1070 00:56:04,230 --> 00:56:05,840 - I like mine better. 1071 00:56:05,884 --> 00:56:07,494 - Well, I like mine better. - Well, fine, then. 1072 00:56:07,538 --> 00:56:09,844 We'll just both be happy. - Okay. 1073 00:56:13,152 --> 00:56:15,328 - It was really nice to, like, get back out there tonight. 1074 00:56:15,372 --> 00:56:16,634 - Mm-hmm. 1075 00:56:16,677 --> 00:56:18,026 - Um. 1076 00:56:18,070 --> 00:56:20,420 - I liked the bratty scene. - Mm-hmm. 1077 00:56:20,464 --> 00:56:24,990 The night at House of Scorpio was a lot of fun. 1078 00:56:25,033 --> 00:56:28,036 It was really nice to get back out there 1079 00:56:28,080 --> 00:56:33,346 and feel more like ourselves again and feel that bonding. 1080 00:56:33,390 --> 00:56:35,696 - It's a good reset for us. 1081 00:56:35,740 --> 00:56:40,092 The party atmosphere, like, helped me get in the headspace. 1082 00:56:40,135 --> 00:56:41,702 - Yay. - That was good. 1083 00:56:41,746 --> 00:56:43,269 - Yeah, you felt, like, back to your old self, 1084 00:56:43,312 --> 00:56:45,053 which was nice. - Mm-hmm. 1085 00:56:45,097 --> 00:56:47,534 - I haven't felt that excitement for play in a while. 1086 00:56:47,578 --> 00:56:50,494 - Yay. - So it's nice to, like, 1087 00:56:50,537 --> 00:56:52,147 go and be excited about things. 1088 00:56:52,191 --> 00:56:54,367 - Mm-hmm. - It's nice to feel excited. 1089 00:56:54,411 --> 00:56:58,327 - Yeah. We deserve nights like this. 1090 00:56:58,371 --> 00:56:59,807 - Yeah. 1091 00:56:59,851 --> 00:57:03,855 It's something that we owe to ourselves, 1092 00:57:03,898 --> 00:57:10,644 to make sure that we're keeping up with who we are 1093 00:57:10,688 --> 00:57:12,298 and what makes us feel good. 1094 00:57:16,955 --> 00:57:19,784 - Overall, being at that party was really great, 1095 00:57:19,827 --> 00:57:22,090 I think in that it makes us remember 1096 00:57:22,134 --> 00:57:25,833 that cancer didn't destroy that part of our relationship. 1097 00:57:37,018 --> 00:57:38,498 - Mm-hmm. - Mm-hmm. 1098 00:57:38,542 --> 00:57:40,892 I'm a cancer survivor. 1099 00:57:40,935 --> 00:57:45,505 We're two people who grow and communicate 1100 00:57:45,549 --> 00:57:47,246 and love each other. 1101 00:57:47,289 --> 00:57:52,033 And I think that no matter what happens, like, 1102 00:57:52,077 --> 00:57:54,253 we're gonna get through it. 83472

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