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Would you like to inspect the original subtitles? These are the user uploaded subtitles that are being translated: 1 00:00:21,640 --> 00:00:24,040 O God I need you too. 2 00:00:24,720 --> 00:00:27,600 I want to see your face. 3 00:00:27,960 --> 00:00:30,840 It is this love I have 4 00:00:31,280 --> 00:00:34,080 It makes me search for you. 5 00:00:36,080 --> 00:00:38,680 I need you to listen, 6 00:00:39,360 --> 00:00:42,120 I need you to answer. 7 00:00:42,840 --> 00:00:45,360 I need you to listen, 8 00:00:45,560 --> 00:00:49,320 I need you to answer. 9 00:00:50,720 --> 00:00:56,520 Do not avoid my eyes or let me anger you. 10 00:00:56,920 --> 00:00:59,880 Do not toss me aside. 11 00:01:00,280 --> 00:01:03,560 O God, do not drop me. 12 00:02:27,640 --> 00:02:29,800 Alright you two. That's enough. 13 00:02:34,680 --> 00:02:35,360 I like her. 14 00:02:35,480 --> 00:02:37,320 I think she likes you. 15 00:02:37,400 --> 00:02:39,440 What tells you that Mum? 16 00:02:42,120 --> 00:02:43,080 Here you go Mum. 17 00:02:51,040 --> 00:02:52,560 This is such a nice day. 18 00:02:52,680 --> 00:02:53,880 Who knows this? 19 00:02:54,040 --> 00:02:55,440 May those who love you, 20 00:02:55,520 --> 00:02:58,720 be like the sun when it rises in its strength. 21 00:02:58,880 --> 00:02:59,560 Corinthians? 22 00:02:59,720 --> 00:03:00,560 Judges 5:31. 23 00:03:03,000 --> 00:03:04,800 So grandma, how old are you again? 24 00:03:04,880 --> 00:03:05,720 Never mind. 25 00:03:06,720 --> 00:03:10,720 You know you shouldn't ask for the age... 26 00:03:11,520 --> 00:03:12,920 That's very nice! 27 00:03:14,760 --> 00:03:17,080 Save some for me, will you? 28 00:03:19,680 --> 00:03:20,800 That's very nice! 29 00:03:20,880 --> 00:03:22,200 Who's that from? 30 00:03:22,680 --> 00:03:23,960 From you and Mary! 31 00:03:24,880 --> 00:03:25,720 Well correct! 32 00:03:26,400 --> 00:03:27,960 I was just testing. 33 00:03:28,800 --> 00:03:29,760 Remember Mum? 34 00:03:29,840 --> 00:03:31,680 We were at the mall 35 00:03:31,800 --> 00:03:33,440 and you said you liked that. 36 00:03:33,520 --> 00:03:35,720 So I went back and I got it for you. 37 00:03:35,840 --> 00:03:38,480 Nancy honey, get me my purse. 38 00:03:38,560 --> 00:03:42,160 Why am I always the one harrased to get the purse? 39 00:03:42,240 --> 00:03:44,880 Youngest Griffith girl's the purse mule. 40 00:03:44,960 --> 00:03:45,400 O Grandma. 41 00:03:45,520 --> 00:03:46,800 Open mine. 42 00:03:46,960 --> 00:03:49,440 Why do I have to be the purse mule? 43 00:03:49,520 --> 00:03:50,240 Ok. Fine. 44 00:03:53,880 --> 00:03:55,360 Yes, I think it suits me. 45 00:03:55,440 --> 00:03:56,960 What do you guys think? 46 00:03:57,040 --> 00:03:59,440 Grandma, that is a lovely shade of lipstick. 47 00:03:59,560 --> 00:04:00,040 Beautiful! 48 00:04:00,720 --> 00:04:01,800 O Ed stop it. 49 00:04:01,880 --> 00:04:03,440 Why? What's wrong Mum? 50 00:04:03,560 --> 00:04:04,280 It's disgusting. 51 00:04:05,360 --> 00:04:06,280 If you ask me, 52 00:04:06,360 --> 00:04:09,720 queers should all be lined up and shot. 53 00:04:09,880 --> 00:04:12,040 Didn't you say that last year about the Giants? 54 00:04:12,120 --> 00:04:13,240 What did you say? 55 00:04:14,720 --> 00:04:15,560 Never mind. 56 00:04:16,320 --> 00:04:17,320 What is this? 57 00:04:18,880 --> 00:04:19,680 It's a journal. 58 00:04:19,760 --> 00:04:20,120 Like a diary. 59 00:04:20,240 --> 00:04:22,360 I don't need any more stuff. 60 00:04:26,440 --> 00:04:26,840 Mum!! 61 00:04:28,040 --> 00:04:29,440 - What? - I'll go. 62 00:04:29,560 --> 00:04:31,920 It's a good thing we didn't get you the pen. 63 00:04:32,000 --> 00:04:33,640 You can't take it personal. 64 00:04:34,240 --> 00:04:34,880 It's grandma. 65 00:04:35,240 --> 00:04:38,600 You know the rules. Sh'es mean sometimes. Then we get a free pass to make fun of her. 66 00:04:38,680 --> 00:04:40,440 Bobby, she picks at me. 67 00:04:41,000 --> 00:04:43,600 Nobody ever picks on you. You're the favorite. 68 00:04:45,600 --> 00:04:47,480 So what's it like to be perfect? 69 00:04:48,000 --> 00:04:49,120 I'm perfect? 70 00:04:49,600 --> 00:04:50,960 You think I'm perfect? 71 00:04:51,040 --> 00:04:56,040 Have you looked in a mirror lately? You're Charlie's next angel, ok? 72 00:04:56,800 --> 00:04:58,200 Can I have it? 73 00:04:59,320 --> 00:05:00,400 You don't want it. 74 00:05:00,480 --> 00:05:01,400 Well, I'm taking it. 75 00:05:01,480 --> 00:05:03,120 I'm gonna fill this up in a week. 76 00:05:04,880 --> 00:05:09,040 Come on. Let's go celebrate grandmas' 39-39 birthday. 77 00:05:19,240 --> 00:05:20,600 I am ready. 78 00:05:20,840 --> 00:05:21,680 What? 79 00:05:21,800 --> 00:05:24,240 I wanna go further. 80 00:05:26,440 --> 00:05:29,560 Is... Is something wrong? I thought you'd want to... 81 00:05:30,200 --> 00:05:33,200 Here? I mean, this isn't really what I had in mind. 82 00:05:33,280 --> 00:05:34,760 It doesn't have to be here. 83 00:05:36,520 --> 00:05:38,120 I should go. I have to get up early tomorrow. 84 00:05:38,240 --> 00:05:39,400 Is something wrong? 85 00:05:40,120 --> 00:05:41,880 I don't think this is gonna work. 86 00:05:41,960 --> 00:05:43,640 I think we should break up. 87 00:05:44,680 --> 00:05:49,000 I thought you liked me... I came to meet your family. 88 00:05:49,080 --> 00:05:51,040 I just don't want to get that serious. 89 00:05:51,280 --> 00:05:53,480 Well, it doesn't have to be serious, ok? 90 00:05:54,640 --> 00:05:55,960 It's not you, it's me. 91 00:05:56,720 --> 00:05:57,320 I'm sorry. 92 00:06:33,040 --> 00:06:34,000 Hey. 93 00:06:34,080 --> 00:06:35,640 You wanna watch with me? 94 00:06:36,400 --> 00:06:37,280 I'm tired. 95 00:06:37,400 --> 00:06:38,200 Oh come on! 96 00:06:38,280 --> 00:06:41,720 Who else can I get to watch an old black and white movie? 97 00:06:41,800 --> 00:06:45,520 You know if it's not John Wayne, your dad's not interested. 98 00:06:45,600 --> 00:06:46,880 It's really scary. 99 00:06:48,800 --> 00:06:50,240 You know this scene's famous? 100 00:06:50,320 --> 00:06:51,200 Really? 101 00:06:52,520 --> 00:06:54,800 You know they got that glass of milk to glow? 102 00:06:54,880 --> 00:06:55,280 How? 103 00:06:55,680 --> 00:07:00,360 Well Hitchcock put a lightbulb inside the glass so the audience would know the milk was poisonous. 104 00:07:00,440 --> 00:07:01,080 No kidding. 105 00:07:01,960 --> 00:07:03,000 That's clever. 106 00:07:03,720 --> 00:07:05,040 How do you know that? 107 00:07:05,160 --> 00:07:06,520 Cause I'm brilliant. 108 00:07:08,240 --> 00:07:09,160 You are brilliant! 109 00:07:09,280 --> 00:07:10,760 Take it away; I'm eating too much. 110 00:07:11,600 --> 00:07:13,720 I think there's something wrong with me. 111 00:07:13,960 --> 00:07:14,920 That's for sure. 112 00:07:18,000 --> 00:07:20,760 What you think Mum would do if she found out one of us was a psychoptath? 113 00:07:20,840 --> 00:07:22,640 What you mean "if"? 114 00:07:24,600 --> 00:07:26,320 You know she's always saying... 115 00:07:26,400 --> 00:07:29,280 the whole family's gonna be together in the afterlife? 116 00:07:29,400 --> 00:07:29,840 Well... 117 00:07:31,160 --> 00:07:33,360 What if one of us is a sinner? 118 00:07:33,880 --> 00:07:35,240 Have you sinned with Michelle ? 119 00:07:35,320 --> 00:07:36,400 I promise I won't tell. 120 00:07:36,480 --> 00:07:37,320 It's not that. 121 00:07:38,760 --> 00:07:39,280 I'm just... 122 00:07:39,360 --> 00:07:41,400 thinking about stuff, you know? 123 00:07:41,480 --> 00:07:42,440 You think too much. 124 00:07:43,640 --> 00:07:44,360 It's dangerous. 125 00:07:44,600 --> 00:07:46,800 That's why I avoid it at all cost. 126 00:07:46,920 --> 00:07:47,280 Yeah? 127 00:07:50,440 --> 00:07:52,720 I'm glad we talked. 128 00:07:53,400 --> 00:07:55,560 Seriously, something... something wrong? 129 00:07:55,640 --> 00:07:55,960 No. 130 00:07:58,320 --> 00:08:02,640 Relax, cause I'm your big bro. I'm just looking out for you. 131 00:08:27,720 --> 00:08:28,680 What's up Bobby? 132 00:08:28,800 --> 00:08:29,840 Ready to go? 133 00:08:32,800 --> 00:08:33,440 Hey Bobby. 134 00:08:33,520 --> 00:08:34,080 Cheryl. 135 00:08:36,400 --> 00:08:37,560 She's not your type. 136 00:08:37,680 --> 00:08:38,680 Too much eye shadow. 137 00:08:38,760 --> 00:08:41,080 What's wrong with Michelle? 138 00:08:42,520 --> 00:08:43,160 We broke up. 139 00:08:43,840 --> 00:08:45,640 Talk to you guys later. 140 00:08:48,880 --> 00:08:50,400 Not telling the truth... 141 00:08:51,320 --> 00:08:52,920 sometimes I feel like I'm at the edge of a cliff, 142 00:08:53,040 --> 00:08:54,240 looking down at the crashing surf 143 00:08:54,360 --> 00:08:57,160 with nowhere to go but down. 144 00:08:57,240 --> 00:09:00,960 I used to have these fun dreams when I was so free. 145 00:09:01,040 --> 00:09:02,760 But now, as I fly, 146 00:09:02,840 --> 00:09:03,640 I'm afraid. 147 00:09:04,880 --> 00:09:07,560 They are telephone lines and electrical wires. 148 00:09:08,080 --> 00:09:10,640 How painful it would be to run into one. 149 00:09:11,720 --> 00:09:14,720 I wonder if I'll ever be free again. 150 00:10:08,560 --> 00:10:10,040 Hello? 151 00:10:21,920 --> 00:10:22,640 Bobby? Bobby? 152 00:10:24,000 --> 00:10:25,720 Hey! Bobby? What did you do? Ha? 153 00:10:25,800 --> 00:10:27,600 Did you take these? 154 00:10:27,680 --> 00:10:28,720 Answer me! 155 00:10:28,840 --> 00:10:29,400 No! 156 00:10:29,480 --> 00:10:30,440 Is that the truth? 157 00:10:30,560 --> 00:10:34,280 I couldn't do it, ok? Get off me. 158 00:10:35,360 --> 00:10:38,000 I wanted to but I couldn't. 159 00:10:41,280 --> 00:10:43,960 What's wrong with you? 160 00:10:44,160 --> 00:10:45,120 Why I couldn't do it? 161 00:10:47,800 --> 00:10:49,240 Because it's a sin. 162 00:10:51,600 --> 00:10:53,560 Bobby, what are you talking about? 163 00:10:56,200 --> 00:10:58,200 I didn't wanna go to hell, but... 164 00:10:58,320 --> 00:10:58,560 I am. 165 00:10:59,280 --> 00:11:00,640 Cause this is worse. 166 00:11:00,760 --> 00:11:04,600 Bobby, you're scaring me. What's going on? 167 00:11:05,040 --> 00:11:06,480 You'd all hate me. 168 00:11:06,960 --> 00:11:10,640 I know it. I know that if you guys knew the truth, you'd hate me. 169 00:11:10,760 --> 00:11:11,240 No. 170 00:11:11,640 --> 00:11:12,440 Whatever it is... 171 00:11:12,560 --> 00:11:13,440 we'll tell Mum... 172 00:11:13,520 --> 00:11:14,480 No! 173 00:11:14,600 --> 00:11:18,280 No. Mum wouldn't understand. OK? She can't know. 174 00:11:18,400 --> 00:11:20,840 Then you have to tell me right now. 175 00:11:24,160 --> 00:11:25,600 I'm not like you Ed. 176 00:11:26,120 --> 00:11:27,080 So what? 177 00:11:27,640 --> 00:11:28,840 I keep trying. 178 00:11:28,960 --> 00:11:34,720 I keep telling myself that one day I'm gonna wake up and it's gonna be different. But it's not. 179 00:11:36,160 --> 00:11:37,080 I don't dream... 180 00:11:37,200 --> 00:11:39,080 about girls, like you do. 181 00:11:40,440 --> 00:11:43,200 I dream about guys. 182 00:11:45,720 --> 00:11:47,000 You're gay?! 183 00:11:47,120 --> 00:11:47,880 See? 184 00:11:47,960 --> 00:11:49,880 You even say it like you hate me. 185 00:11:50,000 --> 00:11:50,880 Bob, gimme a break. 186 00:11:50,960 --> 00:11:53,400 I don't know what to do! 187 00:11:53,760 --> 00:11:55,200 -We'll tell Mum and dad. -No! 188 00:11:55,320 --> 00:11:55,680 No. 189 00:11:55,800 --> 00:11:58,800 They can help, Bobby. They always want us to come to them. 190 00:11:58,920 --> 00:11:59,480 They can help. 191 00:11:59,600 --> 00:12:01,520 I can't! Ok? 192 00:12:02,960 --> 00:12:04,600 And you're not gonna say anything either. 193 00:12:05,240 --> 00:12:06,320 Promise me. 194 00:12:07,000 --> 00:12:09,040 Promise me you're not gonna say anything. 195 00:12:11,080 --> 00:12:12,960 Ed, promise! 196 00:12:13,680 --> 00:12:14,160 Ok. 197 00:12:14,320 --> 00:12:16,800 I promise. 198 00:12:21,160 --> 00:12:26,400 Mum, if there was something wrong with one of your kids, you always said that we should come to you... 199 00:12:27,160 --> 00:12:28,000 What did you do? 200 00:12:28,120 --> 00:12:29,160 It's not me, it's Bobby. 201 00:12:29,280 --> 00:12:30,800 What is it? 202 00:12:32,160 --> 00:12:35,040 I didn't want to tell you but he was... 203 00:12:35,120 --> 00:12:39,680 in such a bad shape, I'm really worried about him. 204 00:12:39,800 --> 00:12:40,640 He thinks... 205 00:12:40,760 --> 00:12:43,840 he might be homosexual. 206 00:12:44,600 --> 00:12:46,120 He's not. 207 00:12:46,520 --> 00:12:52,160 He didn't want me to tell you. He was gonna take a bunch of aspirins. 208 00:12:52,280 --> 00:12:53,080 Ok? 209 00:12:53,200 --> 00:12:56,480 You know... he trusted me, you can't go too hard on him. 210 00:12:56,600 --> 00:12:58,840 Ok, good. It's good. 211 00:12:58,920 --> 00:13:00,800 I'm glad you told me. 212 00:13:00,880 --> 00:13:02,880 There's no doubt in my mind that God can handle this. 213 00:13:02,960 --> 00:13:03,840 He'll help us. 214 00:13:03,920 --> 00:13:06,480 He'll heal Bobby. 215 00:13:07,560 --> 00:13:09,480 In order for all of us to be together in the kingdom of heaven, 216 00:13:09,560 --> 00:13:11,280 we cannot stray. 217 00:13:11,400 --> 00:13:12,440 We can't sin like that. 218 00:13:12,560 --> 00:13:14,360 That is a terrible sin. 219 00:13:14,480 --> 00:13:16,360 The bible calls it an abomination. 220 00:13:16,480 --> 00:13:19,120 In Leviticus, if a man lies with another man, 221 00:13:19,240 --> 00:13:20,080 they should both be put to death. 222 00:13:20,200 --> 00:13:23,760 I will not raise my family not being together in the next life. 223 00:13:23,840 --> 00:13:26,840 Mary. Can we please worry about this life before we worry about the next life? 224 00:13:27,200 --> 00:13:29,480 Hey. What's going on? 225 00:13:30,720 --> 00:13:32,560 Isn't there a problem you need to tell us about? 226 00:13:32,640 --> 00:13:35,320 -No... -Bobby 227 00:13:35,840 --> 00:13:40,000 If there is something wrong, you need to share it with your family. 228 00:13:40,120 --> 00:13:41,480 -How could you? -Bobby... 229 00:13:41,600 --> 00:13:43,840 I'm gonna kill you! 230 00:13:43,960 --> 00:13:44,760 No! 231 00:13:45,680 --> 00:13:46,600 Ok, ok. Enough! 232 00:13:46,720 --> 00:13:47,680 I was worried about you! 233 00:13:47,800 --> 00:13:48,720 I trusted you! 234 00:13:48,840 --> 00:13:49,720 Calm down! 235 00:13:49,800 --> 00:13:53,520 Hey, Ed. Go find some room. 236 00:13:54,280 --> 00:13:55,320 Bobby, we're your family. 237 00:13:55,400 --> 00:13:56,320 We can get through this. 238 00:13:56,400 --> 00:13:59,160 I know that if we trust in God, we can get through this. 239 00:13:59,280 --> 00:14:00,240 It's curable with his help. 240 00:14:00,320 --> 00:14:01,200 I'm sorry. 241 00:14:01,280 --> 00:14:03,120 I can't help it. 242 00:14:03,240 --> 00:14:05,400 I don't even want it Mum! What do I do? 243 00:14:05,520 --> 00:14:07,040 Bobby, you're not gay. 244 00:14:07,880 --> 00:14:09,680 You're probably just... 245 00:14:09,800 --> 00:14:12,680 you haven't met a girl that you're really attracted to. 246 00:14:13,640 --> 00:14:14,480 Please... 247 00:14:14,600 --> 00:14:16,920 Mum, please don't tell anyone please... 248 00:14:17,000 --> 00:14:19,280 - Mum, please don't tell anyone. - It's all right. 249 00:14:19,360 --> 00:14:22,240 It's gonna be fine. 250 00:14:29,920 --> 00:14:32,240 I was worried about you. 251 00:14:32,360 --> 00:14:33,920 What was I supposed to do? 252 00:14:34,680 --> 00:14:36,160 I'm out of here. 253 00:14:40,440 --> 00:14:41,400 Thank you again for joining us 254 00:14:41,520 --> 00:14:43,120 I'm pastor Raymond 255 00:14:43,200 --> 00:14:45,000 and we'll take another call, 256 00:14:45,120 --> 00:14:46,600 this is from Melissa in Concord. 257 00:14:46,680 --> 00:14:48,520 Thank you reverend, I'm a little nervous 258 00:14:48,600 --> 00:14:50,840 My sister made a terrible mistake 259 00:14:50,960 --> 00:14:53,840 she sinned... 260 00:14:53,960 --> 00:14:57,680 I advise you to live according to your new life in the holy spirit 261 00:14:57,800 --> 00:14:59,680 Then you won't be doing... 262 00:14:59,800 --> 00:15:02,640 what your sinful nature craves. 263 00:15:03,400 --> 00:15:05,360 When the holy spirit controls your life, 264 00:15:05,480 --> 00:15:08,600 it will produce love, joy and kindness, 265 00:15:08,680 --> 00:15:11,000 goodness and self-control. 266 00:15:11,080 --> 00:15:12,400 Does everyone have to know? 267 00:15:12,520 --> 00:15:15,840 We're your family. We love you. 268 00:15:23,040 --> 00:15:32,400 I am pure of hearts. I am of god's goodness. 269 00:15:34,560 --> 00:15:36,920 We still love you, Bobby. 270 00:15:37,120 --> 00:15:41,560 Yes, thanks. Can I get some privacy? 271 00:15:46,480 --> 00:15:47,320 Hi Mary! 272 00:15:54,440 --> 00:15:57,600 Everything you always wanted to know about sex 273 00:15:59,320 --> 00:16:03,040 If a homosexual who wants to renounce to homosexuality... 274 00:16:03,200 --> 00:16:06,840 finds a psychiastrist who knows how to cure homosexuality... 275 00:16:07,080 --> 00:16:08,680 he has every chance of becoming... 276 00:16:08,760 --> 00:16:11,320 a happy well adjusted heterosexual. 277 00:16:21,440 --> 00:16:22,880 Do you hear any voices? 278 00:16:23,840 --> 00:16:24,800 No. 279 00:16:26,720 --> 00:16:28,840 Do you ever hear any ringing sounds? 280 00:16:29,560 --> 00:16:30,440 No. 281 00:16:30,520 --> 00:16:32,920 Is that the phone? 282 00:16:39,120 --> 00:16:41,080 It was a joke. 283 00:16:44,880 --> 00:16:47,040 So you think you're a homosexual? 284 00:16:50,160 --> 00:16:52,440 Bobby, how many girls have you been with? 285 00:16:52,560 --> 00:16:54,280 I don't know. Two. 286 00:16:55,400 --> 00:16:57,840 Had sexual relations with? 287 00:17:02,120 --> 00:17:04,040 Then how do you know for sure? 288 00:17:05,000 --> 00:17:05,840 I just... 289 00:17:06,000 --> 00:17:07,760 have these feelings, you know? 290 00:17:07,880 --> 00:17:09,360 I don't mean you know. I mean... 291 00:17:10,760 --> 00:17:13,160 I have these feelings. 292 00:17:15,560 --> 00:17:17,920 Do you want to be homosexual? 293 00:17:23,200 --> 00:17:25,200 I just wanna be close with my family again. 294 00:17:25,320 --> 00:17:27,520 I feel like I slipped up and now I can't... 295 00:17:28,000 --> 00:17:28,840 get back. 296 00:17:28,920 --> 00:17:30,760 I'm not gonna be able to help you... 297 00:17:30,840 --> 00:17:36,000 if you don't answer my questions. 298 00:17:37,560 --> 00:17:39,480 No, I don't wanna be this way. 299 00:17:40,440 --> 00:17:46,120 I'm gonna talk with your mother alone for a minute, ok? 300 00:17:48,080 --> 00:17:49,560 She wants to talk to you. 301 00:17:53,800 --> 00:17:56,240 He can be cured. Right? 302 00:17:58,640 --> 00:18:00,440 He has to be willing to really put the work in. 303 00:18:00,560 --> 00:18:03,280 O, he is. I know he is. 304 00:18:03,400 --> 00:18:08,200 And I think it would be good, it would be important to have your husband come join us in therapy. 305 00:18:11,080 --> 00:18:12,040 Right... 306 00:18:13,000 --> 00:18:13,960 How did it go? 307 00:18:16,800 --> 00:18:19,240 She said we should spend some more time together. 308 00:18:19,680 --> 00:18:21,480 Maybe the two of you could spend 309 00:18:21,560 --> 00:18:23,480 some quality time together. 310 00:18:24,520 --> 00:18:25,440 Yes, sure. 311 00:18:30,720 --> 00:18:33,080 That's all she said for 60$ an hour? 312 00:18:33,280 --> 00:18:35,160 She also wants the 3 of us to go to a few sessions together. 313 00:18:35,520 --> 00:18:37,760 What? So it's our fault? 314 00:18:37,840 --> 00:18:39,760 No no... I don't know about it but it's fine if he goes. 315 00:18:39,880 --> 00:18:43,640 Bob, I want you to be a part of this. I can't do it alone, ok? 316 00:18:43,720 --> 00:18:46,440 I read that homosexuals have sex in public bathrooms, 317 00:18:46,560 --> 00:18:49,320 and that they recruit children. 318 00:18:49,520 --> 00:18:51,360 What are you saying? 319 00:18:52,240 --> 00:18:54,040 Do you think Bobby was recruited? 320 00:18:54,160 --> 00:18:55,000 Come on Mary, you're going overboard. 321 00:18:55,120 --> 00:19:01,480 You got to do something about this. I won't lose him. 322 00:19:04,440 --> 00:19:07,680 Dear lord, we ask that you keep Bobby safe from temptation. 323 00:19:07,800 --> 00:19:09,880 Please help him return to a pure heart. 324 00:19:10,000 --> 00:19:11,680 Do you think this will heal me? 325 00:19:11,800 --> 00:19:14,000 You have to trust the God will heal you. 326 00:19:14,080 --> 00:19:16,920 And that Satan will try to discourage you. 327 00:19:17,040 --> 00:19:18,200 Do you trust in god? 328 00:19:19,200 --> 00:19:19,680 Yeah. 329 00:19:20,880 --> 00:19:22,400 Now let me go to sleep. 330 00:19:27,880 --> 00:19:29,840 When temptation is all around you, 331 00:19:30,200 --> 00:19:33,640 faith is not enough. It requires discipline 332 00:19:33,960 --> 00:19:35,760 Not just mental, but physical. 333 00:19:35,920 --> 00:19:38,440 Who would like to share their story? 334 00:19:40,480 --> 00:19:42,520 I used to be so unhappy. 335 00:19:42,800 --> 00:19:43,840 I stayed out all night, 336 00:19:43,960 --> 00:19:45,560 I talked back to my mother. 337 00:19:45,680 --> 00:19:48,480 Since coming here and accepting Jesus as my savior, 338 00:19:48,600 --> 00:19:49,280 I've changed.. 339 00:19:49,960 --> 00:19:52,080 My Mum and I are like best friends now. 340 00:19:52,200 --> 00:19:53,640 That's great Kerry. 341 00:19:55,200 --> 00:19:56,920 The power of prayer and hard work. 342 00:19:57,040 --> 00:19:59,000 Bobby what about you? How are you coming along? 343 00:20:02,880 --> 00:20:03,360 Good... 344 00:20:04,200 --> 00:20:06,720 Well, you feel better. Don't you? I can see it in your eyes. 345 00:20:06,840 --> 00:20:09,760 Your hard works' paid off. Hasn't it? 346 00:20:09,960 --> 00:20:10,440 Yeah... 347 00:20:11,800 --> 00:20:13,200 Let's sing, shall we? 348 00:20:46,040 --> 00:20:49,000 Nothing I do seems to make a difference. 349 00:20:49,120 --> 00:20:52,680 I try to act like them but it feels impossible. 350 00:20:53,040 --> 00:20:57,240 It's an awful feeling to believe you can be headed straight for the fires of hell. 351 00:20:57,360 --> 00:21:01,240 Even worse is everyone telling you how simple the solution is. 352 00:21:01,400 --> 00:21:04,440 They don't know what it is to be in my shoes. 353 00:21:04,760 --> 00:21:06,440 I'm running, I'm not eating junk food. 354 00:21:06,600 --> 00:21:07,320 Good, good! 355 00:21:07,880 --> 00:21:09,200 Yeah, that's good but... 356 00:21:09,320 --> 00:21:11,480 I don't know the point of it. 357 00:21:11,600 --> 00:21:15,480 I mean, my face has cleared up but everything else feels the same. 358 00:21:15,560 --> 00:21:16,920 Well you have to stick with it. 359 00:21:17,000 --> 00:21:18,840 Do you like the people in your group? 360 00:21:18,960 --> 00:21:19,920 They're ok. 361 00:21:20,360 --> 00:21:21,240 This one girl, she... 362 00:21:21,320 --> 00:21:23,160 You know, I hope you're taking this seriously. 363 00:21:23,240 --> 00:21:25,280 I mean that I hope you are trying with all your might. 364 00:21:25,400 --> 00:21:27,520 I cannot lose you to this. 365 00:21:27,640 --> 00:21:30,120 You won't. 366 00:21:34,600 --> 00:21:35,120 Have faith! 367 00:21:39,640 --> 00:21:41,000 Well this is gonna be fun. 368 00:21:41,120 --> 00:21:45,440 When was the last time all the Griffith men went hiking together? 369 00:21:59,920 --> 00:22:01,240 So how's school? 370 00:22:01,360 --> 00:22:02,360 Good. 371 00:22:05,760 --> 00:22:07,680 You thought about your plans? 372 00:22:08,720 --> 00:22:10,040 Well college... 373 00:22:11,080 --> 00:22:11,680 No, I mean... 374 00:22:11,800 --> 00:22:12,840 life plans. 375 00:22:13,400 --> 00:22:15,200 Well, I'm still thinking of becoming a writer. 376 00:22:15,320 --> 00:22:16,760 Listen Bobby, you always had a strong imagination. 377 00:22:16,880 --> 00:22:18,600 and we've always been alright with that. 378 00:22:18,720 --> 00:22:21,920 But you're getting to the age where you're gonna have to get practical. 379 00:22:22,040 --> 00:22:22,920 Alright, dreams... 380 00:22:23,040 --> 00:22:24,880 they're great when you're young, but... 381 00:22:25,000 --> 00:22:25,840 they don't really have... 382 00:22:25,960 --> 00:22:29,320 really have a place in the real world. 383 00:22:32,680 --> 00:22:33,600 Yeah. 384 00:22:33,800 --> 00:22:35,560 You hear what I'm saying to you? 385 00:22:37,040 --> 00:22:38,360 -Yeah. -Alright, alright. Le'ts go, let's move. 386 00:22:38,480 --> 00:22:39,880 Alright. 387 00:22:45,160 --> 00:22:46,200 How did it go? 388 00:22:48,120 --> 00:22:50,040 I'm "healed". 389 00:22:53,440 --> 00:22:54,880 It was fine. 390 00:22:55,800 --> 00:22:57,600 Did you two talk? 391 00:22:57,720 --> 00:22:58,720 Yeah, we talked. 392 00:22:59,680 --> 00:23:01,160 What did you talk about? 393 00:23:02,520 --> 00:23:04,040 Mary, it was fine. 394 00:23:04,480 --> 00:23:07,560 No, but this is important. This could make him or break him. 395 00:23:08,040 --> 00:23:12,280 I did the best I could. Is that alright with you? 396 00:23:15,480 --> 00:23:18,720 A lot of times, confusions like Bobby's 397 00:23:18,840 --> 00:23:23,160 can be caused by a distant father or an overbearing mother. 398 00:23:24,080 --> 00:23:26,960 Well, I had both but I'm fine. 399 00:23:28,440 --> 00:23:29,360 -Bob? -Yes? 400 00:23:29,800 --> 00:23:31,680 You need to participate in this. 401 00:23:31,800 --> 00:23:33,760 I'm right here Mary. I'm in the room. 402 00:23:36,600 --> 00:23:37,120 I think... 403 00:23:37,520 --> 00:23:39,800 I've been a very good father. 404 00:23:39,920 --> 00:23:42,160 And maybe you don't know this but Bobby. I mean he was never into... 405 00:23:42,280 --> 00:23:46,400 stuff that his brother and other boys were into. He's just not interested. 406 00:23:46,600 --> 00:23:48,520 So I'm not gonna force him. 407 00:23:55,280 --> 00:23:56,920 Hi Bobby I'm Sheila. 408 00:24:00,960 --> 00:24:01,920 Mum, who's that? 409 00:24:03,320 --> 00:24:07,200 Sheila is a student in my Sunday school class. 410 00:24:07,680 --> 00:24:08,640 You got me a date? 411 00:24:09,080 --> 00:24:11,840 You need to go out with lots of girls. And your dad thinks so too. 412 00:24:11,960 --> 00:24:12,920 Can I at least pick my own? 413 00:24:16,720 --> 00:24:18,200 I donnot think that you are. 414 00:24:18,680 --> 00:24:19,640 Have fun. 415 00:24:21,040 --> 00:24:23,320 You look nifty. Do you want a brownie for energy? 416 00:24:23,440 --> 00:24:26,120 -No -Take them up! No?! 417 00:24:29,160 --> 00:24:30,560 Hello. Who's this? 418 00:24:30,680 --> 00:24:31,480 That's my brother Ed. 419 00:24:31,600 --> 00:24:32,920 -Hi. -Hi, I'm Sheila. 420 00:24:33,040 --> 00:24:34,840 -Nice to meet you. -Nice to meet you too. 421 00:24:34,960 --> 00:24:38,000 -Hi. -Are you up to see my friends? -Yeah! 422 00:24:44,320 --> 00:24:46,200 So you're never gonna talk to me again? 423 00:24:47,000 --> 00:24:48,320 ??? 424 00:24:50,080 --> 00:24:51,680 What if she wants me to kiss her goodnight? 425 00:24:52,160 --> 00:24:53,120 Tell her you're gay. 426 00:25:15,640 --> 00:25:18,000 Watch out fag. 427 00:25:34,280 --> 00:25:36,160 Did you tell your friends? 428 00:25:36,280 --> 00:25:38,080 Bobby, that's not my friend. 429 00:25:38,200 --> 00:25:39,000 You told everyone I'm gay? 430 00:25:39,120 --> 00:25:41,480 I haven't told anyone. Stop being so paranoid. 431 00:25:41,960 --> 00:25:42,800 You all hate me for it. 432 00:25:42,920 --> 00:25:44,800 I know you don't think I see it but I do. 433 00:25:45,760 --> 00:25:47,160 I gotta go. 434 00:25:47,680 --> 00:25:48,680 Bobby... 435 00:25:56,800 --> 00:25:57,760 It's 3 in the morning! 436 00:26:00,640 --> 00:26:01,600 Sorry I lost track of time. 437 00:26:02,040 --> 00:26:02,920 Where were you? 438 00:26:05,880 --> 00:26:06,840 Bobby... 439 00:26:08,720 --> 00:26:10,560 You weren't with homosexuals, were you? 440 00:26:12,600 --> 00:26:14,000 This is not you. 441 00:26:15,480 --> 00:26:17,320 This is temptation working its ways. 442 00:26:17,440 --> 00:26:20,760 You have to pray harder if you're going to get well. 443 00:26:21,720 --> 00:26:23,040 Good night, Mum. 444 00:26:24,560 --> 00:26:26,960 Pray for forgiveness right away. 445 00:26:28,880 --> 00:26:33,640 If you believe, you will receive whatever you ask for in prayer. Matthew 21:22 446 00:26:46,600 --> 00:26:48,840 It was fine, girls. But I gotta go. 447 00:26:48,960 --> 00:26:50,000 Ok. 448 00:26:50,880 --> 00:26:51,840 Bobby! Hey! 449 00:26:53,760 --> 00:26:54,800 Where's Joy? 450 00:26:54,920 --> 00:26:57,120 She's at work so she asked me to pick you up. 451 00:26:58,520 --> 00:27:00,000 You're welcome. 452 00:27:00,440 --> 00:27:01,400 - What's with you? - What? 453 00:27:01,920 --> 00:27:04,120 You think I didn't notice that? 454 00:27:04,240 --> 00:27:05,120 You don't want your friends to see me. 455 00:27:05,240 --> 00:27:06,720 Some people wouldn't understand. 456 00:27:07,200 --> 00:27:08,160 And now it's so obvious... 457 00:27:08,640 --> 00:27:09,920 What did you tell them? 458 00:27:10,040 --> 00:27:11,880 Well look the way you're wearing. 459 00:27:12,840 --> 00:27:15,720 And I told you time after time not to do that thing with your arm. 460 00:27:16,000 --> 00:27:18,560 Makes you look like a girl and you continue to do it. 461 00:27:19,160 --> 00:27:23,440 - I'm always dressed this way. - No, you haven't. It's gotten worse. 462 00:27:23,600 --> 00:27:25,240 Why you're doing this? I'm trying to help you. 463 00:27:25,360 --> 00:27:27,120 No, you're not. 464 00:27:27,240 --> 00:27:28,200 You're trying to help YOU! 465 00:27:28,720 --> 00:27:30,560 It's not about me. It's about what people think about you. 466 00:27:30,680 --> 00:27:32,800 Imagine if they thought your son was some big queer. 467 00:27:32,960 --> 00:27:33,000 What's wrong with you? 468 00:27:34,080 --> 00:27:35,440 Stop that! 469 00:27:36,880 --> 00:27:38,240 Nite Mum. Great. 470 00:27:38,360 --> 00:27:39,320 Le'ts go home! 471 00:27:39,560 --> 00:27:40,560 - I'm walking. - No! 472 00:27:40,680 --> 00:27:42,520 Where are you going? 473 00:28:46,720 --> 00:28:48,640 I've never seen you around here before. 474 00:28:49,840 --> 00:28:51,160 You are really beautiful. 475 00:28:57,320 --> 00:28:58,280 I gotta go. 476 00:28:58,600 --> 00:28:59,640 Can I call you? 477 00:29:04,160 --> 00:29:04,480 No. 478 00:29:15,280 --> 00:29:20,360 Metropolitan Community Church celebrates gay pride. All are welcome 479 00:29:21,640 --> 00:29:22,240 Bobby... 480 00:29:23,920 --> 00:29:26,480 Don't worry. I was at church. 481 00:29:34,520 --> 00:29:39,600 -Hi Cousin -I have a name. It's gorgeous cousin. 482 00:29:40,600 --> 00:29:41,560 So, how long you're here for? 483 00:29:41,640 --> 00:29:43,840 Just a day, I'm driving home tonight. 484 00:29:43,960 --> 00:29:47,760 I came to see my dad. But I couldn't resist stopping by. 485 00:29:48,160 --> 00:29:50,800 Maybe it's not a choice. Maybe I just can't help it. 486 00:29:50,920 --> 00:29:53,160 So you say that stealing's not a choice. 487 00:29:53,240 --> 00:29:53,720 What? 488 00:29:54,360 --> 00:29:56,400 Aunt Mary, lunch is delicious. 489 00:29:56,480 --> 00:29:57,880 Joy's right Bobby. 490 00:29:58,000 --> 00:29:58,760 The bible says: 491 00:29:58,840 --> 00:30:00,920 Men committed shameless acts with men 492 00:30:01,000 --> 00:30:04,480 and received in their own's person the due penalty for their error. 493 00:30:04,840 --> 00:30:06,160 You just won't change, will you? 494 00:30:06,240 --> 00:30:07,840 I can't erase what's in the bible. 495 00:30:07,920 --> 00:30:12,480 Personnally, I think people should be able to love whoever they want. 496 00:30:16,400 --> 00:30:18,080 Did I mention how good lunch is? 497 00:30:18,160 --> 00:30:20,600 Even animals know what to do it with. 498 00:30:22,040 --> 00:30:23,640 Actually, our dog does it with a pillow... 499 00:30:23,720 --> 00:30:27,120 Can we please find something different to discuss? 500 00:30:27,560 --> 00:30:30,200 Ed, why don't you tell us about college? 501 00:30:30,280 --> 00:30:32,680 I dropped school last week. 502 00:30:33,600 --> 00:30:34,320 You what? 503 00:30:37,040 --> 00:30:38,080 Well, what about college? 504 00:30:38,200 --> 00:30:38,840 I'm not going. 505 00:30:40,920 --> 00:30:41,440 Great! 506 00:30:42,720 --> 00:30:43,560 What's next? 507 00:30:44,520 --> 00:30:46,200 You wanna ruin your life? 508 00:30:46,280 --> 00:30:48,320 Yeah well it's my life to ruin. 509 00:30:54,160 --> 00:30:56,680 Is it like this at every meal? 510 00:30:56,800 --> 00:30:57,760 Pretty much. 511 00:30:59,120 --> 00:31:01,960 You should come up and visit me in Portland. It's so great! 512 00:31:02,040 --> 00:31:03,600 I used to envy you.. 513 00:31:04,800 --> 00:31:08,360 When I came here with Mum and Dad, I always wished your parents were my parents. 514 00:31:08,440 --> 00:31:10,360 You all seemed so close. 515 00:31:10,440 --> 00:31:11,280 Well that's over with. 516 00:31:12,920 --> 00:31:14,440 I think they love the sinners. Not the sin. 517 00:31:14,520 --> 00:31:17,400 They should love the son no matter what the sin. 518 00:31:17,480 --> 00:31:18,680 Hey that's good. 519 00:31:18,840 --> 00:31:21,240 I'm gonna start my own bible. 520 00:31:28,400 --> 00:31:29,880 Think about coming to Portland? 521 00:31:33,600 --> 00:31:34,480 Hi Mrs. Griffith! 522 00:31:34,560 --> 00:31:35,520 Is Bobby here? 523 00:31:38,720 --> 00:31:39,120 Bobby! 524 00:31:39,560 --> 00:31:41,880 You know it's enough you go God knows where at night. 525 00:31:42,000 --> 00:31:44,800 But now you're bringing these deviants into my house. 526 00:31:44,880 --> 00:31:45,840 It's my house too. 527 00:31:45,960 --> 00:31:47,000 And they're my friends. 528 00:31:47,080 --> 00:31:48,840 Is that what that boy is? 529 00:31:48,920 --> 00:31:50,840 Is it a sin to have friends now too Mum? 530 00:31:50,920 --> 00:31:52,480 We have a good time, ok? 531 00:31:52,600 --> 00:31:53,520 We go to the rocky chore together. 532 00:31:53,600 --> 00:31:55,160 Does it mean we're all gonna get strucked down? 533 00:31:55,280 --> 00:31:56,880 They're gay, aren't they? 534 00:31:57,320 --> 00:31:58,560 I thought you were getting better. 535 00:31:58,640 --> 00:31:59,160 When? 536 00:31:59,520 --> 00:32:02,280 When I was miserable? That looked like I was getting better? 537 00:32:02,360 --> 00:32:02,920 You're right Mum! 538 00:32:03,000 --> 00:32:04,320 I'm doomed just to roast in hell! 539 00:32:04,400 --> 00:32:04,960 Don't say that. 540 00:32:05,040 --> 00:32:06,360 That's what your bible says! 541 00:32:06,440 --> 00:32:08,360 The bible also says a person can change. 542 00:32:08,480 --> 00:32:10,320 I tried Mum. I can't! 543 00:32:10,920 --> 00:32:12,800 Why do you keep choosing this? 544 00:32:12,920 --> 00:32:14,720 Why would I choose this? 545 00:32:14,800 --> 00:32:16,520 Why would I choose to have my entire family hate me? 546 00:32:16,600 --> 00:32:19,480 No we love you. Can't you see that's why we're doing this? 547 00:32:19,560 --> 00:32:22,080 Really Mum? Is that what love feels like? 548 00:32:27,320 --> 00:32:28,840 Have fun in Portland. 549 00:32:30,240 --> 00:32:32,000 Here's an issue for your vacation. 550 00:32:32,120 --> 00:32:33,400 I hope you like it. 551 00:32:36,440 --> 00:32:39,000 Promise me you'll write and call all the time? 552 00:32:39,280 --> 00:32:40,320 It's two months. 553 00:32:42,560 --> 00:32:43,760 Drive carefully. 554 00:32:43,840 --> 00:32:45,480 Don't worry Madam. 555 00:32:47,080 --> 00:32:49,440 You call me when you get to Portland. 556 00:32:49,920 --> 00:32:52,640 I had this engraved with your initials. 557 00:33:05,320 --> 00:33:05,840 I love you guys. 558 00:33:12,920 --> 00:33:13,760 Bye Bobby. 559 00:33:24,920 --> 00:33:27,720 Already I'm glad to be away from Walnut Creek. 560 00:33:27,800 --> 00:33:29,320 This feels like a new life. 561 00:33:29,720 --> 00:33:30,600 A new day. 562 00:33:30,960 --> 00:33:34,200 I'm gonna be a success in every way I can. 563 00:33:34,280 --> 00:33:35,800 It's my goal to achieve, 564 00:33:35,880 --> 00:33:37,360 a sense of pride, 565 00:33:37,480 --> 00:33:39,360 and worth as a human being. 566 00:33:49,160 --> 00:33:50,120 Gorgeous cousin. 567 00:33:55,760 --> 00:33:57,160 Welcome to Portland! 568 00:34:14,200 --> 00:34:15,000 Trust me... 569 00:34:15,080 --> 00:34:17,400 You don't find clubs like this back home. 570 00:34:17,480 --> 00:34:18,360 I'll see. 571 00:34:30,200 --> 00:34:31,920 Welcome to London House cousin. 572 00:34:32,000 --> 00:34:32,880 This is amazing! 573 00:34:33,480 --> 00:34:34,360 Let's go boogie. 574 00:34:55,960 --> 00:34:56,400 David! 575 00:34:57,040 --> 00:34:57,640 Janette! 576 00:35:00,360 --> 00:35:02,200 This is my cousin Bobby. 577 00:35:04,200 --> 00:35:06,760 Nice to finally meet you Bobby! 578 00:35:37,520 --> 00:35:41,680 So Janette tells me your Mum wants to cure you of your gayness. 579 00:35:41,760 --> 00:35:42,440 Yeah, well... 580 00:35:43,000 --> 00:35:44,920 My parents don't really understand it. 581 00:35:45,000 --> 00:35:45,760 Do yours? 582 00:35:46,800 --> 00:35:47,760 They didn't first. 583 00:35:47,880 --> 00:35:50,080 But, they eventually came around. 584 00:35:50,160 --> 00:35:52,160 How did you get them to change? 585 00:35:52,640 --> 00:35:53,200 Well, one day, 586 00:35:54,120 --> 00:35:57,200 I told them �Accept me as I am, or forget me!� 587 00:35:59,320 --> 00:36:02,240 I know my Mum means well but I don't know if she'll ever accept me. 588 00:36:07,320 --> 00:36:09,200 Just don't stop trying. 589 00:36:16,560 --> 00:36:17,640 Now that you know 590 00:36:17,720 --> 00:36:22,040 What every parent should know about homosexuality 591 00:36:47,480 --> 00:36:49,160 Have a great trip. 592 00:36:50,360 --> 00:36:52,360 Don't let her get to you. 593 00:36:52,720 --> 00:36:55,000 And don't be afraid to stand up to her. 594 00:37:07,040 --> 00:37:08,120 Too much flew by fast. 595 00:37:14,120 --> 00:37:16,080 I'll call you when I get home. 596 00:37:16,520 --> 00:37:17,840 You'd better. 597 00:37:22,120 --> 00:37:23,400 Well. Look who's home. 598 00:37:24,000 --> 00:37:25,880 -Hey Dad. -Hey, come here, come here. 599 00:37:27,200 --> 00:37:29,360 Just in time for dinner. Come on in. 600 00:37:30,360 --> 00:37:31,520 That's funny. 601 00:37:32,400 --> 00:37:33,200 So how was Portland? 602 00:37:33,280 --> 00:37:33,760 Yeah... 603 00:37:34,840 --> 00:37:35,880 Portland was great. 604 00:37:35,960 --> 00:37:36,480 Good! 605 00:37:36,680 --> 00:37:40,320 I'm thinking of maybe moving there for a little bit. 606 00:37:40,400 --> 00:37:41,240 Moving there? 607 00:37:41,320 --> 00:37:42,680 I met someone... 608 00:37:47,320 --> 00:37:47,920 A guy. 609 00:37:52,000 --> 00:37:52,680 Girls... 610 00:37:53,600 --> 00:37:55,440 Give me a hand with this. 611 00:37:57,600 --> 00:37:59,600 We're supposed to pretend we didn't hear that? 612 00:37:59,720 --> 00:38:00,040 Yes. 613 00:38:01,040 --> 00:38:01,640 Bobby... 614 00:38:02,640 --> 00:38:05,000 This might not have been the right time. 615 00:38:05,080 --> 00:38:05,600 I know. 616 00:38:06,320 --> 00:38:07,000 I'm sorry.. 617 00:38:12,040 --> 00:38:14,480 You should start thinking about college for next fall. 618 00:38:14,560 --> 00:38:15,960 You need to get your GED first. 619 00:38:16,040 --> 00:38:16,360 I mean... 620 00:38:16,440 --> 00:38:18,840 it's ok to take some time off but... 621 00:38:18,920 --> 00:38:19,880 Did you hear me? 622 00:38:20,320 --> 00:38:21,280 I don't wanna know. 623 00:38:21,360 --> 00:38:23,080 I want you to know. 624 00:38:24,080 --> 00:38:25,000 His name's David. 625 00:38:25,080 --> 00:38:29,560 We always start at the beginning every time and if we're not getting any more different let's just not go there. 626 00:38:29,680 --> 00:38:30,880 When I'm with him, 627 00:38:31,000 --> 00:38:32,000 it feels so... 628 00:38:32,320 --> 00:38:32,640 good! 629 00:38:34,000 --> 00:38:35,280 He treats me well... 630 00:38:35,680 --> 00:38:37,640 he's funny and he's smart... 631 00:38:37,720 --> 00:38:40,440 Stop. I mean it. I don't wanna hear it. And you know I don't. 632 00:38:40,520 --> 00:38:44,440 I spent the last year listening to you and you're gonna listen to me for once. 633 00:38:44,560 --> 00:38:46,720 It feels good when I'm with David. 634 00:38:46,840 --> 00:38:48,400 But if he touches me in public, 635 00:38:48,480 --> 00:38:50,360 or God forbids, kisses me, 636 00:38:51,760 --> 00:38:52,600 I pull away. 637 00:38:53,640 --> 00:38:54,440 I feel ashame. 638 00:38:54,520 --> 00:38:55,680 Because you know it's wrong. 639 00:38:55,760 --> 00:38:59,040 -Because YOU told me it's wrong. -It's not me. It's the bible. 640 00:38:59,160 --> 00:39:00,840 It's not the bible. It's you! 641 00:39:01,440 --> 00:39:03,000 Why can't you admit that? 642 00:39:03,200 --> 00:39:06,040 Why can't you admit that you can't stand what I am? 643 00:39:06,120 --> 00:39:07,320 What you've become! 644 00:39:07,400 --> 00:39:08,440 What I am! 645 00:39:09,840 --> 00:39:13,280 I'm sorry. I'm not the perfect little Bobby you always wanted. 646 00:39:13,360 --> 00:39:15,680 But I can't keep apologizing for it Mum. 647 00:39:15,760 --> 00:39:17,680 Accept me as I am or forget it. 648 00:39:17,760 --> 00:39:19,560 I won't have a gay son. 649 00:39:21,360 --> 00:39:23,400 Then Mum you don't have a son. 650 00:39:23,840 --> 00:39:24,240 Fine. 651 00:39:32,600 --> 00:39:33,160 Bobby... 652 00:39:44,720 --> 00:39:47,160 Did you really think she'd change, Bobby? 653 00:39:50,320 --> 00:39:51,480 She meant it. 654 00:39:53,800 --> 00:39:55,400 She meant that. 655 00:39:58,920 --> 00:40:01,280 I really want you to be happy. 656 00:40:02,800 --> 00:40:05,760 And I'm sure that guy's really nice. 657 00:40:06,480 --> 00:40:09,320 No matter what. She'll never accept it. 658 00:40:10,080 --> 00:40:13,880 It's gonna be a lonely life because he'll never be welcome here. 659 00:40:13,960 --> 00:40:17,080 And for Christmas, Thanksgiving, anything. 660 00:40:26,560 --> 00:40:29,960 Don't worry about Mum too much. She'll come around. 661 00:40:30,040 --> 00:40:32,040 I'm not gonna hold my breath. 662 00:40:33,560 --> 00:40:33,960 Here you go. 663 00:40:36,560 --> 00:40:38,040 The parachute pants! 664 00:40:40,720 --> 00:40:41,360 Thanks. 665 00:40:44,640 --> 00:40:48,120 I'll send you my first novel when I write it. 666 00:40:50,840 --> 00:40:51,720 Bye Buck-Tooth! 667 00:40:53,280 --> 00:40:54,600 Take care, ok? 668 00:40:56,360 --> 00:40:57,640 Drive safe. 669 00:41:51,840 --> 00:41:56,360 ... most of the new cases up to 5 a day seem to be settled in the homosexual community... 670 00:41:56,440 --> 00:42:00,280 The AIDS becoming known as �the gay disease�. 671 00:42:13,640 --> 00:42:14,080 Well... 672 00:42:14,880 --> 00:42:18,200 your Mum went alot for your birthday. 673 00:42:18,320 --> 00:42:19,080 No card. 674 00:42:19,200 --> 00:42:21,880 A sweater and "AIDS - The Wrath of God". 675 00:42:23,000 --> 00:42:23,280 Whoah. 676 00:42:24,680 --> 00:42:25,880 Happy birthday! 677 00:42:26,160 --> 00:42:29,160 You can't expect anything different from her, Bobby. 678 00:42:29,240 --> 00:42:30,560 She's not gonna change. 679 00:42:30,800 --> 00:42:34,320 Birthdays were always a big deal for all of us. 680 00:42:34,400 --> 00:42:36,360 I'm just not in the �all of us� anymore. 681 00:42:37,320 --> 00:42:39,960 Can't get that throughout my head. 682 00:42:42,920 --> 00:42:43,680 There's David. 683 00:42:45,120 --> 00:42:46,160 Talk to you later. 684 00:42:56,800 --> 00:42:58,240 You sure this is ok? 685 00:42:58,320 --> 00:42:59,600 They're gonna love you. 686 00:43:03,320 --> 00:43:03,760 Let's go. 687 00:43:04,880 --> 00:43:07,120 Dad, do you have to tell that story? 688 00:43:07,240 --> 00:43:08,800 Hey, I felt I had to. 689 00:43:08,880 --> 00:43:13,480 Yes. And I've got about a dozen more where that came from if you're interested. 690 00:43:13,560 --> 00:43:14,880 Oh, oh no thanks. 691 00:43:16,360 --> 00:43:17,320 So Bobby... 692 00:43:17,440 --> 00:43:18,880 tell us more about you. 693 00:43:18,960 --> 00:43:20,720 You grew up in Walnut Creek, right? 694 00:43:20,800 --> 00:43:22,080 David says you're very close to your family. 695 00:43:22,200 --> 00:43:22,520 Yeah. 696 00:43:23,240 --> 00:43:26,720 So how are your parents with you being gay? 697 00:43:26,800 --> 00:43:27,560 Not good. 698 00:43:28,560 --> 00:43:28,800 Well... 699 00:43:28,880 --> 00:43:31,160 Maybe it's hard for them at first. 700 00:43:31,240 --> 00:43:32,120 They'll come around. 701 00:43:32,200 --> 00:43:36,920 You seem like a wonderful young man. I'm sure they love you. 702 00:43:37,000 --> 00:43:37,320 Hey! 703 00:43:37,880 --> 00:43:40,120 - Cheers to that! - Cheers to that! 704 00:43:40,200 --> 00:43:42,000 It's great to meet you Bobby. 705 00:43:42,360 --> 00:43:44,080 So how did you guys meet? 706 00:43:44,200 --> 00:43:45,520 You know Janette?... 707 00:43:50,280 --> 00:43:51,360 It's a sin. 708 00:43:51,520 --> 00:43:52,680 It's not natural. 709 00:43:56,080 --> 00:44:00,120 He'll never be welcome here. Why do you keep choosing this? 710 00:44:00,200 --> 00:44:01,880 Sometimes I hurt so bad... 711 00:44:02,480 --> 00:44:04,200 And I'm scared and I'm alone. 712 00:44:05,240 --> 00:44:07,960 I'm sure they love you. 713 00:44:08,240 --> 00:44:09,480 I'm damned. 714 00:44:13,360 --> 00:44:16,480 I'm slowly sinking in a vast lake of quick sand. 715 00:44:16,560 --> 00:44:17,800 A bottomless pool. 716 00:44:19,120 --> 00:44:24,120 I wish I could crawl under a rock and sleep forever. 717 00:44:34,560 --> 00:44:35,440 You've reached David. 718 00:44:35,520 --> 00:44:39,480 I'm not here right now but if you leave a message after the beep, I'll get right back to you. 719 00:44:39,560 --> 00:44:40,680 Have a good one... 720 00:44:42,040 --> 00:44:43,560 Hey David it's Bobby. 721 00:44:46,160 --> 00:44:47,720 I thought you'd be there. 722 00:44:48,920 --> 00:44:49,720 Look I'm... 723 00:44:51,280 --> 00:44:56,560 I really need someone to talk to and I was hoping you'd be there. 724 00:44:58,920 --> 00:44:59,640 Please, 725 00:45:01,600 --> 00:45:04,920 dear lord, continue to convict Bobby's heart off sin. 726 00:45:21,840 --> 00:45:22,120 That he may find his way 727 00:45:23,800 --> 00:45:25,200 The way of purity, 728 00:45:25,320 --> 00:45:26,440 the way of the righteous. 729 00:46:09,360 --> 00:46:10,440 It's a sin. 730 00:46:10,600 --> 00:46:11,840 It's not natural. 731 00:47:00,400 --> 00:47:02,560 I won't have a gay son. 732 00:47:12,600 --> 00:47:13,720 You're gonna be late for school. 733 00:47:13,800 --> 00:47:15,200 You're the one who slept in. 734 00:47:15,280 --> 00:47:17,880 Ok, then we're both gonna be late for school. 735 00:47:17,960 --> 00:47:18,720 Meet you in the car. 736 00:47:18,800 --> 00:47:20,560 - OK! - Hello? 737 00:47:23,440 --> 00:47:24,960 Janette, what's wrong? 738 00:47:28,920 --> 00:47:29,360 No... 739 00:47:31,280 --> 00:47:32,080 What's wrong? 740 00:47:32,160 --> 00:47:32,560 No... 741 00:47:33,760 --> 00:47:34,400 What's wrong? 742 00:47:34,480 --> 00:47:35,640 Nancy, get out of here! 743 00:47:36,440 --> 00:47:36,800 Dad! 744 00:47:38,720 --> 00:47:39,160 Daddy... 745 00:47:42,760 --> 00:47:43,120 Hello. 746 00:47:45,200 --> 00:47:46,360 Hi. Hi, Janette... 747 00:47:47,960 --> 00:47:52,720 Mary, you've been called up front and he said to bring your purse. 748 00:47:52,920 --> 00:47:54,560 Probably one of the kids that needs money again. 749 00:47:56,560 --> 00:47:57,360 I need a break anyway. 750 00:47:57,440 --> 00:47:57,880 Bye. 751 00:48:20,240 --> 00:48:21,000 What is it? 752 00:48:24,160 --> 00:48:25,320 Bobby killed himself. 753 00:48:30,040 --> 00:48:31,600 He jumped off a bridge. 754 00:48:32,640 --> 00:48:33,200 He... He's gone. 755 00:48:39,200 --> 00:48:39,880 Help me! 756 00:48:44,880 --> 00:48:45,600 Help me!! 757 00:48:46,680 --> 00:48:49,080 My son is dead! Let me out! 758 00:48:49,680 --> 00:48:50,680 Let me out! 759 00:48:51,320 --> 00:48:53,720 My son is dead! Let me out! 760 00:49:04,200 --> 00:49:06,240 Joy, slow down. What's wrong? 761 00:50:04,240 --> 00:50:04,880 Thank you. 762 00:50:19,800 --> 00:50:22,680 Death of a loved one is always tragic 763 00:50:22,760 --> 00:50:26,160 But the death of a young person can be particularly painful. 764 00:50:26,240 --> 00:50:29,400 Because that person had his whole life ahead of him. 765 00:50:29,520 --> 00:50:31,360 Bobby was only 20 years old. 766 00:50:31,600 --> 00:50:35,960 We'll never know who he could have been. Or what he could have accomplished. 767 00:50:36,040 --> 00:50:39,000 Bobby was a good young man but he was lost. 768 00:50:40,360 --> 00:50:43,320 By giving into temptation, he strayed. 769 00:50:44,200 --> 00:50:45,400 Then desillusioned, 770 00:50:47,840 --> 00:50:50,000 he chose to end his life. 771 00:50:50,640 --> 00:50:53,160 Now we know to condemn the sin, 772 00:50:53,280 --> 00:50:54,280 not the sinner, 773 00:50:55,760 --> 00:50:58,320 it was this sin that Bobby succombed to. 774 00:50:59,440 --> 00:51:01,440 It led to his unhappiness. 775 00:51:01,800 --> 00:51:02,640 And it led him 776 00:51:03,720 --> 00:51:05,960 to take his own life. 777 00:51:07,200 --> 00:51:09,240 As goodness begets goodness, 778 00:51:09,320 --> 00:51:11,680 so does sin begets sin. 779 00:51:12,560 --> 00:51:14,240 They're ok with this? 780 00:51:40,960 --> 00:51:42,520 They're running low on sandwiches. 781 00:51:42,640 --> 00:51:45,520 Mum, do you think Bobby got salvation? 782 00:51:45,600 --> 00:51:46,440 I don't know. 783 00:51:47,120 --> 00:51:48,760 Suicide is a sin. 784 00:51:48,960 --> 00:51:52,240 But maybe God knows that Bobby wasn't in his right mind?. 785 00:51:52,360 --> 00:51:52,960 I mean... 786 00:51:53,040 --> 00:51:57,040 Why would God allow Booby to go to hell if it was in his power to cure him? 787 00:51:57,160 --> 00:51:58,320 I don't know Mary! 788 00:51:59,080 --> 00:51:59,920 Clear yourself together. 789 00:52:01,160 --> 00:52:04,560 People are unconfortable enough. 790 00:52:11,520 --> 00:52:12,680 Thank for coming. 791 00:52:13,800 --> 00:52:15,800 I'm so sorry for your loss. 792 00:52:22,120 --> 00:52:24,040 Mrs Griffith. Mr. Griffith.. 793 00:52:25,320 --> 00:52:26,400 I'm David. 794 00:52:27,400 --> 00:52:28,760 I was a friend of Bobby's. 795 00:52:31,480 --> 00:52:33,960 I wanna offer my condolences. 796 00:52:48,560 --> 00:52:51,480 He was an amazing young man. 797 00:52:58,120 --> 00:52:59,600 I'm so sorry. 798 00:53:21,840 --> 00:53:22,640 Aunt Mary... 799 00:53:23,640 --> 00:53:25,240 David is a good person. 800 00:53:25,480 --> 00:53:27,520 All of Bobby's friends were. 801 00:53:28,320 --> 00:53:30,880 When Bobby was here, he was under control. 802 00:53:30,960 --> 00:53:33,600 Then he moves to Portland and someone puts all these ideas into his head. 803 00:53:33,720 --> 00:53:34,760 It wasn't like that. 804 00:53:34,840 --> 00:53:36,200 David cared for Bobby. 805 00:53:36,320 --> 00:53:37,560 We're his family. 806 00:53:37,680 --> 00:53:38,960 We know how to help me, 807 00:53:39,040 --> 00:53:40,760 he wanted to change, to be closer to god. 808 00:53:40,840 --> 00:53:42,040 To be closer to YOU! 809 00:53:42,120 --> 00:53:46,120 Then he went further and further into that life style and he couldn't get out. 810 00:53:46,200 --> 00:53:48,840 Do you believe everything they tell you in church? 811 00:53:48,920 --> 00:53:51,120 I know you and uncle Bob meant with that serment... 812 00:53:51,200 --> 00:53:53,480 Bobby knew the repercussions about homosexual lifestyle. 813 00:53:53,600 --> 00:53:56,240 Bobby was good, descent and kind. 814 00:53:57,600 --> 00:54:02,440 Someone who didn't even know Bobby stood up there and condemned him, and you let him. 815 00:54:02,520 --> 00:54:05,040 Bobby did everything he could to make himself acceptable to you. 816 00:54:05,120 --> 00:54:09,440 He was so good, and bright, and funny. He should be praised. 817 00:54:10,840 --> 00:54:13,680 I'm sorry you can't see it that way. 818 00:54:13,800 --> 00:54:15,360 Maybe you should go. 819 00:54:16,080 --> 00:54:16,840 Fine. 820 00:54:17,960 --> 00:54:20,800 I left Bobby's things in his room. 821 00:55:05,280 --> 00:55:06,120 Bobby! 822 00:55:06,240 --> 00:55:07,160 Hey Mum! 823 00:55:10,640 --> 00:55:12,720 Don't you ever do that again! 824 00:55:13,360 --> 00:55:15,000 I knew it wasn't true. 825 00:55:15,120 --> 00:55:17,360 I knew God would bring you back to me. 826 00:55:17,440 --> 00:55:19,360 Mum, you worry too much. 827 00:55:55,640 --> 00:55:58,440 I'm slowly sinking in a vast lake of quick sands. 828 00:55:58,520 --> 00:56:00,000 A bottomless pool. 829 00:56:00,120 --> 00:56:03,760 I wish I could crawl under a rock and sleep forever. 830 00:56:03,840 --> 00:56:05,320 Noone understands me. 831 00:56:05,800 --> 00:56:08,320 Noone in this house can accept my side of the story. 832 00:56:08,400 --> 00:56:11,040 I can feel god's eyes looking down on me with pity. 833 00:56:11,120 --> 00:56:13,640 I can't never let anyone find out I'm not straight. 834 00:56:13,720 --> 00:56:15,480 It would be so humiliating... 835 00:56:15,680 --> 00:56:17,160 My friends would hate me. 836 00:56:17,240 --> 00:56:18,680 and my family... 837 00:56:19,040 --> 00:56:19,400 Mum. 838 00:56:19,520 --> 00:56:21,000 I've overheard them. 839 00:56:21,200 --> 00:56:21,800 Thank you. 840 00:56:22,600 --> 00:56:24,120 They've said that they hate gays. 841 00:56:24,240 --> 00:56:26,240 And even God hates gays. 842 00:56:27,280 --> 00:56:31,200 It really scares me when they talk that way because now they are talking about me. 843 00:56:31,320 --> 00:56:33,040 I don't wanna choose sin. 844 00:56:33,120 --> 00:56:34,040 I don't. 845 00:56:34,800 --> 00:56:37,360 I'm so mad and frustrated god... 846 00:56:37,480 --> 00:56:40,000 I seem to be at the end of the road. 847 00:56:40,120 --> 00:56:41,880 Why do you remain silent? 848 00:56:43,360 --> 00:56:44,360 May 30th. 849 00:56:44,760 --> 00:56:46,800 Memorial Day Barbecue. 850 00:56:46,880 --> 00:56:47,800 Had fun. 851 00:56:48,400 --> 00:56:50,480 Mum was sweet and funny self. 852 00:56:50,560 --> 00:56:52,120 Like the old Mum... 853 00:56:52,480 --> 00:56:54,960 For a second it felt like the old days. 854 00:56:55,080 --> 00:56:57,200 She smiled at something I said, 855 00:56:57,320 --> 00:57:02,080 and I saw on her eyes that for a second she forgot what she really thinks of me. 856 00:57:02,160 --> 00:57:04,200 The anger never erupts. 857 00:57:04,320 --> 00:57:08,960 My timid nature would never allow a full fledged thunderstorm to occur. 858 00:57:09,040 --> 00:57:11,000 But it's there, on the horizon. 859 00:57:11,800 --> 00:57:15,160 I can feel god's eyes looking down on me with such pity. 860 00:57:15,280 --> 00:57:16,920 He can't help me though. 861 00:57:17,040 --> 00:57:20,240 Because I've chosen sin over righteousness. 862 00:57:45,760 --> 00:57:46,600 Excuse me. 863 00:57:47,280 --> 00:57:48,240 You alright Ed? 864 00:57:48,640 --> 00:57:51,920 Oh yeah, I'm fantastic. I think we all are. Isn't that obvious? 865 00:57:52,000 --> 00:57:54,920 Ed. We have to deal with this as a family. 866 00:57:55,160 --> 00:57:58,120 That was your answer for Bobby too but it didn't work. 867 00:57:58,200 --> 00:57:58,800 Damned! 868 00:58:00,360 --> 00:58:01,160 I'll go. I'll go. 869 00:58:01,760 --> 00:58:02,600 Excuse me. 870 00:58:07,840 --> 00:58:08,720 Come, Nancy. 871 00:58:37,080 --> 00:58:40,240 You wanna get out of here, maybe go for a beer? 872 00:58:47,840 --> 00:58:50,400 Did he even think about what he would do to us? 873 00:58:51,880 --> 00:58:53,280 He could have called... 874 00:58:53,960 --> 00:58:55,000 or something but... 875 00:58:56,400 --> 00:58:57,960 not just screw us, right? 876 00:58:58,040 --> 00:58:58,440 Ed... 877 00:58:58,520 --> 00:59:02,120 Nothing no! No goodbye, no note, nothing. Just... 878 00:59:06,600 --> 00:59:07,640 I'm sorry Bobby. 879 00:59:09,120 --> 00:59:09,760 I'm sorry. 880 00:59:11,920 --> 00:59:13,160 Are you happy now? 881 00:59:13,520 --> 00:59:14,560 I'm sorry Bobby. 882 00:59:15,640 --> 00:59:16,880 Are you happy now? 883 00:59:17,840 --> 00:59:18,200 Ed... 884 00:59:21,240 --> 00:59:22,560 It's not your fault. 885 00:59:36,720 --> 00:59:38,960 There must be other Bobbys out there. 886 00:59:40,320 --> 00:59:44,120 Other young gay people who may be thinking of taking their lives. 887 00:59:45,200 --> 00:59:46,960 Does the church reach out to them? 888 00:59:49,480 --> 00:59:51,560 They are other churches that do that. 889 00:59:52,680 --> 00:59:57,800 Reverend Joseph asked us to tell you how sorry he is for your loss. 890 00:59:58,320 --> 01:00:05,520 - We can come back in a couple of weeks and check in on your f... - You don't understand, are you... 891 01:00:06,800 --> 01:00:08,480 I don't know what to do. 892 01:00:09,920 --> 01:00:12,960 I need to make peace with this and I can't. 893 01:00:14,800 --> 01:00:18,960 The lord says the impure will be thrown into the lake of fire. 894 01:00:20,600 --> 01:00:21,160 Bobby... 895 01:00:21,880 --> 01:00:22,320 sinned! 896 01:00:22,760 --> 01:00:24,440 But he was pure of heart. 897 01:00:25,440 --> 01:00:27,920 He'd never knowingly hurt anyone. 898 01:00:30,200 --> 01:00:31,080 Is that enough? 899 01:00:37,520 --> 01:00:37,920 Is it? 900 01:00:43,800 --> 01:00:44,680 Dear god, 901 01:00:45,520 --> 01:00:48,600 my relationship to you leaves something to be desired. 902 01:00:49,600 --> 01:00:50,960 I have never asked of you, 903 01:00:51,280 --> 01:00:53,320 only given, as I was told. 904 01:00:53,800 --> 01:00:56,480 Your holy spirit has taught me so much... 905 01:00:56,640 --> 01:00:59,160 But now there's more I need to know. 906 01:01:06,120 --> 01:01:06,360 Hey! 907 01:01:11,960 --> 01:01:12,800 I can't. 908 01:01:16,160 --> 01:01:16,840 Ok. 909 01:01:25,600 --> 01:01:27,600 I think I'm gonna sleep in the living room. 910 01:02:13,200 --> 01:02:13,840 Reverend? 911 01:02:14,600 --> 01:02:15,560 Mary Griffith. 912 01:02:15,880 --> 01:02:17,280 Nice to have you with us, Mary. 913 01:02:17,360 --> 01:02:18,160 The bible... 914 01:02:19,320 --> 01:02:23,200 it says that homosexuality is a sin punishable by death. Do you believe that? 915 01:02:23,320 --> 01:02:26,600 There are other interpretations of the bible, Mrs Griffith. 916 01:02:26,800 --> 01:02:27,800 My son... 917 01:02:27,920 --> 01:02:28,680 was gay... 918 01:02:29,280 --> 01:02:30,240 and he killed himself. 919 01:02:31,960 --> 01:02:34,160 Is there an other interpretation of that? 920 01:02:36,600 --> 01:02:37,160 I'm sorry. 921 01:02:42,080 --> 01:02:43,640 What was his name? 922 01:02:45,280 --> 01:02:45,760 Bobby. 923 01:02:46,920 --> 01:02:47,880 Bobby Griffith. 924 01:02:50,600 --> 01:02:52,360 I saw him here a couple of times. 925 01:02:52,440 --> 01:02:53,400 My Bobby? 926 01:02:54,200 --> 01:02:56,560 He always sat way in the back. 927 01:02:57,040 --> 01:02:58,480 He stopped coming. 928 01:02:59,720 --> 01:03:00,720 I am so sorry. 929 01:03:01,200 --> 01:03:02,160 You must be... 930 01:03:02,240 --> 01:03:03,920 I need answers. 931 01:03:04,200 --> 01:03:06,120 I need to know where he is. 932 01:03:06,480 --> 01:03:09,320 Is homosexuality an unforgivable sin? 933 01:03:09,720 --> 01:03:11,320 Leviticus, 18:22 says: 934 01:03:12,160 --> 01:03:15,560 �If a man lies with another man, it is an abomination.� 935 01:03:15,640 --> 01:03:19,520 An abomination, in that time, didn't mean sin. It meant unclean. 936 01:03:19,600 --> 01:03:20,680 Leviticus also goes on to 937 01:03:20,760 --> 01:03:23,240 say eating shellfish is an abomination. 938 01:03:23,320 --> 01:03:25,040 Or mixing fabrics... 939 01:03:25,120 --> 01:03:26,160 Leviticus 20:13 940 01:03:27,080 --> 01:03:29,880 �If a man lies with another man, they both should be put to death.� 941 01:03:29,960 --> 01:03:35,320 And then he says the same thing about an adultere, or a child that disobeys their parents. 942 01:03:35,400 --> 01:03:38,520 And we certainly don't interpret that scripture litteraly. 943 01:03:38,640 --> 01:03:39,840 In Deuteronomy 22, 944 01:03:39,960 --> 01:03:42,120 �If a woman is not a virgin on her wedding day, 945 01:03:42,240 --> 01:03:46,120 she should be taken to her father's house and stoned to death.� 946 01:03:46,480 --> 01:03:49,600 So what do you tell people who come here? 947 01:03:49,720 --> 01:03:50,760 Gay people... 948 01:03:51,760 --> 01:03:53,760 That homosexuality is ok? 949 01:03:53,840 --> 01:03:56,240 That it is permissible in god's eyes? 950 01:03:56,320 --> 01:03:58,160 I tell them what I believe to be the truth: 951 01:03:58,240 --> 01:04:00,000 that God loves them as they are. 952 01:04:00,880 --> 01:04:02,600 God's vengeance is great. 953 01:04:02,680 --> 01:04:04,440 So is his compassion. 954 01:04:04,520 --> 01:04:05,720 You shouldn't teach them 955 01:04:05,800 --> 01:04:08,040 that homoseuxality is ok. 956 01:04:08,120 --> 01:04:09,960 That's not what the bible says. 957 01:04:10,280 --> 01:04:11,880 It just confuses them more. 958 01:04:12,120 --> 01:04:12,800 Mrs Griffith, 959 01:04:12,880 --> 01:04:15,200 if you'd like to come back during the week and talk, 960 01:04:15,280 --> 01:04:16,280 my door is open, 961 01:04:16,360 --> 01:04:18,080 but not to be blamed. 962 01:04:18,520 --> 01:04:19,160 ok? 963 01:04:56,640 --> 01:04:57,800 I think that we got 964 01:04:57,880 --> 01:04:58,760 a pretty good one, 965 01:04:59,400 --> 01:05:00,480 nice and full. 966 01:05:01,560 --> 01:05:03,840 A couple of balls like your dear old dad. 967 01:05:03,920 --> 01:05:04,640 Or grandma... 968 01:05:08,080 --> 01:05:08,520 Yeah... 969 01:05:09,920 --> 01:05:12,320 Mum, can we hang this one on the tree? 970 01:05:16,800 --> 01:05:19,080 I remember when he made this. 971 01:05:19,200 --> 01:05:20,160 Second grade. 972 01:05:21,120 --> 01:05:22,920 Mrs Towns' class, I think. 973 01:05:23,360 --> 01:05:25,640 He was so proud of himself. 974 01:05:28,120 --> 01:05:29,480 Where do you want to put it? 975 01:05:30,680 --> 01:05:31,320 Up high. 976 01:05:31,920 --> 01:05:33,240 So he can look out. 977 01:05:39,960 --> 01:05:40,920 Hey, they work. 978 01:05:45,800 --> 01:05:47,400 I'm gonna go check on my cookies. 979 01:06:10,920 --> 01:06:13,200 I found the passage you talked about. 980 01:06:13,320 --> 01:06:14,600 About stoning to death 981 01:06:14,680 --> 01:06:15,840 Deuteronomy, 22. 982 01:06:16,840 --> 01:06:18,960 But what about Sodom and Gommorah? 983 01:06:19,080 --> 01:06:22,880 God punishes the sin of homosexuality. How do you explain that? 984 01:06:23,000 --> 01:06:24,720 It's nice to see you too, Mary. 985 01:06:26,120 --> 01:06:27,240 What's this for? 986 01:06:27,400 --> 01:06:28,920 It's a roomish sale. 987 01:06:29,360 --> 01:06:31,400 All gay people have roomish too. 988 01:06:32,320 --> 01:06:32,920 So... 989 01:06:33,040 --> 01:06:34,960 What about Sodom and Gommorah? 990 01:06:35,840 --> 01:06:39,840 Many scholars think this sin was greed and not homosexuality. 991 01:06:39,920 --> 01:06:43,560 And it wasn't labeled homosexuality until years after it was written. 992 01:06:43,680 --> 01:06:47,720 Do you have answers for all these things just to justify being that way? 993 01:06:47,800 --> 01:06:50,160 You have answers to justify that it's wrong. 994 01:06:50,280 --> 01:06:52,240 I guess we're in an impass here. 995 01:06:53,640 --> 01:06:57,520 So you think it's ok to interpret the bible any way you want? 996 01:06:57,600 --> 01:07:02,320 No, of course not. But the bible was written and interpreted my mortal men. 997 01:07:02,400 --> 01:07:07,040 And many of those interpretations were reflections of the time and what they lived. 998 01:07:07,440 --> 01:07:11,200 So you feel completely free to question it? 999 01:07:11,280 --> 01:07:11,880 Because... 1000 01:07:12,400 --> 01:07:13,600 I think it's blasphemous. 1001 01:07:14,080 --> 01:07:16,640 I don't think God minds questions. 1002 01:07:16,760 --> 01:07:19,960 He might not be thrilled with all our answers. 1003 01:07:20,040 --> 01:07:23,480 I think blind faith is just as dangerous as none at all. 1004 01:07:23,560 --> 01:07:25,800 I've never questioned my faith. I... 1005 01:07:25,880 --> 01:07:27,680 I've never had reasons to. 1006 01:07:27,800 --> 01:07:29,400 Sometimes to question it... 1007 01:07:29,480 --> 01:07:32,120 helps you find a deeper faith. 1008 01:07:33,840 --> 01:07:35,640 Bobby stopped coming here. 1009 01:07:37,080 --> 01:07:38,720 I think the reason was... 1010 01:07:39,160 --> 01:07:42,880 he couldn't never allow himself to feel worthy of God's love. 1011 01:07:46,360 --> 01:07:47,880 And we didn't help. 1012 01:07:48,960 --> 01:07:49,440 Mary... 1013 01:07:50,800 --> 01:07:52,760 Have you ever heard about P-FLAG? 1014 01:07:52,880 --> 01:07:56,800 It's a national organisation. It's �Parents and friend of lesbians and gays�. 1015 01:07:56,920 --> 01:07:57,520 No, that's not for me. 1016 01:07:57,600 --> 01:07:58,440 They can help. 1017 01:07:59,000 --> 01:08:01,880 You'd be able to see you're not so alone in this. 1018 01:08:01,960 --> 01:08:02,400 Bye reverend. 1019 01:08:02,480 --> 01:08:02,680 No. 1020 01:08:02,760 --> 01:08:05,280 There's a woman in Concord, Betty Lambert. 1021 01:08:05,360 --> 01:08:06,280 You'll love her. 1022 01:08:06,640 --> 01:08:09,040 She has a gay son in his 30s. 1023 01:08:09,240 --> 01:08:11,920 I just had a few questions. I don't need anything else. 1024 01:08:12,000 --> 01:08:13,280 Just in case. 1025 01:08:19,360 --> 01:08:24,560 It's true. There's a passage that says if children are disobedient they should be put to death. 1026 01:08:24,680 --> 01:08:27,840 And I mean noone interprets that litteraly. 1027 01:08:28,240 --> 01:08:29,960 What I'm saying is... 1028 01:08:30,320 --> 01:08:33,040 if the church no longer interprets that litteraly, 1029 01:08:33,120 --> 01:08:35,920 maybe homosexuality is also on that list. 1030 01:08:36,000 --> 01:08:36,800 Well, maybe. 1031 01:08:38,160 --> 01:08:40,040 Well, don't you think that's important? 1032 01:08:40,560 --> 01:08:43,320 Mary, I wasn't that keen with the first interpretation of the bible. 1033 01:08:43,400 --> 01:08:46,360 Well, it could mean that Bobby's in heaven. 1034 01:08:46,440 --> 01:08:48,040 Yeah, well, he's not here. 1035 01:08:48,120 --> 01:08:48,560 Right? 1036 01:08:48,760 --> 01:08:50,880 Why isn't that enough for you? 1037 01:08:51,000 --> 01:08:52,480 Is it enough for you?! 1038 01:08:54,080 --> 01:08:55,400 Does it make it any better? 1039 01:08:55,520 --> 01:08:56,840 Everything you're doing? 1040 01:08:56,920 --> 01:08:58,560 What do you want me to do? 1041 01:08:59,160 --> 01:09:01,880 Just forget about him? I can't do that. Maybe you can. 1042 01:09:01,960 --> 01:09:02,960 I don't wont to forget about him, Mary. 1043 01:09:03,040 --> 01:09:05,560 I want to remember him. Then I want to move on. 1044 01:09:05,640 --> 01:09:06,800 But I can't! 1045 01:09:06,960 --> 01:09:07,800 Nobody can... 1046 01:09:08,560 --> 01:09:09,400 Just walk away. Like you always do. 1047 01:09:09,520 --> 01:09:10,960 You never deal with anything. 1048 01:09:11,720 --> 01:09:12,760 Oh, I see... 1049 01:09:13,280 --> 01:09:14,840 Maybe if I did, Bobby would still be alive today? 1050 01:09:14,920 --> 01:09:17,560 Is that what you're saying? Is that what you think? 1051 01:09:19,680 --> 01:09:20,840 You can answer me! 1052 01:09:29,040 --> 01:09:31,000 Listen Mary, we both made mistakes. We all made mistakes. But it's done, he's gone. 1053 01:09:31,120 --> 01:09:34,160 We're not gonna bring him back. 1054 01:09:34,280 --> 01:09:35,320 I know that!!! 1055 01:09:36,440 --> 01:09:38,360 Don't you know I know that?! 1056 01:09:59,920 --> 01:10:00,280 Mary? 1057 01:10:00,640 --> 01:10:01,520 I'm Betty. 1058 01:10:01,760 --> 01:10:02,080 Hello. 1059 01:10:02,480 --> 01:10:03,160 Betty Lambert. 1060 01:10:03,240 --> 01:10:04,960 I'm so glad you called. 1061 01:10:05,080 --> 01:10:06,240 Please, come in. 1062 01:10:07,320 --> 01:10:10,680 Reverend Whitsell told me what happened to Bobby. 1063 01:10:10,800 --> 01:10:15,280 I can't imagine what it must feel like to lose a child like that... 1064 01:10:15,360 --> 01:10:16,800 How long has it been? 1065 01:10:19,040 --> 01:10:19,960 Six months... 1066 01:10:20,360 --> 01:10:22,080 Six months and a few days. 1067 01:10:24,800 --> 01:10:27,760 Our son was 14 when he came out to us. 1068 01:10:27,840 --> 01:10:29,880 Isn't that a little young? 1069 01:10:31,800 --> 01:10:33,240 I knew before then. 1070 01:10:34,160 --> 01:10:36,720 We, mothers, we always know. Don't we? 1071 01:10:37,520 --> 01:10:39,120 And you were ok with it? 1072 01:10:39,200 --> 01:10:40,160 Oh god, no. 1073 01:10:41,240 --> 01:10:45,000 I don't think any parent hears the news and thinks �Oh Goodie�! 1074 01:10:49,120 --> 01:10:53,440 �Goodie� wasn't the first word that came to my mind. 1075 01:10:54,200 --> 01:10:54,760 Mary... 1076 01:10:56,000 --> 01:10:59,160 Why don't you come to a P-FLAG meeting with me? 1077 01:10:59,280 --> 01:11:00,240 No, I'm... 1078 01:11:01,040 --> 01:11:03,200 I'm not good at talking in groups. 1079 01:11:03,680 --> 01:11:04,920 So don't talk. 1080 01:11:05,880 --> 01:11:07,240 Just come and listen. 1081 01:11:08,320 --> 01:11:09,920 I think you'll be shocked 1082 01:11:10,360 --> 01:11:15,280 at how many people think they were the All-American-Family. 1083 01:11:15,400 --> 01:11:16,600 I'll think about it. 1084 01:11:21,560 --> 01:11:24,440 Eric was taunted in shcool all the time. 1085 01:11:25,840 --> 01:11:26,880 Mary, you came. 1086 01:11:26,960 --> 01:11:27,880 I can't stay long. 1087 01:11:27,960 --> 01:11:29,160 That's great. Come on in. 1088 01:11:29,280 --> 01:11:32,120 I was so furious, I went to the principal. 1089 01:11:32,200 --> 01:11:35,520 But he didn't do a thing to the boys who did it. 1090 01:11:36,040 --> 01:11:37,800 I was shocked by that. 1091 01:11:38,280 --> 01:11:40,760 I called them fruits, and ferries. 1092 01:11:41,360 --> 01:11:42,320 I didn't know. 1093 01:11:42,920 --> 01:11:45,560 It took me a long time to accept my Sam. 1094 01:11:46,760 --> 01:11:48,280 I think I alway knew. 1095 01:11:48,480 --> 01:11:48,920 I mean... 1096 01:11:49,040 --> 01:11:53,160 He asked for a pink Lacoste shirt for his birthday. 1097 01:11:53,440 --> 01:11:55,120 He was always different. 1098 01:11:55,560 --> 01:11:57,360 So he tells me he's gay... 1099 01:11:57,600 --> 01:11:58,760 What do I do? 1100 01:11:58,840 --> 01:12:00,080 I take him hunting. 1101 01:12:00,160 --> 01:12:03,120 There he is in his pink Lacoste shirt, he saw a deer 1102 01:12:03,200 --> 01:12:05,560 and yaled �Run, Bambi, run� 1103 01:12:06,440 --> 01:12:09,360 I always knew I could love my son 1104 01:12:09,440 --> 01:12:12,880 I never thought I could accept him. For who he is. 1105 01:12:13,680 --> 01:12:18,000 Well, when Gil told me she was gay. I insisted she see a psychiastrist. 1106 01:12:18,120 --> 01:12:21,560 But when that man suggested shock therapy, 1107 01:12:22,800 --> 01:12:26,680 I looked at my baby and, the hurt in her eyes. 1108 01:12:27,440 --> 01:12:28,920 I thought �This is crazy!� 1109 01:12:29,000 --> 01:12:30,120 Ah, hello reverend! 1110 01:12:30,200 --> 01:12:31,160 Please, come sit down. 1111 01:12:31,240 --> 01:12:32,080 Hi guys! 1112 01:12:32,200 --> 01:12:33,080 Hi reverend! 1113 01:12:33,200 --> 01:12:35,040 Glad to see you're all here tonight. 1114 01:12:35,120 --> 01:12:40,080 As you may know, reverend Whitsell is a pastor of the Metropolitan Community Church, 1115 01:12:40,200 --> 01:12:44,400 and he's proposing a gay freedom day to the Walnut Creek city council. 1116 01:12:45,080 --> 01:12:47,800 The city council vote happens in about a month. 1117 01:12:47,880 --> 01:12:50,880 and I would love all your support. 1118 01:13:06,800 --> 01:13:07,160 Mary! 1119 01:13:42,720 --> 01:13:43,080 Mary? 1120 01:13:45,000 --> 01:13:47,520 Mary, what are you doing out here? 1121 01:13:48,120 --> 01:13:49,600 You're soak. Come inside. 1122 01:13:49,680 --> 01:13:51,840 I didn't know where else to go. 1123 01:13:57,960 --> 01:13:59,400 I was sitting there, 1124 01:13:59,880 --> 01:14:01,800 listening to all their stories. 1125 01:14:02,760 --> 01:14:03,920 About how they... 1126 01:14:04,440 --> 01:14:06,000 always just knew... 1127 01:14:06,520 --> 01:14:08,880 their kid was different. 1128 01:14:10,480 --> 01:14:12,920 And then I had this dream tonight... 1129 01:14:13,720 --> 01:14:15,200 Bobby was a baby. 1130 01:14:21,920 --> 01:14:24,160 My son was always different. 1131 01:14:28,400 --> 01:14:30,880 His difference began at conception. 1132 01:14:33,440 --> 01:14:34,520 I knew that. 1133 01:14:35,720 --> 01:14:36,560 I felt it. 1134 01:14:38,760 --> 01:14:39,600 I know now... 1135 01:14:40,480 --> 01:14:42,520 why God didn't heal Bobby 1136 01:14:44,480 --> 01:14:45,920 He didn't heal him because... 1137 01:14:48,480 --> 01:14:50,640 there was nothing wrong with him. 1138 01:14:53,280 --> 01:14:54,160 I did this! 1139 01:14:56,280 --> 01:14:57,800 I killed my son! 1140 01:14:58,160 --> 01:14:59,320 You did not kill your son. 1141 01:14:59,440 --> 01:15:00,480 Bobby killed himself. 1142 01:15:01,080 --> 01:15:02,840 How could God forgive me? 1143 01:15:04,760 --> 01:15:06,640 How could Bobby forgive me? 1144 01:15:07,560 --> 01:15:09,040 God has already done the forgiving. 1145 01:15:09,480 --> 01:15:11,880 You have to forgive yourself. 1146 01:15:13,440 --> 01:15:14,600 I'm so sorry! 1147 01:15:17,680 --> 01:15:19,040 I'm so sorry! 1148 01:15:30,000 --> 01:15:31,040 Dear god. 1149 01:15:31,400 --> 01:15:33,280 Give us something we can live with 1150 01:15:33,400 --> 01:15:39,000 and pass on to others whose lives will never be the same because of a loved one's death. 1151 01:15:39,120 --> 01:15:41,360 I did not decide on brown eyes for myself. 1152 01:15:42,360 --> 01:15:45,720 And I now realize that Bobby didn't decide to be gay. 1153 01:15:46,520 --> 01:15:48,000 If you say in your word 1154 01:15:48,080 --> 01:15:51,040 that it is evil and wicked to be born with no arms, 1155 01:15:51,320 --> 01:15:53,480 and a child is born with no arms, 1156 01:15:54,280 --> 01:15:56,320 What is that child to think? 1157 01:16:02,480 --> 01:16:08,080 Our first order business is a proposal for a gay freedeom day in Walnut Creek. 1158 01:16:08,200 --> 01:16:09,520 Attention, please. 1159 01:16:09,760 --> 01:16:11,640 We have a select group to debate the issue. 1160 01:16:11,720 --> 01:16:12,440 I don't see her. 1161 01:16:12,560 --> 01:16:15,240 ...it's reverend Whitsell. 1162 01:16:15,520 --> 01:16:16,360 For one day, 1163 01:16:17,480 --> 01:16:21,280 for one day, people can celebrate their difference rather than feel shame. 1164 01:16:21,400 --> 01:16:23,080 They should be ashame! 1165 01:16:25,000 --> 01:16:29,080 There are so many other people who need our time and our attention. 1166 01:16:29,160 --> 01:16:31,080 Why are we wasting it on this? 1167 01:16:31,160 --> 01:16:34,200 Alright, alright. Let's have some order here please. 1168 01:16:34,280 --> 01:16:37,640 They spit in the face of decency and morality. 1169 01:16:39,400 --> 01:16:43,800 We cannot allow the fabric of our society to be torn apart. 1170 01:16:45,360 --> 01:16:45,760 Right? 1171 01:16:51,040 --> 01:16:54,440 I heard he tries to run for the Human Relations commission, 1172 01:16:54,520 --> 01:16:57,640 they picked that limped Whitsell instead. 1173 01:16:57,800 --> 01:16:59,480 They sent him a letter. 1174 01:16:59,600 --> 01:17:01,280 I said, 'We sing hymns at our church'. 1175 01:17:01,360 --> 01:17:03,320 What do you do with the hymns at your church? 1176 01:17:03,400 --> 01:17:05,760 So unless anyone else has anything else to add, 1177 01:17:05,880 --> 01:17:08,320 we'll adjourn to make our decision. 1178 01:17:08,400 --> 01:17:08,800 Mary? 1179 01:17:10,440 --> 01:17:10,960 Hey Dad! 1180 01:17:12,400 --> 01:17:13,240 Dad, get in here! 1181 01:17:14,160 --> 01:17:16,200 Dad hurry up! Mum's on TV. 1182 01:17:16,280 --> 01:17:18,400 Homosexuality is a sin. 1183 01:17:19,880 --> 01:17:22,840 Homosexuals are dommed to spend eternity in hell. 1184 01:17:24,160 --> 01:17:25,480 If they wanted to change, 1185 01:17:25,880 --> 01:17:28,720 they could be healed of their evil ways. 1186 01:17:28,840 --> 01:17:30,840 If they would turn away from temptation, 1187 01:17:31,400 --> 01:17:33,360 they could be normal again. 1188 01:17:33,480 --> 01:17:36,400 If only they would try and try harder, 1189 01:17:36,480 --> 01:17:37,760 if it doesn't work. 1190 01:17:38,120 --> 01:17:42,760 These are all the things I said to my son Bobby when I found out he was gay. 1191 01:17:42,880 --> 01:17:44,480 When he told me he was homosexual, 1192 01:17:44,600 --> 01:17:46,400 my world fell apart. 1193 01:17:47,040 --> 01:17:48,480 I did everything I could 1194 01:17:48,920 --> 01:17:50,800 to cure him of his sickness. 1195 01:17:51,920 --> 01:17:53,760 8 months ago, my son... 1196 01:17:53,880 --> 01:17:56,040 jumped off a bridge and killed himself. 1197 01:17:57,640 --> 01:18:02,160 I deeply regret my lack of knowledge about gay and lesbian people. 1198 01:18:02,280 --> 01:18:06,680 I see that everything I was taught and told was bigotry and dehumanizing slender. 1199 01:18:08,000 --> 01:18:11,400 If I had investigated, beyond what I was told, 1200 01:18:11,520 --> 01:18:13,360 if I had just, 1201 01:18:13,480 --> 01:18:14,800 listened to my son, 1202 01:18:16,160 --> 01:18:18,360 when he poured his heart out to me... 1203 01:18:18,880 --> 01:18:21,160 I would not be standing here today with you 1204 01:18:21,440 --> 01:18:23,040 filled with regrets. 1205 01:18:23,360 --> 01:18:24,200 I believe 1206 01:18:24,440 --> 01:18:28,080 that God was pleased with Bobby's kind and loving spirit. 1207 01:18:28,200 --> 01:18:29,360 In god's eyes 1208 01:18:29,440 --> 01:18:32,080 kindness and love are what it's all about. 1209 01:18:32,400 --> 01:18:37,360 I didn't know that each time that I echoed eternal damnation for gay people... 1210 01:18:37,440 --> 01:18:43,560 each time I referred to Bobby as sick and perverted and a danger to our children... 1211 01:18:43,680 --> 01:18:44,920 his self-esteem, 1212 01:18:45,640 --> 01:18:48,800 his sense of worth, were being destroyed. 1213 01:18:49,080 --> 01:18:50,000 and finally, 1214 01:18:50,400 --> 01:18:54,120 his spirit broke beyond repair. 1215 01:18:55,120 --> 01:19:00,480 It was not god's will that Bobby climbed over the side of a freeway overpass 1216 01:19:01,480 --> 01:19:03,120 and jumped directly into the path 1217 01:19:03,200 --> 01:19:07,320 of an 18 wheel truck which killed him instantly. 1218 01:19:08,160 --> 01:19:09,080 Bobby's death 1219 01:19:09,200 --> 01:19:14,920 was the direct result of his parents' ignorance and fear of the word gay. 1220 01:19:17,080 --> 01:19:18,720 He wanted to be a writer. 1221 01:19:20,760 --> 01:19:25,680 His hopes and dreams should not have been taken from him but they were. 1222 01:19:26,480 --> 01:19:27,320 They are children 1223 01:19:28,120 --> 01:19:29,080 like Bobby, 1224 01:19:30,000 --> 01:19:32,080 sitting in your congreggations, 1225 01:19:33,080 --> 01:19:34,480 unknown to you, 1226 01:19:34,640 --> 01:19:36,200 they will be listening, 1227 01:19:36,320 --> 01:19:38,200 as you echo �Amen�. 1228 01:19:40,160 --> 01:19:43,120 And that will soon silence their prayers. 1229 01:19:44,000 --> 01:19:45,360 Their prayers to god, 1230 01:19:45,440 --> 01:19:46,520 for understanding, 1231 01:19:46,960 --> 01:19:47,800 and acceptance, 1232 01:19:48,320 --> 01:19:49,640 and for your love. 1233 01:19:51,680 --> 01:19:53,480 But your hatred, and fear, 1234 01:19:54,360 --> 01:19:58,320 and ignorance of the word �gay� will silence those prayers 1235 01:19:59,680 --> 01:20:00,440 So... 1236 01:20:03,120 --> 01:20:04,800 before you echo �Amen� 1237 01:20:05,120 --> 01:20:07,560 in your home and place of worship. 1238 01:20:08,000 --> 01:20:08,520 Think! 1239 01:20:09,320 --> 01:20:10,600 Think and remember. 1240 01:20:11,560 --> 01:20:13,280 A child is listening. 1241 01:20:19,040 --> 01:20:19,800 Oh, Mum... 1242 01:20:26,520 --> 01:20:28,080 Should be good. 1243 01:20:39,960 --> 01:20:40,520 He lost. 1244 01:20:41,800 --> 01:20:43,440 They voted the order install. 1245 01:20:43,560 --> 01:20:46,600 Well, he'll try again next year, right? 1246 01:20:47,400 --> 01:20:49,280 So, we're really going to San Francisco? 1247 01:20:49,360 --> 01:20:50,800 I think we have to. 1248 01:20:50,880 --> 01:20:52,880 I don't think that's a choice. 1249 01:20:53,720 --> 01:20:54,160 Well... 1250 01:20:55,120 --> 01:20:55,880 that's ironic. 1251 01:20:58,560 --> 01:20:59,240 Ok. 1252 01:21:09,120 --> 01:21:10,080 Are we late? 1253 01:21:10,160 --> 01:21:11,160 Just in time! 1254 01:21:12,480 --> 01:21:13,800 Jacky, is this everyone? 1255 01:21:13,920 --> 01:21:15,040 Oh! honey, no... 1256 01:21:15,520 --> 01:21:16,240 Come with me. 1257 01:21:16,720 --> 01:21:18,240 We have a special place for you. 1258 01:21:18,360 --> 01:21:18,960 Ok . 1259 01:22:02,520 --> 01:22:05,040 To all the Bobby and Janes out there... 1260 01:22:05,120 --> 01:22:09,280 I say these words to you as I would with my own precious children. 1261 01:22:09,400 --> 01:22:11,280 Please don't give up hope on life. 1262 01:22:11,360 --> 01:22:12,320 Or yourselves. 1263 01:22:13,200 --> 01:22:14,960 You're very special to me. 1264 01:22:15,040 --> 01:22:20,160 I'm working very hard to make this world a better and safer place for you to live in. 1265 01:22:20,240 --> 01:22:22,840 Promise me you'll keep trying. 1266 01:22:22,920 --> 01:22:24,640 Bobby gave up on love. 1267 01:22:24,720 --> 01:22:26,400 I hope you won't. 1268 01:22:26,480 --> 01:22:28,480 You're always in my gods. 1269 01:22:30,840 --> 01:22:32,800 My name is Bobby Griffith. 1270 01:22:33,160 --> 01:22:35,240 I write this in hope that one day, 1271 01:22:35,320 --> 01:22:36,680 many years from now, 1272 01:22:37,080 --> 01:22:38,400 I would be able to go back 1273 01:22:38,520 --> 01:22:40,160 and remember what my life was like, 1274 01:22:40,280 --> 01:22:42,760 when I was a young and confused adolescent, 1275 01:22:42,880 --> 01:22:46,720 desperately trying to understand myself in the world I live in 1276 01:22:46,840 --> 01:22:48,720 The other reason I write this, 1277 01:22:48,800 --> 01:22:50,840 so long after I died, 1278 01:22:50,920 --> 01:22:53,640 others may have a chance to read about me, 1279 01:22:53,720 --> 01:22:56,800 and see what my life as a young person was like. 1280 01:24:00,720 --> 01:24:06,720 On December 6th 1995, Mary Griffith testified before members of the Congress of the United States. 1281 01:24:06,800 --> 01:24:14,280 Her tireless work protecting the rights of gay and lesbian youth has established her as a major force in the fight for human rights. 1282 01:24:14,360 --> 01:24:22,680 Before you echo Amen in your home or place of worship, think and remember. A child is listening. - Mary Griffith 1283 01:24:22,760 --> 01:24:26,360 In loving memory of Bobby Griffith and Leroy Aarons 89747