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♪

[Singer] ♪ Don't care
what you think about it ♪

♪ Ain't here to please nobody

♪ On the run and undercover

♪ Here comes trouble now

♪ Mend my wicked ways

♪ I'll get you
into trouble now ♪

♪ It's just so hard to behave

♪ Got you seeing double now

♪ I'm the one
your mama told you ♪

♪ Oh, boy,
the woman's torture ♪

♪ A risk you can't afford

♪ And here comes trouble now

♪ Turning it up all night

♪ Got you feeling all right

♪ Turning it up all night

♪ Got you feeling all right

♪ Got you into trouble now

♪

I am not a nickname
type of person.

Do not call my V

Princess or Queen. No.

Do I have nicknames
for--for my body parts?

Oh, yes.
Uh, "precious cargo,"

especially this area.

I do have a nickname
for my left breast.

I call her Marilyn,
Marilyn Monroe

'cause she has a beauty mark.

Any nicknames for my penis?

You know, whenever
I think of my genitalia,

I honestly think of Kathy Bates.

So I think if I did have
a nickname for my dick,

it would probably be
Kathy Bates.

My vagina's name is Petunia.

She's my edible flower.

Dick move, dick flip,
dick suplex, penis suplex.

A lot of different names for it.

I call my vagina Reshonda,
by the way.

I don't know why,
but that's her name.

I had a girlfriend
who call her vagina her cooter.

Now that is a great word,
a "cooter."

I don't have any nicknames
for my vagina.

[laughs]
"Lonely" at the moment.

I'm Eric.

My name is Jastin.

-My name is Bee.
-Grace.

AKA precious cargo.

-And this...
-And this...

This is my sex life.

I'm Ken and I have no idea
how to even encounter

any of the sex acts
I've talked about today.

♪

[Lauren] We think of desire
as a path of living.

I personally follow
my desires religiously

and magic is the result.

[Guy]
While we are on this planet,

in the grand scheme of things
it's really a blink of an eye.

How do we best love each other?

How do we best love ourselves?

How do we spend
this time loving?

We have a whole weekend to dive
into our desires, you know.

What do you want?

Being able to create
a platform for people

to have access
to pleasure in a way

that's free from shame
is pretty cool.

♪

[Lauren] So welcome, everyone.
Please come have a seat.

[Woman] Hi.

[Guy] I want the two of you
to spread out a little bit.

So welcome, everyone,
to Sacred Desire Weekend.

-I'm Guy.
-I'm Lauren.

And together we are...

The Tantra Institute.

[laughter]

[Guy] So Lauren and I
have known each other

for about seven years.

And during that time
our relationship

has been a rollercoaster
of evolution.

We've been lovers and friends.

We've been boyfriend
and girlfriend.

We've been primary partners.

Hated each other
and we've loved each other.

And we're now transitioning

into best friends
and business partnership.

So the Tantra Institute is--

our mission really
is to support people

in loving more wholly.

[Guy] So, you know,
the whole point of this event,

firstly, it's about
authentically connecting

to your desire
and expressing that.

So authentic desire
is what we want.

And the second part about it
is consent,

that you wanna do so
with full consent.

It's all about asking
for what you want.

So the only limitation is,
what do you dare to ask for?

This event is all about getting
in touch with your desire.

We do exercises
to authentically connect

with your desire
and express it fully,

and then you wanna get
a full consent

for whoever
you're doing that desire with.

And it really has become
one of our most powerful events.

People have
a lot of breakthroughs.

They discover
a lot about themselves.

So, we would like you all

to introduce yourselves.

[Mary Ann]
So my name is Mary Ann.

And, um, my impulse to come

was to expand my community.

Like, that is for me,

so important right now.

And I'm here and it's, like,
summer camp for grownups.

-[all chuckle]
-I'm really happy.

This weekend,

I would definitely like
some pleasure.

I would definitely like
some touch

and just some, you know,

the physical
sort of soothing of that.

But really,

it is about a way to tap into

and express with each other
unconditional love.

And when you feel that,
it's magic.

Hi. My name is Rafael.

I had a pretty heavy breakup
about a year ago.

And I'm at that point
where I know that walking

into this room
and being here with you guys

and opening up to, like,
sexual experiences,

I know always gets in there.

One of my intentions
for this weekend

was to let out a more

passionate part of myself,
what we call the beast.

You know, like,
I can actually relax and let go.

I hide myself.
I hide myself with my hair,

my beard, my clothes,
if you notice.

And I'm too afraid
to break down.

This weekend offers me community

to get through the things
that I'm struggling with.

Get out of my head a little bit,

get into my body a little bit,

to be with people
that are like-minded.

Of course I love sex.

I love all kinds of sex.

As long as there's authentic
connection involved.

[Laura] Hi. I'm Laura. Um...

I have a hard time
connecting to my desire.

So that's why I wanted to come,
is to reconnect,

learn how to connect,
connect with my partner.

Holden and I have been together
for 14 years.

We have a very deep connection

which has been
challenged lately.

And when we're not connecting,

then the sex
is also not happening,

and then it causes more issue
and it just kind of spirals.

[Holden] Uh, if you ever
watch a horse race,

there's always one horse

who doesn't wanna
get in the game,

and it has to be led in circles
multiple times.

And the funny thing is,

he loves to race, that horse,
he just loves it.

So I'm that horse.

So I'm lucky enough to be
in a 14-year relationship

with a beautiful person.

But it's almost become
codependent to the point

where we've tried to venture out
with other people,

whether it's threesomes,
foursomes, group,

and we've just struggled.

I contain a lot,
but I don't always bring it.

So the best thing
that could happen for me

was that I just
really bring it.

Holden was like, you know,

"Listen.
I don't think I can come."

"Maybe you don't want a guy
like that, you know,"

ruining up your sexy party,"
and I'm like,

"This is what we do."

"Like, this stuff
that you're bringing up."

"Like, I want you more now"

that you told me
all this stuff."

So this is it. We're in.

-This is us.
-[Lauren] Yeah.

We've got a fun event.

We've got it all, so...

[Holden] For me to let people
push me, carry me, love me,

that I really don't know
that well is difficult.

But to go,

to be in the experience

and just accept whatever it is.

[birds chirping]

[Lauren] Shoes off.

Get comfy.
Whatever makes you comfy.

-Shoes on, shoes off.
-[Guy] All right.

I think we're gonna get started.
So grab a seat, please.

-Hey, everybody.
-[Woman] Hi.

[Woman] Hey, Lauren.

[Guy] Well, good morning.

-[Man] Good morning.
-[Man] Good morning.

[Guy] How is everybody
doing this morning?

-[Man] Good.
-[Woman] Good.

[Guy] So desire

is defined
as a sense of yearning

or hoping for a person,
object, or outcome.

Sound familiar?

Desires can often
be classified as emotions,

but psychologists claim

that desires arise
from bodily structures.

If something arises
from a bodily structure,

that means it happens
without what?

Without thought, right?

So how many of you
have found yourselves

in the act of lovemaking,
in your head,

-thinking about things...
-[Woman] Mm-hmm.

[Guy] Right?

So desire is key

because the way
to get out of your head

is to get into your body.

[Lauren] We're gonna weave
in this idea of desire

as a way to follow
the impulse of your body

in every given moment,

how to let your life be like

a choose-your-own-adventure
novel rather than, you know,

a chapter that you've conceived
of ahead of time

and maybe is not that fun.

[Guy] Consent is sort of
a natural extension of desire.

Why? Because consent

is how you communicate
your desire.

You utilize consent
to make agreements

so that your desire
can be fulfilled.

We often tend to think of "no,"

like we don't wanna say no
to our partner.

How are they gonna feel?
You know,

We--we feel
an influence from them.

If somebody's asking
for something, like,

we have a natural ability
and that's where

we wanna fulfill
people's desires.

But you can start
to discover that your no

is actually a really kind thing
to say to your partner.

If you were gonna ask
for something

and it's not
an authentic desire,

it's maybe something
that you think you want

or you wanna do that
out of a sense of obligation,

that's not your desire
coming through.

When you're following
your authentic desire,

that desire transmits
and it makes

the experience better
for everyone.

Feeling the flush of your desire
is really healthy

because it actually engages you
in the--in your own relationship

with desire
which grows over time

so that you can start
to drop in to exactly

what you feel and want
in any given moment.

[Guy] So it's tricky
because there's also been a lot

that we've grown up with,
a lot of conditioning,

a lot of belief systems

that try to tamp down
our desire.

So that kind of affects
how we think about desire.

-[Lauren] Holden?
-[Holden] Yeah.

I guess I just need to share
before we--

I can see I've had difficulty

accepting sexual desire,
you know?

[sighs] And I wanna claim that,
you know.

Who am I to deserve that?

[All]
[expressions of sympathy]

So it's hard to go on
in this exercise

because I'm blocked
by a lack of feeling worthy of--

People can feed in
as much as they want into you,

but unless you're...

fully loving
and self-loving and accepting,

it doesn't really get in.

-Can--can I come work with you?
-[Holden] Sure.

[Lauren] Okay.

Okay. Take long slow
deep breaths into your belly

where you feel the tightness.

[both exhale]

Truly, like, our whole purpose

is through healing and sex.

And so we really welcome
and encourage

everyone's vulnerability
every time they show up.

So sometimes
there's a lot of tears

in the weekend and sometimes
there's a lot of orgasms

and tears at the same time.

And so for Holden,
I'm excited to see

what unfolds
from that place of courage.

-[shuddering breath]
-Ah, there you go.

Yeah. That's it.

Where is the unworthiness
in you?

Go all the way in and relax.

-[sobs]
-That's it. That's it.

That's it. That's it.

[Holden] Like, all these people
can't be this nice to me.

There must be something--

must be something
behind it, you know.

It's hard to accept,
to feel that I actually belong.

-[Lauren] Thank you.
-[Holden] Mm-hmm.

-Thank you for being...
-Hmm.

-...courageous to feel.
-Hmm. Hmm.

-Love you. It was my pleasure.
-Mm-hmm. Hmm.

[Guy] We love you, Holden.

-[Woman] We love you.
-[Man] Thank you.

Not too much.

[laughter]

[Guy]
When we share our vulnerability,

we share our humanity. Right?

Because everybody here
is experiencing some form,

you know,
of what Holden has experienced.

[Laura] I really hope
that Holden can let go

of his preconceptions
of what he thinks he is

and just allows himself to be

his powerful, masculine self
which is in there.

He just--
He's afraid to let it out.

[Guy] Tonight
we're gonna have our Puja,

our desire event.

That's where you'll get
to put everything

that you learned into practice

and ask for the things
that you want.

Everybody good?

[bell dings]

[Lauren] Laura and Holden,

I know
that they reached a challenge

around their sexual relating,
but I know, you know,

every time
there's a big momentous weekend,

I'm usually, like, having
all my stuff come up beforehand.

So I can't wait to see
what happens.

There's a--there's always
gonna be a breakthrough

when you have that much emotion
coming into a weekend.

♪

[Guy] This Puja, the sacred
desire party is really about--

that's the playground
where you get

to actually explore
your desire.

♪

[Guy]
Maybe you discover a new desire.

It's just such
a wonderful playground

to play with those concepts
and--and learn

about yourself in that process.

So we're gonna go around.

We'd love to hear
any and all of the desires

that you have for this evening,

um, both because they will
excite us and because, you know,

we may want to be a part
of fulfilling those desires.

And when you speak
your final desire,

you'll add that desire
to the fire.

[Mary Ann] My desire
is really to experience

at some point tonight just,

like a--a rush of sexual energy

or turn-on or orgasm.

Just like in--
in the context of the group.

-[Guy] Oh, yeah.
-[Woman] Thank you.

[Guy] I feel like
we should give you

-a bigger piece of wood.
-[laughter]

[Mary Ann] Oh, you just like...

[Rafael] My personal intention
for tonight

is I wish to feel my beast
fully come out

whether being a lot of joy--

oh, and one last one--
I want a group shower.

-[Lauren] Oh, group shower?
-Oh, yeah.

[Guy] There we go. I knew
there was another one in there.

[laughter]

[Holden] My intention
for tonight is to feel

self-acceptance of myself
from within my heart.

And the desire I have
is to surrender to the universe

to stoke the fires
of my sexuality.

-Oh.
-[laughter]

You can't stoke without a stick.

-[Lauren laughs]
-[Guy] There you go.

[Laura] My intention
is to lead with my desires.

I like the idea of playing games
and having fun.

That sounds good to me.

I don't have enough fun
in my life.

[Guy] All right.

Why don't you pair off?
Find a partner.

[indistinct chatter]

[Guy] All right.

Let's all take a deep breath
together with our partners.

[breathes deeply]

[Lauren] That's what the Puja
is about,

is moving
from person to person

in pure human connection.

It does get progressively
more sexual,

but it--what it starts with
is heart-based connection.

[Guy] I'm going to invite you
to ask your partner

if they would be so kind
as to give you a breast massage.

Would you be willing to
give me a breast massage?

-Yes.
-[laughs] Thank you.

[Rafael] Hmm.

[Woman] Hmm.

[giggles]

[woman groaning]

[Guy] It's about
your intention.

There you go.

[Lauren] Pure loving touch,
it's really special.

That's why I love Tantra
because it doesn't--

you don't have to be
romantically connected

with someone in order
to experience

that flush of love in your body.

Hmm.

[Guy] Another stroke
that's really nice to work with

is to come up the side
with your thumbs

and then press forward.

-Yes.
-Mm-hmm.

Yes.

Pleasure is contagious, right?

So when I'm there
and I'm receiving,

and then I can hear Lauren
and she's receiving,

it's like, "Oh, yeah."

Oh, yes, yes, yes.

Once you get dialed
into that stuff,

your body will just take off,
like, you don't--

you don't think about it.
Your body just goes.

[Guy] And then if your partner
feels comfortable,

you can ask your partner,

see if you want to move on
to an erotic touch.

Rub that oil together
with your hands,

and then you can start
from the inside of the thigh

coming out
and coming back in.

[indistinct chatter]

[Guy] Well done.
Well done. All right.

-At the back of my head.
-Mm-hmm.

-[Laura laughs]
-[Holden] Sure.

-Hmm. Hmm. Hmm.
-[Holden] Mm-hmm.

[Laura] Did massage
and got really relaxed

and had some fun,
and it felt natural.

-[Holden laughs]
-Mm-hmm. And it helped--

really helped me
open my heart.

[Holden]
And your pleasure brings me

-great pleasure.
-[Laura] Mm-hmm.

[Holden] As you might
have noticed.

[Guy] We are going to transition
to free play.

This is where you get to ask
for your desires,

gallivant around the house.

We're also opening up
our bathroom,

our gigantic clawfoot hot tub,

-and our walk-in shower.
-Mm-hmm.

Um, but we have a strict rule
that it's only one person

allowed in the walk-in shower.

[Woman] What?

I'm just kidding.

It's as many people
as you can fit.

-There's no...
-[Lauren laughs]

[Holden] When you branch
your sexuality out

other than your partner, which
is such the norm in society,

it really brings up
a lot of things.

And I think can definitely
ruin a poor relationship,

test a good one,
and strengthen a great one.

So I'm hoping we're on that
top tier at this point.

-[laughs]
-[water trickling]

♪

[Laura] I like
the undressing part

and I liked seeing Heidi
and Mary Ann in the bathtub

kind of behind us.
That was really nice.

[laughter]

[water trickling]

[Rafael] Is it okay--

-can I come in?
-[Holden] Mm-hmm.

-[Laura] Mm-hmm.
-Great.

-[Laura] Mm-hmm.
-[Holden] Okay.

-[Laura] Mm-hmm.
-[Holden] Mm-hmm.

And we heard a knock
on the glass door

and Rafael was there,

and he kind of like, he said,
"Would like me to join you?"

And we're like, "Sure.
Come on in."

Uh-huh.

♪

[Holden] So in my head,
I had this scenario

when somebody mentioned
like a group shower,

I was, like, hesitant
but, "Okay.

All right.
What might that be like?"

I get a bunch of crazy ideas

-and...
-[Laura] Mm-hmm. Like what?

[Holden] See if I got--see
if I got the guts

to actually go through
with them.

-[laughs]
-[Laura] Oh.

-Oh, yeah.
-Oh, that feels good.

-[laughs]
-Yeah.

[water trickling]

[Laura] It felt very natural
and just...

you know, it wasn't--

-I wasn't nervous.
-[Holden] Mm-hmm.

No, not really.
I was surprised.

[Laura] Uh-uh. Yeah.

♪

-[Rafael groans]
-[Laura groans]

[Laura laughs]

[laughter]

When I was, you know,
sucking both your cocks

and you were--you were,
like, this together

and it's--when I looked up,
I was like,

-"Oh, this is so sweet."
-[laughter]

[pants]

Oh, fuck,
that was good.

And I heard a little whisper.

He mentioned something
about being bi

-so I'm like...
-Oh, right.

..."Hmm, I might be
a little bi-curious.

-What the hell?"
-Mm-hmm. Right.

[groans]

-Oh, yeah.
-[Laura] Oh, you're beautiful.

[Laura] And I don't know
if it's so much about being bi,

but just having--sharing
energy with everybody

-no matter...
-[Holden] Yeah, being open.

[Laura] ...what sex
they happen to be.

[Holden] Right.
Never know what could happen.

I don't know what's underneath.

Right.
Oh, thank you.

-Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.
-[Laura laughs]

♪

[Lauren] I'm just really
super grateful

the people
who were nervous to come

had breakthrough moments.

I knew they would.
I knew they would.

Everything just unfolded
so beautifully.

♪

[fire crackling]

[birds chirping]

[Guy] Any fun experiences
last night...

[Woman] Ooh.

...that you would like
to share?

[Laura] No, not really.
[laughs]

[Holden] Same old, same old.

[laughter]

I'm just really happy to be here

and that speaks to me just how
relaxed I've been able to be

and how myself
I've been able to be.

I'm leaving feeling
like I was accepted as myself,

and I got a sense of freedom.

[Rafael] Being in the shower
with you guys

and bring able to put my head
on your shoulder

while this whole thing
is going on,

I was like,
"Oh, this shit is the best."

We all get to come in

and experience connection
with another person

or with multiple people,

and that starts
to shake things up

so that
the stuff we no longer need

that keeps us from being more of
ourselves gets broken up.

So when you walk out of
the weekend, you're walking out

as a more potent version
of yourself.

I'm so glad we made it.

We almost didn't.

Before we came here,
the relationship was in peril.

-Yes.
-You know.

I learned about how my heart
can open more.

This whole weekend reminded me
how much I love you.

Having an increased
sense of feeling,

like, "Wow, it's okay to be me,
you know."

And the masculine energy
and the feminine energy,

I'm just a jumbled mess
of it all,

and I don't really care
because I love it.

But I feel like
I'm out of the closet,

like I've always been
a closet everything.

You know, I'm a closet voyeur,

I'm a closet exhibitionist,
you know.

But, like, to open
that closet and come out,

it feels so fucking liberating.

It's unbelievable. [laughs]

[Guy] It was really beautiful
to witness

the love that is between them,
you know.

It was almost like he came in
with his inner wounded child,

and he left a powerful man.

The sex was amazing.

-[laughter]
-Definitely. Yes.

Without a doubt.

And the more the merrier,
I learned.

[Guy] That's how you know
it's a good desire party

is when the amazing sex
is the afterthought.

High five.

♪

A lot of people don't think

that guys can fake orgasms,
but we can.

And even when we fake orgasms,
we can still come.

Oh, my God. Faking orgasms
is, like, all the time.

Why? I don't do it anymore

unless I'm just trying
to get it over with.

Faking orgasms is illegal.

Never fake an orgasm.

People can always be taught
how to please you.

One of the reasons
that I got into porn

is that I was seeing a lot
of fake orgasms,

and as someone
that's highly orgasmic,

I thought it was important
to put another voice out there.

I wouldn't say faked it,

but I would say I've definitely
exaggerated an orgasm.

I have a fun gift from God
where I can just come,

like, looking at a cupcake.

Honestly, to just
have an orgasm immediately,

that would be perfect.

I know people are like,

"Oh, my God,
we had sex for hours."

I'm like, "Do you know how many
loads of laundry that is?"

Like, for one load,

that's, like,
six loads of laundry.

I ended up asking guys
a lot of times,

"Are you done?
Are you there? Are you close?

Did you come?
Wait. You came. No? Okay."

[laughs] I'm just like--yeah.

I think more importantly,
they should be faking orgasms.

♪

[Celine] Mmm. [giggles]

[squeals, giggles]

♪

What's happening?
Don't I look beautiful?

Don't you, like, desire me?

It just--sometimes that happens.

So you don't have
strong erections?

I mean, can you even get it up?
Can we have sex?

- Maybe.
- Okay, guys.

So maybe you've been
into a version of this situation

where you were on a hot date,

you were ready,
you guys were making out,

and then when it was time
to switch gear

and, you know,
do the deed,

some things were not operating

and working
the way you wanted.

After so many years now
of working with people,

one thing that I noticed,
people always feel shy

when they call me
and they go like,

"Well, I feel embarrassed,
like, can I share that?"

And I'm like,
"Trust me. You're not weird."

We all think we are so different

or there's something not normal
about how we do sex,

but really,
what I love to do is

to help people fall in love
with themselves

or rise in love with themselves.

When you can just relax
into the essence of your being

that you are magnificent
and that this is being reflected

when you look into the eyes
of your beloved,

I mean, nothing can buy this.

If we can help the person
really get in touch

with themselves
and their sensations,

the world is gonna become
a more loving place,

and that's really the vision
that I have of,

like, a million couples,

like, experiencing the level
of depth and intimacy

and have mind-blowing sex, too.

Yeah.

[laughter]

♪

I am a intimacy
and relationship coach

and a certified
Sexological Bodyworker.

It's a mouthful, I know.

And I do men's coaching
and couples coaching

and intimacy coaching,

much of which I do
with my amazing wife.

People are always curious
about how did you get started.

I was born in Switzerland.

And for me, it was really normal
to see my parents naked.

I was like six years old,
and I had this book

of, like, how are babies born,
and it was very graphic.

And then when I was 16,
my mom had cancer.

And after a few years,
she was healed

and she wanted to reconnect
with her own body

and she found
this sexuality workshop.

And she was like,
"This could be a fun thing

for us to do together."

And I was like,
"Oh, what a great idea.

I'm gonna spend,
like, a weekend with my mom."

We're gonna do, like, sex stuff.

[both laughing]

And, um, in that workshop,

we learned about
using your sexual energy

to supercharge your body
and heal yourself

and feel good
from the inside out.

And when I was there,
I was just, like, this is it.

This is what I want to do.

I can feel my legs today.
[laughs]

Sexological bodyworkers,
it's a fairly new profession.

I'd like to say that
it comes at the crossroad

between sex therapy
and sensual massage.

It's about learning to feel
the sensations in your body.

Hello, ladies.

Today's video
is going to be for you.

We are going to talk
about how to seduce a man.

I mean, I think it's really
important to walk your talk.

And so I'm only teaching
what I'm willing to do.

So we have online courses
where people,

we work them through what to do

and they can watch it from
the comfort of their own home.

My goal is always to make it
super safe and beautiful

so that they can relax
and really let go.

Today's video that we wanted
to share with you

is helping you what--to deal
with ED or erectile dysfunction.

Your body and your penis,
they're not separated.

It's not like you've got
your cock over there

and the rest of your body here.

A lot of people have
a misconception

that I have to learn a button
to push or something to do,

but it's not how it works.

There's something that I called
the wisdom of the penis.

And your penis might know
better what you need.

Maybe you're not feeling
fully, uh, loved

or desired by her,

or maybe you are stressed.

I mean,
whatever that is, like,

your penis is kind of
like telling you,

"Hey, listen,
there's something first

that needs to be talked about."

One of the things that we like
to try to teach people

is that if you wanna
be a great lover,

it's--it doesn't start
when you walk

through the bedroom door.
It involves everything

from your sexuality
to your spirituality

to your daily habits
and your routines.

And you may not have made
that connection before,

that the way your life
is progressing

might be related

to your performance
in the bedroom.

If you can fix that,
if you can get

your penis working
the way that it's supposed to,

you'll see that throughout
the rest of your life,

everything else will start
to step up its game.

I started this journey

around sexuality
really for myself.

You know, I studied tantra

and Taoist practices
and all this kind of stuff

even long before
I knew Celine.

And then coming together
with Celine

just seemed like the perfect way
to share that knowledge.

All right,
we hope this video was helpful

and we will see you
in our next video.

-Yes. All right.
-All right.

-Let's get back to this.
-[both laugh]

[Celine] A lot of people
are surprised, they go like,

"You guys coach together?
How do you do that?"

We have a beautiful energy

that gets created
when we're together.

[Kevin] Everybody loves
the story of how we met

because we actually met
at a sex party.

[Celine] So we kind of
had a dance for several years.

We were both in open
relationship at that time,

but the timing wasn't right.

So we waited a few years

but we remained
really good friends.

When first it happened,

I was in the middle
of my training

as a sexological bodyworker,
and we had to do some homework

'cause we have to practice
everything that we teach.

So I called Kevin up
before I did.

I'm like, "You know,
I need someone to masturbate me.

It's part of the program.

Are you willing to do that
for our first date?"

[Kevin] I was relieved.

I'm like,
"Oh, man, I'm getting the like,

'Oh, we need to talk' call
before we've even had a date?"

And then when she told me
what she wanted,

I go, "Oh, that's it?"
[laughs]

"Yeah, no problem. That's easy."

And after that,
it was kind of restarting

from the beginning of,
like, "Hello.

This is who I am,
let's start the date now."

-You gonna be on top?
-Of course.

Oh, my favorite. [giggles]

When we got together,
I could see that

there was a place
for us to work together.

[Celine] It was easy.
Our bedroom

is literally where we come up
with most of our ideas.

So, sometimes we'll
be in the middle of lovemaking

and be like,
"Wait, what did you just do?

This felt amazing.
Like, break it down,

so I can explain.
How can we teach this?"

♪

-[Josh] Hi, Celine.
-How are you doing?

[Josh] I'm a little nervous,
actually.

You're nervous. Okay.

I've been working
with clients now for, like,

over eight years in person,

but at the same time,
I created my online course

because I wanted to be able
to reach more people.

I wanted to get you
into doing a testicle massage

to have better erections.

-Great. I'm ready to try.
-Ready to try?

So what you're going to do
is you're gonna make a circle

either with your index
or your thumb

and with the other hands,
you are going to just squeeze

and, like, massage the testicle.

-Got it?
-I think so.

[Celine] I had a vision
that I was going to help women,

but what I saw is that I could
provide a space for men...

Now, you're gonna
come to the front

and just rub on the groin area.

...to come and be
in their vulnerability,

which in turn
would increase their strength.

Come on. Come on, Josh.

I wanna see some bushfire here.

And so I realized
that I was serving women

through helping men.

The same movement you're doing
when you're fucking,

you know,
so you know that motion.

Perfect. And then we're gonna
reverse direction.

You're gonna notice that
one might be more comfortable

or more natural than the other.

When I get to help a man

to really step
into his confidence

and his masculine power,

then I know that
he's gonna bring that home

and he's gonna fuck
his woman proper,

which is gonna make the world
a much better place.

♪

[Celine] And one of the things
that always surprises people,

they come here and they say,
"I wanna be a better lover."

And we start to teach them
the art of presence,

how you can feel your body.

The more I feel myself,

the more I'm able to feel
when I'm with somebody else.

[Kevin] It literally starts
the moment

-you wake up in the morning.
-[Celine] Good morning.

[Kevin] We make sure
that we wake up early enough

that we get that time
to connect.

Today you're walking
like I did on our wedding.

-[Celine] A little too fast?
-Yeah.

[both laugh]

[Celine] Even though
we're always together

and we even share an office,

we're also really good
at taking time apart.

It's an important part
of the balance.

♪

[Kevin]
I've been doing traditional

Japanese swordsmanship
for eight or ten years.

♪

[Kevin] One thing
that I love about that

is there's no bullshit.

Everything that you see
in Japanese swordsmanship

has a purpose.

Everything is about
attention to detail.

And the reason why
I love that as analogy

for lovemaking and sex

is because you have to approach
your partner the same way.

It's about that attention
to detail.

It's about that presence.

The level of focus
that I had to learn

to not kill somebody
with the sword on accident,

that just translated over
so beautifully into the bedroom.

♪

[Celine] I wanna feel good
about myself and my body.

So I've got
these different practices

that I have put together
and learned over time

and I kind of call them
my central practices.

Central practices are practices

to help you feel so good
in your body and sensual,

and there's different things
that you can do.

A lot of women, our breasts,
they're for somebody else,

for the babies, for the husband,

for the boyfriend, girlfriend,

whoever else
that you're having sex with

or you're, like, nurturing.

And so this is your one chance
to use your breasts

for your own,
like, self-love practices.

So it just helps you feel, like,

your breasts, like, they,
like--they're yours again.

And I love to use my jade egg.

It's a stone
that's made of jade

that you insert
inside of your vagina.

If you wanna access
your orgasmic potential,

this can help do all of that.

What's amazing
about using a jade egg

is that you can start to work
with your muscles inside,

then you can,
like, play the flute

when you have
a penis inside you,

you can contract
different muscles,

and it stimulates
your partner's genitals.

And it can give him
more sensation

and give you more sensations.

Then you get to know, like,

how do I like to be touched,
what feels good?

And when you know
what feels good for you,

then you get to ask
for what you want

and what you need
with your partner.

Okay, so I'm thinking we should
do Picking Your Pleasure.

-[Kevin] Mmm.
-I like to get my feet rubbed.

Mmm.

[Kevin]
When it comes to couples,

there are definitely some things

that we see over and over again.

They always want to wait
until they're in the mood.

And so that's one of the biggest
things we help couples with,

is you don't have to be
in the mood.

We're not always in the mood.

No. [laughs]

That's nice. I can feel
the stress melting away.

We have our date night,

and this is what we do
all the time.

But we make a commitment
to each other

to have sex on a regular basis
'cause that's the way

that we can connect
and establish intimacy.

I love this. This is awesome.

When you're spontaneous,

most of the time,
it doesn't happen.

You also need to have
that routine in a sense,

that's--that time that says
we are going to connect.

Date night is our commitment
to showing up

for our relationship,
and it's something

that we do every single week.

What do you want?
Pick your pleasure.

[Kevin] Well, for me,
one of the things that always

helps me relax into date night
is a shoulder massage.

We do games like
Pick Your Pleasure

where you get to ask
for anything you want

for 10 minutes.

And there's so many other ones.

It doesn't really matter
what we do.

Whether we're talking,
we're cuddling, we're massaging,

we're making love,
whatever it is,

we should be connecting in a way

where we're really
giving each other time.

♪

[Celine] For people,
foreplay is like the time

as soon as you close the door
and you decide

you're gonna make love,
so it's the 10 minutes

before you insert.
And that really is not,

like--
that's not the real definition.

If you start to see your whole
life as being a potential

for, like, moving sexual energy
and, like, have foreplay,

it makes the day
so much more fun to live.

How about I'm gonna tell you

if I had it all my way,

how I want this evening
to unfold.

[Kevin]
Sometimes people say to us,

"Well, that's great for you guys

because you have
this great relationship."

Anything that you don't know,
you can learn.

We took the time to seek it out
and find out how to do it,

and then we practiced it.
We practiced it a lot.

If I had it all my way,

you would slowly undress me

and caress my entire body,

my labia, until I'm starting

to swell and pulse.

And then slowly,

you'll penetrate me
until I'm done.

[both laugh]

All right.
Going for the details,

this evening, I see.

There's tons of people out there

teaching all kinds
of different things.

They may know it intellectually,

but they don't embody it
in their lifestyle.

I think anything that you do,

if you're putting yourself
out there as someone

that knows what they're doing,

you should really know
what you're doing.

You gonna throw me on the bed?

First, I have to rip
your clothes off.

[both laugh]

[Celine] In this country,

sex is being used
for everything.

It sells, and it's everywhere,

yet people don't have
a good understanding

about the power of their bodies

and the power
of their sexuality.

What do you think,
we get started?

Absolutely.

[Celine]
They don't even really know

how to unleash their potential

to have a mind-blowing orgasm

or feel good in their body.

This is really
what it's all about.

It's not just about orgasm.

It's about feeling good
about who you are

from the inside out.

♪

Vacation sex is great
because you know you have time

to do whatever you want,
so you can have more sex.

I love vacation sex the best
because it's exciting,

it's different, it's fun.
It almost feels like

we're like--we're dating again.

Vacation sex is abusing
your hotel room

- to the best of your ability.
- Yeah.

I'm pretty sure
that a few maids have quit

after we checked in a hotel.

I think it's the thrill
of having a hotel room.

There's something about
hotel rooms,

being in a different place,
having those fresh sheets.

With the right person,
vacation sex is amazing.

It's romantic there,

and so you probably have
a lot more there.

Before in a relationship,
I would try to rack up a number

and be, like, "Okay,
I'm here for two weeks.

How many can I get?"

I think you can take
more risks in Mexico

than you can in Ohio.

You're in a new space,
and all of a sudden,

there's a dick in your mouth,
you know.

And that's not the case
at home.

♪

[Man] So how has the pandemic
affected your sex life?

You know, we've had
a pretty good quarantine.

We get totally dressed up

-as if we were going out...
-Yeah.

to a fetish party.

We weren't, like,
"We can't have sex now

because of the pandemic."
-Right. No.

-We didn't say that.
-We definitely didn't say that.

I feel pretty good as,
like, a postpartum woman...

-Yeah.
-the amount of sex that I have.

Yeah. I--you know,
and I'm happy with any sex

that I have,
so it's good, you know.

[Woman]
With our relationship,

one of the big challenges
had been sex.

We're committed
to each other forever.

How can we deepen, you know,

our sexual relationship?

Your whole beings
are coming together,

mind, body, and spirit
right now.

We're exploring
the art of tantric sex.

♪

[Bree] How has the pandemic
affected our sex life?

[Jason] I think probably
because we're together more,

there's probably more frequency.

We were together more,
but it's--yeah.

I mean, we were together more.
We were--and we were totally,

like, I mean--you know,

I mean, I've heard horror
stories obviously out there

with people who had spent
a lot of time together...

-In relationships, yeah.
-in relationships,

and I will say that
ours was great.

We're in a really good place,
honestly.

Yeah. I don't disagree.

I think that
we weren't stressed about it.

We didn't give it--
pour a bunch

of extra sauce on anything.

And so we just sort of
gone our--

gone about our business
and our life.

I think there's at least
one more intimate,

there's a deeper--like,
there's just something

-slightly different for sure.
-Definitely, yeah.

-And we're connected.
-I agree with that.

There's a greater sense
of fearlessness

when we are intimate, you know.

Like, we're both open without

feeling any sort of judgment
from each other.

We're really freaking lucky.

We've got something
really special.

Over the pandemic,
we celebrated our--what was it?

-Our 24th anniversary, I think.
-Our 24th anniversary, yeah.

-So that was pretty cool.
-And even the quality time

that we've got and no,
I would say that

since the beginning of all this,

the time that we spend together

intimately is way more quality.

It's almost like it got rid of

that whole idea of the grass
is always greener.

I don't have that feeling,
like, oh, I need to go do this,

or I wanna go do this,
or I wish was with that.

It doesn't squash, you know,
like, when I look at other women

or I think--it doesn't squash
any of that stuff,

but it certainly made me
appreciate who I'm with,

and who she is,
and what she means to me,

and the connection
that we have together,

and just how fortunate I am.

I now understand
better than ever

and maybe better than anyone
what she is

and that just helps.

One key word
I would say and honestly,

and all that this experience

helped flourish was growth.

-Yeah.

-Big time.
-Yeah. I mean, that's huge.

Not what I would've expected.

I mean, honestly, as crazy
as this whole pandemic has been,

I feel like
it's a stronger pull

that there was such a positive
of this giant pause button.

And that is really powerful
and really cool,

and I had never experienced
anything like that in my life.

♪

[Bree M.] Sex is a incredibly
important subject

that does not get talked about,

that needs to get talked about.

Hi, everybody.
This is Bree Mills.

I'm the writer and director
of Perspective

and you're here at
our film premiere in Hollywood.

I wanted to bring all
of the content into one place.

Ever since then,
it's become this space to tackle

all kinds of different
original programs

that involve sex and sexuality.

The idea of doing porn
differently is our mission,

and that's what Adult Time
is all about.

♪

[Bree M.] In terms of impacts
on our life

and our routine
over the last six months,

I think we actually have been
pretty heavily impacted.

-Is that good?
-Yes, it's good.

-You gonna enjoy it?
-Yes. No.

No? You're not gonna enjoy it?

Aah!

I think I have
the biggest change.

-Okay. That's true. Okay. Okay.
-'Cause I gave birth

to our baby.

So I think that was
the biggest change...

-Yeah.
-...in the last six months.

Having a baby definitely
brought us closer together.

Just the birthing process,

in the middle of the pandemic.

Being in a hospital

during that time
was interesting.

-We--
-Yes. Think--thinking

that we were in completely
a separate wing...

-Yes.
-...in the maternity portion

of the hospital,
and then finding out,

oh, no, the COVID patients
just don't go--

don't go to the level
above us...

-Yeah.
-...in the elevator.

Fire dance filming.

[Bree M.] Oh, nice.
[chuckles]

It's like a huge notch
on the belt in terms of

going through that together,
and we obviously

raised our first daughter
together,

and we hadn't gone through,
like, the pregnancy

and birth experience together,

so we got to do that
with our second daughter,

and that was, like,
super, super important.

Victoria,
what is Audrey doing right now?

Will you tell
the camera, please?

Her is eating beans.

What is she eating?
She's eating beans.

And knowing, too, that our kids
have that connection together

since they do have
a bio connection.

It was just super--like, made--

yeah, the tethers
got really strong.

-Yeah.
-And that's been like--

it's been pretty kumbaya since.

♪

[Bree M.] In terms of work
during the pandemic,

it did kind of grind things
to a halt in a--

in a really important way.

I was doing a lot of
on-set stuff beforehand,

and when I wasn't working,
my head was in work.

I was pretty much
just working full time.

And I had planned to take
a couple weeks off

when our daughter was born.

But that ended up being
really a few months off.

And we did not start producing
until July or August,

so we had a good number
of months of downtime.

All of these projects
that we had,

all of these existing
producing relationships we had,

all of these commitments
we had made,

they were coming to a halt.

So, we can either kind of
wait and see if, you know,

things are gonna, you know,
turn the corner

or we can rally together
and try to come up

with creative
alternative solutions.

So we started to think, okay,
what kind of shows can we make?

How can we book people every day
to give them work

that they can do
safely from their home?

We really tried to look at what
are all the creative solutions,

and then of course, on my end,

I immediately
started thinking of what--

how can I become
a virtual director?

-Sequence eight, take two.
-[slate bangs]

[Bree M.] All right.
And action, Serene.

Good morning.

Good morning, Ms. Serene.

[Bree M.] And I'm actually
gonna be embarking

on a big feature film project

that I'm directing
entirely virtually.

I need just a moment,
Ms. Serene.

No. Come on,
it's just gonna take a moment.

[moans]

All right.
Awesome. Okay.

So here's the tweaks
that I would make for that.

You know, we're moving forward
into a new normal,

and I think
within the adult industry,

this is one of the best things
that could've happened.

And cut. Guys, that was good!

That had moments of greatness
in it!

Because there are more
and more opportunities

now directly
for content creators,

the people that are,
you know, expressing themselves

and showing themselves,
and also taking

the risk and the stigma
that comes with it.

And now the ability to provide

more direct opportunities
for them,

ways to expose their work,
ways to help them, you know,

grow their businesses
and brands.

That's really where
the adult industry

is shifting anyway.

We're all adapting,
and that's great.

So I think it's been one
of the best possible changes

that could happen, uh, to porn,
uh, has happened

and now it's just kind of,
you know, being creative

and luckily, that's something
that we're pretty good at.

All right.
Once again, with feeling.

I've heard so many
great things about Midori.

I can't wait to see
how this turns out.

I think one thing that
I've been wanting to get into

is learning how to flog
different parts of your body.

- That would be super hot.
- Yeah.

[Woman] As a couple,
these two are so cute.

And they're so sweet
to each other,

it's just adorable.

[TK] I've learned the basics,
I would say, of flogging,

but I'm really excited
to progress that

and learn new techniques
and a new perspective.

There we go.

[whip slapping]

[Jeremy] Ooh.

-Mm-hmm.
-Mm-hmm.

-Isn't that nifty?
-Isn't it?

-I like it.
-I like it, too.

Because of COVID
and staying at home,

we just--we have to spend
more time just the two of us

instead of out socializing
with other people.

We have a dungeon in our garage.

We converted one
of the garage spots.

We have thankfully
a double garage,

and one of them
is a full-fledged dungeon.

We play in there quite a bit.

I mean pre-COVID,
we've had people come over.

We've used the space for
photo shoots, different things.

It's--yeah, it's fun.
It's great.

But during COVID,
it's just the two of us.

-Yeah.
-We go up there

and we get totally dressed up
as if we were going out...

-Yeah.
-...to a fetish party.

-It's great.
-We have all the mood lighting

and have all the candles.

We have all our equipment
up there, all our toys.

Very hot
little party in our dungeon.

I feel like the COVID
kind of makes or breaks

the relationship, definitely
made our relationship.

Yeah.

Our lives have expanded
and changed in COVID.

Flogging has definitely
continued to be

a big part of our lives.

A result of Burning Man

being shut down
for the pandemic,

we had a small,
socially distant

type of Burning Man
gathering event

where we set up our "camp"

which is a kinky camp
called Retrofrolic.

And we brought
our dungeon equipment,

and we set up a dungeon
and we basically did

some demonstrations for people
that could come in and watch.

One of the things we brought
were a lot of the floggers,

and that seems to be
the very basic starting point

that a lot
of our vanilla friends

were getting into.

It was just simply
a light flogging.

Now, this was hugely intimate

for a crowd that was
mostly vanilla people.

So, not only did it blow
their minds

that we were doing something
so incredibly intimate,

but we are also talking people
through the process

and sort of lying there
in this very intimate way

and explaining what we were
doing and educating,

teaching people
as we were doing it.

It's also been
an interesting dynamic

as we've now spread this bug
amongst a lot of our friends.

And we've gotten
to become closer

with some people
that we hadn't previously.

So, on the one side,
COVID has actually brought

a group of people together
and formed this very strong bond

as we've sort of been
the only people

that we've hung out with
or seen the last six months.

♪

[shudders]

And I think a lot of people
would be more open to flogging

if they knew that they could
use it in a more sensual way.

-Yeah.
-Or like a restraint way

or a sensation of, like,

when we covered you
with floggers at one point.

-[Jeremy] Mm-hmm.
-Like, a heavy sensation

or just kind of brushing them
over your body.

It doesn't have
to necessarily be, like,

a stingy or thud-y sensation.

And then they experience that

and their minds kind of open
and they're like, "Oh, wow."

"Maybe I should
look more into this."

"I might actually like this."

And still to this day,
like, people will come up to us

and they're just--
their minds are blown

- by having--
- Yeah. They were just--

they couldn't believe it.
They were so appreciative

for the demonstration.

So I think it gave us a degree
of security and comfort.

And now that experience
has maybe led to us wanting

to do other experiences
now that we've seen

that we could be
comfortable in that.

I look forward to the next
new experience.

Yeah.

Anything you want?

All of the things.

All of the things.

♪

I guess my words of advice
for anybody

that's thinking about public
sex, sex outdoors, or whatever--

If something happens,
have another way

that you can bolt away,
keep your clothes close,

enjoy it and come
as fast as you can.

If people wanna watch porn
while they're having sex,

my only advice to them
is you're fucking perfect

and it doesn't matter
if your cooter's shaved or not.

No one cares.

Anyone that's with you
is just happy to be inside you.

So take the stress out
the situation. Just enjoy it.

I believe that sex life is--

should be put in the first place

and in terms
of any relationship.

So I strongly suggest people
do more sex.

-Have more sex.
-[laughs]

You get one person,
enjoy sex with that person,

and then explore with them.

You know,
don't listen to the pressure.

You don't even have
to conform to that.

Talk it out, you know.
Be open with your desires.

Even if you're afraid of how
the other person may respond--

They'll only be upset
for a little while.

They're not gonna
be upset forever.

If they are, that's on them.

I think everyone needs to start
talking about sex more. Like,

since I've been in college,
all of my friends were so open.

It just makes everything
so much less awkward and, like,

less alone,
so talking about those things

is so much easier for everyone.

My little rule of thumb
personally

is if you're not gonna eat it,
you can't fuck it.

So, take your time,
go slow and relax.

Honestly, those are
the three things. [chuckles]

My advice to young people
would be

don't be afraid of emotionally
connecting with your partner

'cause the sex is so much better

if you can just
be there in the moment,

look into each other's eyes
and just, like, "Ohh."

It sounds super cheesy,

but it's the best sex
I've ever had,

is with someone that I loved.

♪

[Singer] ♪ Hush-a-bye

♪ Don't you cry

♪ Go to sleep, my little baby

♪ When you wake

♪ You shall have

♪ All the pretty

♪ Little horses