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♪

♪ Don't care
what you think about it ♪

♪ Ain't here to please nobody

♪ On the run and undercover

♪ Here comes trouble now

♪ Mend my wicked ways

♪ I'll get you
into trouble now ♪

♪ It's just so hard to behave

♪ Got you seeing double now

♪

♪ I'm the one
your mama told you ♪

♪ Oh, boy,
the woman's torture ♪

♪ A risk you can't afford

♪ And here comes trouble now

♪ Turning it up all night

♪ Got you feeling high

♪ Turning it up all night

♪ Got you feeling all right

♪ Get you into trouble now

♪

♪

I would never consider myself

to be a sexually
adventurous person.

I think she would.

[laughs]

In my non-sex life,

I like to do things
like sky dive

and try crazy foods

and travel to new places

where I don't speak
the language.

So in my sex life,

it's kind of the same.

Sex in public, check.

Sex on camera, check.

Sex with a stranger, check.

Group orgy, check.

Nude beach, check.

Sex in a cab,
we can probably go on.

We have done like a lot--
a lot of role play.

I would say that
the craziest thing

we've done together is barista

and customer once.
[laughs]

The weirdest sex thing
I've done, um, scat,

I shat on
some guy's face once.

I'm just happy
with regular old sex.

So, maybe I've kind of...

That's what I can provide,
I suppose, is regular old sex.

[laughter]

Hey, baby, are you ready for
some regular old sex with me?

- My name is Teal.
- I'm Michael.

- Angela.
- I'm Casey.

- And this...
- And this is my sex life.

[clapper clicking]

And you're on pussy probation.

[clapper clicks]

♪

BRETT: My process with
these underwater shoots is

I am less of a photographer
and more of a guide.

For me the underwater photo
shoot is an experience.

It's something
that you go through

and the photos
are the end result.

♪

Underwater photography,

for me
it's a very special place.

It's like a dream
world down there.

My very first real
creative underwater shoot

was a friend of mine

who does underwater chains.

[camera clicking]

BRETT:
And it was just incredible

seeing her do all these trapeze,

aerials moves

on these long metal chains
under the water.

That just sparked
the fire in my mind.

♪

[camera clicking]

BRETT:
You have the weightlessness,

you can get into poses
that you would only ever be able

to get into if you were
on a trampoline.

It makes things float,

so fabric
can hold its shape.

Hair flicks out,
hair looks amazing underwater.

You then have the density
of the water as well

and each one of those densities

gives you a different filter.

So it's almost
like shooting someone

on a trampoline
in a night club

which is filled full of smoke.

Some of the images
I was creating

were just so mind-blowing to me

that it became an obsession.

♪

♪ How are we going

♪ Into life

♪ Come inside the place

♪ Where life still show

- LAUREN: Figure it out.
- BRETT: Yeah.

To the best
of my abilities.

Yeah. [chuckles]

I figure you've done
photo shoots and stuff before?

Yes, I used to make my living
as a model.

I did a lot of commercial stuff,

music video stuff...

I did that for
quite a few years

when I first moved to LA.

Is there a reason
that you wanna do this?

Is there some
underlying kind of force

that's pushing you to do
an underwater shoot?

Yeah. It, kind of,
feels like

a full circle type of thing.

- Right.
- I've gone through a lot of

kind of coming-of-age
type of experiences,

like I lost my mother
a few years ago.

Uh-hmm.

And I've always really
enjoyed expressing...

periods of my life
in photos.

- Yeah.
- It moved from a job

to something that I do

to express myself with, like,

people I relate to artistically.

- That's beautiful. Yeah.
- Yes.

♪

LAUREN:
My relationship with water

it makes me feel refreshed,

it makes me feel new,

it just feels like it gives me

a little bit of a clean slate.

It makes me feel capable.

It, kind of, helps me escape

from everything that I realize

doesn't really matter.

I started gardening in lingerie

just because I feel pretty
in lingerie.

It's nice to do something
like that just for myself.

♪ Feel safe here

LAUREN: When I moved into
my first apartment on my own,

I had never really had
much of an interest

in gardening before.

But I suddenly
had this, like, desire to...

cultivate something

and watch it grow.

I have really
embraced the joy

of just nourishing to nourish.

It makes me feel a connection.

♪

LAUREN: I was sick

for a long time when I was kid,

I tested positive
for Lyme disease

and then I started,
like, years

of different treatments
trying to get through that.

♪

When I first knew
that I was sick,

it came mostly
in the form of exhaustion,

my knees hurt,
my back hurt.

So along with the Lyme disease,

I developed, uh,

Rheumatoid arthritis.

A lot of those symptoms

really remained present
for years

while I was seeking treatment.

By the time I was a teenager,

I was running away
from home a lot,

I was definitely in a really,
like, unhealthy place,

but with a really
extreme need

to express myself.

♪ So you had
the time of your life ♪

♪ What was it for?

LAUREN: I didn't feel like
I was very in control of myself

and for a long time I was,

kind of,
fighting this inner battle

to feel like I was the one

who made the decisions
about what happened to me.

♪

I have friends
who are into photography.

I started, kind of,
just modeling for fun that way.

But eventually I got to a place
where I was comfortable

with that as a job.

A few years later,

the first time I did
a nude shoot

was with a friend of mine
who was a photographer,

she was around my age.

And we actually do it together.

She used a clicker.

To see photos of myself
that represented

like how other people,

like, my collaborators,
were seeing me.

I feel like I saw different
sides of myself

that I didn't know were there.

It made me feel really good
about myself.

♪

BRETT: When we're starting
to do a shoot with a new client,

it's definitely a collaboration
because I want people

to be able to go under the water
and use all their experiences

in their life and their story
to create these images

that really speaks to them

as well as to my style
of working.

As the guide,
I just want to get an idea of,

is there something
that you are trying to create

at the end of the day
that says something

or is it purely
just the experience itself

that you wanna use
to help yourself?

I'm really looking at this
as kind of a way

to represent artistically
like a new start in my life.

- Right.
- I feel like

shooting underwater
is, kind of,

representative of like a rebirth.

Yup.

Representing like
a commitment to myself.

Oh, right.

So, I threw myself
into that idea

and bought a bunch
bridal lingerie.

- Oh, wow.
- And a tiara.

I really love the idea

of doing this kind of
semi-bridal...

- Mm-hm.
- kind of look.

Do you have,
uh, an affiliation

for plants or flowers or both?

- Both.
- Yup.

- I love nurturing.
- Yeah.

And I love
like see things grow

as a result of like
my assistance.

So that's great, that gives
me something to work towards

and then so
when we do the shoot

Hope I can build this,

this beautiful kind of

secret garden for you.

Yeah.

You can then go in there
and, kind of, just be--

- That's so exciting.
- Just magical.

- I love that.
- Thank you.

Good job.

So is this like
a committing to yourself

as in accepting yourself
for who you are?

I don't think
it's acceptance of myself

as much as just like
a commitment

to continually hold myself

to the highest standard.

Okay.

And grow.

♪

BRYANNA: [laughs]
Aw, that's so cute.

I also try to spend
a lot of time alone naked.

Sometimes I'm like,
I have a mood going right now

and I wanna capture it
for later.

BRYANNA: Right, doing it
because it feels good?

LAUREN: Yeah.
It makes me feel nice.

Yeah. You're just hot
as fuck, huh?

LAUREN:
Yeah, it is hot as fuck.

BRYANNA: It's gonna be
a hundred degrees tomorrow.

We have a pool though.

Well, funny enough,

I am, kind of, working with

this really amazing
photographer named Brett.

And one of the things
I've been thinking a lot

about is the concept
of vulnerability

and doing an underwater
photo shoot.

- Underwater?
- In the pool.

So it was really
conceptualizing--

- Naked.
- --loosely around

the healing relationship
with water

that I've always felt
and gardening

and touching plants
are, like, the two things

that make feel, like,
the most, like, serene.

What are you gonna wear
to the shoot?

So I'm wearing bridal lingerie.

Show me it.

- Okay.
- Okay.

- It's over here.
- [laughs]

We've been talking a lot
about the past few years

and how they've been rough.

And I just feel like
I've come to a point now

after all this reflection

that I'm, kind of, ready
to really embrace

the person who I know I am.

- Yeah.
- And shutting the old me

and, like, letting go
of the things

that were holding me back
in a lot of ways.

After a few years
away from the camera

I started to get,
like, that desire back

to create in that way

and express myself in that way.

And it's felt really good
to be back in a position

where I am only doing that
on my own terms

when I want to,
with who I wanna do it with,

and not for money.

♪

BRETT: I lot of what I do,
and a lot of the time

that I spend with my clients

is, kind of, like a--
like a therapy session.

I'm taking them to a place
that's scary for them.

And so, a lot of what I'm doing

is-- is sort
of psychologically

getting them ready for this.

And sometimes it could be easy

and sometimes it could be
really hard.

But regardless of that
it's rewarding.

And at the end of it,
I haven't had anyone

walk away from this

not feeling a little better
about themselves.

♪

- So welcome to the pool.
- Thank you.

Everything about this
comes down to breathing.

When you're breathing out
before you go under,

it's just have a mental image
of the pose you wanna get into.

- Yeah.
- So if you wanna swim out

to the middle of the ladder

and just hold on.

The tiara is not moving around

like I was worried it would.

So that's good.

Once you're down,

like be on your side
and then just drop,

just commit to the pose
before you go down there.

Okay.

Are we starting?

- Ready when you are.
- Oh, God.

♪

♪ They're gonna
get you out ♪

LAUREN: As I grow
and as I think back and reflect,

I'm able to get something

out of almost all
of my experiences.

♪ They're gonna
let you down ♪

BRETT: Amazing.

LAUREN: Considering
the kind of purity

and nudeness
that I feel in water

combined with the tenderness

that I feel with plants,

I feel like those two things

really work together to, like,

represent the me

who has come to power.

BRETT: You look amazing
under there.

Should I do it
with more eyes closed?

- Yeah, if you can.
- Okay.

Yeah. The less you do,
the more the water does.

Uh-hmm.

The more everything
looks great.

Okay.

♪

♪ Feel the chemistry

LAUREN: I don't think I ever
really made the discovery

that water was so special
and healing to me.

I think that that just always
was just something that

I've known as long as
I've known anything.

I've never not had
the water as that comfort.

♪ Ooh

LAUREN: It's just something
that feels

as natural as breathing.

♪ They're gonna
let you down ♪

♪

Wow.

I don't even know
which way is up.

I love these.

These are so special.

The shoot was
an amazing experience.

From the moment
that Brett and I

started talking
about our shoot,

I really felt like
we were a really good team.

I love that there's a spectrum

from, like,
the soft open vulnerability

to, like, this one which feels
stronger and more powerful.

Some of these following ones

are just, like, super dreamy,

kind of capture,
like, the serenity

that I'm starting to feel
as I become, like,

more self-actualized,

how I'm thinking
about the future,

like, what my values are.

These captured my story
so perfectly.

[waves crashing]

[seagulls squawking]

♪

LAUREN: I love these photos.

They're incredibly
personal to me.

I think it felt empowering

because I was putting myself

in a situation
that would often

be seen as vulnerable.

They're kind of a reminder of

the growth that
I have accomplished.

♪

LAUREN: Learning how to do
something new on camera,

I definitely think that
that is an art form for me.

It made me feel more powerful
than vulnerable.

♪

What do I think
about monogamy versus,

like, an open relationship?

I think if you're
too comfortable

with each other,
that's totally fine.

I am a monogamous person.

I cannot date
multiple people at once.

I would feel like this guilt.

I know that there's guys
better than me,

that's why I want her to go
out there and experience this

so that she maybe can come back
and teach me something new.

I want to be someone that's
open to open relationships.

I don't know that
I'm as strong as I think I am.

I don't know if I could deal.

Variety is the spice of life.

So monogamy,
I can't see it being realistic.

I'm in a relationship
with someone who I love.

I love our back and forth

because there's more trust,

there's more that
I want to explore.

I don't know.
I think monogamy--

I think I prefer that,
personally.

I don't really like sharing.

I mean, I have siblings
but I don't like to share.

I think we're both monogamous
by nature.

- Yeah. [laughs]
- Much prefer.

Sorry, it's just that
monogamous by nature is, like,

the world's least
exciting hip-hop group.

[laughs]

♪

JAMES: I'm very in love
with my girlfriend.

ALISON: Our emotional
connection

is unlike anything
I've ever experienced.

[laughing]

JAMES: I know for sure
there's a lot of people

that would wanna be with her,
so I definitely feel lucky.

ALISON: I've never had anyone
that I'm so completely in love

with and I definitely feel like
we are equally committed

to our relationship
and growing together.

- JAMES: For sure.
- I'm Alison.

- I'm James.
- ALISON: And our relationship

is a little unconventional.

MAN: Okay.

ALISON: I'm an adult
film performer...

and he is not.

JAMES: In the past, I've always
had monogamous relationships.

It's just been, you know,
me and my girlfriend,

and pretty much
the standard set of rules.

You can't go off and make out,
have sex with,

or flirt with anyone, like,
it's just, you know, you and me.

It's a very different
dynamic with Alison.

♪

ALISON: Before we even
started dating,

when I met him online,
I was like,

"Hey, this is my deal,
this is who I am.

"If you don't like it, okay.

"And we don't have
to waste time with each other."

JAMES: Yeah, that was, like,
your second message to me.

Like, "Hey, this is my thing."

And when I first started
seeing you,

I didn't think
we were gonna end up together.

I honestly thought
when I saw her profile

that she wasn't a real person
just because a lot

of the times on these apps,
it will be this beautiful girl,

then they'll, you know,
try and sell you, you know,

it's like ads or whatever.

I was sort of skeptical
from the beginning and then,

like, once I met her,
I was like, "She's really cool."

Um, but I still
hadn't thought

that, like, "Oh, I could
end up dating a porn star."

And it was really, you know,

a month in or two months
after meeting her

that I realized,
like, "Oh, I really like you.

"And we could date."

It was bizarre
how similar we were

when we first met
and now, you know,

we've grown to know
each other more,

and we're like, "Okay.
There's more differences

"than we thought."
But they're differences

that make me love him
all the more.

And having
all those things in common

made it really easy

to feel like he knew
who I was

and be able
to open up to him.

We just view life
in a very similar way.

It was just easy
to grow close to each other

because of that.

♪ Uh-huh

ALISON: Okay.
So we talked wedding colors.

We haven't narrowed down
the guest list yet.

I'm not entirely sure
if I wanna invite, like,

my entire extended family

just because we wanted
a smaller venue

and smaller guest list, right?

Yeah.

I definitely want
your aunts and uncles there

because you're really close
with them, right?

- Yeah.
- Okay.

Because I know
I met them that one time.

Have you heard from them at all?

Uh, in terms of, you know,
dating me. [laughs]

- I don't know if--
- Um...

--they said anything
to you when we met.

- No, I don't--no, I don't--
- Do they know?

- I don't think so.
- [laughs] So--okay.

Your immediate family knows
but extended does not?

Yeah, my mom could have told
them but I really have no idea.

Maybe we should do that
before, uh, the wedding.

Let's just make sure
everyone involved knows.

- Who's gonna be there?
- Well, yeah, because I'm--

my friends are also adult
performers and, like...

That would be funny.
You know, it's like--

Like, one of your uncles
will be like--

I recognize
some of these people.

[Alison laughing]

Like, all of you
look really familiar.

I don't know why.
[laughs]

JAMES: I never imagined
that I'd get engaged

to someone who works
in the porn industry,

but we're definitely
very certain

that we're gonna be together.

I think a lot of it
is just how much

we've talked about
our future together.

Like, we probably talked
more than the average

engaged couple about

what exactly we want
down the line.

We know how many kids we want.
We know--

- What state we wanna live in.
- We--yeah, we...

We know what
kind of house we want.

Uh-hmm.

Like, we just-- we have
all these solid ideas

about what we want.

You know, there's going
to be obstacles especially with,

like, me having done sex work,
like, that's a stigma

that is going
to be around forever.

But we know
that we'll figure it out.

♪

ALISON: James and I are just
really excited for the future,

growing old together.

When I look
at his face sometimes,

I can see it age, like,
in front of my eyes

and that's never happened
with anybody.

And it's weird.

It's just like I know exactly
what he's gonna look like

at 70 and I love it.

He's everything
I've ever wanted in a man.

It's not to say
that there aren't obstacles,

jealousy definitely comes up

because James had never been
with anybody

that was a sex worker,
polyamorous,

or anything like that,
like, he'd only been

in very monogamous
relationships.

Also, James and I
have been working really hard

to make our sex life different
from everything else I do.

You really have to
compartmentalize

your personal life
and your work life

when you do sex work.

And it's not always
the easiest task.

Oh, wait. It's not picture.
What's going on?

Oh, you just hit--
send it to the video mode.

Oh.

ALISON: You're on 24/7,
you know,

there's always someone
to respond to a message to,

there's always content
that needs to be uploaded,

and you're always thinking,
"Oh, I should have makeup on

"and take this picture
while I'm out?"

Or whatever it may be,

you're always
thinking about it.

JAMES: She gets a lot of, like,
custom video re... quests

- or, you know.
- Requests, yeah.

So I'll help her

to set up
different locations

around the house,
I'll man the camera.

Maybe if I step more.

ALISON: We wear so many hats,

we have to be constantly
thinking of ways

to create and getting
in that headspace

can make it difficult
to connect

with your partners
on a personal level.

JAMES: That looks really good
right there.

[camera clicks]

So differentiating
between sex with James

and sex at work
can be difficult

because it's really about,

like, getting into my body
and out of my head

because when I'm at work,

while I can be
enjoying the sex

and it's fun,
it's not the only thing

I'm thinking about.

In order to be
a good performer

that directors
wanna hire again,

I need to be very aware
of where the cameras are

and make sure my face
is turned to the camera,

make sure that they can see

the penetration
that's happening.

In my personal,

I guess, like,
self-awareness,

I want my body
to look good, you know,

I don't wanna be
giving myself,

like, weird roles or anything.

Like, I'm gonna, be like,
trying to stretch out,

you know, it's--
you're-- you're a model

and that's what you do

is you have to make
your body look good.

And there are just
so many things

that my brain
is juggling.

Rather than just focusing
on my costar

or the sex that I'm having,

or how good it might feel,
unfortunately,

'cause that's how
I kind of trained my brain

that that's what happens
during sex,

it can be difficult

to not think
about other things

when we have sex,
when we make love,

because as much as I wanna be
very present with him,

it's a habit that I have
to learn to control.

Uh-hmm.

Maybe I flip over?

- For what?
- For that leg.

JAMES: That's one time
I start feeling jealousy.

It's-- it's sort of
a personal choice of, like,

"Is this something
I want to explore

"and, like, push through
or is this a roadblock

"where I can't move
any further?"

And I think that's probably
where most people get

in any kind of non-monogamous
relationship,

they hit the discomfort
and they're like,

"Oh, this is gonna be
uncomfortable forever

"and I can't push through this.

"I don't want to push
through this."

And we have to be committed
to each other in a sense.

It's like we both
have to be like, you know,

this seems like
a giant obstacle

that we can't overcome
but we're gonna try.

It's reassuring to know
that the other person

is as in it as you are.

♪

ALISON: It was actually him
that suggested

we do couples therapy.

There are a lot of couples
that really need therapy,

you know, when it's almost
too late to save

and so to have someone
that was so willing

and ready to go was amazing.

KATE: Welcome.
And a good place to start

is just to hear
what you would like to work on.

My name is Kate and I have been
a psychotherapist

for 17 years but specifically,
as a psychotherapist,

I work with folks
that are non-monogamous,

kinky, sex workers,
and the LGBTQ populations.

A lot of times they come to me
because they've had

bad experiences
with other therapists

where maybe they come
to the therapist and say,

"My grandma just died
and I'm really sad."

And the therapist is like,

"Well, you're sad
because you're a porn star."

It happens
where therapists get really,

um, derailed by what
the client does for a living.

And so they come to me
because, you know,

they've heard that
I don't get thrown by that.

How long have you guys
been together?

A year and a half.

And how has that year
and a half been?

There's definitely
been harder

like, parts
that have gotten harder,

uh, since--I think
the biggest thing we noticed

when we moved in together
is trying to separate

when we're just hanging out

from when we're being
productive.

And, honestly,

even with couples
where they have a normal job,

where one person
is an accountant

and another is a lawyer,

people still struggle
with those boundaries.

Some people call, you know,
the role that you're in,

James, being the "civilian,"
you know, right?

I'm just curious,

how would you describe
your emotions that you have

when things are a little
challenging for you

regarding Alison's work?

Yeah, I don't know--
a lot of times

I wouldn't say
jealous specifically.

It's--
I feel very disconnected.

- KATE: Mm-hm.
- It's--is more what it is.

I think I'm just like

essentially trying
to disconnect myself

from this situation almost
when it is getting to me.

That makes sense.

You know, whether I'm working

with couples that one person
is a porn performer

or whether I'm working
with couples

that are non-monogamous
and play separately,

a lot of people describe
what you just described.

And usually reason
they distance themselves

is because they are having
some feelings coming up

and the way that they cope is
to kind of distance themselves,

distract themselves.
James, he's not feeling

like this quintessential
jealous rage,

it's probably more linked
to missing her, sadness.

It's helping him
figure out

um, how to get in touch
with those feelings,

working on anything that's
connected in his backstory,

and healing his backstory
if he has any injuries

connected with being
left or sadness,

and helping him figure out
how he can reconnect

in an authentic way.

Let's see if there's
anything that might be

getting projected
from your backstory

into the present moment,

because that's
what we do as humans.

Do either one of you
have any history

of feeling left, abandoned?

- I do. Yeah, yeah.
- Yeah.

I was in a serious relationship
actually, uh,

before being with Alison,

and then
I was cheated on.

Had to go through that.

And she went through
something similar.

- Yeah.
- A little different.

Two of my past pretty
serious relationships--

- KATE: Uh-hmm.
- When things ended,

I felt just lied to.

These were people
that like spoke with me

about our futures together

and they just left me
feeling like...

I couldn't trust what somebody
would say about the future.

Like they're just saying it
to make me happy

to get something out of me.

KATE: Alison and James,
they just need

to continue to work
on the things

that they're already aware of.
They're--he's aware

that he has
a tendency to pull away

as a method of coping
with the fact

that it's a little hard for him
when she goes off to work.

And then, she, because
of her attachment injuries

gets really sad
when he pulls away.

Not just because she loves him,
but because she's had people

that she loved pull away
in the past.

When you can address
that little girl that feels left

and help her know
how to cope,

and then you work with him
to help him

figure out
how to come forward

in a real and authentic way,

now you're starting
to shift things

so the issue is no longer
an issue and becomes,

you know, something
that they can navigate

in their relationship.

Nobody is cheating
on each other

in this relationship.

But some of the emotions
might be similar.

So you can see how
that's getting laid

on top of your relationship

in the present moment
when you come back from work.

- Right.
- KATE: You know?

And then on your end, James,

again, the story
is wildly different, right?

It's a story
of being cheated on.

And Alison's not cheating
on you. She's going to work.

I think the person
that struggles more

is the person that's dating
the porn performer.

In my experience,
the porn performer

completely knows the difference.

When they're on set,
and there's all these lights,

and they're focused
on how they look,

and there's people
milling around,

that's very different
than when they are alone

with their love

in the bedroom
that they feel comfy in.

But for the person that's dating
the porn performer,

the head knows it's work,

the heart
kind of feels sometimes

left or second best.

So now with all that said
we can start to figure out

how to shift things

so that things are better
in your relationship.

Is there anything
that you can do

in the first 30 minutes
of coming home

where you can let go
of your work mode

and get back
in the version of Alison

that James
is more used to

when you guys
are intimate and close?

The first thing that came
to mind was actually like

unpacking my work bag because
that's something I don't do.

And I will drag it in, drop it,

and then I'm just so excited
to see him

that I just go pay attention
to him immediately

and I don't actually
take the time to literally

- put my work away.
- That's a ritual.

And with that ritual,

you might wanna think
of some kind of mantra

that can go with that ritual.

I'm unpacking my clothes

but I'm also unpacking
my porn performer identity.

- Okay. Yeah, I like that.
- Yeah. Yeah.

Let me switch to James.

- Mm-hm.
- Her ritual is to unpack.

I think you might need your
own ritual as well to connect.

Some kind of action that'll--
really allows you

to let go
of the withdrawn part of you.

And because
you are so nurturing,

then maybe you sit her down
and maybe brush her hair

or something
that might work for you.

JAMES: Yeah.
Maybe a bath.

Just put me more
in the headspace

of taking care of her

instead of like
being in my own head.

That can be super-bonding.

- Yeah.
- I think that's a wonderful

intention and I think
it'll really add

to your relationship
if you make a point

of doing that, you know,
even once a month.

- Yeah.
- KATE: Yeah? Okay.

Yeah, I think so.

♪

ALISON: Dr. Kate
was really helpful

in the techniques
that she gave us.

Something we've been
doing at home

that I can't believe
it didn't even occur to us

was literally unpacking
my shoot bag.

Unpacking has kind
of let me say,

"Okay. I'm putting
Alison away for tonight."

Have you guys thought
about what pose you wanna do?

We wanted to do a pose
that's like a position

that we do
when we're having sex.

We have pictures
and videos of us

doing the work thing like
being hot on purpose.

[laughs]

But like not intimate stuff
with our partners usually.

So, I've never had something
that's like intimate

and personal like just for me.

He has evidence that I am
putting forth effort

to make sure
that I'm coming home

to be there with him and not
have like the entire work day

like stuck to me.
Doing the ritual,

it's made it easy for him
to just snap out

of whatever jealousy
may have arisen

because he's so quick to come
and be touchy,

and it's lovely.

JAMES: It flipped a switch
in my head

where I really like got it.

You can be like, okay.
I'm feeling jealous

but I don't have
to like be jealous.

I really do love her

and just want her
to feel loved.

ALISON: And I love
when he washes my hair

because I can feel
how much he cares

when he's touching my head
and playing with my hair.

I'd say it definitely
does give me

a different level of peace.

I definitely don't have the same
kind of jealousy I would.

You can enjoy your job
and have it still be a job.

It took talking with our
therapist to get through that

and realize I can reason it out
and I can accept it.

EVELYN: I see what you mean
about that intimacy thing.

ALISON: For me, that disconnect
when work happens,

it has gotten a lot better
over time as a result

of our therapy sessions
and just practicing

talking to each other.

It's much easier managing
that separation

between my work
and personal life.

It's amazing.

When I think
about my future with James,

everything that we've been
doing with Dr. Loree,

and just having
different practices

to get more intimate
has made me

that much more excited
because we're just going

to continue to grow together,

and I think that's what makes

for a really strong
relationship, and marriage.

[laughs]

I'm so excited
for our wedding day.

[laughs]

♪

So my favorite sexual position
would be to be on top

because I can control it.

So I guess we're both
control freaks.

- [laughs]
- Control freak level 10.

I think I prefer
a doggy style position

where I'm in the top or bottom.
I think it's just--

it feels really primal

and you can really connect.

Uh-hmm.

My favorite sexual position
is doggy style.

It's almost like animalistic,
and raw,

and going at it
like crazy people,

I just--I love it.

There's different things that
I like with different people

just depending on what they got.

Probably her on top
because I can control

her body weight with my hips,
right? Like that.

The traditional doggy style
is great,

but I don't even know
the name of it,

when you tilt
the girl to the side.

One time there was this guy

like holding me
up against the wall,

I don't know
what that's called,

but that was fantastic.

I was like,
"If I get that every time,

that would be great."

♪

[doorbell rings]

♪

Hi. How's it--
how's it going?

You guys are a little early.

Daddy,
do you have your pants on?

[zipper zips]
- Yeah, sure.

Okay. Come on in, guys.

Welcome to Sex Life
After Dark with Amp.

And Mr. Kristofer.

So Daddy, why don't you
tell everyone about who we are?

♪

I am Mr. Kristofer.
I am Amp's Daddy.

We've been in a relationship
for several years.

We are not boyfriends,

but we do have
a very loving relationship

and are able to date
other people.

I'm more of the older
wiser viewpoint.

Sure.

Anyway, I'm Amp.

And I kind of keep him
on track.

I'm more of the straight man.

Even if I am very gay.

We have a YouTube channel
called "Watts The Safeword."

This is why you can't play
with Daddy's toys.

I'm the one that bought it.

[laughing]

We talk about sex,
dating, masturbating,

all sorts of kinky fun
that happens in our sex lives.

- [bleep tone]
- Come on, papi, ride Daddy.

Giddy up.

AMP: And now,
we've got the show,

"Sex Life After Dark."

We talk about sex
in a positive way

because the Lord knows
your health class didn't.

- No.
- AMP: And we make sure that

people feel not only engaged

but well-equipped

whether it's below
the belt or above

when it comes to sex.

Rub her buttocks,
squeeze it a little bit.

And today we're gonna talk
to you guys about sex,

kink, masturbating,
everything that happens

not only between the sheets
but between your ears.

- [sighs]
- Who knew?

AMP: We're gonna be having
live guests.

I don't do a lot of bondage.

If only you knew someone.

We're gonna be doing
some fan-submitted Q and As.

We're gonna be talking
about actual gags,

visual gags.
[glass shattering]

As well as some
of our favorite tops.

I mean, Top 10 Lists.

Should we get
into the first segment today?

Yeah.
Let's do it.

♪

And today's Top 10 List

is all about

"Ways you know
somebody is vanilla."

- Vanilla, huh?
- Yes.

And right at the very top

because like I already
see it in your face.

[laughing]

"You think they're talking
about ice cream."

- That's what I thought.
- [laughs]

I'm assuming that's me.

[laughs]

Number 9,

"They think CBT
is a form of therapy."

- [laughter]
- Oh.

What is CBT actually?

Cock and Ball Torture.

Yeah. Number 8,

"You think 'edging'
is just for your lawn."

[engine revving]

Edging, if you don't know,

is when you're jerking off

repeatedly without climax.

And edging outside

is where you're mowing the lawn
repeatedly without climax.

[laughs]
Hopefully.

Anyway.
Number 7,

"When they own fuzzy handcuffs."

- Ugh.
- Oh, yeah.

No, that's a deal breaker
right there.

If you own fuzzy handcuffs,
you're not kinky.

Number 6,

"You reference
'50 Shades of Grey.'"

Ooh. Yeah, no.

Of course, I'm not gonna
touch that one.

Number 5,

"You think
he's my actual father."

Oh, no.
I'm your Daddy.

There's a big difference
between "Dad" and "Daddy."

Yeah.

Anyway, number 4,

"When they make 'the face.'"

The very uninterested
terrified

get-me-the-fuck-out-of-here
face.

Generally when I start talking
about my kinks

or what I'm into sexually.

Like the...

Number 3,

"When you say,
'No teeth, please.'"

- MAN: Yawn.
- [laughs]

Where's the fun
if there's no teeth?

Yeah.

- [crunch sound]
- Number 2,

"When they say 'ouch'

when you give them
a little kiss."

MAN: Ouch.

Yeah, that's kind of
a sign.

- Number 1.
- [drumroll sound]

"When they ask 'why
you have so many leashes

but no dogs?'"

- MAN: Busted.
- Oh.

That's a valid question.
[laughs]

I feel very called out
on that one.

But stick around because
we're gonna head to our kitchen

where we're gonna talk
about pervertibles

which are toys
you might wanna keep around

for a rainy day
or some household items

you should probably just
throw away.

♪

Lube is great for sex

but wipe it off everything.

It gets everywhere.

Are you ready to cook up
some trouble, Daddy?

I kind of am.

This is kind of exciting.

We are going
to play a game called

"Fuck it or Leave it."

Hmm.

Today, we're gonna talk about
what's called pervertibles.

Now, pervertibles are items

that you, kind of, have
around your house

that you may or may not
be able to use

in the bedroom for,
you know, sexual things.

- MAN: Yeah.
- So, Daddy, today, let's go

through each of these items
one at a time--

- KRIS: All right.
- --and explain how or why

we think that these
would be good pervertibles

and then we will decide
if we will fuck it--

- Or leave it?
- --or leave it.

Okay.
This one,

if you like to spice it up
- in the bedroom--

Do you--do you
know what this is for?

Well, I've heard it used
a number of different ways

but why don't you go ahead
and tell me, Daddy?

- So this is a ginger root.
- Uh-hmm.

So figging

is a practice
of taking your ginger root

and peeling it

and then if you've ever
had ginger,

you know how it makes
your mouth pucker?

If you put it up
somebody's ass--

Yup. And I get it.

KRIS: It has
this very strong sensation.

And I'm gonna go ahead and
leave it for that same reason.

- That's just not for me.
- KRIS: Yeah.

I like it.
I get it.

I'd fuck it.

My next item could be used
again as a paddle.

Impact.

And what's really nice
is you get some nice

little impact marks.

The harder you hit
with something

that leaves marks like that,

the more marks
you're gonna get.

Ooh, that's a good one.

I love when you think
you're a top.

How dare you?

- Fuck it?
- Yeah. Totally.

I use them all the time.

- There's my toothbrush.
- [chuckles]

I'm gonna have to leave
that one, unfortunately.

I'll keep my-- my toothbrush
in my mouth.

- Okay, fine.
- Last but not least...

Is the plant.
Where are you gonna shove that?

I'm just gonna--again,
sensation play.

KRIS: No.
I'm gonna leave that one.

I don't like to--
to fool with Mother Nature.

You're going to...
leaf that one?

I'm gonna--I'm gonna leave
that one as well.

I'm not gonna fuck that.

So that's been
Fuck it or Leave it.

Do you see
any pervertibles here

that you would incorporate
in the bedroom?

Do you wanna cook up
some trouble?

Do you want us to cook up
some trouble for you?

Either way, pervertibles
are a wonderful way

to work kink into your bedroom

that don't cost you anything.

♪

This should work, theoretically.

Oh, can--can you see us?

Yeah. Yeah.
We can see you.

- Oh. Oh, we can hear them too.
- Hello?

- Hi.
- How are you?

- Hi, guys.
- How are you guys doing?

Very well.
Excited to be here,

watching you finally.

AMP: Well, welcome to the show.

Why don't you guys
quickly tell us

just a-a little bit
about yourself?

My name is Zerker,

live here in Los Angeles
with my beautiful partner.

Esteban, living with my papa,

very happy and excited
to be here with you guys.

So, how long have you guys
been in a relationship?

- A little bit over a year.
- And you guys are kinky then

or you're--you're
just dabbling?

On a scale of zero
to Fifty Shades of Gray,

where are you in there?

- Fifty-five.
- Fifty-five.

KRIS: Yay. Finally.

Someone broke that barrier.

What would you say
are some of your favorite kinks?

ZERKER: Pits are awesome.

This is my favorite part
in the entire world.

My very spot.

- He's into smells.
- Uh-huh.

- I--I see that.
- [laughter]

Do you bring other people
into your relationship?

ESTEBAN: We do.
We have a big family.

A big pack of boys

and pops and--
are part of our family

and just complement
each other.

So you just rotate
the boys through?

- Okay.
- Yeah. I'm fortunate enough

to have boys, we both are.

Um, they're-they're
an important part of our life.

Like, I, kind of, like
that part of the relationship

I can have with them.

It's different than
what I get to have with Esteban

but Esteban at the end
of the day,

this is--this is my boyfriend.

This is my partner.
This is, you know,

this is me
for the rest of my life.

ESTEBAN: I will say
we just love people

and we love our family,
and we love each other.

We're just a very
lovely couple.

But one of the things I lack

is I don't do
a lot of bondage.

I haven't had that much
experience in it.

If only
you knew someone--

If only you knew someone
who knew the ropes.

With such skills.
[laughing]

- Oh, yeah?
- I would like that.

I like that a lot.

Grab your rope.

I will show you
how to tie up the puppy

and you can
tie up Esteban.

Wait, what?

Okay. All right.

KRIS: Oh, good.
They had red rope too.

I love it.

So we don't have a lot
of experience using this

but we do have it.

Grab your rope,
the two ends

and hold it in one hand.

This is called the bight.

KRIS: Yeah. You got it.

Just like that.

Hold your two ends.

- [chuckles]
- I--I have ends like this.

You work it out.

What did you do?

He's terrible.

All right.
Take that all off.

You can give it a little tug

and just wrap it around

between the wrists
a couple times.

Let's start here.

And then you wrap one--

No. Nope. Nope.

[laughter]

AMP: Hold it
with your forefingers.

ESTEBAN: Oh, twist.

- AMP: Yeah.
- KRIS: Yeah.

There you go. Yup.

KRIS: Just tie it off
and it's done.

Oh, that's it?

That's it.

What do I do now?

- AMP: Yeah.
- KRIS: Anything he tells you.

ZERKER: You're mine.

You're all mine.

And the great thing
about bondage

is it really is a connecting
activity between couples.

It allows the trust levels
to go up

because when you are tied down,
you're feeling vulnerable

and you only do that
with someone you trust.

It can be fun.
It can be funny.

You can laugh a little bit

at, hopefully, yourselves.
- KRIS: Yeah.

[laugh]
AMP: And just have a good time.

Good job, guys.
Any questions?

No, we got it.

- Let's do this.
- AMP: Bye.

- Thank you, guys.
- KRIS: Bye.

[laughing]

- Uh, you feeling dirty?
- Always.

- Really dirty?
- Yeah.

[sighs]

- Nice and relaxed?
- Yeah.

- KRIS: Yeah?
- Yes.

Good.

Well, I'll put you
to the test.

I think it's time
for a pop quiz.

♪

The first question is,

"How many times a year

does the average
American couple have sex,

32, 66,

89 or 136?

AMP: I'm gonna go with C.

Final answer.

- You are wrong.
- Oh.

So, one down,
it is 66 times a year.

So, what does
that break down to, 66,

12...
- I love when you do math.

So hot.

Five or six times a month?

- Sure.
- Yeah.

What is the average length
of an erect penis?

- 5.5 inches.
- KRIS: No.

If you watch porn,

everyone has nine inches.

I'm talking about realism.

Fine, you're right.
You're right.

It's five to six inches,
so come on.

This is not relaxing at all.

KRIS: This is good.
I like them.

So this one's easy
because you have a 50/50 shot.

Great.

Can stress make
a man's penis shrink?

Yes. You should see mine
right now.

- True or false?
- Oh, sorry.

True.

[laughs]

Fine.

How many men fake their orgasms?

In our bedroom?

10 percent,
25 percent,

45 percent, or none?

- Huh...
- I've done it before.

Oh, I'm not saying
I have not done it before.

Whenever there was
an insatiable bottom,

and I just wanted it
to be over,

I would just like...
[moaning sounds]

Daddy came.

- Seems awkward.
- Here--this--

here's a more fun game.

Turnabout about is fair play.

How many times have you faked
it with us, you know?

Never.

Uh, I'm gonna say 10 percent.

And you would be wrong again.

[buzzer buzzes]

25 or--

25 percent of men

fake their orgasms.

Who knew?

- You--you did because--
- Yes, I knew.

That's--that's right.

I knew.

How old is the oldest dildo
in the world,

80 years, 500 years...

- No.
- 28,000 years,

or 23,000 years?

23,000.

You're wrong.
[buzzer]

When is this bath over?

That was 28,000 years.

Obviously,
it was one of the two.

You gave me a 5,000--

KRIS: I mean,
you were off by 5,000 years.

That's a lot.

Ready? Last one.

What percentage of penises
worldwide are circumcised,

20 percent,
30 percent,

40 percent, or 50 percent
in the whole world?

AMP: I know.
Like 30 percent.

- Oh, dammit.
- Yes.

- Ow. Ow.
- Sorry.

Let's see.

There's not even anything
on this paper.

[laughing]

So, wait a second.
That means I won.

This wasn't a win or lose game.

I didn't even know
this game was a thing.

KRIS: Nope. No, buddy.

♪

Remember,
anything can be a sex toy

if you're brave enough.

Okay, Daddy,

are you ready for one
of my favorite segments?

Yeah. Let's do it.

- How to get off?
- Tan-ta-da-dan!

♪

Which are fan-submitted
questions

straight from you guys
about sex,

dating,
and masturbating.

And today's first question,
Daddy, is,

"When is the best time
to tell a potential partner

that you're not
into monogamy

and prefer an open
or poly relationship?"

So if you wanted that
at the very beginning,

then you need to say that
at the very beginning.

If you're dating online,
having that maybe in your bio

is super helpful.

You wanna be very upfront

but you wanna do it tastefully

and read the room.

Yeah.

AMP: Our next question asks,

"What if you are uncomfortable
or scared,

but still want
to try... try?"

Finishing the question?

It sounds like
what they're asking is,

"What if you're uncomfortable
and wanna try a new kink?"

You want it,
so just get comfortable.

Take your clothes off

and just...
Oh, good, come--

Ew, yeah, and maybe
a shower before bed

but if you wanna try
something new

in the kink realm, maybe--

- Like fisting.
- MAN: Not it.

Not like fisting at all.

That's a little bit
more varsity,

maybe like bondage

or something
a little more sensual and.

- Yeah, touchy.
- Light touch.

Yeah. And you can
just ramp it from there.

And tickling,
isn't that good?

- It's a good way to--
- AMP: Yeah.

- Yeah.
- KRIS: Look at you.

AMP: Ow. Ow.

AMP: Why are there
chains down here?

No, don't stick
that in there.

KRIS: No.
Hey, hey, no.

Next one.

How does one achieve

or learn
to have multiple orgasms?

So, multiple orgasms

mainly are in females,
correct?

[buzzer buzzes]
Incorrect.

I've actually slept
with someone

who did have multiple orgasms.

He could keep a boner

even after getting off.

He didn't have that level
of sleepiness

that comes after
when some guys get off.

He's the exception
to the rule though.

Most guys
get off and they're done.

There are multiple exceptions.

But, if you're looking
to have multiple orgasms,

edging is really helpful,

getting really pent up,

maybe locking yourself up
in chastity for a few days.

Electricity for males

especially if you have
an electric butt plug,

it will hit the prostate
over and over

and make you feel
like you're orgasming

even if you don't ejaculate.

Our next question asks,

"What are other ways of play

that do not require touch?"

Well, use their other senses.

If you can't touch
your partner, maybe you--

Blow on them.

Sure. Or make them listen
to things,

or you guys
all have production studios

and sexting departments
in your pocket.

You're a dirty,
dirty puppy.

Yeah. Give your partner
directions

or tell them
how sexy they are

or how dirty they are.

Make Daddy dinner.

Or erotic hypnosis.

You're getting
very, very sleepy.

Anyway, you get the idea.

Use verbiage and other ways

to entice your partner,
invoke feelings and emotions

that don't drive them crazy.

That's my job.

What are some other ways
to keep your penis hard?

Have you tried watching porn?

Might wanna start out
with a cock ring.

If you got a dick,
cock rings are great

because they close down
the blood

that's flowing in and out
of your dick

and it makes--just let the blood
stay in there longer.

But, I mean, honestly,
jerking off

and edging is one the best

- and easiest ways.
- Easiest ways.

That's what they do
in porn sites.

They just keep stroking it.

♪

Your dick is really long.

[chuckling]
Yeah.

It is time to go.

So, thank you guys so much

for watching
Sex Life After Dark.

I have been Amp.

I'm Mr. Kristofer.

Thank you for coming.

I mean, hopefully
they haven't yet,

or at least wait
until the episode is over

which is right now.

So, thanks for watching

and we will see you later.

- Bye.
- Bye.

♪

♪ You're messing
with my mind ♪

♪ You're messing
with my mind ♪

♪ You're messing
with my mind ♪

♪ You're messing
with my mind ♪

♪ You're messing
with my mind ♪