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Before the 90 Days...

- Hi.
- Hi.

I can't believe
you're actually here.

Uh... I just think
we're both awkward people.

I've been waiting
months to meet Dempsey

And things are gonna
go either really right

or really wrong.

Yeah.

But we don't know.

We need to figure that out
over the next two weeks.

But I not going to change.

I'm going to be
the same person.

If I go home not
engaged to you, Nicola,

this will be over.

You think
it's okay that you
fantasize about having sex--

Well, if our
sexual life were better,

then I would have
fantasized about us.

Unbelievable.

Here she is,
talkin' to her ex,

fantasizing about him,

physically seeing him,

moved into the same
building he's in,

so, yeah, I'm losing my trust.

And how are we supposed
to get married without trust?

Hi, Tiffanie.

She's asking you a question.

Why are you lookin' at me?

She wants to hear it from you.

Have I mentioned
how beautiful you are?

Aww.

I don't think so.

You can
tell me again, you know.

You're beautiful, gorgeous,
attractive... et cetera.

After seven months
of intense conversation,

I just met my amazing,
gorgeous girlfriend,
Dempsey, in person.

I'm just like,
holy cow, she is better...

better than I could
have ever imagined.

We're heading to the hotel
where we'll stay the night.

I'm feeling better
and all of my anxiety

just melts away.
It's just completely gone.

Yeah. I like Manchester.

Mmm.

Sometimes I get quiet and
don't know what to talk about.

We are so awkward.

I just, like...

Wow! We're extremely
awkward people.

After all this travel
that I'd had over
the past couple of days,

it feels very surreal
that I'm actually...
finally I've met Statler,

but it's a bit,
um, of a mind really

when you've met someone
for seven months,

and it's just, like,
an online thing,

and then they're there
in person,

and I'm just really
nervous, really nervous.

Here we have
some stone.

Limestone, I think it is.

- It's so huge.
- Sorry for all my stuff.
I've kind of unpacked.

It's lovely.

I have
a gift for you.

Really? I have gifts for you.

I haven't wrapped mine
either 'cause I hadn't had
any wrapping paper.

So, this is just
like a good gesture.

Okay. Wow.

This smells like an insect.

- I can always smell
a dead insect.
- That's what the smell is.

You wanna wash
your hands after,

but look at it
it's actually...

Gorgeous!

Oh, my God!

- These are the insects that
camouflage their bodies...
- Yeah.

...to look
like leaves.

So, that's
a Thailand one.

This is, like, better than
Christmas and all of my
birthdays combined.

I can't believe
you got me dead insects!

And took them
all the way from Thailand,

smelling like they do.

It is a very
strong, intense scent.

For a second, I thought
it was coming from you.

- I thought it was my laundry
from Thailand.
- But...

I thought so, too,
and I was kind of
concerned about that.

But an insect lover

recognizes the smell.

This is [bleep]. Look at that.

It's a scorpion with
a bunch of different beetles.

They are all
from Thailand as well.

- So, these
are all Thailand insects?
- Yeah.

Stop it!

That's so roma... That's
the most romantic thing
anyone's ever done!

I'm realizing now

that I gave you something
that I would have
wanted to receive,

that I'm now realizing you
probably don't actually want.

- So, here is the gift that--
- Oh, no.

- I'm kind of embarrassed
now. Oh, boy.
- Uh...

- It's an insect.
- It's an insect.

- That's
hilarious.
- It's really cute.

- It's cute.
- And it... The wings,
they move like...

- Yeah.
- Okay.

It's a mantis.

It's very... Statler.
- Okay.

She'd got
me a little metal ant.

for our first gift.

...do you wanna
get ready for bed?

Yeah. I would like
to have a shower.

Like, alone or...?

- Yeah, alone.
- So, alone. Yeah.

Of course, yeah.

Wow!

That is explosive,
but not in a bad way.

- Are you okay?
- Yep. I'm great.

- Bye.
- Enjoy.

There's been a huge build-up
for months and months,

no action.

But it's kind of up to her.

Hopefully, some magic
will happen tonight.

- Hi.
- Hi.

I'm trying
my best to reel it in,

but her butt is
literal perfection.

It's shaped like a peach,
like a juicy, delicious
Georgia peach.

And it's got some,
like, huzzah to it.

She's done
some work on that thing.

Are you feeling awkward?

- Me?
- Yeah.

No, not at all. Are you?
- Yeah.

Why is that?
Why do you feel awkward?

'Cause we're in bed together?

- Yeah.
- Oh.

- If I kissed you,
that would be too--
- That'd be too much.

That'd be too much. Okay.

Uh, if you... if you
had to put, like, a number

on the chances
of happy time...

Statler.

All right. Well, okay.
Good to know.

Cool.

I really like Statler.

But, no, that's not happening.

We're not having sex
tonight. No way.

We hadn't even
kissed by this point

and she's asking me
if I wanna have sex.

Okay. Well, I'm knackered.

- Yeah, me too.
- And I'm sure so are you.

So... let me
figure out these lights.

For me, sex is intimate.

I just need to get
to know Statler
a little bit more in person.

So, I'm just
gonna take it slow

and see where things go.

All right. Good night.
Good night.

- Good day.
- Good day.

- We did it.
- We did it.

- Yay! Yayie.
- Yay! Our first day
meeting. Yay!

- Mmm.
- Go to sleep.

Stop it.

Mmm.

Gino and I only
have one week
and a half left together.

These last few days
we fought so hard.

And it just feels like

We have to
wait a few minutes.

Like, we are not having sex,
we are not romantic.

And the worst part now is

that Gino thinks
that I betray his trust

because I'm friends
with my ex, Dane.

Hi. Welcome.

- Hi. How are you?
- Hi.

- Nice to meet you.
- Nice to meet you.

- How are you?
Please come in here.
- Sure.

We have try
by our own to fix
a lot of our problems,

but we haven't been able to.

It's making me feel...

miserable, desperate,
sad, concerned.

So, we need
to see a therapist.

We need it. It's a must.

I would just
first like to say,

usually, when you come
to get a counsel session...

- Mmm-hmm.
- ...it takes more than once.

So, it's hard to say
that we will accomplish

probably everything that
you have in your minds.

Yeah, I can't imagine.

But, um, let's
take advantage
of our time together.

Since I've been
in Panama, things...

I hate to say it, but things
have been kind of rough.

I... I thought it'd be...
it'd go better

and I think it's a good
idea that we speak
about what's changed.

So, tell me a little bit
about you guys.

Yeah, sure.
Um, we've been dating
for two years and a half.

- Wow.
- We are engaged.

And I'm gonna travel
to United States to marry him.

But we've been waiting
for the K-1 to be approved,
like, for 12 months

It's a process
that is putting, like,

a lot of pressure
on the relationship.

So, it's... it's very hard
to maintain a conversation

without ended up
on yelling at each other,

uh, and I think
Gino will agree.

Yeah. But one of the things
I have to bring up

is that, uh, Jasmine, um,

- she makes bad
comments all the time.
- Okay.

She'll say
very hurtful words to me.

And also,
I recently found out

that Jasmine was
seeing her ex-boyfriend...

calling him, moved into
the same building he's in.

- Which is totally--
- They live
in the same building

and they see each other,
you know, even recently.

- While she's with--
- To talk about him.
To talk about him.

Like, he's... Okay.
First of all, we have
a friendly meeting.

It's not like,
I was like, you know,

he found me in a hotel
or something, you know.

And we decided to be friends

because we had actually
amazing communication skills.

I don't see him
as my ex-boyfriend.

I see him as my friend.

I... I told him part
of my frustration
is I want more intimacy.

It's not just like
I wanna be pleased
all the time,

it's just that...

Like, just to give you
an example, um,

I'm not satisfied
sexually in this relationship.

Every time, most of the time
that I try to approach
to him physically,

- he pushed me away and he's--
- No. No,
that's not true.

And he has
even made comments

about my private parts.

A few days ago,
I was takin' a shower,

and I wanted to be sexy,

and I was like,
showing him my body...

- Mmm-hmm.
- ...and he was gagging
like [imitates gagging].

No, I wasn't.
You were showing...
I was trying to talk to you...

talk to you and you're
showing me like,
your private parts.

I'm saying, "Jasmine,
let me talk to you,
I'm trying to talk to you."

- Trust me, I like seeing...
- Why do you
have to say that?

...your private parts
and stuff. There was...

At that moment in time,
I wanted to talk to her
at that moment.

No, no, no.
So... so I want to understand.

So, physically you felt
rejected and you say
like, "Uh-huh."

Not wanted, not
good enough, ugly.

I have my whole life
deal with insecurity issues

because I have, like,
abandonment issues

from my dad, which walk away
when I was three years old.

- And I don't take
rejection, uh...
- ...easily.

No, I don't take...
I'm sorry, like,

you know, I don't
take rejection easily.

And you
made me feel rejected

and you made me feel ugly.

And all I want is love.

The first toxic
relationship that I had
with a man was with my dad.

The worst thing
that you can do to me

is showing me
that you don't love me.

Like, I have, like, a lot
of abandonment issues.

Deep inside, when
I love a person,

I feel, like, so scared
of losing that person
and not having his love

that I will do anything
just... just to feel
that I'm worthy.

And Gino doesn't understand
how much he's hurting
me in this moment.

We never have sex.

Like, we've been dating
for two years and a half,

and we have
only been together...

like, have intercourse
seven times.

If you want better intimacy,

we have to
stop arguing every day.

you have to start... stop
putting me down for the--

Let me interrupt here,

so that we can, um,
go a little deep here.

Gino, so you're
giving conditions that
I understand that you need,

but you might
get her best self

by, you know, bonding
with her intimately.

You know what I'm saying?

Right, but she's gonna have
to work on those things, okay?

I don't want you to make
her think she doesn't
have to work on that stuff.

- No. Not at all.
- 'Cause she does.

- Very much so.
- Oh. Is this coming
through that way?

Uh, yeah.

Are you afraid of that?

Yeah. I want to
make sure that she doesn't
think that she doesn't--

That's... that's why
we have communication
problems, because--

I wanna make sure
that she knows she
has to work on those things.

And also, our intimacy
was better at one time,

but we still had these issues.

So, I don't think that
that's gonna work very well.

No.
It was never good.

- No, earlier--
- No. It was not good.

- Yeah, it was.
- I... I like... My worst
sex has been with Gino.

This is... These are
the kind of comments...

Because I'm
being honest. Like, we need--

...where I really don't
have any desire
to be with her

- when I hear stuff like that.
- Okay.

Period.

I am on my period.

Okay. So?

She's young.

Razvan, can you...

- Yeah?
- ...help me
make this coffee?

Uh... I don't
think you can use--

This is like...

I know. We need to buy,
uh, something else.

- A coffee pot.
- A... coffee pot.

So, why did you let me
pick out ground coffee?

And you have, like, this

European coffee pod.

You know?

I will buy something.

- I just want,
like, regular coffee.
- Yeah.

Oh, my gosh.

I am on my period,

so I feel bloated and I--

Yeah.

Okay. So?

Oh, my God.
- You know?

I think that Razvan is
hoping that by us having sex,

it'll help us connect
more emotionally.

I get it,
but I'm not comfortable

having sex with Razvan yet.

Especially coming from
a marriage that

I was in for so long
and losing my husband.

Okay.

Um, can you bring me
the mirror from the bathroom?

I met Jason
when I was 19,

so it's kind of like,
I learned things

and, like, went through
that experience with him,

so, you know, it's scary
for me to take that leap

and to be with
someone intimately

who is not Jason.

Thanks.

And also, you wanted
to go swimming,

but I do not
like that swimsuit
that you got for me.

- So, you
want to return it?
- Yeah.

Honestly, I don't
like that style top.

So, um, we will go,
buy another one.

Thanks.

It's very sweet of Razvan
to buy me a gift.

However, he is the first
man that has gotten me a gift

since I've been with Jason.

And in the back of my mind,

I have that kind of,
like, guilt, you know, like,

that comes with
being with someone else.

Oh, you look beautiful.

Except those big
shoes--

Let's go!

This is like,
such a cute little area.

- Here we go.
- Is this the shop?

Yes.

Okay.

Maybe
something black?

There's nothing really black.

No?

I like this one.

Yeah.

Ah, okay.
It was between--

And she was telling me...

Mmm-hmm.

What are you saying?

No, you didn't.
I don't believe you.

- Did
she say do I like Romania?
- Yeah.

I wouldn't live
here because I have kids

and I don't want them
to live in the city.

She can't believe that
you have two childrens

because you look very nice.

What?

No. None.

None.

So, you tell her
about our relationship

when you bought
the bathing suit?

That's sweet.

I cannot tell if
Razvan is being serious

when he tells this
shopkeeper that he
wants three or four children.

I hope that he's joking.

When Razvan and I were first
getting to know one another,

I had asked him
if he saw himself

having children in the future

and he told me, "No."

That it didn't matter to him.

So, I hope
that is still the case

because at this
point in my life,

I don't feel like I wanna
have any more children.

Bye.

Mmm.

You... you can bring. Yes.

Are you ready
to meet my parents later?

It's important to me that
David connect with my son.

I want them to meet,

but I am worried to bring
David at home because

my family is poor and I don't
want to scare David away.

Okay.

Hello.

My name is Aimee

Uh, my sign name is this.

And I do interpreting.

It's really easier
if she's with us

rather than using our phones.

She's young
and I feel little jealousy.

I would like to
find an interpreter with
a man, not a girl. Yeah.

Yes.

I hopefully that
I can learn...

- ASL.
- Yeah.

When I see them communicate,

and she look with my boyfriend

and David look at her,
and me, I was...

Let's go.

No, I...

So, you're mad
because my family

is asking you questions.

I don't
talk with you, okay?

I go back home.

Okay. Beat it.

- Yes.
- Beat it.

Waste my time.

Tired of this [bleep].

She's asking, after you
told me to delete the app,

why were you still on the app?

- I talk with you--
- No, no, no. She asked you.

Before I answer her--

I can't... No! Answer her.

Don't talk to me.

What?

Okay. It has nothing...
This has nothing
to do with me.

This has to do
with you and Tiffanie.

The app. I forgot password.

This is another instance
where I just...

I don't believe
anything she's saying

and she's just squirmin'
around, lookin' nervous.

I don't understand this.

I really want to trust her,

but this is a major
red flag for me.

So, you're mad
because my family,

someone I consider my family,
I consider my sister,

is asking you questions?

And you're mad 'cause
you have to answer them.

But when your family
asked me hard questions,

and I answered them--

I don't care.

- This is a two-way street.
- Okay.

- It's a two-way street.
- Okay. If you don't
care, we talk,

we stop talking tonight, okay?

Oh. You know what, Tiff?
I'll call you back.
I'll call you back.

Yeah. You know what--

You know what...
you know what,
you don't wanna--

Because you did
something wrong

- and I went back to see
if you were on the app.
- Oh!

- Do not
talk down to me.
- Okay.

I don't
talk with you, okay?

We stop now, okay?

I go back home.

Okay. Beat it.

- Yes.
- Beat it.

Bye.

Bye!

Waste my time.

Tired of this [bleep].

Thank you
for that, Tiffanie...

Yeah. This right here
was too much.

It was... [stutters] it was
the last straw for me.

I'm done.

I really came here
with the best intentions

in my heart
and in my mind.

And I got
my ass handed to me.

It's her way or the highway.

And you know what?

I'm not putting up with it.
I don't have to.

I love you too. Bye.

Ah. What a night.

But I felt
a little bit insecure that

Statler's more, um,
experienced in the
bedroom than I am.

And I just worried she might
not wanna be with me

if her needs
are not being met.

Ah. What a night.

Oh.

We have had our first kiss

and it was... not great.

- It was
really awkward.
- It was so awkward.

Yeah, I think
I got teeth mostly...

...'cause you were
smiling and laughing so hard.

We got better at it.

Yeah. And then,
once we got good
at kissing...

We... we had sex.

Yeah.

That kind of a bout
will turn you religious.

Wanna have an altar
that I set up and worship it.

Have a photo
dedicated to just it.

And your
like heaven.

It must be your vegan diet

I've just... I don't think
I've ever been with a vegan.

That's the advertisement
vegans need.

"Do you want your
person to [bleep] 24/7?"

"Boy, do I have
a food thing for you to try.

Veganism!"

Normally, I do
take things slower.

But we had our first kiss,

and we kissed some more,
and then one thing
led to another.

I could feel
the connection between us.

And we've been on this
whole build-up
of seven months.

So, I just thought, "Why not?"

So, I've never, like,
had a wax done before.

- Did you approve?
- Yeah. I thought
it was pretty smooth.

Was yours waxed?
'Cause yours was so smooth.

- Can I just feel it again
to make sure that--
- No. No!

It's all about the sex,
isn't it?

I'm glad
that it happened.

I think it brought us closer.

But when we were having sex,

I felt a little bit
insecure that

Statler's more, um,
experienced in the
bedroom than I am.

She's been to,
like, sex parties

and she likes the
whippin' and the chains

and that's not something
I've ever done before.

This is mine.

And I just worried
that she might not
wanna be with me

if her... her needs
are not being met.

Thank you. Oh, yeah.

- Mmm. Oh, my God.
This is so good.
- Yeah.

So, we're gonna go
to the farm where you live.

Am I gonna have, like,
any space for like...
I brought, like, suitcases.

Yeah,
I have a spare room.
There's plenty of space.

- Oh, really?
- Yeah.

This is gonna be
an experience.

Yeah.

But I'm looking
forward to it.

Today, we're going back
to Darlington,

where I live
and work on a farm.

And I'm worried that
Statler's not gonna
adjust to my way of livin'

because I'm, like,
pretty much off-grid living.

Can I come and take a shower
with you really quick?

Yeah.

Dempsey lives out
in the middle of nowhere.

And I'm anxious
to stay at her place,

I'm nervous, I'm feeling...
I'm feeling un... unexcited.

I'm not sure
the circumstances

that are going
to be awaiting me
in this caravan.

I'm concerned about space,

I'm concerned
about sanitation,

that it's gonna be cold,

and that I'm just not
gonna be comfortable there.

I'm a city girl

and I'm not used to
any of this stuff.

I just don't wanna offend her

if I get there to the caravan

and then I'm like,
"Uh, this isn't gonna work."

Ugh. This is a lot.

Geez.

Nico, why do you
have these monkeys

hanging from your--

Last night, Nicola and I
had a pretty good time
in downtown Haifa.

Happened to be here,
go into a dance club,

and it was really great
to see him come out
of his shell a little bit.

So, I feel like we're moving
out of the desert now,

and starting to get
on the right track.

Can you tell me a little bit
about this Catholic village?

This village, if we
go back to history...

Today, Nicola is taking me

to an area called
the Catholic village.

This is an important
place for Nicola

because it's where
he goes to church.

And it's also where his
best friend, Wasim, lives.

And after we do
some touring together,

Nicola plans on
introducing me to Wasim.

It'll be the first time
that I'm meeting someone
in Nicola's life

that actually knows about me.

Oh, Nicola, I so wish
I had my hair dryer.

- Why? What are you gonna do?
- You are so sweaty
right now. Like, you're--

Why are you wincing?

Don't
lift up your arms.

- This is the church
I pray every Sunday, Meisha.
- Oh, my God.

Oh.

Oh, my gosh.

I think
it's so great for Meisha

to see where
I pray every week.

Come, see something here.
Be careful, Meisha.

Being Catholic
is everything for me,

and that's what make
me and Meisha

also to have
a strong relationship.

- Look
at this view, Meisha.
- Oh, my...

Yeah.

Oh.

Of course.

Yeah.

I feel like I'm closer
to God in my faith.

- And it is so amazing!
- I love it.

You want to go down?

- Yeah.
- 'Cause
the sun is so hot.

- Let's go. Let's go.
- Should we go?
Okay. Let's go.

No, no, no, no, no.

Oh, okay.

It's very dangerous.
One by one, sweetie pie.

It's great to show Meisha
all these important sites.

Put your head down.
It's become more hard now.

Oh, my gosh.

Imagine if someone
was really tall,

- going up and down here.
- Yeah.

It's the history
of the Catholic people
here in the Holy Land.

This is where every
Catholic need to see.

Also, in this village,
my friend, Wasim, was here.

He and Meisha
met in the farm.

But today, they will
meet in real life.

So, I think it's
a great day today.

Meisha?

Oh! Hi!

- Hello.
- It's so good to see you.

Say hi to Biscuit.

- Nice eyes.
- It's so nice to meet you.

In the flesh.
Good! I mean...

Sorry, I have to like arch
my back, so I can hold...

No.

Let's just go, sit down.
You wanna go back over here?

- No. Oh,
Wasim, be on my side.
- Please.

Be on my side
on this one.

God, Meisha. I don't know
what to do with you.

Oh, my God.

Every cat she see
in the street,

she thinks she is
the mother of the cat.

And I don't like it.

First time you
meet Wasim in person

and you are holding
a small cat in your hand

and playing with him
instead to talk with
a person, you know?

He likes you.

At some point, I would
love to meet your wife.

I know.

She's busy.
Yeah, I get it.

Tell him where we
have been, where I took you.

Or since you came from Israel.

Um, well, Nazareth.

It's a lot of, uh,
beautiful places there.

- Yeah, for sure.
- Tell him about
the view from our hotel.

Oh, it's spectacular.

Is it a nice hotel?

Yeah, but you have to see
our room look like the forest.

I never saw a woman
brought with her all America

and make a messy
place in my room.

I wasn't expect it.

- She'd put her tag--
- Ah, here's my wife.

- It's May!
- Hi.

- Hi.
- Hi.

- Hi, Meisha. How are you?
- It's so
nice to meet you.

- Nice to meet you. May.
- Pleasure's all mine.

Oh, oh.

I think,
you know, for me,

I had no idea coming here
how Nicola would be,
like, with me,

as a woman by him, and...

But I think, day by day,

we're just trying
to, like, work through,

- you know, everything that
needs to be worked through.
- Yeah.

What about you, Nicola?

So, my whole family
knows all about Nicola.

But what I found out
when I got to Israel

is that Nicola's older brother
did not know anything about...

So, what can you
do for Meisha

to make her very happy,

especially with your family?

Leave the family alone.

It's between me
and Meisha, not family.

But I loved Wasim's question
about, what could you do

to make Meisha happy
in regards to that?

Just think about it.

Do you know
how much I sacrifice
for her in the 48 hours?

And she still... she keep
begging me about my mom

and my brother
like a crazy Meisha.

It's a little wearing
to hear Nicola always

basically insinuate
that I'm crazy

because I want
to meet his family before

spending my
entire life with him.

And... I would have loved
for Nicola to take

this opportunity with his
best friend to showcase

what we've built over
seven years of talking

and be excited about us.

But instead,
he's being dismissive

and a little insulting to me.

This is a side that I've never
seen of Nicola before,

and it is concerning.

He just old me,
he wants to have children.

Sometimes I think
you're looking too far
into the future.

It is if it's the person that
you're supposed to be with.

Wow.

I'm going out
for some fresh air.

- I'll be back soon.
- All right.

I'm still really taken back
by Razvan's comment,

of him wanting to have
children of his own.

I understand why
he wants that, but...

I'm really surprised because

I absolutely do not want
to have any more children,

and I was very direct
and clear before
I came to Romania.

Honestly, I feel
a little bit misled,

and it's making me
second guess myself.

Hi.

Hey, what are you doing?

Um, it's going okay.

He's, like, so loving,
I feel like.

Like he always wants
to hold my hand.

And he's so much
cuter in person.

Uh, like a hundred times more.

We have not had sex yet.

Yeah, I mean, when I came here
I wasn't sure, like,

if I was gonna feel
comfortable, like,

sleeping in the bed,
like, the first night,

but I did decide to, like,
sleep in the bed
with him that night.

I mean, and it was nice,
like, we just cuddled,

but, I mean, of course
it makes me, like,

bring up those thoughts, like,
I'm doing something

I shouldn't be doing,
you know.

Yeah.

But I think I'm kind
of getting over that guilt,

you know, like, it's okay
to be happy, you know.

But there are some
communication things, like

I think it was like the second
day that I was here,

he told me that he has
a visa appointment and...

No, so he made an appointment

and I said,
"If you're approved,

when do you plan on wanting
to come to the United States?"

He said
one week after I leave.

So, I said, "That's
way too soon," and...

I don't think he's ready
for, like, to be around me,

like, as a mom,
you know what I mean?

It's gonna be probably
hard for him to see, like, me.

Yeah.

Yeah. And also,
he just told me today,

that he wants to have children
or a child in the future.

And when we first got
together, I asked him,

and he said it didn't
matter to him either way.

And I said, "Well, I'm
probably not having
any more children."

And he was like,
"Okay, I'm fine with that."

And today, he was like,
"I want to have
more kids though."

It is if it's your... like,

your person that you're
supposed to be with.

I don't know, that's why
I'm here, to see, like,

if it is, in person.

He would
not propose to me tonight.

I think, if anything,
he would wait to see, like,

how the next weeks go.

Before I arrived,
like, I was so sure that

everything was gonna
go great and perfect.

And to get here and have
so many problems and concerns,

I don't know,
it doesn't feel good at all.

Yeah, I'm going to try.

I feel like we don't know each
other as well as I thought,

and think with any
new relationship,

there are some things that
you don't fully let go of

until you know 100%
that you can trust them,

and it's still kind of
early for me to be

completely vulnerable
with Razvan.

I'm working on it,
but he has to show me

that I can trust him.

All right.
I love you. Have a good day.

I love David.

We are planning
to having a family,

so I am not
looking for his money.

But I'm worried
he will think that

my relationship with him

is because my house
is not good.

Welcome to my house.

Ah.

...here.

Okay.

Mm.

This is my mom.

Um... nice meeting.

Nice meeting you.

Nice meeting you too.

Oops.

This'll be where
we'll be staying.

Oh, the bedroom.

Certain rooms are a bit small.

That's just
like a toilet room.

Can I use the toilet?
This toilet?

I don't think I could
live here long-term.

Speak to me, darling.

- Darling.
- Darling.

Are you ready to, like,
get the wood in the fire?

Ready to get
the wood in the fire?

For sure, I'd do that again.

- Are you nervous?
- Yeah.

A bit nervous, but, yeah,
I'm excited to,

to see it all,
see how you live.

I think things
are going really well,

between the two of us so far.

And, I'm looking forward
to spending quality time,

just me and Statler.

From Manchester, the car ride
to the farm is two hours.

It's out of the city,
it's quiet.

In the morning, you can
hear the birds chirping.

But, because I went
to Thailand for five weeks,

my place hasn't been cleaned,

And this is the first
time anybody's stayed
in my caravan,

so I'm feeling
really nervous

for Statler to come back

and not knowing
what the vibe is.

You think I'm gonna
get to meet your friends?

Yeah, I think so.

Think so?

- Yeah, I think so.
- Okay. Nice. Good.

And, uh, what about your dad?

He's your best friend,
you know?

You've worked him up to be
this great, big person
in your life and...

- Um...
- Just 'cause

I like you a lot
and I'm serious

- about us.
- Yeah, I guess.

You guess?

That makes me think
you're less serious now.

He knows that we're, like,
speaking, but he
doesn't know, like...

- It's serious.
- ...who you are.

I'm really confused why
she hasn't told her dad.

Just because this
is her best friend,

and yet, here you spent
a lot of time in Thailand

together with just him.
Like, I should be a hot topic.

So, it's
kind of concerning. It's like,

am I really your biggest
priority as you're
telling me I am? Or

who am I to you?

Has your dad liked your,
like, previous girlfriends?

Um, my first one, no,
my second, yes, and then, no.

I didn't
tell my dad about

me and Statler
being in a relationship,

'cause my dad
is superprotective.

My dad has seen me through
bad relationships.

He's seen me at my lowest.

I still feel that I need
to get to know

Statler a little bit more
in person

before I introduce
her to my dad.

Finally here.

Oh, my God,

was that?

You have animals out here?

Animals?

Like,
coyotes or wolves?

No.

- You don't have any, like,
wild animals here?
- No.

I need to go back to the gym.

Yes.

Okay, thank you.

Wow.

This is very nice.

I feel like I've
entered this cute world.

- You did all
this yourself.
- Yes.

That's insane.
Almost finished.

If you want to
come down here...

Yeah.

This is my spare room.

I started to decorate before
I went to Thailand,

but I haven't finished it yet.

- It's very nice.
It's very nice.
- But it's getting there.

This will be...

where we'll be staying.

- Oh, the bedroom.
- Sorry, the bed
is not made up.

I'm actually very
impressed with the caravan.

It's more modern
than I thought it would be.

But certain rooms
are a bit small

for two people
to kind of navigate.

Dempsey doesn't know
that I left America

with the intention that,
if things went well
between us,

that I would be moving
to England,

but I don't think I could
live here long-term.

Things are a little,
a little tight.

And... that's
just like a toilet room.

A toilet room. Okay, cool.
- Yeah.

Could I use the toilet?
This toilet?

You can, like, go for
number one on the toilet,

but, like, just across
where I work,

you'll just walk over there.

Okay, so...

I do have
irritable bowels.

And knowing that the bathroom
is a ways off

kinda freaks me out.

I mean, it's okay
for the time being,

but it's definitely not ideal.

You want to sit down?

- Of course,
I want to sit down.
- This'll be like the first...

- This is like the famous
couch you always sat on.
- Yeah, it is.

That's cool.
It's all very cute.

Oh, nice.

A real country winter.
This is like, a movie.

Are you hungry?

- I've got no food in at all.
- No food?

Well, I have a banana,
I think that I packed.

And we have the chocolate
from... that you got me.

Do you wanna eat some?

Let me get
the chocolate really quick.

This is definitely gonna take
some time to get used to,

and I'm going to be out
of my comfort zone,

but even though there's
a level of awkwardness,

Dempsey could be
the love of my life.

- Oh, wow.
- Mmm.

These are actually...

- They're good.
- Really good. Yeah.

I know it's really fast,

but being here with Dempsey
in person just feels right.

I'm ready to start the rest
of my life with Dempsey.

I'm just hoping she's
as into me as I am into her.

I am just so
turned on, honestly,

by this.

- You're something else.
- Just a little.

Mmm.

Oh.

Okay. Ah, okay.

Yeah.

Hello.

Nice to meeting you.

Thank you
for coming here.

One thing is to disagree...

We don't know how to argue.

Somebody has to
put the fire down.

Well, it's not easy.

Do you want
this to work, Gino?

And...

These are
the kind of comments...

- Because
I'm being honest.
- ...where I really don't

have any desire
to be with her.

I'm gonna stop you.

I think
there are many things

that are going on
at the same time.

So, I know it's very hard.

One thing is to disagree.

Another thing is to insult

- and say things
that you cannot--
- Yeah.

We don't know how to argue.

So for that, like, Jasmine,

you would probably
need to go out,

write it down
before you come to Gino,

because it's going to come out
the worst it can.

And another thing
you need to work on is...

A couple cannot move further

where there's revenge

because that builds

bad feelings, you know.

Mmm-hmm.

Gino,

this is something, like,
I always tell couples.

I tell them...

It's easiest to work on
what you can do yourself

and not what you want
the other person to do.

So you're not the one
with the...

- with the, uh,
um, anger issues...
- Right.

...she's the one,
so, what can you do

so that it doesn't
blow out of proportion?

You know what I'm saying?
Like, if she starts,

somebody has to
put the fire down.

- Can you do that?
- Uh, I can

try to be more calm

instead of, you know,
putting more fuel in the fire.

- Um, it's...
- Do you...
do you take--

- ...not easy.
- It isn't.

- But it's something
I can try to work on.
- Sure.

Let's just reverse this.

Jasmine, sometimes when we
want a relationship to work,

there are some sacrifices
that we need to do.

This boyfriend from before,

what are you willing to do
or compromise

- on your part,
now that you know...
- Mmm-hmm.

...that he gets hurt?

If you
want me to...

But if you don't want me
to ever talk to him again...

Fine.

I would also like to add,

you know, no one matters to me
like you do.

Otherwise, I wouldn't be here
asking for therapy.

I would just pretend
that everything is fine.

The reason why I'm here,
because this relationship

that we have is genuine.

I'm here for love.

What you're saying,

can you see how

all of this, that even though
you have these issues,

you want this to work.

That's the first step.

Because that's the floor

where you can stand up.

And I wanna leave you
with one idea, which is,

don't talk about this
all the time.

- Yeah.
- Enjoy. You're together.
Go out.

Try those romantic walks
or romantic getaway.

And build the good memories,

so that when you have
the disagreements

you will be able
to tolerate them better.

Do you want
this to work, Gino?

Yes, and I love

Jasmine very much.

I'm gonna definitely try
my hardest

on my side to make it work.

Um, and I'm just hoping
Jasmine does the same.

That's a good start.

I do appreciate
Jasmine acknowledging
her anger problems.

And also being willing
to give up her relationship
with her ex.

But now, what really matters
is what your actions are
after this meeting.

Is she really gonna...

fix what she's saying
she's gonna fix or work on?

Just take it
one thing at a time.

Can you imagine
what it would be like
to live my whole life

with someone feeling like
they don't really care?

Anyone can be
my [bleep] tour guide.

Yeah.

I mean--

Yeah, I am a little bit,
I guess.

A little tired. But...

I have to get out
of these nasty clothes...

...and then,
are you just gonna...

- chill?
- Yeah.

Do you wanna change, stinky?

- Soon.
- Okay.

Okay, good.

I was really hoping that,
in front of Wasim
and Wasim's wife,

that Nicola
would be affectionate

and excited
about our relationship and,

"Meisha's finally here."

But, instead,
I felt embarrassed.

It's not at all
what I thought it would be

and it makes me think
about our whole relationship.

Meisha,
Meisha, Meisha.

So, how was your
day today, Meisha?

Um,

like, today,
one of the things that

I sometimes notice

and get a little
heavyhearted about is that

you just aren't experienced

with having a woman
around you all the time.

Like, me saying to you
a lot like,

"Are you
listening to me, Nicola?"

Like, "Did you just hear
what I said?"

And often
the response to that is,

"I didn't."

I want to feel
like Nicola is proud...

happy I'm here and cares

- that I'm here.
- Mmm-hmm.

I do.

Because after this long...

- Oh, my God, Meisha,
why're you crying now?
- Listen.

Just let me be me.

If someone feels bad
about something, Nicola,

is it better
that you wrap your arms
around that person and...

No, no, no, no.
Don't do... 'cause I...

- Okay. Okay.
- Stop, stop,
stop, stop.

No, don't.

You, Nicola,
have to start acting
from your heart.

Not... I can't mechanically
tell you all the time

how to treat me.

Because, can you imagine
what it would be like for me

to live my whole life
with someone

feeling like
they don't really care?

- Can you imagine?
- But I do care a lot
about you, Meisha.

- But I have to--
- Why you say I don't care?

- But I have to
feel that, Nicola.
- What... what...

Took me? I'm not talking about
the places you drive me.

Anyone can be
my [bleep] tour guide.

Nicola...

...did you hear
what I just said?

Meisha thinks
she is the victim.

I don't think she cry
for good reason.

What I done to her
that she cry?

She thinks,
"Nicola is always
need to change.

And everything is good
with me.

'Cause I am Meisha,
I have experience,

I know what is good.
And, Nicola...

You think the problem
is only from my side.

But I see also
problem from your side.

But, guess what?

I become quiet.

Because I want
this relationship to work.

I'm not like you,
always attacking this,
this, this, this, this.

I become humble and absorb.

Like Jesus Christ
on the cross.

He absorb the persecution,

the humility.

You know how many things
I can tell you, Meisha,
that I don't like?

I'm telling you
how I feel about something.

Me, too. I told you how I feel
about something, too.

I never said one thing

to attack your character.
Not one.

Not a single thing.

If every time I share
how my heart feels,

you go, "Oh, you better not
tell me how you feel
or you're gonna be selfish,

and I'm gonna tell you
that you're blaming me,"

that means I can never ever

ever tell you how I feel.

Do you know
that no relationship
in the history of ever

would ever work
with people not being able
to constantly,

through life,
tell each other how they feel?

Go.

It's weird
to me that a very
simple conversation

about how someone's feeling
could be blown up to, like,

"You're so emotional,
you're so sensitive."

It's just...
It just rattles my brain

because I can't...

I cannot, for the life of me,
make sense of that.

I think when you spend

so many years
invested with somebody

that you love
and you care about

and you really,
truly believe

that it is a certain way.

And then, all of a sudden
you start to go,

"I don't think
this was anything
like what I thought it was."

This is a personality type.

This is how
a brain is hardwired

and that's tragic to me.

If this is
the way that it goes,

how could I
have been so wrong?

How could I
have been so off-base?

Next time on
Before the 90 Days...

I mean,
this is probably,
like, the point in the evening

- where, you know, you put on
the baby making playlist.
- Yeah.

- "Baby making"?
- Yeah, you know...

Not sure that
that's gonna work with me.

There are times
where I feel

like, you know, things are
a little bit more awkward

because I've never been
with a trans woman before.

Are we gonna be
compatible intimately?

I mean, I think...

Is this fun or what?

I got you in good hands.

After the session
with our therapist,

Jasmine and I
need to focus on

creating good memories together

and improve
our relationship overall.

You never had

good physical condition

- for sex.
- Yes, I do.
And you always orgasm.

Our communication was
not so good in Thailand.

There is unresolved stuff
between us.

I thought you were meeting
other people, cheating.

I...

No. I blocked her.