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I feel like
I've entered this cute world.

You did all of this yourself.

Yeah, plus, like, a...

Can I use the toilet?

This is definitely gonna
take some time to get used to.

I have irritable bowels.

But being here with Dempsey
in person just feels right.

Mm.

Build the good memories

so that when you have disagreements,

you will tolerate them better.

What really matters
is what your actions are
after this meeting.

Is she really gonna fix
what she's saying
she's gonna fix?

Somebody has to
put the fire down.

She needs to work that
stuff out first before...

Excuse me. Are you guys like
celebrating something tonight?

Your birthday?

In past relationships,

my girlfriends have
understood that I'm just
like a friendly guy,

If this is how
every single day

is to go, I'm just worrying
whether we are compatible.

She's just
squirming around,
looking nervous.

I don't understand this.

This is a major
red flag for me.

You know what?
You don't wanna...

I went back to see if
you were on the app.

You're not my boss.

- Do not talk down to me.
- I don't talk with you.

We stop now, okay?

Okay, beat it. Bye.

Bye! Bye!

I'm done.

So sorry for what happened.

It's my responsibility to

spend the night by
my mom's casket.

Bye-bye.

That really feels...

Uh, David, he has to help me.

And he respect me...

that I want to be alone.

- This mall is so big.
- Yes, it is.

But I know where we're going.

I'm very familiar
with this mall here.

After the session
with our therapist yesterday,

I'm feeling good.
I'm glad we went

because I think it was
productive overall.

- Smells good.
- Right?

Of course I still have
concerns about

the amount of arguing,

but I think Jasmine and I
need to focus on

creating good memories
together so we can

improve our relationship,

you know,
while I'm here in Panama.

This is
where we're going.

Today is my little sister's
Liz's 20th birthday.

And since she has been
living with Gino and I
for these two weeks,

that poor thing had been
dealing with all the crap

that's going on
between Gino and I.

So, Gino agreed on
getting her something special.

I'm gonna take this one.

It's very beautiful.

Okay.

Um...

Okay.

So, since I'm already here...

You already have a ring.

No, I lost it.

I don't really believe that

that she lost
the engagement ring.

That's what I did.

I accidentally lost it.

That's a good question.

Did you like the ring
that I bought you?

It's meaningful,

but it's not a ring
that I would ever
buy it for me.

Or for any other person.

He promised to
upgrade the ring.

That never happened.

So, even before
I lost the ring,

sometimes I was wearing
the previous...

That was nicer.

That's... that's terrible,

that you're wearing a ring
from your previous marriage,
I mean...

But in my mind,
it's not like,

"Oh, this represents me
being engaged to my ex."

I'm even divorced.
I don't care about him.

That's like me wearing like,
a necklace that my ex gave me

- or something.
- What necklace?

Wearing a necklace
that she gave me.

How would you feel
if I did that?

She gave you a necklace?

No, I'm saying
how would you feel?

- if I...
- Do you have a necklace?

Stop comparing everything.

I'm just asking
how you'd feel.

You were being cheap
about replacing it.

You were not giving me
a new one.

So I found a solution.

Oh, my God.

Babe, you don't
need a ring now.

What?

I do need a ring because
I don't have a ring.

It's Liz's birthday.
We should be focusing on that.

I am. I already have a gift.

What's the matter?

What? I told you
I'd buy you a ring

after visa approval

And, uh, before our wedding,
not now.

Do you know,
talking about wedding

and all this K-1 process,

don't use that as an excuse

because we've been
waiting for 12 months.

Like, why is it
taking forever?

Okay.

Immigration says
within 13 months.

Eighty percent of cases
are resolved.

We're not there
at 13 months yet.

But I don't wanna
wait 13 months.

I do believe that...

No. No! I don't need a lawyer.

Because I have waited a lot.

We haven't hit the timing yet.

- That's why.
- Forget about it.

- Timing? 12 months
is more than enough.
- Tell you what.

You give me the money
for the lawyer,

- and I'll get one.
How does that sound?
- I knew that it was

all about the money.

- It is about the money.
- You don't want...

I'm not gonna waste money.

- Do you waste money?
- So am I a waste of money?

It just frustrates me
that Jasmine

even thinks I need
an immigration attorney.

My ex-wife is from Brazil

and I brought her here
to the US on a K-1 visa.

I had no trouble doing it.

So, I know
I can do this myself.

Yeah, I feel like Jasmine's
kinda manipulating me

by trying to convince me
to buy her a ring right now.

And you know, it's...

It's not what I came here for.

What you should be doing
is spending money

on a lawyer to get me
to the United States

- as soon as possible.
- No.

You do not tell me what to do.

I'm the one that did
all the paperwork.

I'm the one that took hours

figuring out how to
fill everything out.

I'm the one
that did everything.

I know what's going on.
You're clueless.

- Why you have to be--
- You have no clue
what's going on.

Why you have to be
a jerk every time?

You better change
your attitude because

we're gonna have some
huge problems coming up.

- But I have--
- Change your attitude.

I have an attitude because--

I'm not ready to buy it.
I'm not ready to buy
a ring today.

You can buy it yourself.

What a jerk.

This is the
she pulls all the time.

That's crazy.

He knows that this K-1 visa

topic is super sensitive
to me.

Twelve months for me waiting
living in the limbo.

And it's shatters my heart
to know

that you know he's not
going to spend any money
that he has

on something as important as

paying for
an immigration lawyer,

to try to accelerate
the process of me

getting a K-1 visa,

and finally being together.

I'm sick and tired of
trying my best.

And I am sick and tired
of that jerk.

I feel like
I mean nothing to him.

- Did you sleep well?
- Uh...

Yeah.

Not used to this kinda cold.

Last night was freezing.

Being cold is
my version of hell.

I wanna take a shower,

but I can't just, like,
hop in and shower.

It doesn't have hot water.

Gotta take a dump
at some point.

What the hell?
Where am I supposed to go?

I don't know.
I feel like I might be
in over my head here.

Good morning.

- You okay?
- Yeah.

- Did you sleep?
- Well...

Uh...

I don't know.

But you're stressed?

I don't...
Maybe a little bit.

What about?

It's just very different.
Everything's very different.

Not used to this kind of cold.

It's my first morning
waking up at the farm.

And Dempsey doesn't have
central heat.

So, last night was freezing.

It was really cold,

and being cold is
my version of hell.

So you don't like it?

Oh, yeah, no, it's nice.

It's good. It's good, yeah.

Just uncomfortable
when you're out of
your comfort zone.

I was so excited
to wake up this morning.

And I was like,
"Oh, my God, like,
you're actually here."

- Shall we get ready?
- Yeah.

But it bothers me that
she saying that she's
uncomfortable.

If she were to say
that she just needs
some time to, like,

settle in 'cause
the surroundings are new,

that's completely
different to saying
that you're uncomfortable.

Like, what's making you
uncomfortable?

Me, or...

the space or what?

Like, I wanted to
feel like, happy here.

But, yeah, what am I
meant to do if she doesn't?

Can't change anything.

We use this like,
clear the energies
in the space.

Sage in here.

All around.
It doesn't smell the best.

All good vibes.

Good vibes.

Whoo!

- Let's go.
- Okay.

Feel like that's
cleaning out something
in my lungs for sure.

People would probably
describe me as
a bit hippified or...

spiritual.

I'm just like,
a holistic person.

So, I protect my energy

Every morning, I put like,
a protective bubble wrap
around me

and a protective shield

'cause I like to be positive.

Feel like you're
saging me behind my back
when I'm not looking.

Can you like, turn around?
I can sage...

Excuse me.

I think that needs
saging a lot, like...

Okay. All right.

That's been places.

That's not offensive at all.

You told me.

Well, okay, I mean...

I can do it again.

I feel like you're really
wanting to do that a lot.

Well, it's just that
the sage is calling it.

- It's not me.
- The sage is calling it?

The sage is sending--
Look how much it's smoking.

Jesus!

Being a slut is
not a bad thing, like...

Well, the sage
says different.

I'm not ashamed
or embarrassed of my history,

my sexual history.
I'm kinda proud
of it, honestly.

It's not that big of a deal.

Uh, but apparently it is
for her, so.

I know it's cold
and stuff in here

so I need to run
get some firewood

- So I'm gonna get changed
- Yeah.

...and let you settle in

and I'm gonna get some wood
and come back.

- Okay.
- Okay.

- Yeah, I guess so.
- Yeah?

I'll just
roam around, I guess.

When you're
with somebody,

you, like, think of the future

and, you know,
what it can hold for you.

So I'm worried that Statler

might not get used
to farm life.

But I really like it here.

I love just being
in the middle of nowhere.

It's just and easy...
easy life.

Like, it's...
it's a slow life.

I've always lived in caravans

like, um, most of my life.

My family,
we moved around a lot,

part of
the travelling community

that travels around
with fairground rides,

what Americans call carnival.

My family is part
of the Showmen's Guild.

My grandparents,
their grandparents,

it run back for generations
and generations.

So we go from place to place

and we would
organize the carnivals

with all our rides
and food stalls and...

and then we would
pull everything down and then

My parents
had three daughters.

We were like best friends.

Unfortunately, when I was 16,

uh...

my big sister died.

And she was 19.

She got carbon monoxide poison
in her sleep

and never woke up.

Uh...

Yeah, so that
really affected me.

I left home when I was 18.

I just was so unhappy,
I couldn't...

I just couldn't live
that life anymore

without my sister being there.

So I was just, like...

staying on friend's couches,

moved around a lot
from house to house.

I was just so unsettled
within myself.

I... No way... I just know
I was making me happy.

But then I met my friend Ben

on the farm in Darlington,

told him my situation
and stuff like that

and he said, "Do you wanna
just stay and have a job?"

So I was like,
"Yeah, all right",

as I literally
have nothing to lose.

I worked for the business
which is called Kip and Nook.

And it's, like,
shipping containers

converted into living spaces

and it's like
a staycation business

what we would call in England.

I think everything
that happens

to everybody in their lives
happens for a reason.

And you can either sit
and dwell on it

or you can be positive
and take every opportunity

and look at
the brighter side of it.

That way your life
would be better.

Jeez, what the heck's
going on out there?

Ugh.

Doing some kind of
construction out there.

Ugh. Yikes.

Little louder, please.

I feel like I was
pretty positive last night

because I was just,
kind of, shell-shocked,

but now I'm like, settled in
and it's like,

"Wait a second."
There's like less space,
you know, realizing.

I wanna take a shower

but I can't just, like,
hop into the shower.

Doesn't have hot water.

Gotta take a dump
at some point.

Like, I'm hoping I don't have
to take one

while she's gone
or she's gonna walk back
and see me

squatted in a field, like...

or with this guy watching.

Like, what the hell.
Where am I supposed to go?

Dempsey doesn't know
that I wanna move in with her.

But I'm realizing
that I'm not comfortable here.

I am freezing cold.

I don't feel like there's
a lot of space for me.

I'm out in the middle
of nowhere.

So I'm not sure
about living in her caravan.

And that scares me

because I don't really have
another plan.

My lease is about to end

and, you know, I've got
all my eggs
in this one basket.

Oh, boy.

I don't know, I feel like
I might be
in over my head here.

She sent me
a message last night.

Then I blocked her.

"You trampled and insult me.

You don't deserve
to be a man."

Wow. Okay.

I'm not sure
if this relationship
can be salvaged

or if I even want it
to be salvaged

or she wants it
to be salvaged.

It was supposed to just be
a nice...

evening together.

A real date, you know?

Just enjoying
each other's company...

and it turned into...

It turned into fireworks.

Uh... I don't...

It wasn't supposed to be that.

From last night, it was not
supposed to be that.

I've been in Vietnam
about a week now

and last night Violet
and I had

a big blowout
at the restaurant

I really wish
things didn't get so heated

but I felt insulted.

I'm upset more at myself

for letting me, myself

get so angry,
uh, get so upset,

that I'mma have an outburst
like that in public

in a foreign country.

I regret that.

But I don't regret
telling her...

pretty much I'm not putting up
with the nonsense any more.

So I blocked her.

I really have nothing
to say to her.

Okay.

She sent me
a message last night.

Then I blocked her.

I didn't even read it...

the message from last night.

I should read it, huh?

"You are supposed
to protect me.

Over here you trampled
and insult me.

You don't deserve
to be a man."

Wow, okay.

Um, "If you come to Vietnam
to meet my family,

my family is allowed
to ask you

and when I come
to your country

you are allowed to ask me.

You want to know me.

You have an uneducated,
unscrupulous attitude.

If you're like that,
you should go away."

So that sounds like
I'm not allowed

to ask any questions at all.

It's her way.

It's everything
what she wants.

I not built that way.

It's really disappointing

because for the last two years,

Violet and I have been talking
about being together

and being a family.

And I'm not sure
if this relationship
can be salvaged

or if I even want it
to be salvaged

or she wants it
to be salvaged.

...but it won't be
because I reach out to her.

She will have to make a effort
to meet with me.

She will have to apologize.

She will have
to do the talking.

She will have
to explain herself to me.

I have nothing
to explain to her.

Like, you know,
when we got there,

we're having a good time,

we're getting
to know each other.

And I still think
we're on a...

Just seemed like you were
really overwhelmed.

I already
had some worries

about how he's gonna deal
with the fact

that I'm trans, but now
I'm also having to worry

about how being on a spectrum
affects our relationship.

And I feel like
everywhere that we go

this is gonna be, like,
a common occurrence.

Don't worry.
I've got you in good hands.

There
are cars coming.

Our fighting
back and forth

should not affect
Liz's birthday.

Ah!

Let's go!

I hope that Jasmine
can see that too.

So where are we going now?

- Do they, like, sell, uh,
like, mushrooms or something?
- No.

It's been two days

since Christian
arrived in London

and so far things have been

both good and bad.

Have you ever
been shopping here before?

Yeah, definitely.

- I come here quite often.
- Right on.

I hope we cam
kinda find us a little extra

- or something like that.
- Yeah.

Last night
we had our first date.

It didn't necessarily go well.

When we got home,
I literally passed out.

There was not any...

of... you know, intimacy.

Is there anything
that you like?

I'm trying
to see, like,

Sure.

I'm feeling
disappointed that right now

I'm just hoping
that we can leave

yesterday's date behind us

and have
a cute morning together

exploring one of my
favorite places in London.

Oh, crystals.
I love me some crystals.

Oh my God, I've been wanting
one of this

for the longest time.

Yeah? Right now
it probably looks like
you're showing...

You're... you're honed
right in on that.

Yes.

Sure, yeah.
She went right there.

- I probably go over here or...
- So what would
that be good for?

Like,
a relationship?

Oh, I need me
some of that.

Right on.

- Let me get it for you.
I'll buy for you.
- No. No baby.

No,
I'll buy for you.
Something you can remember me.

I'll buy it to you.

- All right.
- Yeah.

Thank you. I appreciate that.

Oh, thank you.

- Thank you.
- Yeah, absolutely.

Cool.

- Have a nice day.
Have a good lunch.
- You too. Take care. Goodbye.

Here.

Our first date

wasn't exactly flawless.

Her being autistic,
she's told me

some of the things
that can affect her

on a daily basis.

But, being in person

noticing these things

and experiencing them
with her,

there's things that I need
to learn more about

and understand more
about her as well.

And maybe
last night at the bar

I was pushing her too hard

to do something
that she wasn't
comfortable with.

But I hope that we can kinda
turn things around.

I'd like to order
the half-ribs.

- She's going to get
the cod and chips.
- Okay.

Because I don't want last night

to be something
that kinda overshadows

the rest of our trip together.

Oh, thank you.

- Oh, wonderful.
- Have fun.

Thank you, brother.

- All right. Well,
these chips are for sharing.
- Yes.

Let me cut you
a little piece of...

There you go.

- Let's try. You wanna feed me?
- Yeah.

Do it.

- Mmm.
- How is it? Do you like it?

I like that a lot.
I need that whole thing.

Yeah, so you liked it a lot?

I'm so happy.

This is literally
one of my favorite
British foods so...

- Okay, I guess probably good
for a hangover too.
- It's like a... Yeah.

Oh, that's perfect today.

- Those were huge drinks.
I mean, they...
- Yeah.

They're pretty heavy handed
on the porch there.

It felt like, you know,
when we got there,

we're having a good time,
we're getting to know
each other,

you know, out and about.

And, I would say,
they were, um...

Just seemed like
you were really overwhelmed.

Maybe it's just me being...

cliche or...

I don't know,
boring or whatever,

but I feel,

like, a first date
with a girl,

you kind of wanna make it
about you two.

And you felt the need

to make it about

- a larger group of girls.
- But I didn't.

I didn't... I didn't care
about talking to those girls.

You know, like I don't
want you to feel like

I was giving you, like,
the cold shoulder.

But you didn't
not really include me

in the conversation
other than mentioning my name.

I wouldn't go on
a first date with you

and then start talking to,
like, a group of dudes

and sit next to them

and tell them I'm from Italy
and everything

when I'm literally there
to get to know you.

I get that.

I mean, I...
I feel kind of stupid.

Of course, I already
had some worries

about how,

you know, he's gonna deal
with the fact that I am trans

but now I'm also having
to worry

about how
being on the spectrum

affects our relationship
and I fear

that if I let him know

that I wasn't
100 per cent comfortable

in that place,

I could turn him off.

You know, at some point
through the night

I did have a good time.

I just did not
like the place...

and I feel that was, like,
the biggest issue for me.

Those parts
which I really enjoy,

because there's more freeway
and you can move around.

But that place was so tiny
and claustrophobic.

Sure.

I was kinda worried
the date would

damper on the rest
of our trip, in a way.

- Why?
- I don't know. I... I...
I feel like

you'd have fears
that everywhere that we go

this is gonna be, like,
a common occurrence

or might be hesitant to go out

to a place again with me.

But, like, the way you feel...

like, it matters to me too.

Like, I... I wanna make sure

you're able to experience
as much of the things

that you would want to.

I'm sensitive.

I can be very picky
about certain things.

This trip isn't just about me,
it's about us.

I didn't come here
to just go see London

and have you join me

you know, as my arm candy.

You know, I came here
to have a good time with you.

I just want you
to be happy and I...

I am. I mean,
this has been fun.

This has been nice.

I like Christian
and, of course, I hope

that things will work out.

But I do worry

whether this is all
proving to be
a little too much for him.

You're not gonna
dampen my sparkle

by just being who you are,
you know, and telling me

that something's
uncomfortable for you.

Last night I have learnt
something about you

and, like, going forward,
it's definitely gonna be

a situation
that I'm not gonna forget.

It... It's trial and error.

Oh!

Coco, take care of the house.

All right,
so let's go have
a good birthday for Liz.

- She deserves it.
- Yes, I know.

All right.

Do you feel one...

one year wiser now?

What?

Do you feel... But may be
you can tell her, but...

Do you feel one...
one year wiser?

Oh, it's just a saying.

I've had a lot of time

to think about what happened

this morning
at the jewelry store.

And Jasmine's behavior
was not okay today.

But, you know,
I've been reflecting

on myself and I believe

I could have
handled it better.

I feel like I'm the president
or something in this car.

I just reacted to her anger

with, you know,
anger of my own,

which is exactly

what the therapist told me
not to do.

So I really don't know

where I stand
with Jasmine right now

but our fighting
back and forth

should not affect
Liz's birthday.

And I hope that Jasmine
can see that too.

Are you, uh, excited
to ride the bicycles?

What do you call this,
the causeway?

Yes,
this is a causeway.

How come
you never took me here?

Gino, we just came here
a few days ago.

How you don't remember?

Uh-huh.

Sure it was me?

I'm still mad
at Gino

for the argument we have

this morning
at the jewelry store.

It is one thing

that he doesn't wanna
spend money on the ring,

but it is another thing

refusing to pay
for an immigration lawyer.

It feels like Gino
has no urgency

to bring me to United States.

So I feel like
I'm more invested

on this relationship
than he is.

We're here.

Even though
I'm still mad at Gino,

it's my sister's birthday

and she deserve to have
a good evening.

So now I just wanna have fun.

These are
such cool little bikes.

- Oh!
- I like this one.

- Uh, Liz can go in
- Yeah.

- Okay.
- If you want to,
you know,

you can even paddle,
paddle to help us.

Wait, don't go without me.

Wait.

You ready?

Uh, don't worry,
I've got you in good hands.

You're in good hands.

you got Liz. Fire power.
Good hands, I was just...

hit by a branch.

I'm glad I'm with someone
like you that has strong legs.

All right, ready, let's go.
It's gonna cross this.

Are you sure about...

You have-- We have--

- Babe-- Babe,
there are cars coming.
- Don't worry.

- Go ahead.
- You have
the brakes.

Let's go.

- Ah!
- Let's go.

Whoo!

Is this fun or what?

Eh.

Babe-- Gino, if you're tired,
let me know.

I don't want you to have
a heart attack.

Baby, you think
I'm some kind of old,
shriveled up prune.

- Yes, you never have--
- I'm not.

But you have-- never have
conditions for sex.

Why would you have
for riding bike?

I don't have what?

- You never have good
physical condition for sex.
- Yes, I do.

- I'm always in condition,
you always orgas--
- Why--

Now, um...

Baby, that's something
we need to talk about.

Why?

Okay, just for the record,

when we have sex,

I have never had an orgasm
with you.

Yes, you have.

- I--
- I fake it.

No, you don't. I--

- I fake it.
- No, you don't.

I swear to God.

No, you don't.

I fake my orgasms,
I'm telling you.

Why are you...

What?

This is the mood
that I was hoping for tonight.

Liz and Jasmine are laughing, smiling.

Let's go.

It's moments like this
that prove that

we can put
our differences aside

and have a good time together.

Oh, no.

Did we cause that?

Is that our fault?

Whoo! I love this thing.

I mean,
this is like the point
in the evening

where, you know, you put on
the baby making playlist.

- Baby making?
- Yeah.

Not sure how that's gonna work
with me.

I feel like, you know,

things are a little bit
more awkward

because I've never been
with a trans woman before.

Are we gonna be compatible
intimately?

I mean, I think...

Mmm.

Hi.

- Yeah, yeah.
- You hugging?

- Sure.
- Oh, my God.

Ben is my friend,
I love him very much.

I'm feeling nervous,

because I can't imagine
being with someone

that Ben doesn't get
along with.

Dating app.
I like, uh, English girls.

- This is the farm.
- Yeah.

Is it as cold
as you thought?

It's colder.
Yeah, a lot colder.

Everything's different, huh?
- Yeah.

Statler seems
a little bit nervous
about the caravan.

I think that she has
this perception

that it's just like
a dirty little farm
that stinks.

And, uh,

it's actually
a very beautiful place
to live.

And people
from all over England
come and stay.

It's stunning.

So I'm super excited to show
Statler around the farm,

introduce her to people,

and get to know a bit
more about my life,

and my way of living.

There's like,
some smoke coming out
of there.

- What is that?
- Oh, yeah.

So that's the containers.

That's like, the staycation,
where the people stay.

The guest's in there.

- Wow, that's nice.
- And like, they have hot tubs.

- That's really cool.
- Yeah, it's really cool.

A typical day for me,

I would get up
around 5:30,

clean like, the containers.

So I do like, housekeeping,
I do the cooking.

I love cooking.

- So excited for you
to see in here.
- So--

- Yeah.
- It's such
a cool space.

After you.

Wow,
this is really modern.

Yeah,
it's cool, isn't it?

Yeah, very cool.

This is like,
a chill out area.

So in-- in--
on the night time,
I come in here,

talk to the guests,

and we like, make pizzas.

Well, I make pizzas.
The guests eat the pizzas.

Ah, very nice.

And then,
this space is super cool,
in here.

Yeah,
we can play pool in here.

The guests come in here
and play pool.

- Nice.
- Jenga,
and then the TV.

- You like it?
- Yeah, it's awesome.

- Ben!
- Oh, my God.

- Hi.
- Dempsey, you look good.

- Yes.
- Long time.

I've missed them hugs.

- Hi.
- Statler.

- This is--
Yeah, this is Statler
- Yeah.

- You hugging?
- Yeah, sure, sure.

- Hi-- How are you--
- Oh, my God.
How you doing?

- You all right?
- How are you?
Yeah, good. How are you?

- How's things?
- Yeah, good,
you know.

Ben is my friend.

He owns the company
where I work.

He's like a main character
in my life,

I love him very much.

He's seen me go through,
through a lot.

So I'm feeling nervous
at this point,

because I know that
Statler can be quiet
and awkward at times.

And I can't imagine
being with someone

that Ben doesn't get
along with.

Ah.

So where are you
actually from?

You're obviously
from the States,

I can hear
you've got a bit of a twang.

Yeah.

- You've got a little bit
of an accent.
- Ah.

Yeah, I'm from Texas.

- No way.
- Yeah, yeah.

So, you guys,
how did you exactly meet?

Uh, dating app. Yeah.

- No way.
- I like, uh, English girls.

So you came all the way here
just to see Dempsey?

Just for her, yeah.

- Wow.
- I think it was just the--
the last thing, you know?

'Cause our-- our conversations
are going so well,

- the emotional thing
was there.
- Mmm-hmm.

So it was just
the physical thing
that was missing and--

Sure.

She blushes a lot,
doesn't she?

And she's also
fidgeting an awful lot

- with her scarf.
- Yeah.

So it means
you've already had
the physical already.

- And you've been here for...
- Ben.

What,
I'm just saying like,

you've only been here a day
and you're already physical.

Like, it's mad.

Like,
I'm a fast mover, but like.

Well,
one thing lead to another.

- We had a little kiss
and then it just...
- I get that.

I actually haven't seen
Dempsey this excited
in a long time.

- But like-- Yeah.
- Oh, wow, well,
that's a good sign, isn't it?

You're like,
super like, cool, poker face,
calm and collected,

- hands in pockets,
like, just...
- Yeah.

And Dempsey's just like,
fun around everywhere.

A cyber relationship.

I think it--
I think it's nuts, for me.

Nevermind different countries overseas.

And plus, I'm super surprised
that they hooked up.

Statler's super different
to Dempsey.

Like, I would say
they are chalk and cheese.

Chalk and cheese.

So chalk,
as in like a whiteboard,

chalking,

and cheese,
as in like cheese you'd eat.

So basically,
they're just two opposites
to each other.

I mean,
Dempsey looks super happy,

but they've been
chatting online for like,
however long,

and then they've hung out
for two days.

You can't be fully sure
of someone

when you've only known someone
for 48 hours.

Give it a week,
give it two weeks' time.

Things may be very different.

How was Thailand, by the way?

Ah, I absolutely loved it.

- It's so nice, yeah.
- How'd you get on?

Things were going good,
my dad left,

made my way up North
to Chiang Mai.

- Stayed in, like,
the hostels and stuff...
- Yeah?

...making friends.

What did you think to Dempsey
being in Thailand for so long?

Did you chat to her much?
You keep in touch, or...

Ah, the communication
was kind of crappy
towards the end,

but she was living
her best life, so...

- Yeah, definitely,
you've gotta let her be.
- Yeah.

The communication being off
in Thailand

did make me feel
pretty rejected.

I felt like she was, you know,
just wild and free and...

It makes me
kind of question, like,

did some stuff happen there?

I do still feel insecure.

So I'm trying
to work up my nerves
to ask her tonight.

But I'm feeling
pretty anxious about it.

I haven't seen Dempsey
for so long either,

- and obviously like--
- I missed you.

- Come here, you.
- Mmm.

And then, uh,

obviously now,
I was thinking that--

I was expecting her
to be happy,

'cause she's been away.

- I've never been happier.
- Not this happy.

Oh.

- That's good.
- Yeah.

Typically, I'm the guy
who waits for the girl

- to make the first move, like...
- Oh.

Christian has always been
very forward,

and you know, flirtatious.

So, for him to now say that

he's somebody
who likes to wait,

I don't buy it.

Like, if I go in for a kiss,
and the girl like, denies it,

like, I feel like,
really crushed.

Well, we've kissed before.

She's beautiful,
but she's crazy.

She's--

Okay.

At this moment,
I don't know where we're at.

And last night,
I wanted to take
a flight home.

I got very angry
and I blocked her.

Come on.
You need to apologize.

- Yeah, I mean--
- She should be the one
who blocking you.

♪ You are the one
That makes me feel young ♪

♪ You are the one for me ♪

- I do, I found it.
- Oh, cool.

Might bust the candles out.

- I'll just make it like,
a little more romantic.
- Oh.

I mean,
this is probably like
the point in the evening

where, you know,
you put on the--

like the sexy sex music.

Do we have any
sexy sex music?

- That'd be kind of weird,
wouldn't it?
- Yeah.

No, I do not have like,
a baby making playlist.

Baby making?

Yeah, you know,
something special,

some cute music to play.

Not sure how that's gonna work
with me.

Uh-- oh, really? Okay.

That's good to know.
Noted. Um...

I'm gonna grab
the candles, too.

Gotta find a lighter.

Cool.

- Here's the bottle, ma'am.
- Nice.

I really wanna do
something special
just for the two of us.

So I suggested
that we stay in tonight,

and hopefully fix
some mistakes

that we had last night.

Cheers to...

- A romantic night in. Yeah.
- ...a romantic night in.

So what should we do?

Well, I actually did bring
something kind of special,

something that
maybe you haven't
experienced before.

Oh, seems nice.

Gotta go upstairs,
I will be right back.

We're having
this cozy night in,

you know, it's more intimate,
we can actually talk,

and not having the pressure

of being surrounded
by a lot of people.

So, this is definitely
feeling more like,

a first date to me
than yesterday.

So I would be open
to him making the first move,

and I hope he does.

Ooh, what's that?

Okay, so,

this is VR headset.

- I've never ever
tried VR before.
- Very cool.

It's like, really techy,
really cool.

I brought my VR headset
with me.

Having her experience
VR for the first time,

is definitely something
that brings us back

to when we were first
starting to talk.

We both enjoy video games
a whole lot,

and I think
it's really romantic
sharing hobbies together,

or things that we both find interesting.

- Oh, my God.
- Okay, stay right here,
don't move.

- All right.
- No-- No matter what,

nothing can hurt you,
it's not real.

It's hard to believe
when it's literally 3D.

Why does it not die?

Well, they're zombies.

Good shot.

You're crack shot, babe.

It's so much fun.

It's incredible,

It literally feels
like reality,

but with less detail...

...which makes it
less overwhelming.

But I actually think
virtual reality was really
cool for me.

Very nice.

There you go.
Shoot 'em right in the face.

Yep. Yeah,
you're doing really good.

- Like, I'm just having
a good time.
- Cool.

- Actually, you look--
You look kind of cool.
- All right.

Oh, that sucks.

I think I did pretty well,

'cause I got to like,
the next stage.

Yeah,
you did pretty good.

- You got a little--
- My hair looks
really crazy, yeah.

No, your hair looks fine.

It's just,
your face is a little red.

Cool.

- Let's cheers
to a good day now.
- That's right.

There are times
where I feel like,

you know,
things are a little bit
more awkward

than they should be.

And a lot of that stems
just from the pressure

that I'm putting on myself
to finally be intimate.

Babe?

I'm just getting changed,
I'll be out in a second.

But I really
wanna take things slow,

because I've never been
with a trans woman before.

Are we gonna be compatible
intimately?

Am I gonna be comfortable
with her anatomy?

I just don't know
how that's all gonna go.

So, if we were to rush
into intimacy,

and I wasn't comfortable
with it,

or she wasn't comfortable
with it,

I don't want it to be,
you know, be a deal breaker.

Oh, you look cute.

- Can you give a little twirl?
- Sure.

- Thanks.
- You look cute, too.

Thank you.

- Cool.
- Yeah.

- How do you--
- What up?

Huh?

- What up?
- Nothing, nothing.
I'm just, uh...

just, uh,
getting ready for bed, um...

- I had a great time tonight.
- Yeah?

- Yeah.
- Yeah, me too.

That-- That's definitely
why you're fun.

You know, just a night in,

good company
and playing video games.

- And a bottle of wine.
- Yeah.

Yeah, made up for yesterday.

Yeah.

I mean, I feel like
this is like a weird question.

I mean, I think we
both are obviously
attracted to each other.

I have a feeling
but I might be wrong, but...

No, no you're right.
You're totally right.

But also I don't mind like

the fact that we're still
hanging out and getting to
know each other in person.

Yeah, same and obviously
it's good to know that

I guess we both you know
are attracted to each other.

Yeah, definitely.

Yeah, I don't want you
to think that like, I'm less
attracted to you because

I haven't tried
to like initiate

anything intimate, uh,

typically I'm kind of the guy
who waits for the girl to make
the first move like...

Oh... Oh well that is not...
'cause I never
make the first move.

Okay, all right. I get that
like I totally get that but
at the same time it's like

I kind of like to feel
wanted and

you know, like if I go
in for a kiss and
the girl like

denies it, like I feel
like really crushed.

We have kissed before.

Well, I know that but
like if I was

you know so like, you know
start grabbing your legs

grabbing your butt, and all of
a sudden like, you're like,

"Yeah, I think we're moving
a little too fast."

It'll kind of like,
set me back a little bit.

I don't know, maybe
it's just something that
you know, we'll just have to

let happen when it happens.

Well it's... Well it's like
we'll just have to see
I guess.

- Yeah.
- Yeah.

Okay, um, see ya. I'm getting
the paycheck.

I'll get the lights.

What I think that I've known
about Christian since the
beginning was that

you know, affection and PDA
are super vital things to him.

And since the beginning
of our, you know, talking
to each other, Christian

has always been very forward
and, you know flirtatious

for him to now to say,

that he's somebody who
likes to wait

for women to make the
first move

I don't buy it.

And of course that makes
me quite insecure.

- Good night.
- Good night, baby.

- Hey!
- Hello, this is
gonna be great.

Hi, I'm Riley.

Nice to meet you.
Thank you for this.

- Thank you, thank you.
This is going to be great.
- Yeah.

I haven't spoken
to Violet since the
fight last night

but I'm already here in
Vietnam and not gonna
sit in the hotel.

So, tonight I decided that
I'm going to venture out in
the Ho Chi Min City.

So, I hired a tour guide
to take me around on his bike.

This is crazy.

You know,
it's really weird because
I ride motorcycles but,

riding in a city like,
Ho Chi Minh City

and with all the activity
on the road, I'm losing
my mind.

I'm enjoying myself.

I just wanna make
it from A to B.in one piece.

Ho Chi Minh city
is a beautiful city

and it really sucks that,
I'm not experiencing this
with Violet right now.

At this moment I don't
know where we're at

and last night to be
honest I wanted to take
a flight home.

But I had time to think
about it and I

feel bad about my reaction
to things.

In the past I've had girl
friends that were not very
honest with me.

And, I've been hurt.

So, I'm already there were
I don't necessarily trust

everything I'm told,
everything I see.

So, I might have been
a little too sensitive within
the situation,

but I want to navigate
this with the most clarity
going forward.

All right, thank you.

Thank you.

Are you... you doing anything?

How about you
go out with me?

How about you come have
a cigar with me, because uh...

Yeah, I'm here by myself.

All right.

Oh, wow.

Wow, this is... wow.

- Nice place, huh?
- Yes, nice.

We chose a good one.

- We gotta sit here.
- Wow.

- Hi.
- Hi. How are you today?

- Good, how are you?
- I'm good thanks.

Can we do

two double shot um,

- Cube of ice.
- Yes.

- Uh, you want.
- The same?

- Same, same.
- Yeah.

All right, thank you.

- Uh, cheers.
- Cheers.

- So how long have you
been here?
- Six days.

You know, I came
to meet someone.

- Wow.
- Yeah.

She's beautiful
but she's uh, she's crazy.

Uh, okay.

I don't know. I don't
understand women here.

We had a argument, 'cause uh,

my friend who I consider
my sister, asked
her a question.

What did she ask?

Um, I met her on an app.

- And uh... Yeah.
- Dating app? All right.

And one day I said,
let me see your
sister on the app

and I went on the app
and she was still on the app.

- Okay.
- So my friend
asked her

- Uh...
- what happened?

So the thing is...

Okay.

So from what I'm understanding
she would have been
more accepting

of that question if that
came from my father

than a friend.

- Who have the right,
real right.
- Who has the real right.

Yeah.

I don't know if I...
if she tries to explain
that to me

and I just wasn't hearing it
because I was so upset.

When her tone to me,
how she was speaking to me

- Right?
- Yeah.

Yeah, yeah.

Yeah.

- I regret it. I regret
my action.
- All right.

You need to apologize.
I think.

Well, last night when
it happened, I got very angry
and I blocked her.

I think I blocked her.

- Come on she should be the one
whose blocking you.
- Yeah, I mean...

Even when I think
I'm right, I'm wrong.

- So, here's what you
need to do.
- Okay, I'm listening.

- You need to unblock her
as you know.
- Yeah.

Thank you, I'm listening.
You know, 'cause I... I

I came here to discover
our relationship

to hopefully move it forward.

That's if she forgives me.

Biggest.

Ah!

Even though, Violet hasn't
been really open
about her past,

I'm starting to realize that
maybe I've been going about
it the wrong way.

I need to rethink my approach
when it comes to Violet.

But in the meantime,
I'm making the first move
unblocking her

accepting my part
and my role in what happened.

Because, at the end of the
day I don't wanna throw away
the last two years

and we owe it to each other
to make this thing work.

I hope that she's
open to meeting with me

because after everything that
happened last night, I'm just
hoping that I...

don't lose her.

Cheers. Thank you, Tommy.

- You're... You're the best
tour guy ever.
- Thanks.

So, before we have ice-cream

I have something here
for you Jasmine.

What is it?

Well...

Yay.

- Look man, no hands.
- Gino!

Always with
the stupidity.

- Whoo!
- Strong finish.

The brakes.

- Brake.
- Okay.

Uh, that was fun.

Tonight,
Jasmine and I put our
differences aside

and now we're feeling
good and positive.

Hey, whose up for
an ice-cream?

Liz, do you like ice-cream?

Obviously,
one good night is not gonna
fix all of our problems.

But I just wanna get
back on track.

It's like, what the
therapist told us, improving
our relationship

focusing on ourselves
and trying to improve
on ourselves.

Instead of pointing
the finger at each other.

So...

Before we have ice cream,

I have something for you
here, Jasmine.

What is it?

Well...

I think you might like it.

If I can open it. Um...

It's a ring.

This is a promise ring,

that I will try harder

to do better and you know...

avoid arguments with you
as much as I can

and to uh, give you more

uh, what do I say, meat.

And, uh... you know,

you know, all the things
the counsellor told us.

You know, do better
so we can have
a better future

be married and be happy.

What do you think?

Do you like it?

I do.

Oh, baby.

I snuck away
when we were

at the plaza where they
have the bikes.

There was like
a vendor selling many
different things.

And then I see this ring
and it just stood out
and I was like

"Wow, you know,
I wanna get this for Jasmine."

I thought he was going to pee.

Go and get us
ice-cream.

It's the promise ring,
it's not engagement ring.

But when Jasmine
gets to the U.S.A

I will buy an engagement
ring for Jasmine.

But you know what,

I like the ring because,
it has two hearts,

one heart represent you

- and the other heart is me.
- Yeah.

Uh... You are romantic,
I like when he is romantic.

He surprise me.

Like she's holding?

Okay.

Uh, for me, um...

Me, I'll order mine after.

I'll order mine later.

I used to know the word.

We have had
a lot of arguments

but just seeing that
this time it's Gino the one
you know, making the effort

means a lot.

But I know that I cannot
put all the blame on Gino.

I also need to work

on a lot of things to make
this work.

- That one?
- Which one.

I didn't... I didn't touch it
with my tongue, I promise.

Our communication was
not so good in Thailand.

There is unresolved
stuff between us.

I thought you were
meeting other people

cheating.

I am available.

You like mashed
potatoes?

- I love mashed potatoes.
- I know.

Tonight, Dempsey
is making me dinner
for the first time.

So this is gonna be my
first vegan meal
made by Dempsey.

But I think her level
of cooking is different
than mine.

I'm more of like a
microwave person.

So, I'm not very good
at chopping things

not super great and helping
but I'm gonna give it my all.

Am I doing it right?

Jesus, wow, you're good
at this.

Here's your garlic slice.

- Thank you.
- I love garlic.

I don't know,
I kind of like it.

You like it raw.

I love it raw.

- Really?
- I dare you to eat
the full garlic.

I know, I like them apples.

Oh, it's rough. It's rough.

Shut up.

Why is it spicy?

- Because it's garlic. Yeah.
- Oh.

Oh, God, 'cause my tongue...
my tongue is on fire.

You have a hospital nearby?

- Oh, that's not good.
- No!

I'm dead.

Oh, Christ. It still hurts.
It seriously hurts,
still hurts.

Things are going
really well. I feel very
comfortable with her.

- Do you want some wine?
Maybe, yeah.
- Maybe.

It's probably a good idea.

But there is unresolved
stuff between us.

So, I feel like in order
for us to have a good
foundation to start off with

we just need to have
everything that's in the past,
sorted out.

Yeah, okay.

- Cheers.
- Cheers to you as well.
Mostly you.

Mmm-hmm.

Okay.

- We're feeling the love,
the good energy.
- Feeling...

Yeah.

I wasn't expecting things
to go so well
as they're going.

Why?

Because, um, our communication
was not so good in Thailand
I thought.

Yeah, it wasn't.
I'm sorry about that.

Yeah, I just felt like
maybe you were,

doing other things
meeting other people.

- Cheating. I don't know.
- What? Cheating?

Mmm-hmm.

Why would you say that?

It's like we went from
a lot of communication,
like we talked everyday

but as soon as your dad left
it just went like
it just went downhill.

I told you before I went like,

I'm not going to be speaking
to you as much

the time is so different,
I don't have Wi-Fi there.

Wasn't gee, it blows my
mind that you
would think that.

- Oh, you didn't meet
anyone else.
- No.

It doesn't even cross
into my mind.

To meet anybody else.

Right, but that's easy
for someone to say

everyone has said that,
you know what I mean.

I'm just used to,

people are saying
that and then

I have cheated on someone
once. Yeah.

- So, I've never cheated
on anybody,
- Yep.

ever.

It's a bit of a
red flag for her to say,
yes, she cheated

because I'm a massive trusting
person. I don't believe
in cheating

I've been cheated
on in the past

It's not something that,

would even cross my
mind to do.

I do think that if I'm
gonna be getting accused of

doing things that
I haven't done

and just there's
no trust there

it could just ruin
the whole thing.

Why would you even feel
that I would even,

do something like that?

I guess, I'm just um...

putting my past relationships
on to you.

Where I... Where I have
been cheated on.

I'm not gonna do that.

- 'Cause you're so into me.
- Yeah.

Oh!

This is just embarrassing.
I... I'm embarrassed that I'm
not healed as I should be.

Can't be south
about stuff. You just
have to learn from that.

I want us to grow together,
I don't want us to go

back, I want us to go forward.

Like, you make me laugh
so much, you make me happy.

You really make me happy.

You make me happy too.

Sorry.

It's extremely hard
for me to trust people.

Just from like, being adopted
and being rejected like a lot
during my life.

But, she gives me
all the things that I really
really need.

Like, reassurance and safety.

And at the end of this
whole trip,

I want to convince her
to let me move in with her.

By tomorrow, I'm supposed
to meet her dad.

Which makes me extremely
nervous because he is her
best friend

and he doesn't know
anything about me.

I have to have his approval

or our entire relationship
could be for nothing.

Next time on,
Before The 90 days...

Do you know, he is
so into having a super
romantic night.

Oh, my God.

Uh-huh, ah...

You've been a bad, bad girl.

There was lot that was
said last night.

And I'm feeling just
super confused.

Okay, what do you
want me to do with you?

We are not communicating
the same way that we have
been on the phone and I have

no idea what to do.

You don't care
about how I feel.
You're not...

I don't even know
if you're ever like listening.

Hey!

I'm nervous about
meeting Razwan's friends

especially a female friend
that I've never even heard of.

I'm in love with him.

When I look in your eyes
and after I look was,
in Razwan's eyes

it was like, "I love you
so much but I want
to kill you right now."

It's a toxic relationship.

I am about to meet her
dad and he has no clue that
we're in a relationship.

- Yeah, yeah.
- Statler has a thing for
English girls.

So this my second time
coming to England to meet
an... an English woman.

Things needs to slow down.

You okay?

What happened?

I feel like I have
been manipulated.

At this point, there's a slim
chance of relationship
right now.

I'm worried about you going.

Last week, the real Carmella
told me she'd be open
to meeting.

It could be possible.

I don't know what to expect
but meeting her

could bring me one step
closer in getting the
closure that I need.