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[upbeat music]
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- Four newlywed couples
took a daring leap
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of faith to find love.
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They married
complete strangers.
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♪
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- ♪ There's nowhere
else I'd rather be ♪
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- Last time, the honeymoons
continued in Mexico.
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- What is this?
- Oh, thank you!
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- We've spent so much time
talking about ways
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of showing affection.
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- Yeah.
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- I decided to go
back to basics.
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- That was so, so sweet.
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I will not cry,
but that was sweet.
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♪
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- I sometimes am
a little too sarcastic,
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and I'm used
to speaking my mind
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and not having
any repercussions
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on anyone but myself.
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But I really want to be
more cognizant of, like,
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the effects it has
on us together.
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- Yeah, I appreciate that.
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- I was raised Jewish,
but I'm personally agnostic.
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- We might have differences
in those areas.
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- I feel like, by us
building a foundation on all
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of the other aspects
of our relationship,
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we will be able
to get through a lot.
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- I agree 100%.
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- There's nothing I can do.
- Yeah.
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- I don't know what more
I can say to really explain it,
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but I can't move past this.
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- I'm sorry to hear that.
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[dramatic music]
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- [crying]
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- ♪ Going home
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- Tonight, our couples
return home to Denver...
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- You ready
to see our new apartment?
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- And move in together...
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- Hello!
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- As real life
is about to begin.
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- There we go!
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- Giddyap, cowboy!
- You look good.
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- Gee, I didn't know
this about you.
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- If you'd just ask.
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- We do live pretty
close to each other,
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so I was just thinking
we'd, like, move
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back into our normal spots.
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- What would probably
make more sense
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is to move into my place
while we wait
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to maybe buy something.
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[dramatic music]
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- I just need you to tell
me if you're physically
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attracted to me or not.
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- I just can't do it.
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- I didn't ever really
anticipate, like,
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a lot of what's happening.
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- There is no romance
within me anymore.
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♪
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- Do you want a divorce?
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♪
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- ♪ It's all or nothing
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- This is
"Married at First Sight."
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- ♪ There's no other way
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[Louise Dowd's
"All or Nothing"]
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♪ It's all or nothing
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- [singing in Spanish]
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[upbeat music]
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- ♪ You look so fine,
you're a... ♪
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[singing in Spanish]
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♪ All mine
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[singing in Spanish]
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♪ You look so fine
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- [singing in Spanish]
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- Are we, um--
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- Ready to bounce?
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- Missing one or two?
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- I'm excited to go home,
but I also, like, wish we had
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a little bit more time here.
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But I think we're both very
excited to go home and, like,
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just get into a little
bit of normalcy,
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and figure out, like,
how our life is actually
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gonna start merging together.
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- What up?
- Hello!
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- Hey, darling!
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- 'Cause this is not gonna
be an easy, smooth-sailing
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ride for any of us.
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- How you doing?
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- Been better.
- Yeah?
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- If I'm being honest.
- Aw.
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- But I love that
you're being honest.
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- Love that I'm being honest.
- No, for real.
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- What's up, guys?
- Hello.
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- Hi.
- Hey.
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- Oh, sorry.
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Let me move some
of these bags around.
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- Sure, thank you.
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- Lauren's not
wearing her ring.
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And I know Orion
is wearing his,
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so I'm a little confused.
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- Yeah.
both: Fingers crossed.
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- Though, that it's not the--
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- Jinx.
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- In sync.
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- I'm excited to move in and,
like, just start combining
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some stuff, slowly and surely,
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stock up our fridge
this weekend.
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- And as couples,
we all get to see what
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our day-to-day life is like.
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- Yeah.
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- So what are you
guys gonna do?
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- I don't know.
We'll figure it out.
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We're having
irreconcilable differences.
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- No, I would say that we're
just dealing with topics
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we've never
really dealt with before,
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and so it can get really murky.
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- I think we have different
perspectives of what happened.
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- Yeah, so I think we're trying
to see eye to eye first,
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before you know, we start,
I guess,
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you know, letting that out.
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- We respect that.
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Whenever you're ready,
we're here for you.
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- I don't feel
like Orion has been
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able to afford me the same
grace that I've given him.
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I'm sure that's for his--
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because of his
own internal struggles,
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but it does feel
a little unfair.
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Like, OK, there are
some things that I
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could have done better, things
that I could have said better.
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I don't know, it just
feels very up and down
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in this marriage already.
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It's like,
I can't really keep up
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with all the altercations
that happen,
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because the honeymoon
was a lot.
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- Should we go
catch that plane?
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- Yeah.
- Yeah.
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- Let's get it.
- This way.
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- Can you hold my empty glass?
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- Gladly.
- OK.
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[soft music]
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♪
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- ♪ Give it time, time, time
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- So we are heading
back to Denver.
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I can't wait to see
my family, my dog.
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I've been missing that a lot.
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- And I'm looking forward
to moving in with my new wife
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in our new apartment.
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- Yeah, it's gonna
be an adjustment,
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but we're looking
forward to it.
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- How are you feeling?
- Really tired.
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I'm exhausted, so--
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It's been a long [bleep] week.
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- I'm excited
to go back to Denver.
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- Get us out of this...
- See our friends.
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- Humidity.
- See our new apartment.
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- We want dryness.
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- We want a cold,
dry environment.
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- See you all
in snowy Colorado.
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♪
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- ♪ Everything is
all right now ♪
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- Are we excited
or are we excited?
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- We're excited!
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- Ready to see
our new apartment.
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♪
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That's really nice...
- Home sweet home.
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- If I can remember the code.
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- Ooh!
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- Whoa!
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This is nice.
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[upbeat music]
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- [bleep]
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Look at our view
of Union Station!
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- Damn!
- Wow!
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- Whoa.
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- We provided each couple
with a neutral living space
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to begin their married life,
free from the distraction
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of their old single life.
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- Are you pro TV in the bedroom
or anti TV in the bedroom?
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- I don't have
a TV in my bedroom.
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- Neither do I.
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- Anti TV in the bedroom.
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It's been established.
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♪
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- Ooh, we've got a candle.
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Oh, my God,
and it's my favorite scent.
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Amber and vanilla.
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Bathroom.
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I love organized bathrooms.
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Nice, clean bed,
so we can cuddle.
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I really love the plan, and
the decor, and this blanket.
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Have you felt this blanket?
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- Oh, it's nice.
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- I know.
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- OK.
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So--
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- Now I think we just need
to like fill in the blanks
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with random stuff.
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- Yeah.
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- Like, some cleaning stuff,
laundry stuff, comfy clothes,
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because that's
all I really wear.
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This is the first time we've
both ever lived with someone
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that, like, isn't a roommate.
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So are you nervous at all?
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Excited?
- I am excited.
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I feel like we have, like,
a mutual respect, and, like,
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know how to live
with other people.
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- Yeah, I feel the same,
and I just feel like I would
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rather you tell me, like--
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like, I'd rather you say, like,
oh, this is kind of bothering
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me, instead of, like, tomorrow,
versus, like, even just
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a few days because you feel
like you can't bring that up,
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because it's been a day.
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And I think, for us, something
to think about too is, like,
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if we're angry, like,
it's an easy thing
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to do to just leave
this place and like
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go back to our other ones.
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If you need a minute,
sure, but I think
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it will be better if we,
like, stay trapped here to,
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like, work things out.
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- Yeah.
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So you're gonna work here.
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- Yeah.
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- Yeah, I think I'll probably,
like, if I have a morning call,
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take that here, if that's OK.
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- Yeah.
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- And then take that,
make some breakfast,
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and then head to my house
because I don't want
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to be in traffic either, so--
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- Yeah.
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- But, tonight, yeah,
I definitely want to go back,
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tidy up the house,
and then my work week is crazy.
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So maybe we should,
like, reconvene in, like,
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a few days before moving
into our new place.
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[tense music]
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- Yeah.
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I'm just, like,
caught off guard.
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I'm just like, OK, if you
think that's best, sure,
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but we're still trying
to get to know each other.
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Like, I wanted to move
in together with him,
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and I thought
he felt the same.
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♪
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It's been a long week.
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But it was so fun, so much fun.
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- We spent every day, 24/7,
the last week together,
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you know, and I was,
like, starting to notice,
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like, I was getting drained.
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And I've gotta take a step
back and just digest how I
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feel before we
move in together.
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All right, this is where
we part ways for a bit.
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♪
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- ♪ Real love comes
out after dark ♪
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- Oh, this looks like
a cozy bed right here.
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Oh, and it is!
- Is that a queen?
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- Oh, it is a cozy bed.
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- Which side do you want?
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- Well, because I know
you go up to the bathroom
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a lot more than I do--
see, I don't know.
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This is hard because I
also wake up earlier, so it
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could be easy for me to just--
259
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- But you get up once,
whereas I get up many times.
260
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- So which would you prefer?
261
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- I would always prefer
to sleep on the side--
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- OK.
- That's that side.
263
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- Then, yeah, that works.
- But I don't have to.
264
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- No.
265
00:09:57,500 --> 00:09:58,792
Marriage is about
compromise, right?
266
00:09:58,875 --> 00:10:00,333
- Mm.
267
00:10:00,417 --> 00:10:01,958
Did you read that
in a book somewhere?
268
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[laughter]
269
00:10:04,875 --> 00:10:06,625
This is definitely
the beginning
270
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of a new chapter in the book
that is our marriage.
271
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- I feel like I
should put my Pjs on
272
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because I am just like,
I need
273
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to get out of this outfit.
274
00:10:15,042 --> 00:10:17,958
- And I'm hoping,
going forward,
275
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as we get into our routines,
that we can kind of just
276
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continue to be
more of ourselves.
277
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- What do you think?
278
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I'm excited.
279
00:10:29,708 --> 00:10:31,292
These shorts are so short.
280
00:10:31,375 --> 00:10:32,750
Sorry.
281
00:10:32,833 --> 00:10:33,833
- Do you want them
a little shorter?
282
00:10:33,875 --> 00:10:37,083
- No, no, please, please.
283
00:10:37,167 --> 00:10:39,667
Yeah, I mean, I think this
is a really beautiful space.
284
00:10:39,750 --> 00:10:41,625
I mean, I know we were both
really nervous about this,
285
00:10:41,708 --> 00:10:43,042
and I still am.
286
00:10:43,125 --> 00:10:45,667
I mean, again, I have
not lived with another--
287
00:10:45,792 --> 00:10:47,250
- Well, you just did
for the last week.
288
00:10:47,333 --> 00:10:48,875
- Yeah, I know.
289
00:10:48,875 --> 00:10:51,500
It's just the unknown
that I'm scared about, like,
290
00:10:51,583 --> 00:10:53,875
the unknown
of navigating how to,
291
00:10:54,000 --> 00:10:56,208
you know, wake up
and not wake you up,
292
00:10:56,333 --> 00:10:57,333
and the cooking, and cleaning.
293
00:10:57,375 --> 00:10:58,792
Like, all those
sorts of things,
294
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like, I don't know how
to do that with another person.
295
00:11:02,083 --> 00:11:04,792
Also, like, you know,
when you're dating someone,
296
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and in a fight or something,
you can leave.
297
00:11:07,208 --> 00:11:10,125
But, here, it's like,
this is where we're at.
298
00:11:10,208 --> 00:11:13,917
- Yeah, I'd say
299
00:11:14,000 --> 00:11:16,625
I'm probably
less nervous than you.
300
00:11:16,708 --> 00:11:18,667
- Well, you've also
lived with a partner.
301
00:11:18,750 --> 00:11:22,417
- Yeah, the situation that I
was in was more difficult
302
00:11:22,500 --> 00:11:25,042
because her family lived
in the house.
303
00:11:25,042 --> 00:11:27,167
So, the kitchen, I wasn't just
sharing with my girlfriend.
304
00:11:27,292 --> 00:11:30,125
Like, I was sharing with
her siblings and her parents.
305
00:11:30,208 --> 00:11:33,708
Like, that's why I have
very little fears and worries
306
00:11:33,792 --> 00:11:35,417
about us doing this.
307
00:11:35,500 --> 00:11:39,375
You'd have to be very different
than who I think you are
308
00:11:39,458 --> 00:11:42,750
for you to get on my nerves.
309
00:11:42,833 --> 00:11:46,375
I'm not worried about you
annoying me, at the moment.
310
00:11:46,458 --> 00:11:48,958
But I am worried
because, you know,
311
00:11:49,042 --> 00:11:51,167
you haven't lived
with a partner.
312
00:11:51,208 --> 00:11:52,875
You know, what are
the things that I'm
313
00:11:52,958 --> 00:11:56,083
going to do to annoy you?
314
00:11:56,167 --> 00:11:58,333
- And there will probably
be things, you know...
315
00:11:58,375 --> 00:11:59,792
- Sure.
- That come up.
316
00:11:59,875 --> 00:12:00,958
I just need to be transparent,
like, hey,
317
00:12:01,042 --> 00:12:02,542
that bothers me, and I will be.
318
00:12:02,625 --> 00:12:03,833
- Yeah.
319
00:12:03,875 --> 00:12:06,250
I'm more inclined,
like, naturally,
320
00:12:06,333 --> 00:12:07,750
to just see how bad it gets.
321
00:12:07,833 --> 00:12:09,375
- Hmm.
That's not good.
322
00:12:09,458 --> 00:12:10,833
- No, I like to see--
323
00:12:10,917 --> 00:12:12,375
- That's a terrible
way to do things.
324
00:12:12,458 --> 00:12:13,917
- I like to see where
the limit is, sometimes.
325
00:12:14,042 --> 00:12:15,708
- I feel like that's
not being preventative,
326
00:12:15,792 --> 00:12:17,167
and that's not helpful.
327
00:12:17,292 --> 00:12:18,500
- No, but I like to--
328
00:12:18,583 --> 00:12:19,458
- Well, can we not
do that, so that--
329
00:12:19,542 --> 00:12:21,042
- OK, OK.
330
00:12:21,208 --> 00:12:22,708
- All we have to do is
be open to communicate.
331
00:12:22,708 --> 00:12:25,000
If something is bothering us,
just say it.
332
00:12:25,125 --> 00:12:28,083
- I think we'll
know very soon how
333
00:12:28,167 --> 00:12:33,167
we are going to work together
in terms of living together.
334
00:12:33,208 --> 00:12:34,792
It's gonna go one
way or the other--
335
00:12:34,917 --> 00:12:36,250
- Make or break.
- And we're gonna find out.
336
00:12:36,333 --> 00:12:38,500
- Right.
- Yeah.
337
00:12:38,625 --> 00:12:41,667
♪
338
00:12:41,708 --> 00:12:44,417
- I'm a fan of our digs.
339
00:12:44,500 --> 00:12:46,042
How do you feel?
- I like it.
340
00:12:46,125 --> 00:12:50,042
- After telling me that he
cannot see us moving forward
341
00:12:50,125 --> 00:12:53,583
in the marriage,
on the plane ride back,
342
00:12:53,708 --> 00:12:55,167
my husband had a flip
of his emotions,
343
00:12:55,208 --> 00:12:57,333
and we discussed
that he would like
344
00:12:57,375 --> 00:13:00,667
to try to do a full reset.
345
00:13:00,708 --> 00:13:02,708
♪
346
00:13:02,708 --> 00:13:04,333
You know, he
kind of drags me this way,
347
00:13:04,417 --> 00:13:07,875
then drags me that way,
so I'm trying to be hopeful
348
00:13:08,042 --> 00:13:13,333
that my husband
is able to forgive me,
349
00:13:13,375 --> 00:13:15,292
as I have forgiven him.
350
00:13:15,375 --> 00:13:19,333
But, honestly,
I don't know at this point.
351
00:13:19,417 --> 00:13:20,917
[instrumental music playing]
352
00:13:21,000 --> 00:13:24,333
Do you feel like you
actually can do a full reset?
353
00:13:24,417 --> 00:13:29,833
Because you went from, I can't
move forward in this marriage,
354
00:13:29,875 --> 00:13:34,833
and I'm unmoving, to,
I want a full reset.
355
00:13:34,875 --> 00:13:37,000
- You know,
talking with the experts,
356
00:13:37,042 --> 00:13:41,083
it seems like that is
what needs to happen,
357
00:13:41,167 --> 00:13:43,583
which is kind of why I want
to take, you know, the night,
358
00:13:43,667 --> 00:13:45,458
or a couple of days,
or whatever we're
359
00:13:45,542 --> 00:13:49,917
comfortable with, just to
just be away from everything,
360
00:13:50,042 --> 00:13:52,542
think about it, you know,
and just really come back
361
00:13:52,542 --> 00:13:54,167
together with a clear mind.
362
00:13:54,250 --> 00:13:56,958
- Yeah, I think that could
be helpful for us.
363
00:13:57,042 --> 00:13:59,000
Because I actually do like you.
I do care about you.
364
00:13:59,042 --> 00:14:02,333
Like, there are genuine
feelings that have grown,
365
00:14:02,417 --> 00:14:04,333
and I don't want us
to be stuck in Cancun.
366
00:14:04,417 --> 00:14:05,792
- Yeah, that is--
367
00:14:05,875 --> 00:14:07,750
I mean, you know,
it's definitely the goal--
368
00:14:07,833 --> 00:14:09,167
- That's the goal.
369
00:14:09,208 --> 00:14:10,667
- To work out of that,
you know,
370
00:14:10,708 --> 00:14:12,083
because it's easy to
say that, you know,
371
00:14:12,167 --> 00:14:13,375
we just leave it there--
372
00:14:13,458 --> 00:14:14,833
- That's why I'm, like--
373
00:14:14,875 --> 00:14:17,167
- But we also have
to take the right steps
374
00:14:17,250 --> 00:14:18,708
to actually leave it there.
375
00:14:18,792 --> 00:14:20,250
- Right.
376
00:14:20,333 --> 00:14:22,042
- But, you know what,
also, there's definitely
377
00:14:22,167 --> 00:14:24,708
things working for us
to support the things
378
00:14:24,708 --> 00:14:28,000
that we're trying
to get back to.
379
00:14:28,167 --> 00:14:31,875
And so, yeah, so, yeah,
I really do feel hopeful.
380
00:14:31,958 --> 00:14:35,083
I still want to try
a reset, you know,
381
00:14:35,167 --> 00:14:39,375
but we do need to take
some space from each other.
382
00:14:39,458 --> 00:14:40,833
All right, wifey.
383
00:14:40,917 --> 00:14:42,500
I will--I'll talk to you soon.
384
00:14:42,542 --> 00:14:43,667
Yeah?
385
00:14:43,750 --> 00:14:45,083
- See ya.
386
00:14:45,208 --> 00:14:48,000
- See ya!
387
00:14:48,083 --> 00:14:50,875
We just need time to think,
so that, when we do take
388
00:14:50,958 --> 00:14:52,875
this big step, you know,
in living together,
389
00:14:52,958 --> 00:14:56,833
you know, we're two
feet in, not just one.
390
00:14:56,958 --> 00:14:59,833
- See you later, house.
391
00:14:59,917 --> 00:15:01,625
Maybe.
392
00:15:01,708 --> 00:15:06,000
♪
393
00:15:09,875 --> 00:15:11,667
[upbeat music]
394
00:15:11,708 --> 00:15:14,542
♪
395
00:15:14,542 --> 00:15:17,875
- So, I know we only, like,
just moved in, and haven't
396
00:15:17,958 --> 00:15:20,125
really figured out
what we needed,
397
00:15:20,208 --> 00:15:21,917
but it definitely seems
like there are some things
398
00:15:22,000 --> 00:15:23,667
missing that we should bring.
399
00:15:23,708 --> 00:15:25,250
Plants, number one.
- Real plants.
400
00:15:25,333 --> 00:15:26,208
- Real plants.
401
00:15:26,208 --> 00:15:27,792
Our plants.
- Yeah.
402
00:15:27,875 --> 00:15:30,417
- Board games.
- Oh, yeah.
403
00:15:30,500 --> 00:15:31,875
- N64 has to come.
404
00:15:31,958 --> 00:15:33,333
- Which one?
405
00:15:33,417 --> 00:15:36,667
- Yours because the one
at my house is garbage.
406
00:15:36,708 --> 00:15:39,042
- OK, so I'll bring my N64.
407
00:15:40,458 --> 00:15:41,833
So you have
a roommate right now.
408
00:15:41,958 --> 00:15:43,042
- Mm-hmm.
409
00:15:43,125 --> 00:15:46,292
- How do you guys
split up chores?
410
00:15:46,375 --> 00:15:50,167
- I think we mostly just like
take care of our own messes,
411
00:15:50,208 --> 00:15:53,083
and then kind of, like, help
out every once in a while,
412
00:15:53,167 --> 00:15:55,875
although I pretty much take out
all the trash and recycling.
413
00:15:56,042 --> 00:15:57,958
- That makes sense.
414
00:15:58,042 --> 00:16:01,500
Are you very clean?
415
00:16:01,542 --> 00:16:02,833
- I'm definitely clean.
416
00:16:03,000 --> 00:16:05,000
I'd say, like, kitchen
and bathroom cleanliness
417
00:16:05,083 --> 00:16:06,458
are very important to me.
418
00:16:06,542 --> 00:16:08,958
- Same.
419
00:16:09,042 --> 00:16:12,250
We'll probably have growing
pains and difficulties.
420
00:16:12,333 --> 00:16:15,042
I think living with anyone
is hard, even your best
421
00:16:15,125 --> 00:16:16,500
friend, your parents.
422
00:16:16,583 --> 00:16:20,083
But, for me, because I'm
feeling drawn to connect
423
00:16:20,167 --> 00:16:23,667
with Austin deeper,
I'm looking forward
424
00:16:23,750 --> 00:16:29,292
to just, like, unfiltered time,
focusing on each other,
425
00:16:29,375 --> 00:16:32,875
and doing a deep dive, rather
than, like, a little tread
426
00:16:32,958 --> 00:16:34,875
in the shallow pool.
427
00:16:34,958 --> 00:16:36,667
We're gonna rock this.
- This is gonna be easy.
428
00:16:36,750 --> 00:16:38,250
- I love this.
429
00:16:38,333 --> 00:16:39,625
[knocking]
430
00:16:39,708 --> 00:16:41,250
[laughter]
431
00:16:41,333 --> 00:16:42,542
We're just gonna
play this back,
432
00:16:42,667 --> 00:16:44,500
and just be like, ha-ha!
433
00:16:44,542 --> 00:16:46,208
Suckers!
434
00:16:46,292 --> 00:16:48,958
Didn't know what they were
getting themselves into.
435
00:16:50,667 --> 00:16:52,917
- ♪ Every day the sun rises
436
00:16:53,000 --> 00:16:56,500
♪ Only like
the good surprises ♪
437
00:16:56,542 --> 00:16:58,125
- Good morning.
438
00:16:58,208 --> 00:17:03,750
Today is my first day
waking up without Brennan.
439
00:17:03,833 --> 00:17:05,833
It's really sad,
but also so tired
440
00:17:05,917 --> 00:17:07,708
last night that I
literally put on the TV
441
00:17:07,833 --> 00:17:09,167
and immediately fell asleep.
442
00:17:09,292 --> 00:17:11,708
So, today, I'm getting
my life together.
443
00:17:11,792 --> 00:17:15,458
Can't wait, but also can't
wait, but it needs to happen,
444
00:17:15,542 --> 00:17:17,250
because then I'm going
to start slowly getting
445
00:17:17,333 --> 00:17:20,833
reorganized to move in
and hopefully
446
00:17:20,875 --> 00:17:22,583
see Brennan later tonight.
447
00:17:22,667 --> 00:17:25,708
- Our first night
in our apartment is over.
448
00:17:25,833 --> 00:17:27,333
It is now the morning.
449
00:17:27,417 --> 00:17:28,917
- Yep.
450
00:17:29,000 --> 00:17:30,542
We slept.
451
00:17:30,667 --> 00:17:32,500
[yawning]
452
00:17:32,542 --> 00:17:34,583
- Baby dinosaur!
453
00:17:34,708 --> 00:17:36,292
♪
454
00:17:37,708 --> 00:17:39,542
- Mm.
455
00:17:39,625 --> 00:17:42,417
Looks like someone left
some dirty dishes out!
456
00:17:42,500 --> 00:17:43,875
- Sorry.
457
00:17:43,958 --> 00:17:45,958
I'll get to it.
I'm sorry.
458
00:17:46,042 --> 00:17:47,667
I was gonna do 'em.
459
00:17:47,708 --> 00:17:49,708
- I'm just saying, if it
was the other way around,
460
00:17:49,792 --> 00:17:51,333
I would have gotten yelled at.
461
00:17:51,417 --> 00:17:55,583
- Oh, OK.
It's three, three dishes.
462
00:17:55,667 --> 00:17:57,000
Maybe four.
463
00:17:57,083 --> 00:17:59,500
I will clean that up, though.
464
00:17:59,583 --> 00:18:06,583
♪
465
00:18:08,208 --> 00:18:10,083
- We obviously haven't
moved in together,
466
00:18:10,167 --> 00:18:13,208
so I'm really looking
forward just to see
467
00:18:13,292 --> 00:18:16,167
how Brennan lived
before we got married.
468
00:18:17,542 --> 00:18:19,708
[knock at door]
469
00:18:21,167 --> 00:18:23,625
I'm very much hoping
that this brings us together
470
00:18:23,708 --> 00:18:25,333
to hopefully move
things forward
471
00:18:25,417 --> 00:18:29,250
and makes us excited
to move in with each other.
472
00:18:29,375 --> 00:18:31,708
both: Hello.
- Welcome.
473
00:18:31,833 --> 00:18:34,833
- Oh, my gosh.
It's so clean.
474
00:18:34,958 --> 00:18:37,000
Is this a shoes-off
environment?
475
00:18:37,167 --> 00:18:38,667
- Uh, sure.
476
00:18:38,750 --> 00:18:40,667
- OK.
477
00:18:40,750 --> 00:18:42,833
Let's do a tour.
478
00:18:42,875 --> 00:18:45,542
Like the green couch.
479
00:18:45,667 --> 00:18:46,792
This is nice.
480
00:18:46,875 --> 00:18:49,083
- Yeah, it's a record player.
481
00:18:49,167 --> 00:18:50,292
I really like the bar cart.
482
00:18:50,292 --> 00:18:52,667
I like this plant too.
483
00:18:52,750 --> 00:18:54,417
♪
484
00:18:54,500 --> 00:18:56,667
Tried to do live plants,
my roommate and I,
485
00:18:56,750 --> 00:18:57,917
and then they died.
486
00:18:58,042 --> 00:19:00,083
- Hmm.
487
00:19:01,333 --> 00:19:03,333
- Is this is your office?
- Mm-hmm.
488
00:19:03,417 --> 00:19:05,333
So this is where I
spend most of my time.
489
00:19:05,500 --> 00:19:07,250
- What's that car?
Is that a Ferrari?
490
00:19:07,375 --> 00:19:09,833
- Yeah.
- This is a really nice desk.
491
00:19:09,875 --> 00:19:11,208
- Thank you. Thank you.
492
00:19:11,375 --> 00:19:12,792
- This makes me
want to expand mine.
493
00:19:12,875 --> 00:19:14,583
- Mm-hmm.
494
00:19:14,708 --> 00:19:17,125
Yeah, it's nice.
495
00:19:17,208 --> 00:19:21,875
- I can just feel a little
sense of awkwardness.
496
00:19:21,958 --> 00:19:26,500
He's, like, just
not his usual self.
497
00:19:26,583 --> 00:19:31,125
So it creates kind
of a confusing atmosphere.
498
00:19:31,208 --> 00:19:34,250
- And then, here,
we have the bedroom.
499
00:19:34,250 --> 00:19:35,875
- Oh, it's so nice.
500
00:19:35,958 --> 00:19:38,000
- Yeah.
501
00:19:38,083 --> 00:19:40,250
I've got everything we need,
which is the TV.
502
00:19:40,250 --> 00:19:42,708
- Yeah, I have to watch,
like, two hours.
503
00:19:42,792 --> 00:19:45,250
Just, like, can't just
go to bed right away.
504
00:19:46,375 --> 00:19:48,000
- Mm.
505
00:19:48,083 --> 00:19:50,833
♪
506
00:19:50,917 --> 00:19:53,208
Here we have the kitchen.
507
00:19:53,292 --> 00:19:54,875
- I think, when the kitchen's
clean, that says a lot.
508
00:19:54,958 --> 00:19:56,875
- Yep.
509
00:19:56,958 --> 00:19:59,167
♪
510
00:19:59,250 --> 00:20:02,792
- And I really am impressed
with this middle
511
00:20:02,875 --> 00:20:04,708
living room situation.
512
00:20:04,792 --> 00:20:08,708
And it looks, like,
less boyish than I imagined.
513
00:20:11,542 --> 00:20:15,375
How do you, like,
envision the living situation?
514
00:20:15,458 --> 00:20:18,833
- Yeah, it's been nice
having some time to myself.
515
00:20:21,208 --> 00:20:23,958
So we will reevaluate
in a few days,
516
00:20:24,042 --> 00:20:25,958
we actually want to move in.
517
00:20:28,208 --> 00:20:30,042
- I'm starting
to get the sense
518
00:20:30,042 --> 00:20:33,333
that he might have
shut off completely,
519
00:20:33,417 --> 00:20:36,208
and, like, what the [bleep]?
520
00:20:36,292 --> 00:20:38,833
Like, something is off.
Like, what happened?
521
00:20:38,875 --> 00:20:40,833
- Yeah.
522
00:20:40,875 --> 00:20:44,625
♪
523
00:20:44,708 --> 00:20:47,583
[upbeat music]
524
00:20:47,583 --> 00:20:53,750
♪
525
00:20:53,833 --> 00:20:55,667
- Hello.
- Hello!
526
00:20:55,708 --> 00:20:57,417
- How are you?
- How's it going?
527
00:20:57,500 --> 00:21:00,542
- I am really excited
to see Cameron's living space,
528
00:21:00,667 --> 00:21:05,042
and I think that it'll
be pretty similar to him
529
00:21:05,125 --> 00:21:07,750
as a person,
but I might be surprised.
530
00:21:07,833 --> 00:21:09,750
I don't know.
531
00:21:09,833 --> 00:21:12,042
This is nice!
532
00:21:12,125 --> 00:21:14,667
It's very homey, very cozy.
533
00:21:14,792 --> 00:21:16,042
- It's warm.
534
00:21:16,125 --> 00:21:17,500
- I was surprised.
535
00:21:17,583 --> 00:21:18,833
You were like,
I don't have anything,
536
00:21:18,875 --> 00:21:20,208
and I feel like you
have lots of things.
537
00:21:20,292 --> 00:21:21,708
- Maybe it's just spread out.
538
00:21:21,708 --> 00:21:23,417
- You've got
a lot of your bike--
539
00:21:23,500 --> 00:21:25,667
- Yeah, this is just my
little workstation right here.
540
00:21:25,750 --> 00:21:27,042
- OK.
541
00:21:27,167 --> 00:21:29,208
- And then a kitchen.
- Right.
542
00:21:29,292 --> 00:21:30,917
Oh, you like rice cakes too!
543
00:21:31,042 --> 00:21:32,208
- Oh, yeah.
544
00:21:32,292 --> 00:21:33,458
- This is, like,
my favorite snack.
545
00:21:33,542 --> 00:21:34,833
I eat this with,
like, almond butter.
546
00:21:34,875 --> 00:21:36,667
- So I put honey on it.
547
00:21:36,792 --> 00:21:38,542
- OK.
548
00:21:38,667 --> 00:21:40,167
Have you tried--so, this
peanut butter, and bananas--
549
00:21:40,292 --> 00:21:42,250
- Oh, do you want
to try Vegemite?
550
00:21:42,333 --> 00:21:44,417
- Can I just smell it first?
551
00:21:44,500 --> 00:21:45,875
- Oh, yeah, mate.
That's a little bit--
552
00:21:45,958 --> 00:21:47,167
- [gags]
553
00:21:47,208 --> 00:21:48,375
That's terrible!
554
00:21:48,458 --> 00:21:49,708
- [laughing]
You have to try it!
555
00:21:49,833 --> 00:21:55,375
Vegemite is a fermented
yeast product.
556
00:21:55,500 --> 00:21:59,042
In New Zealand and Australia,
we grow up on the stuff.
557
00:21:59,167 --> 00:22:01,500
I like that
Clare's a good sport.
558
00:22:01,542 --> 00:22:05,500
She's up for anything,
and I think we both have
559
00:22:05,542 --> 00:22:07,333
a sense of adventure.
560
00:22:07,417 --> 00:22:10,375
But it is an acquired taste.
561
00:22:11,542 --> 00:22:14,583
- OK, I'll try a sliver,
like, the tiniest--
562
00:22:14,708 --> 00:22:15,833
oof.
563
00:22:17,208 --> 00:22:19,625
- That's gonna--
it tastes like beer.
564
00:22:19,708 --> 00:22:21,042
- Ugh.
565
00:22:21,125 --> 00:22:22,833
It's terrible.
That's bad.
566
00:22:22,917 --> 00:22:24,958
Bad, bad, bad.
567
00:22:25,042 --> 00:22:27,208
It's OK.
We're fine, ooh.
568
00:22:27,292 --> 00:22:29,083
- That's delicious!
569
00:22:29,167 --> 00:22:30,917
- Gross.
I would never eat that.
570
00:22:31,000 --> 00:22:33,792
I do like rice cakes,
though, but, ew.
571
00:22:33,875 --> 00:22:35,708
- So--
- I need water.
572
00:22:35,792 --> 00:22:37,167
- You need water?
573
00:22:37,250 --> 00:22:38,500
How about a sparkling water?
574
00:22:38,583 --> 00:22:40,167
- Yeah, anything.
575
00:22:40,250 --> 00:22:41,708
- Why don't you help yourself?
- Sorry.
576
00:22:41,833 --> 00:22:44,167
Anyway--
577
00:22:44,333 --> 00:22:46,125
can you open it?
578
00:22:46,208 --> 00:22:48,125
These nails.
579
00:22:48,208 --> 00:22:50,667
Ooh, and the aftertaste.
580
00:22:50,667 --> 00:22:53,417
- That's the best part.
- It's really gross.
581
00:22:53,500 --> 00:22:55,917
- That with cheese is amazing.
582
00:22:56,000 --> 00:22:57,500
- This is very--
583
00:22:57,542 --> 00:22:59,625
I feel like this makes sense
for your personality.
584
00:22:59,708 --> 00:23:01,042
- OK.
585
00:23:01,125 --> 00:23:03,667
- [laughs]
So--I like it, though.
586
00:23:03,750 --> 00:23:05,167
♪
587
00:23:05,292 --> 00:23:06,708
Insect trap.
588
00:23:06,792 --> 00:23:08,125
Have you got, like,
insects down here?
589
00:23:08,208 --> 00:23:10,083
- Spiders, yeah.
- Oh, Lord, OK.
590
00:23:10,167 --> 00:23:10,958
- Do you want
to see the spiders?
591
00:23:11,042 --> 00:23:12,292
- Oh, no!
592
00:23:12,375 --> 00:23:13,792
Cameron, why?
- What?
593
00:23:13,875 --> 00:23:15,417
- You did not need
to bring that up like that.
594
00:23:15,542 --> 00:23:16,750
- What?
- Come on!
595
00:23:16,833 --> 00:23:18,625
- They'll get you.
596
00:23:18,708 --> 00:23:20,667
- Yeah, I will not be staying
here ever, it's safe to say.
597
00:23:20,750 --> 00:23:22,625
Spiders, I don't care for.
598
00:23:22,708 --> 00:23:24,667
I was not expecting that.
599
00:23:24,750 --> 00:23:27,375
He grabbed it like it was
his pets, which was a little
600
00:23:27,458 --> 00:23:28,917
like, ooh.
601
00:23:29,000 --> 00:23:30,292
Like, are you friends
with the spiders?
602
00:23:30,375 --> 00:23:31,750
I'm confused.
603
00:23:31,833 --> 00:23:33,292
But there's traps everywhere,
so he's
604
00:23:33,375 --> 00:23:34,500
got a lot of spider friends.
605
00:23:34,542 --> 00:23:35,833
What do we have here?
606
00:23:35,958 --> 00:23:37,417
Oh, these are all
races you've done.
607
00:23:37,500 --> 00:23:38,708
- Yeah, Pikes Peak.
608
00:23:38,792 --> 00:23:40,667
- Wow.
609
00:23:40,750 --> 00:23:42,500
- And these are
other mountain bike races.
610
00:23:42,542 --> 00:23:43,833
- That's very impressive.
611
00:23:43,958 --> 00:23:45,083
- Again, most
of these knots are
612
00:23:45,167 --> 00:23:47,333
from my mountaineering days.
613
00:23:47,333 --> 00:23:48,458
And then I just kept
some of the stuff
614
00:23:48,542 --> 00:23:49,500
because I did
search and rescue.
615
00:23:49,542 --> 00:23:50,833
- Oh, that's very cool.
616
00:23:50,875 --> 00:23:52,250
See, I didn't know
this about you.
617
00:23:52,375 --> 00:23:53,875
You learn new things every day.
618
00:23:54,000 --> 00:23:57,417
- Yep, well, you know,
if you'd just ask.
619
00:23:57,542 --> 00:23:59,958
- Well, I've asked
about your hobbies.
620
00:23:59,958 --> 00:24:03,125
Like, you just have never told
me that you used to do this.
621
00:24:03,208 --> 00:24:06,833
It's gonna be really nice
to be in a neutral space
622
00:24:06,875 --> 00:24:09,083
with Cameron
because that strips
623
00:24:09,167 --> 00:24:12,458
away all of, like, the things
we bring into our own spaces.
624
00:24:12,542 --> 00:24:15,000
And that way, we can
create a space together.
625
00:24:15,083 --> 00:24:17,583
And we can each bring
the things that we appreciate,
626
00:24:17,667 --> 00:24:19,958
but also, like, make it ours.
627
00:24:20,042 --> 00:24:21,667
Like, it's a clean slate.
628
00:24:21,750 --> 00:24:23,375
We have the opportunity
to do that as a couple.
629
00:24:23,375 --> 00:24:25,167
- Let's get out of here.
630
00:24:25,208 --> 00:24:26,750
- Yeah, for real, honestly.
631
00:24:26,875 --> 00:24:29,167
I don't like that I'm
barefoot in this situation.
632
00:24:29,208 --> 00:24:31,167
I feel in danger.
633
00:24:31,250 --> 00:24:32,708
Stop!
634
00:24:32,875 --> 00:24:34,208
Ooh!
635
00:24:34,208 --> 00:24:35,833
I'm feeling itchy
all of a sudden.
636
00:24:39,667 --> 00:24:41,083
- ♪ Hey, Cinderella
637
00:24:41,083 --> 00:24:43,042
♪ This ain't forever
638
00:24:43,125 --> 00:24:44,792
- This is Mr. Lenny!
639
00:24:44,875 --> 00:24:48,375
- Looks like Lenny
is a small package.
640
00:24:48,458 --> 00:24:49,792
- Right.
641
00:24:49,792 --> 00:24:51,208
- And he's not a yappy dog
because I
642
00:24:51,375 --> 00:24:52,417
think you were scared of that.
643
00:24:52,542 --> 00:24:54,000
- Well, I guess we'll find out.
644
00:24:54,083 --> 00:24:56,000
- [laughs]
- Lenny!
645
00:24:56,083 --> 00:24:59,125
- Len-man.
Lenny, what do you think?
646
00:24:59,208 --> 00:25:01,833
But he really isn't paying
much attention to you.
647
00:25:01,917 --> 00:25:04,333
That's just because he
doesn't know you yet.
648
00:25:04,417 --> 00:25:05,958
- I'm invisible.
649
00:25:06,042 --> 00:25:08,083
- [laughs]
650
00:25:08,167 --> 00:25:09,792
- So this is my place.
651
00:25:09,875 --> 00:25:11,750
Yeah, no, this is the bike.
652
00:25:11,833 --> 00:25:13,083
- Can I look at it?
- Yeah.
653
00:25:13,083 --> 00:25:16,125
I mean, it's a nice bike,
but it's got its--
654
00:25:16,208 --> 00:25:18,167
it needs a little pump.
655
00:25:18,167 --> 00:25:20,000
[laughs]
This cannot be normal.
656
00:25:20,083 --> 00:25:22,458
- Yeah, that's what
they call a "flat tire."
657
00:25:22,542 --> 00:25:24,917
- Yeah,
and if you rode on this--
658
00:25:25,000 --> 00:25:27,292
well, also, this doesn't
fit me, because it's,
659
00:25:27,375 --> 00:25:28,458
like, way too tall.
660
00:25:28,542 --> 00:25:30,000
- They're both flat.
661
00:25:30,083 --> 00:25:31,917
- Yeah, the seat doesn't go
down any lower, so that's--
662
00:25:32,000 --> 00:25:35,208
- Yeah, the frame is
too large for you.
663
00:25:35,333 --> 00:25:36,708
- Right, right.
664
00:25:36,792 --> 00:25:38,292
Lenny, you're being a good boy.
665
00:25:38,375 --> 00:25:39,375
Do you want to just sit
for a second?
666
00:25:39,458 --> 00:25:40,667
- Yeah.
667
00:25:40,708 --> 00:25:41,583
- Do you want
water or anything?
668
00:25:41,708 --> 00:25:43,167
- I'm OK.
- OK.
669
00:25:43,250 --> 00:25:44,875
- Hey, Lenny.
670
00:25:44,958 --> 00:25:46,167
Is that--
671
00:25:46,250 --> 00:25:47,750
- You are invisible!
672
00:25:47,875 --> 00:25:51,167
- Lenny is
a little standoffish.
673
00:25:51,250 --> 00:25:53,292
I hope he'll warm to me.
674
00:25:53,375 --> 00:25:57,458
I am a dog person, provided
they're not super annoying.
675
00:25:57,542 --> 00:25:58,708
- [laughs]
676
00:25:58,792 --> 00:26:00,000
He doesn't like you!
677
00:26:00,083 --> 00:26:03,750
- Maybe Lenny's just
not a people person.
678
00:26:03,833 --> 00:26:05,500
[laughs]
679
00:26:05,625 --> 00:26:07,167
Do you have, like, a routine?
680
00:26:07,208 --> 00:26:08,875
Like, do you take him out
at the same time every day?
681
00:26:09,000 --> 00:26:11,500
- Yeah, like, we'll go out
right when I wake up.
682
00:26:11,583 --> 00:26:13,250
But outside of our apartment,
it's, like, not
683
00:26:13,333 --> 00:26:15,792
a very good dog place,
you know?
684
00:26:15,875 --> 00:26:17,167
- No.
It's a concrete jungle.
685
00:26:17,250 --> 00:26:18,625
- Right?
686
00:26:18,708 --> 00:26:20,125
So that's what I'm
a little worried about.
687
00:26:20,208 --> 00:26:22,125
Because here, it's like we can
go a lot of different trails,
688
00:26:22,208 --> 00:26:23,792
different paths.
689
00:26:23,875 --> 00:26:26,792
But as far as, like, Lenny's,
like, responsibilities
690
00:26:26,875 --> 00:26:29,292
and stuff, I don't want
to put that on you.
691
00:26:29,375 --> 00:26:32,667
So maybe my sister
can watch him.
692
00:26:32,750 --> 00:26:34,125
- I mean, yeah,
we'll just have to--
693
00:26:34,208 --> 00:26:35,542
we'll just have to see.
694
00:26:35,625 --> 00:26:36,958
- We'll figure it out,
which is fine.
695
00:26:37,042 --> 00:26:37,833
- Yeah.
- OK.
696
00:26:37,917 --> 00:26:39,167
- So what do you need to bring?
697
00:26:39,208 --> 00:26:43,000
- A few clothes,
maybe, like, some pictures,
698
00:26:43,125 --> 00:26:45,042
maybe some of my books.
699
00:26:45,125 --> 00:26:46,292
♪
700
00:26:46,375 --> 00:26:48,167
- Catholic, huh?
701
00:26:48,250 --> 00:26:51,208
- Mm-hmm, yes.
702
00:26:51,292 --> 00:26:52,583
- Are you Catholic?
703
00:26:52,708 --> 00:26:53,833
- So, yeah, no,
I've told you this.
704
00:26:53,875 --> 00:26:55,458
So I was raised Catholic.
705
00:26:55,542 --> 00:26:56,792
- Well, you said
you were faithful.
706
00:26:56,875 --> 00:26:58,250
You didn't say
you were Catholic.
707
00:26:58,333 --> 00:27:01,250
- Right, so when I was younger,
it didn't really--
708
00:27:01,333 --> 00:27:03,042
like, I would go to church,
but I wasn't, like,
709
00:27:03,167 --> 00:27:04,542
fully connected to it.
710
00:27:04,667 --> 00:27:06,583
And then, I told you,
I lost my brother.
711
00:27:06,583 --> 00:27:08,500
That's when my faith
really started to, like,
712
00:27:08,542 --> 00:27:10,000
come into play.
713
00:27:10,042 --> 00:27:11,833
I think, you know,
when you lose somebody,
714
00:27:11,875 --> 00:27:13,333
that changes everything.
715
00:27:13,417 --> 00:27:15,500
And so then I tried
to connect to my religion,
716
00:27:15,542 --> 00:27:18,167
like, my roots
and how I was raised.
717
00:27:18,208 --> 00:27:22,708
- I'm open to being
with anyone from any religion,
718
00:27:22,833 --> 00:27:27,917
and I'm looking forward
to seeing how Clare and I
719
00:27:28,042 --> 00:27:30,667
can build a life together.
720
00:27:30,708 --> 00:27:33,583
Yeah, I have not
perused those books.
721
00:27:33,667 --> 00:27:35,542
Maybe I'll have to look.
722
00:27:35,625 --> 00:27:36,875
- Well, I know you're
not religious at all.
723
00:27:36,958 --> 00:27:38,750
- No.
- That's OK with me.
724
00:27:38,833 --> 00:27:41,542
I am open to hear
the way that you view
725
00:27:41,625 --> 00:27:43,208
the world and all of that.
726
00:27:43,292 --> 00:27:46,292
I'm just letting you know
that I am faithful.
727
00:27:46,375 --> 00:27:48,458
Obviously, we're gonna
have to talk about that.
728
00:27:48,542 --> 00:27:50,000
- Yeah, yeah, maybe move-in day
729
00:27:50,042 --> 00:27:51,375
is not the day
to talk about it.
730
00:27:51,458 --> 00:27:53,292
- Yeah.
731
00:27:55,542 --> 00:27:57,000
- ♪ What you stopping for
732
00:27:57,083 --> 00:27:58,542
♪ What are you loving for
733
00:27:58,625 --> 00:28:00,667
♪ All we say is yeah,
yeah, yeah ♪
734
00:28:00,750 --> 00:28:02,500
- Are you excited
to see my place?
735
00:28:02,583 --> 00:28:03,333
- I'm excited
to see your place.
736
00:28:03,458 --> 00:28:05,708
- Heck yeah.
737
00:28:05,792 --> 00:28:08,542
- The suspense.
[laughter]
738
00:28:08,667 --> 00:28:11,042
- My place is, like,
you know, a little messy.
739
00:28:11,125 --> 00:28:13,667
And I have, like,
a bunch of garage
740
00:28:13,708 --> 00:28:16,958
shelving in it
because my garage is
741
00:28:17,042 --> 00:28:18,875
being demolished and rebuilt.
742
00:28:18,958 --> 00:28:20,667
- Do you like your place?
743
00:28:20,750 --> 00:28:24,958
- Eh, enough.
744
00:28:25,042 --> 00:28:26,833
- I don't think there would
be anything that would really
745
00:28:26,917 --> 00:28:28,917
turn me off that I
would see inside,
746
00:28:29,000 --> 00:28:31,875
unless there's, like,
snakes all over the place,
747
00:28:31,958 --> 00:28:34,750
or, like, a murder room.
748
00:28:34,875 --> 00:28:36,333
That would be scary.
749
00:28:36,417 --> 00:28:38,375
Wow!
Look at how cute!
750
00:28:38,458 --> 00:28:40,500
Did you build this yourself?
751
00:28:40,542 --> 00:28:43,000
- This is 100 years old.
752
00:28:43,042 --> 00:28:45,250
- You're 100 years old?
- It was repainted.
753
00:28:45,375 --> 00:28:50,625
♪
754
00:28:50,708 --> 00:28:53,167
- Wow!
- Wow!
755
00:28:53,250 --> 00:28:54,667
- Wow!
756
00:28:54,708 --> 00:28:56,083
Look at how cute!
757
00:28:56,167 --> 00:28:58,167
Look at how big!
758
00:28:58,292 --> 00:29:00,500
Look at all this space.
759
00:29:00,583 --> 00:29:02,292
What do you do
with all this space?
760
00:29:02,375 --> 00:29:03,458
- Activities.
761
00:29:03,542 --> 00:29:04,958
- Like, look at this.
762
00:29:05,042 --> 00:29:06,500
You could fit a whole
other table here.
763
00:29:06,583 --> 00:29:08,125
- You could.
- You made these?
764
00:29:08,208 --> 00:29:10,208
- Yeah.
Made these little boxes.
765
00:29:10,292 --> 00:29:12,542
- Cute. You made this?
766
00:29:12,667 --> 00:29:14,500
- Used these from old candles.
767
00:29:14,583 --> 00:29:16,250
- Cute.
- Drilled holes in them.
768
00:29:16,375 --> 00:29:17,625
- He's a handy guy.
769
00:29:17,708 --> 00:29:20,250
- Just quick, easy stuff.
770
00:29:20,333 --> 00:29:21,833
Should we bring
more plants, or no?
771
00:29:21,875 --> 00:29:23,500
- This one's wild.
772
00:29:23,542 --> 00:29:24,875
- Yeah.
773
00:29:24,958 --> 00:29:27,417
- That one's not real.
774
00:29:27,500 --> 00:29:29,208
- Nope. Not real.
775
00:29:30,875 --> 00:29:34,000
- Wow.
- Wow.
776
00:29:34,083 --> 00:29:35,333
- So, this is normally
what's in the garage.
777
00:29:35,417 --> 00:29:36,792
- Yeah.
778
00:29:36,875 --> 00:29:38,583
- I think I knew how
many hats you had.
779
00:29:38,667 --> 00:29:40,292
- Just wait.
780
00:29:40,417 --> 00:29:41,750
More is coming.
781
00:29:41,750 --> 00:29:43,500
- I want this one.
- Cowboy hat?
782
00:29:43,583 --> 00:29:45,167
Go for it.
783
00:29:45,292 --> 00:29:47,458
- There we go.
- Giddyap, cowboy.
784
00:29:47,542 --> 00:29:49,083
- You look good.
- Thanks.
785
00:29:49,208 --> 00:29:50,250
She's a cowgirl.
786
00:29:50,333 --> 00:29:53,500
Go check out
the bathing quarters.
787
00:29:53,500 --> 00:29:55,333
[laughter]
788
00:29:55,417 --> 00:29:56,500
[door creaking]
789
00:29:56,542 --> 00:29:57,625
Looks nice.
790
00:29:57,708 --> 00:29:59,750
Yeah, clean bathroom.
791
00:29:59,875 --> 00:30:01,875
Good standards.
- Yeah.
792
00:30:01,958 --> 00:30:04,500
- How often do you
wash your towels?
793
00:30:04,542 --> 00:30:06,375
- When necessary.
794
00:30:06,458 --> 00:30:08,292
- Cool.
795
00:30:09,708 --> 00:30:11,375
I wash everything once a week.
- Do you really?
796
00:30:11,458 --> 00:30:12,667
- Mm-hmm.
- Yeah.
797
00:30:12,792 --> 00:30:14,000
I just, like,
don't love doing laundry
798
00:30:14,083 --> 00:30:15,833
as much as you, apparently.
799
00:30:15,917 --> 00:30:17,167
- She loves it.
800
00:30:17,250 --> 00:30:19,250
- I only do it,
like, once a month.
801
00:30:19,333 --> 00:30:20,917
[laughter]
802
00:30:21,042 --> 00:30:22,583
- All of your laundry?
803
00:30:22,667 --> 00:30:23,833
- Mm-hmm.
804
00:30:23,875 --> 00:30:24,958
Maybe.
I don't know.
805
00:30:25,042 --> 00:30:26,583
I don't keep a schedule.
806
00:30:26,667 --> 00:30:27,833
- OK.
No, no, no, it's good.
807
00:30:27,917 --> 00:30:29,917
It's good.
Round low, aim high.
808
00:30:30,917 --> 00:30:32,417
But I feel like--
809
00:30:32,500 --> 00:30:33,333
I like a lot about your house.
810
00:30:33,375 --> 00:30:34,833
- Yeah?
- Yeah.
811
00:30:34,917 --> 00:30:37,583
I like how it's not just,
like, a cookie-cutter house.
812
00:30:37,667 --> 00:30:40,208
Like, I like a little bit
of character in my houses.
813
00:30:40,292 --> 00:30:42,000
I like some old, creaky floors.
814
00:30:42,083 --> 00:30:43,375
- Yeah.
815
00:30:43,458 --> 00:30:45,625
- I like a lot of windows,
and you've got that.
816
00:30:45,708 --> 00:30:47,333
And I like--
817
00:30:47,417 --> 00:30:50,708
- I mean, I know this is, like,
a long ways down the line.
818
00:30:50,792 --> 00:30:54,000
I mean, I guess, like, what I
was originally thinking was,
819
00:30:54,083 --> 00:30:56,958
after decision day,
even if things are, like,
820
00:30:57,042 --> 00:30:59,125
still going really well,
I mean, we do live
821
00:30:59,208 --> 00:31:01,000
pretty close to each other.
822
00:31:01,083 --> 00:31:02,625
So I was just thinking
we'd, like, move back
823
00:31:02,708 --> 00:31:06,375
into our normal spots while we,
like, finished up our leases,
824
00:31:06,458 --> 00:31:09,833
and then sorted out what
we're gonna do after that.
825
00:31:11,542 --> 00:31:14,458
- My lease is month by month,
so I'm flexible.
826
00:31:14,458 --> 00:31:18,000
- I mean, I live
with a roommate, obviously,
827
00:31:18,083 --> 00:31:19,583
and you live by yourself.
828
00:31:19,667 --> 00:31:21,667
So I don't know why
you'd want to move in here.
829
00:31:21,750 --> 00:31:24,333
♪
830
00:31:24,375 --> 00:31:28,083
- But I feel like what would
probably make more sense
831
00:31:28,208 --> 00:31:30,000
is, once your lease is up,
to move into my place,
832
00:31:30,125 --> 00:31:32,000
while we wait
to maybe buy something.
833
00:31:33,042 --> 00:31:34,625
- That would make sense.
834
00:31:34,708 --> 00:31:36,125
Yeah.
835
00:31:37,250 --> 00:31:39,667
For sure.
Do you have a garage?
836
00:31:39,792 --> 00:31:42,500
- We'll work on it.
837
00:31:42,542 --> 00:31:46,333
♪
838
00:31:46,458 --> 00:31:50,500
- At this point,
I honestly never know
839
00:31:50,583 --> 00:31:51,833
what to say to my husband
840
00:31:51,917 --> 00:31:55,000
because after our, you know,
841
00:31:55,125 --> 00:31:57,667
day of calling out the D word,
842
00:31:57,750 --> 00:32:00,042
and after talking
to Pastor Cal,
843
00:32:00,125 --> 00:32:02,333
he reached out to me via text.
844
00:32:02,417 --> 00:32:06,875
And he does not want
to continue the marriage,
845
00:32:06,958 --> 00:32:09,958
but he wants
to continue the process,
846
00:32:10,042 --> 00:32:11,875
which I guess I'm confused,
because I thought
847
00:32:11,958 --> 00:32:15,333
the process was a marriage.
848
00:32:15,417 --> 00:32:17,250
I don't know what I'm supposed
to do with that at this point.
849
00:32:17,333 --> 00:32:20,042
At this point,
I am feeling a little bit
850
00:32:20,042 --> 00:32:25,292
emotionally distressed,
emotionally overwhelmed.
851
00:32:25,375 --> 00:32:29,208
And at this point, who knows
what's gonna happen, y'all.
852
00:32:29,208 --> 00:32:30,583
♪
853
00:32:34,542 --> 00:32:37,042
- ♪ And I always hit
the bottle ♪
854
00:32:37,125 --> 00:32:41,833
♪ Drown my sorrow
when you leave me ♪
855
00:32:41,875 --> 00:32:43,958
- Nice and cool.
856
00:32:44,042 --> 00:32:46,417
[soft music]
857
00:32:46,542 --> 00:32:49,167
Pastor Cal is coming
to our place tonight,
858
00:32:49,208 --> 00:32:51,292
which is good timing
because I feel like Brennan
859
00:32:51,375 --> 00:32:52,917
has been closed off
since coming back
860
00:32:53,000 --> 00:32:54,167
from the honeymoon.
861
00:32:54,208 --> 00:32:55,500
- Ready for this?
862
00:32:55,542 --> 00:32:57,208
- I'm ready.
863
00:32:57,292 --> 00:32:58,667
That's nice.
- You like it?
864
00:32:58,750 --> 00:33:00,333
- Mm-hmm.
- We're matching sweaters.
865
00:33:00,375 --> 00:33:01,833
- Yeah.
866
00:33:01,917 --> 00:33:06,708
Brennan's not really showing
or expressing much emotion.
867
00:33:06,792 --> 00:33:08,708
How was your day?
868
00:33:08,833 --> 00:33:10,958
- Swamped.
869
00:33:11,042 --> 00:33:12,708
- There's a lot going
through my head.
870
00:33:12,792 --> 00:33:15,208
I feel like there's been
a lot going on, like, all week,
871
00:33:15,292 --> 00:33:18,667
but I'm just really
trying to give him
872
00:33:18,708 --> 00:33:21,667
what he needs in order
to get us back to where
873
00:33:21,708 --> 00:33:23,333
I know we were before.
874
00:33:23,375 --> 00:33:26,000
But I personally could use,
like, someone
875
00:33:26,042 --> 00:33:27,750
to help figure this out.
876
00:33:27,833 --> 00:33:29,375
[knock at door]
877
00:33:29,458 --> 00:33:31,208
Go get it.
878
00:33:33,083 --> 00:33:34,583
- I was gonna to ask who it
was, but I had a feeling.
879
00:33:34,708 --> 00:33:36,125
- What's up, man?
- What's going on, buddy?
880
00:33:36,208 --> 00:33:38,833
- How you doing, man?
- Good, man, you?
881
00:33:38,875 --> 00:33:40,125
- I'm good.
How are you?
882
00:33:40,208 --> 00:33:41,833
- Good, man.
- Hello!
883
00:33:41,958 --> 00:33:43,375
- Hello!
How are you?
884
00:33:43,500 --> 00:33:44,833
- Oh, my God,
we're matching today!
885
00:33:44,875 --> 00:33:46,583
- I know, right?
Good to see you.
886
00:33:46,667 --> 00:33:48,417
- Good to see you.
- OK.
887
00:33:48,500 --> 00:33:51,958
This looks really nice
and put together,
888
00:33:52,042 --> 00:33:55,208
not lived in, right?
889
00:33:55,375 --> 00:33:56,833
- Correct.
890
00:33:56,917 --> 00:33:58,292
♪
891
00:33:58,375 --> 00:34:00,625
- Let's jump right in
and talk about that.
892
00:34:00,708 --> 00:34:02,458
What is going on?
893
00:34:02,542 --> 00:34:03,833
- Like, it's just
been so go, go, go.
894
00:34:03,917 --> 00:34:05,500
We both have crazy work weeks.
895
00:34:05,542 --> 00:34:07,375
- Yeah, we had the wedding,
we had the honeymoon, and then,
896
00:34:07,458 --> 00:34:08,792
all of a sudden, we come back,
and we were like,
897
00:34:08,875 --> 00:34:11,000
oh, [bleep], like,
we've got the real
898
00:34:11,042 --> 00:34:12,458
world to come back to.
899
00:34:12,542 --> 00:34:14,625
So we were just like,
let's take a minute,
900
00:34:14,708 --> 00:34:16,292
gather ourselves.
901
00:34:16,375 --> 00:34:19,125
- We just didn't see
the need to, like, rush it.
902
00:34:19,208 --> 00:34:23,458
- Do you feel invested
in the marriage?
903
00:34:23,542 --> 00:34:25,875
♪
904
00:34:26,000 --> 00:34:27,583
- I feel invested
in the marriage, yes.
905
00:34:27,667 --> 00:34:28,708
- Do you feel like
you're getting back
906
00:34:28,792 --> 00:34:29,792
what you're putting in?
907
00:34:29,875 --> 00:34:32,917
- I do.
908
00:34:32,917 --> 00:34:34,833
- You gave me
a very musical "do."
909
00:34:34,917 --> 00:34:36,500
- I do.
- And that's--no.
910
00:34:36,583 --> 00:34:38,667
No, no, no,
your first reaction.
911
00:34:38,667 --> 00:34:43,208
- I just feel like
there is a lot to figure out.
912
00:34:43,292 --> 00:34:46,792
And I think we're
913
00:34:46,875 --> 00:34:49,750
in different spots as of now.
914
00:34:49,833 --> 00:34:51,333
- OK, OK, stop for a second.
915
00:34:51,333 --> 00:34:52,792
I don't--this is not--
916
00:34:52,875 --> 00:34:54,375
I don't want you guys
to be politically correct.
917
00:34:54,458 --> 00:34:55,833
- No.
918
00:34:55,958 --> 00:34:57,083
- I don't want you guys
to pull punches.
919
00:34:57,208 --> 00:34:58,583
I don't want you guys
to even worry
920
00:34:58,708 --> 00:35:00,333
about whether or not the
other person will be offended.
921
00:35:00,417 --> 00:35:02,333
- No, yeah,
I'm literally speaking what's,
922
00:35:02,417 --> 00:35:03,542
like, coming to my mind, yeah.
923
00:35:03,667 --> 00:35:05,708
- Serious, OK.
924
00:35:07,167 --> 00:35:09,125
- Like, I like him.
I'm attracted to him.
925
00:35:09,208 --> 00:35:12,000
And I felt like he really
liked me in the beginning,
926
00:35:12,125 --> 00:35:14,375
but then I started feeling,
like, unsure,
927
00:35:14,458 --> 00:35:16,917
and, like, I'm trying
to understand how to,
928
00:35:17,000 --> 00:35:19,958
like, move forward with that.
929
00:35:20,042 --> 00:35:21,875
- Do you want to speak to that?
930
00:35:21,958 --> 00:35:23,583
- Yeah, I think, you know,
931
00:35:23,667 --> 00:35:25,500
during the honeymoon
and the wedding,
932
00:35:25,583 --> 00:35:28,208
like, you're kind of just,
like, overcome with all
933
00:35:28,333 --> 00:35:31,000
this adrenaline and everything,
and you really don't
934
00:35:31,083 --> 00:35:32,333
know how you feel.
935
00:35:32,375 --> 00:35:33,667
You're just, like,
going with the flow,
936
00:35:33,708 --> 00:35:35,625
and riding,
and riding, and riding.
937
00:35:35,708 --> 00:35:37,458
And then, like,
it just hit me, like,
938
00:35:37,542 --> 00:35:40,542
a few days later, where I was
just like, something's off,
939
00:35:40,667 --> 00:35:42,208
like, between us.
940
00:35:42,208 --> 00:35:44,042
And when I, like,
look back at how,
941
00:35:44,167 --> 00:35:45,833
like, we were interacting
everything, like,
942
00:35:45,875 --> 00:35:47,083
all that was good.
943
00:35:47,167 --> 00:35:48,958
But, like, I didn't,
like, feel that,
944
00:35:49,042 --> 00:35:50,667
like, romantic connection.
945
00:35:50,708 --> 00:35:52,875
And over time,
with the honeymoon,
946
00:35:52,958 --> 00:35:54,500
it got less and less.
947
00:35:54,542 --> 00:35:56,625
I don't know, like,
what to do about it.
948
00:35:56,708 --> 00:35:59,458
Like, here I have, like,
the most amazing girl.
949
00:35:59,542 --> 00:36:02,417
And, like,
we're aligned on everything,
950
00:36:02,500 --> 00:36:05,792
and I, like,
don't know what's wrong.
951
00:36:05,875 --> 00:36:07,458
♪
952
00:36:07,542 --> 00:36:11,417
I just--I don't feel
any type of,
953
00:36:11,417 --> 00:36:14,542
like, romance right now.
954
00:36:14,625 --> 00:36:16,417
I'm not saying
the door is closed.
955
00:36:16,500 --> 00:36:17,875
I'm just saying--
- Sure, sure, sure.
956
00:36:17,958 --> 00:36:19,292
You're saying, right now,
you don't feel that.
957
00:36:19,292 --> 00:36:21,250
- Yeah.
- How do you feel about that?
958
00:36:21,333 --> 00:36:22,667
- I just, like--
959
00:36:22,750 --> 00:36:25,333
I really do believe
there is something here.
960
00:36:25,417 --> 00:36:28,000
And like I feel like,
yeah, I've done my best
961
00:36:28,083 --> 00:36:29,833
to be very open and honest.
962
00:36:29,917 --> 00:36:31,708
But I need some more,
like, emotions in order
963
00:36:31,792 --> 00:36:35,542
to figure out,
like, how to progress.
964
00:36:35,625 --> 00:36:37,917
- Tell me,
what feeling do you want?
965
00:36:37,917 --> 00:36:39,792
Tell me what
you're looking for.
966
00:36:39,875 --> 00:36:43,583
- I'm looking to, like,
just gravitate towards her,
967
00:36:43,667 --> 00:36:45,833
and want to, like,
touch her, and, like,
968
00:36:45,917 --> 00:36:49,125
do the things that, like,
a romantic partner should do.
969
00:36:49,208 --> 00:36:52,375
And I'm just not able
to do that because I
970
00:36:52,458 --> 00:36:55,333
don't feel like I can do it.
971
00:36:55,375 --> 00:36:57,708
- So you don't
want to touch her?
972
00:36:57,833 --> 00:37:01,000
- I mean, that's a pretty
[bleep] way to say it,
973
00:37:01,083 --> 00:37:02,833
but yeah.
974
00:37:04,333 --> 00:37:07,208
I mean, just not there.
975
00:37:07,292 --> 00:37:09,375
- OK, but have you pushed
yourself to see?
976
00:37:09,458 --> 00:37:10,792
- Yeah.
977
00:37:10,875 --> 00:37:12,792
The whole honeymoon,
it's all I was trying to do.
978
00:37:12,875 --> 00:37:15,917
- So during the honeymoon,
you didn't feel it either?
979
00:37:16,042 --> 00:37:20,375
♪
980
00:37:20,458 --> 00:37:23,917
- I try, and then I'm like,
I don't feel anything.
981
00:37:24,042 --> 00:37:25,417
OK.
982
00:37:26,625 --> 00:37:28,583
Like, I want to touch her leg.
983
00:37:28,583 --> 00:37:30,000
I'm touching her leg.
- OK.
984
00:37:30,083 --> 00:37:31,458
But have you ever wanted to?
- Yeah.
985
00:37:31,542 --> 00:37:32,958
- You have wanted to?
- Yeah.
986
00:37:33,042 --> 00:37:34,667
- When?
- I don't know.
987
00:37:34,750 --> 00:37:36,667
Whenever we have, like,
good moments between us.
988
00:37:36,708 --> 00:37:38,542
- So, when you have good--
OK, OK.
989
00:37:38,667 --> 00:37:40,250
When you have good
moments between you,
990
00:37:40,333 --> 00:37:42,167
you do feel like
being affectionate?
991
00:37:42,292 --> 00:37:43,625
- Yeah.
992
00:37:43,708 --> 00:37:47,167
But it hasn't gotten
me anywhere in terms
993
00:37:47,167 --> 00:37:48,833
of how I want to feel.
994
00:37:48,917 --> 00:37:50,708
♪
995
00:37:50,792 --> 00:37:54,333
- The difference here is that,
because you're married,
996
00:37:54,375 --> 00:37:56,333
you've given yourself a goal,
you know, this is how
997
00:37:56,417 --> 00:37:59,167
I should be feeling, right?
998
00:37:59,208 --> 00:38:02,083
I want you to
kind of erase that and start
999
00:38:02,208 --> 00:38:04,333
building your norm here.
1000
00:38:04,417 --> 00:38:06,792
This is a completely different
situation from anything
1001
00:38:06,875 --> 00:38:08,917
you've ever experienced.
1002
00:38:09,000 --> 00:38:13,542
And so your emotional closeness
is going to come differently.
1003
00:38:13,625 --> 00:38:17,500
Your intimacy is going
to come differently.
1004
00:38:17,583 --> 00:38:20,167
Does that make sense?
- Mm-hmm.
1005
00:38:20,208 --> 00:38:22,167
- It's sort of like you're
digging a hole for yourself,
1006
00:38:22,250 --> 00:38:24,375
and it becomes self-sabotaging.
1007
00:38:26,042 --> 00:38:28,000
How can I ask this?
1008
00:38:28,083 --> 00:38:30,667
Is there anything
about her that--
1009
00:38:30,750 --> 00:38:32,875
that you are not attracted to?
1010
00:38:33,000 --> 00:38:34,250
- We're not doing that.
1011
00:38:34,333 --> 00:38:36,042
- We're not doing that?
1012
00:38:36,167 --> 00:38:37,833
I'm asking you this because
I'm trying to get deeper.
1013
00:38:37,917 --> 00:38:39,417
- Yeah.
1014
00:38:39,500 --> 00:38:42,833
- You're very careful,
and almost--
1015
00:38:42,875 --> 00:38:45,500
I'm going to use
the word "fearful"--
1016
00:38:45,625 --> 00:38:49,167
to pull back and get too
deep in your emotions.
1017
00:38:49,250 --> 00:38:51,458
Tell me if I'm
right or wrong here.
1018
00:38:51,542 --> 00:38:54,250
- No, I think,
when you're on TV, you always
1019
00:38:54,333 --> 00:38:56,333
want to be mindful
of how you come across.
1020
00:38:56,375 --> 00:38:59,167
I open up when I feel
a sense of comfort,
1021
00:38:59,208 --> 00:39:01,667
and this is very new for me.
1022
00:39:01,708 --> 00:39:03,542
- OK.
1023
00:39:03,625 --> 00:39:06,417
What do you like about her?
1024
00:39:06,500 --> 00:39:10,625
- I like how spontaneous
she is, how bubbly she is,
1025
00:39:10,708 --> 00:39:14,917
how energetic you are,
how fun you are to be around,
1026
00:39:15,000 --> 00:39:18,000
how open-minded you are.
1027
00:39:18,083 --> 00:39:21,500
And I love that we have
the same food interests.
1028
00:39:21,583 --> 00:39:24,125
- That's important.
1029
00:39:24,208 --> 00:39:26,708
- Good, good, good.
I appreciate that.
1030
00:39:28,292 --> 00:39:31,583
Emily, your parents have
been married forever.
1031
00:39:31,667 --> 00:39:33,375
- Ever, yeah.
- And your parents--
1032
00:39:33,458 --> 00:39:35,542
- Same.
- Same.
1033
00:39:35,625 --> 00:39:38,542
I will guarantee you that,
if you talk to them,
1034
00:39:38,542 --> 00:39:42,458
they will tell you,
they don't always good about--
1035
00:39:42,542 --> 00:39:44,708
we don't always feel
good about each other,
1036
00:39:44,792 --> 00:39:47,500
but we're here because
of something much deeper.
1037
00:39:47,542 --> 00:39:50,208
And that's what we're
trying to do here.
1038
00:39:50,292 --> 00:39:52,167
Going forward, what do you
think are some of the things
1039
00:39:52,250 --> 00:39:54,125
that you could do?
1040
00:39:54,208 --> 00:39:55,333
- I want to move in together.
1041
00:39:55,417 --> 00:39:56,958
♪
1042
00:39:57,042 --> 00:40:01,500
I want to see
if that changes anything.
1043
00:40:01,542 --> 00:40:04,583
And take it a day at a time.
1044
00:40:04,667 --> 00:40:06,458
- And what you're going
to find, honestly,
1045
00:40:06,542 --> 00:40:09,083
is that moving
in together is actually
1046
00:40:09,167 --> 00:40:11,000
going to go a long way.
1047
00:40:11,042 --> 00:40:12,875
It honestly is.
1048
00:40:12,958 --> 00:40:14,625
And I want you to just
trust me on this one, OK?
1049
00:40:14,708 --> 00:40:17,917
Just being in the same
space is going to help.
1050
00:40:18,000 --> 00:40:20,667
- I agree.
1051
00:40:20,750 --> 00:40:24,500
I don't know what I can
change to help the situation,
1052
00:40:24,542 --> 00:40:28,125
but I think, like, today,
just talking about feelings
1053
00:40:28,208 --> 00:40:30,292
is, like, a huge step.
1054
00:40:30,375 --> 00:40:31,958
Because the only way,
like, I think
1055
00:40:32,042 --> 00:40:34,167
we can figure this out
is continuing
1056
00:40:34,208 --> 00:40:37,792
to open up about emotions,
which I know is hard, but--
1057
00:40:37,875 --> 00:40:39,667
- Yeah, it's tough.
It's tough.
1058
00:40:39,750 --> 00:40:41,208
- It's really, I think,
the only way, like,
1059
00:40:41,292 --> 00:40:43,500
we can really figure this out.
1060
00:40:43,583 --> 00:40:45,292
- ♪ One deep breath
1061
00:40:45,375 --> 00:40:47,500
♪ One big step
1062
00:40:47,542 --> 00:40:49,417
♪ Closer to dream
1063
00:40:53,042 --> 00:40:54,958
- ♪ Can we make this
last forever ♪
1064
00:40:55,042 --> 00:40:57,333
♪ You and me together
1065
00:40:57,375 --> 00:41:00,000
♪ End this night,
your hand in mine ♪
1066
00:41:00,042 --> 00:41:01,333
- Are we gonna sit here?
1067
00:41:01,458 --> 00:41:02,208
- Yeah, if you'd
like to sit here.
1068
00:41:02,292 --> 00:41:03,583
- OK, thank you.
1069
00:41:03,667 --> 00:41:05,375
So anything happening
since I saw you last?
1070
00:41:05,375 --> 00:41:07,250
- No.
- No, nothing.
1071
00:41:07,333 --> 00:41:09,000
Life's been the same, you know?
1072
00:41:09,083 --> 00:41:11,958
- Oh, I got married.
1073
00:41:12,042 --> 00:41:13,250
- No kidding!
- Yeah.
1074
00:41:13,375 --> 00:41:14,292
- Believe it or not...
- Congratulations.
1075
00:41:14,375 --> 00:41:15,667
- Yeah.
- Me too.
1076
00:41:15,792 --> 00:41:17,333
- OK, ooh!
1077
00:41:17,375 --> 00:41:18,958
- Yeah.
1078
00:41:19,042 --> 00:41:21,750
So, you know,
married life is going well.
1079
00:41:21,833 --> 00:41:23,500
- It's different.
- It's definitely different.
1080
00:41:23,542 --> 00:41:27,583
I think it's been
a huge time of transition.
1081
00:41:27,667 --> 00:41:30,083
And we're just trying to,
like, navigate that together.
1082
00:41:30,167 --> 00:41:33,500
- So tell me a little bit
about some of the things
1083
00:41:33,583 --> 00:41:37,833
that you'd like some support on
or some guidance on.
1084
00:41:37,875 --> 00:41:39,333
- Yeah.
1085
00:41:39,458 --> 00:41:41,792
- I can go.
- Yeah.
1086
00:41:41,875 --> 00:41:45,375
- I think the thing that
Clare and I maybe struggled
1087
00:41:45,500 --> 00:41:47,500
with the most
during the honeymoon
1088
00:41:47,583 --> 00:41:50,708
was trying to build
a comfortable space
1089
00:41:50,833 --> 00:41:52,375
for physical intimacy.
1090
00:41:52,458 --> 00:41:53,875
- I agree with that.
1091
00:41:54,000 --> 00:41:56,292
It was hard for me
to express my love
1092
00:41:56,292 --> 00:41:57,875
and affection, whatever.
1093
00:41:57,958 --> 00:42:00,042
But, realistically,
in my past, that hasn't
1094
00:42:00,167 --> 00:42:01,833
been something that I've done.
1095
00:42:01,875 --> 00:42:04,000
You know, for me, it's, like,
if that emotional side is not
1096
00:42:04,042 --> 00:42:06,500
there, then I can't give
myself to someone physically,
1097
00:42:06,583 --> 00:42:08,417
if, emotionally, I feel
like there's a block there.
1098
00:42:08,500 --> 00:42:11,000
I am moving at a turtle pace,
and I am sorry.
1099
00:42:11,125 --> 00:42:16,500
- No, but just even vocalizing,
you know, what you just did,
1100
00:42:16,583 --> 00:42:17,708
it means a lot.
1101
00:42:17,792 --> 00:42:19,625
- Yeah.
1102
00:42:19,708 --> 00:42:21,833
- There's so many little things
that can be done in that area,
1103
00:42:21,875 --> 00:42:24,833
and that could be holding his
hands, touching his shoulder,
1104
00:42:24,875 --> 00:42:27,125
stroking his back,
just things that,
1105
00:42:27,208 --> 00:42:31,000
when you're feeling warm,
to show it physically that way.
1106
00:42:31,083 --> 00:42:32,208
- Yeah.
1107
00:42:32,292 --> 00:42:33,833
- I think it's really great
1108
00:42:33,875 --> 00:42:36,000
that he feels
that way about you.
1109
00:42:36,083 --> 00:42:38,417
You know, I think
you want to be desired.
1110
00:42:38,500 --> 00:42:39,958
- Right.
1111
00:42:40,042 --> 00:42:41,625
- But maybe showing him
a little more
1112
00:42:41,708 --> 00:42:45,000
in affectionate ways.
1113
00:42:45,042 --> 00:42:48,042
- I mean, I think holding
hands feels comfy,
1114
00:42:48,125 --> 00:42:49,375
or, like, you know--
1115
00:42:49,542 --> 00:42:51,833
I mean, does it for you?
- Yeah, yeah.
1116
00:42:51,917 --> 00:42:53,500
- Or do I need to ask you,
like, is this comfortable?
1117
00:42:53,625 --> 00:42:55,042
- No, I'm--
1118
00:42:55,125 --> 00:42:57,750
- I think he's good to go.
- Yeah.
1119
00:42:57,833 --> 00:42:59,208
- I think that whole
conversation pretty much--
1120
00:42:59,333 --> 00:43:00,333
- I'm just saying!
- Yeah.
1121
00:43:00,375 --> 00:43:01,667
- Yeah.
1122
00:43:01,792 --> 00:43:04,125
No, this does not
feel weird to me.
1123
00:43:04,208 --> 00:43:07,125
So, yeah, I'll make sure
that I'm displaying
1124
00:43:07,208 --> 00:43:09,667
more visible affection.
1125
00:43:09,750 --> 00:43:11,792
- Yeah, I think
that's really good.
1126
00:43:11,875 --> 00:43:14,333
So there's a couple other
things I want to cover.
1127
00:43:14,375 --> 00:43:16,708
Well, let's talk
about religion
1128
00:43:16,833 --> 00:43:21,667
because I know that you come to
it from different traditions.
1129
00:43:21,792 --> 00:43:23,667
- Yeah.
- Yeah.
1130
00:43:23,708 --> 00:43:27,292
I was raised Christian.
1131
00:43:27,375 --> 00:43:30,042
I was actually kicked out
of church when I was ten.
1132
00:43:30,125 --> 00:43:32,542
I spoke out against something
that needed to be spoken
1133
00:43:32,667 --> 00:43:34,667
out against, as a ten-year-old.
1134
00:43:34,792 --> 00:43:39,417
I had to rediscover
1135
00:43:39,500 --> 00:43:42,083
what life meant to me.
1136
00:43:42,167 --> 00:43:47,875
And for me personally, the best
tools I could give my children
1137
00:43:47,958 --> 00:43:50,792
is the understanding
that the world
1138
00:43:50,875 --> 00:43:52,667
is gray, many shades of gray.
1139
00:43:52,750 --> 00:43:55,625
And I feel that
religion does not
1140
00:43:55,708 --> 00:43:58,333
prepare my children
adequately for the world
1141
00:43:58,375 --> 00:43:59,917
that they are facing.
1142
00:44:00,000 --> 00:44:02,917
- I totally respect.
Don't agree, but I do respect.
1143
00:44:03,000 --> 00:44:05,708
- I also think
that families can contain
1144
00:44:05,792 --> 00:44:08,333
people who don't agree.
1145
00:44:08,375 --> 00:44:13,542
But my sense of is there
shared values about, you know,
1146
00:44:13,625 --> 00:44:15,875
what's respectful,
and what's humane,
1147
00:44:15,958 --> 00:44:18,708
and how do you want
to live an ethical life,
1148
00:44:18,833 --> 00:44:21,167
and those kinds of things,
they can be expressed
1149
00:44:21,250 --> 00:44:22,667
in lots of different ways.
1150
00:44:22,750 --> 00:44:23,917
- Yeah, I really appreciate
you saying that.
1151
00:44:24,000 --> 00:44:25,917
That's, I think,
really helpful for us.
1152
00:44:26,000 --> 00:44:27,833
- We're still finding
out that there's a lot
1153
00:44:27,917 --> 00:44:29,667
we don't know about each other.
1154
00:44:29,708 --> 00:44:31,708
But I'm glad
that we're going slow
1155
00:44:31,833 --> 00:44:35,542
and that we're taking the time
to get to know each other.
1156
00:44:35,625 --> 00:44:37,167
- Well, I think you guys
have come a long way.
1157
00:44:37,250 --> 00:44:39,083
- I think so too.
1158
00:44:39,167 --> 00:44:41,375
- ♪ And I'm standing here
on top of the world ♪
1159
00:44:41,500 --> 00:44:45,625
♪ Can't believe that I've
never been here before ♪
1160
00:44:45,708 --> 00:44:47,500
[soft music]
1161
00:44:47,625 --> 00:44:49,167
- ♪ All alone
1162
00:44:49,250 --> 00:44:52,167
♪ I wouldn't want
it any other way ♪
1163
00:44:52,250 --> 00:44:54,792
- What did you think
about what Pastor Cal said?
1164
00:44:54,875 --> 00:44:56,000
- I agreed with a lot.
1165
00:44:56,083 --> 00:44:57,583
And a lot of what he
said is what I have
1166
00:44:57,667 --> 00:45:01,000
been analyzing and thinking.
1167
00:45:01,083 --> 00:45:02,167
♪
1168
00:45:02,208 --> 00:45:03,750
- Yeah.
1169
00:45:03,833 --> 00:45:05,375
- Specifically the
self-sabotaging, that's what
1170
00:45:05,458 --> 00:45:06,542
I think you're doing.
1171
00:45:06,667 --> 00:45:09,042
- Oh, OK.
- Mm-hmm.
1172
00:45:09,125 --> 00:45:10,792
Like, I just need
you to--like,
1173
00:45:10,875 --> 00:45:13,583
you don't have to tell me,
like, why not, but, like,
1174
00:45:13,708 --> 00:45:15,250
I just need you to tell me
if you're physically
1175
00:45:15,333 --> 00:45:17,000
attracted to me or not.
1176
00:45:17,083 --> 00:45:18,917
Because I think that's a big,
important piece of this.
1177
00:45:19,042 --> 00:45:21,500
And, like, you won't
answer it directly.
1178
00:45:21,583 --> 00:45:23,417
- Because I just don't
think that's nice.
1179
00:45:23,500 --> 00:45:26,250
- But, like, that's, like,
a piece of this for me
1180
00:45:26,333 --> 00:45:29,125
to understand to,
like, figure out.
1181
00:45:29,208 --> 00:45:31,667
♪
1182
00:45:31,708 --> 00:45:33,167
- I hear you.
1183
00:45:33,208 --> 00:45:35,042
I'm just also trying
to protect you, so--
1184
00:45:35,125 --> 00:45:36,917
♪
1185
00:45:37,042 --> 00:45:38,208
- Don't think you're
gonna hurt my feelings.
1186
00:45:38,292 --> 00:45:39,667
You're hurting my
feelings when you
1187
00:45:39,750 --> 00:45:42,708
just don't tell me everything.
1188
00:45:45,208 --> 00:45:47,667
- I just can't.
1189
00:45:47,750 --> 00:45:50,167
♪
1190
00:45:50,208 --> 00:45:53,542
I would never want someone to
tell me that in any capacity,
1191
00:45:53,625 --> 00:45:55,500
so I just can't do it.
1192
00:45:55,625 --> 00:45:57,167
♪
1193
00:45:57,292 --> 00:45:59,458
- So you just answered
that question by, like,
1194
00:45:59,458 --> 00:46:01,042
not answering the question.
1195
00:46:01,125 --> 00:46:03,958
- No, I don't--
I'm just not saying anything.
1196
00:46:04,042 --> 00:46:06,667
♪
1197
00:46:06,750 --> 00:46:10,125
- I know, like,
this isn't a reflection on me.
1198
00:46:10,208 --> 00:46:14,917
And, like, I feel like I've
always been really confident,
1199
00:46:15,000 --> 00:46:16,792
and, like, I know this.
1200
00:46:16,875 --> 00:46:20,083
But it still just sucks
to, like, deal with.
1201
00:46:20,167 --> 00:46:22,958
It's just, like, I didn't
ever really anticipate,
1202
00:46:23,042 --> 00:46:25,542
like, a lot of what's
happening, like,
1203
00:46:25,625 --> 00:46:27,667
in this scenario with this.
1204
00:46:27,708 --> 00:46:31,167
♪
1205
00:46:31,208 --> 00:46:34,333
That doesn't mean
I'm gonna stop trying.
1206
00:46:34,417 --> 00:46:37,792
I just really need to see
what he does after today.
1207
00:46:37,875 --> 00:46:42,875
- I'm still here, right,
so, like, not 100% there,
1208
00:46:43,000 --> 00:46:45,000
but I'm still willing to try.
1209
00:46:45,042 --> 00:46:47,417
♪
1210
00:46:51,458 --> 00:46:52,500
- ♪ Come so far
1211
00:46:52,500 --> 00:46:53,625
♪ And look at where we are
1212
00:46:53,708 --> 00:46:56,708
♪ Gonna lead the way
1213
00:46:56,792 --> 00:46:59,458
- Aw!
- Good to see you!
1214
00:46:59,542 --> 00:47:01,625
- So what's up, guys?
1215
00:47:01,708 --> 00:47:03,583
Look at you guys,
looking all married!
1216
00:47:03,667 --> 00:47:05,417
- We are.
1217
00:47:05,500 --> 00:47:06,792
- Pretty rad.
1218
00:47:06,875 --> 00:47:07,833
- You're all snuggly
and everything.
1219
00:47:07,875 --> 00:47:09,250
- Oh, yeah.
1220
00:47:09,333 --> 00:47:11,500
- So how long did it
take you to actually
1221
00:47:11,625 --> 00:47:14,000
become close physically?
1222
00:47:14,083 --> 00:47:15,958
Because, like,
this seems so natural.
1223
00:47:16,083 --> 00:47:18,042
- Yeah, pretty instantaneous.
1224
00:47:18,125 --> 00:47:20,292
- Have you consummated
the marriage?
1225
00:47:20,375 --> 00:47:22,333
♪
1226
00:47:22,417 --> 00:47:23,875
- The short answer is no.
1227
00:47:23,958 --> 00:47:25,167
- No, yeah.
- Not yet.
1228
00:47:25,208 --> 00:47:26,667
- OK.
1229
00:47:26,750 --> 00:47:28,958
- I just, you know,
want to connect and bond
1230
00:47:29,042 --> 00:47:32,292
on, like, other things
before taking that, like, step.
1231
00:47:32,375 --> 00:47:34,000
I just need more time.
1232
00:47:34,083 --> 00:47:35,833
I've always been that way.
1233
00:47:35,958 --> 00:47:37,167
- There's a desire there.
- Yeah.
1234
00:47:37,208 --> 00:47:39,833
- Yeah.
- For both of you, OK.
1235
00:47:39,958 --> 00:47:41,333
And not that we want to--
1236
00:47:41,417 --> 00:47:44,167
look, the only reason
we ask is that it's just
1237
00:47:44,250 --> 00:47:47,833
another barometer to measure,
you, know your intimacy level.
1238
00:47:47,917 --> 00:47:49,833
- Yeah.
- And how you're getting along.
1239
00:47:49,917 --> 00:47:52,708
And have you talked
about children?
1240
00:47:52,792 --> 00:47:54,542
- Yeah.
1241
00:47:54,625 --> 00:47:57,458
- I have always been OK not
having biological children.
1242
00:47:57,542 --> 00:48:00,625
But if my partner really
wanted biological children,
1243
00:48:00,708 --> 00:48:03,083
I would also be
happy to do that,
1244
00:48:03,167 --> 00:48:04,625
and, like, go on that
adventure with my partner.
1245
00:48:04,708 --> 00:48:06,125
- Yeah.
1246
00:48:06,208 --> 00:48:08,125
Like, I also want
to have a family.
1247
00:48:08,208 --> 00:48:10,583
But one thing we
wanted to ask you,
1248
00:48:10,667 --> 00:48:14,208
actually, was kind of, because
we talked about religion,
1249
00:48:14,292 --> 00:48:18,708
and we definitely have some
differing opinions about that.
1250
00:48:18,792 --> 00:48:20,917
- What is at the core
of your faith?
1251
00:48:21,000 --> 00:48:25,875
- I guess, like, it is
based on, like, God's love,
1252
00:48:25,958 --> 00:48:29,500
you know, really, like,
caring for everyone
1253
00:48:29,583 --> 00:48:30,958
that, like, is in your life.
1254
00:48:31,042 --> 00:48:32,958
Like, it's really
based on love.
1255
00:48:33,042 --> 00:48:35,250
- It's based on love.
1256
00:48:35,333 --> 00:48:39,042
Tell me, what is the basis
of your spirituality,
1257
00:48:39,125 --> 00:48:40,375
your spiritual journey.
1258
00:48:40,458 --> 00:48:44,167
- Kindness,
and understanding, and--
1259
00:48:44,250 --> 00:48:45,750
and love.
1260
00:48:45,833 --> 00:48:47,500
- Is it any different
from what he said?
1261
00:48:47,583 --> 00:48:48,958
- No.
1262
00:48:49,042 --> 00:48:50,958
[laughter]
1263
00:48:51,042 --> 00:48:56,042
- And that kind of belief,
I felt, was enough.
1264
00:48:56,167 --> 00:49:00,792
- In my experience,
I don't often meet Christians
1265
00:49:00,875 --> 00:49:02,167
who don't want
to change my mind.
1266
00:49:02,292 --> 00:49:04,167
- Rebecca, meet Austin. OK?
1267
00:49:04,208 --> 00:49:05,750
- Yeah.
1268
00:49:05,833 --> 00:49:08,833
- Because, for most people,
we tend to attach, you know,
1269
00:49:08,917 --> 00:49:10,708
as a Christian,
well, look, if you
1270
00:49:10,833 --> 00:49:11,875
don't believe the
way I believe,
1271
00:49:11,958 --> 00:49:13,833
you're going to burn in hell.
1272
00:49:13,917 --> 00:49:17,833
And I think, a lot of times,
we forget that,
1273
00:49:17,917 --> 00:49:21,000
if you actually
1274
00:49:21,042 --> 00:49:24,125
are living out the positive
spirituality that you're
1275
00:49:24,208 --> 00:49:28,167
living, and it's moral,
and it's good, and it's gentle,
1276
00:49:28,250 --> 00:49:32,583
and it's peaceful,
then it's OK, you know.
1277
00:49:32,667 --> 00:49:36,833
Because you should never
let anybody think and make
1278
00:49:36,875 --> 00:49:38,667
you feel as though
you're doomed.
1279
00:49:38,750 --> 00:49:40,125
- Yeah.
1280
00:49:40,125 --> 00:49:41,333
- Do you understand
what I'm saying?
1281
00:49:41,417 --> 00:49:42,833
Why are you getting emotional?
1282
00:49:42,917 --> 00:49:45,333
- Because that has
been a lot of--
1283
00:49:45,417 --> 00:49:47,500
like, especially
being raised Jewish,
1284
00:49:47,542 --> 00:49:50,000
like, Christians
just typically think,
1285
00:49:50,083 --> 00:49:52,000
because you haven't accepted
Jesus into your heart,
1286
00:49:52,083 --> 00:49:54,708
that, like, you're to hell.
1287
00:49:54,792 --> 00:49:57,667
And, like, I've heard that,
like, from close friends.
1288
00:49:57,750 --> 00:50:00,667
And it's hard,
because it's like,
1289
00:50:00,750 --> 00:50:02,167
I don't think
I'm going to hell.
1290
00:50:02,250 --> 00:50:03,583
- Yeah.
1291
00:50:03,667 --> 00:50:06,500
- And so, when I found out
that I was paired with--
1292
00:50:06,500 --> 00:50:08,500
- Yeah, it scared the crap
out of you, didn't it?
1293
00:50:08,542 --> 00:50:10,167
- Yeah.
1294
00:50:10,208 --> 00:50:11,917
- I mean, he obviously
cares a lot about you.
1295
00:50:12,000 --> 00:50:13,250
- I know. I know.
1296
00:50:13,375 --> 00:50:15,875
- If he did not
care deeply for you,
1297
00:50:15,958 --> 00:50:18,417
he wouldn't be here,
comforting you.
1298
00:50:18,500 --> 00:50:21,292
- Yeah.
No, he's a good egg.
1299
00:50:21,375 --> 00:50:23,083
- Yeah, do you think this
woman's compatible to you?
1300
00:50:23,083 --> 00:50:24,375
- Yeah, absolutely.
1301
00:50:24,458 --> 00:50:27,333
Yeah, the values were,
like, very similar.
1302
00:50:27,458 --> 00:50:29,083
- The labels are the problem.
1303
00:50:29,167 --> 00:50:31,125
- The labels is--yeah.
1304
00:50:31,208 --> 00:50:34,917
I mean, it's something that,
like, we are going--
1305
00:50:34,917 --> 00:50:36,875
that, like, I'm going
to have to work on,
1306
00:50:36,958 --> 00:50:40,375
and, like, I'm not saying that
I can't, like, overcome it.
1307
00:50:40,500 --> 00:50:43,667
I just haven't had time
to really, like, dive into it.
1308
00:50:43,750 --> 00:50:46,458
And, like, I understand, and,
like, absorbing everything
1309
00:50:46,458 --> 00:50:48,292
you're saying,
and I do agree with it.
1310
00:50:48,375 --> 00:50:51,625
- Yeah, do you feel like
you're growing,
1311
00:50:51,708 --> 00:50:54,000
you're still in like
with each other, or where--
1312
00:50:54,083 --> 00:50:55,792
- Yeah, yeah.
1313
00:50:55,875 --> 00:50:57,042
- Yeah, I've got
a crush on him.
1314
00:50:57,167 --> 00:50:58,875
- You have a crush on him?
- Yeah.
1315
00:50:58,958 --> 00:51:01,833
- Can you see love
in the future?
1316
00:51:01,875 --> 00:51:03,833
- Yeah.
- Yeah.
1317
00:51:03,917 --> 00:51:07,875
- I already have told him that,
like, I love him as a person.
1318
00:51:07,958 --> 00:51:09,333
- Yeah, no,
I feel the same way.
1319
00:51:09,417 --> 00:51:11,750
Like, she's an amazing
person, and we do say
1320
00:51:11,833 --> 00:51:13,417
that to each other frequently.
1321
00:51:13,542 --> 00:51:15,167
- But you're falling
short of "I love you."
1322
00:51:15,250 --> 00:51:17,167
- Yeah, well, because
we're not in love yet.
1323
00:51:17,250 --> 00:51:19,667
- And how do you know that?
1324
00:51:19,708 --> 00:51:21,500
- I--
1325
00:51:21,542 --> 00:51:22,958
- I still don't even know how
many speeding tickets he got.
1326
00:51:23,042 --> 00:51:25,000
You've gotta know that before
you're in love with someone.
1327
00:51:25,083 --> 00:51:27,167
- Yeah, that's never
been a requirement.
1328
00:51:27,250 --> 00:51:28,833
How do you know
you're not in love?
1329
00:51:28,875 --> 00:51:31,208
- I don't know.
1330
00:51:31,333 --> 00:51:32,792
And like, I just feel like you
know when you know, you know?
1331
00:51:32,875 --> 00:51:34,500
- Yeah.
1332
00:51:34,542 --> 00:51:37,250
- I think you guys have
already planted the seeds,
1333
00:51:37,250 --> 00:51:39,250
and you're already
growing in love.
1334
00:51:39,333 --> 00:51:41,958
And expressing it
is the big thing.
1335
00:51:42,042 --> 00:51:43,500
- Yeah.
1336
00:51:43,542 --> 00:51:46,250
- I think you guys are
really on a good track.
1337
00:51:46,375 --> 00:51:50,167
- ♪ Feeling good, good
1338
00:51:54,000 --> 00:51:56,542
- ♪ Is it love, is it love
1339
00:51:56,667 --> 00:51:59,458
[soft music]
1340
00:51:59,542 --> 00:52:01,875
♪
1341
00:52:01,875 --> 00:52:03,750
♪ Is it love, is it love
1342
00:52:03,750 --> 00:52:06,333
- Hey, come on in.
1343
00:52:06,375 --> 00:52:09,708
I was completely
blindsided with Orion
1344
00:52:09,833 --> 00:52:13,458
texting me to get a divorce.
1345
00:52:13,458 --> 00:52:16,000
- Hello, hi!
- Hi, how are you?
1346
00:52:16,125 --> 00:52:18,167
- Being with him has
been very inconsistent,
1347
00:52:18,208 --> 00:52:20,792
so I'm definitely going
into the meeting with Dr. Pia
1348
00:52:20,875 --> 00:52:23,958
hoping that we can at least
be honest with each other,
1349
00:52:24,042 --> 00:52:27,042
but I don't know
if he's able to see
1350
00:52:27,125 --> 00:52:28,833
the good in this marriage.
1351
00:52:28,917 --> 00:52:30,708
♪
1352
00:52:30,792 --> 00:52:34,833
- I am grateful that you
all both have decided
1353
00:52:34,958 --> 00:52:37,625
to meet with me tonight.
1354
00:52:37,708 --> 00:52:39,833
When was the last time
that the two of you
1355
00:52:39,917 --> 00:52:42,292
spoke to one another, or even
saw each other in person?
1356
00:52:42,375 --> 00:52:44,083
- A few texting here and there.
1357
00:52:44,208 --> 00:52:47,333
We actually tried to meet up
before all of this.
1358
00:52:47,458 --> 00:52:49,708
It just didn't work out with
timing and things like that.
1359
00:52:49,792 --> 00:52:51,500
- I don't really think
there was a lot
1360
00:52:51,583 --> 00:52:55,042
of effort put into meeting up.
1361
00:52:55,167 --> 00:52:57,167
He reached out
and asked to meet up.
1362
00:52:57,250 --> 00:53:00,583
I gave him my availability,
and that was that.
1363
00:53:00,708 --> 00:53:02,042
- Does that mean there
was no response after you
1364
00:53:02,125 --> 00:53:03,125
gave your availability?
1365
00:53:03,208 --> 00:53:04,792
- No, there wasn't.
1366
00:53:04,875 --> 00:53:07,417
The next response was telling
me that he wanted a divorce.
1367
00:53:09,042 --> 00:53:11,000
- OK.
1368
00:53:11,083 --> 00:53:13,125
What are you feeling
right now, Orion?
1369
00:53:13,125 --> 00:53:16,958
- I am not looking
to hurt her with this.
1370
00:53:17,042 --> 00:53:20,750
You know, honestly, I thought
that it would give us both
1371
00:53:20,833 --> 00:53:23,333
a chance to heal from this.
1372
00:53:23,417 --> 00:53:27,958
Because, at this point,
I don't know what would help.
1373
00:53:28,042 --> 00:53:31,083
♪
1374
00:53:31,208 --> 00:53:32,667
- What I would hate
is for there
1375
00:53:32,708 --> 00:53:35,208
to be a missed opportunity
for the two of you
1376
00:53:35,292 --> 00:53:37,250
to have a repair.
1377
00:53:37,333 --> 00:53:39,542
- I do still want to be here.
1378
00:53:39,625 --> 00:53:42,042
I do still feel like my husband
and I can make this work.
1379
00:53:42,125 --> 00:53:44,583
But I don't feel
like he wants to.
1380
00:53:46,042 --> 00:53:48,458
You came back to me and said
you want to do a reset,
1381
00:53:48,542 --> 00:53:51,750
I don't hold this against you,
we can move through this.
1382
00:53:51,833 --> 00:53:54,083
And then the next day it's,
you don't want to continue
1383
00:53:54,167 --> 00:53:55,792
the marriage,
even though you literally
1384
00:53:55,875 --> 00:53:58,292
sent me a text saying you
want to focus on the future.
1385
00:53:58,417 --> 00:54:00,208
Like, some things you just say,
1386
00:54:00,292 --> 00:54:01,792
I don't think
it's your intention,
1387
00:54:01,875 --> 00:54:04,083
but it just confuses me
so much to the point
1388
00:54:04,167 --> 00:54:06,833
where I'm just like, OK.
1389
00:54:06,875 --> 00:54:09,875
♪
1390
00:54:11,125 --> 00:54:13,500
- I did want
to focus on the future,
1391
00:54:13,583 --> 00:54:15,792
and, you know,
that wasn't necessarily
1392
00:54:15,875 --> 00:54:18,292
specific to me or to us.
1393
00:54:18,375 --> 00:54:20,500
It was just
the future as a whole.
1394
00:54:20,542 --> 00:54:23,583
- OK, you came in already with
your mind made up of, like,
1395
00:54:23,667 --> 00:54:25,167
mm, there really isn't much
that's gonna, like,
1396
00:54:25,250 --> 00:54:26,500
sway your decision.
1397
00:54:26,583 --> 00:54:28,792
You came in here,
like, I want a divorce.
1398
00:54:28,875 --> 00:54:30,208
That's what's gonna happen.
1399
00:54:30,292 --> 00:54:32,208
Is that fair to say?
1400
00:54:32,208 --> 00:54:35,833
- I wouldn't--
yes, it is fair to say.
1401
00:54:35,917 --> 00:54:39,458
♪
1402
00:54:39,542 --> 00:54:41,500
There is chemistry between us.
1403
00:54:41,625 --> 00:54:45,083
But with that being said,
it is hard
1404
00:54:45,167 --> 00:54:47,625
because a lot of things
cut really deep.
1405
00:54:47,708 --> 00:54:50,667
And after the honeymoon and
everything that has happened,
1406
00:54:50,792 --> 00:54:54,500
I am really just
feeling heartbroken.
1407
00:54:54,542 --> 00:54:57,750
♪
1408
00:54:57,875 --> 00:55:01,208
And, you know,
wanting to be open to this,
1409
00:55:01,333 --> 00:55:05,500
I do, but I know we're
not able to constructively
1410
00:55:05,583 --> 00:55:09,625
get past or talk about things
because of how you react.
1411
00:55:09,750 --> 00:55:13,292
When something comes up,
or something is being
1412
00:55:13,375 --> 00:55:15,833
talked about,
something is overheard,
1413
00:55:15,875 --> 00:55:19,958
it does go from 0 to 100.
1414
00:55:20,042 --> 00:55:22,833
- I think that's fair to say,
but it's also unfair
1415
00:55:22,917 --> 00:55:27,292
to act like my reaction
was just a reaction.
1416
00:55:27,375 --> 00:55:29,667
If there's a reaction,
there's an act.
1417
00:55:29,708 --> 00:55:32,208
♪
1418
00:55:32,375 --> 00:55:34,250
- When we're feeling anxious,
when we're
1419
00:55:34,375 --> 00:55:37,500
feeling uncomfortable,
we go into protective mode.
1420
00:55:37,583 --> 00:55:42,917
Both of you react in ways
that perhaps are not productive
1421
00:55:43,000 --> 00:55:46,208
when feeling defensive.
1422
00:55:46,292 --> 00:55:48,458
It takes time
to develop that skill,
1423
00:55:48,542 --> 00:55:50,750
especially
in a new relationship.
1424
00:55:50,833 --> 00:55:54,333
And you have not
had enough time
1425
00:55:54,458 --> 00:55:56,667
to get to know one another.
1426
00:55:56,708 --> 00:56:01,917
What I am asking of both of you
is to extend even more grace
1427
00:56:01,917 --> 00:56:06,333
to one another,
to truly start fresh,
1428
00:56:06,375 --> 00:56:10,500
start over, let go
1429
00:56:10,542 --> 00:56:14,042
of what happened
on the honeymoon.
1430
00:56:14,125 --> 00:56:17,667
It is not a characterization
of who you are at your core.
1431
00:56:17,750 --> 00:56:20,917
It is not a characterization
of who you are at your core.
1432
00:56:21,042 --> 00:56:22,333
♪
1433
00:56:22,375 --> 00:56:24,875
Lauren, do you
truly forgive him?
1434
00:56:25,042 --> 00:56:26,958
- Yeah.
1435
00:56:28,458 --> 00:56:32,125
I feel like I've expressed
that multiple times.
1436
00:56:32,208 --> 00:56:34,167
- What about for you?
1437
00:56:34,167 --> 00:56:39,125
- Um--
1438
00:56:39,208 --> 00:56:42,333
I'm not sure.
I'm not sure.
1439
00:56:42,417 --> 00:56:44,833
♪
1440
00:56:44,875 --> 00:56:49,417
- I'm having a hard
time understanding
1441
00:56:49,500 --> 00:56:53,042
the rigidity
behind your unwillingness
1442
00:56:53,125 --> 00:56:55,708
to provide grace.
1443
00:56:55,792 --> 00:56:57,708
- Um...
1444
00:56:57,792 --> 00:56:59,250
♪
1445
00:56:59,333 --> 00:57:00,833
- Do you just not
want to be with me?
1446
00:57:00,875 --> 00:57:02,667
Is that, like,
an overarching feeling,
1447
00:57:02,750 --> 00:57:04,208
like, I just don't
want to be with Lauren?
1448
00:57:04,333 --> 00:57:05,667
You can be honest.
1449
00:57:05,708 --> 00:57:07,167
You're not gonna
hurt my feelings.
1450
00:57:07,208 --> 00:57:09,375
♪
1451
00:57:13,292 --> 00:57:15,333
- Do you just not
want to be with me?
1452
00:57:15,333 --> 00:57:17,583
- It's just, with everything
that happened,
1453
00:57:17,708 --> 00:57:21,625
everything that took place,
1454
00:57:21,708 --> 00:57:24,250
I lost all romantic interest.
1455
00:57:24,375 --> 00:57:26,917
♪
1456
00:57:29,083 --> 00:57:32,792
- Orion, how does control
show up in your life for you?
1457
00:57:32,875 --> 00:57:35,583
- Well, I'm not trying
to control what's happening
1458
00:57:35,708 --> 00:57:37,083
by calling for a divorce.
1459
00:57:37,167 --> 00:57:38,833
- You are.
1460
00:57:38,833 --> 00:57:40,583
♪
1461
00:57:40,667 --> 00:57:43,083
You feel uncomfortable,
so your part of control
1462
00:57:43,208 --> 00:57:44,750
is to remove yourself from it.
1463
00:57:44,875 --> 00:57:49,458
I do feel confident
that a repair is possible,
1464
00:57:49,542 --> 00:57:51,833
but you are
protecting yourself.
1465
00:57:51,917 --> 00:57:53,833
That's a certain level
of vulnerability
1466
00:57:53,917 --> 00:57:57,000
that you have closed
off right now.
1467
00:57:57,083 --> 00:57:58,500
- OK.
1468
00:57:58,583 --> 00:58:01,208
- There is no such thing
as a perfect marriage,
1469
00:58:01,333 --> 00:58:03,917
whether y'all are married
to each other or anybody else.
1470
00:58:04,042 --> 00:58:07,208
There's going to be
many uncomfortable moments.
1471
00:58:07,292 --> 00:58:09,542
And I really don't
want to see you
1472
00:58:09,625 --> 00:58:12,667
all give up on one another.
1473
00:58:12,750 --> 00:58:16,875
Is there any chance
that the two of you
1474
00:58:16,958 --> 00:58:20,833
can be open to working
through this together,
1475
00:58:20,875 --> 00:58:24,500
or is there this resolute of,
this is my Decision Day,
1476
00:58:24,583 --> 00:58:26,333
and the decision is to divorce?
1477
00:58:26,417 --> 00:58:27,667
♪
1478
00:58:27,792 --> 00:58:29,833
- It feels so horrible
that I've put you
1479
00:58:29,875 --> 00:58:33,250
in the predicament to lose
romantic attraction to me
1480
00:58:33,375 --> 00:58:35,167
because, through this,
I have maintained
1481
00:58:35,292 --> 00:58:37,083
my romantic attraction to you.
1482
00:58:37,167 --> 00:58:40,208
But if you don't feel like you
have it in you to do it, like,
1483
00:58:40,292 --> 00:58:41,792
I don't want to twist your arm.
1484
00:58:41,875 --> 00:58:43,875
I don't want to force you
to stay with me.
1485
00:58:46,667 --> 00:58:48,500
- You know, there is
no doubt that there
1486
00:58:48,542 --> 00:58:50,167
is chemistry between us.
1487
00:58:50,208 --> 00:58:53,417
And when we are, you know,
avoiding the big topics,
1488
00:58:53,542 --> 00:58:56,333
or trying to navigate
around them, yes,
1489
00:58:56,417 --> 00:58:58,833
I mean, everything is great.
1490
00:58:58,875 --> 00:59:04,500
But there is no romance
within me anymore.
1491
00:59:04,542 --> 00:59:07,000
After the honeymoon,
taking time,
1492
00:59:07,125 --> 00:59:09,542
and just this conversation,
and where I'm feeling,
1493
00:59:09,625 --> 00:59:11,917
and where I'm at,
1494
00:59:12,000 --> 00:59:15,458
I want to continue
to follow through
1495
00:59:15,542 --> 00:59:17,375
with wanting a divorce.
1496
00:59:17,458 --> 00:59:24,125
♪
1497
00:59:24,208 --> 00:59:27,500
- Anything that you'd like
to say to him, Lauren?
1498
00:59:27,542 --> 00:59:29,500
- No. It would be a waste.
1499
00:59:29,625 --> 00:59:32,458
- Do you want a divorce?
1500
00:59:32,583 --> 00:59:34,167
- It doesn't matter
what I want.
1501
00:59:34,250 --> 00:59:35,833
- It does matter what you want.
1502
00:59:35,875 --> 00:59:40,167
Can you share with Orion
what it is that you want?
1503
00:59:40,208 --> 00:59:42,667
♪
1504
00:59:42,792 --> 00:59:44,958
- I can only speak for myself.
1505
00:59:45,042 --> 00:59:47,333
I knew what marriage
looked like,
1506
00:59:47,458 --> 00:59:49,333
and that there
would be obstacles.
1507
00:59:49,375 --> 00:59:53,250
And marriage requires a lot
of forgiveness, a lot of grace.
1508
00:59:53,333 --> 00:59:58,125
And I'm just thinking that I
can't wait to be in a marriage
1509
00:59:58,208 --> 01:00:00,792
with someone who wants
to try as hard as I do.
1510
01:00:00,875 --> 01:00:03,167
That's what I'm thinking.
1511
01:00:03,250 --> 01:00:06,292
♪
1512
01:00:06,375 --> 01:00:08,083
- That's fair.
1513
01:00:11,083 --> 01:00:15,000
♪
1514
01:00:15,042 --> 01:00:20,542
- I hope you're OK,
and I wish you the best.
1515
01:00:20,667 --> 01:00:22,833
- This whole thing is stupid.
1516
01:00:22,875 --> 01:00:26,583
Both of us were robbed because
of his unforgivingness,
1517
01:00:26,667 --> 01:00:28,333
and that's annoying.
1518
01:00:28,417 --> 01:00:29,625
- Thank you.
- You're very welcome.
1519
01:00:29,708 --> 01:00:31,250
- Thank you for coming.
- Absolutely.
1520
01:00:31,333 --> 01:00:33,708
- Because this could have went
totally different if we would
1521
01:00:33,792 --> 01:00:36,333
have gave it two more weeks.
1522
01:00:36,375 --> 01:00:38,417
I understand, [bleep] happened,
but when does [bleep]
1523
01:00:38,500 --> 01:00:40,875
not happen in relationships?
1524
01:00:40,958 --> 01:00:45,292
- ♪ I really tried
to be my best for you ♪
1525
01:00:45,292 --> 01:00:47,833
[soft music]
1526
01:00:47,917 --> 01:00:50,750
♪ I just kept on falling
1527
01:00:50,833 --> 01:00:54,333
♪ I loved you
without caution ♪
1528
01:00:54,417 --> 01:00:56,458
♪
1529
01:00:56,542 --> 01:00:58,083
♪ And you dropped me
1530
01:00:58,167 --> 01:01:01,833
♪ Like I meant
nothing at all ♪
1531
01:01:01,917 --> 01:01:03,583
- I feel like there's
a lot of things
1532
01:01:03,708 --> 01:01:05,958
I could have done differently.
1533
01:01:06,042 --> 01:01:10,875
But, you know, I was very
excited and hoping that--
1534
01:01:11,000 --> 01:01:16,083
oh, excuse me-- and hoping that
I would find a life partner.
1535
01:01:16,167 --> 01:01:19,333
There is absolutely no
regrets in this for me,
1536
01:01:19,417 --> 01:01:23,083
nothing about this,
nothing about Lauren.
1537
01:01:23,167 --> 01:01:26,667
She feels very different
than I do in all of this.
1538
01:01:26,750 --> 01:01:30,375
You know, my biggest fear
was hurting her,
1539
01:01:30,500 --> 01:01:33,958
but I think
I did that anyways.
1540
01:01:34,042 --> 01:01:37,333
But I do truly believe
that this is the best course.
1541
01:01:37,458 --> 01:01:39,750
♪
1542
01:01:39,875 --> 01:01:44,333
- ♪ I really tried
to be my best for you ♪
1543
01:01:44,458 --> 01:01:51,208
♪
1544
01:01:51,292 --> 01:01:53,667
- Next time on
"Married at First Sight"...
1545
01:01:53,750 --> 01:01:54,792
- ♪ One time for the
pretty little thing ♪
1546
01:01:54,875 --> 01:01:55,958
♪ In the back of the club
1547
01:01:56,042 --> 01:01:57,708
♪ Getting the thing to bang
1548
01:01:57,833 --> 01:01:59,375
♪ Two times for the DJ
with some hip-hop ♪
1549
01:01:59,458 --> 01:02:00,833
♪ 'Cause the party don't stop
till the break of dawn ♪
1550
01:02:01,000 --> 01:02:02,667
- Our couples will
get to see their friends
1551
01:02:02,750 --> 01:02:06,125
and family for the first time
since the wedding.
1552
01:02:06,208 --> 01:02:07,625
- Hey.
1553
01:02:07,750 --> 01:02:10,292
This is totally rad!
1554
01:02:10,375 --> 01:02:11,583
- How's the sex life?
1555
01:02:11,667 --> 01:02:13,250
You guys getting it in
on the reg here?
1556
01:02:13,375 --> 01:02:15,583
- I think it's just up to him.
1557
01:02:15,667 --> 01:02:19,750
- That is a hurdle that, like,
will take time to jump over.
1558
01:02:19,833 --> 01:02:21,333
- So how is your relationship
with your father?
1559
01:02:21,375 --> 01:02:22,625
Does he know you're on this?
1560
01:02:22,708 --> 01:02:24,333
- No.
- [gasps]
1561
01:02:24,417 --> 01:02:26,833
- What would you like to tell
a man who's on his death bed?
1562
01:02:26,917 --> 01:02:28,250
- That really threw me
for a loop.
1563
01:02:28,375 --> 01:02:29,708
- Me too.
- Whoa!
1564
01:02:29,792 --> 01:02:31,500
- You knew that you
were gonna get married,
1565
01:02:31,583 --> 01:02:32,792
and you were gonna
move in with them,
1566
01:02:32,875 --> 01:02:33,958
and it was gonna be,
like, intensive.
1567
01:02:34,042 --> 01:02:36,125
- I'm still here.
- By a string.
1568
01:02:36,208 --> 01:02:37,792
- I've met you guys
for an hour, and you guys are
1569
01:02:37,875 --> 01:02:39,917
coming at me like
it's nobody's business.
1570
01:02:40,000 --> 01:02:41,708
- Excuse me, you're married
to one of my best friends,
1571
01:02:41,833 --> 01:02:43,667
so who are you?
1572
01:02:43,750 --> 01:02:45,500
Why are you here?
1573
01:02:45,625 --> 01:02:48,250
- I'm, like,
at a loss actually.
1574
01:02:48,333 --> 01:02:51,250
[dramatic music]
1575
01:02:51,250 --> 01:02:54,250
♪
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