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I think those Japanese pictures
were beautiful.
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It is also interesting and amusing
to think about the fact
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that during the 12th century they had
such artistic and instructive pictures
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which they gave to the bride so that
she could put them under her pillow
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and learn something from them,
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while we in medieval Europe used
small bags containing pigeon blood,
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which would burst and prove
that the bride was a virgin.
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Yes, and there have been restrictions
concerning sex in Europe
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up until our time - in Denmark too,
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where they said that in Sweden
it was against the law
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to spread information about
contraceptives up to 1938...
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- Is that right?
- That's quite right.
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There was a law prohibiting
both information
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about contraceptives
and distribution of them,
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even though there were some pioneers
trying to break through the "barrier".
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But worse than that is the fact that
there was an unwritten law
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prohibiting people to accept sex
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as something nice and pleasant and
something that one was allowed to like.
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Yes, one could say that up until now
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there has been a wave of taboos
against sex.
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I would say that people had
a whole complex of taboos
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and prejudices which they tried to pass on
like a pair of coloured glasses...
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Where are my glasses?
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That's right. That's why it
couldn't have been easy
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for our parents to live or for
their parents, and so on.
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I wonder how people live today,
behind the façade.
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COMMUNICATION DIFFICULTIES
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Eva!
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Eva!
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COMMUNICATION DIFFICULTIES
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What is this...
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What is this that you have
dragged into my house?
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Have you got anything to complain about?
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INTOLERANCE TOWARDS
YOUR PARTNER
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- Darling?
- Yes?
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May I touch your stomach?
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No... I can't...
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Why not?
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- Why not!
- Yes...
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Why did you go to bed with him?
It wasn't necessary, was it?
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Sven, that was eight years ago.
Eight years.
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Makes no difference.
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Doesn't it make any difference?
You're hopeless.
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I'm not going to force you into anything.
Be sure of that.
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INTOLERANCE TOWARDS
YOUR PARTNER
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Oh! Was it good for you?
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No!
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Hell, you're frigid.
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MALE VANITY
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Won't you read this book? It's written by
such wise and sensible people.
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Why the heck would I read
a book like this?
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I know what I'm doing. Listen here,
nobody has complained before.
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MALE VANITY
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Does anybody want some more?
Would you like some more sherry?
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Yes, please.
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- There you are.
- Thanks.
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What was that?
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Oh, that was just one of
our tractors driving past.
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We only have one tractor, Karl.
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LOSING POWER
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Will this be alright?
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You haven't ever managed anything
that concerns me.
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The tennis court is the only place
where you're good for anything.
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LOSING POWER
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We have seen some different couples
who are not getting along so well.
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But we must not forget that
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naturally there are a lot of couples
who are getting along fine.
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Or even better than that.
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Think about all the times we've done
this... And it's as good every time.
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- That's thanks to you.
- Oh no, don't try to flatter me!
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NO COMMENT
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Do you think it will be twins?
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We won't know until May.
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NO COMMENT
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I would like to stress
that it is very important
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for everybody to learn more
about this subject.
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What we would like to show you
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is not only a film about sex or sexual
intercourse, but also a film about...
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About cohabitation.
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Yes, a film about being together,
that's right.
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Yes, and we must try to bear in mind
that people should not only
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learn how to lie with each other,
but also to live with each other.
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And isn't it strange that we have known
so little about how this works.
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One of the most common things
that people have been doing
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since the beginning of time is copulating
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and yet we have known very little
about what has happened.
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Naturally, there have been some people
doing research in this field.
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There are Dickinson and LeMon Clark and
van de Velde, to mention a few of them.
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But they were not allowed to write,
they dared not write about it.
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And the one who really broke through
the wall first was Kinsey.
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We remember how relieved we were when he
wrote about how people function sexually.
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He told us about all sexual activities.
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But he still did not describe
the sexual functions in the body.
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That was first done by the doctor
William Masters
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and the psychologist Virginia Johnson,
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in their book, which was based on their
own research, released in 1966.
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When they started their research
in the fifties,
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they contacted prostitutes,
mainly women but also men,
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and asked them how different forms
of sexual activities were carried out.
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Then they built a kind of laboratory,
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where they wanted to register
as many human reactions as possible.
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It became important to register
all changes in the sexual organs,
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both male and female.
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But then it was important to understand
how any human
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functions during intercourse.
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Via doctors they came in touch
with people who had problems.
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And later on
with so-called regular people.
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They arrived at these laboratories,
and saw what was to be registered.
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But the beauty of Masters and Johnson,
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was that they got people to function
just like at home.
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It's exactly these experiences
that they got,
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that we, in all modesty,
would like to apply to this film.
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When Masters and Johnson
started their research
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concerning the sexual functions
in the human being
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they had to arrange a room in a way that
provided for the special demands needed.
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First they wanted to be able to test
general reactions
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like heart activity and breathing.
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Secondly they wanted to record
the colour changes on the body
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and especially in and on
the sexual organs during intercourse.
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Thirdly, it was very important that the
couples taking part in the experiments
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should feel relaxed and at ease
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so they could help us better understand
the sexual functions.
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It is also important to know that
when you make an ordinary film
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you often use illusions
to give a picture of reality.
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Here we have tried to give a picture
of reality such as it is.
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Most of us want peace and relaxation
when we lie with each other.
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We want to be alone
and to feel a kind of homeliness
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without strangers' eyes disturbing us.
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We have tried here,
with the help of the cameras,
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to create such an undisturbed atmosphere,
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where the camera is an invisible eye
that will not disturb our couples.
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We hope and think that they will help us
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to better understand
what human cohabitation
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can give in the way of pleasure and
happiness, if those words may be used.
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We just talked about prejudice.
That's something I always wondered about.
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That you can't show intercourse
in films or theatre for instance.
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When there are so many examples in art
where you can watch...
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Like "Leda and the Swan",
which is actually quite dubious.
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There are a lot of surprising things.
Like double-standards.
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One sexual morality for men
and another one for women.
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I think it was as late as the twenties
when people started to accept
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that women could show sexual interest
and also have capability of
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and admit having orgasms, just like men.
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Another important field is
self-satisfaction, masturbation.
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There are still many prejudices
against masturbation.
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It was first through Kinsey
and then Masters and Johnson
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that it became quite clear that it is
acceptable and common to masturbate.
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I would even say that it
is a very good practice.
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I think it's important to remember that
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small children often play with their
sex organs and they seem to like it.
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It is important that they get to know
this feeling of pleasure
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because then it will be easier for them to
appreciate cohabitation when they grow up.
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Quite right.
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I think it's important to
make parents aware of this fact,
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not only concerning masturbation among
small children, but also among teenagers.
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Another field of great importance
is the female masturbation technique,
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which we will talk more about later.
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The woman can tell
the man how it feels best.
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This means that she can either let him
watch or, if she is too shy,
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tell him what he should do
to satisfy her the most.
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I remember a funny thing
which I'll show you.
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- Inge, could I have some more tea, please?
- Oh, yes.
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Put a finger on the lid
so it doesn't fall off.
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I think it was in the Fifties,
in Copenhagen,
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that a manufacturer was persuaded to make
a doll like a boy-doll with a penis.
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- Isn't it cute...
- Very.
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This was such a sensation
that the news agency sent telegrams
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to London, Rome, Buenos Aires,
all over the world,
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saying that now there was a doll
which really resembled
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the children that play with dolls.
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Yes, imagine that it should be
such a sensation.
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- Yes, and as late as in the Fifties.
- Yes, that's what I'm thinking.
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And what we've been talking about
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covers only a few examples
of the prejudices that exist.
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What we want to do in this film is to try
and reduce and break down these prejudices
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and that's the same activity
as all over the world.
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All this work aims at giving ourselves
and others
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a greater feeling of
appreciation of cohabitation.
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- Yes, that's right.
- And decreasing people's anxiety.
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Yes, quite so.
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Now we have seen in these scenes
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what it's like for two people
being happy together.
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But to succeed it is usually
necessary to have knowledge
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and we'll start by describing
the female sex organs.
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We will talk about the outer
and inner sex organs.
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The woman's outer organs are made up of
labia majora and labia minora,
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clitoris and the forecourt
leading in towards the vagina.
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Around the opening of the vagina
there is a thin membrane, the hymen.
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The vagina is a 3-4 inch long canal
with walls of mucous membrane
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and it leads from the hymen
to just above the cervix.
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The uterus is a pear-shaped organ
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that opens downwards through the cervix
into the vagina.
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The upper part of the uterus is broader
and that is where the oviducts are,
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at the other end they are connected
with the ovaries.
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The picture shows the outer sex organs
with the clitoris at the top in front.
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The labia minora lead backwards
from the clitoris,
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on the inside they have mucous membrane
and they form the walls of the forecourt.
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The opening of the urethrae
is seen behind the clitoris:
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we also see the outer part of the vagina.
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Here we see both front
and side views of the vagina.
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The triangular shape in the right-hand
picture is the bladder with the urethra.
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In the side picture we see how
the vagina ends at the top.
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The wall of the uterus
is made up of muscles
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and on the inside it is coated
with a mucous membrane
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which is almost completely renewed
after each menstruation.
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The oviducts are trumpet-shaped
at the ends
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so as to catch the ovum
when they leave the ovaries,
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which happens about a fortnight
before expected menstruation
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and it is called ovulation.
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We would now like to show,
just like Masters and Johnson did,
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the bodily reactions to sexual stimulus
during a woman's masturbation,
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from the first excitation to
the resting phase after the orgasm.
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We can distinguish four different phases:
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During the first one,
the so-called excitation phase,
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the clitoris swells and becomes hard
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at the same time as the feeling of
pleasure intensifies.
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The labia minora also swell.
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The nipples become hard and the breasts
themselves become somewhat bigger.
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In the vagina the so-called
sweating starts.
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It is sometimes plentiful and it helps
to reduce the friction in the vagina.
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Next is the plateau-phase:
then the labia minor change colour -
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they become bright red
and increase in size.
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This might give the impression that
the clitoris becomes smaller.
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It is really the swelling labia minora
that hide the clitoris.
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Too much massage during
this phase may hurt.
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The outer third of the vagina wall
gets thicker
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and together with the labia and clitoris
it forms a centre of pleasure.
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During the orgasm phase there are regular
contractions of the pelvic muscles
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at the same time that the feeling
of pleasure intensifies.
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On the breasts we see blushing spots
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which can spread over
the rest of the body too.
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Breathing becomes heavier
and the pulse rate increases.
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When the contractions have ceased,
the organs regain their normal size,
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colour and form rather quickly
and a feeling of well-being remains.
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It is rather funny to think about those
cod-pieces they had in medieval times.
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A cod-piece was a little bag attached
to the front of the trousers
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and it contained the penis and scrotum.
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It was the focal point of much boasting
and often padded to look bigger.
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During the time of Napoleon,
men used tight suede trousers
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which were put on wet, so that they clung
tightly around the penis and buttocks.
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Yes, and especially in Greece
the penis was very highly valued.
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They even had a special God
whom they worshipped.
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His name was Priaphos and people
prayed to him for fertility.
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He was portrayed with a very large penis.
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Yes, I know about him, too. They even
baked biscuits shaped like a penis
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which the children used to eat.
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But they were wrong in thinking that
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the size of the penis
had anything to do with potency.
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Yes, that's one of the things that
Masters and Johnson have shown.
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The size of the penis
has nothing at all to do
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- with the woman's sexual satisfaction.
- Exactly.
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The last misconception
I think we should talk about,
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is the one that a man with a circumcised
penis should be a better lover -
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there is no proof for that whatsoever.
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Of the male sex organs, we first see
the two testes in the scrotum.
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They run through a large number of small
canals where sperms are produced.
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The canals from each teste
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first lead to a ductus epididymis
and then through the vas deferens,
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to the latter part of which
the seminal vesicle is connected.
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They are situated behind the bladder.
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The two vas deferens meet in the prostate
gland and then follows the urethra.
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The penis is made in such a way
that it swells when sexually excited.
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Parts of the penis are filled with blood
and it becomes stiff and erects.
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This happens during the excitation phase.
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During the plateau phase the testes are
pulled up towards the base of the scrotum
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at the same time as a drop of slimy
liquid comes out of the urethra,
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without the man noticing it.
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This drop of slime might
contain some sperms.
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In connection with the orgasm
the pelvic muscles contract
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and the semen containing the sperms
is thrown out in portions
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while the feeling of pleasure is intense.
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This is called ejaculation.
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After the orgasm follows the resting
phase, when the erection disappears.
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The testes sink back down and all
organs regain their usual shape.
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As we said a while ago,
the shape and size of the penis
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is of no importance
to the sexual function.
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There are large numbers of variations
which can all be considered normal
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and here we will just show a few examples.
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We receive quite a lot of letters
concerning masturbation
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and I think I can divide them
into three groups.
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First: people who don't know that
masturbation is something common
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and as I said before,
good practice and recommendable.
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Second: people who are afraid
they are overdoing it.
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And I would like to say that there
is no reason to worry about that
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because it regulates itself.
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The last group are people
who are afraid to use masturbation
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because they think their organs
will be deformed or look strange.
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I know that we get quite a lot of letters,
for example from women who are afraid
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that their labia will get too big,
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or men who think that their penis
will get crooked if they masturbate.
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There is no reason at all
to worry about this.
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Just as in the man,
the outer sex organs of the woman
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can vary considerably
without being abnormal.
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And I'm thinking about another thing.
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Many men and women feel hurt
in some way if their partner
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wants to use masturbation to reach orgasm,
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and there is no reason to worry about
that, because it's everybody's right
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to get satisfaction
the way he or she wants to.
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Sure.
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But we have to be aware of the fact
that all intercourses
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don't work perfectly,
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and by not perfect I mean
they don't reach orgasm at the same time.
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Exactly!
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But I think that through practice,
carefulness
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and skill, it's possible
to develop a technique
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through which they will get closer to
reaching orgasm at the same time.
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The film we are going to see now shows
two people who have succeeded in this.
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Yes, people have always wanted to learn
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how to get as much pleasure
as possible out of life together,
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and there have been many different ways
of teaching it and learning it.
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The ancient Greeks, as you know,
had these hetaerae.
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They were women who actually
had a very high social status
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and they knew a great deal
about sexual life.
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I'm sure it did a lot of good many times,
because the men learned quite a lot
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and then brought their knowledge home
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and perhaps it helped their sexual life
at home to work out better.
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And now Masters and Johnson
have done the same thing.
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They interviewed men and women
who have sex as their occupation
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and asked them about
various kinds of sexual activities
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and then they used that as a background
when they were doing their research.
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I'm sure it was a great help to them,
but even better is the fact that
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everybody has been given
the opportunity to learn from it.
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It can be a great help for those
who have problems
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as well as those living
an ordinary, normal life together.
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There is also a sort of
spiritual masturbation
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which exists both among men and women.
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I am thinking about the sexual
imaginations and fantasies
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that we often meet in our practice.
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Yes, when we say fantasies,
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we mean that people pretend to be
someone else during the sex act.
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How many men have not imagined
that they were copulating
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with some movie star who they thought was
more exciting than their own partner?
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We must remember that such fantasies
have got nothing to do with reality.
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They don't express our personal desires,
they just increase sexual stimulation.
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For example, if a girl pretends
to be a prostitute or a call girl,
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it doesn't necessarily mean that
she really wants to be one.
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No, and after all, it's only human.
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People often want to live another part in
life than the one they are really playing,
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and why shouldn't that go
for their sexual life as well?
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There are some examples of people
imagining that they are homosexuals,
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during intercourse.
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It is also completely normal
to use fetishes of different kinds,
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like sexy underwear,
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boots, pornography and other things,
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which increase sexual excitement.
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Yes, that's very important.
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I was also thinking of the technical
things that can be used,
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like a massage machine or contraceptives
with fantasy shapes:
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anything that helps.
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A thing like that, for example.
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Don't pay any attention to the fact
that it's shaped for the vagina,
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because most people use it
on the clitoris.
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Of course, it can also be used on
the breasts or in the vagina
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or wherever it feels good.
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People have always tried to find ways
of increasing sexual pleasure.
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They have used their own imagination,
a thing which is often forgotten nowadays.
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I think the importance of
erotic literature and pictures
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should be stressed.
It can be fascinating
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and I think all this helps to increase
the personal feeling of pleasure
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and security in sexual experience.
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And it might serve as a fine prelude
to an ordinary intercourse.
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Certainly.
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There is no doubt about the fact that
technical questions regarding sex
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are of great importance
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but there is still a risk
of making them a little too big
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and forgetting the psychological aspects.
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We have called this film
The Language of Love,
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and the risk might be that
the words become dominating.
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We get away from the psychological factor,
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we neglect or get away
from the physical aspects,
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we take less notice of a person's need
for tenderness and contact
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and his or her need for nearness
to another person,
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even though this nearness
must not always have to do with sex.
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You are right about that. A young woman,
or any woman without sexual experience,
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must feel some anxiety
before her first intercourse,
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and it's possible that she has a greater
need for a feeling of security and trust,
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and a physical and psychological
tenderness, than for sexual perfection.
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Perhaps the same thing goes
for a man, what do I know...
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There will be a chapter in this film
dealing with love,
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but the basic thought is that we want
to help people to a richer sex-life.
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Yes, isn't it true that the one
who often changes partner
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will not have time,
at least not very much time,
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for the improvement of the experience and
the technique with which we are dealing.
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No, I think we should warn against that -
against the hustling for orgasm:
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it can cause despair
and repeated failures for the couple.
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Exactly, and we must remember
that nature only desires a fertilization,
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but the human being demands a lot more.
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She tries, as you said before,
to satisfy different needs.
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The need for tenderness,
the need for nearness,
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perhaps the desire to get pregnant,
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and last but not least,
the need for sexual pleasure.
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We will follow this young couple,
our living example,
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through some of their troubles.
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They are trying to reach a happier
and better sex-life,
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a more honest life,
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which might last,
with the help of consideration
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and sexual and technical renewal.
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- Are you hungry?
- No, I'm on a diet.
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- Are you tired then?
- No.
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- Your turn, Don Juan...
- What do you mean, Don Juan?
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You know he was never satisfied.
That's why he needed so many girls.
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Who knows, perhaps the girls
had a great time...
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Well, sorry then.
But for me it wasn't very good.
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I'm sorry. I'm also sorry
for what happened yesterday.
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Think about how good we used to have it,
before we had anywhere to be.
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We kissed and caressed and everything
was fine, and now it's all gone.
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00:44:45,750 --> 00:44:51,999
No, it isn't gone.
It's still there, all of it.
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I think we shall talk a little about
petting now,
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and perhaps we should start
with a definition of the expression.
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Yes, what do we mean by petting?
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Well, usually we mean
all forms of physical contact
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between a man and a woman,
mostly in the form of caressing:
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in any case it doesn't go further
than to the state
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where the penis comes close to the
vagina - it must not enter the vagina.
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I think petting is a very essential thing
and it's so practical
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because it doesn't lead to pregnancy.
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00:46:32,958 --> 00:46:38,101
No, and that's because the penis
never gets close to or into the vagina,
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00:46:38,125 --> 00:46:42,059
and so, the sperms never have
a chance to fertilise an egg.
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No, because they never get
into the vagina either.
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And then in most cases with petting,
the man and the woman caress each other.
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They mostly use the hand or the mouth
and do it in a nice, pleasant way.
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It's only during these last few years
that we have started to discuss petting,
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and I think the main reason for this is
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the fact that young people spend more time
in school now than they did before.
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Studying takes a long time and the young
people cannot, for different reasons,
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take the responsibility for a child.
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00:47:26,167 --> 00:47:34,167
But they are interested in each other and
want to show their affection in some way.
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I have noticed that during
the last ten years
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that I have been working on
sexual research in this country,
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petting has become a habit
which a lot of students partake in,
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and the anguish caused by petting
has decreased more and more.
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That is true, and even in a society
with strict religious and sexual morals,
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petting is a good way
for the man and woman
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to free themselves from anguish,
at least I think so.
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00:48:13,750 --> 00:48:18,351
When we talked about petting
a couple of years ago,
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00:48:18,375 --> 00:48:26,375
then we were mostly thinking of couples
kissing or hugging in a doorway or park,
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00:48:27,000 --> 00:48:35,000
but now it has become something
like a prelude to intercourse.
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And maybe not only
as a prelude to intercourse...
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- No, you are right.
- But it can just be something small,
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a part of a prelude which is done
any time of the day.
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- And there is no more to it.
- That is true.
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It has become clear,
and this is quite interesting,
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that we are very much alike
all over the world.
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And when a man and a woman
start liking each other
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and start to get closer to each other,
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00:48:59,458 --> 00:49:01,498
then it's according to a similar
pattern everywhere.
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The girl and the boy start embracing,
play and pet.
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Then there is the kiss,
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perhaps playful at the beginning
and then more intense.
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He starts to caress her breasts through
her clothes and then inside them,
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and she wants to embrace him.
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Then they get closer to each other's laps,
but mostly so that he caresses her,
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00:49:58,417 --> 00:50:03,375
and the sign of the petting
is the playful tenderness.
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And another couple might pet with each
other as during the so-called prelude,
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without an intercourse following.
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You know that children have
a fantastic ability to vary their games
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and make up new ones.
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Here we have seen some couples
who have shown us in a good way,
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how it is possible to play
and act during sexual intercourse.
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And we can agree that a man and a woman
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can play any way they want to
during an intercourse,
462
00:52:18,667 --> 00:52:23,375
provided they both like it
and no one feels forced.
463
00:57:30,042 --> 00:57:37,250
The young couple is using the traditional
position with the man on top,
464
00:57:38,500 --> 00:57:42,226
but it doesn't have to be that way.
465
00:57:42,250 --> 00:57:48,393
On the contrary, there are positions
which for some people are better.
466
00:57:48,417 --> 00:57:54,768
You don't have to use
the same position all the time.
467
00:57:54,792 --> 00:57:58,726
You can change
from intercourse to intercourse,
468
00:57:58,750 --> 00:58:01,708
and you can vary even
during the intercourse.
469
00:59:56,417 --> 00:59:58,184
It is often recommended in books
470
00:59:58,208 --> 01:00:00,708
that you shall have intercourse
in other places than at home.
471
01:01:00,375 --> 01:01:08,375
Don't you think we should leave nature
to the birds and the bees?
472
01:01:12,999 --> 01:01:20,999
I gladly admit that it can be very
exciting to copulate in the countryside,
473
01:01:24,125 --> 01:01:32,125
but it's often difficult for the woman
and it's hard for her to reach her orgasm.
474
01:01:34,667 --> 01:01:42,667
You're right, but there are people
who don't have anywhere else to go,
475
01:01:42,833 --> 01:01:47,351
and unfortunately,
they have to use such places.
476
01:01:47,375 --> 01:01:48,601
Of course.
477
01:01:48,625 --> 01:01:56,625
And if they are used to each other,
they might be lucky and feel something,
478
01:01:58,625 --> 01:02:05,292
the woman too, in spite of the mosquitoes
and ants and all that.
479
01:02:08,042 --> 01:02:10,809
We receive many letters from people
480
01:02:10,833 --> 01:02:14,893
wondering how often they ought
to have sexual intercourse.
481
01:02:14,917 --> 01:02:18,726
Usually the man is more eager
than the woman,
482
01:02:18,750 --> 01:02:22,268
which means that he wants to make love
more often
483
01:02:22,292 --> 01:02:25,167
and we all know the most common excuses.
484
01:02:47,125 --> 01:02:49,125
Oh, come to bed.
485
01:02:50,167 --> 01:02:53,542
Don't you ever think about anything else?
486
01:03:22,375 --> 01:03:27,893
No, Oscar, not tonight, you know I want
my hair to look nice tomorrow.
487
01:03:27,917 --> 01:03:30,083
Yes, yes, I understand.
488
01:03:58,458 --> 01:04:04,125
No, the boss gave us a hard time
at work today,
489
01:04:05,708 --> 01:04:09,809
then that damn car broke down on
the way home.
490
01:04:09,833 --> 01:04:16,143
- I'm exhausted, may I go to sleep?
- OK.
491
01:04:16,167 --> 01:04:18,042
Good night.
492
01:04:43,500 --> 01:04:46,726
Shall we roll over now, love?
493
01:04:46,750 --> 01:04:49,708
Not tonight, Karl-Gustav, I'm so tired.
494
01:05:12,208 --> 01:05:15,333
Well, if you absolutely want...
495
01:05:23,417 --> 01:05:26,726
You didn't answer about how often people
should have sexual intercourse.
496
01:05:26,750 --> 01:05:28,518
No, there is no answer.
497
01:05:28,542 --> 01:05:34,768
We can put it like this - there are
differences of opinion in this matter.
498
01:05:34,792 --> 01:05:38,309
Some couples copulate several times
every 24 hours,
499
01:05:38,333 --> 01:05:43,018
and others just once or twice a month.
500
01:05:43,042 --> 01:05:47,059
Overcrowding, children and other troubles
501
01:05:47,083 --> 01:05:52,393
might complicate and dampen
sexual togetherness.
502
01:05:52,417 --> 01:05:58,601
We should just not imagine that others
have more fun than we do ourselves.
503
01:05:58,625 --> 01:06:03,143
Right, and just as in all other situations
in life where problems arise,
504
01:06:03,167 --> 01:06:06,059
we must take care not to try to solve
the problems by not talking about them.
505
01:06:06,083 --> 01:06:08,809
It's better to try to talk it over
together
506
01:06:08,833 --> 01:06:11,351
and try to find a solution
to the problems.
507
01:06:11,375 --> 01:06:13,975
Yes, I just thought about
the situation we had before,
508
01:06:13,999 --> 01:06:16,476
where the man was more eager
than the woman.
509
01:06:16,500 --> 01:06:23,143
I think that the woman could be more,
what shall I say, cooperative,
510
01:06:23,167 --> 01:06:28,143
provided that the man
doesn't demand orgasm from her
511
01:06:28,167 --> 01:06:29,893
when she's not in the mood.
512
01:06:29,917 --> 01:06:35,309
But there are also women
who have strong needs for sex,
513
01:06:35,333 --> 01:06:38,792
which they don't get satisfied.
514
01:06:40,750 --> 01:06:43,226
How can they be helped?
515
01:06:43,250 --> 01:06:47,125
Perhaps through petting or masturbation.
516
01:06:48,417 --> 01:06:55,333
There is one fundamental thing,
which is sex information for children.
517
01:06:56,500 --> 01:07:00,184
Actually, it starts in the home,
518
01:07:00,208 --> 01:07:04,726
because normal children
start to ask questions
519
01:07:04,750 --> 01:07:09,393
at the age of three, or three and a half.
520
01:07:09,417 --> 01:07:16,042
It's very important that the parents
are prepared to answer these questions,
521
01:07:17,333 --> 01:07:19,434
and thereafter, teaching responsibility
522
01:07:19,458 --> 01:07:21,809
concerning these matters
is given to the school.
523
01:07:21,833 --> 01:07:27,809
Yes, and the school has confidence
in the homes, especially nowadays,
524
01:07:27,833 --> 01:07:35,833
which means that the homes generally
furnish a foundation for sexual education.
525
01:07:38,417 --> 01:07:44,684
The teacher often gathers the children's
parents the first year of school
526
01:07:44,708 --> 01:07:52,708
to hear how much information the children
have received at home concerning sex.
527
01:07:53,208 --> 01:07:56,934
This is also done to help the parents,
528
01:07:56,958 --> 01:08:04,958
so they can correct the possible mistakes
they might have made in their information.
529
01:08:05,667 --> 01:08:10,184
But the school can't rely completely
on the parents,
530
01:08:10,208 --> 01:08:14,434
and in Sweden we have
compulsory sex-education,
531
01:08:14,458 --> 01:08:16,684
which starts in the first grade
532
01:08:16,708 --> 01:08:19,934
and it's the school's responsibility
to take care of it.
533
01:08:19,958 --> 01:08:26,976
But children get information
from all sorts of sources:
534
01:08:27,000 --> 01:08:34,143
media, radio, TV, newspapers, books...
535
01:08:34,167 --> 01:08:42,167
You can't really decide, if the children
shall have information about sex, or not.
536
01:08:42,292 --> 01:08:46,726
All children will, one way or another,
get information.
537
01:08:46,750 --> 01:08:51,184
Most have received
some information already,
538
01:08:51,208 --> 01:08:56,101
from siblings or friends of their own age.
539
01:08:56,125 --> 01:08:59,851
It's not certain that that
information has been correct.
540
01:08:59,875 --> 01:09:04,226
That is why it's so important that
the school doesn't neglect this part
541
01:09:04,250 --> 01:09:06,976
of children's upbringing.
542
01:09:07,000 --> 01:09:10,559
But inform about different parts
on this subject, from time to time,
543
01:09:10,583 --> 01:09:18,583
as the children mature.
544
01:09:19,125 --> 01:09:25,434
Smaller children ask, just like you said,
spontaneous questions
545
01:09:25,458 --> 01:09:28,768
and these need to be responded to.
In honesty,
546
01:09:28,792 --> 01:09:32,434
and maybe short,
but sometimes at more length.
547
01:09:32,458 --> 01:09:39,018
As the children grow older, the questions
get more urgent, and also deeper.
548
01:09:39,042 --> 01:09:42,309
And it's time to take up
the physiological questions,
549
01:09:42,333 --> 01:09:46,018
the anatomical,
sociological, psychological.
550
01:09:46,042 --> 01:09:51,893
And as they reach puberty,
551
01:09:51,917 --> 01:09:59,917
questions of contraception,
and technical questions around this.
552
01:10:01,333 --> 01:10:05,226
And here we get into the factor
of sexual security:
553
01:10:05,250 --> 01:10:12,518
a consequence of sex
can be a pregnancy.
554
01:10:12,542 --> 01:10:17,268
This might be unwelcome or unacceptable.
555
01:10:17,292 --> 01:10:23,018
It's very important
that couples risking this position
556
01:10:23,042 --> 01:10:27,309
can experience a sexual security,
557
01:10:27,333 --> 01:10:33,684
which mankind has always
tried to find methods for.
558
01:10:33,708 --> 01:10:38,393
Earlier on these methods were primitive,
but I must say that these days,
559
01:10:38,417 --> 01:10:41,042
the contraceptives are almost 100% secure.
560
01:10:42,083 --> 01:10:44,975
We will use this lesson of sex-knowledge
561
01:10:44,999 --> 01:10:47,518
to talk a little about
contraceptive methods.
562
01:10:47,542 --> 01:10:50,975
They are things that all people
should know about
563
01:10:50,999 --> 01:10:54,768
and therefore it is quite natural
to talk about them here.
564
01:10:54,792 --> 01:10:58,809
If you want to have sexual intercourse
without having a child,
565
01:10:58,833 --> 01:11:01,226
then you can use protection.
566
01:11:01,250 --> 01:11:04,601
We call this protection contraceptives,
567
01:11:04,625 --> 01:11:09,999
and there are those
for both men and women.
568
01:11:11,042 --> 01:11:13,809
The protection for the main
is called a condom;
569
01:11:13,833 --> 01:11:20,393
it's a thin rubber membrane,
which is put over the man's erect penis.
570
01:11:20,417 --> 01:11:22,768
The reason for the condom
571
01:11:22,792 --> 01:11:28,809
is that the semen shall remain
in the rubber sheath
572
01:11:28,833 --> 01:11:33,393
after the orgasm,
573
01:11:33,417 --> 01:11:40,375
and that way the sperm never comes
into contact with the vagina.
574
01:11:41,500 --> 01:11:45,934
A common contraceptive for women
is the so-called pessary.
575
01:11:45,958 --> 01:11:50,184
It consists of a round rubber membrane
which looks like a rubber cup,
576
01:11:50,208 --> 01:11:53,268
around which there is a spiral spring.
577
01:11:53,292 --> 01:11:55,768
The principle thing about the pessary
578
01:11:55,792 --> 01:12:01,059
is that it should be inserted into
the vagina to cover the uterine cervix.
579
01:12:01,083 --> 01:12:06,018
As you can see from these two pessaries,
there are different sizes,
580
01:12:06,042 --> 01:12:12,000
and the woman has to try out the pessary
so that she gets the right size.
581
01:12:13,958 --> 01:12:18,643
The pessary is placed
on the bottom of the vagina
582
01:12:18,667 --> 01:12:22,643
and it covers the uterine cervix.
583
01:12:22,667 --> 01:12:28,434
It is supposed to lie like this
picture indicates. Yes, Ingela?
584
01:12:28,458 --> 01:12:30,476
Is a pessary completely safe?
585
01:12:30,500 --> 01:12:37,934
No, it's not. It must always be used in
conjunction with a chemical cream.
586
01:12:37,958 --> 01:12:42,268
Therefore it's better
to call it the pessary method.
587
01:12:42,292 --> 01:12:47,018
Another common contraceptive for women
nowadays is the pill,
588
01:12:47,042 --> 01:12:51,708
and when using them,
the woman takes one pill every day.
589
01:12:54,208 --> 01:12:57,726
You have probably heard about the loop.
It looks like this
590
01:12:57,750 --> 01:13:03,143
and consists of a plastic spiral,
which the doctor inserts into the uterus
591
01:13:03,167 --> 01:13:06,559
and it lies in the cavity
of the uterus like this.
592
01:13:06,583 --> 01:13:10,143
It's not very common among Swedish women
to use the loop,
593
01:13:10,167 --> 01:13:14,643
but it's more common
in the developing countries.
594
01:13:14,667 --> 01:13:16,559
Yes, Karina?
595
01:13:16,583 --> 01:13:19,893
Why is the loop mostly used
in the developing countries?
596
01:13:19,917 --> 01:13:21,601
That was a good question.
597
01:13:21,625 --> 01:13:24,351
It's a rather safe contraceptive,
598
01:13:24,375 --> 01:13:29,976
and it's inserted by a doctor and
therefore easier for the woman to handle
599
01:13:30,000 --> 01:13:32,917
than any other kind of contraceptive.
600
01:13:35,125 --> 01:13:37,351
And why have you come here today,
Mrs Nilsson?
601
01:13:37,375 --> 01:13:39,559
I would like a pessary.
602
01:13:39,583 --> 01:13:43,268
I see. Have you used any other
contraceptive methods before?
603
01:13:43,292 --> 01:13:45,268
No, we have taken care.
604
01:13:45,292 --> 01:13:48,643
And now you are tired of that,
or why do you want to change?
605
01:13:48,667 --> 01:13:51,768
Yes, we got tired.
We thought it was too insecure.
606
01:13:51,792 --> 01:13:54,601
A pessary. Why that?
There are many other kinds.
607
01:13:54,625 --> 01:13:58,643
I have a friend who uses it,
and she likes it.
608
01:13:58,667 --> 01:14:01,184
- Have you ever had any children?
- No, I haven't.
609
01:14:01,208 --> 01:14:04,101
Have you ever been pregnant, had
a miscarriage or something like that?
610
01:14:04,125 --> 01:14:07,393
And the menstruation comes regularly?
No trouble with that at all?
611
01:14:07,417 --> 01:14:08,476
No.
612
01:14:08,500 --> 01:14:10,893
Any secretions, any catarrh in the vagina?
613
01:14:10,917 --> 01:14:12,684
No.
614
01:14:12,708 --> 01:14:17,393
- Have you been to a gynaecologist before?
- No, I haven't.
615
01:14:17,417 --> 01:14:21,018
Well, all sounds good.
I will have a look at you
616
01:14:21,042 --> 01:14:23,934
to see if it will be alright
for you to have a pessary.
617
01:14:23,958 --> 01:14:25,851
Would you please step into
the examining room?
618
01:14:25,875 --> 01:14:27,542
Thank you.
619
01:14:52,167 --> 01:14:54,583
You are relaxing very well.
620
01:15:10,042 --> 01:15:12,250
Thank you, that's good.
621
01:15:36,583 --> 01:15:39,250
Can I have number seventy, please?
622
01:15:48,708 --> 01:15:51,125
Now we'll just put this in.
623
01:16:02,500 --> 01:16:04,934
- How does it feel?
- It feels fine.
624
01:16:04,958 --> 01:16:06,893
- No tension?
- No.
625
01:16:06,917 --> 01:16:11,583
Good. I'll just take it out again
and then we'll be ready.
626
01:16:13,999 --> 01:16:16,208
Like that, thank you.
You can get down now.
627
01:16:19,667 --> 01:16:24,184
I think this will work excellently.
Have you seen one before?
628
01:16:24,208 --> 01:16:25,975
No, I haven't.
629
01:16:25,999 --> 01:16:29,184
Then I'll show you how to insert it.
630
01:16:29,208 --> 01:16:33,059
You really need two things
for the pessary method.
631
01:16:33,083 --> 01:16:38,184
More than the pessary,
you also need this cream.
632
01:16:38,208 --> 01:16:42,934
The cream has the spermicidal effect,
not the pessary in itself.
633
01:16:42,958 --> 01:16:45,601
So you always need the two together.
634
01:16:45,625 --> 01:16:52,351
In an emergency you might use the cream
only, but never the pessary by itself.
635
01:16:52,375 --> 01:16:58,184
The meaning is to stop the sperms
from reaching the uterus.
636
01:16:58,208 --> 01:17:01,975
Inserted like this,
637
01:17:01,999 --> 01:17:08,684
with the cream applied,
638
01:17:08,708 --> 01:17:13,292
the sperms can't pass this
chemical barrier, but get stuck there.
639
01:17:14,917 --> 01:17:19,555
I'll show you an image
on how to insert the pessary.
640
01:17:19,579 --> 01:17:22,393
Might be easier to understand.
641
01:17:22,417 --> 01:17:28,934
You have to empty your bladder before.
642
01:17:28,958 --> 01:17:32,893
Then you prepare the pessary
by applying the cream.
643
01:17:32,917 --> 01:17:37,999
And it has to be applied all around and
on the dome. And also put some in here.
644
01:17:39,625 --> 01:17:44,934
Then you should stand up, place one leg
on a chair. Or maybe on the toilet seat.
645
01:17:44,958 --> 01:17:49,518
Then you grab the pessary like this.
You can see here on the image.
646
01:17:49,542 --> 01:17:54,351
Then you insert the pessary,
without force, just nice and easy.
647
01:17:54,375 --> 01:17:56,208
It normally slides in very easily.
648
01:17:57,708 --> 01:18:03,601
When inserted,
you check with your index finger,
649
01:18:03,625 --> 01:18:08,143
that this edge is behind
the pubic bone joint.
650
01:18:08,167 --> 01:18:12,434
If it doesn't feel tense, it's inserted
properly, and everything is fine.
651
01:18:12,458 --> 01:18:15,601
You can insert it about
an hour before intercourse,
652
01:18:15,625 --> 01:18:20,351
but it's very important to keep it in
at least 6-8 hours after intercourse.
653
01:18:20,375 --> 01:18:23,330
You shall not rinse,
or touch it in any way.
654
01:18:23,354 --> 01:18:26,309
But you can walk around,
that's no problem.
655
01:18:26,333 --> 01:18:32,893
When you remove the pessary,
you just insert hour index finger,
656
01:18:32,917 --> 01:18:36,434
grab on to the edge of the pessary
and pull it out.
657
01:18:36,458 --> 01:18:39,601
The first times, you might feel
that you can't find the pessary.
658
01:18:39,625 --> 01:18:44,226
But don't worry, it hasn't fallen out
or "fallen in", but it's there.
659
01:18:44,250 --> 01:18:48,518
Then you rinse it with soap and water,
check that it's not broken,
660
01:18:48,542 --> 01:18:50,667
and alway put it back in its box.
661
01:18:51,833 --> 01:18:54,101
- Does it sound strange?
- No, it doesn't.
662
01:18:54,125 --> 01:18:57,601
Then I'll write out this prescription,
663
01:18:57,625 --> 01:18:59,351
and you can buy it at the pharmacy.
664
01:18:59,375 --> 01:19:03,999
And buy a couple of tubes as spares,
they are the most important thing.
665
01:19:05,958 --> 01:19:08,268
Why have you come here today,
Mrs Holmström?
666
01:19:08,292 --> 01:19:10,851
I came to ask for a loop.
667
01:19:10,875 --> 01:19:13,684
I see. Do you use any
contraceptive method now?
668
01:19:13,708 --> 01:19:17,226
I have used a pessary before,
but I don't trust it any longer.
669
01:19:17,250 --> 01:19:21,643
- Why don't you trust it any longer?
- It moves around.
670
01:19:21,667 --> 01:19:25,768
- I see. Have you ever had a child?
- Yes, I have. In 1961.
671
01:19:25,792 --> 01:19:28,101
Just one child.
And the pregnancy was normal?
672
01:19:28,125 --> 01:19:30,643
- Yes, it was normal.
- Ant the birth was normal, too?
673
01:19:30,667 --> 01:19:33,851
- How is your menstruation nowadays?
- It's regular and normal.
674
01:19:33,875 --> 01:19:35,976
- Not too much?
- No.
675
01:19:36,000 --> 01:19:37,934
- And there are no lumps coming out?
- No.
676
01:19:37,958 --> 01:19:41,309
- I see. Have you ever had ovaritis?
- No, I haven't.
677
01:19:41,333 --> 01:19:44,726
- And you feel well in general?
- Yes.
678
01:19:44,750 --> 01:19:47,768
Then I'll look at you
and see if it's alright,
679
01:19:47,792 --> 01:19:50,268
and then we'll put in one of those loops.
I'm sure it will be alright.
680
01:19:50,292 --> 01:19:53,083
Please come into this room.
681
01:20:26,292 --> 01:20:29,208
- Does it feel alright and normal?
- Yes, it feels fine.
682
01:20:46,625 --> 01:20:49,917
Shall we put this in?
683
01:21:24,500 --> 01:21:28,476
I'll just wash here a little,
it might feel a little cold,
684
01:21:28,500 --> 01:21:30,750
but it's nothing to worry about.
685
01:22:47,417 --> 01:22:51,684
There, now we're ready. Now you can
feel with a finger in the vagina.
686
01:22:51,708 --> 01:22:53,542
I'll wash it off.
687
01:23:01,500 --> 01:23:03,893
- Can you feel the strings?
- Yes, I can.
688
01:23:03,917 --> 01:23:05,559
- Fine.
- Yes.
689
01:23:05,583 --> 01:23:07,226
Thank you, that's all.
690
01:23:07,250 --> 01:23:10,643
Please, sit down.
691
01:23:10,667 --> 01:23:13,101
- Does it feel ok?
- Yes, it feels just fine.
692
01:23:13,125 --> 01:23:15,768
You can experience some pain
the first few days.
693
01:23:15,792 --> 01:23:19,042
It can feel like menstrual pain,
but no need to worry.
694
01:23:20,375 --> 01:23:24,434
Then there's not much happening;
you can get a litte more menstruation,
695
01:23:24,458 --> 01:23:26,601
and more stretched out.
696
01:23:26,625 --> 01:23:29,851
There can also be some minor bleeding,
in between menstruations.
697
01:23:29,875 --> 01:23:34,250
But you needn't worry about that, and you
don't have to call the doctor for that.
698
01:23:35,667 --> 01:23:40,226
It can be wise,
if you after every menstruation
699
01:23:40,250 --> 01:23:46,375
control that it's there by feeling
the strings, just like you did before.
700
01:23:47,875 --> 01:23:53,226
One more thing: you shouldn't trust it
the first few months.
701
01:23:53,250 --> 01:23:58,934
It's smart to use some sort of additional
contraceptive, like a cream of something.
702
01:23:58,958 --> 01:24:03,184
- And you can use regular tampons?
- Oh, yes, that's fine.
703
01:24:03,208 --> 01:24:07,143
And I'd like you to come here
for a check-up in three months.
704
01:24:07,167 --> 01:24:11,351
After that, it's once a year,
if everything is alright.
705
01:24:11,375 --> 01:24:15,226
Should something special occur,
you should of course get in touch.
706
01:24:15,250 --> 01:24:20,518
And you can take this brochure,
and read more.
707
01:24:20,542 --> 01:24:23,518
- Any other questions?
- No. All is clear.
708
01:24:23,542 --> 01:24:27,101
Thank you very much. Goodbye.
709
01:24:27,125 --> 01:24:31,083
I think you can certainly use
the pill, Miss Malmkvist.
710
01:24:32,167 --> 01:24:37,059
You will have to wait until your next
menstruation before you can start,
711
01:24:37,083 --> 01:24:38,934
and then it's important
to count correctly.
712
01:24:38,958 --> 01:24:43,018
You take the first day of menstruation
as day number one,
713
01:24:43,042 --> 01:24:46,434
and on the fifth day
you take the first pill.
714
01:24:46,458 --> 01:24:48,518
It makes no difference whether
the menstruation has stopped or not.
715
01:24:48,542 --> 01:24:51,851
You start on day number five in any case -
that's very important.
716
01:24:51,875 --> 01:24:55,434
Then you take one pill every day.
717
01:24:55,458 --> 01:24:58,726
Let's say that there are about
21 pills in your packet,
718
01:24:58,750 --> 01:25:03,417
and it's very important to remember
to take them regularly, every day.
719
01:25:04,500 --> 01:25:08,893
Of course, you shouldn't trust the method
during the first seven to ten pills.
720
01:25:08,917 --> 01:25:14,143
Then it might be advisable to use a foam
cream like this as an added protection -
721
01:25:14,167 --> 01:25:16,393
it's sold in tubes like this.
722
01:25:16,417 --> 01:25:23,184
If you squirt this way, push and twist
a little, then it fills with foam cream.
723
01:25:23,208 --> 01:25:25,684
This was a little too fast.
724
01:25:25,708 --> 01:25:31,601
Then you put it into the vagina
and squirt it out,
725
01:25:31,625 --> 01:25:35,958
and you can do that up to
half an hour before intercourse.
726
01:25:37,167 --> 01:25:41,018
It's important to remember
that the security with these pills
727
01:25:41,042 --> 01:25:43,143
depends on exactness in their use.
728
01:25:43,167 --> 01:25:45,851
If you remember to take them,
you won't get pregnant.
729
01:25:45,875 --> 01:25:48,309
- Is there anything you would like to ask?
- No, I don't think so.
730
01:25:48,333 --> 01:25:51,208
Well, then I'll write
a prescription for you.
731
01:25:53,792 --> 01:25:57,143
Intercourse and menstruation,
732
01:25:57,167 --> 01:26:04,018
that's another thing
that still worries a lot of people.
733
01:26:04,042 --> 01:26:09,059
The reason for this
is probably old religious
734
01:26:09,083 --> 01:26:14,559
and ritual superstitions
concerning this question
735
01:26:14,583 --> 01:26:20,768
and it's a problem
for a great many people.
736
01:26:20,792 --> 01:26:24,601
What does a gynaecologist say about this?
737
01:26:24,625 --> 01:26:29,101
Well, menstruation
is not in the least unclean
738
01:26:29,125 --> 01:26:33,643
and therefore intercourse is quite alright
if the man or the woman desires it.
739
01:26:33,667 --> 01:26:35,750
- So, they can do it?
- Yes.
740
01:26:36,958 --> 01:26:44,018
The same problem arises when it comes to
intercourse during pregnancy,
741
01:26:44,042 --> 01:26:46,018
what about that?
742
01:26:46,042 --> 01:26:48,476
I can give a simple answer to that.
743
01:26:48,500 --> 01:26:53,309
In most cases intercourse is all right
during the larger part of the pregnancy,
744
01:26:53,333 --> 01:26:55,917
there is nothing against it.
745
01:26:57,000 --> 01:27:03,226
Then there is the question about
the desire during pregnancy.
746
01:27:03,250 --> 01:27:08,601
In my work I have come in contact with
a number of women
747
01:27:08,625 --> 01:27:14,851
who seemed to have lost the interest
for sexual intercourse
748
01:27:14,875 --> 01:27:18,309
during the larger part of their pregnancy.
749
01:27:18,333 --> 01:27:23,059
The reasons for this can be several.
750
01:27:23,083 --> 01:27:28,184
Probably psychological, but also social.
751
01:27:28,208 --> 01:27:32,393
I know that Masters and Johnson
investigated this.
752
01:27:32,417 --> 01:27:35,393
Their material is very limited,
753
01:27:35,417 --> 01:27:43,417
but it seems to show that the desire
decreases during the first three months,
754
01:27:46,833 --> 01:27:54,184
the next three months it increases
and it increases more than normal,
755
01:27:54,208 --> 01:28:02,208
but during the last period of
the pregnancy it decreases again.
756
01:28:03,458 --> 01:28:07,643
That's right. And that's the same
experience you get
757
01:28:07,667 --> 01:28:10,101
when you are working with
care for mothers.
758
01:28:10,125 --> 01:28:13,434
But of course,
there are some medical reasons
759
01:28:13,458 --> 01:28:16,684
that makes it necessary
to advise against intercourse,
760
01:28:16,708 --> 01:28:18,975
at least during some periods
of the pregnancy.
761
01:28:18,999 --> 01:28:22,601
Psychological reasons too.
762
01:28:22,625 --> 01:28:27,750
Of course, the woman can ask
her doctor what she should do.
763
01:28:29,417 --> 01:28:37,101
Thanks to this intense influence
the sexuality comes closer to us.
764
01:28:37,125 --> 01:28:44,934
It's often said that the times are
over-sexed, and that's right, they are.
765
01:28:44,958 --> 01:28:51,143
Ideals are put up for us from all
directions, and we can hardly escape them.
766
01:28:51,167 --> 01:28:58,976
And us women feel inferior
and almost deformed
767
01:28:59,000 --> 01:29:04,018
when we are compared with one of those
over-dimensioned girls
768
01:29:04,042 --> 01:29:10,976
with the girdle and the bra pushing up
the breasts in a completely abnormal way.
769
01:29:11,000 --> 01:29:12,934
And the man isn't better off.
770
01:29:12,958 --> 01:29:15,101
He can't even open his paper
771
01:29:15,125 --> 01:29:20,643
without being reminded of
the false conceptions of potency,
772
01:29:20,667 --> 01:29:24,208
which put unrealistic demands on him.
773
01:29:25,375 --> 01:29:29,601
And we don't know what
we are going to do about it.
774
01:29:29,625 --> 01:29:32,184
I think there's only one way
775
01:29:32,208 --> 01:29:36,309
and that is the one giving knowledge about
and love for
776
01:29:36,333 --> 01:29:39,851
a more honest sex-life together.
777
01:29:39,875 --> 01:29:47,875
The way it is now, there is
only a sort of puritan sex
778
01:29:50,792 --> 01:29:55,684
which just excites without
meaning anything seriously.
779
01:29:55,708 --> 01:30:00,643
And the sex-pictures of our time
are really a contrast to the earlier ones,
780
01:30:00,667 --> 01:30:05,833
because we have carried out
the attitude "look but don't touch".
781
01:31:33,333 --> 01:31:38,667
That's right. But haven't we lost track.
782
01:31:39,958 --> 01:31:47,958
Aren't we going to show how the unity
grows out of the right technique,
783
01:31:50,000 --> 01:31:56,999
the right understanding, the right
contact and the right patience?
784
01:31:58,958 --> 01:32:04,458
These words are concepts
which are hard to learn.
785
01:32:05,667 --> 01:32:10,601
Let's see how this young couple
786
01:32:10,625 --> 01:32:17,375
has managed with their togetherness
after a couple, three, maybe five years.
787
01:33:22,083 --> 01:33:24,809
Oh, we can fix that tomorrow.
788
01:33:24,833 --> 01:33:27,143
Yes, that's fine.
789
01:33:27,167 --> 01:33:31,059
It's nice to have parties. But it's
even better when they are over.
790
01:33:31,083 --> 01:33:33,351
Do you think that it's best
when we're alone?
791
01:33:33,375 --> 01:33:34,375
Yes, nowadays.
792
01:33:35,542 --> 01:33:37,309
Nowadays?
793
01:33:37,333 --> 01:33:40,708
Yes. Now when everything is so good.
794
01:33:42,083 --> 01:33:43,417
It was a long way.
795
01:33:44,875 --> 01:33:48,226
And think about the beginning,
when I was afraid of your impulsiveness,
796
01:33:48,250 --> 01:33:50,250
but now, now I even like it.
797
01:33:54,333 --> 01:33:58,625
And you have taught me
so much tenderness in this room.
798
01:33:59,958 --> 01:34:03,999
Imagine now having to be a sex athlete.
Just be the way I am.
799
01:34:06,708 --> 01:34:10,975
Imagine that we finally managed
to learn how to be together.
800
01:34:10,999 --> 01:34:15,417
How to lie by each other
without making any demands.
801
01:34:16,750 --> 01:34:19,208
Do you remember the poem by Lindegren?
802
01:34:21,333 --> 01:34:25,309
"Somewhere inside we are always together"
803
01:34:25,333 --> 01:34:30,059
"Somewhere inside
our love can never escape"
804
01:34:30,083 --> 01:34:34,708
"Somewhere inside
we are always, you and I"
805
01:34:48,750 --> 01:34:54,434
Some couples might mature later on
in their partnership.
806
01:34:54,458 --> 01:35:00,684
We also know that women often become
sexually mature later on than men do.
807
01:35:00,708 --> 01:35:05,000
It would be interesting to see how
it works for a middle-aged couple.
808
01:35:19,750 --> 01:35:23,684
- Do you want a drink?
- Yes please, club soda.
809
01:35:23,708 --> 01:35:26,851
Club soda?
810
01:35:26,875 --> 01:35:29,875
- With ice?
- Yes, please.
811
01:35:31,083 --> 01:35:34,309
Did you see how sad Viveka looked?
812
01:35:34,333 --> 01:35:37,768
Yes, she looked really sad.
And lonely.
813
01:35:37,792 --> 01:35:40,268
I'm sure she misses Bengt.
814
01:35:40,292 --> 01:35:44,184
- Yes, but she really is quite well off.
- Well?
815
01:35:44,208 --> 01:35:49,042
Yeah, I mean, she can take
care of herself. Do what she likes.
816
01:35:50,125 --> 01:35:53,018
The worst part is that we can't help her.
817
01:35:53,042 --> 01:35:56,434
She must get over this feeling
of loneliness by herself.
818
01:35:56,458 --> 01:36:00,684
You know what?
You don't have it so bad.
819
01:36:00,708 --> 01:36:04,583
- Yes, I've got you.
- Yes, my love. Cheers.
820
01:36:05,792 --> 01:36:08,518
Imagine that you've put up with me
all these years.
821
01:36:08,542 --> 01:36:11,434
And you with me.
822
01:36:11,458 --> 01:36:13,518
Yes, it's nice of me.
823
01:36:13,542 --> 01:36:16,226
But a couple of years ago,
I had a feeling we were drifting apart.
824
01:36:16,250 --> 01:36:17,893
Yes, I know.
825
01:36:17,917 --> 01:36:20,559
I think it was big of you to forgive me.
826
01:36:20,583 --> 01:36:25,059
It's you I want to be with.
I don't want to be with anybody else.
827
01:36:25,083 --> 01:36:30,893
I have to ask you something. Were you ever
jealous of my first marriage? At Johan?
828
01:36:30,917 --> 01:36:35,768
If I've been jealous? Let me
tell you: I'm still terribly jealous.
829
01:36:35,792 --> 01:36:37,143
But, darling...
830
01:36:37,167 --> 01:36:41,934
You remember that day I came home,
and was tired and sad?
831
01:36:41,958 --> 01:36:47,975
I imagined that I saw in your eyes,
that you wished you were back with Johan.
832
01:36:47,999 --> 01:36:50,351
No. I have never felt that way.
833
01:36:50,375 --> 01:36:53,976
- Are you sure?
- Yes, I'm sure.
834
01:36:54,000 --> 01:37:00,684
Those rough times we had,
I wouldn't want to be without them.
835
01:37:00,708 --> 01:37:06,976
That's when I realized, that you and I,
are two normal human beings.
836
01:37:07,000 --> 01:37:12,000
Two delicate, fragile normal human beings,
that need each other.
837
01:37:13,083 --> 01:37:16,958
- Well, I need you.
- My love.
838
01:37:19,625 --> 01:37:22,167
Fredrik and Margareta didn't look happy.
839
01:37:23,625 --> 01:37:28,851
Can they never stop arguing?
Can they never forgive and forget?
840
01:37:28,875 --> 01:37:31,167
Forgive and forget. That's nice.
841
01:37:33,208 --> 01:37:36,559
Do you remember
the poem by Birger Sjöberg?
842
01:37:36,583 --> 01:37:41,184
Counting be told: Petulance
accounted for and evil so blind...
843
01:37:41,208 --> 01:37:46,643
In the end I am adding - wait and hold!
844
01:37:46,667 --> 01:37:53,542
Summa summarum:
In blood and in mind I love you!
845
01:37:55,667 --> 01:37:57,958
Yes, that's beautiful.
846
01:38:03,708 --> 01:38:07,875
Can you help me with my zipper?
847
01:38:26,125 --> 01:38:31,999
It's a wide-spread misconception,
that the sex life stops at old age.
848
01:38:33,708 --> 01:38:35,559
That's not the case.
849
01:38:35,583 --> 01:38:43,583
Many also believe that the woman's sex
life ends at the same time as menopause.
850
01:38:45,333 --> 01:38:48,434
Nothing could be more wrong!
851
01:38:48,458 --> 01:38:54,351
Kinsey, Masters and Johnson
and many others have shown
852
01:38:54,375 --> 01:39:02,059
that the ability for sexual pleasure
and orgasm is intact.
853
01:39:02,083 --> 01:39:06,768
The oldest sexually active individual
with Masters and Johnson,
854
01:39:06,792 --> 01:39:14,792
was 89 years old.
855
01:39:15,750 --> 01:39:18,226
And it was a woman!
856
01:39:18,250 --> 01:39:23,518
You have to remember that the male
always had a curse upon him.
857
01:39:23,542 --> 01:39:27,167
He's always expected to perform
and get an orgasm, whatever his age.
858
01:39:28,833 --> 01:39:32,975
Maybe it would be nice for him
not to have these demands.
859
01:39:32,999 --> 01:39:39,667
There are so many other forms of giving
and receiving sexual pleasure.
860
01:39:40,708 --> 01:39:46,934
There is no reason not to think
861
01:39:46,958 --> 01:39:51,726
there can be a sex life
for man as well as woman
862
01:39:51,750 --> 01:39:54,601
until the end of life.
863
01:39:54,625 --> 01:40:00,018
It's important to point this out
to young people,
864
01:40:00,042 --> 01:40:06,768
who live under the misconception
that sex is just for the young
865
01:40:06,792 --> 01:40:10,018
and not for the elderly.
866
01:40:10,042 --> 01:40:16,059
Now that we live longer, it's important
867
01:40:16,083 --> 01:40:24,083
that we take advantage
of this ability of enjoyment.
868
01:40:27,417 --> 01:40:30,458
And what now for the future?
869
01:40:32,167 --> 01:40:36,226
These new contraceptives
have meant so much to women
870
01:40:36,250 --> 01:40:39,999
and have helped them to obtain
an independent sexual status.
871
01:40:42,542 --> 01:40:49,999
I think a lot of things will change -
for example the forms of marriage.
872
01:40:51,000 --> 01:40:56,975
And another thing, I think that
the women's sexual liberation
873
01:40:56,999 --> 01:41:00,809
will definitely kill the myth
874
01:41:00,833 --> 01:41:04,059
that the man should have
a greater sexual need.
875
01:41:04,083 --> 01:41:09,643
Yes, that's right. Let's hope that at last
876
01:41:09,667 --> 01:41:17,018
the man and the woman
will be valued equally in society,
877
01:41:17,042 --> 01:41:19,750
even though they still
play their own parts.
878
01:41:28,625 --> 01:41:34,809
And now we hope that our film has helped
to reduce the fear of the unknown,
879
01:41:34,833 --> 01:41:38,434
and that it has given increased knowledge
about human cohabitation,
880
01:41:38,458 --> 01:41:41,476
about tenderness, about sexual joy,
881
01:41:41,500 --> 01:41:44,606
about humanity in the connections
between woman and man.
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