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>>There's an old
Japanese parable
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about a troubled
warrior who is haunted
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by the ghosts of the
lives he took in battle.
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[HUMMING]
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>>Are you the great silk sage?
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I must know if heaven
and hell exist.
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So many have been slaughtered.
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For them, I hope
there is a heaven.
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But I have killed so many,
and for me, I pray there
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is no hell.
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Please, I must know!
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>>I would not want
to waste such wisdom
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on a heartless coward like you.
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>>What did you say, old woman?
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>>What did you intend
to do with that?
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Prove that you're a coward by
killing a defenseless woman?
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I've never seen such
weakness in a warrior.
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That is hell.
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And that is heaven.
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>>My name is Maya
Angelou, and I believe
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that the heart is the most
forceful, impactful element
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in our lives.
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>>You will never ever
reach their full potential.
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If you don't open your heart.
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>>And the power of the heart
is to be connected with who
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you are at the deepest level.
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>>We think of the heart in the
poetic sense, the seat of love
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and compassion.
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And it's this heart that
is so terribly important.
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>>I'm a writer.
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For me, inspiration
is essential.
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Creativity is essential.
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And I can only find
it through the heart.
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>>The higher order of
logic and understanding
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originates in your heart.
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It's experienced in your heart.
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It's lived in your heart.
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>>The physical heart pumps blood
through the veins and arteries
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from the time we're
born until time we die.
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The most efficient
pump ever invented.
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But the heart is more than that.
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>>We did an experiment
here at HeartMath
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to study how the
information flows
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between the heart and the
brain, and we actually
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discovered something
quite remarkable,
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something that surprised us.
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The participants
in the study were
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connected to various sensors
to measure their brain waves,
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their heartbeats, and so on.
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And then they were
exposed to various images.
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Some were high arousal,
like a car crash,
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or a snake striking,
while others
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were lower arousal images
like bunny rabbits and nature
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scenes.
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The participants were
asked to push a button.
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They then saw a blank computer
screen for six seconds.
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The computer then
randomly selected
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one of these photographs that
it displayed for three seconds.
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After that the screen
went blank for 10 seconds,
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and they were prompted
to push the button again,
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and they repeated this
protocol about 30 times.
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When we analyzed all the data,
the results were astounding.
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The heart seemed
to know the images
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before the participants ever
saw the images with their eyes.
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If the future picture was going
to be one of the emotionally
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arousing ones, the
heart rate started
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to drop about five seconds
before the image was randomly
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selected to be
shown on the screen.
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So nobody could know what this
future picture was going to be.
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The heart had a much
greater de-acceleration
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than if it was, say, going
to be a calm picture.
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These results have
since been replicated
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in many different independent
labs around the world,
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actually.
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Well, a lot of people say that
I don't feel it in my heart,
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I feel it in my gut.
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But here's what's
really happening.
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The information comes
to the heart first.
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The heart then sends
a different signal
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to the brain which
we can measure.
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Then you have a brain response,
and then a body response.
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And with the body
response, like feeling
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in the gut, or the hair
on the back of the neck,
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is where it becomes conscious.
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But the real flow of information
is heart, brain, body.
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And this is all
happening in many seconds
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before the actual event occurs.
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So what this body of
research is telling
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us is that the heart
seems to be connected
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to a type of intuition that is
not bound by the limits of time
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and space.
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But what is that
source of intuition?
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What is the heart connected
to, and how can we
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learn to tap into more of that?
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>>I believe that
the person who is
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disconnected from his or
her heart is not living.
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I know a lot of people who
[? felt ?] that but they
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walk, they talk, they
watch television,
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they work hard sometimes.
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>>We're the only
living form on Earth
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that can actually
become the walking dead.
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We can actually cut off our
own source to aliveness.
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>>But somehow this spark
of divine energy is lost.
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This happened to me.
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I said, oh, I want
to be a writer.
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My band says, oh come on, Paulo.
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In Brazil, to be a
writer in Brazil,
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nobody can make a
living out of writing.
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I said, but I don't care,
I just want to be happy.
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I just want to do something
that is going to give me fun.
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It's going to give a
meaning for my life.
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And they said, no,
no, no, no, no.
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And then, of course,
because I thought
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that old people are wiser, I
said, OK, they have reason.
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Let me do something different.
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But I could not.
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I quit the university to I was
only [INAUDIBLE] and I said,
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you have to burn your bridges.
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And I just burned my bridges.
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And I had no choice
but to follow the thing
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that I wanted to do.
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So from the moment
that I realized
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that I want to be a writer, I
said, I'm going to be a writer.
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It may take 10 days,
10 years, or 20 years,
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but I'm going to write.
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And then I started by
writing lyrics for songs,
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I start by writing
articles for newspapers.
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I wrote my first
book when I was 40,
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but at least I
wrote my first book.
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So at the end, if you
don't fulfill your dream,
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God finds three, four times
a way to kick your head
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and say, come on.
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Don't forget your
purpose in your life.
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Give a chance to your dream.
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You are not going to regret.
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I'm not saying that you're
not going to suffer.
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I'm not saying that you're
not going to be defeated.
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I'm saying you're not
going to go regret it.
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>>The medieval female
mystic, Mechthild,
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beautifully said that a
fish cannot drown in water
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and a bird cannot
fall from the sky.
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Each creature must find
their own God-given element.
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And it's easy for fish and
birds, they know their element.
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But for human beings
it's not so easy.
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With well intention,
we always struggle
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whether to follow our heart
and our direct experience
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and the advice and
instruction of others.
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Whether they be parents,
loved ones, friends, trends
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in whatever age we're born into.
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And there's no substitute
for following the aliveness
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that our heart tunes us to.
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>>Many times people are looking
for their ideal partner,
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and they say they
can't find them.
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They're looking, and they're
looking, and they're looking,
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and they can't find them.
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Well if your soulmate is
not knocking on your door,
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it's not that you're
not looking hard enough.
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If you want to find
someone that can fully
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love you and know you, you
have to know and love yourself.
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When we're able to give
ourself this kind of love which
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says we're good
enough just the way
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we are, that we're in
this world for a reason,
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that we're never alone,
that sense of fulfillment
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provides a foundation for
having a successful relationship
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with someone else.
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>>A great teacher this
is a simple flower.
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When the flower
blossoms, the bee comes.
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The flower doesn't go
looking for the bee.
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And this is where the
heart really comes alive,
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because relationships are far
more challenging than what
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we see in the movies.
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>>All right, roll it.
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>>I've loved you all my life.
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>>But we only met two days ago.
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>>That's when my life began.
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>>The journey of
a relationship is
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finding love every time
again, and again, and again.
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And to find love
again and again means
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you're going to lose it,
and lose it, and lose it.
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>>Often the question arises that
if the heart is so powerful,
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why is it so easily broken?
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And my time on Earth has
led me to understand,
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because that's how
the heart grows.
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In the same way that when we
exercise our muscles actually
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break down so that they can
get healthy and grow stronger,
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this is how the heart works.
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>>You have to bring
forth obstacles,
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and that's what a marriage is.
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You will be challenged.
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>>One day a blonde walked
into Charles' life.
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>>Was she really pretty?
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>>Well, I'd lie about her,
but Marian saw her, too.
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Yes, she's very pretty.
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>>There'll be times when
you doubt your partner,
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you doubt your relationship, and
you're angry with your partner.
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>>There isn't the slightest
bit of good in you.
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>>You're afraid to get
close to your partner,
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you've been hurt
by your partner.
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>>He's hiding something
from me, Sylvie.
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Something terrible.
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>>This is part of that journey.
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>>You know, in the moment of
such breaking, it's agony,
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and we feel desperate.
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But the heart, the heart
just says, give me more.
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Give me more.
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>>As you come back to love,
each time coming back to love,
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finding forgiveness,
finding acceptance, even
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thanking your partner at
times for their inadequacies
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so to speak, because
it poured forth
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greater love within yourself,
that is how you grow.
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>>There was a battle, all right.
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But it wasn't Paul I had
to fight, but myself.
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>>Bonnie will say
to me, John, I don't
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want to listen to
you until you're
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talking to me from your heart.
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I said, no, I'm talking,
I'm making sense.
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No.
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I want to hear your feeling.
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I want to hear your love
in the tone of your voice.
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And when you can find
it, we can talk again.
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What a simple
message she gives me.
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Now, it would be
a mistake for her
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to say something's wrong
with being in my head,
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because that would make a very
important part of me wrong.
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But what she'll say
is at times what
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my heart is closed,
when I sound mean
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or focused on being right--
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>>Now, if you want to tell me
what's troubling you, fine.
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If not, I'm tired, it's late,
and I want to go home to bed.
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>>She'll say, right
now, I can't hear this.
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I need to hear a little
bit more of your heart.
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When you're ready to
talk from your heart,
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I'm ready to talk with you.
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>>I think the
challenge in our age
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is staying in a relationship.
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And that doesn't mean to
stay in abusive relationships
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or relationships
that don't work.
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And I have found for
me that the difference
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often as to whether to stay or
go in a friendship or a love
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relationship hinges on whether
all of who I am is welcome.
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If I am asked to leave who I
am or part of who I am outside,
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then no matter what we
do in that relationship,
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I won't grow.
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Because I won't be able to
stay connected to my heart.
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>>And this is where their
story really begins.
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It wouldn't be fair to tell you
how it ends, for that, we hope,
249
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is something you'll want
to experience for yourself.
250
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>>Things can get crazy, no?
251
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So many people,
they lose their kids
252
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because there is
no relationship,
253
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there is no contact.
254
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Which is very bad, because
no time to try again,
255
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and to try again,
to find a solution.
256
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I have four kids.
257
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One of them is playing
for [? IX. ?] Probably
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I paid more attention to that.
259
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And then the oldest one got
a little bit less attention,
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I don't know, and he
was against me in a way.
261
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And I decided, I
have to do something.
262
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I have to give him an
opportunity to get closer.
263
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And then all of a sudden
I told him, come on.
264
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We take the bags and we'll
go to Greece, you know?
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I said, in order to persuade
him, it might be my last time.
266
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>>Why did you say that?
267
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>>When we go up on the
Alps I will tell you.
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>>I had nothing to tell him.
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I just told him because
otherwise he wouldn't come,
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and I knew that
he wouldn't come.
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We went from Amsterdam,
to Athens, Greece.
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You become his brother,
you become his mate,
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you become his friend.
274
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This would happen up in the
Alps, where it was minus 16
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and we're freezing
cold, so we became one.
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>>Hey, where are you, man?
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>>Dad, where are you?
278
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>>This is a little
house here, come!
279
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>>Hello?
280
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Hello.
281
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Hey!
282
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Look at this, please, please
let us sleep with you tonight.
283
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If you allow me to sleep
here tonight, me and Willem,
284
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just for a night.
285
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It's so cold.
286
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I love you.
287
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>>And then everything went
away all this friction
288
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because I was in the
same team with him.
289
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And I love that, and I'm very
happy that this little mistake
290
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of mine, which
was not dedicating
291
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enough time to my oldest son--
292
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>>I don't know
nothing about boxing,
293
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so be careful with your dad, eh?
294
00:18:28,310 --> 00:18:31,360
>>And now that we are
really, really good friends.
295
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Every father has good
friction with his son.
296
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And love it.
297
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You have good kids, no?
298
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I hope you will enjoy when
the friction is coming.
299
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Otherwise he hasn't
got any character.
300
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>>You OK?
301
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>>Yeah, man.
302
00:18:48,890 --> 00:18:51,713
>>So when your son is
against you, be very happy.
303
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OK?
304
00:18:58,190 --> 00:19:03,830
>>On Sunday, September 22nd,
at about 10:54 in the evening,
305
00:19:03,830 --> 00:19:07,850
our daughter was riding her
bicycle home from the CSU Chico
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State Library when she was
struck by a drunk driver
307
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and left on the side
of the road to die.
308
00:19:18,400 --> 00:19:22,510
>>In the phone conversation
with the nurse,
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we knew that she had
been in an accident,
310
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but we didn't know
any of the details.
311
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That it was a drunk driver, and
that it was a 19-year-old kid.
312
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She was riding four
blocks home from school.
313
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She was about a half a
block from her apartment.
314
00:19:38,890 --> 00:19:41,360
>>You could see her apartment
from where she was hit.
315
00:19:41,360 --> 00:19:43,510
>>You could actually
stand on the bridge
316
00:19:43,510 --> 00:19:44,930
and see her
apartment from there.
317
00:19:44,930 --> 00:19:45,730
>>She was so close.
318
00:19:45,730 --> 00:19:48,536
>>That's how close it was, and
I've stood there so many times
319
00:19:48,536 --> 00:19:49,910
and just looked
at that distance.
320
00:19:56,290 --> 00:20:01,760
Just thought about that short
distance has changed our lives.
321
00:20:04,320 --> 00:20:07,650
>>Christina was one of
those extraordinary people
322
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that you don't come
across very often.
323
00:20:10,260 --> 00:20:11,554
>>She studied.
324
00:20:11,554 --> 00:20:13,470
She really thought about
how to live her life.
325
00:20:13,470 --> 00:20:15,720
She didn't just
stumble through life
326
00:20:15,720 --> 00:20:19,610
the way many people do,
especially at her age.
327
00:20:19,610 --> 00:20:24,020
From the time she weighed enough
to give blood, she gave it.
328
00:20:24,020 --> 00:20:26,580
And sometimes she
would even pass out,
329
00:20:26,580 --> 00:20:28,830
and Sandra would drive her
home in the car, she'd say,
330
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that's it, you're not
going to do this again.
331
00:20:30,750 --> 00:20:34,580
She'd say, no, I am going to
do this again, and she would.
332
00:20:34,580 --> 00:20:38,150
She would give blood whenever
she had the chance and--
333
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>>Pass out every time.
334
00:20:39,650 --> 00:20:42,464
>>And she'd pass out
almost every time.
335
00:20:42,464 --> 00:20:43,880
That's the way she
lived her life.
336
00:20:43,880 --> 00:20:46,924
If she thought it was the
right thing to do, she did it.
337
00:20:46,924 --> 00:20:48,840
And so many people know
the right thing to do,
338
00:20:48,840 --> 00:20:50,630
but they don't always do it.
339
00:20:50,630 --> 00:20:54,030
But she didn't even
have to think about it.
340
00:20:54,030 --> 00:20:56,560
>>About three weeks
after Christina died,
341
00:20:56,560 --> 00:21:02,020
we had to go and pack up
her apartment up in Chico.
342
00:21:02,020 --> 00:21:07,960
And I opened up a drawer
and I saw a makeup bag.
343
00:21:07,960 --> 00:21:11,710
I opened up the makeup bag and
it had several pieces of paper
344
00:21:11,710 --> 00:21:12,510
in it.
345
00:21:12,510 --> 00:21:16,530
No makeup, but several
pieces of paper.
346
00:21:16,530 --> 00:21:21,480
And among those papers
was this piece of paper
347
00:21:21,480 --> 00:21:24,740
that was folded and
a little tattered.
348
00:21:24,740 --> 00:21:28,820
And I looked at it
and I started to read.
349
00:21:28,820 --> 00:21:31,550
And I realized it
was bucket list.
350
00:21:48,700 --> 00:21:55,615
She never said I want to be
rich, I want to be famous.
351
00:21:55,615 --> 00:21:59,900
She didn't ask for
anything unreasonable.
352
00:21:59,900 --> 00:22:02,665
She just wanted
to do normal stuff
353
00:22:02,665 --> 00:22:04,597
and she never got to do that.
354
00:22:08,520 --> 00:22:10,890
Be in four places at once.
355
00:22:10,890 --> 00:22:13,050
There's a place
called Four Corners.
356
00:22:13,050 --> 00:22:16,410
You can actually go to the
edge of all four states, that's
357
00:22:16,410 --> 00:22:18,200
what she wanted to do.
358
00:22:18,200 --> 00:22:21,150
But she's done this already.
359
00:22:21,150 --> 00:22:26,340
Not by being there,
but with her organs.
360
00:22:26,340 --> 00:22:30,330
Parts of her are
four places at once.
361
00:22:30,330 --> 00:22:32,910
Her liver was split
between two people.
362
00:22:32,910 --> 00:22:37,190
One was a 55-year-old man and
one was a nine-month-old baby.
363
00:22:37,190 --> 00:22:40,130
A kidney, somebody
that the family knew.
364
00:22:40,130 --> 00:22:43,980
Another man got the rest
of Christina's liver.
365
00:22:43,980 --> 00:22:47,760
Her pancreas and the
other kidney went to a man
366
00:22:47,760 --> 00:22:49,620
in the South Bay.
367
00:22:49,620 --> 00:22:54,090
And her heart went to
a 64-year-old woman
368
00:22:54,090 --> 00:22:56,475
from the South Bay at Stanford.
369
00:23:00,245 --> 00:23:04,510
>>Lao Tzu said that I
have just three things
370
00:23:04,510 --> 00:23:11,410
to teach, simplicity,
patience, and compassion.
371
00:23:11,410 --> 00:23:15,460
In an age where we run
from the depth of feeling
372
00:23:15,460 --> 00:23:18,670
and the teachings of
the heart, our fear
373
00:23:18,670 --> 00:23:23,740
can reframe simplicity
as stupidity,
374
00:23:23,740 --> 00:23:30,100
patience as laziness, and
compassion as sentimentality.
375
00:23:30,100 --> 00:23:35,500
And therefore make them
not worthwhile to pick up.
376
00:23:35,500 --> 00:23:42,860
Simplicity refers to direct
living, firsthand experience.
377
00:23:42,860 --> 00:23:48,550
So the return to
touching life directly.
378
00:23:48,550 --> 00:23:53,080
This restores our
wholeheartedness.
379
00:23:53,080 --> 00:23:57,700
Patience also restores
us to wholeheartedness.
380
00:23:57,700 --> 00:24:05,110
The urgencies we feel ever
present are mostly false.
381
00:24:05,110 --> 00:24:10,510
Unless you or I can't
breathe or we're bleeding,
382
00:24:10,510 --> 00:24:13,050
there's no real urgency.
383
00:24:13,050 --> 00:24:16,260
And compassion,
compassion literally
384
00:24:16,260 --> 00:24:21,450
means to be with, to
keep honest company.
385
00:24:21,450 --> 00:24:29,230
So when I am not directly
living, when I am not patient,
386
00:24:29,230 --> 00:24:32,590
I want to problem
solve your pain
387
00:24:32,590 --> 00:24:34,650
and not keep you
company with it.
388
00:24:37,334 --> 00:24:38,750
I'm often asked,
well that's fine,
389
00:24:38,750 --> 00:24:42,920
but how can we do that
in the real world?
390
00:24:42,920 --> 00:24:46,000
And I see it differently.
391
00:24:46,000 --> 00:24:54,050
I've come to understand that
if you don't open your heart,
392
00:24:54,050 --> 00:24:56,830
then existence will crush you.
393
00:24:56,830 --> 00:24:59,020
Not because there's something
evil about existence,
394
00:24:59,020 --> 00:25:01,960
but because the way
water fills a hole,
395
00:25:01,960 --> 00:25:08,260
if you don't meet the
world with who you are then
396
00:25:08,260 --> 00:25:11,050
everything around
will just fill you in.
397
00:25:11,050 --> 00:25:14,500
So there's always a question,
yes, if I'm out in the world,
398
00:25:14,500 --> 00:25:17,860
I could get hurt, I could
get taken advantage of.
399
00:25:17,860 --> 00:25:20,680
I could get betrayed.
400
00:25:20,680 --> 00:25:23,420
My trust may not be rewarded.
401
00:25:23,420 --> 00:25:25,770
This is all true.
402
00:25:25,770 --> 00:25:29,470
But I have found that
the cost for not staying
403
00:25:29,470 --> 00:25:36,250
open hearted, whole hearted,
is that I lose access
404
00:25:36,250 --> 00:25:37,915
to my aliveness.
405
00:25:37,915 --> 00:25:41,770
>>And we'll end up
walking lock step
406
00:25:41,770 --> 00:25:48,950
in a society of consumerism, of
getting, of fear, and of worry.
407
00:25:48,950 --> 00:25:52,510
And we will not
have lived our life.
408
00:25:52,510 --> 00:25:54,460
We have a life to live.
409
00:25:54,460 --> 00:25:56,540
The heart has the answers.
410
00:26:03,020 --> 00:26:06,410
>>I was editor of a magazine,
I started that one years ago.
411
00:26:06,410 --> 00:26:08,120
And I was looking
at this magazine.
412
00:26:08,120 --> 00:26:09,740
And as usual, there
was this picture
413
00:26:09,740 --> 00:26:11,750
of the editor in
front of the magazine.
414
00:26:11,750 --> 00:26:15,770
And I was looking at myself
smiling, and I thought,
415
00:26:15,770 --> 00:26:17,690
it's not true.
416
00:26:17,690 --> 00:26:18,980
This is not me.
417
00:26:18,980 --> 00:26:21,680
But there was a sadness,
it was like a wave
418
00:26:21,680 --> 00:26:24,080
of sadness that washed me.
419
00:26:24,080 --> 00:26:25,880
It was a really upset moment.
420
00:26:25,880 --> 00:26:27,100
I can laugh at it now.
421
00:26:27,100 --> 00:26:30,200
And I thought, who is
this me, or I, or self?
422
00:26:30,200 --> 00:26:34,190
What is it in religion, or
in spiritual traditions,
423
00:26:34,190 --> 00:26:35,820
or in philosophy?
424
00:26:35,820 --> 00:26:37,940
What is it?
425
00:26:37,940 --> 00:26:40,580
>>Every spiritual tradition
throughout history
426
00:26:40,580 --> 00:26:44,480
has spoken about the heart as
being the seed of the soul.
427
00:26:44,480 --> 00:26:47,690
The diamond in the heart,
the lotus and the heart,
428
00:26:47,690 --> 00:26:50,000
the temple in the heart.
429
00:26:50,000 --> 00:26:52,610
Every tradition
speaks about the heart
430
00:26:52,610 --> 00:26:57,190
as being the essence
of who we are.
431
00:26:57,190 --> 00:27:02,200
>>The heart points to the most
essential dimension within you.
432
00:27:02,200 --> 00:27:05,250
So to live in
connectedness with that,
433
00:27:05,250 --> 00:27:09,310
then you are in touch with
the power of the heart, which
434
00:27:09,310 --> 00:27:14,260
is the power of life itself.
435
00:27:14,260 --> 00:27:17,560
The power of the
very intelligence
436
00:27:17,560 --> 00:27:23,230
that pervades and underlies
the entire universe.
437
00:27:23,230 --> 00:27:26,800
>>Divine intelligence
is in your heart.
438
00:27:26,800 --> 00:27:30,060
You will not find your
soul in your intellect.
439
00:27:30,060 --> 00:27:33,470
>>And I suddenly thought,
wow, look at all these notes.
440
00:27:33,470 --> 00:27:35,580
This could be a magazine.
441
00:27:35,580 --> 00:27:39,596
And the title was easy, because
it made me really happy.
442
00:27:39,596 --> 00:27:40,580
Happiness.
443
00:28:01,260 --> 00:28:05,900
So to listen to your heart
can be very frightening,
444
00:28:05,900 --> 00:28:09,110
because you might have to lose
all the secure things that life
445
00:28:09,110 --> 00:28:14,210
was giving you, like cars,
money, houses, everything.
446
00:28:14,210 --> 00:28:17,610
>>Well, I'm a person
who has a lot of fear.
447
00:28:17,610 --> 00:28:21,110
Like for example,
every time that I
448
00:28:21,110 --> 00:28:23,960
have to write a new book.
449
00:28:23,960 --> 00:28:27,600
Would I be able
to express myself?
450
00:28:27,600 --> 00:28:30,340
Would I be able
to share my soul?
451
00:28:30,340 --> 00:28:33,870
>>When we consider
challenging fear,
452
00:28:33,870 --> 00:28:37,620
we're actually considering
shining the light of awareness
453
00:28:37,620 --> 00:28:40,830
on those places within
us that are fearful.
454
00:28:40,830 --> 00:28:43,180
>>There is nothing
wrong with fear.
455
00:28:43,180 --> 00:28:47,340
The only thing that is wrong
is to be paralyzed by fear.
456
00:28:47,340 --> 00:28:51,960
>>So I thought, OK, I face
it, I just face it, this fear.
457
00:28:51,960 --> 00:28:56,180
What will happen to me if this
magazine is not a success?
458
00:28:56,180 --> 00:28:58,252
Maybe I have to sell the house.
459
00:28:58,252 --> 00:28:59,460
So I looked to another house.
460
00:29:02,561 --> 00:29:08,060
An area in the village where
you can rent a very cheap house.
461
00:29:08,060 --> 00:29:10,300
I thought, can I live there?
462
00:29:10,300 --> 00:29:11,600
Of course I can live there.
463
00:29:11,600 --> 00:29:12,400
Why not?
464
00:29:12,400 --> 00:29:15,700
It's a roof, it's a
house, I can live there.
465
00:29:15,700 --> 00:29:17,170
And I knew I can handle this.
466
00:29:17,170 --> 00:29:20,290
Whatever will
happen, we will live.
467
00:29:20,290 --> 00:29:22,180
>>And there's an
old Sioux saying
468
00:29:22,180 --> 00:29:26,610
that says, the longest journey
you will make in your life
469
00:29:26,610 --> 00:29:30,480
is from your head to your heart.
470
00:29:30,480 --> 00:29:36,870
And this isn't because
we're stupid or we're slow.
471
00:29:36,870 --> 00:29:41,040
It's because it takes time.
472
00:29:41,040 --> 00:29:43,830
Before I had cancer, I
believed in the heart
473
00:29:43,830 --> 00:29:46,390
but I was living
it from my head.
474
00:29:46,390 --> 00:29:51,470
And that journey, like snow
melting into the ground,
475
00:29:51,470 --> 00:29:54,890
the essence of my life
melted into my heart.
476
00:29:54,890 --> 00:29:59,060
It took almost dying to make
that journey from my head
477
00:29:59,060 --> 00:30:02,380
to my heart.
478
00:30:02,380 --> 00:30:05,230
>>Your primary
intention needs to be
479
00:30:05,230 --> 00:30:09,970
connectedness with the
heart at this moment.
480
00:30:09,970 --> 00:30:14,380
>>I have to act from a
place of good intention.
481
00:30:14,380 --> 00:30:17,710
A place of love
and kindness that
482
00:30:17,710 --> 00:30:20,740
will allow me to
walk in this world
483
00:30:20,740 --> 00:30:23,590
without creating any damage.
484
00:30:23,590 --> 00:30:26,920
>>You may intend to
have a million dollars,
485
00:30:26,920 --> 00:30:32,603
and that intention then
needs you to rob a bank.
486
00:30:36,270 --> 00:30:40,200
If you really want the thing,
go to the heart and say,
487
00:30:40,200 --> 00:30:42,110
this is what I want.
488
00:30:42,110 --> 00:30:45,360
And the heart can say, I'll
show you how you get it.
489
00:30:45,360 --> 00:30:49,980
You must be willing to work,
now, and trust me, now.
490
00:30:49,980 --> 00:30:53,040
And then you can have it, yes.
491
00:30:53,040 --> 00:30:55,650
If it's not going
to hurt anyone else.
492
00:30:55,650 --> 00:30:58,240
>>Suppose you meet
someone who says,
493
00:30:58,240 --> 00:30:59,820
I intend to make more money.
494
00:30:59,820 --> 00:31:02,400
And he says, that's
my intention.
495
00:31:02,400 --> 00:31:06,190
You can ask him, why do you
want to make more money?
496
00:31:06,190 --> 00:31:10,350
And then you'll start to
learn some interesting things.
497
00:31:10,350 --> 00:31:13,110
>>If making money becomes
your primary goal,
498
00:31:13,110 --> 00:31:16,260
then know that you
are not connected
499
00:31:16,260 --> 00:31:18,420
with the deepest
dimension in yourself
500
00:31:18,420 --> 00:31:21,180
that we call the heart.
501
00:31:21,180 --> 00:31:25,680
And even if you achieve your
goal and make a lot of money,
502
00:31:25,680 --> 00:31:28,890
you will find that
ultimately it leads
503
00:31:28,890 --> 00:31:32,190
to frustration and unhappiness.
504
00:31:32,190 --> 00:31:37,290
>>Fulfill your dream, and
certainly money may come.
505
00:31:37,290 --> 00:31:42,030
If money does not come, just
to have a life full of joy.
506
00:31:42,030 --> 00:31:44,100
In my case, for
example, I never thought
507
00:31:44,100 --> 00:31:47,760
I would make a living
out of writing.
508
00:31:47,760 --> 00:31:51,840
I was writing because
I wanted to do it.
509
00:31:51,840 --> 00:31:53,640
I had no choice.
510
00:31:53,640 --> 00:31:55,890
So at the end of
the day, not only
511
00:31:55,890 --> 00:32:00,040
I made money out of writing,
but I made a lot of money
512
00:32:00,040 --> 00:32:02,310
out of writing.
513
00:32:02,310 --> 00:32:07,230
>>It often happens that when
your actions become empowered
514
00:32:07,230 --> 00:32:13,800
and contribute something
vital to this world,
515
00:32:13,800 --> 00:32:17,910
then abundance in
some form-- and it
516
00:32:17,910 --> 00:32:22,710
may be in the form of money--
can sometimes flow to you.
517
00:32:22,710 --> 00:32:24,630
>>It was a great success.
518
00:32:24,630 --> 00:32:27,950
Holland wanted this
magazine so it could grow,
519
00:32:27,950 --> 00:32:30,600
and it was the biggest
magazine of the Netherlands.
520
00:32:30,600 --> 00:32:31,750
It came from the heart.
521
00:32:31,750 --> 00:32:34,200
It was the real thing.
522
00:32:34,200 --> 00:32:40,110
>>Wherever your heart is, there
you will find your treasure.
523
00:32:40,110 --> 00:32:45,050
>>The heart is who you are.
524
00:32:45,050 --> 00:32:49,410
The heart defines you.
525
00:32:49,410 --> 00:32:55,900
And I really wanted
to meet that person,
526
00:32:55,900 --> 00:33:00,860
because I knew that person had
to be pretty special to get
527
00:33:00,860 --> 00:33:03,410
Christina's heart.
528
00:33:03,410 --> 00:33:07,760
Late one evening, my son got
a text message from a friend,
529
00:33:07,760 --> 00:33:11,300
and said, tell your mom
to read the Facebook page.
530
00:33:11,300 --> 00:33:14,000
So I went to Facebook,
and I saw a message.
531
00:33:14,000 --> 00:33:17,090
And the message was,
I am Susan Vieira,
532
00:33:17,090 --> 00:33:20,330
and I believe I'm the recipient
of your daughter's heart.
533
00:33:20,330 --> 00:33:24,740
I knew it was late, but I just
figured I'd message her anyway.
534
00:33:24,740 --> 00:33:27,100
And she responded right back.
535
00:33:27,100 --> 00:33:32,431
And I dialed her number,
and she picked up.
536
00:33:32,431 --> 00:33:34,780
And right away I just
felt a connection.
537
00:33:38,084 --> 00:33:41,400
I felt Christina.
538
00:33:41,400 --> 00:33:44,850
And then when I heard this
she was a retired nurse,
539
00:33:44,850 --> 00:33:47,660
and that they had
so much in common,
540
00:33:47,660 --> 00:33:51,530
that it was like
Christina handpicked Susan
541
00:33:51,530 --> 00:33:53,090
to get her heart.
542
00:33:53,090 --> 00:33:56,300
>>Christina and I
were both nurses.
543
00:33:56,300 --> 00:34:00,650
I saw the bucket list, and
it's really a CV of my life.
544
00:34:00,650 --> 00:34:03,140
>>She wanted to manage
and own her own business.
545
00:34:03,140 --> 00:34:04,310
>>Yes, I did that.
546
00:34:04,310 --> 00:34:05,660
>>She wanted to get married.
547
00:34:05,660 --> 00:34:07,940
>>Yes, I've done that.
548
00:34:07,940 --> 00:34:10,050
>>She wanted to learn
how to fly a plane.
549
00:34:10,050 --> 00:34:11,540
>>I've learned to fly a plane.
550
00:34:11,540 --> 00:34:14,210
>>She wanted to go
to four out of seven
551
00:34:14,210 --> 00:34:16,460
of the wonders of the world.
552
00:34:16,460 --> 00:34:17,750
>>Yes, check.
553
00:34:17,750 --> 00:34:20,160
>>Fly first class
on an airplane.
554
00:34:20,160 --> 00:34:20,960
>>Check.
555
00:34:20,960 --> 00:34:22,610
>>Visit the 50 states.
556
00:34:22,610 --> 00:34:23,659
>>I'm working on it.
557
00:34:23,659 --> 00:34:25,760
>>Ride in a hot air balloon.
558
00:34:25,760 --> 00:34:26,659
>>I've done that.
559
00:34:26,659 --> 00:34:28,190
>>Go parachuting.
560
00:34:28,190 --> 00:34:30,550
>>I'm going to have to
wait a while on that one.
561
00:34:30,550 --> 00:34:31,460
>>Ride a camel.
562
00:34:31,460 --> 00:34:32,260
>>Done that.
563
00:34:32,260 --> 00:34:34,040
>>Travel to all the continents.
564
00:34:34,040 --> 00:34:35,000
>>Working on it.
565
00:34:35,000 --> 00:34:36,980
>>Be remembered as
the smiley girl.
566
00:34:36,980 --> 00:34:39,080
>>I'm still working
on that one, too.
567
00:34:39,080 --> 00:34:40,580
>>She wanted save
someone's life,
568
00:34:40,580 --> 00:34:43,730
which she did that in death.
569
00:34:43,730 --> 00:34:48,170
She wanted to own two pieces of
property, one with livestock.
570
00:34:48,170 --> 00:34:49,340
>>I hesitated on that one.
571
00:34:49,340 --> 00:34:51,310
I've owned two
pieces of property,
572
00:34:51,310 --> 00:34:53,510
but they didn't have
livestock on them.
573
00:34:53,510 --> 00:34:58,190
>>She went to break up a fight
between two guys over her.
574
00:34:58,190 --> 00:34:59,570
>>No, I haven't done that one.
575
00:34:59,570 --> 00:35:02,000
>>She wanted to run
through a poppy field.
576
00:35:02,000 --> 00:35:03,700
>>I haven't done that, either.
577
00:35:03,700 --> 00:35:05,780
>>Tour Niagara Falls.
578
00:35:05,780 --> 00:35:08,000
>>I'd love to go
to Niagara Falls.
579
00:35:08,000 --> 00:35:09,320
>>And have children.
580
00:35:09,320 --> 00:35:10,160
>>I don't think so.
581
00:35:10,160 --> 00:35:11,600
At this point,
that's one I'm not
582
00:35:11,600 --> 00:35:13,730
going to accomplish
on her bucket list.
583
00:35:13,730 --> 00:35:17,660
>>Go to the Smithsonian
and drive along Route 66.
584
00:35:17,660 --> 00:35:21,900
>>Drove it all the way from
California to Tennessee.
585
00:35:21,900 --> 00:35:24,540
>>And it was so important
to her that these
586
00:35:24,540 --> 00:35:28,130
get done that we knew it was
something that we wanted to do.
587
00:35:28,130 --> 00:35:31,640
>>I also made the goal
to try and do as many
588
00:35:31,640 --> 00:35:36,340
of the undone items
on the bucket list.
589
00:35:36,340 --> 00:35:37,990
>>Having a heart
transplant, there's
590
00:35:37,990 --> 00:35:39,730
things that she can't do.
591
00:35:39,730 --> 00:35:44,090
She can't go skydiving
or parachuting,
592
00:35:44,090 --> 00:35:46,850
so we'll do that for her.
593
00:35:46,850 --> 00:35:53,810
It won't be me because I'm too
scared, but it'll get done.
594
00:35:53,810 --> 00:35:58,840
Everything on that list
that we can do, we'll do.
595
00:35:58,840 --> 00:36:04,500
>>When are defeated, you
cannot pretend that you are
596
00:36:04,500 --> 00:36:07,550
spiritually superior.
597
00:36:07,550 --> 00:36:15,880
Sit down, and cry, and
suffer, and say, oh my God,
598
00:36:15,880 --> 00:36:19,050
why did you forsake me?
599
00:36:19,050 --> 00:36:21,680
You are allowed to cry.
600
00:36:21,680 --> 00:36:24,090
You are allowed to be defeated.
601
00:36:24,090 --> 00:36:27,700
>>How not to deny my pain,
because if we deny it,
602
00:36:27,700 --> 00:36:29,640
it will get bigger.
603
00:36:29,640 --> 00:36:31,650
And how not to drown in it.
604
00:36:31,650 --> 00:36:36,700
We are asked to let in
beauty while we're suffering.
605
00:36:45,030 --> 00:36:47,660
[HEART BEATING]
606
00:36:48,460 --> 00:36:49,930
>>I hear it.
607
00:36:49,930 --> 00:36:52,090
I remember when she
was little, and they
608
00:36:52,090 --> 00:36:59,190
would lay my head on her chest,
and I would hear her heart.
609
00:36:59,190 --> 00:37:00,545
That's how I felt today.
610
00:37:03,960 --> 00:37:09,840
I thought that's the heart
I heard so many times.
611
00:37:15,567 --> 00:37:18,052
>>Good.
612
00:37:18,052 --> 00:37:20,040
>>Thank you.
613
00:37:20,040 --> 00:37:21,034
>>You're welcome.
614
00:37:27,520 --> 00:37:31,450
>>I went through the experience
of losing my daughter
615
00:37:31,450 --> 00:37:35,050
because there was malpractice
and negligence in the hospital,
616
00:37:35,050 --> 00:37:40,110
and my daughter became
a vegetable, really.
617
00:37:40,110 --> 00:37:45,410
In a coma for a year until she
finally was liberated and died.
618
00:37:45,410 --> 00:37:47,640
And I could carry for
the rest of my life
619
00:37:47,640 --> 00:37:52,320
the burden of the anger and
resentment of what happened.
620
00:37:52,320 --> 00:37:55,230
I could blame and
sue the hospital.
621
00:37:55,230 --> 00:37:57,450
But I chose to write
a book instead.
622
00:37:57,450 --> 00:38:01,620
And in that book I sort of
glimpsed the whole thing.
623
00:38:01,620 --> 00:38:03,390
I understood what had happened.
624
00:38:03,390 --> 00:38:06,810
I realized that there
was no bad intention.
625
00:38:06,810 --> 00:38:10,890
There was ignorance,
negligence, but not
626
00:38:10,890 --> 00:38:14,110
the purpose of harming her.
627
00:38:14,110 --> 00:38:17,960
And I forgave, and
I've been able to live
628
00:38:17,960 --> 00:38:22,610
for 19 years with the spirit
of my daughter happily.
629
00:38:22,610 --> 00:38:25,760
I don't carry that
burden with me.
630
00:38:25,760 --> 00:38:29,120
>>Whenever I'm having a
difficult time forgiving,
631
00:38:29,120 --> 00:38:31,320
I think of Immaculee Ilibagiza.
632
00:38:39,990 --> 00:38:41,500
>>I was home for
[? Istauli ?] Day.
633
00:38:44,640 --> 00:38:46,140
My brother come to my room--
634
00:38:46,140 --> 00:38:47,430
>>You're still sleeping?
635
00:38:47,430 --> 00:38:49,840
>>He looked like he was
awake for many hours.
636
00:38:49,840 --> 00:38:51,900
>>You don't know what happened?
637
00:38:51,900 --> 00:38:53,820
>>I jumped out of
the bed, I never
638
00:38:53,820 --> 00:38:57,439
did this before in front of
my brother, put on my clothes.
639
00:38:57,439 --> 00:38:58,516
>>We will win!
640
00:38:58,516 --> 00:38:59,593
We will win!
641
00:38:59,593 --> 00:39:00,670
Find the cockroaches!
642
00:39:00,670 --> 00:39:01,750
Find the cockroaches!
643
00:39:01,750 --> 00:39:02,830
>> He said,
644
00:39:02,830 --> 00:39:06,440
>>The president of our
country died last night.
645
00:39:06,440 --> 00:39:09,820
>>They're going to kill us.
646
00:39:09,820 --> 00:39:11,570
>>I come from a tribe of Tutsi.
647
00:39:11,570 --> 00:39:13,580
It was well-loved.
648
00:39:13,580 --> 00:39:16,490
And we kind of suspected
something might happen.
649
00:39:16,490 --> 00:39:18,830
My parents sent me to
hide to a neighbor, who
650
00:39:18,830 --> 00:39:21,185
was from the Hutu tribe.
651
00:39:21,185 --> 00:39:24,200
It was a protestant
pastor, and he
652
00:39:24,200 --> 00:39:26,240
put me to sleep in
a bathroom of three
653
00:39:26,240 --> 00:39:29,180
by four feet with
other seven women.
654
00:39:29,180 --> 00:39:33,610
We couldn't talk, we couldn't
speak, as the man told us,
655
00:39:33,610 --> 00:39:36,570
>>I won't even tell my children.
656
00:39:36,570 --> 00:39:38,090
One mistake, one mistake.
657
00:39:38,090 --> 00:39:39,756
It's not that I don't
trust my children,
658
00:39:39,756 --> 00:39:42,460
but this mistake, it
would be too late for you
659
00:39:42,460 --> 00:39:46,188
and your life will be over.
660
00:39:46,188 --> 00:39:49,820
Don't use the shower.
661
00:39:49,820 --> 00:39:52,067
>>Only flush the
water of the bathroom
662
00:39:52,067 --> 00:39:54,400
when someone is flushing the
water in the next bathroom.
663
00:39:58,204 --> 00:39:59,787
>>I think
[? that we'll be in for ?] a
664
00:39:59,787 --> 00:40:01,540
week or maybe less.
665
00:40:01,540 --> 00:40:05,160
But if we are careful, we
might live through this.
666
00:40:05,160 --> 00:40:06,580
Just be careful.
667
00:40:09,660 --> 00:40:12,840
>>We thought it was going
to be two, three days.
668
00:40:12,840 --> 00:40:17,385
We spent in that
bathroom three months.
669
00:40:17,385 --> 00:40:20,342
>>You must not let
your guard down.
670
00:40:20,342 --> 00:40:22,050
The Tutsi snakes are
hiding in the grass,
671
00:40:22,050 --> 00:40:25,056
so make sure that you have
your [INAUDIBLE] ready to chop
672
00:40:25,056 --> 00:40:26,110
the snakes in half.
673
00:40:26,110 --> 00:40:27,410
>>We couldn't shower.
674
00:40:27,410 --> 00:40:31,730
We were waiting for killers
to find us every day.
675
00:40:31,730 --> 00:40:33,920
>>If you're working
a field and spot
676
00:40:33,920 --> 00:40:36,670
a Tutsi woman in the bushes
breastfeeding her baby,
677
00:40:36,670 --> 00:40:39,006
don't waste a
golden opportunity.
678
00:40:39,006 --> 00:40:42,340
Pick up your gun, shoot them,
chop the snakes in half.
679
00:40:42,340 --> 00:40:44,300
Don't forget to kill the baby.
680
00:40:44,300 --> 00:40:47,280
The child of a snake is a snake.
681
00:40:47,280 --> 00:40:49,740
>>They went home
by home to search,
682
00:40:49,740 --> 00:40:51,570
to see if anyone was hiding.
683
00:40:51,570 --> 00:40:54,900
And this was a group that was
paid by the government, given
684
00:40:54,900 --> 00:40:57,240
food, and drink, smokes.
685
00:40:57,240 --> 00:41:00,230
The first time they came,
I remember I was watching,
686
00:41:00,230 --> 00:41:02,864
and I saw them through the
tiny window of the bathroom.
687
00:41:07,540 --> 00:41:10,732
The men circled the house
so that no one jumps out
688
00:41:10,732 --> 00:41:12,690
of the window, and then
they started to scream.
689
00:41:17,100 --> 00:41:22,590
They went in every room,
they went under the beds,
690
00:41:22,590 --> 00:41:25,975
they even opened suitcases to
make sure there was no babies
691
00:41:25,975 --> 00:41:26,775
hiding.
692
00:41:30,540 --> 00:41:32,250
They went in the
ceiling of the house
693
00:41:32,250 --> 00:41:36,214
with flashlights to make sure
no one is hiding in the ceiling.
694
00:41:36,214 --> 00:41:37,630
They went on the
roof of the house
695
00:41:37,630 --> 00:41:40,690
to make sure no one
is laying there.
696
00:41:40,690 --> 00:41:45,170
I remember asking, if you are
there, can control all this,
697
00:41:45,170 --> 00:41:50,535
please don't let them find
the door of the bathroom.
698
00:41:50,535 --> 00:41:53,240
A thousand needles
went through your body.
699
00:41:53,240 --> 00:41:54,500
It was painful.
700
00:41:54,500 --> 00:41:56,860
It wasn't a little
fear, it was a lot.
701
00:41:56,860 --> 00:41:58,480
Your life was about to be over.
702
00:41:58,480 --> 00:42:00,310
You are about to
be cut by machetes.
703
00:42:04,430 --> 00:42:05,555
>>Where are the Tutsis?
704
00:42:05,555 --> 00:42:07,680
>>No, no, no, don't know
what you're talking about.
705
00:42:07,680 --> 00:42:08,640
I'm a good Hutu.
706
00:42:08,640 --> 00:42:10,910
I would never hide Tutsis,
there are no Tutsis here.
707
00:42:10,910 --> 00:42:14,845
I don't want any problem
with the government.
708
00:42:14,845 --> 00:42:16,994
You know me, I shall
protect this house.
709
00:42:16,994 --> 00:42:18,910
First those Tutsi rebels
come in and attack me
710
00:42:18,910 --> 00:42:20,940
for being such a good Hutu.
711
00:42:20,940 --> 00:42:23,269
>>They came right to the
door of the bathroom.
712
00:42:23,269 --> 00:42:24,560
One of them touched the handle.
713
00:42:29,741 --> 00:42:31,520
He told the man,
714
00:42:31,520 --> 00:42:32,320
>>You know what?
715
00:42:35,300 --> 00:42:38,060
I trust you.
716
00:42:38,060 --> 00:42:39,532
You are a good man.
717
00:42:39,532 --> 00:42:40,576
>>Oh, thank you.
718
00:42:44,050 --> 00:42:45,658
>>You are one of us now.
719
00:42:50,110 --> 00:42:51,852
>>I mean, when we
saw him, we jumped.
720
00:42:51,852 --> 00:42:53,560
We thought it was the
killers finding us.
721
00:42:53,560 --> 00:42:54,900
>>You're safe now.
722
00:42:54,900 --> 00:42:56,540
You're lucky to be alive.
723
00:42:56,540 --> 00:43:01,160
>>We were completely numb
for the first five hours.
724
00:43:01,160 --> 00:43:02,980
>>I don't know how
you are praying,
725
00:43:02,980 --> 00:43:04,150
or if you're even praying.
726
00:43:04,150 --> 00:43:07,182
But whatever you're doing,
please keep doing it.
727
00:43:11,630 --> 00:43:15,010
>>You know, the feelings
I had in that bathroom
728
00:43:15,010 --> 00:43:19,610
were things I never
experienced in my life.
729
00:43:19,610 --> 00:43:22,970
I had anger, anger I
cannot put in words.
730
00:43:22,970 --> 00:43:26,180
I mean, sometimes
people hate one person,
731
00:43:26,180 --> 00:43:27,560
and that's bad enough.
732
00:43:27,560 --> 00:43:29,990
I hated like eight
million people.
733
00:43:29,990 --> 00:43:32,590
And I remember thinking,
when I got out,
734
00:43:32,590 --> 00:43:34,310
I'm going to be a
soldier, and I will
735
00:43:34,310 --> 00:43:38,050
train my body, and muscles,
and just kill everybody.
736
00:43:38,050 --> 00:43:41,480
In my anger, I was Rambo.
737
00:43:41,480 --> 00:43:45,740
In some movies I have
seen, I was killing people.
738
00:43:45,740 --> 00:43:49,030
With these thoughts I would
be swearing out of anger.
739
00:43:49,030 --> 00:43:52,880
And I'm sitting in the
bathroom with these thoughts,
740
00:43:52,880 --> 00:43:57,680
my head would be aching,
and my stomach is aching.
741
00:43:57,680 --> 00:44:00,840
Why my thoughts are
provoking this poison?
742
00:44:00,840 --> 00:44:03,810
I'm only thinking of
things I want to do.
743
00:44:03,810 --> 00:44:05,820
What is going on with
my thoughts here?
744
00:44:08,500 --> 00:44:12,520
>>It's very hard to remember
love when we are scared.
745
00:44:12,520 --> 00:44:14,620
Being afraid is one
of the strongest
746
00:44:14,620 --> 00:44:17,080
emotions in the world.
747
00:44:17,080 --> 00:44:19,880
>>Our heart rate varies with
each and every heartbeat.
748
00:44:19,880 --> 00:44:23,710
And when we're frustrated, and
anxious, and emotionally upset,
749
00:44:23,710 --> 00:44:26,840
the rhythm of the heart becomes
very incoherent and jagged.
750
00:44:26,840 --> 00:44:29,080
And this basically
creates a noise
751
00:44:29,080 --> 00:44:32,300
in the system that drowns
out the intuitive signals.
752
00:44:32,300 --> 00:44:36,910
>>I remember thinking, this
home has two bathrooms.
753
00:44:36,910 --> 00:44:38,980
If they didn't have
these two bathrooms,
754
00:44:38,980 --> 00:44:41,520
how could we have
been hidden here?
755
00:44:41,520 --> 00:44:42,910
They would have find us.
756
00:44:42,910 --> 00:44:46,360
It was only home that had two
bathrooms inside the house,
757
00:44:46,360 --> 00:44:49,780
and that made me feel good.
758
00:44:49,780 --> 00:44:53,470
When I was thinking the
good, it was so distinctive
759
00:44:53,470 --> 00:44:55,810
because the feelings
were so high you
760
00:44:55,810 --> 00:44:59,080
can feel the difference
like someone just pushed you
761
00:44:59,080 --> 00:45:01,180
down and lifted you up.
762
00:45:01,180 --> 00:45:03,400
Like it's so clearly.
763
00:45:03,400 --> 00:45:06,355
And I started
thinking, we can eat.
764
00:45:06,355 --> 00:45:08,240
Thank God this man has children.
765
00:45:08,240 --> 00:45:11,590
We can eat the leftovers,
even if it was not much.
766
00:45:11,590 --> 00:45:14,140
So I started to see
the good, and it
767
00:45:14,140 --> 00:45:16,430
was like my heart was open.
768
00:45:16,430 --> 00:45:19,650
Look at these people,
I can touch somebody.
769
00:45:19,650 --> 00:45:22,390
Just to see the
good in everything.
770
00:45:22,390 --> 00:45:25,710
>>Appreciation is a
heart related feeling.
771
00:45:25,710 --> 00:45:27,640
It requires access
to the intelligence
772
00:45:27,640 --> 00:45:31,250
of the heart to appreciate,
or to have gratitude.
773
00:45:31,250 --> 00:45:35,670
>>And when I was thinking
that way, I felt much smarter.
774
00:45:35,670 --> 00:45:37,590
>>When we're in
a coherent state,
775
00:45:37,590 --> 00:45:40,090
the signal from the heart to
the brain is so much stronger.
776
00:45:40,090 --> 00:45:43,320
It gets up to our frontal
cortex much clearer.
777
00:45:43,320 --> 00:45:45,310
>>That's the heart
knocking on your door,
778
00:45:45,310 --> 00:45:47,590
saying, open the
door, here I am.
779
00:45:47,590 --> 00:45:49,750
You need me.
780
00:45:49,750 --> 00:45:52,310
Because then you
say, ooh, where am I?
781
00:45:52,310 --> 00:45:55,016
I'm in hell.
782
00:45:55,016 --> 00:45:57,620
I didn't know that.
783
00:45:57,620 --> 00:46:01,525
But the heart tells
you, trust me.
784
00:46:01,525 --> 00:46:03,420
And when you're out of that--
785
00:46:03,420 --> 00:46:06,430
>>It begins to shift the
energies very, very quickly
786
00:46:06,430 --> 00:46:09,560
so that you come into another
level of buoyancy that
787
00:46:09,560 --> 00:46:11,530
rises above the problem.
788
00:46:11,530 --> 00:46:14,030
And in doing so, you
can then see into it.
789
00:46:14,030 --> 00:46:18,580
You can then find
ways to deal with it.
790
00:46:18,580 --> 00:46:21,010
>>They're coming back.
791
00:46:21,010 --> 00:46:23,410
>>It was so clear in my heart.
792
00:46:23,410 --> 00:46:25,791
This time they want to find you.
793
00:46:25,791 --> 00:46:28,146
>>Pastor.
794
00:46:28,146 --> 00:46:30,480
Push the wardrobe in
front of the door.
795
00:46:30,480 --> 00:46:32,443
They're not going to
see there is a door.
796
00:46:32,443 --> 00:46:33,832
>>No, no, why?
797
00:46:33,832 --> 00:46:36,123
If they come, they'll
realize it wasn't here.
798
00:46:36,123 --> 00:46:37,485
>>I'm begging you.
799
00:46:42,930 --> 00:46:44,415
>>OK.
800
00:46:44,415 --> 00:46:48,880
OK, OK, I will put it.
801
00:46:48,880 --> 00:46:52,710
>>And it was so clear that
I need to listen to that.
802
00:47:05,710 --> 00:47:06,795
They came to search.
803
00:47:14,325 --> 00:47:15,774
>>Where is she, Pastor?
804
00:47:15,774 --> 00:47:17,926
This is the last
place she was seen.
805
00:47:17,926 --> 00:47:19,372
We know she's here.
806
00:47:22,264 --> 00:47:23,228
Immaculee!
807
00:47:26,130 --> 00:47:32,790
>>One of them said, I've
killed 399 cockroaches.
808
00:47:32,790 --> 00:47:36,876
And he said, I want
Immaculee to be the 400th.
809
00:47:36,876 --> 00:47:38,920
And I'm thinking,
this man, I knew him.
810
00:47:38,920 --> 00:47:41,920
He was a school mate
in elementary school.
811
00:47:41,920 --> 00:47:43,910
Someone I can call a friend.
812
00:47:43,910 --> 00:47:48,916
How can somebody say he
killed 399 people by machete,
813
00:47:48,916 --> 00:47:51,380
but he was proud?
814
00:47:51,380 --> 00:47:53,516
They went right in the wardrobe.
815
00:48:00,656 --> 00:48:04,970
They could have find us if
that wardrobe was not there.
816
00:48:04,970 --> 00:48:08,120
And later he said, good idea.
817
00:48:08,120 --> 00:48:10,700
It wasn't even like I wanted
to take credit, like oh good,
818
00:48:10,700 --> 00:48:12,110
I had a good idea.
819
00:48:12,110 --> 00:48:15,380
It was just like,
keep listening.
820
00:48:15,380 --> 00:48:21,260
Know how to distinguish that
clarity that is not covered by
821
00:48:21,260 --> 00:48:25,500
hate, by envy, by jealousy,
by anything unloving.
822
00:48:25,500 --> 00:48:27,350
That is really how it comes out.
823
00:48:27,350 --> 00:48:30,500
It comes as a
truth that you know
824
00:48:30,500 --> 00:48:36,650
is not motivated by
something not nice.
825
00:48:36,650 --> 00:48:38,880
And the funny part,
when they left,
826
00:48:38,880 --> 00:48:40,760
the anger came right back.
827
00:48:40,760 --> 00:48:43,190
It was just like a
[INAUDIBLE] oil coming back
828
00:48:43,190 --> 00:48:47,510
on the top of the water, like
a veil I pulled in front.
829
00:48:47,510 --> 00:48:49,400
I couldn't say,
I couldn't think.
830
00:48:49,400 --> 00:48:53,180
Oh, my body's aching
again, and my headache.
831
00:48:53,180 --> 00:48:56,660
But that's what you do when
people are killing your people.
832
00:48:56,660 --> 00:48:57,950
You get angry.
833
00:48:57,950 --> 00:49:04,090
So I didn't even think there was
another way to deal with this.
834
00:49:04,090 --> 00:49:08,450
Despite the price I was
paying with my own body,
835
00:49:08,450 --> 00:49:11,330
I couldn't remember how
to smile cause of anger.
836
00:49:11,330 --> 00:49:13,880
I felt like my
mouth was twisted.
837
00:49:13,880 --> 00:49:16,280
I wished to be innocent again.
838
00:49:16,280 --> 00:49:18,360
I wished to see good in people.
839
00:49:18,360 --> 00:49:20,660
But for me, they were animals.
840
00:49:20,660 --> 00:49:22,190
They were bad.
841
00:49:22,190 --> 00:49:25,460
They were just evil people.
842
00:49:25,460 --> 00:49:29,850
Every day I prayed about
200 our Lord's Prayer.
843
00:49:33,950 --> 00:49:40,760
Any time I reached the part that
said, forgive us our trespasses
844
00:49:40,760 --> 00:49:46,339
as we forgive those who trespass
against us, I couldn't say it.
845
00:49:46,339 --> 00:49:49,032
>>Give us this day
our daily bread.
846
00:49:49,032 --> 00:49:49,832
Forgive--
847
00:49:53,830 --> 00:49:57,560
>>Any time I went through that
part it was like a red flag.
848
00:49:57,560 --> 00:49:59,790
And then I said, how
can I deal with it?
849
00:49:59,790 --> 00:50:05,660
Because I can't forgive, because
this is unforgivable thing.
850
00:50:05,660 --> 00:50:06,920
They tried to kill me.
851
00:50:06,920 --> 00:50:08,720
How do you forgive such a thing?
852
00:50:08,720 --> 00:50:12,590
I wished I could, but it didn't
make sense in my situation.
853
00:50:12,590 --> 00:50:16,130
So one time I said, wait a
minute, I have a better idea.
854
00:50:16,130 --> 00:50:19,350
I thought, let me skip
that part of the prayer.
855
00:50:19,350 --> 00:50:22,550
So then I don't have to say
it, then I can say the rest.
856
00:50:22,550 --> 00:50:27,140
So then within me, God is OK,
now he knows I'm not lying.
857
00:50:27,140 --> 00:50:29,300
Lies don't sit well in the body.
858
00:50:29,300 --> 00:50:34,620
And I start to skip it,
and I felt so much better.
859
00:50:34,620 --> 00:50:37,220
So I edited it, and
now this voice says--
860
00:50:37,220 --> 00:50:39,770
>>You are editing his prayer.
861
00:50:39,770 --> 00:50:43,920
>>If I were you, I wouldn't
try to edit his prayer.
862
00:50:43,920 --> 00:50:45,740
You know, I can say
this laughing today,
863
00:50:45,740 --> 00:50:48,960
but that time my
mood was crushed.
864
00:50:48,960 --> 00:50:55,010
I remember it was like giving
up, or can I call it surrender?
865
00:50:55,010 --> 00:51:00,260
I went to my knees, and I put
my hands up, and I begged God.
866
00:51:00,260 --> 00:51:02,120
I'm going to put
it back in prayer.
867
00:51:02,120 --> 00:51:05,210
Because if you said pray
this way, you must know
868
00:51:05,210 --> 00:51:06,860
it is the right thing to do.
869
00:51:06,860 --> 00:51:08,600
I'm putting it in your hands.
870
00:51:08,600 --> 00:51:10,910
If you know how to
forgive, help me out.
871
00:51:10,910 --> 00:51:12,260
I am willing.
872
00:51:12,260 --> 00:51:13,300
That was a big shift.
873
00:51:32,370 --> 00:51:36,170
I remember they came to a point
when it was like the world was
874
00:51:36,170 --> 00:51:37,874
divided in two parts.
875
00:51:37,874 --> 00:51:41,260
A part of love,
and a part of hate.
876
00:51:41,260 --> 00:51:44,250
In the part of love are
people like Mandela,
877
00:51:44,250 --> 00:51:46,940
like Mother Teresa, Gandhi.
878
00:51:46,940 --> 00:51:47,930
People who suffered.
879
00:51:47,930 --> 00:51:50,200
And no matter how
much they suffered,
880
00:51:50,200 --> 00:51:52,570
they still stand up for truth.
881
00:51:52,570 --> 00:51:55,300
They still stand up
for love, for defense
882
00:51:55,300 --> 00:51:57,640
of another human being's rights.
883
00:51:57,640 --> 00:52:01,210
And then on the side of hate,
I see people like Hitler,
884
00:52:01,210 --> 00:52:04,200
like those who were causing
genocide in Rwanda who
885
00:52:04,200 --> 00:52:08,020
are vengeful, angry,
like me at that time.
886
00:52:08,020 --> 00:52:11,830
And I felt like God was asking
me, where do you want to stand?
887
00:52:11,830 --> 00:52:13,364
Where do you want to belong?
888
00:52:17,346 --> 00:52:21,205
Do you want to belong to side
of love or the side of hate?
889
00:52:21,205 --> 00:52:22,450
And guess what?
890
00:52:22,450 --> 00:52:24,310
People who belong
on the side of love,
891
00:52:24,310 --> 00:52:26,930
they have known injustice.
892
00:52:26,930 --> 00:52:28,970
They have known hate.
893
00:52:28,970 --> 00:52:31,180
They have known how
to be treated bad.
894
00:52:31,180 --> 00:52:32,286
But it's your choice.
895
00:52:36,892 --> 00:52:40,430
And I remember, it was
so clear that I said,
896
00:52:40,430 --> 00:52:43,000
of course I want to be
with Gandhi, with Mandela.
897
00:52:43,000 --> 00:52:44,560
I admire these people.
898
00:52:44,560 --> 00:52:46,690
I admired Mother Teresa.
899
00:52:46,690 --> 00:52:47,930
I want to be like them.
900
00:52:47,930 --> 00:52:49,090
So what did they do?
901
00:52:49,090 --> 00:52:51,490
They believed people can change.
902
00:52:51,490 --> 00:52:57,010
That was a huge shift in
my thinking in my body.
903
00:52:57,010 --> 00:52:58,840
People do change.
904
00:52:58,840 --> 00:53:00,820
And I remember
thinking, wait a minute.
905
00:53:00,820 --> 00:53:03,220
I don't think people
can really change.
906
00:53:03,220 --> 00:53:05,500
Now, wait a minute again.
907
00:53:05,500 --> 00:53:07,980
Look at me, I'm changing
with all these thoughts.
908
00:53:11,380 --> 00:53:15,140
So when I realized that
people actually do change,
909
00:53:15,140 --> 00:53:19,390
people have the capacity
to see things differently,
910
00:53:19,390 --> 00:53:22,450
that's when I realized
I can let it go.
911
00:53:22,450 --> 00:53:27,100
I felt like I moved from the
bathroom to a place of air.
912
00:53:27,100 --> 00:53:30,440
That's how love felt in my body.
913
00:53:30,440 --> 00:53:32,000
I couldn't smell nothing bad.
914
00:53:32,000 --> 00:53:34,000
It was like I was floating.
915
00:53:37,000 --> 00:53:40,872
And that was a
paradise in my heart.
916
00:53:40,872 --> 00:53:43,800
I thought about the
killers, I should
917
00:53:43,800 --> 00:53:47,740
have compassion towards them.
918
00:53:47,740 --> 00:53:52,150
Imagine the person who
killed 100 people, who
919
00:53:52,150 --> 00:53:55,370
have took away fathers and
mothers from their kids.
920
00:53:55,370 --> 00:53:59,420
What are they going to become
when they wake up one day
921
00:53:59,420 --> 00:54:01,180
and they realize
what they're doing?
922
00:54:01,180 --> 00:54:02,750
Someone who begged
them for life?
923
00:54:14,490 --> 00:54:17,850
When we came out, it was
like end of the world.
924
00:54:17,850 --> 00:54:20,444
A million people
and more was killed.
925
00:54:20,444 --> 00:54:26,930
My mom, my father, my
two brothers, my grandma
926
00:54:26,930 --> 00:54:29,750
and my grandpa, neighbors.
927
00:54:29,750 --> 00:54:32,690
My schoolmates, my best friends.
928
00:54:32,690 --> 00:54:34,920
It was the end of the world.
929
00:54:34,920 --> 00:54:37,240
Everywhere was their bodies.
930
00:54:37,240 --> 00:54:39,800
But something have
changed in my heart.
931
00:54:39,800 --> 00:54:41,330
I was strong inside.
932
00:54:41,330 --> 00:54:45,200
I was really ready to face
life in a different way.
933
00:54:45,200 --> 00:54:46,820
I'm a skeleton.
934
00:54:46,820 --> 00:54:48,580
I'm 65 pounds.
935
00:54:48,580 --> 00:54:53,030
But inside, I felt huge,
I felt more beautiful.
936
00:54:53,030 --> 00:54:55,670
I felt like everybody
was just a gift of God,
937
00:54:55,670 --> 00:54:59,840
and I just wanted to serve,
to help, and to care.
938
00:54:59,840 --> 00:55:02,480
For the first time
I'm being grateful
939
00:55:02,480 --> 00:55:06,080
for things I took
for granted forever.
940
00:55:06,080 --> 00:55:09,560
And I can say hi to somebody
without anyone killing me.
941
00:55:09,560 --> 00:55:13,300
And then I remember in
evening, this nice wind.
942
00:55:13,300 --> 00:55:17,180
The trees are moving, I can
feel the wind in my body.
943
00:55:17,180 --> 00:55:19,580
I didn't feel this
for three months.
944
00:55:19,580 --> 00:55:22,470
I can see the stars,
I can see the moon,
945
00:55:22,470 --> 00:55:23,853
and I don't have
to pay for this.
946
00:55:23,853 --> 00:55:26,620
Did I ever looked at
the moon and said,
947
00:55:26,620 --> 00:55:28,310
wow, nice to have the moon?
948
00:55:28,310 --> 00:55:29,540
No.
949
00:55:29,540 --> 00:55:33,380
It was overwhelming feeling
of love and appreciation.
950
00:55:33,380 --> 00:55:36,380
I wanted to scream
to the whole world.
951
00:55:36,380 --> 00:55:39,775
Do you see the beauty?
952
00:55:39,775 --> 00:55:47,810
>>The mind can understand
conceptually wholeness,
953
00:55:47,810 --> 00:55:50,490
but only the hard can
experience wholeness.
954
00:55:53,780 --> 00:55:56,980
And the reward, if we can
endure what we experience,
955
00:55:56,980 --> 00:56:01,620
is that we don't just
grasp oneness, we feel it.
956
00:56:04,790 --> 00:56:13,340
>>Your head sees things
as black or white, wrong
957
00:56:13,340 --> 00:56:19,290
or right, bad or good.
958
00:56:19,290 --> 00:56:24,310
Head is always touching,
always off balance.
959
00:56:30,710 --> 00:56:33,530
>>How long do I have to wait
for it to be white again?
960
00:56:40,070 --> 00:56:45,020
>>Just because you can't see
it doesn't mean it isn't there.
961
00:56:51,360 --> 00:56:56,625
The heart is much faster
and wiser than the head.
962
00:56:56,625 --> 00:57:00,020
In the eyes of the heart,
black and white judgments
963
00:57:00,020 --> 00:57:06,410
disappear because the heart
is balanced by a deeper truth.
964
00:57:06,410 --> 00:57:12,370
The great spirit spins together
moments of profound beauty
965
00:57:12,370 --> 00:57:16,410
that can only be
experienced with the heart.
966
00:57:22,170 --> 00:57:25,760
>>I am forever grateful
for that bathroom.
967
00:57:25,760 --> 00:57:29,960
To see where evil
can take people,
968
00:57:29,960 --> 00:57:33,460
but to see also where
love can take people.
969
00:57:33,460 --> 00:57:37,030
Just realize the
weakness of people,
970
00:57:37,030 --> 00:57:40,550
but the strength that is
within each one of us.
971
00:57:40,550 --> 00:57:44,240
To push me that far,
to dig within my heart,
972
00:57:44,240 --> 00:57:46,786
and to trust that
instinct within.
973
00:57:50,000 --> 00:57:53,230
>>And when you can
give thanks for it all
974
00:57:53,230 --> 00:57:59,360
and love without conditions,
then you will be free.
975
00:57:59,360 --> 00:58:01,529
That is the power of the heart.
976
00:58:06,020 --> 00:58:09,170
>>Life is full of challenges.
977
00:58:09,170 --> 00:58:12,260
Challenges and
hardships often times
978
00:58:12,260 --> 00:58:16,040
are the intense
heat and fire that
979
00:58:16,040 --> 00:58:19,100
break us open to
discover gifts, talents,
980
00:58:19,100 --> 00:58:22,580
and capacities within us that
we would have never discovered
981
00:58:22,580 --> 00:58:23,870
before.
982
00:58:23,870 --> 00:58:26,570
>>So like a match
that holds fire,
983
00:58:26,570 --> 00:58:29,420
but until it strikes against
something you have no flame.
984
00:58:32,270 --> 00:58:34,730
By rubbing up
against experience,
985
00:58:34,730 --> 00:58:40,569
our heart comes aflame, and
light and warmth come from us.
986
00:58:40,569 --> 00:58:42,110
>>You can even be
grateful for things
987
00:58:42,110 --> 00:58:45,570
that you imagine that
aren't any good for you.
988
00:58:45,570 --> 00:58:48,140
That you imagine that you don't
really want, or that you wish
989
00:58:48,140 --> 00:58:50,270
you hadn't had to experience.
990
00:58:50,270 --> 00:58:54,980
Even in those moments,
masters say thank you to life,
991
00:58:54,980 --> 00:58:57,979
thank you to God, thank
you to the divine self
992
00:58:57,979 --> 00:58:59,270
for this particular experience.
993
00:58:59,270 --> 00:59:01,490
Because I know that
before too long I
994
00:59:01,490 --> 00:59:03,920
will see the
extraordinary gift that
995
00:59:03,920 --> 00:59:09,410
has been folded into
this physical encounter.
996
00:59:09,410 --> 00:59:13,880
>>Six months after the genocide,
and people used to tell me,
997
00:59:13,880 --> 00:59:16,140
you can't forgive this quick.
998
00:59:16,140 --> 00:59:21,220
It's too quick to be happy.
999
00:59:21,220 --> 00:59:23,330
You can't be smiling
after what happened.
1000
00:59:26,132 --> 00:59:29,450
And that really kind of made
me question a little bit
1001
00:59:29,450 --> 00:59:30,890
sometimes.
1002
00:59:30,890 --> 00:59:38,990
I said, am I happy and forgiving
out of surviving mechanism?
1003
00:59:38,990 --> 00:59:40,350
Am I going to crush one day?
1004
00:59:40,350 --> 00:59:43,650
Which many people told me,
on one day, if you see them,
1005
00:59:43,650 --> 00:59:45,300
you will go back to the anger.
1006
00:59:45,300 --> 00:59:46,500
I said, really?
1007
00:59:46,500 --> 00:59:47,430
Let me see.
1008
00:59:47,430 --> 00:59:51,990
So I went to prison to see the
person who have killed my mom
1009
00:59:51,990 --> 00:59:55,470
and my brother, whom I would
not have gone to meet him.
1010
00:59:55,470 --> 00:59:57,540
It didn't serve me one bit.
1011
00:59:57,540 --> 01:00:00,960
So I went there just to
really see how I feel.
1012
01:00:00,960 --> 01:00:03,630
And I have learned
the head of the jail
1013
01:00:03,630 --> 01:00:06,480
is a friend of my
father who lost his wife
1014
01:00:06,480 --> 01:00:08,310
and like five children.
1015
01:00:08,310 --> 01:00:11,750
So I knew he would
open the door for me.
1016
01:00:11,750 --> 01:00:14,910
>>You can hit him,
you can do whatever
1017
01:00:14,910 --> 01:00:20,440
you want because I'm here now.
1018
01:00:20,440 --> 01:00:21,370
I will protect you.
1019
01:00:24,250 --> 01:00:25,710
So ease up your pain.
1020
01:00:44,368 --> 01:00:45,860
>>And he brought the man.
1021
01:00:50,670 --> 01:00:51,510
I remember him.
1022
01:00:51,510 --> 01:00:53,950
He used to be a teacher.
1023
01:00:53,950 --> 01:00:56,020
He was like a father to me.
1024
01:00:56,020 --> 01:00:57,520
He had kids my age.
1025
01:00:57,520 --> 01:01:02,090
I used to visit them, and
have lunch with the family.
1026
01:01:02,090 --> 01:01:05,240
Now that's him who did that?
1027
01:01:05,240 --> 01:01:06,980
I just broke down and cried.
1028
01:01:10,660 --> 01:01:12,380
And I truly cried
out of compassion
1029
01:01:12,380 --> 01:01:14,030
towards him and his family.
1030
01:01:42,365 --> 01:01:43,850
>>I forgive you.
1031
01:01:50,780 --> 01:01:52,265
I forgive you.
1032
01:01:56,750 --> 01:02:00,060
>>It wasn't like, oh, I
planned to say these words.
1033
01:02:00,060 --> 01:02:01,950
There's something I
wanted to express,
1034
01:02:01,950 --> 01:02:05,060
and I couldn't find
words to say it fully.
1035
01:02:05,060 --> 01:02:07,670
I wanted him to be free from me.
1036
01:02:07,670 --> 01:02:10,200
Not to think, oh,
she's mad at me.
1037
01:02:10,200 --> 01:02:11,804
You know, I can't do nothing.
1038
01:02:11,804 --> 01:02:13,220
I just wanted him
to have a chance
1039
01:02:13,220 --> 01:02:16,230
to go through his own
journey from his own heart,
1040
01:02:16,230 --> 01:02:18,530
not because somebody
is angry at him,
1041
01:02:18,530 --> 01:02:20,085
or someone put him in a prison.
1042
01:02:20,085 --> 01:02:21,440
>>What is wrong with you?
1043
01:02:28,230 --> 01:02:31,370
>>And the head of
the jail was so mad.
1044
01:02:31,370 --> 01:02:33,666
>>What is wrong with you, huh?
1045
01:02:33,666 --> 01:02:37,230
You do not know
what he did to us?
1046
01:02:37,230 --> 01:02:39,750
You do not love
your parents, huh?
1047
01:02:39,750 --> 01:02:42,100
You forget?
1048
01:02:42,100 --> 01:02:44,165
>>I forgot that
the man was there,
1049
01:02:44,165 --> 01:02:46,620
and actually who
lost his family, too.
1050
01:02:46,620 --> 01:02:47,910
And I really felt bad.
1051
01:02:47,910 --> 01:02:50,645
>>You forgive a killer?
1052
01:02:50,645 --> 01:02:54,470
What is wrong with you?
1053
01:02:54,470 --> 01:02:57,170
What is wrong with you?
1054
01:02:57,170 --> 01:02:59,190
>>Oh my God, why
did I forgive him?
1055
01:02:59,190 --> 01:03:02,050
But I did, I wanted to.
1056
01:03:02,050 --> 01:03:03,380
I wanted to free him.
1057
01:03:03,380 --> 01:03:06,130
But it felt more
like weakness, it
1058
01:03:06,130 --> 01:03:10,220
felt like-- somewhere I
knew it was the right thing.
1059
01:03:10,220 --> 01:03:12,890
>>It's the most horrifying tale.
1060
01:03:12,890 --> 01:03:17,490
And yet she, and many people
living through that genocide,
1061
01:03:17,490 --> 01:03:22,220
have found it in their hearts
to forgive and to move on.
1062
01:03:22,220 --> 01:03:24,230
>>Forgiveness is everything.
1063
01:03:28,210 --> 01:03:35,700
When I think of forgiveness, I'm
brought to weep with gratitude
1064
01:03:35,700 --> 01:03:38,400
that it exists.
1065
01:03:38,400 --> 01:03:40,610
>>Now, forgiveness doesn't
mean that you're condoning
1066
01:03:40,610 --> 01:03:42,380
someone else's behavior.
1067
01:03:42,380 --> 01:03:44,780
This is a really
important point.
1068
01:03:44,780 --> 01:03:46,430
Forgiveness merely
means that you're
1069
01:03:46,430 --> 01:03:49,130
freeing yourself up
from the energy blocks
1070
01:03:49,130 --> 01:03:50,720
that you're holding.
1071
01:03:50,720 --> 01:03:54,140
Those resentments
that you're carrying.
1072
01:03:54,140 --> 01:03:59,000
>>There's a song, a Gospel song.
1073
01:03:59,000 --> 01:04:05,330
And it says, (SINGING)take
your burden to the Lord
1074
01:04:05,330 --> 01:04:07,670
and leave them there.
1075
01:04:07,670 --> 01:04:11,730
Leave them there,
oh, leave them there.
1076
01:04:11,730 --> 01:04:16,460
Take your burden to the
Lord and leave them there.
1077
01:04:16,460 --> 01:04:21,800
If you trust Him, never doubt,
he will surely bring you out.
1078
01:04:21,800 --> 01:04:25,410
Take your burden to the
Lord and leave them-- now,
1079
01:04:25,410 --> 01:04:27,240
there is that, and
there are people
1080
01:04:27,240 --> 01:04:33,440
that sing that with such
fervor and such confidence.
1081
01:04:33,440 --> 01:04:36,140
And those are the same
people who take their burden,
1082
01:04:36,140 --> 01:04:39,185
say there my burdens, and then
they get up and take the burden
1083
01:04:39,185 --> 01:04:39,985
with them.
1084
01:04:39,985 --> 01:04:42,590
And they go-- [LAUGHS]
1085
01:04:42,590 --> 01:04:45,740
>>How can we connect
with the heart?
1086
01:04:45,740 --> 01:04:53,135
Well, your starting point is
all you ever have, this moment.
1087
01:04:56,550 --> 01:04:58,950
>>We are so busy all the time.
1088
01:04:58,950 --> 01:05:03,080
There's no time, no space,
no silence for the heart.
1089
01:05:03,080 --> 01:05:06,590
>>Unless you actually
can be out in nature,
1090
01:05:06,590 --> 01:05:10,160
and experience the birds
singing, and the trees,
1091
01:05:10,160 --> 01:05:14,120
and the blue sky,
you are divorced
1092
01:05:14,120 --> 01:05:18,680
from the great spiritual being
that I feel is all around us.
1093
01:05:18,680 --> 01:05:22,490
And I've been so lucky to spend
months and months on my own
1094
01:05:22,490 --> 01:05:23,660
in nature.
1095
01:05:23,660 --> 01:05:26,210
Then you can become
a whole human
1096
01:05:26,210 --> 01:05:31,490
being with heart, and
brain, and spirit, all
1097
01:05:31,490 --> 01:05:33,230
connected and whole.
1098
01:05:33,230 --> 01:05:35,930
>>That's why maybe
people meditate or pray,
1099
01:05:35,930 --> 01:05:40,340
because they need that
space, that moment when
1100
01:05:40,340 --> 01:05:43,080
you listen to the heart.
1101
01:05:43,080 --> 01:05:48,690
>>Every storm has a hole in
the center the size of a navel
1102
01:05:48,690 --> 01:05:52,890
through which a gull
can fly in silence.
1103
01:05:52,890 --> 01:05:56,070
>>And so you become calm.
1104
01:05:56,070 --> 01:05:59,100
You must become calm.
1105
01:05:59,100 --> 01:06:04,060
If you don't know what
to do, do nothing.
1106
01:06:04,060 --> 01:06:10,890
Don't fill your time with
trivia, simply do nothing.
1107
01:06:10,890 --> 01:06:12,880
Simply sit.
1108
01:06:12,880 --> 01:06:13,930
>>Breathe.
1109
01:06:13,930 --> 01:06:16,870
All the traditions
speak about the value
1110
01:06:16,870 --> 01:06:19,300
of meditation,
reflection, contemplation,
1111
01:06:19,300 --> 01:06:21,530
which all center on breathing.
1112
01:06:21,530 --> 01:06:22,330
Why?
1113
01:06:22,330 --> 01:06:26,410
Because breath restores us
to the safety of the moment.
1114
01:06:26,410 --> 01:06:28,660
>>Now you want to breathe a
little deeper and a little
1115
01:06:28,660 --> 01:06:30,520
slower than you normally would.
1116
01:06:30,520 --> 01:06:33,790
About a four or five second on
the in-breath, and four or five
1117
01:06:33,790 --> 01:06:35,030
seconds on the out breath.
1118
01:06:35,030 --> 01:06:36,696
But you don't hold
your breath, you just
1119
01:06:36,696 --> 01:06:39,520
get a nice rhythm, that
pace, holding your tension
1120
01:06:39,520 --> 01:06:40,580
in the area of the heart.
1121
01:06:40,580 --> 01:06:43,130
>>Bring your awareness
to your heart.
1122
01:06:43,130 --> 01:06:46,720
Bring your conscious
awareness into your heart.
1123
01:06:46,720 --> 01:06:55,040
>>And you may be
able maybe to hear.
1124
01:06:55,040 --> 01:06:57,800
>>I ask my heart all
the time for guidance.
1125
01:06:57,800 --> 01:07:01,070
>>Your heart has a very good
way to tell you whether you're
1126
01:07:01,070 --> 01:07:03,290
in a good path or not.
1127
01:07:03,290 --> 01:07:05,720
It's called enthusiasm.
1128
01:07:05,720 --> 01:07:09,120
>>I let in whatever's
around me, and I
1129
01:07:09,120 --> 01:07:14,310
ask, where's the aliveness now?
1130
01:07:14,310 --> 01:07:17,940
>>When I'm playing with
the kids, when I make love
1131
01:07:17,940 --> 01:07:21,900
to my husband, when I read a
good book, when I'm writing
1132
01:07:21,900 --> 01:07:25,170
and I feel that the
character becomes a person
1133
01:07:25,170 --> 01:07:27,540
and talks to me,
then my heart also
1134
01:07:27,540 --> 01:07:33,000
feels fluttering, and
with laughter, with joy.
1135
01:07:33,000 --> 01:07:35,700
Why everything has
to be so serious?
1136
01:07:35,700 --> 01:07:38,565
>>It's very important
to have fun.
1137
01:07:38,565 --> 01:07:42,600
Even the middle of something
that you are doing that
1138
01:07:42,600 --> 01:07:45,240
requires a lot of discipline.
1139
01:07:45,240 --> 01:07:50,850
And so to connect to your
heart, become a child.
1140
01:07:50,850 --> 01:07:53,160
>>My dear friend
George came to Greece.
1141
01:07:53,160 --> 01:07:54,950
This guy is a billionaire.
1142
01:07:54,950 --> 01:07:56,610
And he is very big.
1143
01:07:56,610 --> 01:07:57,990
He started talking, and I said--
1144
01:07:57,990 --> 01:07:59,170
>>Listen.
1145
01:07:59,170 --> 01:08:01,410
If you want to talk
with me, come with me.
1146
01:08:01,410 --> 01:08:03,270
>>I took him out in
the central of Athens
1147
01:08:03,270 --> 01:08:04,782
where we have a trampoline.
1148
01:08:10,959 --> 01:08:13,250
>>We're not going to talk
business unless you follow me
1149
01:08:13,250 --> 01:08:14,640
on the trampoline, man.
1150
01:08:14,640 --> 01:08:15,440
>>No, no, no, no.
1151
01:08:15,440 --> 01:08:16,939
>>Yes, yes, yes, together.
1152
01:08:16,939 --> 01:08:19,220
>>I'm not going on a trampoline.
1153
01:08:19,220 --> 01:08:21,640
>>You're a difficult guy
to get undressed, man.
1154
01:08:27,467 --> 01:08:30,050
>>He came up on the trampoline
for the first time in his life,
1155
01:08:30,050 --> 01:08:33,890
and we started jumping together,
up and down, up and down.
1156
01:08:33,890 --> 01:08:37,510
140 kilos, no?
1157
01:08:37,510 --> 01:08:39,140
>>Hey, you could
become a champion
1158
01:08:39,140 --> 01:08:40,299
if you train a little bit.
1159
01:08:40,299 --> 01:08:41,810
Next Olympic games, OK?
1160
01:08:41,810 --> 01:08:43,746
I will be your manager, man!
1161
01:08:50,038 --> 01:08:51,903
[LAUGHING]
1162
01:08:51,903 --> 01:08:53,319
Wow, what a good
boy you are, man!
1163
01:08:53,319 --> 01:08:57,630
That's the way I like it!
1164
01:08:57,630 --> 01:09:00,029
>>He was so happy,
like a little child.
1165
01:09:02,560 --> 01:09:03,779
The child is hidden.
1166
01:09:03,779 --> 01:09:06,779
Everybody's a child, even
him, who is a billionaire.
1167
01:09:06,779 --> 01:09:11,080
>>And the child is
saying, hello, I'm here.
1168
01:09:11,080 --> 01:09:14,439
But we think, oh,
we are grown up,
1169
01:09:14,439 --> 01:09:17,950
we're not going to
listen to this child.
1170
01:09:17,950 --> 01:09:24,220
Because this child
has childish dreams.
1171
01:09:24,220 --> 01:09:27,470
And so we forget the child.
1172
01:09:27,470 --> 01:09:30,189
And from the moment that
we forget the child,
1173
01:09:30,189 --> 01:09:33,100
we think the child is
going to forget us.
1174
01:09:33,100 --> 01:09:34,260
No.
1175
01:09:34,260 --> 01:09:37,149
The child is not
going to forget us.
1176
01:09:37,149 --> 01:09:41,529
This child will be here
always, hello, I'm here.
1177
01:09:41,529 --> 01:09:42,790
I'm talking to you.
1178
01:09:42,790 --> 01:09:44,279
Can you listen?
1179
01:09:44,279 --> 01:09:47,699
And then we say, shut up.
1180
01:09:47,699 --> 01:09:49,810
I don't want to listen to you.
1181
01:09:49,810 --> 01:09:55,360
But the day that
you're facing death,
1182
01:09:55,360 --> 01:09:59,360
this child will be there, and
are going to ask you again,
1183
01:09:59,360 --> 01:10:02,890
why didn't you listen to me?
1184
01:10:02,890 --> 01:10:07,002
And then you have to answer.
1185
01:10:07,002 --> 01:10:12,250
And your answer will be
your hell or your heaven.
1186
01:10:12,250 --> 01:10:17,950
>>The difference between
being childish and childlike
1187
01:10:17,950 --> 01:10:24,460
is that being childish reduces
our world and returns us
1188
01:10:24,460 --> 01:10:26,560
to being self-centered.
1189
01:10:26,560 --> 01:10:31,610
Being childlike
returns us to wonder.
1190
01:10:31,610 --> 01:10:33,580
>>It's wonderful
to be like a child
1191
01:10:33,580 --> 01:10:35,530
if you still can practice this.
1192
01:10:35,530 --> 01:10:38,860
When I'm in new places, or
new cities, or new areas,
1193
01:10:38,860 --> 01:10:40,600
I'm as Alice in Wonderland.
1194
01:10:40,600 --> 01:10:42,520
Then the heart goes open again.
1195
01:10:42,520 --> 01:10:45,160
>>And then I feel
my heart exploding.
1196
01:10:45,160 --> 01:10:48,060
You know, I feel the
heat of the heart.
1197
01:10:48,060 --> 01:10:51,940
>>And it is wonderfully
liberating and empowering
1198
01:10:51,940 --> 01:10:56,140
to be aligned with
the heart, that which
1199
01:10:56,140 --> 01:10:59,200
underlies all creation.
1200
01:10:59,200 --> 01:11:04,870
And it is then that often you
find helpful factors coming
1201
01:11:04,870 --> 01:11:08,850
into your life out
of nowhere, and those
1202
01:11:08,850 --> 01:11:11,890
are synchronistic
events that usually
1203
01:11:11,890 --> 01:11:17,860
are confirmation that you are
connected to that deeper level.
1204
01:11:17,860 --> 01:11:23,020
>>Synchronicity this word
that was created by Carl Jung.
1205
01:11:23,020 --> 01:11:25,540
When something appears
to be a coincidence,
1206
01:11:25,540 --> 01:11:28,630
but you know that there's
more to it than that.
1207
01:11:28,630 --> 01:11:32,920
>>For example, you get a phone
call just at the right moment.
1208
01:11:32,920 --> 01:11:35,800
Something that becomes
helpful factor,
1209
01:11:35,800 --> 01:11:39,040
and you cannot explain
causally how that happened.
1210
01:11:39,040 --> 01:11:42,280
>>Synchronicity is a miracle.
1211
01:11:42,280 --> 01:11:47,380
The only thing that you can do
is to be open to synchronicity.
1212
01:11:47,380 --> 01:11:50,890
>>It is as if a
filter drops away,
1213
01:11:50,890 --> 01:11:54,910
and we notice that
synchronicity is all around us.
1214
01:11:54,910 --> 01:11:58,620
That this isn't an
accidental universe.
1215
01:11:58,620 --> 01:12:02,100
>>When we were waiting
to hear from the doctors,
1216
01:12:02,100 --> 01:12:05,220
I had one of
Christina's jackets.
1217
01:12:05,220 --> 01:12:09,630
And I reached into the pockets
and I pulled out a fortune
1218
01:12:09,630 --> 01:12:11,610
from a fortune cookie.
1219
01:12:11,610 --> 01:12:16,955
We must always have old
memories and young hopes.
1220
01:12:19,515 --> 01:12:29,290
And that was a sign for
us that she was gone.
1221
01:12:29,290 --> 01:12:31,370
>>And immediately I just
thought this was like--
1222
01:12:31,370 --> 01:12:32,590
>>A final message.
1223
01:12:32,590 --> 01:12:34,170
>>Her final message to us.
1224
01:12:34,170 --> 01:12:38,816
I mean, the old memories were
the old memories with her,
1225
01:12:38,816 --> 01:12:40,760
with Christina.
1226
01:12:40,760 --> 01:12:45,620
And the young hopes, or
the optimism, you know,
1227
01:12:45,620 --> 01:12:46,810
she was 21 years old.
1228
01:12:46,810 --> 01:12:49,040
She looked ahead
to her whole life.
1229
01:12:49,040 --> 01:12:51,260
To me it was telling
us that we have
1230
01:12:51,260 --> 01:12:57,270
to pick up where she left off,
even though I'm not 21 anymore.
1231
01:12:57,270 --> 01:13:01,700
I have to adopt that
philosophy and try
1232
01:13:01,700 --> 01:13:07,292
to live up to the young
hopes for the future
1233
01:13:07,292 --> 01:13:08,750
that you can have,
and that you can
1234
01:13:08,750 --> 01:13:10,400
make a difference in the world.
1235
01:13:10,400 --> 01:13:14,060
>>Synchronicity is largely due
to intuition, where we end up
1236
01:13:14,060 --> 01:13:15,980
in the right place at
the right time because
1237
01:13:15,980 --> 01:13:18,410
of that inner guidance.
1238
01:13:18,410 --> 01:13:21,170
In other experiments
we've done, we
1239
01:13:21,170 --> 01:13:23,960
see that the heart can know the
information about 20 seconds
1240
01:13:23,960 --> 01:13:25,520
before hand.
1241
01:13:25,520 --> 01:13:27,200
But in real life,
our intuition's
1242
01:13:27,200 --> 01:13:29,660
not limited by these
experimental protocols.
1243
01:13:29,660 --> 01:13:31,400
And I think we have
to be careful not
1244
01:13:31,400 --> 01:13:33,410
to say that, well,
intuition is only
1245
01:13:33,410 --> 01:13:35,340
20 seconds before an event.
1246
01:13:35,340 --> 01:13:37,460
Because we know
in the real world,
1247
01:13:37,460 --> 01:13:40,250
it can be hours and
sometimes even days
1248
01:13:40,250 --> 01:13:42,410
before an event actually occurs.
1249
01:13:42,410 --> 01:13:45,140
Most people instantly think
about going to Las Vegas
1250
01:13:45,140 --> 01:13:46,740
and gambling or something.
1251
01:13:46,740 --> 01:13:49,070
If intuition really
works as I'm suggesting,
1252
01:13:49,070 --> 01:13:52,490
it's really our own
spirit working with us.
1253
01:13:52,490 --> 01:13:55,670
So it's not always in our best
behalf from that interaction
1254
01:13:55,670 --> 01:13:57,372
between our higher
self, or our soul,
1255
01:13:57,372 --> 01:13:58,580
whatever you want to call it.
1256
01:13:58,580 --> 01:14:00,570
Every culture has
their own name for it.
1257
01:14:00,570 --> 01:14:03,230
That we go to Las Vegas
and just win all the time.
1258
01:14:03,230 --> 01:14:05,660
So intuition is really
our own best friend.
1259
01:14:05,660 --> 01:14:08,005
It's really the moment
to moment inner guidance.
1260
01:14:08,005 --> 01:14:10,130
You know, when we get that
feeling that something's
1261
01:14:10,130 --> 01:14:12,110
just not right, or we
shouldn't do something.
1262
01:14:12,110 --> 01:14:14,540
Or it can be a positive
feeling that we really
1263
01:14:14,540 --> 01:14:18,130
should do something, or
go to a certain place.
1264
01:14:18,130 --> 01:14:20,890
>>I remember the day before
the genocide happened.
1265
01:14:20,890 --> 01:14:24,400
My brother came home, he
spent a day with his friends,
1266
01:14:24,400 --> 01:14:28,030
and he told us that he heard
a rumor that they were going
1267
01:14:28,030 --> 01:14:30,740
to kill every Tutsi that night.
1268
01:14:30,740 --> 01:14:35,470
And we were, our
family, on the list.
1269
01:14:35,470 --> 01:14:38,382
>>I cannot move the family
just because you heard a rumor.
1270
01:14:38,382 --> 01:14:40,090
>>What if it's true,
and in the morning--
1271
01:14:40,090 --> 01:14:40,900
>>Stop it.
1272
01:14:40,900 --> 01:14:41,700
No fear.
1273
01:14:41,700 --> 01:14:44,085
Just trust in God
and forget about it.
1274
01:14:47,410 --> 01:14:48,580
What do you think?
1275
01:14:48,580 --> 01:14:49,810
>>We should move.
1276
01:14:49,810 --> 01:14:52,040
This is so important.
1277
01:14:52,040 --> 01:14:54,040
It's 10 minutes away, we
can just take the boat,
1278
01:14:54,040 --> 01:14:55,910
and come back in the
morning if nothing.
1279
01:14:55,910 --> 01:14:59,440
>>I know, but we must
trust our father, too.
1280
01:14:59,440 --> 01:15:00,790
>>I know, you're right.
1281
01:15:00,790 --> 01:15:03,310
We should, right?
1282
01:15:03,310 --> 01:15:05,530
>>Because he always
has good judgment.
1283
01:15:05,530 --> 01:15:08,160
>>We should.
1284
01:15:08,160 --> 01:15:13,140
>>It was so clear in my
heart that my decision was
1285
01:15:13,140 --> 01:15:15,270
to move away from the country.
1286
01:15:15,270 --> 01:15:18,280
By the morning, it was too late.
1287
01:15:18,280 --> 01:15:22,050
They had blocked
all the borders.
1288
01:15:22,050 --> 01:15:26,370
That lesson completely
changed my heart forever.
1289
01:15:26,370 --> 01:15:30,090
Now when I have that feeling,
I do listen to my heart,
1290
01:15:30,090 --> 01:15:31,890
no matter who is saying what.
1291
01:15:31,890 --> 01:15:34,960
I have to listen to my heart.
1292
01:15:34,960 --> 01:15:36,540
>>Well, if you don't
trust the heart,
1293
01:15:36,540 --> 01:15:38,260
what are you going to trust?
1294
01:15:38,260 --> 01:15:45,600
>>I believe the heart is
the only thing we can trust.
1295
01:15:45,600 --> 01:15:48,420
>>When we get to the point
where we have experienced
1296
01:15:48,420 --> 01:15:51,900
this transformation
within ourselves, where
1297
01:15:51,900 --> 01:15:54,300
living from love
rather than fear
1298
01:15:54,300 --> 01:15:57,510
has transformed our
own life circumstances,
1299
01:15:57,510 --> 01:15:59,730
then we become channels,
we become vessels.
1300
01:15:59,730 --> 01:16:02,010
We have the moral
authority by which
1301
01:16:02,010 --> 01:16:04,380
to state that possibility
for the planet.
1302
01:16:04,380 --> 01:16:07,020
>>Just before she
passed, I was telling her
1303
01:16:07,020 --> 01:16:10,980
that I'd been off work
for a couple of years,
1304
01:16:10,980 --> 01:16:12,480
and we retired.
1305
01:16:12,480 --> 01:16:15,150
And I was kind of
looking for something
1306
01:16:15,150 --> 01:16:17,730
meaningful to do with
the rest of my life,
1307
01:16:17,730 --> 01:16:19,980
because I was still young.
1308
01:16:19,980 --> 01:16:23,060
And she said, oh,
something will come along.
1309
01:16:23,060 --> 01:16:27,480
You'll know it when
it comes along.
1310
01:16:27,480 --> 01:16:30,270
And when she passed,
I knew instantly
1311
01:16:30,270 --> 01:16:32,010
that we had to
continue her work.
1312
01:16:32,010 --> 01:16:34,180
And so we started the
foundation, the Christina
1313
01:16:34,180 --> 01:16:38,760
Chesterman Memorial Foundation,
to just build on the legacy
1314
01:16:38,760 --> 01:16:40,900
that she left already.
1315
01:16:40,900 --> 01:16:43,350
>>As you live from the
heart and more humans
1316
01:16:43,350 --> 01:16:48,510
begin to live from the heart,
that has a ripple effect.
1317
01:16:48,510 --> 01:16:53,280
It ripples out from where you
are, and then you get it back.
1318
01:16:53,280 --> 01:16:55,380
>>Every day you work at it.
1319
01:16:55,380 --> 01:16:57,450
Every day you go to the heart.
1320
01:16:57,450 --> 01:17:00,120
Every day you speak to me.
1321
01:17:00,120 --> 01:17:02,340
>>In fact, I start
each morning with what
1322
01:17:02,340 --> 01:17:03,600
we call a heart lock in.
1323
01:17:03,600 --> 01:17:06,900
Just getting coherent
and really sending myself
1324
01:17:06,900 --> 01:17:08,850
love and appreciation
for a few minutes,
1325
01:17:08,850 --> 01:17:11,640
to start my day from
a more coherent,
1326
01:17:11,640 --> 01:17:15,080
composed, and
connected perspective.
1327
01:17:15,080 --> 01:17:18,450
Then throughout the day you've
got to kind of reboot that.
1328
01:17:18,450 --> 01:17:22,710
So really it's developing
kind of a flow through life.
1329
01:17:22,710 --> 01:17:24,960
So all the in-between
moments, as I call them.
1330
01:17:24,960 --> 01:17:27,330
Like in between here
and the lunch room,
1331
01:17:27,330 --> 01:17:29,970
or between here and
the photocopier.
1332
01:17:29,970 --> 01:17:33,220
Those in-between moments
are perfect opportunities
1333
01:17:33,220 --> 01:17:37,974
to breathe in that appreciation,
or that state of inner ease.
1334
01:17:37,974 --> 01:17:39,390
I mean, we have
to breathe anyway,
1335
01:17:39,390 --> 01:17:42,330
so we might as well
make it more effective.
1336
01:17:42,330 --> 01:17:46,680
>>And if we can
calm down enough,
1337
01:17:46,680 --> 01:17:49,590
we can listen to the wisdom.
1338
01:17:49,590 --> 01:17:55,060
We learn how to be good
neighbors, good visitors.
1339
01:17:55,060 --> 01:17:57,136
How to be good parents.
1340
01:17:57,136 --> 01:18:01,660
How to be good
workers, good teachers.
1341
01:18:01,660 --> 01:18:06,022
We learn how to
be good citizens.
1342
01:18:06,022 --> 01:18:08,402
Good human beings.
1343
01:18:08,402 --> 01:18:12,210
Because we listen.
1344
01:18:12,210 --> 01:18:15,370
And not try to put
our voices in it.
1345
01:18:15,370 --> 01:18:16,750
Just listen.
1346
01:18:16,750 --> 01:18:18,100
>>The heart is my guru.
1347
01:18:18,100 --> 01:18:21,910
For all gurus I've met,
this one is the real one.
1348
01:18:21,910 --> 01:18:24,380
>>Ask your heart any question.
1349
01:18:24,380 --> 01:18:25,480
Who am I?
1350
01:18:25,480 --> 01:18:26,480
What do I want?
1351
01:18:26,480 --> 01:18:28,570
What's my purpose in life?
1352
01:18:28,570 --> 01:18:32,770
What are the qualities that
I look for in a good friend?
1353
01:18:32,770 --> 01:18:35,580
What are the qualities
that I contribute to
1354
01:18:35,580 --> 01:18:37,630
in a good relationship?
1355
01:18:37,630 --> 01:18:40,580
What are my unique
skills and talents?
1356
01:18:40,580 --> 01:18:42,640
How do I use this
to serve humanity?
1357
01:18:42,640 --> 01:18:44,628
Your heart knows
all the answers.
1358
01:18:50,946 --> 01:18:52,510
>>I still feel lost.
1359
01:18:55,690 --> 01:18:57,990
I don't know what to do
with my life anymore.
1360
01:18:57,990 --> 01:18:59,935
>>Take the question
to your heart.
1361
01:18:59,935 --> 01:19:02,310
>>I have been.
1362
01:19:02,310 --> 01:19:04,720
I'm not getting any answers.
1363
01:19:04,720 --> 01:19:08,280
>>You're thinking, it's
harder than it really is.
1364
01:19:08,280 --> 01:19:11,490
Just follow that
lightness in your heart,
1365
01:19:11,490 --> 01:19:15,600
and that will eventually lead
you to a life of purpose.
1366
01:19:15,600 --> 01:19:20,380
Some of the biggest questions
of the heart unfold as a path,
1367
01:19:20,380 --> 01:19:21,180
not an answer.
1368
01:19:26,200 --> 01:19:29,880
>>Following our aliveness
without attaching
1369
01:19:29,880 --> 01:19:32,670
what it will become.
1370
01:19:32,670 --> 01:19:37,480
Not to become a poet,
but I'm brought alive
1371
01:19:37,480 --> 01:19:43,170
by the questions and
the life of expression.
1372
01:19:43,170 --> 01:19:48,140
Not to become a singer,
but to be brought alive
1373
01:19:48,140 --> 01:19:51,700
by voice coming out of you.
1374
01:19:51,700 --> 01:19:55,860
>>We begin to connect from
our center and not just
1375
01:19:55,860 --> 01:19:58,250
from surface personality.
1376
01:19:58,250 --> 01:20:01,190
It's a whole different way
of moving through the world.
1377
01:20:01,190 --> 01:20:03,540
And when one moves through
the world like this,
1378
01:20:03,540 --> 01:20:06,620
and when we begin to move
through the world like this,
1379
01:20:06,620 --> 01:20:09,620
then the realm of ever
expanding good-- another name
1380
01:20:09,620 --> 01:20:12,996
for heaven-- begins to be
revealed on our planet.
1381
01:20:16,350 --> 01:20:22,020
>>We cannot see tomorrow's
sky, but the heart sees it.
1382
01:20:22,020 --> 01:20:24,660
And we will be
directed as to how we
1383
01:20:24,660 --> 01:20:28,650
should act in tomorrow's sky.
1384
01:20:28,650 --> 01:20:31,300
More than likely,
we already know.
1385
01:20:31,300 --> 01:20:35,070
But if we don't, the heart
will tell us, if we listen.
1386
01:20:59,180 --> 01:21:02,117
>>This is for you, sweetheart.
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